WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: The Grind To Healthy Commitment  (Ft. Brianda & Wolf)

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't real life. Just know that it was real life.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, Okay, I'll share one thing only I'll

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<v Speaker 2>go ahead and share one thing to let y'all know

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<v Speaker 2>how not real life it was. So one of my

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriends was more subby than the other boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>But there was a.

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<v Speaker 2>Third nigga that, yeah, he's definitely more subby. Oh like girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I was slapping him. He was like, it was great.

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<v Speaker 2>So at one of the dinners, I sit down and

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<v Speaker 2>I find myself somehow crafting the experience of two slaves.

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<v Speaker 1>Hear me out, it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had my one boyfriend on the right of me,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I had another nigga on the the So, no,

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<v Speaker 2>my boyfriend's on the left of me, the other nigga

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<v Speaker 2>was on the right of me. So I'm at dinner

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<v Speaker 2>and as y'all know, it's like buffet style. So I

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<v Speaker 2>go and make sure we skip the line because I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted a lobster tail.

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<v Speaker 1>So we go get the lobster tail.

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<v Speaker 2>I come back, sit my plate down and immediately, bro,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sitting there like a queen, and I look at

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<v Speaker 2>my boyfriend and I'm like, uh, can you go give

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<v Speaker 2>me a drink like I'm thirsty. Like he knows my

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<v Speaker 2>drink is vodka soda lime, So go get my drink

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<v Speaker 2>for me. Girl, maybe the guys saw me. Go tell

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<v Speaker 2>him to give him a drink. Immediately, bro, he picks

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<v Speaker 2>up a fork, puts it in my plate, and starts

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<v Speaker 2>feeding me.

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<v Speaker 3>So bitch, I'm sitting there in between two men six' five, plus.

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<v Speaker 2>Both look, good and literally one is picking up the

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<v Speaker 2>fork and putting the food on my plate in my,

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<v Speaker 2>Mouth so. Bitch at this, Point i'm eating waiting for my.

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<v Speaker 2>Drink so he comes back with my drink AND i

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<v Speaker 2>taste it And i'm, like this Ain't this ain't the right.

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<v Speaker 2>Drink go get me another. One this doesn't taste. RAY

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<v Speaker 2>i feel like it's, gin not, vodka and he was drinking.

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<v Speaker 2>Gin so he repeats my. Drink so he repeats my.

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<v Speaker 2>DRINK i, say, yeah that's WHAT i told you to,

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<v Speaker 2>Get so can you go back and get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Because this isn't the right. Drink and he's, like oh my,

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<v Speaker 1>God i'm so.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry i'm gonna, bitch puts it, down goes back and

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<v Speaker 2>gets my mother fucking. Drink you ready comes? Back is

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<v Speaker 2>seeing the nigga feeding, me so. Bitch he takes the

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<v Speaker 2>cup with the straw and puts the straw in my.

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<v Speaker 2>MOUTH i can't eat, them motherfucking, drink. BITCH i can't

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<v Speaker 2>make this. Up so then one of the other girls

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<v Speaker 2>shout Out kelly's she was.

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<v Speaker 1>There she's one of the.

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<v Speaker 2>Patrons she's sitting across from me with her beautiful self

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<v Speaker 2>or her little light.

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<v Speaker 1>Eyes and she, said.

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<v Speaker 2>Across from me witnessing these two niggas feeding, Me and

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<v Speaker 2>So i'm literally.

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<v Speaker 1>Just, like this can't be. Real then my little boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>is real. Friendly so THEN i see him like talking

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<v Speaker 1>to somebody else AND i have to.

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<v Speaker 2>Call i'd be, LIKE i come, here, BITCH i choke

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<v Speaker 2>him at the dinner, table AND i, say WHAT i

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<v Speaker 2>tell you about being so goddamn, friendly sit your ass

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<v Speaker 2>right here Till i'm done, eating. Bitch and WHEN i tell,

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<v Speaker 2>you they just Both and THEN i got, full because

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<v Speaker 2>y'all KNOW i don't eat a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lot so BUT i was just, LIKE i was, like

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<v Speaker 1>this isn't real. Life why you ain't?

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<v Speaker 2>Fucking so the other, NIGGA i didn't fuck at. All

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<v Speaker 2>we didn't even make. Out he was just somebody THAT

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<v Speaker 2>i was talking to all. Weekend he actually lives.

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<v Speaker 1>In, atlanta.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn but but on the boat he was talking heavily

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<v Speaker 2>to my best Friend, Crystal SO i want to step on,

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<v Speaker 2>that even though she found a boyfriend for the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Too now the other NIGGA i had, Already, bitch we

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<v Speaker 2>had ate, breakfast he spent the.

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<v Speaker 1>Night we was. Cuddling we was hold, On i'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>just send, you send.

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<v Speaker 3>You a picture if you look Bro, okay first, off

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<v Speaker 3>we was legit.

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<v Speaker 1>Together. AnyWho that was one of the EXPERIENCES i. Had

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<v Speaker 1>and it was all the looking his bitched.

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<v Speaker 3>Eyes WHEN i see, this if it's even her eyes

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<v Speaker 3>and not just her, ass let's.

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<v Speaker 1>SEE i mean, now, oh, bitch we was we were together.

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<v Speaker 3>Together, Okay so Currently i'm, Looking i'm looking at three.

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<v Speaker 3>Photos let's just say it's like it gives two thousands photo.

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<v Speaker 3>Booth mandy is wearing a thong Baiting. Sue, no it was, lingery.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitch oh it's long, Litter, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so this one makeup is absolutely.

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<v Speaker 3>Gone she looks like she just got no.

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<v Speaker 1>No but there was no. Makeup this was a party

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<v Speaker 1>at night, Outside that's What i'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Saying, face it looked like you just got fuck, bitch

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<v Speaker 3>and that first one to eye a little. Hazy let

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<v Speaker 3>me just grab. It i'm looking at he's a. Cutie

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<v Speaker 3>he's Holding mandy across the. Waist they look like rags

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<v Speaker 3>that are going a little too close in the first.

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<v Speaker 3>Photo the second photo, below he's just Getting mandy a kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>On the cheek and she's gagging.

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<v Speaker 3>Smiling then the third photo they are closing their eyes

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<v Speaker 3>kissing each. Other she got her hands on his, face

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<v Speaker 3>the short nails one on his eye and the other

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<v Speaker 3>one buy his, ear bitch booted hoole nails on his.

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<v Speaker 1>Nigga and, yeah she has a.

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<v Speaker 2>BOYFRIEND i have a, boyfriend mind, you it's still the

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<v Speaker 2>really nice oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he has a beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>Smile then the other boyfriend is now refrigerator because he

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<v Speaker 2>is the.

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<v Speaker 1>Subnigga this is the sub. Nigga, okay this is the

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<v Speaker 1>Subg you said the other boyfriends on my? Fridge is

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<v Speaker 1>that what you just?

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<v Speaker 2>Said, yeah because he took me to the ferris wheel

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<v Speaker 2>because he came to my house and was mad he

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't on my.

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<v Speaker 1>Fridge this isn't the one that flew. In, no this

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<v Speaker 1>is the other.

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<v Speaker 2>One lord that You i'll share how we fucked in

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<v Speaker 2>another episode BECAUSE i fucked.

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<v Speaker 1>Him he did not fuck, me but we'll get into.

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<v Speaker 4>That.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch i've had a.

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<v Speaker 2>Blast shout out To Chaco, blizz shout out to, friends

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<v Speaker 2>he shout out To, jazz shout out to the twenty

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<v Speaker 2>Two Wore hive members that were, there everyone who bought

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<v Speaker 2>the book because they were bringing up they brought the.

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<v Speaker 1>Book so many people brought the. Book uh sent signed

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<v Speaker 1>copies to some.

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<v Speaker 2>People and WHEN i tell, you it wasn't real, life

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<v Speaker 2>AND i was, like oh my, god but this is

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<v Speaker 2>How like.

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<v Speaker 3>He, said y'all even gotta pay me next. Year oh, no, no,

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<v Speaker 3>No i'm going next, year already. GOING i haven't signed

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<v Speaker 3>the contract, yet But i'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Going so.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a great thing that this episode is in real,

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<v Speaker 3>time because you guys just heard the episode last week

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<v Speaker 3>about me quote unquote ghosting a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>And we met up with.

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<v Speaker 3>Her, okay so shorty they said we ghosted, her Which

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<v Speaker 3>i'm not gonna. LIE i felt very validated by this

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<v Speaker 3>One patreon, comment AND i know everybody feels back and,

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<v Speaker 3>forth but this one was interesting to me AND i

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to read it out loud BECAUSE i was, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmm, okay SO i.

