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Speaker 1: It wasn't real life. Just know that it was real life.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Okay, I'll share one thing only I'll

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Speaker 2: how not real life it was. So one of my

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Speaker 2: boyfriends was more subby than the other boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: But there was a.

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Speaker 2: Third nigga that, yeah, he's definitely more subby. Oh like girl,

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Speaker 2: I was slapping him. He was like, it was great.

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Speaker 2: So at one of the dinners, I sit down and

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Speaker 2: I find myself somehow crafting the experience of two slaves.

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Speaker 1: Hear me out, it was amazing.

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Speaker 2: So I had my one boyfriend on the right of me,

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Speaker 2: and then I had another nigga on the the So, no,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend's on the left of me, the other nigga

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Speaker 2: was on the right of me. So I'm at dinner

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Speaker 2: and as y'all know, it's like buffet style. So I

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Speaker 2: go and make sure we skip the line because I

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Speaker 2: wanted a lobster tail.

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Speaker 1: So we go get the lobster tail.

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Speaker 2: I come back, sit my plate down and immediately, bro,

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Speaker 2: I'm sitting there like a queen, and I look at

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend and I'm like, uh, can you go give

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Speaker 2: me a drink like I'm thirsty. Like he knows my

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Speaker 2: drink is vodka soda lime, So go get my drink

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Speaker 2: for me. Girl, maybe the guys saw me. Go tell

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Speaker 2: him to give him a drink. Immediately, bro, he picks

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Speaker 2: up a fork, puts it in my plate, and starts

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Speaker 2: feeding me.

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Speaker 3: So bitch, I'm sitting there in between two men six' five, plus.

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Speaker 2: Both look, good and literally one is picking up the

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Speaker 2: fork and putting the food on my plate in my,

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Speaker 2: Mouth so. Bitch at this, Point i'm eating waiting for my.

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Speaker 2: Drink so he comes back with my drink AND i

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Speaker 2: taste it And i'm, like this Ain't this ain't the right.

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Speaker 2: Drink go get me another. One this doesn't taste. RAY

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Speaker 2: i feel like it's, gin not, vodka and he was drinking.

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Speaker 2: Gin so he repeats my. Drink so he repeats my.

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Speaker 2: DRINK i, say, yeah that's WHAT i told you to,

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Speaker 2: Get so can you go back and get it.

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Speaker 1: Because this isn't the right. Drink and he's, like oh my,

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Speaker 1: God i'm so.

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Speaker 2: Sorry i'm gonna, bitch puts it, down goes back and

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Speaker 2: gets my mother fucking. Drink you ready comes? Back is

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Speaker 2: seeing the nigga feeding, me so. Bitch he takes the

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Speaker 2: cup with the straw and puts the straw in my.

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Speaker 2: MOUTH i can't eat, them motherfucking, drink. BITCH i can't

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Speaker 2: make this. Up so then one of the other girls

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Speaker 2: shout Out kelly's she was.

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Speaker 1: There she's one of the.

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Speaker 2: Patrons she's sitting across from me with her beautiful self

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Speaker 2: or her little light.

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Speaker 1: Eyes and she, said.

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Speaker 2: Across from me witnessing these two niggas feeding, Me and

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Speaker 2: So i'm literally.

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Speaker 1: Just, like this can't be. Real then my little boyfriend

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Speaker 1: is real. Friendly so THEN i see him like talking

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Speaker 1: to somebody else AND i have to.

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Speaker 2: Call i'd be, LIKE i come, here, BITCH i choke

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Speaker 2: him at the dinner, table AND i, say WHAT i

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Speaker 2: tell you about being so goddamn, friendly sit your ass

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Speaker 2: right here Till i'm done, eating. Bitch and WHEN i tell,

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Speaker 2: you they just Both and THEN i got, full because

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Speaker 2: y'all KNOW i don't eat a.

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Speaker 1: Lot so BUT i was just, LIKE i was, like

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Speaker 1: this isn't real. Life why you ain't?

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Speaker 2: Fucking so the other, NIGGA i didn't fuck at. All

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Speaker 2: we didn't even make. Out he was just somebody THAT

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Speaker 2: i was talking to all. Weekend he actually lives.

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Speaker 1: In, atlanta.

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Speaker 2: Damn but but on the boat he was talking heavily

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Speaker 2: to my best Friend, Crystal SO i want to step on,

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Speaker 2: that even though she found a boyfriend for the weekend.

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Speaker 2: Too now the other NIGGA i had, Already, bitch we

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Speaker 2: had ate, breakfast he spent the.

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Speaker 1: Night we was. Cuddling we was hold, On i'm gonna

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Speaker 1: just send, you send.

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Speaker 3: You a picture if you look Bro, okay first, off

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Speaker 3: we was legit.

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Speaker 1: Together. AnyWho that was one of the EXPERIENCES i. Had

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Speaker 1: and it was all the looking his bitched.

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Speaker 3: Eyes WHEN i see, this if it's even her eyes

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Speaker 3: and not just her, ass let's.

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Speaker 1: SEE i mean, now, oh, bitch we was we were together.

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Speaker 3: Together, Okay so Currently i'm, Looking i'm looking at three.

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Speaker 3: Photos let's just say it's like it gives two thousands photo.

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Speaker 3: Booth mandy is wearing a thong Baiting. Sue, no it was, lingery.

