WEBVTT - Brandee Evans On 'Reasonable Doubt', Caregiver Appreciation Month + More 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:00.760 Don't know. 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:07.960 Every day click up the Breakfast Club morning. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:11.799 Everybody's d j n V. Just hilarious, charlamage the guy. 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:14.160 We are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:17.400 in the building. Indeed, she's in season three A Reasonable Doubt, 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:19.560 which starts on September eighteenth, So it's. 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:21.800 Out right now. Brandy Evans, welcome you. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:27.120 I'm amazing. I'm in New Yorker. I love New York. 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:28.560 You do, yes? I do? 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:30.639 Like literally now, I'm trying to figure out how I 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:33.319 can be like in the l A Coast and in 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:34.960 the we in the East Coast. 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:38.520 You're from Memphis, I am wanting raised. Yes, okay? Cool? 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:41.320 And so you you you like New York? I do? 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.440 I feel like, you know, New York people keep it real, 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:45.839 and I feel like sometimes I love you La, but 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:47.080 sometimes y'all be a little sensitive. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:48.680 So I think, I I that's what I like about 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:49.080 New York. 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.559 That's what kind of keep it fake, real, fake real 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:59.279 to each other. Really, yea, he. 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:02.520 From New York. Okay, from somewhere You from, Oh you 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:03.360 Southern like me? 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:04.160 You already know? 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:06.640 So what does that mean that you're just you're trying 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:07.840 to figure out Folks, out here. 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:13.480 No, I've been figuring them out and thinking about a 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:14.039 long time ago. 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:14.600 That's not true. 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:18.119 Long time ago, queen Okay, okay, we were just talking 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:18.919 about going to Queen's. 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:20.480 Okay, ask me. 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:21.520 If you've been to a Didty party? 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:23.440 What Ask him? 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.080 He's gonna lie and say no, ask him. 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:34.480 I've not been to Okay, okay, And if I have, 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:36.720 it was way do you see what I'm saying. 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:40.840 There'm no judgment. I used to dance for Diddy, so 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:42.200 she was. 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.080 Assistant, Lari and Gibson all that I never saw the 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:48.000 things that people. 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.000 You missed the lie because the lie was so good. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.840 First that I ain't never been no Didty party, and 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:52.760 if I did, it was. 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:53.640 Way way way back in. 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.720 I was joking, joke, I never been no damn Diddy 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:58.160 party party. 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:06.040 I ain't never been on one iground. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:11.280 I went home to get my mama down the stage. 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:13.120 I feel good. I feel amazing. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.160 It's caregiver appreciation months speaking up taking care of my mama. 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:18.880 So this is my respite break to just being out 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.440 here in New York doing what I want to do, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.600 seeing some art, enjoying some cold weather. 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.800 Because I feel like we don't really get that in LA. 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:27.280 Who's all the caregivers out there? Man? Break down? 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:31.880 What exactly do caregivers do? Because it's such an unappreciating 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:33.960 service that they that they provide. 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:35.000 That's a good question. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:39.200 Everything care like for me my mom, Diane Harrington, she 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:43.160 has multiple sclerosis, she has Alzheimer's and she's paraplegic. So 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:46.959 basically it's like having my newborn with me at all times. 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:48.800 And it just depends on what you're dealing with. 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.720 It could be from feedings, the doctor's appointments, emotional support, 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:54.239 just sitting with them, taking them out. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:55.079 You just never know. 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:58.640 But caregivers need love and check on us too because 0:02:58.639 --> 0:02:59.400 we ain't all right. 0:02:59.280 --> 0:02:59.720 All the time. 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:01.800 And you know, people, I'm sure I don't know if 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:03.320 you're through the system, but you know, people get paid 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:03.560 for that. 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.839 Not everywhere. That's I'm glad you mentioned that New York 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.440 is a blessing. LA is a blessing. I think I 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.200 heard Florida has a little bit, but everywhere else it's 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:12.840 been frustrated. 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:14.480 And that's why I had to move Mama from Memphis. 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:14.880 Wow. 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.200 So and then I moved it to Atlanta season one 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.120 when I was filming Pea Valley and had to move 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.440 a back because I lost all my benefits. So it 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.560 is that's that we just did care Fest out here, 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.399 and that's what we were talking about, getting the care 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:27.800 because people aren't doing that, and either all of us 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.840 are either going to be caregivers for somebody or somebody's 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.959 gonna care for us at one time in our lives. 