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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here coming to you live, not

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Speaker 1: from the AG studio. In fact, I am live from

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Speaker 1: my Baltimore hotel room. I'm down here to give a

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Speaker 1: And I feel really just like I'm super smiley sitting

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Speaker 1: here recording this because it feels good to be flexing

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Speaker 1: some muscles that I haven't flexed in a while. I

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Speaker 1: cannot even tell you in what felt like the earlier

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Speaker 1: phases of hurdle. I mean, it's been a global pandemic

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Speaker 1: for the past two years, but how often I was

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Speaker 1: traveling with my microphone, not just to interview people, but

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Speaker 1: to be able to record intros and just content and

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Speaker 1: whatnot when I was on the go, going absolutely everywhere.

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Speaker 1: And so a piece of me just feels like really

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Speaker 1: whole sitting here doing this right now, talking into this

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Speaker 1: thing and thinking about you know, what was and what's

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Speaker 1: what will be, what's coming down the pipe.

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Speaker 2: I digress.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting super emotional and sentimental here, but today I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm having a laugh and I'm here to share it

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Speaker 1: with you. In that this morning, I received a DM

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Speaker 1: from someone who asked me how do I keep up

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Speaker 1: my early morning routine and date. Oh my gosh, I

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Speaker 1: was that I don't date, which was me being a

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Speaker 1: little bit sarcastic. That's not entirely true, but I do

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Speaker 1: feel like this is a really good topic to just

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Speaker 1: drive on for a little bit here on five minute Friday. Now,

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Speaker 1: there are a lot of I want to say, like

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Speaker 1: caveats and things to take into sideration when it comes

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Speaker 1: to navigating dating and a social life overall, and your

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Speaker 1: early morning routine, but specifically when it comes to finding

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Speaker 1: the right partner. I know in my heart that the

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Speaker 1: right partner for me will know how much my mornings

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Speaker 1: mean to me and understand and respect that they are

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Speaker 1: a critical part of how I show up during the

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Speaker 1: me and it's my opportunity to get back to myself,

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Speaker 1: specifically really when it comes to journaling and my workout

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Speaker 1: and just having that time before everything gets really crazy.

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Speaker 1: The right partner will see that and know that it's

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Speaker 1: important to me and not try to get me to

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Speaker 1: flex on this boundary that I have set up for myself. Now,

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Speaker 1: when you're just getting to know someone like you can't

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Speaker 1: expect them to just automatically have all the intel on

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Speaker 1: you and your boundary is so yes, like I understand

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Speaker 1: how dating can make you feel frustrated about keeping your

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Speaker 2: With that said, there is a way to do both.

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Speaker 1: Like maybe if you are going on a date or

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Speaker 1: two a week that I just cannot even imagine doing

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Speaker 1: that myself, But I respect every woman who is making

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Speaker 2: If you're going on a.

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Speaker 1: Date or two a week, then maybe you put those

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Speaker 1: dates on like specific nights where you know that you

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Speaker 1: running literally in the morning. Worth highlighting here, I do

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Speaker 1: not expect to find a partner that wants to get

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Speaker 1: it's probably best that we don't always do those things together.

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Speaker 1: But they just can't make me feel guilty or some

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Speaker 1: kind of way that I'm doing something wrong by maintaining

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Speaker 1: me feel whole. Also, this is starting to sound like

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Speaker 1: a personal ad, so please do not take this that way.

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Speaker 2: I please don't. I'm not going to sit.

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Speaker 1: Here and give you my type. This is why I

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Speaker 1: never talked about dating on the show, because it makes

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Speaker 1: me feel the most most awkward. And something else that

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Speaker 1: don't know when it comes to dating for me right now,

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Speaker 1: Like I won't lie, I'm on a few of these apps,

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Speaker 1: nothing wrong with online dating. Let me say it this way,

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Speaker 1: there's absolutely nothing with online dating, especially during a pandemic.

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Speaker 1: It's been such a really great way to connect and

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Speaker 1: Full proof strategy, but it's I've had a couple of

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Speaker 1: conversations about this recently, one like focusing on who I'm

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Speaker 1: being rather than what I'm doing, And if I'm being

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Speaker 1: life that I am hoping for and working toward like

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Speaker 1: they're going to come to me easier, i e. The

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Speaker 1: power of manifestation. And then also the word inviting. I

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Speaker 1: may have talked about this here on the show, or

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Speaker 1: I may have just talked about it on TikTok, but

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Speaker 1: I had a really great conversation with a friend a

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Speaker 1: there's a difference between being open and being inviting, and

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Speaker 1: him and I both agreed that although we had been

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Speaker 1: open when it comes to dating over the last couple

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Speaker 1: of years, we probably haven't been as inviting as we

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Speaker 1: could be. So what does that look like in practice?