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Speaker 3: Bitch oh it's long, Litter, okay.

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Speaker 1: It was so this one makeup is absolutely.

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Speaker 3: Gone she looks like she just got no.

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Speaker 1: No but there was no. Makeup this was a party

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Speaker 1: at night, Outside that's What i'm.

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Speaker 3: Saying, face it looked like you just got fuck, bitch

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Speaker 3: and that first one to eye a little. Hazy let

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Speaker 3: me just grab. It i'm looking at he's a. Cutie

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Speaker 3: he's Holding mandy across the. Waist they look like rags

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Speaker 3: that are going a little too close in the first.

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Speaker 3: Photo the second photo, below he's just Getting mandy a kiss.

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Speaker 3: Smiling then the third photo they are closing their eyes

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Speaker 3: kissing each. Other she got her hands on his, face

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Speaker 3: the short nails one on his eye and the other

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Speaker 1: Nigga and, yeah she has a.

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Speaker 2: BOYFRIEND i have a, boyfriend mind, you it's still the

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Speaker 2: really nice oh.

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Speaker 1: Is he has a beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Smile then the other boyfriend is now refrigerator because he

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Speaker 2: is the.

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Speaker 1: Subnigga this is the sub. Nigga, okay this is the

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Speaker 1: Subg you said the other boyfriends on my? Fridge is

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Speaker 1: that what you just?

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Speaker 2: Said, yeah because he took me to the ferris wheel

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Speaker 2: because he came to my house and was mad he

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Speaker 1: Fridge this isn't the one that flew. In, no this

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Speaker 2: One lord that You i'll share how we fucked in

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Speaker 2: another episode BECAUSE i fucked.

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Speaker 1: Him he did not fuck, me but we'll get into.

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Speaker 4: That.

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Speaker 1: Bitch i've had a.

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Speaker 2: Blast shout out To Chaco, blizz shout out to, friends

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Speaker 2: he shout out To, jazz shout out to the twenty

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Speaker 2: Two Wore hive members that were, there everyone who bought

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Speaker 2: the book because they were bringing up they brought the.

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Speaker 1: Book so many people brought the. Book uh sent signed

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Speaker 1: copies to some.

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Speaker 2: People and WHEN i tell, you it wasn't real, life

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Speaker 2: How like.

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Speaker 3: He, said y'all even gotta pay me next. Year oh, no, no,

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Speaker 3: No i'm going next, year already. GOING i haven't signed

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Speaker 1: Going so.

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Speaker 3: This is a great thing that this episode is in real,

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Speaker 3: time because you guys just heard the episode last week

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Speaker 3: about me quote unquote ghosting a girl.

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Speaker 1: And we met up with.

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Speaker 3: Her, okay so shorty they said we ghosted, her Which

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Speaker 3: i'm not gonna. LIE i felt very validated by this

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Speaker 3: One patreon, comment AND i know everybody feels back and,

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Speaker 3: wanted to read it out loud BECAUSE i was, like.

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Speaker 1: Hmm, okay SO i.

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Speaker 3: Agreed someone on YouTube was, like you gotta double text

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Speaker 3: somebody to get, Ghosted like you got to write back

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Speaker 3: to get. Ghosted this girl said on our patron about.

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Speaker 1: It what was she?

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Speaker 3: Say, sorry, Y'all i'm trying to find, it but it

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Speaker 3: Like i'm about to read this. EHEM i don't feel

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Speaker 3: Like weezy ghosted that. GIRL i feel like ghosting is

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Speaker 3: when they reached out and you don't. Respond if she was,

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Speaker 3: interested she could have, said, hey how are you, anything

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Speaker 3: learning and this is from a. WOMAN a lot of

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Speaker 3: women are sensitive or can't handle casual. Sex SO i

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Speaker 3: PRESSURE i feel right now to write her.

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Speaker 1: Back is almost so intense THAT i almost can't be.

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Speaker 3: Natural LIKE i never ignored the, girl not one, time

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Speaker 3: but NOW i feel LIKE i can't let an hour

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Speaker 3: go by without responding because of how bad she felt last,

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Speaker 1: A little bit.

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Speaker 3: Much so we start off our, night we pick her,

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Speaker 1: Nice little the couch is a qute date.

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Speaker 3: Night so we're all like getting to know each other

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Speaker 3: again and she's, like whe were you guys up to this?

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Speaker 3: Summer we're, chatting, flirting and then suddenly some streamer comes

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Speaker 3: and we're, like what did you know the? Streamer, no,

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Speaker 3: okay we kept trying to figure it, out but he Spoke.

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Speaker 1: Guard so then this IS.

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Speaker 3: LA i take that to say everybody wants to be

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Speaker 3: somebody In. La so basically we had a moment where

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Speaker 3: we were all about to kiss and then we looked

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Speaker 3: streaming streaming all four different. ACCOUNTS a YouTube of TikTok

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Speaker 3: ig was the whole. Thing so we have a few.

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Speaker 3: Drinks we end up going back to her. Place according To,

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Speaker 3: mamia me and this bitch were cert so, nervous we

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Speaker 3: couldn't shut the fuck. Up we had a hike at seven.

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Speaker 3: Am we all went on the date at seven. Thirty

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Speaker 3: she had early one and two. Dog it went on

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Speaker 3: an hour before a kiss or, anything and he's she's

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Speaker 3: in the, middle he's sitting behind, her and he looking

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Speaker 3: at me, Like, nigga what.

