1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: Thank you for You're coming back. Part two is underway movies. 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: Is there a movie that you audition a role that 3 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:08,800 Speaker 1: you auditioned for that you didn't get that you're like, damn? 4 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:11,879 Speaker 1: Or is this something that you turned down that you 5 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: wish you hadn't? 6 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 2: No, because I rarely auditioned, because I don't consider myself 7 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 2: an actor, Okay, I consider myself a personality who can 8 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 2: be taught the mechanism of acting, how to hit your mark, 9 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 2: stay in your light, memorize your lines, work on it. 10 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 3: And I like doing certain things. I would love to do. 11 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 2: A sitcom and I have a couple that I'm developing. 12 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 2: I like doing movies. What I feel is I think 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:43,480 Speaker 2: Kim Whitley is one of the greatest actresses, Evette Nicole Brown, 14 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 2: greatest actress, Tisha Campbell, all these great actors. Regina King 15 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:52,480 Speaker 2: is not just a great actor, She's a great director 16 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 2: and a producer. 17 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 3: Issa Ray. 18 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 2: I have ideas that I want to work with everybody, 19 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 2: and all I want is a cameo, That's all I want. 20 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 2: I want to produce. I want to be able to 21 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 2: stand up at these award shows and give it up 22 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 2: for the show us. 23 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 3: The winner is and I walk my blacks up and go. 24 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 3: She did it. She did it, she produced and she 25 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 3: did it. 26 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: You turned down players club, did you? 27 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 2: Okay, let me tell you what happened. I because I 28 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 2: was in sexual interpretive dance. They knew I had the skill, 29 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 2: and so they called me and they said, we want 30 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 2: you to consider this part. 31 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:29,919 Speaker 3: So I said, let me see the. 32 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 2: Entire script, not just the sides. The sides are the 33 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 2: pieces that you're gonna be. I said, I need to 34 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 2: see the whole script. Now I'm still not understanding. You 35 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 2: ain't supposed to be making demands when they try to 36 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 2: give you a job. 37 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 3: That's why you ain't in no relationship. You'm over here 38 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 3: making demands. 39 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 2: So I say to them, I need to read the 40 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 2: whole script. So I read the whole script, and then 41 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 2: the script it's the words of the character they want 42 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 2: me to play. They say, you're gonna do Junior's party 43 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 2: or something like that. Where Monica Calhoun, the girl that 44 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 2: was in the Best Man and the Best Man Holiday, 45 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: she is a passing away. 46 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 3: She's More's chestnuts white. She plays it. Okay, this is 47 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 3: where she gets raped and beat up. 48 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 2: But it's my words to say, or the character they 49 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:12,800 Speaker 2: want me to play, so you're gonna do Junior's party. 50 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 2: So I called him and I said I cannot do it, 51 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 2: and they were like why not? And I told him why. 52 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 2: I said, I've been raped. I said I cannot do it, 53 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,519 Speaker 2: and they were like, well, it's just a part. I said, no, 54 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 2: I'm not that good of an actor to step out 55 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 2: of my own trauma. I said, because I've been told 56 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 2: this girl ap read the rest of the script. 57 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:33,919 Speaker 3: My folk pages. 58 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 2: You about to get gaffled, right you about to give it? 59 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 2: Uh sEH right up. 60 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 3: I would have been like the line wouldn't have been 61 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 3: you're gonna do Junior. Part of line beach, don't do 62 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 3: Junior party. 63 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 2: So I'm not that good of an actor not to 64 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 2: do that. 65 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,239 Speaker 3: And my heart is always. 66 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: Your heart is always in the right spot. 67 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 2: Absolutely, Like when I dialed into the call with the 68 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 2: Queens of Comedy, I I when I got the call 69 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 2: to ask me to come and dial into this for 70 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 2: a possible situation. I was so excited to work with 71 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 2: them because I felt like this would be an achievement 72 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 2: to show us all together. 73 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: So it was gonna be it was gonna be you 74 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: some morell gibbings U and I. 75 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 2: Think Lord Hayes right, because I think Monique had already 76 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 2: gone on to the things that she was gonna do individually. 77 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 2: And so I get the dial in information, and you know, 78 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 2: we do a lot of conference calls in organizations and 79 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 2: nonprofits and things like that, so I know the dial in, 80 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: but I think they're gonna put me in Q. 81 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 3: I don't think they're. 82 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 2: Gonna put me directly directly in. Yeah, directly in the 83 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 2: so'm I go directly in the call and I hear 84 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 2: words spoken about me. But I think God needed me 85 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 2: to hear it, need me to hear what my colleagues 86 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 2: felt about me. 87 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: So I can't you know prior to that they felt 88 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: this well about you. 89 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 2: No, or maybe I was too delusional. Maybe I would 90 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 2: still on the. 91 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 3: Hey, hey, let's get together and do a show. 92 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 2: Let's rent a barn and we do a show and 93 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 2: raise some money and get a cow for the cookout 94 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 2: or something. 95 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 3: I'm still thinking, oh, this is great. 96 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 2: And I did not know some of the things that 97 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 2: I had heard and still hear about me. I think 98 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 2: ire misplaced. And so then I took the time in 99 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 2: my life to show people a better version of me. 100 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 2: I'm still strong willed. I'm still you talking to Nah, 101 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 2: We're in doing it. I still walk into a bookings 102 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 2: and say did everybody get paid? Well, sure, we paid you. 103 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck. 104 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 2: Did everybody get paid? Until you pay everybody, you will 105 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 2: not be having a show. Right. 106 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 3: I'm still a leader. 107 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 2: Right. 108 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 3: But in that case, I think God needed me to 109 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 3: hear it. 110 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 2: And that's what I really wanted to say on CBS 111 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 2: that these women had achieved something, but they blessed me 112 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 2: with something. 113 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 3: To learn more about me, to help me. 114 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 2: Get to see and learn how to be a better 115 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 2: me while I work with a team, and if I 116 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 2: hurt them, I want to ask them to forgive me 117 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 2: even now, because wouldn't it be great to see me 118 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 2: Adele Somemore, Monique Lord Hayes, all of us do a 119 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 2: movie together. And I have that script, and I put 120 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 2: my team together to write the script because I'm not 121 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 2: trying to pay it backwards or forwards or anything. I'm 122 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 2: trying to show if we come together, why is it 123 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 2: other racism? People can hate each other, but they'll come 124 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 2: together and there it is. Let's show solidarity and then 125 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:39,119 Speaker 2: we all get paid. 126 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: Did they know you were on that call, did they 127 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: did they have any idea? 128 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 2: No, they didn't know. They didn't know. What I did 129 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 2: was the person who invited me to get on the call. 130 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 2: I said, I don't. I don't think I'll be a 131 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,600 Speaker 2: good fit. And that's when I started to learn it's 132 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:56,480 Speaker 2: okay for you to back out of something, Cheryl and 133 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 2: just say, hey, maybe this is not going to be right. 134 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 2: Without I could have called everybody I heard you said 135 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 2: about me, but that's not gonna be good spiritually, and 136 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: I gotta face God one day, and I'm trying to 137 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 2: be a better me. 138 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 3: But also I respected what they said. 139 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 2: And then I tried to talk to each one of 140 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 2: them and see them at award shows, at the hoodies, 141 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 2: or see them on shows and different things that we 142 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 2: were working on. I would try to be a better 143 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,720 Speaker 2: version of me, whether they accepted it or not, because 144 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 2: I fear God more than I fear man. And these 145 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 2: are my colleagues and I love them, and no matter 146 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 2: what they feel about me, I'm not saying I love 147 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 2: you and I'm gonna be a sucker, but I do 148 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: want to have that type of power to be able 149 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 2: to say, and I've said it. I can't play this part, 150 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 2: but she can call her. And every time my agents, 151 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 2: my representatives say would you stop doing that? No, I 152 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 2: will continue to do that because if somebody opens the 153 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:52,679 Speaker 2: door for me, I opened the door for someone else. 154 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: So how did you have the con Did you ever 155 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: have a conversation with them individually where you're like, I 156 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: heard what you said. I don't know why you said it, 157 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: because I'm just Cheryl Underwood. I don't think I'm there, 158 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: so I don't think i'm that. I'm just being me. 159 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: Did you have an individual conversation one on one with 160 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: these individuals. 161 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 2: I think it had grown so big with me being 162 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 2: on CBS, and I will accept of the few times 163 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 2: that I've stepped in it at the top. You know. 164 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 2: One time I stepped in it and I was working 165 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 2: on Steve Harvey Morning Show, and Steve allowed me to 166 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 2: apologize to our community for stepping in someone that I 167 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 2: was not savvy to understand, and I asked the community 168 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 2: to forgive me. 169 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 3: It had got so big. 170 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 2: I think they missed a part of it where I 171 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 2: was saying thank you, I appreciate what you've done. And 172 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 2: when it goes viral, you know, and when everybody all 173 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 2: that's what she did. Everybody's weighing in on it. It 174 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:50,239 Speaker 2: would be difficult to have of that conversation, I would think, 175 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: But I worked in my career to have the ability 176 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 2: to want to put something together, not because I want 177 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 2: them to kiss the pinky ring. I want to show 178 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 2: you I respect your talent. I respect you, and I 179 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 2: also believe you ain't always got to like. 180 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: About to work with them. 181 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 2: I agree, sometime you just get that work, get that money, 182 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 2: and let's keep working and keep making that money for 183 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 2: your family, mortgage, everything. We've got to figure out how 184 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 2: to put our differences aside to make great art that 185 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: makes great commerce. 186 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 1: You mentioned making money, and you're very savvy with your money. 187 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: You invest, you take care of your money. You mentioned 188 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 1: that the most important thing to you is to making 189 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 1: sure your disabled sister has twenty four hours care. And 190 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: when you started making money, sure, did you always have 191 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: this idea like, it's not how much money I make, 192 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,199 Speaker 1: it's how much I keep. Have you always been this 193 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 1: business savvage? Have you always been like I gotta not 194 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 1: only make money, but I gotta keep it because I 195 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: got people counting on me. 196 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,599 Speaker 3: Both My mamas was entrepreneurs. 197 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 2: My mama, mama who raised me, had a drapery business 198 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 2: down in the basement, but she would come upstairs and 199 00:08:59,280 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 2: make sure. 200 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 3: That the post was rathering. My daddy had to play 201 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 3: the food. 202 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 2: The middle piece of the comb, bread, the big piece 203 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 2: of the chicken. And that's what I watched, right, And 204 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 2: my dad entrepreneurial, so I knew I had to get 205 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 2: in some type of business structure. 206 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 3: So you're absolutely right. 207 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,440 Speaker 2: And then when my sister came to live with me 208 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:21,199 Speaker 2: after my birth mother died, and my brothers, you know, 209 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 2: and my sister. I understand what they want to do 210 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 2: with their life. I understand it. But I've been up 211 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 2: under my sister since I was a baby. She's older 212 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 2: than me, and I didn't know she was disabled. I 213 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 2: thought she was just fun to be around. And I 214 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 2: still tell jokes about her. And if political correctness would 215 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 2: allow me to tell the jokes that they're written, I 216 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 2: would bring those jokes back. They're funny jokes, but you're 217 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:47,400 Speaker 2: not supposed to use certain words. You're talking about the disabled, right, 218 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 2: But the word gives the joke. It's like English on 219 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 2: the ball when you're playing pool. The word gives the joke, 220 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 2: the spend the power right, So my sister. I knew 221 00:09:57,920 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 2: I was gonna take care of my sister. I knew 222 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 2: when I was a because I was already doing it. 223 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 2: I was a little bitty girl, I mean three, four, five, 224 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 2: six years old being with her. She was my playmate 225 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,080 Speaker 2: and I was hers. This is the baby I was 226 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 2: supposed to have. 227 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: Did your mom or dad ever tell you that this 228 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: would be your responsibility if something were to happen to them, 229 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 1: that you would have to take up the role or 230 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:23,959 Speaker 1: be the mother even though that's your sister. You now 231 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: you're the parent in the relationship because now you have 232 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: to provide. Did they ever tell you that or you 233 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:30,200 Speaker 1: just knew that was your responsibility? 