1 00:00:02,120 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: Hi everyone. I'm Rachel Zoe and I'm Roger Berman, and 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: you're listening to Work for Us, where we talk to 3 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: people about what works for them in their relationships and 4 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: of course what doesn't. Today we're talking about what works 5 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: for you, our listeners. This episode is all about you, 6 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,920 Speaker 1: because you've all been amazing. We haven't been doing this 7 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: podcast for very long, but we already feel so incredibly supported. 8 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: So thank you so much for all of that. Because 9 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: whether it's been through an Instagram comment or view, an 10 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: Apple podcasts or voicemail you've left us, you all have 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: been so responsive to the show in the most incredible way, 12 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: and we love it. So that's why today we're taking 13 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: the time to answer your questions and share your feedback 14 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: with the rest of our audience. We want to start 15 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: off with the stories you've been sharing with us about 16 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 1: your own relationships. If you follow us on Instagram at 17 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 1: works dot for dot us, you may know that we 18 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: ask our followers questions that relate to our episodes each week, 19 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: and after our Best Friend's episode with Sarah Foster and 20 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: Jen Meyer, we asked, who is your oldest, truest friend 21 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: and when did you meet them? Let me just say, 22 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,119 Speaker 1: your response has kind of floored me. It's incredible how 23 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 1: many of our listeners had true, long lasting relationships. So 24 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: I just want to share some of those here. Okay, 25 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 1: So links oh nine said, I have three besties. Two 26 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: I've known since kindergarten and one since third grade. We 27 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: give the one from third grade a hard time as 28 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: she's the newbie. We're sixty three, l l aren't we 29 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 1: so lucky? That's amazing. Sixty years later, they're like, that 30 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: is incredible. Actually, that's totally going to be you. By 31 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: the way, that is me my two best friends, or 32 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: you know, two of my best friends I sat next 33 00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: to in kindergarten and what we all have in common, 34 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: and as the girl that sat between us pete and 35 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: her pants every single day and we still laugh about that. 36 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: That is so mean. You're like a mean kid. No, 37 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: I mean we were a few more lots of people 38 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: like that's how long, like we're so good problems, but 39 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: we're I don't know if she had a problem she 40 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: was four. But I guess what I'm saying is it 41 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: really puts things into perspective. When you're friends. Now you're 42 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: talking about like what wine you want at dinner and 43 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: companies you want companies want to veston And at the 44 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: time we were talking about like I got I bet 45 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: John will hardly remember. So John probably remembers her name. 46 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: I don't know her name, but I just remember her 47 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 1: like like a puddle coming down and like the teacher 48 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: how to like take her out. Honestly, she's probably still 49 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: traumatized from that and never wants to see you again. 50 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: So please, I hope did you not see that episode 51 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: of Friends with Julia Roberts and Chandler. Yeah, she came 52 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: back to get him, and that'll happen to you. So 53 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: don't mention anything. Let's hear more about reader feedback here. 54 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: I'm going to go for the next one, if that's 55 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 1: okay with you. Butter, being twenty eight, said, she's my 56 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: first roommate out of high school. I was eighteen, nineteen 57 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: seventy three, she was sixteen. Forty seven years later, we're 58 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: still best friends. That's that's I guess, sweet. I'm not 59 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 1: sure who's screening these uh these calls? Are these uh 60 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: you know, forty seven years It's fine. It's not a slacker. 61 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: You don't find that a slacker. Really, it's fine. Roommates 62 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:35,839 Speaker 1: for a long time. Okay, um MPs seven zero two 63 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: nine said, met my oldest and dearest friend in the 64 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: sixth grade when she transferred in from a different school. 65 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: Still friends after marriages, kids and a cross country move apart. 66 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: That's nice, yeah, cut, especially the husband's parts. Yeah, well, 67 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 1: you know what my dad says. What's your dad say? 68 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: My dad said, if your spouses don't like each other, 69 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: you will eventually drift apart. They if you don't like 70 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: the spouse of your best friend, eventually you will drift apart. 71 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: And I have seen that to be true. Correct, And 72 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: the RIFFI designer shared. My best friend and I have 73 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: been through thick and thin for fifty five plus years. 74 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: Met when we were five years old. So cute. That's you, 75 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: it is, that's really going to be you. I don't 76 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 1: have best friends from when I was five evil. No, 77 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: it's because girls were mean and evil to me. Actually, 78 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: I'd probably have so many friends if they were nice 79 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: to me. But Babe, who's your oldest friend? I think 80 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,160 Speaker 1: it John, Well, I think it's like I think this 81 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:45,080 Speaker 1: is what happened. John and Harley are my oldest friends. 82 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: We did go to kindergarten together. But I'm pretty sure 83 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: that when we moved to our new development, the houses 84 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 1: weren't ready yet and we had to like start school, 85 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: so we lived in a bungalow colony, like twenty minutes away, 86 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: And I kind of I think I met John there 87 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: at the Bungalow college. That makes sense, actually, that you 88 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: would meet John in a bungalow colony. How old is 89 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: your oldest friend? Let's think about honestly my oldest friends. Look, 90 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: I have friends from when I was born that I 91 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: still love, like Lauren Englander now Lauren Fluster, but like 92 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: not someone that liked in my life every day. But 93 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: if I saw her now, we catch up, like I 94 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: love her for life. Right, But I would say my 95 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 1: oldest honestly friend that's still in my life probably is 96 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: Melissa and Emily. Like Emily, who my two girlfriends in 97 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: New York, who you know when I met literally my 98 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: first day of college or the day before, and Melissa 99 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 1: when I met you. Dory certainly is older, that's true. Dory, 100 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Dory would be my oldest friend. You're 101 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: totally right. From when I was twelve. She moved from 102 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: I think Canada to Short Hills where I grew up, 103 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 1: and she got on the school bus and said, you're 104 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: really pretty. Can I be your friend? And we literally 105 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: were kimps. Bitch Now, I said, sit down next to me, 106 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: of course you can. Oh, how well do you know me? 107 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,599 Speaker 1: I was like, sit down, you know, and we were 108 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 1: actually best friends from that point on. And then you know, 109 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 1: she still lives in New York. Are pretty much all 110 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: over the world, you know, and she's still very much 111 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: in my life. So yeah, Jory would be my oldest 112 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: friend for sure. And she's a new baby, not even new. 113 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: Oh god, I have two friends that had babies on 114 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: their own because they wanted to be moms. Sure, I 115 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: respect it, God do I respect it? All right? So 116 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: we also got some great feedback about that same episode 117 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: as well, and I think we'd like to play a voicemail. 