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<v Speaker 3>Agreed someone on YouTube was, like you gotta double text

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<v Speaker 3>somebody to get, Ghosted like you got to write back

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<v Speaker 3>to get. Ghosted this girl said on our patron about.

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<v Speaker 1>It what was she?

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<v Speaker 3>Say, sorry, Y'all i'm trying to find, it but it

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<v Speaker 3>just got my brain, thinking, okay SO i keep backing

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<v Speaker 3>Like i'm about to read this. EHEM i don't feel

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<v Speaker 3>Like weezy ghosted that. GIRL i feel like ghosting is

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<v Speaker 3>when they reached out and you don't. Respond if she was,

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<v Speaker 3>interested she could have, said, hey how are you, anything

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<v Speaker 3>but she didn't once in eight. Months But i'm definitely,

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<v Speaker 3>learning and this is from a. WOMAN a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>women are sensitive or can't handle casual. Sex SO i

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<v Speaker 3>agree communications definitely necessarily regarding expectations around the board in any.

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<v Speaker 3>Situation so here's WHY i semi agree with. THAT i

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<v Speaker 3>don't know how both of us went that long without

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<v Speaker 3>writing each, other but WHAT i do know is the

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<v Speaker 3>PRESSURE i feel right now to write her.

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<v Speaker 1>Back is almost so intense THAT i almost can't be.

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<v Speaker 3>Natural LIKE i never ignored the, girl not one, time

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<v Speaker 3>but NOW i feel LIKE i can't let an hour

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<v Speaker 3>go by without responding because of how bad she felt last,

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<v Speaker 3>time like it's it's.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>Much so we start off our, night we pick her,

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<v Speaker 3>up we go, bowling and this was the funny thing about,

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<v Speaker 3>Bowling so we go To Lucky strike and anyone that's

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<v Speaker 3>ever been to Any Lucky, strike it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>a sexy or vibe for, bowling got.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice little the couch is a qute date.

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<v Speaker 3>Night so we're all like getting to know each other

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<v Speaker 3>again and she's, like whe were you guys up to this?

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<v Speaker 3>Summer we're, chatting, flirting and then suddenly some streamer comes

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<v Speaker 3>in with a camera crew five and like fifteen niggas

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<v Speaker 3>and we're, like what did you know the? Streamer, no,

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<v Speaker 3>okay we kept trying to figure it, out but he Spoke.

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<v Speaker 3>Spanish but he must have been a big streamer because

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<v Speaker 3>he had a security.

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<v Speaker 1>Guard so then this IS.

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<v Speaker 3>LA i take that to say everybody wants to be

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<v Speaker 3>somebody In. La so basically we had a moment where

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<v Speaker 3>we were all about to kiss and then we looked

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<v Speaker 3>to the right and she's, like ah, Shit Like jay was,

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<v Speaker 3>streaming streaming all four different. ACCOUNTS a YouTube of TikTok

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<v Speaker 3>ig was the whole. Thing so we have a few.

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<v Speaker 3>Drinks we end up going back to her. Place according To,

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<v Speaker 3>mamia me and this bitch were cert so, nervous we

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't shut the fuck. Up we had a hike at seven.

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<v Speaker 3>Am we all went on the date at seven. Thirty

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<v Speaker 3>she had early one and two. Dog it went on

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<v Speaker 3>an hour before a kiss or, anything and he's she's

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<v Speaker 3>in the, middle he's sitting behind, her and he looking

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<v Speaker 3>at me, Like, nigga what.

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<v Speaker 1>The fuck make a move? Right so this is how

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<v Speaker 1>in my HEAD i.

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<v Speaker 3>WAS i didn't know what to do or how much

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<v Speaker 3>attention to give because of the whole ordeal about. GHOSTING

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<v Speaker 3>i at one point wanted to fuck my own nigga

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<v Speaker 3>during the threesome and felt bag BECAUSE i didn't want

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<v Speaker 3>to make her feel left. OUT i was so fucked

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<v Speaker 3>up about that whole. Thing and JUST, fyi, everybody the

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<v Speaker 3>threesome happened around episode. Time so Now i'm just LIKE

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<v Speaker 3>i can't handle, This like this is too much, NOW i,

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<v Speaker 3>mean what do you?

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<v Speaker 1>Mean the threesome happened around episode. Time it was BEFORE

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<v Speaker 1>i LEFT.

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<v Speaker 3>La it was a day ago there or two. Ago

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<v Speaker 3>so the episode came out during this. Time, wait did

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<v Speaker 3>she did? She did she watch the? EPISODE i don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>So but WHAT i can tell you is we don't

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<v Speaker 3>follow each. OTHER i don't know she know WHO i.

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<v Speaker 3>Am but she did make a mention, like, oh while

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<v Speaker 3>we weren't, talking you just got a little taste of

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<v Speaker 3>Decisions, hey, everybody it's Humph, Day welcome back For you've

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<v Speaker 3>Got Decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>Today i've got two.

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<v Speaker 3>Guests we'l so you've heard on The microphore And brionda

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<v Speaker 3>From Bible stories Of breonda that doesn't exist.

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<v Speaker 1>Anymore but she does He. TRAPHOUSE i was gonna, Say.

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<v Speaker 3>out Trap House oh, no our code code is, ebony.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't make more.

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<v Speaker 3>Saints SO i didn't get a chance to go dig

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<v Speaker 3>through the, email BUT i found questions that went viral On,

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<v Speaker 3>reddit AND i really like this question Because wolf is

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<v Speaker 3>ridiculous on this. One how many dates did you go

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<v Speaker 3>on before it became a? Relationship how many? Dates how many?

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<v Speaker 3>Weeks what is the conversation like about being exclusive and

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<v Speaker 3>in a?

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<v Speaker 1>Relationship what do people call it these?

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<v Speaker 3>Days for a, Reference i'm in my late twenties early,

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<v Speaker 3>thirties is the, Partner And i've been personally very unlucky

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<v Speaker 3>in the dating field as people are dating so many

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<v Speaker 3>people at. Once there's a lot of situationships going. On

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<v Speaker 3>AND i used to THINK i could be exclusive to

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<v Speaker 3>someone by one to two, months using the boyfriend girlfriend

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<v Speaker 3>titled by three. Months it doesn't seem that that's the reality.

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<v Speaker 3>Today can everyone?

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<v Speaker 1>Elaborate? Now we all live In New York city where

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<v Speaker 1>the options are. ENDLESS i know you said a year one,

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<v Speaker 1>time which.

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<v Speaker 4>Is, YEAH i did a year for what are you

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<v Speaker 4>to get to know?

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody it took twelve, months three hundred and sixty five.

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<v Speaker 5>Days oh, No i'm saying Like i'm willing to take

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<v Speaker 5>up to a year to get to know somebody to

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<v Speaker 5>determine whether or NOT i think we're gonna mesh and

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<v Speaker 5>get into a Fo oh so.

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<v Speaker 6>You like coworkers or like people that you like or

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<v Speaker 6>church or school or. Something, yeah, like is it would

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<v Speaker 6>take a year of you to be engaged with someone

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<v Speaker 6>or a? FRIEND i guess what do you mean being

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<v Speaker 6>around being around someone union?

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<v Speaker 1>Date?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh he is talking about to give the. Title

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<v Speaker 3>oh my, god it's even more. Perplexity he's thinking that

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<v Speaker 3>you're saying a year to get to know like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>no oh my, God, no you will be inside of

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<v Speaker 3>them at the same.

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<v Speaker 1>TIME i don't have to be, okay, SHIP.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't have to say, Yeah i'll.

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<v Speaker 6>YOU i just been THINKING i think that's a crazy

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<v Speaker 6>amount of. Time BUT i, Mean i'm not. JUDGING i think.

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<v Speaker 5>That's kind of a reflection of what's wrong with. Society

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<v Speaker 5>like a year is not that. Long you don't even

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<v Speaker 5>know somebody in a.

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<v Speaker 1>Year you see what you, see what men?

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<v Speaker 4>DO i spend, Artist.

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<v Speaker 5>BUT i really think that's like society. Doesn't this hasn't

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<v Speaker 5>even got nothing to do with the question. Anyway the

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<v Speaker 5>question is about the, days right.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, wait, wait, no but, actually, like without being judgmental and,

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<v Speaker 3>silly right, now why do you what is wrong with

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<v Speaker 3>society if we think of yours too?

