1 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot. Hi, guys, I am finally back, 2 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: like Teddy Teapot. I have missed you, guys. I've missed 3 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 1: sharing what's going on in my life and also hearing 4 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: from all of you. So much has happened here. There's 5 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: been so much craziness. Dove is four months old officially 6 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,639 Speaker 1: sleeping through the night, so we're into a little bit 7 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 1: better of a rhythm. Um. Something happened with Slate and 8 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: she she amputated the tip of her finger. I have 9 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:43,960 Speaker 1: never been through something like ah. I am like still 10 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: at a loss of words on how crazy it was, 11 00:00:46,280 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: because it was one of those moments like you know 12 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: when you think that it was okay and you walk 13 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: in like Slate was silent. So I walked back into 14 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: the house and she was just sitting there silent, and 15 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, what's up? You know, like she didn't cry 16 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: or anything, so I thought like the door slammed like 17 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: she had already gotten in, and she was like mom, 18 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: And then I saw her finger on the floor and 19 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: I was holy crap. So I learned a lot of 20 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: things because I learned that you're not supposed to put 21 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: a finger on ice, like the finger that you chop 22 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: off because I called one, and so I immediately wrapped 23 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 1: her hand like super tight, and then I went and 24 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: put her fingertip on ice, like the piece that had 25 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: been chopped off by the door. And the first thing 26 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: one said to me when I called was like, where's 27 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: the fingertip? And I was like, I put it on ice, 28 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: and they were like, get it off ice, and I 29 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, like I've re television, I've 30 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: show I've ever watched. That's what they do. Like I 31 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: had no idea. I wasn't supposed to. So I took 32 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: it off. They had me just wrap it and not 33 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: they don't want it to be cold because then it 34 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: kills all the nerves. Uh. So then when the ambulance arrived, 35 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: you know, they took us and COVID was already happening, 36 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: so Edwin couldn't even come with us, and Slave was 37 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: just so calm and like, thank god I had a 38 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: mask on because I could disguise how what a mess 39 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: I was, because I wanted her to think that like 40 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: we're we're fine, we're figuring this out, like we're gonna 41 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: be good. Um. And then we got to the hospital 42 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: and she had surgery, and they tried to attach the 43 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: finger back to her finger so that it could be 44 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: her original fingertip. And so we had about three weeks 45 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: of that which she was in this huge cast. She 46 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: had to start learning and we weren't done with school, 47 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: so she had to start learning to write with her 48 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: left hand, and she couldn't do any of the things 49 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: she's used to doing like around the house, I jump 50 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: on the trampoline, or um play or or right or 51 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 1: draw or anything. So she had to start using her 52 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: left hand. And then it was kind of a waiting 53 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: game to see if it was gonna heal. We were 54 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,959 Speaker 1: going to the hyper breck chamber every day, um really 55 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: just trying to like aid any healing process that we could, 56 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: and then it ended up not healing, so we had 57 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 1: to go in for surgery. And then when we went 58 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: into the surgery, when she went in, they were like, 59 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 1: we don't know what surgery we're going to end up doing. Ideally, 60 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: will just have to do a skin graph, like that's 61 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,799 Speaker 1: that's the best one possible for her. It's that will 62 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:26,920 Speaker 1: be the quickest healing time, and that's them when they 63 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: ended up doing, which I'm so grateful too because now 64 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 1: we're two weeks out from that and she's able to 65 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: start using her right hand again. She's out of the 66 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: cast um, and I mean, but it was it really 67 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: shows how strong our kids are and how positive they are, 68 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: and like she was still going on these daily walks 69 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: with me and talking to me and sharing her emotions, 70 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: and it's just it's so incredible how much kids pick 71 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: up from you and how much they know. Like at 72 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: one point when she looked to me and she was like, hey, Mom, 73 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: just so you know, this wasn't your fault, and I 74 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: was like, well, I I feel like it was my fault. 75 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: I should have told you before I took the trash 76 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: out like not to follow, like I should have known, 77 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: and I know the door is heavy, and you know, 78 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 1: like all of these things. And she was just like, Mom, 79 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be fine. So she you know, she is 80 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: fine now and we're good and we're we're in a rhythm. 81 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: And it has been a really brutal six weeks with 82 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: surgeries and healing, and we're finally at the tail end 83 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: of it and she's re learning how to reuse her 84 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 1: right hand and it's it's really been a lot, but 85 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: it's really shown me like how resilient kids are, and 86 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: like I have learned so much from my seven year 87 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:50,599 Speaker 1: old in these past six weeks, Like she is so 88 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: strong and I I just am so proud of her. 89 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: And I'm I'm happy to be back and talking to 90 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: you guys. I really, you know, felt like I was 91 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: in a play swear. I was really focusing on family 92 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 1: and spending our time together and figuring out a routine 93 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 1: that works for us. And we're finally there. You know, 94 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: We're doing our morning walks as a family. We're having 95 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: fun with the dogs with the kids. We have a 96 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: system that works with I'm no longer a home school teacher, 97 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: which is which is good for my kids. But you know, 98 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: we are getting back on track, and I am excited 99 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: to also talk about all this craziness that's happening with 100 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: all of these divorces. What is going on like so 101 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 1: many every night, I can't watch TV at night because 102 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: my son is our roommate CRUs, Like I think he's 103 