Speaker 1: Drop all your diets. People got to learn to eat
Speaker 1: right for your blood type.
Speaker 2: And baby, I am so curious to see after you've
Speaker 2: had your blood work. Yes, what are the things that
Speaker 2: we're going to cut or keep?
Speaker 1: Doom doom doom, dead ass.
Speaker 2: Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devoured and we're the Ellis's.
Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with.
Speaker 2: Our voice and reading each other publicly as a form
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Speaker 1: Wait, I'll make you need therby most days. Wow.
Speaker 2: Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.
Speaker 1: Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open
Speaker 1: dialogue about some of li's most taboo topics.
Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.
Speaker 1: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass
Speaker 1: is a term that we say every day. So when
Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred
Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
Speaker 1: About to take phillows off to our whole new level.
Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now.
Speaker 1: All right, story time, So last summer around August, I
Speaker 1: think I.
Speaker 3: Told this story before, did you on the podcast?
Speaker 1: I think I told him on the podcast. I was
Speaker 1: coaching Jackson's twelve year old football team, and I decided
Speaker 1: to be scout team quarterback. In that moment, I realized
Speaker 1: that forty was creeping up because I hurt my knee.
Speaker 1: I got outside the pocket, I was running in the
Speaker 1: straight line. I did a little hesitation move and I
Speaker 1: felt a little and my mic was like my knee
Speaker 1: was like, he was like, hold up, I'm mad, I'm looky, man.
Speaker 1: But that was funny. Fun No, my knee really was
Speaker 1: like hold up week exactly, and I had swelling in
Speaker 1: my knee up until I say, November November. And the
Speaker 1: reason why I know it was November was because when
Speaker 1: did you get your results back for your blood type.
Speaker 3: I did in August.
Speaker 2: You guys, remember I was prepping for fashion weeks and
Speaker 2: I started cutting something.
Speaker 1: So it was August, right, and I watched your body
Speaker 1: completely change in four weeks. But it was November, and
Speaker 1: I remember when I started to make my change because
Speaker 1: the holidays were coming up, and I just felt like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not going to go into a
Speaker 1: new year dealing with eating everything that I wasn't supposed
Speaker 1: to eat during the holidays. After watching how your body
Speaker 1: changed after those four weeks, so I cut out everything
Speaker 1: you cut out which was dairy. I cut back on beef.
Speaker 1: I even cut back on chicken, and I ate a
Speaker 1: lot and eggs. Eggs, Oh my gosh. I used to
Speaker 1: have eggs all the time every morning. And I even
Speaker 1: I cut back on a lot of sugar. I don't from.
Speaker 1: If you see me around the house now, I always
Speaker 1: have my little bottle here, y'all see my bottle. Shout
Speaker 1: out to my sisters. I always got water in my bottle.
Speaker 1: I'm walking around my bottle because I I don't drink
Speaker 1: anything else other than water anymore. Since November till January,
Speaker 1: all the swelling in my knee has been gone. Haven't
Speaker 1: had the ice bye by inflation, I was able to
Speaker 1: go on tour and do a backflip in six different
Speaker 1: cities no issues with my knee. I was able to
Speaker 1: do full choreography for seven minutes with no issues.
Speaker 3: On my knee, like real choreography too.
Speaker 1: And prior to that, I couldn't even jog on the
Speaker 1: treadmill for longer than thirty seconds without my knee swelling up.
Speaker 1: And I can only contribute that to one thing changing
Speaker 1: my diet.
Speaker 2: All right, karaoke time, we're talking hobbies, blood work test results.
Speaker 3: Now, I can't wait to share.
Speaker 1: I know you can't wait to share because let me
Speaker 1: tell you some let me talk to karaoke. Then we're
Speaker 1: gonna talk to y'all about this.
Speaker 3: Okay, cool.
Speaker 1: So I'm talking about eating right for your blood type.
Speaker 1: So this song is dedicated my upbringing. All right, Sele
Speaker 1: Missionary Baptist Church.
Speaker 4: All right now, Martha Davis album, All and what on
Speaker 4: album on twenty third Street.
Speaker 1: The song is dedicated to you. I know it was
Speaker 1: dumb blood. I know it was dumb blood. I know
Speaker 1: it was the blood that saved me. Hey, hey, one
Speaker 1: day when I was lost, he died on up Cross.
Speaker 1: I know it was the blood that's saved me.
Speaker 3: Yes, so we're talking about it.
Speaker 1: You sounding pop, that's pop pop. Always shout out a
Speaker 1: rest in peace of my grandfather, Charles Edward Ellis that's.
Speaker 2: Man so well.
Speaker 3: Two different kinds of blood we're talking about.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, yeah, because that blood save me. Now
Speaker 1: my own blood.
Speaker 3: Right, let's be clear, Okay, let's be clear.
Speaker 2: All right, y'all, let's take a break and we're gonna
Speaker 2: get back into the meet of the show. We're going
Speaker 2: to listen to Devo as he presents his blood test results,
Speaker 2: and we're going to talk more about this overhaul and
Speaker 2: lifestyle change that we have embarked on. So stick around, y'all.
Speaker 1: All right, we're back.
Speaker 2: I am so excited for you. And I know that
Speaker 2: Devo thought that him going into this test that it
Speaker 2: was a Misery Loves Company kind of situation. Was it
Speaker 2: was not, and that he wanted I wanted for him
Speaker 2: to have all the allergies too, because, knowing my luck
Speaker 2: going into this, you would have had all the opposite
Speaker 2: allergies of.
Speaker 3: Me, and that we just couldn't eat anything in this house. Ever, however,
Speaker 3: you and.
Speaker 1: Your mom called me. They called me on the phone.
Speaker 1: You get to test? What like, what does it look like?
Speaker 1: When I can?
Speaker 3: We be excited for you to be healthy.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why.
Speaker 2: Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1: When I then said, yo, I'm not allergic to that
Speaker 1: many things the deflation I heard on the phone, your
Speaker 1: mother legitimately said, oh man, how much fun is that?
Speaker 2: Well you could talk to her about that, not me.
Speaker 2: I'm happy that my husband can be healthy, baby, and
Speaker 2: no got to worry about a lot of things.
Speaker 1: Well, well, here's here's the truth, all right.
Speaker 2: It makes my job that much easier having to fij.
Speaker 1: You no like you whatever you eat anyway, So that
Speaker 1: is true. But I have learned over time that the
Speaker 1: biggest haters in your life will be your mother and
Speaker 1: your wife. So anyway, I know it was a little
Speaker 1: bit disappointment because you wanted me to have to, you know,
Speaker 1: go through what you went through because you had to cut.
Speaker 3: I literally don't.
Speaker 2: And I've actually been okay since I cut a lot
Speaker 2: of the things, a lot of the things I don't
Speaker 2: even miss.
Speaker 1: But there's no Actually you've been great like you.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Have you seen this mid section? Baby?
Speaker 1: I have.
Speaker 2: But anyway, we're not talking about me today. We're talking
Speaker 2: about you. So all right, so how do you want
Speaker 2: to break it down? We can do by category. I
Speaker 2: think that's how we did mine, just to kind of
Speaker 2: give people an overview of like where you're well, you.
Speaker 4: Don't have any So what we found out, ladies and gentlemen,
Speaker 4: is that I'm Wolverine pretty much.
Speaker 2: He's been saying that for so long, that he is Wolverine,
Speaker 2: but no, like you literally are.
Speaker 1: No, okay, I am Wolverine, but I also have weaknesses, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: a lot, like like Superman and Kryptonite. And what I
Speaker 1: did find out doing this it was knowing that I
Speaker 1: was eating my way through my weaknesses, right, what do
Speaker 1: you mean? Okay?
Speaker 3: For example, break it down for us.
Speaker 1: I'm not allergic to a lot of things, am I
Speaker 1: not at all? But you know what I am allergic to?
Speaker 1: Highly beefy? And what do I eat? A lot of steak?
Speaker 1: I was eating steak. I was eating hamburgers, ox, steel ox.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Think about that, how much
Speaker 1: beef I eate?
Speaker 3: P We ain't give we ain't giving up.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, No, no, I'm gonna still eat things, you know,
Speaker 1: in moderation. But dairy cow's milk. I grew up drinking
Speaker 1: a lot of cow's milk. Way my protein was way protein.
Speaker 1: So every single day I was eating eggs, drinking milk,
Speaker 1: eating beef, not realizing that those were the highest things
Speaker 1: on this list for me to be allergic to, which
Speaker 1: made sense that I was always bloated.
Speaker 2: It makes Yeah.
Speaker 1: You used to say, yeah, deveout for as much as
Speaker 1: you work out. Yes, you you sure all bloated a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, your whole mid section would tell it, and at
Speaker 2: first I thought maybe it was your posture, but it
Speaker 2: wasn't your posture.
Speaker 1: I could just see all of it. Yeah, some of
Speaker 1: it was my posture. I have an anterior pelvic tilt,
Speaker 1: which a lot of athletes have from doing everything leaning forward,
Speaker 1: which means your hips are slightly leaned forward. So it
Speaker 1: always makes my butt look like it's poking out. That's wild.
Speaker 1: But yeah, some of it was my posture, but a
Speaker 1: lot of it was what I was eating.
Speaker 2: With your It's not good with milk too, because remember
Speaker 2: milk always makes him like.
Speaker 1: Nah, he definitely not. I grew up in that house.
