1 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street 2 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bringing you your daily dose of time the 3 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 1: Stoic philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. Now, with 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: that in mind, let's get things started with your daily 5 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: shot of inspiration. Now today we are going to be 6 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: focusing around with the Stoic idea of gratitude, but more 7 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: specifically when it comes to the topic of jealousy, right, 8 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: and we've all been there before, and I specifically wanted 9 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: to kind of talk about gratitude as something that combats 10 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: and pushes against us being jealous of others. So u 11 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: lyric that came to my mind when I was thinking 12 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: about this concept, and it's from Drake on the record 13 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: over My Dead Body, and Drake says, jealousy is just 14 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: love and hate at the same time. And I found 15 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: this to be, you know, really profound in various ways 16 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: because I think it's so true, right, like when we're 17 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 1: when we're jealous of what somebody else has or what 18 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: they're doing. You know, of course there's a level of 19 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: sort of hate that is going on inside of us. 20 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 1: But if we're being honest with ourselves, it's also because 21 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: we'd love to be doing what they're doing, or we'd 22 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: love to be in the position that they are in. Right, 23 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: And that is obviously a big thing to be aware 24 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: of when you are in fact feeling jealous of others 25 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: or other particular situations. Right, It's being able to kind 26 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: of slow down in that moment and really analyze it 27 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: from that perspective, you know, like what am I What 28 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: am I kind of telling myself? And and what is 29 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: this feeling telling me? More so? Right? And I think 30 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: that's what Drake is kind of talking about, is you know, 31 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 1: those feelings of jealousy. It's not just you hating somebody, 32 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: it's not just anger, but there definitely is something in 33 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:18,079 Speaker 1: it that you're actually appreciating. And of course he's probably 34 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: talking about the haters, and of course, you know, if 35 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: you're in a situation like that, feel free to interpret 36 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: it that way. But I think it's also more important, 37 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: you know, in that the topic of conversation of gratitude 38 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: to kind of recognize the emotions that we're feeling when 39 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: when jealousy does come up for us, you know, and 40 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 1: speaking of kind of how to counteract being jealous, you know, 41 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: I found this really good quote from Marcus Cerelius, one 42 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 1: of the Stoics, and he says, don't set your mind 43 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: on things you don't possess, but count the blessings you 44 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: actually possess, and think how much you would desire them 45 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: if they weren't already yours. And I think the moral 46 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 1: of this is, like, of course we all take things 47 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: for granted, right, I think that that's human nature. I'm 48 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,519 Speaker 1: not above that. I don't think anybody is. But a 49 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: surefire way to begin to kind of quiet those feelings 50 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: of jealousy, I think, is to remember what you have 51 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: and how you'd feel if it was all taken away, 52 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: you know, because that that's something that can easily happen 53 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: to any one of us. If we take our job 54 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: for granted, the people in our lives for granted, you know, 55 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: our current situation, we take it for granted. Those things 56 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: are those people can easily be taken from our lives, 57 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: you know, and us not understanding that, realizing it, appreciating it, 58 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: you know, that is that is us not existing in 59 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: a place of gratitude, you know. And that's what's incredibly important. 60 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 1: And as I've said, I'm not speaking from a place 61 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: of being holier than that, like I was recently on 62 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: Instagram and I saw a former co worker of mine 63 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 1: in the world of radio, and there's someone who is 64 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: currently like really killing it and they're doing the thing, 65 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: you know, and to be honest, they're doing things that 66 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: I dreamed about for a long time, and they're doing 67 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: it at a much younger age than myself. And in 68 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: viewing this, I found myself getting jealous, right, I found 69 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: myself hating and coming up with excuses and then even 70 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: you know sort of you know, talking about how they 71 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: had it much easier than I did, you know, and 72 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: how these things just kind of came to them, and 73 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 1: then you know, making myself feel bad, like, look, how 74 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: much you know, more they accomplished than you at their 75 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: age type shit, right, And you know, that's something that 76 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: was sitting with me for a little while, you know, 77 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: And of course, you know, as with anything, I had 78 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 1: to check myself. One night, I was I was looking 79 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: around at my studio, right, the studio that I just 80 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: recently you know, finished building out, and it's one that 81 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 1: I own, and it was like, Damn, I'm so worried 82 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 1: about this other person that I'm not taking the time 83 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: to appreciate a huge moment, you know, in my life 84 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: and a huge accomplishment that I had just gotten through, 85 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 1: you know, Like I've dreamed of having my own studio 86 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: since I was a teenager, and now not only do 87 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 1: I have it, but I own the building that like 88 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: houses it, you know what I mean. Like that's even 89 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 1: far more than I could have ever imagined as a teenager. 90 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: You know, Like I've come a very long way, and 91 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 1: I need to be, you know, grateful for that. I 92 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: need to start having regular gratitude for how far I've come. 93 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 1: You know, Jealousy was coming up for me because I'm 94 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: not being grateful for all that I do have. Right again, 95 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,359 Speaker 1: I'm existing in this place of like lack and ignoring 96 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: all of the beautiful things that I get to experience 97 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: on a regular basis and all of the incredible accomplishments 98 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 1: that I've gotten to do. And my journey is going 99 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: to be different than someone else's, you know, And if 100 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 1: I'm concerning myself with all of the details of theirs, 101 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: I'm not being grateful for the journey that I'm currently on, 102 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 1: right and all the blessings that have come along with it. 103 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: And again, it's it's not just pure hate for that person. 