WEBVTT - Two Things Can Be True At The Same Time: Part 4 [The Mini-Series] (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out outwait everything that I'm made,

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<v Speaker 1>don't won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning to love who I am.

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<v Speaker 3>A gat I'm strong, I feel.

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<v Speaker 2>Free, I know every part of me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>And then will always out way if you feel.

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<v Speaker 2>It, but you are, She'll some love to the food.

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<v Speaker 3>Why have there take you one day?

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<v Speaker 2>Nita?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you and die?

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<v Speaker 3>Out way? Happy Saturday? Outweigh.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm Amy Brown and I'm Leanne Ellington, And this is

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<v Speaker 4>part four of a series we're calling two things can

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<v Speaker 4>be true at the same time, and today we are

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<v Speaker 4>focusing on well, three things being true at the same time.

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<v Speaker 3>You can heal from.

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<v Speaker 4>Your disordered eating and have a healthy relationship with food

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<v Speaker 4>and still love food, love, sugar, fine, pleasure and joy

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<v Speaker 4>and food and still have food stuff that you're continually

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<v Speaker 4>working through.

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<v Speaker 3>All of these things can be true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely, all at the same time.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I think this is a big one because

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<v Speaker 1>we think that we need to or at least I died,

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<v Speaker 1>you know when I started my healing journey, and this

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<v Speaker 1>was a product of the extremism of you know, still

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<v Speaker 1>thinking that there was good and bad, right and wrong

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<v Speaker 1>or that I couldn't even imagine a version of myself

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<v Speaker 1>that could trust myself around these foods that I typically

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<v Speaker 1>associated with pleasure. And then of course I had been

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<v Speaker 1>hearing that like sugar is the enemy, sugar is the devil,

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<v Speaker 1>all these things. So we're being programmed and it's so confusing.

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<v Speaker 1>So we think that, at least I did, and I

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<v Speaker 1>know a lot of my clients have this perception as

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<v Speaker 1>well that when their air quotes healed, they're never going

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<v Speaker 1>to have sugar, or they're never going to want sugar,

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<v Speaker 1>or and maybe it's not sugar, maybe it's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>salty and savory and all of that. But I know

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I had this perception of what it was

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<v Speaker 1>going to look like, and so I didn't even have

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<v Speaker 1>the awareness to have the awareness that all of these

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<v Speaker 1>things could be true at the same time. So having

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<v Speaker 1>a healed relationship with food, finding joy and fun and

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<v Speaker 1>pleasure in food, which we'll talk about, but then also

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<v Speaker 1>be aware that I'm here and I'm at peace, but

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<v Speaker 1>there's also the next level of freedom and peace that

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<v Speaker 1>I might be working on, and giving yourself permission to

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<v Speaker 1>be on that journey as well. So starting with the

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<v Speaker 1>first thing, which is finding that freedom and that peace,

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<v Speaker 1>And like we talked about on the first episode of

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<v Speaker 1>this series, is this concept of really being mindful. And

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<v Speaker 1>in my opinion, I do believe you have to take

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<v Speaker 1>a sabbatical from the weight loss mentality and the typical

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<v Speaker 1>goal setting mentality and really go heal this. So when

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about having a healthy relationship with food, it

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<v Speaker 1>denotes that if you've learned and practiced many years of

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<v Speaker 1>an unhealthy or a disordered behavior relationship with food, that

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<v Speaker 1>it denotes that you're going to go through a period

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<v Speaker 1>of healing. And again it's not always linear, it takes time.

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<v Speaker 1>But coming from this place of having a more balanced

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<v Speaker 1>and peaceful driven relationship with food, where does the topic

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<v Speaker 1>of enjoying food come into play?

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's the thing it's demonized.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. Again, we talked about sugar being labeled as

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<v Speaker 1>bad and evil and addictive and all of these things,

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<v Speaker 1>But it doesn't leave space for food being part of

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<v Speaker 1>connection and pleasure and fun and family and culture and

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<v Speaker 1>all of these things. So how can we have both?