Speaker 1: I know what happens when he sorry school. Trying to
Speaker 1: put too much of the business out there. But I
Speaker 1: don't know how my mother.
Speaker 2: Didn't think any black people supposed to be really drinking
Speaker 2: milk and dairy.
Speaker 1: I don't think any people are supposed to be drinking
Speaker 1: milk like that, like to be honest, unless it's a
Speaker 1: woman's milk, which we heard his liquid gold now would
Speaker 1: makes sense. If a woman creates everything through her body
Speaker 1: that's supposed to be fed to a newborn to grow,
Speaker 1: it makes that's what people should drink. Sense when I
Speaker 1: was working at the gym. There was a bunch of bodybuilders.
Speaker 1: And this is going to sound nasty to people, but
Speaker 1: you know what they were buying.
Speaker 2: I was about to say, breast milk. I forget how
Speaker 2: much it's going for now. I think, like I saw
Speaker 2: something recently like four ounces of breastmolke was going for
Speaker 2: something crazy, like forty dollars like four Yeah, something crazy,
Speaker 2: something crazy to them, some some overproducers.
Speaker 1: Babe, come on, come on, let me just put on
Speaker 1: I was an investment.
Speaker 3: I wasn't an overproducer.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I just made enough to get by, you.
Speaker 1: Know much to get four ounces, you could do at
Speaker 1: least four ounces a day. You do how many ounces
Speaker 1: do you think you can do a day? Usually doing
Speaker 1: my sixteen?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: More than that.
Speaker 1: I mean you gonna make it. You know what, you
Speaker 1: could do one hundred and sixty dollars a day.
Speaker 3: It's going to cost you to have to reverse that
Speaker 3: of It's sext to me, though, how.
Speaker 1: Much did that cost?
Speaker 2: You really would consider it?
Speaker 1: Hell? No, ain't nobody putting on scalpel next to my nuts.
Speaker 2: No more but one time, one and done, one and done.
Speaker 2: So that was in the dairy category. Next category that was.
Speaker 1: The dairy category vegetables. I'm not allergic to anything except
Speaker 1: mildly allergic to carrots. Mildly, it says load and moderate.
Speaker 3: Okay, mine was high, but it was for carrot.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So everything else was in the green.
Speaker 3: Which was odd because I don't like carrots anyway.
Speaker 2: So part of me was wondering, is it because I
Speaker 2: don't have a taste for carrots and don't really care
Speaker 2: for them? Is that aligning with the allergy that they
Speaker 2: found out or not? No?
Speaker 1: Not for nothing. I also felt like too, after I
Speaker 1: did cut back on all of the things that was
Speaker 1: on yours, my body and my taste buds changed. I
Speaker 1: started craving vegetables and fruits like I've had a sigh
Speaker 1: bowl every day for like the past two and a
Speaker 1: half months.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you need stocking it. At this point, I've been.
Speaker 1: Feeling great, Like I've really been feeling great.
Speaker 2: You know what I want? I wonder if because you
Speaker 2: changed your eating habits since about August September, around the
Speaker 2: time that I have and you just took your blood
Speaker 2: were here in February. I wonder if certain things are
Speaker 2: lower just because you haven't been consuming as much of it.
Speaker 1: Now, that wouldn't make any sense because because I have
Speaker 1: been consuming, like I still been consuming more beef and
Speaker 1: with this, so it's higher, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So I think it just takes your blood and sees
Speaker 1: what inflames your blood or inflames the things in your bodies.
Speaker 1: It wouldn't change based on what you're eating, because then
Speaker 1: people could change the entire tests and then not eat
Speaker 1: anything before.
Speaker 2: And then she did say I can retest in a year,
Speaker 2: but I mean, typically you do a physical once year,
Speaker 2: so it would make sense to retest it. But I
Speaker 2: remember her telling me if I did cut these things
Speaker 2: from my diet, did a detox and everything, she'd be
Speaker 2: curious to see what my test would look like next year.
Speaker 1: It told me that to my bad, but that was
Speaker 1: for the levels for hormones. Okay, so that wasn't for
Speaker 1: what you're allergic to. She did say, if you test
Speaker 1: again within a year, all of this will probably be
Speaker 1: extremely different.
Speaker 2: Right, And that's more of the CBC panel, but we'll
Speaker 2: get to that after. Okay, cool herbs and spices, But
Speaker 2: made leary of that is that I had a mild
Speaker 2: allergy to curry and I was like, how, like, how
Speaker 2: that's literally in my blood, like being part Jamaican of
Speaker 2: getting innocent and then vincentioned by way of Pakistan, India
Speaker 2: and Sri Lanka. That's that's what we eat. Something like wow,
Speaker 2: would I have an analogy to curry?
Speaker 1: Because just because you were born somewhere doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: your body still isn't is not trying to resist it
Speaker 1: like your body is probably like I don't want to
Speaker 1: eat that, right, You're gonna see what I'm saying because
Speaker 1: I man and you came up of a mix of
Speaker 1: different people, obviously, so whatever cultures decided that that's what's
Speaker 1: going to be the prominent culture doesn't mean that all
Speaker 1: the other mixes just get eliminated. And also you could
Speaker 1: be allergic because the other mixes don't agree with it.
Speaker 3: Don't agree with it, Yeah, which is to.
Speaker 1: Me it makes sense like herbs and spices. I'm not
Speaker 1: allergic you nothing. I should have known that because you
Speaker 1: mad spicy.
Speaker 2: That's the bad baby.
Speaker 1: No spooning knife neither. Just be in there face first.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, grains, grains, grains.
Speaker 1: The only thing I was mildly allergic to is oat.
Speaker 1: But I don't even eat oatmeal like that.
Speaker 3: I wish that was like my goat to.
Speaker 2: One of my go to breakfast is like staple, and
Speaker 2: I can't have oat anymore.
Speaker 3: No oat milk.
Speaker 1: I have no allergy to corn, which makes sense because
Speaker 1: I like grits. I grew up in the grits, so
Speaker 1: that's probably why my body craved that. Nuts and seeds holes.
Speaker 1: I have no allergies at all to nuts and seeds holes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I can't eat and which is crazy because on
Speaker 1: my side balls, I always get all of the different
Speaker 1: can't I'm gonna pause this the whole time. I get
Speaker 1: all the nuts and the seeds on it because it
Speaker 1: helps me feel better, and I actually do feel better,
Speaker 1: Like I'm kidding you not, ladies and gentlemen. When when
Speaker 1: K did it first, I was very skeptical. He was.
Speaker 1: I was extremely before he.
Speaker 2: Did it, and I had to make him the appointment.
Speaker 2: I was like, because ultimately I just want to know.
Speaker 2: I feel like knowing is better and that way we
Speaker 2: can just move accordingly. Whether it was your allergic to
Speaker 2: all the things or not, it just it was necessary.
Speaker 1: And what was the most thing I was nervous about.
Speaker 1: Do you remember not being able to eat.
Speaker 3: What seafood, seafood, seafood.
Speaker 1: I have no seafood allergies whatsoever. But I'm mildly and
Speaker 1: when I mean mildly, it says lo to cod and muscle.
Speaker 1: I don't eat much muscles, and I don't eat cod
Speaker 1: at all. So crab nothing, catfish, nothing, lobster nothing ockt
Speaker 1: up using shrimp. You're so silly, and I'm so happy
Speaker 1: because if they would have told me I couldn't eat like.
Speaker 2: Again, whenever we get ready to go offering, I like
Speaker 2: about what do you feel for? He's like seafood always
Speaker 2: see food, so but it makes it. That's my least allergy.
Speaker 2: So you and I are definitely gonna do a lot
Speaker 2: more of this pescatarian lifestyle now that we can.
Speaker 1: We know that we can partake in that fruits. No,
Speaker 1: I'm mildly allergic to lime. I don't eat a lot
Speaker 1: of lime. I do like lime maade, though, because you
Speaker 1: know like that this is this is it limeade. So
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna drink that anymore. And I'm highly allergic
Speaker 1: to peaches, which is crazy because.
Speaker 3: You ate peaches a lot. Don't know fruits.
Speaker 1: I still do peach.
Speaker 2: That was my ale. Well name guys back in the day,
Speaker 2: shout out to aol days that's only gotten juicy here,
Speaker 2: only gotten ripers. You know what I'm saying. You know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. I'm a peach with an apple core baby,
Speaker 2: don't forget it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, in New York day, all.
Speaker 2: Day, every day. Maybe, but no, this.
Speaker 1: Was this was actually very very insightful.
Speaker 2: You have no candida, no candida, no yeast build up yet.
Speaker 2: So I still have to do my detox. Like I
Speaker 2: haven't had a chance to. I have not been still
Speaker 2: in this in this state for fourteen weeks to do
Speaker 2: a detox with her. But I have made the necessary
Speaker 2: changes to my diet in the interim to at least
Speaker 2: see if there would have been a difference. And I mean,
Speaker 2: I even look at you in your midsections floating that
Speaker 2: you've had. I think about the chiropractor, us having lower
Speaker 2: back pain, all of that. Like, my lower back pain
Speaker 2: has improved significantly, and a lot of it I'm wondering
Speaker 2: is was it just because I was eating all of
Speaker 2: these things that inflamed my body literally from the inside out. Yeah,
Speaker 2: all right, let's get into some facts and stats. Not
Speaker 2: the devout has given us his very anti climactic results.
Speaker 1: It's anti because I'm healthy.
Speaker 3: There's nothing going on.
