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Speaker 2: And baby, I am so curious to see after you've

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Speaker 1: Doom doom doom, dead ass.

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Speaker 2: Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devoured and we're the Ellis's.

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Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with.

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Speaker 2: Our voice and reading each other publicly as a form

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Speaker 2: of therpy.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I'll make you need therby most days. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.

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Speaker 1: Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open

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Speaker 1: dialogue about some of li's most taboo topics.

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Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass

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Speaker 1: is a term that we say every day. So when

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Speaker 1: About to take phillows off to our whole new level.

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Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now.

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Speaker 1: All right, story time, So last summer around August, I

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Speaker 3: Told this story before, did you on the podcast?

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Speaker 1: I think I told him on the podcast. I was

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Speaker 2: You guys, remember I was prepping for fashion weeks and

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Speaker 1: So it was August, right, and I watched your body

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Speaker 2: All right, karaoke time, we're talking hobbies, blood work test results.

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Speaker 3: Now, I can't wait to share.

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Speaker 1: So I'm talking about eating right for your blood type.

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Speaker 2: Man so well.

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Speaker 2: I am so excited for you. And I know that

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Speaker 1: Your mom called me. They called me on the phone.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, we're not talking about me today. We're talking

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Speaker 1: I'm not allergic to a lot of things, am I

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Speaker 1: Hell? No, ain't nobody putting on scalpel next to my nuts.

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Speaker 1: We know that we can partake in that fruits. No,

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Speaker 1: It's anti because I'm healthy.

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Speaker 1: That's dangerous. Do you know what it's dangerous? What does

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Speaker 2: It's eliminating the pharmaceutical industry.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely with all of these chronic illnesses like the hypertension

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Speaker 1: And I just want to be clear, like we're not

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Speaker 1: to do as a just as a human, which was

441
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Speaker 1: considered a lifestyle change. Most of the women were able

442
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Speaker 1: to change their age. Just two types of age. There's

443
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:31,200
Speaker 1: chronological age and there's your biological age. Biological age has

444
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Speaker 1: a lot to do with the chromosomes and how old

445
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,200
Speaker 1: your body quote unquote looks based on.

446
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 2: Stressors, of factors the impact.

447
00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 1: So for example, someone can be sixty years old biologically

448
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 1: or no sixty years old chronologically, but biologically their cells

449
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,000
Speaker 1: could be thirty five based on how they took care

450
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 1: of their body.

451
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,919
Speaker 2: That makes sense because you can look at it, for example,

452
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Speaker 2: a seventy year old and look at how two seventy

453
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 2: year olds move according to their lifestyle, what they've done,

454
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Speaker 2: you know, throughout maybe for work, even throughout the course

455
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 2: of their years, what they've consumed, and how active they are,

456
00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 2: and they move like two completely different people.

457
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Speaker 1: Now, I want to say this, if you look at

458
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Speaker 1: the whole term black, don't crack right. I just want

459
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 1: people to think about this. Black people, of all people

460
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,879
Speaker 1: have the highest rate of not going to the doctor,

461
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 1: mainly because they don't trust doctors. They don't trust the

462
00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 1: system not so much. They don't trust doctors, not like

463
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 1: they don't trust the individual doctor. They don't trust the

464
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Speaker 1: system of healthcare. With that being said, a lot of

465
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Speaker 1: Black people try to find homeopathic ways to heal yes themselves,

466
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Speaker 1: which makes me wonder if there's a reason why black

467
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 1: doesn't crack, it is because we don't get so we

468
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:46,159
Speaker 1: don't get as involved in the cycle of trying to

469
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:49,120
Speaker 1: cure the symptoms as opposed to curing the actual disease,

470
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, for example, think about

471
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Speaker 1: my family. We have our own issues with diabetes because

472
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Speaker 1: we won't go to the doctor, but we'll eat like trash.

473
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Speaker 2: I was about to say, and that's the only thing.

474
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Speaker 1: But we'll eat like trash, but we don't consume medication

475
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 1: like other people consume. So it's almost like if you

476
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 1: eat like trash, you're sick. You're killing yourself, you know

477
00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:12,679
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But you're not killing yourself as fast

478
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:16,160
Speaker 1: if you don't mask the symptoms with narcotics. So it's

479
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:20,120
Speaker 1: like poor diet and narcotics means you age faster. Black

480
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 1: people because we don't believe in narcotics. We don't believe

481
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 1: in that system, don't take narcotics, but we eat terrible.

482
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: Imagine if those same people like you and I change

483
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 1: our diets so that we're no longer eating like trash

484
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 1: and not dependent on narcotics. That's how you slow the

485
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:38,960
Speaker 1: aging process but also become more healthy from the inside.

486
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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. I'm not a professional and

487
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 1: I'm not an expert, but what I'm saying is I

488
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 1: see it with my own family, my family like you.

489
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Speaker 1: Look at my nanny, my Papa John, my nana and papa.

490
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,120
Speaker 1: They all looked extremely young. Look at your parents, look

491
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 1: at your mom. They all look extremely young. But your

492
00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 1: mom had issues with her gut because of how she ate.

493
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Speaker 1: Mom also started to age a lot faster between fifty

494
00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 1: and sixty fist stress because of stress. But also remember

495
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: they put her on a pain regimen because of her heart,

496
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Speaker 1: and they also put her on a pill for the

497
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Speaker 1: past like ten years.

498
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Speaker 2: Right, No, it wasn't the pain regiment. It was just

499
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Speaker 2: a regiment in general, just over just to look.

500
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Speaker 1: On.

501
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that's that was just like a blood thinner.

502
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 1: That's then they put on.

503
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Speaker 2: It's another medication that she should have only been taking

504
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 2: for like six months to a year after she had

505
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 2: the heart attack, and the doctor wasn't clear. She just

506
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: was refilling prescriptions and orders. And my mother was on

507
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 2: that medication for eleven years.

508
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Speaker 1: But you see what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Eleven years she was consuming that medication.

510
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Speaker 1: You see exactly what I'm saying.

511
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Speaker 2: It's giving lawsuit.

512
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Speaker 1: I don't know why it is giving loss. But are

513
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Speaker 1: you understanding what I'm saying.

514
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 3: No, I'm understanding what you're saying.

515
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Speaker 1: For prescribing to the medication and doing it for years,

516
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:49,360
Speaker 1: your mom has aged a lot over the last ten years,

517
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Speaker 1: and it makes you wonder, like, Yo, what if she

518
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 1: didn't ever take that medication and she changed the way she.

519
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 2: Ate right altogether? Right, that would have been the healing

520
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,640
Speaker 2: pro fifty Right. My mom still looks great for her age.

521
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 2: But just considering everything, you know, it doesn't make a

522
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,719
Speaker 2: lot of sense. No, I was thinking about it when

523
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 2: you first mentioned that whole point. I'm just like, h,

524
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's necessarily true, because I do know, like,

525
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 2: for example, your dad with his diabetes scare right at first,

526
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 2: he was just like super drastic, changed his diet, everything

527
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 2: because of the scare of everything.

528
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Speaker 3: It was like, oh my god, I can't believe, like

529
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 3: I almost literally died from this.

