1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: heart radio podcast. All Right, you guys, we are scrubbing 3 00:00:10,119 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: in and it is a long overdue guests that we 4 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: have the spending of them. It's been a minute since 5 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: we've had the gang on the Gang of Ladies the 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: County Becca Jack. You guys, didn't we like back in 7 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 1: the day come up with some sort of like a 8 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: conjoined name for our podcast, Ladies scrub scrubbing like a lady. 9 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:39,599 Speaker 1: It was Ladies Scrubs. I think I'm sure the scrubbers 10 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: will let us know. Yes, it was something, and it 11 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: was amazing. I'm so hard you guys, see you guys, 12 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:49,200 Speaker 1: but I just wish we were all in the same room. 13 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: I know. I just saw Becca, which was like a 14 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: nice little it was at the b Social brand adit showroom, 15 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: quick ship passing, but it was it did lift my spirits. 16 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: So Kelty before we started said, y'all have been doomsday 17 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: over there? What exactly what's going on? It's just dark 18 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:13,839 Speaker 1: over here, and like, honestly, I just think it's because 19 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: we haven't seen you. You know how you have friends 20 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: that are like, look on the bright side, the glasses 21 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: half fall. I would say scrubbing in as a glasses 22 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: half full kind of life, Lady Gang is the glass 23 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: is empty, chipped, broken, the dishwasher is broken. I give up. 24 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 1: I'm only drinking out of a hose from now on, 25 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 1: circling the drain at any given moment for random reasons 26 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: that don't even matter. You know, that's where we live exactly. 27 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: From a hose is the best visual I've had in 28 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: a really long time. You know, like when you're drinking 29 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: from a hose and your kid, You're like, I don't 30 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: know if there's lead in here, like whatever it is, 31 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: it's going in my body. Yeah, but that's a nice feeling. 32 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: You're just I mean, you're just living freely when you're 33 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: drinking from a hose, So it's not really a bad thing. 34 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: The way you say hose is like my new favorite thing. 35 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: My how did she say it? The house? I was 36 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: gonna say it again, and I was like, now I'm 37 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: stressed your accent. It's so cute that two syllable hoads. 38 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 1: So we even talk about the situation, Kelty looks like 39 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:24,679 Speaker 1: she's bringing spears. Well we got so we upgraded Lady 40 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: Gang since the last time we've seen you. Thank god. 41 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Well we have a soundboard. Oh my god. 42 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: I have one of those two I can't lives in 43 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: my house. And this is the microphone that plugs into it. 44 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: And I actually like it because what you're not looking 45 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: at is that I have my fidget spinner here and 46 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: while I'm talking and trying because I don't like to 47 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: sit still. It's very difficult for me and I have 48 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: a hard time just sitting concentrating at the zoom screen. 49 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:56,119 Speaker 1: So I'm clicking my fidgets and we're fidget spinner. That's 50 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: one of those pop but it's in the shape of 51 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: a fidget spinner. Yeah, I see the confusion. I got 52 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,640 Speaker 1: it at the kids store. Um anyway, and I just 53 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: I'm just popping my bubbles. Guys, I have a plane 54 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: popping my bubbles. Yeah. Have you had that, you know, 55 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: the not being able to sit still and like not 56 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: being able to focus things checked out or or you're 57 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: just going with it and popping. Have you been diagnosed? 58 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: She means, you know what, it's that like sometimes in life. 59 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: And I know I'm not alone and t I think 60 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: you have to do this for your job, but like 61 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: there have been times that I'm triple screening. I have 62 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: like the zoom and then I have the iPad, and 63 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 1: then I have the phone, and then I have my 64 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: Boo Joe and it's just it's a lot of stuff. 65 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: So I'm trying to be more in the moment and 66 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: this is what helps me by having my fingers. And 67 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: also I'm look dead sexy. Don't act like I'm not 68 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: the hottest number. Now you're you're giving Britney Spears like, uh, 69 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: live performance, I'm a slave for you. Yeah. True, but 70 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: it is funny. I got one of those, Um I 71 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: have to I had to turn it off, but my 72 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 1: boyfriend got me one of these, like, um, what do 73 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 1: you call this electrical picture framework? Just like the photos 74 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: just kind of like circulate through. It is all fatures 75 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: of you guys. Yeah, I was like our entire relationship. 76 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: And he got it from my work desk, and so 77 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: I used to turn it on every morning when we're 78 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: working from home. But it was so distracting because I 79 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: would just like be working, but then I would like 80 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: look over and be like, so I can't. I can't 81 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: turn it on anymore. Started daydreaming about all of your memories. 82 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 1: That's how distracted. I get when I'm working, So am 83 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: I getting? I get it. I'm just waiting every time 84 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,919 Speaker 1: I get on Instagram to see your engagement announcement, Tanya, 85 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: you and me both have you guys? Have you ring 86 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 1: shopped yet? No? We haven't, Like, we haven't do that. 87 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 1: That's my question. Do you do that with your significant other? Yes? 88 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: Your woman? Yeah? Yeah, modern women, you should be able to. 89 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: You should pick out your ring. You want to know 90 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: exactly what you want, make sure it fits your fingers 91 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: so you don't have to get a size when Yeah, 92 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,359 Speaker 1: I know the size of my finger. But I feel 93 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: like there's something about me that, um, I know what 94 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 1: I like, and I think he knows what I like, 95 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 1: and so I kind of want him to do something 96 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: more meaningful than like beautiful. Men are very stupid when 97 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,480 Speaker 1: it comes to women. Well, did you have good taste? 98 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:21,840 Speaker 1: If he has good taste, you can trust him. Yeah, 99 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: he has a good taste, And then you just have 100 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: to like trust that. If it isn't exactly what you're envisioning, 101 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 1: that's okay, because that's like what you want for yourself. 102 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: I don't envision yeah, Like I don't envision it like 103 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: I always thought I always Becca, I always used to 104 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: look at your ring and think that that's what I 105 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: wanted because it's just so chic and like perfect Zack 106 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: designed it. I did not. But what's interesting is I 107 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: have fat knuckles and so round looks weird on my fingers. 108 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 1: So what do you want? Like a square or like emerald? Emerald? Yeah, 109 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:56,279 Speaker 1: you tried rings on? I've tried a couple, but none 110 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 1: of them that I like was obsessed with. Okay, well, 111 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: if this is like dare I say, the clotorus, you 112 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,919 Speaker 1: don't know how to use your own clatorus. It's always 113 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: be very difficult to teach someone else how to use. 114 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: So what does one do? You need to go to 115 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 1: the jewelry store on a Saturday with him and just 116 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: try every ring on, Try square, try the bands, try 117 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: fat band, skinny band, diamond band, oval, whatever, until like 118 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 1: you get clear on like what you like and your 119 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,119 Speaker 1: This is gonna be the most expensive piece of jeweler 120 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: gonna have for your whole life, unless you're like me 121 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 1: and you upgraded and now you're on like what ring 122 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: number five? But it is very important and you're gonna 123 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: want it to be what you want, And I don't 124 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: feel like you know what you want yet and you 125 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,359 Speaker 1: gotta get clear because you're really setting him up for 126 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: a disaster here. But the other option, right because in 127 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: shops and then figures out what she like, sends it 128 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: to me or like one of her best and then 129 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: they kind of fill him in and let him kind 130 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 1: of go from there. Yeah, you could you here's the 131 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: shape she likes. She loved this on her finger. If 132 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: you want to design your own version, of course, even 