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:33.840 So I don't know what's up with the government. So 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:34.800 who does care for you? 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:34.960 Then? 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:36.880 Because you've been doing this for a long time, you 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:37.360 take care. 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.240 But I've watched your journey just over the years, even 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.680 before I met you, and you are like your mom 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:50.080 is your baby in between rolls, and I even shot 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:52.560 a project with you, and on a break, you on 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:56.240 a phone mama, making sure everybody is in place while 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:58.080 you're doing the things that you have to do to 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:00.640 keep making the money right. And then as soon as 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:02.680 you finish, you and you go, you wit your mom, 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.640 you wake up, you go back on set. That's right, 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.520 Because during Pretty Stone, I had Mama in the hospital, 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.560 so I was on the phone with doctors and they 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.360 were like cut and I was like holding the doctor 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.440 stayed while I did a scene on the phone and 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.120 came back. So yeah, rehearsed in lines and remembering the 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:19.919 script and everything like that. I write my friends and family, 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.080 I will say more so my friends. No, not to 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:24.800 my family, but my friends are the ones that are 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.920 out there with me, people like Ivri, who's with me here? 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:29.400 When I'm filming season one, A p. 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:32.200 Valley had a caregiver walk out and I checked the 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.800 live camera stream, I'm like, what's going on? What's going 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.320 on in Mama's room. He had connected all of my 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.400 friends together. Then they took turns taking care of my 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:41.920 mother while I filmed because the caregiver walked out. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:42.919 So my friends on. 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.240 My ride or Diyes Sasha, you know, my Bestisasha. Sasha's 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.359 at the house of Mama now, like they, I just 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:51.640 have a good village, a good chosen family, which is 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:52.080 a blessing. 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.360 Would you ever put your you know a lot of 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:55.760 people talk about putting their moms or parents in the home. 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:56.360 Would you do that? 0:04:56.400 --> 0:05:00.160 And while glad that actually I promised my mama ever 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:03.480 would and she did go in one. So that's my story. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.960 On her birthday in twenty and fourteen, she had a fall. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.360 I was dancing background for Lettercy at the time. My 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:11.120 little brother called me. He was like, Mama fail, she 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.400 has to be in a rehabilitation center. And I'm like, 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:15.360 the one promise I made to Mama, which was never 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:16.840 put in a nurse home, she had to be in it, 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.320 but never again. So that's when I fought for my 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:21.880 life to start teaching dance classes all over the country 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.160 and asking every celeb I knew, like, I don't need 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:24.760 your money, but. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.120 Just a repost is a blessing. 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:28.600 And we raised fourteen thousand dollars in four days, and 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:30.720 I got my mama out of that nursing home. When 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.800 that was December twenty first, it'd be nine years. I've 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:33.600 had her since that day. 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:36.640 The reason I ask is, you know, sometimes parents will say, 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:40.640 you know what, I don't want to, you know, be 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.840 a problem with your Like I don't want to, you know, 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:45.719 you know, mess up what you have, So put me 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:47.160 in a home so that way there is help. 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:48.800 And then there's some people that say, you know, I'll 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:50.159 never put my mind in a home. 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.840 But having that kid twenty four to seven, I mean, 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:55.359 I'm sure you know it's almost impossible. 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:58.080 Right then it's nine thousand dollars a month, right to 0:05:58.120 --> 0:05:58.599 be exact. 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:02.440 So my wife's had dementia in all times, and we 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:04.560 had a full day, and if. 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:07.320 We didn't have a nanny helping, it would. 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:10.080 Be almost impossible, because you know, there's been times when 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:11.960 she didne walked out the house and just kept walking, 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:12.839 while there. 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.479 Was times where you know, she didn't know where the 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:17.400 toilet was. So you know, it's like having a newborn 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:17.839 at times. 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.280 There's been times when you know there's so much going on, 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:24.040 So how do you deal with that twenty four seven 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:25.520 and still work and still. 