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: going to be living with us in our room until 104 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 1: he goes to college. But so I'm like on Instagram, 105 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 1: just kind of scrolling around before I fall asleep, and 106 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 1: I think there's been over twenty five breakups, and I 107 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: think it's because of so much craziness with all us 108 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: all being home to together and people not knowing what 109 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: to do with their significant other being around so much, 110 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: so so many different things have come up, and all 111 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:13,280 Speaker 1: of my friends relationships and now all of these celebrities, 112 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 1: it's all like coming out and some are crazy. So 113 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: I'm excited to get into it with Justin Sylvester, a k. 114 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: The Ladies Sitter, who is on um E Daily Pop. 115 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 1: He also has just the Sip, which is hilarious, and 116 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to dig into all of this drama 117 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:39,279 Speaker 1: with him. All Right, you guys, I'm so excited that 118 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: Justin Sylvester is on with me now to talk all 119 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 1: things while celebrity breakups and whatnot. But also he is 120 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: one of my favorite people and is somebody that constantly 121 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 1: teases me, like from the Dinner Party from Hell Part two, 122 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: what is going on with everybody breaking up? You know? 123 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 1: I think it's one of It's a time where people 124 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 1: have to really reflect and really look at their relationships 125 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: and determine if they're worth keeping or not. And I 126 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: also think it's one of those times, like for anybody 127 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: whose husband goes to work every day for eight hours 128 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: or ten hours a day and then goes to the gym. 129 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: You that eight hours away from your man or your 130 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 1: woman is the time where you could actually just be 131 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: yourself and do your thing and not have to worry about, 132 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: you know, all the things that are happening in your life. 133 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: But to sit in a space with your kids and 134 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:42,679 Speaker 1: your man for twenty four hours a day. I don't 135 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: know if the Bradies would have survived this. Carol would 136 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: have left his asked a long time ago, and they 137 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: were the perfect family, but they didn't go through COVID 138 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 1: and isolation with six kids because I bet you fucking 139 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: jam would have been at a goddamn boarding and Marcia 140 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:04,239 Speaker 1: would have been out of the door. You know, Steve 141 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: would have ran away. But it would have been a 142 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: whole another show. But I also think that people are 143 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: getting confused by you're just together because you're, you know, 144 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: forced to be together all the time, versus actually spending time. 145 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 1: Like I had to say that Edwin, Like, just because 146 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: we're seeing one another and drinking coffee at the same 147 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: time in the same location doesn't mean we're actually spending 148 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: time together. So we have to carve out that time 149 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 1: to actually talk and connect and remember what we like 150 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 1: about each other. But not everybody is as evolved in 151 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 1: relationship and communications like that, you know what I mean, Like, 152 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: not everybody has everybody's type and crazy. Yes, it's so true. 153 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: And I tell a lot of my friends like you know, like, hey, 154 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: I know you and your husband have this thing where, 155 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 1: like you know, he goes to work for eight hours, 156 00:08:57,800 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 1: he comes home. You put up with this mood because 157 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: Tim and you're gonna be you know, and you dated 158 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 1: with him for twenty four hours a day on top 159 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: of your kids gonna be running around running you crazy. 160 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: You need to have that bottle of wine waiting in 161 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,720 Speaker 1: your closet so you can pop that cork and sit 162 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: there for thirty minutes, listen to some Danielle Steel and 163 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: just get away. It's really important. And I knew the 164 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: minute when they said March eighteenth was d Day here. 165 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: They were like, we don't know how long you're gonna 166 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: be in South Isolation, but you have to go now. 167 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: The first thing I thought was, Wow, celebrities gonna break 168 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: up left and right. And the other reason why too. 169 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:39,640 Speaker 1: I want to be honest and I want to be 170 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: clear about this, because people are crafty and you ever 171 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 1: noticed around a holiday, celebrities normally break up because it 172 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: gets lost in the news cycle. So when COVID happened, 173 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: everyone was more concerned about the deaths, the rising numbers, 174 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:00,199 Speaker 1: all of these things. So celebrities were like, you know what, 175 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 1: We're gonna break up in December anyway, so let's just 176 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: throw it here while you know, people are dying from 177 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: COVID and no one's gonna worry about us, and Don 178 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: Lemon's going after every celebrity. We're just gonna throw it 179 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: in here because you don't have to answer for it 180 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: for the next few months. People would forget about it 181 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: the next day. Yeah, but I see. The point of 182 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: the problem is there's been so many now that like 183 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: during my Instagram searches while I'm sleeping, and I'm I'm 184 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: just deep, and I need to understand every single breakup. 185 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: O get confused because there's a it's hard for me 186 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: to understand when people are like, we're sharing what's going 187 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:38,839 Speaker 1: on with you, but then you're not really sharing. You're 188 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 1: getting like a two per cent of the truth. Yeah, 189 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 1: but nobody ever shares. Everybody says this divorce was amicable, 190 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: and it's with our loving hearts that we have decided 191 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: to separate and nest into X, Y and Z. Bitch, 192 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:54,960 Speaker 1: you hate that man and you can't even look at 193 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: him in the face. Well, now that's like the Jamie 194 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: King Kyle Newman one. They're like we're doing you know, 195 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: we're all fine with this, and then there's like this 196 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: is a restraining order this is going on, and you're like, ok. 197 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: Sometimes the press releases confused me because I'm like, but 198 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 1: hold up, but you should never look at the press 199 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: release for you is kind of sort of a