530
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 2: But then as he got comfortable, now it's like, all right, well,

531
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 2: I still want to eat my sweets, I want to

532
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 2: drink my soda and eat things I want to eat.

533
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 2: But now I'm going to toll the line and manage

534
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:37,239
Speaker 2: between how I'm giving my you know, diabetes medication and

535
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 2: how I eat.

536
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Speaker 1: Right.

537
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Speaker 2: So I'm just thinking, if, for example, now he were

538
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 2: to just completely overhaul change his diet, cut those things,

539
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 2: how much younger he would look not having to depending

540
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 2: on it.

541
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Speaker 1: Right.

542
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 2: No, that's what I'm saying.

543
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 1: At first, you said, you said, I don't know because

544
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:53,640
Speaker 1: of that.

545
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: No, I said, at first, at first when you mentioned

546
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 2: that point, I wasn't sure that I agreed with you.

547
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is that now it makes sense

548
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 2: for your father, and he was the example that came

549
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 2: to mind, as you explained yourself.

550
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I was using both like our parents

551
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,959
Speaker 1: as those examples, like my mom looks wild young, my

552
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 1: mom don't like going to the doctor for anything, and

553
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: she doesn't work out, and she doesn't work out, you know,

554
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 1: she doesn't eat great, but she doesn't eat bad. And

555
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: it's like, Wow, my mom really looks young, and it

556
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 1: makes me wonder, Like, say she subscribed to taking prescriptions.

557
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 1: Remember she has a swollen foot and doctors, I gotta

558
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,679
Speaker 1: take the pill. I'm gonna take this pill. But she hasn't,

559
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: And it just makes me wonder, Like how many other

560
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: cultures the reason why their bodies go through that, that

561
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,399
Speaker 1: look of being decrepit at a young age is because

562
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 1: you get dependent on pharmaceuticals. There's no way your body

563
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: was made for that. Like I'll give you guys an example.

564
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:47,439
Speaker 1: Kaz had well we didn't know he had, but he

565
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 1: stepped on something downstairs and started bleeding. I'm cleaning his foot.

566
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,919
Speaker 1: I'm taking a needle I sterilized in it. I'm like,

567
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:55,720
Speaker 1: there's something must be in from bleeding. It must be

568
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 1: a spinster. There's nothing I can see coming out. I

569
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 1: tell Okay at the time, I say, bag, don't worry

570
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 1: about it. The body is going to naturally coat whatever's

571
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 1: in there if there's something in there, and it's gonna

572
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:07,479
Speaker 1: expel it on its own time. And she was just

573
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: like you sure, I said, trust me, my kid. I

574
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: used to run around beerfoot all the time, like this

575
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: thing's happened. About three days later, Kadz is sitting up

576
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: there on the couch the bottom of his foot there's

577
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: a black spot. Yeah.

578
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 3: I couldn't believe it.

579
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 2: When I saw, I was like, when its sound on

580
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 2: your foot, I thought maybe he stepped on something and

581
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 2: it stuck to us for the sticker. And I saw

582
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 2: it and I'm like, Kads, what happened to your foot?

583
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 2: And he tucked it under and he was like huh

584
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,360
Speaker 2: because he just knew like we were going to investigate

585
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 2: this further. Now y'all know I don't do squeamish stuff.

586
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 2: I don't do bodily fluids, blood all that. Y'all already

587
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: heard about the whole sneak peak test and the fingerstick

588
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 2: and all that.

589
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 3: It was passed out. So I literally and it was

590
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 3: funny because.

591
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 2: I think I had done like an Instagram story showing

592
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,919
Speaker 2: Matt holding Kaz's hand and looking at his foot when

593
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 2: he initially figured, you know, felt something in his foot.

594
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 2: This was literally like a week and change later it

595
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 2: was and I see the black spot. I look at

596
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 2: it and I'm like, oh, it had to be a

597
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 2: weekend around it changed because Matt had left. It'll be

598
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 2: called Matt.

599
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,719
Speaker 1: And Matt you right.

600
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: And Deval looked at it and I'm like, okay, it

601
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 2: looked a little swollen around the black spot. Then Deval

602
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: just started squeezing and pushing it. And Caz was sitting

603
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 2: there nervous, of course, but he said no. And Deval

604
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 2: was literally squeezing and pushing and pushing, and it literally exploded.

605
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,680
Speaker 1: Exploded, and then the glass just started to come out

606
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: like this flash.

607
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 3: It was significant.

608
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 2: It was.

609
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Speaker 1: It was It was at least a coreter of an inch,

610
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: and it was in there for a while, but it

611
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: came out and it came out whole and solid, And

612
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: the best part about it is when it came out right,

613
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 1: and once I squeezed everything out, it wasn't bleeding anymore.

614
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: But I've seen that before my dad. My dad fell

615
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 1: up against the door right boom, arms starts bleeding. Doesn't

616
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: know why his arm is bleeding. He's just like, I

617
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: just got a little thing here. This is when I

618
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: was in the junior lane, when I was about fifteen.

619
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Speaker 1: We're at we're in the poken when this happens. He

620
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: falls up against the door. Weeks later, we're at home. Right,

621
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 1: his arm has a little bit of a like the

622
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: same thing, a little black spot, and my mom goes trying, trying,

623
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: and they need chink that checked out. You know, it

624
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 1: could be melanoma. You know mother's mother's always going to

625
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,719
Speaker 1: go to the worst possibility, the extreme it can come out.

626
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: So now he's going He's like, no, can stop because

627
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 1: he don't want to go to the doctor. Right, he's

628
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: squeezing it. And while he's squeaming it, squeezing it, we're

629
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: seeing a protrusion of the arm. So we're all watching it. Okay,

630
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 1: I kid you not, you can ask my dad. He

631
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: squeezed it until a nail came out of his arm,

632
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: and it was coated black. It was colding in black,

633
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: and it came out and it spilled out, and then

634
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: the thing on his arm just closed back. Black came out,

635
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: and it wasn't like it was like a whole like

636
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: long nail, but the nail was at least about that

637
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,479
Speaker 1: was like a half an inch and it was very

638
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: very tiny. But then Ramon gets who is actually a

639
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 1: doctor now he told us, you know, well, the body

640
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: has a way of coding whatever objects that are foreign

641
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: in it. Coding it and then finding a way to

642
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 1: expel it. Even he said, even when you eat it,

643
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: there's things that are in your body, your body will

644
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: expel it. You don't have to do anything if you

645
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: eat something or swallow something.

646
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 2: Like anybody, this might be TMI, but I know y'all

647
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 2: all experienced it. Like does the body like not like corn?

648
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 1: Well, corn doesn't digest all the way all the time.

649
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 1: You be looking at your pool.

650
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 2: I would I would feel a way about you if

651
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:37,960
Speaker 2: you didn't assess your pool. You didn't know what's going on.

652
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: You look at your pool. That's especially at my age

653
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: with cold, cancer and things happening, and it.

654
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 3: Needs to be colored, textured, Does it float, does it not?

655
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 3: Does it disintegrate?

