1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 1: and The Queen's Back. Hi yay. 3 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 2: I love how in the rundown it says was the 4 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: laundry done? The producers of About Me doubt you was it? 5 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,360 Speaker 1: Was it not? Was it ending in the launder room? 6 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 2: I mean the kids bags were still all packed. You know, 7 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 2: it's fine, No, it's it's fine. It was. It was not. 8 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 2: It was not a messy house to go to home too. 9 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 2: And I didn't know it wasn't. No, it is fine, Han, 10 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 2: it goes alan, But I like I knew, you know 11 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 2: that I would come home to that bag, like the 12 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:49,240 Speaker 2: kids bags still closing their bags and not put away 13 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 2: like I knew. 14 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 1: Like, and I'm like, okay, what kind of funny thing 15 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:53,599 Speaker 1: about that? 16 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 2: You asked Sarah to do it and she didn't do it? 17 00:00:55,480 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no. The kid's bags that was put 18 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: in the room was actually full of clothes that I 19 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: had washed while we were in Lexington. Okay, So can 20 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: I get some sort. 21 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 2: Of no, because that airbnb smelled like a mothball, and 22 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 2: so all of those clothes when I opened the thing up, 23 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 2: I'm like, I first of all, they weren't like folded 24 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 2: and put in the bag, so they were just all wrinkly. 25 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 2: And then when I smelt it, He's like those are clean. 26 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 2: I'm like, it smells like a giant mothball. I was like, 27 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,320 Speaker 2: I can't put these into the dresser. 28 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was pretty busy baby when I go back, 29 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: but it wasn't nice. Guess anyway, I've got a question 30 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 1: for you. So I was talking to one of my 31 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: clients last night about superpowers. Okay, and there's a thing 32 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: that discuss quite a lot with clients because they each 33 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: have the superpower which is their main strength in goal scoring. 34 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 1: And I come off the call and I was like, 35 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: I wonder what Jana's superpower would be if she could 36 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: have one. If I could no restrictions, you could have 37 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: a super power, what would it be be. 38 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 2: In two places at once? I think that's pretty much 39 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:14,079 Speaker 2: every mom's superpower. Maybe, or maybe I don't. I don't 40 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 2: say ever. Maybe some is like disappear, I don't know, 41 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 2: but like for me, it's to be in two places 42 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:24,959 Speaker 2: at once. Yeah, what about hers? 43 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: But to be to see into your mind and your thoughts, 44 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: not in a stock creepy way. 45 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 2: But I'm such an open book, though, I could see 46 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 2: me having that with you because you're very you you 47 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 2: internalize everything I've I've at a place where I just 48 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 2: say whatever I'm thinking. There's nothing that would be in 49 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 2: my mind that you wouldn't know about, Like you know 50 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 2: when I'm pissed, you know when I'm frustrated, you know 51 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 2: when I'm sad. You know what I'm and you don't. Honestly, 52 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 2: you'd be exhausting if you were in my mind. The 53 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 2: amount of things that I think about, like the amount 54 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 2: that we moms have to do, that we have to 55 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 2: think about because our brains actually do think more than men. 56 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 2: That's it's a scientific, proven fact, you know it seriously, 57 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 2: is like we can google it right now. It is 58 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 2: a scientific fact that women have more thoughts going on. 59 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 2: I sent you that thing too on Instagram. It said 60 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 2: I'm going to butcher it. Actually on my phone's recording. 61 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 2: It was basically like it was funny the amount of time. 62 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: I mean, do you have your phone? 63 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: Yeah? Hold up? 64 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: It was like something about what we'll say it. But 65 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 2: that to the point is we have a lot on 66 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: our mind. So and there are times. 67 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: Where statistics show that women spend more time wondering what 68 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: men are thinking than men spend thinking. 69 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 2: Exactly like that is the most accurate statistic ever. I stop, 70 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 2: it's a statistic. 71 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: Ok yeah, there's a better truth than that. 72 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 2: Do you want to change your superpower? Because I think. 73 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: My superpower would be. 74 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 2: Because again, don't you agree that I kind of say. 75 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 1: That would be to master simplicity and make things simple. 76 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: I think that as a superpower. As I'm building this up, 77 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm recognizing and reading until the business people maximizing and 78 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: monetizing simplicity as a superpower that I will achieve at 79 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:39,679 Speaker 1: some point. 