guide 200 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: to like tell you where this is gonna go. Like 201 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:23,840 Speaker 1: Kristen Cavalleyes, for for instance, when they were like, after 202 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 1: ten years, we're divorcing. I was like, Okay, this is 203 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: not going to be clean and nice. She came through 204 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: and was like we're divorcing, not separating, not going on 205 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: different journeys that it was like, we're done. I thought 206 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: that she I mean, I love her, by the way, 207 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: so maybe I'm biased, like love her. She was on 208 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 1: she was on the teapot. I loved her immediately wanted 209 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: her to become besties. I had to like try to 210 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: keep it cool. But um, I think she could tell 211 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 1: I was like fanning out. Um but she I mean, so, 212 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: I love the way that she handled because she didn't 213 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: like give us a bunch of fluff. She doesn't make 214 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: you feel bad about your own marriage because it's so 215 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:04,719 Speaker 1: perfect and then all of a sudden try to give 216 00:12:04,720 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 1: you this perfect version of a divorce. Either. That's where 217 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: like I get a little bit. I was a little 218 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 1: bit repped about the Rachel Hollis and David Hollis break up. 219 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: Do you know anything about one? Okay? So, Rachel Hollis 220 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: is like in the motivational speaking space. Her and her 221 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 1: husband have a podcast and marriage seminars all about like 222 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:31,880 Speaker 1: healthy relationships, setting founderies, like everything, Like they are a powerhouse, 223 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 1: so many New York Times bestsellers are in business together. 224 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: Like honestly, two weeks before the announcement, they did a 225 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: podcast where like they were like kissing and doing all 226 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 1: of these things, like everything is happy as ever, and 227 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden they do the announcement that 228 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: they're breaking up. But there was one thing that he 229 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: said that I was like, she was like, you know, 230 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 1: we're end up getting a divorce. Blah blah, blah, please separate, 231 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:02,959 Speaker 1: I mean please um respect to what's going on with us. Enough. 232 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:08,119 Speaker 1: But then he wrote in his uh, we've been wrestling 233 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 1: with this decision for years, and then all of a sudden, 234 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 1: once you see wrestling with this decision for for years, 235 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: then that kind of throws their business under the bus. Yes, no, 236 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: but you you brought into them as a couple. You 237 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:30,959 Speaker 1: brought into the mantras, you brought into the um, you 238 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 1: brought into the business side of them. And yeah, they 239 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:38,439 Speaker 1: might be motivational speakers and they might be relationship experts, 240 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:42,360 Speaker 1: but there's still celebrities in that field. So when you 241 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:45,239 Speaker 1: think about a celebrity and you think about a celebrity marriage, 242 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 1: if my husband is opening one of the biggest movies 243 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:52,199 Speaker 1: of his career and I know that it's going to 244 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:56,520 Speaker 1: hurt his career to leave him that month are that year, 245 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:59,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna chill with him because we built this all together, 246 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 1: especially if my career and my reputation is based on 247 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 1: what he does. So what what these people did was 248 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: they held off because they were making money. So they 249 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: sold you this thing because they were looking out for 250 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: their pocket as opposed to looking out to telling the truth. 251 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: But here's the thing. I would have gotten a lot 252 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 1: more from hearing the truth from saying, listen, we are 253 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 1: struggling right now. We are in this. We are just 254 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: like you, and these are what we're trying to do. 255 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: This seems to be working. This isn't working, because then 256 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 1: you're not buying a lie. You're buying and then you 257 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 1: can relate because a lot of a lot of the time, 258 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: what happens is you're watching these perfect couples and then 259 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 1: you're judging your own marriage and then you're derailing your 260 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: own marriage because you can't live up to this perfect 261 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 1: couple that you're idolizing. But we do this all the time, 262 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: we idolized couples. We we really sit and we maticulate 263 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 1: and we you start to compare our relationships to theirs, 264 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: and a lot of times it's folk. It's just like Instagram. Though. 265 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 1: If you see a couple that takes a photo together, 266 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:12,760 Speaker 1: I know, a celebrity couple. In photos, you look like 267 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 1: they're happy, they're enjoying each other's lives, are traveling around 268 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 1: the world, they're all over the place with their kids. 269 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: But when you see them in public, they barely look 270 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 1: at each other and they're always on their phone, right. 271 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: I know. Here, here's what I struggle. Like, you know, 272 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: I do accountability coaching for health and fitness. If all 273 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: of a sudden, every single day I was eating bond bonds, 274 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: not working out, not taking care of myself, but still 275 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: telling my Instagram followers and my clients that I was, 276 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 1: that is shady, shady. But how many busness people you 277 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: know have had light bulb or have done the Brazilian 278 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: but live, or who have had plastic surgery and say, oh, 279 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: it's died in exercise, or it's his face cream. It's 280 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 1: our face cream. It's called Dr savon Paris and you 281 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 1: can get a facelift. Like, let's talk about the truth. 