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Speaker 1: Levels to This is an iHeart women's sports production in

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Speaker 2: What's going on, everybody, It's your girl, Trika Fosster Brassby.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Is your girls? Cheryl Swoops and this

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Speaker 1: is Levels to This.

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Speaker 2: This is the show where we talk about all the

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Speaker 2: levels to the ship.

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Speaker 3: That women go through.

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Speaker 1: And we're definitely gonna be talking about some ship that

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Speaker 1: we may go through today because there's a lot to

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Speaker 1: catch up. Boy. But first, he's your facts and facts

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Speaker 1: Hi boo Buck, How are you so good?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good and I'm not so good and I'm saving

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Speaker 1: that for our conversation.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, can you tell me though, why you're good?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Because okay, we'll talk about it. Okay, Okay, So

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Speaker 1: you know I was in New York last week anyway,

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Speaker 1: I don't know whenever it was, well, the traveling, we

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Speaker 1: won't talk about that. But had a mammogram done and

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Speaker 1: I ended up long story short, because we'll get into it.

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Speaker 1: I had to have a biopsy. Yeah, yeah, and I

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Speaker 1: just doctor called me. Got the results yesterday, and so

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Speaker 1: it's benign. So that's why I'm good. And then I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna save the not so good for yes. Yeah, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: that has just that was consuming me. But on a

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Speaker 1: whole nother note, we talked about my grandson before, so

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Speaker 1: I'm just so happy for him. I still don't know

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Speaker 1: when he's coming home. Jordan's playing really well, they're in

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Speaker 1: the playoffs, you know all the things. But other than that,

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Speaker 1: he I don't know. I said I'm good and not good,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna stick with that because there's just shit

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Speaker 1: right now that I'm dealing with. It makes me not

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Speaker 1: be so good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I understand that I'm I'm I'm good.

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Speaker 1: I'm good. See, you were a little hesitant.

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Speaker 2: But the reason why I'm hesitant is like I don't

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Speaker 2: want to say that I'm not good because I'm not

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Speaker 3: I'm good, but I could definitely be better.

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Speaker 1: Well always, you see, I'm getting my tissue ready for

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Speaker 1: our Like I'm just I'm because I know it's post common.

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Speaker 3: You might as well be.

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Speaker 1: I think we can always be better. Right, Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: but like I had, so, I spent the last couple

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Speaker 3: On the road working. I was in Virginia and well, you're.

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Speaker 1: Look cute too, by the way. I was, you know what,

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Speaker 1: your girl, I'm trying.

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Speaker 2: To get my life together, and uh so we'll and

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Speaker 2: we'll definitely talk about this and more detail when we

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Speaker 2: get into our next level conversation. But it just felt

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Speaker 2: really good to be in the building, to be like back.

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Speaker 3: On the sideline, back on the court.

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Speaker 2: Then we went to studio for CBS and that just

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Speaker 1: And then it just so so I'm good, But then

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Speaker 1: there's that why is this not my everyday life?

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Speaker 2: That's when I'm like, I could do better. So we'll

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Speaker 2: talk more into what that means in a moment, but

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Speaker 2: on the surface, like, yeah, I'm good, I got trip

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Speaker 2: is good. Everything in Connecticut so far as good. I

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Speaker 2: left it was eighteen feet of snow. I came back.

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Speaker 3: It's springs. So there's da girl.

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Speaker 1: What is this weather?

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Speaker 2: They don't know, But I'm like, I'm not gonna have

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Speaker 1: So I willies and still it's April. Let me just

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Speaker 1: tell you this. First of all, your nose are cute,

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Speaker 1: because our producer Meredith and I were talking about this

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Speaker 1: before you hopped on. You know, with the who knows

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Speaker 1: what the fuck we're doing, but with the partial government

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Speaker 1: shut down and then TSA like airport all around the

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Speaker 1: world right now, who knows what we're doing? The lines

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Speaker 1: You know, as much as I wanted to be I

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Speaker 1: the pilot or the flight attendants, they don't control the weather.