80 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you gotta like this is it's more fun 81 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 2: to have an actual superpower, Like that's something you can do. 82 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 2: Superpower is like being invisible. Ah, fly a fly on 83 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 2: the wall. Why do you want to know things? 84 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 1: Though? 85 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 2: Trust me? 86 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 1: Why I said I would want to be able to fly? 87 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 3: Fly? 88 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 2: Okay? I thought you meant like a fly on the wall. 89 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: No, be able to fly? Like if you're annoying me, 90 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 1: I can jump out the window and just fly. 91 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 2: Why does that lead back to me I'm annoying you? 92 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: Okay, I don't feel like you're in the car drive 93 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: I can just go and fly about everywhere. 94 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 2: Listen. I used to my superpower used to be or 95 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,719 Speaker 2: used to I used to want to be a fly 96 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 2: on the wall. And this last week has taught me 97 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 2: that I don't want to be anywhere near things because 98 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 2: I know too much information about certain things right now 99 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 2: that I wish I didn't know. And I don't want 100 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 2: to be in a fly in the wall because it 101 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:37,119 Speaker 2: is exhausting and it has been challenging to say the least. 102 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:41,039 Speaker 2: So that is a superpower that I have thrown away. 103 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 2: I don't want to know. 104 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: Okay, well you're no longer to fly in the wall. 105 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: We can be something else. 106 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:50,279 Speaker 2: So I've got a request a two places in once Boom. 107 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,919 Speaker 1: So I've seen as as as the app, Niel's closer 108 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:58,839 Speaker 1: and things are ramping up. Finally, I've been looking into 109 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 1: social media stuff on like funny posts that I can 110 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: help the market it. Although I'm going to have someone 111 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: that does this, but those are really it's a really 112 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: funny one and I wondered if you would actually take 113 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: part in it. 114 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: I sent it if I would take part in an 115 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: Instagram reil. Do you know how many times I've been begging 116 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 2: you to a bib. You need to start like posting things. 117 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, but this one is funny. But you're on the 118 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: receiving end of something. 119 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 2: I mean, so this guy is embarrassed myself. 120 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 1: Enough on, but this guy is. This guy is dreaming, right, 121 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 1: He's dreaming and the ball is coming. He's in the 122 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: eighteen yard box right. The ball's coming high over the 123 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: top of the defender and it comes towards him and 124 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,919 Speaker 1: he just needs to volley it, and the goal like 125 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: the stadium's packed. And then when he hits, when he 126 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: volleys the ball, it jumps straight to he's actually in 127 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 1: bed with he's misses and he boots, half, don't let 128 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: me show you now. And I sent it to you 129 00:06:56,839 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: so you can. You can add content you're actually take it. 130 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: I actually but you Yeah, well I don't want to 131 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 1: be booted softly, like like it's a funny post. 132 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:08,039 Speaker 2: Okay, as long as it's not to the face. 133 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: No, it's your's your also, But you're lying. We're almost 134 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: like in a spooning possession. And I'm dreaming and I just. 135 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 2: Go and I'm like, oh, okay, that's funny. I'll do it. 136 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 2: Stay tuned, Stay tuned. Okay, Hey into a few fan 137 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 2: questions because I think it's fun. Oh, I have a question, 138 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 2: just back to host chat. Has it been easier hard 139 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 2: to get back into the normal groove of things since May? 140 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 2: Being back? 141 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: It's been easy? 142 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 2: Why are you doing that? 143 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: Look, well we've only been We've only been back one 144 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: working day, haven't we Yeah. The weekend we came back. 145 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: We drove back and we had a pool straight. 146 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 2: To a pool party. And You're like, do do I 147 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: have to go? And I said, yes, you do. And 148 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 2: you met a mate. 149 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: You met him make listen casting a net for some mates. 150 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, so funny. How guys work. I'm like, did you 151 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: guys get each other's numbers? 152 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: No, Big said, they was shait at golf and I'm 153 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: shitty golf. So we can friends boom and be shaited 154 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 1: golf together. But he wants to play and I want 155 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: to play. 156 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 2: Yeah that's cute. Yes, but yes, we got back and 157 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 2: then Sunday we went to church. 