282 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 1: I can't be surprised. The statement that got me in 283 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 1: hers is when she said, please respect our privacy at 284 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 1: this time, because let me let you know something, if 285 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: you were making money off your relationship being public, bitch, 286 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: you can't get privacy now that you've broken up. Yeah, 287 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:22,520 Speaker 1: if you're gonna put it all on the table all 288 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:27,040 Speaker 1: the time, which obviously you didn't, then you're you know 289 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 1: you're already you should be should I mean no? But 290 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: she's gonna wait until she gives the perfect book on 291 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: how to get divorced, or how to co parent or 292 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 1: how to do one hundred and the problem is and 293 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: she should learn from this because it seems like he 294 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 1: is willing to be more honest than she is, because he, 295 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 1: you know, kind of sort of let the little you 296 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: know bleep out. I think that was the way of 297 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 1: sticking it to her a little bit, because she looks 298 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 1: like she wears the underwear and that withdrawals in that family, 299 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: and she probably wanted to read his statement. He probably 300 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: really just like it got approved and then he put 301 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 1: it in there right before he let it out. I 302 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: think you're going to get the truth from him, and 303 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 1: I think what she's gonna do is she's going to 304 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,920 Speaker 1: go on the defensive thinking that he is now going 305 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: to let everything come out. Yeah, I know it's gonna 306 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: be brutal, but I've definitely spent some time looking into it, 307 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:29,080 Speaker 1: trying to read between the lines. Who have you spent 308 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:33,960 Speaker 1: your time doing a little research on You know, I've 309 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: been dying over this Julian huff split. But come on, 310 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 1: you know it was coming. No, I knew it was coming. 311 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 1: And the thing that I love about the Julianne. Now 312 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:48,600 Speaker 1: that I love that people are splitting. What I love 313 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:53,400 Speaker 1: about Julianne and Brooks was that they were transparent from 314 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 1: the beginning. They were transparent. She was honest. They weren't 315 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 1: trying to him like they were isolating together. They were 316 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 1: being very open. She was open about her sexuality. He 317 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 1: was open about his intimacy issues and talking about those things. 318 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 1: So for me, for a celebrity breakup, this one seemed 319 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: to be the most honest and the most um forthcoming. 320 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:26,880 Speaker 1: And I think that's why people aren't questioning this breakup 321 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 1: between the two of them. People aren't, you know, coming 322 00:18:29,280 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 1: out with lies like sources say the real issue was 323 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 1: X Y and Z or there was infidelity here, because 324 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: that's what happens when celebrities break up. And it seemed 325 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 1: they say it's amicable, all of a sudden, sources come 326 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:43,520 Speaker 1: out of everywhere to try to give you the t 327 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: But for this one, she had already told us that 328 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:51,359 Speaker 1: they were having issues connecting, and for her, it's like 329 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 1: it was two years. It was a success for her. 330 00:18:54,359 --> 00:18:56,960 Speaker 1: It was great to be married, but she didn't stay 331 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 1: in a marriage that she didn't feel comfortable and he 332 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 1: did either and I respect that fully. Yeah, I do 333 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 1: respect that, and I respect that they are both working 334 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: on themselves and they showcase that and they're not trying 335 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: to pay it in this perfect picture. I do get it. 336 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 1: I feel much better about that than I do when 337 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 1: it's like all the smoke and mirrors and twenty Um. 338 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: But I know we have to take a little break 339 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 1: for a second and then we'll figure out who we're 340 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: gonna talk about next. So justin. The one that really 341 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 1: stings for me, and it's maybe the most shocking, is 342 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 1: the Kelly Clarkson and Brandon Blackstock. Like I'm one, I'm 343 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 1: obsessed with Kelly Clarkson and so are my kids. Um, 344 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 1: we love her so much. They seemed great, isn't he 345 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:58,560 Speaker 1: her manager? Um? I did hear that they were like 346 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 1: living in like a cotton kind of all together, like 347 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: very close quarters. I know that can be difficult, Um, 348 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 1: but I don't know. You're gonna have to give me 349 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:13,679 Speaker 1: some juice on this. Look against seven years married, that 350 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 1: is a huge accomplishment, you know, if it in Hollywood years, 351 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: it's a huge accomplishment. If I owned a bakery and 352 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,440 Speaker 1: it stayed open for seven years, I would feel like 353 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 1: that is an accomplishment. You know, they share kids together. 354 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: They have a daughter named river Rose and a son 355 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:39,240 Speaker 1: named Remington's Um. And what shocked me on this one 356 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: is that it seemed amicable. But there's two things that 357 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 1: happened that really took me off a left field. First 358 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: off three actually, first off Intervius, she was saying that 359 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:56,640 Speaker 1: they were having sever times a day. What I didn't 360 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: more times a day. She she said on record that 361 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 1: they were bumping uglies four times a day. So in 362 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:07,640 Speaker 1: my mind, I thought Kelly Clarkson was sitting at home 363 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: drinking wine, having sex, having a good time. They both 364 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 1: seem like, you know, fun loving people. So if you're 365 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 1: having sex four times a day, you're happy. So that 366 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 1: was the first thing that caught me off. Card do 367 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 1: you and I would have sex four times a day? 368 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 1: I am sorry. I would not be happy having sex 369 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: four times a day. I am old, I am tired, 370 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: and I am happy with my two to three times 371 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:35,600 Speaker 1: a week, right, But you know, I don't have to 372 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: get to my nine year wedding anniversary on July four. 373 00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:42,199 Speaker 1: You know that, Oh that's amazing, and you're still there, okay, 374 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,639 Speaker 1: and you're still doing it twice a week, and but 375 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: we have code for it. Do you schedule sex? We 376 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:54,639 Speaker 1: don't schedule it, but like you have to call it 377 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: because like there's always kids around. Like the fact that 378 00:21:57,119 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: they're not in this room is only because I've bribed 379 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,520 Speaker 1: them with tablet time. But what do you call it? 380 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 1: Do you want to have closet time? Because we go 381 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:13,640 Speaker 1: on the closet. I'm sorry, I am sorry. You are 382 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,200 Speaker 1: doing it in the closet next to your shoes. Yes, 383 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,480 Speaker 1: and we have to put down a yoga matter. It 384 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:25,879 Speaker 1: really hurts the kneed. Yes. Look, by the way, good 385 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 1: good for you. You should start selling a closet pool 386 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 1: around pack with yoga mats, pillows, blow up back rest, 387 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:38,439 Speaker 1: like something to elevate you when you have four kids. 388 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 1: Bit you better get you better get smart with that 389 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,679 Speaker 1: closet of time. Then you've got to pick a music 390 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,399 Speaker 1: genre and then we're going to go and then we 391 00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:55,359 Speaker 1: make jokes by how many songs it last? Yeah, well 392 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,720 Speaker 1: I'm like baby, yes totally, but it's like a two 393 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: song or today we got to keep that movie. I've 394 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: got a podcast with dressing and by the way, I 395 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: would put Bohemian rasparty on twice to make sure it 396 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:15,480 Speaker 1: lasted longer than you expect it. H No, it's crazy. 