WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: How’s Your Relationship With Your Tío Lupe?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi Cheeky's.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, I love you, I love your siblings

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<v Speaker 3>and wish you the best. Yeah to thescendence. Yeah. I

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<v Speaker 3>had a question. So right when you started your career,

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<v Speaker 3>I noticed that you and your Theolupe were kind of

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<v Speaker 3>like distance, but once the auditory started, he was on

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<v Speaker 3>your side and your sibling side when that happened, So

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<v Speaker 3>my question is, how is your relationship with your theolup

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<v Speaker 3>and just if you could clarify or whatever or up

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<v Speaker 3>to what you want to say, But why did your

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<v Speaker 3>Theolupe took so long to like publicly be on your

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<v Speaker 3>and your siblings side. And another question is is there

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<v Speaker 3>going to be a second season of Chiki's in Fieltro.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I would love to.

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<v Speaker 3>See another season anyway. Thank you and love you and

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<v Speaker 3>sending lots of love and to you and your siblings

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<v Speaker 3>and love your mom.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, oh Patty, thank you, Thank you for all

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<v Speaker 2>of those nice wishes and prayers for myself and my

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<v Speaker 2>family which you seem as ras.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, And in regards to your question, first I'll answer

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<v Speaker 1>the question about Cheeky sein Feeditro season two. Well, it's

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<v Speaker 1>an exclusive here on Dear Cheeky's guys, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>found out a few days ago that yes, we just

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<v Speaker 1>got green lit for a second season. So Patti, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much. That's so crazy that you're asking about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know when we're going to start recording, but

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<v Speaker 1>they did give us the green lights, so that is

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<v Speaker 1>a blessing. And regards to my deo Lupe, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're good, we're cordial, we're respectful. A lot happened even

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<v Speaker 1>before my mom passed away, things that I won't get into,

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<v Speaker 1>and then after my mom passed away, things were just

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<v Speaker 1>very sticky. I wasn't in a good place I started

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<v Speaker 1>my career, and I didn't really feel his support. I

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<v Speaker 1>felt quite the opposite, and a lot of things were said,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was hurt for a long time, and then

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<v Speaker 1>he apologized to me, something I haven't really talked about publicly,

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<v Speaker 1>but he apologized to me a couple of years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and I accepted his apology and it felt very sincere.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just think so much has happened that we're

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<v Speaker 1>both a little hesitant to get too close.

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<v Speaker 4>But when we see each.

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<v Speaker 1>Other and he comments on my stuff and he's very playful,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know. I just think we haven't given

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves a chance to get closer. So maybe that'll happen.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not opposed to it. Him and I agree that

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<v Speaker 1>we need to have a nice, deep conversation alone, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>with some tequila, because with tequila, you know, you get

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<v Speaker 1>more honest and feelings just start flowing. But that hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>happened yet.

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<v Speaker 5>But we're good.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no bad feelings towards him or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good when it comes to that. So thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for asking, And yeah, one day, maybe one day, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. He can come on the pod we'll see.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for your question, is Patty okay? Moving on to.

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<v Speaker 4>Marii Hichiki's Buenosi. I don't know what time it is

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<v Speaker 4>when you listen to this, but first of all, I

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<v Speaker 4>just want to say that I love you and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>very thankful for everything that you stand for and for

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<v Speaker 4>your vulnerability with your listeners. I want to thank you

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<v Speaker 4>for the book Unstoppable. I just finished listening to it,

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<v Speaker 4>Like I think this is my third time listening to it.

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<v Speaker 4>It has been a very inspirational book for me. I

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<v Speaker 4>went through a period where I was losing so many

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<v Speaker 4>people in my life because it just were not a

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<v Speaker 4>positive thing in my life anymore, and so that was

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<v Speaker 4>very difficult, and your book helped me through it. I

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<v Speaker 4>just finished listening to your last podcast where you talk

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<v Speaker 4>about being ready of letting go of the right people.

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<v Speaker 4>The funny thing is, I just had this conversation with

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<v Speaker 4>my sister where I just feel like I'm going through

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<v Speaker 4>a change and I don't know how to explain it.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like there's going to be more people that

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to be losing, and somehow I'm at peace

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<v Speaker 4>with it. So I just want to know how did

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<v Speaker 4>you get to this girly era, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>I'm in it, and this is the very first time

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<v Speaker 4>that I'm entering a girly era. I have always have

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<v Speaker 4>had to defend myself and stand up for myself and fight.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want to fight or argue with anyone. Either

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<v Speaker 4>you're meant for me or you're not. And that's it.