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<v Speaker 1>And another distinction that comes to mind around this is

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<v Speaker 1>when you're living in a reality that coexists with the

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<v Speaker 1>binge restrict cycle. So that bine restrict cycle is the

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<v Speaker 1>restriction takes over at one point where you're like, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't have that, not allowed to have that, that's bad,

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<v Speaker 1>that's wrong, and then you abstain or you control or

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<v Speaker 1>you restrict to the point in my case, when I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't take it any longer and I switched to the opposite.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I wasn't playing my inner food police, I

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<v Speaker 1>was carefree, abandonment, eat everything in sight, and trying to

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<v Speaker 1>you know, air quotes, get it in before I knew

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<v Speaker 1>that the flip would be switched, the switch would be

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<v Speaker 1>flipped again.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, That's how I spent much of my life, right,

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<v Speaker 4>So in that paradigm, there's no room for having food

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<v Speaker 4>for pleasure because it's not about that, right.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you have.

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<v Speaker 1>This relationship with food where it's just food and you

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<v Speaker 1>you can like use it for sustenance and feeding your

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<v Speaker 1>body and fueling your body, it also creates a space

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<v Speaker 1>where you can be like, Wow, that chocolate chip cookie

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<v Speaker 1>with like real sugar, real butter, real eggs, real chocolate

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<v Speaker 1>was delicious. And it doesn't mean that I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>my you know, protein cookie that I put cookie that

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<v Speaker 1>I put protein powder, and you know, egg whites and

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<v Speaker 1>stevia chips in isn't also good.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure, but there is a right there's.

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<v Speaker 2>A disorder that comes with that.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think that that's totally okay. I'm with you

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<v Speaker 3>on that.

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<v Speaker 4>I will say, though, when I finally flipped the switch

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<v Speaker 4>to like being able to enjoy food, and I realized

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<v Speaker 4>some of the food I used to find so enjoyable,

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<v Speaker 4>or at least I convinced myself I did. I've gone

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<v Speaker 4>back to eating it at times because it was all

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<v Speaker 4>I had access to, or like, there was this particular

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<v Speaker 4>type of bar, for example, that I used to get

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<v Speaker 4>because it had no sugar in it whatsoever. I don't

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<v Speaker 4>even know how they make it sweet though, don't ask me,

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<v Speaker 4>but I ate them all the time, and I thought

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<v Speaker 4>that they were amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I had one the other day.

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<v Speaker 4>Because again it's all I had access to, and I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, this is disgusting. Yeah, how did I eat

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<v Speaker 4>this all the time? Absolutely, for years I eat it.

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<v Speaker 4>And then now that everything's changed, Yep, I'm a different person. Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't go back to that now.

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<v Speaker 4>Some stuff to your point, like you may still enjoy

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<v Speaker 4>that particular type of cookie and there's nothing wrong with

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<v Speaker 4>black bean brownies or whatever. Although when I was starting

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<v Speaker 4>that recovery, I swung all the way to where it's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>only bad brownies or bust because I don't care about

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<v Speaker 4>anything exactly. And now I'm in a place where I

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<v Speaker 4>could be like, oh, black bean brownies, that makes sense

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<v Speaker 4>right now because I would love to get in the

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<v Speaker 4>extra fiber absolutely. Or now I see even blueberries in

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<v Speaker 4>a different way. I used to see them as like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>that's a low sugar fruit that I'm gonna try to

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<v Speaker 4>you know, be quote unquote healthy with. And now I'm like, oh, wow,

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<v Speaker 4>I get to enjoy an abundance of blueberries right now,

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<v Speaker 4>and my brain is going to be so excited for

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<v Speaker 4>this absolutely, Like I see it more for what it's

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<v Speaker 4>actually doing for my body then that it's just on

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<v Speaker 4>this list of foods that I need to eat because

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<v Speaker 4>they're allowed totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you bring up such a good point, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>where I where it was saying, like, when you're in it,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't even see that this is possible, But once

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<v Speaker 1>you're in the healing side.

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<v Speaker 2>Of it, it creates space for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Because let's be honest, when I was at the height

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<v Speaker 1>of my disordered eating and even like the orthorexia side

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<v Speaker 1>of it, I could and then swaying to the binging

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<v Speaker 1>side of it. You better believe if even if I was,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, air quotes judging myself, if it wasn't a

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<v Speaker 1>black bean brownie, I would binge an entire batch of

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<v Speaker 1>black bean brownies. I didn't discriminate, right, So the pendulum

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<v Speaker 1>swings all directions, whether it's an air quotes healthy thing

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<v Speaker 1>or not. But part of it is like, that's where

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<v Speaker 1>I want to invite you all and kind of sets

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<v Speaker 1>you up for the expectation now that when you do

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<v Speaker 1>have a healed relationship with food, because part of it,

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<v Speaker 1>too is it's a product of being in that cycle.