133 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: if you don't go with him. Yeah, you could go 134 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: with a friend and just like go to a jewelry, 135 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: diamond shop or whatever the hell they're called. So much 136 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 1: free time, not a Tuesday. So actually, this is a 137 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: really funny story. I was getting this other ring for 138 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 1: one of my best friends and I have birthdays around 139 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 1: the same time, and so we were doing this thing 140 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 1: where we um engraved what we're manifesting on the inside. Yeah, 141 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: well we're manifesting for each other on the inside of 142 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: the ring. So we went together and they were taking 143 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: a long time to like do the all the paperwork 144 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: and stuff, and we were right next to the engagement rings, 145 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: and so the two of us are like, let's try 146 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: this is when I tried a couple of them on 147 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: and we're like going to town, just like having the 148 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 1: best time. Like, oh my god, this is cut to 149 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: the girl next to me, goes, Tanya, I just want 150 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: to say I listened. I listened to you every day, 151 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, I'm so embarrassed 152 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: because I'm like not engaged or you were like like, 153 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: please don't send this my boyfriend. This is really embarrassing 154 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 1: of a Yeah, I was like, oh my god, I 155 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: was so embarrassed. And then I was like this in 156 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: the morning show of the podcast, and she's like bulp, 157 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, so you get me like this. Yeah, 158 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: this r Yeah, but I'm glad I talked to you 159 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: guys about it, because You're right, I'm not clear about it. 160 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: I don't know what I want I should. Yeah, it's 161 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: an important piece of jewelry. It's a lot of work 162 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: to like figure it out. No, did you guys all 163 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:32,079 Speaker 1: do that? Becca said, Zach picked herself and you had 164 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: no saying that whatsoever you to surprise you with that? No. 165 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 1: I mean my sister had a necklace that I had 166 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: once mentioned that if it were an engagement ring, it 167 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: would be cool. Because the thing that mine is said 168 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: in is called a bezel. So it's when like the 169 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: diamond has a full kind of like picture frame around 170 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:50,959 Speaker 1: it of not diamonds, like a yeah, of like gold 171 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 1: or whatever. Um. And I just kind of casually mentioned that. 172 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: And what I found out later that I didn't know 173 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 1: about Zach at the time was that he listens to 174 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: everything and remembers every d tell And so he just 175 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: like took my sister's necklace and to his friend who's 176 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: a jeweler, and like, had it made So what a 177 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: guy had a hint, but he had he had a hint. 178 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: He had a hint. He was also him listening. He 179 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:21,599 Speaker 1: was like, he's a listener. I am not like I 180 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: don't even remember saying it. No, they did like a 181 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: newlywed game at our engagement dinner, and it was embarrassing 182 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: because he knew every question about me and I knew 183 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: nothing of him. That's so like that, but it's indicative 184 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 1: of what of what we are now what I mean like, Yeah, 185 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: it's because when we talked to you guys last, I 186 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: feel like you were all on different life stages like 187 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: we are. I'm in parimenopause. What this is what's changed 188 00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: now Jack's engaged, Becca has a baby, and I'm well, 189 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: I don't know yet. We have to have the hormone 190 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: doctor and I'm getting tested for everything. Right now, I'm 191 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: getting old at an alarming rate. Are you having like symptoms? 192 00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 1: Are you're just panicking? Yeah? No, I'm having symptoms because 193 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:22,040 Speaker 1: having symptoms. And I'm pretty sure Yeah, I'm pretty sure. 194 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: Late thirties is when things start ramping up. The end 195 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 1: is near. You don't please, don't start you guys, don't 196 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: take me down. This why. I heard a really good 197 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: quote about like, you know how your body starts kind 198 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: of like hurting in your thirties, and the quote was 199 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 1: about how back in the day before we had modern 200 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: medicine or technology, like that's when we died. So our 201 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,680 Speaker 1: body is just like giving us signs that like it's 202 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 1: time to start going. You know, Doc had doomsday over there. 203 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 1: Don't bring don't bring your rainy days over here. Okay, 204 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 1: we warned you. Okay, this is us. Wait before we 205 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: move on from the engagement, Becca, congratulations on your public relationship. 206 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: I mean I think we all knew, yeah, I think, 207 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: but you were. It was cut. It was so cute 208 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: and you're so brave. Do you guys want to get married? 209 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 1: Have you talked about it? I mean, I definitely think 210 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: we both see a future together. I don't know if 211 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: like marriage. I don't know, like we're I think we're 212 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:32,440 Speaker 1: both really happy to be like public right now. Yah. Yeah, 213 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 1: but I think we're both like on the same page, 214 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: which is nice. There's no like pressure either way. But 215 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: I think we both know we want to be together 216 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 1: long terms, like forever. Yeah, but you want to be married. 217 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 1: Jack Beck is like one of those people were you know, 218 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: those people that like live day by day and like 219 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 1: go with the flow. That's literally like her. Yeah, And 220 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, what about your future? If you just sure 221 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:56,679 Speaker 1: you'll figure it out, not worried about it, feel good 222 00:11:56,679 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: about feel good about the future. Yeah, it'll be calm, 223 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: super calm. I did want to go to Becca about 224 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: motherhood because Tony and I had a very uh not 225 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 1: heated conversation, but conversation. Haley and I babysat her niece, 226 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: her three year old niece for three days and we 227 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: were like the parents, like her parents on the town, 228 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: and we were like full time. And it ended and 229 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: both of us looked at each other like, m hmm, 230 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: do we see this in our future? I asked, someone 231 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 1: who is always honest and just getting right to the truth. 232 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 1: I'm curious what this new phase has been like for you. 233 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 1: Here's the thing. I'm six months in, so I have 234 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 1: been around three year olds, um, but I've also been 235 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,199 Speaker 1: around six month olds. And I don't like anybody else's kids, 236 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: but I do like my six month old. That's good news. 237 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:09,439 Speaker 1: So I don't think you should make that experience like 238 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: the deciding factor of are we ready for kids? Um, 239 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: that's really hard taking care of someone else's kids, even 240 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: if you love them so so much. It's been amazing. 241 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: It's definitely challenging, but it's I'm I set myself up 242 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: at a point in my life where we had children later, 243 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: so I have an amazing support system. I have a 244 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 1: nanny who comes Monday through Friday seven am the three pm. 245 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:38,079 Speaker 1: So that allows me to really not change a whole 246 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: lot of what's going on in my life. And Zach 247 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 1: and I had already kind of hit a point in 248 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: our relationship and in our personal lives where we had 249 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: done so much socializing, traveling, partying, Like I did so 250 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 1: many epic things that I now am so okay with 251 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 1: just being home with the baby, And um, I don't know. 252 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:04,239 Speaker 1: I also believe this other thing to be true, where 253 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 1: if you really love your life, and if you love 254 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:09,240 Speaker 1: your relationship, and if you love pretty much everything about it, 255 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 1: but you feel the societal pressure of having a child, 256 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 1: I would be more careful about like separating the societal 257 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 1: pressure and your personal desire, because I also look at 258 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:24,240 Speaker 1: Zack and myself and we had a really hard time 259 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: getting to the finish line as far as having a baby, 260 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 1: and we had kind of a sliding doors moment where 261 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: I could have seen us going one direction is not 262 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 1: having children, and then the other, and quite frankly, I 263 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: think life would have been great both ways. So I 264 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 1: don't know. I just we're not twenty two anymore and 265 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 1: we're not wrapping our whole identity up and being somebody's mother. 