118 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,039 Speaker 1: We actually have a voicemail. That's how high tech we 119 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: are at this show. Hi. It's Trishasager from Montreal, Quebec, Canada. 120 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: I just wanted to say I loved your podcast. The 121 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:56,039 Speaker 1: other day I listened to the Best Friends podcast with 122 00:06:56,120 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: Jennifer Meyer and Sarah Foster. It was amazing ride. It 123 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: was very identifiable It was the perfect pick me up 124 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 1: after a long day of work working with elder chair 125 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: and Holocaust survivors and providing free home care. And it 126 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: was the exact thing I needed to escape today. So 127 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: thank you. Congratulations, married twenty years this August to the 128 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: love of my life. So thank you so much, and 129 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 1: just keep going. I can't wait to continue listening. Take 130 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 1: care bye. Wow, Oh my god, that obviously made me 131 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: all choked up. You're not sobbing because you're usually really 132 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: the big crier, he cried at our son's belt test 133 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: karate belt taekwondo belt testing. In my eye the tree 134 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: really yeah, it's a lot of pawn outside. I have allergies, Rachel, 135 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: So let's move on. We love you, Trisha. We can't 136 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: really speak to you apparently, because like we said, we 137 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: can't afford two way communication yet, only voicemail. But we're 138 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: going to respond like this. First of all, I think 139 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 1: that Rachel really love that because she now knows that 140 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 1: Montreal is in Quebec, Canada, so that Montreal's in Quebec. 141 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: Yeah see, I knew that Rachel would learn something from 142 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: this episode. I know Montreal's in Canada, well, Quebec would 143 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: be a province. You know, there's provinces in Canada just 144 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: like their states. Of course they know that. Okay, so 145 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: everyone who's listening, it's nice that Montreal's Quebec. I thought 146 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 1: that you would find that interesting. Rachel Jusha, I want 147 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: to say that's incredible because the reason I love hearing 148 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:37,120 Speaker 1: this is because clearly you have a very impactful and 149 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 1: meaningful job that you do every day. And Roger and 150 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 1: I I don't want to speak for him, but I will, 151 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: are so honored that you take the time to listen 152 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 1: to our podcast and that it's doing exactly what we 153 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: really wanted to do, which is provide, you know, in 154 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:56,959 Speaker 1: our escape for people in their day to just listen 155 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: to whenever and just get a little laugh or try 156 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 1: and kind of identify with a part of it or 157 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: what we're talking about, or the relationship topic of the day, 158 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: whatever it is. But thank you for the work that 159 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,440 Speaker 1: you're doing. It's certainly way more meaningful than what we're 160 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: doing over here. That we're so happy that we kind 161 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: of gave you a little smile at the Rachel, I 162 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: keep going back to we're doing life, We're doing God's 163 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: work here. Rachel, you could just see because people, you know, 164 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 1: people need an escape. She's working very hard and very 165 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: serious topic. Obviously, Trisha, you're amazing. I just I can't 166 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 1: believe that you know, I have the same reaction to 167 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,679 Speaker 1: Rachel's old project, like I cannot believe you're wasting an 168 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: hour of your time listening to me than a grand Tricia, 169 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: thank you so much, and it's a risk and it 170 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: paid off for you, so wow, what a good bet. 171 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 1: Thank you, Trisha. Maybe it's really amazing that you're such 172 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: a good advocate for our business brand. It's really good 173 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 1: that I put you out in front of people. You know, 174 00:09:56,240 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: apparently people like transparency these days. Well, Trisha, By the way, 175 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: for what it's worth, Aaron and Sarah's episode is one 176 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: of my all time favorites and they are by far 177 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: my favorite best friends. So I'm so glad you enjoyed 178 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: the episode and I'm glad it made you smile, and 179 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:13,479 Speaker 1: we hope you continue to listen. I call again. Please. Yeah, 180 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: let us know that you love our episodes every single time. 181 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:20,680 Speaker 1: It never gets old. So you've been asking some fantastic 182 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: questions and while we're not experts, as we always say, 183 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: the questions you ask were very much in our wheelhouse, 184 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: so let's get into it. 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Hi Rachel and Roger. 248 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:38,400 Speaker 1: I wanted to say I'm really having your your podcast. 249 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: It's been so much fun to listen to you guys. 250 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 1: I just want to say that we might I've been 251 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: married for seventeen years and we ended up moving countries 252 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 1: and having to with a nine month old come from 253 00:14:57,000 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: England to America, and that was not easy. So I 254 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: just want to say that I admire all your advice 255 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: and I just had a quick question, which would be 256 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: as a couple, power couple, what do you think as 257 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: your piece of advice for coming out the other side 258 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: of COVID? So what would you all know, trippy, what 259 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: would your next for dinner be? What's your next flan? 260 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 1: Thank you so much? Bye bye. Well, okay, what was 261 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 1: her name again? She didn't great English acts. We're gonna 262 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 1: call her. We're gonna call her British woman. Let's call 263 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: her British woman. Okay, so this lovely British woman. Notice 264 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: how she sang? Why she spoke? She didn't. Yeah, it 265 00:15:48,080 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: was like a little sing song. It's like, hey, how 266 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 1: are you doing today? I just think everything sounds better 267 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 1: as definitely calling from Europe. I think because I noticed 268 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 1: a stick shift while she was driving. It's also good 269 00:16:00,720 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 1: to know that people are multitasking and not truly wasting 270 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 1: their time just concentrating. Why you asked she moved in 271 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:11,920 Speaker 1: the UK. So she did say she drove a lot. 272 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: Do you think she drove across the ocean? I don't 273 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: think you can do that. Well, you're kind in a ferry, right, 274 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:20,800 Speaker 1: So my question is my question is what was her question? Again? 