234 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 2: Well, I know my grandmother on my mother's side, was like, 235 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 2: you've got to do it because you're a girl, and 236 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 2: she's a girl, you know, and you know in our 237 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 2: families it's whoever's. 238 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 3: The oldest take care. 239 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: Absolutely. 240 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 2: But my older brother was looking at this like, Okay, 241 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 2: I'm doing it, but I shouldn't be doing this. I'm 242 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 2: uncomfortable about this. I'm speaking for him. He's never told 243 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 2: me this, but he did come on to talk and 244 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:49,559 Speaker 2: tell me. 245 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 3: That he was proud of me. 246 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,719 Speaker 2: Wow. And of the two people that's ever told me 247 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 2: that was proud of me, my father before he died 248 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 2: and my oldest brother. 249 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:00,679 Speaker 3: But I was shaping my life for this. 250 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 2: I've been married once and the only reason I didn't 251 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 2: jump into a marriage. When people are like I marry me, 252 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,079 Speaker 2: I'll take care of you and your sister, I said, Okay, 253 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 2: I understand this. If you touch I ken you. That's 254 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:11,960 Speaker 2: as simple as that. 255 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: That's it. 256 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 3: You still want to get married, right, That's. 257 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 2: Just me and to me, the greatest joy in my 258 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 2: life was asking God open the doors for me. 259 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 3: Where does she go if something happens to me? 260 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 2: You know? So? Yeah, I mean, my sister was my motivator. 261 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 2: And you know she can't ReadWrite a top, but she'd 262 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:33,439 Speaker 2: be load. I'll been telling her little jokes and I'll 263 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 2: be like, you can understand morning, you gonn understand? 264 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 3: Or I make a drink. I turned my back. Now 265 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 3: my dream's gone. I'm a long gun. It's happened a 266 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 3: long gun, you know. 267 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 2: And she would clap and we would have fun together. 268 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 2: But that is what motivated me to succeed, even though 269 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 2: I was not You were pretty much deputized. You know, 270 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 2: I'm the girl. I'm gonna do it. And then I 271 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 2: started to enjoy it. I started to enjoy grocery shopping 272 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 2: and doing laundry, going to school and then rushing home 273 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 2: to take care of her. 274 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 3: I started to enjoy it. 275 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 2: And what did it give me? A work ethic. I 276 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 2: have a strong work ethic. And my father. I remember 277 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 2: my dad going, are you sure? And I said, I'm sure. 278 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 2: He said, but what about your life? What about your family? 279 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 2: I said, she is my life, she is my family. 280 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 3: I can't I can't turn my back on her. 281 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: You think that's the greatest. Like I was a kid 282 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: growing up and coming home and give my grandmother ten 283 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: dollars to give my grandmother twenty dollars. That started me 284 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: at a very young age. I'm a provider. My greatest 285 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: enjoyment if providing for my family. Now that's the only 286 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,320 Speaker 1: thing that I think about when I wake up and 287 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: when I go to bed at night. Just let me 288 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: provide for my family. 289 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 3: Let me tell you something. My father would not take 290 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:42,840 Speaker 3: money from me. 291 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 2: You know, he worked a good jobby chrome play the right, 292 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 2: but you know, everybody between tent so I would have 293 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 2: to dap him up. On my way out the door, 294 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 2: I had daddy, you know when I come back, I 295 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 2: come back to Chicago, we're gonna hang out. 296 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 3: And I dap him up. 297 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 2: But one time when he figured out how much money 298 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 2: I was making. This was back when you remember the war 299 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 2: before a war on terrorism. There was a war on drugs. Yes, 300 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 2: and they were pulling us off planes because we was 301 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 2: mules or drug dealers and everything. And that's when they 302 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 2: was paying us cash. So I had the dope brick. 303 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 2: Had the dope brick of cash flew through Chicago. I said, Daddy, 304 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 2: I need a favor. He said what I said, I 305 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:19,719 Speaker 2: need you to take this money and wire it back 306 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 2: to me. Now I never showed him what the money was. Now, 307 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 2: come on, now we both you know if you no 308 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 2: one know, my father looked like you as a shorter man. Okay. 309 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 2: So my daddy was like, I take my baby to 310 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,080 Speaker 2: the bank. I run the bank. They know me, brother Underwood. 311 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 2: So we walked at the bank. What you need, miss Underwood. 312 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:37,679 Speaker 2: My daughter needed me. 313 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 3: To wire this money. Okay, show him the money. I 314 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 3: pull out the money. 315 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,840 Speaker 2: His eyes get wide, She takes the money. 316 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:46,680 Speaker 3: Walks out the room. Bring us back some forms. 317 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:48,960 Speaker 2: My father go, where you get that money from? I said, 318 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:51,720 Speaker 2: I worked for it. I worked for it. I show 319 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:55,080 Speaker 2: him the contract. He reads the contract. He said, you 320 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 2: made all this money just doing forty five minutes of work. 321 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 2: I said, yes, sir, Yes, sir, I said, I'm telling 322 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 2: you the truth. He kept the deposit slip when he died. 323 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:13,319 Speaker 2: The deposit slip was under the lace runner on the dress. Yes, sir, yes, 324 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:14,319 Speaker 2: underneath it. 325 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 3: He would look at it with. 326 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: He was so proud. 327 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 3: That's right. That's right. That's what this is about it, And. 328 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: It's hard to get. You try to get your older 329 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: people to accept things. Because my grandmother, my sister, would 330 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 1: literally have to sneaker out the house yes for to 331 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: get a refrigerator, yes, or to get a washing dry 332 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: because she's like living. Let them boys enjoy their money, 333 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: but I enjoy it. Was to take care of her 334 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 1: when she gave up. She raised her nine and then 335 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,040 Speaker 1: took my mom's three and raised them as her own. 336 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 2: That's right. 337 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: And so that was me and my brother's responsibility. But 338 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 1: we called hell trying to get her things because he's like, no, 339 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 1: I don't need it. 340 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 3: That's right, that's right. 341 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 2: I tell the story about my sister riding in the 342 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 2: passage seat of my convertible Bentley. I tell the story 343 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 2: in the show, and I can't tell him because I 344 00:14:58,000 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 2: gotta use certain words, and I don't want your little 345 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 2: show it get cancer. 346 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,160 Speaker 1: You appreciate that, okay, if you love a little bit 347 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: of money I'm making. 348 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 2: And if you come to my live show Mix and 349 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 2: Mingle Tour twenty twenty five, you come to show. If 350 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 2: I've been drinking enough, I will tell those jokes. But 351 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:18,239 Speaker 2: I wanted to achieve something. I wanted her to have security. 352 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 2: I wanted her to have a roof over her head. 353 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 2: That is why I'm working hard now. There are people 354 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 2: that depend on me. The other acts depend on me. 355 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 2: Everybody that works with us depend on us to make 356 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 2: sure we do the right things so we can keep 357 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 2: making this money. 358 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 1: You mentioned you told black people buy stocks instead of 359 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 1: a lot of the tickets every Friday. 360 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 2: That's right, that's right. We need to see people say 361 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 2: I ain't gonna buy no stock. Stock too risky. Shut 362 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 2: up a nigga. You buy a lot of reticket every Friday? 363 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 2: Is the difference you investing in something. If you hit 364 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 2: the number, that's great, But what if you hit the 365 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 2: stock number. What if you like cryptocurrency, are you investing 366 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 2: in this crypto? 367 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: I did not. 368 00:15:56,800 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 3: I can't. I can't do it. 369 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:00,840 Speaker 1: It's just I had an opportunity when it first came out. 370 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 1: I can show you the thing. A guy, a friend 371 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:05,400 Speaker 1: of mine, I met him many many years ago. He said, Shannon, 372 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: I got this opportunity. I would say. He says, I 373 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 1: don't know if you know anything about crypto, but I 374 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 1: got an opportunity, and I'd be willing to sell. I'd 375 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 1: be willing to sell you. I think he said like 376 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 1: twenty five or fifty. And at the time the coins 377 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,520 Speaker 1: was like probably like one hundred and fifty two hundred dollars. 378 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: So he said, I can sell you, you know, ten to 379 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 1: twenty and if you wanted more, it would take time, 380 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: but I could get you more because I know you. 381 00:16:27,080 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 2: How long ago is this? 382 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: This was twenty fifteen, Okay. 383 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 2: Now listen to me, though, But you gotta hold it, 384 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 2: and you gotta remember how to get into it, because 385 00:16:33,760 --> 00:16:35,720 Speaker 2: if you lose the thing, to get into. 386 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 3: It and see what this is what I and I love. 387 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 2: Mark Cuban. As matter of fact, I was talking to 388 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 2: Mark Cuban when I was working at KR and B 389 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 2: in Texas. I think that when you have disposable income 390 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 2: that you can speculate in cryptocurrency. 391 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 3: That's great, but most people don't know and they think. 392 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 2: You're gonna take one thousand dollars of cryptocurrency and make 393 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 2: a hundred million. That's not how this works. You got 394 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 2: to have money to lose. 395 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: Correct disposed You gotta have this. You gotta have even 396 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:05,720 Speaker 1: when the stock market's like, Okay, I got money, and 397 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: that I can sit aside for five ten years and 398 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna miss it. Absolutely, because if you don't. 399 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 3: Absolutely and what we need to do. 400 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 2: When you see a black man running Beatrice Foods and 401 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:18,600 Speaker 2: when you see a black man doing the things that 402 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,679 Speaker 2: these black billionaires are doing, yes you can do that 403 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 2: if we come together. But if we don't have the 404 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:28,800 Speaker 2: money to lose, don't play with people's money, right, it's 405 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 2: just light raising the sun. When they got that Isshir's 406 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,119 Speaker 2: money and they supposed to get that liquor stone, they 407 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 2: go to mess them up the money. That's what it's about. 408 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:39,679 Speaker 2: And you can't mess up people money because people need it. 409 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 1: Absolutely, Are you okay? Being the bread winning a relationship. 410 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:47,360 Speaker 3: I'm not the bread winner and the relationship. 411 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 2: You mean any man I'm with. 412 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not the bread winner and a relationship. 413 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 1: But would you be okay if you were, I'm not. 414 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 2: There's no man I know from you or the the 415 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 2: He got a regular job. 416 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 3: You work at a warehouse. He is the head of 417 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 3: the household. 418 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:06,479 Speaker 2: He is the bread winner. 419 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 3: I will chip in as he see fit because he's 420 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 3: the Now, this is the way I was raised. A 421 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:13,000 Speaker 3: lot of women not gonna agree with me. 422 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: I ain't gonna ree with that. 423 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 3: I'm cool if you don't, but about to tear you up, Cheryl, tear. 424 00:18:18,280 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 2: Me up, because here's the thing. Even if I make 425 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 2: more money, it doesn't. 426 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 3: Make me the bread winner. Oh okay, it doesn't make 427 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 3: me the bread winner. 428 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 2: It makes me the baby. What you say you wanta do? 429 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 3: What or what you want for Christmas? 430 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 2: You want a pony? 431 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,280 Speaker 3: Okay, nigga, I got you? 432 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: Sure? You know like what the bread winner? You know 433 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: he has Normally that person has the larger voice in 434 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: the relationship. 435 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:43,520 Speaker 2: He's a man, he's going to have. This is what 436 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 2: you got the money? No, this is what I believe. 437 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 2: I believe. I am advice and concurrence. He is the 438 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,119 Speaker 2: head of the household. Now is how I believe the 439 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:57,960 Speaker 2: word did not originate with me. He is the head 440 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 2: of households. People need to start reasoning Ephesians. That's probably 441 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 2: I may be strong willed, I may make money, but 442 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:05,720 Speaker 2: I'm not the head of the household. 443 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 3: But what I watch my mama, Mama who raised me, 444 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:10,120 Speaker 3: and my daddy. 445 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,440 Speaker 2: I've watched them talk on Saturday morning, and my brother 446 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,760 Speaker 2: Chris will tell you this. I watch them talk on 447 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:19,119 Speaker 2: Saturday morning, and they settle the differences and come out unified. 448 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:21,840 Speaker 3: I am not the head of the house. 449 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 2: I may be an influencer, especially if this man has children, 450 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:30,360 Speaker 2: right right, I want to make his life better and easier. 451 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:33,200 Speaker 2: But I'm not the head of the household. Even if 452 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:36,560 Speaker 2: I have access to more money. What happens If I 453 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 2: don't have access to more money and we gotta live 454 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 2: off his money, then we're gonna be eating peanut butter 455 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,400 Speaker 2: and jelly sandwichs and fry blona because I love fried 456 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,199 Speaker 2: blonia salwich and I like this a salami, fried salami 457 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 2: with the pepper corn delicious. But if we got to. 458 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 3: Live off of that, he is still the man in 459 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 3: the head of the household. 