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Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's.
Speaker 3: First of all, I love you, I love your siblings
Speaker 3: and wish you the best. Yeah to thescendence. Yeah. I
Speaker 3: had a question. So right when you started your career,
Speaker 3: I noticed that you and your Theolupe were kind of
Speaker 3: like distance, but once the auditory started, he was on
Speaker 3: your side and your sibling side when that happened, So
Speaker 3: my question is, how is your relationship with your theolup
Speaker 3: and just if you could clarify or whatever or up
Speaker 3: to what you want to say, But why did your
Speaker 3: Theolupe took so long to like publicly be on your
Speaker 3: and your siblings side. And another question is is there
Speaker 3: going to be a second season of Chiki's in Fieltro.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would love to.
Speaker 3: See another season anyway. Thank you and love you and
Speaker 3: sending lots of love and to you and your siblings
Speaker 3: and love your mom.
Speaker 2: Thank you, oh Patty, thank you, Thank you for all
Speaker 2: of those nice wishes and prayers for myself and my
Speaker 2: family which you seem as ras.
Speaker 1: Yes, And in regards to your question, first I'll answer
Speaker 1: the question about Cheeky sein Feeditro season two. Well, it's
Speaker 1: an exclusive here on Dear Cheeky's guys, but I just
Speaker 1: found out a few days ago that yes, we just
Speaker 1: got green lit for a second season. So Patti, thank
Speaker 1: you so much. That's so crazy that you're asking about that.
Speaker 1: I don't know when we're going to start recording, but
Speaker 1: they did give us the green lights, so that is
Speaker 1: a blessing. And regards to my deo Lupe, you know,
Speaker 1: we're good, we're cordial, we're respectful. A lot happened even
Speaker 1: before my mom passed away, things that I won't get into,
Speaker 1: and then after my mom passed away, things were just
Speaker 1: very sticky. I wasn't in a good place I started
Speaker 1: my career, and I didn't really feel his support. I
Speaker 1: felt quite the opposite, and a lot of things were said,
Speaker 1: and I was hurt for a long time, and then
Speaker 1: he apologized to me, something I haven't really talked about publicly,
Speaker 1: but he apologized to me a couple of years ago,
Speaker 1: and I accepted his apology and it felt very sincere.
Speaker 1: But I just think so much has happened that we're
Speaker 1: both a little hesitant to get too close.
Speaker 4: But when we see each.
Speaker 1: Other and he comments on my stuff and he's very playful,
Speaker 1: so I don't know. I just think we haven't given
Speaker 1: ourselves a chance to get closer. So maybe that'll happen.
Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it. Him and I agree that
Speaker 1: we need to have a nice, deep conversation alone, maybe
Speaker 1: with some tequila, because with tequila, you know, you get
Speaker 1: more honest and feelings just start flowing. But that hasn't
Speaker 1: happened yet.
Speaker 5: But we're good.
Speaker 1: I have no bad feelings towards him or anything like that.
Speaker 1: I'm good when it comes to that. So thank you
Speaker 1: for asking, And yeah, one day, maybe one day, I
Speaker 1: don't know. He can come on the pod we'll see.
Speaker 1: Thank you for your question, is Patty okay? Moving on to.
Speaker 4: Marii Hichiki's Buenosi. I don't know what time it is
Speaker 4: when you listen to this, but first of all, I
Speaker 4: just want to say that I love you and I'm
Speaker 4: very thankful for everything that you stand for and for
Speaker 4: your vulnerability with your listeners. I want to thank you
Speaker 4: for the book Unstoppable. I just finished listening to it,
Speaker 4: Like I think this is my third time listening to it.
Speaker 4: It has been a very inspirational book for me. I
Speaker 4: went through a period where I was losing so many
Speaker 4: people in my life because it just were not a
Speaker 4: positive thing in my life anymore, and so that was
Speaker 4: very difficult, and your book helped me through it. I
Speaker 4: just finished listening to your last podcast where you talk
Speaker 4: about being ready of letting go of the right people.
Speaker 4: The funny thing is, I just had this conversation with
Speaker 4: my sister where I just feel like I'm going through
Speaker 4: a change and I don't know how to explain it.
