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Speaker 1: The nick Podcast. Hey here, I am welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: It's Tuesday, Nicky Glazer Podcast. Hi guys, I was just

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Speaker 1: looking at my Instagram Noah, and um, this girl that

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Speaker 1: I follow posted a picture of her thumb, like when

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Speaker 1: you flex your something like giving a thumbs up, and

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Speaker 1: you look at the there's an initial in the lines

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Speaker 1: in your thumb where it bends. You can find an

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Speaker 1: initial of like a letter, and it's like you can

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Speaker 1: find the name of, like the initial of the person

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Speaker 1: that you're you are in love with or something. Really yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: I think if you just look at your thumb lines enough,

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Speaker 1: you can get anything you want out of them. This

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Speaker 1: is a you know, kind of horoscope thing where you're

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Speaker 1: just like, oh my god, it's so me. But this

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Speaker 1: girl really does have a K in her thomb and

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Speaker 1: her husband was Kevin. But also what if her husband

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Speaker 1: was Chinese and the K is just a symbol that

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Speaker 1: doesn't look like okay, you know what I mean the

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Speaker 1: English alphabet yeah, or you know, I guess what's the alphabet?

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Speaker 1: I mean, Italians use the same alphabet. Yeah, I guess

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Speaker 1: that Latin. Yeah, Okay, maybe that's it. We don't know

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Speaker 1: things on the show. Um, do you see anything in

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Speaker 1: your thumb? I see an S. But it's just because

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Speaker 1: the squig the like the lines in my I see

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Speaker 1: an S and I don't have anyone in my life

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Speaker 1: with an S name. That's a bummer. Oh wait, this

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Speaker 1: thumb I'm seeing like a an X. There's no a xavier.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. What are you again? What's your star sign?

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Speaker 1: A Taurus? What does it check out for you? Are

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Speaker 1: you like pretty much? You're stubborn and loyal, stubborn in loyal. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would say that you're you're both those things. Do

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Speaker 1: you worry about what people? Do? You? Do you? If

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Speaker 1: someone doesn't like you, doesn't bother you? Because I went

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Speaker 1: to therapy yesterday and I was talking about being a

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Speaker 1: pupil pleaser, and um, I'm going to like, I'm going

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Speaker 1: to a therapy session with someone that I'm seeing and

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Speaker 1: I'm not even like official with, but we're just seeing

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Speaker 1: if we should be. It's really interesting. But we're talking

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Speaker 1: about people pleasing because that's one of my character defects

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Speaker 1: that this person it doesn't make them feel safe because

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Speaker 1: they think that I am not consistent, and like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I can say that I like someone and then or

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Speaker 1: I can say that I don't like someone and then

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Speaker 1: I'll post something promoting their album or whatever. And for me,

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Speaker 1: I really work on being more consistent with my word,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm less of a two face person than I

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Speaker 1: used to be. In the past. I think it was

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Speaker 1: just a lot of insecurity, but now I do when

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Speaker 1: I when I say like, oh god, that person is

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Speaker 1: so cold, and then I end up like posting their

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Speaker 1: album or liking them or or you know, being kind

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Speaker 1: to them when I see them, I argue that someone

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Speaker 1: can be could and I can still like them, Like

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Speaker 1: people contain multitudes, like I can really hate this thing

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Speaker 1: about someone, but I that doesn't mean that I don't

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Speaker 1: think they're funny and want people to see their album

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Speaker 1: and and it's not even about And sometimes for me,

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Speaker 1: like I think that sometimes people pleasing or um, you know,

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Speaker 1: being nice to people that are in positions of power

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Speaker 1: can be interpreted as oh, you know, I want something

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Speaker 1: from them in terms of like they can give me

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Speaker 1: some of like I'll get a role on their thing,

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Speaker 1: or I'll get a they'll like me and they'll put

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Speaker 1: me in something and I'll get more famous. And that's

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Speaker 1: not really why I ever people please you generally people

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Speaker 1: please or UM am fakely nice to someone when I

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Speaker 1: don't like them because I'm scared of them. It's more

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Speaker 1: of fear, not of like missing out on the things

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Speaker 1: If someone is mean to you, Um, I'm scared They're

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Speaker 1: gonna say things about me that I that are going

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Speaker 1: to confirm my biggest fears about myself, and then I

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Speaker 1: will have to just like that, I'll just then that

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Speaker 1: thing that I've always secretly thought about me. They're gonna

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Speaker 1: they're They're usually type of person, you know. The people

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Speaker 1: being called ugly, or being called like untalented or a fraud.

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Speaker 1: All my deepest insecurities of like I'm truly this thing,

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Speaker 1: what they think about you, which is probably a projection

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Speaker 1: value people's opinions when they're a type of like narcissist

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Speaker 1: I I sometimes you know, I think based on not

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Speaker 1: having a lot of self esteem growing up, I just

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Speaker 1: me that if someone it's their truth and that's enough

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Speaker 1: whether or not it's true, it's true for them. And

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Speaker 1: even if it isn't true for them, at least they

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Speaker 1: both can be the same too, Like you can project

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Speaker 1: even if it's a projection. So I think it's you know,

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Speaker 1: just having someone out there who generally the people I'm

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Speaker 1: most scared of are people that I know talk shit

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Speaker 1: about people, um and can spread lies and opinions like

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Speaker 1: why I don't want to comments, you know, on my

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Speaker 1: because people's people's opinions get formed based on those people's

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Speaker 1: that's it, And um, I just wonder, do you. I

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Speaker 1: kind of scared of. You know, I've talked about this,

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Speaker 1: like I have nightmares that I'm nice to Trump. I'm

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Speaker 1: his unbridled confidence and smugness and self assuredness that is

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Speaker 1: intimidating to the masses and that can obviously influence the

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Speaker 1: masses is terrifying to me. And I want him to

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Speaker 1: You know, I think a lot of times, you know

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Speaker 1: this is so inconsistent. You're being nice to someone, and

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Speaker 1: it's like, I'm just trying. Because I have to interact

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Speaker 1: for it to be negative, because I don't want the

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Speaker 1: brunt of what it is to be on their ship list.

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Speaker 1: So I would profess, so I overcompensate by being nice.

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Speaker 1: If I could choose, I would have zero interaction with

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Speaker 1: this person and not exist to this person. But if

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Speaker 1: super nice because I'm scared of them, because I'm smart,

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Speaker 1: because SoC sociopaths and narcissists are dangerous and if they

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Speaker 1: don't like you, you should you should be scared, right,

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Speaker 1: And they're all over I read a great book once

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Speaker 1: so much about just like they're CEOs, are just like

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Speaker 1: are actually psychopaths who are at work. Yes, it could

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Speaker 1: to be liked, it's not so much a self esteem

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Speaker 1: just say, like I if I met crisp, I don't

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Speaker 1: I just don't want people thinking that I people plead

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Speaker 1: don't know, I just think that sometimes. Umm, I'm really

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Speaker 1: terrified of being misconstrued as a climber. I'm not nice

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Speaker 1: to people who are famous so that I can get things.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they're nice to them because I admire them,

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Speaker 1: because they're interesting. They just so happen to be famous.

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Speaker 1: It's not so that I can feel famous or get

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Speaker 1: about you know, when I started getting success early on,

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Speaker 1: did have a relationship with that guy, so he offered

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Speaker 1: you stage time. I would always turn down stage time.

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Speaker 1: I didn't. I don't take things unless I know that

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Speaker 1: I can do a killer job at them, you know,

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Speaker 1: barring Dancing with the Stars, Dancing with the Starters, I

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Speaker 1: fear is overcoming the anxiety that you go you know,

427
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: if you're about to bungee jump and you're super scared,

428
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 1: bravery and that or running into a burning building or

429
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:42,879
Speaker 1: doing something heroic that you know you have anxiety about,

430
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: or public speaking, like I had to get over public

431
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: speaking without drinking. Like when people drink so they can

432
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: go on stage, you're not getting a good performance. You're there,

433
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 1: you're dolling everything about yourself so that you can get

434
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:57,120
Speaker 1: past that thing. When you really conquer a fear, that's

435
00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 1: when it's really brave, because it's requires when when you

436
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 1: tell a person you like them, or make a move

437
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 1: on them, or go lean in for a first kiss,

438
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:09,400
Speaker 1: this thing that is fraught with like like you're you're

439
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 1: fraught with anxiety because you're like, what if they reject me,

440
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: what if they don't like me? Well, what requires you

441
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:16,959
Speaker 1: to get over that when you're sober is that you

442
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: like them enough that you're willing to risk it. And

443
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 1: that is true bravery when you are willing to look

444
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: fear in the face and say I see you and

445
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: I'm still going to do it. That's bravery. Getting drunk

446
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 1: enough so that fear doesn't even raise itself. That's not braver.

447
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: You're not overcoming anything. You're a loser. You're a loser, Yes,

448
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 1: you mean. I think the argument I'm not saying you're

449
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 1: a loser if you drink, but like you are, you

450
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 1: shouldn't be proud of that that you did nothing. But

451
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: I think the argument is that you put game genie

452
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: on yourself if you have like five cheven drinks, I agree.

453
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: But if you're only doing one or two drinks and

454
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,119
Speaker 1: you're just a little bit looser, I think that's fine.