460 00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 1: Women don't think like that no more. 461 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 2: Well I think like that, and why the hell I'm 462 00:19:56,840 --> 00:20:00,720 Speaker 2: not married hebby and so. But that's what I believe it. 463 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 2: And I want a man young or old to see that. 464 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,439 Speaker 2: In younger old, what you mean, I go from thirty 465 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 2: five to ninety five? Come on, wooddrobe. 466 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 3: Five five? How that your cat man? 467 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:18,919 Speaker 1: Sure you ain't looking for no thirty five year. 468 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,320 Speaker 3: Old young men talk to me. 469 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:23,800 Speaker 1: I know, but you ain't want that pressure. You ain't 470 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 1: trying to get that pressure like that? 471 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 2: What kind of pressure you talking about? 472 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:28,040 Speaker 1: Back beat in on the rigs. 473 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 2: Yes to me, I know how to hold my own 474 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:34,880 Speaker 2: I know how to rock. So let's go a little boy, 475 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 2: Come on and ate this cereal, rid this big wheel 476 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 2: and stop playing. 477 00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: So what's to day? Obviously there's not any word that 478 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: you're gonna be able to go that people are not 479 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 1: going to know who you are. 480 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 2: It's my voice, Yeah, it's really my voice when I 481 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:51,480 Speaker 2: when I go through the drive through the order my popeyes, 482 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 2: it's thirty five negroes in the winter. I told you 483 00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 2: why you. 484 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 3: Need all this shrimper chickens. I thought you was losing weight. 485 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: So what's the dating scene like for Cheryl Underwood? 486 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:10,239 Speaker 2: How should I answer this employee at a millennium, I 487 00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 2: would say, uh, I wish I wish that that, uh, 488 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 2: someone would appreciate what I bring to the table, and 489 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 2: I wish that. 490 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,880 Speaker 3: I don't mind a man who has children. I don't 491 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:27,640 Speaker 3: mind a man who. 492 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,240 Speaker 1: Has lesson Yeah, because you ain't having none. 493 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 3: So yeah, can my transmission been drops? 494 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 2: I'm out if I'm pregnant every three wives but the 495 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:41,600 Speaker 2: dog because it's crisman. Listen. I think the dating saying. 496 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 3: Well, first, I don't go out a lot. 497 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 2: I work a lot, and when I'm at home, I'm 498 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:54,359 Speaker 2: happy to be home. I have people, a person situation okay, 499 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 2: but you know you never know, you know? Ling along? 500 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,800 Speaker 2: But die you must you. I mean to ask, how 501 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 2: is the dating scene? You have to ask the men 502 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 2: because I mean, I will approach a man, but I 503 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:07,640 Speaker 2: like to be approached. 504 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:09,200 Speaker 3: I like, would you I grew up when you? 505 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 2: Would you? 506 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 3: Would you like to dance? 507 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 2: Would you like to go to the movies or something? 508 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:14,040 Speaker 3: I'm looking for that. 509 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:16,120 Speaker 1: I'm looking no light rejection. 510 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:17,919 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna reject you. 511 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 2: If you mad enough to walk across the room and 512 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,879 Speaker 2: walk through three of my best girlfriends and go, hello, Cheryl. 513 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,360 Speaker 3: My name is Rodney Jenkinson. 514 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: I don't know why I picked ye. No light to 515 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:30,880 Speaker 1: be rejected. 516 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 3: You're not gonna be rejected. 517 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's the possibility you might. 518 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 2: No, Okay, go ahead, let's play the role action. 519 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:38,680 Speaker 3: Ask now, ask now? 520 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 2: Do you want to go for a Hamburger or something? 521 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: Saying okay, this, this is how we're doing. Okay, my name, 522 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: I know. 523 00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 2: Let's all I got to do is take these muscle relaxes, 524 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 2: go to the Hamburger place, get to Hamburgers. To me, 525 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 2: it's all the popping. 526 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 3: My name is Saddy Chip. 527 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 2: I don't know why you even think you need to 528 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,920 Speaker 2: tell me you're not I'm already taking my clothes. I've 529 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 2: even gotten the cars nacking. 530 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 3: On the curve. 531 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,399 Speaker 1: Why would you would you do online? Day? Would you 532 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: all like I am? 533 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 3: I'm on like E Harmony, reah and all that. 534 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 2: But I don't think people believe it's me. I don't 535 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,239 Speaker 2: think people believe me. And as matter of fact, I'm 536 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 2: about to cancel all of that. I'm about to cancel 537 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 2: all of that. Listen, I I if you are coming 538 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 2: to the mix and mingle tour and would like to 539 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 2: date me, just walk up to me, because I think 540 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 2: men believe already have someone, you know, and you. 541 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 1: Kind of do. 542 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 2: What you know. I don't know. I thought I walked 543 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,160 Speaker 2: in here by my damn no, but who I got? Well, 544 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 2: let me just say this. I think that people think 545 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 2: that we all have it together stand up comedy or 546 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,920 Speaker 2: really in your career, feel too. It's the loneliest thing 547 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,119 Speaker 2: in the world because you're talking to the world, but 548 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 2: you go home alone and then you got to hope 549 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,479 Speaker 2: that the person is there for long jevity, you know. 550 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:14,560 Speaker 2: So I mean, yes, I would like for a man 551 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 2: that's in my vicinity to say, stop looking, you found 552 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 2: you found it. That's right, that's right. And I don't 553 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 2: care about age, and I don't care about things that 554 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,919 Speaker 2: you would think if you want to date me, like 555 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 2: I said, I take a fry bolognay Sam. If you say, well, 556 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:33,360 Speaker 2: what we're gonna do on the first day, You're gonna 557 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,120 Speaker 2: fry some bologna, get some nice good bread. It don't 558 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:39,119 Speaker 2: have to be name brand bread and good muster you 559 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,920 Speaker 2: know French is you know good muster with the crush 560 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:44,440 Speaker 2: around the bologna. That's a date for me. That's a 561 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 2: date we could sit in the car and listen to 562 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 2: music all night. 563 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,159 Speaker 1: Oh so you ain't got well it, You ain't got 564 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,720 Speaker 1: to worry gonna be the high and didy place and 565 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: spend five six hundred dollars on the first day. 566 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 3: Huh. 567 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 2: If if he after we did some reasonably priced things 568 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,920 Speaker 2: and we're a couple, wanted to go to those places, 569 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:03,800 Speaker 2: I would. 570 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 3: Want to open the door. 571 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:05,720 Speaker 1: But that ain't got to be the first date. 572 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 2: No, no, no, And I wouldn't want a man to 573 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 2: break the bank trying to impress me, because you can't 574 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:12,680 Speaker 2: do it every day. 575 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:16,200 Speaker 3: That's why I tell a man don't start out buying flower. 576 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: I leave with money. 577 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:18,400 Speaker 3: That's right. 578 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 2: If you if you ain't got it now, if you 579 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 2: got it, you ain't got to do it either, keep it. 580 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:24,199 Speaker 3: I need you to keep it. 581 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 2: What if I need If you spending all your money 582 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,040 Speaker 2: trying to get someone, and when I asked you eight, 583 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 2: nigg let me hold five hundred, I. 584 00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:31,399 Speaker 3: Ain't got it. 585 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,919 Speaker 2: I ain't got it because you spent it all on 586 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 2: me where you could have saved the money. 587 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 3: And I've been here all week. 588 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 2: It's got to mix a mingle to. 589 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,199 Speaker 3: Get me on all social media. Yes, that is me 590 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 3: trying to learn social media. 591 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,000 Speaker 1: Have you seen the Davy show pop the ballue? 592 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:51,600 Speaker 3: Yeah? 593 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:54,480 Speaker 2: What and then you popped the balloon if you don't 594 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:54,680 Speaker 2: like it? 595 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't. 596 00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:00,960 Speaker 2: Well, I think that's interesting TV content. I just don't 597 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,520 Speaker 2: think that's real life. Okay, you ain't poping on balloon 598 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:04,960 Speaker 2: on me just because you don't like my toes. 599 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 3: So what you got out of City five? Right here? 600 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,439 Speaker 2: That's a bunyan that's a corn and a bunyance. 601 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,160 Speaker 1: How you a dressed or something like that? 602 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 2: Yeah? I don't. 603 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:18,719 Speaker 1: Have we gotten to superficial. 604 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,680 Speaker 2: I think we're no more superficial than we we've been 605 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:27,520 Speaker 2: because some people men like what they see women here, 606 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 2: that's right. But when you get to social media, that's 607 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:33,800 Speaker 2: when you have a problem. 608 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:35,880 Speaker 3: And when you let other people get in your ear. 609 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 1: Yeah see that's right, that's right. 610 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 2: Any man walking with me unnear me. I don't give 611 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,880 Speaker 2: what the world is talking about. You're my man. 612 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,680 Speaker 3: I love you. I want you to look good, smell good. 613 00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:50,960 Speaker 3: I believe in the smell good. 614 00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,520 Speaker 1: Yeah that's me. Well, I'm gonna get me one day. 615 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,400 Speaker 1: Listen I'm gonna get me a young one. Then say, hey, 616 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: charl say thirty five, thirty five. 617 00:26:59,160 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 3: That's right. 618 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 2: I like. I like the smell of a man. You 619 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 2: know what really turned me on is I don't went 620 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 2: to bed early because I like to go to bed early. 621 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 2: Because I get up early in the morning and my 622 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:14,320 Speaker 2: man come in smelling like club tobacco and brown liquor. 623 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 3: That's snuggle up on me like that. I'm like, listen, 624 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:19,000 Speaker 3: you're gonna be laying. 625 00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:19,480 Speaker 1: For church. 626 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:22,120 Speaker 3: For church. 627 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:22,440 Speaker 1: Now. 628 00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 2: I like I like a man. I like a man 629 00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:25,520 Speaker 2: to be. 630 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 3: No matter what your age, you must be the man. 631 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,680 Speaker 3: You must be the man. Sure, say thirty five to sixty, 632 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 3: thirty five, ninety five, I goes ninety five. 633 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a young tenderoni to a ninety five woodrow woodrow. 634 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 1: Maliki. 635 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a matter of fact, we gonna have double 636 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,200 Speaker 2: scooters drop around being in a casino playing and it's lot. 637 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,200 Speaker 3: I'm ready. You was in World War two, you can 638 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,960 Speaker 3: get it. If he was a tuskega aramine, you. 639 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 1: Get a check, let me take you something. 640 00:27:58,440 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 3: Let the old dude take that by. 641 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,240 Speaker 2: You gonna get worn out like a thirty five year. 642 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,160 Speaker 3: Remarks and listen. 643 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,880 Speaker 2: I'll be like, look, look at Woodrow, look at Rufus. 644 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 2: You did you were up here listening to Johnny Taylor 645 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:14,640 Speaker 2: as Sam and Dave. 646 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:17,160 Speaker 1: What about marriage? You open to get married? 647 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:18,639 Speaker 2: I believe in it. 648 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 3: I don't like to have sex on the first day, 649 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,160 Speaker 3: but I mean, I can't. 650 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 2: Get caught slipping. 651 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,040 Speaker 3: I'd be like, hey, let me. 652 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 2: Take my shoes off first. But you know, I prefer 653 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,239 Speaker 2: to be married. I prefer to be married, and I 654 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 2: don't like sex on the first day. 655 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:38,160 Speaker 1: I mean if you if if you don't get married, 656 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,720 Speaker 1: would you consider would that be a no? 657 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:43,840 Speaker 2: No? 658 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 3: No? I mean yes, hell noka. 659 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 2: No man worth his manhood in his backbone put a 660 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 2: key in anything I own and walk in like he 661 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:54,040 Speaker 2: run it or he owned it. 662 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 3: You're not a man. That's that's not that's not how 663 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:56,680 Speaker 3: to go. 664 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 2: I want you to live in your own separate house 665 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 2: and I live in my own separate house until you 666 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 2: make a decision that I'm worthy to be your wife. Right. 667 00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: Have you ever had a key to a man's house? 668 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 2: Hell? No, that's your sh I'm like that. 669 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,800 Speaker 1: See people laugh at me because I say I ain't 670 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:14,240 Speaker 1: never had a key to a woman's house. 671 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,200 Speaker 2: This to me. I want you to live. You can 672 00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 2: live right next door. 673 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:18,040 Speaker 3: I don't care, you. 674 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,040 Speaker 2: Know, I just want to be We be monogamous toward 675 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 2: each other because I want to be able to trust 676 00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 2: you and you trust me. You know you you can't 677 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:26,600 Speaker 2: have no key. 678 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,640 Speaker 1: To my thof you know, anybody come over there and 679 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:29,120 Speaker 1: see something. 680 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 2: You don't see everything. 681 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,640 Speaker 3: I got out the bathtob fast enough. You don't see 682 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:34,960 Speaker 3: it all. 683 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 2: You see all of this, and I done lost one 684 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 2: hundred almost one hundred and ten pounds, thank you, doctor Zuri. 685 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 2: More you need to interview my doctor on how I 686 00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 2: got healthy and lost the way. Health and wellness is 687 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,880 Speaker 2: a big thing for me. But no, I can't shack 688 00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:50,360 Speaker 2: with no man. I don't. I don't want to shack 689 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 2: with no man. And especially if you have children, I 690 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,880 Speaker 2: don't want to show. And then you got daughters. 