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<v Speaker 1>You're probably very desensitized or disconnected from what is hunger?

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<v Speaker 1>What is fullness? What is pleasure? And where am I

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<v Speaker 1>feeding a hole in my emotional self? Where am I actually,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, enjoying this or where is it a coping

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<v Speaker 1>mechanism when I'm lonely stressed at our board. So we

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<v Speaker 1>become desensitized to it. We don't trust ourselves. Often one

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<v Speaker 1>of my clients was, like, my ticker's broken like she

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't trust herself, she doesn't know what she likes and

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<v Speaker 1>what she wants. So that's where I want to set

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<v Speaker 1>you all up for now, the possibility that once you

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<v Speaker 1>do have this, and I put it in air quotes

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<v Speaker 1>normal relationship with food. But whatever you dictate, you want

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<v Speaker 1>your new normal to be a healthy, healed relationship. Like

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<v Speaker 1>whatever your new normal is that you picture where you

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<v Speaker 1>feel healthy and at ease with food, I also want

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<v Speaker 1>you to invite you into the space where it can coexist,

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<v Speaker 1>where you can also enter into a conversation where food

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<v Speaker 1>is fun, it's pleasurable. You know, you could have a

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<v Speaker 1>list of restaurants that you want to visit. You could

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<v Speaker 1>have a page on Instagram that you follow because you

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<v Speaker 1>love their delicacies. Like, it doesn't have to be such

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<v Speaker 1>a threat, but when you're in it, you might not

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<v Speaker 1>even know that that's possible.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think too, it's important to remember that it's

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<v Speaker 4>you're going to evolve the more you grow in this area,

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<v Speaker 4>because I think of things you know that even just

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<v Speaker 4>last year that let me see how I could put this, Like,

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<v Speaker 4>I guess it's it's like permission to maybe not feel

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<v Speaker 4>a certain way about a food for the rest of

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<v Speaker 4>your life. Yeah, even in healing, even in recovery, your

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<v Speaker 4>taste might change, your thoughts about something might change. And

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<v Speaker 4>that's the best part. My favorite things is like if

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<v Speaker 4>we're not evolving, we're dead. And so your desire for

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<v Speaker 4>certain fooddes are going to evolve and change as you're

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<v Speaker 4>on this journey. And just because in the first parts

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<v Speaker 4>of your healing you were like, oh, this is really

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<v Speaker 4>the bread that I'm into, and then suddenly you're not,

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<v Speaker 4>Like that doesn't mean anything. You just don't put your

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<v Speaker 4>pressure on yourself to have like Okay, now that I'm

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<v Speaker 4>in this lane, it's this way or the highway, Like

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<v Speaker 4>there's just some stuff for me that has flowed floan,

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<v Speaker 4>flowed loan and flowed flowed in and out of my

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<v Speaker 4>life and it's like I'm breezy with it. Yeahs like Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>one day I'm I'm wanting that and I ate that

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<v Speaker 4>and it's like, okay, no big deal. But we love

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<v Speaker 4>to bring up that pendulum swinging, Like there was times

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<v Speaker 4>where it's like, oh, I want all of this stuff

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<v Speaker 4>and that's totally okay. But if I go back over

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<v Speaker 4>here and only want this type of thing, that's also

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<v Speaker 4>okay too.

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<v Speaker 1>I love how you said breezy too, because it denotes

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<v Speaker 1>this care free energy, which is the opposite of extremism

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<v Speaker 1>and putting yourself in a box and having to be

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<v Speaker 1>one way, and yeah, giving yourself permission to change your

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<v Speaker 1>mind and change your beliefs and change your thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>I know for me, you know, ten years ago, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, official sweeteners or the devil, And.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I was on that bandwagon.

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<v Speaker 1>And here's the thing, Like it's different for everyone, like

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<v Speaker 1>people have different But there's now talk about the evidence

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<v Speaker 1>based science world.

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<v Speaker 2>There's study after study after.