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Speaker 1: As much as y'all like to think y'all have that much.

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Speaker 3: Control, they do not. Y'all don't control the weather.

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Speaker 1: So yes, I wanted to be there as much as

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Speaker 1: everybody else, but I also wanted to be safe, right,

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Speaker 1: so I listen, I'll figure all the rest of the

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Speaker 1: shit out. Just land me safely wherever we're going, and

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Speaker 1: y'all stop being rude, like it's not gonna change anything.

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Speaker 1: We all got somewhere to be. But if you don't

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Speaker 1: land safely, you ain't gonna get there anyway.

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Speaker 3: It's not you are. You make a great point.

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Speaker 1: I feel that same way when people are rude to like,

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Speaker 1: you know, we walk into a restaurant and some people

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Speaker 1: are like rude to the servers because your steak was wrong,

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Speaker 1: like your sarvice with the one making a stay server

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Speaker 1: didn't cook it like hell, be up set with the cook.

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Speaker 1: Do not be upset with the server like she brought

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Speaker 1: Like I get that, Like, no needs to be mad

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Speaker 2: So yeah, you know, like that's a great that's just

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Speaker 2: a great segue into what we're going to be talking

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Speaker 2: about today, which is just prioritization, balancing life in all

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Speaker 3: So with that, let's just go ahead and take this

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Speaker 2: Myth that exists where people talk about work life balance, right,

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Speaker 3: Sports psychologist.

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Speaker 1: I think that we as a matter of fact, we

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Speaker 1: a kens of Gunter and doctor Kense Gunter said, listen, y'all,

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Speaker 2: She ain't say this because she's way more professional than

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Speaker 2: I am. But I'm paraphraser. Well, I like to paraphrase,

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Speaker 2: there will never be an equal balance of work in life.

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Speaker 2: At times work is going to be more of a

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Speaker 3: To balance those things.

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Speaker 2: But to think that you are ever going to find

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Speaker 2: and you need to stop stop saying it, stop saying it,

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Speaker 2: stop doing it. And I agree with her one percent,

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Speaker 2: but you know I.

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Speaker 1: Do too, and she's one hundred percent right, that's why

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Speaker 1: she does what she doesn't. But I also think there's

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Speaker 1: learn to balance work life. It's not possible, And it's okay, right,

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Speaker 1: it's okay, like you just said, because there are sometimes

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Speaker 1: it requires our travel. But we also signed up for this.

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Speaker 2: Number two, It's not like this is an all day,

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Speaker 1: So I feel you on that now. I never really

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Speaker 2: It's just he and I are both very ambitious individuals,

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Speaker 1: Know what I mean. And so he's not necessarily the

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Speaker 3: He's making sure that the menus are right.

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Speaker 2: He's in the board meetings with the you know, junior

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Speaker 2: mutual understanding of when I have to be gone for

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Speaker 3: This is what we signed up for and what we do.

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Speaker 2: But what I also will say is that when you're

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Speaker 2: doing what you're supposed to do, when you do have time,

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Speaker 2: so like when you and your husband are together and

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Speaker 2: that's another reason not to feel guilty, because you know,

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Speaker 2: when you can, you will, when you're able to, you will.

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Speaker 1: One hundred But I also I don't know how you

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Speaker 1: We also can't get so caught up in work right,

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Speaker 1: because I think most of us are this way. But

438
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: especially in a business like ours, where and especially for

439
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:42,400
Speaker 1: someone like me as a freelance media reporter, journalists, analysts.

440
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: My prioritization comes where the money goes. And I don't

441
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 1: want to be like I don't want to be like that.

442
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 1: Believe it or not, I don't want to be like that.

443
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:57,119
Speaker 2: I want to be so secure that you can offer

444
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: me something and I could be like, yeah, thank you,

445
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 2: I appreciate, but I'm good if it conflicts with something

446
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:06,360
Speaker 2: else that I would like to do. So perfect example

447
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,959
Speaker 2: of this the same friend whose birthday babies one year

448
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 2: old birthday party that I'm going to this year. Last year,

449
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 2: she had not the baby's christening, but there was something

450
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 2: else that she had for the baby, and I wasn't

451
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 2: able to go because I got called.

