WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: We're Celebrating 4/20, Nyla Symone Drops By And More! 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.440 Good morning Usa yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:05.160 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:05.240 --> 0:00:07.000 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo 0:00:07.080 --> 0:00:08.440 yo yo yo yo yo yo yo. 0:00:08.480 --> 0:00:11.559 Yo yo Charlamagne the god piece to the plane in 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:17.360 this Thursday. Yes it's Thursday, and happy four twenty Today 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.000 is twenty. 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:22.480 Ah man dropping the clues bombs of four twenty. Sleute 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:24.360 everybody out there who don't care that it's four twenty, 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:25.920 because it's four twenty every day. 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:26.800 That is true. 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.159 They wake and bake every day, that is true. But 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:31.480 you got something you don't smoke though, No, I don't 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:32.600 sm like flower. I like edible. 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:35.360 What you got, you know, this is my pre rolls. 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:36.880 Give me some flower anyway, I give it to you. 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:38.640 Good gifts, a good. 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:40.440 Fourth pre rolls, just you know, like we call them 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:42.319 dog walkers because they short enough that when you walk 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:44.559 the dog, you can smoke and get your little smoke on. 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:46.720 It, like dog walking on when you was beating somebody 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:48.440 ass a dog walked that home. 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:51.320 We call them dog walkers because they they short sized 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.120 and you can smoke him, and you know, by the 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:54.600 time you get back to the crib, you done. 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:56.160 Short size, but you can smoke him. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:56.680 There you go. 0:00:56.760 --> 0:01:00.520 She call them charlamagne. What with charlamagne? Your mouth? 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:03.440 What short size? So shout to the staff. I gave 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:06.399 all the staff some happy four twenty uh good gifts. 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:08.759 Thank you, sir for the staff and everything like you, sir. 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.560 Turbo blue rolls slurred. I can't smoke, man. You know 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.880 why I can't smoke because the way my anxiety is 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:16.720 set up, that anxiety creeps in too fast when I smoke. 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:20.040 I've never had a good experience smoking. But really with edibles, yes, 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:23.240 because edibles is a nice body high. Yeah, and you 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.240 know how much you're taking. You know what I'm saying, 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.679 and it creeps up on you over the hour. That's 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:29.400 what I like that we hit you too fast when 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:31.119 you smoke it. I can't smoke it. I like edibles. 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.080 But thank you. All right, we'll go for twenty gifts. 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:35.280 If you in Detroit, you can hit up Mary Jane. 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:38.640 That's how most of the dispensers in Detroit has my 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.600 my actual strains. So shout to them. And if you're 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:43.560 in Vegas, heart Dean, my wife is mad at me 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:46.560 right now. Or you know, we've been talking about colonoscopies 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.880 and I took a colonoscopy earlier this year and they 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:50.120 found two pilyps. 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.960 YEP, I got one in December. I had no pilyps, 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:54.880 no redness, no cancer, no nothing. 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.000 It could have. I didn't have any cancer redness, but 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.200 one of the polyps could be pre cancerous. So I 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:02.080 have to go back and five years just to make sure. 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:04.360 Which yours is short? I think your might be three 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:04.760 three years. 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:06.240 Yeah, I'm going back in three five. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:07.280 You go back in three. 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.040 But long story short, when they found that, I'm making 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.840 everybody I know go get coldonoskar as you should. I'm like, 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:14.560 I can't talk if you don't, because I just want 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:16.440 to make sure my friends are feeling man around. So 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:18.800 I made my wife go. Now, my wife is not 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:21.200 the age to go, but I just made her go anyway. 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:24.040 So today is her procedure. So you know last night 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:25.960 she had yesterday she had to take those tails. Oh 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:29.600 my goodness, ooops, sit it. She wasn't shoop. She wasn't 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:32.360 ready for that loose boots. She wasn't ready for that. 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:35.280 She doesn't curse me out, you know, she wasn't ready 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:35.520 for it. 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:37.720 It's funny when you try to explain people the prep 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.639 of colonos because they don't understand what we're saying when 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:43.560 we say diarrhea, like they're just thinking about, Okay, I've 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:47.120 had diarrhea, but nah, this is different. This is literally 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:51.960 every ten to fifteen seconds. Maybe maybe maybe if you're good, 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.160 every ten to fifteen seconds, every time you sit down, 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:55.079 you're gonna get back. 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:58.000 She is so mad at me right now. Yes, man, 0:02:58.040 --> 0:02:59.800 she is so mad at me. And I guess you know. 0:02:59.840 --> 0:03:01.839 She she did the suit tab. With the suit tab 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:03.200 is where you have to take the pills. Some people 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:04.720 take a look that to take the pills. 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:06.400 So so the. 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:08.680 Pills didn't agree with her stomach, so she she kind 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.920 of she was like almost vomiting and then she pooping. 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:13.320 Oh my, she's mad at me right now. 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.359 But the beauty is boil. When you wake up this morning, 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:16.720 that stomach gonna be on flat flat. 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:17.760 Yeah, she's gonna be on flat. 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.560 You're gonna be on flat flat this morning when you 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:21.560 wake up. Yes, any work you've been doing in the 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:23.320 gym on your abs, you're gonna see it this morning. 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:24.840 You're gonna see it to day after you do prep 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:26.480 for a coldon we believe that. Yeah. 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:28.239 So she's she's a little tight with me this morning. 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:29.320 She's very techable. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.440 Why they let her go early because y'all got a 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:32.480 history of it in your family. 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:33.200 No, that's why. 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.080 That's why I was able to go earlier, because I 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:36.240 won't be forty five till this year. 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:39.160 I'll be paid for it, just paid for it, because 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.000 you know, it was one of those things I'm nervous 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.240 after see in Chad with Bosman and all these brothers 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:47.760 are dying from more different things. I'm checking everything when people, 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:49.880 I love to check everything because I want them as 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:51.280 around as long as possible. 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.680 I'm with you now. Today is for twenty Yes, did 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:55.520 they put the song in? Then? I want it? Oh 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:57.760 good man, what's on? You want to because today is 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.400 our good brother Killer Mike's born day man and dropping 0:04:00.400 --> 0:04:02.880 the clue Mi, I damn sure want to start with 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:05.600 Killing Mike because today is Killing Mike's actual B day. 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:06.840 I want to start with styles P. 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:07.360 I get high. 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.040 But we can do Killer Mike. We can we can 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:09.520 do styles PI. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.480 Killer Mike put out a new record for his B 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:14.360 day Man called Don't Let the Devil with lp uh. 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:16.520 You know the whole run the Jewels movement because Killer 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:18.719 Mike has album coming out called Michael, But happy born 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.440 Day to Killer Mike. We don't celebrate our people enough 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:25.000 when they are here Killing Michael, killing treasure to our community. 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.920 It's a pleasure to call him a friend and brother. 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:29.760 And he's one of my top five favorite seeds of 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:31.000 all time. And this song is hard. 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.240 Before you play it, I want to salute to Killer Mike. 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:34.599 I just want to tell you all a quick story. 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:38.560 We got ten seconds. Uh there was somebody getting people 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:41.720 in Atlanta, uh where they would act like they were 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.839 investing people's money and really wasn't doing it. And Killer 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.800 Mike went down to that individual and got so many 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.200 people at money back. Nobody ever talked about it. And 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:53.120 Killer Mike he's a good brother, a hero, and he 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:55.599 continues to do things like that. So Killer Mike, I 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:55.919 love you. 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:57.920 Michael Renda is a real life superhero. 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.680 And let's get this joint on right now now. If 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:01.960 you bet right now, you have to google it later. 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:03.840 Called Don't let the Devil feature in LP. Let's go 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:06.080 hit when the clues bombs for that. It's the Breakfast Club. 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:10.440 Good Morning from Patriots is next. All right morning, everybody, 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.160 It's the dj n V, Charlemagne, the God, we Are 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:14.440 the Breakfast. 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:17.560 Club, Killer Mike Happy born Day, Killer Mike dropping the 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:18.600 clues bombs for killing Mike. 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:18.880 Man. 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.240 That's Killer Mike in LP. Don't let the devil man. 