Speaker 2: There's nothing going on, and it makes me also think
Speaker 2: about well, we'll talk about this as we dive into
Speaker 2: this a little bit more. But all right, so getting
Speaker 2: into facts, since that's naturalopathy or now naturopathic medicine is
Speaker 2: a system of medicine based on the healing power of nature.
Speaker 2: It is a holistic system, meaning that naturopathic am I
Speaker 2: saying that right, naturopathic doctors ends or naturopathic medical doctors
Speaker 2: and they're also abbreviated as nmds strive to find the
Speaker 2: cause of the disease by understanding the body, mind, and
Speaker 2: spirit of the person.
Speaker 1: That's dangerous. Do you know what it's dangerous? What does
Speaker 1: this company run on.
Speaker 2: It's eliminating the pharmaceutical industry.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so if it's eliminating the pharmaceutical industry, which
Speaker 1: is one of the biggest industries in this country, that
Speaker 1: explains why this is not being talked about.
Speaker 2: Well, the food industry as well, partnered with the industry,
Speaker 2: keeps us ill, keeps us sick, which we all know,
Speaker 2: and that is exactly why ends or nmds are not
Speaker 2: recognized or respected within the medical health care system, and
Speaker 2: it's just why it's an expense. For example, we both
Speaker 2: had to drop over three grand each for our.
Speaker 1: Tests because ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 2: It's not covered, it's not covered by insurance. But it's
Speaker 2: one of those things around the around. I were like, well,
Speaker 2: we're going to make the investment in our health. We
Speaker 2: want to know, we want to do better. So here
Speaker 2: we are.
Speaker 1: And the truth is, everything I was dealing with before,
Speaker 1: my inflammation, my back pain, everything we're doing, I could
Speaker 1: have helped with the symptoms by taking ibuprofen. Oh yeah, manage,
Speaker 1: I'm saying, to manage the symptoms. And that's what that's
Speaker 1: what the healthcare system has become, right, a management of symptoms,
Speaker 1: not so much getting to the cure cure of the problem.
Speaker 1: It's just let's manage the symptoms and let's keep people
Speaker 1: on this cycle of managing systems because that's how we
Speaker 1: get consistent money.
Speaker 2: Absolutely with all of these chronic illnesses like the hypertension
Speaker 2: and the diabetes and such. In two thousand and eight,
Speaker 2: approximately thirty eight percent of adults in the United States
Speaker 2: aged eighteen years and over eighteen years and over and
Speaker 2: nearly twelve percent of few US children aged seventeen and
Speaker 2: under use some form of complimentary and alternative medicine. Naturopathic
Speaker 2: medicine focuses heavily on prevention. This means that a naturopathic
Speaker 2: doctor Endy will work with patients to determine the healthiest
Speaker 2: diets and lifestyle choices for each person's individual health concerns
Speaker 2: and conditions. And I know we spoke about this in
Speaker 2: my episode with my mom where she was seeing dermatologist
Speaker 2: about her skin. Everything was topical. They were just wanting
Speaker 2: to prescribe random pills that were all kind of trial
Speaker 2: and error, where as the approach that the holistic doctor
Speaker 2: took was to say what's going on internally, And as
Speaker 2: we can see, since my mom has been working with
Speaker 2: her and did the detox program and changed her diet,
Speaker 2: her skin has lightened up significantly significantly. And we knew
Speaker 2: it would be a slow process because it takes so
Speaker 2: many years for us to get to that point where
Speaker 2: it now. As from a corrective standpoint, you know, it's
Speaker 2: going to take some time to get back to the
Speaker 2: new norm.
Speaker 1: And I just want to be clear, like we're not
Speaker 1: here saying don't go to the doctor. You know some
Speaker 1: people are that extreme.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying that definitely.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying is, when you go to the doctor,
Speaker 1: make sure you request certain blood panels and things so
Speaker 1: you can find out information about yourself. Kadeen just recently
Speaker 1: told me about a young lady on Instagram who passed
Speaker 1: away for a year. She was misdiagnosed with firebullys, a
Speaker 1: little overous. She was misdiagnosed with fireboys. Come to find
Speaker 1: out that she had cervical cancer. Yes, and this is
Speaker 1: not blaming her or her doctor, but rip Jessica. But
Speaker 1: I just want to make it clear that it's important
Speaker 1: for us that we have the ability to request certain
Speaker 1: tests so that when we want to know information about ourselves,
Speaker 1: we can have it rather than just saying, oh, my
Speaker 1: doctor said this. Let's continuously do more research and more
Speaker 1: research so we can find better ways to help ourselves
Speaker 1: live longer. You also showed me another study about a
Speaker 1: series of women who wanted to change the aging process.
Speaker 1: So they I forgot the name of the study, but
Speaker 1: they all participated in the study where they had to
Speaker 1: eat a certain diet, they had to sleep seven hours
Speaker 1: a day, they had to do breathing meditation ten minutes
Speaker 1: twice a day. There was certain things that they had
Speaker 1: to do as a just as a human, which was
Speaker 1: considered a lifestyle change. Most of the women were able
Speaker 1: to change their age. Just two types of age. There's
Speaker 1: chronological age and there's your biological age. Biological age has
Speaker 1: a lot to do with the chromosomes and how old
Speaker 1: your body quote unquote looks based on.
Speaker 2: Stressors, of factors the impact.
Speaker 1: So for example, someone can be sixty years old biologically
Speaker 1: or no sixty years old chronologically, but biologically their cells
Speaker 1: could be thirty five based on how they took care
Speaker 1: of their body.
Speaker 2: That makes sense because you can look at it, for example,
Speaker 2: a seventy year old and look at how two seventy
Speaker 2: year olds move according to their lifestyle, what they've done,
Speaker 2: you know, throughout maybe for work, even throughout the course
Speaker 2: of their years, what they've consumed, and how active they are,
Speaker 2: and they move like two completely different people.
Speaker 1: Now, I want to say this, if you look at
Speaker 1: the whole term black, don't crack right. I just want
Speaker 1: people to think about this. Black people, of all people
Speaker 1: have the highest rate of not going to the doctor,
Speaker 1: mainly because they don't trust doctors. They don't trust the
Speaker 1: system not so much. They don't trust doctors, not like
Speaker 1: they don't trust the individual doctor. They don't trust the
Speaker 1: system of healthcare. With that being said, a lot of
Speaker 1: Black people try to find homeopathic ways to heal yes themselves,
Speaker 1: which makes me wonder if there's a reason why black
Speaker 1: doesn't crack, it is because we don't get so we
Speaker 1: don't get as involved in the cycle of trying to
Speaker 1: cure the symptoms as opposed to curing the actual disease,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, for example, think about
Speaker 1: my family. We have our own issues with diabetes because
Speaker 1: we won't go to the doctor, but we'll eat like trash.
Speaker 2: I was about to say, and that's the only thing.
Speaker 1: But we'll eat like trash, but we don't consume medication
Speaker 1: like other people consume. So it's almost like if you
Speaker 1: eat like trash, you're sick. You're killing yourself, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But you're not killing yourself as fast
Speaker 1: if you don't mask the symptoms with narcotics. So it's
Speaker 1: like poor diet and narcotics means you age faster. Black
Speaker 1: people because we don't believe in narcotics. We don't believe
Speaker 1: in that system, don't take narcotics, but we eat terrible.
Speaker 1: Imagine if those same people like you and I change
Speaker 1: our diets so that we're no longer eating like trash
Speaker 1: and not dependent on narcotics. That's how you slow the
Speaker 1: aging process but also become more healthy from the inside.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. I'm not a professional and
Speaker 1: I'm not an expert, but what I'm saying is I
Speaker 1: see it with my own family, my family like you.
Speaker 1: Look at my nanny, my Papa John, my nana and papa.
Speaker 1: They all looked extremely young. Look at your parents, look
Speaker 1: at your mom. They all look extremely young. But your
Speaker 1: mom had issues with her gut because of how she ate.
Speaker 1: Mom also started to age a lot faster between fifty
Speaker 1: and sixty fist stress because of stress. But also remember
Speaker 1: they put her on a pain regimen because of her heart,
Speaker 1: and they also put her on a pill for the
Speaker 1: past like ten years.
Speaker 2: Right, No, it wasn't the pain regiment. It was just
Speaker 2: a regiment in general, just over just to look.
Speaker 1: On.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that's that was just like a blood thinner.
Speaker 1: That's then they put on.
Speaker 2: It's another medication that she should have only been taking
Speaker 2: for like six months to a year after she had
Speaker 2: the heart attack, and the doctor wasn't clear. She just
Speaker 2: was refilling prescriptions and orders. And my mother was on
Speaker 2: that medication for eleven years.
Speaker 1: But you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Eleven years she was consuming that medication.
Speaker 1: You see exactly what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: It's giving lawsuit.
Speaker 1: I don't know why it is giving loss. But are
Speaker 1: you understanding what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: No, I'm understanding what you're saying.
Speaker 1: For prescribing to the medication and doing it for years,
Speaker 1: your mom has aged a lot over the last ten years,
Speaker 1: and it makes you wonder, like, Yo, what if she
Speaker 1: didn't ever take that medication and she changed the way she.
Speaker 2: Ate right altogether? Right, that would have been the healing
Speaker 2: pro fifty Right. My mom still looks great for her age.