275 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: Her question was what's her advice for a couple coming COVID? 276 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 1: And my answer to that is, well, I think mine 277 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:35,120 Speaker 1: and Rogers answers would be pretty different because he's been 278 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 1: like a caged animal and I've been happy. I think 279 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: I have a great analogy. I think I've a good analogy. 280 00:16:40,040 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 1: I'm so scared. You know, you don't scare her off you. 281 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: Now you go to a pool and some people jump 282 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: right in, and some people dip their toes and they 283 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: just want to get adjusted to each step to the water. 284 00:16:51,840 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: I would say, Rachel's dipping her toes into life post COVID, 285 00:16:55,400 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: and I have dove full force, full force head first. Yeah, 286 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: so what is my advice? Are you going out for 287 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:08,080 Speaker 1: dinner tonight? By the way, obviously, so basically Roger's going 288 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 1: out every day and night. He's gone for like fifteen 289 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:12,639 Speaker 1: hours at a time. Kids don't even notice. They think 290 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:17,359 Speaker 1: he's outside working part of my master plan. And I 291 00:17:17,480 --> 00:17:21,920 Speaker 1: would say my advice is from where I sit, tiptoe in. 292 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: If you're someone who has kind of enjoyed the peace 293 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,680 Speaker 1: and quiet of it and the lack of social pressure, 294 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,280 Speaker 1: go back in lightly and pick and choose who you 295 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: want to see. And Roger would say, probably go out 296 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:34,640 Speaker 1: at every turn you can, because you never know when 297 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 1: the world's going to end again. I do think though 298 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 1: she might have been asking in another way, maybe from 299 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:41,920 Speaker 1: a business sense also now I think it was a relationship. Well, 300 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 1: I would say, also, what we're noticing from a business 301 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:49,640 Speaker 1: sense is like everything's changed, opportunities everywhere, And I would say, 302 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 1: be very aggressive right now. Yeah, I think as it goes, 303 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:57,919 Speaker 1: I think that there's a ton of opportunity out there 304 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 1: right now. I also think that now meeting in person, 305 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: provided you know you're vaccinated and you feel safe, is 306 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,720 Speaker 1: so much more meaningful now. Yeah, we had an in 307 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 1: person like lunch yesterday and it was so nice to 308 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: actually like sit next to somebody and look at them 309 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:16,680 Speaker 1: and not through a computer screen. And so I do think, 310 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:19,359 Speaker 1: but I do think that coming out of COVID, I 311 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 1: think picking and choosing is much more valud think that's 312 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: good coming out of COVID. Maybe maybe you edit how 313 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:28,879 Speaker 1: you come out of COVID to to come out of 314 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: it in every minute count Yeah, to make it to 315 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: come out of it better than you went into it 316 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,120 Speaker 1: with sort of maybe your acquaintances or you know, people 317 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 1: that might not have the same energies you want. In 318 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 1: the stage you're screened and what's your ideal dinner date. 319 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:44,119 Speaker 1: Ideal dinner date, I like when we go with like 320 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:47,119 Speaker 1: one or two other couples that I really like. I 321 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 1: think that's really fun. I enjoy that. I mean, but 322 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: I if I had to sit in front of Rachel 323 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: for two hours and just talked to her, I hope 324 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:57,400 Speaker 1: nobody believes his do you know what I've been saying 325 00:18:57,440 --> 00:19:00,399 Speaker 1: to him for the last like thirty years now. Whenever 326 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: he starts to sound like this, I look at him 327 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 1: and go, stop trying to be cool. You know that 328 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 1: kid in school who's like the sweetest person, and then 329 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: as soon as their friends are next to them, they 330 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 1: try to be like a total asshole. I don't think 331 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 1: it's like, oh my god, I really feel like you 332 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:15,440 Speaker 1: try to show off in front of your friends and 333 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 1: then your friends go news toy road, I'm not showing off. Yeah, 334 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,120 Speaker 1: you're showing off. You're trying to make people think you're 335 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 1: a jerk, and you're not. I'm not a jerk. You 336 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:25,399 Speaker 1: are trying to be a jerk. So here's the answer. 337 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:28,960 Speaker 1: The answer is I like small dinners, no more than six, 338 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,960 Speaker 1: unless it's a dinner party too. I don't love big 339 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:35,399 Speaker 1: dinners or or but that's just if it's Roger and I. 340 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 1: Then then I like someplace dark. I just like someplace 341 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 1: dark and moody. I like someplace that's like feels different 342 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 1: and like. I like sitting in a booth. I like 343 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: sitting away from people because otherwise we've gone on date 344 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 1: nights and ended up like sitting with twenty five people 345 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: that we too. You know, yeah, I think that I 346 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:00,920 Speaker 1: like when you give me diamonds on or nights. Yeah, 347 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 1: that's always that's always a good topic of discussion. You 348 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,119 Speaker 1: know what it is? I think that Rachel says that. 349 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 1: But this is our problem with any sort of dinner 350 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 1: type situation, is we literally, although we love the restaurants 351 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:15,919 Speaker 1: we go to, I think we could try. Rachel's are 352 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 1: very much. Uh. I'm a virgo change. She doesn't change 353 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 1: a lot, So I would say, I don't know if 354 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: it's the four restaurants in all of Los Angeles and 355 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:27,719 Speaker 1: seventeen years, definitely seven at least seven, well maybe seven anyway, 356 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,359 Speaker 1: but you get the points, So listen, don't fix it. 357 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 1: If it ain't broke, well it a little broken from me, 358 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 1: but that's okay. Now, this next group of questions is 359 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: from Instagram. You've heard of that Instagram? You know that 360 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 1: social media platform you've never heard of. So let's get 361 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: started at chaycat, what's the worst names you've ever called 362 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 1: each other? How do we answer this? My friend? Um, well, 363 00:20:57,320 --> 00:20:59,560 Speaker 1: I'm going to take a staff about answering. Honey. I 364 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:03,360 Speaker 1: think you mean like affectionate nicknames that might be embarrassing, 365 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: that like we look back and be like, how did 366 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: I call you that? Like or like new new or 367 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 1: like when you brought out this year? You know which 368 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,719 Speaker 1: one you brought out this year? Kids? Pet, I think 369 