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<v Speaker 6>Long?

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<v Speaker 1>ONE i think it.

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<v Speaker 4>IS i think IT'S i think to get to know.

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<v Speaker 5>Somebody first of, all people are not even showing up

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<v Speaker 5>as their true, salves you know WHAT i, mean because

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<v Speaker 5>you don't want. To you want to give the. Best

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<v Speaker 5>you're curating the best of what you. Got and so

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<v Speaker 5>WHEN i and that's just we sign. It but it's

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<v Speaker 5>true you've done. It i've done, It we've all everybody

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<v Speaker 5>in the room has done. It so What i'm saying

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<v Speaker 5>is is LIKE i think about dating and the aspect

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<v Speaker 5>of like marriage and, family you know WHAT i. Mean

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<v Speaker 5>so it's, like if we're going to go the big time,

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<v Speaker 5>distance let me just make SURE i know what's going.

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<v Speaker 5>On i'm not saying it's, perfect but it's like the

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<v Speaker 5>intention is to be.

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<v Speaker 6>Careful that's why before a baby can, walk it needs to. Crawl,

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<v Speaker 6>INDEED i think that those beginning stages are not just like.

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<v Speaker 6>THOROUGHWAYS i think that they're a part of the get to.

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<v Speaker 6>Knowing whether it be, day ten, day thirty twelve, months

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<v Speaker 6>it's a part of. It so you're saying that a

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<v Speaker 6>person can be their real true selves. TWELVE i don't

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<v Speaker 6>think that's necessarily. TRUE i think you are being your

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<v Speaker 6>true self in those beginning in.

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<v Speaker 4>Truth, OH i, know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a part of. THAT i think it's a part of. It,

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<v Speaker 1>ACTUALLY i think it's. Imperence BUT i actually think it

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<v Speaker 1>takes a second for the.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait mask the master come.

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<v Speaker 6>Off, sure but that's an experience that you shouldn't be cheated.

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<v Speaker 6>OF i think that there's all that's also a part

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<v Speaker 6>of like. Courting it's like noticing that and like really

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<v Speaker 6>being enamored by it when it. Happens it's a part of.

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<v Speaker 6>It it's not like the.

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<v Speaker 5>Secondary, well it depends on what comes up, though you

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<v Speaker 5>know WHAT i. Mean you're not gonna be enamored by something.

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<v Speaker 6>Or the, Opposite, well you wouldn't be in a relationship

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<v Speaker 6>with that. Person i'm only talking about someone that you

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<v Speaker 6>would be in relation.

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<v Speaker 5>With, YEAH i just like the idea of getting to know.

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<v Speaker 5>Somebody i'm not saying it has to be a. Year

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<v Speaker 5>i'm saying, like.

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<v Speaker 1>No longer here, ever, time.

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<v Speaker 5>Not even, That i'm just saying LIKE i Don't i'm

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<v Speaker 5>not in a, Rush that's All i'm, Saying like if it's,

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<v Speaker 5>real because it's like a, tattoo, right youre thinking about

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<v Speaker 5>getting a tattoo while Rush when as soon as you get,

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<v Speaker 5>it it's, done you know WHAT i.

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<v Speaker 4>Mean it's a forever.

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<v Speaker 5>Thing like you might have got it at twenty, one

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<v Speaker 5>you're gonna have it when you're sixty.

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<v Speaker 4>Seven.

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<v Speaker 1>There have you ever had.

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<v Speaker 3>A scenario then where you dated someone almost six to

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<v Speaker 3>eight months and then you didn't end up with? Them?

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<v Speaker 4>PROBABLY i can't think of anybody right, Now but is

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<v Speaker 4>that not a?

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<v Speaker 1>Situationship that's?

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<v Speaker 4>INTERESTING a lot of people think of it like. THAT i.

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<v Speaker 5>DON'T i don't look at it like a situationship BECAUSE

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<v Speaker 5>i think a situationship is more like.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a little bit it's a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>Messier you know WHAT i. Mean, like let's Say i'm

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<v Speaker 5>seriously dating. Somebody i'm probably not dating other. People i'm

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<v Speaker 5>probably not doing a whole lot of like intermingling with other.

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<v Speaker 5>PEOPLE i don't have a roster at that, moment you

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<v Speaker 5>get know What i'm. Saying So i'm like really locked

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<v Speaker 5>in on getting to know this.

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<v Speaker 1>Person why isn't that? OKAY i agree with? This this

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<v Speaker 1>is the. Problem is this really.

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<v Speaker 3>Exposing how serious and scary commitment? IS i was dating

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<v Speaker 3>someone a few years back who wasn't seeing anyone. Else

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<v Speaker 3>we got into the five or six month after, Guy

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<v Speaker 3>but why aren't you calling me your? Girlfriend you don't

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<v Speaker 3>even want to date anyone, else you don't want intimate

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<v Speaker 3>see with someone. Else why are we not saying we're?

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<v Speaker 1>Together?

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<v Speaker 4>Then what's the?

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<v Speaker 5>Difference it's the same difference between like if you're if

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<v Speaker 5>you live with somebody for four, years why don't you

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<v Speaker 5>call them your?

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<v Speaker 4>Wife or why aren't you calling them your? Husband you

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<v Speaker 4>know WHAT i?

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<v Speaker 5>Mean it's like you could easily, say like what we're

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<v Speaker 5>doing all the things a husband and a wife would,

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<v Speaker 5>Do but there's something different about crossing that line in

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<v Speaker 5>the saying. Between so that title has power to.

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<v Speaker 6>Me the fact that there's confusion about that six months

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<v Speaker 6>in tells me that there is a level of dishonesty

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<v Speaker 6>between that relationship THAT i would not participate.

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<v Speaker 1>In if there's.

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<v Speaker 6>Confusion or ambiguity and what this is or why isn't

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<v Speaker 6>he that that has been the relationship is already done

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<v Speaker 6>before it even.

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<v Speaker 1>Started why SHOULD i have brought up THAT i need this. Pace, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>yes why wouldn't that?

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<v Speaker 6>Sure and the fact that you didn't feel safe a

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<v Speaker 6>safe space enough to do that tells you, enough tells

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<v Speaker 6>you everything you need to.

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<v Speaker 3>Know you, KNOW i actually didn't feel like it wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>a safe space in this. Scenario i've been that girl,

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<v Speaker 3>before but in this, ONE i just thought it would.

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<v Speaker 1>HAPPEN i am so used to ending up in.

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<v Speaker 3>Relationships mm. Hmm this actually fucked me. UP i realized

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<v Speaker 3>some of my rejection. SHIT i feel Like i've been

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<v Speaker 3>chosen a, lot so when it don't, Happen i'd be, like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh going, on we're we're not, together like a little,

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<v Speaker 3>dolulu which started to teach me more my new relationship

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<v Speaker 3>of requiring. Things excuse, me let me use a different,

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<v Speaker 3>word making vocal WHAT i need out of a, manager

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<v Speaker 3>as everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>SHOULD i think it's just.

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<v Speaker 1>Maturity, yeah BUT i really was, like, Oh i'll understand

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<v Speaker 1>how we're not.

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<v Speaker 4>To Get, yeah, YEAH i think that's.

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<v Speaker 5>Fair like if you, like if somebody was to be

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<v Speaker 5>LIKE i don't got six months in, me and it's,

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<v Speaker 5>like that's, valid you know WHAT i? Mean you can't

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<v Speaker 5>force somebody to do. Nothing they all we should all

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<v Speaker 5>be doing what feels comfortable to us and at.

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<v Speaker 6>The end of the day we really are talking like semantics.

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<v Speaker 6>Here it could be you don't have a benchmark. Time

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<v Speaker 6>it depends on the person to sit, down areo your

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<v Speaker 6>living experience like demends on so many different.

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<v Speaker 1>Elements for six, months it could be something, else could be,

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<v Speaker 1>two you, know, yeah it Could it should be three to,

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<v Speaker 1>me three to.

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<v Speaker 4>FOUR i don't. KNOW i don't.

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<v Speaker 1>KNOW i don't believe it any hardened times, two three.

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<v Speaker 4>Months you don't know nobody after three to four.

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<v Speaker 3>Month If i'm not your girlfriend and we've been fucking

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<v Speaker 3>and getting to know each, other now my head is

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<v Speaker 3>starting to be, like, well you're waiting for something. Else for,

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<v Speaker 3>EXAMPLE i have a friend of mine right. Now you

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<v Speaker 3>overheard that. Conversation he's been dating a girl atter over a,

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<v Speaker 3>year and he's just, like why DO i have to

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<v Speaker 3>do this? Thing why DO i have to put this

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<v Speaker 3>title on?