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.080 Let me tell you something. Michael Rinder Killer Mike has 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.280 a new album coming out called Michael. I'm not gonna 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:26.920 put too much sauce on it because you'all gonna say 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:28.680 I'm biased because that's my partner in one of my 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.360 top five favorite them seas of all time. But man 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:33.560 crazy when he drops, you'll see. 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:35.920 Alright, Mayon, I'm sure killing Michael stopped the man and 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:36.839 drops that album. 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:37.119 Mayan. 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:41.520 All right, Well, let's get in some front page news. 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:44.159 Hey Testling, figure out goom Onland, figure out the hood 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:44.719 was Farrock. 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.880 Good morning, Charlemagne, the God, DJ MV, Breakfast Club and 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.280 the ET. 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:51.960 Now, I just want to start off with some quick sports. 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:53.680 Last night, the Bucks beat the Heat one thirty eight 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.080 twenty two, the Nuggets beat the Timberwalls one twenty two, 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.520 one thirteen, and the Grizzlies beat the Lakers one O 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.000 three ninety three. Of course, Brooks and Lebron kind of 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.520 with chirping at each other all game and after the game. 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.680 This is what Brooks said about Lebron. 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.520 Changed their people out there that say maybe maybe you 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:11.320 shouldn't do that with one of the better players in 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:11.680 the game. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:13.400 I guess, what's what were you thinking of? 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:16.880 I don't care he's old, you know. I mean that's 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:19.400 I was waiting for that. I was respecting him to 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.719 do that Game four, game five. He wanted to say 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:24.720 something when I got my four to five should saying 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:29.040 that earlier on I PopEd bears. I don't respect no 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:31.600 one until they come and give me forty. 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.000 Wait, why they gotta call him man? Oh now, Broun, 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:35.400 I need you to drop forty next game. 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:36.000 But that's the thing. 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:38.039 You gotta show up for us old his next game. 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:40.680 That's the thing. Now, God damn Now, Dylan Brooks last 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.719 night scored twelve points one rebound. Now that old man 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:45.960 dropped twenty eight on you in twelve rebounds. How you 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:46.320 call him? 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:48.440 You got to drop forty? I didn't. I never thought 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.000 I would get to the point where Lebron would be 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.560 up here with us. OG's all right, but I guess 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:55.080 he is at this point. Right, He's considered old in 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:56.599 the league. You've been there twenty years, Bron, you got 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.800 to drop forty? Next game? And how the Lakers lose 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:01.680 to the gridlies without I'm rent and did Yanna's play 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:02.080 last night? 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.480 I fell asleep at nolaylast I'm old man. 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.120 And then in the heat the Bucks beat the Heat. 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:07.480 Wow. 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:09.400 Yeah, Lebron, don't let that Canadian told. 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:13.560 You like that game? Brun And I ain't no Laker fan, 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:15.160 but I want to see you drop forty, Brun. 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:16.760 All right, what else you got task? 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:20.320 Yeah, it was a really really good game. I just 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:23.160 want to say my special happy birthday all say. Also 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.400 the Killer Mike, I'm glad you guys did that special 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:28.240 shout out. So I will be going to Atlanta for 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:30.880 the sold out Black Effect podcast festivals. 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.680 So don't be surprised if I'm reporting live. 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:38.960 From the I'm being there with you the Blue. 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:43.360 That's right, and his wife, my sister Shay shout out 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:43.800 to him. 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:44.240 Yep. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:48.080 So Biden issues an executive order to make child and 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.920 home care cheaper. So I wanted to give some good 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.480 news with President Biden signing and executive order Tuesday to 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:58.560 advance affordable caregiving and support workers Now. The order includes 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:02.360 cabinet level agencies taking steps to fix the nation's childcare 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:06.080 and long term care system, such as lowering co payments 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:08.880 for services, and other provisions that will seek ways for 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:12.640 Medicare and Medicaid dollars to go further. Now, take a 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.440 listen to what President Biden had to say about the 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:16.440 executive order. 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:20.160 The executive Order I'm about to sign is the most 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:23.160 comprehensive set of actions any administration is taken to date 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:27.200 to increase access to high quality childcare and long care, 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:29.960 current care and support for the caregivers. 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:30.280 You know. 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:34.760 Under this order, almost every federal agency will collectively take 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:38.120 over fifty actions to provide more peace of mind for 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:42.840 families and dignity for care workers and who deserve jobs 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:46.040 with good pay and good benefits. The executive Order doesn't 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:49.360 require any new spending. It's about making sure taxpayers will 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.960 get the best value for the investments they've already made. 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:57.240 Okay, yep, so good thing this was you guys may 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.520 remember when they were pushing the infrastructure bill early on 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:04.120 in the administration. This was pushed to the side and 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:06.679 so it wasn't able. They couldn't get support early on, 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:09.400 so now they bumped it back up as they should 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:13.160 as Democrats prepare to run in twenty twenty four. So 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.520 I'm excited about this and thought folks should know people 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:18.120 spend a lot of money on childcare every year, about 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:20.240 seventeen thousand dollars, so this should be pretty help. 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:22.840 And hope hopefully that trickled down to the people who needed. 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:24.120 And when I see the people who needed, the black 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:24.959 people in the hood. 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:26.800 That's right, yeah, that's right. 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.560 All right, Well we'll see in a little bit, Testling Figure. 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.120 I know who's a short one. We were talking news. 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.280 We're doing a couple of minutes, all right, all right, 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:37.760 please all right, get it off your chest. Eight hundred 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:39.680 and five eighty five one O five one. If you 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:43.000 need to vent phone lines or wide open, it's four twenty, 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:46.240 so get your ass up, light up, and it's for twenty. 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:50.960 It's the Breakfast Club going to be eTOD morning. Everybody 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.839 is DJ Envy call I mean the guy. We are 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:56.360 the Breakfast Club. Let's get in some front page news. 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:57.360 Now. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.400 We got Testling Figure on the line. Good morning, test 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:01.000 the Hood Whisperer. 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.240 Absolutely, good morning, family. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.400 Just go through some quick sports to Grizzlies beat the 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:08.080 Lakers last night one O three ninety three, the Bucks 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:10.200 beat the Heat one thirty eight, one twenty two, and 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:13.559 the Nuggets beat the Timberwolves one twenty two, one thirteen. 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:15.599 I can't believe that the Heat beat I mean, the 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:17.760 Bucks beat the Heat with Alliannis, and I can't believe 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.480 the Lakers didn't seize the moment and beat the Grizzlies 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:21.480 without John Morant. 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.000 Yeah, they lost by ten. They were down by like 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:25.920 twenty or something at one point, twenty one. At one 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.079 point they came back. But yeah, it was it was 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:31.160 a very physical game. It was an early game too, 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:34.400 forty five last night. Your game started seven thirty. I 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:36.720 think it was really really early. 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:37.320 Was surprising. 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:39.960 All right, Now, what are we starting with? We start 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:42.400 with this the guy that, uh, the inmate that passed 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:43.840 away because of bed bugs. 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:47.160 Yes, wow, break yourself for this one. It just even 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:48.840 reporting this makes me queasy. 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:49.560 Uh. 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:51.920 The family of thirty five year old Georgia. 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:55.120 Man Lashawn Johnson, who died in a bed bug infested 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:58.959 jail cell last year, is now demanding a criminal investigation 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:03.040 until his death, as well as closure and replacement of 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.080 the jail now. The family attorney, Michael Harper, said that 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:10.200 Thompson was found unresponsive in his filthy sale on September nineteenth, 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:15.200 twenty twenty two, after being eaten alive by insects. He 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.040 went on to say that the jail sale mister Thompson 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:21.080 was housed and was not fit even for a diseased animal. 