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Speaker 2: Hi Cheeky's.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I love you, I love your siblings

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Speaker 3: and wish you the best. Yeah to thescendence. Yeah. I

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Speaker 3: had a question. So right when you started your career,

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Speaker 3: I noticed that you and your Theolupe were kind of

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Speaker 3: like distance, but once the auditory started, he was on

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Speaker 3: your side and your sibling side when that happened, So

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Speaker 3: my question is, how is your relationship with your theolup

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Speaker 3: and just if you could clarify or whatever or up

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Speaker 3: Theolupe took so long to like publicly be on your

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Speaker 3: and your siblings side. And another question is is there

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Speaker 3: going to be a second season of Chiki's in Fieltro.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would love to.

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Speaker 3: See another season anyway. Thank you and love you and

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Speaker 3: sending lots of love and to you and your siblings

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Speaker 3: and love your mom.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, oh Patty, thank you, Thank you for all

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Speaker 2: of those nice wishes and prayers for myself and my

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Speaker 2: family which you seem as ras.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And in regards to your question, first I'll answer

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Speaker 1: the question about Cheeky sein Feeditro season two. Well, it's

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Speaker 1: an exclusive here on Dear Cheeky's guys, but I just

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Speaker 1: found out a few days ago that yes, we just

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Speaker 1: you so much. That's so crazy that you're asking about that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know when we're going to start recording, but

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Speaker 1: a blessing. And regards to my deo Lupe, you know,

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Speaker 1: before my mom passed away, things that I won't get into,

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Speaker 1: and then after my mom passed away, things were just

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Speaker 1: my career, and I didn't really feel his support. I

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Speaker 1: he apologized to me, something I haven't really talked about publicly,

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Speaker 1: But I just think so much has happened that we're

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Speaker 1: both a little hesitant to get too close.

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Speaker 1: Other and he comments on my stuff and he's very playful,

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Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it. Him and I agree that

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Speaker 5: But we're good.

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Speaker 1: I have no bad feelings towards him or anything like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm good when it comes to that. So thank you

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Speaker 1: for asking, And yeah, one day, maybe one day, I

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Speaker 4: Marii Hichiki's Buenosi. I don't know what time it is

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Speaker 4: when you listen to this, but first of all, I

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Speaker 4: very thankful for everything that you stand for and for

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Speaker 4: for the book Unstoppable. I just finished listening to it,

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Speaker 4: Like I think this is my third time listening to it.

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Speaker 4: But ready to know when you're going to release a

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Speaker 1: Oh mighty, you guys are making my heart so happy today.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to my podcast. Thank you for

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Speaker 1: book again, another exclusive for Dear Cheeky's What better place

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Speaker 1: but definitely want to help the world in any way

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