452
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 3: To New York to be a studio.

453
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 1: Now.

454
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 2: I had knew well in advance that this was happening

455
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 2: on this date and that I was going to make

456
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 2: and I made up my business to be there for

457
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 2: the baby. But the moment, like three days before I

458
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 2: got the call to be in New York, I had

459
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 2: to call my friend to be like, girl, I can't

460
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 2: even go now because I got a new old New

461
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:50,360
Speaker 2: York and granted she understood, but it was the point

462
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 2: that sometimes my priorities have to switch because when you

463
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,199
Speaker 2: start bringing money to the table, I now have to

464
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 2: reconsider how are all of this And it's.

465
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 3: That that that's real.

466
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: It's just it's just real and it's and it's even

467
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: more real for people like us who quite literally like

468
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: we make money, but some of us make money based

469
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,120
Speaker 1: off things like work, appearances, assignments, blah.

470
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 3: Blah bla blah blah.

471
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 2: So I don't have the flexibility at times to be like, well,

472
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 2: I'm going to take my vacation this day, and this

473
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 2: is just what it is, because the moment somebody called

474
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 2: me that's telling me they about to pay me X

475
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:35,240
Speaker 2: amount of dollars, I'm gonna be like, well, you know

476
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 2: what I was, but now I but I can this later, right,

477
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 2: And I think when it comes to feeling guilty, those

478
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 2: are the times that I feel guilty when I have

479
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 2: to cancel on friends or when I have to tell

480
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 2: folks that I'm coming to something and then I now

481
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:54,159
Speaker 2: I no longer can come to something because I still

482
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 2: have to move as the money moves, Like that's the

483
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 2: priority for me, and I don't always like that because

484
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 2: I like to be a woman of my word. And

485
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 2: if I say that I'm coming to something, I want

486
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 2: to come. If I say I'm doing something, I want

487
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 2: to do it. And that always makes me that that

488
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 2: might be the one thing about this business that makes

489
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 2: me feel guilty when I have to cancel something because

490
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 2: I just have to.

491
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: I'm not I ain't a millionaire.

492
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 1: I got to move with the money. Listen, listen, listen.

493
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 1: But I am in the same boat with you right here.

494
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 1: I have the same well an example, but different from that.

495
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: So now we're going there. When you asked me, how

496
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 1: was I doing, and I said, I'm doing good, and

497
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing that so right. The good part was got

498
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: the results from my biopsy, benine, so yes, I'm good.

499
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: So here's the other thing. So, so you know, I

500
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 1: got diagnosis Type two diabetics like over a year ago.

501
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: So I've been back and forth with different medications and

502
00:27:57,119 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: trying to change my diet and and all the things

503
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: that I've read and talked to my doctor. The medications

504
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: ain't working anyway. I ain't gonna get in all that.

505
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:07,719
Speaker 3: But here's what I tell you.

506
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: So my vision has my prescriptions just been all over

507
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: the place, contacts, glasses. I can see out of, you know,

508
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: a new set of contacts for about a month, and

509
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: then something's going on with my eyes. I can't Okay.

510
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: So I go to the eye doctor a couple of

511
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 1: days ago and I'm struggling with the glasses, with the contacts.

512
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 1: So she was like, this is really interesting because when

513
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 1: you were here just a month ago, your vision wasn't

514
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 1: this bad. In my mind, I'm like, yeah, I've again

515
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: been so busy, canceled couple of eye appointments, all the things.

516
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: So she looks at the back of my eyes and

517
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: she immediately says, oh. She said, this explains why you

518
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: can't see out of your contacts or your glasses. Really,

519
00:28:54,240 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 1: she said, you have cataracts, but they're diabetic cataracts. And

520
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 1: then she said you need to have surgery like a sack.