Speaker 4: I feel like there's going to be more people that
Speaker 4: I'm going to be losing, and somehow I'm at peace
Speaker 4: with it. So I just want to know how did
Speaker 4: you get to this girly era, because I feel like
Speaker 4: I'm in it, and this is the very first time
Speaker 4: that I'm entering a girly era. I have always have
Speaker 4: had to defend myself and stand up for myself and fight.
Speaker 4: I don't want to fight or argue with anyone. Either
Speaker 4: you're meant for me or you're not. And that's it.
Speaker 4: But ready to know when you're going to release a
Speaker 4: new book because I would love to listen to it.
Speaker 1: Oh mighty, you guys are making my heart so happy today.
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to my podcast. Thank you for
Speaker 1: reading my book. I am so grateful. I'm glad that
Speaker 1: I'm able to inspire and encourage you guys. It's just
Speaker 1: it's music to my ears. So thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you for that confirmation. I am working on a
Speaker 1: book again, another exclusive for Dear Cheeky's What better place
Speaker 1: than my podcast is talk about all these things. But
Speaker 1: I am working on it. Two weeks ago the idea
Speaker 1: came to me and I have I haven't gotten the
Speaker 1: green light on that yet. My agent needs me to
Speaker 1: work a little bit more on it, so I'm going
Speaker 1: to write a few things. But it is a self
Speaker 1: help book, so I will keep you guys updated on that,
Speaker 1: but definitely want to help the world in any way
Speaker 1: that I possibly can. And in regards to your question,
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly how and when this happened. I
Speaker 1: think with the career that I'm in and it being
Speaker 1: so male dominated, I felt the need to step into
Speaker 1: my masculine energy and I was in it so much
Speaker 1: and it gets tiring. And I felt like in order
Speaker 1: to also make my relationship work, and I started noticing
Speaker 1: that me being a little bit more feminine for the
Speaker 1: lack of a better word, or submissive, it was really
Speaker 1: helping my relationship and also allowing my man to step
Speaker 1: into his power. And I said, I really want this
Speaker 1: relationship to work, I have to let myself be led
Speaker 1: because I have always been the leader. I am the
Speaker 1: eldest child, the eldest sibling, and I always felt like
Speaker 1: I needed to be the example and be a leader,
Speaker 1: and it was just a lot of pressure and I
Speaker 1: felt that I needed to do that in my relationships.
Speaker 1: Little did I know, and subconsciously I was emasculating my man.
Speaker 1: Sink it at getten though, you know, and I've learned
Speaker 1: through therapy and reading books and just listening to my
Speaker 1: inner voice when I'm meditating, and it just felt something
Speaker 1: within me saying I want to be more gentle, I
Speaker 1: want to be more soft. I don't want to have
Speaker 1: my fists up ready to defend myself or fight. Like
Speaker 1: I'm just like no, like you just said, Who's meant
Speaker 1: for me is meant for me and every single aspect
Speaker 1: of my life, and I'm just gonna let it flow,
Speaker 1: not gonna force anything. And it's so liberating girls, So
Speaker 1: we are definitely on the same frequency. Enjoy it, embrace it,
Speaker 1: let it be, really listen to that inner voice that
Speaker 1: we have that's God speaking to us. That's what I think,
Speaker 1: especially in those quiet moments. But yeah, I don't really
Speaker 1: know exactly when it happened. I just know that it
Speaker 1: was happening since last year. I'm like, Okay, something is
Speaker 1: not feeling right, something's feeling different, and I knew something
Speaker 1: was happening a shift. I wasn't entirely sure until this
Speaker 1: year where I was like, Okay, this is what it is.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think it was just a process to
Speaker 1: get to this point. And I'm still learning a lot.
Speaker 1: I'm still trying to figure things out. I mean, girl,
Speaker 1: we're evolving creatures, so it's going to be something that
Speaker 1: is gonna happen and we're always gonna change. So we
Speaker 1: are on the same wavelength right now, so let's just
Speaker 1: be girlies together again. Thank you so much Maddy for
Speaker 1: your question, and thank you so much for listening to
Speaker 1: the pod.
Speaker 4: We love you.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, next question comes from Angie. Hi Chiki, Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for being such a great role model.
Speaker 1: You're beautiful inside and out.
Speaker 6: So my question is that did you overcome being so
Speaker 6: independent and now being married. I know it's not easy.