Speaker 2: But just considering everything, you know, it doesn't make a
Speaker 2: lot of sense. No, I was thinking about it when
Speaker 2: you first mentioned that whole point. I'm just like, h,
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's necessarily true, because I do know, like,
Speaker 2: for example, your dad with his diabetes scare right at first,
Speaker 2: he was just like super drastic, changed his diet, everything
Speaker 2: because of the scare of everything.
Speaker 3: It was like, oh my god, I can't believe, like
Speaker 3: I almost literally died from this.
Speaker 2: But then as he got comfortable, now it's like, all right, well,
Speaker 2: I still want to eat my sweets, I want to
Speaker 2: drink my soda and eat things I want to eat.
Speaker 2: But now I'm going to toll the line and manage
Speaker 2: between how I'm giving my you know, diabetes medication and
Speaker 2: how I eat.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: So I'm just thinking, if, for example, now he were
Speaker 2: to just completely overhaul change his diet, cut those things,
Speaker 2: how much younger he would look not having to depending
Speaker 2: on it.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: No, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: At first, you said, you said, I don't know because
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: No, I said, at first, at first when you mentioned
Speaker 2: that point, I wasn't sure that I agreed with you.
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is that now it makes sense
Speaker 2: for your father, and he was the example that came
Speaker 2: to mind, as you explained yourself.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I was using both like our parents
Speaker 1: as those examples, like my mom looks wild young, my
Speaker 1: mom don't like going to the doctor for anything, and
Speaker 1: she doesn't work out, and she doesn't work out, you know,
Speaker 1: she doesn't eat great, but she doesn't eat bad. And
Speaker 1: it's like, Wow, my mom really looks young, and it
Speaker 1: makes me wonder, Like, say she subscribed to taking prescriptions.
Speaker 1: Remember she has a swollen foot and doctors, I gotta
Speaker 1: take the pill. I'm gonna take this pill. But she hasn't,
Speaker 1: And it just makes me wonder, Like how many other
Speaker 1: cultures the reason why their bodies go through that, that
Speaker 1: look of being decrepit at a young age is because
Speaker 1: you get dependent on pharmaceuticals. There's no way your body
Speaker 1: was made for that. Like I'll give you guys an example.
Speaker 1: Kaz had well we didn't know he had, but he
Speaker 1: stepped on something downstairs and started bleeding. I'm cleaning his foot.
Speaker 1: I'm taking a needle I sterilized in it. I'm like,
Speaker 1: there's something must be in from bleeding. It must be
Speaker 1: a spinster. There's nothing I can see coming out. I
Speaker 1: tell Okay at the time, I say, bag, don't worry
Speaker 1: about it. The body is going to naturally coat whatever's
Speaker 1: in there if there's something in there, and it's gonna
Speaker 1: expel it on its own time. And she was just
Speaker 1: like you sure, I said, trust me, my kid. I
Speaker 1: used to run around beerfoot all the time, like this
Speaker 1: thing's happened. About three days later, Kadz is sitting up
Speaker 1: there on the couch the bottom of his foot there's
Speaker 1: a black spot. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 2: When I saw, I was like, when its sound on
Speaker 2: your foot, I thought maybe he stepped on something and
Speaker 2: it stuck to us for the sticker. And I saw
Speaker 2: it and I'm like, Kads, what happened to your foot?
Speaker 2: And he tucked it under and he was like huh
Speaker 2: because he just knew like we were going to investigate
Speaker 2: this further. Now y'all know I don't do squeamish stuff.
Speaker 2: I don't do bodily fluids, blood all that. Y'all already
Speaker 2: heard about the whole sneak peak test and the fingerstick
Speaker 2: and all that.
Speaker 3: It was passed out. So I literally and it was
Speaker 3: funny because.
Speaker 2: I think I had done like an Instagram story showing
Speaker 2: Matt holding Kaz's hand and looking at his foot when
Speaker 2: he initially figured, you know, felt something in his foot.
Speaker 2: This was literally like a week and change later it
Speaker 2: was and I see the black spot. I look at
Speaker 2: it and I'm like, oh, it had to be a
Speaker 2: weekend around it changed because Matt had left. It'll be
Speaker 2: called Matt.
Speaker 1: And Matt you right.
Speaker 2: And Deval looked at it and I'm like, okay, it
Speaker 2: looked a little swollen around the black spot. Then Deval
Speaker 2: just started squeezing and pushing it. And Caz was sitting
Speaker 2: there nervous, of course, but he said no. And Deval
Speaker 2: was literally squeezing and pushing and pushing, and it literally exploded.
Speaker 1: Exploded, and then the glass just started to come out
Speaker 1: like this flash.
Speaker 3: It was significant.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 1: It was It was at least a coreter of an inch,
Speaker 1: and it was in there for a while, but it
Speaker 1: came out and it came out whole and solid, And
Speaker 1: the best part about it is when it came out right,
Speaker 1: and once I squeezed everything out, it wasn't bleeding anymore.
Speaker 1: But I've seen that before my dad. My dad fell
Speaker 1: up against the door right boom, arms starts bleeding. Doesn't
Speaker 1: know why his arm is bleeding. He's just like, I
Speaker 1: just got a little thing here. This is when I
Speaker 1: was in the junior lane, when I was about fifteen.
Speaker 1: We're at we're in the poken when this happens. He
Speaker 1: falls up against the door. Weeks later, we're at home. Right,
Speaker 1: his arm has a little bit of a like the
Speaker 1: same thing, a little black spot, and my mom goes trying, trying,
Speaker 1: and they need chink that checked out. You know, it
Speaker 1: could be melanoma. You know mother's mother's always going to
Speaker 1: go to the worst possibility, the extreme it can come out.
Speaker 1: So now he's going He's like, no, can stop because
Speaker 1: he don't want to go to the doctor. Right, he's
Speaker 1: squeezing it. And while he's squeaming it, squeezing it, we're
Speaker 1: seeing a protrusion of the arm. So we're all watching it. Okay,
Speaker 1: I kid you not, you can ask my dad. He
Speaker 1: squeezed it until a nail came out of his arm,
Speaker 1: and it was coated black. It was colding in black,
Speaker 1: and it came out and it spilled out, and then
Speaker 1: the thing on his arm just closed back. Black came out,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't like it was like a whole like
Speaker 1: long nail, but the nail was at least about that
Speaker 1: was like a half an inch and it was very
Speaker 1: very tiny. But then Ramon gets who is actually a
Speaker 1: doctor now he told us, you know, well, the body
Speaker 1: has a way of coding whatever objects that are foreign
Speaker 1: in it. Coding it and then finding a way to
Speaker 1: expel it. Even he said, even when you eat it,
Speaker 1: there's things that are in your body, your body will
Speaker 1: expel it. You don't have to do anything if you
Speaker 1: eat something or swallow something.
Speaker 2: Like anybody, this might be TMI, but I know y'all
Speaker 2: all experienced it. Like does the body like not like corn?
Speaker 1: Well, corn doesn't digest all the way all the time.
Speaker 1: You be looking at your pool.
Speaker 2: I would I would feel a way about you if
Speaker 2: you didn't assess your pool. You didn't know what's going on.
Speaker 1: You look at your pool. That's especially at my age
Speaker 1: with cold, cancer and things happening, and it.
Speaker 3: Needs to be colored, textured, Does it float, does it not?
Speaker 3: Does it disintegrate?
Speaker 1: Like we need to know all the details, Like I know,
Speaker 1: I know we may get joke your ladies and gentlemen,
Speaker 1: but this is actually the truth. You should look at
Speaker 1: your poop to understand what's going on in your stomach
Speaker 1: and in your body. Like if your poop is gray,
Speaker 1: if it smells like rank and it's reeks, you're eating
Speaker 1: stuff that your body doesn't for blood. It looks for
Speaker 1: blood in it. Sometimes the food in your stomach that's
Speaker 1: not digestible rots in your stomach. That's why it smells
Speaker 1: so bad. Whereas if you eat other things like seeds
Speaker 1: and fruits and vegetables, when you poop, it's not as bad.
Speaker 1: This is a fact, a scientific fact. I'm not lying.
Speaker 1: I haven't said that in a long time, but this
Speaker 1: is a scientific fact. Based on what you eat, Based
Speaker 1: on what you eat, your poop and your farts don't
Speaker 1: smell as much. You know what I'm saying. If you
Speaker 1: dating somebody in the they farts have like an oily discharge.
Speaker 1: What you got to ask that person. You gotta ask
Speaker 1: that person what you eat?
Speaker 2: Do you really want to know?
Speaker 1: Do you really want to know? How I got.
Speaker 2: That?
Speaker 1: So I tell y'all. We have our guys groups, right,
Speaker 1: We have our guys groups.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: In one of our guys groups, one of the young
Speaker 1: men asked a question, was like, Yo, this is real talk.
Speaker 1: I got to go to the doctor and be like, wow,
Speaker 1: He's like, whenever I fart, there's like an oily discharge
Speaker 1: that stays in my draws.
Speaker 2: Bruh.
Speaker 1: So yeah, y'all, can't hear Matt in the back laugh
Speaker 1: And I hit Matt in the back laughing. But We
Speaker 1: were just like, bro, you need to go get that
Speaker 1: checked out. He did go get that checked out, and
Speaker 1: you know what, he said, He's eating all of the
Speaker 1: wrong things. They said, fast food, saturated fat, sugars, all
Speaker 1: of that stuff is not digestive.
Speaker 3: So literally just building up in there.
Speaker 1: And over years, they said, it comes out two ways.