266 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: So I'm loving it. It's wonderful. I right now can't 267 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 1: imagine what it would be like if I didn't have him, 268 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,080 Speaker 1: but I know it would have been great too. So 269 00:14:56,200 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: I don't know. Life is what you make it, and um, yeah, yeah, 270 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:02,800 Speaker 1: I love that right now we're making it very empty 271 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: for you guys, So I'm so sorry, you know everyone, 272 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 1: Like when I when we talked about in the podcast, 273 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: everyone was like, I don't know who signs up to 274 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: do this, Like people are gonna be picky, as I 275 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: was saying, and I was like, this is gonna be controversial, 276 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 1: but I didn't, you know. I was like, listen, this 277 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:23,000 Speaker 1: is just my experience. I'm just curious. Like I walked 278 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 1: away going, I know I'm too selfish right now. I 279 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:27,800 Speaker 1: know there's still things that I want to do, and 280 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 1: I know people are like, you can still do that 281 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 1: with the baby, but it changes, Like the reality is 282 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:34,480 Speaker 1: that when you have a someone to take care of. 283 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: I mean, that's a whole another element of it. Like 284 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: when I think it's so like glamorized and romanticized, like 285 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: when we're younger, you know what I mean, it's like, oh, 286 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: like you just want to grow up and you just 287 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 1: want to become a mom, you know what I mean. 288 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:49,200 Speaker 1: And then like my boyfriend has two kids, and so 289 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: I've seen the reality and they're older, like I don't 290 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: have to change them or feed them, like they can 291 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: function on their own. And it's a lot like I'm 292 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: exhausted when we have them and I'm like you read, 293 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: like before, I think I wanted four kids and now 294 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: I'm like one. It does, it does do a wonderful 295 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 1: thing where it actually does get your head out of 296 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 1: your own ass. And that I think from being somebody 297 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 1: who is used to everything being about me, like being 298 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: an actress and people looking at you and pictures and 299 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: social media and it's like attention, attention, attention. So then 300 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: I in turn how to spend a lot of time 301 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: thinking about myself, and um, this has been really refreshing, 302 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: and I do wish that there was a way for 303 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 1: all women, all people in general, to have this reality 304 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 1: check of like not just thinking about themselves all the time, 305 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: because we wouldn't be so miserable, Like it's it's not 306 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: really a fun existence just focusing on yourself all the 307 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 1: time for a period of time. Yes, but that's why 308 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 1: people without kids focus on other things. A lot of 309 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 1: people without children, they they spend a lot of time 310 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 1: helping other people, because we shouldn't go through life no 311 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: matter who we are, just really being, you know, posting 312 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: Instagram photos of ourselves. But you know, what I actually 313 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:07,879 Speaker 1: appreciate about you is like you know, and I do 314 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:09,359 Speaker 1: I do the same thing when I got my dog, 315 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 1: so like I can point the finger out myself. But 316 00:17:11,840 --> 00:17:13,280 Speaker 1: like you know, when people I have a baby and 317 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:16,439 Speaker 1: then their social media page becomes like they're a baby, 318 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:18,560 Speaker 1: and like they they're not even on it anymore. I 319 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 1: like that yours isn't like that, Like I still see 320 00:17:20,600 --> 00:17:22,720 Speaker 1: Becca and like you are a mom and that's like 321 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 1: a part of your life, but it's not hasn't become 322 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:26,680 Speaker 1: your whole feed, which I feel like sometimes I see 323 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,640 Speaker 1: and it's just like you got it. You like yeah, 324 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: I mean if that's what brings you joy, like do 325 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 1: you I don't care. I just I'm not fighting against 326 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: any urge. If my natural urge would were to share 327 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: more about being a mom, I would probably do it, 328 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: and I would be annoying. I just didn't have I 329 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,040 Speaker 1: don't have it. I don't have whatever that thing is. 330 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 1: I'm not an oversharer in general, so I think that um. 331 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:53,800 Speaker 1: And also I didn't feel like he was born and 332 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:56,760 Speaker 1: I became this whole new woman. It's just I'm still 333 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,920 Speaker 1: me and this new you know, a little like part 334 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:03,480 Speaker 1: new chapter and facet of my life is obviously taking 335 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 1: over and is he huge, But I'm still like the 336 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:11,479 Speaker 1: same horrible person. I feel since I've met you, you 337 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: were like not into social media, so I'm not surprised 338 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 1: at all that media. We literally just had a zoom 339 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,439 Speaker 1: the other day. We were like doing a meeting and 340 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 1: Ford was on our zoom. I think it was s 341 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: been six months as the first zoom we've had with him. 342 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:27,560 Speaker 1: We had like a FaceTime when he was first born. 343 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: But we don't see him much, like nor nor hear 344 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: about him at all every day. And I was like 345 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:39,320 Speaker 1: I literally screenshot the zoom so that I had a 346 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: picture of Ford that is so funny. Yeah, there's no 347 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 1: like secret, Like she gets so mushy and is sharing 348 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:49,639 Speaker 1: all the like we barely know what's going on, and 349 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:51,680 Speaker 1: we literally talked to her all the time. One time 350 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 1: happened is we were on a work trip and um, 351 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 1: we share hotel him because Jack can't sleep, so she 352 00:18:56,920 --> 00:19:00,600 Speaker 1: gets her own room and then budget will constraints Webca 353 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 1: and I and so I'm in the bathroom like put 354 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:06,200 Speaker 1: him in makeup on and I hear like oosha, wooshi wooshi, 355 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,480 Speaker 1: And I was like, what is happening? Who is this woman? 356 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:14,480 Speaker 1: And I like turned the corner and she's like, did 357 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 1: you have your papa, and I was like, I don't 358 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 1: know who this woman is, but she's so weird. And 359 00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: it was back in like full mom mode, which I 360 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:28,199 Speaker 1: have not seen, and it was thrilling. Well, and I'm 361 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 1: gonna say this as the fellow mothers out there who 362 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 1: are super excited and listen, I don't want to I 363 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 1: don't want to stamp out your flame whatever. I don't 364 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 1: want to dim your your light. But just remember the 365 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 1: people in your life. They didn't choose to have a baby, 366 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:44,640 Speaker 1: so you shouldn't force that baby upon them. I would 367 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: get so annoyed when I would make plans with my 368 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: girlfriends and it would like they for first they started 369 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 1: like before babies, there were the girlfriends that would automatically 370 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:58,119 Speaker 1: invite their invite their significant other and I'm like, I 371 00:19:58,160 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 1: didn't invite I didn't John, I invited you. But it's 372 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:05,960 Speaker 1: the same people who can't take a hint when every 373 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,640 Speaker 1: time you FaceTime them and they've had a baby, you're 374 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: talking to the baby the whole entire time on FaceTime. 375 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't do that to anybody other 376 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 1: than my mom, who requests specifically to talk to my child. 377 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,520 Speaker 1: This is like a really good intervention for me, honestly, 378 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: because I could see myself going down that path. Don't 379 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:32,240 Speaker 1: dog I do with my dog, like nobody cares. Nobody cares. 380 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: She'll call to FaceTime Phoebe, which is Becca's dog, so 381 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 1: like she wants to say hi to Phoebe, so it's 382 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: like she doesn't. He can't see her, Tana, Tanya, if 383 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 1: I ever call you, I don't want to talk to 384 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 1: your dog. You No, I know, like I'm it's really 385 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 1: good to have Becca on right now because like I 386 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: honestly need to hear that because well because I think 387 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,080 Speaker 1: I'm the person that's gonna like I can see myself 388 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:57,399 Speaker 1: going down that path. But I feel you on the 389 00:20:57,440 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 1: other end, because I have those friends where I'm like, 390 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:02,320 Speaker 1: I don't I just called to like talk about something. 