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Speaker 1: The fuck make a move? Right so this is how

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Speaker 3: WAS i didn't know what to do or how much

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Speaker 3: attention to give because of the whole ordeal about. GHOSTING

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Speaker 3: i at one point wanted to fuck my own nigga

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Speaker 3: during the threesome and felt bag BECAUSE i didn't want

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Speaker 3: to make her feel left. OUT i was so fucked

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Speaker 3: up about that whole. Thing and JUST, fyi, everybody the

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Speaker 3: threesome happened around episode. Time so Now i'm just LIKE

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Speaker 3: i can't handle, This like this is too much, NOW i,

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Speaker 3: mean what do you?

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Speaker 1: Mean the threesome happened around episode. Time it was BEFORE

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Speaker 1: i LEFT.

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Speaker 3: La it was a day ago there or two. Ago

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Speaker 3: so the episode came out during this. Time, wait did

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Speaker 3: she did? She did she watch the? EPISODE i don't think.

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Speaker 3: So but WHAT i can tell you is we don't

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Speaker 3: follow each. OTHER i don't know she know WHO i.

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Speaker 3: Am but she did make a mention, like, oh while

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Speaker 1: Elaborate? Now we all live In New York city where

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Speaker 4: Is, YEAH i did a year for what are you

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Speaker 4: to get to know?

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Speaker 1: Somebody it took twelve, months three hundred and sixty five.

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Speaker 5: Days oh, No i'm saying Like i'm willing to take

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Speaker 6: take a year of you to be engaged with someone

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Speaker 6: or a? FRIEND i guess what do you mean being

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Speaker 1: Date?

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Speaker 3: oh my, god it's even more. Perplexity he's thinking that

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Speaker 3: you're saying a year to get to know like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: TIME i don't have to be, okay, SHIP.

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Speaker 6: YOU i just been THINKING i think that's a crazy

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Speaker 6: amount of. Time BUT i, Mean i'm not. JUDGING i think.

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Speaker 5: That's kind of a reflection of what's wrong with. Society

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Speaker 5: like a year is not that. Long you don't even

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Speaker 5: know somebody in a.

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Speaker 1: Year you see what you, see what men?

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Speaker 4: DO i spend, Artist.

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Speaker 5: BUT i really think that's like society. Doesn't this hasn't

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Speaker 3: silly right, now why do you what is wrong with

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Speaker 1: ONE i think it.

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Speaker 4: IS i think IT'S i think to get to know.

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Speaker 5: Somebody first of, all people are not even showing up

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Speaker 5: you don't want. To you want to give the. Best

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Speaker 5: so it's, like if we're going to go the big time,

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Speaker 6: INDEED i think that those beginning stages are not just like.

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Speaker 6: THOROUGHWAYS i think that they're a part of the get to.

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Speaker 6: Knowing whether it be, day ten, day thirty twelve, months

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Speaker 6: think that's necessarily. TRUE i think you are being your

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Speaker 6: OF i think that there's all that's also a part

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Speaker 5: Secondary, well it depends on what comes up, though you

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Speaker 5: know WHAT i. Mean you're not gonna be enamored by something.

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Speaker 6: Or the, Opposite, well you wouldn't be in a relationship

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Speaker 6: with that. Person i'm only talking about someone that you

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Speaker 5: With, YEAH i just like the idea of getting to know.

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Speaker 5: Somebody i'm not saying it has to be a. Year

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Speaker 1: No longer here, ever, time.

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Speaker 5: Not even, That i'm just saying LIKE i Don't i'm

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Speaker 4: Mean it's a forever.

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Speaker 5: Thing like you might have got it at twenty, one

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Speaker 1: There have you ever had.

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Speaker 3: A scenario then where you dated someone almost six to

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Speaker 4: PROBABLY i can't think of anybody right, Now but is

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Speaker 5: DON'T i don't look at it like a situationship BECAUSE

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Speaker 5: Messier you know WHAT i. Mean, like let's Say i'm

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Speaker 5: seriously dating. Somebody i'm probably not dating other. People i'm

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Speaker 5: probably not doing a whole lot of like intermingling with other.

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Speaker 5: PEOPLE i don't have a roster at that, moment you

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Speaker 5: get know What i'm. Saying So i'm like really locked

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Speaker 1: Person why isn't that? OKAY i agree with? This this

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Speaker 3: Exposing how serious and scary commitment? IS i was dating

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Speaker 3: we got into the five or six month after, Guy

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Speaker 3: but why aren't you calling me your? Girlfriend you don't

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Speaker 3: even want to date anyone, else you don't want intimate

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Speaker 4: Then what's the?

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Speaker 5: Difference it's the same difference between like if you're if

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Speaker 5: call them your?

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Speaker 4: Wife or why aren't you calling them your? Husband you

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Speaker 5: Mean it's like you could easily, say like what we're

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Speaker 5: doing all the things a husband and a wife would,

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Speaker 5: Do but there's something different about crossing that line in

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Speaker 6: Me the fact that there's confusion about that six months

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Speaker 6: between that relationship THAT i would not participate.

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Speaker 1: In if there's.

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Speaker 6: Confusion or ambiguity and what this is or why isn't

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Speaker 6: before it even.