455
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: I think interesting a drug, but it's not. You shouldn't

456
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: be proud of yourself if you that's not it's not real.

457
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: You proud to be proud of yourself if you ask

458
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 1: for help and you go get a prescription for something

459
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,160
Speaker 1: that will take the edge off, and but you you're

460
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 1: and if you have an anxiety disorder, we're talking about

461
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: a different situation here. But if you're drinking so that

462
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 1: you can get things done, you're not. Actually you are.

463
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 1: You're capable of so much more, and you're capable of

464
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 1: feeling so much more about your decisions and the things

465
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: you do on the other side of those very scary moments.

466
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 1: Then if you just drink yourself to a place where

467
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 1: you can do them, I'm with you, except for the

468
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: fact that I think that people that have a healthy relation.

469
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: I think you can have a healthy relationship with alcohol.

470
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,199
Speaker 1: I know that sounds kind of like an oxymorpi. I

471
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: think there's people out there that can fucking like be

472
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: insanely intelligent and maybe be not a braver. I think

473
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,719
Speaker 1: the word brave is but they're not drinking so that

474
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: they can do They can say something or dance a

475
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: little bit. Well, if they're doing that, then they well

476
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: they're doing it something. But if they want to dance

477
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 1: and the only way they can is to drink, you've

478
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: got a problem. But if when they happen to drink,

479
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 1: they just suddenly want to dance, that's different. But if

480
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 1: you were like I used to drink because I wanted

481
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: to be more social and I wanted to have more

482
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 1: friends and fit in and not and and tell boys

483
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: I like them and kiss boys and be able to

484
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: hook up with guys. That didn't help me in my

485
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,159
Speaker 1: actual pursuit of intimacy, which is what I truly wanted.

486
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: It actually made me not even present for those moments

487
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: I was able to have them. But when I quit drinking,

488
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 1: what was waiting for me was not like, oh good,

489
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: I've got all that practice that I did. I got

490
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 1: all those intimate moments while I was drunk that I got,

491
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 1: I got past it at one point that meant nothing

492
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 1: all of those I was still starting from square one,

493
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 1: which it was still waiting for me when I quit drinking,

494
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,159
Speaker 1: of the anxiety of getting over all the things that

495
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,200
Speaker 1: I was still scared of before I started drinking. As

496
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,760
Speaker 1: interesting is I I went to a wed or not

497
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: a wedding, like a like a boogie party, which a

498
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: thousand percent if I was if I was still drinking,

499
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: I would have had nine drinks within the first five minutes,

500
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 1: because that's how uncomfortable I was with these kind of people.

501
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: And to be on the dance floor with these like

502
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: I just it was like like no way in fucking hell,

503
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 1: but within like an hour hour And it took me

504
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: about an hour and fifteen minutes to finally feel comfortable.

505
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: And I danced with Brenna on the dance floor, completely

506
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: sober and I remember all the dance, and I remember

507
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: like like not like being You know what what drinking

508
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: does is it cuts off seeing the person right next

509
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: to you looking at you, maybe going, man, that's a

510
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,679
Speaker 1: weird dance, like all that kind of ship. Yeah, they

511
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 1: don't even It's not like you don't care about them.

512
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 1: It's they don't even exist to you. You're not even

513
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 1: in the It's not like you're like, I know that

514
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: they're there, and I actually I like myself enough to

515
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: not care. It's not that they don't exist you when

516
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: you drink, they don't exist. She I think if you're

517
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: if your anxiety levels, go to a party, maybe don't

518
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: drink right away. Maybe it's just it and a half.

519
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: You might have to wait through it. Like this is

520
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 1: not easy, by the way, Like I when I could

521
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,640
Speaker 1: drinking and and suddenly was like, how do I have sex?

522
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 1: It took me years before I was able to overcome

523
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 1: all the fears. And I was making out with guys

524
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 1: and hooking up while I was drinking, and I go,

525
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: why can't I do that again? I've already done it.

526
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: I conquered that fear with alcohol. Why isn't that fear

527
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,239
Speaker 1: already conquered now, but it was just I had to

528
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,640
Speaker 1: get back and now, yeah, it takes me a little.

529
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: It's not that easy for me to you know, maybe

530
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: you're listening at home and you're going Nikki is so

531
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: easy for you stand on stage, Like I have social

532
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: anxiety when I go to parties. I need to drink

533
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,479
Speaker 1: to feel I get it. But you might have an

534
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: easier time hooking up than I have fears too that

535
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: I have to that suck that I would love to

536
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: have alcohol for or zann X four and I don't

537
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: really I don't use an X anymore, but I have

538
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: in the past. But um, yeah, you have to be uncomfortable.

539
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: You it's going to be uncomfortable. There's no to your point.

540
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 1: Like they say that alcohol reduces your inhibitions, and here's

541
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: a definition of an inhibition, a feeling that makes one

542
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 1: self conscious, self conscious and unable to act in a

543
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: relaxed and natural way. Mm hmm. Yes, But it alcohol

544
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: takes away your inhibitions because it makes you stupid. If

545
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: you look at people that have brain injuries or they

546
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: were born mentally handicapped or challenged, that is what being

547
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: drunk makes you. But I guess and of course they're

548
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: not scared. They hug people anyone who will look at them.

549
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: They'll go up to strangers and go, you know, like

550
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 1: when you look at someone who's mentally challenged to has

551
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: a that condition, you go, oh my god, they're so

552
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: funny and like they dance and they don't care if

553
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: their stomachs hanging out, and they're they're free with their body.

554
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: But you don't go, I want that. You go, that's

555
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 1: we excuse that because they have a mental handicap. But

556
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: if that person was drunk, you'd go, that is gross,

557
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: and that's what you do to yourself when you drink.

558
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: I think living in New Orleans for four years, it's

559
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 1: just such a part of the culture. So it's like,

560
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, the world every day is tough for

561
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 1: a lot of people. Like so like if you can

562
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: get fucking hammered on a Friday and Saturday, oh my god,

563
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: it's best feeling dumb and stop thinking, especially if your

564
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: brain and maybe you don't realize, like you could go

565
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 1: to a psychiatrist and maybe figure out like what's going on,

566
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: or a psychologists, But like just to feel dumb, like

567
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: isn't always a negative. I think I think sometimes it's like,

568
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 1: fucking for four hours, I could be a fucking idiot,

569
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: and yeah, you could blame it on the alcohol. Whatever,

570
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 1: It's not gonna make your life better though, it never will.

571
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 1: On the other side of acting dumb and getting black

572
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: out drunk, you're gonna feel sick, You're gonna not remember

573
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 1: what you did. Have you ever gotten drunk and felt

574
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: better about yourself the next day? Truly? Um, maybe not

575
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: the next day, but maybe a week later. I was like, God,

576
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: the fucking game with my friends where we each and

577
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 1: you know, there were times when like I would drink

578
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: and it would just be a great dinner or a

579
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: great hang. And then obviously I went way past that

580
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 1: with jager bombs and I would fucking be in the shower,

581
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: sitting on the floor. But was ever a night where

582
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: you did not drink to excess in those times? Yeah? Yeah,

583
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: there were, but not few and far between. I think

584
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:33,240
Speaker 1: now today, if I drank, it would be it would

585
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: be different. Like I literally like when I envisioned drinking,

586
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 1: I envisioned maybe having like two coronas on a boat.

587
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: I think it's the salad thing that you said yesterday.

588
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 1: What do you mean you go, oh, I can have

589
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: a salad. I'll take the crutons off and then you

590
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 1: eat the whole salad. Because the problem is people like

591
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: and I listen, I'm just talking to the person that

592
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 1: has said this to myself a bunch of two. I

593
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: was like, right now, I could just have to. But

594
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: the problem is the person that you are right now

595
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: saying that gets drunk. You get that voice that goes,

596
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have too drunk, and you take away

597
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: their inhibitions and then they go one more, what's one more?

598
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: And then that person gets more drunk, and then if

599
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: if you could control it, you would I agree with that,

600
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: but I do think people change, and yeah, I just think,

601
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: like I think back on like what I would spend

602
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: my money on, like buying a fucking Mercedes and cash. Well,

603
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 1: you know what I think would happen is that you

604
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 1: would not like the feeling of being drunk as much

605
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: right now. That's how I feel like. I think it

606
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: would make me feel sick right away, because I would

607
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: just be like, oh, I don't like feeling out of control.

608
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: You know how some people just never drink because they're like, oh,

609
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. It just made me feel like sad

610
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 1: and out of control. And some people just don't respond

611
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:41,719
Speaker 1: to that well because they like themselves and they're like,

612
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: it made me feel less. Me, that's how you might

613
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: feel now because you actually like yourself, so you whereas

614
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 1: before you hated yourself, so when you felt less, you

615
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: you're like, finally. But now I feel like if I

616
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: got drunk, i'd be like I can't articulate my thoughts

617
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: as well. I can't be as kind where you know,

618
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: empathetic whatever it is, or like engaged like or I

619
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: feel like a little like the world is spinning a

620
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,200
Speaker 1: little bit. I used to love that feeling. I was

621
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 1: telling a meal this weekend. I used to tell my

622
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: last year of drinking. I remember telling my friends Sabrina.