158 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: Monday, Yeah, the be entry was we had a good weekend. 159 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was good. 160 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: We've planted stuff the planet flowers. 161 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 2: I got a random text message. It was really funny 162 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 2: and I don't know who actually it is, but I 163 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 2: did respond back because I didn't I wanted to know 164 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 2: who it was, but I didn't ask, like who. You know, 165 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 2: it's always weird when you have a text message that 166 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 2: comes through. You're like, is this a y I got? 167 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:51,599 Speaker 2: Because it I couldn't read from the text message, it 168 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 2: was just a six five. It was hey Janna again, 169 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 2: my phone's recording, so it's I can't do it exactly. 170 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: Saw you at Low's with your family and in between 171 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 2: the crazy checkout and because I mean it was like 172 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 2: Roman's running everywhere, the kids around the car, I'm trying 173 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:09,439 Speaker 2: You're going to get another pot of dirt, and I'm 174 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 2: trying to give these plants to the checkout, so it 175 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 2: was like kind of wild. She's like, in between all 176 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 2: the craziness of you wrangling your kids and paying for 177 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 2: the flowers, she goes. It was so so She's like, 178 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: you looked or of this person. I know it's a 179 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 2: she now. Because we ended up like calling like a 180 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 2: I was at my lash lady. I was like, we 181 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 2: need to see who this says. So we start sixty seven. 182 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 2: I feel like, is it a guy or girl? 183 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: So Stall sexty seven. 184 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 2: Blocks your number. Oh yeah, I mean like I sound 185 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:40,199 Speaker 2: like a child, but you know it was a woman. 186 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 1: No. 187 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 2: I couldn't recognize a voice though, and so I don't 188 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 2: want to be rude. 189 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: Right did the woman seeing the message? 190 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 2: She looked really happy and like content and loves and 191 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 2: just really happy for you. So it's someone that I 192 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 2: had some sort of maybe fallout, I don't know, so 193 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:55,440 Speaker 2: I have no clue. Or maybe it's a mom I 194 00:09:55,440 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 2: have no I have no clue, so I just respond 195 00:09:57,559 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 2: back and say, oh, thank you. I'd rather chew my 196 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 2: arm off and go to Low's, but it ended up 197 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 2: being a great time. 198 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: Do you think you're too good for Loose? 199 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 2: I don't like those places period. 200 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:08,599 Speaker 1: I think it's too good for me. 201 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,679 Speaker 2: No, not at all. No one's helpful. Walking into a 202 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 2: home depot is the most loneliest feeling ever. 203 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: There's one old lady in the plant department who's really nice. 204 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: It's been enough for for years. 205 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 2: I prefer Lows to home depot, But yes, I I 206 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 2: My problem with going to home depot with a male 207 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 2: in general is you guys, it's like your Disneyland, so 208 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:32,840 Speaker 2: you're you're stuck in there for hours. 209 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:33,839 Speaker 1: And it's just it's not true. 210 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 2: The ceilings go so high and it's just so dark. 211 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 2: And gloomy and nobody talks or helps, and I'm like, 212 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 2: I just am looking for this small light. 213 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: Bulb. 214 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,920 Speaker 2: Anyways, so no, I don't like lows. But it was 215 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: fun and we had fun getting flowers. But I did respond, 216 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 2: and you know, it was a nice little short combo. 217 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:59,320 Speaker 2: But anyways, random, Yeah, but I thought that was sweet, 218 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, it's nice to have the I think 219 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:09,320 Speaker 2: people might have known me in other areas of my life. 220 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: Okay, fine questions, Mmmm, which one do I want to answer? Here? 221 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 2: Do you want to answer? What are the three things 222 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 2: you have in common? Which, by the way, whenever we 223 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 2: do couples therapy, it's always really sweet because she always 224 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 2: she always starts us on something to compliment each other. 225 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 2: Most times, yeah, to like break the ice and to 226 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 2: just settle into love. 227 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:45,840 Speaker 1: She does that to try and get me to smile. 228 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 2: So we'll start this off by saying, what are three 229 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 2: things you have in common? 