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<v Speaker 1>It what the?

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck, Like i'm not really romantically pursuing other, Women but

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<v Speaker 3>to me it speaks volumes because it's, like you, know

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<v Speaker 3>this girl's mid, thirties so were You what.

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<v Speaker 1>The fuck is she supposed to?

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<v Speaker 3>Think if it isn't happening yet, yeah you feel Like

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<v Speaker 3>i'm not. Valued another thing is LIKE i feel like

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<v Speaker 3>you're looking for something, else and to be, honest will

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<v Speaker 3>be uncovered by the end of the. Call was he

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<v Speaker 3>kind of Was he's locked in with her in terms

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<v Speaker 3>of like how he feels about. Her there's no one

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<v Speaker 3>Else i'm gonna bring around for the. Holidays but MAYBE

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<v Speaker 3>i am secretly saying a lot. Better you, KNOW i

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<v Speaker 3>Love european. Men this doesn't really happen In. Europe there

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<v Speaker 3>is no there's no such thing as like this whole.

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<v Speaker 3>SITUATION i literally only Had.

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<v Speaker 6>Europeans, no but not get it for this reason or

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<v Speaker 6>not Even, europeans just like a Non american situations.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't Happen europeans, CRAZY i, KNOW i hate. IT i

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<v Speaker 1>hate cut The caucasian. Out we're.

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<v Speaker 4>Go On.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesus first of, all one of them Was Middle eastern. Better,

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<v Speaker 1>no that's not even, wait that's not. No i'm saying, No,

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<v Speaker 1>no they don't use situationships over. There you know who don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Either caribbean. Men now they might have four. Girlfriends, YEAH.

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<v Speaker 6>I was gonna say for, them it's like if they

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<v Speaker 6>are having sex with, you if they're taking you out

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<v Speaker 6>to dinner if they're going dates together like you are their. Girlfriend,

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<v Speaker 6>like as far as that's, concerned like you, are it's

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<v Speaker 6>not even something that there's a conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Around it's for. Unceremonious it just.

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<v Speaker 6>Happened we, Otherwise, yeah otherwise they just wouldn't be taking

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<v Speaker 6>you out on dinners or.

0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.560
<v Speaker 1>Whatever they wouldn't do. IT i want to wrote virtualistic

0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:10.040
<v Speaker 1>ass like.

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<v Speaker 3>That you, know my boyfriend did the circle yes or

0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:14.920
<v Speaker 3>no with roses all of, It, like oh that's.

0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:17.040
<v Speaker 1>Cute, yeah remember that he wrote like every.

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<v Speaker 3>Thing, yeah he wrote a little thing and put will

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<v Speaker 3>you be my? Girlfriend and it's to me we're in our.

0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:23.440
<v Speaker 1>Thirties off of it's.

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<v Speaker 6>Ridiculous you know what's crazy is that kind of stuff

0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:29.639
<v Speaker 6>at this. Stage IF i had found like love, YOUNGER

0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:31.960
<v Speaker 6>i would have like been, like, Now i'm at a

0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:35.000
<v Speaker 6>stage where maybe it's jadedness or maybe IT'S i don't

0:20:35.040 --> 0:20:37.680
<v Speaker 6>know what it, is But I'M i loving the NONCHALANT i.

0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:40.439
<v Speaker 1>SAW i witnessed a nonchalant. Proposal what is?

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<v Speaker 4>That?

0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh? Kids it was.

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<v Speaker 6>Delicious this two couple they were having dinner like in their,

0:20:47.240 --> 0:20:49.800
<v Speaker 6>apartment and he literally all he does is like like

0:20:49.840 --> 0:20:51.640
<v Speaker 6>at the end of the, dinner he like pulls out

0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:55.560
<v Speaker 6>the rink and she was just like what like she

0:20:55.720 --> 0:20:57.520
<v Speaker 6>it was just like a little cute intimate moment in their,

0:20:57.600 --> 0:20:59.840
<v Speaker 6>kitchen and like he, proposed it was the most.

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<v Speaker 1>UNCEREMONIOUS i love.

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<v Speaker 4>THAT i, like that's kind of clarify real. Quick you like.

0:21:05.720 --> 0:21:07.160
<v Speaker 4>That that's?

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<v Speaker 1>Different CAN i just say that's?

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<v Speaker 4>Different that's very. Different let's go pull.

0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:17.080
<v Speaker 6>The tapes of, this you, know BUT I i need

0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:20.760
<v Speaker 6>the rate to be a fantastic sensational hold.

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<v Speaker 4>On hold. On what is the ethnicity of this?

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<v Speaker 1>Guy the one that?

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<v Speaker 4>Matters that. Matters So i'm about to draw a correlation real.

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<v Speaker 4>Quick i'm just saying the ethnicity of this person Because

0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:34.680
<v Speaker 4>i'm like.

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<v Speaker 5>ANY i CAN'T i cannot imagine the thing in that

0:21:37.280 --> 0:21:38.520
<v Speaker 5>world THAT i hear that'd be like.

0:21:38.880 --> 0:21:40.960
<v Speaker 6>No, no in the in the we're talking about in

0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:43.399
<v Speaker 6>the TikTok THAT i, saw it was the the guy Was,

0:21:43.520 --> 0:21:45.480
<v Speaker 6>asian the girl was.

0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:47.920
<v Speaker 1>Could have been, white could have been, ambiguous but the

0:21:47.960 --> 0:21:48.240
<v Speaker 1>guy Was.

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<v Speaker 5>Asian all the black women that are listening to this right,

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<v Speaker 5>now please leave the one in the. Chat if you

0:21:53.280 --> 0:21:55.679
<v Speaker 5>get the fuck out of that would not, Rock that

0:21:55.720 --> 0:21:56.119
<v Speaker 5>would not.

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<v Speaker 6>Rock, Well, no, no not, actually actually, NO i. Do

0:21:58.880 --> 0:22:00.560
<v Speaker 6>i'm not saying THAT i want. That i'm saying there

0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:03.760
<v Speaker 6>was something really like delicious about. It it's like a little.

0:22:03.800 --> 0:22:04.280
<v Speaker 1>MISS i like.

0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:06.399
<v Speaker 6>Miss i'm attracted to. MISFITS i don't know how WELL

0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:08.320
<v Speaker 6>i have to say. IT i like what people don't.

0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:10.040
<v Speaker 6>DO i like what people don't. Like i'm attracted to.

0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:10.879
<v Speaker 6>THAT i like.

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<v Speaker 4>That how was that not low effort?

0:22:12.640 --> 0:22:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Though oh, no, no, no, no, no no. No here's the.

0:22:18.600 --> 0:22:21.000
<v Speaker 6>Thing the person who did it wouldn't have done it

0:22:21.040 --> 0:22:23.280
<v Speaker 6>if their girl wasn't into, That and in that, moment

0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:23.920
<v Speaker 6>she was into.

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<v Speaker 1>That So i'm assuming he knows, this he knows his. Art,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah that's a great.

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<v Speaker 3>Part NOW i will tell you Something i've asked. FOR

0:22:32.920 --> 0:22:34.560
<v Speaker 3>i don't want anybody else. AROUND i don't like surprise,

0:22:35.160 --> 0:22:37.080
<v Speaker 3>SHIT i. DON'T i want it to be a moment

0:22:37.160 --> 0:22:40.680
<v Speaker 3>that's very. Realistic one of my favorite moments in any

0:22:40.720 --> 0:22:43.200
<v Speaker 3>relationship was the first TIME i don't know if you guys,

0:22:43.200 --> 0:22:44.760
<v Speaker 3>REMEMBER i used to say the guy that left me

0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:47.680
<v Speaker 3>For Jesus.

0:22:46.440 --> 0:22:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Luis he's his. Name he loved. It.

0:22:48.640 --> 0:22:53.400
<v Speaker 3>MAN i was king and him And vinnie were in the.

0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:55.800
<v Speaker 3>KITCHEN i was twenty twenty or twenty one.

0:22:56.000 --> 0:22:57.720
<v Speaker 1>And me And vinnie were living. Together he came to the.

0:22:57.760 --> 0:22:59.760
<v Speaker 1>Bathroom he, GOES i gotta get it out right.