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Speaker 1: It means like making it a priority, making space for it,

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Speaker 1: like actually like being aware of what's going on as

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Speaker 1: could be a day that I meet someone great and

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Speaker 1: having a cynical attitude toward it, of course, like even

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Speaker 1: more inviting would be like being really active on dating

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Speaker 1: spaces where other single people could be and you know what,

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Speaker 1: to each their own. But open versus inviting something I

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Speaker 1: have been thinking a lot about lately. And the last

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Speaker 1: thing I'll say on this whole dating note is that

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Speaker 1: you you got to decide what's right for you. I

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Speaker 1: firmly believe that all the work that I've been doing

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Speaker 1: on myself during these seasons where I have been single,

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Speaker 1: it's all working for me, and it's all going to

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Speaker 1: help me find the right person for me whenever that

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Speaker 1: person comes into my space, whenever it works out. And

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Speaker 1: I'm just trusting the process and moving forward with grace,

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Speaker 1: compassion and a steady morning routine. All right, my prompt

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Speaker 2: And have you been flexing on it a little bit

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Speaker 1: Again? What is one of your boundaries? Maybe it's a habit,

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Speaker 1: maybe it's a practice that is really really important to

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Speaker 1: you that you don't like to flex on. And have

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Speaker 1: And now a listener question.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, this is Molly from Bethesda, Maryland. I am

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Speaker 3: a big hurdle fan. I've been listening for over two

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Speaker 3: years now and your show gets me through a lot

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Speaker 3: of runs, so thank you. My question for you is

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Speaker 3: have you ever thought about doing a group run or

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Speaker 3: some type of event in Washington d C. I know

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Speaker 3: it seems like you have a good friend here, so

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Speaker 3: you come here kind of often, and I know that

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Speaker 3: you've done some of those group runs and some of

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Speaker 3: the other bigger cities like Chicago and New York. But

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Speaker 3: Bethesda is right outside of DC, so I definitely make

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Speaker 3: it over there if you chose to do one. And

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Speaker 3: and I've run many races, so if you haven't, you

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Speaker 1: I am so I'm laughing that this question came in

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Speaker 1: this week because I have excellent, excellent news. I have

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Speaker 1: never run a race in DC, but I have Marine

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Speaker 1: Corps on my radar at some point. But I am

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Speaker 1: actually going to be back in Washington, d C. For

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Speaker 1: a nighttime event. It's going to be like a hurdle

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Speaker 1: live a chat if you will on March sixteenth. So

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Speaker 1: if you are in the Washington DC area, save the

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Speaker 1: date March sixteenth. I promise you I will have more

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Speaker 1: details asap in New York. Finally, stuff in Boston and

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Speaker 1: this morning if you're listening to this bright and early

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Speaker 1: before the meetup in Baltimore, we're running in Baltimore. So

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Speaker 1: getting back to being in community, it means so much

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Speaker 1: to me, and I'm so a truly, truly, truly, truly

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Speaker 1: I can't say that enough blows my mind that I

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Speaker 1: can pop up in cities and that there is community

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Speaker 1: not just waiting for me, but community for each other. Now,

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Speaker 1: on that note, I do want to make sure that

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Speaker 1: I plug the Hurdler's Facebook group. I'm gonna link it

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Speaker 1: in the show notes. It's actually in the show notes

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Speaker 1: every single episode. But if you are looking for people

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Speaker 1: in your community to be friends with, or work out with,

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Speaker 1: or talk with like, please head in there. Look for

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Speaker 1: Hurdlers in your area, befriend them. It is so special

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Speaker 1: to me that I have created this thing that can

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Speaker 1: provide that for all of you, so get active in there.

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Speaker 2: Okay, who that's it for this week. Thanks all for

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Speaker 2: listening to me. I appreciate you, I'm grateful for you.

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Speaker 1: I love this thing. At Emily a Badi at Hurdle Podcast,

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Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys, Next time to masure