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 1: you would have said pet names. I think you start 370 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:20,200 Speaker 1: calling me Angel this year over COVID. That was really nice. 371 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:24,120 Speaker 1: I know I like Angel, You're my angel? Okay. Yeah. 372 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: Rachel calls me babe mostly and the worst names. Like 373 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:32,959 Speaker 1: this is a thing. I'm a little crazy. So sometimes 374 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,960 Speaker 1: when I like someone, I insult them. But it's a 375 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:40,280 Speaker 1: form of endearment. No, but it's awful. So my highest 376 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: form of better not say well, I won't say I 377 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,600 Speaker 1: won't say anything, but let's just say, don't say any 378 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 1: of the things that I think you're gonna. I'm not 379 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 1: gonna say worrib but let's just say that sometimes I 380 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 1: call Rachel names. We used to call each other bun. 381 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: Yeah what happens? A bun doesn't work Now we've kids. 382 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 1: It seems weird. It's cooked. Yeah, I think babe or honey, 383 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 1: the funny things you love, but my love, you know, 384 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 1: it's very like, um, what's that show you watch Bridgerton? 385 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:10,840 Speaker 1: It's like us my love, yeah, or it's your grace 386 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 1: should I say your grace if if you're saying that 387 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,840 Speaker 1: I'm royalty and I own your ass, yeah, you don't 388 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:24,879 Speaker 1: even my king? Okay? At and creative? How do you 389 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: navigate when good friends get divorced? H Thankfully, for us 390 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 1: for the most part, there's been a very clear side 391 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 1: to take. Well, what's really weird for us? And it's 392 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: kind of I hate to say it, Rach, but it 393 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,480 Speaker 1: kind of goes against what you said earlier. I do 394 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 1: think you said, you know, your dad was like, hey, 395 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:45,800 Speaker 1: if you're not best friends, if you're not confriends of 396 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: your spouse, you're never gonna be gathered. I think we've 397 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: actually managed. I don't think that you're necessarily best friends 398 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:56,159 Speaker 1: with my friend's wives. You're friendly with them, right, But 399 00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 1: I think what that means is when there was ever 400 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:03,320 Speaker 1: a divorce, it obviously was my friend that stayed. That's 401 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. There's a clear there's a clear answer 402 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,639 Speaker 1: of where we sit. But also because there was a 403 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 1: clear wrong doing, right or wrong is there's no right 404 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 1: or wrong when you're loyal to your friends. But I 405 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 1: think that I think what I think what's very strange 406 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 1: about us versus a lot of other couples, is we 407 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:27,120 Speaker 1: don't have a ton of like couple friends. I think 408 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: some people are like, oh, it's our couple friends or 409 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: a couple of friends, or a couple friends or a 410 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,000 Speaker 1: couple of friends. Like we have some couples that we like, 411 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: but like you have your friends, my friends, we you 412 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 1: know what I'm trying to say. And I think some 413 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 1: people are like they have their five couple friends, Like, 414 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:43,399 Speaker 1: oh my god, Margie and whatever got are getting divorced. 415 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 1: What do we do? We all go bowling every Saturday, 416 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,200 Speaker 1: and we don't have that, right, I think, if to 417 00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 1: translate Roger's insanity, it's basically what he's trying to say 418 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 1: is that I have my super close friends and like 419 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,840 Speaker 1: Roger likes their other halves, and we like their other halves. 420 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 1: Roger has his like boys from literally when he was five, 421 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 1: and I like their wives, but like they live on 422 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 1: a different coast. What he's saying is we don't necessarily 423 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: have like ten couple best friends that we travel with 424 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:21,159 Speaker 1: that we go everywhere with that like if someone broke apart, 425 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:24,640 Speaker 1: we all have to like decide what side we pick. 426 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,760 Speaker 1: Which kind of happened with my sister and her divorce 427 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 1: people definitely had to sort of choose aside, and I 428 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:34,360 Speaker 1: think with us, you're right, we definitely have like separate 429 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: and together friends. We definitely have couple friends that we're 430 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 1: close with. But I don't think catastrophically, but we do, 431 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,000 Speaker 1: you know, I would say in one situation, there's a 432 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,680 Speaker 1: couple that we are close with both and we work 433 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 1: with them and we're friends with them, and they're in 434 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,040 Speaker 1: our lives, so that does happen. But I do think 435 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 1: for me navigating when close friends get divorced is there's 436 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:59,119 Speaker 1: usually a very clear wrongdoing usually that I've seen. What 437 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: if they just fell int then that's different. Then you 438 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,320 Speaker 1: don't have to take a side, and you decide who 439 00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 1: you're closer with and who your allegiance is too, because sometimes, honestly, 440 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: in these days, like I have friends that are getting 441 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,920 Speaker 1: friendly divorces and they did just fall out of love 442 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 1: and they're rooting for each other and they're both great 443 00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,159 Speaker 1: parents and they go on to meet other people and 444 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: life continues and that's fine. And I sound like an 445 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,919 Speaker 1: option trying to be cool again, None of our listeners 446 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:28,320 Speaker 1: think you're cool at all. Our next Instagram question is 447 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:32,879 Speaker 1: from someone who clearly practices witchcraft. It's from an alchemy 448 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: and sorcery. Ooh, what are some green flags in relationships 449 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 1: to green flag? I would imagine like surrender no. I 450 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,879 Speaker 1: imagine a red flag is like you don't go, and 451 00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:49,439 Speaker 1: a green flag just using logic would mean like how 452 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 1: do you know when to go further? And like make 453 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,400 Speaker 1: the commitment maybe or like no, this is the one. 454 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: And I think this goes back to the old fashion. 455 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,920 Speaker 1: If you have to ask, the green flag is like, hey, 456 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,399 Speaker 1: I can't stop thinking about this person. So that's probably 457 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 1: the green flag obsession. I would say red flag is 458 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:09,679 Speaker 1: like if you have to try too hard, run right, 459 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 1: because it's not if you have to force it, especially 460 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 1: in the beginning. I actually was just saying this too 461 00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,280 Speaker 1: my nephew, that if you have to try that hard, 462 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,639 Speaker 1: it's definitely not right. Yeah. I think the green flag 463 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: is you never see a red one? Yes, agreed. Wow, 464 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:30,679 Speaker 1: that was profound. This is a great one. At Emily 465 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,680 Speaker 1: Foster in Terriers. I really thought it's at Aaron Foster, 466 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:39,159 Speaker 1: why did you wait so long to have kids? Great question? 