Speaker 1: It comes out in your bowels and it'll come out
Speaker 1: house skin, skin, in your pores. He had bad acne
Speaker 1: and he would, you know, squeeze his skin and it
Speaker 1: would come out and it would be like he would
Speaker 1: say it too, like he was like, I would go
Speaker 1: through my skin and I would pull it out and
Speaker 1: even when I touched it it felt oily. And I
Speaker 1: was just like, bro, like, so what are you gonna do?
Speaker 2: You know what?
Speaker 1: He said? They gave me some stuff I could take.
Speaker 1: I said, how about you stop eating that?
Speaker 2: You like what you mean, get it wash out or
Speaker 2: some bush tea or something, and you yet a good
Speaker 2: wash out.
Speaker 1: It's another thing too, a lot of people in the
Speaker 1: world do not drink enough water.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, water is like water is.
Speaker 2: My father recently in the hospital with leg pain, which
Speaker 2: we thought was a blood clot. That's one thing with
Speaker 2: deval and I anybody under our care. Okay, anybody under
Speaker 2: our care. This is a whole nother episode having parents,
Speaker 2: but anybody under a care. The minute you say something
Speaker 2: is not feeling right, We're going to get the shit
Speaker 2: checked out. We're not waiting, we're not trying to figure
Speaker 2: it out, We're not sleeping it off. And I think
Speaker 2: what really triggered that for us and really struck a
Speaker 2: chord was when I had my postpartum preclamshit episode. Yes,
Speaker 2: because baby, everything in me was going to stay in
Speaker 2: that bed and take a nap and say, let me
Speaker 2: try to sleep off this headache after I take this
Speaker 2: motor in and I would have not woken up literally
Speaker 2: what they told me. So anybody feel any little thing.
Speaker 2: My father had a leg pain on a Friday, which
Speaker 2: I didn't even know. We didn't know Cairo, you know
Speaker 2: doctor Cairo. He also is like very much a nurturer.
Speaker 2: I'm going to take Papa some chyle and all I
Speaker 2: think he has a headache. We're like, okay, it's really bad.
Speaker 2: Turns yeah, it turns out that he actually had leg pain.
Speaker 2: And then I know my father has poor circulation diabean
Speaker 2: it's and all that going on. So when the pain
Speaker 2: came back two or three days later, I hit my
Speaker 2: sister because she like, now she's about to be a
Speaker 2: nurse practitioner. She graduates in May.
Speaker 1: Shout out to we don't google no more because Google,
Speaker 1: I have you in your house, fucked up.
Speaker 2: Bar, Please write in anybody who's had mezzothelioma, because that's
Speaker 2: the running joke with us.
Speaker 3: We don't know not one.
Speaker 2: Person that's ever had it, and it's got commercial the
Speaker 2: commercial making seem like it is literally like everywhere an epidemic.
Speaker 1: Okay right now.
Speaker 2: We called my sister and we're like, yo, what should
Speaker 2: we do? And she's just like, shoud get that checked
Speaker 2: out because we're concerned about like a blood clod or
Speaker 2: deep things from bros.
Speaker 3: It's like all of those things. Turns out he just
Speaker 3: needs to drink more water.
Speaker 2: Dehydration dehydration killer. Dehydration is a killer. Water is huge.
Speaker 2: I've gotten compliments on my skin more recently. Even two
Speaker 2: of my makeup artists who I use when I was
Speaker 2: on tour, one in New York and one based in Houston.
Speaker 2: They both were like, what are you doing differently to
Speaker 2: your skin? And I'm like not much. I mean I
Speaker 2: did get a facial recently started using a couple of products,
Speaker 2: you know, trying to stay in the regimen. But I
Speaker 2: really think it's like from the inside out. Not consuming
Speaker 2: all of these things that was literally making me sick.
Speaker 2: And you could see it on the outside.
Speaker 1: It is on the inside out, but it's also on
Speaker 1: the outside, and specifically with makeup, because I noticed when
Speaker 1: you do wear a lot of makeup consistently, for example,
Speaker 1: if we're on tour or something, you start to get
Speaker 1: little fine bumps, you know what I'm saying. And I
Speaker 1: say this for ladies who don't understand, like why my
Speaker 1: man hate when I wear makeup. I always hated where
Speaker 1: Kate wore makeup because I felt like her face looked
Speaker 1: the most even and the most smooth when she had
Speaker 1: on some lip gloss and some eyeliner, that's it. When
Speaker 1: she got on all the powder and the foundation and
Speaker 1: the con toward the cheek and the nose, Yeah, it
Speaker 1: looks good for photos, but I got to look at
Speaker 1: that shit in person and I'd be like, bab, why
Speaker 1: your face looks so textured?
Speaker 2: And I got a little bound and then it would
Speaker 2: be a casualty having to hug you because your shirt
Speaker 2: get messed up always.
Speaker 1: But I mean it did go both ways though, because
Speaker 1: when I used to put all the fibers in my hair.
Speaker 2: Wait a second, shout out to my man with this
Speaker 2: hair coming in hot, okay. Everybody wanted him to give
Speaker 2: it up. Everybody had jokes, y'all was ready over the
Speaker 2: bouney to give it up, to bowned to give it up.
Speaker 3: It's giving my baby change his lifestyle and his habits.
Speaker 1: And take a look talking about this, how I approach
Speaker 1: people from now Look this how approach people from now?
Speaker 1: One was good jobs? What's up? What's up? You see?
Speaker 1: You see my hair going back? But no, when I
Speaker 1: used to put the fibers in my hair, and then
Speaker 1: I will hug k right, and then I would do
Speaker 1: scenes with Crystal and Christal would be like, all right,
Speaker 1: so we got a scene here where I'm supposed to
Speaker 1: rest my head on you when I put my face
Speaker 1: on your hair, I'm gonna have a beard when I
Speaker 1: come back. She said that to me, and I was
Speaker 1: fucking dying. Yeah, I was dying. So it's funny, how
Speaker 1: like with us with the makeup, I guess with y'all
Speaker 1: sometimes too. It's like what you got going on with
Speaker 1: the fibers, is it gonna be a problem today? Like
Speaker 1: if the fiber is gonna be a problem today?
Speaker 3: So which way is the windy outside?
Speaker 2: Does?
Speaker 3: I want to make sure you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I can't get in the pool.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You were talking about you. I can't get in the pool.
Speaker 1: Jump in the pool. My whole wig piece gonna flop out.
Speaker 1: Look they go. My fly was floating down and deepen that.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're so stupid.
Speaker 2: All right, So as we wrap this up, is there
Speaker 2: one or two more questions for you, just because this
Speaker 2: is your result beyond the nutrition component, because we know
Speaker 2: that you cut some things, You've seen some differences. Were
Speaker 2: there any other aspects of help that help of your
Speaker 2: health that you spoke to this doctor.
Speaker 1: About smoking weed?
Speaker 2: Oh? Yes, what's the revelation there? She asked about that?
Speaker 2: Or is that something you offered up?
Speaker 1: No, I asked her. I said, you know, I'm concerned
Speaker 1: because I know all this stuff about healthy habits and
Speaker 1: things of that nature. I told her I smoke. She
Speaker 1: asked if it was tobacco, and I said no, not tobacco,
Speaker 1: I smoke weed. She said, No, You're fine, because there
Speaker 1: are many healing factors in smoking marijuana. The problem typically
Speaker 1: with smoking marijuana for most people is I think it's
Speaker 1: bronchial irritation. So if you smoke too much and you're
Speaker 1: smoking in the ashes, you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: other than that, they're forget it. That was killing me
Speaker 1: for a long time. But no, she said, on top
Speaker 1: of just eating healthy, sleeping, I smoke to go to sleep,
Speaker 1: you know, like that's just a fact. Like my mind
Speaker 1: is always racing, and I've tried meditating, but when I smoke,
Speaker 1: I'm able to get into a deeper sense of thought
Speaker 1: and also let my body rest. So over the last
Speaker 1: couple of months, I've been sleeping a lot more, drinking
Speaker 1: a lot more water. I changed my workout strategy. I
Speaker 1: no longer do long, extensive hour and a half workouts.
Speaker 1: I keep my workouts to forty five minutes, and I
Speaker 1: do it purposely so that I can work out every day.
Speaker 1: Because before, when I would do like an hour and
Speaker 1: a half, two hours, it would be like Monday Tuesday,
Speaker 1: by Wednesday, I can't walk. My back hurt my shoulders,
Speaker 1: so then I got to take a day off on Wednesday,
Speaker 1: and the Thursday Friday, I get it in, but then
Speaker 1: Saturday Sunday I can't do anything, which was good for
Speaker 1: me for football because I was working out to optimize
Speaker 1: my performance. Now as I don't even want to say
Speaker 1: a non athletes, I'm still an athlete. My performance. Everything
Speaker 1: I'm doing is not production based, so I don't have
Speaker 1: to run a fourth or competitive, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I just have to be healthy and I have to
Speaker 1: be more flexible. That's another thing I've.
Speaker 2: Been inpetitive with these boys because they sure as hell
Speaker 2: be keeping you on your toes.
Speaker 1: Well did you see TJ when he came back. Shout
Speaker 1: out to my bonus son, my oldest son, TJ.
Speaker 2: He's so grown in handsome and just.
Speaker 1: Is he is growing. They came in head with muscles
Speaker 1: and tattoos and a beerd and ship. I was kind
Speaker 1: of like.
Speaker 2: His hair everything.