397 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 1: But then the other thing that hit me was when 398 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:22,120 Speaker 1: people put in reconcilable differences. I don't really even understand 399 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 1: what that means. That's Hollywood term for got real and 400 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 1: we can't really say what it is. You know what 401 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: I mean? Like, we can't say what it is? Yeah, 402 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: um another that's another moment. This family is also used 403 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:40,359 Speaker 1: to being on tour, moving around. You know, her, her kids, 404 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,120 Speaker 1: and her husband are normally working all the time producing shows, 405 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 1: and I think COVID made them stop and think. But 406 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,679 Speaker 1: Kelly Clarkson won't properly come out and say it. I 407 00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 1: do agree with you, but what we will get is 408 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,919 Speaker 1: a fire ass out that tells us all we know 409 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: what's happened. And he's gonna be sad if he's in 410 00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:00,280 Speaker 1: an outern manager anymore when that album does come out, worry, 411 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 1: he's gonna still be connected. Oh my gosh. Justin Hartley 412 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 1: and this one I did do a little research on 413 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,640 Speaker 1: only because I realized how much both of his wives 414 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 1: looked the same way. Did you say both? Now they're 415 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:23,399 Speaker 1: both excess, but they have a very similar look and 416 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, he has a type. 417 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 1: That's for they're both beyond stunning beautiful. I meant that 418 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: as a compliment, but I was like, this is definitely 419 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 1: a type. Um. But the part that I thought was 420 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:38,400 Speaker 1: crazy is that he listed the separation date way before 421 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 1: she is saying that they separated m and she's saying 422 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 1: that she they were. She was blindsided by it, for sure. 423 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:52,000 Speaker 1: Sometimes lists the date. Let me not say celebrities sometimes 424 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: pefoll list the date before it actually happened because maybe 425 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 1: they have a new contract coming out that might give 426 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 1: them big money. So if you say that you were 427 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:06,040 Speaker 1: separated July first, and you signed a contract August ten, 428 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,120 Speaker 1: your spouse is not entitled to that money. I see 429 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 1: what you're saying. I see you know that I am 430 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: a divorce right. I know that you're a divorce But 431 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:22,200 Speaker 1: I was so broke. We were like, I don't like this. 432 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, do you want to half the simwork? 433 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:31,720 Speaker 1: Not to you like get a dog on weekends if 434 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: you want? How long were you married for? I was married? 435 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: I mean I think eighteen months, but only because it 436 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: takes a year to get divorced in California. That's where 437 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 1: I would have emailed you have been like, hey girl, 438 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,399 Speaker 1: sorry about your divorce, but can I get my lockru 439 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: set pop back? That was two fifty And if you're 440 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: not gonna be married for longer than two years, you 441 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: gotta return the gift. Well, why do you think that 442 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,199 Speaker 1: I had such a small wedding with ed when it 443 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,719 Speaker 1: was just our family because of the guilt. I was like, 444 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 1: I still, I've got these other gifts that I never 445 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:07,000 Speaker 1: even opened or used people to pay for again, not 446 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 1: to mention my Dad's like, you've got another thing coming. 447 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: If you think I'm paying for another wedding, you know, 448 00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:20,119 Speaker 1: it's so crazy when I look at these two. Whenever 449 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 1: you're an entertainment, I always tell people date somebody who 450 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: understands the game, the nature of the game, an agent, 451 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: a manager, maybe a hair and makeup artist, because being 452 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: an entertainment, of being an actor, it's a lot of time, 453 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 1: it's a lot of dedication. Is so a lot of 454 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 1: time from home. But what happens when two actors date 455 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:48,240 Speaker 1: one another is there's a little bit of competition and 456 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:52,679 Speaker 1: egos get in the way. And I don't know this 457 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,959 Speaker 1: for a fact. I've not talked to either of them, 458 00:26:56,000 --> 00:27:01,199 Speaker 1: But I feel like after Ll became this overnight sensation 459 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,919 Speaker 1: on this show called Selling Sunset, I think the issue 460 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: is kind of arose between the two of them. I 461 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: also think sometimes when you're with a partner and they 462 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 1: hit it big, sometimes you don't understand that person and 463 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:18,119 Speaker 1: you can't understand that rise and that change in them, 464 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,159 Speaker 1: So it causes a riff between the two of you. 465 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,639 Speaker 1: That makes sense, and reality shows it's different when it 466 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:27,200 Speaker 1: comes to like scheduling, Like when I know when we're 467 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:30,399 Speaker 1: filming Housewives, it is like NonStop six days a week, 468 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,600 Speaker 1: and it's not necessarily where you get your like whereas 469 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,440 Speaker 1: you know this is us or something where I'm sure 470 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 1: you get your call sheet. You know you're tugh like 471 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:41,880 Speaker 1: on the reality show of drama, it's the fan. You're 472 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,120 Speaker 1: there for the night. Like I could think I'm gonna 473 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 1: be home at seven one night and it's one in 474 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: the morning and we're still out going at it, and 475 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 1: that's what it is. That's what it is. And you 476 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 1: have to have a partner who understands the nature of 477 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 1: your gaming is okay with it okay because understanding that 478 00:27:57,840 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 1: you know, oh, I know you've got late night shooes. 