230 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 1: That was a fanguish. You have the same skin tone. 231 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's where you're going. Okay, I'm gonna 232 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 2: say we're adventurous. We both, like Jesus cannot First of all, 233 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,199 Speaker 2: I'm way taner than you have. Moral of skin soul. 234 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,839 Speaker 2: It's not even to go there. I we we love 235 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: to be outside together. We were very adventurous. We like 236 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:21,679 Speaker 2: to be active, that's active. We both love touch and affection. 237 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 2: And the third thing is is we're both stubborn. Ertie 238 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 2: boom you minus skin tone, Jesus, I dan way better 239 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 2: than you and pull up. You have a good burn 240 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 2: if you want me to. 241 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: We like fatness. We like to look afterable sails and 242 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: keep fit. Okay, hope's that better than you? Hops that 243 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: any waster than news? How is that any was than news? 244 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 2: Any worse? You just said the same thing that I said. 245 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 1: You haven't mentioned fatness. 246 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 2: Yes, I did think I did working out being active. 247 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 1: We both love traveling together. And mm hmm if actually 248 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 1: get loads in common. There's just so much that I 249 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: can't pluck the best want it. 250 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 2: There was one thing you could change about a relationship, 251 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 2: what would it be? Hm? 252 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 1: I think before I speak more. 253 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 2: Mmmm, that would be nice. 254 00:13:30,559 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's not really me changing, it's me changing 255 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:35,200 Speaker 1: me to change our relationship essentially. 256 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean I would say a relationship, what 257 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 2: would it be? I would say, I mean, there's something 258 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:55,640 Speaker 2: we can change our relationship? I well, I don't want 259 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,480 Speaker 2: to go on you. 260 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,840 Speaker 1: No, Yeah, to see it. 261 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 2: No, because it's not about our relationship, it's about you, 262 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 2: So just say it. 263 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:05,640 Speaker 1: Just see it. 264 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,599 Speaker 2: Well, it's about the same thing that you said. 265 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 1: But me thinking before this week. Yeah, to see. 266 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 2: It, but no, our relationship though that we would not 267 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 2: look at each other straight negative like the enemy. 268 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, see what the actual reality is rather 269 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 1: than what we think, because your thoughts on not always reality. 270 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 2: So what I make up might not be true. What 271 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 2: you might make up might not be true. 272 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 1: Okay. As something that you want to ask each other, 273 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: but I'm afraid. 274 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 2: To no, No, there's nothing that I want to know 275 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:51,680 Speaker 2: that I'm afraid to ask. 276 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 1: There's nothing NO want to know, and there's nothing that 277 00:14:55,200 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 1: I'm afraid no. Good question, though, good question. 278 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 2: Favorite part of the wedding. 279 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: Exchange in vows. 280 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 2: I liked the fireworks. 281 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: See that's why I'm the romantic. 282 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,800 Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? That fireworks are so romantic? It 283 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 2: was like sealing the deal. Celebration the love. 284 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 1: A ceiling of awards and thoughts and emotions does feel 285 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: like a big bang. 286 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 2: In their Okay Relationship headlines, Nicole came In reveals whether 287 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 2: she'd ever want to star on a TV show with 288 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 2: Keith Urban. She says she has no plans to team 289 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 2: up with her husband Keith or been on the television screen. 290 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:40,920 Speaker 2: When asked if the pair would ever do a TV 291 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:46,960 Speaker 2: show together, she said no. She said, we're together in life, 292 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 2: so we don't need to do our show together. Our 293 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 2: life is a show. So do you think it's good 294 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:56,960 Speaker 2: to have separate careers? 295 00:15:58,320 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: That's a good question. So I'm gonna I want to 296 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:05,280 Speaker 1: elaborate on something that I heard, right, and it was 297 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: it was about it was about couples. It was about 298 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 1: couples who separate, right, And what basically this psychologist was 299 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 1: saying is a lot of couples separate because they don't 300 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 1: have anything that they can grow together career wise. He's like, 301 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:26,680 Speaker 1: so if there's a there's a woman or a man 302 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 1: that goes off to their work and they work on 303 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 1: a project that is so important to them, and they 304 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: work with the work colleagues, and they've got this shared 305 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 1: vision and this shared grap this shared task that they 306 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: have to grow and nuture, and then the person goes 307 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 1: home and it's just they go home to the husband 308 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: and the wife and they don't and the husband and 309 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: wife don't have vent and that they have to. They've 310 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,720 Speaker 1: got a shared responsibility to grow and not sure whether 311 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 1: it's a business or whether it's a whether it's some 312 00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: sort of interest. And they're talking about that's why a 313 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: lot of couples separate, because a lot of people will 314 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: go to work and that's where they are like they 315 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:07,240 Speaker 1: share ideas, they share how to grow something and really 316 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: make it a success. Whereas they go home and they 317 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 1: go back to normal life and they don't have vented 318 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:15,119 Speaker 1: that that Okay, what are we growing? What we where's 319 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: the end game? What are we stepping towards? You day? 320 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: I think that was interesting on having separate careers. I 321 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 1: think it's important to have separate careers, but there's always 322 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:26,959 Speaker 1: got to be something that we've got kids, so therefore 323 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:32,119 Speaker 1: that brings us together, but we also have we have 324 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:35,679 Speaker 1: a podcast, we have other things that were involved in, 325 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 1: Like you take an interest in the the app and 326 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:40,880 Speaker 1: the online program, so of other things and other visions 327 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:44,160 Speaker 1: and ambitions that we want. So I do think it's 328 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,119 Speaker 1: important to have separate careers so you get your own thing, 329 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,400 Speaker 1: but I do think there has to be something when 330 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 1: you come back to your husband the wife that you 331 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: are both growing together, or else you put all your 332 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 1: energy and enthusiasm and ambition and ideas into something else 333 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 1: with other people. Mm hm, that makes sense. 334 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think at the end of the day, 335 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:07,160 Speaker 2: it would be fun to do something that would be 336 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 2: because you've always wanted to dabble in acting stuff. So 337 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 2: I think it could be fun to do maybe like 338 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 2: a passion project together one time. 339 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, hey, then the okay, but either thing is 340 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 1: good to have you donwn and dependent thing that you either, 341 00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:30,719 Speaker 1: Oh for sure, yeah, absolutely. 342 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:34,920 Speaker 2: That's why. Like when you said even you wanted to act, 343 00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 2: it's it feels like, oh man, Like I can see 344 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 2: how people maybe don't want their spouses to do, like 345 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 2: someone got a lot of heat for not wanting their 346 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 2: person to do a podcast, but I can also see 347 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:54,159 Speaker 2: how it feels I don't know the right it's like 348 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 2: because everyone should be able to do whatever they want, 349 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:58,399 Speaker 2: like if you want to act, act, And it's also 350 00:18:58,640 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 2: I went. 351 00:18:58,920 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 1: To acting school decades before I met. 352 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 2: You, right, but like once and then you it's not like. 353 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 1: Something new that I thought jan as an actress, I 354 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: can be. I just want to be and I want 355 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: to be honest, I. 356 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 2: Know, and if that's really something you want to do. 357 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,120 Speaker 2: And also I don't know, like I can see there's 358 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 2: a Pe'm like, this is hard because it's and if 359 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 2: you want to start a podcast, i'd like start a podcast, 360 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 2: Like I would never tell someone not to but I 361 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 2: can also understand how that could be too close to 362 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 2: like the same situation kind of intrusive. Well, it's just good. 363 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:32,920 Speaker 2: It kind of just makes you go, who And I 364 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:35,680 Speaker 2: would never tell someone not to do something if that's 365 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 2: really what they wanted to do. But it's also like 366 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,919 Speaker 2: this is my thing, this is your like I'm this, 367 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:46,719 Speaker 2: you're that. Let's have those two separate identities. Does that 368 00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 2: make sense? 369 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,439 Speaker 1: Absolutely does make sense. But I'll go back to the 370 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 1: point that acting is something that I want to do, 371 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:56,880 Speaker 1: like twenty years ago, fifteen years ago, right years ago. 372 00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:14,159 Speaker 1: But I understand. I totally get it. Therapists, the number 373 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 1: one thing you should never see in a fight your partner, 374 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:19,879 Speaker 1: what's yours? 375 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:25,160 Speaker 2: Well, let's read what this headline says. So the therapist 376 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,720 Speaker 2: tip of the day was pause before speaking when arguing 377 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 2: with your partner. The number one thing you should never 378 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 2: say when fighting with the partner is whatever you have 379 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 2: the urge to blurt out without taking a beat in 380 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 2: the heat of an argument, it's not going to come 381 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 2: out well. Smith explained, So I usually check check myself, 382 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,719 Speaker 2: give myself three seconds, don't fire off when you're in conflict. 