391 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to spend five minutes like good, Yeah, No, 392 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:09,399 Speaker 1: it's it's painful and I don't think anybody should have 393 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: to deal with it. And don't bring your kid unless 394 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 1: I tell you to bring your kid. And if you 395 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 1: need to bring your kid, you need to apologize and 396 00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:16,720 Speaker 1: maybe like you know what I know, we had a 397 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: kid free experience. The sitters sick or my mom can't 398 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,280 Speaker 1: take the kid, would you rather reschedule or I can 399 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: bring the kid? And you know that's option, the option 400 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 1: acknowledge that your kid isn't inconvenience in my life because 401 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 1: it is quite frankly, is he gonna go on tour 402 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: with you guys? No? So Kelty had this grand plan 403 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:38,480 Speaker 1: that we'd be on this tour bus and there'd be 404 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: a baby on it with us. Am I so cute 405 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:46,800 Speaker 1: in theory, it's adorable, but he's gonna be like crawling 406 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:49,960 Speaker 1: and I don't know what if you do? It seems 407 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:53,479 Speaker 1: very unsafe. And didn't you watch the Pink documentary She 408 00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:56,880 Speaker 1: takes her children on tour exactly, but they were probably 409 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 1: a completely different situation than like our low budget tour bus. Yeah, 410 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: and you know, I also think there's something men get 411 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,240 Speaker 1: to leave their their domestic lives all the time to 412 00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:11,440 Speaker 1: go to work and compartmentalize and give their all to 413 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,880 Speaker 1: whatever they're doing outside the home. I love I love 414 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,720 Speaker 1: my child. I don't want to be thinking about him 415 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,199 Speaker 1: when we're trying to sell a book. You know, I 416 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:23,120 Speaker 1: really trust that my husband has things under control. We've 417 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: got a nanny, we've got parents. If he can't figure 418 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,119 Speaker 1: it out while I'm gone. Then you know what, maybe 419 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 1: I need to leave my life forever. But in the meantime, 420 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 1: I have to be able to leave, and I need 421 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,119 Speaker 1: to be able to focus on me in my career, 422 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:41,200 Speaker 1: and it's fine for women to do that. So true, 423 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,440 Speaker 1: good stuff, because you brought up an interesting point that 424 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 1: I wonder sometimes because when people invite me to certain 425 00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: things and it's like, oh, it's just like a girls thing. Well, 426 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,160 Speaker 1: Hayley spriends with everybody, but she is my significant other, 427 00:22:57,240 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 1: and I always am like, this is it's different because 428 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 1: it's like she still has the female energy, but she 429 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,440 Speaker 1: is a significant other, so it's like, is she allowed? 430 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't invite I don't like my 431 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 1: friend's significant others coming, no matter they're gender, because I 432 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,679 Speaker 1: have a different dynamic with my friend when it's just 433 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 1: me and my friend versus my friend with their significant others. 434 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 1: So you know, you could start exploring and sking friends 435 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: is this just us or is it significant others as well? 436 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: And they can say I think it also just depends 437 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 1: if like how close she is with people, because I'm 438 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,520 Speaker 1: on the other end that Jared always comes to like 439 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 1: our girl brunches because he have you ever asked if 440 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 1: people want Jared my friends. My friends like Jared better 441 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: than they like me. Like Jared, but he's like one 442 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,200 Speaker 1: of the girls, Like he is around He's used to 443 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 1: being around like female energy a lot, Like he has 444 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 1: a sister and his mom is very like strong force 445 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: in his life, so he's very used to being around 446 00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,399 Speaker 1: women and getting along with women. So he is like 447 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: one of the girls. So I just think it depends 448 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:06,440 Speaker 1: on like I mean, the defense. Also, if Jared's coming, 449 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 1: her mom and her dad are going to be. He 450 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: doesn't really do like a one on one like girls 451 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 1: date ever, you know, like Bill is coming with the 452 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: Campforida escaping, May is coming. I just always think like 453 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 1: because when she does things with her friends, and because 454 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:26,960 Speaker 1: she's so busy, she wouldn't see them a lot, so 455 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:28,919 Speaker 1: she'll be like come, and I'm like, don't you one 456 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: time with your friends? Like I don't want to always 457 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: have to be there. I know, like I'm a girl 458 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:35,439 Speaker 1: and I'm friends with everybody, but I don't need to 459 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,639 Speaker 1: be there, like maybe you need to like vent about 460 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,840 Speaker 1: me or something. I don't know, you know her, well, 461 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 1: I'm so self aware, like yeah, she's got amazing self owners. 462 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:49,399 Speaker 1: And also it's good for any relationship to have compartments 463 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,400 Speaker 1: of your life that that person really doesn't infiltrate that much, 464 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 1: because if things go south, you don't want to have to, 465 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,639 Speaker 1: you know, create a new life for yourself. You just 466 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,080 Speaker 1: need to be like, oh, extracting the part that he 467 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: was in goes dark with you. Guys, you gotta be 468 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 1: prepared it it happens. I mean, I was raised by 469 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 1: a woman who told me that when you get married 470 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,200 Speaker 1: and you're done having kids, you should make the man 471 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,080 Speaker 1: get the vasectomy because that means if he ever leaves 472 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,560 Speaker 1: you for another woman, he can't then make babies with 473 00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,920 Speaker 1: someone else and steal the attention from your children. Also, 474 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,919 Speaker 1: vasectomies are way less invasive than any of this we 475 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 1: have to do to our body. Is so honestly seriously, 476 00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:36,640 Speaker 1: So there you go. You're welcome, scrubbing inners, scrubbers inners, 477 00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: jack engaged, wedding planning? What's happening right now? Are you stressed? 478 00:25:58,040 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: Like what? I don't feel like you'd be a stressed 479 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 1: bride to be well, because I haven't been. I'm I'm 480 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 1: not there yet. I have not started wedding planning at 481 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:14,880 Speaker 1: all for a year. I'm in this weird place with 482 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,919 Speaker 1: it where I've never like dreamt about being a bride. 483 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 1: I've never dreamt about my wedding. I think now at 484 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: thirty five years old, I'm very like money conscious and 485 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,639 Speaker 1: we're trying to buy a house, and I'm like, I 486 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: have the money for the wedding, but like it all 487 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,879 Speaker 1: seems like such a waste of money to me, Like 488 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:35,159 Speaker 1: any time I actually start trying to sit down and 489 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,440 Speaker 1: plan something, so I'm like, do I want to spend 490 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,320 Speaker 1: five thousand dollars on napkins? Not really, Like I'd rather 491 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: get like a new refrigerator for the house that maybe 492 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: I'll never be able to afford because houses are never 493 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 1: gonna be available. So it's and also everything is just 494 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,959 Speaker 1: so expensive with the world right now. So it's just 495 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,440 Speaker 1: like I go through this spiral of like I'm gonna 496 00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:57,359 Speaker 1: start planning, I'm gonna try to find a venue. Oh 497 00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 1: my god, everything is so expensive. I don't want to 498 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,919 Speaker 1: spend money on this, and then I get back to 499 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,760 Speaker 1: square one. So I don't know, like maybe we'll get 500 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,680 Speaker 1: a loped I just I don't know who's your bride, 501 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,440 Speaker 1: who's your maid of honor? I'm not going to do 502 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 1: that at all. Not no wedding parties like trying to start. 