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<v Speaker 3>Now i'm really in love with. You AND i was

0:23:03.040 --> 0:23:07.359
<v Speaker 3>on the toilet and he was like Pit and we

0:23:07.359 --> 0:23:09.320
<v Speaker 3>weren't drunk or. Anything he's, LIKE i JUST i got

0:23:09.359 --> 0:23:10.399
<v Speaker 3>to get it out of. It thinking about, IT i

0:23:10.520 --> 0:23:13.720
<v Speaker 3>know how to say, It AND i was, like whoa number.

0:23:13.720 --> 0:23:16.159
<v Speaker 3>One that was one of my most memorable moments because

0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:18.719
<v Speaker 3>it was so, unconventional so.

0:23:18.880 --> 0:23:21.440
<v Speaker 1>Urgent, Yes AND i don't know IF i told.

0:23:21.480 --> 0:23:23.879
<v Speaker 3>You In, london my boyfriend came to me out of

0:23:23.880 --> 0:23:26.480
<v Speaker 3>the bathroom AND i never told him this. Story we

0:23:26.480 --> 0:23:28.679
<v Speaker 3>were and this was the day after Seeing obay In.

0:23:28.720 --> 0:23:30.600
<v Speaker 3>London he came up to. ME i was eating a

0:23:30.600 --> 0:23:32.760
<v Speaker 3>pizza and he was, like, YO i feel like a

0:23:32.840 --> 0:23:34.720
<v Speaker 3>tear could come out right. Now JUST i really got

0:23:34.720 --> 0:23:36.359
<v Speaker 3>to tell you how MUCH i love. YOU i have

0:23:36.400 --> 0:23:39.480
<v Speaker 3>every intention of like being with you. Forever like you

0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:42.639
<v Speaker 3>were the person that talking about family, planning marri my.

0:23:42.760 --> 0:23:45.480
<v Speaker 1>Dad he came out all at, Once damn the, hole

0:23:45.520 --> 0:23:49.840
<v Speaker 1>keep it. TOGETHER i was talking about, mom love you over,

0:23:49.880 --> 0:23:53.399
<v Speaker 1>here dying, shit get you a, tissue leave.

0:23:53.280 --> 0:23:57.719
<v Speaker 4>It on the why leave it on a? Why BUT

0:23:58.359 --> 0:23:59.159
<v Speaker 4>i liked.

0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:03.480
<v Speaker 3>That, now SAYING i like that may mean a surprise,

0:24:03.680 --> 0:24:06.960
<v Speaker 3>ring BUT i would be remiss to say it would

0:24:06.960 --> 0:24:08.720
<v Speaker 3>not bother me THAT i never had a man get

0:24:08.720 --> 0:24:11.000
<v Speaker 3>down on one day for. Me, YEAH i would always

0:24:11.000 --> 0:24:12.919
<v Speaker 3>be in my head and it would always make me

0:24:12.960 --> 0:24:14.480
<v Speaker 3>think why DIDN'T i deserve?

0:24:14.520 --> 0:24:16.360
<v Speaker 1>It why DIDN'T i get to have This cinderell?

0:24:16.440 --> 0:24:18.840
<v Speaker 3>Moment AND i Think i'm a little too misfit already

0:24:19.320 --> 0:24:21.240
<v Speaker 3>for some of the. Shit it's probably Why i'm so into.

0:24:21.280 --> 0:24:23.920
<v Speaker 3>Marriage i'm the person that has sex with other people

0:24:23.920 --> 0:24:25.120
<v Speaker 3>and my, boyfriend BUT i.

0:24:25.119 --> 0:24:25.919
<v Speaker 1>Want this normal.

0:24:25.920 --> 0:24:29.520
<v Speaker 6>Marriage knows that he has to get on when you but,

0:24:29.600 --> 0:24:32.159
<v Speaker 6>actually oh sorry, sorry but he's actually believe it or,

0:24:32.200 --> 0:24:34.920
<v Speaker 6>NOT i actually think he. Is he would be down

0:24:34.960 --> 0:24:37.160
<v Speaker 6>to not do, it but he knows that you would want,

0:24:37.160 --> 0:24:38.600
<v Speaker 6>that oh you, know and he would do.

0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:41.479
<v Speaker 1>That you, know it depends on who you're. DATING i

0:24:41.480 --> 0:24:44.480
<v Speaker 1>also hate, surprises like you like the lavish? Thing you like?

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:45.960
<v Speaker 1>It you know What i'm, Saying, LIKE i.

0:24:45.960 --> 0:24:48.280
<v Speaker 3>DON'T i want to be alone at home Though i'm

0:24:48.280 --> 0:24:50.040
<v Speaker 3>shocked by, that BUT i love, that yes.

0:24:50.359 --> 0:24:52.560
<v Speaker 4>TOO i don't need like you, know people invite the

0:24:52.600 --> 0:24:53.280
<v Speaker 4>whole family.

0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:56.720
<v Speaker 1>Out it's also hitting me too with HOW i want

0:24:56.720 --> 0:24:58.159
<v Speaker 1>a courthouse. Wedding suddenly me.

0:24:58.240 --> 0:25:00.560
<v Speaker 3>TOO i don't know What i'm gonna happen one but

0:25:00.640 --> 0:25:03.280
<v Speaker 3>you know what's. Crazy you know how we growing up

0:25:03.280 --> 0:25:05.879
<v Speaker 3>and people go broke for. Marriages, yes Now i'm at

0:25:05.880 --> 0:25:07.800
<v Speaker 3>the place Where i'm dating someone where we could afford

0:25:07.800 --> 0:25:08.000
<v Speaker 3>a big.

0:25:08.040 --> 0:25:10.480
<v Speaker 1>Wedding i'm, like now we'll tell. Y'all do want Of

0:25:10.480 --> 0:25:14.960
<v Speaker 1>africa to throw that? Money? Oh that's, right, Yeah well

0:25:15.000 --> 0:25:16.879
<v Speaker 1>he told me his brother made twenty FIVE k from the.

0:25:16.880 --> 0:25:19.879
<v Speaker 3>WEDDING i, said, oh let's, yes let's run that you

0:25:19.920 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 3>made twenty five does?

0:25:21.640 --> 0:25:25.040
<v Speaker 1>He does your boyfriend also come from? Money Ain't, african BUT.

0:25:27.440 --> 0:25:29.200
<v Speaker 3>I don't know if it's, money BUT i would say

0:25:29.640 --> 0:25:34.639
<v Speaker 3>very Like american dream like everyone is successful in his,

0:25:34.680 --> 0:25:40.240
<v Speaker 3>family love, It, nigerie, uh, education.

0:25:40.320 --> 0:25:41.800
<v Speaker 1>Medical most of. Them.

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:44.280
<v Speaker 3>Actually at one, POINT i was so overwhelmed the first

0:25:44.320 --> 0:25:46.679
<v Speaker 3>time at his family when both sister and laws were

0:25:46.760 --> 0:25:48.800
<v Speaker 3>nurses and ship and the brothers was one of the.

0:25:48.800 --> 0:25:49.920
<v Speaker 1>Antetdiologist i'm, like.

0:25:49.920 --> 0:25:50.640
<v Speaker 4>Oh, yeah high.

0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:54.439
<v Speaker 3>Achievers i'm a, podcaster love it And i'm not fully

0:25:54.440 --> 0:25:54.879
<v Speaker 3>black Or.

0:25:54.880 --> 0:25:56.000
<v Speaker 1>African what are you guys gonna do?

0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:56.159
<v Speaker 3>Here?

0:25:56.920 --> 0:25:58.240
<v Speaker 4>Yes hear any old.

0:25:58.280 --> 0:26:01.600
<v Speaker 6>Podcast it's, different you know, What it's, true it's the

0:26:01.720 --> 0:26:03.840
<v Speaker 6>Big if you weren't, successful they probably have a problem with.

0:26:03.840 --> 0:26:04.880
<v Speaker 1>It sometimes they're not coming.

0:26:04.920 --> 0:26:07.840
<v Speaker 3>There And i'm the only daughter that you, know not

0:26:07.840 --> 0:26:09.480
<v Speaker 3>not daughter in law yet but you know What i'm,

0:26:09.480 --> 0:26:10.320
<v Speaker 3>saying only girlfriend to?

0:26:10.400 --> 0:26:16.160
<v Speaker 1>Do have you thinking of? Myself?

0:26:16.720 --> 0:26:18.879
<v Speaker 6>Nah BUT i matched some you guys are a match,

0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:21.320
<v Speaker 6>though because he's also the like black.

0:26:21.359 --> 0:26:24.400
<v Speaker 1>Sheep but they've never questioned.

0:26:24.119 --> 0:26:25.840
<v Speaker 4>To even judge you because it's like what we accept.