479 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,240 Speaker 1: But being okay with it and being on the same 480 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,920 Speaker 1: page as a couple is hard because one person wants 481 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 1: to do the show, and but one person doesn't want 482 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 1: to do the show, but I'll do it for you. 483 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,200 Speaker 1: What happens is the resentment comes into play, and then 484 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 1: you're stuck in a situation with somebody who's pissed at 485 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,760 Speaker 1: you for being successful. Yeah, And I mean, I think 486 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:21,399 Speaker 1: you have to make a choice. You're either going to 487 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 1: be with somebody who you want to take care of 488 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: you and wants to be that person to nurture and 489 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,000 Speaker 1: take care of you and be there for you for 490 00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:30,159 Speaker 1: every little thing you ever need, or you want to 491 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 1: marry somebody that's more of your equal. And then you 492 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,359 Speaker 1: put each other and you motivate each other and you 493 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,959 Speaker 1: become like this team and this and this you know, 494 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 1: power couple where you both want each other to succeed. 495 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 1: But I think that's really hard to come by. It 496 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,840 Speaker 1: it's hard to come by, but it's not hard to 497 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 1: come by if you're honest and open with the person 498 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: about what you want. And I say this, and I'm 499 00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: gonna be say it's so nicely, and I know it's 500 00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 1: going to come off wrong. And the reason why I 501 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 1: always go back to and in is because as the 502 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:04,400 Speaker 1: lady sitter, I have worked with a lot of women 503 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 1: in my life. I say this because I see a 504 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,959 Speaker 1: lot of women who want something in life, don't know 505 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: how to get it, and what they do is they 506 00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,479 Speaker 1: just agree to go along with the man's friends. Like 507 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:20,280 Speaker 1: if your man wants to get a PhD and wants 508 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 1: to move to San Diego, wants to be Tom a lawyer, 509 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: We've all seen it with the Betty Brodrick store. You 510 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,960 Speaker 1: follow your man wherever he goes, and when you get 511 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 1: that one spurt of oh my god, this opportunity is 512 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,520 Speaker 1: coming up, but I'm so scared to tell Jed or 513 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,080 Speaker 1: I'm so scared to tell you know, X, Y and Z. 514 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 1: It becomes this little bit of resentment in the back 515 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:48,080 Speaker 1: of your mind, and then when you finally say it, 516 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 1: your husband goes Honestly, you have to be honest, but 517 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 1: you also can change. Like when after I had my kids, I, 518 00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,360 Speaker 1: you know, well, my first two, I had felt like 519 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,280 Speaker 1: in a place where I was really lost. I didn't 520 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 1: know what I was doing with my life. I couldn't 521 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 1: go ride horses anymore because I didn't want to be 522 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: traveling to hotels with my kids, like I had to 523 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,959 Speaker 1: like look at Edwin in the phace and go, I 524 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,080 Speaker 1: don't know what I'm doing right now, but I've got 525 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,840 Speaker 1: to do something because I'm going crazy and I'm going 526 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,680 Speaker 1: to change my life and I don't. And at first 527 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,719 Speaker 1: he was like, okay, Chaddy, like sure, you know whatever, 528 00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,440 Speaker 1: Like we'll see what you're gonna do. And that's how 529 00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,440 Speaker 1: I ended up creating all it and all these things happen, 530 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 1: and then housewaves fell in my lap. But it took 531 00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,440 Speaker 1: him a little while to see that I was serious 532 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 1: because I have been ting for a long time. But 533 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,560 Speaker 1: you stood with it, and you stuck with it, and 534 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,480 Speaker 1: look what happened. You blossomed to this thing. I have 535 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 1: a friend who she and her husband on their anniversary 536 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,800 Speaker 1: every single year. They got married in December, so it 537 00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:51,080 Speaker 1: kind of works out perfect. On their anniversary every year, 538 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 1: they do a two hour power session with a therapist 539 00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 1: that's smart, and they talked about things that they love 540 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 1: about that year with their partner, of things that they 541 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 1: need to get off their chests. But most importantly, they've 542 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,960 Speaker 1: talked about how they changed over the last year, whether 543 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 1: it's the things they like to eat sexually, things that 544 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:14,120 Speaker 1: they find like annoying now that they didn't find annoying before. 545 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 1: But they do a two hour session, and the session 546 00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:21,400 Speaker 1: ends with them confirming that they've heard one another and 547 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: that they're open to making those changes. And if one 548 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,120 Speaker 1: of them says that they're not open to making the changes, 549 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,760 Speaker 1: they then have therapy throughout the year. I might have 550 00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:36,840 Speaker 1: to steal this. I love this idea. She doesn't every 551 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 1: single year, And she said the reason why she did 552 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:44,320 Speaker 1: it is because after the third year of marriage, something 553 00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 1: came up and she realized that her husband had been 554 00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: harboring things for a while and not saying anything to her. 555 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:55,120 Speaker 1: So the smallest things that happened in t would roll 556 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,800 Speaker 1: over to but by the time they got to they 557 00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 1: became these huge mountains, you know, out of mole hills. 558 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,040 Speaker 1: And she said that she will never let that happen 559 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 1: in her life again. She'll never let her husband or 560 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 1: herself carry things over from year to year. I think 561 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,360 Speaker 1: that's pretty brilliant. I mean, because I'm not the world's 562 00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:17,600 Speaker 1: best of letting things go. You may have noticed the 563 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,200 Speaker 1: houseworld and love to hang on to a nugget it, 564 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,440 Speaker 1: I know, but I think that's a brilliant idea. Um 565 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:28,360 Speaker 1: and I I also think that it's so important to 566 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,640 Speaker 1: know that, like you may just be in a bad 567 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,080 Speaker 1: mood one day, Like there are some days where like 568 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,080 Speaker 1: I wake up in my mood is wretched, and if 569 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 1: I don't like alert the like the family, then they 570 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: take it personally. Like but if I wake up one 571 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,720 Speaker 1: day and I just can tell I'm stressed, I've got 572 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 1: a million things to do, blah blah. If I just 573 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,040 Speaker 1: say to add like, hey, may I'm sorry, I am 574 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,320 Speaker 1: super stressed today. I'm just telling you, like I'm gonna 575 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: get through it. But it's just craziness. Our day is 576 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:57,880 Speaker 1: so much better than when I'm like grin and bearing 577 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: it and like pretending every things fine, and they're like, 578 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 1: what's up your ass? Like you're such a beach today? 