503 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to start. I'm just curious if you like, like, 504 00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 1: what are your colors? Kelty and I would be the 505 00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,040 Speaker 1: people at the wedding like sex in the city where 506 00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,919 Speaker 1: they throw the bouquet and it lands in front of 507 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:28,119 Speaker 1: all the girls and they just walk away. That's because 508 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: I would like, not to be honest, I would want 509 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 1: Kelty to be my maid of honor because I feel 510 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:37,159 Speaker 1: no offense she's I believe me, I wouldn't choose me either. Yeah, Like, 511 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:38,960 Speaker 1: I feel like you'd be such a good maid of 512 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,040 Speaker 1: honor because you'd be so honest. I didn't help me 513 00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 1: stay on top of it. Well, first of all, Jack, 514 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 1: what she's not doing it? But second of all, I 515 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,880 Speaker 1: actually have only been a maid of honor once, which 516 00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,760 Speaker 1: is shocking because I do have a lot of deep 517 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,119 Speaker 1: female friendships. But here's the thing. My friends know me 518 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: so well. They know that I actually don't want to 519 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,959 Speaker 1: be in your wedding party of us. What I want 520 00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,520 Speaker 1: to do is I want to be I don't want 521 00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 1: to have to do the dress and the like be 522 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,440 Speaker 1: in the picture. What I want to do is I 523 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,639 Speaker 1: want to go around behind the scenes, follow you around, 524 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 1: fix your dress, make sure you don't have your teeth, uh, 525 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 1: micro manage your wedding planner, make sure your mom is 526 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 1: not a psycho, and like I'm gonna do all that 527 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 1: for you, but I don't want to be a part 528 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: of the I feel like that is what a maid 529 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,639 Speaker 1: of honor should probably be doing. Like just wants to 530 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 1: wear her own dress. I just want to wear my 531 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,240 Speaker 1: own dress to the dress. Just give her a color palette. 532 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:29,760 Speaker 1: That's all. Well, that's my My best friend got married 533 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 1: in November, and I just think like as you get 534 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,440 Speaker 1: like once we're in like our third we're like, I 535 00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,320 Speaker 1: don't know if I really want like a wedding party, 536 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 1: and like the maid of honor, I can't run out. 537 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:46,240 Speaker 1: It's just so sad. Box is ready to send people 538 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 1: in the mail. Will you be my pride? Because you know, 539 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 1: it's so funny that you say that about the money thing, 540 00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: because it is true. Like when I wanted to get 541 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 1: married in my twenties, I was like, I'm gonna ball out. 542 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 1: My wedding is going to be this like circus, it's 543 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 1: going to be this crazy thing. And now I'm like 544 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 1: looking and I'm like, I would rather spend the money 545 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: on like a great house, and you know what I mean, 546 00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 1: Like it does feel like and I don't want to 547 00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,800 Speaker 1: say this, but like a waste of money. Yeah, oh yeah. Well, 548 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: and it's like as you get older, it's like you're 549 00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: just more money conscious. And I'm like, I would rather 550 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,959 Speaker 1: actually go on like a bomb vacation and get like 551 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 1: eloped on, you know, the side of a mountain or 552 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,240 Speaker 1: something like that, and then use all the money to 553 00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: like travel the world. Not the world, but you know, 554 00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,080 Speaker 1: like go on like a nice vacation because it's like, 555 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just never been my thing. But 556 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 1: what I was going to say about the wedding party, 557 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 1: my best friend got married. She didn't have a wedding party, 558 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,840 Speaker 1: but she had all all of her guests just dressed bright, 559 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 1: and all of her friends she was like dressed in 560 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:46,000 Speaker 1: like a pink orange e type of a palette. So 561 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: we're all but like any dress you want to wear, 562 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 1: any like range of pink or orange. But then it 563 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: we kind of like stood out amongst the other like 564 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 1: bright colors. So I thought that it was like a 565 00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,720 Speaker 1: cute way to do it where it wasn't like here's 566 00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 1: your dress that you're gonna hate this you're fifty dollars. Yeah, 567 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,000 Speaker 1: I'm with you. I'm curious. I would be curious to 568 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:08,960 Speaker 1: hear or read about how many I don't know what 569 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 1: I'm saying here from our listeners, to see how many 570 00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,440 Speaker 1: people who felt that way if there was a shift 571 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,320 Speaker 1: like once they got into their thirties versus their twenties. 572 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: Because I mean, I I relate to you so much, 573 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,280 Speaker 1: like if if Haley and I got engaged, it would 574 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,720 Speaker 1: be like at least a year before I started even 575 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,840 Speaker 1: thinking of planning anything. It's also fun to be engaged, 576 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,080 Speaker 1: like I feel like we've barely been engaged, and I 577 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,160 Speaker 1: really like this sort of like season of our lives 578 00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:37,160 Speaker 1: being able to, you know, live as an engaged couple 579 00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,600 Speaker 1: without forcing ourselves into something that we're not ready for. 580 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:41,520 Speaker 1: My god, I can't wait to use the word fiance. 581 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:47,960 Speaker 1: It's so cute. Party City was made for you. Like 582 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I can't wait un till 583 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 1: I get that I'm engaged. Top I will say, I 584 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: love this for you, but do you know what for you, 585 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:06,840 Speaker 1: a wedding is worth it because you will revel in 586 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: that Jacknifer engaged, got publicly engaged at a concert and 587 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,120 Speaker 1: had a panic attack about it because it was like 588 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,160 Speaker 1: too many people, too many things. So I feel like 589 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 1: you should spend the money on a wedding. You should 590 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,920 Speaker 1: buy a house. Yeah, it's marriage or mortgage that show. 591 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,560 Speaker 1: It's like, what are you doing? And I also try 592 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 1: to tell a lot of women that are getting engaged 593 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,960 Speaker 1: or that are planning a wedding, if you don't enjoy 594 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:33,120 Speaker 1: hosting parties at your house, you are not going to 595 00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,160 Speaker 1: enjoy having a wedding. I don't care how many people 596 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:40,720 Speaker 1: you have reinforcements, wedding planners, whatever, there's something energetically if 597 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,400 Speaker 1: you do not like to be responsible for other people's 598 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 1: time and like, are they having a good time or 599 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,200 Speaker 1: they fed? Are they having enough cocktails? Am I? Oh 600 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 1: my god? Are they regretting coming here and spending money 601 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:54,960 Speaker 1: to be here? Like, if that's your personality, don't do it. 602 00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 1: That is who I am to my core, And it 603 00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 1: was listen, I have no regrets about marrying my husband 604 00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:03,520 Speaker 1: and giving the wedding that he really likes parties and 605 00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,040 Speaker 1: he likes hosting. I would do it any day if 606 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,880 Speaker 1: for him again, But if it were just up to me, 607 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 1: I would never ever subject myself to so many days 608 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,760 Speaker 1: and hours of that feeling. That's such a good point. Actually, 609 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 1: I hate doing that. I just had that conversation. He 610 00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:21,680 Speaker 1: was like, I don't like I'm a host, but I 611 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,240 Speaker 1: don't like hosting people at my house, Like I don't 612 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: want anyone over ever. And I was like, it's so 613 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 1: interesting because I'm the total opposite. I want people over 614 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,760 Speaker 1: all the time. Here. You need your big wedding. That's 615 00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:34,640 Speaker 1: that's I'm so glad we settled it here. Yeah, we 616 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,160 Speaker 1: figured out Tanya does want a wedding, and it's crumbing 617 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:42,280 Speaker 1: down the aisle, scrubbing down the aisles, your wedding super memoir. 618 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 1: You can do a side podcast. It's just a wedding planning, 619 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: scrubbing down the aisle. It's so cute. I do like 620 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:58,479 Speaker 1: a live show should just like it depends on how 621 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 1: much you wanted to get paid for, you know. Yeah, 622 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,960 Speaker 1: splitting three. I thinks three ways is worse enough. You 623 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 1: want to split it five. We should talk about your 624 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:12,080 Speaker 1: book though, because that's what you guys are coming on. Yeah, 625 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:19,000 Speaker 1: the memoir was a good springboard. I like that. Um 626 00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:23,840 Speaker 1: oh Keltis got it for us. Right. Here are those vaginas, yeah, 627 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:28,720 Speaker 1: but like artistic vaginas, yeah, after them drawn by your Troy. 628 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 1: We had them in the front cover of our first book. 629 00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,920 Speaker 1: So they're kind of like our ongoing and our last 630 00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,600 Speaker 1: book and our last book this is the final book, 631 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,800 Speaker 1: but this was this was like you got your Lady 632 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,520 Speaker 1: Gang listeners in on the whole fund. So these are 633 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:45,160 Speaker 1: all just like kind of did you guys have to 634 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,560 Speaker 1: read through everything and pick which ones you put in 635 00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:51,080 Speaker 1: the book? Yeah? So what we actually it was inspired 636 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:52,960 Speaker 1: by we did like a special version for Barnes and 637 00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,760 Speaker 1: Noble for our first book, and we had the idea 638 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,400 Speaker 1: of having our Lady Gangers like sending their secrets like 639 00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 1: literally what this book hold Bok is about. And it 640 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 1: just was so hilarious and insane reading all of our 641 00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,799 Speaker 1: gals secrets that were like, it has to be more 642 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,239 Speaker 1: than like a chapter for like a tiny version of 643 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,839 Speaker 1: our book. So we had sent up set up a 644 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:17,800 Speaker 1: hotline that girls could call in and confess their secrets, 645 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,760 Speaker 1: and then like an anonymous submission thing on our website. 