521
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: And I said to her, I said, well, what's your

522
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: definition of a sack? And she was like, I mean,

523
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: if you could do it today, I would say do

524
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 1: it today, right, which, no, that was impossible. Yeah, And

525
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: so I said, well, let me ask you a question.

526
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: Now I'm getting to exactly what you were talking about.

527
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: I said, if if I put this off until like

528
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: the second week of April. I said, is that soon enough?

529
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: So she was like, if you as long as you

530
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: get it done within a month, you'll be fine. And

531
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: the reason why I said the second week of April,

532
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: you know, because I have shit to do. I got

533
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: work to do. I got appearances of the Final four.

534
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 1: I got appearances prior to the Final Four. I can't

535
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: and I can't fly. She said, when you have surgery,

536
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 1: you can't fly. So I'm like, well I can't. I'm

537
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: gonna I'm praying to God that doesn't happen. But you

538
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,240
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like this woman just told me

539
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 1: I need to have surgery on my eyes and my

540
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 1: I immediately was like, yeah, but I got what.

541
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 3: I got work to do.

542
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: Girl. I feel that I hear you telling me that

543
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: my eyes are But at the.

544
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 3: Same time, I got to do and I got to wait.

545
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: That's fucking crazy. That's the truth of the matter, and

546
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 2: that it is. It's that is the truth.

547
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: Like what you said, Tam, you know, I ain't a millionaire,

548
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 1: billion none of those things I got. When I got

549
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: opportunities to go make money, I gotta go.

550
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 3: Ye yeah, yeah. And some people may hear this.

551
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 1: And be like, so going to make money is more

552
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: important than you've been able to see. No, it's not,

553
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: but I also got bills. To what I'm saying, like,

554
00:30:58,720 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: it's just a same what.

555
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 2: I don't want to quote. I don't want to quote

556
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 2: this person. So I'm gonna say what it may say.

557
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna say the other name.

558
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: But more money, more problems, you know what I'm saying,

559
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 1: More money, more problems.

560
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: And so.

561
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: You know, you may look and say, Okay, well they

562
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: might be in a higher tax bracket. It's really maybe,

563
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 1: but I still got bills to pay, just like you

564
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: got bills to pay. They might not be the same amount,

565
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 1: but it might be. I still got bills to pay

566
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: like you got bills to pay.

567
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 2: I still gotta take care of my family, same way

568
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 2: you gotta take care of your family. And so that

569
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 2: requires me to have to do the same things that

570
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 2: you do. You might go to work every day nine

571
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 2: to five.

572
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: They may offer you, hey, do you want to take

573
00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 1: this extra overtime and you will say, well, damn, my

574
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,959
Speaker 1: baby had a recital today, but I need this overtime.

575
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna have to tell my baby that I

576
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:50,959
Speaker 1: can't make it blah blah blah blah blah.

577
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 3: It's the same thing.

578
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 1: Yes, because here's the thing. Yeah, I got vision insurance,

579
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 1: but the vision insurance is only gonna cover so much

580
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: of the surgery. So I'm still looking at thousands and

581
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 1: thousands and thousands of dollars. Yep, yep, yeap, And it's crazy.

582
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: So these are real life struggles.

583
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 3: That ship, yes, that we got, we go through. We

584
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 3: have to prioritize.

585
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: I remember many a times, and I'm sure you can

586
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 2: relate to this as a parent too, many a times

587
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 2: where my mom put off appointments and things that she

588
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 2: had to do so that she can ensure that I

589
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 2: got to my appointments. And I ain't talking about like

590
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 2: after everything. I'm talking about like, oh, Trigga got a

591
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 2: doctor's appointment at the same time that I got a

592
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 2: doctor's appointment. But I'm not have to put mine to

593
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 2: the side because my baby got to go to her

594
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 2: doctor's appointment first.

595
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, I need to.

596
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: I wear braces when I was in high school. Now

597
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: luckily you see a tea, let me see a tea.