383 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 2: She had it, take a break, even if it's just 384 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:48,119 Speaker 2: a few seconds, and make a decision about whether it 385 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,600 Speaker 2: should be said or not, and how you're going to 386 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 2: say it, why it matters. You may feel like you're 387 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:57,399 Speaker 2: supposed to progress, progress, pass certain conflicts with your partner 388 00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 2: and get the urge to tell them something to prove 389 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 2: your point, but in reality, many of the fights in 390 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:04,879 Speaker 2: a long term relationships stay the same over time. Plus 391 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:09,320 Speaker 2: research shows a strong correlation between excessive criticism and contempt 392 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 2: toward a partner and eventually separating. So and our therapist 393 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,920 Speaker 2: also just brought this up the other day about taking 394 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:22,199 Speaker 2: a beat and how important that beat is because we 395 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 2: can easily, like we said earlier in what we would 396 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,560 Speaker 2: want to change, is we can easily go to why 397 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 2: do you say that to me? Does he think X, Y, 398 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 2: and Z, it's like, make a beat. No, he doesn't, 399 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 2: He's probably just stressed or something. And then you can 400 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 2: still voice whatever you want a voice, but normally if 401 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,439 Speaker 2: you take, if you don't take that beat, you're going 402 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 2: to say something that comes from a place of anger 403 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:44,880 Speaker 2: and not from a place of love. 404 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 1: Your thoughts totally agree, totally agree something. 405 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:55,880 Speaker 2: I shit, you're not the best at it. And I've 406 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,640 Speaker 2: gotten the way and I've gotten. 407 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: Like my ego kicks something. I need to see what 408 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 1: I need to say to get the upper hand. 409 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 2: And you and what is so glorious is and I'm 410 00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 2: not trying to like I will not toot my own horn, 411 00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:13,359 Speaker 2: but I'm gonna in because I've done so much work 412 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 2: to not react and to like take and I and 413 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,200 Speaker 2: I recogn that in these moments, I'm like, go, Jana, 414 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 2: like you got this, and you try to push because exactly, 415 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:28,480 Speaker 2: and he gets annoyed that I don't react, and I'm like, 416 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 2: I am not going to give you that satisfaction of 417 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,639 Speaker 2: doing what you're doing. And it pisses plan off so 418 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:39,720 Speaker 2: much that I just go and I don't say anything. 419 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 1: And I got to the point though that they will. 420 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:48,639 Speaker 1: I was having a body you were having and I 421 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: commend you were in the gym when I said to you, 422 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,199 Speaker 1: I'm not getting you to the point where you're going 423 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,439 Speaker 1: to tell me a funk off. You're like, no, I 424 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: don't do that. 425 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,679 Speaker 3: I really did that and then walked upstairs and then 426 00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 3: said more shit things, and I'm just like, not, I'm 427 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,560 Speaker 3: not going to give that, Like you know, I don't 428 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 3: respond to that anymore because it does nothing. 429 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,760 Speaker 2: It does nothing but cause a bigger argument for what. 430 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:18,560 Speaker 2: And I know you and I know how you like 431 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 2: poke now to like try to get that. And it's 432 00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:27,120 Speaker 2: but evenge sometimes you know I have enough. But most 433 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,960 Speaker 2: times I feel like I've done really well with not 434 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,680 Speaker 2: and it pisses you off. 435 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, you agree, that's that. 436 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,160 Speaker 2: It's just because I've had a lot of therapy around it, 437 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 2: because I also see that it's not gonna nothing. Nothing 438 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 2: good is going to come from us both being in 439 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 2: a heated place ever, you know, let you have your mood. 440 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,160 Speaker 2: And I knew it wasn't like me what I asked 441 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,639 Speaker 2: you that morning. It was it was all you, you know, 442 00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 2: And I have sudden like I can't. I'm not gonna 443 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:04,679 Speaker 2: like this is not me. He's going through something, yeah, 444 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 2: and he's going to do his little Tasmanian Devil's spin 445 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 2: and I'm just gonna stay because I'm like, if I 446 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:13,960 Speaker 2: join your spin, what does that do for us? 447 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,560 Speaker 1: You can't see a couple of Tasmanian devils. 448 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,119 Speaker 2: Exactly, And that's not that's not cool. No, that's not 449 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 2: We don't do that. 450 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 1: No, we don't. 451 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:21,960 Speaker 2: So I told you I don't. 452 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: Okay, well done for being there, the composed one in 453 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 1: those moments therapy. Yeah, cuddles. 