579 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 1: What's your problem? I mean, we don't have any issues, 580 00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:09,840 Speaker 1: but you have to be open with everybody. I sometimes 581 00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:13,240 Speaker 1: send it company wide email, like I am not the 582 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,960 Speaker 1: one today, Like if I know I'm walking into a 583 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,920 Speaker 1: meeting and I my meetings here at e R at 584 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,520 Speaker 1: six o'clock in the morning, and I when I get 585 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,200 Speaker 1: in my car at five thirty to go through Mari 586 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,200 Speaker 1: your car because I wait till the last minute to 587 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 1: get my car, and I play more of your card 588 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,680 Speaker 1: at five for you. In the morning, going through traffic, 589 00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,719 Speaker 1: I send an email I'm not the one today. If 590 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:38,920 Speaker 1: I don't say anything, it's not because of you. And 591 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,160 Speaker 1: it's a simple email, I'm not the one today. Well 592 00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 1: I kind of love that. Um, we gotta take a 593 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:46,160 Speaker 1: little break and then we're gonna come back and dig 594 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: into our final phase. Al Right, So now that we're back, 595 00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,720 Speaker 1: I do have to ask a little bit about the 596 00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 1: make and Fox and Brian Austin Green up at all. 597 00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,080 Speaker 1: I have to say I got very revved up when 598 00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:12,919 Speaker 1: I saw him out with Courtney Stodden. Oh oh think. 599 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,520 Speaker 1: And here's the thing, I because I have been obsessed 600 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,320 Speaker 1: with Courtney Stoddon for like, she's one of those people 601 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 1: that I always like, look like, what's she up to? 602 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 1: Like I don't follow her, but I go just to 603 00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:30,080 Speaker 1: see what's going on. I'm just mad that, like Ryan 604 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,360 Speaker 1: Alson Green was that dude back in the day, you 605 00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I'm just mad that he 606 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 1: had to take the low road in this situation. I mean, like, 607 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 1: call up somebody to try to get passed, to try 608 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,480 Speaker 1: to walk into a restaurant to try to make her jealous. 609 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,719 Speaker 1: But if you're dealing with Megan Fox, I'm gonna need 610 00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,719 Speaker 1: you to do somebody better. I'm gonna need you to 611 00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:54,120 Speaker 1: call Angelina, Jolie and Needia that trade of Joe's that 612 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,520 Speaker 1: she likes to go to and shop at them kids. 613 00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to walk out right behind her 614 00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,279 Speaker 1: and let people talk about that. That's the one thing 615 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:06,160 Speaker 1: about breakups. I always say, you always let your partner 616 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:10,360 Speaker 1: move on first so you could calibrate who your rebound 617 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,840 Speaker 1: is gonna be. So if your partner moves on with 618 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:14,920 Speaker 1: a solid six, you know you gotta go for at 619 00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 1: least a seven that you know. That's good lobster. But 620 00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I think even watching the Megan Fox and 621 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: Machine Gun Kelly music video, I was like, this is 622 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:28,400 Speaker 1: like very sexual. This is pretty much closet time. No, 623 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:32,919 Speaker 1: it was pretty much closet time. But Brian Austin Green, Look, 624 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,319 Speaker 1: I don't know how true these reports are. I'm just 625 00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,800 Speaker 1: gonna say it. There was reports out that Megan Fox 626 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:42,440 Speaker 1: had left Brian Austin Green back in TWI He had 627 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:47,880 Speaker 1: had a debilitating um mystery illness that left in bedridden 628 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 1: for three months, and she kind of walked out on 629 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,800 Speaker 1: him back then and then he took her right back. 630 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:59,320 Speaker 1: I just I don't know. I've dealt with people in 631 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,759 Speaker 1: the past, like who have had people walk out on 632 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:07,720 Speaker 1: them when they are, you know, debilitated, and I never 633 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:12,840 Speaker 1: understand the narrative that you will take somebody bag after 634 00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:16,000 Speaker 1: they left you when you were in a wheelchair or 635 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:20,040 Speaker 1: bed ridden. That to me seems crazy. Yeah, I mean 636 00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,319 Speaker 1: maybe there's like some codependency stuff they're going on, and 637 00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:27,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, but I definitely I had all of this, like, 638 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,080 Speaker 1: I had all these theories, and then I saw the 639 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 1: Courtney start in and I was just, now, I'm all, 640 00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:37,440 Speaker 1: I'm done him. I'm done with him. I'm done. I 641 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:38,960 Speaker 1: don't want to hear me. I don't want to hear 642 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:43,719 Speaker 1: the song you're collaborating on. I'm done. He did this beautiful, 643 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:48,120 Speaker 1: beautiful podcast about how you know, things just didn't work out, 644 00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:50,000 Speaker 1: and I was like, damn, good for you for taking 645 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:51,960 Speaker 1: the high road. That bitch is gonna go back. She 646 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,479 Speaker 1: better go back. She had a good man. Two days later, 647 00:36:54,800 --> 00:37:00,239 Speaker 1: you can walk out with Courtney stuff, no um other 648 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:04,440 Speaker 1: writings on the wall. We know that Sophia Richie and uh, 649 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:14,520 Speaker 1: come on, we knew. And it makes me sad because 650 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: I was at twenty year old girl dating like almost 651 00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:20,040 Speaker 1: party year old man, living my best life because he 652 00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,480 Speaker 1: had a life and it was so fun and so cool. 653 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,359 Speaker 1: But you know, you get to a point where your 654 00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,680 Speaker 1: age really comes into play and there's a big difference, 655 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,839 Speaker 1: you know, between a twenty year old girl who has 656 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:34,400 Speaker 1: no children and a forty year old man who has children, 657 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: responsibilities and x you know, basically ex wife that has 658 00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:42,800 Speaker 1: a huge history together. They've created this huge life, this empire, 659 00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,319 Speaker 1: all of these things. It's just that is a lot 660 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:49,040 Speaker 1: to take on. It's a lot. I mean, not as 661 00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,200 Speaker 1: much as whatever is going on with Mary kay and 662 00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:55,799 Speaker 1: All and her husband. The only thing I'm gonna say 663 00:37:55,800 --> 00:38:00,480 Speaker 1: about that is when Mary Kate Olsen, who was the 664 00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:05,120 Speaker 1: original first billionaire of all the Hollywood actresses and socialites, 665 00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:07,800 Speaker 1: said that she couldn't get her things out of the 666 00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:18,160 Speaker 1: rental bitch, why are you renting? Why are you renting? Well, 667 00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,959 Speaker 1: I think you know, with do we think that there's 668 00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 1: gonna be more breakups to come? What do you think 669 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,239 Speaker 1: is happening now. Do you think we're gonna flatline a 670 00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:29,520 Speaker 1: little bit or what do you think? I think that 671 00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,840 Speaker 1: there are gonna be a lot more breakups. I think 672 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:37,040 Speaker 1: with this Black Lives movement thing happening right now, I 673 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:42,000 Speaker 1: think couples are having conversations that they had never had before. 