691 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh hell no, I'm not gonna show your daughter 692 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,360 Speaker 3: how to be horse. I'm not doing it. Oh man, 693 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 3: I'm not doing it. 694 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 2: See that? See that? Now you're looking at it different. 695 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,480 Speaker 2: Now you'll be like, I should have married this. How 696 00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:10,440 Speaker 2: many years ago? Was it? 697 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:12,560 Speaker 1: Thirty two? 698 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:13,880 Speaker 3: See? 699 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 2: We could have been growing our empty we could have 700 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 2: been crypto currency down. We're selling it brober Hi, I'm 701 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,800 Speaker 2: selling underwood. And when I want to turn up, I 702 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 2: drink dish right here. Matter of fact, I put this 703 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 2: in pecan pie. 704 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,440 Speaker 1: You could see. Jeff Bezos is getting married hen His 705 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 1: wedding is estimated cost five hundred million dollars. 706 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,200 Speaker 2: I could do it for the lolo process of fifteen 707 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:45,080 Speaker 2: hundred include. But I give it up for old girl 708 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:50,560 Speaker 2: doog uh. I give it up for hot She really 709 00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:54,120 Speaker 2: helped him. Now if she could just help him in 710 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 2: the political space. You see what I'm saying, do something 711 00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:01,720 Speaker 2: more with that money? Right other people? And that's why 712 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,240 Speaker 2: that's the other reason why my tour is called the 713 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 2: mix and Mingle tour. 714 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:05,760 Speaker 3: We've got to find out. 715 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 2: Why would have the country vote in a way that 716 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,920 Speaker 2: may cost them things in the long run. 717 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:13,480 Speaker 1: And they really they're voting against their best own best. 718 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 2: Dangeries, absolutely absolutely, just because of some other issue. See 719 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 2: that's the next time we get together, talk about politics, 720 00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 2: talk about the world events and things like that. But 721 00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 2: if she can influence him to say, you have all 722 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 2: this money, what good are you gonna do with it? 723 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 2: And I want to shout out the CEO of Costco. 724 00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,520 Speaker 2: You know the CEOs that are standing up in sale. 725 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,840 Speaker 3: We're going to keep that, Yes, absolutely absolutely. 726 00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 2: And you know who else I want to shout out 727 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 2: the young brother that's running Red Lobster. 728 00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:45,720 Speaker 3: Now you talking to me about dating? 729 00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:48,880 Speaker 2: I would love to do an unscripted show where I 730 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 2: go on dates and the only place we go on 731 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,160 Speaker 2: is Red Lobster. Every city a man want to go 732 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 2: to real live. As long as you're not allergic to seafood, 733 00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:56,520 Speaker 2: let's go hit. 734 00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,080 Speaker 1: All these red life I'm a seafood. 735 00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 3: Oh well, damn, you. 736 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 2: Can't go there. You know you can get a chattter biscuit. 737 00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,680 Speaker 2: That's all you can eat. That's all you could eat. 738 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 2: But I want to help a helpless young brother really 739 00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:08,960 Speaker 2: grow a Red Lobster. 740 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: Yes, I heard you say women shouldn't get divorced because 741 00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,800 Speaker 1: of cheating, especially if the man has money. Why do 742 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 1: you say that? You know women women? They told you up? Cherl. 743 00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:18,440 Speaker 1: Did you tell me they told you up? 744 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 3: My tiger Wood Joe. I would have never divorced tager Woods. 745 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 2: I do't giving how many perkins and that would unattractive waitress. Yes, sorry, 746 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 2: not that I don't love the pie. I'm just saying 747 00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:33,320 Speaker 2: the girls, why would you divorce him? You grew this dude, 748 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,760 Speaker 2: you making him the man that he became. Why would 749 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 2: you let another take what you grew? And you got 750 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,160 Speaker 2: to learn how to forgive because I'm sure as women 751 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 2: we've done something. 752 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 3: He may or may not know about. And now you mad? 753 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,040 Speaker 3: Is he cheating all the time? 754 00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 2: And you knew he was a dog when you met him, 755 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:55,360 Speaker 2: and you thought you're what's going to change him? That's 756 00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 2: not change a man, you don't, But a blow job 757 00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:05,480 Speaker 2: will make a man reconsider his position. What, okay? 758 00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 3: So listen, I just don't believe in divorce. I don't. 759 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:09,960 Speaker 3: I don't want to know. 760 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,040 Speaker 1: Well, I mean until they say death dar part. You 761 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:14,000 Speaker 1: took that you. 762 00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:17,120 Speaker 2: First death do as part? You can't be whooping my ass. 763 00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,880 Speaker 2: But I'm not divorcing you now. If you whooping my ass, 764 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,440 Speaker 2: I got to call somebody over and handle this. You know, 765 00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,640 Speaker 2: three four dudes out with prom Night or my brothers, 766 00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 2: some street dudes, you know, Kelo and them. I give 767 00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,880 Speaker 2: you fifty dollars and and lump him up. 768 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:32,400 Speaker 3: That's right. 769 00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 2: But for me, I just I believe you should always 770 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 2: forgive as long as he hasn't crossed the line that 771 00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:41,600 Speaker 2: you can't come back from. But you need to tell 772 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,040 Speaker 2: him that here are my deal breakers, and then ask 773 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:45,800 Speaker 2: him what are your deal breakers? 774 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,120 Speaker 3: And as long as we can come together and go. 775 00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 2: I was wrong. 776 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,360 Speaker 3: I was wrong because a lot of women will hold 777 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:52,360 Speaker 3: to pus the hostage. 778 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:54,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then the man go out, Well, you wouldn't 779 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 2: give me no ane, So I went out and got it. Well, 780 00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,680 Speaker 2: why didn't you just talk to me about Well, why 781 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 2: are you mad at me that you're in something that 782 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,200 Speaker 2: might that's right, that's that's the right. And if you 783 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:05,880 Speaker 2: can talk to a man and get a man to 784 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,480 Speaker 2: trust you. See, women have other women to talk to 785 00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:12,320 Speaker 2: to get it out of them. Men don't have another 786 00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,400 Speaker 2: man to talk. You can't go to your boys and 787 00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:21,799 Speaker 2: go I don't know what sir, ass up. You know 788 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 2: you can't do that, right. So if your woman cannot 789 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,319 Speaker 2: forgive you, and she's gonna want to be forgiven by God, 790 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:31,319 Speaker 2: as long as it doesn't cross the line. 791 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,759 Speaker 3: Whooping, Okay, Yeah, you got to go. 792 00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:36,759 Speaker 2: But you knew he was crazy when you met him, 793 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 2: or ass whipper when you're you know, my deal breaker 794 00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:42,360 Speaker 2: is you can't lose all our retirement money because I 795 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:44,960 Speaker 2: can't make this money back. I got pension, I got everything. 796 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,080 Speaker 2: I worked too hard for this. You know my sisters 797 00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:49,720 Speaker 2: depending on me. You got some get rich quick scheme, 798 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,279 Speaker 2: you lose all our money. That's a that's a deal 799 00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:54,479 Speaker 2: breakup for me. But I will tell a man the truth. 800 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 2: We ain't mixing money like that because so. 801 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:02,080 Speaker 1: Okay, you get mad. Yes, he has an account. You 802 00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:03,960 Speaker 1: have an account, and y'all have a joint account. 803 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 3: That's right there. It is right there. 804 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,920 Speaker 2: We have an account, and I put it in there 805 00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,520 Speaker 2: that Now, what if this got growing hands and he 806 00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,279 Speaker 2: in that cryptocurtesy and not we been asked, But he 807 00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:16,840 Speaker 2: don't tell me. He's just pitching off that money and 808 00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:18,759 Speaker 2: growing it and growing it. And then I'll be like, 809 00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,200 Speaker 2: this got a fifteen hundred credits card. 810 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,920 Speaker 3: Didn't know it existed? Baby, I love you. That's see. 811 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:27,799 Speaker 3: That's you want your man to be able to do. 812 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,320 Speaker 3: What do you believe in? What are your dreams? 813 00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,120 Speaker 2: How can I help you become whatever you want to be? 814 00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,640 Speaker 2: That's what I want to do in any relationship. 815 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:41,359 Speaker 1: Sr. Lee Ralph. They've been married over twenty years yup, 816 00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: and they haven't lived together. 817 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,919 Speaker 3: It works, That's what I'm looking forul. 818 00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:49,120 Speaker 1: When I first read this, I was like, ain't no 819 00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:50,120 Speaker 1: way this can be true. 820 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,560 Speaker 2: You know she over there, she go see him, he 821 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,120 Speaker 2: go see her. They go tighten up like Archie bailing 822 00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,520 Speaker 2: the dress. That's right, I'm old, and that's what happens. 823 00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 2: Sometimes some people can live together. Some people cannot. But 824 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,040 Speaker 2: that doesn't mean they don't love each other, and that 825 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 2: doesn't mean they're not monogamous. 826 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:07,719 Speaker 3: That's the other thing. 827 00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,440 Speaker 2: If I can't if I say, well, I need to 828 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 2: see you because I can't trust what you're doing. If 829 00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:15,399 Speaker 2: you can't trust me to go to the grocery store, 830 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,360 Speaker 2: you damn sure can't trust me anywhere else at night. 831 00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,080 Speaker 3: All cheating don't occur at night? 832 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:21,400 Speaker 1: True? 833 00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:22,200 Speaker 2: Am I right? 834 00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:22,800 Speaker 1: You're right? 835 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,000 Speaker 2: But if I love you and you love me, and 836 00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,840 Speaker 2: we respect each other, and I know cheating will break 837 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:29,240 Speaker 2: your heart, I. 838 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:30,319 Speaker 1: Won't do it. 839 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:36,160 Speaker 2: Now. I have done some stuff that's questionable because men 840 00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:38,839 Speaker 2: don't like like and me and you as dating and 841 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 2: we broke up. 842 00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:41,400 Speaker 3: I couldn't get with who's. 843 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:41,760 Speaker 2: Your best friend? 844 00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,120 Speaker 1: Bucket and burns? 845 00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:54,960 Speaker 2: Okay, bucket and burns. Yeah, I like have this do dirte? 846 00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:59,040 Speaker 2: Not that I would do high five white if remade 847 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 2: now that. But if I was messing with one of 848 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,600 Speaker 2: your friends after you and I got together, it's only 849 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:11,360 Speaker 2: meant to hurt you. 850 00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:12,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, am I right? 851 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,200 Speaker 2: That's not cool to do? You know I would tell 852 00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:19,239 Speaker 2: you every man I know I can still talk to 853 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,080 Speaker 2: them and be friends. It may not. I don't like 854 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,120 Speaker 2: to look back. I ain't turned into a pillow salt 855 00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:27,120 Speaker 2: because you if I feel you don't want me. If 856 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,239 Speaker 2: I feel I'm not that girl, even if I put 857 00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:32,200 Speaker 2: in work, I can feel it that I'm not her. 858 00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:33,200 Speaker 3: I'm not her. 859 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:34,839 Speaker 2: So I'm gonna let you go and live, y'all. 860 00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,600 Speaker 3: Yes, right, that's right. But I would never hurt you 861 00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:40,520 Speaker 3: so hard to get with your friends. 862 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,640 Speaker 2: Now. I do have a joke that I tell, but 863 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:44,440 Speaker 2: you gotta come to the mix and mingle to a 864 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:46,480 Speaker 2: twenty twenty five to hear that joke, or how I 865 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,320 Speaker 2: would hurt your feelings if you hurt me really bad? 866 00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 1: You see, like the women like sleeping with robots, now, 867 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,360 Speaker 1: shall is that? I mean? Come on, what's going on? 868 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 1: What's really going on? 869 00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,320 Speaker 2: Well? I have had some you know, battery operated things, 870 00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,120 Speaker 2: and you know something, you know something that I put 871 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:04,719 Speaker 2: a you know a lawnmower, gas lawnmower engine on it, 872 00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:15,360 Speaker 2: you know. But yeah, you have room, Charles, but you know, 873 00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,960 Speaker 2: and you don't really need a robot. There's two fangers 874 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:19,799 Speaker 2: doing for you. I love you, you love me, We 875 00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:27,800 Speaker 2: love you, what little baby. But I I like the 876 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:32,520 Speaker 2: intimacy of the talking and the us in the kitchen 877 00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,479 Speaker 2: and you know, you making the chili or whatever you feel. 878 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:36,600 Speaker 2: You can put turkey in. 879 00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 3: The chili is let me taste it. I like all 880 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 3: of that. Or I like watching TV together. 881 00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:43,040 Speaker 1: Y'all sitting on the cow you. 882 00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:47,000 Speaker 2: Know, yes, yes, yeah, I'm not gonna talk too much 883 00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:49,279 Speaker 2: to you. It depends like if you're watching the game. 884 00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,600 Speaker 2: I don't like talk to a man when he watching TV. 885 00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,839 Speaker 2: I'm gonna slide on you what you're thinking about. I'm 886 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:57,200 Speaker 2: not doing that usually punch in the chain, I'm not 887 00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,359 Speaker 2: doing it. I'm not doing all of that. But if 888 00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:01,640 Speaker 2: I get doesn't mean I'm mad at you. It just 889 00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:02,719 Speaker 2: means I'm thinking right. 890 00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,880 Speaker 3: And I'm really a quiet person and I need my 891 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 3: alone time. 892 00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:08,520 Speaker 2: We could be in the house. I'll be in the bedroom, 893 00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,120 Speaker 2: you be in a living room. But then when it 894 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,200 Speaker 2: comes time for us to meet up together, let's meet up, 895 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,400 Speaker 2: meet up together? Man, what is it? 896 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:16,759 Speaker 3: How many more cars? 897 00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:17,360 Speaker 2: You? God? Damn? 898 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:18,440 Speaker 1: Can I go? 899 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,200 Speaker 2: Peek? No, I'm just you can. I'm good. 900 00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:21,560 Speaker 3: I'm good. 901 00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:22,399 Speaker 2: That was a joke. 902 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,080 Speaker 1: You got it? Did you? Did you actually have an 903 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,480 Speaker 1: escort service? Yes? 904 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:27,879 Speaker 3: I did. 905 00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 2: You let me go one of my first companies because 906 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,000 Speaker 2: I was going to when I got to l A, 907 00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:37,799 Speaker 2: I was going to events by myself and uh, you know, 908 00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 2: you go to get a ticket to the Grammys, you know. 909 00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,600 Speaker 2: Or I went to the last Tyson fight in Memphis 910 00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:44,920 Speaker 2: by myself. 