467 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 1: And the reason is is we both neither of us 468 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,680 Speaker 1: were in a hurry. I think both of us were workaholics, 469 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 1: completely obsessed working on our careers. I think we kept saying, 470 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 1: we're going to do this next year, We're going to 471 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,720 Speaker 1: do it next year. And then we woke up and 472 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:57,960 Speaker 1: it was like eighteen years since we started dating, and 473 00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 1: I think life just went by real fast, and we 474 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,159 Speaker 1: woke up and we're like, okay, now or never, and 475 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: now I wish I had four Yeah. I think ultimately 476 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,480 Speaker 1: we were having fun. I think we're like a decade 477 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,159 Speaker 1: behind it, like most normally human beings. Yeah, we are. 478 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 1: I just think we're like immature by a decade. I 479 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,320 Speaker 1: think we just weren't ready to, like, yeah, we weren't 480 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 1: ready to like face reality and like grow up and 481 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 1: be responsible for other things. I mean, does it appear 482 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 1: that I'm fifty three lately? I don't know. You got 483 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:31,400 Speaker 1: than to look a little older. If I do look 484 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,880 Speaker 1: old now, I know I do. But you're thin, You're 485 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: in the best shape of your life, your ass but 486 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: up up um anyway, So what were just talking about 487 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,399 Speaker 1: why we waited so long to have children? Well, we 488 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: waited so long to have children because it's a lot 489 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,880 Speaker 1: of worrying. No, because first of all, because you're because 490 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 1: you're like whatever. You were like so self centered? What 491 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:54,159 Speaker 1: do you mean you didn't want to have a kid. 492 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: Why don't you tell the real truth? The real truth 493 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 1: was like I'm like, let's have a kid. You're like, okay, 494 00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:00,240 Speaker 1: like next year, and I'm like, I just want you 495 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 1: to know that Roger's still not ready to have a kid. Well, 496 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: we had them, but I know you're still not ready. 497 00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 1: I'm a decade behind. Now you're child. It's ten. It's 498 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:10,640 Speaker 1: like it was just born. I'm starting to be really close. 499 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,119 Speaker 1: Yeah you are. You're just starting that relationship right now 500 00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 1: with our children. It's going well whatever that basically fully independent, 501 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: but it's ready to be. My first memory was until 502 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 1: I was five. Seriously, everyone's got so anyway. Um, I think, 503 00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: to be honest, we felt like we were kids ourselves 504 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 1: and we were having the best time. And I don't 505 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,879 Speaker 1: think we were ready to like stop only focusing on 506 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 1: work and ourselves anyway. At Alexandra V. Miller Dating in thirties. 507 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:48,960 Speaker 1: Advice for anyone who's been super focused on career, Um, yeah, 508 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 1: I think that you stay focused on your career because 509 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 1: I think to attract a partner, the right partner is 510 00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:02,920 Speaker 1: someone who wants to date somebody who is driven, ambitious, 511 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,760 Speaker 1: and not so dependent on them. I think guys run. 512 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 1: Most guys I know anyway, run as soon as they 513 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,200 Speaker 1: see a girl, just kind of like waiting to get 514 00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: waiting to get married and pining for the guy to 515 00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: like take care of her and whisk her away. That's 516 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: just not I think when you're dating in your thirties, 517 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,560 Speaker 1: you have to focus on you, figure out who you are, 518 00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,960 Speaker 1: do your life you are. The happier you are, the 519 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: more attractive you will become to someone else. But I 520 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,920 Speaker 1: will want to say something, and again, I'm not a 521 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: medical doctor, but or a relationship doctor, a relationship with doctor. 522 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,760 Speaker 1: I'm really no doctor at all. But what's the opt 523 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 1: of But I will say this, If you're in your thirties, 524 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 1: and this is just something I came across, maybe you'll 525 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 1: meet mister Wright or missus Wright or whatever the right 526 00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 1: gender is for your particular happiness. But the point is, 527 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: if you're in your thirties, biologically, yeah, kind of slow down. 528 00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 1: So what I would advise people to do they're in 529 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,640 Speaker 1: Thursday thirty is like, literally just take some eggs out 530 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 1: so that you have healthy eggs, and then take some 531 00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,080 Speaker 1: of the pressure off, and that relieves a lot of things, 532 00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 1: because you know, it's not about the kid thing that 533 00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,360 Speaker 1: you're not gonna be called pregnant, blah blah blah. Be ka, 534 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: You'll have you'll have that on the side, and I 535 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 1: think that certainly takes some of the pressure off and 536 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 1: maybe even will help speed up the process in some 537 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 1: random backwards way. Send us on a rush. So that's 538 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: my own advice. Okay, okay, So we really do love 539 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 1: hearing from you, and we honestly really love hearing your stories. 540 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,560 Speaker 1: And this week we want to spotlight a story from 541 00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 1: one of our listeners that took her two voicemails to tell. 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We just got back from our 607 00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: honeymoon in the Bahamas yesterday. Neither of us had ever 608 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,960 Speaker 1: been married before. We don't have children. So I was 609 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:57,440 Speaker 1: a professional musical theater performer and singer songwriter for from 610 00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 1: the time I was fourteen and all through my twenties. 611 00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:01,960 Speaker 1: I live in la for ten years, and I had 612 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,080 Speaker 1: like a catastrophic back injury in my mid twenties and 613 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,840 Speaker 1: kind of took me out of my dancing career and 614 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,560 Speaker 1: I had to make some changes in my life. So 615 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 1: when I was thirty, I moved to Phoenix, where my 616 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,200 Speaker 1: family lived and I had never lived there before, and 617 00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,040 Speaker 1: decided to go to college. So I went to Sara's, 618 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,400 Speaker 1: won a seat and got a bachelor's degree. And I 619 00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,399 Speaker 1: had been in a long term relationship prior to moving 620 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 1: to Phoenix and decided that I wasn't going to date 621 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:27,799 Speaker 1: and I was going to build a create a life 622 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,439 Speaker 1: for myself that was full of joy and a life 623 00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,360 Speaker 1: that if I lived the rest of my life alone 624 00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,760 Speaker 1: without a partner, I would still have like this beautiful, 625 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,439 Speaker 1: fulfilling life. So I didn't date for like seven years, 626 00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:40,759 Speaker 1: and I worked really hard on my career. I ended 627 00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,240 Speaker 1: up becoming a social worker for children, specializing in trauma 628 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,960 Speaker 1: and was really fulfilled, but I hated living in Phoenix. 