623
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: I remember being like I was at the creek in

624
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: the cave, and I go, let's get black out, Like

625
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 1: that would be My goal is to just disappear. I

626
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: get the person that wants to get take the weekends here,

627
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:31,479
Speaker 1: let me just clock out. I take depression naps so

628
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: that I can just not exist for a couple of hours.

629
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: I get wanting to clock out. I'm not judging it.

630
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if you're convincing yourself that it's a

631
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 1: healthy thing to do. You're wrong, but that's okay. You

632
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: I do want healthy things all the time, but telling

633
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: yourself that it actually makes your life better in the

634
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 1: long run is a lie. But that's okay. We you're

635
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: allowed to lie to yourself. You're not a bad person

636
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: because you're lying to yourself. You're not You don't deserve

637
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 1: to punish yourself because you're lying to yourself. It's just

638
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: a thing you do to get by, and that's okay. Yeah.

639
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: I used to that someone was like, you know, I

640
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: felt if I felt judged at all, like my first

641
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 1: reaction would be like, oh, you just don't have a

642
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: good time. You don't understand the culture in New Orleans,

643
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 1: or you don't understand you're very defensive, you know, and uh,

644
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I mean look there, Yeah, I

645
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 1: just think back, like the best times that I ever

646
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 1: had drinking was like when I wasn't getting blacked out.

647
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:28,240
Speaker 1: It was more like we're just hanging with some friends.

648
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: Like when you get tired, you get it's almost like

649
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 1: a little drunk because your inhibitions go away. And that's

650
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: when I get to see Andrew be a little bit

651
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 1: drunk because he says things that like, you're already unfiltered,

652
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 1: but when you get tired, that's another form of being stupider.

653
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: Like your brain starts to shut down and you get

654
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: a little bit more of the word you can't say,

655
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 1: and it becomes funny to see someone that just is

656
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: a little bit out of it. I mean that was like,

657
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: that was like my personality my whole life before, Like

658
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 1: it was all about saying the outrageous thing or the

659
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 1: darkest thing, and like, but you always had an excuse

660
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,479
Speaker 1: for it too. I was drunk. I mean when people

661
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,439
Speaker 1: cheat and they go, I was drunk there, that's such

662
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: a bomb to put on your broken heart if you're

663
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 1: a girl that gets cheated on. He was drunk. He

664
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 1: didn't mean to. He was a different person. When you

665
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: cheat and you're sober, that is a different vibe. That

666
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 1: is like, that's a that's a different But guess what

667
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 1: that's on a Tuesday at like seven, Yeah, that's I mean,

668
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: girls are like, are you sure you weren't drunk? Please

669
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 1: tell me you were drunk. You know, I was level headed,

670
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 1: and I just don't like your respect to and was

671
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: at the office. You were hammered. Please you all right,

672
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 1: let's get to the dud. You're all right? Oh man,

673
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 1: it's Tuesday, volts. You know what that means. It is Tuesday.

674
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: I hope you're having all the swells out there, and

675
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 1: by all the swells, I mean all of them. All right.

676
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: I love that guy. Nicely done. Thank you. What women

677
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 1: should know about staying safe? Okay, I feel like you've

678
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 1: you've hit on a lot of these before, but trust

679
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: your intuition. It was proven that women were better at

680
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 1: reading facial expressions of emotion than men, and this allows

681
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: them to pick up on intentions. Yeah, trust your gut.

682
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 1: What am I thinking? Well, you're doing a fake face? No, No,

683
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: you're too completely calm, you're happy. No, I'm Moreally, I

684
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: feel like, very confident in my ability to pick up

685
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: on people's moods. Oh that's something else. When you're drunk,

686
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: you don't see. Oh yeah, that's why people get loud

687
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: and people you know, come up to me after shows

688
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 1: me like I just wanted to sell you and they

689
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: can't see. And that's they falls aw a little backdrop

690
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: that we have set up. Well, they they just don't know.

691
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 1: They That's almost fun when people drunk because you can

692
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 1: just look at your friends and roll your eyes and

693
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 1: the person won't even see it. When I was when

694
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 1: my mom used to get drunk, I used to say

695
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:13,319
Speaker 1: the fucking meanest ship that was deep in my heart

696
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 1: because I knew she wouldn't remember. Oh, it was so fun.

697
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: I used to go, I hate you. I hate like

698
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 1: because I did you know, Like when my mom would

699
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: get drunk, sometimes I would hate her and I got

700
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 1: to just when I knew when I started figuring out

701
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 1: that because I didn't drink, so I didn't understand what

702
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: happened when you drank. But when when I realized she

703
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 1: didn't remember anything, ha, I could go, I smoked weed

704
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,400
Speaker 1: last night and the night before with my friends. I

705
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 1: got like I would just say the most insane ship.

706
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: One time I told her I was gay. This is

707
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 1: a true story because my friends and I were just

708
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:50,359
Speaker 1: It was in high school and I was driving her

709
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: somewhere and she was in the backseat and I was like,

710
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:53,879
Speaker 1: check this out. And I said to my friend because

711
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: I knew she wouldn't remember it the next day and

712
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 1: I was like, mom, I'm gay, and I knew i'd

713
00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 1: get a real response. I was driving you're I was like, Mom,

714
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: I'm gay, and she goes, Nicky, stop it, and I go, no, Mom,

715
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: I'm seriously like, I'm I don't. I'm always scared to

716
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,360
Speaker 1: tell you, but I need you to know, like I

717
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 1: am attracted women. And she goes, oh God, damn it.

718
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: I knew it. She goes, I've known for so long.

719
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, and I remember my friend all

720
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: of being like I did not think it's gonna go

721
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 1: that way. I thought she was gonna go like, Nicky, no,

722
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 1: like you know what, but she was just like we

723
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: knew you. And I was like, I'm not, and she goes,

724
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: it's fine, NICKI, it's fine. Gets to be yourself. She

725
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 1: didn't remember it the next remember it. You know What's

726
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: great though? If you were actually it would be a

727
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: great way to like test out the waters with anything. Really,

728
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: It's like I killed a guy. Did you black out?

729
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:57,359
Speaker 1: You wouldn't black out though, men don't black Yeah, black

730
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: Remember beers is the John Mullaney thing of like your

731
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 1: brain is just like we know where this is going.

732
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: We're shutting down early. Well, what's interesting about our parents

733
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: is like your parents, it's kind of like the idea

734
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 1: of a crackhead couple where it's like, if one person

735
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: is doing crack by themselves, it's really sad, but two people,

736
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: it's kind of romantic because you have an interest, Like

737
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: your parents have fun drinking together, and like it's like

738
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: a thing that they do. My mom would drink alone

739
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 1: in a room playing solitaire, which is a way sadder

740
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 1: thing when you look at it. But if she just

741
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 1: had a guy next to her in bed also drinking

742
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 1: with her, I would have been so much app I wouldn't.

743
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: I wouldn't my mom's drinking would end alone. Let me

744
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: just say, we start with my dad and then my

745
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 1: dad would go to bed, and then it would yeah, listen,

746
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: it was the same. I wish they were friends. You know,

747
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:48,959
Speaker 1: they would a great time. Well. A lot of times

748
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: there are two people that drink together and then they

749
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: just they just are shouting into nothingness. They can't even communicate,

750
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 1: like you know, a lot of times when they have

751
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: drinking buddies, there's not a friend. When I stopped drinking,

752
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 1: all my friends that I drank with, when we would

753
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 1: hang out with them sober, we had nothing to talk about.

754
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 1: There was nothing there because when you're drunk, you talk

755
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: about fucking nothing. Turning the kids you talk about literally

756
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 1: like yeah, teenagers, like I have a backpack and I

757
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 1: just got to stay. You were talking about this is

758
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: as as teenagers and that just my shoe and my

759
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 1: shoe is where did you get those? I got him

760
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: from the store. And then there's this little thing on

761
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: here that's like they're the yeah, well the sometimes they hurt,

762
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 1: but sometimes they really well. And because my sock is

763
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: it gets bunched up and then the bunched up parts

764
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: kind of like, what have you got new socks? Dude?

765
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: I got these socks off Amazon. Dude. They're sick, dude,

766
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:45,720
Speaker 1: They're like, are so cool? But sometimes socks are not cool, dude,

767
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: I know. But then your feet fucking sprank, dude. The thirst.

768
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,240
Speaker 1: I hate things that smell. Oh my god, you wouldn't.

769
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes smells going my nose and I'm like, what the

770
00:40:54,719 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: fun is that? O my god, skunk pussy. Yeah, I'm hungry.

771
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: And then drop your phone into a gutter and then

772
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 1: cry and then stub your toe. You were there, You

773
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: were there, Okay, use your words and screw politeness. Predators

774
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,919
Speaker 1: rely on your politeness in order to get you into

775
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 1: situations you wouldn't normally go along. So many women have

776
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,799
Speaker 1: been murdered because they didn't want to make a guy

777
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 1: feel bad that was making them feel scared. So many women,

778
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: I mean this is so many women suck penises because

779
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: the guy takes a penis out and you just go, oh,

780
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,320
Speaker 1: that'd be rude to tell him to put it away.

781
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: It's too awkward, so I'll just do what he wants.