656
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: Like we need to know all the details, Like I know,

657
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Speaker 1: I know we may get joke your ladies and gentlemen,

658
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: but this is actually the truth. You should look at

659
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 1: your poop to understand what's going on in your stomach

660
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 1: and in your body. Like if your poop is gray,

661
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: if it smells like rank and it's reeks, you're eating

662
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 1: stuff that your body doesn't for blood. It looks for

663
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: blood in it. Sometimes the food in your stomach that's

664
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 1: not digestible rots in your stomach. That's why it smells

665
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 1: so bad. Whereas if you eat other things like seeds

666
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: and fruits and vegetables, when you poop, it's not as bad.

667
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: This is a fact, a scientific fact. I'm not lying.

668
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 1: I haven't said that in a long time, but this

669
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 1: is a scientific fact. Based on what you eat, Based

670
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: on what you eat, your poop and your farts don't

671
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: smell as much. You know what I'm saying. If you

672
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: dating somebody in the they farts have like an oily discharge.

673
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: What you got to ask that person. You gotta ask

674
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: that person what you eat?

675
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 2: Do you really want to know?

676
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: Do you really want to know? How I got.

677
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 2: That?

678
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: So I tell y'all. We have our guys groups, right,

679
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: We have our guys groups.

680
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 2: Right.

681
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: In one of our guys groups, one of the young

682
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: men asked a question, was like, Yo, this is real talk.

683
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 1: I got to go to the doctor and be like, wow,

684
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: He's like, whenever I fart, there's like an oily discharge

685
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: that stays in my draws.

686
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 2: Bruh.

687
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 1: So yeah, y'all, can't hear Matt in the back laugh

688
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 1: And I hit Matt in the back laughing. But We

689
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: were just like, bro, you need to go get that

690
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 1: checked out. He did go get that checked out, and

691
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 1: you know what, he said, He's eating all of the

692
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: wrong things. They said, fast food, saturated fat, sugars, all

693
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: of that stuff is not digestive.

694
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 3: So literally just building up in there.

695
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: And over years, they said, it comes out two ways.

696
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 1: It comes out in your bowels and it'll come out

697
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 1: house skin, skin, in your pores. He had bad acne

698
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: and he would, you know, squeeze his skin and it

699
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: would come out and it would be like he would

700
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: say it too, like he was like, I would go

701
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: through my skin and I would pull it out and

702
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: even when I touched it it felt oily. And I

703
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: was just like, bro, like, so what are you gonna do?

704
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: You know what?

705
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 1: He said? They gave me some stuff I could take.

706
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 1: I said, how about you stop eating that?

707
00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 2: You like what you mean, get it wash out or

708
00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 2: some bush tea or something, and you yet a good

709
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: wash out.

710
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 1: It's another thing too, a lot of people in the

711
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: world do not drink enough water.

712
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, water is like water is.

713
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 2: My father recently in the hospital with leg pain, which

714
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: we thought was a blood clot. That's one thing with

715
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 2: deval and I anybody under our care. Okay, anybody under

716
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 2: our care. This is a whole nother episode having parents,

717
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 2: but anybody under a care. The minute you say something

718
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 2: is not feeling right, We're going to get the shit

719
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 2: checked out. We're not waiting, we're not trying to figure

720
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 2: it out, We're not sleeping it off. And I think

721
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 2: what really triggered that for us and really struck a

722
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 2: chord was when I had my postpartum preclamshit episode. Yes,

723
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 2: because baby, everything in me was going to stay in

724
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 2: that bed and take a nap and say, let me

725
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 2: try to sleep off this headache after I take this

726
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 2: motor in and I would have not woken up literally

727
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 2: what they told me. So anybody feel any little thing.

728
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 2: My father had a leg pain on a Friday, which

729
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 2: I didn't even know. We didn't know Cairo, you know

730
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,479
Speaker 2: doctor Cairo. He also is like very much a nurturer.

731
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: I'm going to take Papa some chyle and all I

732
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,439
Speaker 2: think he has a headache. We're like, okay, it's really bad.

733
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:11,959
Speaker 2: Turns yeah, it turns out that he actually had leg pain.

734
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 2: And then I know my father has poor circulation diabean

735
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 2: it's and all that going on. So when the pain

736
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 2: came back two or three days later, I hit my

737
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 2: sister because she like, now she's about to be a

738
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 2: nurse practitioner. She graduates in May.

739
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: Shout out to we don't google no more because Google,

740
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: I have you in your house, fucked up.

741
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 2: Bar, Please write in anybody who's had mezzothelioma, because that's

742
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 2: the running joke with us.

743
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 3: We don't know not one.

744
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: Person that's ever had it, and it's got commercial the

745
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 2: commercial making seem like it is literally like everywhere an epidemic.

746
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: Okay right now.

747
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 2: We called my sister and we're like, yo, what should

748
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 2: we do? And she's just like, shoud get that checked

749
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 2: out because we're concerned about like a blood clod or

750
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 2: deep things from bros.

751
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 3: It's like all of those things. Turns out he just

752
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 3: needs to drink more water.

753
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 2: Dehydration dehydration killer. Dehydration is a killer. Water is huge.

754
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 2: I've gotten compliments on my skin more recently. Even two

755
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 2: of my makeup artists who I use when I was

756
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,280
Speaker 2: on tour, one in New York and one based in Houston.

757
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 2: They both were like, what are you doing differently to

758
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 2: your skin? And I'm like not much. I mean I

759
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 2: did get a facial recently started using a couple of products,

760
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 2: you know, trying to stay in the regimen. But I

761
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 2: really think it's like from the inside out. Not consuming

762
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 2: all of these things that was literally making me sick.

763
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: And you could see it on the outside.

764
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: It is on the inside out, but it's also on

765
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: the outside, and specifically with makeup, because I noticed when

766
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:36,760
Speaker 1: you do wear a lot of makeup consistently, for example,

767
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: if we're on tour or something, you start to get

768
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: little fine bumps, you know what I'm saying. And I

769
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 1: say this for ladies who don't understand, like why my

770
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: man hate when I wear makeup. I always hated where

771
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 1: Kate wore makeup because I felt like her face looked

772
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: the most even and the most smooth when she had

773
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 1: on some lip gloss and some eyeliner, that's it. When

774
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 1: she got on all the powder and the foundation and

775
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 1: the con toward the cheek and the nose, Yeah, it

776
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 1: looks good for photos, but I got to look at

777
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 1: that shit in person and I'd be like, bab, why

778
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: your face looks so textured?

779
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: And I got a little bound and then it would

780
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 2: be a casualty having to hug you because your shirt

781
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 2: get messed up always.

782
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,759
Speaker 1: But I mean it did go both ways though, because

783
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 1: when I used to put all the fibers in my hair.

784
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 2: Wait a second, shout out to my man with this

785
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 2: hair coming in hot, okay. Everybody wanted him to give

786
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: it up. Everybody had jokes, y'all was ready over the

787
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 2: bouney to give it up, to bowned to give it up.

788
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,320
Speaker 3: It's giving my baby change his lifestyle and his habits.