Speaker 3: I was like, he was like Cairo's age when he
Speaker 3: first started coming around.
Speaker 1: Grades is all good, but no, but seriously, you were saying,
Speaker 1: like being competitive, I want to always be. You know,
Speaker 1: we did everything when he was here. We played pool,
Speaker 1: we talked about doing table tennis. He had to leave
Speaker 1: before I got a chance to come back because I
Speaker 1: went to La but we was gonna play one on one,
Speaker 1: we was gonna race. So I always want to be
Speaker 1: healthy so that I can engage in those things with
Speaker 1: Jackson as well. Because Jackson's only twelve and TJ is nineteen,
Speaker 1: So that's seven years from now and then another seventeen
Speaker 1: for Dakota. So between seven and seventeen years, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have Jackson, Cairo, and Cash. So I got to make
Speaker 1: sure that I'm healthy, make sure I'm more flexible in stretch.
Speaker 1: K like said, I'm more flexible now. I like that
Speaker 1: K's more flexible.
Speaker 3: Kept them splits going, Baby, I'll still be stretching.
Speaker 1: Yeah, last night she did some things out. That's a
Speaker 1: whole other episode too, though. Perflexible. Gentlemen, gentlemen, let me
Speaker 1: tell you something now, and my lion and my lion
Speaker 1: my potency. My potency is way more potent now I've
Speaker 1: changed my dye. Oh that's another thing.
Speaker 3: She talked about testosterone for men.
Speaker 1: So my testosterone levels were no, not surprised high for
Speaker 1: my age. She asked me too, She was like, come,
Speaker 1: do you take any supplements, and I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't take any supplements form my testosterracis.
Speaker 1: That's good, she said, It means you must have a
Speaker 1: really good sex life because your testosterone is above average
Speaker 1: from man your age, which is shout out to you.
Speaker 1: I was about to say, shout out to you.
Speaker 3: Give me my flowers.
Speaker 1: Okay, So now you're not gonna like this this next part.
Speaker 3: Oh gosh.
Speaker 1: What my testosterone being regulated is because I have sex
Speaker 1: consistently and work out consistently. In order for me to
Speaker 1: maintain it, I have to continue to have sex consistently.
Speaker 1: So upon doctor's orders. Right upon doc disorders, you must
Speaker 1: bust it open and do your drops. Okay, now until
Speaker 1: death do us part.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's not bad news though, because think about
Speaker 2: how much things have improved on my end after I
Speaker 2: took the IUD out and you had your visectomy. Like, listen,
Speaker 2: it's the consideration that we both are taking for each
Speaker 2: other's health, for our individual health, for the family as
Speaker 2: a whole. Like our children are eating differently. They don't
Speaker 2: like the things they used to like. Sorry, but I'm
Speaker 2: just I got excited. I got you.
Speaker 1: I'm excited. We have to do another sex episode, mainly
Speaker 1: because I want to talk about how all of these
Speaker 1: changes have helped our sex life. So many couples don't
Speaker 1: understand what's going on with their sex life. They don't
Speaker 1: understand how stress, lack of sleep, poor diet is both
Speaker 1: hormonal changes. Right. We talked about this in the after
Speaker 1: show with Triple about men's hormones changing based on sexual output,
Speaker 1: women's hormones changing based on PMS. If a man and
Speaker 1: a woman or a man and a man, woman and
Speaker 1: woman doesn't matter. But if they can learn how their
Speaker 1: hormones are balanced and imbalance based on what they eat,
Speaker 1: what they do, how they see changing that lifestyle can
Speaker 1: help your sex literally.
Speaker 2: As we're proof y'all because listen, if you're our longtime
Speaker 2: listener of Dead Ass podcast, if you even go back
Speaker 2: to season one or couch Conversations, sex was always an
Speaker 2: issue for development. We were at season one and gods,
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, I'm trying to get them to go
Speaker 2: back and want to listen to tell they tell your
Speaker 2: friends listen.
Speaker 1: But no serious, But you're right though, Yeah, have.
Speaker 2: So many episodes talking about sex that I was exhausted
Speaker 2: after a while. I'm like, they're not gonna want to
Speaker 2: hear us talk about our damn sex life. I can,
Speaker 2: but you guys know this is our therapy session, and
Speaker 2: we can say that we're living proof that we are
Speaker 2: enjoying it.
Speaker 3: We're having a grand one.
Speaker 1: I can look right in the camera. I can tell
Speaker 1: you right now at forty, at forty years old, my
Speaker 1: wife is forty. We've had more sex in the past
Speaker 1: year than we've had on an annual basis through our
Speaker 1: twenties and thirties. Am I lying?
Speaker 2: Yep?
Speaker 1: And when I say sex, I mean sex and not
Speaker 1: just Oh, let me bend over and give this nigga
Speaker 1: something more and me let me just take, let me
Speaker 1: take what I gotta get. No, it's been really really
Speaker 1: good sexual sessions because we've just been in a better
Speaker 1: place mentally, of course, but physically, her not having her
Speaker 1: hormones temper with because of control.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and physical like that's been a question before too, Like, oh,
Speaker 2: you gained a little weight and your spouse is not
Speaker 2: even it's not that into you because you've gained a
Speaker 2: little white weight or vice versas. You're not feeling confident
Speaker 2: about the way you look, so then therefore you can't
Speaker 2: be confident when you engage with your partner. All of
Speaker 2: that is important. All of that is important, and that's
Speaker 2: why Deval and I are hyper focused about it. It's
Speaker 2: not always for the vanity of things. It's about the longevity. Though.
Speaker 3: We do enjoy looking at each other and being like, ma'am.
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, it's good.
Speaker 3: I told more kids, like.
Speaker 1: What fuck after four kids? You just look good. You
Speaker 1: just look it ain't after you just look good. Like
Speaker 1: I look at you in there today and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, for you changing your diet, working out more consistently,
Speaker 1: your legs are more tight, your waist is small, your
Speaker 1: butt's sitting on your back. It's like you it's almost
Speaker 1: like you've gone back to your twenties, but you're better
Speaker 1: than your twenties because through life you've developed parts of
Speaker 1: your body that you want to accentuate that you know that, you.
Speaker 2: Know, I like you as well, working on muscle for
Speaker 2: years yet right, So for.
Speaker 1: Me, it's just like I want people when they listen
Speaker 1: to this and they understand the health aspect because we're
Speaker 1: always talked. We've always talked about sex, and then when
Speaker 1: sex wasn't a problem, we haven't talked about it.
Speaker 2: As much because it's not a problem problem anymore.
Speaker 1: Yet it's important to tell them like these were the
Speaker 1: steps we took to change, because me and my boys
Speaker 1: talk about it all the time from everything, like I
Speaker 1: don't shount their names out. But even when it came
Speaker 1: to the thin en and I was telling them like, yo,
Speaker 1: like I started using Rogain and monoxidal as well because
Speaker 1: I wanted to maintain whatever changes was happening in my body,
Speaker 1: it was like, YO, be consistent with it.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like, don't Consistency is key
Speaker 2: with everything, with.
Speaker 1: Everything, because you can do something for a little bit
Speaker 1: of time. And I'll say this about the rogain or monoxida,
Speaker 1: whether you use hymns or what's the other one, happy
Speaker 1: head pause.
Speaker 4: Or Rogain.
Speaker 1: I think I started with that one. But if you
Speaker 1: use it for three months and you stop at the
Speaker 1: three month part, you're going to start losing so much
Speaker 1: more here that by the time you get to fourth months,
Speaker 1: it'll be as if you never use rogain again. And
Speaker 1: it happens that fast. That's why most people are afraid
Speaker 1: to do it to start it. But the truth of
Speaker 1: the matter is I put it right next to my toothbrush.
Speaker 1: I gotta use it twice a day. I brush my teeth.
Speaker 1: I put my rog game in. Like, you can't say
Speaker 1: that you're not going to commit to that. You commit
Speaker 1: to brushing your teeth every day, hopefully, hopefully. But when
Speaker 1: I speak to some of y'all, I'll tell you, don't
Speaker 1: use your road game because right now you just slap
Speaker 1: me in the face with holotos.
Speaker 3: Your tooth brush to use it either both.
Speaker 1: But speaking on on just sexing and intimacy, when you
Speaker 1: are your best version of yourself health wise, and you're
Speaker 1: in a better mood and you're happy, you can share
Speaker 1: that intimacy with someone, and I just feel happy about
Speaker 1: where we are. I agree, you know, with everything health wise.
Speaker 2: With the intimacy, the health and everything. But these bills
Speaker 2: bill still gonna be there. It's gonna be there regardless.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I don't care how you look,
Speaker 2: I don't care what your inside look like, what you
Speaker 2: shit look like in the toilet.
Speaker 3: They're gonna be there.
Speaker 2: So let's go pay some bills and we're gonna come
Speaker 2: back and get to listen letter stick.
Speaker 1: Around, all right. So now we're back.
Speaker 3: We are back and let's dive right in.
Speaker 1: You want to go first, baby, I'll go first.
Speaker 2: All right, Hey, Kadein and Devala, I want to start
Speaker 2: by saying, you guys are amazing and are an example
Speaker 2: of black love at its finest.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: I need your you guys's help, and I would appreciate
Speaker 2: your advice. I am thirty three years old and I've
Speaker 2: been with my husband for fourteen years, chat married for
Speaker 2: six months, newlyweds. Okay, that's exciting. Here's the issue at hand.