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:26.680 Take care of God? 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:29.160 Because at this point it's just got to be all 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:32.520 God because I'm so exhausted in New York. That's the 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:34.599 first time I don't have the baby monitor about my ear, 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:37.520 and so when you hear that cough, you don't know, 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.320 just like with your baby, are you choking or are 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:41.520 you coughing? So then you're getting up, running into the 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:43.000 room trying to have that rest. 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:46.080 It is exhausting. It is very exhausting. 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.000 But I also don't knock people that have to do 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:52.000 that because everybody's situation is different. I think that if 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:53.880 you have to put them there, you got to stay 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:54.560 on top of them. 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:56.880 I was stalking the home like I was showing up. 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.479 I was popping up. At one point. They was like, 0:06:58.520 --> 0:06:59.600 we feel like you're watching us. 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:00.200 I am. 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:04.000 I am because it's my mom and that where she was. 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:06.480 My mom probably wouldn't be alive right now if I 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:08.400 wouldn't have gotten her. One time I popped up and 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:11.000 Mama was like laid over with a fever and I 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:12.000 had to break her fever. 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:13.160 By the way, you can. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:14.840 Break your fever with alcohol, just rub it on the 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:16.560 baby's back. Mama taught me that when I was a 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:18.440 little girl, rub rubbing alcohol on the back. 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:22.240 But yeah, I honestly don't know. I'm still trying to. 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:25.400 I'm working through it with therapy and just trying to 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:28.240 find my peace and taking more vacations and things for 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:30.640 myself too. And that's hard too, because now Mama had 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:32.960 a meltdown about me coming to New York because she's like, 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:34.560 why are you leaving me? And I can you know 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:36.720 with kids. I know y'all overstanding, you don't want to 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.200 leave the babies, but we gotta work. 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:40.200 We gotta have some time for us because I came 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:41.200 for from the empty cup. 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.360 I loved this conversation so much because years years and 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:45.960 years years years ago God blessed the dead. Andre Herrel 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:49.720 called me and had a whole conversation about this exactly 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.480 and introduced me to the world of cadgive was and 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:54.640 introduced me to a woman named Gina Lisa Montacero. And 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:57.440 she's the founder of the Medicated Visory Group and they're 0:07:57.440 --> 0:08:01.480 a consulting company who assists elders and family caregivers. And so, 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.400 you know, she helped my family with some stuff, and 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:05.600 she helped a lot of my friends. 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.000 I think it's just something that people don't know about 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:08.400 it and. 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:09.920 We don't think about it until we have to be 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:12.000 in that situation, right, because I never thought about it, 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:15.120 and then I realized, oh, this is Medicare, Medicaid, all 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:17.520 the different things like it's hard and if you don't 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:19.800 have it, you can't get your supplies, you can't pay 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:23.400 and paying for these supplies at the house is very 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:24.720 expensive if you don't have that help. 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:26.000 So that's what Gina Lisa does. 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.600 She helps you just navigate the help get system because 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:29.240 it's complex. 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.440 Yes, yeah, and they don't want us to know about 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:33.600 it at all. They definitely don't want us to know 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:36.000 about it. So yeah, and so you said therapy, so 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.920 you are currently. Yes, I gotta find new therapist. 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.319 Though the last one I had, I'm like, it's been 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.000 a minute and she ain't really answer that phone. 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:43.840 So I need to find me. 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:46.920 But then it's finding the right people, and they're trusting 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:50.040 people too, because I'm like, it's like, I don't really 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:51.560 want you to talk about. 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:52.040 What I do. 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:53.880 I just want to I want to be Brandy. I 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:55.880 don't want to be the actor. I just want to 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:57.079 be Brandy the caregiver and. 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:58.040 Just talk about things. 0:08:58.280 --> 0:08:58.880 What about y'all? 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:00.480 Is that hard for y'all to do when you go 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:01.680 to therapy? Y'all go to therapy. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:02.520 I'm on my. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:07.880 Second yeah, trying to find that right fit. 