646 00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,719 Speaker 1: So all secrets are completely anonymous. We can't trace you 647 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:25,880 Speaker 1: back if you did something illegal, we can't send it 648 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 1: to the police, Like there's no way to figure out 649 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,719 Speaker 1: who you are. I think the police could have found them. 650 00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 1: Well the place, I mean there is an IP address 651 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,319 Speaker 1: you could have there was like a murder confess, which 652 00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:41,040 Speaker 1: there wasn't unfortunately, But um, it was really crazy. We 653 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,279 Speaker 1: had so like thousands of secrets. We had to read 654 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:45,760 Speaker 1: through them all decide like what was worthy for the book, 655 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 1: and it was just like an amazing process to have 656 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,239 Speaker 1: all of our Lady Gangers like everything is our community, 657 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,360 Speaker 1: Like the Lady Gang would be nothing without that, so 658 00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:56,720 Speaker 1: it was really cool. And Kelty would be nothing without 659 00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 1: this book exactly what the other thing is that So 660 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,239 Speaker 1: while we were collecting all the secrets, we were also 661 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,719 Speaker 1: writing our own secrets. So what people loved about our 662 00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 1: first book, we're all of these like really revealing essays 663 00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,160 Speaker 1: about our life and our thoughts and our you know, 664 00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,319 Speaker 1: most the things that we wouldn't even share like on 665 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,799 Speaker 1: the podcast. I did like that about your first book, 666 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:16,920 Speaker 1: Like I was like, yeah, I thought I knew you 667 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:18,080 Speaker 1: guys so well, and then I was reading it and 668 00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,520 Speaker 1: I was like what the hell? Yeah, so all of 669 00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 1: those big like media essays, so we dug deep and 670 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: we sort of are sharing our own secrets. So it's 671 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:30,839 Speaker 1: like se Lady Gang sort of memoir essays and then 672 00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 1: a bunch of the community secrets sprinkled in. So we're 673 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,560 Speaker 1: and we're talking about everything from like Becca's love of 674 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:43,840 Speaker 1: TikTok to infertility, to jobs, to snail trails to uh 675 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:51,840 Speaker 1: body image to uh plastic surgery to hating Julia Roberts trail. 676 00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: You don't know what that is? Yes? You do? You do? 677 00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:58,360 Speaker 1: When you take off your underwear and it looks like 678 00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,760 Speaker 1: there's been a snail just making a journey on your crutch, 679 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:05,840 Speaker 1: would you're under her? Some people refer to it as 680 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:12,280 Speaker 1: sunny set up snail. I mean, listen, these are fewer 681 00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:14,399 Speaker 1: and far between her, but now that we're in our 682 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:18,920 Speaker 1: late thirties and early forties. But yeah, I've never every 683 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,920 Speaker 1: girl has all. I thought that it was like something 684 00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:26,480 Speaker 1: like um cosmetic. No, No, it's just a woman's bodily 685 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:29,600 Speaker 1: functions chat. I didn't see who it was. But when 686 00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 1: Tanya gues, what's a snow trall? I just saw the 687 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:35,640 Speaker 1: chat pop up and is it? Oh? Boy boy, See 688 00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:39,160 Speaker 1: they knew I've never heard about that I have a 689 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:42,960 Speaker 1: snail trill. Yeah, don't you feel less alone? I put 690 00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:46,399 Speaker 1: my whole life thinking that there was something wrong with 691 00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,719 Speaker 1: me and that it was gross and I need to 692 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:50,840 Speaker 1: hide it, and I didn't realize actually it meant I 693 00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:54,600 Speaker 1: was like a lubricated goddess. You know, don't you ask 694 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,919 Speaker 1: for a gynecologist. You'd be surprised at the things people 695 00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: are too nervous. I would never ask. I would never 696 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,440 Speaker 1: bring up a flaw of myself at that point in 697 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,719 Speaker 1: my life. Well, that's the thing. It's like, once you 698 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:09,160 Speaker 1: finally learn what a snail trill is, you don't have 699 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:13,799 Speaker 1: them because you're aging so fast and you're not as 700 00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,480 Speaker 1: I asked my guy know everything. Like I literally tell 701 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:17,719 Speaker 1: her to put her head in there, and I'm like, 702 00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:22,440 Speaker 1: does it look aesthetically Okay? Like like, oh yeah, this, 703 00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:26,440 Speaker 1: I don't doubt it. Tracks. Yeah, that is surprised by 704 00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,840 Speaker 1: that confession. You would have to dig really deep to 705 00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,480 Speaker 1: find a secret that no one knows about. How that's 706 00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 1: very true. Something caught my eye because or ere because 707 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,239 Speaker 1: you said Becca's love of TikTok? Was that sarcasm? No? 708 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:45,239 Speaker 1: I do. I hate posting on TikTok, but I have, 709 00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:49,239 Speaker 1: really I've found an algorithm that really works for me. 710 00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: TikTok has captured my soul and it is so wonderful. 711 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,880 Speaker 1: I love it beyond anything I can imagine. I did 712 00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,120 Speaker 1: to find your corner. Yeah right, You've got to find 713 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:04,399 Speaker 1: your corner, your weird corner of the world of TikTok. Now, 714 00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,719 Speaker 1: if I'm on someone else's I've done this experiment where 715 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,799 Speaker 1: I'll go on someone else's I'll be give me your phone. 716 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:10,120 Speaker 1: I want to see what you're seeing. I'm like, ah, 717 00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:14,359 Speaker 1: this is garbage rotting your brain. How can you do this? 718 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,600 Speaker 1: And then I get online and I'm like, oh, that 719 00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:37,680 Speaker 1: looks fun. Shrimp cocktail with the special sauce inside. So 720 00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,160 Speaker 1: you guys the book and then you're going on tour 721 00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,480 Speaker 1: starting in September, right, Yeah, So we're heading out on 722 00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:48,520 Speaker 1: the Lady Secrets Tour. We start um September in Chicago, 723 00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,759 Speaker 1: which we're really excited about. And we just announced that 724 00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,120 Speaker 1: Nickovile is going to be our special guest at that 725 00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,120 Speaker 1: episode because it's close to his hometown and he has 726 00:38:56,120 --> 00:38:58,160 Speaker 1: a book coming out, so he's gonna fly out and 727 00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,759 Speaker 1: like It was really meaningful because as UM when we 728 00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,440 Speaker 1: were during our first book came out right at the 729 00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:08,440 Speaker 1: top of the of uh COVID and we're all in lockdown, 730 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,960 Speaker 1: so we couldn't do a tour and Nick was so sweet. 731 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,000 Speaker 1: He dressed up in a tuxedo and did like a 732 00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,080 Speaker 1: zoom party with us and all of our lady gag 733 00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 1: girls and like came. I was like such a mention 734 00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:19,640 Speaker 1: about the whole thing that I was like, Oh, you're 735 00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:21,359 Speaker 1: so cute. And so then when you had a book 736 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:22,719 Speaker 1: coming out, I reached out to and I was like, hey, 737 00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:24,319 Speaker 1: you were so good to us during our first book, 738 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,560 Speaker 1: like you know, can I do anything? And he was like, 739 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:28,719 Speaker 1: let's team up. So he's coming out to Chicago and 740 00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,759 Speaker 1: then we have special maybe some special guests. Were trying 741 00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:32,279 Speaker 1: to figure it out throughout the tour, but we're going 742 00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:35,080 Speaker 1: all over the states, New York, l A, you know, 743 00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:39,720 Speaker 1: uh Becca's hometown of Atlanta, Texas. It's gonna be really 744 00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:42,600 Speaker 1: fun and we actually just started planning and getting our 745 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,839 Speaker 1: props for the stage and it's gonna be a little 746 00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:46,839 Speaker 1: bit different than our shows in the past, which you've 747 00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,640 Speaker 1: been a part of, UM, but we're really really excited, 748 00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:52,239 Speaker 1: and then we made it like a deal because like 749 00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:54,399 Speaker 1: Becca was saying, like the world's a dumpster fire right now. 750 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,920 Speaker 1: So the tickets are like thirty bucks and if you 751 00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,000 