Speaker 2: If my husband's grandma in her nineties calls and needs
Speaker 2: help with anything at the drop of a dime, he's there.
Speaker 2: You would think, Oh, he's being a wonderful grandson. He
Speaker 2: does task for her quicker than some than something I
Speaker 2: ask him to do. The thing is his aunt and
Speaker 2: uncle still live in the house with his grandma. Simple
Speaker 2: task like simple task of bolt, What simple task of
Speaker 2: a bulb not working, cable out driveway needs to be shoveled,
Speaker 2: et cetera, should be things grown adults in their late
Speaker 2: forties and fifties are capable of doing. Yet my husband
Speaker 2: feels obligated and comes to his grandma's rescue. We live
Speaker 2: forty miles away.
Speaker 1: That's that's damn as.
Speaker 3: Her grown children don't do ish living in the house
Speaker 3: rent free.
Speaker 1: Oh sounds like she's upset. Forty miles is long. We
Speaker 1: live in Georgia. Now forty miles and Georgia traffic will
Speaker 1: take you at least two and a half hours. This
Speaker 1: is a familiar I ain't driving forty miles and get
Speaker 1: no light bulb changed, and y'all gonna have to call
Speaker 1: a handyman.
Speaker 3: Y'all you're gonna have to call a task rabbit.
Speaker 2: It has come to the point where my husband gets
Speaker 2: so furious he doesn't want to answer his grandma's call
Speaker 2: as he knows there's going to be something that he
Speaker 2: needs to do. He doesn't understand why these grown adults
Speaker 2: don't help out. It impacts our relationship to where after
Speaker 2: every call, he's in an angry and annoyed mood. Feels
Speaker 2: bad because he doesn't want his grandma hurting herself doing
Speaker 2: something that she shouldn't do to her trifling children.
Speaker 3: My words, not his.
Speaker 2: Is it wrong for me to telling me he needs
Speaker 2: to focus on our marriage and family that we created,
Speaker 2: not to help out every time she calls. I think
Speaker 2: our family is a higher priority than his blood family.
Speaker 2: So now that we're married, I think his aunt and
Speaker 2: uncle yep, I think his aunt and uncle need to
Speaker 2: step it up and help their mother. I feel like
Speaker 2: he keeps helping out and they will never learn and
Speaker 2: always expect their nephew to save the day. Any advice
Speaker 2: that you can give, I would really appreciate it. Before
Speaker 2: we were married, I couldn't intervene, but now I can.
Speaker 2: I was brought up to respect my elders, but I
Speaker 2: don't want to have to curse them out. Girl, I
Speaker 2: understand your husband needs to set some boundary because the
Speaker 2: only reason why Granny keeps calling is because those two
Speaker 2: dead beats are in the house not doing it. When
Speaker 2: they're forced to have to do it, then they need
Speaker 2: to step up and do it, especially at ninety something
Speaker 2: years old.
Speaker 3: And you don't want it to be a thing.
Speaker 2: I know you're husband doesn't want it to be a
Speaker 2: thing where he's avoiding his grandmother's calls and then one
Speaker 2: day something is really wrong or he doesn't have his
Speaker 2: grandmother anymore. And that's been the thing that's been the
Speaker 2: wedge that drove that was driven between the relationship and him,
Speaker 2: between him and his grandmother.
Speaker 1: To me, it sounds like that old school Country and
Speaker 1: West Indian toxic family trait of I'm older than you,
Speaker 1: so you have to do what I do. Remember we
Speaker 1: talked about this, Yeah, like you know respect me, I'm
Speaker 1: your aunt. Everybody who's older than you does not deserve respect.
Speaker 3: That's a fact.
Speaker 1: You know, you have. Respect is earned, not given.
Speaker 3: Now, like I said, adults are just kids that grew
Speaker 3: up facts.
Speaker 1: Then that is an absolutely they grew.
Speaker 2: Up, but everything else didn't. Mentality mindset like it's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: That is an absolute fact. But like you said, baby,
Speaker 1: he has to create boundaries. And the thing is, the
Speaker 1: boundary has to be set in a way where it
Speaker 1: doesn't put one family against the other. The only thing
Speaker 1: I didn't like is our family is more important than that. Now,
Speaker 1: the Bible does say once you find a wife, that
Speaker 1: family that you create then becomes your primary family unit,
Speaker 1: which is I believe in. So I agree with her.
Speaker 1: But you don't have to present it that way. You say, baby,
Speaker 1: how about you create boundaries for yourself. You see the
Speaker 1: way you feel about your grandmother now, because they will
Speaker 1: do anything. You don't even have to bring in your
Speaker 1: family or have to make it seem like it's about
Speaker 1: you even though it is affecting you. Just say, baby,
Speaker 1: create boundaries for yourself and tell him if you're not
Speaker 1: going to create those boundaries for yourself, stop fucking complaining,
Speaker 1: because the truth of the matter is people only treat
Speaker 1: you how you let them treat you.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, that's a whole fact.
Speaker 1: That's just the fact that people who complain about how
Speaker 1: somebody's treating them but still continue to do that, you're
Speaker 1: part of the problem.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 1: So you got to create some boundaries my man, period period,
Speaker 1: and you're not alone. Everybody has that fail a story
Speaker 1: check that. It's like yo, that all they do is
Speaker 1: call when they need something. Now, granted, my family don't
Speaker 1: live forty miles away. I have really good family that
Speaker 1: doesn't like I don't have leeches. I don't have people
Speaker 1: who act like invalids in my family. When I really
Speaker 1: think about my family, I don't have any invalids.
Speaker 3: And anybody can help us because you choose to help
Speaker 3: for whatever reason.
Speaker 1: Right, So I don't. I don't sit back like when
Speaker 1: they call, even when I know it's for something. I
Speaker 1: know they're at the point where they can't do anything,
Speaker 1: so it's like, yo, like what's up, Like just talk
Speaker 1: to me. But if I had somebody like that in
Speaker 1: my family in a heartbeat, I'd be like, listen, listen
Speaker 1: if it's a light bulb or if it's.
Speaker 3: Going to stand for that to vow, be like, I
Speaker 3: don't like.
Speaker 1: Changing light bulbs here you think I'm drive forty miles
Speaker 1: to change somebody talking about I just want to point
Speaker 1: this part out in the story. She said, like something
Speaker 1: like shoveling snow. If you got to drive forty miles
Speaker 1: in the shovel snow, that means you had to shovel
Speaker 1: yourself out of your house first, then drive through the
Speaker 1: snow to shovel the snow. No, no, no, no, not
Speaker 1: doing it, Rannie, Granny, go outside, Granny.
Speaker 3: You're not going nowhere, know how anyway? And not something
Speaker 3: is holding the snow.
Speaker 2: Just look at it from your window, syst And if
Speaker 2: they got to get out, they're gonna have to force
Speaker 2: themselves to shovel that shit.
Speaker 3: Period.
Speaker 2: And I think it's another thing to where grandmas know
Speaker 2: that their grandchildren will do a lot more for them.
Speaker 3: Than anybody else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that My grandmother Okay, she tried, and
Speaker 2: I know this by now, so she can't get over
Speaker 2: on me. But she she literally feels like it because
Speaker 2: she asks for something on somebody else's behalf that I'm
Speaker 2: going to do it. Grandma, don't work like that, No, Morsis.
Speaker 2: You might have tried that with me when I was
Speaker 2: a teenager, but I'm smarter than the average beard.
Speaker 1: Let me tell y'all something right now. Remember we talk
Speaker 1: about creating boundaries. This woman right here loves her family
Speaker 1: to death to death. She created boundaries between her and
Speaker 1: her family. That's made it more a more healthy relationship
Speaker 1: for everyone involved, everybody because she made boundaries and said, Yo,
Speaker 1: this is how I want to be treated, this is
Speaker 1: what I'm willing to do. This is what I'm not
Speaker 1: willing to do. And since she made those boundaries, everyone
Speaker 1: in the family's adhering to her boundaries. So now she's like, Yo,
Speaker 1: whatever y'all need, I'm in.
Speaker 3: It's giving. Moving right along, Yeah, moving right along.
Speaker 1: We all as people need to start doing that, right.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a therapy thing. Boundaries, boundaries, it's real, though,
Speaker 1: it's real.
Speaker 2: It is real. Moving right along to number two ahead, baby,
Speaker 2: Since we've talked about poop number two.
Speaker 1: Hey Kine Dvou. First off, I'm a huge fan of yours,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I went to the LA tw
Speaker 1: show Love Against the World show yes here in Atlanta,
Speaker 1: and I was in love with it, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I even saw you guys at a basketball game with
Speaker 1: your boys and got the opportunity to get a picture
Speaker 1: with you both, which made my world. That's what's up.
Speaker 1: You guys did an amazing job on the tour and
Speaker 1: I wanted to give you your roses. Second, my husband
Speaker 1: and I have a similar love story to yours. We
Speaker 1: are college sweetheart sweethearts and have been married for six
Speaker 1: years and been together for eleven years. Like you, Devo,
Speaker 1: what attracted me to my husband was that he was
Speaker 1: ambitious and always had a plan there you go, and
Speaker 1: like u k, I was always supportive and ready to
Speaker 1: push not just his dreams and plans, but mine as
Speaker 1: well to make it out plans from talking about baby.