629 00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,799 Speaker 1: I lived in the suburbs and I met another girl 630 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:53,560 Speaker 1: who was also from LA and we were complaining about 631 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,120 Speaker 1: Phoenix and she just said, you're doing it wrong, like 632 00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,080 Speaker 1: you're out in the suburbs. You need to be downtown. 633 00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: And I said okay. So she invited didn't met to 634 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,959 Speaker 1: this music night in her neighborhood where all the local 635 00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 1: musicians come and hang out and share new songs, and 636 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,160 Speaker 1: so I said, okay, I'll go. So I went to 637 00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,840 Speaker 1: this music night and there was this man sitting on 638 00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,839 Speaker 1: the front porch and I just kind of said hie 639 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,359 Speaker 1: to him, and I was like, oh, this is this tall, 640 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:20,799 Speaker 1: hungry man. And I ended up that night never going 641 00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:22,960 Speaker 1: into the actual music night. Him and I sat out 642 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:24,800 Speaker 1: on the porch all night long, and he had a 643 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,000 Speaker 1: guitar and he was a musician also but had a 644 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,800 Speaker 1: real job too, and we ended up just like singing 645 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,239 Speaker 1: songs Weezer on the porch all night long together and 646 00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,160 Speaker 1: just really headed off and I didn't get his number. 647 00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,560 Speaker 1: My friend got his number because they were like, this 648 00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:41,399 Speaker 1: guy so cool, we have to hang out with him again. 649 00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,800 Speaker 1: And the next day I woke up and I was like, 650 00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I have to sign that phobic guy 651 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,440 Speaker 1: like that was so much fun. And she was like, 652 00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:49,960 Speaker 1: don't worry, girl, I have his number. So I ended 653 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,320 Speaker 1: up calling him the next day and he wasn't expecting 654 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,719 Speaker 1: me to call because he gave his number to my friend, 655 00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:58,200 Speaker 1: but he was really excited and he and he asked 656 00:36:58,320 --> 00:36:59,920 Speaker 1: him a date right away, and I had him been 657 00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:01,719 Speaker 1: on a date in like seven years, and I was 658 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:05,320 Speaker 1: like absolutely, So he took me out to drinks and 659 00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 1: dinner in downtown Phoenix and our first date lasted like 660 00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:14,200 Speaker 1: thirty six hours, and we became best friends and we 661 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:18,120 Speaker 1: started we were getting other people kind of still, but 662 00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:20,680 Speaker 1: he didn't have kids, I didn't have kids. Neither of 663 00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,640 Speaker 1: us had been married, and we just developed this beautiful 664 00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,919 Speaker 1: friendship and partnership. We started officially dating four years ago 665 00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: actually today. We got engaged in January twenty twenty, and 666 00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,080 Speaker 1: we're like, this is our year and plans to we 667 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,360 Speaker 1: lope in Hawaii, and then this pandemic hit, but we 668 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 1: were able to make it to get married. We went 669 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,319 Speaker 1: last week and we're married and Marco Island then went 670 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 1: to the Bahamas, and I guess it just what I 671 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,000 Speaker 1: always tell people, what I want people to know, is, 672 00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,200 Speaker 1: you know, create a life for yourself that's full of 673 00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,959 Speaker 1: joy and beauty, and having a partner in that life 674 00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:57,000 Speaker 1: is just like the cherry on everything and it's so exciting. 675 00:37:57,120 --> 00:38:01,439 Speaker 1: Like being you know, my early forties and not having 676 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,239 Speaker 1: a partner, and being in my thirties and not having 677 00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:04,920 Speaker 1: a partner, it was tough and it was lonely, but 678 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,920 Speaker 1: I knew that I wanted a partner who was my 679 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,560 Speaker 1: partner for me and not just to have one. And 680 00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,320 Speaker 1: I never gave up hope. But I built a beautiful 681 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,880 Speaker 1: life for myself. I just graduated with my master's degree 682 00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,600 Speaker 1: and we'll be starting as a trauma therapist at a 683 00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:21,200 Speaker 1: private practice next month. And now I have this partnership. 684 00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:26,000 Speaker 1: My husband has a small business, and I I wish 685 00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,480 Speaker 1: that women could get the message that don't be with 686 00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:30,719 Speaker 1: someone just because you don't want to be lonely, like 687 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:32,800 Speaker 1: find a way to fulfill your life and create a 688 00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,719 Speaker 1: life of beauty for yourself. And when you do find 689 00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,160 Speaker 1: that perfect person that comes along. It just enhances everything. 690 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,960 Speaker 1: So do you and work on yourself and create a 691 00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:47,279 Speaker 1: beautiful life. And if you're lucky, and hopefully you'll have 692 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,799 Speaker 1: someone that comes along for you. But it's never too late, 693 00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,040 Speaker 1: you know. I didn't graduate college till I was thirty seven, 694 00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,600 Speaker 1: I didn't start my career until then, and I didn't 695 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 1: get married till I was forty two. And it was 696 00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 1: all worth the wait because I have everything that I 697 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,280 Speaker 1: ever wanted in my life and in a partnership. Cutie, 698 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,160 Speaker 1: that was one of the best phone calls I ever heard. 699 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,920 Speaker 1: They were so well, first of all, so much I'm 700 00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:16,880 Speaker 1: not crying, so much knowledge and just so much knowledge 701 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:20,359 Speaker 1: in that in that phone she's living in it. It's 702 00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,840 Speaker 1: sort of what we were saying to the last voicemail 703 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:28,240 Speaker 1: is if you make yourself happy and beautiful, your energy 704 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,920 Speaker 1: is such that you can attract someone that wants that 705 00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,840 Speaker 1: other than changing your own self to fit into that 706 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:38,719 Speaker 1: other person's idea of what they want, because if you 707 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,000 Speaker 1: fit into that other person's idea of what they want, 708 00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,879 Speaker 1: you're never going to be yourself and you're never writting 709 00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,399 Speaker 1: a truly, And we know a lot of people like that. Yeah, 710 00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,879 Speaker 1: but what was also amazing, again another pattern. They never 711 00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,480 Speaker 1: made it inside the music, they knew they talked all 712 00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:58,520 Speaker 1: night yea then and never riding date. And that's that's 713 00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:03,120 Speaker 1: the green the flag. As we talked about the green flags, 714 00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:05,840 Speaker 1: I can't stop and not be with that person. You 715 00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:09,080 Speaker 1: don't want to stop. So I think that was incredible. 716 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,440 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for sharing that with us. What 717 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,759 Speaker 1: an incredible love story. I also want to note that 718 00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,120 Speaker 1: she made it very clear that she did this very 719 00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:21,080 Speaker 1: late in her life and that her love story started 720 00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:24,359 Speaker 1: at forty two. And I think, but now she's married 721 00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:28,160 Speaker 1: a fort which is so beautiful, and it's never too 722 00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:31,359 Speaker 1: late to be in love and it's never too late 723 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,400 Speaker 1: to write your story or change your story, which we 724 00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:39,919 Speaker 1: learned from Lori Gottlieb, and I think that, um, you know, listen, 725 00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:43,600 Speaker 1: Roger and I learn as we do this podcast as well. 726 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:47,640 Speaker 1: And that was an incredible story, but a good story. Yeah, 727 00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,080 Speaker 1: I love her. I love her energy, by the way, 728 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 1: and I also think all the women listening that are like, 729 00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:56,880 Speaker 1: I'm single, I'm single. It's it's what I was saying earlier. 