Speaker 1: buy the ticket, you get a free copy of the book, 752 00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:00,840 Speaker 1: so you automatic clely like you get the book in 753 00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,880 Speaker 1: the tickets. So the tickets costing you like five dollars, 754 00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:07,200 Speaker 1: that's amazing a free show. What does this book cost? 755 00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,160 Speaker 1: So the book is twenty four dollars, So there you 756 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,719 Speaker 1: go in a great price point. You know, it's a 757 00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:14,600 Speaker 1: great price point for a good night of fun. And 758 00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:16,440 Speaker 1: we also have something cool that I know you guys 759 00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,759 Speaker 1: will appreciate it. That's very positive. So I'm taking back 760 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:22,480 Speaker 1: to positive. So for this tour, what we found and 761 00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,480 Speaker 1: I don't wonder if the scovers were the same. Um, 762 00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:27,480 Speaker 1: it's like a lot of girls just want to come alone, 763 00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,759 Speaker 1: like they've moved to new cities or friendships in your 764 00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:33,279 Speaker 1: It's like you kind of need that community, which is 765 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,560 Speaker 1: why I think like you have such a vast community 766 00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:38,000 Speaker 1: of listeners, and so do we. So we made this 767 00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:41,200 Speaker 1: thing called solo Yolo, which is we made buttons so 768 00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,560 Speaker 1: when you come to the show, if you're solo yolo. 769 00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,279 Speaker 1: You get a solo yolo button, and then you'll be 770 00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,520 Speaker 1: able to like see who else in the crowd came 771 00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,920 Speaker 1: alone and make friends with them. And then also the 772 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:53,800 Speaker 1: group girls that come with a friend or come in 773 00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,080 Speaker 1: a group can see a solo yolo girl and like 774 00:40:56,280 --> 00:41:01,959 Speaker 1: bude her over. Yeah that is a idea, Yeah, because 775 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 1: I just discuss They're like, I want to go alone, 776 00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:05,799 Speaker 1: but I'm scared to go, and I like, I love 777 00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,720 Speaker 1: going to things by myself. I go to Matt Nathanson 778 00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:09,480 Speaker 1: concerts all the time by myself because I just want 779 00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,080 Speaker 1: to enjoy it my full potential, said no one ever, 780 00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:17,719 Speaker 1: said no one ever. She has not dragged. I love 781 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,120 Speaker 1: Matt Nathanson, but I was drive to a v I 782 00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:23,279 Speaker 1: P experience and in that Matt nathan concert, no shade 783 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:27,680 Speaker 1: to Matt Nathanson, but I didn't need to go to 784 00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:31,080 Speaker 1: the v I P like him spinning a wheel and 785 00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:34,600 Speaker 1: playing a deep cut song that cult like cried. I 786 00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:37,239 Speaker 1: was trying to get him to play what was his 787 00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:41,520 Speaker 1: main come and get higher, Come and get higher shape. 788 00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,719 Speaker 1: His new album is great, Yeah, and it really is. 789 00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,759 Speaker 1: The fandom is really coming out. Yeah, Well, Kelty did 790 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:50,799 Speaker 1: make us listen to the song the second it came out, 791 00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,840 Speaker 1: so we got to hear it. Maybe the first people 792 00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,000 Speaker 1: in their world was talented, Like you know you're talented 793 00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:02,200 Speaker 1: when everything in Jack and myself want to hate something 794 00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:06,200 Speaker 1: that Kelty loves this much, but you can't deny it. 795 00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,880 Speaker 1: He's a talent. He's a wonder and we have to 796 00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:12,160 Speaker 1: jump on this bandwagon that we so like, really really 797 00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:16,239 Speaker 1: really really resisted. So got out. You're amazing. Do we 798 00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,719 Speaker 1: think Matt Nathanson might be a guest on one of 799 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:21,960 Speaker 1: the four runs? He can't. He's storing his own stuff. 800 00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:27,279 Speaker 1: But we are playing um similar venues. We're playing the 801 00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,120 Speaker 1: same venue in Boston and Philadelphia and a couple other 802 00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:33,520 Speaker 1: cities like right after him or right before him, Like 803 00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:35,760 Speaker 1: we're based on tour at the same time. So will 804 00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:44,600 Speaker 1: I'm leaving? Dare I say a stale trail? Oh my god, Gross, 805 00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:47,600 Speaker 1: I was thinking like a love letter you do, like 806 00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:54,320 Speaker 1: a little easter egg or something. But she's leaving a panty. Wait, Beccat, 807 00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,480 Speaker 1: you said that Kelsey would be nothing without the books. 808 00:42:56,520 --> 00:43:00,600 Speaker 1: I wanted to go back to that because, well, this 809 00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:05,560 Speaker 1: is our first book. You know. It was the height 810 00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:08,160 Speaker 1: of the pandemic it was June. It came out, and 811 00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:10,560 Speaker 1: we're supposed to go on our tour and we we're 812 00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:11,880 Speaker 1: trying to get out. We were gonna ge out in 813 00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:14,160 Speaker 1: the world and promote our Express clothing line that was 814 00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,719 Speaker 1: coincidentally made for girls going to the office and ceute 815 00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:19,799 Speaker 1: outfits for meetings. So, you know, our whole lives just 816 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,399 Speaker 1: were like, never mind, the universe is laughing at us, 817 00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:24,200 Speaker 1: and you're going to fail at everything that you set 818 00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,880 Speaker 1: out to do in as most of us did. So 819 00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:31,560 Speaker 1: Kelty was determined. She was really, really really needing this 820 00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,799 Speaker 1: thing for her soul, and that is the thing called 821 00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:37,480 Speaker 1: the New York Times bestseller List. And she fought and 822 00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,399 Speaker 1: she fought, and she had a chart that we called 823 00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,960 Speaker 1: the Penis Chart where she tracks all the sales of 824 00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:43,800 Speaker 1: the book. We have it for this book as well. 825 00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:47,800 Speaker 1: She called me one random dawn in June. I'm getting 826 00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:49,440 Speaker 1: my hair done in my house because I'm breaking the 827 00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,279 Speaker 1: rules and I'm having somebody do my hair and we're 828 00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:57,160 Speaker 1: m I answered the phone. I'm speaker, and she's sobbing uncontrollably. 829 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,799 Speaker 1: I can't understand a word she's saying. I thought Jack 830 00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,239 Speaker 1: had been found, you know, on a railroad track. I 831 00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,759 Speaker 1: was also on that call. Well I didn't know you 832 00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:08,600 Speaker 1: were on that call at the time. It was just 833 00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:12,200 Speaker 1: her like sobbing and crying, So how would I And 834 00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:18,160 Speaker 1: she's like, wait, the Element story on New York Times 835 00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:23,000 Speaker 1: best seller and um, so crying again. Think just thinking 836 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,560 Speaker 1: about how happy I wasn't that moment. I've never felt happiness. 837 00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:30,880 Speaker 1: It was Honestly, I left that phone call speechless and 838 00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,920 Speaker 1: being like I don't know how to react because that 839 00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:38,359 Speaker 1: was shocking the penises. We're not doing so good if 840 00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:40,200 Speaker 1: you can see her stickers down. So this is this 841 00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,600 Speaker 1: is like approximately how many books you have to sell 842 00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:46,560 Speaker 1: to make the New York Times for us? No, no, 843 00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,800 Speaker 1: it's way more than that. But that's like two times 844 00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,239 Speaker 1: New York. But this is where we are right now. 845 00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:58,239 Speaker 1: So it's really just it's that want a really good book, Uh, 846 00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,120 Speaker 1: just comp it off? Do you have to sell? Is 847 00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:04,560 Speaker 1: there like a number? It's like fluctuates, It fluctuates. It 848 00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:07,279 Speaker 1: depends on what else is selling that week. Um, but 849 00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,000 Speaker 1: there's like a random number and I don't want to 850 00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,640 Speaker 1: say it in case it's wrong and then we get blacklisted, 851 00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,000 Speaker 1: so I cannot. I'll tell you that offline what I 852 00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,640 Speaker 1: think it is, but it's also it's not it's not 853 00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,839 Speaker 1: a numbers based charts, so it also is it's based 854 00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:22,799 Speaker 1: on your cultural impact, so like what press are you 855 00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:27,279 Speaker 1: doing or people talking about it? They interested? People? Are 856 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:32,840 Speaker 1: the housewives reposting it? You know? It's like she needs this, 857 00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:38,040 Speaker 1: you guys need that. She sent me yesterday I had 858 00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:41,920 Speaker 1: like a really bad day. She was like, this is 859 00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,759 Speaker 1: how I know Kelty sometimes knows Jack and I so well, 860 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,840 Speaker 1: like to our core, and then other times it shocks me. 861 00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:48,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, do you know me at all? I had 862 00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,719 Speaker 1: a terrible day, And she texts me, she goes, this 863 00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:54,120 Speaker 1: will cheer you up. She sent me a compilation of 864 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,799 Speaker 1: like all of our accomplishments for the Lady Gang and 865 00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,080 Speaker 1: all the press we've done and all this like this 866 00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:01,600 