782
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: Teach your children to not suck penises. I'm telling you,

783
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 1: if you have young girls, tell them no matter what

784
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: a man does, you always have a right to say

785
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: no that makes me uncomfortable. If you're uncomfortable, you have

786
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: a right to say something. I wish that would have

787
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 1: got hammered into my head sooner than all the dicks

788
00:41:55,840 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: that got hammered into my head. Because hammered dear kid's

789
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: head like a dick that they'll probably suck if you

790
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: don't do that, that's so funny. You gotta that should

791
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: be learned. Situational awareness. Predators look for distracted victims, like

792
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 1: in a parking garage, or like I think about how

793
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 1: many people fucking look at their phones but from the

794
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: train station to their house and never once look up

795
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: where they could have been stabbed forty five times. Like

796
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 1: that's the big one for me because when I think

797
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:30,479
Speaker 1: about that, when like you just like you're on your phone,

798
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:32,479
Speaker 1: You're like, how did I even get to my house?

799
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: I didn't even look up once, you know what I mean.

800
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: And I think that's how people get fucking fucked up nowadays.

801
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: I think that, Yeah, walk through your day when you're

802
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: in a safe environment, like if you're met like same meditation,

803
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 1: and just go through your day and think about all

804
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: the times I went to a jiu jitsu class, like

805
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: a self defense like basic course, and they were like,

806
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: just throughout your day. Go if someone has talk to

807
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:53,359
Speaker 1: me right now, what would I use? What would I do?

808
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: And just think about all the times you're so vulnerable

809
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: and what would you use. I'd use this fucking lava lamp,

810
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 1: probably just to be like, dude, I'm pretty cool. Yeah, like,

811
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:05,239
Speaker 1: don't kill me. I've got a good style, Dude, I

812
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: have a v W van Yeah yeah, I got it

813
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: had no engine, and I pay think about it. Man,

814
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 1: like these gloves, like why are they? Why is it psychedelt?

815
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: Why are lava lamps associated with? Like I guess because

816
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:26,399
Speaker 1: they look like the kind of things you see when

817
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: you do mushrooms. Yeah. Also, it's not moving right now,

818
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 1: it's going. Yeah, alright, be careful meeting men on the internet.

819
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: If you're meeting up with someone, always tell a friend

820
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: or family member where you're going. That kind of ruins

821
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:42,879
Speaker 1: the romance, doesn't it to tell your friend, I'm going

822
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 1: to this guy's house. Here is his address. I don't know.

823
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 1: There's something about checking. It's so romantic to not I know,

824
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,760
Speaker 1: I tell anyone where you're going. There is a thrill

825
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: to just doing something that your friend that's not doesn't

826
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: take away from the romance. You don't have to get

827
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 1: to the door and go. I told every when I

828
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: know that I'm here that you know't to tell of

829
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 1: the guy that well. I love when women go you're

830
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: not a murderer, are you? And that's such funny. I'm

831
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: not kidding you. I know that that's funny because what

832
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 1: murder is gonna go? You got me? But there is

833
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: a thing too if you When I asked that man

834
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 1: that pulled over on the side of the rope, are

835
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 1: you guys gonna rape me? And they got out of

836
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 1: their car to like show me this cow or I

837
00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: forget it was in the Caymans, and I go, are

838
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 1: you gonna rape me? The look on his face was

839
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: so incredulous and just like disgusted at the notion that

840
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:36,720
Speaker 1: it assured me, Like women do know if you because

841
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:38,399
Speaker 1: if a guy was about to rape you and had

842
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 1: that and you go, are you gonna rape me? And

843
00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 1: he goes like it would it would it would throw

844
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: them if you called them out and go it's are

845
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: you gonna murder me? It would throw a murderer, most murderers,

846
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,800
Speaker 1: I would say, you would be it's not the craziest

847
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 1: thing to do. And I know that it's like such

848
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: a ridiculous thing. I'm not kidding you. Girls, if you

849
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 1: sense a guy is being weird and you go, are

850
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 1: you can't ripe me? Honestly, you could get assurance from

851
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 1: that question that you wouldn't think that you would. But

852
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 1: a real rapist will get a little bit nervous when

853
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 1: you said when he answers that after when I was hammered,

854
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: I was and those two guys picked me up and

855
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 1: I asked if they were going to kill me and

856
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: he told me that I was the hitchhiker, Like, yeah,

857
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 1: there's more, but like from his answer, and it broke

858
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: the tension. First of all, it's honest, like be I

859
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: think that's another thing that they could add to this

860
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 1: list is like whatever you're feeling is right, and whatever

861
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: you want to say or do in that moment, don't

862
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 1: put that away, and don't don't say, oh, this is

863
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:48,319
Speaker 1: me being you know, having too much anxiety. I'm just

864
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 1: I'm a worried ward. I'm a bad person because I

865
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: think there's like on the other side of that, you

866
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:54,400
Speaker 1: could be saving your life. And maybe you are a

867
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: really anxious person and people tell you it all the time,

868
00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:59,439
Speaker 1: and you're over exaggerating and you're too worried about things

869
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,439
Speaker 1: in the moments where you think you're being murdered. Don't

870
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: risk it. Just be that person. I think a brisket,

871
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: I don't don't risk it every don't brisk aunt dimes

872
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 1: and I just you hurt your mouth starts watering a

873
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: little bit. No, But um, what was I gonna say? Oh,

874
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: so apps or like dating apps at least daring COVID especially, Yeah, Um,

875
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 1: they would have they would have zooms like you could

876
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,880
Speaker 1: date like so like if you're asking someone of their murderer,

877
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 1: maybe maybe maybe do one phone call before you don't

878
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 1: ask it on chat. You can't tell tone from chat,

879
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 1: and so maybe one phone call with anyone murder and

880
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: then the dot dot dot pops up and then it

881
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: goes away, and then it pops up again. You're about

882
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: to get sliced that that is ominous as fun a

883
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 1: dot dot dot coming up and then going away when

884
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: an answer no, if someone uses a period after an

885
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 1: kind of one word answer, murder, yeah, Also, can we

886
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 1: stop with the exclamation You have a lot of exclamation

887
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,919
Speaker 1: marks and you'r I try because it it makes it's

888
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 1: Brenda does it too, and it just makes me think

889
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 1: she's mad, even if it's like get the paper, like yeah,

890
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, an exclamation mark seems that's what I'm

891
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: trying to prevent against of Like no, it's it's it's

892
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 1: trying to show this. I use it so people don't

893
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 1: think I'm mad when I go thank you with an

894
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 1: exclamation mark. If it was just thank you, thank you,

895
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: a different thing. But like um um, I'd have to

896
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 1: look at an example. But yeah, find an example of

897
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 1: when I use Sometimes you think I'm mad because I

898
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: use an exclamation Brenna Brenna does Brenna does it in

899
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 1: ways where I go, did she take time to hit

900
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: the thing to hit the other thing because you think

901
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: she's overcompensating because she is mad, so she's doing the opposite,

902
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: actually mad, and she's yelling. I was like, why are

903
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 1: you yelling about this? Like she's like, hey, can you

904
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:58,919
Speaker 1: pick me up from the airport with an exclamation marker? Yeah,

905
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 1: the best example, but like, yeah, next time screenshot it

906
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:07,240
Speaker 1: will dissect it. You never owe him sex. You already

907
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: went over that one. Never, no matter what, even if

908
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 1: you said, I'm going to funk you as soon as

909
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 1: I see you, if you get eive. There have been

910
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: so many times where I've been, you know, talking with

911
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:21,720
Speaker 1: a guy a long distance and we've become very intimate

912
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 1: over the phone and you know, sexting and all the things,

913
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 1: and we've made plans to see each other, and I've

914
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:29,919
Speaker 1: made plans to fund them as soon as I see

915
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: them because I want to in that moment, I want to,

916
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 1: and then I get there and I don't want to,

917
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 1: And guess what, I do it because I've already given

918
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,239
Speaker 1: my word and I feel like I have to. No

919
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 1: longer I would just say I changed my mind. I'm

920
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 1: allowed to your feelings aren't wrong. I wish someone would

921
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 1: have taught me that earlier on, just because you've your

922
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 1: feelings might be erroneous or like not based in truth,

923
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: but if they're your feelings, just honor them. Just always

924
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: honor them, because you end up if you sleep with

925
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,320
Speaker 1: someone and you don't want to but them. I argue,

926
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: it's you're raping yourself because you don't want to be

927
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: doing this, but you're doing it. You're forcing yourself to

928
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:08,800
Speaker 1: do it, so you're raping. I've often felt that way,

929
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: so don't and and and it does feel like that.

930
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: You might not characterize it as that, but it's a

931
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 1: it's a you're abandoning yourself. I also feel like it's

932
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: okay to be disliked, Like I wish I knew that earlier.

933
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: I'm actually reading that book. I think you might encourage

934
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 1: to be disliked. And uh, it's a great book because

935
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 1: it's just a conversation between like like a brilliant like

936
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: I don't even know what he would be calling, and

937
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:35,919
Speaker 1: then a student asking all the questions you would ask,

938
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: like everything you would bring. But like, yeah, I think

939
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:42,040
Speaker 1: earlier on, I wish like it would be like, Okay,

940
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 1: this person is mad or upset with me. That doesn't

941
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:49,319
Speaker 1: make me want to talking about this. I only don't

942
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: want people to like me. That I if you don't

943
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 1: like me, it's fine. But if you don't like me

944
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: and you have a way, if you're a narcissist or

945
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 1: a sociopath or like bordering on that, I desperately need

946
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 1: you to like me because I'm scared of what you

947
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: could do. And that's that's okay. I do believe it's

948
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 1: okay to lie in order to protect yourself from narcissists

949
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: and sociopaths and to get them to either be neutral

950
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 1: about you or like you, because on the other side

951
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:17,280
Speaker 1: of that, you are they are detrimental to your whole life.