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Speaker 1: Started why SHOULD i have brought up THAT i need this. Pace, absolutely,

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Speaker 6: Sure and the fact that you didn't feel safe a

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Speaker 3: Know you, KNOW i actually didn't feel like it wasn't

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Speaker 3: before but in this, ONE i just thought it would.

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Speaker 1: HAPPEN i am so used to ending up in.

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Speaker 3: Relationships mm. Hmm this actually fucked me. UP i realized

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Speaker 5: like that's, valid you know WHAT i? Mean you can't

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Speaker 6: The end of the day we really are talking like semantics.

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Speaker 4: Months you don't know nobody after three to four.

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Speaker 3: Month If i'm not your girlfriend and we've been fucking

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Speaker 3: Else i'm gonna bring around for the. Holidays but MAYBE

440
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Speaker 3: i am secretly saying a lot. Better you, KNOW i

441
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Speaker 3: Love european. Men this doesn't really happen In. Europe there

442
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Speaker 3: is no there's no such thing as like this whole.

443
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Speaker 3: SITUATION i literally only Had.

444
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Speaker 6: Europeans, no but not get it for this reason or

445
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Speaker 6: not Even, europeans just like a Non american situations.

446
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Speaker 1: Don't Happen europeans, CRAZY i, KNOW i hate. IT i

447
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Speaker 1: hate cut The caucasian. Out we're.

448
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Speaker 4: Go On.

449
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Speaker 1: Jesus first of, all one of them Was Middle eastern. Better,

450
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Speaker 1: no that's not even, wait that's not. No i'm saying, No,

451
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Speaker 1: no they don't use situationships over. There you know who don't.

452
00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:42,560
Speaker 1: Either caribbean. Men now they might have four. Girlfriends, YEAH.

453
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Speaker 6: I was gonna say for, them it's like if they

454
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 6: are having sex with, you if they're taking you out

455
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:55,800
Speaker 6: to dinner if they're going dates together like you are their. Girlfriend,

456
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Speaker 6: like as far as that's, concerned like you, are it's

457
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Speaker 6: not even something that there's a conversation.

458
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Speaker 1: Around it's for. Unceremonious it just.

459
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Speaker 6: Happened we, Otherwise, yeah otherwise they just wouldn't be taking

460
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Speaker 6: you out on dinners or.

461
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Speaker 1: Whatever they wouldn't do. IT i want to wrote virtualistic

462
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Speaker 1: ass like.

463
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Speaker 3: That you, know my boyfriend did the circle yes or

464
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Speaker 3: no with roses all of, It, like oh that's.

465
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Speaker 1: Cute, yeah remember that he wrote like every.

466
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Speaker 3: Thing, yeah he wrote a little thing and put will

467
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Speaker 3: you be my? Girlfriend and it's to me we're in our.

468
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Speaker 1: Thirties off of it's.

469
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Speaker 6: Ridiculous you know what's crazy is that kind of stuff

470
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Speaker 6: at this. Stage IF i had found like love, YOUNGER

471
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Speaker 6: i would have like been, like, Now i'm at a

472
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Speaker 6: stage where maybe it's jadedness or maybe IT'S i don't

473
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Speaker 6: know what it, is But I'M i loving the NONCHALANT i.

474
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Speaker 1: SAW i witnessed a nonchalant. Proposal what is?

475
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Speaker 4: That?

476
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Speaker 1: Oh? Kids it was.

477
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Speaker 6: Delicious this two couple they were having dinner like in their,

478
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Speaker 6: apartment and he literally all he does is like like

479
00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:51,640
Speaker 6: at the end of the, dinner he like pulls out

480
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Speaker 6: the rink and she was just like what like she

481
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Speaker 6: it was just like a little cute intimate moment in their,

482
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Speaker 6: kitchen and like he, proposed it was the most.

483
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Speaker 1: UNCEREMONIOUS i love.

484
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Speaker 4: THAT i, like that's kind of clarify real. Quick you like.

485
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Speaker 4: That that's?

486
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Speaker 1: Different CAN i just say that's?

487
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Speaker 4: Different that's very. Different let's go pull.

488
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Speaker 6: The tapes of, this you, know BUT I i need

489
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Speaker 6: the rate to be a fantastic sensational hold.

490
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Speaker 4: On hold. On what is the ethnicity of this?

491
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Speaker 1: Guy the one that?

492
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Speaker 4: Matters that. Matters So i'm about to draw a correlation real.

493
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Speaker 4: Quick i'm just saying the ethnicity of this person Because

494
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Speaker 4: i'm like.

495
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Speaker 5: ANY i CAN'T i cannot imagine the thing in that

496
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Speaker 5: world THAT i hear that'd be like.

497
00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,960
Speaker 6: No, no in the in the we're talking about in

498
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Speaker 6: the TikTok THAT i, saw it was the the guy Was,

499
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Speaker 6: asian the girl was.

500
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Speaker 1: Could have been, white could have been, ambiguous but the

501
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Speaker 1: guy Was.

502
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Speaker 5: Asian all the black women that are listening to this right,

503
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Speaker 5: now please leave the one in the. Chat if you

504
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Speaker 5: get the fuck out of that would not, Rock that

505
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Speaker 5: would not.