730 00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:00,560 Speaker 1: You do you, you work on yourself, and I promise 731 00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 1: the best and the rest will come whatever that is agreed. 732 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:12,400 Speaker 1: So last thing, we have a surprise caller. Um we do. 733 00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:14,640 Speaker 1: I literally have no idea who it is. Well, do 734 00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:18,560 Speaker 1: you know what it is? Hey, Roger and Rachel just 735 00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:23,879 Speaker 1: want to Jay Nimai May more years is going great? Oh, 736 00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:26,480 Speaker 1: to let you know that someone is indeed listening to 737 00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,600 Speaker 1: your podcast. I'll let you guess who this is. Bye. 738 00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:33,759 Speaker 1: You know. I like that because it verifies that at 739 00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:37,239 Speaker 1: least one person listens to our podcast. That person with 740 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:41,640 Speaker 1: Jay Patrick. Jay is a longtime business associate of ours. 741 00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,279 Speaker 1: I actually refer to Jay as our guardian angel or 742 00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:50,880 Speaker 1: the godfather Uncle Jay, Uncle Jay. Not by blood, he 743 00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:55,440 Speaker 1: is from where I sit, someone who has always looked 744 00:41:55,480 --> 00:42:00,279 Speaker 1: after Roger and me through association, but now I have 745 00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:03,160 Speaker 1: my own relationship with him as a friend an investor. 746 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:07,040 Speaker 1: But he's always really looked after Roger in hard times 747 00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,520 Speaker 1: and in good times. But he was someone that was 748 00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,120 Speaker 1: one of your mentors and bosses when you first started 749 00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,480 Speaker 1: your career as an invest in painker. Yeah. And again, 750 00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:19,160 Speaker 1: because I'm an amazing person, holds onto people for a 751 00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:24,520 Speaker 1: long period of time and modest Thirty years later, Jay 752 00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 1: is still in our life and a wonderful person. Thank 753 00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:30,759 Speaker 1: you Jay for calling you. Thanks Jay, We love you Jay, 754 00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,440 Speaker 1: and thanks for listening because you know, the fact is 755 00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:37,120 Speaker 1: you have to listen to Roger almost every day. So 756 00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:38,920 Speaker 1: the fact that you actually want to tune in and 757 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:42,440 Speaker 1: listen to more of Roger is you know, that's admirable, 758 00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,120 Speaker 1: and it is admirable. I have to do it by contract, 759 00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:49,479 Speaker 1: you know, marriage contract. But anyway, so that was really fun. 760 00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:52,879 Speaker 1: If you want to share your own story or ask 761 00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:56,800 Speaker 1: us a question, because you know we're not relationship experts, 762 00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,239 Speaker 1: but you know we know a thing or two, leave 763 00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,880 Speaker 1: us a mess sage at our new works for Us 764 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:07,239 Speaker 1: hotline six five seven five four nine two two five one, 765 00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,040 Speaker 1: and we might just share your story or answer your 766 00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:13,560 Speaker 1: question on the show, or of course, follow us on 767 00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,920 Speaker 1: Instagram at works dot for dot us and you can 768 00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:22,839 Speaker 1: leave a comment or question here. As is the case 769 00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,560 Speaker 1: in each episode, we like to leave our listeners with 770 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,840 Speaker 1: a little highlight and low light from our week in relationships. 771 00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,040 Speaker 1: As you know, the bad comes with a good, so 772 00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:35,800 Speaker 1: this is our time to mention a little bit of 773 00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:40,399 Speaker 1: both those things. M Rache, you want to kick us off, 774 00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:42,200 Speaker 1: maybe a highlight or a low light of your week 775 00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:46,160 Speaker 1: that you can share. I know my lowlight, my low light. 776 00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:49,200 Speaker 1: And by the way, when she says lowlights, I think 777 00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:53,440 Speaker 1: you did get lowlights this week, didn't you? No high 778 00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,560 Speaker 1: low lights? I mean I guess you can get lowlights, 779 00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,840 Speaker 1: but like, I mean, yeah, I guess you get highlights. No, 780 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:02,680 Speaker 1: I actually need some, And so you're referring to this, yeah, yeah, okay, sorry, okay, 781 00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:06,279 Speaker 1: well now another low light. For the first time in 782 00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:12,400 Speaker 1: our thirty year marriage, my husband said to me the 783 00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,440 Speaker 1: other day as we were about to shoot just a 784 00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:19,799 Speaker 1: little something for Instagram, no big deal, and I said, oh, 785 00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:22,200 Speaker 1: we have to shoot this, and he goes, now, he goes, 786 00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,640 Speaker 1: you need hair makeup because we need to do it 787 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:32,759 Speaker 1: like that, and I was like, wow. Never normally, if 788 00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,879 Speaker 1: I'm like I have to go put makeup on, He's like, Babe, 789 00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:37,560 Speaker 1: you don't need makeup. You look great. So I actually 790 00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:39,279 Speaker 1: had thought that I did a little bit of a 791 00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:42,359 Speaker 1: touch up or like before we even like sat down, 792 00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,319 Speaker 1: So it was a little I was trying to figure 793 00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,880 Speaker 1: out where he was going. But to me, that was 794 00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:50,480 Speaker 1: like a direct hit because this is the guy that's like, baby, 795 00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,560 Speaker 1: the prettiest in the room. Baby, you don't have to worry, babe. 796 00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,160 Speaker 1: You're not getting older. Baby, you don't need makeup. So 797 00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:59,000 Speaker 1: now I just know you're kind of fullshit. No, if 798 00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:02,200 Speaker 1: it makes you feel better, each live reason for that. Okay, yes, 799 00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,160 Speaker 1: i'd like to hear it. Actually, my eyesight's going and 800 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,160 Speaker 1: I've been meaning to get but then I should look better. 801 00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:11,880 Speaker 1: You know, I need these glasses. No, you know what 802 00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:15,480 Speaker 1: it is. No, it's like your beauty because you're so 803 00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:19,399 Speaker 1: perfectly angular in your beauty and your proportions that if 804 00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:23,279 Speaker 1: you don't have perfect optical it's like, why would you 805 00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,000 Speaker 1: want to look at a beautiful piece of art through 806 00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:29,279 Speaker 1: like a really blurry window or like like even like 807 00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,400 Speaker 1: I know the Mona Lisa, they have that cover, but 808 00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,000 Speaker 1: like don't you want to see perfectly? And that's a thing, Rach. 809 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,880 Speaker 1: As my vision goes, you're getting more beautiful, I'm just 810 00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:42,680 Speaker 1: getting further away. It's me, not you. Oh that was 811 00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:48,200 Speaker 1: like the worst save ever, like ever, I'm pretty proud 812 00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:50,480 Speaker 1: of much, just so you know, that one really hurt. 813 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,200 Speaker 1: It stuck with me for life. That was like literally 814 00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:56,600 Speaker 1: really hurt. It's only because you know, honey, it was 815 00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,839 Speaker 1: really more of a timing thing, like oh are you gonna? 