952
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 1: Because they are, they will hurt you. It sergy. It

953
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:24,840
Speaker 1: doesn't matter because you can't hurt them. You'll never be

954
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 1: able to hurt them. No, but it hurts me in

955
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 1: the sense of like I'm even thinking about them. Why

956
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:33,919
Speaker 1: because they are dangerous. They're dangerous people. But there are

957
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: the actual dangerous I'm talking about, even even comedians who

958
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 1: are narcissists. They can spread lies about you and create

959
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:44,399
Speaker 1: people are so scared of them, and they have such

960
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,359
Speaker 1: power like they do over you that they could ruin

961
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: your life without you knowing it. So you're not stupid

962
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: to get these people to like you. And I just

963
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: reached this conclusion yesterday or this morning when I was

964
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:55,719
Speaker 1: in the first part of the job. I guess I

965
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: feel like, if I could get them to like me

966
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 1: doing the least amount possible, if I'm like doing it,

967
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, if you can be invisible to this person,

968
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: choose that. Don't try to get them to like you,

969
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 1: because then them being aware of you is dangerous as is.

970
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:09,799
Speaker 1: But if they are aware of you, try to get

971
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 1: them to like you. Let's take a quick break and

972
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: come back with why do I care? Why do I care?

973
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: Why do I care? Why do you care? Yeah? Why

974
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: do I care? Okay? Pete Davidson smokes weed on the

975
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,680
Speaker 1: red carpet at the premiere of The Freak Brothers in

976
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:30,880
Speaker 1: l A. According to the show's description to eight episodes,

977
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: series chronicles the escapades of a trio of stoner anti

978
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: establishment characters and their cad who wake up from a

979
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 1: fifty year nap after smoking a magical strain of weed

980
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:44,799
Speaker 1: in nineteen nine and must adjust to life with a

981
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: new family in present day San Francisco. Okay, I just

982
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 1: tuned out of that description. But um, he smoked weed

983
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 1: on the red carpet. Yeah all right, Um, you know,

984
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 1: I don't think he should be smoking weed because he

985
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: has bipolar and I think it's bad for people with

986
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 1: psychiatric um disorders, such as myself. Um, I'm not. I

987
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,920
Speaker 1: don't think weed is good. I don't judge you if

988
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:08,919
Speaker 1: you need it. I needed it for a really long time.

989
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 1: He probably just needs it. But I hope that he

990
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 1: gets up to a point where he doesn't because I

991
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,919
Speaker 1: don't think it serves people with There's something about weed.

992
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:21,439
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just care to me in a way,

993
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: like like Seth Rogan's like known for weed, and like

994
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,360
Speaker 1: just to be known for something you're like a forty

995
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: year old, like to be known for smoking weed. It's

996
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 1: just so to me. I know what it is, and

997
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,759
Speaker 1: like it helps a lot of people and and it

998
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 1: makes it more um less taboo. But yes, but there's

999
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 1: something about like giving someone like a coolness factor to

1000
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:49,879
Speaker 1: be like, dude, that guy didn't give a fuck. Weed

1001
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:53,239
Speaker 1: is not cool. Um, it is very helpful to people

1002
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:56,760
Speaker 1: that have anxiety and depression and just need to get by.

1003
00:52:56,800 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 1: I mean when I quit three months ago, three and

1004
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 1: a half months ago, and um, and it was you know,

1005
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:04,640
Speaker 1: I've quit several times in my life, but I really

1006
00:53:04,640 --> 00:53:10,040
Speaker 1: feel like more done than ever. And um, when I

1007
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 1: did it, I needed it and there's nothing wrong with it.

1008
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:14,919
Speaker 1: So I don't judge anyone who smokes currently, And I

1009
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 1: feel like that's my best advice to anyone who smokes

1010
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 1: and has a little bit of shame about it, drop

1011
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 1: it just you need you need weed, like, don't be ashamed,

1012
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 1: don't hide about it, don't try to excuse it away

1013
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:30,319
Speaker 1: or you know, sneak off to do it. Just do

1014
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 1: it because you fucking need to. And you know what,

1015
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 1: if that's what's making you not kill yourself or not

1016
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: cut yourself or not hit your dog or fucking hate

1017
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:40,839
Speaker 1: yourself in a way that makes is going to bring

1018
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: more harm to the world, It's the least harmful thing

1019
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 1: you can do because you can't cope fucking do it

1020
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 1: all you want and the and the second that you

1021
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 1: know you, I truly believe that the only way to

1022
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,360
Speaker 1: overcome addictions or things that you someday go I like

1023
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,080
Speaker 1: to not smoke weed. That was always my point of

1024
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 1: view is like, I'd like to not have a needing

1025
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 1: disorder that rules my life. I'd like to not smoke weed.

1026
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:05,839
Speaker 1: I'd like to not drink. These are all goals of mine.

1027
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 1: And I wish someone would have told me sooner that

1028
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 1: you can have freedom from those things as soon as

1029
00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 1: you accept that you just need them right now. You

1030
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 1: need them when you need them. And because so much

1031
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,920
Speaker 1: of needing those things, you need them because you have

1032
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,439
Speaker 1: so much shame about already needing them. So the shame

1033
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 1: you have about doing it already is going to cause

1034
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:26,919
Speaker 1: you to do it more. The shame I had over

1035
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:30,879
Speaker 1: binging or starving would make me have anxiety and feel

1036
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:32,760
Speaker 1: terrible about myself, and then I would need to starve

1037
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: and binge to to quell that anxiety. The anxiety I

1038
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 1: had over sneaking weed and being high and being such

1039
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,799
Speaker 1: a loser. Why do you need weed to like go,

1040
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:44,959
Speaker 1: you're doing, you know, fallon? Why would you smoke weed

1041
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 1: before that? Nikki? You're you're throwing your life away, You're

1042
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 1: you're squandering this opportunity. The sooner I got to the place,

1043
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:53,400
Speaker 1: and it took me a minute, but as soon as

1044
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 1: I got to the place of like when I would

1045
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: pick up that bowl and I first thing in the

1046
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:02,080
Speaker 1: morning or whatever it was, I you know, no, I

1047
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:03,279
Speaker 1: wasn't at this point in my life when I was

1048
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 1: smoking from apples, I was still shameful about it. But

1049
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 1: when I got back home after came in and I

1050
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 1: was needing weed all summer long and feeling to the

1051
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 1: point where I was like really shamed about it, it

1052
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: only was about three weeks of just going, you need it,

1053
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:19,440
Speaker 1: but it's just have it, fucking you get this because

1054
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,439
Speaker 1: instead of this, what would it be. It would be

1055
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 1: crying in bed all day and not being able to function.

1056
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 1: That's worse than this weed. It would be drinking. It

1057
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 1: would be I'm I need this and that's okay. And

1058
00:55:31,480 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: then as soon as I was able to do that,

1059
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 1: I didn't need it anymore. There is something to this

1060
00:55:35,800 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 1: shame that you were talking about, which is like what

1061
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 1: comes first to shame or or you smoking weed? Like

1062
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 1: it reminds me of like my mom when she would

1063
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 1: smoke cigarettes, but she wouldn't smoke in front of us.

1064
00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 1: She'd go to the bathroom in a restaurant to smoke

1065
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 1: because she was because of how we would maybe judge

1066
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 1: her how she perceived we judged her, and we probably

1067
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: did judge her because we wanted her to live and

1068
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 1: we fucking hated cigarettes. But that feeling of like having

1069
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: to sneak off it needs it means that you're going

1070
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 1: to have its anxiety. Then you need to have anxiety

1071
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 1: feels so uncomfortable that you need to make it go away.

1072
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,399
Speaker 1: And what do you choose? Something that makes you feel

1073
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 1: good instantly? Cigarettes, So it's like it makes more cigarettes.

1074
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:19,319
Speaker 1: When you were like with your weed stuff, like when

1075
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: you were eventually like honest with everyone, like you know,

1076
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: even some people that you thought maybe you didn't want

1077
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:29,600
Speaker 1: to know going in my room alone or going on

1078
00:56:29,600 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: on the balcony when I would just do it in

1079
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 1: front of people, or go, hey, I wouldn't want to

1080
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:35,360
Speaker 1: like you know, make it stinky in the room, so

1081
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 1: I go, I'm gonna go smoke weed. I'd have to

1082
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 1: tell people I was doing it as soon as I

1083
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:42,520
Speaker 1: got really honest. And also just you guys can judge me,

1084
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:44,839
Speaker 1: but I don't judge myself anymore for this. I need this,

1085
00:56:44,920 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 1: and I know that instead of if I didn't do this,

1086
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:50,880
Speaker 1: something worse would happen for now. That's the truth, and

1087
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 1: this is the best. This is the best thing I

1088
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 1: can do right now for myself, and it's all I have,

1089
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 1: So that's okay. And then when you're just nicer to

1090
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 1: yourself about that, that's when you're able to give it

1091
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 1: away or give it up, or it just becomes so

1092
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: much easier to give it up. And I wish, I

1093
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:07,239
Speaker 1: wish I would have known that earlier. So I try

1094
00:57:07,280 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 1: to spread that message as much as possible. Whatever shameful

1095
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 1: act you're doing, as soon as you start going, it's

1096
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:14,200
Speaker 1: okay that I'm doing this. I just need to do this.