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<v Speaker 4>But ready to know when you're going to release a

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<v Speaker 4>new book because I would love to listen to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh mighty, you guys are making my heart so happy today.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for listening to my podcast. Thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>reading my book. I am so grateful. I'm glad that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm able to inspire and encourage you guys. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>it's music to my ears. So thank you, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for that confirmation. I am working on a

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<v Speaker 1>book again, another exclusive for Dear Cheeky's What better place

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<v Speaker 1>than my podcast is talk about all these things. But

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<v Speaker 1>I am working on it. Two weeks ago the idea

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<v Speaker 1>came to me and I have I haven't gotten the

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<v Speaker 1>green light on that yet. My agent needs me to

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<v Speaker 1>work a little bit more on it, so I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to write a few things. But it is a self

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<v Speaker 1>help book, so I will keep you guys updated on that,

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<v Speaker 1>but definitely want to help the world in any way

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<v Speaker 1>that I possibly can. And in regards to your question,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know exactly how and when this happened. I

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<v Speaker 1>think with the career that I'm in and it being

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<v Speaker 1>so male dominated, I felt the need to step into

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<v Speaker 1>my masculine energy and I was in it so much

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<v Speaker 1>and it gets tiring. And I felt like in order

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<v Speaker 1>to also make my relationship work, and I started noticing

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<v Speaker 1>that me being a little bit more feminine for the

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<v Speaker 1>lack of a better word, or submissive, it was really

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<v Speaker 1>helping my relationship and also allowing my man to step

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<v Speaker 1>into his power. And I said, I really want this

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to work, I have to let myself be led

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<v Speaker 1>because I have always been the leader. I am the

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<v Speaker 1>eldest child, the eldest sibling, and I always felt like

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<v Speaker 1>I needed to be the example and be a leader,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was just a lot of pressure and I

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<v Speaker 1>felt that I needed to do that in my relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>Little did I know, and subconsciously I was emasculating my man.

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<v Speaker 1>Sink it at getten though, you know, and I've learned

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<v Speaker 1>through therapy and reading books and just listening to my

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<v Speaker 1>inner voice when I'm meditating, and it just felt something

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<v Speaker 1>within me saying I want to be more gentle, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be more soft. I don't want to have

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<v Speaker 1>my fists up ready to defend myself or fight. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like no, like you just said, Who's meant

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<v Speaker 1>for me is meant for me and every single aspect

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<v Speaker 1>of my life, and I'm just gonna let it flow,

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna force anything. And it's so liberating girls, So

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<v Speaker 1>we are definitely on the same frequency. Enjoy it, embrace it,

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<v Speaker 1>let it be, really listen to that inner voice that

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<v Speaker 1>we have that's God speaking to us. That's what I think,

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<v Speaker 1>especially in those quiet moments. But yeah, I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>know exactly when it happened. I just know that it

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<v Speaker 1>was happening since last year. I'm like, Okay, something is

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<v Speaker 1>not feeling right, something's feeling different, and I knew something

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<v Speaker 1>was happening a shift. I wasn't entirely sure until this

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<v Speaker 1>year where I was like, Okay, this is what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I think it was just a process to

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<v Speaker 1>get to this point. And I'm still learning a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still trying to figure things out. I mean, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>we're evolving creatures, so it's going to be something that

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<v Speaker 1>is gonna happen and we're always gonna change. So we

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<v Speaker 1>are on the same wavelength right now, so let's just

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<v Speaker 1>be girlies together again. Thank you so much Maddy for

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<v Speaker 1>your question, and thank you so much for listening to

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<v Speaker 1>the pod.

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<v Speaker 4>We love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, next question comes from Angie. Hi Chiki, Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for being such a great role model.

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<v Speaker 1>You're beautiful inside and out.

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<v Speaker 6>So my question is that did you overcome being so

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<v Speaker 6>independent and now being married. I know it's not easy.