789
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 1: And take a look talking about this, how I approach

790
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 1: people from now Look this how approach people from now?

791
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 1: One was good jobs? What's up? What's up? You see?

792
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: You see my hair going back? But no, when I

793
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: used to put the fibers in my hair, and then

794
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: I will hug k right, and then I would do

795
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: scenes with Crystal and Christal would be like, all right,

796
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 1: so we got a scene here where I'm supposed to

797
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:54,520
Speaker 1: rest my head on you when I put my face

798
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 1: on your hair, I'm gonna have a beard when I

799
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: come back. She said that to me, and I was

800
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: fucking dying. Yeah, I was dying. So it's funny, how

801
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: like with us with the makeup, I guess with y'all

802
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 1: sometimes too. It's like what you got going on with

803
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 1: the fibers, is it gonna be a problem today? Like

804
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: if the fiber is gonna be a problem today?

805
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:13,800
Speaker 3: So which way is the windy outside?

806
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 2: Does?

807
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 3: I want to make sure you know what I'm saying.

808
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 1: I can't get in the pool.

809
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:17,879
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

810
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 1: You were talking about you. I can't get in the pool.

811
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,839
Speaker 1: Jump in the pool. My whole wig piece gonna flop out.

812
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 1: Look they go. My fly was floating down and deepen that.

813
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:27,880
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're so stupid.

814
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 2: All right, So as we wrap this up, is there

815
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 2: one or two more questions for you, just because this

816
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 2: is your result beyond the nutrition component, because we know

817
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 2: that you cut some things, You've seen some differences. Were

818
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 2: there any other aspects of help that help of your

819
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 2: health that you spoke to this doctor.

820
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 1: About smoking weed?

821
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 2: Oh? Yes, what's the revelation there? She asked about that?

822
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 2: Or is that something you offered up?

823
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: No, I asked her. I said, you know, I'm concerned

824
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 1: because I know all this stuff about healthy habits and

825
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: things of that nature. I told her I smoke. She

826
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: asked if it was tobacco, and I said no, not tobacco,

827
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: I smoke weed. She said, No, You're fine, because there

828
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 1: are many healing factors in smoking marijuana. The problem typically

829
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 1: with smoking marijuana for most people is I think it's

830
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 1: bronchial irritation. So if you smoke too much and you're

831
00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: smoking in the ashes, you know what I'm saying. But

832
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:24,400
Speaker 1: other than that, they're forget it. That was killing me

833
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 1: for a long time. But no, she said, on top

834
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,959
Speaker 1: of just eating healthy, sleeping, I smoke to go to sleep,

835
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 1: you know, like that's just a fact. Like my mind

836
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: is always racing, and I've tried meditating, but when I smoke,

837
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: I'm able to get into a deeper sense of thought

838
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: and also let my body rest. So over the last

839
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 1: couple of months, I've been sleeping a lot more, drinking

840
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: a lot more water. I changed my workout strategy. I

841
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 1: no longer do long, extensive hour and a half workouts.

842
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: I keep my workouts to forty five minutes, and I

843
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: do it purposely so that I can work out every day.

844
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: Because before, when I would do like an hour and

845
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,800
Speaker 1: a half, two hours, it would be like Monday Tuesday,

846
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 1: by Wednesday, I can't walk. My back hurt my shoulders,

847
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,760
Speaker 1: so then I got to take a day off on Wednesday,

848
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: and the Thursday Friday, I get it in, but then

849
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: Saturday Sunday I can't do anything, which was good for

850
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 1: me for football because I was working out to optimize

851
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: my performance. Now as I don't even want to say

852
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: a non athletes, I'm still an athlete. My performance. Everything

853
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 1: I'm doing is not production based, so I don't have

854
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,879
Speaker 1: to run a fourth or competitive, you know what I'm saying.

855
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 1: I just have to be healthy and I have to

856
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,320
Speaker 1: be more flexible. That's another thing I've.

857
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 2: Been inpetitive with these boys because they sure as hell

858
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 2: be keeping you on your toes.

859
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:37,280
Speaker 1: Well did you see TJ when he came back. Shout

860
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: out to my bonus son, my oldest son, TJ.

861
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 2: He's so grown in handsome and just.

862
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 1: Is he is growing. They came in head with muscles

863
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: and tattoos and a beerd and ship. I was kind

864
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 1: of like.

865
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 2: His hair everything.

866
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 3: I was like, he was like Cairo's age when he

867
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 3: first started coming around.

868
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Speaker 1: Grades is all good, but no, but seriously, you were saying,

869
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:00,320
Speaker 1: like being competitive, I want to always be. You know,

870
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: we did everything when he was here. We played pool,

871
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: we talked about doing table tennis. He had to leave

872
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 1: before I got a chance to come back because I

873
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 1: went to La but we was gonna play one on one,

874
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: we was gonna race. So I always want to be

875
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,320
Speaker 1: healthy so that I can engage in those things with

876
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:17,400
Speaker 1: Jackson as well. Because Jackson's only twelve and TJ is nineteen,

877
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: So that's seven years from now and then another seventeen

878
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:25,959
Speaker 1: for Dakota. So between seven and seventeen years, I'm gonna

879
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: have Jackson, Cairo, and Cash. So I got to make

880
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 1: sure that I'm healthy, make sure I'm more flexible in stretch.

881
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: K like said, I'm more flexible now. I like that

882
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: K's more flexible.

883
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 3: Kept them splits going, Baby, I'll still be stretching.

884
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, last night she did some things out. That's a

885
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: whole other episode too, though. Perflexible. Gentlemen, gentlemen, let me

886
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:48,280
Speaker 1: tell you something now, and my lion and my lion

887
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 1: my potency. My potency is way more potent now I've

888
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: changed my dye. Oh that's another thing.

889
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 3: She talked about testosterone for men.

890
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: So my testosterone levels were no, not surprised high for

891
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: my age. She asked me too, She was like, come,

892
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,320
Speaker 1: do you take any supplements, and I was like, no,

893
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't take any supplements form my testosterracis.

894
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: That's good, she said, It means you must have a

895
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,760
Speaker 1: really good sex life because your testosterone is above average

896
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: from man your age, which is shout out to you.

897
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: I was about to say, shout out to you.

898
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 3: Give me my flowers.

899
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: Okay, So now you're not gonna like this this next part.

900
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:24,720
Speaker 3: Oh gosh.

901
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: What my testosterone being regulated is because I have sex

902
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 1: consistently and work out consistently. In order for me to

903
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 1: maintain it, I have to continue to have sex consistently.

904
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: So upon doctor's orders. Right upon doc disorders, you must

905
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: bust it open and do your drops. Okay, now until

906
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: death do us part.

907
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,439
Speaker 2: I mean, that's not bad news though, because think about

908
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 2: how much things have improved on my end after I

909
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 2: took the IUD out and you had your visectomy. Like, listen,

910
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 2: it's the consideration that we both are taking for each

911
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 2: other's health, for our individual health, for the family as

912
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 2: a whole. Like our children are eating differently. They don't

913
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: like the things they used to like. Sorry, but I'm

914
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:13,880
Speaker 2: just I got excited. I got you.