911 00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:46,640 Speaker 1: Oh Landy's Lewis Yep. 912 00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:47,359 Speaker 2: Yep, yep, yep. 913 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:47,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 914 00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:50,080 Speaker 2: I was gonna take my dad, and my dad passed. 915 00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:55,000 Speaker 2: But I I like companionship. 916 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:55,759 Speaker 3: I like to share. 917 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,120 Speaker 2: I like to turn around and go, oh my god, 918 00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,759 Speaker 2: did you see this? Or you know, uh, going to 919 00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,839 Speaker 2: super you know, to be able to go, oh my god, 920 00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:03,960 Speaker 2: did you see that past? Did you see this interception? 921 00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:05,000 Speaker 2: Did you see? You know? 922 00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,479 Speaker 3: All the places that I'm afforded to go. It's great. 923 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,520 Speaker 2: Just like Mahogany, success is nothing without someone you love 924 00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:12,759 Speaker 2: to share it with. Billy Williams was right, and I 925 00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,040 Speaker 2: want somebody to share that with, so to be able 926 00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:20,160 Speaker 2: to go somewhere with somebody, It just brings you close together. 927 00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,759 Speaker 2: So I wanted to hire men that would study the 928 00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:28,160 Speaker 2: woman and go with her to an event. The reason 929 00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:31,640 Speaker 2: I had to stop the company was because some women 930 00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:34,640 Speaker 2: felt that if they pay more than a thousand dollars 931 00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,440 Speaker 2: for this, they should be able to sleep with them. 932 00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 2: And isn't that pandering, pipping, procurement? Is that the three 933 00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,280 Speaker 2: p's and that? So I couldn't do that. I couldn't 934 00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,239 Speaker 2: do it to her, and I didn't want it to 935 00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:48,799 Speaker 2: be done to him. I wanted a man. But if 936 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:51,160 Speaker 2: you want it, you can't. You can't get it through 937 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:55,920 Speaker 2: my corporation, because that makes me. That's right, leg I 938 00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,799 Speaker 2: believe in pimp and pip and pipping, but I don't 939 00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,160 Speaker 2: believe in breaking the lot. You get what you get 940 00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,919 Speaker 2: what I'm saying, because we might bring the dancers back. 941 00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:06,520 Speaker 2: We might audition a team of dancers and bring that 942 00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:10,080 Speaker 2: show back. And that helped me double quadruple my money 943 00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 2: when I added a mail exotic and we call it 944 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,520 Speaker 2: sexual interpretive dance. You know, But I may bring that 945 00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:19,200 Speaker 2: show back because I do believe that women should let 946 00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:20,800 Speaker 2: off steam, and I believe that men. 947 00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:22,640 Speaker 3: Should be able to go and enjoy themselves. 948 00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,319 Speaker 2: You don't want to be with this girl. You just 949 00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:29,839 Speaker 2: smoking cigars, drinking liquor, and she's naked. That's what it is. 950 00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:33,200 Speaker 2: I would want my man to go and have fun 951 00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,799 Speaker 2: with his boys, even if that means they fishing, or 952 00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:38,560 Speaker 2: they're gambling, or if they go to the strip club. 953 00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:40,400 Speaker 3: Because now, what are you hot. 954 00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,320 Speaker 2: And ready for me? Come on home, Come on home, 955 00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,600 Speaker 2: and let me take that where she'd have got you ready? 956 00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:52,840 Speaker 1: Do you ever sit back and wish as you've gone 957 00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:56,319 Speaker 1: on this journey and you've been so successful, sure, do 958 00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,279 Speaker 1: you wish you had someone by your side to share 959 00:41:58,320 --> 00:41:58,520 Speaker 1: it with? 960 00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,839 Speaker 3: Absolutely? I wish usband had lived. 961 00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:04,359 Speaker 2: I wish my husband had not taken his own life. 962 00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:06,439 Speaker 2: But there's nothing I can do about that. I only 963 00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:11,279 Speaker 2: can accept God's will. I had a whole plan for 964 00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:14,760 Speaker 2: our lives, you know, and I've dated some really great, 965 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:20,799 Speaker 2: great men, and I don't believe there's anything wrong with me. 966 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,600 Speaker 2: I believe that it might not have been the right time. 967 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:27,879 Speaker 2: But what I've wanted to have a husband that would 968 00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:30,719 Speaker 2: have gone through all of this with me. Absolutely, so 969 00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,520 Speaker 2: I can turn to him and go, baby, we did it. 970 00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:38,919 Speaker 1: When your husband took his life. Did you do any 971 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,000 Speaker 1: self reflection? Did you like what was going on? What side? 972 00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,399 Speaker 1: What did I miss? Was it me? Was it something 973 00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:46,640 Speaker 1: that I didn't know about he was dealing with? Did 974 00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,480 Speaker 1: you ever ask yourself those questions? 975 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:50,640 Speaker 3: Absolutely? I mean I got on my knees. 976 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,520 Speaker 2: I started to bargain with God, and I and I 977 00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:57,520 Speaker 2: had you know how you sleep, but your eyes are open, a. 978 00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,840 Speaker 3: Little cracked over, and you could I could hear the radio. 979 00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:02,680 Speaker 3: I can hear, and something said to me, he's gone. 980 00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,880 Speaker 2: And then the phone rang, and then I got a 981 00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:10,840 Speaker 2: call and uh, you know I was in the military, 982 00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:12,240 Speaker 2: you know, so I was in the reserve. 983 00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:13,680 Speaker 3: I was a Medican in the reserve. And I know 984 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:14,879 Speaker 3: what that phone call is. 985 00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:17,520 Speaker 2: They don't tell you what's happened because they need you 986 00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:19,400 Speaker 2: to get to the hospital. So they want me to 987 00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,600 Speaker 2: get to the hospital. And as soon as they told me, 988 00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 2: I fell out, you know, like they're doing. I fell 989 00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:29,319 Speaker 2: out and everything. And but before that I knew he 990 00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,239 Speaker 2: was gone because I believe that the Lord sent me 991 00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:35,799 Speaker 2: the message. And I got on my knees and I 992 00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:37,759 Speaker 2: started to ask God. I started to bargain with God, 993 00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,200 Speaker 2: and then I caught myself and I was ashamed that 994 00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,439 Speaker 2: I did. You cannot bargain with God. His will be done, 995 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:45,880 Speaker 2: and that's that's it. 996 00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:47,759 Speaker 1: You always say to our father's prayse used to let 997 00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:48,399 Speaker 1: that will be done. 998 00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:51,000 Speaker 2: I will be done. I had to accept it. And 999 00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:57,040 Speaker 2: then for me, I was asking myself what maybe. But 1000 00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:01,040 Speaker 2: in getting therapy and one of my good charroty sisters, 1001 00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,600 Speaker 2: doctor Benny Reims, a mentor of mine Zeta Phi Beta, 1002 00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:08,799 Speaker 2: she I was going to therapist, but sometimes you gotta 1003 00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:12,759 Speaker 2: find the right therapist to go to. And she she's 1004 00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 2: a family therapist, and she was helping me navigate this 1005 00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,160 Speaker 2: situation and let me know when a person is in 1006 00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:23,759 Speaker 2: a depressive state. And that's why mental help of men, 1007 00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:27,399 Speaker 2: especially black men, very important, because they're taught to keep 1008 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:28,960 Speaker 2: their feelings inside. Just town. 1009 00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:30,160 Speaker 3: Nobody right, that's right. 1010 00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:35,120 Speaker 2: And so he would either be here and then down here, 1011 00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:37,560 Speaker 2: he'd be up here and then he go down into 1012 00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:38,399 Speaker 2: the valley of death. 1013 00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,040 Speaker 3: And there was nothing I could do about it. But 1014 00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:44,840 Speaker 3: I was young, young married woman. I wanted to be married. 1015 00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,680 Speaker 2: I wanted to be in these clubs, making this money, 1016 00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:50,080 Speaker 2: working on my master's degree, being in the reserve, doing 1017 00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:53,160 Speaker 2: everything that we were building together, and I love a 1018 00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,880 Speaker 2: wounded bird. I love a man who needs me and 1019 00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,080 Speaker 2: I need him, and we gonna grow together. 1020 00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:01,719 Speaker 3: But I think, as my daddy say, don't why me? 1021 00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:05,960 Speaker 2: Why not you? So you you believe heartache and tragedy 1022 00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:07,640 Speaker 2: not supposed to come to your door both it comes 1023 00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:10,400 Speaker 2: to everybody else. Dope, you better learn, son, how to 1024 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,480 Speaker 2: get yourself together. And it taught me I don't have 1025 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,719 Speaker 2: the power of life or death over anybody. Only God 1026 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:20,080 Speaker 2: has that power. Right. But I did think about how 1027 00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,879 Speaker 2: can I be better? And in every relationship I've ever had, 1028 00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:24,759 Speaker 2: I look back at myself and go, how can you 1029 00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:27,880 Speaker 2: be better? So when he comes, when the groom that 1030 00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:33,320 Speaker 2: God is sending me comes, I will be ready. Damn 1031 00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:33,960 Speaker 2: this deeper. 1032 00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:39,160 Speaker 1: Say, hey, you've been in La all this time. You 1033 00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:40,480 Speaker 1: been to the Hollywood parties. 1034 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,040 Speaker 3: I've been to a few parties. 1035 00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:50,880 Speaker 2: Well, first of all, I don't partake because sometimes I 1036 00:45:50,920 --> 00:46:00,239 Speaker 2: forget the lotion my whole body. You can't get bucking naked. No, 1037 00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:04,200 Speaker 2: they're passing by, they're passing by. But I've seen a 1038 00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:08,080 Speaker 2: few things. I've thrown a couple of parties myself. 1039 00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:11,000 Speaker 1: Huh, yes, how you have part of that invite? Me 1040 00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:15,160 Speaker 1: party two years. Who man, you no longer than me. 1041 00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:20,520 Speaker 2: You break out that big ass and you break that 1042 00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:25,600 Speaker 2: Louisville slug up in Heim, you break that Savannah salt 1043 00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,920 Speaker 2: bone up in Hill. The party is over you the 1044 00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:32,520 Speaker 2: bus I like a soon as you pull that out, 1045 00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:36,120 Speaker 2: all the business getting in the car. I'm not doing that. 1046 00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:42,960 Speaker 2: But I thrown a couple of consensual I don't go 1047 00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:45,400 Speaker 2: to the freaking freaky stuff. Uh huh. It used to 1048 00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,680 Speaker 2: be a movie called blue It was a blue collar 1049 00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:52,000 Speaker 2: but y'all fed Codo, Richard Pryor and Harvey Cottel. They 1050 00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:55,759 Speaker 2: were I think they were car workers or something, and 1051 00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:58,640 Speaker 2: they had a little freak party. I was throwing something 1052 00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:03,439 Speaker 2: similar to that wherebody consented, okay, but was nobody being 1053 00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:06,680 Speaker 2: filmed and it wasn't coerced or anything like that. But 1054 00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:10,000 Speaker 2: I'm not the greatest. I don't do things where people 1055 00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:15,160 Speaker 2: can see, you know, do private for that, absolutely absolutely, 1056 00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,680 Speaker 2: And I tell people what you see, ain't what happened. 1057 00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,799 Speaker 2: Don't tell nobody, or you're not gonna get invited to 1058 00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:21,439 Speaker 2: the next that's it. 1059 00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:26,920 Speaker 1: What What are your thoughts on women using their body 1060 00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,799 Speaker 1: to ascend in the industry. 1061 00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:34,600 Speaker 2: I feel if that's what gets you there. Okay, I 1062 00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:37,319 Speaker 2: mean a little sex appeal. I understand that. But if 1063 00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:40,160 Speaker 2: you are sleeping to get to the top, you must 1064 00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,560 Speaker 2: continue to sleep to get to the top. That means 1065 00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:44,640 Speaker 2: you have to leave the dude that got you there 1066 00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:47,080 Speaker 2: and go to the dude that's gonna take you even higher. 1067 00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:51,680 Speaker 2: And people say with Cheryl, have you ever been a proposition? Yeah, 1068 00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,880 Speaker 2: but it doesn't work out because I mean, I've been asked, 1069 00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:56,680 Speaker 2: if you do this, you can go on the road 1070 00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:58,279 Speaker 2: with me. If you do this, I'll give you this 1071 00:47:58,320 --> 00:47:59,880 Speaker 2: part in this movie. If you do this or do this, 1072 00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:04,120 Speaker 2: and I've told men, okay, how about we renegotiating. Now, 1073 00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:05,480 Speaker 2: that's where I'm up right there? Am I? Right? 1074 00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,120 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah already he already told you what 1075 00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:08,920 Speaker 1: what the deal was. 1076 00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:12,000 Speaker 2: Okay, I think I should give a counter proposal. Okay, 1077 00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:14,640 Speaker 2: if you that's a I'm a business person, Okay, if 1078 00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,879 Speaker 2: you tell me I'm doing this first of all, If 1079 00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:20,120 Speaker 2: I'm sleeping with you to advance my career or go 1080 00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:22,560 Speaker 2: on the world, why am I. If I'm supposed to 1081 00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,560 Speaker 2: be your lady, I'm retired. I am now your woman. 1082 00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:28,000 Speaker 3: I am now here to. 1083 00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:32,040 Speaker 2: Meet every need you need now get out there and 1084 00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:35,160 Speaker 2: make more money. And because I'm here when you get back, 1085 00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:37,759 Speaker 2: I got food cooked, I got clothes from drakling. I 1086 00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:41,160 Speaker 2: got everything you need. If that's the offer, but that 1087 00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:42,400 Speaker 2: ain't really the true offer. 1088 00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,279 Speaker 3: You just want to see if I'm down now if you. 1089 00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:46,000 Speaker 2: Want to high let me? How let me? Now? I 1090 00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:50,960 Speaker 2: have told some men, really big time men, Hey, you 1091 00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,280 Speaker 2: want to do this? Won't you wait until we're equals? 1092 00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:58,560 Speaker 2: We could, and it's unequal. How about we wait until 1093 00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:02,239 Speaker 2: we're equals and make love a team? 1094 00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:04,040 Speaker 3: Now what you want? 1095 00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:08,520 Speaker 2: And most men back down because I ain't no gum. 1096 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:11,520 Speaker 3: I ain't no gum. Either you want it forever or 1097 00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:12,520 Speaker 3: you don't want it at all. 1098 00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,520 Speaker 2: So you think you're gonna get some of this, and 1099 00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,640 Speaker 2: I'm supposed to fall for the okie dote, but you're 1100 00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:22,280 Speaker 2: gonna grow my career and I'm still doing taverns? How stupid? 1101 00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:23,640 Speaker 3: Do I look that? I done gave. 1102 00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:27,440 Speaker 2: You some ass for that, because now you don't have 1103 00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:28,160 Speaker 2: nothing to bargain with. 1104 00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:28,840 Speaker 1: Right am I? 1105 00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:29,040 Speaker 2: Right? 