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<v Speaker 6>I know some guys are really needy or sometimes we

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<v Speaker 6>can be needed too, but I feel like for me,

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<v Speaker 6>I haven't dated it in a while, right, and so

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<v Speaker 6>I have a fifteen year old so I've been busy

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<v Speaker 6>with his soccer academy, me trying to build my brand

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<v Speaker 6>and business, helping out my family, working on myself by

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<v Speaker 6>exercising and eating healthy. But as the better I'm getting,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm attracting more. I'm attracting more, and I've noticed that

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<v Speaker 6>I'm attracting guys so they ask me on a day.

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<v Speaker 6>One of them is actually asking me on a day,

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<v Speaker 6>and I haven't dated it in a long time. But

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<v Speaker 6>how do I go from being so independent to actually

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<v Speaker 6>give myself the opportunity to be loved? I know it

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<v Speaker 6>could be a lot of work and it takes two.

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<v Speaker 6>But then again, I'm here thinking like, wow, I'm so independent,

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<v Speaker 6>like I don't really want to deal with nobody. I'm

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<v Speaker 6>doing my own stuff building and that's what I want

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<v Speaker 6>to do. Is it just me being straight up with them, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 6>you know what, I'm not going to have time for

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<v Speaker 6>this and this is that I'm here trying to build.

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<v Speaker 6>Are we going to build together? Because I know they

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<v Speaker 6>need a lot of attention.

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<v Speaker 1>Andrea, I love you. Yes, yes, men do need attention, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>as do we. You know, I think because you've been

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<v Speaker 1>single for so long, Babe, you're used to that. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you're used to doing your thing and not having to

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<v Speaker 1>let anyone know what you're doing that. You know, so

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<v Speaker 1>I get that. But it's also very nice to share

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<v Speaker 1>your life with someone. You know. You have a fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>year old boy and he's gonna get older and he's

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna need you as much, which is good because

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<v Speaker 1>loso so he has to spread his wings right now.

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<v Speaker 1>He needs you, and that's great. This is a very

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<v Speaker 1>important age. So I love what you're doing. You're being

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<v Speaker 1>a soccer mom. Love that for you. You're building your brand.

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<v Speaker 1>That's amazing. And the reason that you're attracting so many

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<v Speaker 1>guys right now is because you are on a high

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<v Speaker 1>vibration girl, like you're doing you and that's beautiful. That

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<v Speaker 1>confidence that you are just you know, you're radiating. It

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<v Speaker 1>is attracting people. Is it going to attract the right people?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. That's for you to decide. But this

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<v Speaker 1>is what happened for me. Piggybacking a little bit on

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<v Speaker 1>the last question, so make sure you kind of hear

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<v Speaker 1>that out a little bit. But I got a little

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<v Speaker 1>tired of being so independent. I love being independent. I

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<v Speaker 1>am still me, but I also allowed myself to be

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<v Speaker 1>taken care of because I deserve to be loved. It

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<v Speaker 1>is my god given right to be happy to share

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<v Speaker 1>my life with someone. And I think when you get

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<v Speaker 1>to that point, you're gonna know when you're ready, like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready to share this, and yes, absolutely be one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred percent upfront with them. It's the best thing you

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<v Speaker 1>could do so that they know from the very beginning,

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<v Speaker 1>from the get this is what I'm about. But you

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<v Speaker 1>also have to be able and willing to give and

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<v Speaker 1>to take, to compromise. And until you're ready to compromise

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<v Speaker 1>and share your life with someone, then open that door.

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<v Speaker 1>But if not, then don't. If you're still hesitant, then

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<v Speaker 1>don't wait it out. Go on dates, chill, be honest. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just looking for a good time. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>go to dinner and blah blah blah. Or yes, I'm ready.

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<v Speaker 1>I am ready. I am ready to compromise. I am

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<v Speaker 1>ready to give and to take. That's what a relationship is.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's not going to be easy, trust me, because

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<v Speaker 1>we are independent women. But you need to feed the

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<v Speaker 1>king in your man in every way, and he does

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<v Speaker 1>need to feel like he's the man. And if he's

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<v Speaker 1>not leading, you have to show him. You have to like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>this is how I like things done. And it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to take time. It's not going to be perfect from

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning, but you will feel a connection like this

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<v Speaker 1>is my person. That's what I felt. And we're still

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<v Speaker 1>trying to figure it out and we're still doing therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be a thing that is going to happen

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<v Speaker 1>for the rest of our relationship. And I'm okay with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that's what we need. Emilia and I

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<v Speaker 1>so allow yourself to be cared for. Let it happen.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the best advice I can give you. It took

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<v Speaker 1>me a while, but open your heart to that. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much, Miss Angie. Okay, guys, next and last

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<v Speaker 1>question comes from an anonymous listener. All right, let's see,

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<v Speaker 1>there's just.