915
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 1: I'm excited. We have to do another sex episode, mainly

916
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:21,879
Speaker 1: because I want to talk about how all of these

917
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 1: changes have helped our sex life. So many couples don't

918
00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: understand what's going on with their sex life. They don't

919
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: understand how stress, lack of sleep, poor diet is both

920
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,439
Speaker 1: hormonal changes. Right. We talked about this in the after

921
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 1: show with Triple about men's hormones changing based on sexual output,

922
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 1: women's hormones changing based on PMS. If a man and

923
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 1: a woman or a man and a man, woman and

924
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,399
Speaker 1: woman doesn't matter. But if they can learn how their

925
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: hormones are balanced and imbalance based on what they eat,

926
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: what they do, how they see changing that lifestyle can

927
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 1: help your sex literally.

928
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 2: As we're proof y'all because listen, if you're our longtime

929
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 2: listener of Dead Ass podcast, if you even go back

930
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 2: to season one or couch Conversations, sex was always an

931
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,720
Speaker 2: issue for development. We were at season one and gods,

932
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:08,800
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, I'm trying to get them to go

933
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 2: back and want to listen to tell they tell your

934
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: friends listen.

935
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: But no serious, But you're right though, Yeah, have.

936
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 2: So many episodes talking about sex that I was exhausted

937
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 2: after a while. I'm like, they're not gonna want to

938
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: hear us talk about our damn sex life. I can,

939
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 2: but you guys know this is our therapy session, and

940
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 2: we can say that we're living proof that we are

941
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 2: enjoying it.

942
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: We're having a grand one.

943
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 1: I can look right in the camera. I can tell

944
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 1: you right now at forty, at forty years old, my

945
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 1: wife is forty. We've had more sex in the past

946
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:37,880
Speaker 1: year than we've had on an annual basis through our

947
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 1: twenties and thirties. Am I lying?

948
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:40,239
Speaker 2: Yep?

949
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: And when I say sex, I mean sex and not

950
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 1: just Oh, let me bend over and give this nigga

951
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: something more and me let me just take, let me

952
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: take what I gotta get. No, it's been really really

953
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,640
Speaker 1: good sexual sessions because we've just been in a better

954
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: place mentally, of course, but physically, her not having her

955
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:58,800
Speaker 1: hormones temper with because of control.

956
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and physical like that's been a question before too, Like, oh,

957
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 2: you gained a little weight and your spouse is not

958
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 2: even it's not that into you because you've gained a

959
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:08,720
Speaker 2: little white weight or vice versas. You're not feeling confident

960
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 2: about the way you look, so then therefore you can't

961
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,320
Speaker 2: be confident when you engage with your partner. All of

962
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 2: that is important. All of that is important, and that's

963
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 2: why Deval and I are hyper focused about it. It's

964
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 2: not always for the vanity of things. It's about the longevity. Though.

965
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 3: We do enjoy looking at each other and being like, ma'am.

966
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, it's good.

967
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 3: I told more kids, like.

968
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: What fuck after four kids? You just look good. You

969
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: just look it ain't after you just look good. Like

970
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: I look at you in there today and I was like,

971
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 1: you know, for you changing your diet, working out more consistently,

972
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: your legs are more tight, your waist is small, your

973
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 1: butt's sitting on your back. It's like you it's almost

974
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: like you've gone back to your twenties, but you're better

975
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 1: than your twenties because through life you've developed parts of

976
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 1: your body that you want to accentuate that you know that, you.

977
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 2: Know, I like you as well, working on muscle for

978
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 2: years yet right, So for.

979
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: Me, it's just like I want people when they listen

980
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 1: to this and they understand the health aspect because we're

981
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 1: always talked. We've always talked about sex, and then when

982
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,160
Speaker 1: sex wasn't a problem, we haven't talked about it.

983
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,280
Speaker 2: As much because it's not a problem problem anymore.

984
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: Yet it's important to tell them like these were the

985
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,359
Speaker 1: steps we took to change, because me and my boys

986
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 1: talk about it all the time from everything, like I

987
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: don't shount their names out. But even when it came

988
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 1: to the thin en and I was telling them like, yo,

989
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:25,479
Speaker 1: like I started using Rogain and monoxidal as well because

990
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 1: I wanted to maintain whatever changes was happening in my body,

991
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,800
Speaker 1: it was like, YO, be consistent with it.

992
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like, don't Consistency is key

993
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 2: with everything, with.

994
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: Everything, because you can do something for a little bit

995
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: of time. And I'll say this about the rogain or monoxida,

996
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: whether you use hymns or what's the other one, happy

997
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 1: head pause.

998
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 4: Or Rogain.

999
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: I think I started with that one. But if you

1000
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: use it for three months and you stop at the

1001
00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 1: three month part, you're going to start losing so much

1002
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 1: more here that by the time you get to fourth months,

1003
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: it'll be as if you never use rogain again. And

1004
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 1: it happens that fast. That's why most people are afraid

1005
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 1: to do it to start it. But the truth of

1006
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,320
Speaker 1: the matter is I put it right next to my toothbrush.

1007
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 1: I gotta use it twice a day. I brush my teeth.

1008
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: I put my rog game in. Like, you can't say

1009
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 1: that you're not going to commit to that. You commit

1010
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: to brushing your teeth every day, hopefully, hopefully. But when

1011
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 1: I speak to some of y'all, I'll tell you, don't

1012
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: use your road game because right now you just slap

1013
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,240
Speaker 1: me in the face with holotos.

1014
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 3: Your tooth brush to use it either both.

1015
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: But speaking on on just sexing and intimacy, when you

1016
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,319
Speaker 1: are your best version of yourself health wise, and you're

1017
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: in a better mood and you're happy, you can share

1018
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 1: that intimacy with someone, and I just feel happy about

1019
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,760
Speaker 1: where we are. I agree, you know, with everything health wise.

1020
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 2: With the intimacy, the health and everything. But these bills

1021
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: bill still gonna be there. It's gonna be there regardless.

1022
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I don't care how you look,

1023
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 2: I don't care what your inside look like, what you

1024
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 2: shit look like in the toilet.

1025
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 3: They're gonna be there.

1026
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 2: So let's go pay some bills and we're gonna come

1027
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 2: back and get to listen letter stick.

1028
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: Around, all right. So now we're back.

1029
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 3: We are back and let's dive right in.

1030
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 1: You want to go first, baby, I'll go first.

1031
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 2: All right, Hey, Kadein and Devala, I want to start

1032
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 2: by saying, you guys are amazing and are an example

1033
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 2: of black love at its finest.

1034
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

1035
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 2: I need your you guys's help, and I would appreciate

1036
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 2: your advice. I am thirty three years old and I've

1037
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 2: been with my husband for fourteen years, chat married for

1038
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 2: six months, newlyweds. Okay, that's exciting. Here's the issue at hand.

1039
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 2: If my husband's grandma in her nineties calls and needs

1040
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 2: help with anything at the drop of a dime, he's there.