506
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Speaker 6: Rock, Well, no, no not, actually actually, NO i. Do

507
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Speaker 6: i'm not saying THAT i want. That i'm saying there

508
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Speaker 6: was something really like delicious about. It it's like a little.

509
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Speaker 1: MISS i like.

510
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Speaker 6: Miss i'm attracted to. MISFITS i don't know how WELL

511
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 6: i have to say. IT i like what people don't.

512
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 6: DO i like what people don't. Like i'm attracted to.

513
00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 6: THAT i like.

514
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 4: That how was that not low effort?

515
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 1: Though oh, no, no, no, no, no no. No here's the.

516
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Speaker 6: Thing the person who did it wouldn't have done it

517
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 6: if their girl wasn't into, That and in that, moment

518
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 6: she was into.

519
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,479
Speaker 1: That So i'm assuming he knows, this he knows his. Art,

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00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 1: yeah that's a great.

521
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Speaker 3: Part NOW i will tell you Something i've asked. FOR

522
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 3: i don't want anybody else. AROUND i don't like surprise,

523
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 3: SHIT i. DON'T i want it to be a moment

524
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 3: that's very. Realistic one of my favorite moments in any

525
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 3: relationship was the first TIME i don't know if you guys,

526
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 3: REMEMBER i used to say the guy that left me

527
00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 3: For Jesus.

528
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 1: Luis he's his. Name he loved. It.

529
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Speaker 3: MAN i was king and him And vinnie were in the.

530
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Speaker 3: KITCHEN i was twenty twenty or twenty one.

531
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 1: And me And vinnie were living. Together he came to the.

532
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Speaker 1: Bathroom he, GOES i gotta get it out right.

533
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 3: Now i'm really in love with. You AND i was

534
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 3: on the toilet and he was like Pit and we

535
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: weren't drunk or. Anything he's, LIKE i JUST i got

536
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 3: to get it out of. It thinking about, IT i

537
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 3: know how to say, It AND i was, like whoa number.

538
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 3: One that was one of my most memorable moments because

539
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,719
Speaker 3: it was so, unconventional so.

540
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 1: Urgent, Yes AND i don't know IF i told.

541
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,879
Speaker 3: You In, london my boyfriend came to me out of

542
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 3: the bathroom AND i never told him this. Story we

543
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 3: were and this was the day after Seeing obay In.

544
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 3: London he came up to. ME i was eating a

545
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 3: pizza and he was, like, YO i feel like a

546
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 3: tear could come out right. Now JUST i really got

547
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 3: to tell you how MUCH i love. YOU i have

548
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 3: every intention of like being with you. Forever like you

549
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,639
Speaker 3: were the person that talking about family, planning marri my.

550
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 1: Dad he came out all at, Once damn the, hole

551
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 1: keep it. TOGETHER i was talking about, mom love you over,

552
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: here dying, shit get you a, tissue leave.

553
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:57,719
Speaker 4: It on the why leave it on a? Why BUT

554
00:23:58,359 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 4: i liked.

555
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 3: That, now SAYING i like that may mean a surprise,

556
00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 3: ring BUT i would be remiss to say it would

557
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 3: not bother me THAT i never had a man get

558
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 3: down on one day for. Me, YEAH i would always

559
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:12,919
Speaker 3: be in my head and it would always make me

560
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 3: think why DIDN'T i deserve?

561
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,360
Speaker 1: It why DIDN'T i get to have This cinderell?

562
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 3: Moment AND i Think i'm a little too misfit already

563
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 3: for some of the. Shit it's probably Why i'm so into.

564
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 3: Marriage i'm the person that has sex with other people

565
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 3: and my, boyfriend BUT i.

566
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:25,919
Speaker 1: Want this normal.

567
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 6: Marriage knows that he has to get on when you but,

568
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 6: actually oh sorry, sorry but he's actually believe it or,

569
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 6: NOT i actually think he. Is he would be down

570
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,160
Speaker 6: to not do, it but he knows that you would want,

571
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 6: that oh you, know and he would do.

572
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,479
Speaker 1: That you, know it depends on who you're. DATING i

573
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 1: also hate, surprises like you like the lavish? Thing you like?

574
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 1: It you know What i'm, Saying, LIKE i.

575
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 3: DON'T i want to be alone at home Though i'm

576
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 3: shocked by, that BUT i love, that yes.

577
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 4: TOO i don't need like you, know people invite the

578
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 4: whole family.

579
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 1: Out it's also hitting me too with HOW i want

580
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Speaker 1: a courthouse. Wedding suddenly me.

581
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 3: TOO i don't know What i'm gonna happen one but

582
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 3: you know what's. Crazy you know how we growing up

583
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 3: and people go broke for. Marriages, yes Now i'm at

584
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 3: the place Where i'm dating someone where we could afford

585
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: a big.

586
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 1: Wedding i'm, like now we'll tell. Y'all do want Of

587
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Speaker 1: africa to throw that? Money? Oh that's, right, Yeah well

588
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 1: he told me his brother made twenty FIVE k from the.

589
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 3: WEDDING i, said, oh let's, yes let's run that you

590
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 3: made twenty five does?

591
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 1: He does your boyfriend also come from? Money Ain't, african BUT.

592
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's, money BUT i would say

593
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: very Like american dream like everyone is successful in his,

594
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 3: family love, It, nigerie, uh, education.

595
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 1: Medical most of. Them.