1097
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 1: I don't have an option. I just it's all I

1098
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 1: can do right now because I'm in pain. You will

1099
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:21,000
Speaker 1: be able to let go of that thing a lot easier,

1100
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 1: unless you're going into a burning building as a firefighter.

1101
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 1: Then just get loaded hammered. Yeah, let's get to Reddit dump.

1102
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:34,960
Speaker 1: This is your red dump, all right. It's the weekly

1103
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 1: uh dump of Reddit things that I found that I liked.

1104
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 1: Let me see what I got this week for us.

1105
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 1: Oh okay, this was a good one. This was on

1106
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: white people Twitter, the subreddit. Just see that picture of

1107
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 1: that stupid, fucking Republicans family all posing with guns around

1108
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: the Christmas tree in the in the wake of the

1109
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 1: fucking Michigan school shooting, where the parents knew that the

1110
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:01,280
Speaker 1: guy had a gun and they even texted him don't

1111
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: do it because they obviously knew. It's just disgusting anyway, UM,

1112
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:09,040
Speaker 1: someone had um posted a picture of that family and

1113
00:58:09,080 --> 00:58:11,240
Speaker 1: then next to it was a picture of like the

1114
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:13,720
Speaker 1: it it looks to me to be the Taliban with

1115
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 1: a bunch of guns. You know, when they all pose

1116
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 1: with guns like you know it'll be it'll be like

1117
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: a picture of this, and he put a side of aside.

1118
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 1: He goes weird. This is from um the Twitter account

1119
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:27,240
Speaker 1: our school. E weird How when we see gun group

1120
00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: shots from other countries we don't think, look at all

1121
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:34,720
Speaker 1: that awesome freedom and that interesting. This one made me

1122
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:38,040
Speaker 1: laugh out loud. This was from the subret to me

1123
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:40,720
Speaker 1: I r L for me I r L, I don't

1124
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:43,440
Speaker 1: know what. Well, let me see what the subret. It

1125
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: says for relatable posts that are too real for me

1126
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: r i L or me underscore I r L, meaning jokes,

1127
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:53,880
Speaker 1: posts about mental health issues and self deprecating humor. Okay,

1128
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:57,919
Speaker 1: so it's this little kid and he's at a bar.

1129
00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 1: He's not. He's like, it's a uh, a super imposed

1130
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 1: image of a little boy scratching his head looking like

1131
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 1: uncomfortable kind of and it's super imposed upon a picture

1132
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 1: of a bar, and it says, damn, I kind of

1133
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 1: want to leave. And then it just the meme says

1134
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 1: me as soon as I get anywhere, and it just

1135
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: the kid's face just made me laugh. Damn, I kind

1136
00:59:18,040 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 1: of want to like whenever you get anywhere, like as

1137
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,920
Speaker 1: soon as just being like, I don't like this. And

1138
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:25,960
Speaker 1: that's the feeling you get when you stopped drinking and

1139
00:59:25,960 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 1: you go to places that used to drink. It. You

1140
00:59:27,680 --> 00:59:30,439
Speaker 1: just go because that's the thing. Like alcohol makes those

1141
00:59:30,480 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 1: things tolerable. It doesn't make them fun. It just makes

1142
00:59:33,600 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 1: you stupider. So you think this thing that isn't fun

1143
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 1: is fun. People that have mental brained, you know, mental handicaps,

1144
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:44,920
Speaker 1: are happy with like you give them a box and

1145
00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 1: they're like, wow, I like it. That doesn't mean the

1146
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 1: box is inherently fun. They're just dumber than you. So

1147
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 1: like when you go to a bar after you don't drink,

1148
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 1: it's just not fun anymore. And that was the freedom

1149
00:59:56,480 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 1: of not drinking, was like, oh, man, like things that

1150
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:06,000
Speaker 1: I thought were fun, we're not fun. I was just drunk, Like, Oh,

1151
01:00:06,040 --> 01:00:09,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss going to bar so much. No I won't.

1152
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 1: I won't miss it because it was never fun. And

1153
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 1: there are some things that you did when you're drunk

1154
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 1: that are still fun once you get or like hit

1155
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 1: your kids. Yeah, that's what I call them. Um. This

1156
01:00:21,360 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 1: is from Comedy Heaven and this is um. These are

1157
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:29,120
Speaker 1: jokes that are so bad. It's ascended so Comedy Heaven

1158
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 1: like jokes that are so bad or just so cringe.

1159
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 1: And this is Neil de grass Tyson. I sent you

1160
01:00:35,640 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 1: this or a meal a meal shows you this. This

1161
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,680
Speaker 1: is from Neil de grass Tyson. So over the course

1162
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:47,880
Speaker 1: of so many years, yes this is ten years. On Twitter,

1163
01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 1: Neil deGrasse Tyson has tried to make this joke five

1164
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:56,919
Speaker 1: different times on Twitter. First time was February another thought

1165
01:00:57,000 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 1: to disturb reastful slumber, especially if you are vain in

1166
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 1: a mirror, you can kiss only yourself on the lips.

1167
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 1: It got a hundred retweets August two thousand eleven. This

1168
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 1: is a year and a half later. For narcissists only

1169
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 1: laws of reflection require that if you kiss yourself in

1170
01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: a mirror, it will always be on the lips. July twelve,

1171
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: two thirteen, So that got seven fourteen retweets. En two

1172
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 1: years later justin f y I in a mirror, you

1173
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 1: can only kiss yourself on the lips two five thousand retweets.

1174
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: Thou six years, six years later, two thousand or this

1175
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 1: is December two thousand nineteen. You can kiss yourself in

1176
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: the mirror, but only on the lips retweets and now

1177
01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: currently December one, two years after the fourth attempt at

1178
01:01:56,960 --> 01:01:59,520
Speaker 1: this joke. This is now his fifth attempt in a

1179
01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:05,280
Speaker 1: mirror you can kiss yourself only on the lips four

1180
01:02:05,560 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 1: point eight thousand retweets. So he peaked in two thousand nineteen,

1181
01:02:10,160 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: which I would say Niel de gross Tyson's popularity also

1182
01:02:12,480 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 1: peaked in two thousand nineteen. Um, it's just so embarrassing.

1183
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:20,600
Speaker 1: I love I love that he changed up the wording

1184
01:02:20,760 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 1: like he knew, he knew he wrote it before. I've

1185
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:26,680
Speaker 1: done that before with jokes. You've got repost a joke.

1186
01:02:27,080 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 1: There's no shame in that. But five times they're shape. Yeah. Also,

1187
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 1: I made out and a lot on the mirror. Did Yeah,

1188
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 1: my mom caught me because she saw lip and tongue

1189
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:42,120
Speaker 1: marks on the mirror. Wait, what were you doing that

1190
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:45,160
Speaker 1: to practice? Or did you just love yourself? It's the

1191
01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 1: only way I could come nick, No, no, yeah, it

1192
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:52,360
Speaker 1: was just practice. I was practicing a pillow too. Uh

1193
01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 1: did I like pillow? Let's make out with a pillow?

1194
01:02:56,080 --> 01:03:00,439
Speaker 1: Or like I think I've I've kissed my own arm,

1195
01:03:01,480 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 1: like practiced like you were practicing or like were you

1196
01:03:04,560 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 1: just trying to feel love? I mean not no, No,

1197
01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:09,600
Speaker 1: I wasn't like turned on by, but I was practiced.

1198
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:11,520
Speaker 1: Sometimes I do that with myself, Like I'll rub my

1199
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:14,600
Speaker 1: arm just like gently, just to be like like nurturing

1200
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:17,000
Speaker 1: to myself because I just need human touch. Like the

1201
01:03:17,000 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 1: other day when I was crying in the fucking airport,

1202
01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 1: I wanted someone to hug me so bad. I just

1203
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,320
Speaker 1: wanted someone to see me looking sad and going like

1204
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:24,320
Speaker 1: do you need a hug? And just I would have

1205
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:26,480
Speaker 1: stopped if someone would have done that, I would have

1206
01:03:26,480 --> 01:03:29,360
Speaker 1: just grabbed them so tight it would have been crazy.

1207
01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: But do you need a kiss? Do you need to

1208
01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 1: do you what? I? Oh my god, last night, Poppy, though,

1209
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 1: I got human affection from my niece. Oh, it was

1210
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:41,520
Speaker 1: so great. She loves me so much now and she

1211
01:03:41,640 --> 01:03:44,320
Speaker 1: just loves to like climb on me and just like

1212
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:46,840
Speaker 1: hug me and like I And last night she was

1213
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 1: doing this thing where she kept putting her pacifier in

1214
01:03:51,080 --> 01:03:54,360
Speaker 1: my mouth and then she would bite the She thought

1215
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 1: it was so funny that I was sucking on this

1216
01:03:56,080 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 1: past fire because no adult would do that. It was

1217
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 1: like on the floor and like had baby spit on it.