1106 00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:30,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't get it, that's right? 1107 00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,839 Speaker 3: What does he need now? So that's why the answer is, 1108 00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:36,120 Speaker 3: let's renegotiate. 1109 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:42,240 Speaker 1: Uh, Toaraji and Monique, that's like, look, we're some innegal 1110 00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,239 Speaker 1: play and field. We don't get the compensation that the 1111 00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:49,120 Speaker 1: fair compensation that we deserve, and uh, we need the 1112 00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:53,680 Speaker 1: industry to take her u a reboot and look at this. Yes, 1113 00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:57,120 Speaker 1: what are your thoughts on that one. 1114 00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:01,840 Speaker 2: I'm proud that Tyler Perry and others, the Carl Weber's, 1115 00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:06,080 Speaker 2: the Dave Talberts, everybody that's out there producer, even the 1116 00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:10,360 Speaker 2: Sisters the Easter are races. Everybody that's out there making content. 1117 00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:13,080 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say it again, Regina King, I think is 1118 00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:18,160 Speaker 2: a genius. It's the financing that you have to get. 1119 00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:21,400 Speaker 2: And because the system doesn't seem to be set up 1120 00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:25,000 Speaker 2: to appreciate our audience. 1121 00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:25,200 Speaker 3: And what we do. 1122 00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:28,880 Speaker 2: It seems like that they think when it's about black people, 1123 00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:32,960 Speaker 2: it's only for us, and white people are voyeuristic or 1124 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:36,279 Speaker 2: other racist people are voyeuristic and looking at us from 1125 00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:37,239 Speaker 2: the outside in. 1126 00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:39,920 Speaker 3: If that's the case, then why it is rap so powerful? 1127 00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:46,240 Speaker 2: If it's just us. I believe that we as talent 1128 00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:52,840 Speaker 2: should be paid equal to anybody, right, but I also 1129 00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:57,919 Speaker 2: understand that the system seems to want to low ball 1130 00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:02,799 Speaker 2: the situation and Unfortunately, our people think that when you're 1131 00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:06,440 Speaker 2: in the entertainment business you are wealthy beyond measure. 1132 00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:08,760 Speaker 3: The job may be few and far between. 1133 00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,480 Speaker 2: I I am no longer on the talk Talk went 1134 00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:14,760 Speaker 2: off the air middle of December, almost in of December. 1135 00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:16,240 Speaker 3: I am back on the road. 1136 00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:19,080 Speaker 2: That's why m we mixing in mingling in twenty twenty five, 1137 00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:22,560 Speaker 2: so I can pay continue to pay my bills even 1138 00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:25,799 Speaker 2: though I'm saving money for retirement. Here's the catch of this. 1139 00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:30,480 Speaker 2: I understand what Taraji's saying, what Monique is saying. And 1140 00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:33,960 Speaker 2: I even spoke to Monique Uh about this, and people say, well, 1141 00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:37,359 Speaker 2: why you didn't support, Why you didn't support I. I 1142 00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:41,120 Speaker 2: don't believe if my voice cannot help the situation, I 1143 00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:44,640 Speaker 2: will not say something that would allow my voice to 1144 00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:48,320 Speaker 2: be used against the situation. You know what I'm saying, R. 1145 00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:51,279 Speaker 2: But we all could be paid uh more money. But 1146 00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:55,360 Speaker 2: I understand who I am Uh to the industry. You 1147 00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:59,120 Speaker 2: see what I'm saying, and and no, everything's not gonna 1148 00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:02,640 Speaker 2: be fair. But if we look at this as a 1149 00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:06,560 Speaker 2: commerce and numbers game, they cannot do anything without us. 1150 00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:09,799 Speaker 2: If we decide one day we're gonna sit down and 1151 00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,439 Speaker 2: you figure this out. If every football player sat down, 1152 00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:16,400 Speaker 2: basketball player sat down and maybe said, if the basketball 1153 00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,320 Speaker 2: players sat down and said, until you paid the w 1154 00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:22,400 Speaker 2: NBA a little bit more money or a lot more money, 1155 00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:25,160 Speaker 2: we're not gonna play, right. You gotta have some leverage, 1156 00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,440 Speaker 2: am I correct? 1157 00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:29,680 Speaker 1: Yes, you gotta have. You gotta have something to bargain 1158 00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:30,799 Speaker 1: if you want to borrogs. 1159 00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:35,960 Speaker 2: Absolutely, And I think when you're making content, we already 1160 00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:38,960 Speaker 2: know when they make content for themselves, a white man 1161 00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:42,120 Speaker 2: will probably always get paid more money because there are 1162 00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:44,400 Speaker 2: people that still believe, well, the white man is the 1163 00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:46,279 Speaker 2: head of the household and he's got to take care 1164 00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:48,439 Speaker 2: of the wife and the children. Well, I'm the head 1165 00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:51,640 Speaker 2: of the household until I get married, and even if 1166 00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,080 Speaker 2: I do have a husband, I should be paid fairly. 1167 00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:57,960 Speaker 2: And that I think that's all Monique and and Taraji 1168 00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:01,839 Speaker 2: was saying, I think I know I could be wrong. 1169 00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:06,680 Speaker 1: How do you negotiating when do you just like, okay 1170 00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:10,640 Speaker 1: the chunter versus okay, I pushed you much, I might 1171 00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:14,400 Speaker 1: lose this deal. How do you walk that fine line? 1172 00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:16,880 Speaker 3: My intuition is rarely off. 1173 00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:21,880 Speaker 2: I know what my number is that I think I 1174 00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:24,400 Speaker 2: should get, but I also do a lot of research. 1175 00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,239 Speaker 2: I have inside people. I'll call around what is so 1176 00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:28,840 Speaker 2: and so getting? What is so and so getting? I 1177 00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:32,600 Speaker 2: remember Sherry Shepherd helping me when I got the job 1178 00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:37,239 Speaker 2: at the top. But I also understand I'm not gonna 1179 00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:41,000 Speaker 2: overplay my hands, right. I always tell my represents, my lawyer, 1180 00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:45,920 Speaker 2: do not negotiate this deal away, negotiate a win A 1181 00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:49,399 Speaker 2: w I N I want the job. I will take 1182 00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:52,040 Speaker 2: this amount of money so I can grow it. When 1183 00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:55,560 Speaker 2: I came to the Talking season two, I ask to God, 1184 00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:59,640 Speaker 2: show me favor. Lord, let me stay here as long 1185 00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:02,480 Speaker 2: as I can so I can build. And I was 1186 00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:07,120 Speaker 2: there till the last episode. So sometimes, like my daddy said, 1187 00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:08,960 Speaker 2: you got to live low to get high. Sometimes you 1188 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:12,319 Speaker 2: take less money, but you get longevity if you can 1189 00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:13,640 Speaker 2: stand it. If you can stand it. 1190 00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,440 Speaker 3: But sometimes you can't stand it, or sometimes it's unfair. 1191 00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:19,080 Speaker 2: Then you gotta have an ally. I call it the 1192 00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:22,280 Speaker 2: fairy godmother or the fairy godfather. It's somebody that's. 1193 00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:22,520 Speaker 1: Gonna come in. 1194 00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:24,839 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, we're not gonna pay that. What 1195 00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:26,920 Speaker 2: is that craft service money? What it was that? 1196 00:54:26,960 --> 00:54:29,200 Speaker 3: We're not gonna do that. You gotta have somebody on 1197 00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:32,000 Speaker 3: your side that will go in and say no, this 1198 00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,000 Speaker 3: is what we're going to do. Somebody put their thumb 1199 00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:34,560 Speaker 3: on the scale. 1200 00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:38,000 Speaker 1: You mentioned earlier that you lost over one hundred pounds. 1201 00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:39,960 Speaker 1: You took we gov that. 1202 00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm on we goov right now. Started on sex cender. 1203 00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:44,239 Speaker 1: Now I'm on we govy we caly injected to help 1204 00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:48,319 Speaker 1: suppress appetite instead of getting gasic bypass surgery. What has 1205 00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:49,360 Speaker 1: that done for you? Cheryl? 1206 00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:56,560 Speaker 2: I believe that the medication changes your impulses, reward impulses, 1207 00:54:57,360 --> 00:54:59,320 Speaker 2: also anxiety impulses. 1208 00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,000 Speaker 3: As you notice, I'm calmer than I've ever been. 1209 00:55:02,160 --> 00:55:04,840 Speaker 2: You are since we've known each other all these years. 1210 00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:11,880 Speaker 2: Because I can be arrested, I can rembum. But I 1211 00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:14,719 Speaker 2: thank God for having a black doctor, doctor Zory Maround. 1212 00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:16,080 Speaker 3: I'm not saying nothing against my white doctor. 1213 00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:18,759 Speaker 2: Doctor Copin is an amazing doctor over atsea to sign 1214 00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:19,800 Speaker 2: on and and. 1215 00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:21,399 Speaker 3: He's he's gotten me this far. 1216 00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:26,600 Speaker 2: But I will tell you to be able to uh 1217 00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:32,160 Speaker 2: handle weight and stress and and and uh high blood 1218 00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:35,839 Speaker 2: pressure and pre diabetes and things like that. Now. I 1219 00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:40,799 Speaker 2: enjoy walking, I enjoy drinking water, I enjoy eating vegetables 1220 00:55:40,840 --> 00:55:44,279 Speaker 2: and everything. I enjoy it with everything else that I 1221 00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:46,839 Speaker 2: enjoy in life because I believe when the Bible say 1222 00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:50,080 Speaker 2: everything God made was good, I enjoy that. And you 1223 00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:53,200 Speaker 2: get to a certain age and comedy on the road 1224 00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,520 Speaker 2: is a is a rough life. It's a great life, 1225 00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,120 Speaker 2: but you're gonna eat in fast food places, a certain place, 1226 00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,719 Speaker 2: you're gonna laid, you're gonna sleep in, and things like that. 1227 00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,399 Speaker 2: I enjoy being able to exercise and do the things 1228 00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:07,440 Speaker 2: I want to do it, and I want to do 1229 00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:11,000 Speaker 2: it as a lifestyle change. The ejection got me to 1230 00:56:11,040 --> 00:56:12,759 Speaker 2: where I need to go, and I'll probably stay on 1231 00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:15,440 Speaker 2: this for the rest of my life. The studies that 1232 00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,000 Speaker 2: I've read seem to suggest that you stay on it 1233 00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:19,319 Speaker 2: for the rest of your life. And I'd love to 1234 00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:22,600 Speaker 2: testify before Congress and be a representative of one of 1235 00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:24,960 Speaker 2: these companies so that we need to lower the price 1236 00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:28,399 Speaker 2: of these medications. When you get them overseas, they're about 1237 00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,560 Speaker 2: two thirds cheaper than what they are here in the 1238 00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:35,839 Speaker 2: United States. The other thing is, if you get me healthier, 1239 00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:39,359 Speaker 2: I can pay you more insurance premium when you want 1240 00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:43,960 Speaker 2: that more than an amputation, Because maybe that's what the 1241 00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:46,160 Speaker 2: doctor thinks is the thing that he needs to do. 1242 00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:48,759 Speaker 3: A lot of doctors don't believe. 1243 00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,840 Speaker 2: In the medications, right, Oh, you could just exercise what 1244 00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,120 Speaker 2: some people need assistance, and I want to be the 1245 00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:55,000 Speaker 2: example of that. 1246 00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:58,640 Speaker 3: To show this works. It just needs to be cheaper. 1247 00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:00,279 Speaker 2: If I wasn't living the life that I love living, 1248 00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,640 Speaker 2: I wouldn't be able to pay for it. And now 1249 00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:04,440 Speaker 2: that's why I got to keep working so I can 1250 00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:06,759 Speaker 2: keep paying for it. But I love how I look, 1251 00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:09,600 Speaker 2: I love how I feel, and I want other people 1252 00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:13,440 Speaker 2: to be able to get these medications. 1253 00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:16,240 Speaker 1: You mentioned your show The Talk. I mean you're on 1254 00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:17,320 Speaker 1: what fifteen seasons? 1255 00:57:17,840 --> 00:57:20,040 Speaker 3: I came season two. 1256 00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:23,600 Speaker 1: Fourteen fourteen seasons and you see all these other Jennifer 1257 00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:26,080 Speaker 1: Huston has one La Fantastic left hers. 1258 00:57:26,960 --> 00:57:28,200 Speaker 2: Sherry Shepard? Did you ever? 1259 00:57:28,280 --> 00:57:31,200 Speaker 1: Did you ever want to be on a daytime talk show? 1260 00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:33,640 Speaker 1: Do you ever think it was possible? 1261 00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,400 Speaker 2: You mean when I was getting a phone call? I 1262 00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:37,800 Speaker 2: mean before I got this job. 1263 00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:39,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, before you got the job? Did you really? 1264 00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,919 Speaker 2: What happened? I was working a club in New York 1265 00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,919 Speaker 2: call Caroline Okay, and Sherry Shepherd was on the View, 1266 00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:50,120 Speaker 2: so I came to see her do the View. We've 1267 00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:54,400 Speaker 2: been friends for years and she Reba McIntyre was the guest, 1268 00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:55,880 Speaker 2: and I love Revama country. 1269 00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:57,880 Speaker 3: I love country music. You know, go ahead, Beyonce. 1270 00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:59,720 Speaker 2: You know. So Reva Macatize was a guest. 1271 00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,560 Speaker 3: I was, you know, I like you. 1272 00:58:02,640 --> 00:58:06,440 Speaker 2: She was like, ooh, this some touching. But see I 1273 00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:10,160 Speaker 2: love Reaba Macatie, love all the songs. So I hear 1274 00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:14,520 Speaker 2: Sherry leaning over. Cherry introduces me to the audience, and everybody, 1275 00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,400 Speaker 2: the people that know me clap and Sherry leans. 1276 00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:19,840 Speaker 3: Over to Joy Bahar and go. 1277 00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:22,560 Speaker 2: You know, you should get Cheryl Underwood to do your 1278 00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:26,400 Speaker 2: comedy corner and whoopee Co signs it. And I go 1279 00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:29,680 Speaker 2: on the show and I do some political humor and 1280 00:58:30,320 --> 00:58:32,160 Speaker 2: just tear it apart, and they invite me back and 1281 00:58:32,200 --> 00:58:37,080 Speaker 2: I do it again. I never thought someone like me 1282 00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:41,040 Speaker 2: could even do it, you know, or be afforded to 1283 00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:44,800 Speaker 2: do it, and to watch Lonnie Love, you know, out 1284 00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:48,000 Speaker 2: there doing it. Comedy is a great female comedy is 1285 00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:51,400 Speaker 2: a great sorority. I'm a Zeta in the Black Sorority, 1286 00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:54,800 Speaker 2: the NPA ces right, the four sorotis aka Delta Semi, 1287 00:58:54,840 --> 00:58:58,800 Speaker 2: Gammerou and Zeta Phi Beta. But to be a female 1288 00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:02,160 Speaker 2: comic things so when one of us succeeds, all of 1289 00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:05,920 Speaker 2: us succeeds. So for me to get that job, the 1290 00:59:06,160 --> 00:59:10,400 Speaker 2: pride in my colleagues' face, male and female. 1291 00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:13,360 Speaker 3: The hugging Mike Epps comes on the show. 1292 00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:17,439 Speaker 2: We hugging George Lopez, all of us are hugging Kevin Hart. 1293 00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:19,000 Speaker 3: We're all hugging each other. 1294 00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:21,720 Speaker 2: If I could have got more people on, I would 1295 00:59:21,720 --> 00:59:26,200 Speaker 2: have right but to be able to do it. If 1296 00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:29,439 Speaker 2: God could put all of this together in six days 1297 00:59:29,480 --> 00:59:32,120 Speaker 2: and rest on the seventh, he can open doors for 1298 00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:32,680 Speaker 2: all of us. 1299 00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:34,840 Speaker 3: And I'm just proud to be there. 1300 00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:37,680 Speaker 2: And I'm probably the only person that's hosted the Daytime 1301 00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:42,680 Speaker 2: Emmy's five times. I love Daytime TV. I'd love to 1302 00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:46,480 Speaker 2: have my own talk show. So the podcast would be 1303 00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:49,160 Speaker 2: like a talk show, and I'd be able to talk 1304 00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:52,040 Speaker 2: and relax language and interview everybody. 