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:24.400 When Thompson was arrested three months earlier, he was put 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.800 into a psychiatric unit of the jail because officials had 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.960 determined that he had mental health issues. His attorneys said 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:33.640 that officers and medical staff at the jail noticed Thompson 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.800 was deteriorating, but they did nothing, and when they found 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:41.480 his body unresponsive, they did not administer CPR because. 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:45.000 In her words, she freaked out. The correction officer actually 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:45.880 said she freaked out. 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:50.040 According to Fulton County Medical examiners report, Thompson's body was 0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:52.600 covered in bed bugs with no obvious signs of trauma, 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:57.160 and they did determine his death as undetermined now. In 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:59.840 the meantime, the Sheriff's office said that they have taken 0:11:59.880 --> 0:12:03.320 it mediate action, which includes spending five hundred thousand to 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:08.000 address the infestation of bed bugs and new protocols for 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:13.000 security rounds, and adding additional staff to help on over crowding, 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:16.000 and so today they're also doing a press conference to 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:17.839 demand a federal investigation. 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:22.720 I'm so confused. How do you determine somebody's death undetermined? Right? 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.600 That's number one? And number two, this man had to 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.439 be screaming for help, right, Like, you're not gonna get 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:30.559 eaten alive by anything and not be yelling and screaming 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:32.440 as you know, at the top of your lung, screaming 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:34.200 for your life. So they just ignored the brother. 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:36.480 Yeah, it was a slow process. 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:39.439 You know, it wasn't like all you know, at one time, 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:44.360 but having the infestation, you know, slowly eating away, slowly deteriorating. 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:47.120 They said he deteriorated over time, but he just never 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:50.840 got the medical help and basically just let him, you know, 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:54.040 stay there in field until eventually it took over his body. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.680 And so that's what the federal investigation will do. We'll 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:00.560 actually go back in and you know, I assume have 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:03.920 the medical examiner make a determination, and once they do that, 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.720 they can continue with that lawsuit and see if there's 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.840 any criminal charges that they can file as well. 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:10.880 That's how I mean, jails aren't supposed to be the 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:13.760 rich Carlton but you know, jails shouldn't be a death stinist. 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:15.079 If you're not saying this to death, you know what 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:15.360 I mean? 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.920 Bugs and now, but you know most jail, a lot 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:21.360 of jails are whether it's roaches, whether it's infested with mice, 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.800 whether it's bedbug, which is disgusting, god, oh my goodness. 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:27.800 I mean, at least make them livable human condition. Like 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.280 I said, it ain't supposed to be no five star hotel, 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.560 but at least make them livable conditions for a human damn. 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.400 Yeah, all right, what else we got? What else? Were 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:39.440 talking about? Facebook? 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I just thought this was disgusting. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.080 Yeah yeah, so many of you may have seen it 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:58.640 on Twitter. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:00.360 I wanted to see what the family so. 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:04.400 Toronto blue Jay's pitcher, Anthony Bass, has sparked heated debate 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:07.760 on social media after claiming that a United Airlines employee 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.560 made his pregnant wife clean up a food mess left 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.840 by his children on the flight. Now, Bass wrote on Twitter, 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.520 the flight attendant at United just made my twenty two 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.320 week pregnant wife traveling with a five year old and 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:21.080 a two year old, get on her hands and knees 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.960 to pick up popcorn mess by my youngest daughter. But 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:27.360 not everyone. Dj MV agreed with the outrage, and they 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.880 took the social media to say that he is responsible 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:32.680 for his own mess. One user commented, be a decent 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:34.960 human and if you're going to give your kid popcorn 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:37.800 on the plane, be prepared to pick it up. Another 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.760 person said, pregnant women can ben that may not want to, 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:42.920 but the solution to that is not to give your 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:46.120 child popcorn on the plane, and another user who identified 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.600 themselves as a former flight attendant, said that a flight 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.320 attendant is there for safety, not to pick up after 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.080 your children. So do you think you should pick up 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:55.320 after your own damn kids? 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:57.960 I mean what I can see both sides. Yes, I 0:15:58.000 --> 0:15:59.960 think that you should pick up after your own damn kid. 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.800 But I do think you have to take into consideration. 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.360 The young lady was pregnant, so if it was difficult, 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.200 and have you ever seen you know, I traveled with 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.720 my family, so when I when my wife is pregnant, 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.320 you know, and we got you know, two other kids 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.560 at one point three other kids. I see how it is, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.280 how difficult it is for her to do certain things. 0:16:17.320 --> 0:16:19.320 So I'm there to pick up the popcorns. If I 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.320 was the flight attendant and I saw a pregnant woman 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.440 with some other kids, I probably would help, you know 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:24.920 what I mean. 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.560 Yes, she's twenty two years she's twenty two weeks pregnant, 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:29.200 she has a two year old and a five year old. 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:32.240 The popcorn I'm sure fell out. Yes, I get it, 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.240 And I'll be honest with you. I've been on some 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:36.920 of them planes and I've been seeing messes on some 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.320 of them planes, crumbs and all types of stuff. And 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:41.040 not to say that the flight attendant had to pick 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:43.000 it up, but there is a cleaning crew before and 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:45.440 after that. That's their job. They're supposed to clean up 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.600 the plane, and they could clean up the plane. That 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:49.840 child was two years old and five years old, and 0:16:49.880 --> 0:16:50.200 it's not. 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:51.960 Like difficult, and it's not like she was encouraging the 0:16:52.040 --> 0:16:52.880 kid to s pill popcorn. 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:55.040 I should say to the popcorn, I'm the kid dropped 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.080 it by at exactly we on a flight, and you 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:58.920 want me to bend down on my knees pick it up. No, 0:16:58.960 --> 0:16:59.880 I'm not picking it up now. 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:02.800 And I thought that was my point of view, Like 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:04.439 when were you supposed to pick it up because you 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:06.960 can't get out your seat. You know, there's only certain 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:08.719 times you can get out with your seatbelt. So did 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.760 they want them to do it before they got off 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:13.520 the plane or like, where was the time that she 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.919 was really going to have for anybody pregnant or not 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:17.840 to get on their knees and pick it up. I 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.040 just think about, like if you got to catch another flight, 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:21.880 you got to get off the plane, you know, where 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.520 was the time I guess that she wanted her to 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:25.159 pick it up. 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:28.640 So many these flight attendants be nasty for no damn, 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:33.280 I've been seeing that, experiencing that. I understand that you 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:34.919 might be having a bad day, but you know, you 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:38.000 don't have to project, you know, that bad day onto 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:40.480 the passengers of the airplane because we all just trying 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:41.639 to get to where we're going. That's it. 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:43.240 And I'll be honest, if I was on that flight 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.560 and see that pregnant woman on her hands and knees 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.400 picking up the popcorn, I would have helped them because 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:49.359 I know what it is to have kids and have 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:51.720 young kids and trying to handle everything together. You know, 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:53.480 I got six of them, so I would have helped 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:53.720 on that. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:55.760 I would have counted the colonels first. If there's only 0:17:55.760 --> 0:17:57.320 like two colonels left, I was like, oh, she got it. 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:01.240 She already that she got it. You know what I'm saying. 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:04.760 I would account of the current, that's all, would acount 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:06.159 the current help. I would have looked and be like, oh, 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:07.680 it's only two lefts, she got it. You know what 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:09.639 I mean? To help them, I'm like that sometimes when 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:11.399 you sit in your seat and I'm gonna tell you 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:12.760 something else. You know, you be sitting down and you 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.600 be offering to help women with their bags. I got 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:17.280 to the point where I stopped doing that because women 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:18.240 don't be wanting help. 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:19.960 Some women want to, Yes, we do. 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.640 I'm every time somebody don't help me, I'll look and say, 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:23.560 I mean, are you gonna help? 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.040 Okay, Yeah, that's how I am. Some of these women 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:27.360 be like I got it, I got it. I don't. 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:30.320 I'm like, okay, But most of the time they do 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:32.080 need help, and I have no problem helping them. 