Speaker 6: I know some guys are really needy or sometimes we
Speaker 6: can be needed too, but I feel like for me,
Speaker 6: I haven't dated it in a while, right, and so
Speaker 6: I have a fifteen year old so I've been busy
Speaker 6: with his soccer academy, me trying to build my brand
Speaker 6: and business, helping out my family, working on myself by
Speaker 6: exercising and eating healthy. But as the better I'm getting,
Speaker 6: I'm attracting more. I'm attracting more, and I've noticed that
Speaker 6: I'm attracting guys so they ask me on a day.
Speaker 6: One of them is actually asking me on a day,
Speaker 6: and I haven't dated it in a long time. But
Speaker 6: how do I go from being so independent to actually
Speaker 6: give myself the opportunity to be loved? I know it
Speaker 6: could be a lot of work and it takes two.
Speaker 6: But then again, I'm here thinking like, wow, I'm so independent,
Speaker 6: like I don't really want to deal with nobody. I'm
Speaker 6: doing my own stuff building and that's what I want
Speaker 6: to do. Is it just me being straight up with them, like, hey,
Speaker 6: you know what, I'm not going to have time for
Speaker 6: this and this is that I'm here trying to build.
Speaker 6: Are we going to build together? Because I know they
Speaker 6: need a lot of attention.
Speaker 1: Andrea, I love you. Yes, yes, men do need attention, absolutely,
Speaker 1: as do we. You know, I think because you've been
Speaker 1: single for so long, Babe, you're used to that. You know,
Speaker 1: you're used to doing your thing and not having to
Speaker 1: let anyone know what you're doing that. You know, so
Speaker 1: I get that. But it's also very nice to share
Speaker 1: your life with someone. You know. You have a fifteen
Speaker 1: year old boy and he's gonna get older and he's
Speaker 1: not gonna need you as much, which is good because
Speaker 1: loso so he has to spread his wings right now.
Speaker 1: He needs you, and that's great. This is a very
Speaker 1: important age. So I love what you're doing. You're being
Speaker 1: a soccer mom. Love that for you. You're building your brand.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. And the reason that you're attracting so many
Speaker 1: guys right now is because you are on a high
Speaker 1: vibration girl, like you're doing you and that's beautiful. That
Speaker 1: confidence that you are just you know, you're radiating. It
Speaker 1: is attracting people. Is it going to attract the right people?
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's for you to decide. But this
Speaker 1: is what happened for me. Piggybacking a little bit on
Speaker 1: the last question, so make sure you kind of hear
Speaker 1: that out a little bit. But I got a little
Speaker 1: tired of being so independent. I love being independent. I
Speaker 1: am still me, but I also allowed myself to be
Speaker 1: taken care of because I deserve to be loved. It
Speaker 1: is my god given right to be happy to share
Speaker 1: my life with someone. And I think when you get
Speaker 1: to that point, you're gonna know when you're ready, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm ready to share this, and yes, absolutely be one
Speaker 1: hundred percent upfront with them. It's the best thing you
Speaker 1: could do so that they know from the very beginning,
Speaker 1: from the get this is what I'm about. But you
Speaker 1: also have to be able and willing to give and
Speaker 1: to take, to compromise. And until you're ready to compromise
Speaker 1: and share your life with someone, then open that door.
Speaker 1: But if not, then don't. If you're still hesitant, then
Speaker 1: don't wait it out. Go on dates, chill, be honest. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm just looking for a good time. I want to
Speaker 1: go to dinner and blah blah blah. Or yes, I'm ready.
Speaker 1: I am ready. I am ready to compromise. I am
Speaker 1: ready to give and to take. That's what a relationship is.
Speaker 1: And it's not going to be easy, trust me, because
Speaker 1: we are independent women. But you need to feed the
Speaker 1: king in your man in every way, and he does
Speaker 1: need to feel like he's the man. And if he's
Speaker 1: not leading, you have to show him. You have to like, hey,
Speaker 1: this is how I like things done. And it's going
Speaker 1: to take time. It's not going to be perfect from
Speaker 1: the beginning, but you will feel a connection like this
Speaker 1: is my person. That's what I felt. And we're still
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out and we're still doing therapy.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be a thing that is going to happen
Speaker 1: for the rest of our relationship. And I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1: I think that that's what we need. Emilia and I
Speaker 1: so allow yourself to be cared for. Let it happen.