598
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 1: Oh I mean straight, yeah, but this is something yeah

599
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 1: but they straight, but they straight.

600
00:32:57,960 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: But I wear braces when I was a kid, and

601
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 2: for the most part, my dental insurance covered a large

602
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 2: portion of it, but they still had to pay like

603
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 2: monthly out of pocket.

604
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 3: Bless bless blessed, blessed that I had grandparents who.

605
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 1: Who were good.

606
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 3: You know, they was cheap. They was cheap and say

607
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: on that's different and it wasn't broke. It was just cheap.

608
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 2: You're finna get this forty nine cent ketchup because we

609
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 2: ain't paying a dollar behind, like, but they had it.

610
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: It tastes good.

611
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 3: But daddy, you know what nine say, ketchup, patchup tastes

612
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 3: like check up, like ketchup.

613
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 2: But I remember specifically, like my grandfather and my mother

614
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 2: having a conversation where there were some things because I

615
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 2: grew up, you know, I grew up with great grandparents, right,

616
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 2: so they weren't like.

617
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 3: You know, thirties forties is fifty sixty year olds at the.

618
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 2: Time that I was growing up, and there were some

619
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 2: things where my grandfather I remember this conversation distinctly. My

620
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 2: grandfather and my grandfather were having a conversation about who

621
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: was going. So my mom was still working, she was

622
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 2: working in Detroit public schools, so she was still inner

623
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: stick Stas was still working, and she was like, well,

624
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna call them and tell them that I'm

625
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 2: not coming in because I know that you got a job.

626
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 2: So my grandfather used to do as and and job.

627
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 2: He ain't need to, but he just wanted to, so

628
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 2: he was doing little eyes in jobs. And she said, well,

629
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 2: I know you got a job, so I'm just gonna

630
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 2: call them and tell them that I'm not gonna make

631
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 2: it because I need to take Tarika to Farmenton to get.

632
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:23,840
Speaker 3: Her braces tightened.

633
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: And in my mind, I'm like, my mama really calling

634
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: out of work.

635
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 3: This is These are people.

636
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 2: Who instilled in me. You go to work every day.

637
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 2: You don't call out, you don't show up late. You

638
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 2: do you know, I mean the sixties. Sixties They come

639
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 2: from an era. These are baby boomers, you.

640
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:41,439
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying.

641
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 2: They come from the era of great migration. You go

642
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: to work, you work hard, you show why you're supposed

643
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 2: to be there. So it hit different for my mother

644
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 2: to say I got a call out of work because

645
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 2: rather than to move my daughter's dentist appointment, I just

646
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 2: rather not show up so that I can take my

647
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:00,320
Speaker 2: baby to get her bracest.

648
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 1: Because it's that important to me that I make sure

649
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: my child is taken care of it.

650
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 2: So like those and I'll deal with me. I'll deal

651
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 2: with me later, I'll deal with my job later. I'll

652
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 2: deal with whatever we got to later. But I'm just

653
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 2: gonna make sure that this is good. So imagine the

654
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 2: moms that are also put in the same position where, yeah,

655
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Speaker 2: I know I might need to have this done, I

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Speaker 2: might need to have this taken care of, but I

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Speaker 2: got to go make this money because I got to

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Speaker 2: take care of my kids, because I got to make

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Speaker 2: sure this is good, because I got to make sure

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Speaker 2: that my kids still have insurance, and blah blah blahlah blah.

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Speaker 2: It's the most ridiculous place to be in, but it's real.

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Speaker 3: But it's real. It is real.

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Speaker 2: So friends, I just have one more point to make,

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Speaker 2: and I will make this point when we come back

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Speaker 2: from break. So as we're talking about all the things

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Speaker 2: that we do need to balance and put in front

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Speaker 2: of us, I got a quick question for.

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Speaker 3: You, Cheryl.

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Speaker 1: Is there something that you're currently prioritizing that you think

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Speaker 1: maybe I need to put that on the back burner

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Speaker 1: for a while. Oh, not that way. But there is

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Speaker 1: something that I haven't been prioritizing that I have decided

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Speaker 1: I am going to.

