1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:04,400 Speaker 1: All right, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter on Steve Harvey 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 1: FM and just click submit Strawberry Letter. We'll get it 5 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:20,520 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right 7 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: now today. All right, buckle up and hold on tight. 8 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,280 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry 9 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: Letter subject, My husband is such a dummy. Dear Stephen Shirley. 10 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: I've been married for twenty years, and it's been the 11 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: longest twenty years ever. Neither of us has been perfect 12 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: in the marriage. But I got myself together and I 13 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: was hoping that my dumb as husband did too. Huh. 14 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: But it seems like there are far too many ways 15 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: for him to do his dirty deeds now. About three 16 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: months ago, he sent me a text that was intended 17 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: for someone else he wanted to meet up after work. 18 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: I busted him, and he lied and said that the 19 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,759 Speaker 1: text was for me and he was trying something new 20 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: to keep our marriage interesting. I knew he was lying, 21 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: so I started paying close attention to his daily called 22 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: logs on the cell phone bill. He was dialing all 23 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: kinds of numbers that I had never seen before. I 24 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: didn't ask him about it because I needed more proof. Then, 25 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 1: by looking at his phone, I noticed that he downloaded 26 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: a new app that allows him to talk and video 27 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: chat with people without its showing up on the cell 28 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: bill cell phone bill. Then I realized he was on 29 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: social media, liking pictures of half dressed women, commenting on 30 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: how nice and fine they are, and sending these women 31 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: direct messages. He was dmming them. When I confronted him 32 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: with everything, he swore that it's all innocent fun and 33 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: he's not trying to be sneaky. He said he never 34 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: had planned to meet up with any of those women. 35 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: I paid the cell phone bill, so I told him 36 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: that I'm going to have his cell phone deactivated and 37 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: he will not have access to any apps or social media. 38 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: He almost lost it when I said that, which confirms 39 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: my suspicions. Okay, she pays the cell phone bills. Okay, 40 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: so she told him that she's going to have his 41 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: phone deactivated and he will not have access to any 42 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: apps or social media. He almost lost it when I 43 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 1: said that, which confirms my suspicions. If my gut feelings 44 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: are right and he's cheating again, I'm out of here. 45 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: Do you think I'm just tripping or blowing this out 46 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: of proportion? Please help? Well, you definitely have a few 47 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 1: things that are definitely caused for a concern here, and 48 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: really more than that. First, the text you mentioned in 49 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: the letter that he sent to you by mistake. You 50 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: knew it was intended for someone else. You knew he 51 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: was lying. He tried to cover it up, saying that 52 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: you know he wont you tried something new in the marriage. 53 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: You knew that was a lie. Also, the new app 54 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: he has where he can video chat and like pictures 55 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,799 Speaker 1: and DM people, that's another clue. And of course your 56 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: gut feeling. You know what they say, always trust your gut, right, Well, 57 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: after twenty years, you know your man, you know his habits, 58 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: you know how he moves, so you know when he's 59 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: telling the truth and you know when he's lying. All 60 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: through this letter he has done nothing but lie and 61 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: you've caught him. So you ask us, are you tripping? 62 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 1: And are you blowing things out of proportion? You know, 63 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,839 Speaker 1: I say, trust yourself, trust your instincts. No, I don't 64 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: think you're blowing things out of proportion. I don't think 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: you're tripping at all. I think your husband is tripping. 66 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: I think he's tripping. He's the one that's out of 67 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: control here with all of this. You say, if if 68 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: your gut feelings are right and you find out he's 69 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: cheating again, you're out of there. So it looks like 70 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: you know, you better start packing your bags. You don't 71 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 1: have any concrete proof now, but looks like it might 72 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: be coming, so get ready. Steve, Wow, I don't know 73 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: what to tell you. You've been married for twenty years. 74 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: You said it's been the longest twenty years ever. I mean, damn, 75 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 1: neither one of y'all been perfect in the marriage. I 76 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: mean you didn't tripped in need and trip, but then 77 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: you say you got yours together, and then you was 78 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 1: hoping he did. But now it's tech causing technologists just 79 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:29,720 Speaker 1: too many ways for him to be out there tripping. 80 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,479 Speaker 1: So he sent this text about three months ago that 81 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 1: was intended for somebody else, said, you know, to meet 82 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: up for after work. Well then you busted him. Now 83 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: here's what he did. Though, after you busted him, you 84 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: said that he said that was for you. He was 85 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: trying to keep new things in that man. I sent 86 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,280 Speaker 1: that that you. I just told you that. I just 87 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 1: act like I ain't knew you. I knew he was lying. 88 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: So then you started watching the call log on the 89 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 1: cell phone, all kinds of numbers on that, you know. 90 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 1: But now you're snooping, so you didn't want to bust 91 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: him right away, but you started looking at his phone 92 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: that he had downloaded a new app that allows him 93 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: to talk and video chat with people without his showing 94 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: up on the cell phone bill. Now that's curious to me. 95 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: A video phone call is different on your cell phone bill? 96 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: Is it the WhatsApp? I don't know WhatsApp. I think 97 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: it's WhatsApp Steve. She didn't say that, but it's probably 98 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: what you mean. No, nephew, seems like he has some 99 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 1: insight on this. What was that married man? Okay? Then okay, 100 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: let me inside boys outside place. That's crazy. This boy 101 00:05:54,760 --> 00:06:00,600 Speaker 1: didn't give year. Definitely the last Oh yeah, oh, this 102 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: see to be the longest. Like she said, that allows 103 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: him to talk and video chat with people without his 104 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: showing up on the cell phone bill. Oh, I see 105 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: what you're talking about. That must be horsaid that then 106 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: I realized he was on social media liking pictures of 107 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: half dressed women. Come in on house and find a 108 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 1: sending these women dms. Then when you confronted it, he 109 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 1: swotter he was innocent, he ain't sneaking, he ain't playing 110 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: on me with no new women. I just said, I 111 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,919 Speaker 1: wanted How did he say it? I'm just saying I 112 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: ain't gonna beat up with nobody. I just said I 113 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: have won it too. Girl. You tripping? Yeah right? You 114 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: don't see me over there, now, do you? All right? 