0:26:25.920 --> 0:26:27.879
<v Speaker 1>Him the only judgment we ever had was With. Nina

0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:30.080
<v Speaker 1>what is this so the dog comes in the? House?

0:26:31.240 --> 0:26:42.800
<v Speaker 1>Definitely how? Much what does the healthy relationship look like

0:26:42.840 --> 0:26:42.960
<v Speaker 1>in the?

0:26:43.000 --> 0:26:45.680
<v Speaker 3>Beginning this is something that's in The reddit thread dating,

0:26:45.720 --> 0:26:49.280
<v Speaker 3>advice and people are saying they're not sure BECAUSE i

0:26:49.320 --> 0:26:51.800
<v Speaker 3>am so used to love bombing and getting. EXCITED i

0:26:51.840 --> 0:26:54.720
<v Speaker 3>don't know what healthiness feels. Like can we all just

0:26:54.760 --> 0:26:57.119
<v Speaker 3>share before getting out of? Here how you knew you

0:26:57.160 --> 0:26:59.800
<v Speaker 3>were in a healthy relationship even if it, ended even

0:26:59.800 --> 0:27:01.960
<v Speaker 3>if it didn't go well in the. End but what

0:27:02.160 --> 0:27:05.320
<v Speaker 3>like the start of healthiness was? Like because when relationships

0:27:05.359 --> 0:27:06.960
<v Speaker 3>and at some point it can't get a little toxic or.

0:27:07.000 --> 0:27:10.640
<v Speaker 1>Whatever BUT i won't even pinpoint this. One but, yeah

0:27:11.080 --> 0:27:11.480
<v Speaker 1>curious with.

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:13.960
<v Speaker 4>Yours i'll just say a heavy, communication.

0:27:14.440 --> 0:27:19.200
<v Speaker 3>Like like you're texting every day, talking, Okay so.

0:27:19.240 --> 0:27:23.400
<v Speaker 5>Like ocean, transparency, vulnerability really getting into like the nooks

0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:25.560
<v Speaker 5>and crannies of your brain and your mind and what you're.

0:27:25.600 --> 0:27:27.399
<v Speaker 5>THINKING a lot of time we think it should be not.

0:27:27.440 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 5>Saying so if you're in a healthy, relationship you, speaking

0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:32.600
<v Speaker 5>you know WHAT i. Mean so there's no mystery to your.

0:27:32.640 --> 0:27:35.639
<v Speaker 5>PARTNER i think confute mystery with your partner outside of

0:27:35.680 --> 0:27:36.840
<v Speaker 5>a sexy context is not.

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:38.680
<v Speaker 4>Good you know WHAT i. MEAN i should know what's going.

0:27:38.720 --> 0:27:41.879
<v Speaker 1>On oh do you know what's? Crazy what you're saying is.

0:27:42.840 --> 0:27:47.680
<v Speaker 3>Uh we were out With andre In Philly Andre. Power

0:27:47.720 --> 0:27:50.760
<v Speaker 3>you guys heard me talk about him, before AND i

0:27:50.840 --> 0:27:52.879
<v Speaker 3>said something about an ARGUMENT i got in with my.

0:27:52.920 --> 0:27:55.200
<v Speaker 3>Boyfriend i'm like in front of him like this nigga

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:57.919
<v Speaker 3>be talking About he's, like You ain hit me in a

0:27:58.040 --> 0:28:00.320
<v Speaker 3>minute about some, shit AND i was, Like i'm gonna

0:28:00.359 --> 0:28:00.680
<v Speaker 3>hit you with the.

0:28:00.720 --> 0:28:02.960
<v Speaker 1>AFTERMATH i think it's with you.

0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:04.720
<v Speaker 3>TOO i might talk about little stuff that irritates, me

0:28:04.800 --> 0:28:07.000
<v Speaker 3>but for the most, part we kind of figure it

0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:08.680
<v Speaker 3>out in the, moment which feels good.

0:28:08.680 --> 0:28:10.240
<v Speaker 1>BECAUSE i wasn't like that in the beginning of this.

0:28:10.320 --> 0:28:15.720
<v Speaker 3>RELATIONSHIP i wanted advice everybody BEFORE i came to. Him

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:19.160
<v Speaker 3>and WHAT i realized is that's not healthy at, All

0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:23.520
<v Speaker 3>LIKE i might need a little. Bit what the fuck

0:28:23.520 --> 0:28:25.720
<v Speaker 3>are we doing this ship? For like why AM i

0:28:25.840 --> 0:28:27.560
<v Speaker 3>telling everybody all this ship BEFORE i tell?

0:28:27.600 --> 0:28:29.560
<v Speaker 1>You like what.

0:28:29.960 --> 0:28:30.920
<v Speaker 4>Talk to that? Nigga he don't?

0:28:30.920 --> 0:28:33.280
<v Speaker 1>Want who going to help you have that conversation with

0:28:33.320 --> 0:28:36.840
<v Speaker 1>you about this? Today? Oh? Bit, Sorry i'm sharing your. Time,

0:28:37.000 --> 0:28:38.720
<v Speaker 1>yeah n has sharing my?

0:28:38.720 --> 0:28:42.080
<v Speaker 6>Friends stop it to me, too just like in, general stop?

0:28:42.120 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 6>It yeah when IF.

0:28:43.240 --> 0:28:43.800
<v Speaker 4>I ever let you?

0:28:43.960 --> 0:28:47.080
<v Speaker 3>Stray BUT i don't think you do that always in the.

0:28:47.120 --> 0:28:49.280
<v Speaker 3>Beginning AND i could be. WRONG i could be an

0:28:49.320 --> 0:28:52.920
<v Speaker 3>unhealthy thing or an insecure, thing BUT i in the

0:28:52.920 --> 0:28:53.600
<v Speaker 3>beginning of a.

0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:59.280
<v Speaker 1>Relationship, SURE i don't know how. TO i don't know

0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 1>what kind of COMMUNICATOR i.

0:29:01.680 --> 0:29:03.520
<v Speaker 3>AM i don't know If i'll come off too, STRONG

0:29:03.840 --> 0:29:05.520
<v Speaker 3>i don't know If i'll seem insecure by.

0:29:05.560 --> 0:29:08.120
<v Speaker 1>SOMETHING i need a lot of communication gon to be.

0:29:08.200 --> 0:29:10.520
<v Speaker 3>Needy so THEN i try to weed out What i'm

0:29:10.560 --> 0:29:12.040
<v Speaker 3>going through with the friends First.

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:14.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay a lot of makes them with three of your.

0:29:14.160 --> 0:29:15.680
<v Speaker 1>Friends that's fine in the, beginning.

0:29:15.480 --> 0:29:16.480
<v Speaker 4>That makes sense to you put it like.

0:29:16.480 --> 0:29:19.240
<v Speaker 3>That But i've been at the point where it's, unhealthy

0:29:19.240 --> 0:29:21.040
<v Speaker 3>Where i'm just holding it out at dinner And i'm

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:21.920
<v Speaker 3>bringing something, up.

0:29:22.440 --> 0:29:23.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah you know WHAT i.

0:29:23.080 --> 0:29:26.160
<v Speaker 3>Mean and also things THAT i get worried about making

0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:29.160
<v Speaker 3>them look bad over. PARTNERS i know my ex girlfriend.

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:31.080
<v Speaker 1>AND i really she had a lot.

0:29:30.880 --> 0:29:32.960
<v Speaker 3>Of things THAT i was very scared to bring up

0:29:33.280 --> 0:29:34.680
<v Speaker 3>surrounding just us being.

0:29:34.760 --> 0:29:35.000
<v Speaker 4>Out.

0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:37.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah and WHEN i say, THAT i mean coming.

0:29:37.440 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 4>Out.

0:29:38.000 --> 0:29:40.520
<v Speaker 1>YEAH i was, Like, okay IF i tell my.

0:29:40.560 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 3>Friends then maybe her mom doesn't know where. Dating are

0:29:42.840 --> 0:29:45.480
<v Speaker 3>they going to be, like, ah well. Weazy you're the

0:29:45.520 --> 0:29:47.240
<v Speaker 3>one who's saying that everybody should BE x Y z

0:29:47.440 --> 0:29:50.400
<v Speaker 3>and your girlfriend doesn't do Like i'm just like again

0:29:50.520 --> 0:29:53.800
<v Speaker 3>back to, protecting LIKE i think it's all hurt.

0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:55.520
<v Speaker 1>THEM i ain't saying ship.