816 00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:00,360 Speaker 1: You know, it's like I needed to know, like how 817 00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:02,800 Speaker 1: much time I had before I whatever. You know what, 818 00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,160 Speaker 1: let's move on. There's no way out. There's no way out. 819 00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:11,840 Speaker 1: Just no. It hurt, but anyway, my highlight, highlight, highlight, highlight. 820 00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:15,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, our boys got another belt in taekwondo, 821 00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:19,799 Speaker 1: And that might have been the absolute cutest but also 822 00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:24,160 Speaker 1: most impressive thing that they just did a full belt test, 823 00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:30,000 Speaker 1: like in sync, fully in sync, like sixteen moves from memory, 824 00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,960 Speaker 1: like it was like a choreographed It was the craziest 825 00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:34,800 Speaker 1: thing I ever saw. And they did tiger on and 826 00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:39,120 Speaker 1: Pega two, so it was actually two different choreographs. I 827 00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,160 Speaker 1: liked tigato and they also counted to ten in Korean, 828 00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,680 Speaker 1: which was amazing. I agree, that was very cool. I 829 00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:46,880 Speaker 1: was so impressed with that. I mean, to me, that 830 00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:49,040 Speaker 1: was kind of the coolest. I think that's a beautiful thing. 831 00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:51,879 Speaker 1: A highlight just seeing our boys accomplish things, getting good 832 00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,719 Speaker 1: grades or just writing a story or you know, just 833 00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:58,240 Speaker 1: doing anything that they're getting better at, like Scotty's getting 834 00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:01,400 Speaker 1: better basketball. It's just so cute. Is it weird that 835 00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:05,720 Speaker 1: I'm so used to your like sarcastic kind of asshole 836 00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,040 Speaker 1: humor that like when you're actually saying things like this, 837 00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:11,200 Speaker 1: I'm waiting for like the dig I'm like, is he 838 00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:14,479 Speaker 1: making fun of the kids right now? Is he saying 839 00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,360 Speaker 1: that my highlights are too real? Well, you know, like 840 00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:21,160 Speaker 1: I'm waiting for the kicker, Like I'm waiting for like 841 00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:24,360 Speaker 1: the But I find it boring thirty years later. You 842 00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,759 Speaker 1: know when they say to keep things interesting, it's not 843 00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:31,279 Speaker 1: just in one way, it's in every way. Just keep 844 00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:38,080 Speaker 1: keep them guessing, keep them guessing. Okay, true false, keeping guessing. 845 00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:39,920 Speaker 1: I don't know. You know, I don't like surprise him 846 00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:44,520 Speaker 1: a virgo. All right, so you so your highlight was 847 00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,480 Speaker 1: our kids are good at tekewondo, and your low light 848 00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:51,000 Speaker 1: is your husband tell me he was waiting. He was 849 00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:53,320 Speaker 1: waiting for me to do hair and makeup when I 850 00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:55,680 Speaker 1: already ended up. I think my highlight has to do 851 00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,440 Speaker 1: with relationships. What do you think about that? I'm going 852 00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:02,560 Speaker 1: to tie it back. My highlight is, actually I had 853 00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:04,920 Speaker 1: a very fun day with people that I did not 854 00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:08,279 Speaker 1: know prior to that day at all. Oh yeah, and 855 00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:11,200 Speaker 1: a friend of mine who I met in friend of 856 00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:15,279 Speaker 1: mine that you met I knew him first. I mean, 857 00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:18,520 Speaker 1: I guess, so I introduced you to him, Remember I 858 00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:21,719 Speaker 1: mean clean, no, no, like fully said I'm excited to 859 00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:23,560 Speaker 1: meet Roger, and then I introduced you, So that means 860 00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,680 Speaker 1: I introduced you. Well, but notice he said he was 861 00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,800 Speaker 1: excited to meet me, but he hadn't met He was 862 00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:31,680 Speaker 1: kind of used, So I actually knew him first. I 863 00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:34,560 Speaker 1: had like twenty conversations with him before you met him. 864 00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:40,800 Speaker 1: Calmed down us, Okay, anyway, I just met a few people. 865 00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:44,440 Speaker 1: We played golf. This person happens to be a pilot, 866 00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,360 Speaker 1: and we flew to San Diego and it was just 867 00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,960 Speaker 1: like a very out of the blue, crazy day that 868 00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:54,240 Speaker 1: I didn't expect, and it just it kind of happened 869 00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,759 Speaker 1: because I was like, sure, you know I didn't kiss 870 00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,880 Speaker 1: your wife's awesome and was like, yeah, that day that 871 00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,280 Speaker 1: you take the kids for a few hours on adventures, 872 00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:02,840 Speaker 1: you can totally leave it eight in the morning and 873 00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:07,840 Speaker 1: come home at eleven at night very drunk. Sure, well again, 874 00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:10,560 Speaker 1: move on, Yes, highlight, you had a magical day. I 875 00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,359 Speaker 1: had a magical day, and I'm so happy for you. Well, 876 00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:16,640 Speaker 1: isn't it funny? Listeners? How Rachel was taking full credit 877 00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,839 Speaker 1: for the introduction. It was, and that's why I let 878 00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,640 Speaker 1: him go, because I actually did want to. Sentences later, 879 00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:23,799 Speaker 1: I was a little better. She was a little bitter 880 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,160 Speaker 1: about No, I was actually happy. Had that been one 881 00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,120 Speaker 1: of your old friends, I would have been pissed off. 882 00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:30,040 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but because it was a new friend that 883 00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:32,000 Speaker 1: I liked, and I actually really want you to hang 884 00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:35,640 Speaker 1: out with really driven, ambitious, interesting people. Sadly, Andrew, we've 885 00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:37,759 Speaker 1: now used all of your political capital and we can 886 00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,840 Speaker 1: never see each other again. It was nice knowing you 887 00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:45,680 Speaker 1: and work. That was a good day. See yeah, all right? 888 00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,920 Speaker 1: Low light? What was my lowlight? I thought about it? 889 00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,520 Speaker 1: And did I share it with you? I remembered it, 890 00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:53,439 Speaker 1: and now I've forgotten because you know, I've been pretty 891 00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:58,160 Speaker 1: upbeat these days. Life is kind of going sort of well, 892 00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:01,640 Speaker 1: my low light? God, what is the low light? Guys 893 00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:04,560 Speaker 1: didn't know you went to Vegas? No, I don't want to. 894 00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:06,759 Speaker 1: I don't want to obsess over my children, Rachel. There's 895 00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,080 Speaker 1: more to my life than my children. Oh I know. 896 00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:12,160 Speaker 1: I thought my low light was going to be like 897 00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,920 Speaker 1: I didn't break a hundred playing golf, Like that's really 898 00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:18,560 Speaker 1: really devastating, Rachel. Okay, so those are the things I 899 00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,200 Speaker 1: want to talk about that you flew on a plane 900 00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:22,799 Speaker 1: to go play golf for the day and you didn't 901 00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:26,880 Speaker 1: break well, it was quite windy, Rachel. Okay, let's just 902 00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:30,240 Speaker 1: have that be your low light then, friend, all right, okay, 903 00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:33,200 Speaker 1: how about it's going to be a similar light when 904 00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:35,040 Speaker 1: the plane landed and I knew I was going home. 905 00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:37,040 Speaker 1: You know again