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:33.680 I have no problem helping them either. You know, I've 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:35.680 just been scoring because some women just be like, I 0:18:35.720 --> 0:18:36.480 don't need your help. 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:39.480 They probably feel like you and you probably can't reach 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:41.199 the upper end of the of the placee. So that's 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:42.000 why they probably feel that. 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.119 That's what they can be right about that. 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:48.560 See, well, thank you Tas, We appreciate you. 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:49.360 No problem. 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:51.199 All right, we'll see it tomorrow and make sure you 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:54.600 subscribe to Testling Figureoes podcast, Great Shot, No Chase on 0:18:54.640 --> 0:18:57.240 the Black Effect iHeart radio podcast that work and check 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:00.520 Tas out this Saturday on the Women in Pot casting 0:19:00.560 --> 0:19:03.679 panel at the sold out Black Effect Podcast Festival in 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:04.800 at al Shady. 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:07.280 All right, now, now when we come back, we have 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:10.920 author and therapists Resma Mennekim joining us and we're gonna 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:12.640 kick it with him when we come back, So don't move. 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:17.720 It's the Breakfast Sloan BT call out a name or 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:19.240 you gossip chatting. 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:21.639 This is the rumor report. 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:23.080 I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast Club. This 0:19:23.080 --> 0:19:24.160 is where the tea spells. 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:25.560 Right on the Breakfast Club. 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:30.119 Now in more Jonathan Major's news. Now, his attorney filed 0:19:30.160 --> 0:19:34.720 evidence on Wednesday that appears to show Jonathan's accuser uninjured 0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:39.280 and partying in a club after their alleged altercation. Now, 0:19:39.280 --> 0:19:41.840 af you go to a ball Alert, Hollywood Unlocked or 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:45.680 Shade Room, you can see pictures of this alleged woman 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:48.479 in a bar or club. After you call it an 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.000 alleged woman, why don't I just want to say allege 0:19:51.000 --> 0:19:52.040 because to make sure I don't want to be like 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:53.760 that wasn't me and the photo that wasn't. 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:57.920 Alleged victim the woman the woman, yes, alleged will mentioned. 0:19:57.920 --> 0:20:03.160 Uh in a bar or club partying after the incident happened, 0:20:03.200 --> 0:20:06.960 so they basically say she really didn't have any injuries. Now, Also, 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:09.920 they're saying sources close to the case are saying that 0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:13.920 more victims of Mages have come forward following his March 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:18.240 arrest and a cooperating with Manhattan District Attorney's office. Yikes, 0:20:18.920 --> 0:20:21.159 So I don't know what's happening, but they're saying more 0:20:21.160 --> 0:20:23.159 people are coming up, but I don't know. 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:27.360 Yeah, all of this is very unfortunate, but the reality 0:20:27.440 --> 0:20:30.840 is you are innocent until proven guilty. Sorry, Internet, I 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:33.080 know y'all think otherwise, but there's still a thing called 0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:35.720 due process in this country. And that's whow when I 0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:38.760 see Hollywood and all these people separating themselves from Jonathan, 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:41.760 I'm just reminded that innocent until proven guilty and due 0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:44.320 process is only applied to certain people. 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:47.520 Yeah, and you know, it's it's crazy because when you 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:50.200 see something like that, it seems like it's a media 0:20:50.240 --> 0:20:52.399 attack on him like this, it seems like a planned 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:54.800 attack on him, the way that everybody's coordinated. 0:20:54.840 --> 0:20:59.399 Yeah, I mean, it's definitely a coordinated media I'm not 0:20:59.400 --> 0:21:01.919 gonna say attack, but it definitely is a coordinated media 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:05.840 blitz blitz. Yes, yeah, all these press releases coming out 0:21:05.880 --> 0:21:08.600 at the same time, and you know, you see the 0:21:08.640 --> 0:21:11.280 management in the PR team on one accord with one 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:14.240 press release, like yeah, and they're using one outlet I 0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:18.719 think the outlet they usually users variety. Yeah, so absolutely, 0:21:19.320 --> 0:21:23.800 but once again, innocent until proven guilty. That's supposed to be. 0:21:23.880 --> 0:21:25.600 That's what it's supposed to be in this country. Supposed 0:21:25.640 --> 0:21:27.879 to be doesn't always apply to certain people, and the 0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:30.440 people that usually applies to aren't black. Yeah, I'll tell 0:21:30.440 --> 0:21:31.800 you that much. But we'll see. 0:21:31.960 --> 0:21:35.720 Now, Javonte Davis and Ryan Garcia are fighting this weekend. 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:38.639 If it's wait a second, now, yesterday they were on 0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:41.919 live ig live. They were on Kai I think his 0:21:42.000 --> 0:21:44.760 name is Kay Sanats Live and they were talking about 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:47.479 wagering their perse. So if you don't know what wagering 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:49.720 their purses. They're going to make a certain amount on 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:52.960 this fight. Now they're talking about betting, not real persons. 0:21:53.080 --> 0:21:54.760 I know that we live in this era where you know, 0:21:54.800 --> 0:21:57.119 you might think that two men are absolutely betting their 0:21:57.119 --> 0:21:59.480 actual persons right right, you know, But then I do 0:21:59.600 --> 0:22:01.560 carry versus in twenty twenty three, men. 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:04.880 Do carry persons. But they're actually talking about betting whatever 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:06.240 they would make on that fight. 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:10.600 You want to bet, yeah, let's do it, dude, the 0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:12.080 whole person. That's a bit. 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:14.080 Yes, let's bet you hear. 0:22:14.000 --> 0:22:14.480 Me on the lot. 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:16.240 Let's bet so everything for sure. 0:22:16.800 --> 0:22:18.679 Let's make a contract, let's sign up both of us. 0:22:18.760 --> 0:22:19.240 Let's do it. 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:22.720 Okay, And if you don't really want it, we can't. 0:22:28.880 --> 0:22:31.399 The young boys thought the goddamn are you sure? I 0:22:31.400 --> 0:22:32.760 don't speak twice for myself. 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:36.320 You know, your boy, anything you're gonna you're gonna win. 0:22:37.320 --> 0:22:40.000 I am a one. Them young boys thought, they goddamn 0:22:40.000 --> 0:22:41.720 I yeah, they matter of fact, I'm not evenna bring 0:22:41.720 --> 0:22:43.360 God into it. Them young boy thought they devil damn. 0:22:43.400 --> 0:22:45.600 I okay, let me tell you something. You don't train 0:22:46.280 --> 0:22:49.560 all those weeks, okay, you don't train all those months 0:22:49.800 --> 0:22:52.040 that go in there and bet your person. I don't 0:22:52.040 --> 0:22:54.719 care how sure you are, because guess what, if you lose, 0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:57.920 you definitely deserve the money, and if you win, you 0:22:58.000 --> 0:23:01.720 definitely deserve your money. Got it out? Anybody ever really 0:23:01.760 --> 0:23:03.560 done that? Because I hear people say that if you 0:23:03.600 --> 0:23:05.600 beat me, I bet you my whole person. You know, 0:23:05.640 --> 0:23:07.199 I bet you my whole person, I'll beat you. Does 0:23:07.200 --> 0:23:09.000 anybody ever really give up their whole person when that. 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:12.840 Happens, I hope not. There's no manager, there is no attorney, 0:23:12.880 --> 0:23:15.040 there's no agent, There's none, none of them that would 0:23:15.080 --> 0:23:15.920 advise you to do that. 0:23:16.040 --> 0:23:20.160 None, not at all, none, none, none, whatsoever. That's good, listen, man, 0:23:20.160 --> 0:23:22.840 that's that's ass betting all day long. Because I promise you, 0:23:22.880 --> 0:23:24.399 if I lose, I don't care what I said on Live, 0:23:24.440 --> 0:23:26.280 you ain't getting this, this hard earned money that I 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.320 got and I got my ass kicked. 0:23:28.080 --> 0:23:30.800 For no way, Because we all know any given Sunday, 0:23:30.800 --> 0:23:32.800 any lucky punch can swing and I don't matter. You 0:23:32.800 --> 0:23:34.919 could be the nicest, you can knock me out and 0:23:34.920 --> 0:23:35.720 you take everything. 0:23:36.320 --> 0:23:36.359 No. 0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:37.960 I can't wait to watch the fight though. Yeah, I 0:23:38.000 --> 0:23:40.920 can't wait to watch the fight too. Now. Also, Young 0:23:40.960 --> 0:23:44.240 Miami confirms that her and Diddy have split. 0:23:45.240 --> 0:23:50.240 Girl, Tell me more. I'm a fan. Tell me more, girl, 0:23:51.119 --> 0:23:55.640 hold on, you get to get it together. Tell me more, girl, 0:23:55.640 --> 0:23:57.720 get it together. Tell me She. 0:23:57.720 --> 0:24:00.520 Says we are still friends. We are good friends, but 0:24:00.600 --> 0:24:03.280 she says we are single. That is not my man 0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:07.560 when she said that. Uh, this was in the Cut. 0:24:07.600 --> 0:24:09.719 The sources the cut she did a magazine for. She 0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:12.080 did an interview with a magazine called The Cuts. 0:24:13.520 --> 0:24:14.760 Was they have an official couple? 0:24:15.359 --> 0:24:17.919 I don't know they were. Remember she said they go together, 0:24:17.960 --> 0:24:18.720 but they single. 0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:20.399 That's what I said. She said they go together. She 0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:23.639 said we go together real bad. So they don't go 0:24:23.680 --> 0:24:24.320 together real bad. 0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:24.720 No more. 0:24:24.800 --> 0:24:26.680 Nah, they don't go together real bad anymore. 0:24:28.520 --> 0:24:29.560 You look disappointed about this. 0:24:29.600 --> 0:24:32.879 One liked them together. I did like them together. Tell 0:24:32.960 --> 0:24:34.480 me more about I did like them together. I just 0:24:34.520 --> 0:24:36.760 thought that they complimented each other. I thought, you know, 0:24:36.840 --> 0:24:39.520 she kept Ditty younger, and you know that's impossible. 0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:41.119 Don a lie that she did. See that's what you 0:24:41.200 --> 0:24:42.560 think that Beijing can do for y'all too. You think 0:24:42.560 --> 0:24:44.439 he keeps you all younger, But don't just look stupid. 0:24:44.440 --> 0:24:46.840 Did he had a different swag? He had a different bod? Yes, 0:24:46.840 --> 0:24:49.119 he did he did, absolutely did. Yes, he did look 0:24:49.160 --> 0:24:51.320 like the old man. He was still shaking a little bit. 0:24:51.359 --> 0:24:52.280 He was shaking a little better. 0:24:52.359 --> 0:24:52.840 Yes he did. 0:24:53.200 --> 0:24:55.159 Yes, he did look more tired to me. If young 0:24:55.200 --> 0:24:55.960 girls wearing them. 0:24:55.840 --> 0:25:00.000 Out, did he look did he look a little younger? 0:25:00.960 --> 0:25:02.159 Young Miami, I. 0:25:02.119 --> 0:25:04.760 Don't believe none of that. Well, we wish them the best. 0:25:06.119 --> 0:25:09.600 Is what y'all is? Now, that's a good question. 0:25:09.680 --> 0:25:11.800 I don't know what they is. But they're not together, 0:25:12.840 --> 0:25:14.960 and that is your rumor report. While you got the 0:25:14.960 --> 0:25:15.720 fail like that, and. 0:25:15.640 --> 0:25:17.440 You were telling that you was feeling that tea about 0:25:17.440 --> 0:25:19.239 the relationships, girl, I had to get into it. 0:25:19.280 --> 0:25:20.919 I got some more for you too, because there's a 0:25:20.920 --> 0:25:23.280 lot going on today. Give me give me where's my fan? 0:25:23.320 --> 0:25:24.919 We might not need an old woman in hell if 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:26.600 you keep giving me this feminine energy fan. 0:25:26.600 --> 0:25:28.399 Who's my fan? I need a fan. I'm gonna go 0:25:28.440 --> 0:25:30.479 give me a fling in flame, Morolean. I don't want 0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:32.120 to show your fan. When we come back, we got 0:25:32.119 --> 0:25:34.399 front page news, Sessling figure will be joining us, and 0:25:34.400 --> 0:25:36.120 we're gonna open up the phone lines. It is four 0:25:36.240 --> 0:25:39.200 twenty so eight hundred and five eight five one oh 0:25:39.240 --> 0:25:41.439 five one. We want to hear your high stories. We 0:25:41.480 --> 0:25:44.040 want you to finish this sentence. One time I got 0:25:44.200 --> 0:25:47.679 so high that I what will take your calls out 0:25:47.680 --> 0:25:49.400 the front page news. So don't move. It's to breakfast Club, 0:25:49.440 --> 0:25:49.960 Good morning on. 0:25:50.080 --> 0:25:52.800 B E T morning. 