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Speaker 3: That you're going to move to the front.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, based off of what has happened to me

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Speaker 1: in the past week. That is my health. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: my health, like I and and I don't mean just

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Speaker 1: you know, going to the doctor. Of course, I'm going

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Speaker 1: to do the checkups and all those things. But when

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Speaker 1: I say my health, I'm talking about everything from just

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00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:58,760
Speaker 1: stop making excuses to work out, right, like I am prioritizing,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't care if it's just ten minutes

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Speaker 1: a day, get on a tradmill, go lift some weight,

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Speaker 1: stuff that I used to do my entire life and career.

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Speaker 1: And I know how good not only it made me

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Speaker 1: feel physically, but mentally, like it just made me feel

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Speaker 1: so incredibly good that I have decided, whether I'm on

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Speaker 1: the road, I'm traveling, work, whatever it is, at at

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Speaker 1: least ten minutes at least, yeah, go for a walk,

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Speaker 1: get on a bike, get on a traidmill, lift some

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Speaker 1: weights or something. Because I know how much prioritizing yourself,

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Speaker 1: prioritizing your health can just make you put you in

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Speaker 1: just a much better headspace mentally and physically. Of course, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I love that, And what about you?

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Speaker 3: I do so.

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Speaker 1: I just said maybe fifteen twenty minutes ago that I

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Speaker 1: have invested a lot of time in my sorority, and

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Speaker 1: I very much still plan on doing that.

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Speaker 2: But I am out of office on June thirtieth. I

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Speaker 2: will know long. I have served as president of my

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Speaker 2: chapter for four years, and so on June thirtieth it

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Speaker 2: will be my last day as president.

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Speaker 3: And I have decided that I.

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Speaker 1: Am going to enjoy sorority life as a member and

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Speaker 1: not as a chapter officer. I just need to as

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Speaker 1: long as you stick to that, I really do like

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Speaker 1: I'm still going to be like. I'm still going to

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00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: air and meeting, I'm still showing up for the events.

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00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: I'm still I'm still you know, I'm still you y'all.

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Speaker 1: Still y'all know me. I ain't never going nowhere.

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Speaker 2: But I've been in this sorority going on ten years,

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Speaker 2: and I have been an officer in my chapter or

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Speaker 2: at the regional level literally every single year that I've

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Speaker 2: been a member. I have never had a year where

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Speaker 2: I can just enjoy showing up at an event, not

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Speaker 2: having to plan it or showing up to you know,

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00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: showing up on a road trip just to be there.

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Speaker 2: So I think as much time as I have given,

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Speaker 2: it's time for me to take a year or two

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Speaker 2: to just kind of sit back and just enjoy the

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Speaker 2: other side. And that will really take a lot off

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Speaker 2: of me too, because if you, I mean not you,

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Speaker 2: but anybody who's ever been president of anything or want anything,

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Speaker 2: there's a different level.

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Speaker 1: Of stress that you have, some good, some bad. And

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Speaker 1: I am really just looking forward to just being a

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00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: regular life member and not not having to run stuff.

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Speaker 1: So that's that's a priority that I am going.

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Speaker 2: To put on the back burner after June thirtieth, and

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Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to it.

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Speaker 1: I like that for you, Yeah, I do. Again, that

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Speaker 1: is prioritizing your stuff, but putting you.

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Speaker 3: Forwarding me first.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I like more time to hang out with friends, to

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Speaker 2: pop up in Houston and be like, hey.

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00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: Hey, let's go, let's go. I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love that for us, for us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yet, all right, y'all will when we come back after

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00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 2: the break, we will have our clothes out session, and

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00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 2: sure I'm gonna drop with some knowledge like she always does.

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Speaker 3: We'll be right back. Sure.

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00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 2: I mean we kind of said this off camera, but

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Speaker 2: like I think we both really just like needed this

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Speaker 2: conversation today.