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:10.720 It's like, yeah, I haven't I heard it. It's like 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:14.280 I haven't started therapy yet. I would like to, but 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:16.840 I just I haven't started yet. But I hear that 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.320 a lot in people like my son's father. He's like, Yo, 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:22.040 I just can't find the right person, you know what 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:25.400 I mean. And then he also battles with trusting, like, yo, 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.800 how can this person tell me anything? 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:29.280 How can he fix me? If he never been through 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:29.760 what I've been through? 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:31.640 If they don't look like me or you know, so 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:35.640 he's battling like trying to find a black man to 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:36.280 talk to you. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:37.400 I got a good one for him. 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:40.880 We need to share talk about my first my first therapist. 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.360 I wanted somebody that was completely opposite, so I was looking. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.120 I actually was looking for like an Asian woman, but 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:47.360 I ended up with a white woman and she was cool. 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:51.079 But it is something about having a black male therapist 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:52.320 who's culturally competent. 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.280 You don't got to explain too much. A lot of 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:56.480 things he already understands. 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.440 Yeah, yeah, now, but. 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:00.120 You always gonna be kind of hard because he to 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:00.480 deal with you. 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:02.360 So I needed to you know what, Excuse me. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:04.120 I didn't. 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:07.280 Like how I'm doing. 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:17.760 I'm doing good. I'm very better now. Ye Season three, 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:22.160 Reasonable Doubt. I'm so proud of you. What drew you 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.800 to the character Monica? Well, first of all, I wasn't 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:28.480 drawn at all to the character Monica because she's a mess. 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.880 But I was drawn to the show total opposite. So 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:34.600 I've always wanted to be Unreasonable Doubt. I've been watching 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:37.280 the show. It was on my vision board, and I 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:39.760 want to do something different than p Valley. So but 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.760 then when Ramula called about the director session, I was like, oh, 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.480 my lord, Monica, and I didn't find out till after 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.760 I auditioned what was happening. They gave me the storyline 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:51.839 in the arc of this, and I was like, Oh, 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:52.760 this is gonna be good. 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:54.959 And they finish dragged me and these internet streets. 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:56.880 But that's when I knew it was gonna It's gonna 0:10:56.880 --> 0:10:58.880 be worth it, and it's a great story, not a 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:02.800 great but an important story to tell. Because have y'all 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:04.880 seen it yet? It's okay if you haven't, No, okay, 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:08.080 all right. So I'm playing an agent and there's this 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:11.439 child star named Ozzie Edwards and just like most child 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.559 stars they growing up with, you know, they got the money, 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:16.679 the fame. But the gag is I'm his agent who's 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.760 been molesting him since he was thirteen years old, which 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:20.439 is terrible. 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:21.719 But a lot of. 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:24.000 Times people let that pass with boys because they think, 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:26.520 you know, it's dope that there's an older woman trying 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:29.240 to turn him on. But it's not cool, so he 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:33.240 kept it hidding. The secret comes out and it's a gag. 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.400 And I have six nephews. 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:45.880 You're trying to be funny, They can't share nothing with you. 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:51.600 I'm asking yeah, I'm fine, are you No? No, no, 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:53.000 but I didn't want to make sure he wasn't triggered. 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:56.839 That's what happened to him. He was blested by an 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:00.720 older woman. Yes, but the reason he wanted it to white, 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:05.560 the reason because she had a Jerry I. 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:08.000 Didn't like to smell her jerak that's what I saw. Yeah, 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:10.400 but I actually didn't like what she was doing to me. Okay, 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:12.720 but I told myself it was just smelling her Jerry 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:13.560 crow when I was eight. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.559 Okay, yes, but you know what different things to cope 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:20.320 this This young man on episode nine, the younger version 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:22.600 of me says to him, Oh, I'm sorry to know 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.640 you were gay, which is terrible. And that's what I 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.760 feel like some women will do to young boys too, 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:29.760 to try to push them off and make them feel like, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:34.800 you know, that's why you want. Yeah, they do all 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.000 types of stuff. And and she was wrong, not you 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:37.520 so well. 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:38.920 He was talking about drink girl. 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.360 And then therapist. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:47.319 Okay, but then when he got old it happened again. 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:48.120 He would sitting on laps. 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:48.360 It was just. 