596
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 3: Actually at one, POINT i was so overwhelmed the first

597
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 3: time at his family when both sister and laws were

598
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 3: nurses and ship and the brothers was one of the.

599
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Speaker 1: Antetdiologist i'm, like.

600
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Speaker 4: Oh, yeah high.

601
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Speaker 3: Achievers i'm a, podcaster love it And i'm not fully

602
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Speaker 3: black Or.

603
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Speaker 1: African what are you guys gonna do?

604
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 3: Here?

605
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Speaker 4: Yes hear any old.

606
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Speaker 6: Podcast it's, different you know, What it's, true it's the

607
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Speaker 6: Big if you weren't, successful they probably have a problem with.

608
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Speaker 1: It sometimes they're not coming.

609
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 3: There And i'm the only daughter that you, know not

610
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 3: not daughter in law yet but you know What i'm,

611
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 3: saying only girlfriend to?

612
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 1: Do have you thinking of? Myself?

613
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 6: Nah BUT i matched some you guys are a match,

614
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 6: though because he's also the like black.

615
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: Sheep but they've never questioned.

616
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 4: To even judge you because it's like what we accept.

617
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 1: Him the only judgment we ever had was With. Nina

618
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: what is this so the dog comes in the? House?

619
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: Definitely how? Much what does the healthy relationship look like

620
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 1: in the?

621
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 3: Beginning this is something that's in The reddit thread dating,

622
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 3: advice and people are saying they're not sure BECAUSE i

623
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 3: am so used to love bombing and getting. EXCITED i

624
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 3: don't know what healthiness feels. Like can we all just

625
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 3: share before getting out of? Here how you knew you

626
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: were in a healthy relationship even if it, ended even

627
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 3: if it didn't go well in the. End but what

628
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 3: like the start of healthiness was? Like because when relationships

629
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 3: and at some point it can't get a little toxic or.

630
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 1: Whatever BUT i won't even pinpoint this. One but, yeah

631
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: curious with.

632
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 4: Yours i'll just say a heavy, communication.

633
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:19,200
Speaker 3: Like like you're texting every day, talking, Okay so.

634
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 5: Like ocean, transparency, vulnerability really getting into like the nooks

635
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 5: and crannies of your brain and your mind and what you're.

636
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:27,399
Speaker 5: THINKING a lot of time we think it should be not.

637
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 5: Saying so if you're in a healthy, relationship you, speaking

638
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 5: you know WHAT i. Mean so there's no mystery to your.

639
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 5: PARTNER i think confute mystery with your partner outside of

640
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 5: a sexy context is not.

641
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 4: Good you know WHAT i. MEAN i should know what's going.

642
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,879
Speaker 1: On oh do you know what's? Crazy what you're saying is.

643
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 3: Uh we were out With andre In Philly Andre. Power

644
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 3: you guys heard me talk about him, before AND i

645
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 3: said something about an ARGUMENT i got in with my.

646
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: Boyfriend i'm like in front of him like this nigga

647
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 3: be talking About he's, like You ain hit me in a

648
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 3: minute about some, shit AND i was, Like i'm gonna

649
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 3: hit you with the.

650
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: AFTERMATH i think it's with you.

651
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 3: TOO i might talk about little stuff that irritates, me

652
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 3: but for the most, part we kind of figure it

653
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:08,680
Speaker 3: out in the, moment which feels good.

654
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: BECAUSE i wasn't like that in the beginning of this.

655
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 3: RELATIONSHIP i wanted advice everybody BEFORE i came to. Him

656
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 3: and WHAT i realized is that's not healthy at, All

657
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 3: LIKE i might need a little. Bit what the fuck

658
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: are we doing this ship? For like why AM i

659
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 3: telling everybody all this ship BEFORE i tell?

660
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 1: You like what.

661
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 4: Talk to that? Nigga he don't?

662
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: Want who going to help you have that conversation with

663
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: you about this? Today? Oh? Bit, Sorry i'm sharing your. Time,

664
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: yeah n has sharing my?

665
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 6: Friends stop it to me, too just like in, general stop?

666
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 6: It yeah when IF.

667
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 4: I ever let you?

668
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 3: Stray BUT i don't think you do that always in the.

669
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 3: Beginning AND i could be. WRONG i could be an

670
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 3: unhealthy thing or an insecure, thing BUT i in the

671
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 3: beginning of a.

672
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: Relationship, SURE i don't know how. TO i don't know

673
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: what kind of COMMUNICATOR i.

674
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 3: AM i don't know If i'll come off too, STRONG

675
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 3: i don't know If i'll seem insecure by.

676
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 1: SOMETHING i need a lot of communication gon to be.

677
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 3: Needy so THEN i try to weed out What i'm

678
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 3: going through with the friends First.

679
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 1: Okay a lot of makes them with three of your.

680
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: Friends that's fine in the, beginning.

681
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 4: That makes sense to you put it like.

682
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 3: That But i've been at the point where it's, unhealthy

683
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 3: Where i'm just holding it out at dinner And i'm

684
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 3: bringing something, up.

685
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 1: Yeah you know WHAT i.

686
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 3: Mean and also things THAT i get worried about making

687
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 3: them look bad over. PARTNERS i know my ex girlfriend.

688
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: AND i really she had a lot.

689
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 3: Of things THAT i was very scared to bring up

690
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 3: surrounding just us being.