1218
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:02,880
Speaker 1: But I was just like I'll do anything to make

1219
01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: this kid laugh. So I was going like I'm a baby.

1220
01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:07,000
Speaker 1: And then she kept biting it and it looks like

1221
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,479
Speaker 1: we were making and I was looking at my sister

1222
01:04:08,520 --> 01:04:10,440
Speaker 1: like I'm not doing this like this is and she

1223
01:04:10,520 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 1: kept taking out and going ha ha, and then she

1224
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:14,479
Speaker 1: I would take it out and be like I'm done.

1225
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:16,120
Speaker 1: Then she put it back in my mouth and just

1226
01:04:16,600 --> 01:04:19,960
Speaker 1: bite the other side of it, so it looked like

1227
01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:21,960
Speaker 1: we were just making out. And I kept looking at

1228
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 1: with this like I'm I promise you I don't she

1229
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 1: likes this is this Okay, I kind of like it

1230
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:29,480
Speaker 1: because it's a kiss in a way, but we're not

1231
01:04:29,560 --> 01:04:32,160
Speaker 1: actually touching lips and like you're turning into your dad.

1232
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 1: It was so sweet though. She's so cute. Did she say, hey, babe,

1233
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:44,760
Speaker 1: babe that in a while? Oh my god, yeah, your Poppy.

1234
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:47,360
Speaker 1: I forgot when I was I was singing some song

1235
01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 1: and I was putting her name in it. It's so

1236
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:52,200
Speaker 1: funny when you see kids get humor and get I

1237
01:04:52,280 --> 01:04:57,560
Speaker 1: remember what you not on the farm? Ei, No, not,

1238
01:04:57,600 --> 01:05:02,120
Speaker 1: they she liked, Oh yeah, it's awesome. She's just like

1239
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm she is so cute, cute. Oh my god. Last

1240
01:05:07,680 --> 01:05:09,960
Speaker 1: night we were dancing. I posted on my Instagram. It

1241
01:05:10,080 --> 01:05:13,040
Speaker 1: is the cutest little video. Arlow is freaking out because

1242
01:05:13,080 --> 01:05:17,200
Speaker 1: we're doing the just dance thing, you know, and he

1243
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:20,160
Speaker 1: and his dad were dancing, and then Poppy started dancing

1244
01:05:20,200 --> 01:05:21,920
Speaker 1: and he, you know, as a four year old would do.

1245
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:24,600
Speaker 1: I got really upset that she was dancing in his dance,

1246
01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:26,840
Speaker 1: you know, and so he started screaming, crying and like

1247
01:05:27,320 --> 01:05:30,280
Speaker 1: writhing on the floor, being like, what Poppy to dance?

1248
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:33,080
Speaker 1: And my sister, you can hear my sister. I just

1249
01:05:33,080 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 1: want to play it because you can hear my sister say,

1250
01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:36,640
Speaker 1: I thought there was a dildo on the ground, some

1251
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:40,120
Speaker 1: purple Oh no, that's a phone. But it does look

1252
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:48,840
Speaker 1: like a little clit sucker thing. That's Harlow. It's okay,

1253
01:05:50,560 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 1: you do you? And then Poppy then goes to start

1254
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: like twerking on the floor. You gotta go watch. It's

1255
01:05:57,640 --> 01:06:00,600
Speaker 1: so cute. She's standing there so sad because Arlow told stop,

1256
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 1: and my sister goes it's o ka, Poppy, you do you?

1257
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:06,000
Speaker 1: And then she just drops the floor and starts to

1258
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:10,479
Speaker 1: working in sound cute vital thought. Um, let me just see.

1259
01:06:10,560 --> 01:06:13,400
Speaker 1: There's one more thing I wanted to read from here. Um.

1260
01:06:13,440 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 1: This is from made Me Smile this Upreddit and the

1261
01:06:17,080 --> 01:06:18,840
Speaker 1: person said I'd love to see a movie based on this.

1262
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:20,920
Speaker 1: I disagree, but this is a good tweet. This is

1263
01:06:20,960 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 1: from s Wolf Underscore V S v I S. Twelve

1264
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:25,680
Speaker 1: years ago. I talked to a stranger at a bar

1265
01:06:25,720 --> 01:06:28,600
Speaker 1: for over three hours. He said goodbye and nothing more.

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01:06:28,640 --> 01:06:31,280
Speaker 1: When I left in the parking lot, I got angry.

1267
01:06:31,520 --> 01:06:33,360
Speaker 1: I stormed back in and yelled at him for not

1268
01:06:33,440 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 1: asking for my phone number. We're married now. That girl's

1269
01:06:38,680 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 1: a masculine energy faux show. Yeah that's a that's a

1270
01:06:43,440 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 1: strong move, but you know what, I that's all it takes.

1271
01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:51,480
Speaker 1: Sometimes if you feel if you felt something, go for it.

1272
01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:53,640
Speaker 1: And if you're the type of person that that's a

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01:06:53,760 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 1: thing that is within your ability to do, don't squash

1274
01:06:58,120 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: that part of your personality to get this man, even

1275
01:07:01,240 --> 01:07:04,320
Speaker 1: though you know, I've only done like something like that once,

1276
01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:05,880
Speaker 1: I think in my life. I remember I went out

1277
01:07:05,920 --> 01:07:10,400
Speaker 1: to dinner and the hostess was really pretty, and I

1278
01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:12,480
Speaker 1: was like twenty two or something or whatever. I was

1279
01:07:12,480 --> 01:07:14,880
Speaker 1: just getting back from college, and I felt like she

1280
01:07:14,960 --> 01:07:17,120
Speaker 1: was checking me out when I was eating with my dad,

1281
01:07:17,360 --> 01:07:20,040
Speaker 1: and I called the restaurant when I got home, and

1282
01:07:20,080 --> 01:07:22,920
Speaker 1: I go as the brown hair girl like whatever and

1283
01:07:22,960 --> 01:07:25,240
Speaker 1: like and we connected and then we ended up going

1284
01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:26,960
Speaker 1: on dates like through that, but like I didn't know

1285
01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:28,960
Speaker 1: her name or any I just called the restaurant to

1286
01:07:29,000 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 1: be like it's a strong move. I've done it before.

1287
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:34,720
Speaker 1: I've left guys like I've given my number to guys

1288
01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:36,920
Speaker 1: that I'm like, you're cute and just been bold like that.

1289
01:07:37,000 --> 01:07:38,760
Speaker 1: And you know what, if they don't, if they're not

1290
01:07:38,840 --> 01:07:41,040
Speaker 1: the type of guy that is going to respond to

1291
01:07:41,080 --> 01:07:44,800
Speaker 1: that kind of female aggressive aggressive energy aggressive being in

1292
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:49,360
Speaker 1: quotes like not actually aggressive, but like you know, taking charge, um,

1293
01:07:49,480 --> 01:07:51,720
Speaker 1: then then they're not for you. My friends would do

1294
01:07:51,760 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 1: that a lot to leave a number for the girl.

1295
01:07:55,080 --> 01:07:58,960
Speaker 1: It's a great move because it protects you from getting rejected.

1296
01:07:59,040 --> 01:08:02,920
Speaker 1: Right there, that's the move that my friend Andy Lee. Yeah,

1297
01:08:02,960 --> 01:08:05,280
Speaker 1: he puts the onus on the girl to call. Yeah,

1298
01:08:05,440 --> 01:08:07,600
Speaker 1: and you don't feel the rejection if she never calls,

1299
01:08:07,600 --> 01:08:09,479
Speaker 1: because you already forgot about Italy. A couple of people,

1300
01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:12,720
Speaker 1: my friend Andy Lee, he's uh of Hamish and Andy

1301
01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:16,240
Speaker 1: in Australia. One of my favorite Just YouTube any Hamish

1302
01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:18,400
Speaker 1: and Andy clip and you'll have the best time of

1303
01:08:18,400 --> 01:08:20,360
Speaker 1: your life. It's it's a great thing to put on

1304
01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:22,000
Speaker 1: on YouTube. And a lot of Americans don't know about

1305
01:08:22,040 --> 01:08:24,640
Speaker 1: Hamish and Andy. But Andy Lee of Hamish and Andy.

1306
01:08:25,320 --> 01:08:28,200
Speaker 1: He um used to have this pickup technique where he

1307
01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:30,720
Speaker 1: would give he would write his email address on a

1308
01:08:30,720 --> 01:08:32,280
Speaker 1: piece of paper and go up to a girl and

1309
01:08:32,360 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 1: say here, UM, if you if you ever ever want

1310
01:08:36,479 --> 01:08:39,320
Speaker 1: to get a drink or something, UM, email me. I

1311
01:08:39,320 --> 01:08:43,080
Speaker 1: feel like because a phone number is so aggressive that

1312
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:45,679
Speaker 1: it's it's just very intimate. And this is before Instagram,

1313
01:08:45,720 --> 01:08:48,519
Speaker 1: by the way, this before d m NG. But here's

1314
01:08:48,520 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 1: my email, So maybe now you do your Instagram right

1315
01:08:51,360 --> 01:08:53,680
Speaker 1: on a piece of paper and go um, and if

1316
01:08:53,680 --> 01:08:55,840
Speaker 1: I don't hear from you, I'll convince myself you lost

1317
01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:57,760
Speaker 1: this piece of paper. And if I do, it's great.