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:51.760 This is how much work it was. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:55.599 Like it you would have been ugly to be to 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:56.760 you boy. 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:57.640 And I'm doing all this work. 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:03.800 What well, the finale dropped last week, okay, okay, And 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:08.400 at the end because his his attorney Jax, who is Amiazi, 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.319 she plays the star in the show, Well, she finds 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:13.320 out what happened, she puts Monica on the stand and 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:16.160 it comes out to the family everybody, and then at 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:18.520 the end, Monica decides to go in and shoot the 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:23.079 place up. Yeah, and we don't know who she shot. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:24.960 So emotional place you've ever had to go to for 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:25.719 a role with it. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:27.199 That probably that absolutely. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.640 I got six nephews and so just to think about 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:31.880 my baby boys like i'd be in jail or hell, 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:34.320 did it? 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:35.120 Absolutely not? 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.679 Because I think it's my job as an actor to 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:40.040 tell the stories, even the ones that are difficult. And 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:41.600 I've had fans that are like, I can't believe you 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:43.719 do that. After Mercedes, we love Missades, why would you 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:46.079 come do this? Maybe they'll make you pay attention to 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.079 your baby boy when they come home. Maybe they'll make 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.600 you ask different questions or if you see him shifting. 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:53.079 So that's why I always want to take on roles 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:54.520 that tell important stories. 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:00.760 We work out. I love working out, going hiking. 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:03.640 Honestly, I've been with Mama so much, did I just 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.360 have to just tamp away from it? But yeah, just 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.520 stay in touch with who I am and step twelve 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:10.959 of the actor the actor Handbook for me is let 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:11.160 it go. 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:12.400 So it's not real. 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.560 I was gonna ask, so, how are you with your nephews? 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.440 Do you have different conversations with them now? Like, hey, 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:17.400 let me talk to you for a second. 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:23.040 Oh, always, because I know DJ, because I know you listening. Yes, 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:26.080 that my nephews are cute too. So I've already had 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:29.280 that situation with them with older women and I pick 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:30.880 up the phone and call. I told one girl, I 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:33.200 was like, I will find you and you will go 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:34.840 to jail. And I'm just gonna leave it at that. 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:40.880 So nephews, absolutely, Jesus, absolutely, they do it all the time. 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.040 I mean, so, I'm not crazy so seeing this, I 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.080 also did my research on it. But I've also seen it. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:50.760 I'm the only girl, so I've seen how the women act. 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.680 You know, you know your brother final he's married and 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:56.000 he's younger. You know, so yeah, you look at. 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:57.920 People, sorry, do you look at people differently when you 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.880 see like so not a big thing in our community 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:02.960 is you'll see like a thirty year old dating an 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.240 eighteen year old or a forty year old dating a 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.040 twenty year old. Do you look at people differently now 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:08.440 because of that, because of the role you play. 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.000 No, I don't think so long as they are of age, 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:14.160 I need them to be of age, because I mean, 0:15:14.560 --> 0:15:16.640 as long as they've grown, that's that's their business. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.920 I stay out of it. But longer but under age, 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:20.880 I'm absolutely und I'm snitching. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:24.480 I think it is very important that you did bring 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.520 up the fact that when it's like a double standards. Yeah, 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.440 when it when it's a woman, right, who is older 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:33.080 going after a guy? I mean, you know a young guy, 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:35.200 people tend to like leave that. 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.520 Yeah it's okay. Oh you you did that, that's what 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:39.080 you told her. It's not okay. 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:40.480 And the whole time you don't even know how the 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.480 young person is thinking. These young men, their minds are 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:46.200 not even like they trying to be cool at the 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:48.080 end of the day, and the whole time it's like, damn, 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:49.360 I was really molested. 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:50.800 I was That's appropriate. 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:52.840 You wouldn't even make jokes about it if it was 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:53.120 a woman. 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:56.360 No, that's that point. That is a huge point. 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:58.320 No one's making a joke about it when it's someone. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:00.360 Why are we joking about it when it's man? That's 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:01.200 a wonderful question. 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.480