691
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 4: Out.

692
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: Yeah and WHEN i say, THAT i mean coming.

693
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 4: Out.

694
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 1: YEAH i was, Like, okay IF i tell my.

695
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 3: Friends then maybe her mom doesn't know where. Dating are

696
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 3: they going to be, like, ah well. Weazy you're the

697
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 3: one who's saying that everybody should BE x Y z

698
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 3: and your girlfriend doesn't do Like i'm just like again

699
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 3: back to, protecting LIKE i think it's all hurt.

700
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: THEM i ain't saying ship.

701
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 5: Because especially you might share something to a, person they're

702
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 5: not in the, relationship so they don't have them passion

703
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 5: or the empathy you. Have so then you bring them,

704
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 5: back you continue to deal with, him and she's still.

705
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 5: Mad oh she's still. Mad she's, Like i'm still mad

706
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 5: at the nigger for doing you like. That so that's

707
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 5: another reason why we should kind of keep my mouth

708
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 5: shut or find like one safe person that's a good,

709
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 5: one probably your person or one other person dead, it

710
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 5: you know WHAT i, mean just dead that.

711
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 3: Shit that's a no Hold bard safety chapter be, honest is?

712
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 3: There BUT i talk about how. Safety at first the

713
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 3: chapter WAS i THOUGHT i was gonna be like sexual,

714
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 3: safety AND i was gonna be like condoms and. COMMUNICATION

715
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 3: i was, like oh, no the friends of the emotional

716
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 3: safety because being a non monogamous person over a, DECADE

717
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 3: i can tell you right, Now i've called homegirls crowded

718
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 3: him on the phone and hang up and they laugh about.

719
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: Me it's another, bitch.

720
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 3: Damn but like for, real because they're, like, oh, well

721
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 3: she's going through this because she's in an open.

722
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: Relationship did y'all be crying in monoglar and you're?

723
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 4: Whatever, yeah.

724
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 3: Exactly it is very difficult to talk about being open,

725
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 3: relationship especially with someone who's not in.

726
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: One but we don't need a lot of people to

727
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: live like, this so so listen objectively that safety for.

728
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 3: Real, yeah but you could also do too. Much i've

729
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 3: definitely dumped a little too much of friends.

730
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 6: Too when you love someone and you're like my, sister

731
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 6: it's just. Different what AM i going to do change? You,

732
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 6: No i'm going to accept you And i'm gonna.

733
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: Listen thanks for letting.

734
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 4: Me i'm not share your secrets. Too what?

735
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah do you know what secrets turn? Here thinking

736
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 1: about this? Podcast, boy y'all niggas have seen some ship

737
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: y'all that's.

738
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 4: Near or, new some shipn't heard a.

739
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 3: Lot we were in the L a studio having a,

740
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 3: moment and you, Know mandy AND i we're.

741
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: Professionals we bounced, back we figured it.

742
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 3: Out we had a new photographer in there who see

743
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 3: us before that nigg was sitting there holding camera.

744
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: Up they was, like it's a fun fight AND i

745
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: saw him slug slightly lower.

746
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 5: It he's, like, well the that's how my first day

747
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 5: working with y'all. WERE i swear the guy AND i

748
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 5: Remembering Mary. VIVID i didn't, understand you know WHAT i?

749
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 4: MEAN i didn't get it at. ALL i was, like

750
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 4: are they? Friends you know WHAT i?

751
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: Mean Like i've been doing it for so.

752
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 5: Long but it's like it's professional at one of the highest,

753
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 5: heights because like business come. First and THEN i don't

754
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 5: fuck with. You you know What i'm, saying, BIG i

755
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 5: mean it is what it. Is listen to the show

756
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 5: for how many of you are?

757
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 4: There abody? Know you know?

758
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: What we have such a good.

759
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 3: Chemistry that's it's weird because people have said to me

760
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 3: sometimes like great?

761
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 4: Chemistry is this?

762
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: Phony is this?

763
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 3: Real And i'd be, like oh, No like When i'm sitting,

764
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 3: there this is a very real energy you're feeling, like

765
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 3: that's why it's.

766
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 1: Good, yeah it's not like a drag for me to pull.

767
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 3: Something, ACTUALLY i had maybe two percent of my episodes

768
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 3: With mandy that needed to be like, ye that dragged

769
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 3: on for the most.

770
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: Part we can't stop.

771
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 6: TALKING i think the rigidity of it has tremendous.

772
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: Comforts by the, way but have you met me with

773
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: The imbrianda never had. Rigidity they're that that tension that you.

774
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: Feel but we were just. DESCRIBING i feel like that's lost.

775
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 4: Rigidity go go go.

776
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 1: UYS i mean.

777
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 6: DICTIONARIES i think that rigidity is what like reads that

778
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 6: authenticity that gets people to keep.

779
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: Watching, OH i know what you.

780
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 6: Mean it's not there's a very little room for like again,

781
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 6: sorry a veneer like a performance it's, like, no when you.

782
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 3: Have learned a lot about podcasts breaking up and, why,

783
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 3: yeah nothing has taught me more About LIKE i just

784
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 3: did this podcast behind the, likes so y'all go check it.

785
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 1: Out they're very. Popular shy In winter shout out to.