Speaker 1: It's the best advice I can give you. It took
Speaker 1: me a while, but open your heart to that. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much, Miss Angie. Okay, guys, next and last
Speaker 1: question comes from an anonymous listener. All right, let's see,
Speaker 1: there's just.
Speaker 5: A lot of fear right now of deportation of a
Speaker 5: loved one, you know, families being separated, and it's scary
Speaker 5: and it's scary times that a lot of families are
Speaker 5: going through this. Just anything we can let me know
Speaker 5: how I can just trust and overcome that fear.
Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. It breaks my heart.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of people that I love that
Speaker 1: are friends that work with me that worry me sometimes
Speaker 1: if you know they're late coming to the office or
Speaker 1: I don't hear from them, I'm like, okay, are they okay?
Speaker 1: So I get it, But we cannot live in fear.
Speaker 1: And I know, I know it sounds cliche. I know
Speaker 1: it's easier said than done. But here's the thing. Even
Speaker 1: if one of our loved ones get deported. Thank God
Speaker 1: that at least hopefully you're able to go visit them.
Speaker 1: There's FaceTime. Thank goodness for technology. I know that's like
Speaker 1: the worst case scenario, but the more fear we put
Speaker 1: into something and the more energy, the more we're attracting that.
Speaker 1: So I think the best thing to do is is
Speaker 1: what I do, even with my siblings, because trust me,
Speaker 1: I worry about them a lot. But once I just
Speaker 1: put them in God's hand. Spiritually, I even imagine it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I am putting my siblings in your hands.
Speaker 1: I am putting my loved ones in your hands. God,
Speaker 1: May your will be done, mayor will be done. Every day.
Speaker 1: It's an everyday thing. And when you think of them,
Speaker 1: pray for them, take care of them, take care of
Speaker 1: the roads that they're on. I always pray for my siblings' homes,
Speaker 1: their their minds, their hearts, their children's, their relationships, their jobs,
Speaker 1: and my God protect them, protect them. I literally put
Speaker 1: like a shield around them, and I'm like, God, I
Speaker 1: have faith in you that you're gonna keep them safe.
Speaker 1: And you cast your worries to God, and it's it's
Speaker 1: it takes this weight off your shoulders, or it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't have control. When we realize that we don't
Speaker 1: have control of a situation and we just let it
Speaker 1: be and we're just like, well, I let go and
Speaker 1: I let god.
Speaker 6: It just.
Speaker 1: I can't even explain it. You have to just do
Speaker 1: it and really believe it and feel it. So that's
Speaker 1: what I suggest. And I know, I know it's hard.
Speaker 1: Believe me. It's a really really sad time that we're living.
Speaker 1: It's disheartening. I can talk about this all day. It
Speaker 1: hurts my heart. I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do what I can do. I'm gonna do what I
Speaker 1: can do, what's in my power to do, and that's
Speaker 1: all we can do. And also, my anonymous listener, I
Speaker 1: am working with a lawyer right now, Madia. I'm in Losa,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna start doing lives once or twice a month,
Speaker 1: and she's going to be answering all these tough questions
Speaker 1: that we all have in regards to immigration and our rights.
Speaker 1: That is the most important thing. Guys, know your rights,
Speaker 1: Google it, chat, gbt it, whatever it is that you use.
Speaker 1: Ask the questions, call a lawyer and ask. There's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with asking and knowing your rights because you have rights.
Speaker 1: Absolutely you have rights, and they don't want you to
Speaker 1: know because it's frustrating them. But the more you know,
Speaker 1: I always tell you, guys, this knowledge is power, so informence. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's the best advice I can give you. So I
Speaker 1: am praying for you and praying for all of us.
Speaker 1: I thank you, guys for your quo questions. I love
Speaker 1: the variety of questions guys. I feel like this is
Speaker 1: a mini therapy session for all of us. So thank
Speaker 1: you guys for sharing your questions with us. I love
Speaker 1: you all so much and I can't wait to hear
Speaker 1: from you next week. And if you have any questions
Speaker 1: of your own about affairs, about career, aspirations, about intimacy,
Speaker 1: I want to hear it all. So leave your question
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