1305 00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:55,320 Speaker 3: I want to. Okay, Ken, we're doing the Los Angeles 1306 00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:56,640 Speaker 3: because I don't, you know, I don't like to drive. 1307 00:59:56,680 --> 00:59:57,560 Speaker 3: I can't drive good. 1308 00:59:57,600 --> 00:59:58,160 Speaker 1: I can't drive. 1309 00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:00,760 Speaker 3: I drive all right, I'm driving day I can't. 1310 01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:01,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. 1311 01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:02,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, I'm sure, don't we do it? 1312 01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:04,480 Speaker 1: I'm sure that probably probably you. 1313 01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:06,280 Speaker 3: Heard them here, boys and girls. He said, wait a minute. 1314 01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:08,080 Speaker 3: I didn't. I didn't ask the most important question, how 1315 01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:09,120 Speaker 3: much do I get paid for this? 1316 01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:11,720 Speaker 1: Well, I mean to probably be a partnership. So you 1317 01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:12,800 Speaker 1: know they ain't gonna be a home. 1318 01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:14,480 Speaker 2: You don't want to be a partnership in love? 1319 01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:16,440 Speaker 3: How are you gonna be a partnership of the podcast? 1320 01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:21,680 Speaker 1: This sounds like some bush This is c your expertise. 1321 01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,160 Speaker 2: Oh so we're gonna make it. We're gonna make a podcast. 1322 01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:27,800 Speaker 1: Yeah no, yeah, we're gonna produce it and things like that. 1323 01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:30,080 Speaker 2: But under yr Yeah, how much is the percentage of 1324 01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:31,840 Speaker 2: the podcast and how much is the partnership? 1325 01:00:33,160 --> 01:00:35,200 Speaker 1: What I mean, it's gonna probably have to be. I mean, 1326 01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:36,960 Speaker 1: we all got to put something up, so we do 1327 01:00:36,960 --> 01:00:37,560 Speaker 1: fifty fifty. 1328 01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:42,440 Speaker 3: That don't sound right, don't find I'm. 1329 01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:45,200 Speaker 1: In charge of production. Yeah, I got to eat. I 1330 01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:47,240 Speaker 1: mean I gotta have producers, we gotta have graphics, we 1331 01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:49,560 Speaker 1: gotta have editors, and. 1332 01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:52,600 Speaker 2: You're gonna get all of that back. Yes, I think 1333 01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:54,000 Speaker 2: your percentage should be lower. 1334 01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:56,440 Speaker 3: I think my when we make. 1335 01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:58,840 Speaker 1: Money because I'm I'm funded up. 1336 01:00:58,800 --> 01:00:59,919 Speaker 3: For the risk. 1337 01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:02,280 Speaker 2: Okay, so okay, this is how it sounds. Boys and girls, 1338 01:01:02,360 --> 01:01:04,560 Speaker 2: So you're gonna assume the risk yes, you're gonna assume 1339 01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:04,840 Speaker 2: the risk. 1340 01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:06,400 Speaker 3: Yes, but you don't believe it's gonna work. 1341 01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:08,680 Speaker 1: Yes, I believe it to like you get sixty forty 1342 01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:10,680 Speaker 1: sixty yeah. 1343 01:01:10,960 --> 01:01:15,120 Speaker 2: You must have me with some other sixty five? 1344 01:01:15,320 --> 01:01:16,840 Speaker 1: Are you going out to get sponsored? 1345 01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:19,560 Speaker 3: That's like that's like I'm gonta say something really sexual. 1346 01:01:19,760 --> 01:01:24,120 Speaker 2: That's like we and you kid me forty Where do 1347 01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:24,760 Speaker 2: we do that? 1348 01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:27,400 Speaker 1: Well, let me ask your question. Are you going out 1349 01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:28,640 Speaker 1: to get the advertising sponsors? 1350 01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:33,280 Speaker 3: I can sit with you, I can sit with you integration? 1351 01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:35,440 Speaker 3: Are we going to get integration? Yes? 1352 01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:37,440 Speaker 2: Tell yeah, I'm right right by your side. 1353 01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:38,840 Speaker 3: Now what you on that now? 1354 01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:42,160 Speaker 1: Sixty forty No. 1355 01:01:41,240 --> 01:01:44,360 Speaker 3: No, I go maybe I don't know. 1356 01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:46,160 Speaker 2: Fifty two forty eight? 1357 01:01:46,320 --> 01:01:50,200 Speaker 1: Maybe, Charyl what I'm assuming the risk. I'm the one 1358 01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:53,000 Speaker 1: that's got the camera crew. I got I got the people. 1359 01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:55,320 Speaker 2: That is why we are not together. This that you 1360 01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:57,560 Speaker 2: don't know how to take a good offer. 1361 01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:02,400 Speaker 3: You your shit is a business. 1362 01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:04,280 Speaker 1: Now you try to swindle me. 1363 01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:05,200 Speaker 3: Oho swindle. 1364 01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:08,920 Speaker 2: I'm trying to get the best deal possible our future. 1365 01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,400 Speaker 2: Would you want to have forty eight percent of an 1366 01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:17,280 Speaker 2: empire with success? It is sixty percent of nothing? 1367 01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,120 Speaker 1: But on the show, I mean, obviously, I think you 1368 01:02:22,160 --> 01:02:24,360 Speaker 1: had a very very good relationship with Julie Chen and 1369 01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:27,320 Speaker 1: it was very open because she revealed that she has 1370 01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:31,320 Speaker 1: added plastic surgery. She had had a cosmetic procedure to 1371 01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:34,320 Speaker 1: make her eyes look more American. Yes, and I mean 1372 01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:37,600 Speaker 1: obviously that was revealing. I'm sure her community weren't very 1373 01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:40,560 Speaker 1: happy about that, just like any community when you have 1374 01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:45,640 Speaker 1: procedures done that's not that tries to remove you from 1375 01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:48,680 Speaker 1: said community. People are not gonna be happy about that. 1376 01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:51,840 Speaker 1: So what what what brought about that? Why was that? 1377 01:02:51,880 --> 01:02:55,120 Speaker 1: Obviously that was something that you guys had talked about when. 1378 01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:56,600 Speaker 3: I first got to the talk. 1379 01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:01,560 Speaker 2: Remember it's my first consistent tea TV show job and 1380 01:03:01,640 --> 01:03:07,160 Speaker 2: it was daytime TV. Julie and I had a connection, 1381 01:03:07,400 --> 01:03:12,840 Speaker 2: a chemistry. She was the moderator, and she would tee 1382 01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,880 Speaker 2: up the joke, you know, she would tee it up 1383 01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:16,480 Speaker 2: for me and I would either look at her like 1384 01:03:16,520 --> 01:03:18,640 Speaker 2: I got it, I'm about to hit it out the park, 1385 01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:22,240 Speaker 2: you know, or I don't. I don't think I got 1386 01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:25,160 Speaker 2: something bigger than what was what was going to be 1387 01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:28,160 Speaker 2: said or what has already been said. When Aisha Tyler came. 1388 01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:32,400 Speaker 2: Because by the time I was there. Aisha Tyler was audition. 1389 01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:35,439 Speaker 2: I knew is Isha Tyler. Aisha and I worked together 1390 01:03:35,480 --> 01:03:39,240 Speaker 2: in Montreal Comedy Fest Scrolls. A genius, the great actor, 1391 01:03:39,320 --> 01:03:43,080 Speaker 2: great director, and a great comic. So I asked God, 1392 01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:44,600 Speaker 2: she was like, well, put in a good word for me. 1393 01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:46,360 Speaker 2: I said, girl, don't run another but my mouth in here. 1394 01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:47,960 Speaker 2: And I touched her hand and I bowed my head 1395 01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:49,960 Speaker 2: and I started to pray, and I asked God, put 1396 01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:52,880 Speaker 2: us together so that the world can see two different 1397 01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:56,840 Speaker 2: types of female comedians, but two black funny women. And 1398 01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,800 Speaker 2: we were doing this, these jokes. This is how good 1399 01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:01,920 Speaker 2: of them moderators. Julie was that she let us go 1400 01:04:01,960 --> 01:04:04,160 Speaker 2: back and forth with these jokes and we were doing 1401 01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:07,440 Speaker 2: how who was poor than who? You know, comedians like 1402 01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:10,560 Speaker 2: Battery Jones and everything. So I used to said that 1403 01:04:10,680 --> 01:04:14,280 Speaker 2: she was so poor that they didn't have shoes for 1404 01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:17,080 Speaker 2: their feet. I said, bitch, we were so poor, we 1405 01:04:17,120 --> 01:04:19,880 Speaker 2: didn't even have feet. We just walked on bloody thumbs, 1406 01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:24,440 Speaker 2: bones and blood just scrating out everywhere. So everybody was 1407 01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:26,960 Speaker 2: laughing so hard because they had never seen that kind 1408 01:04:26,960 --> 01:04:31,360 Speaker 2: of organic chemistry. And I will say this sitting beside 1409 01:04:31,440 --> 01:04:33,680 Speaker 2: every woman and man that's been on. 1410 01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:38,280 Speaker 3: That show taught me something to the good. I miss everybody. 1411 01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:42,120 Speaker 2: I love everybody, but the Dream Team five Julie, Chen Moonves, 1412 01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:46,600 Speaker 2: Aisha Tyler, Sharon Osbourne, and Sarah Gilbert. Sarah Gilbert who 1413 01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:50,120 Speaker 2: created this show. It was the greatest experience of my 1414 01:04:50,240 --> 01:04:53,280 Speaker 2: life working with a team of women who were at 1415 01:04:53,360 --> 01:04:56,680 Speaker 2: the top of their game. And I loved Julie. Julie 1416 01:04:56,720 --> 01:04:59,520 Speaker 2: was teeing up jokes for me, but also we were 1417 01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,960 Speaker 2: teeing up great conversation. We were teeing up things in 1418 01:05:03,000 --> 01:05:07,120 Speaker 2: the news. Donald Sterling member the coach, was the Sandusky, 1419 01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:10,080 Speaker 2: the Penn State holiday. So we were teeing up those 1420 01:05:10,160 --> 01:05:12,880 Speaker 2: types of things on a show that people saying, we 1421 01:05:12,880 --> 01:05:14,840 Speaker 2: don't do politics. You don't have to do politics. People 1422 01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:17,600 Speaker 2: don't want you to argue politics, but they do want 1423 01:05:17,640 --> 01:05:21,520 Speaker 2: to be enlightened, entertained, empowered and laugh in the show. 1424 01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:23,680 Speaker 2: And that's what we did and I think that's why 1425 01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:24,360 Speaker 2: we won Emmy. 1426 01:05:24,640 --> 01:05:27,360 Speaker 1: But you did have a public fallout. I had obviously 1427 01:05:27,360 --> 01:05:31,640 Speaker 1: had a public, very public fallout. Yeah, my co host 1428 01:05:32,080 --> 01:05:36,600 Speaker 1: in that moment. Was it what she said or was 1429 01:05:36,640 --> 01:05:37,440 Speaker 1: it who said it? 1430 01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:43,120 Speaker 2: I I will say my start of it I remember 1431 01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:46,280 Speaker 2: talking to Peer Morgan and I remember talking to them 1432 01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:50,240 Speaker 2: and trying to get them to understand are the community's 1433 01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:56,840 Speaker 2: feelings about Megan Marco her mother, Megan Marker mother live 1434 01:05:56,880 --> 01:05:59,479 Speaker 2: in Windsor Hills. Now this is just maybe a joke, 1435 01:05:59,800 --> 01:06:03,680 Speaker 2: but live in Windsor Hills and now she's in Windsor Palace. 1436 01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:04,880 Speaker 1: Right with Harry. 1437 01:06:05,640 --> 01:06:08,280 Speaker 3: They obviously love each other. They done had a black 1438 01:06:08,320 --> 01:06:11,360 Speaker 3: wedding pastor a black pastor black choir. 1439 01:06:11,760 --> 01:06:14,360 Speaker 2: You know, Charles over there looking, you know, Camilla need 1440 01:06:14,360 --> 01:06:16,520 Speaker 2: to get her face together because they're in love with 1441 01:06:16,600 --> 01:06:19,520 Speaker 2: each other. If the Queen like it, then everybody love it. Right, 1442 01:06:19,880 --> 01:06:23,439 Speaker 2: But you can't speak against Megan and disregard what she's 1443 01:06:23,480 --> 01:06:29,560 Speaker 2: feeling as a black woman, isolated, stress, pregnant, having a 1444 01:06:29,560 --> 01:06:32,680 Speaker 2: baby or whatever. We were not gonna take that lightly, 1445 01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:35,720 Speaker 2: So you might want to back off of this. 1446 01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:38,439 Speaker 3: And I think that's where it's them from. 1447 01:06:38,480 --> 01:06:40,440 Speaker 2: And I tried to say it off the air, and 1448 01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:42,360 Speaker 2: I said that a couple of times to Peers on 1449 01:06:42,600 --> 01:06:45,560 Speaker 2: the air, you know, to get off of her, right, 1450 01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:48,919 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. So we love her, you know. 1451 01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:51,480 Speaker 3: And she's got her happily ever after. 1452 01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:55,080 Speaker 2: She's married to Prince Harry get off of her, and 1453 01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:58,360 Speaker 2: I think there was a I don't know what would 1454 01:06:58,360 --> 01:06:59,720 Speaker 2: you say it was? 1455 01:07:00,000 --> 01:07:01,560 Speaker 3: What would you say for what you saw? 1456 01:07:02,640 --> 01:07:05,440 Speaker 1: I think the thing is is that when you mentioned 1457 01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:07,640 Speaker 1: when you're like, if I tell you something off air, 1458 01:07:07,760 --> 01:07:10,480 Speaker 1: don't try to don't try to bring it back, because 1459 01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:13,280 Speaker 1: I think in the situation like this, she thought you 1460 01:07:13,320 --> 01:07:16,920 Speaker 1: were gonna take a different approach publicly as an opposed 1461 01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:17,680 Speaker 1: you took privately. 1462 01:07:18,440 --> 01:07:23,560 Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing. I will say this in production, yes, 1463 01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:26,640 Speaker 2: just like you have your questions on your car. Yes, right, 1464 01:07:27,520 --> 01:07:31,400 Speaker 2: if you're producing a show, everybody's talking about what's gonna 1465 01:07:31,440 --> 01:07:34,120 Speaker 2: be said and what the response will be. Correct, right, 1466 01:07:34,480 --> 01:07:36,640 Speaker 2: So if you're talking about what's gonna be said and 1467 01:07:36,680 --> 01:07:40,520 Speaker 2: what the response will be, then and then if it 1468 01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:45,040 Speaker 2: does turn into a if it takes an off ramp, 1469 01:07:45,080 --> 01:07:46,960 Speaker 2: I call it an off rap. So you could be 1470 01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,040 Speaker 2: talking about something that you already talked about, but then 1471 01:07:49,080 --> 01:07:51,600 Speaker 2: it takes an off ramp. It's not like you didn't 1472 01:07:51,680 --> 01:07:55,400 Speaker 2: know what was going right or you didn't know it 1473 01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:59,280 Speaker 2: was gonna be said. I think and for people to say, 1474 01:07:59,320 --> 01:08:01,919 Speaker 2: do you do you talk to Sharon? Do you still 1475 01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:04,280 Speaker 2: care about you don't sit next to somebody for ten 1476 01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:07,200 Speaker 2: years and don't have a feeling for her and her family, 1477 01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:07,840 Speaker 2: you know. 1478 01:08:08,040 --> 01:08:10,960 Speaker 3: But I will tell you from what some people saw. 1479 01:08:12,640 --> 01:08:14,480 Speaker 3: I equate this to OJ Simpson. 1480 01:08:15,480 --> 01:08:18,960 Speaker 2: Two different communities see two different things, right, two different 1481 01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:21,720 Speaker 2: community see two different things. I still get trolled to 1482 01:08:21,800 --> 01:08:25,240 Speaker 2: this day in that situation. But I believe that when 1483 01:08:25,280 --> 01:08:28,839 Speaker 2: I stepped in it earlier, I believe that God said, Servant, 1484 01:08:29,400 --> 01:08:31,720 Speaker 2: something bigger is coming, and it's going to happen. I 1485 01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:34,280 Speaker 2: need you to be prepared for what's coming. 1486 01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:36,120 Speaker 3: You know, me shining. 1487 01:08:36,439 --> 01:08:40,000 Speaker 2: You know if somebody's yelling at me. You know, I'm 1488 01:08:40,040 --> 01:08:42,960 Speaker 2: not crying because you hurt me. I'm crying because I 1489 01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:45,680 Speaker 2: can't say what I want to say. Just like when 1490 01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:49,960 Speaker 2: somebody told you, there you go, What would you have 1491 01:08:50,040 --> 01:08:50,639 Speaker 2: wanted to do? 1492 01:08:51,720 --> 01:08:54,400 Speaker 1: Oh Shad, I wouldn't have had to show. I wouldn't 1493 01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:56,440 Speaker 1: be on ESPN, I wouldn't have anything. 1494 01:08:56,120 --> 01:08:59,920 Speaker 2: Because God was preparing you. Yes, you will face this option, 1495 01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:03,000 Speaker 2: go somewhere else. And that's why you see me sit 1496 01:09:03,080 --> 01:09:05,439 Speaker 2: there and when I hear when she's yelling, what are 1497 01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:06,840 Speaker 2: you gonna do? What you're gonna do? And I turned 1498 01:09:06,880 --> 01:09:08,280 Speaker 2: to the camera, go we're gonna go break, We'll be 1499 01:09:08,360 --> 01:09:12,080 Speaker 2: right back. That let the world know she's ready. 1500 01:09:11,840 --> 01:09:15,160 Speaker 3: To be here. But also, I represent every black woman 1501 01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:16,360 Speaker 3: in the world. 1502 01:09:16,520 --> 01:09:19,799 Speaker 2: We cannot be seen as the angry black woman because 1503 01:09:19,840 --> 01:09:23,599 Speaker 2: now you're messing up somebody else's job somewhere else. Right, 1504 01:09:24,000 --> 01:09:27,080 Speaker 2: But I was prepared for that. I didn't do anything wrong. 1505 01:09:27,520 --> 01:09:31,360 Speaker 2: Matter of fact, I'm trying to articulate this in a 1506 01:09:31,520 --> 01:09:35,360 Speaker 2: in a different way. Right, what would you say to 1507 01:09:35,560 --> 01:09:41,880 Speaker 2: people who think that, But if an explosion occurs, what 1508 01:09:42,000 --> 01:09:43,320 Speaker 2: would have been the best thing to do? 1509 01:09:43,600 --> 01:09:46,760 Speaker 3: Come back and hug it out after commercial? Am I right? 1510 01:09:46,880 --> 01:09:47,120 Speaker 1: Yes? 1511 01:09:47,280 --> 01:09:49,439 Speaker 3: That would have been daytime gold, wouldn't it? 1512 01:09:50,880 --> 01:09:51,280 Speaker 2: Okay? 1513 01:09:52,000 --> 01:09:54,880 Speaker 3: See, that takes two to have an altercation. Right. 1514 01:09:55,680 --> 01:09:57,720 Speaker 1: It also reconcile. 1515 01:09:57,280 --> 01:10:03,160 Speaker 2: Too, absolutely absolutely, And if reconcile on air, everybody kumbay 1516 01:10:03,280 --> 01:10:06,120 Speaker 2: y'all moment. Right, But if you double down on it, 1517 01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:09,160 Speaker 2: and if you type in right now, there are things 1518 01:10:09,200 --> 01:10:13,679 Speaker 2: being said that I will not answer. Why one, I'm 1519 01:10:13,720 --> 01:10:17,400 Speaker 2: not gonna go tip for tag and keep something going going. 1520 01:10:18,000 --> 01:10:20,599 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go on to the greatness that God is 1521 01:10:20,640 --> 01:10:24,479 Speaker 2: opening doors for all of us. If you don't look 1522 01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:27,640 Speaker 2: inside yourself and get better. Right, But me sitting up 1523 01:10:27,680 --> 01:10:30,439 Speaker 2: there arguing with my colleague who. 1524 01:10:30,360 --> 01:10:31,360 Speaker 3: I care for. 1525 01:10:31,720 --> 01:10:35,080 Speaker 2: And then after that she makes a special and after 1526 01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:37,240 Speaker 2: that she continues. 