0:25:52.800 --> 0:25:56.200 Everybody is cej NV Charlamagne to God. We are the 0:25:56.240 --> 0:25:59.320 Breakfast Club's four twenty, So I be four twenty to everybody. 0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:02.440 I was happening now. Four twenty is a day where 0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:06.760 most people celebrate cannabis, marijuana and people get high. It's 0:26:06.840 --> 0:26:08.920 usually a time on people that don't usually smoke get 0:26:08.920 --> 0:26:10.240 a chance to smoke and try it out. 0:26:10.359 --> 0:26:13.760 But it's a damn shame that marijuana is not decriminalized 0:26:13.760 --> 0:26:16.159 on a federal level. It's a damn shame that marijuana 0:26:16.240 --> 0:26:18.800 is not legalized on a federal level. And I don't 0:26:18.800 --> 0:26:22.000 think there's no greater hypocrisy than these states that have 0:26:22.040 --> 0:26:25.639 a legalized marijuana for medicinal and recreational youth. But you 0:26:25.680 --> 0:26:29.880 still have people in prison for marijuana. That's right insane 0:26:29.920 --> 0:26:30.119 to me. 0:26:30.520 --> 0:26:34.159 Absolutely, So we are asking today eight hundred five A 0:26:34.280 --> 0:26:36.679 five one five one shout to everybody out there, everybody, 0:26:36.920 --> 0:26:38.800 all the stone is out there, and shout to my 0:26:39.080 --> 0:26:42.280 I got my own strain of marijuana cannabis. It's called slur. 0:26:42.400 --> 0:26:45.360 You can get it out in Detroit House Mary Jane 0:26:45.440 --> 0:26:48.040 or any of the dispensaries out in Detroit and Detroit, 0:26:48.160 --> 0:26:51.479 Michigan should have slurred. If they don't definitely ask for it. 0:26:51.800 --> 0:26:54.400 But we're asking. One time I got so high that 0:26:54.560 --> 0:26:57.480 I what that is the question? Eight hundred five A five, 0:26:57.520 --> 0:27:00.000 one oh five to one. I'll tell you the story. 0:27:00.040 --> 0:27:01.600 When I was up, I think I was laughing for 0:27:01.600 --> 0:27:04.080 four or five hours. It took me about twelve hours 0:27:04.119 --> 0:27:07.080 to get home that day. My wife does not smoke 0:27:07.240 --> 0:27:09.600 or take edibles. She had a bad trip one time 0:27:09.680 --> 0:27:12.520 I gave her an edibull and man, she was all 0:27:12.560 --> 0:27:14.760 over the place. She was one minute she was crying, 0:27:15.160 --> 0:27:17.919 then she was happy, then she was mad at me, 0:27:18.200 --> 0:27:21.080 then she was happy. It was the craziest trip. My 0:27:21.119 --> 0:27:22.680 kids were there, they didn't know what was going on. 0:27:22.800 --> 0:27:25.959 It was the weirdest thing. So we're asking, what is 0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:27.840 the craziest thing. What's go with charlomage? 0:27:28.400 --> 0:27:30.040 Well, you know, I don't like to smoke. I like 0:27:30.080 --> 0:27:31.840 to do edibles because when I smoke, it hitched me 0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:34.879 too fast, And you know, I have really bad anxiety 0:27:34.920 --> 0:27:37.240 and really bad panic attacks. So I like to do 0:27:37.600 --> 0:27:40.480 edicles indigo. But the last time I did smoke was 0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:43.920 during COVID, you know what I mean. And I smoked 0:27:44.000 --> 0:27:47.280 during COVID because I was bored, you know, and you 0:27:47.280 --> 0:27:49.480 couldn't tell me I wasn't gonna die. You could not 0:27:49.640 --> 0:27:51.639 tell me that this was not going to be the end. 0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:53.359 I really thought that I was going to overdose on 0:27:53.400 --> 0:27:56.040 marijuana because this new weed. I don't know what's in 0:27:56.040 --> 0:27:58.480 this new weed. So it was winter time and I 0:27:58.480 --> 0:28:01.560 had on some short pants a hoodie, and I figured, 0:28:01.600 --> 0:28:03.840 you know what, I need to go ground myself. So 0:28:03.880 --> 0:28:07.360 I went outside barefoot with just a hoodie and shorts 0:28:07.400 --> 0:28:09.879 on and the freezing winter in New Jersey, trying to 0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:12.000 ground myself. And then I went to my favorite tree 0:28:12.200 --> 0:28:14.080 and I put my back up against my favorite tree 0:28:14.119 --> 0:28:15.960 and had my head up against my favorite tree, and 0:28:16.000 --> 0:28:17.240 I just remember, I don't know how long I was 0:28:17.280 --> 0:28:19.000 out there. I just remember my wife saying, get drink 0:28:19.080 --> 0:28:21.960 in this house right now. She's literally came doing she said, 0:28:22.000 --> 0:28:24.119 get prenking in this house right now. And so I 0:28:24.119 --> 0:28:26.920 went back in the house and I lived. So now 0:28:27.119 --> 0:28:28.680 that's the last crazy thing I remember doing. 0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:30.959 Yeah, I remember one time taking it on a plane 0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:33.239 and I just remember I was sitting first class. I 0:28:33.280 --> 0:28:35.920 was by myself, and it was a big I'm sorry 0:28:35.960 --> 0:28:37.160 I got to use this word. It was a big 0:28:37.200 --> 0:28:39.160 fat family on the planet. 0:28:39.320 --> 0:28:42.240 Family the clumps. I was certain next to the clumps 0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:42.760 on the plane. 0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:45.080 It was they were all big, and it just felt 0:28:45.160 --> 0:28:47.800 like they would just keep getting bigger and keep getting 0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:50.280 getting bigger, and I couldn't breathe it. I was by 0:28:50.320 --> 0:28:52.880 myself and my manager wasn't with me, Junie. I just 0:28:52.920 --> 0:28:55.480 remember a like, why are you here? And they just 0:28:55.520 --> 0:28:57.480 kept getting bigger, and then they were taking all the 0:28:57.480 --> 0:28:58.480 oxygen on the plane. 0:28:58.720 --> 0:29:00.240 How could six the half. 0:29:00.120 --> 0:29:01.120 They had like five cs? 0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:03.360 God damn it would be and there's only two of them. 0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:08.560 I just remember that if you thought it was a family, 0:29:08.560 --> 0:29:11.480 but it was really one of hers, one of the 0:29:11.480 --> 0:29:13.920 big old beast person on the planet. Ify was so 0:29:14.000 --> 0:29:15.440 high he thought it was a whole family. 0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:15.720 Man. 0:29:15.840 --> 0:29:17.640 That messed me up so crazy. 0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:20.360 Let's go to the phone line that is horrible. 0:29:20.760 --> 0:29:24.000 Hello, who's this. 0:29:22.680 --> 0:29:23.360 This is Libby. 0:29:23.480 --> 0:29:26.920 Good morning, Libby, good morning. We're talking Today's four twenty 0:29:27.080 --> 0:29:29.120 before twenty mama happy. 0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:30.520 Before twenty is the best of the year. 0:29:31.280 --> 0:29:33.520 I ain't gonna say all that now now. 0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:36.360 Yeah, oh yeah, definitely, I'm not going I can't believe it. 0:29:37.560 --> 0:29:40.280 Now we're asking one time I got so high that 0:29:40.480 --> 0:29:41.320 I would. 0:29:42.560 --> 0:29:42.760 Man? 0:29:43.320 --> 0:29:46.440 Last year for twenty, me and my homegirl, we were faded. 0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:49.040 We had eight edibles. 0:29:49.120 --> 0:29:52.920 We were smoking going down the highway and I stopped 0:29:52.920 --> 0:29:53.720 at a green light. 0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:56.040 Why was you driving high? 0:29:56.080 --> 0:29:56.320 Man? 0:29:57.640 --> 0:29:58.760 Was better to drink? 0:29:59.160 --> 0:29:59.440 Listen? 0:29:59.600 --> 0:30:02.719 No, no, no, my bad. It's better to smoke and 0:30:02.800 --> 0:30:04.440 fly than drink and drive. 0:30:04.760 --> 0:30:07.680 That's right. No, No, I mean I mean smoking flod 0:30:07.720 --> 0:30:09.760 like if you're in a plane and somebody flying. 0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:14.400 Man, when I'm high, I drive better, I know, like. 0:30:18.520 --> 0:30:20.600 Green lights. But you say you drive better exactly. 0:30:20.800 --> 0:30:25.560 You stopped too, messed up, putting me on a different level. 0:30:25.760 --> 0:30:27.800 Yes, that's why you shouldn't have been driving, crazy, your 0:30:27.800 --> 0:30:28.600 crazy tail self. 0:30:28.760 --> 0:30:29.480 My goodness. 0:30:29.680 --> 0:30:32.280 Hello, who's this? Hey? 0:30:32.280 --> 0:30:33.800 This is ahm man sleep. 0:30:34.000 --> 0:30:36.440 And what's up? Brother? We're talking about one time I 0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:39.760 got so high that I want man? 0:30:39.920 --> 0:30:42.240 One time I got so high man. I was riding 0:30:42.240 --> 0:30:45.840 in the call my wife. She started asking me questions, 0:30:46.160 --> 0:30:49.800 saying that I was sounding different, like answering me question. 0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:51.240 I'm like, what do you mean I found different? 0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:53.240 She's like, yeah, every time you say how you sound different? 0:30:54.160 --> 0:30:56.920 Make a long story short. She got me so high 0:30:57.000 --> 0:30:58.560 I was convinced that I was somebody else. 0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:00.360 I can even tell who I want the man? 0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:01.680 Are you really? 0:31:01.720 --> 0:31:03.000 Am I really somebody else? 0:31:03.040 --> 0:31:05.680 I'm thinking paranoid, like mug, I'm riding in. 0:31:05.640 --> 0:31:08.120 The color like my alco ego just came out. 0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:10.720 Damn it. That's the beauty of weed. 0:31:10.720 --> 0:31:10.840 Though. 0:31:10.880 --> 0:31:13.800 You should turn into somebody else, start freestyling, start rapping. 0:31:14.040 --> 0:31:15.479 That happened to me one time. I did. I think 0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:17.880 about it all the Columbia, South Carolina, and I got 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:20.800 so high. I used to have a grade Silver hundred six, 0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:22.800 and I was high, and I was driving and I 0:31:22.800 --> 0:31:27.440 shouldn't have been, like twenty years ago, and I thought 0:31:27.520 --> 0:31:31.040 I was speeding. And I looked to the passenger seat, 0:31:31.080 --> 0:31:34.240 and I saw myself in the passenger seat, and myself 0:31:34.320 --> 0:31:38.760 looked at me and said slow down. So then I 0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:42.120 started driving slow. And then I realized I'm doing like 0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:46.440 thirty on the highway what I'm saying. And then I 0:31:46.440 --> 0:31:48.640 got paranoid cause I'm like, I'm driving so slow to 0:31:48.680 --> 0:31:51.040 police gonna stop me. So then I start speeding up. 0:31:51.160 --> 0:31:53.080 So I just started playing a game with myself the 0:31:53.120 --> 0:31:55.560 whole time while I'm speeding up, slowing down, speeding up, 0:31:55.560 --> 0:31:57.000 slowing down. But I made it home. 0:31:57.600 --> 0:32:02.840 Jesus Christ, eight hundred and five abby four twenty. We're 0:32:02.880 --> 0:32:05.560 asking one time I got so high that I what 0:32:06.040 --> 0:32:08.000 call us up right now? It's the Breakfast Club, Good morning, 0:32:09.600 --> 0:32:13.479 good morning. Everybody's dj n G charlomade gud. We are 0:32:13.560 --> 0:32:16.920 to Breakfast Club Avenue four twenty. That was a four 0:32:17.000 --> 0:32:19.880 twenty mini mix, by the way, So we're asking eight 0:32:20.000 --> 0:32:22.320 hundred five eighty five one five one. One time I 0:32:22.360 --> 0:32:25.240 got so high that I what We're going to the 0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:30.240 phone line today? Hello, who's this? Hey, Tatiana? Good morning, 0:32:31.280 --> 0:32:37.040 Good Mary. We're a One time I got so high 0:32:37.040 --> 0:32:37.360 that I. 0:32:37.320 --> 0:32:42.360 What I had drove to the chicken turn out right? 0:32:43.840 --> 0:32:45.280 I was racking head. 0:32:46.360 --> 0:32:48.480 Wait, we drove to a chicken joint and then you 0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:53.880 walked home? Yes, but you forgot you drove I did, 0:32:55.320 --> 0:32:59.040 Jesus Christ, that's high I got head. 0:33:01.480 --> 0:33:03.200 You must not have lived too far from the place. 0:33:07.680 --> 0:33:11.320 Lord have mercy. Well, God bless you. I'm glad. I'm glad. 0:33:11.320 --> 0:33:13.760 You made it out alive. That sounds crazy. 0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:14.480 Hello, who's this? 0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:17.040 This is trying? 0:33:17.560 --> 0:33:19.960 Hey, take us off, Carolina. 0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:22.080 Hey eight four three, what's happening? Take us off? 0:33:22.080 --> 0:33:23.920 Bluetooth of speaking? You got us on that, Mama. 0:33:26.400 --> 0:33:27.080 You can't hear me? 0:33:27.200 --> 0:33:29.880 Now we can. We're talking about one time I got 0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:30.800 so high that I what. 0:33:32.800 --> 0:33:35.000 So one time I got so high that my son 0:33:35.080 --> 0:33:38.840 came downstairs and asked for a bowl of leading and 0:33:39.200 --> 0:33:41.840 I made it, set it back upstairs, and I made it, 0:33:42.480 --> 0:33:46.320 and then I sat down, not realizing that I made 0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:48.440 the news for him, and I sat there and ate 0:33:48.480 --> 0:33:52.400 the whole thing with my cup of kool Aids. And 0:33:52.440 --> 0:33:53.600 then eventually he came. 0:33:53.480 --> 0:33:55.880 Downstairs, asking like, well, my what's I newle that? And 0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:59.080 I was looking them sounded like, oh, just give me 0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:00.240 a minute hour make it for. 0:34:00.280 --> 0:34:00.680 What I went. 0:34:01.400 --> 0:34:05.200 I made the last pack of noodle, so I just 0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:06.560 ended up giving him McDonald's. 0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:06.920 Anyway. 0:34:07.480 --> 0:34:09.160 So wait a minute, So your son asked you to 0:34:09.160 --> 0:34:11.320 make noodles. You was so high that you made noodles 0:34:11.320 --> 0:34:13.279 for him, and then you ate his noodles and then 0:34:13.280 --> 0:34:14.800 you had to go get a McDonald's. 0:34:15.600 --> 0:34:16.040 I did. 0:34:16.280 --> 0:34:18.600 I did, first of all. First of all, First of all, 0:34:18.680 --> 0:34:20.560 I don't see nothing wrong with what you did. Because 0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:24.359 when you hide them children snacks be hitting. Okay, when 0:34:24.360 --> 0:34:26.560 you when you hide the things you make for your 0:34:26.640 --> 0:34:28.640 kids be hitting. Then you turned around. It was a 0:34:28.680 --> 0:34:31.080 great mom and got him McDonald's. And I know you 0:34:31.120 --> 0:34:33.239 got you a little something for yourself from Mickey D's too. 0:34:34.560 --> 0:34:36.839 I did what you got apple pie. 0:34:36.920 --> 0:34:39.200 I loved him High Meals, which McDonald. 