1318
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:00,280
Speaker 1: So either way I'm good. And literally say that to her,

1319
01:09:00,439 --> 01:09:04,280
Speaker 1: say and it's a cute thing to say, and it's

1320
01:09:04,320 --> 01:09:06,680
Speaker 1: it really does save your save you face. He's like,

1321
01:09:06,720 --> 01:09:08,760
Speaker 1: I already filled out the subject for you. But if

1322
01:09:08,760 --> 01:09:10,280
Speaker 1: a guy said that to me, it was like, if

1323
01:09:10,280 --> 01:09:12,760
Speaker 1: you don't write me, I'll just convince myself be lost

1324
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:16,040
Speaker 1: like I would be. So I would be so tickled.

1325
01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:18,559
Speaker 1: What's the good pickup line we heard the other day?

1326
01:09:19,560 --> 01:09:21,920
Speaker 1: It was someone gave it to us. Emil was there

1327
01:09:21,960 --> 01:09:23,559
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, Emil, you gotta

1328
01:09:23,600 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 1: do that. It was such a good one. Good damn it.

1329
01:09:26,479 --> 01:09:28,599
Speaker 1: I didn't hear. I don't know. Can I call him

1330
01:09:28,600 --> 01:09:30,280
Speaker 1: real quick to ask, because I just I want to

1331
01:09:30,280 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 1: share it with the best pickup line? I don't know.

1332
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:35,880
Speaker 1: I just feel like they're so cheesy. Who gave us that?

1333
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 1: It was someone at a show? Are you tired from

1334
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:42,479
Speaker 1: running around in my mind all day? It was another

1335
01:09:42,520 --> 01:09:45,439
Speaker 1: thing of like giving a number and being so oh

1336
01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 1: it was Seth seth um seth her dog. Oh, he

1337
01:09:49,920 --> 01:09:54,040
Speaker 1: did the greatest thing. Okay, I know it now. Yo,

1338
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:57,720
Speaker 1: Hey you're on my podcast. Hey, I was trying to

1339
01:09:57,760 --> 01:10:01,200
Speaker 1: remember what recently I had. We're talking about pickup lines,

1340
01:10:01,240 --> 01:10:03,920
Speaker 1: and I had remembered that someone gave us a really

1341
01:10:03,920 --> 01:10:05,200
Speaker 1: good one. And I looked at you and was like,

1342
01:10:05,240 --> 01:10:07,840
Speaker 1: remember that a meal and I couldn't forget remember who

1343
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:09,519
Speaker 1: it was. But as the phone was ringing, I remembered

1344
01:10:09,520 --> 01:10:14,720
Speaker 1: it was Seth Herzog. Do you remember it? Shit? Then yeah, wait,

1345
01:10:14,760 --> 01:10:16,880
Speaker 1: I'll remind you. I remember it. I just didn't want

1346
01:10:16,880 --> 01:10:18,960
Speaker 1: to hang up on you. So it was UM and

1347
01:10:19,000 --> 01:10:21,920
Speaker 1: you should use it. So if you get a girl's

1348
01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:29,000
Speaker 1: number or uh, you know, if you get a girl's number,

1349
01:10:29,760 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 1: you um, yeah, you have to get her number. Okay,

1350
01:10:37,080 --> 01:10:40,000
Speaker 1: well that's a good point. Well I actually have advice.

1351
01:10:40,040 --> 01:10:41,600
Speaker 1: I just gave it on the podcast. But you you

1352
01:10:41,640 --> 01:10:44,160
Speaker 1: give a girl your email address, and this is this

1353
01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:46,479
Speaker 1: is advice that was given before d m NG, but

1354
01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:48,800
Speaker 1: A numbers a little aggressive. You can give your girl

1355
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:53,760
Speaker 1: your email address or you know Instagram and say um

1356
01:10:53,880 --> 01:10:58,439
Speaker 1: or Lindon and you can say, uh, here, um, reach

1357
01:10:58,479 --> 01:10:59,680
Speaker 1: out to me. If you ever want to get a

1358
01:10:59,720 --> 01:11:02,679
Speaker 1: drink or you know, go out, um, and if you don't,

1359
01:11:02,680 --> 01:11:04,560
Speaker 1: if I don't hear from you, I'm just gonna convince

1360
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:07,639
Speaker 1: myself you lost it. Um, So I'm gonna win either.

1361
01:11:07,880 --> 01:11:10,599
Speaker 1: And that's a cute little line. But what Seth Seth,

1362
01:11:11,240 --> 01:11:13,040
Speaker 1: what Seth Herzog said to do is if you get

1363
01:11:13,040 --> 01:11:15,479
Speaker 1: a girl's number, text her right away as soon as

1364
01:11:15,479 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 1: you leave and say, hey, it's Seth. Um. I don't

1365
01:11:19,479 --> 01:11:21,519
Speaker 1: know if you remember me, but I'm the guy like

1366
01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:25,000
Speaker 1: literally seconds after you get it, say something that that, like,

1367
01:11:25,320 --> 01:11:26,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if you remember me, but I'm this

1368
01:11:26,800 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 1: guy that you met. It's just a cute thing that

1369
01:11:28,840 --> 01:11:33,599
Speaker 1: would make and it's funny, like you got to do

1370
01:11:33,600 --> 01:11:36,040
Speaker 1: it right away for it to work. Yes, right away,

1371
01:11:36,200 --> 01:11:39,880
Speaker 1: you can't even do yes, Yes, I'm the guy in

1372
01:11:39,920 --> 01:11:43,160
Speaker 1: the red shirt that was you might remember me. We

1373
01:11:43,200 --> 01:11:45,200
Speaker 1: had that conversation about like just say it like you're

1374
01:11:45,200 --> 01:11:49,040
Speaker 1: writing it five years talking to your energy. I think

1375
01:11:49,040 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 1: you know. So they're not like is this guy crazy?

1376
01:11:51,560 --> 01:11:53,280
Speaker 1: Like who would think I forgot him? You know what

1377
01:11:53,360 --> 01:11:55,280
Speaker 1: I mean? You hope, like hopefully she's like, oh yeah,

1378
01:11:55,320 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 1: he's like funny like that, you know, yes, wait a meal,

1379
01:11:59,160 --> 01:12:01,920
Speaker 1: do you when you see exclamation marks and text messages

1380
01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:04,599
Speaker 1: from people. Do you take that as they're mad at

1381
01:12:04,640 --> 01:12:07,160
Speaker 1: you sometimes are screaming or is it always a sign

1382
01:12:07,240 --> 01:12:11,759
Speaker 1: that like things are good and they're nice. Um? Yeah,

1383
01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:13,920
Speaker 1: most of the time things are good and things are nice.

1384
01:12:13,920 --> 01:12:16,439
Speaker 1: Like multiple exclamation points, I'm like, okay, good Like I

1385
01:12:16,520 --> 01:12:19,479
Speaker 1: have like multiple It actually puts me at ease. Multiple

1386
01:12:19,520 --> 01:12:22,519
Speaker 1: in one shot like two and like for one that's

1387
01:12:22,520 --> 01:12:25,760
Speaker 1: always like your this is too much. But if it's

1388
01:12:25,840 --> 01:12:29,759
Speaker 1: multiple within you know, and eat like a whole message

1389
01:12:29,760 --> 01:12:32,599
Speaker 1: of like thank you exclamation mark, see you next time

1390
01:12:32,640 --> 01:12:36,360
Speaker 1: exclamation mark, that's okay. Oh no, Yeah, I'm crazy though.

1391
01:12:36,360 --> 01:12:38,600
Speaker 1: And I think if if there's like three in a

1392
01:12:38,720 --> 01:12:43,840
Speaker 1: row like thank you, like five after that, I go, uh,

1393
01:12:44,000 --> 01:12:50,240
Speaker 1: I read it thank you. It's a passively like nice. Oh.

1394
01:12:50,280 --> 01:12:56,680
Speaker 1: I think they're Christian. I think they're just like like,

1395
01:12:56,760 --> 01:13:02,960
Speaker 1: oh like their Southern. All Right, we have to go, Emil.

1396
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:08,320
Speaker 1: I'll call you later. Thank you, bye with excavation marks

1397
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:11,240
Speaker 1: by by Boy. Alright, guys, thank you so much for

1398
01:13:11,240 --> 01:13:13,599
Speaker 1: listening to the podcast today. We're gonna be back tomorrow.

1399
01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:15,640
Speaker 1: Are you okay? Are you meditating? What's going on over there?

1400
01:13:16,800 --> 01:13:22,240
Speaker 1: Look at really? What Jack? You're Jack, oh, I was like, oh,

1401
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:26,760
Speaker 1: you're thinking about like your drama Luigi. He consents. When

1402
01:13:26,760 --> 01:13:28,920
Speaker 1: the podcast is over look at his little head shoot up,

1403
01:13:29,160 --> 01:13:31,120
Speaker 1: he gets the tone of like, alright, guys, don't be

1404
01:13:32,240 --> 01:13:37,640
Speaker 1: and Jack wait wait wait wait wait okay Jack co