1527 01:10:36,840 --> 01:10:39,479 Speaker 3: To say things we recently say things. 1528 01:10:39,760 --> 01:10:43,439 Speaker 2: Come on, Cheryl, what you gonna keep doing? Because it's 1529 01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:44,040 Speaker 2: like a man. 1530 01:10:44,360 --> 01:10:46,280 Speaker 1: I mean, look, my grandma used to say, boy stirring 1531 01:10:46,360 --> 01:10:47,559 Speaker 1: up old poop, it's still stink. 1532 01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:48,160 Speaker 2: That's it. 1533 01:10:48,600 --> 01:10:51,840 Speaker 1: So that that was my thing. It wasn't. It wasn't 1534 01:10:51,840 --> 01:10:54,280 Speaker 1: what he said. Yes, it was who said it. 1535 01:10:54,400 --> 01:10:54,840 Speaker 3: That's right. 1536 01:10:54,840 --> 01:10:56,840 Speaker 1: I've been sitting across from this man for six years. 1537 01:10:57,000 --> 01:10:58,879 Speaker 1: I thought, look, are we best friends? 1538 01:10:58,920 --> 01:10:58,960 Speaker 2: No? 1539 01:10:59,360 --> 01:11:01,280 Speaker 1: But I thought we had the type of relationship that 1540 01:11:01,320 --> 01:11:02,240 Speaker 1: were respectful. 1541 01:11:02,400 --> 01:11:03,120 Speaker 3: There you got it, and. 1542 01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:05,280 Speaker 1: You would give me a certain level of respect as 1543 01:11:05,280 --> 01:11:07,720 Speaker 1: I've always given you. That's all I ask. I don't 1544 01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:10,040 Speaker 1: ask anything more. I'm not saying you have to be 1545 01:11:10,080 --> 01:11:11,800 Speaker 1: my best friend. That we don't have to hang out. 1546 01:11:11,800 --> 01:11:13,120 Speaker 1: We ain't got to go to dinner. You ain't coming 1547 01:11:13,120 --> 01:11:15,080 Speaker 1: to my house, I'm not going to yours. That's at 1548 01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:17,240 Speaker 1: least we can be cordial, we could be respectful of 1549 01:11:17,280 --> 01:11:17,679 Speaker 1: one another. 1550 01:11:17,800 --> 01:11:21,360 Speaker 2: Sometimes you find out who you thought was your friend 1551 01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:23,120 Speaker 2: is really your coworker. 1552 01:11:23,280 --> 01:11:24,160 Speaker 3: Yes, am I right? 1553 01:11:24,800 --> 01:11:27,400 Speaker 2: And then you find out because we all gonna step 1554 01:11:27,400 --> 01:11:30,080 Speaker 2: in it again. This is where talk show is. You 1555 01:11:30,200 --> 01:11:33,040 Speaker 2: probably said stuff, I say stuff that the community is 1556 01:11:33,040 --> 01:11:36,760 Speaker 2: mad about. But on those days where the community we 1557 01:11:36,880 --> 01:11:39,439 Speaker 2: rode hard for you, we was on I. 1558 01:11:39,400 --> 01:11:42,840 Speaker 3: Wish I would yes, you know. 1559 01:11:42,800 --> 01:11:45,559 Speaker 2: What I'm saying, and you held it together and so 1560 01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:47,320 Speaker 2: did I type it. 1561 01:11:47,439 --> 01:11:49,479 Speaker 3: They was on it nothing. 1562 01:11:49,800 --> 01:11:53,680 Speaker 2: But I would afford somebody grace and forgiveness, just like 1563 01:11:53,720 --> 01:11:56,000 Speaker 2: I would want grace and forgiveness to be afforded to me. 1564 01:11:56,960 --> 01:12:00,840 Speaker 2: And I feel like the only thing is the trolling, 1565 01:12:01,400 --> 01:12:04,479 Speaker 2: the people who you know, these thumb thugs, these people 1566 01:12:04,479 --> 01:12:07,519 Speaker 2: on the internet are anonymous saying you this you that 1567 01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:10,400 Speaker 2: I'd have been all kind of I don't then I 1568 01:12:10,560 --> 01:12:12,640 Speaker 2: kind of you this you that you don't even know me, 1569 01:12:13,200 --> 01:12:14,479 Speaker 2: You don't know nothing about me. 1570 01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:16,639 Speaker 3: But if that's what you want to do, you want 1571 01:12:16,680 --> 01:12:16,840 Speaker 3: to do. 1572 01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:19,400 Speaker 2: But I'm not giving you none. I'm not. You want 1573 01:12:19,400 --> 01:12:21,960 Speaker 2: me to give you some cut me a check, I'll 1574 01:12:22,000 --> 01:12:24,160 Speaker 2: sit a right across from it, and I'll give you 1575 01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:26,840 Speaker 2: what you want. This will be Morton Downy Junior meets 1576 01:12:26,920 --> 01:12:29,960 Speaker 2: Jerry Springer. We're gonna yell and act crazy and then 1577 01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:32,559 Speaker 2: you and old Boy gonna come on and y'all gonna 1578 01:12:32,600 --> 01:12:34,839 Speaker 2: do the next half hour and we're gonna make a fortune. 1579 01:12:34,920 --> 01:12:38,280 Speaker 1: That's a partnership right there, exactly, but makes you diition. 1580 01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:40,439 Speaker 1: We won't get out here on this because I wanted. 1581 01:12:40,560 --> 01:12:42,600 Speaker 1: I wanted to get to your upbringing. You had a 1582 01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:46,719 Speaker 1: very rough upbringing. How did that upbringing shape the shirrel 1583 01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:48,200 Speaker 1: that's sitting across from me right now? 1584 01:12:48,960 --> 01:12:49,600 Speaker 3: Survival? 1585 01:12:50,680 --> 01:13:01,760 Speaker 2: Survival? You know, when you know, sexual molestation, sexual violence 1586 01:13:02,960 --> 01:13:04,440 Speaker 2: at a young age. 1587 01:13:04,520 --> 01:13:06,840 Speaker 1: Whether it a family friend, whether it a family member, 1588 01:13:06,920 --> 01:13:08,479 Speaker 1: was it someone that you could we close. 1589 01:13:09,360 --> 01:13:12,360 Speaker 2: You know, there's always people going in and through neighborhoods, 1590 01:13:12,400 --> 01:13:16,479 Speaker 2: in and through households and everything. It does sexualize you. 1591 01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:19,560 Speaker 2: And I wish people would understand that. Males and females, 1592 01:13:19,760 --> 01:13:22,600 Speaker 2: it sexualized you. If you read the Bible, you know, 1593 01:13:22,720 --> 01:13:26,720 Speaker 2: read song Asylomon. The body was made for procreation and 1594 01:13:26,760 --> 01:13:30,720 Speaker 2: that goodness of that. The body understands that. But if 1595 01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:34,839 Speaker 2: you are not old enough and mature enough to handle it, 1596 01:13:34,840 --> 01:13:40,200 Speaker 2: it changes you. Well, first thing I thought, being molested, 1597 01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:42,760 Speaker 2: you know, the first thing I thought was I'm going 1598 01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:47,479 Speaker 2: to protect my sister. So it was no longer about me, 1599 01:13:48,120 --> 01:13:53,840 Speaker 2: It was about my sister. So I became violent. You 1600 01:13:53,840 --> 01:13:56,479 Speaker 2: wanna bring some, You're gonna get some, you know. So 1601 01:13:56,560 --> 01:14:01,559 Speaker 2: I became a violent person, but I never mechanize that. 1602 01:14:01,840 --> 01:14:05,360 Speaker 2: But I was always on protection mode. You know. When 1603 01:14:05,400 --> 01:14:08,559 Speaker 2: I was raped, the first thing I thought was, you 1604 01:14:08,640 --> 01:14:09,680 Speaker 2: need to survive this. 1605 01:14:10,560 --> 01:14:13,080 Speaker 3: You need to survive. On my way to reserve duty, 1606 01:14:14,040 --> 01:14:14,360 Speaker 3: I was. 1607 01:14:14,280 --> 01:14:17,599 Speaker 2: Out stationed out at o'hairfield early in the morning, and 1608 01:14:17,720 --> 01:14:20,760 Speaker 2: I thought to myself, you need to survive so much 1609 01:14:20,800 --> 01:14:23,639 Speaker 2: so that I was telling my rapists, don't take my ID. 1610 01:14:24,000 --> 01:14:27,400 Speaker 3: That is a government ID. Do you on some fed charges? 1611 01:14:27,760 --> 01:14:27,960 Speaker 2: Right? 1612 01:14:28,439 --> 01:14:32,519 Speaker 3: So I'm thinking survive so he doesn't kill you, right. 1613 01:14:32,760 --> 01:14:35,679 Speaker 2: And I rarely talk about this, but my whole life 1614 01:14:35,840 --> 01:14:36,960 Speaker 2: is about survival. 1615 01:14:37,760 --> 01:14:39,720 Speaker 3: I will survive, you know. 1616 01:14:39,760 --> 01:14:42,040 Speaker 2: It's a song. Oh no, not I I will survive. 1617 01:14:42,160 --> 01:14:44,599 Speaker 2: I'm going to survive, that's right. I'm going to survive 1618 01:14:44,760 --> 01:14:47,040 Speaker 2: this and every other obstacle put. 1619 01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:48,679 Speaker 3: In my path. I'm going to survive. 1620 01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:52,280 Speaker 2: There's something God needs me to do here, and I'm 1621 01:14:52,320 --> 01:14:54,920 Speaker 2: going to stay here to do it and be open 1622 01:14:55,240 --> 01:14:59,920 Speaker 2: to His will even if I don't understand it. Well. 1623 01:15:00,439 --> 01:15:02,320 Speaker 3: So that's that's my whole life. 1624 01:15:02,760 --> 01:15:05,439 Speaker 2: And I wanted to people say, well, Why is your 1625 01:15:05,520 --> 01:15:09,160 Speaker 2: act so sexual? Because I wanted my sexuality back from 1626 01:15:09,200 --> 01:15:13,960 Speaker 2: those who took it. I'm going to be what I 1627 01:15:14,000 --> 01:15:15,120 Speaker 2: feel I can be. 1628 01:15:15,800 --> 01:15:18,320 Speaker 3: I'm a hell of a kisser, hell of a kisser. 1629 01:15:19,880 --> 01:15:20,479 Speaker 3: Listen to me. 1630 01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:25,680 Speaker 2: But if I had let this overtake me and I collapsed, 1631 01:15:25,760 --> 01:15:29,360 Speaker 2: I would never be able to express attraction. 1632 01:15:29,040 --> 01:15:30,040 Speaker 3: For a man that I love. 1633 01:15:30,760 --> 01:15:32,120 Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. You had a too. I 1634 01:15:32,160 --> 01:15:33,960 Speaker 1: don't know if people know this. You had a twin sister. 1635 01:15:34,520 --> 01:15:38,360 Speaker 1: She didn't make it. You kept her birth certificate. I 1636 01:15:38,400 --> 01:15:39,440 Speaker 1: don't know if you still. 1637 01:15:39,160 --> 01:15:41,200 Speaker 3: Having the feet ye, the left feet under it. 1638 01:15:41,240 --> 01:15:46,519 Speaker 1: Yeah, you kept that. And I read that your mom 1639 01:15:47,280 --> 01:15:49,280 Speaker 1: lied to you about what really happened to yourself. 1640 01:15:49,280 --> 01:15:51,240 Speaker 2: Absolutely who you been talking to in my family? 1641 01:15:51,240 --> 01:15:54,560 Speaker 3: I'm he talks of it, said my family. 1642 01:15:54,320 --> 01:15:58,680 Speaker 1: Cause when you obviously, when you found out that what 1643 01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:01,280 Speaker 1: was being said, do you want it true? How did 1644 01:16:01,280 --> 01:16:02,519 Speaker 1: that make you feel about your mom? 1645 01:16:03,720 --> 01:16:06,280 Speaker 2: I wanted my mother's love more than anything, and that's 1646 01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:10,280 Speaker 2: probably why I'm so attracted to wounded birds or something 1647 01:16:10,320 --> 01:16:11,960 Speaker 2: like that, because I wanted my mother's love. 1648 01:16:12,560 --> 01:16:15,400 Speaker 3: But it was the pain of my father. 1649 01:16:16,040 --> 01:16:19,639 Speaker 2: Telling me I didn't do that, telling me the truth 1650 01:16:20,320 --> 01:16:23,840 Speaker 2: is what made me closer to my father because I 1651 01:16:23,920 --> 01:16:29,880 Speaker 2: was determined to go and find out his side. You know, 1652 01:16:30,439 --> 01:16:34,240 Speaker 2: my birth mother stabbed my father and I witnessed it. 1653 01:16:34,960 --> 01:16:37,559 Speaker 3: I wanted to find out, what is it? 1654 01:16:38,040 --> 01:16:41,479 Speaker 2: What is it? They were young? You know, I loved 1655 01:16:41,520 --> 01:16:45,559 Speaker 2: my mother, but God sent me another mother, my mama. 1656 01:16:46,280 --> 01:16:48,760 Speaker 2: That's how much the Lord loved me to send me 1657 01:16:48,920 --> 01:16:52,360 Speaker 2: motherly love. Right. But it was my father that was 1658 01:16:52,400 --> 01:16:55,720 Speaker 2: going through pain as a young man that nobody understood 1659 01:16:56,000 --> 01:16:58,920 Speaker 2: what he was doing until he died. I really didn't 1660 01:16:58,960 --> 01:17:01,599 Speaker 2: know how old my father was because at that time period, 1661 01:17:01,600 --> 01:17:04,200 Speaker 2: you know, black men carried himself much much. 1662 01:17:04,000 --> 01:17:05,559 Speaker 3: Older, right, right. 1663 01:17:05,760 --> 01:17:07,760 Speaker 2: And when I saw the tombstone, I says, your dates 1664 01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:11,240 Speaker 2: are wrong. They said, no, your father this age. And 1665 01:17:11,280 --> 01:17:12,639 Speaker 2: then I put the numbers together. 1666 01:17:12,880 --> 01:17:13,639 Speaker 3: My father was. 1667 01:17:13,600 --> 01:17:17,080 Speaker 2: A young man. A young man so to be able 1668 01:17:17,120 --> 01:17:18,479 Speaker 2: to talk to my father and go tell me the 1669 01:17:18,479 --> 01:17:21,000 Speaker 2: truth what happened, and he tell me the truth, and 1670 01:17:21,040 --> 01:17:22,799 Speaker 2: we hugged and we got. 1671 01:17:22,640 --> 01:17:25,400 Speaker 3: To know each other and we were strong together. 1672 01:17:25,840 --> 01:17:29,200 Speaker 2: If you can fix it while they're alive, fix it, 1673 01:17:30,120 --> 01:17:32,600 Speaker 2: fix it, give grace and forgiveness, and that's what he 1674 01:17:32,680 --> 01:17:33,160 Speaker 2: gave to me. 1675 01:17:34,479 --> 01:17:37,479 Speaker 1: Do a party. You feel that your parents didn't protect 1676 01:17:37,520 --> 01:17:38,599 Speaker 1: you from this abuse. 1677 01:17:40,640 --> 01:17:43,360 Speaker 2: I think that my father thought that a little girl 1678 01:17:43,400 --> 01:17:47,320 Speaker 2: should be living with her mother until he was hearing 1679 01:17:47,320 --> 01:17:50,559 Speaker 2: continuously what was going on with me, and he asked 1680 01:17:50,560 --> 01:17:53,479 Speaker 2: me to forgive him. And I looked at life and 1681 01:17:53,520 --> 01:17:55,400 Speaker 2: I was like, I understood why you couldn't take me, 1682 01:17:56,000 --> 01:17:57,559 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? No matter how bad I 1683 01:17:57,600 --> 01:18:06,400 Speaker 2: wanted you to take me, I would say, well, I 1684 01:18:06,600 --> 01:18:08,639 Speaker 2: will tell you a couple of time. My brother's whipped 1685 01:18:08,640 --> 01:18:12,479 Speaker 2: that ass, my older brothers. Listen, my brothers wasn't no punk, 1686 01:18:15,240 --> 01:18:19,120 Speaker 2: you know, listen. I love my family members because they 1687 01:18:19,479 --> 01:18:20,960 Speaker 2: protected me as much as they could. 1688 01:18:21,479 --> 01:18:21,680 Speaker 1: You know. 1689 01:18:21,760 --> 01:18:22,880 Speaker 2: And some people they call you. 1690 01:18:22,880 --> 01:18:25,559 Speaker 3: Fast or you know, something like that, but. 1691 01:18:25,560 --> 01:18:26,640 Speaker 2: I will, I will tell you this. 1692 01:18:28,960 --> 01:18:29,880 Speaker 3: I love my family. 1693 01:18:30,640 --> 01:18:30,840 Speaker 1: You know. 1694 01:18:30,920 --> 01:18:32,680 Speaker 3: They didn't do everything right, and neither did I. 1695 01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:35,519 Speaker 1: You know that's the only one you got that's right. 1696 01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:37,919 Speaker 3: I got a great family. I got great memories. 1697 01:18:38,560 --> 01:18:41,960 Speaker 2: And if my mother was alive to see how much 1698 01:18:42,479 --> 01:18:45,880 Speaker 2: of her is within me, I would have wanted her to. 1699 01:18:46,240 --> 01:18:49,240 Speaker 3: I can hear her, you know, I can see her. 1700 01:18:49,280 --> 01:18:52,559 Speaker 3: I'm looking at pictures. This is my mother's face too. 1701 01:18:53,000 --> 01:18:55,000 Speaker 1: Your mother never got a chance to see this. 1702 01:18:55,080 --> 01:18:59,960 Speaker 2: Chirl no, no, no, she died before it could happen, 1703 01:19:00,080 --> 01:19:02,679 Speaker 2: and she saw the work up to it. But having 1704 01:19:02,720 --> 01:19:06,479 Speaker 2: a strange relationship with your mother, that's your origin. So 1705 01:19:06,520 --> 01:19:09,599 Speaker 2: you're searching for that now. So any man getting with 1706 01:19:09,640 --> 01:19:13,479 Speaker 2: me understands what I'm searching for, you know. But my father, 1707 01:19:14,640 --> 01:19:18,679 Speaker 2: my father always had my back always and would tell 1708 01:19:18,720 --> 01:19:21,639 Speaker 2: me you can do it. Your brain, that's right, made 1709 01:19:21,680 --> 01:19:25,000 Speaker 2: by the same brain that made Bill Gates or all 1710 01:19:25,000 --> 01:19:27,160 Speaker 2: these other famous billionaires. 1711 01:19:27,400 --> 01:19:30,960 Speaker 3: God made your brain and their brain. So I have 1712 01:19:31,080 --> 01:19:31,759 Speaker 3: a great life. 1713 01:19:31,920 --> 01:19:35,080 Speaker 2: I don't want nobody to feel pity or sadness for me, 1714 01:19:35,439 --> 01:19:37,679 Speaker 2: but I do want them to understand who I am 1715 01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:39,600 Speaker 2: and why I am the way I am. 1716 01:19:39,800 --> 01:19:41,960 Speaker 1: Get you out here on this As a person that's 1717 01:19:42,040 --> 01:19:46,000 Speaker 1: dealt with childhood trauma, what would you tell someone that's 1718 01:19:46,040 --> 01:19:51,200 Speaker 1: going through something similar? And what would a you tell 1719 01:19:51,240 --> 01:19:54,080 Speaker 1: yourself having overcome that one. 1720 01:19:53,960 --> 01:19:58,400 Speaker 3: Put the butcher knife down once she killed, once she killed. 1721 01:19:59,200 --> 01:20:01,160 Speaker 2: Listen to me, Listen to me. 1722 01:20:01,520 --> 01:20:02,800 Speaker 3: And I will tell you this. 1723 01:20:03,560 --> 01:20:07,720 Speaker 2: I live, I live a great life and educate as 1724 01:20:07,720 --> 01:20:11,160 Speaker 2: an educated woman. But I'm still closer to the streets 1725 01:20:11,360 --> 01:20:15,559 Speaker 2: because when I was raped, street dudes said, if I 1726 01:20:15,640 --> 01:20:18,680 Speaker 2: find him, I'm gonna kill him, I said, do not 1727 01:20:18,840 --> 01:20:19,920 Speaker 2: kill on my behalf. 1728 01:20:22,000 --> 01:20:23,599 Speaker 1: I appreciate why you didn't want that on you. Why 1729 01:20:23,600 --> 01:20:25,120 Speaker 1: do you didn't want that on your conscience? 1730 01:20:25,400 --> 01:20:27,000 Speaker 3: I didn't want that blood on my hands. 1731 01:20:27,160 --> 01:20:28,720 Speaker 2: But I knew if they found him, they was gonna 1732 01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:29,400 Speaker 2: kill him. 1733 01:20:29,760 --> 01:20:32,280 Speaker 3: And that's what he said to me. If I find him, 1734 01:20:32,320 --> 01:20:33,600 Speaker 3: I'm gonna kill him. 1735 01:20:34,120 --> 01:20:34,400 Speaker 2: Right. 1736 01:20:34,800 --> 01:20:38,800 Speaker 3: But that you want that, that's dashing in our community. 1737 01:20:38,960 --> 01:20:42,439 Speaker 2: You want a group of black men to go search? 1738 01:20:43,080 --> 01:20:45,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, but vengeance of mind, said the Lord. 1739 01:20:45,680 --> 01:20:48,559 Speaker 2: But I'm not the Lord, and I sometimes I got 1740 01:20:48,560 --> 01:20:50,479 Speaker 2: that taste in my mouth for vengeance. 1741 01:20:50,600 --> 01:20:52,120 Speaker 3: But you gotta control that. 1742 01:20:52,400 --> 01:20:55,439 Speaker 2: But I thank street dudes for always coming to my rescue, 1743 01:20:55,520 --> 01:20:59,640 Speaker 2: always having my back, you know. So to me, I 1744 01:21:00,160 --> 01:21:03,360 Speaker 2: lived a great life. I've had angels around me that 1745 01:21:03,439 --> 01:21:07,040 Speaker 2: I didn't even know. So what would I tell myself? 1746 01:21:07,320 --> 01:21:10,000 Speaker 2: Put the butcher knife down so you can survive. You're 1747 01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:12,760 Speaker 2: not gonna survive in jail if you do it. Where 1748 01:21:12,760 --> 01:21:16,040 Speaker 2: will your sister go? What will your family think? Don't 1749 01:21:16,080 --> 01:21:18,920 Speaker 2: disrespect the Underwood name? Wow? 1750 01:21:20,800 --> 01:21:22,200 Speaker 1: What's next for Cheryl Underwood? 1751 01:21:22,439 --> 01:21:28,880 Speaker 2: Sky's The Limit podcast seventy five twenty five splits. 1752 01:21:30,280 --> 01:21:39,040 Speaker 1: How anything you want to promote. 1753 01:21:39,080 --> 01:21:44,320 Speaker 2: The Mix and Mingle Tour. I'm on Instagram. What is Instagram? Facebook? 1754 01:21:44,320 --> 01:21:47,080 Speaker 2: I just got on TikTok we the other little snapchat. 1755 01:21:47,200 --> 01:21:49,479 Speaker 2: I'm on X. I'm on ex by way at Twitter. 1756 01:21:49,760 --> 01:21:52,240 Speaker 2: I think I got more followers over there, but I'm 1757 01:21:52,360 --> 01:21:53,240 Speaker 2: learning at all. 1758 01:21:54,000 --> 01:21:56,800 Speaker 3: So follow me. It's s H E R Y L. 1759 01:21:57,160 --> 01:21:59,280 Speaker 3: And the last name is Underwood. Follow me on all 1760 01:21:59,320 --> 01:21:59,559 Speaker 3: of them. 1761 01:21:59,600 --> 01:22:01,719 Speaker 2: I got a great tours, the Mix and Mingle Tour. 1762 01:22:02,120 --> 01:22:05,120 Speaker 2: Please come to see us. Buy these tickets because this 1763 01:22:05,160 --> 01:22:08,720 Speaker 2: is how I finance everything. Kyle Irbie, Mike Washington, and 1764 01:22:08,760 --> 01:22:10,760 Speaker 2: there's something at the end for the fellas. And I 1765 01:22:10,800 --> 01:22:12,840 Speaker 2: got a sports in this there that I'm definitely gonna 1766 01:22:12,840 --> 01:22:14,960 Speaker 2: need your help on. Young boys as young as three 1767 01:22:15,040 --> 01:22:21,280 Speaker 2: years old as old at eighteen will study lacrosse, baseball, tennis, golf, 1768 01:22:21,560 --> 01:22:25,360 Speaker 2: and soccer and other sports. So if they listen, Jim 1769 01:22:25,400 --> 01:22:28,960 Speaker 2: Brown was the greatest lacrosse playp He told me this 1770 01:22:29,120 --> 01:22:31,800 Speaker 2: on a plane ride. He was the greatest lacrosse player 1771 01:22:31,800 --> 01:22:34,840 Speaker 2: who couldn't make money in lacrosse. What if we get 1772 01:22:34,840 --> 01:22:37,760 Speaker 2: our kids into lacrosse and then they can go into 1773 01:22:37,880 --> 01:22:42,240 Speaker 2: other sports where I want to finance that more. 1774 01:22:42,080 --> 01:22:46,840 Speaker 1: To come sure London with ladies and gentlemen. Thank you 1775 01:22:46,920 --> 01:22:49,400 Speaker 1: eight Lounge at Resorts World, Las Vegas for a line 1776 01:22:49,400 --> 01:22:52,360 Speaker 1: club shay shape to film my episode here today. Keep 1777 01:22:52,439 --> 01:22:55,200 Speaker 1: up with eight Lounge on social media at eight Lounge 1778 01:22:55,400 --> 01:22:57,479 Speaker 1: LV at Resorts World LV. 1779 01:22:58,880 --> 01:23:02,720 Speaker 4: All my life on and all my life sacrifice that's 1780 01:23:02,760 --> 01:23:03,559 Speaker 4: to pay the price. 1781 01:23:04,240 --> 01:23:04,920 Speaker 2: Want to slice? 1782 01:23:05,200 --> 01:23:06,400 Speaker 3: Got the brothers? 1783 01:23:06,439 --> 01:23:09,040 Speaker 4: Why all my life I've been grinding all my life, 1784 01:23:09,560 --> 01:23:13,479 Speaker 4: all my life running all my life. Sacrifice that's to 1785 01:23:13,560 --> 01:23:16,400 Speaker 4: pay the price and want to slice. Go to brother 1786 01:23:17,600 --> 01:27:20,240 Speaker 4: all my life I've been grinding all my life. 1787 01:23:20,840 --> 01:27:11,240 Speaker 2: H assassas