0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:42.000 I did get an apple apple pie best, but I 0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:43.720 just got apple pie French fries. 0:34:45.880 --> 0:34:49.200 That's all that. That is the high meal. People, apple pie, 0:34:49.280 --> 0:34:49.920 some French fried. 0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:51.360 And people will go to McDonald's high and order a 0:34:51.440 --> 0:34:53.160 quarter pounded with chieze and an apple pie and put 0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:55.840 the apple pie on the quarter pounds. That's a sweety 0:34:55.880 --> 0:34:56.319 meal in it. 0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:58.120 I think that might be a sweety meal. 0:34:58.440 --> 0:35:00.880 Carol, Good morning, Good morning. 0:35:01.360 --> 0:35:02.480 How you feeling this morning? 0:35:03.520 --> 0:35:03.920 Tired? 0:35:04.320 --> 0:35:06.600 But I'm here happy for twenty So tell us to 0:35:06.840 --> 0:35:12.520 the one time I got so high that I. 0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:14.560 So one time I got so high that I came 0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:17.319 home and my dog was with me, and I was 0:35:17.360 --> 0:35:20.840 watching a TV show with another dog in the show, 0:35:21.719 --> 0:35:24.920 and the dog in the show was barking, and I 0:35:24.920 --> 0:35:27.200 felt like the dog was talking about me, and I 0:35:27.200 --> 0:35:30.719 thought my dog was sitting on the floor, not defended 0:35:30.760 --> 0:35:32.120 me to this dog. 0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:32.799 I love it. 0:35:32.840 --> 0:35:34.520 So I locked my dog up and put him in 0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:36.799 the cage and I went upstairs with the sleep. And 0:35:36.840 --> 0:35:38.400 the next day I felt so bad. 0:35:38.719 --> 0:35:41.080 No, I'm with you, so you punished your dog for 0:35:41.120 --> 0:35:41.600 no reason. 0:35:42.960 --> 0:35:44.400 The dogs on the TV was talking about me. 0:35:44.520 --> 0:35:45.680 He definitely was talking about me. 0:35:45.719 --> 0:35:47.440 First of all, if that dog on the TV was 0:35:47.480 --> 0:35:49.960 balking that your your the dog in your house should 0:35:49.960 --> 0:35:50.600 have been balking too. 0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:53.640 Just in case, okay, oh my god, in case. 0:35:53.960 --> 0:35:58.000 I said, I'm with you dog that the night in 0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:58.399 the cave. 0:35:58.960 --> 0:36:00.799 See nothing wrong with what you did. You did a little. 0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:03.560 You just did a little overnight staying a little bit and. 0:36:03.320 --> 0:36:03.759 A little bit. 0:36:04.160 --> 0:36:04.799 Hello, who's this? 0:36:06.719 --> 0:36:09.239 My name is hey, Jane's good morning? Where you call 0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:12.040 them from from? 0:36:12.719 --> 0:36:12.839 Oh? 0:36:12.920 --> 0:36:14.680 You don't want to say, all right, well, what's the 0:36:14.760 --> 0:36:16.360 one time I got so high that I what? 0:36:18.800 --> 0:36:18.960 Oh? 0:36:19.000 --> 0:36:19.600 Well, what's up? 0:36:20.080 --> 0:36:22.960 Me and a friend of mine we took an edible 0:36:23.000 --> 0:36:25.000 at work. And I can say this now that I 0:36:25.000 --> 0:36:27.400 don't work with a job in AVIAG work a few years, 0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:31.800 but I was totally doing interviews for people's and whatnot. 0:36:31.840 --> 0:36:34.680 And I was at my desk. Then why don't people 0:36:34.719 --> 0:36:35.560 sitting in the front. 0:36:35.400 --> 0:36:38.000 Lobby so them people ain't get their food stands because 0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:39.480 your ass was hot, you fell asleep. 0:36:41.640 --> 0:36:44.799 Somebody's coming with me up. But I got the job done. 0:36:44.880 --> 0:36:47.440 But yeah, I was, I was in the clouds. 0:36:48.160 --> 0:36:49.880 What if I told you that we used to be 0:36:49.960 --> 0:36:51.759 high as hell up here at the breakfast club all 0:36:51.800 --> 0:36:55.680 the time, back in the time. I'm sure you believe it. 0:36:57.320 --> 0:36:57.960 Was a bad time. 0:36:58.000 --> 0:36:59.919 We used to be on them edibles and head trip 0:37:00.280 --> 0:37:07.880 and you hear me, definitely. I mean tripping, tripping, tripping, 0:37:08.320 --> 0:37:11.960 saying anything to make each other laugh and dying laughing 0:37:12.200 --> 0:37:14.719 like it was the funniest thing in the world for 0:37:14.800 --> 0:37:17.800 no reason. It was all funny games till I passed 0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:20.080 out in this goddamn studio one day, Not this studio, 0:37:20.160 --> 0:37:22.240 the old studio, till I passed out in this studio 0:37:22.320 --> 0:37:23.920 one day and had to be rushed at the hospital 0:37:23.920 --> 0:37:26.560 for dehydration. I bet y'all ain't know that. I thought 0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:28.040 y'all didn't know that. Maybe I told you I don't 0:37:28.040 --> 0:37:28.799 remember that. 0:37:28.880 --> 0:37:30.880 Yeah, you took like two days off I had to, 0:37:30.960 --> 0:37:32.040 and then you ain't want to play no more. 0:37:32.040 --> 0:37:35.000 I don' won't play no more. Was ling. We was 0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:38.239 in and out of the clubs late at night, getting high, 0:37:38.280 --> 0:37:42.279 doing edibles, right before we came on air, bringing the 0:37:42.320 --> 0:37:48.680 club with us in hit drinking, having a ball. But 0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:50.799 that's all AI. Any of that old stuff y'all heard 0:37:50.880 --> 0:37:51.879 from back then, that's AI. 0:37:51.920 --> 0:37:53.920 It ain't even that was a That wasn't really us. 0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:55.680 That was the other mean even though all right, Well, 0:37:56.000 --> 0:37:58.359 I also would like to say, please keep in mind 0:37:58.360 --> 0:38:02.360 that it is ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous that there's so many people, 0:38:02.560 --> 0:38:05.359 so many states in this country that has legalized weed 0:38:05.400 --> 0:38:07.640 in some way, shape or form, whether it's from addictional 0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:11.640 or recreational, and there's still people locked up for marijuana 0:38:11.680 --> 0:38:14.600 in America. That is absolutely positively ridiculous. And I know 0:38:14.680 --> 0:38:18.560 Joe Biden did a mass pardon of everybody who's in 0:38:18.680 --> 0:38:21.759 jail for simple marijuana possession, but the reality is there 0:38:21.880 --> 0:38:25.920 is nobody in jail on a federal level for simple 0:38:26.120 --> 0:38:29.080 marijuana possession. So if Joe Biden wanted to, he could 0:38:29.120 --> 0:38:32.440 literally pardon every single person that is federally jailed for 0:38:32.600 --> 0:38:36.280 a non violent weed offense. He could pardon every single 0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:39.040 body if he wanted to, you know, and that's what 0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:40.920 he should do, because, like I said, it's ridiculous for 0:38:41.000 --> 0:38:43.719 people to still be in jail for marijuana in a 0:38:43.719 --> 0:38:47.680 country that is legalized marijuana recreationally and additionally in so 0:38:47.680 --> 0:38:50.319 many different states. All Right, they're so silly. Look at 0:38:50.360 --> 0:38:52.280 me right now. I'm sitting here with a pre road 0:38:52.960 --> 0:38:56.279 joint in my hand from Envy's pre road line. But 0:38:56.320 --> 0:38:58.840 there's people in this state locked up for marijuana. 0:38:58.880 --> 0:38:59.239 That's right. 0:38:59.320 --> 0:39:00.600 That don't make no damren no. 0:39:00.520 --> 0:39:03.680 Sense at though. All right, Well, happy for twenty Now, 0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:05.520 when we come back, we got your room of report. 0:39:05.560 --> 0:39:07.319 We got to tell you why they keep taking down 0:39:07.400 --> 0:39:10.719 Ice Spices of pictures and videos. It's kind of crazy. 0:39:10.760 --> 0:39:12.040 We'll tell you why when we come back. It's the 0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:13.240 breakfast club on morning. 0:39:16.560 --> 0:39:20.560 Or you've gossip beating. This is the rumor report. 0:39:20.640 --> 0:39:21.919 I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club. 0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:22.640 This is where the tea. 0:39:22.440 --> 0:39:24.480 Spells right on the breakfast Club. 0:39:25.239 --> 0:39:28.759 Now Ice Spices post the last couple of days have 0:39:28.880 --> 0:39:32.799 been getting removed Charlamagne. You know why. Nope, because she 0:39:33.000 --> 0:39:36.880 put a caption that said ao isis So I guess 0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:39.360 Instagram take took it down because they thought that she 0:39:39.520 --> 0:39:42.719 was talking about I guess iis what is she talking 0:39:42.719 --> 0:39:44.880 about herself? That's her name, that's her real name. Her 0:39:44.960 --> 0:39:49.080 full name is isis Nija Gaston. But I guess they thought 0:39:49.120 --> 0:39:52.240 ices was referring to the group that are terrorists. 0:39:52.640 --> 0:39:54.239 I think they did that to me before when I 0:39:54.440 --> 0:39:57.400 when I be calling no, I call those white domestic 0:39:57.480 --> 0:39:59.359 terrorists that likes storm the capitol and stuff, I call 0:39:59.440 --> 0:40:01.719 them vanilla. I I feel like they took one of 0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:03.760 my polls to get down. I don't know. I feel 0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:05.400 like they have taken a poll down. I guess it 0:40:05.480 --> 0:40:06.360 was for the same reasons. 0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:09.920 Yeah, they said it violates Instagram's community guidelines on violence 0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:12.080 or dangerous organizations. But that's her name. 0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:14.359 It is her name. But better safe than sorry because 0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:17.600 ao icis sound crazy. Eo isis like sound like you're 0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:18.320 calling the troops. 0:40:18.360 --> 0:40:19.960 But yeah, but that's her name. 0:40:20.320 --> 0:40:21.960 I get it. Yeah, but they don't know that. 0:40:22.239 --> 0:40:25.280 Now Serena Williams is shopping her memoir and they're saying 0:40:25.280 --> 0:40:28.799 that they could catch up to ten million dollars money. 0:40:28.840 --> 0:40:31.520 Now this is just months after retiring from professional tennis. 0:40:31.680 --> 0:40:35.480 The twenty three times Grand Slam singles champion. Serena Williams 0:40:35.640 --> 0:40:38.959 is shopping it around, so she's expected to get ten 0:40:39.000 --> 0:40:39.759 million or. 0:40:39.760 --> 0:40:42.160 More easy money, and she deserves it all. You have 0:40:42.160 --> 0:40:45.120 a book in print. I don't have no ten million dollars. 0:40:45.440 --> 0:40:47.000 I don't have no ten million dollar budget from no 0:40:47.120 --> 0:40:49.760 both you get it back though. I got good budgets, 0:40:49.800 --> 0:40:50.520 but not no ten million. 0:40:50.560 --> 0:40:51.960 No, no, not ten million. 0:40:52.200 --> 0:40:53.920 I mean, but it's not too many people can fetch 0:40:54.000 --> 0:40:56.359 ten million dollars anyway. Now, Serena Williams is you know, 0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:59.920 once in a generational talent, right, you know what I mean. 0:41:00.239 --> 0:41:02.920 It's one of the greatest athletes of all time period. 0:41:03.440 --> 0:41:05.839 You know, some say top five greatest athlete of all time. 0:41:05.880 --> 0:41:08.000 I don't see why you wouldn't put her in that category. So, yes, 0:41:08.239 --> 0:41:10.319 that sounds about rights of all time. Yeah, ten million 0:41:10.360 --> 0:41:11.719 dollars for a book that's not about right. 0:41:11.760 --> 0:41:13.800 Just side note, if you had to put three athletes 0:41:13.880 --> 0:41:16.279 greatest of all times, what three would you put up there? 0:41:17.280 --> 0:41:22.280 Greatest athletes of all time? Ooh, Michael Jordan, definitely Jordan. 0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:27.440 I would do Serena. I would Michael Jordan. I'm not 0:41:27.480 --> 0:41:28.960 mad at Serena. I have to think about that. I 0:41:29.000 --> 0:41:30.520 don't know who would be who I consider great, because 0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:31.840 you know, you'd have to put like track and field 0:41:31.840 --> 0:41:34.479 people in there. I would have to put bicyclists because 0:41:34.520 --> 0:41:38.000 you know, athletics to me mean you know, stamina and conditioning, like. 0:41:38.719 --> 0:41:41.640 I would do Floyd Box. 0:41:41.680 --> 0:41:43.200 I don't know if I put Floyd up there, I'll. 0:41:43.080 --> 0:41:45.120 Do Floyd, I would do Michael Jordan, and I would 0:41:45.120 --> 0:41:46.000 do Serena Williams. 0:41:46.360 --> 0:41:48.360 The three greatest athletes of all time, and I disagree with 0:41:48.400 --> 0:41:48.799 that list. 0:41:49.280 --> 0:41:50.520 I put Tom Brady in there. 0:41:51.440 --> 0:41:54.040 I definitely would put parody in there. But some people 0:41:54.080 --> 0:41:55.759 even talk about that they feel like Brady's not the 0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:58.880 most athletic person, which I think is ridiculous. But I 0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:00.719 don't know. I have to think about that one. That's 0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:02.680 a lot of sports because you have to put football 0:42:02.680 --> 0:42:06.080 players in their football soccer, that's football whatever. You know, 0:42:06.120 --> 0:42:08.840 what the hell I was trying to say, The athlete 0:42:08.880 --> 0:42:11.400 means something different, like it's not about who was the 0:42:11.440 --> 0:42:13.759 best in their field. It's like, I don't know what 0:42:13.760 --> 0:42:15.680 the hell athlete mean. I just know that I wouldn't 0:42:15.680 --> 0:42:19.120 put Floyd in that great athlete though I don't know 0:42:19.120 --> 0:42:20.880 if he's top three all the time. But great athlete. 