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<v Speaker 5>A lot of fear right now of deportation of a

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<v Speaker 5>loved one, you know, families being separated, and it's scary

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<v Speaker 5>and it's scary times that a lot of families are

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<v Speaker 5>going through this. Just anything we can let me know

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<v Speaker 5>how I can just trust and overcome that fear.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. I get it. It breaks my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of people that I love that

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<v Speaker 1>are friends that work with me that worry me sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>if you know they're late coming to the office or

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<v Speaker 1>I don't hear from them, I'm like, okay, are they okay?

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<v Speaker 1>So I get it, But we cannot live in fear.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know, I know it sounds cliche. I know

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<v Speaker 1>it's easier said than done. But here's the thing. Even

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<v Speaker 1>if one of our loved ones get deported. Thank God

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<v Speaker 1>that at least hopefully you're able to go visit them.

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<v Speaker 1>There's FaceTime. Thank goodness for technology. I know that's like

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<v Speaker 1>the worst case scenario, but the more fear we put

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<v Speaker 1>into something and the more energy, the more we're attracting that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think the best thing to do is is

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<v Speaker 1>what I do, even with my siblings, because trust me,

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<v Speaker 1>I worry about them a lot. But once I just

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<v Speaker 1>put them in God's hand. Spiritually, I even imagine it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I am putting my siblings in your hands.

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<v Speaker 1>I am putting my loved ones in your hands. God,

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<v Speaker 1>May your will be done, mayor will be done. Every day.

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<v Speaker 1>It's an everyday thing. And when you think of them,

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<v Speaker 1>pray for them, take care of them, take care of

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<v Speaker 1>the roads that they're on. I always pray for my siblings' homes,

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<v Speaker 1>their their minds, their hearts, their children's, their relationships, their jobs,

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<v Speaker 1>and my God protect them, protect them. I literally put

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<v Speaker 1>like a shield around them, and I'm like, God, I

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<v Speaker 1>have faith in you that you're gonna keep them safe.

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<v Speaker 1>And you cast your worries to God, and it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>it takes this weight off your shoulders, or it's like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have control. When we realize that we don't

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<v Speaker 1>have control of a situation and we just let it

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<v Speaker 1>be and we're just like, well, I let go and

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<v Speaker 1>I let god.

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<v Speaker 6>It just.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even explain it. You have to just do

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<v Speaker 1>it and really believe it and feel it. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I suggest. And I know, I know it's hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Believe me. It's a really really sad time that we're living.

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<v Speaker 1>It's disheartening. I can talk about this all day. It

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<v Speaker 1>hurts my heart. I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do what I can do. I'm gonna do what I

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<v Speaker 1>can do, what's in my power to do, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>all we can do. And also, my anonymous listener, I

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<v Speaker 1>am working with a lawyer right now, Madia. I'm in Losa,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're gonna start doing lives once or twice a month,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's going to be answering all these tough questions

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<v Speaker 1>that we all have in regards to immigration and our rights.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the most important thing. Guys, know your rights,

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<v Speaker 1>Google it, chat, gbt it, whatever it is that you use.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask the questions, call a lawyer and ask. There's nothing

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<v Speaker 1>wrong with asking and knowing your rights because you have rights.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely you have rights, and they don't want you to

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<v Speaker 1>know because it's frustrating them. But the more you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I always tell you, guys, this knowledge is power, so informence. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the best advice I can give you. So I

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<v Speaker 1>am praying for you and praying for all of us.

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<v Speaker 1>I thank you, guys for your quo questions. I love

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<v Speaker 1>the variety of questions guys. I feel like this is

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<v Speaker 1>a mini therapy session for all of us. So thank

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<v Speaker 1>you guys for sharing your questions with us. I love

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<v Speaker 1>you all so much and I can't wait to hear

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