1041
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 2: You would think, Oh, he's being a wonderful grandson. He

1042
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 2: does task for her quicker than some than something I

1043
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 2: ask him to do. The thing is his aunt and

1044
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 2: uncle still live in the house with his grandma. Simple

1045
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 2: task like simple task of bolt, What simple task of

1046
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:06,280
Speaker 2: a bulb not working, cable out driveway needs to be shoveled,

1047
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 2: et cetera, should be things grown adults in their late

1048
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 2: forties and fifties are capable of doing. Yet my husband

1049
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 2: feels obligated and comes to his grandma's rescue. We live

1050
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:16,800
Speaker 2: forty miles away.

1051
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:21,280
Speaker 1: That's that's damn as.

1052
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,879
Speaker 3: Her grown children don't do ish living in the house

1053
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 3: rent free.

1054
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: Oh sounds like she's upset. Forty miles is long. We

1055
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: live in Georgia. Now forty miles and Georgia traffic will

1056
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: take you at least two and a half hours. This

1057
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: is a familiar I ain't driving forty miles and get

1058
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 1: no light bulb changed, and y'all gonna have to call

1059
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: a handyman.

1060
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 3: Y'all you're gonna have to call a task rabbit.

1061
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:44,879
Speaker 2: It has come to the point where my husband gets

1062
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 2: so furious he doesn't want to answer his grandma's call

1063
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 2: as he knows there's going to be something that he

1064
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:54,240
Speaker 2: needs to do. He doesn't understand why these grown adults

1065
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 2: don't help out. It impacts our relationship to where after

1066
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 2: every call, he's in an angry and annoyed mood. Feels

1067
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 2: bad because he doesn't want his grandma hurting herself doing

1068
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 2: something that she shouldn't do to her trifling children.

1069
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 3: My words, not his.

1070
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 2: Is it wrong for me to telling me he needs

1071
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 2: to focus on our marriage and family that we created,

1072
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 2: not to help out every time she calls. I think

1073
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:19,040
Speaker 2: our family is a higher priority than his blood family.

1074
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 2: So now that we're married, I think his aunt and

1075
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 2: uncle yep, I think his aunt and uncle need to

1076
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 2: step it up and help their mother. I feel like

1077
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 2: he keeps helping out and they will never learn and

1078
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 2: always expect their nephew to save the day. Any advice

1079
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 2: that you can give, I would really appreciate it. Before

1080
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,799
Speaker 2: we were married, I couldn't intervene, but now I can.

1081
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 2: I was brought up to respect my elders, but I

1082
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 2: don't want to have to curse them out. Girl, I

1083
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: understand your husband needs to set some boundary because the

1084
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 2: only reason why Granny keeps calling is because those two

1085
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:52,839
Speaker 2: dead beats are in the house not doing it. When

1086
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 2: they're forced to have to do it, then they need

1087
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 2: to step up and do it, especially at ninety something

1088
00:49:57,719 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 2: years old.

1089
00:49:58,440 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 3: And you don't want it to be a thing.

1090
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 2: I know you're husband doesn't want it to be a

1091
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 2: thing where he's avoiding his grandmother's calls and then one

1092
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 2: day something is really wrong or he doesn't have his

1093
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 2: grandmother anymore. And that's been the thing that's been the

1094
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 2: wedge that drove that was driven between the relationship and him,

1095
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 2: between him and his grandmother.

1096
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 1: To me, it sounds like that old school Country and

1097
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: West Indian toxic family trait of I'm older than you,

1098
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 1: so you have to do what I do. Remember we

1099
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: talked about this, Yeah, like you know respect me, I'm

1100
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 1: your aunt. Everybody who's older than you does not deserve respect.

1101
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:30,479
Speaker 3: That's a fact.

1102
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 1: You know, you have. Respect is earned, not given.

1103
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 3: Now, like I said, adults are just kids that grew

1104
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 3: up facts.

1105
00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: Then that is an absolutely they grew.

1106
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 2: Up, but everything else didn't. Mentality mindset like it's ridiculous.

1107
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:43,799
Speaker 1: That is an absolute fact. But like you said, baby,

1108
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 1: he has to create boundaries. And the thing is, the

1109
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 1: boundary has to be set in a way where it

1110
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:50,839
Speaker 1: doesn't put one family against the other. The only thing

1111
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: I didn't like is our family is more important than that. Now,

1112
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: the Bible does say once you find a wife, that

1113
00:50:57,160 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: family that you create then becomes your primary family unit,

1114
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 1: which is I believe in. So I agree with her.

1115
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 1: But you don't have to present it that way. You say, baby,

1116
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 1: how about you create boundaries for yourself. You see the

1117
00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 1: way you feel about your grandmother now, because they will

1118
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: do anything. You don't even have to bring in your

1119
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:14,280
Speaker 1: family or have to make it seem like it's about

1120
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 1: you even though it is affecting you. Just say, baby,

1121
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:20,800
Speaker 1: create boundaries for yourself and tell him if you're not

1122
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:24,320
Speaker 1: going to create those boundaries for yourself, stop fucking complaining,

1123
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 1: because the truth of the matter is people only treat

1124
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: you how you let them treat you.

1125
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, that's a whole fact.

1126
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:32,440
Speaker 1: That's just the fact that people who complain about how

1127
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: somebody's treating them but still continue to do that, you're

1128
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:35,400
Speaker 1: part of the problem.

1129
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 2: Yep.

1130
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: So you got to create some boundaries my man, period period,

1131
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 1: and you're not alone. Everybody has that fail a story

1132
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:44,840
Speaker 1: check that. It's like yo, that all they do is

1133
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: call when they need something. Now, granted, my family don't

1134
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: live forty miles away. I have really good family that

1135
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:54,879
Speaker 1: doesn't like I don't have leeches. I don't have people

1136
00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:57,440
Speaker 1: who act like invalids in my family. When I really

1137
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 1: think about my family, I don't have any invalids.

1138
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:01,839
Speaker 3: And anybody can help us because you choose to help

1139
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 3: for whatever reason.

1140
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 1: Right, So I don't. I don't sit back like when

1141
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: they call, even when I know it's for something. I

1142
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: know they're at the point where they can't do anything,

1143
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 1: so it's like, yo, like what's up, Like just talk

1144
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 1: to me. But if I had somebody like that in

1145
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: my family in a heartbeat, I'd be like, listen, listen

1146
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 1: if it's a light bulb or if it's.

1147
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 3: Going to stand for that to vow, be like, I

1148
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 3: don't like.

1149
00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 1: Changing light bulbs here you think I'm drive forty miles

1150
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,719
Speaker 1: to change somebody talking about I just want to point

1151
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:31,399
Speaker 1: this part out in the story. She said, like something

1152
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 1: like shoveling snow. If you got to drive forty miles

1153
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 1: in the shovel snow, that means you had to shovel

1154
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:42,360
Speaker 1: yourself out of your house first, then drive through the

1155
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 1: snow to shovel the snow. No, no, no, no, not

1156
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 1: doing it, Rannie, Granny, go outside, Granny.

1157
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 3: You're not going nowhere, know how anyway? And not something

1158
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 3: is holding the snow.