115 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 1: Hold on, Steve, We'll have part two of your response 116 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three after the hour. Subjects up 117 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, my husband is such a dummy. We'll 118 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:57,040 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, 119 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 1: Let's recap today's strawberry letter, and uh, come Steve with 120 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: your response. The subject is my husband is such a dummy. Man. 121 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: Y'all been together twenty years, according to you, has been 122 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: the longest twenty available. Technology then took over head and 123 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,679 Speaker 1: found a lot of ways to cheat. Now, three months 124 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: ago he sent a text to you that was intended 125 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: for somebody else. He wanted to meet up after the work. 126 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: I busted him. He lied and said that the text 127 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: was for me, and he was trying to gil. Girl, 128 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: let's text for you. What's his name? Girl? Oh tell 129 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: me the dude's name in the letter to Realist to Realist, 130 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: because he tells the women I'm to really still really 131 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: so to Realist's dead serious? And uh, Lee lied and 132 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: said the text was for you, and you knew he 133 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: was Lyne. So you started watching the call logs. He 134 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: downed all kind of numbers you'd never seen before. I 135 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: didn't ask him about it because I needed some more proof. 136 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: Then you're looking at the phone. Notice heating the downloaded 137 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: a new app that allows him to talk in video 138 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: chat with people without his showing up on the cell 139 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: phone bill that horse album Cordne to Sherley. Then I 140 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: realized he was on social media liking pictures I have 141 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: dressed women, comment on how nice and fine they are, 142 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 1: sending these women direct messages. Then when I confronted what 143 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,959 Speaker 1: he swore it was all innocent. He just not trying 144 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:35,199 Speaker 1: to be sneaky. Girl. I ain't had no plan on 145 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 1: going out with none of these here women, because listen, 146 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 1: we was just talking we was just talking and that's 147 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:46,080 Speaker 1: all in wars from New York. And then when you 148 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: come talking about that I was going to meet up 149 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: with these women and I wasn't and I wasn't you know, 150 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 1: so then you know, then you come talking because you 151 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 1: paid the cell phone to bills that you was gonna 152 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: have my phone just deactivated? Now why are you tripping 153 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 1: like that? Wow? And then you ain't got no, I 154 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 1: ain't gonna have no access to any of these apps. 155 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: I need these apps for my job. Well, if he 156 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: got a job, he should pay his own cell phone. 157 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 1: Then if my good feelings are right and he's cheating again, 158 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: I am out of him. Do you think I'm just 159 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: tripping and blowing this out of proportion? Okay, let me 160 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: ask you something. What's her name? This is to really 161 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: us and just shimika to okay, yeah, okay, yeah, they 162 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: call him STD. What they call STD Shimika into really 163 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: doing the damn thing. If my good feelings are right 164 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: and he's cheating again, well, if you're if your good 165 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: feelings is right, your gut telling you he's cheating again, 166 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: I'm out of him. Do you think I'm just tripping 167 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: and blowing this side of proportion. Look, if you're looking 168 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: for a reason to stay with him, man, they're just 169 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: gonna stay with him. You got twenty years in. You 170 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,200 Speaker 1: could use that one people like to use I got 171 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: twenty years in, like that's supposed to have value to 172 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: it when they after that if something had gone bad, 173 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 1: didn't it was a season for it. You know, some 174 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: racing relationships are just for seasons. It says you didn't 175 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: blow that part in of your life. You look back 176 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: on it. You got some good times out of him 177 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: twenty even though it was the longest you ever had. 178 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: You know your husband had dummy. But if he done 179 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: what they make you though, because you're staying with it 180 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: and you're good telling you what he's doing. Man to 181 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: really it's just say any question about this letter because 182 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: I'm well, I'm technically don't tell him to get her 183 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:57,439 Speaker 1: own damn phone in his own name? Why good? Don't no? 184 00:10:57,640 --> 00:11:00,160 Speaker 1: Because you know telling me when you're stupid. Now you're 185 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: not what you'll notice now some of this stuff I 186 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 1: don't see what the questions from I see where you 187 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 1: know you can't even you know, when a man is 188 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 1: at this level of ignorance, it compounds and manifests itself 189 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. You know, you know when 190 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 1: you stupid, you ain't just stupid at that That stupidity 191 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 1: shows up in multiple areas of your life. Hold on, now, 192 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 1: tell me is this true? What's Steve saying? Come boy, 193 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 1: I love you, I love you? Answer the question not 194 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,559 Speaker 1: to see the thing about Tommy. Now, let me tell 195 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: you something. Tommy's ignorance is reserved for prank phone call. 196 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 1: Now his anger management problem that carries over. But he 197 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 1: don't have to deal with his anger management in pranks. 198 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: His stupidity is for pranks now, his anger management that's 199 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: other areas of life. And that's not really stupidity. That's 200 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: anger managed. Okay, aren't we getting off subject though? We're 201 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: talking about stupidity. Well, I don't know how we could be. 202 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: Didn't I say Tommy twice? Ok? Yeah, I may I 203 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: am as ignorant, but I'll be damn if I'm stupid. 204 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: You stupiditio whatever you're saying, Yeah, that is what that is, 205 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: all right. Listen, we gotta get out of here. Leave 206 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at 207 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast 208 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:16,319 Speaker 1: on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.