674 00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:46,480 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people are gonna be 675 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:51,840 Speaker 1: surprised at how their partner thinks about you know, racism, 676 00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:56,840 Speaker 1: about um, human equality, about the state of this country. 677 00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,560 Speaker 1: I know a lot of couples that don't even know 678 00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:02,279 Speaker 1: how each other vote. You can no longer not have 679 00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:06,160 Speaker 1: those conversations in your homes, especially if you're thinking about 680 00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:09,239 Speaker 1: raising children. Yeah, I'm just about to say that trying 681 00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,960 Speaker 1: to educate your children and be on the same page 682 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:16,280 Speaker 1: and both be listening and a veil like actually learning, 683 00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,120 Speaker 1: actually learning. Yeah, I think I'm gonna give you a 684 00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:24,680 Speaker 1: real good example. There's a celebrity couple that I know, 685 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,919 Speaker 1: they before I got to Hollywood. You know, obviously I'm 686 00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:32,840 Speaker 1: only thirty three years old, but she said that after 687 00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:37,399 Speaker 1: nine eleven, she you know, was having conversations with their 688 00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:42,239 Speaker 1: husband about the terrorist attack and is outward, you know, 689 00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:47,239 Speaker 1: hate towards people of Meddle East and Descent, and she 690 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,799 Speaker 1: was trying to understand it, and through those conversations, she 691 00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:52,960 Speaker 1: had no idea that the person that she was with 692 00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:57,600 Speaker 1: for ten years before that I felt this way and 693 00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 1: it took nine eleven to bring out his feelings. And 694 00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:06,000 Speaker 1: you know, I think everybody reacts differently, but until you 695 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,719 Speaker 1: activate those feelings, you never know. So I think a 696 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,680 Speaker 1: lot of people are having these feelings activated within themselves 697 00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,839 Speaker 1: and showing their true asses to their partners. And once 698 00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 1: you say something and once your partner hears it, it's 699 00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:25,120 Speaker 1: really hard to remove those negative thoughts or feelings or judgment. 700 00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:29,600 Speaker 1: Even friends, Like when the Women's movement was going on 701 00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:33,359 Speaker 1: and me too was happening to hear friends say what 702 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:36,400 Speaker 1: they said. I I had to drop a few people. 703 00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:38,640 Speaker 1: I had to drop a few people, and not to 704 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:42,120 Speaker 1: even have an ovary. I think you even got abreast gland. 705 00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:44,399 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't even have a mannery gland up 706 00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,040 Speaker 1: in here, and I had to drop a bit. So 707 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:50,680 Speaker 1: I'm only We're like, my only worry is that all 708 00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,719 Speaker 1: of these couples and it's great that they're having these 709 00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:56,680 Speaker 1: conversations now, and it's great that we're opening up this dialogue. 710 00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,520 Speaker 1: But I think a lot of couples probably didn't know 711 00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,280 Speaker 1: each other and how they stood on race relations because 712 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,560 Speaker 1: we haven't really talked about it since the eighties. I know, 713 00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:06,719 Speaker 1: I agree that I when I'm gonna have dr V 714 00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:10,640 Speaker 1: on later on and I'm gonna actually ask her about that. 715 00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:14,560 Speaker 1: What's the best way to start having these conversations in 716 00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,080 Speaker 1: a healthy way with your significant other so you can 717 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 1: both grow and learn, and what are some resources and 718 00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:22,640 Speaker 1: really kind of dig into that, because I think that's 719 00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:24,839 Speaker 1: where a lot of people are going to get into 720 00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:27,759 Speaker 1: it right now. And I always say this, I know 721 00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:30,759 Speaker 1: you have a lot of female listeners. As much as 722 00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:33,600 Speaker 1: men think they run the household, women you run the household. 723 00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:38,160 Speaker 1: Said you set the tone. You set the tone. So 724 00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,480 Speaker 1: if you walk into your house and you tell your husband, 725 00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:42,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit with Timothy in the next two days 726 00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:47,000 Speaker 1: and talk about equality and how race is not, you know, 727 00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,680 Speaker 1: should not be in his vocabulary, and how he is 728 00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:54,440 Speaker 1: equal to his black friend Jabari, then we're gonna do it. Okay, 729 00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:58,320 Speaker 1: you don't ask any questions. You let him know. Yeah, great, 730 00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:02,080 Speaker 1: you let him know. Lady let his as let him no. 731 00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,719 Speaker 1: And with old sex he is not you better, I'll 732 00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:11,600 Speaker 1: be going into that closet unless no, no, you tell 733 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:13,800 Speaker 1: him he can have some pantry time. And all pantry 734 00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:17,800 Speaker 1: time gets you as a boo grays and blue balls. Okay, 735 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,080 Speaker 1: oh Justin, I love you. Thank you so much for 736 00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,160 Speaker 1: coming on. Can you tell the listeners where they can 737 00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:26,680 Speaker 1: find you and all of that jazz. Yes, My podcast, 738 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:32,280 Speaker 1: Just the Sip comes out every Wednesday. It's on Apple, Google, Pandora, 739 00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:36,120 Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcast, and I'm on Daily Pop 740 00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:40,920 Speaker 1: every single day at twelve thirties Central on e and 741 00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:44,399 Speaker 1: follow me on Instagram at the Ladies Sitter. We keep 742 00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:48,800 Speaker 1: it cute. We're informative, we're activism, we're we're funny memes. 743 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 1: We're doing the day thing over here. Love you let 744 00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:58,120 Speaker 1: me do. Oh my gosh, you guys, that was so 745 00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,120 Speaker 1: much fun with Justin and we went down so many 746 00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,719 Speaker 1: rabbit holes that you ran out of time. So I'm 747 00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:07,759 Speaker 1: gonna have to have dr V on next episode and 748 00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,239 Speaker 1: we're going to talk all things about having difficult conversations 749 00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:15,040 Speaker 1: with your significant others, surviving this pandemic with your spouse. 750 00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:18,280 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to Teddy Teapot. Thanks 751 00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:21,640 Speaker 1: for listening, Subscribe to Teddy Teapot on I Heard Radio, 752 00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:23,759 Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to podcasts.