1159
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 2: Just look at it from your window, syst And if

1160
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 2: they got to get out, they're gonna have to force

1161
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 2: themselves to shovel that shit.

1162
00:52:58,320 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 3: Period.

1163
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:00,759
Speaker 2: And I think it's another thing to where grandmas know

1164
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 2: that their grandchildren will do a lot more for them.

1165
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 3: Than anybody else.

1166
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that My grandmother Okay, she tried, and

1167
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 2: I know this by now, so she can't get over

1168
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:14,720
Speaker 2: on me. But she she literally feels like it because

1169
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:18,879
Speaker 2: she asks for something on somebody else's behalf that I'm

1170
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 2: going to do it. Grandma, don't work like that, No, Morsis.

1171
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 2: You might have tried that with me when I was

1172
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: a teenager, but I'm smarter than the average beard.

1173
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 1: Let me tell y'all something right now. Remember we talk

1174
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: about creating boundaries. This woman right here loves her family

1175
00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 1: to death to death. She created boundaries between her and

1176
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 1: her family. That's made it more a more healthy relationship

1177
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 1: for everyone involved, everybody because she made boundaries and said, Yo,

1178
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 1: this is how I want to be treated, this is

1179
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 1: what I'm willing to do. This is what I'm not

1180
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 1: willing to do. And since she made those boundaries, everyone

1181
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,319
Speaker 1: in the family's adhering to her boundaries. So now she's like, Yo,

1182
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 1: whatever y'all need, I'm in.

1183
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:52,439
Speaker 3: It's giving. Moving right along, Yeah, moving right along.

1184
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: We all as people need to start doing that, right.

1185
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: It sounds like a therapy thing. Boundaries, boundaries, it's real, though,

1186
00:53:59,480 --> 00:53:59,839
Speaker 1: it's real.

1187
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 2: It is real. Moving right along to number two ahead, baby,

1188
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:05,799
Speaker 2: Since we've talked about poop number two.

1189
00:54:06,719 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 1: Hey Kine Dvou. First off, I'm a huge fan of yours,

1190
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,760
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I went to the LA tw

1191
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:17,120
Speaker 1: show Love Against the World show yes here in Atlanta,

1192
00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: and I was in love with it, Thank you so much.

1193
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:21,080
Speaker 1: I even saw you guys at a basketball game with

1194
00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 1: your boys and got the opportunity to get a picture

1195
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 1: with you both, which made my world. That's what's up.

1196
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 1: You guys did an amazing job on the tour and

1197
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:30,280
Speaker 1: I wanted to give you your roses. Second, my husband

1198
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 1: and I have a similar love story to yours. We

1199
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 1: are college sweetheart sweethearts and have been married for six

1200
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:38,439
Speaker 1: years and been together for eleven years. Like you, Devo,

1201
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:41,279
Speaker 1: what attracted me to my husband was that he was

1202
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 1: ambitious and always had a plan there you go, and

1203
00:54:44,160 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 1: like u k, I was always supportive and ready to

1204
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 1: push not just his dreams and plans, but mine as

1205
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: well to make it out plans from talking about baby.

1206
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:53,960
Speaker 1: Like we say all the time, Kadeena and I are

1207
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:56,360
Speaker 1: not the anomaly. Yes, we're just the first one to

1208
00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 1: let people know this is what happens. But there are

1209
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 1: examples of people who do things just like all all

1210
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:04,760
Speaker 1: over the world. But somewhere along the lines throughout our marriage,

1211
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 1: my husband started to get comfortable and his ambition flame

1212
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 1: is starting to burn out. I want to know what

1213
00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 1: I can do to help get his ambition flame back

1214
00:55:11,640 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 1: and burning bright again. Love you guys interesting.

1215
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 2: Have you ever had a time where you felt like

1216
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 2: your nope, ambition, motivation, drive is I was about to say,

1217
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:21,800
Speaker 2: because I feel like we can't relate to that. If anything,

1218
00:55:21,840 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 2: you have to talk to me sometimes into things, but

1219
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,920
Speaker 2: I feel like with you, I've never had to like

1220
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 2: talk you into being ambitious or your drive was faltering,

1221
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 2: Like you're just not built that way.

1222
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:34,200
Speaker 3: Got it's weird.

1223
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're weird for that because I'm like the Valo

1224
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 2: is like never in a rut when it comes to

1225
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:39,520
Speaker 2: things like that.

1226
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:42,879
Speaker 1: It's weird. It's also unsettling and at times can create

1227
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 1: some anxiety because I never feel satisfied. So imagine, like,

1228
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 1: for example, Love against the World to it that she

1229
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 1: brought up, we sold out the venues, sold out the

1230
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 1: Apollo Warner Theater, a tabernacle here in Atlanta, And the

1231
00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:59,279
Speaker 1: first thing we did when I came back was said,

1232
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 1: what's what's next?

1233
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 3: You know, what's the next tour we can do.

1234
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it's you that have to

1235
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:07,879
Speaker 1: pull me back in and say, hey, let's enjoy the moment.

1236
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: And the reason why I gave that as an example

1237
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: is because as life partners, it's often your responsibility. And

1238
00:56:13,280 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: I hate saying responsibility because you're not obligated to, but

1239
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 1: if you choose to be someone's life partner, it is

1240
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 1: your responsibility to see where things are going wrong, so

1241
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 1: to speak, in their life and to be able to

1242
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: point it out right. Like I honestly feel like I

1243
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:30,080
Speaker 1: don't have any blind spots because Kay will tell me

1244
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: when she sees something, and when I mean, yeah, she's

1245
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: in my skin as much as I'm in hers, but

1246
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:38,759
Speaker 1: she'll see what people you do such and it's easy

1247
00:56:38,800 --> 00:56:43,759
Speaker 1: for me, I'm a perver when she sees people that

1248
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 1: I've you know, kind of welcomed into our circle a

1249
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 1: little bit. I said this before a lot of times

1250
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:52,279
Speaker 1: I say I have foresight, but couldean have insights? Shout

1251
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: out to my boy Jason Hatcher who gave me that call. Yes,

1252
00:56:56,360 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 1: you see it immediately, And she'd be like that one

1253
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:04,560
Speaker 1: like she'll pointed out in a heartbeat that you meet

1254
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:06,440
Speaker 1: someone and zone and she'd be like, I don't know.

1255
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:09,279
Speaker 1: I'm like what you mean.

1256
00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:11,399
Speaker 2: She's like, hey, ma, me feel some kind of ways

1257
00:57:11,440 --> 00:57:12,960
Speaker 2: sometimes because you just be like, yo, yeah, you're just

1258
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:15,359
Speaker 2: trying to be mean and I'm feeling way.

1259
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 3: I know you do, and I understand you know, but

1260
00:57:18,560 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 3: learn Yeah.

1261
00:57:19,360 --> 00:57:23,080
Speaker 1: I do listen though yet and the reason I do

1262
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:25,680
Speaker 1: realize in my own time, but I do say that

1263
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 1: to say this, that's your husband, y'all building a life together.