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Speaker 1: I did listen. I can't tell you there's just one thing.

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Speaker 1: Of course, my husband's there, like you know what you need,

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00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 1: he gonna hold me down all day long. But sometimes

750
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: you just need that girlfriend to just listen to and

751
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: if you need to cry, because the girl I have

752
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 1: cried and cried and cried. Yeah, So I just I

753
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 1: needed this. So I hope, you know, I hope there's

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00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 1: someone out there who can relate to what we were

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00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: talking about and just know y'all, like it's one It's

756
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: okay to not have all your shit together. It's okay,

757
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:05,720
Speaker 1: and it's definitely okay to put yourself from one hundred

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00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 1: percent and not feel guilty about one percent and listen.

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Speaker 1: I know that we have a lot of male listeners.

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00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: So even though the show we speak a lot primarily

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00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 1: to women and what women go through and what we're doing,

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00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: we understand that there are a lot of guys who

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00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: listen to the show who also resonate closely with what

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Speaker 1: we're saying. Because it is not lost on us that

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Speaker 1: there is a different set of pressure for men, especially

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Speaker 1: black men, but.

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Speaker 3: That that does not mean that pressure does not exist.

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Speaker 1: It's there.

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Speaker 3: It's just different, but it's there.

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Speaker 2: So make sure y'all are taking care of yourself, prioritizing

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Speaker 2: your health, prioritizing your self care, and putting yourself first too,

772
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 2: because you can't be the man you want to be

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00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,879
Speaker 2: for your family if you ain't got your shit, say

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00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: that either, say that. So just want to throw that

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00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 2: out there. But with with that, sure, go ahead and

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00:41:58,040 --> 00:41:59,320
Speaker 2: level us on out today.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, I'm gonna keep this one short and sweet.

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Speaker 1: And this is from Women with Purpose. That's where I

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00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 1: be stilling a lot of these from y'all. And it

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Speaker 1: just says, your time is limited. Satisfy your soul, not society.

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00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 3: You always come with go because that's real. That was that. Yeah,

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00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:21,800
Speaker 3: because our all of our.

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Speaker 2: All of our time is limiting. Y Yeah, every last

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Speaker 2: bit of it. We we I ain't even gonna preach.

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00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 3: Because we sit here. I sit here.

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Speaker 1: Satisfy your soul, not society, society, because you never won.

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00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:36,839
Speaker 1: You ain't gonna ever be able to satisfy society never.

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00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,320
Speaker 1: It's always gonna be something. You're gonna do something.

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00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 2: And somebody gonna love it, You're gonna do some somebody

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00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 2: gonna hate it. It's a it's a win win situation.

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Speaker 2: I was really I was watching Tamara the twin Tia Tamara.

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00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,319
Speaker 2: She was on the show talking about how being a

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00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 2: working mom she's always judged and how you never hear

794
00:42:57,120 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 2: the term working father, but you always hear you don't

795
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 2: working mom. If you're away from your kids because you're working,

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00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 2: you're a bad mom. If you're at your kids stuff

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00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:09,760
Speaker 2: all the time and you're not working, then you're lazy.

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00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 2: You're a stay at home You want people to take

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Speaker 2: care of you. And I'm just like, it's a lose lose.

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00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 2: It's a lose lose. So yeah, like you're never going

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00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 2: to satisfy society. So in that case, we hope though

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00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:25,359
Speaker 2: that we are satisfying our listeners to Levels to This

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Speaker 2: and we appreciate you continuing to listen to Level us

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Speaker 2: to this. Make sure you keep in touch with us.

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Speaker 2: You can definitely hit us up on Instagram at LTC pod.

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Speaker 2: You get to hit us up on Gmail at Levels

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00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,880
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00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 2: Accept if it's negatives that I'm gonna have to come

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Speaker 2: for you and your mama, come for y'all.

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Speaker 3: And mama's mamas. All y'all going to get this work.

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Speaker 3: But until next time, friends, keep your mentals ground level

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Speaker 3: and we'll be back next week.

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