786
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 3: Them and one of the comments left was, like please

787
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 3: don't turn into them talking About mandy AND i BECAUSE

788
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 3: i made the, Comment, oh our lack of best friend you,

789
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 3: know best friendship or whatever like has made for us

790
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 3: to actually sustain. THIS i truly believe, this but it

791
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 3: made me feel bad Because i'm, Like i'm not saying

792
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 3: it's the only. Way i'm just saying that friends break

793
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 3: up more than true business partner people have worked at

794
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 3: a job where they don't know someone's name for ten.

795
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 3: Years not Saying mandy AND i like that we're inter.

796
00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 3: Twined BUT i, mean, like, Oh i'm really being serious

797
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 3: WHEN i said them friends be breaking.

798
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 6: Up that's What i'm. Saying canceled podcasts just. Ended like it's,

799
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 6: like you guys have outlived so many podcasts where the

800
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 6: coasts were. Friends so there's something to.

801
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: It i'm not.

802
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,360
Speaker 5: Sure and it's really a beautiful thing because it's like

803
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 5: an ecosystem of people that survived because of y'all's. Relationship and,

804
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:20,879
Speaker 5: FURTHERMORE i think a lot of the time y'all don't

805
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 5: like each, other that's. Evident but one THING i know

806
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 5: for a, fact y'all love.

807
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: Each other, Though and y'all love.

808
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,400
Speaker 4: Money i've seen, it y'all love.

809
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 5: It y'all love each, other you, KNOW i mean, honestly

810
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 5: y'all like be behind the stage crying together before you

811
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 5: hit the stage and, Earybody oh.

812
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 1: Oh my, god start bringing up that one time in Doubtas.

813
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 5: I'm just, saying you know WHAT i? Mean, nah not

814
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 5: even DULLAS i think it's some somewhere in The east.

815
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 3: Coast so wait really, yeah so for me to be the,

816
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 3: emol we'd be crying to get crying holding.

817
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 4: Hands y'all love each, other you know WHAT i?

818
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:46,760
Speaker 6: Mean, yeah.

819
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 3: Of course it's part like, Absolutely like we did a

820
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 3: show With Girls Gotta eat where they.

821
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 1: Were laughing, like, wait is this? Real is this a?

822
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 3: Bit they're so cute they used to be here AT

823
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 3: Wtf Ashtey Raina's There's.

824
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: AND i was, like of COURSE i Love, Mandy like

825
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 1: that's an easy thing for me to.

826
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,880
Speaker 3: Say AND i Wouldn't it wouldn't even Be it's like

827
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 3: instantaneous out of my. Mouth BUT i think it's also

828
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 3: Because i've Known mandy SINCE i was. Fifteen you know

829
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 3: What i'm. Saying now we have family members we don't

830
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 3: get along with and shit like. That but like you're

831
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 3: telling me That i've done all of this in my, Life,

832
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 3: like of, COURSE i.

833
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 6: Have a sneaking suspicion, that like the real bow at

834
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 6: the end of this is going to happen.

835
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: When y'all are in your fifties sixties and you guys

836
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 1: are going to be like super amicable for.

837
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 4: Real oh for.

838
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 3: Sure you think we're going to be Sixty, yeah BUT

839
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 3: i don't think the podcast is gonna last that, long.

840
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: NIGGA i don't think. Podcasting yeah, YEAH.

841
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 3: Wtf have to be A tv production. Studio, yeah and

842
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,439
Speaker 3: by that point you're gonna be a. Billionaire oh, wait

843
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 3: NOW i will tell. Y'all just while we ended on some,

844
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 3: tea the best fight in here breakup this HOW i

845
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,760
Speaker 3: knew it was, good. Y'all SO wtf media always has camera,

846
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 3: going camera's, going and we mainly actually do that for

847
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 3: the protection of the engine years because there were one

848
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:04,839
Speaker 3: or two instances where like something went. MISSING i think

849
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 3: at the, beginning do you remember, that do both a

850
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 3: camera went?

851
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 4: Missing it was, like, yeah a whole camera went, missing

852
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 4: and it.

853
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:12,359
Speaker 3: Was, like, okay he was employees the people that were

854
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:13,919
Speaker 3: there or you're And i'm, like why the fuck would

855
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 3: our people? Still but we never had a camera very

856
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 3: very early, on so really it's for us because, like oh, nah,

857
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 3: y'all did this ship not our?

858
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: People so long story, short somebody was fighting.

859
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 3: In this bitch it is tea or baby will fit

860
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 3: there and they were, like oh, shit like, y'all like

861
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 3: we had to quiet them down to me And alex

862
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 3: talking about pull the funny and we watching this ship

863
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 3: like it was a robbery, breath, like oh custiny chick steak.

864
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:42,919
Speaker 1: Pu's he bit for that? Ship?

865
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah do you remember that the cameras were rolling

866
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 3: WHEN i forgot the, key cameras got me. Run, anyway,

867
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 3: y'all if you enjoyed, this you'll enjoy more of OUR

868
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: ygd and you can actually see the video on patreon dot.

869
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 3: Com Backslash Horrible decisions because it didn't go anywhere and

870
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 3: it's still.

871
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: Here and we're still. Hoes don't tell Me, ANDY i

872
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: said THAT i am not a.

873
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 4: HOE i was about to SAY i ain't.

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Speaker 1: Know i'm happy to.

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Speaker 4: Be she does Like europeans