Speaker 1: like mish map I should bullsh over the since two 867 00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:06,000 Speaker 1: thousand and fifteen. And I'm like, wait, what I'm supposed 868 00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,040 Speaker 1: to be cheered up? I don't understand what this is. 869 00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:10,600 Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, our publicists. She asked me to 870 00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:13,200 Speaker 1: put together this compilation of everything we've done so that 871 00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:14,880 Speaker 1: we can get booked on the best shows and the 872 00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:17,400 Speaker 1: best talk shows to promote the book, and it's like this, 873 00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,400 Speaker 1: I worked all weekend long in creating this thing, and 874 00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,440 Speaker 1: I was like, she needs this. You guys sparked. No 875 00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:28,160 Speaker 1: joy was that was? That was never I was like, 876 00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:30,840 Speaker 1: oh my god, look at what we did. All the 877 00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:34,040 Speaker 1: hard work did pay off. If you cried a lot, 878 00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,400 Speaker 1: you know, let me tell you, I have mad respect 879 00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:39,200 Speaker 1: for you guys, because I am in the process of 880 00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:43,080 Speaker 1: doing a book and it is such an undertaking, Like 881 00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,080 Speaker 1: it is so much work. It's the fact that you 882 00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:47,680 Speaker 1: guys have already this is number two, Like, I have 883 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,400 Speaker 1: so much respect for you. You have no idea, Like, honestly, 884 00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,360 Speaker 1: if you have to do it all by yourself to know, 885 00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm doing it with another one of my friends. So 886 00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:59,439 Speaker 1: it's not. Yeah, but and I still feel like it's 887 00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,799 Speaker 1: a big taking. So it's the problem is it's not 888 00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:04,840 Speaker 1: a problem. The thing that's great about books is that 889 00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:07,200 Speaker 1: books are amazing, and my best friends and I preferred 890 00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:10,920 Speaker 1: them over humans. But making a book takes a really 891 00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:14,120 Speaker 1: long time. So it's like you invest a lot of 892 00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,520 Speaker 1: a lot of time and your energy and then when 893 00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:20,400 Speaker 1: you birth it, it's like instantaneously like a flop or 894 00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:23,080 Speaker 1: a hit, and it can be a big flop. It's 895 00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:26,160 Speaker 1: very difficult, like not that many people buy books, which 896 00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,279 Speaker 1: is sad in itself, and I feel like we I mean, 897 00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:34,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to go into that. Your book is 898 00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,239 Speaker 1: gonna be great. Your book is gonna be great, it's 899 00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:38,920 Speaker 1: gonna be a big seller. I'm gonna help you all 900 00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:43,000 Speaker 1: make my own penis tart for you. It's very stressful, 901 00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:47,120 Speaker 1: gonna be fine. Everything was okay, it'll be fine. We 902 00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:49,719 Speaker 1: we we started up on a high. I need a 903 00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,080 Speaker 1: helthy night energy though. I really do need a channel 904 00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,160 Speaker 1: that I think everybody needs a helthy night in them. 905 00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:57,920 Speaker 1: You know, it's they, It's true. I feel like we 906 00:47:57,960 --> 00:47:59,799 Speaker 1: gotta let you guys go because we've had you really 907 00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:06,680 Speaker 1: want time. Say, for some reason, this old real popped 908 00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:09,920 Speaker 1: up from y'all like promoting the tour. But y'all were 909 00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:13,400 Speaker 1: all kind of I don't even know what was happening. 910 00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:15,920 Speaker 1: It was like chaos, and I think Beca commented and 911 00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:19,919 Speaker 1: said like, um, it's no surprise, like our show didn't 912 00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:28,759 Speaker 1: or something like that. Oh yes, talk it was so funny, 913 00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:31,239 Speaker 1: and I was like, I cannot wait to have him 914 00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:33,279 Speaker 1: on the podcast. So thank you all for coming on 915 00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:35,440 Speaker 1: and giving us an hour Agol's time, and I do 916 00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,759 Speaker 1: I do want to say, like you guys, seriously, all 917 00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,800 Speaker 1: three of you together really inspire me on such a 918 00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,279 Speaker 1: totally different level. Like you guys have done so many things, 919 00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:45,920 Speaker 1: and like you even said, like you can make like yourself, 920 00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:48,640 Speaker 1: deprecating the fact that you've tried so many things, some 921 00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:50,520 Speaker 1: of them have flopped and not done well, and some 922 00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:52,920 Speaker 1: of them have done amazing. But your trailblazers, and you 923 00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:55,520 Speaker 1: keep going and like you've been doing it for such 924 00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,160 Speaker 1: a long time and yet you're still like reinventing yourselves 925 00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:00,000 Speaker 1: and keeping it like I don't know, it's just fresh 926 00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:02,360 Speaker 1: and fun and I just I love you guys. I 927 00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,560 Speaker 1: have a demo reel that I want to send you guys. 928 00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:07,879 Speaker 1: I think it'll spark joy for you in a way 929 00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:10,680 Speaker 1: that it maybe you didn't spark joy for Becker. They 930 00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: don't care us be like, yeah, I think all of 931 00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:18,000 Speaker 1: our accomplishments, we're trying to get some press, you know, 932 00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:19,920 Speaker 1: so we got to send them what we've done. Yeah, 933 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,520 Speaker 1: send it over. It will spark joy in me for sure. 934 00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:28,040 Speaker 1: Y'all are the ultimate snail trail blazers and like some 935 00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:32,840 Speaker 1: merch before we trail Blazer, that guy that was incredible 936 00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:35,120 Speaker 1: before we go. I just do want to let you 937 00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:36,800 Speaker 1: know I stop myself because I don't know if you 938 00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,400 Speaker 1: guys know. But Jack has a very robust TikTok and 939 00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:42,319 Speaker 1: she recently went like, hella, hella, hella viral for doing 940 00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,640 Speaker 1: the internal shower. What do you mean like all this 941 00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,040 Speaker 1: water and the cheess seen everything. It got picked up 942 00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:50,080 Speaker 1: on Daily Mail. It was like television producer. I'm like, okay, 943 00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,120 Speaker 1: well she was, you can have one show and castled 944 00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:55,160 Speaker 1: after like twenty episodes. I also didn't do anything for 945 00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:59,080 Speaker 1: that producer job, but did nothing um, and so it 946 00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:01,080 Speaker 1: was like it went rewarned. I was like, do I 947 00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:03,720 Speaker 1: clip this for the real like, because the whole thing 948 00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,439 Speaker 1: is like you gotta have you should That's the most 949 00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,520 Speaker 1: important thing right now in this universe's ticket. Wait, did 950 00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:13,160 Speaker 1: you bent the show I do the internal shower? No, 951 00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:17,400 Speaker 1: it was somebody went on the Skinny Confidential podcast and 952 00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:20,040 Speaker 1: talked about it. But I was I guess the person 953 00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:23,560 Speaker 1: on TikTok that it really blew up from thank you 954 00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:26,040 Speaker 1: because it has helped me. Yeah, like I do it 955 00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:28,200 Speaker 1: every day and I have like a healthy bowel movement 956 00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:30,120 Speaker 1: the next morning. I've been waiting for this for years. 957 00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,680 Speaker 1: Don't read the Daily Mail article because they also while 958 00:50:33,719 --> 00:50:37,120 Speaker 1: they posted, Jack Uh interviewed an expert who said it 959 00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:43,920 Speaker 1: doesn't do a thing and whiskers in your colon or whatever. Also, 960 00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:49,120 Speaker 1: or the or the chiest seats can like attach to 961 00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,799 Speaker 1: your stomach and then like get the opposite and make 962 00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,719 Speaker 1: you bloated and make you constipated. So I don't know, 963 00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:58,160 Speaker 1: do you you know what? You know what? They work 964 00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:02,200 Speaker 1: for you t It's gonna work. You're going to have 965 00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:05,279 Speaker 1: a great wedding. Your book is gonna be amazing. We 966 00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:12,800 Speaker 1: just reigned on all your pre Now, okay, well you guys, yeah, 967 00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:15,680 Speaker 1: we love you. Follow all the girls. Yeah, get ticketed 968 00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:18,800 Speaker 1: by the book Lady Secrets. Get tickets to the show. 969 00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:23,600 Speaker 1: Kelty has a show coming out, super Fan. It's okay, 970 00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:25,239 Speaker 1: you don't need to talk about it. I'll just tell 971 00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:27,880 Speaker 1: you this today. Don't you worry. Don't you worry. She's 972 00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:30,160 Speaker 1: gonna be a super Fan tour. Today is a focus 973 00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:32,000 Speaker 1: group day. So in the next hour, I'm gonna get 974 00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:33,880 Speaker 1: on a call with like twenty people that are gonna 975 00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,000 Speaker 1: tell me for an hour what's wrong with me so yeah, 976 00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:39,080 Speaker 1: thanks for asking. It's going great. Wait when do you 977 00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,319 Speaker 1: guys in l A. I want to come to the 978 00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:45,440 Speaker 1: show first, far away, but that gives us time to 979 00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:50,360 Speaker 1: plan an outfit and everything. Okay, that's right on the list. 980 00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,120 Speaker 1: We love you, Love you, guys,