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<v Speaker 1>Study proving that you know, even aspartain, which is the

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<v Speaker 1>one that is like gotten a lot of flack, is

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<v Speaker 1>really not harmful in high doses, not everybody, or sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>in normal doses that people would intake. Now, not everybody

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<v Speaker 1>is feels their best when they're drinking artificial sweeteners. But

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<v Speaker 1>even things like that, like being open to new research

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<v Speaker 1>coming out and being open to the fact that like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're not the same person you were ten years

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<v Speaker 1>ago or five years ago, and giving yourself that breezy

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<v Speaker 1>attitude to be able to change your mind and leave

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<v Speaker 1>space for it, and that is the third thing of

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<v Speaker 1>the two things that can be true at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>like your relationship with food, your body, yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Is always evolving.

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<v Speaker 1>So I remember times when I couldn't keep peanut butter

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<v Speaker 1>in the house because it was a trigger for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I would you know, binge it. It didn't have to

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<v Speaker 1>be actual sugar, right, And then it was the next

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<v Speaker 1>level of like, oh I can actually keep peanut butter

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<v Speaker 1>in my house. And then it was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>can actually keep something that has actual sugar in my house.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like giving yourself permission to let it be

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<v Speaker 1>the next level, the next level, the next level, but

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<v Speaker 1>find that pendulum in the middle where you can also

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself permission to be human about food and pleasure

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<v Speaker 1>and cravings and all of the things.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you watch Friends?

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<v Speaker 2>I did.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it makes me think of that episode with Monica

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<v Speaker 4>where she's like, I'm breezy, yes, and Monica is the

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<v Speaker 4>most uptight of c not breezy person, but she's breezy

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<v Speaker 4>convinced yes that she's breezy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, so get.

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<v Speaker 2>Your inner Monica.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah you are, you are breezy.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. I even journaled this morning about my breeziness. Because

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<v Speaker 4>I really wasn't being very breezy about something yesterday. So

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<v Speaker 4>and I know you and I talk about a lot

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<v Speaker 4>about acting as if, and I was like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 4>I really do think that that was circumstantial and I

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<v Speaker 4>am breezy and I'm easy to.

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<v Speaker 3>Get along with in this area.

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<v Speaker 4>It was something with my ex husband, and I was

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<v Speaker 4>not being breezy at all, and I see it today. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>but I'm going to celebrate the fact that I'm aware

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<v Speaker 4>of it totally. I'm aware that I wasn't breezy. And

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<v Speaker 4>then I journaled through how I'm going to be breezy,

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<v Speaker 4>and I see myself in the future being so breezy

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<v Speaker 4>next time. I'm already so breezy. It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Absolutely, I can't even see you. You flew by so

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<v Speaker 2>quickly because you're so breezy, so breezy.

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<v Speaker 4>And so that might be how you know, maybe listening

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<v Speaker 4>right now, you're not breezy about a certain thing, but

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<v Speaker 4>journal through it, picture yourself being breezy. Yeah, And how

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<v Speaker 4>does it feel being able to be breezy about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so much lighter.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, I love how you you created that picture, because

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<v Speaker 1>that's today's episode is a little bit harder to grasp

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<v Speaker 1>if you've never experienced it. It's one of the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>things for my clients are like, I don't even understand

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<v Speaker 1>what it would be like to not feel so crazy

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<v Speaker 1>around food. I don't know what it would feel like

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<v Speaker 1>to have peace around food, but to also not feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a chigarataqae Like it's hard for them to grasp.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think, if anything, if we're giving that weekly

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<v Speaker 1>dose of encouragement today, knowing that it is possible to

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<v Speaker 1>find peace with food and find pleasure in it, but

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<v Speaker 1>without it being this rabbit hole where it becomes almost

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<v Speaker 1>like a drug like pole, so to speak, or a

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like an addict, Like there is that space for

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<v Speaker 1>them to coexist even if you don't believe it's possible

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<v Speaker 1>yet just giving you that encouragement that it is.

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<v Speaker 4>It is, it's totally possible. Because I had those exact

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<v Speaker 4>same thoughts for decades. Yeah, and I was in a

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<v Speaker 4>place of acceptance of this is just how this is

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<v Speaker 4>my life, this is how it's going to be, and

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<v Speaker 4>this is how we operate, and so.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get used to it, right, Yeah, And then becomes

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<v Speaker 2>yourself image and identity.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's just so not the case. So I know

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<v Speaker 4>that if I'm able to be in a different place

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<v Speaker 4>with it, and it just expands your world, it frees

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<v Speaker 4>your brain up. I mean, they have that saying of like,

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<v Speaker 4>this sort of stuff is just living in your brain

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<v Speaker 4>rent free and.