0:42:21.080 --> 0:42:24.919 All right, now, George Santos. You know who George Santos is, right, 0:42:25.440 --> 0:42:29.440 the elected official, Yeah, the elected official. He is trying 0:42:29.440 --> 0:42:32.840 to do a bill called the Nicki Minaj Act or 0:42:32.920 --> 0:42:35.880 Minaj Act. Now, the Minaj Act comes after a Nicki 0:42:35.920 --> 0:42:39.440 Minaj was talking about the vaccine during the pandemic. Now 0:42:39.480 --> 0:42:41.600 she posted this. She said, my cousin in Trinidad won't 0:42:41.600 --> 0:42:44.280 get the vaccine because his friend got it and became impotent. 0:42:44.640 --> 0:42:47.480 His testicles became swollen. His friend was weeks away from 0:42:47.520 --> 0:42:49.680 getting married. Now the girl called up the wedding. So 0:42:49.800 --> 0:42:51.560 just pray on it and make sure you're comfortable with 0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:53.200 your decision, not bullied. 0:42:53.560 --> 0:42:55.000 They ever find that swollen that man. 0:42:55.239 --> 0:42:58.600 I don't know, so, Santos said, the purpose of the 0:42:58.920 --> 0:43:01.799 Minaj Act is to us ablish a developmental period of 0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:04.719 new vaccines in order to generate public confidence. 0:43:05.840 --> 0:43:07.080 I don't know what the hell you're talking about. 0:43:07.160 --> 0:43:08.880 I just told you he was creating an act called 0:43:08.880 --> 0:43:10.840 the Menajac, And he tells you what the Menajack is 0:43:10.840 --> 0:43:13.760 supposed to do. But it's based off of Nicki Minajs posts. 0:43:13.800 --> 0:43:16.240 Let's go back to the Greatest Athletes's conversations greatest athletes 0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:23.040 of all times, Michael Jordan, Dion Sanders, Dion definitely, Sanders 0:43:23.080 --> 0:43:26.839 was all world in football and basketball. I gotta put 0:43:26.840 --> 0:43:28.799 Bo Jackson in there too, you know what I'm saying. 0:43:29.400 --> 0:43:33.000 Deon Sanders, Bo Jackson, Michael Jordan, Muhammad Ali. 0:43:33.560 --> 0:43:35.520 Some people will go Muhammad Ali. Some people will say 0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:38.799 author Ash for tennis. Some people would say Babe Ru 0:43:38.840 --> 0:43:43.919 from baseball. Some people say Tiger Woods golf. I don't 0:43:43.920 --> 0:43:46.880 consider golfers athletes, golfice athletes. Don't do that. 0:43:46.960 --> 0:43:48.000 Christianna Ronaldo. 0:43:48.160 --> 0:43:50.040 Some people say Christiano Ronaldo. What's the other one that 0:43:50.120 --> 0:43:52.920 must up MESSI messy? Some people say, I mean for 0:43:53.000 --> 0:43:53.560 me definitely. 0:43:53.600 --> 0:43:55.080 When I think about it, Mike, I don't know why 0:43:55.120 --> 0:43:57.680 Deon Sanders and Bo Jackson of the two that stick 0:43:57.719 --> 0:43:59.960 got the most of me, just because they played two 0:44:00.239 --> 0:44:03.440 sports at high, high levels. Deon Sanders might be the 0:44:03.440 --> 0:44:07.040 greatest athlete of all time. Deon Sanders might be the 0:44:07.200 --> 0:44:09.160 greatest athlete of all time because I know a lot 0:44:09.160 --> 0:44:11.840 of times, yes, a lot of times, when we have 0:44:11.960 --> 0:44:14.440 these conversations, Michael Jordan is a great athlete, of course, 0:44:14.520 --> 0:44:16.480 but we think about the championships and everything else, even 0:44:16.480 --> 0:44:19.440 though Deon won championships two in football. But just we're 0:44:19.480 --> 0:44:23.200 talking athletic athletic ability. Deon Sanders might be the greatest 0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:25.239 athlete of all time. He played football in baseball at 0:44:25.600 --> 0:44:29.600 a supremely high level, sometimes at the same time. Yeah, Jack, 0:44:29.600 --> 0:44:31.080 I couldn't be making this up, But I feel like 0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:33.359 Deon used to play a football game in the day 0:44:33.360 --> 0:44:36.000 in a baseball game at night. Sometimes I feel like 0:44:36.040 --> 0:44:38.560 I remember this. Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of 0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:38.879 all time. 0:44:38.960 --> 0:44:39.200 Y'all. 0:44:40.360 --> 0:44:45.000 Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of all time. Oh, 0:44:45.040 --> 0:44:46.319 I can't even say all time. I've only been a 0:44:46.320 --> 0:44:49.280 live forty four years, so this is a in my lifetime. 0:44:49.360 --> 0:44:52.040 Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete I've ever seen. Yes, 0:44:52.480 --> 0:44:54.480 I was born in nineteen hundred and seventy eight. Michael 0:44:54.520 --> 0:44:57.320 played basketball in baseball. He didn't play my basketball and 0:44:57.360 --> 0:44:59.880 baseball at the same time, and he didn't play professional baseball. 0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:00.960 He played for the White Sox. 0:45:01.080 --> 0:45:03.120 Man shut up play for the Barons. 0:45:03.400 --> 0:45:06.400 White Birmingham Baron. He played for the Chicago White Sox. 0:45:07.239 --> 0:45:13.200 Google it. I got the jersey. Google it, Google it 0:45:13.560 --> 0:45:15.120 and take that should look stupid. 0:45:15.120 --> 0:45:16.799 With that in your mouth like that, you sounds stupid. 0:45:16.840 --> 0:45:18.400 I'm not arguing with you about this. Michael Jordan did 0:45:18.400 --> 0:45:20.120 not played for the Chicago White Sox. He played for 0:45:20.160 --> 0:45:23.200 the Birmingham Barons. Okay, I knew this before I saw 0:45:23.239 --> 0:45:26.479 the last dance. The Barons jerseys looked like Chicago White 0:45:26.480 --> 0:45:31.680 Sox Jersey Cargo White. Bet you, but bet you? But 0:45:32.880 --> 0:45:35.800 bet you? But no, bet you butt cheeks. 0:45:36.360 --> 0:45:41.239 No, Michael Jordan. Jordan's decision. This is ed. Jordan did 0:45:41.239 --> 0:45:42.920 his time on the ground in a stint with the 0:45:42.960 --> 0:45:46.640 White Sox as a light hitting rookie in Double A ball, 0:45:47.600 --> 0:45:49.280 so he played for the White Sox just white. 0:45:49.480 --> 0:45:50.720 He played for the Birmingham Barons. 0:45:52.280 --> 0:45:54.040 He played Double A White Sox. He played for the 0:45:54.040 --> 0:45:56.640 White Sox. Oh you should have bet you, but it 0:45:56.719 --> 0:45:58.920 was the Double A Birmingham Barons. 0:45:58.920 --> 0:46:02.239 Man. Shut up, many, I'm not talking to y'all no more. 0:46:03.520 --> 0:46:05.320 He played one season with the Double A Bird. He 0:46:05.320 --> 0:46:07.000 played one hundred and twenty seven games. He just hit 0:46:07.040 --> 0:46:09.839 two O two You right, I'm I'm glad I ain't 0:46:09.840 --> 0:46:12.600 bet my butt, all right? And that is your rumor 0:46:12.800 --> 0:46:15.160 report now, Charlamann, who are giving that down? 0:46:15.200 --> 0:46:17.640 Talk you. You know, that's why therapy works so well, 0:46:17.680 --> 0:46:19.520 because i't even gotta argue. I knew I was right. 0:46:20.160 --> 0:46:21.880 You know what I'm saying. You almost have my blood 0:46:21.880 --> 0:46:25.040 pressure off for two seconds, but it ain't work. It's 0:46:25.080 --> 0:46:28.479 over here, minded my goddamn business. Okay, For after the hour, 0:46:28.600 --> 0:46:29.960 you know who Donkey of to Day is going to. 0:46:30.120 --> 0:46:32.320 The Donkey of the Day is going to an unidentified 0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:34.480 man who really pissed me off when I read this 0:46:34.560 --> 0:46:36.920 story because he was on the Southwest flight dough Orlando 0:46:37.040 --> 0:46:39.560 and he was bothering people that he don't need to 0:46:39.560 --> 0:46:41.960 be bothering. Okay, and we'll talk about it for after 0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:42.239 the hour. 0:46:42.480 --> 0:46:45.000 And Jordan did sign a contract with the White Sox. 0:46:45.080 --> 0:46:46.600 It was just the Double A team. 0:46:46.600 --> 0:46:48.600 I don't remember anything about that. I just remember the 0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:50.400 Mermanham Barons. You should have bet, you should have bet 0:46:50.440 --> 0:46:52.920 some butt. Then I'm good, Okay. 0:46:52.680 --> 0:46:55.520 I'm right, all right, Rumor report donk of to Day 0:46:55.520 --> 0:46:56.160 when we come back. 0:46:56.200 --> 0:46:57.320 It's the Breakfast clubgal. 0:46:57.120 --> 0:46:59.840 Boying, wake that ass up in the morning. 0:47:00.160 --> 0:47:04.240 Breakfast Club, the breakfast club. Bitch. 0:47:04.239 --> 0:47:06.480 You don't here to day with Charlam Hayne a guy. 0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:07.960 I don't know why y'all keep it, letting him get 0:47:08.000 --> 0:47:08.279 y'all like. 0:47:08.320 --> 0:47:11.560 This don't here today for Thursday, April twenty or four 0:47:11.680 --> 0:47:14.400 twenty goes to an unnamed Orlando man. Okay, but if 0:47:14.440 --> 0:47:16.680 y'all know his name, please let me know because I 0:47:16.719 --> 0:47:20.040 can update this story later. Because this story pissed me off. 0:47:20.120 --> 0:47:24.880 Why because I got four daughters, okay, ages fourteen, seven, four, 0:47:24.960 --> 0:47:28.319 and about eighteen months. So even my children. Okay, so 0:47:28.400 --> 0:47:30.560 even though my children are pretty good on flights, all right, 0:47:30.600 --> 0:47:33.800 there's times well, of course they have cried on planes. 0:47:33.840 --> 0:47:35.399 I'm sure your kids have cried on a plane before 0:47:35.440 --> 0:47:38.400 and were absolutely Why because that's what babies do. They 0:47:38.480 --> 0:47:40.520 can't communicate, they don't know how to use their words 0:47:40.560 --> 0:47:42.760 because they don't know how to talk yet, so they cry. 0:47:42.840 --> 0:47:45.719 They'll let you know they want something. Was its food? Sleep? Hell, 0:47:45.920 --> 0:47:49.040 maybe on a plane their little ears are popping and 0:47:49.080 --> 0:47:51.239 they don't know what else to do because they don't 0:47:51.239 --> 0:47:53.440 know what they are experiencing. Okay, but I was reading 0:47:53.440 --> 0:47:55.719 the New York Post today and I saw the headline 0:47:56.040 --> 0:48:00.760 man on Orlando flight throws a fit over iron baby 0:48:01.200 --> 0:48:03.759 f that that's literally the headline. It's got the f 0:48:03.800 --> 0:48:05.680 that in there and everything. See, this man was on 0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:08.640 a Southwest Airlines flight, aka his first mistake. Oh that's 0:48:08.680 --> 0:48:11.279 where it was, right there. Southwest Airlines ain't nothing but 0:48:11.320 --> 0:48:13.640 a Greyhound bus in the sky. Matter of fact, I'm 0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:15.760 not even gonna do Greyhound like that. Okay. Southwest Airlines 0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:17.800 ain't nothing but a Peter Pan Bus Matar bus in 0:48:17.840 --> 0:48:20.239 the sky. Okay. And ghetto is as ghetto does. And 0:48:20.280 --> 0:48:23.040 if you ain't never been to the ghetto, don't ever 0:48:23.080 --> 0:48:24.960 come to the ghettocause you wouldn't understand the ghetto. So 0:48:24.960 --> 0:48:26.840 stay the f out of the ghetto. Now replace ghetto 0:48:26.880 --> 0:48:29.239 with Southwest and it's the same damn thing. Okay. And 0:48:29.320 --> 0:48:31.800 this video that went viral is proof of that, because 0:48:31.840 --> 0:48:35.360 this unidentified man on this Southwest flight the Orlando is 0:48:35.440 --> 0:48:38.279 upset that a baby is crying on the plane. Listen 0:48:38.320 --> 0:49:00.400 to this fool. 0:48:50.160 --> 0:48:50.719 Wasn't on this. 0:48:55.280 --> 0:48:57.920 Stop That's what. 0:49:02.040 --> 0:49:09.200 Can you show work that listens not no, no, no, 0:49:10.960 --> 0:49:15.279 let's be you want to be no, no, no, no, 0:49:15.280 --> 0:49:20.600 no no, I'm telling you we are. We are in 0:49:20.680 --> 0:49:25.800 a tim king with a baby and a goddamn echo chamber, 0:49:26.120 --> 0:49:28.280 and you want to talk to me about being. 0:49:28.840 --> 0:49:31.319 Kidd Okay, because you're yelling. 0:49:31.239 --> 0:49:34.400 So the baby did that? 0:49:34.560 --> 0:49:41.279 Mother? First of all, First of all, yelling baby, let's 0:49:41.320 --> 0:49:42.759 not even get to that part here. First of all, 0:49:42.800 --> 0:49:44.680 I know you ain't complaining about not being served nothing 0:49:44.680 --> 0:49:49.320 on the Southwest flight. I know you're not complaining about 0:49:49.360 --> 0:49:52.239 not being served nothing on the Southwest flight. Second of all, 0:49:52.600 --> 0:49:54.400 you can't be upset that the baby is throwing a 0:49:54.400 --> 0:49:56.720 fit and then throw a fit like a baby. Okay, 0:49:56.760 --> 0:50:00.319 the actual baby is just doing what actual babies. That 0:50:00.400 --> 0:50:02.759 baby had a reason to be crying and throwing a fit. 0:50:02.960 --> 0:50:06.520 The reason is because it's a baby. But what's your problem, sir? 0:50:06.680 --> 0:50:09.120 The flight attendant told you you are a man, and 0:50:09.120 --> 0:50:11.280 you are indeed a man, unless, of course, you identify 0:50:11.280 --> 0:50:12.960 as a baby, which could possibly be the case because 0:50:12.960 --> 0:50:15.040 it is twenty twenty three. But for you to be 0:50:15.160 --> 0:50:17.480 upset that a baby is crying on a plane, I'm 0:50:17.560 --> 0:50:20.399 really starting to wonder what's up with your empathy. Okay, yes, 0:50:20.440 --> 0:50:22.959 a baby is crying on a plane. That's normal. Okay, 0:50:23.040 --> 0:50:25.440 but mind your business. A baby just can't stop crying 0:50:25.440 --> 0:50:28.200 on demand, and a parent can't make a baby stop 0:50:28.280 --> 0:50:30.319 crying on demand. Okay, you got to figure out what's 0:50:30.320 --> 0:50:32.279 wrong with the baby, and then you handle it. That's 0:50:32.320 --> 0:50:34.240 the way it works. And then you got the nerve 0:50:34.360 --> 0:50:38.320 to say that that baby pay extra to cry, probably 0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:41.359 because it's Southwest, all right. But that is also why 0:50:41.400 --> 0:50:44.560 you really one hundred percent grade a sucker in my book, 0:50:44.600 --> 0:50:48.360 because you would not try any other baby like that, Okay, 0:50:48.840 --> 0:50:52.680 not little baby, not side a baby, especially not dub baby. 0:50:52.719 --> 0:50:55.000 The baby would smack fire out you and birdman baby, 0:50:55.040 --> 0:50:57.920 the number one's donner. You would put all respect on 0:50:57.960 --> 0:51:01.000 his names, So stop playing. Main reason I don't like 0:51:01.040 --> 0:51:03.800 this story, the main reason you get in the biggest 0:51:03.800 --> 0:51:07.560 he hall, is because it feels like it's a man 0:51:07.719 --> 0:51:10.520 picking on a woman flying by herself, because if that 0:51:10.640 --> 0:51:13.680 woman was with her husband, or it was a husband 0:51:13.719 --> 0:51:16.160 traveling along with one of his babies, which I've done, 0:51:16.239 --> 0:51:17.960 you wouldn't play with that man like that. And you 0:51:18.080 --> 0:51:20.520 damn show wouldn't play with that woman if she was 0:51:20.520 --> 0:51:22.279 with her man. This is how a convo would have 0:51:22.280 --> 0:51:25.400 went on Southwest, if she was with her baby father. 0:51:29.160 --> 0:51:34.440 In a ten king a baby and a goddamn echo chamber. 