0:29:55.440 --> 0:29:58.040
<v Speaker 5>Because especially you might share something to a, person they're

0:29:58.040 --> 0:30:00.400
<v Speaker 5>not in the, relationship so they don't have them passion

0:30:00.440 --> 0:30:02.400
<v Speaker 5>or the empathy you. Have so then you bring them,

0:30:02.400 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 5>back you continue to deal with, him and she's still.

0:30:04.160 --> 0:30:06.800
<v Speaker 5>Mad oh she's still. Mad she's, Like i'm still mad

0:30:06.800 --> 0:30:08.760
<v Speaker 5>at the nigger for doing you like. That so that's

0:30:08.760 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 5>another reason why we should kind of keep my mouth

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:12.720
<v Speaker 5>shut or find like one safe person that's a good,

0:30:12.760 --> 0:30:16.280
<v Speaker 5>one probably your person or one other person dead, it

0:30:16.400 --> 0:30:17.560
<v Speaker 5>you know WHAT i, mean just dead that.

0:30:17.600 --> 0:30:20.000
<v Speaker 3>Shit that's a no Hold bard safety chapter be, honest is?

0:30:20.080 --> 0:30:24.440
<v Speaker 3>There BUT i talk about how. Safety at first the

0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:26.040
<v Speaker 3>chapter WAS i THOUGHT i was gonna be like sexual,

0:30:26.080 --> 0:30:30.000
<v Speaker 3>safety AND i was gonna be like condoms and. COMMUNICATION

0:30:30.120 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 3>i was, like oh, no the friends of the emotional

0:30:31.640 --> 0:30:35.840
<v Speaker 3>safety because being a non monogamous person over a, DECADE

0:30:36.040 --> 0:30:37.760
<v Speaker 3>i can tell you right, Now i've called homegirls crowded

0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:39.280
<v Speaker 3>him on the phone and hang up and they laugh about.

0:30:39.280 --> 0:30:40.080
<v Speaker 1>Me it's another, bitch.

0:30:40.200 --> 0:30:43.000
<v Speaker 3>Damn but like for, real because they're, like, oh, well

0:30:43.080 --> 0:30:44.560
<v Speaker 3>she's going through this because she's in an open.

0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:47.960
<v Speaker 1>Relationship did y'all be crying in monoglar and you're?

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:48.720
<v Speaker 4>Whatever, yeah.

0:30:48.760 --> 0:30:51.440
<v Speaker 3>Exactly it is very difficult to talk about being open,

0:30:51.440 --> 0:30:53.360
<v Speaker 3>relationship especially with someone who's not in.

0:30:53.440 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 1>One but we don't need a lot of people to

0:30:55.160 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 1>live like, this so so listen objectively that safety for.

0:30:59.360 --> 0:31:01.520
<v Speaker 3>Real, yeah but you could also do too. Much i've

0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:03.320
<v Speaker 3>definitely dumped a little too much of friends.

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:06.200
<v Speaker 6>Too when you love someone and you're like my, sister

0:31:06.320 --> 0:31:08.760
<v Speaker 6>it's just. Different what AM i going to do change? You,

0:31:08.760 --> 0:31:10.240
<v Speaker 6>No i'm going to accept you And i'm gonna.

0:31:10.280 --> 0:31:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Listen thanks for letting.

0:31:11.080 --> 0:31:13.800
<v Speaker 4>Me i'm not share your secrets. Too what?

0:31:14.840 --> 0:31:20.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Yeah do you know what secrets turn? Here thinking

0:31:20.480 --> 0:31:23.040
<v Speaker 1>about this? Podcast, boy y'all niggas have seen some ship

0:31:24.120 --> 0:31:24.920
<v Speaker 1>y'all that's.

0:31:24.800 --> 0:31:27.840
<v Speaker 4>Near or, new some shipn't heard a.

0:31:27.840 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 3>Lot we were in the L a studio having a,

0:31:30.440 --> 0:31:32.040
<v Speaker 3>moment and you, Know mandy AND i we're.

0:31:32.080 --> 0:31:33.720
<v Speaker 1>Professionals we bounced, back we figured it.

0:31:33.720 --> 0:31:37.080
<v Speaker 3>Out we had a new photographer in there who see

0:31:37.160 --> 0:31:39.160
<v Speaker 3>us before that nigg was sitting there holding camera.

0:31:39.280 --> 0:31:41.880
<v Speaker 1>Up they was, like it's a fun fight AND i

0:31:41.880 --> 0:31:43.560
<v Speaker 1>saw him slug slightly lower.

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:46.680
<v Speaker 5>It he's, like, well the that's how my first day

0:31:46.720 --> 0:31:49.320
<v Speaker 5>working with y'all. WERE i swear the guy AND i

0:31:49.320 --> 0:31:52.800
<v Speaker 5>Remembering Mary. VIVID i didn't, understand you know WHAT i?

0:31:52.880 --> 0:31:54.520
<v Speaker 4>MEAN i didn't get it at. ALL i was, like

0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:56.440
<v Speaker 4>are they? Friends you know WHAT i?

0:31:56.440 --> 0:31:57.640
<v Speaker 1>Mean Like i've been doing it for so.

0:31:57.760 --> 0:32:01.520
<v Speaker 5>Long but it's like it's professional at one of the highest,

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:04.880
<v Speaker 5>heights because like business come. First and THEN i don't

0:32:04.880 --> 0:32:07.120
<v Speaker 5>fuck with. You you know What i'm, saying, BIG i

0:32:07.160 --> 0:32:09.160
<v Speaker 5>mean it is what it. Is listen to the show

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:10.080
<v Speaker 5>for how many of you are?

0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:11.120
<v Speaker 4>There abody? Know you know?

0:32:11.200 --> 0:32:12.720
<v Speaker 1>What we have such a good.

0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:16.280
<v Speaker 3>Chemistry that's it's weird because people have said to me

0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:17.400
<v Speaker 3>sometimes like great?

0:32:17.480 --> 0:32:18.200
<v Speaker 4>Chemistry is this?

0:32:18.280 --> 0:32:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Phony is this?

0:32:19.040 --> 0:32:20.960
<v Speaker 3>Real And i'd be, like oh, No like When i'm sitting,

0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:24.000
<v Speaker 3>there this is a very real energy you're feeling, like

0:32:24.040 --> 0:32:24.680
<v Speaker 3>that's why it's.

0:32:24.760 --> 0:32:29.080
<v Speaker 1>Good, yeah it's not like a drag for me to pull.

0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:33.720
<v Speaker 3>Something, ACTUALLY i had maybe two percent of my episodes

0:32:33.760 --> 0:32:37.640
<v Speaker 3>With mandy that needed to be like, ye that dragged

0:32:37.640 --> 0:32:38.520
<v Speaker 3>on for the most.

0:32:38.520 --> 0:32:39.320
<v Speaker 1>Part we can't stop.

0:32:39.360 --> 0:32:43.760
<v Speaker 6>TALKING i think the rigidity of it has tremendous.

0:32:43.760 --> 0:32:46.920
<v Speaker 1>Comforts by the, way but have you met me with

0:32:47.000 --> 0:32:51.440
<v Speaker 1>The imbrianda never had. Rigidity they're that that tension that you.

0:32:51.480 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 1>Feel but we were just. DESCRIBING i feel like that's lost.

0:32:55.840 --> 0:32:59.400
<v Speaker 4>Rigidity go go go.

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:00.800
<v Speaker 1>UYS i mean.

0:33:00.840 --> 0:33:04.480
<v Speaker 6>DICTIONARIES i think that rigidity is what like reads that

0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:06.000
<v Speaker 6>authenticity that gets people to keep.

0:33:06.040 --> 0:33:08.120
<v Speaker 1>Watching, OH i know what you.

0:33:08.200 --> 0:33:11.920
<v Speaker 6>Mean it's not there's a very little room for like again,

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:15.640
<v Speaker 6>sorry a veneer like a performance it's, like, no when you.

0:33:16.000 --> 0:33:19.200
<v Speaker 3>Have learned a lot about podcasts breaking up and, why,

0:33:19.560 --> 0:33:23.800
<v Speaker 3>yeah nothing has taught me more About LIKE i just

0:33:23.840 --> 0:33:25.760
<v Speaker 3>did this podcast behind the, likes so y'all go check it.

0:33:25.760 --> 0:33:27.760
<v Speaker 1>Out they're very. Popular shy In winter shout out to.