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<v Speaker 3>You deserve better. Yeah, and it's totally possible.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And that's why little conversations like this are helpful

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<v Speaker 4>because if you're having those thoughts. I also remember thinking,

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<v Speaker 4>am I the only person in the world with these thoughts?

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<v Speaker 4>Because nobody when I was in my teens twenties, like, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>so in the nineties and early two thousands, nobody was

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<v Speaker 4>talking about binge eating. I thought, literally I was the

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<v Speaker 4>only person and there was so much shame around it.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't want to talk about it. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>why in the world did I just eat all of that?

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<v Speaker 4>And who do I even tell? And I'm so messed up,

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<v Speaker 4>something's wrong with me. And then now we know that

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<v Speaker 4>there's so many people that have that, But it was

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<v Speaker 4>coming from a place of my times of restriction, and

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<v Speaker 4>it was this pattern.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, it's so isolating, and it makes us think that

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<v Speaker 1>we're the only one that struggles the way that we are.

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<v Speaker 1>And then a lot of the thoughts that came up

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<v Speaker 1>for me and for my clients are like, if only

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<v Speaker 1>they knew how crazy I was, messed up, broken, fill

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<v Speaker 1>on the blank. And that's another I think really import

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<v Speaker 1>and part of today's episode is really just letting you know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not alone, you're not crazy, you're not messed up,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not broken, you're not too far gone. You learned

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<v Speaker 1>what we learned, and there's a way to unlearn it

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<v Speaker 1>and relearn something new that sets you free but also

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<v Speaker 1>coexists in a world where you can enjoy life and

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<v Speaker 1>socializing and friends and family and food and all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that come alongside it. And the journey can be

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<v Speaker 1>a dot dot dot, never ending, always evolving thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So to recap, you can heal from your disordered

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<v Speaker 4>eating and have a healthy relationship with food, and you

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<v Speaker 4>can still love food, love sugar, find pleasure and joy

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<v Speaker 4>and food and still have food stuff that you're continually

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<v Speaker 4>working through. It can all be true. Absolutely, boom Leanne.

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<v Speaker 4>Where can people find you?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely to talk more about this, learn more about this,

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<v Speaker 1>you can head on over to stressless eeating dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>There's some resources over there for you to learn more.

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<v Speaker 4>And I am at Radio Amy on Instagram and we're

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<v Speaker 4>going to be taking a break from this series. We

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<v Speaker 4>did four in a row. Two Things can be True

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<v Speaker 4>at the same time, and Lane's got some cool interviews

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<v Speaker 4>coming up that she's going to be sharing every Saturday

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<v Speaker 4>for the next few weeks, and then we'll come back

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<v Speaker 4>yep with another four parts. Yep, So five, six, seven,

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<v Speaker 4>and eight. Yep, there's eight total. Do you want to

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<v Speaker 4>share who you potentially are interviewing or do we want

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<v Speaker 4>yeah to that?

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<v Speaker 1>So our first two things Can be True at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time was about you can you know, be on

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<v Speaker 1>this journey of healing and health and loving yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>peace and all of the good stuff that we all

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<v Speaker 1>want more of and have goals and still you know,

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<v Speaker 1>want to take your health to the next level. So

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<v Speaker 1>I shared a little bit about how I drew a

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<v Speaker 1>line in the sand and decided to figure out how

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<v Speaker 1>two things could be true in my own life around

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<v Speaker 1>that after ten years of not not knowing what that

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<v Speaker 1>looked like. So the woman that I worked with, and

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<v Speaker 1>she's a friend and a mentor, will be sharing some

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<v Speaker 1>awesomeness about all of that and how we can really

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<v Speaker 1>bridge the gap between you know, the typical health and

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<v Speaker 1>fitness world, but also the mental emotional health and how

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<v Speaker 1>to really heal from this. She's had her own testimony

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<v Speaker 1>and experiences with eating disorders and disordered eating and body

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<v Speaker 1>dysmorphia and all of that stuff, so she'll definitely share

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<v Speaker 1>her own testimony and then we'll be talking about some

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<v Speaker 1>cool stuff in relation to that.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so interview time coming up the next few weeks,

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<v Speaker 4>and then Leanna and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Will be back together.

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<v Speaker 4>But hope y'all are having the day that you need

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<v Speaker 4>to have and we'll see you next time.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye bye