1264
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: If you've noticed that there's been a change in his

1265
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: behavior or something that you don't appreciate, you have to

1266
00:57:35,240 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: feel comfortable and free to express that and express it

1267
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: in real time. That's what Kneen and I do. That's

1268
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 1: why some people when they first started listening to dead

1269
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 1: ass podcasts or they listen to us speak to each other,

1270
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 1: they get a little turned off at first because they're

1271
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: just like, what are they? How they talking like that

1272
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 1: to each other. We've developed a relationship where in real time,

1273
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you exactly how it feels if

1274
00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 1: it hurts you in the in that moment, I apologize

1275
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:02,400
Speaker 1: hurting your feelings, but I'm not going to apologize for

1276
00:58:02,480 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 1: telling you how it made me feel, and the more

1277
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: comfortable you get with your partner, the easier it is

1278
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 1: to have those conversations, and the easier it is to

1279
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 1: have those conversations, the further in life you both can go.

1280
00:58:12,440 --> 00:58:14,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I mean give him grace, because everyone has

1281
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 2: like these moments and where you know, you can be

1282
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 2: just kind of it becomes daunting, like the everyday day

1283
00:58:21,080 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 2: to day tasks, or maybe he's in the rut. I

1284
00:58:23,120 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: don't know what he does for a living, if he's

1285
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 2: a creative, for example, Sometimes a creative is you know

1286
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 2: in a dry spell where it's just like I can't

1287
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 2: even like get my creative juices flowing.

1288
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 3: And you know, so it may it require a little encouragement.

1289
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:36,520
Speaker 2: It may require you know, clocking out for a little bit,

1290
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,439
Speaker 2: taking them away, you know, change of scenery, like I see,

1291
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 2: and I know when Devout needs to like leave the country,

1292
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 2: and I'd be ready to leave.

1293
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:45,280
Speaker 3: The country too, so.

1294
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 1: When I need to leave the country, because She'll always

1295
00:58:49,160 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 1: be ready like yesterday.

1296
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 2: Yesterday, like I saw, I mean that said something like

1297
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear my suitcase rolling along the

1298
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:59,160
Speaker 2: like my suitcase rolling along the airport, and I'm like,

1299
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 2: that's my favorite sound.

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Speaker 1: But but yeah, you know, just continue to siply the

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Speaker 1: one roll in the suitcases. Though, y'all got to Seekadeen

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Speaker 1: in the airport. She'd be in the airport with her

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Speaker 1: freaking hood on, a sunglasses, sometimes a mask, she got

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Speaker 1: her scarf. It don't even be cold. She'd be whisking

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Speaker 1: through the airport. I'll be having all the bags and

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Speaker 1: she'd just be looking back and she's like, come on,

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Speaker 1: come on, come on.

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Speaker 3: I'm just I'm trying to carry on and like to

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Speaker 3: put my tote on top of it.

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Speaker 1: But you know, thank you, you're so spoiled. Oh my gosh, this.

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Speaker 2: Is But yeah, keep leaning into healthy and keep supporting

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Speaker 2: him because it may just be a little rough spot,

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Speaker 2: dry spell that you might have to just kind of

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Speaker 2: activating him again.

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Speaker 3: All right, If you.

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Speaker 2: Want to be featured as one of our listening letters,

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Speaker 2: y'all be short to email us at dead ass Advice

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Speaker 2: at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: That's D E A D A S S A D

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Speaker 1: V I C E at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: All Right, Moment of truth time, we're talking to vows, results,

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Speaker 2: lifestyle changes.

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Speaker 3: What is that gonna look like for you?

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Speaker 2: Do you have a moment of truth for the people

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Speaker 2: since we went and dissected your very underwhelming pal Schallengy results,

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Speaker 2: and I'm happy for you.

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy that I told you. Is your wife

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Speaker 1: and your mother, I told you, I told you. My

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Speaker 1: biggest takeaway from all of this is that don't let

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Speaker 1: your taste buds and your current lifestyle trick you into

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Speaker 1: thinking you won't enjoy a change in your lifestyle.

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Speaker 2: That's a good one because I never thought i'd see

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Speaker 2: the day you wouldn't eat all the things that you're

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Speaker 2: not eating.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. That's that's a really good one. Yes,

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Speaker 1: my moment of truth. I can't get my moment Kadeen's

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Speaker 1: moment of truth. You want to finish my moment of truth?

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Speaker 2: Go ahead.

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Speaker 1: No, was seriously, I thought I would never be able

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Speaker 1: to eat live without bacon, egg and cheese. I thought

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Speaker 1: I'd never be able to live without drinking juice throughout

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Speaker 1: the day, eating candy every single night, eating cookies, Oreo cookies, oxtail, steaks, burgers,

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Speaker 1: And after ridding my body of all of those things

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Speaker 1: that it was craving, I realize now that my taste

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Speaker 1: buds were tricking me. The things that I loved were

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Speaker 1: the things that I put in my body the most

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Speaker 1: pause and if you make those changes, you will begin

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Speaker 1: to love who you are becoming.

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Speaker 3: I love that's a really good moment of truth because

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Speaker 3: you're right in that.

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Speaker 2: And I guess why we were laughing about Devel and

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Speaker 2: the allergies is because we know that there's certain things

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Speaker 2: that we're going to be a hard no for you,

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Speaker 2: like having to give up for example, if for example,

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Speaker 2: you're alerted to chicken giving it up. He'd even like, yes, moderation,

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Speaker 2: but no, I'm just I'm just happy for you, and

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Speaker 2: I'm proud and I'm happy for myself that I don't

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Speaker 2: have to like tiptoe around eating and you know, preparing

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Speaker 2: a bunch of different things for you too, because your

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Speaker 2: allergies are not like opposite of mine. But I guess

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Speaker 2: my moment of truth is that you know, women, I'll

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Speaker 2: speak particularly to you or to a significant other, know

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Speaker 2: that sometimes you have to take the family's health into

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Speaker 2: consideration and into your own hands. Deval hadn't had blood

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Speaker 2: work done in almost two years, and I was the

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Speaker 2: one that made the appointment and said, you know, baby,

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Speaker 2: we need to know what's going on with you, because

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Speaker 2: if we're gonna do this together, it's going to be

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Speaker 2: in partnership in tandem, and we're gonna see how we

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Speaker 2: can then be of service to each other in this space.

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Speaker 2: So regardless of who it is, if there's one person

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Speaker 2: that's good with scheduling or more responsible with, like, you know,

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Speaker 2: keeping appointments and dates, let that be the person who

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Speaker 2: was in charge of taking care of you guys from

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Speaker 2: a health standpoint, and whatever that looks like for you,

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Speaker 2: celebrate it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride because so far,

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Speaker 2: so good over here.

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Speaker 1: That was a great moment of truth. But you're right.

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Speaker 1: If it wasn't for you, I would have never got

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Speaker 1: my blood work done. You you definitely find ways to

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Speaker 1: make sure that I'm good. I appreciate you, I love you.

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Speaker 3: Love you too, baby.

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Speaker 1: I'll show you how much I love you later.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Oh that was the reverse. I normally read that part

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Speaker 3: and you can find me Kadeen.

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Speaker 2: I am and I am deval And if you're listening

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