Speaker 1: Like we say all the time, Kadeena and I are
Speaker 1: not the anomaly. Yes, we're just the first one to
Speaker 1: let people know this is what happens. But there are
Speaker 1: examples of people who do things just like all all
Speaker 1: over the world. But somewhere along the lines throughout our marriage,
Speaker 1: my husband started to get comfortable and his ambition flame
Speaker 1: is starting to burn out. I want to know what
Speaker 1: I can do to help get his ambition flame back
Speaker 1: and burning bright again. Love you guys interesting.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had a time where you felt like
Speaker 2: your nope, ambition, motivation, drive is I was about to say,
Speaker 2: because I feel like we can't relate to that. If anything,
Speaker 2: you have to talk to me sometimes into things, but
Speaker 2: I feel like with you, I've never had to like
Speaker 2: talk you into being ambitious or your drive was faltering,
Speaker 2: Like you're just not built that way.
Speaker 3: Got it's weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're weird for that because I'm like the Valo
Speaker 2: is like never in a rut when it comes to
Speaker 2: things like that.
Speaker 1: It's weird. It's also unsettling and at times can create
Speaker 1: some anxiety because I never feel satisfied. So imagine, like,
Speaker 1: for example, Love against the World to it that she
Speaker 1: brought up, we sold out the venues, sold out the
Speaker 1: Apollo Warner Theater, a tabernacle here in Atlanta, And the
Speaker 1: first thing we did when I came back was said,
Speaker 1: what's what's next?
Speaker 3: You know, what's the next tour we can do.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it's you that have to
Speaker 1: pull me back in and say, hey, let's enjoy the moment.
Speaker 1: And the reason why I gave that as an example
Speaker 1: is because as life partners, it's often your responsibility. And
Speaker 1: I hate saying responsibility because you're not obligated to, but
Speaker 1: if you choose to be someone's life partner, it is
Speaker 1: your responsibility to see where things are going wrong, so
Speaker 1: to speak, in their life and to be able to
Speaker 1: point it out right. Like I honestly feel like I
Speaker 1: don't have any blind spots because Kay will tell me
Speaker 1: when she sees something, and when I mean, yeah, she's
Speaker 1: in my skin as much as I'm in hers, but
Speaker 1: she'll see what people you do such and it's easy
Speaker 1: for me, I'm a perver when she sees people that
Speaker 1: I've you know, kind of welcomed into our circle a
Speaker 1: little bit. I said this before a lot of times
Speaker 1: I say I have foresight, but couldean have insights? Shout
Speaker 1: out to my boy Jason Hatcher who gave me that call. Yes,
Speaker 1: you see it immediately, And she'd be like that one
Speaker 1: like she'll pointed out in a heartbeat that you meet
Speaker 1: someone and zone and she'd be like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm like what you mean.
Speaker 2: She's like, hey, ma, me feel some kind of ways
Speaker 2: sometimes because you just be like, yo, yeah, you're just
Speaker 2: trying to be mean and I'm feeling way.
Speaker 3: I know you do, and I understand you know, but
Speaker 3: learn Yeah.
Speaker 1: I do listen though yet and the reason I do
Speaker 1: realize in my own time, but I do say that
Speaker 1: to say this, that's your husband, y'all building a life together.
Speaker 1: If you've noticed that there's been a change in his
Speaker 1: behavior or something that you don't appreciate, you have to
Speaker 1: feel comfortable and free to express that and express it
Speaker 1: in real time. That's what Kneen and I do. That's
Speaker 1: why some people when they first started listening to dead
Speaker 1: ass podcasts or they listen to us speak to each other,
Speaker 1: they get a little turned off at first because they're
Speaker 1: just like, what are they? How they talking like that
Speaker 1: to each other. We've developed a relationship where in real time,
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you exactly how it feels if
Speaker 1: it hurts you in the in that moment, I apologize
Speaker 1: hurting your feelings, but I'm not going to apologize for
Speaker 1: telling you how it made me feel, and the more
Speaker 1: comfortable you get with your partner, the easier it is
Speaker 1: to have those conversations, and the easier it is to
Speaker 1: have those conversations, the further in life you both can go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I mean give him grace, because everyone has
Speaker 2: like these moments and where you know, you can be
Speaker 2: just kind of it becomes daunting, like the everyday day
Speaker 2: to day tasks, or maybe he's in the rut. I
Speaker 2: don't know what he does for a living, if he's
Speaker 2: a creative, for example, Sometimes a creative is you know
Speaker 2: in a dry spell where it's just like I can't
Speaker 2: even like get my creative juices flowing.
Speaker 3: And you know, so it may it require a little encouragement.
Speaker 2: It may require you know, clocking out for a little bit,
Speaker 2: taking them away, you know, change of scenery, like I see,
Speaker 2: and I know when Devout needs to like leave the country,
Speaker 2: and I'd be ready to leave.
Speaker 3: The country too, so.
Speaker 1: When I need to leave the country, because She'll always
Speaker 1: be ready like yesterday.
Speaker 2: Yesterday, like I saw, I mean that said something like
Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear my suitcase rolling along the
Speaker 2: like my suitcase rolling along the airport, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: that's my favorite sound.
Speaker 1: But but yeah, you know, just continue to siply the
Speaker 1: one roll in the suitcases. Though, y'all got to Seekadeen
Speaker 1: in the airport. She'd be in the airport with her
Speaker 1: freaking hood on, a sunglasses, sometimes a mask, she got
Speaker 1: her scarf. It don't even be cold. She'd be whisking
Speaker 1: through the airport. I'll be having all the bags and
Speaker 1: she'd just be looking back and she's like, come on,
Speaker 1: come on, come on.
Speaker 3: I'm just I'm trying to carry on and like to
Speaker 3: put my tote on top of it.
Speaker 1: But you know, thank you, you're so spoiled. Oh my gosh, this.
Speaker 2: Is But yeah, keep leaning into healthy and keep supporting
Speaker 2: him because it may just be a little rough spot,
Speaker 2: dry spell that you might have to just kind of
Speaker 2: activating him again.
Speaker 3: All right, If you.
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Speaker 2: All Right, Moment of truth time, we're talking to vows, results,
Speaker 2: lifestyle changes.
Speaker 3: What is that gonna look like for you?
Speaker 2: Do you have a moment of truth for the people
Speaker 2: since we went and dissected your very underwhelming pal Schallengy results,
Speaker 2: and I'm happy for you.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy that I told you. Is your wife
Speaker 1: and your mother, I told you, I told you. My
Speaker 1: biggest takeaway from all of this is that don't let
Speaker 1: your taste buds and your current lifestyle trick you into
Speaker 1: thinking you won't enjoy a change in your lifestyle.
Speaker 2: That's a good one because I never thought i'd see
Speaker 2: the day you wouldn't eat all the things that you're
Speaker 2: not eating.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. That's that's a really good one. Yes,
Speaker 1: my moment of truth. I can't get my moment Kadeen's
Speaker 1: moment of truth. You want to finish my moment of truth?
Speaker 2: Go ahead.
Speaker 1: No, was seriously, I thought I would never be able
Speaker 1: to eat live without bacon, egg and cheese. I thought
Speaker 1: I'd never be able to live without drinking juice throughout
Speaker 1: the day, eating candy every single night, eating cookies, Oreo cookies, oxtail, steaks, burgers,
Speaker 1: And after ridding my body of all of those things
Speaker 1: that it was craving, I realize now that my taste
Speaker 1: buds were tricking me. The things that I loved were
Speaker 1: the things that I put in my body the most
Speaker 1: pause and if you make those changes, you will begin
Speaker 1: to love who you are becoming.
Speaker 3: I love that's a really good moment of truth because
Speaker 3: you're right in that.
Speaker 2: And I guess why we were laughing about Devel and
Speaker 2: the allergies is because we know that there's certain things
Speaker 2: that we're going to be a hard no for you,
Speaker 2: like having to give up for example, if for example,
Speaker 2: you're alerted to chicken giving it up. He'd even like, yes, moderation,
Speaker 2: but no, I'm just I'm just happy for you, and
Speaker 2: I'm proud and I'm happy for myself that I don't
Speaker 2: have to like tiptoe around eating and you know, preparing
Speaker 2: a bunch of different things for you too, because your
Speaker 2: allergies are not like opposite of mine. But I guess
Speaker 2: my moment of truth is that you know, women, I'll
Speaker 2: speak particularly to you or to a significant other, know
Speaker 2: that sometimes you have to take the family's health into
Speaker 2: consideration and into your own hands. Deval hadn't had blood
Speaker 2: work done in almost two years, and I was the
Speaker 2: one that made the appointment and said, you know, baby,
Speaker 2: we need to know what's going on with you, because
Speaker 2: if we're gonna do this together, it's going to be
Speaker 2: in partnership in tandem, and we're gonna see how we
Speaker 2: can then be of service to each other in this space.
Speaker 2: So regardless of who it is, if there's one person
Speaker 2: that's good with scheduling or more responsible with, like, you know,
Speaker 2: keeping appointments and dates, let that be the person who
Speaker 2: was in charge of taking care of you guys from
Speaker 2: a health standpoint, and whatever that looks like for you,
Speaker 2: celebrate it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride because so far,
Speaker 2: so good over here.
Speaker 1: That was a great moment of truth. But you're right.
Speaker 1: If it wasn't for you, I would have never got
Speaker 1: my blood work done. You you definitely find ways to
Speaker 1: make sure that I'm good. I appreciate you, I love you.
Speaker 3: Love you too, baby.
Speaker 1: I'll show you how much I love you later.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
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