0:33:27.800 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 3>Them and one of the comments left was, like please

0:33:30.520 --> 0:33:33.800
<v Speaker 3>don't turn into them talking About mandy AND i BECAUSE

0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:38.000
<v Speaker 3>i made the, Comment, oh our lack of best friend you,

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:40.680
<v Speaker 3>know best friendship or whatever like has made for us

0:33:40.680 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 3>to actually sustain. THIS i truly believe, this but it

0:33:45.680 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 3>made me feel bad Because i'm, Like i'm not saying

0:33:47.560 --> 0:33:50.280
<v Speaker 3>it's the only. Way i'm just saying that friends break

0:33:50.360 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 3>up more than true business partner people have worked at

0:33:53.080 --> 0:33:55.200
<v Speaker 3>a job where they don't know someone's name for ten.

0:33:55.280 --> 0:33:57.000
<v Speaker 3>Years not Saying mandy AND i like that we're inter.

0:33:57.000 --> 0:34:00.560
<v Speaker 3>Twined BUT i, mean, like, Oh i'm really being serious

0:34:00.600 --> 0:34:02.040
<v Speaker 3>WHEN i said them friends be breaking.

0:34:02.080 --> 0:34:05.080
<v Speaker 6>Up that's What i'm. Saying canceled podcasts just. Ended like it's,

0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:08.480
<v Speaker 6>like you guys have outlived so many podcasts where the

0:34:08.560 --> 0:34:11.480
<v Speaker 6>coasts were. Friends so there's something to.

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:12.120
<v Speaker 1>It i'm not.

0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:14.360
<v Speaker 5>Sure and it's really a beautiful thing because it's like

0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:18.440
<v Speaker 5>an ecosystem of people that survived because of y'all's. Relationship and,

0:34:18.480 --> 0:34:20.879
<v Speaker 5>FURTHERMORE i think a lot of the time y'all don't

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:22.719
<v Speaker 5>like each, other that's. Evident but one THING i know

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:23.719
<v Speaker 5>for a, fact y'all love.

0:34:23.640 --> 0:34:24.960
<v Speaker 1>Each other, Though and y'all love.

0:34:25.040 --> 0:34:27.400
<v Speaker 4>Money i've seen, it y'all love.

0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:29.120
<v Speaker 5>It y'all love each, other you, KNOW i mean, honestly

0:34:29.200 --> 0:34:31.640
<v Speaker 5>y'all like be behind the stage crying together before you

0:34:31.719 --> 0:34:32.960
<v Speaker 5>hit the stage and, Earybody oh.

0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:34.920
<v Speaker 1>Oh my, god start bringing up that one time in Doubtas.

0:34:34.680 --> 0:34:36.080
<v Speaker 5>I'm just, saying you know WHAT i? Mean, nah not

0:34:36.120 --> 0:34:37.839
<v Speaker 5>even DULLAS i think it's some somewhere in The east.

0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:42.000
<v Speaker 3>Coast so wait really, yeah so for me to be the,

0:34:42.080 --> 0:34:44.080
<v Speaker 3>emol we'd be crying to get crying holding.

0:34:44.120 --> 0:34:45.560
<v Speaker 4>Hands y'all love each, other you know WHAT i?

0:34:45.560 --> 0:34:46.760
<v Speaker 6>Mean, yeah.

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 3>Of course it's part like, Absolutely like we did a

0:34:52.160 --> 0:34:54.640
<v Speaker 3>show With Girls Gotta eat where they.

0:34:54.520 --> 0:34:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Were laughing, like, wait is this? Real is this a?

0:34:56.239 --> 0:34:58.600
<v Speaker 3>Bit they're so cute they used to be here AT

0:34:58.719 --> 0:35:00.600
<v Speaker 3>Wtf Ashtey Raina's There's.

0:35:02.880 --> 0:35:04.560
<v Speaker 1>AND i was, like of COURSE i Love, Mandy like

0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:05.520
<v Speaker 1>that's an easy thing for me to.

0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:08.880
<v Speaker 3>Say AND i Wouldn't it wouldn't even Be it's like

0:35:09.040 --> 0:35:11.759
<v Speaker 3>instantaneous out of my. Mouth BUT i think it's also

0:35:11.840 --> 0:35:16.160
<v Speaker 3>Because i've Known mandy SINCE i was. Fifteen you know

0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:18.399
<v Speaker 3>What i'm. Saying now we have family members we don't

0:35:18.400 --> 0:35:20.440
<v Speaker 3>get along with and shit like. That but like you're

0:35:20.440 --> 0:35:22.600
<v Speaker 3>telling me That i've done all of this in my, Life,

0:35:22.600 --> 0:35:24.160
<v Speaker 3>like of, COURSE i.

0:35:24.120 --> 0:35:27.239
<v Speaker 6>Have a sneaking suspicion, that like the real bow at

0:35:27.239 --> 0:35:28.480
<v Speaker 6>the end of this is going to happen.

0:35:28.280 --> 0:35:31.040
<v Speaker 1>When y'all are in your fifties sixties and you guys

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.120
<v Speaker 1>are going to be like super amicable for.

0:35:33.160 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 4>Real oh for.

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:35.719
<v Speaker 3>Sure you think we're going to be Sixty, yeah BUT

0:35:36.520 --> 0:35:38.520
<v Speaker 3>i don't think the podcast is gonna last that, long.

0:35:38.640 --> 0:35:41.600
<v Speaker 1>NIGGA i don't think. Podcasting yeah, YEAH.

0:35:42.239 --> 0:35:46.080
<v Speaker 3>Wtf have to be A tv production. Studio, yeah and

0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:48.439
<v Speaker 3>by that point you're gonna be a. Billionaire oh, wait

0:35:48.800 --> 0:35:50.719
<v Speaker 3>NOW i will tell. Y'all just while we ended on some,

0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:54.000
<v Speaker 3>tea the best fight in here breakup this HOW i

0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:56.760
<v Speaker 3>knew it was, good. Y'all SO wtf media always has camera,

0:35:56.800 --> 0:35:58.960
<v Speaker 3>going camera's, going and we mainly actually do that for

0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:01.400
<v Speaker 3>the protection of the engine years because there were one

0:36:01.480 --> 0:36:04.839
<v Speaker 3>or two instances where like something went. MISSING i think

0:36:04.840 --> 0:36:06.640
<v Speaker 3>at the, beginning do you remember, that do both a

0:36:06.680 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 3>camera went?

0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:09.760
<v Speaker 4>Missing it was, like, yeah a whole camera went, missing

0:36:09.760 --> 0:36:10.000
<v Speaker 4>and it.

0:36:09.960 --> 0:36:12.359
<v Speaker 3>Was, like, okay he was employees the people that were

0:36:12.360 --> 0:36:13.919
<v Speaker 3>there or you're And i'm, like why the fuck would

0:36:13.920 --> 0:36:16.360
<v Speaker 3>our people? Still but we never had a camera very

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:21.319
<v Speaker 3>very early, on so really it's for us because, like oh, nah,

0:36:21.440 --> 0:36:22.640
<v Speaker 3>y'all did this ship not our?

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:27.160
<v Speaker 1>People so long story, short somebody was fighting.

0:36:26.960 --> 0:36:30.319
<v Speaker 3>In this bitch it is tea or baby will fit

0:36:30.360 --> 0:36:33.200
<v Speaker 3>there and they were, like oh, shit like, y'all like

0:36:33.239 --> 0:36:35.640
<v Speaker 3>we had to quiet them down to me And alex

0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:38.239
<v Speaker 3>talking about pull the funny and we watching this ship

0:36:38.320 --> 0:36:41.680
<v Speaker 3>like it was a robbery, breath, like oh custiny chick steak.

0:36:41.480 --> 0:36:42.919
<v Speaker 1>Pu's he bit for that? Ship?

0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:47.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah do you remember that the cameras were rolling

0:36:47.080 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 3>WHEN i forgot the, key cameras got me. Run, anyway,

0:36:50.840 --> 0:36:53.960
<v Speaker 3>y'all if you enjoyed, this you'll enjoy more of OUR

0:36:54.080 --> 0:36:56.120
<v Speaker 3>ygd and you can actually see the video on patreon dot.

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:59.600
<v Speaker 3>Com Backslash Horrible decisions because it didn't go anywhere and

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:00.640
<v Speaker 3>it's still.

0:37:00.200 --> 0:37:02.719
<v Speaker 1>Here and we're still. Hoes don't tell Me, ANDY i

0:37:02.760 --> 0:37:05.600
<v Speaker 1>said THAT i am not a.

0:37:05.640 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 4>HOE i was about to SAY i ain't.

0:37:07.080 --> 0:37:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Know i'm happy to.

0:37:13.080 --> 0:37:14.279
<v Speaker 4>Be she does Like europeans