454 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 2: Wait, but are you gonna like take a beat like 455 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:36,919 Speaker 2: be Therabis took a beat this morning. 456 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not getting into it, but I took a 457 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:46,280 Speaker 1: beat this morning. Okay, I took a fairly second beat. 458 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 2: That was my fault. You dealt with something this morning. 459 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:52,680 Speaker 1: Again, No, there was nothing to do with us. See 460 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:59,360 Speaker 1: by that take a beat after the incident. 461 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 2: I think another thing too that our therapist said, nothing 462 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 2: ever gets resolved in a text message. So when you 463 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,399 Speaker 2: are angry and the person's like, well I'm living, I'm 464 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 2: gonna go to work or whatever there is, you sending 465 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 2: a negative or fighting, like, nothing will ever get resolved 466 00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:25,360 Speaker 2: in a text message if you're fighting. Because every time 467 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 2: our therapists will say, oh did this or that, she 468 00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 2: always goes, she always goes. We'll howd that work out 469 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 2: for you not whoa, so two things. Take a beat 470 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:35,919 Speaker 2: and don't send a text. 471 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:43,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, breath and you'll be fine. Okay. Cuddles before 472 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 1: sleep help take stress out of relationships. A study from 473 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: Research US in the US has suggested they might. Specifically, 474 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,399 Speaker 1: it's found than couples who fall asleep well touching be 475 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 1: it wrapped around each other are just gently grazing limbs, 476 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,919 Speaker 1: maybe buffering themselves against stress and quietly bolstering a sense 477 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:08,760 Speaker 1: of emotional safety. The researchers recruited one hundred and forty 478 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 1: three couples. You share the bed and home down on 479 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:16,160 Speaker 1: a key moment, and the nightly routine sleep on set 480 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: the drowsy transitional phase just before we drift off. 481 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: Basically, it says people in relationships might cuddle as they 482 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,640 Speaker 2: fall asleep as a way to deal with stressors potentially 483 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,720 Speaker 2: from both within and outside the relationship. That could help 484 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:30,959 Speaker 2: improve sleep, and it could also be good for your 485 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:32,160 Speaker 2: brain and your relationship. 486 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 1: So thoughts, Wow, Yeah, it's a big one, because if 487 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 1: you initiate the cut, if you initiate the cuddle. Let's say, 488 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 1: if I had an argument that day and you're both 489 00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:50,880 Speaker 1: lying in bed and you initiate the cuddle. And there's 490 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 1: a side of that as where you're like, Okay, I'm 491 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 1: in the wrong and I'm coming to. 492 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:58,080 Speaker 2: Like you tried last night, yeah, and I'm like. 493 00:26:58,119 --> 00:26:59,160 Speaker 1: Can you push my hand away? 494 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 2: No, because you were like your hand was like on 495 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,400 Speaker 2: top of my chest and I couldn't breathe just take it. 496 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 2: It's too heavy. But also like I'm I'm the person 497 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:11,160 Speaker 2: too where you can't you can't throw darts all day 498 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 2: and then expect me to be like, let's cuddle. You 499 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,920 Speaker 2: know it was that, but I always know you're there, 500 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,199 Speaker 2: like we're good, you know what I mean. We just 501 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 2: might have some days that's typical, that's normal. But I'm 502 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 2: also not gonna have Yeah, but you know, you know 503 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,199 Speaker 2: me now to know I'm not. It takes me a 504 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 2: second to soften up a bit again, just because I've 505 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,840 Speaker 2: I have to boulder up to it at times. 506 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:38,359 Speaker 1: Yeah. 507 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 2: So, but I I love the like I don't like 508 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 2: going to bed weird, So I'm good with I like 509 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,680 Speaker 2: a little foot, like a my foot touching your leg. 510 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 1: Well, most nights you fall asleep on my chest. 511 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,680 Speaker 2: I'd say fifty percent we're watching TV. Yeah, when we're 512 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,199 Speaker 2: watching TV, I'll fall asleep on your chest and then 513 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:02,240 Speaker 2: you'll snore and then I'll turn over. 514 00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,680 Speaker 1: Last night night before because we watched laden thing which 515 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 1: she was good. 516 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 2: Wow. 517 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,200 Speaker 1: So they're asking here if we should try this cuddling 518 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 1: and touching for a week. If it helps, and then 519 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:18,359 Speaker 1: let's do it. Yeah yes, and like cave your chest 520 00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 1: then when I hug you. 521 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,600 Speaker 2: Let's do it before I go in full menopause. I'm 522 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 2: gonna be sweating soon. Here we go, All right, guys 523 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 2: chat next week. Hi,