104 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 1: I don't even dislike that person really, you know, it's 105 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: it's again seeing something that they have, that they're doing 106 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: that I too would have liked to have done at 107 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: some point. You know, there's like that again, that that 108 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: bit of love that Drake is talking about. I would 109 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: have loved to have been doing what they're currently doing. 110 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,559 Speaker 1: And then that caused me to mix it with hate 111 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 1: and become jealous. But again, all of that starts, and 112 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: all of that begins to fester and spread when you 113 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: are not practicing gratitude on a regular basis. And that's 114 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: something I've had to check myself on, and you know, 115 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: we're all going to have to continuously do as we 116 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: go on in this life. Right now, we have heard 117 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: from Drake, We have heard from Marcus Surrealius, one of 118 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: the Stoics. I've talked about how this has recently been 119 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 1: something I've been kind of struggling with. Now let's talk 120 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: about how how you can make it your mantra for today, right, 121 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: the idea of gratitude. But first let's take a quick 122 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: break and then we'll be back. All right, So we 123 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: have heard the words of Drake, we have heard from 124 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: one of the stoics markets surreally is I have given 125 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: you a personal insight into how I struggle with this 126 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: idea of practicing gratitude, but specifically in the face of jealousy. Now, 127 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: let's talk about how you can make it your mantra 128 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: for today. Now, First and foremost, I think it starts 129 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: with accepting the fact that jealousy is just a part 130 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: of human nature, right, Like, we're not doing ourselves any 131 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: favors by shaming ourselves, by beating ourselves up because we're 132 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: feeling jealous in a particular moment, you know, And things 133 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: like social media are literally created to make us feel 134 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: that way. And it's inevitable that we are going to 135 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: look at Instagram and look at somebody's highlight reel and 136 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: feel some type of way about ourselves at times. Right, 137 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: But I think we have to dig a bit deeper 138 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: and see the message behind the jealousy, you know what 139 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: I mean, Like, what is it trying to tell us? 140 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: You know? And it's like Drake said again, a part 141 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: of jealousy is also love. So that means that there's 142 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: something that we want or desire in the thing or 143 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: person that we are becoming jealous of. And I think 144 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 1: slowing down and recognizing that and seeing the message in it, 145 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: you know, I think allows us to begin to kind 146 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: of maybe take action, you know, towards Hey, I want 147 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: this thing, you know, I'm recognizing it now because I'm 148 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 1: viewing this person and I'm feeling some type of way 149 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 1: about it. How do I go about getting that thing? 150 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: And then the next step is, of course gratitude. Right, 151 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 1: I was talking about in my own story, I'm sitting 152 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:42,079 Speaker 1: here being jealous of this other person while while sitting 153 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: in the studio of my dreams, right, Like, all I 154 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: had to do is look up from my phone and 155 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: just take a quick look around me and pause for 156 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: a second and just realize how good I had it. Right. 157 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 1: But again, at times that that jealousy will will blind 158 00:08:57,840 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: you and it will take us away from those moments, 159 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: and it's important to to kind of have, you know, 160 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: reminders in place that when jealousy does begin to hit, 161 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 1: you train your mind to then go into a place 162 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: where it's looking for something to be grateful for. Right. 163 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 1: That's something that snapped me out of kind of this 164 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 1: little funk that I was in for a week or so, 165 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: you know, was when I actually sat down, paused for 166 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: a second and had a moment to, you know, just 167 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:26,319 Speaker 1: quietly reflect on where I am and what I'm doing, 168 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 1: and and and just how lucky I am to be 169 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: in this position. And that's what inevitably kind of snapped 170 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: me out of that funk of of you know, being 171 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: jealous of what someone else has or someone else is doing. 172 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: And again, I think that is the key to this. 173 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: It's gratitude will always kind of bring us back to 174 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: the present moment and let us know that, you know, 175 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,240 Speaker 1: while of course we can be striving for more and 176 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: that's an admirable thing to do, it can't be at 177 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: the expense of taking for granted all the things that 178 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: we have, all that we've accomplished, and all the things 179 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: that we get to do on a regular basis. So 180 00:09:58,559 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: to summarize, you have Drake talking about basically the recipe 181 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: for jealousy. It is both love and hate at the 182 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 1: same time. And it's important to recognize all of those 183 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 1: elements because you're, you know, subconscious is trying to tell 184 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:12,959 Speaker 1: you something. It's giving you a message, you know, and 185 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: if you recognize that there is some sort of love 186 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 1: in the thing that you're getting jealous of, maybe you 187 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: can recognize, you know, an area of your life that 188 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 1: is lacking that you can now address, that you can 189 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: take action. And speaking of taking action, you know, the 190 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:29,360 Speaker 1: other part of combating jealousy, as Marcus Aurelius says, is 191 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: remembering all of the blessings that you currently possess, you know, 192 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,319 Speaker 1: and think about how you would feel if they were 193 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:38,079 Speaker 1: all stripped away from you right now. That is again 194 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:41,319 Speaker 1: having gratitude for all that you have and remembering how 195 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: empty life would be if those things, or people or 196 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,079 Speaker 1: opportunities were no longer a part of your life as 197 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 1: a result of you obsessing over what someone else has. 198 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 1: And that's all something to keep in mind, and again 199 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: it starts with gratitude. Now, with that in mind, thank 200 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: you so much for checking out the Street Stoic podcast. 201 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: Do your best to apply these concepts that we've discussed 202 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: into your everyday life and I'll catch you next time. 203 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: The Street Stoke podcast is a production of Ihearts Michael 204 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: Plura Podcast Network.