0:51:34.719 --> 0:51:38.120 And you want to talk to me about being y'all 0:51:38.440 --> 0:51:41.160 gonna die in the hood you lived your whole life broke. 0:51:41.400 --> 0:51:45.959 You ain't suck y'all. 0:51:46.040 --> 0:51:47.480 They gonna never make it out the hood. 0:51:47.640 --> 0:51:48.040 That's right. 0:51:48.080 --> 0:51:48.960 He's gonna die broke. 0:51:49.080 --> 0:51:52.880 That's right. That's right, Big soldier boy s M D energy, 0:51:53.080 --> 0:51:54.120 suck my d from the. 0:51:54.160 --> 0:51:55.640 Back like a path of fire. 0:51:55.800 --> 0:51:56.520 Who the baby? 0:51:56.560 --> 0:51:56.759 Now? 0:51:57.120 --> 0:52:00.279 Okay, I have you crying uncontrollably. You'll be bad. Give 0:52:00.280 --> 0:52:02.320 me to burp you all right, do a whole rector 0:52:02.520 --> 0:52:05.279 temple your check on you tomorrow of the story is 0:52:05.600 --> 0:52:08.640 leave mothers and their babies alone. Okay, trust me. The 0:52:08.640 --> 0:52:10.560 only thing you should be doing when you see mothers 0:52:10.640 --> 0:52:14.240 attempting to mother in public is mind your business. Please 0:52:14.280 --> 0:52:17.120 give this unidentified man that was on this Southwest Airlines 0:52:17.160 --> 0:52:20.520 flight door Orlando really being a baby the biggest he 0:52:20.600 --> 0:52:29.440 hull that director temperature check got you excited? 0:52:29.800 --> 0:52:32.120 I mean, don't excite somebody with a good time you. No, No, 0:52:32.160 --> 0:52:33.960 he might like it, but anyway, he won't play game. 0:52:34.040 --> 0:52:34.759 No, I don't want to play. 0:52:34.800 --> 0:52:36.200 He won't play. Why you don't play games? 0:52:36.239 --> 0:52:38.320 Because the credits is rolling on BT right now, The 0:52:38.360 --> 0:52:40.799 credits rolling on BT, the credits rolling right now. 0:52:40.800 --> 0:52:41.480 You don't play game. 0:52:42.400 --> 0:52:43.160 I don' won't play a game. 0:52:44.120 --> 0:52:44.880 What do you think is? 0:52:45.600 --> 0:52:46.440 What do I think he is? 0:52:46.680 --> 0:52:46.799 Well? 0:52:46.840 --> 0:52:48.160 I saw the video, so I know what. He is. 0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:50.960 A nigga baby, you know what? 0:52:51.680 --> 0:52:53.760 Wake that ass up in the morning. 0:52:54.040 --> 0:52:56.600 Breakfast Club Morning. 0:52:56.640 --> 0:52:59.880 Everybody is Steve j Envy Charlamagne the guy. We are 0:53:00.160 --> 0:53:02.800 Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building. 0:53:02.880 --> 0:53:04.959 That's right and all thought. He has a new book 0:53:04.960 --> 0:53:08.320 out right now, Monsters in Love Resma Mennequin welcome. 0:53:08.360 --> 0:53:08.640 Brother. 0:53:08.719 --> 0:53:11.200 Hey man, it's good anytime I get a chance to 0:53:11.239 --> 0:53:13.000 spend some time, which all is always good for me. 0:53:13.040 --> 0:53:14.960 Man, No, thank you. I missed you last time I 0:53:15.040 --> 0:53:16.919 was traveling. But you're hear now. How are you doing? 0:53:16.920 --> 0:53:17.480 How are you feeling? 0:53:17.520 --> 0:53:17.719 Brother? 0:53:17.840 --> 0:53:19.920 I'm doing good, Brother, I'm doing really well. You know. 0:53:20.040 --> 0:53:21.799 The book's doing well. All of my books are doing 0:53:21.840 --> 0:53:26.759 really well. I am. My family's good, My wife's good, 0:53:26.880 --> 0:53:29.120 my kids are good. You know, I can't complain. 0:53:29.160 --> 0:53:31.000 Man, Redmond is not just an author to me. He's 0:53:31.040 --> 0:53:34.200 a teacher and a healer. Absolutely, you know, tell me 0:53:34.520 --> 0:53:36.200 talk to people about what Manster's in Love is about. 0:53:36.360 --> 0:53:38.960 So Monster's in Love, Man, Monsters So a lot of 0:53:38.960 --> 0:53:41.400 people don't know. But I started a lot of my 0:53:41.560 --> 0:53:45.040 work started as a therapist. So I've been doing therapy 0:53:45.080 --> 0:53:49.600 for thirty two years and primarily a lot of my 0:53:49.680 --> 0:53:53.080 work was in couples, working with couples, and a lot 0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:55.080 of the stuff that I saw out there brother that 0:53:55.160 --> 0:53:58.240 was that was especially as it relates to black people 0:53:58.400 --> 0:54:03.800 and bodies of culture. It was just basically giving people tips, 0:54:04.680 --> 0:54:07.719 you know, and a lot of times, man, when you 0:54:07.800 --> 0:54:09.600 in long term relationships, have been in a long term 0:54:09.640 --> 0:54:12.440 relationship is different than being in a dating relationship, right, 0:54:13.000 --> 0:54:15.040 And a lot of the tips are about how you 0:54:15.120 --> 0:54:17.399 rekindle things as opposed to how do you grow up? 0:54:18.120 --> 0:54:21.600 And so I wrote a book a number of years 0:54:21.600 --> 0:54:29.280 ago called Rock the Boat. Rock the Boat was really about, 0:54:29.320 --> 0:54:31.279 you know, some of the same stuff that Monsters is. 0:54:31.360 --> 0:54:34.239 But what happened was is that once Rocked the Boat 0:54:34.280 --> 0:54:39.279 came out and it didn't really sell that well. But 0:54:39.360 --> 0:54:41.719 what ended up happening was is that over the course 0:54:41.719 --> 0:54:44.040 of the last ten twelve years, I've grown as a person. 0:54:44.040 --> 0:54:46.680 I've grown as a therapist, I see things differently. I've 0:54:46.680 --> 0:54:49.480 grown as a husband, I've grown as a father, and 0:54:50.160 --> 0:54:52.040 I've grown as a black man who's trying to do 0:54:52.120 --> 0:54:55.279 liberatory work. And so when I got the rights back 0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:57.600 to my book. I was like, let me put the 0:54:57.640 --> 0:54:59.879 stuff in that I've learned over the last five years. 0:55:00.239 --> 0:55:01.400 And that's what monstersm are. 0:55:01.480 --> 0:55:04.080 Oh wow, you say in the book, you say, no 0:55:04.080 --> 0:55:06.920 matter what you do or who your lover is, eventually 0:55:06.960 --> 0:55:08.640 your partnership begins to hurt. 0:55:08.840 --> 0:55:10.160 Yes, right, why is that? 0:55:10.680 --> 0:55:11.480 And how do we deal with that? 0:55:11.520 --> 0:55:15.239 So so you know, we've been conditioned to believe that 0:55:15.560 --> 0:55:19.920 all we gotta do is try and rekindle or try 0:55:20.120 --> 0:55:23.200 and you know, let's start having date night and let's 0:55:23.239 --> 0:55:24.840 start doing all that different type of stuff. And what 0:55:24.920 --> 0:55:28.520 you find is that those that that that purpose of 0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:31.160 relationships at the beginning is to draw you two together. 0:55:31.360 --> 0:55:34.800 That's the purpose. That's the only purpose. And you start 0:55:34.800 --> 0:55:37.279 and the way that you draw each other together is 0:55:37.360 --> 0:55:41.080 that you start you usually only tell each other about 0:55:41.120 --> 0:55:44.719 the similarities or you like underwrought or basket weaving, or 0:55:44.760 --> 0:55:47.120 you like this and you I like that too, right, 0:55:47.640 --> 0:55:49.840 But what happens after about a year or two years, 0:55:49.880 --> 0:55:51.600 what you start to find is that you start to 0:55:51.640 --> 0:55:54.399 show the differences. And that's when we start to think 0:55:54.480 --> 0:55:58.040 something's going wrong. Nothing's going wrong, it's just the machinery 0:55:58.080 --> 0:56:01.120 of relationships doing what it is, and it's designed to 0:56:01.160 --> 0:56:07.040 squeeze you, so you get pasture on adult developmental immature issues. Right. 0:56:07.600 --> 0:56:09.920 But it don't feel good, and it takes a long 0:56:10.080 --> 0:56:13.279 time before people are willing to actually say, you know, 0:56:13.360 --> 0:56:16.920 there's pieces there. How do I be the person that 0:56:16.960 --> 0:56:19.120 I want to be at the same time that I'm 0:56:19.160 --> 0:56:22.080 connected to somebody that I love more than anything else. 0:56:22.400 --> 0:56:26.480 It's easy to do it by yourself, right. It's a 0:56:26.520 --> 0:56:29.799 whole lot harder when you're in with somebody and over 0:56:29.840 --> 0:56:32.560 the course of time you start to notice, Hey, I 0:56:32.600 --> 0:56:36.399 love this person, but I also hate them. There's some 0:56:36.480 --> 0:56:37.359 hate between us. 0:56:38.400 --> 0:56:38.600 You know. 0:56:38.760 --> 0:56:40.799 Yeah, really it's healthy. 0:56:41.040 --> 0:56:41.239 Brother. 0:56:41.600 --> 0:56:44.719 Let me say this. Y'all been married a while, right, 0:56:45.120 --> 0:56:47.520 two years, twenty two years. I've been married, been with my. 0:56:47.480 --> 0:56:50.239 Wife for twenty five, but we've been married four year. 0:56:50.280 --> 0:56:53.000 Yep, I've been I've been with my wife for thirty years. Right. 0:56:55.160 --> 0:56:57.640 One of the things that I learned through the course 0:56:57.680 --> 0:57:04.080 of that is that over time, so relationships end up 0:57:04.120 --> 0:57:07.480 at the beginning, or relationships at the beginning end up 0:57:07.520 --> 0:57:12.279 being this thing where you think that the design is 0:57:12.280 --> 0:57:15.759 for the person to make you happy, right, But the 0:57:15.800 --> 0:57:19.520 design of It is designed to make you grow up. 0:57:20.120 --> 0:57:26.040 So when you say to a person, I choose you, 0:57:26.200 --> 0:57:29.320 it's just me and you. There's nobody else. At that moment, 0:57:29.440 --> 0:57:32.560 the relationship becomes more finite. More of what I do 0:57:32.760 --> 0:57:35.120 impacts you, more of what you do to me impacts me. 0:57:35.920 --> 0:57:40.320 When you get to finite relationships, when a when a 0:57:40.360 --> 0:57:42.680 person doesn't want to do what you think they should do, 0:57:43.240 --> 0:57:47.680 you are tested. Right, that's where the hatred comes in 0:57:47.720 --> 0:57:50.120 at because what ends up happening is you want to 0:57:50.160 --> 0:57:52.200 find a way around it. Your partner wants to find 0:57:52.200 --> 0:57:55.760 a way around that pressure, that critical mass. And what 0:57:55.880 --> 0:57:58.680 happens is is that over time you either learn how 0:57:58.720 --> 0:58:00.840 to grow up through that or you blow it through 0:58:00.840 --> 0:58:04.320 your partner. Right. That makes you start to make choices 0:58:04.360 --> 0:58:06.200 about how you want to be and who you want 0:58:06.240 --> 0:58:09.240 to be with. That only happens in the long term relationship. 0:58:09.440 --> 0:58:12.000 That doesn't happen in the infant relationship when you just 0:58:12.080 --> 0:58:14.360 dat know, you out here screwing around and you're doing 0:58:14.600 --> 0:58:17.240 what The reason why people screw around is that they 0:58:17.280 --> 0:58:19.240 what they do is that they bring in the third 0:58:19.280 --> 0:58:21.800 person to handle the heat that two people should be handled. 0:58:22.680 --> 0:58:23.720 Explain that brick that down. 0:58:24.160 --> 0:58:27.000 That's not like, yeah, no, but that's what that's what 0:58:27.040 --> 0:58:29.240 he's saying, but that is that's exactly what I'm saying. 0:58:29.520 --> 0:58:31.640 So if something is happening between it, and that's why 0:58:31.680 --> 0:58:34.240 I wrote the book, I wrote the book. I wrote 0:58:34.280 --> 0:58:38.560 this book to address not just heterosexual relationships. But what 0:58:38.600 --> 0:58:41.080 I did was was look at all of the people 0:58:41.120 --> 0:58:46.120 that came into my office, both both trans relationships, gay relationships, 0:58:46.120 --> 0:58:48.280 heterosexual relationship and I said, you know what, there's this 0:58:48.440 --> 0:58:53.560 patterning regardless, right. If it's not where things go, is 0:58:53.720 --> 0:58:56.440 it is that when when you get into a relationship 0:58:56.480 --> 0:58:59.480 with another person and you say I choose you, that 0:58:59.600 --> 0:59:03.360 pressure increases, right because because it matters what they think 0:59:03.360 --> 0:59:05.560 about you, it matters what you think about them, right, 0:59:06.120 --> 0:59:09.600 So what ends up happening is is that when we 0:59:09.720 --> 0:59:12.000 start to look for ways around it to take the 0:59:12.000 --> 0:59:14.919 heat out, what you're really doing is taking the heat 0:59:14.960 --> 0:59:18.240 that can actually transform the relationship. So if I can't 0:59:18.240 --> 0:59:20.480 handle stuff that's happening between me and you, I bring 0:59:20.520 --> 0:59:23.080 a third person in. Now that heat is being carried 0:59:23.080 --> 0:59:26.520 by three people, but it should only be carried by two, right, right, 0:59:27.280 --> 0:59:28.800 And what we try and do is find a way 0:59:28.840 --> 0:59:31.200 around stuff as opposed to going through it. 0:59:32.200 --> 0:59:33.320 And you know that. 0:59:33.320 --> 0:59:35.640 I mean y'all been in relationships long enough, you know 0:59:35.720 --> 0:59:38.040 there are times where you were the easy way out. 0:59:38.800 --> 0:59:42.360 We're trying to get around. It looks good, but you 0:59:42.480 --> 0:59:49.640 find that when you do it that it undercuts your development. Right, 0:59:49.760 --> 0:59:53.080 it undercuts like like the pressure, the pressure. I'm not 0:59:53.120 --> 0:59:55.320 saying you always should have pressure, but I'm saying the 0:59:55.360 --> 0:59:59.080 pressure actually creates opportunities for you to say who do 0:59:59.160 --> 1:00:01.800 I want to be? And not only who do I 1:00:01.800 --> 1:00:03.040 want to be, but who do I want to be 1:00:03.080 --> 1:00:04.840 with you? Right? 1:00:04.920 --> 1:00:07.040 So when Layman's turns, you're basically saying, you know, in 1:00:07.040 --> 1:00:11.680 some relationships, let's say they're having problems sexually inship, and 1:00:11.760 --> 1:00:14.520 instead of keeping the heat in the relationship, a woman 1:00:14.600 --> 1:00:17.600 might step out with somebody else that solves that problem 1:00:17.760 --> 1:00:18.840 instead of dealing with it at home. 1:00:18.960 --> 1:00:24.480 I solves the problem, so takes the heat out of it, right, 1:00:24.800 --> 1:00:28.360 Because if I if so, so, a lot of times 1:00:28.400 --> 1:00:32.880 people steal each other's choices, right. So it's one thing 1:00:32.920 --> 1:00:36.200 if we're in a relationship and I come to you 1:00:36.240 --> 1:00:42.000 and I say, look, I want to deal with somebody else, Right, 1:00:42.800 --> 1:00:46.200 I'm giving you the choice to you you wanted to 1:00:46.240 --> 1:00:49.720 have a monogamous relationship, I'm giving you the choice to 1:00:49.760 --> 1:00:52.400 decide whether or not you want to continue to be 1:00:52.400 --> 1:00:54.560 in a monogamous relationship. I've made a decision. I no 1:00:54.600 --> 1:00:57.560 longer want to be in a monogamous relationship, right, So 1:00:58.360 --> 1:00:59.960 what I do what we do. A lot of times 1:01:00.120 --> 1:01:02.240 we don't give our partners that choice. We steal it 1:01:02.280 --> 1:01:04.640 from them. We say, you don't get a choice to 1:01:04.640 --> 1:01:07.160 be in a monogamous relationship anymore. You have to be 1:01:07.200 --> 1:01:09.000 in a choice. You have to be in in a 1:01:09.040 --> 1:01:10.040 poly relationship. 1:01:10.120 --> 1:01:10.280 Right. 1:01:10.760 --> 1:01:13.040 And so the moment that I do that, I take 1:01:13.080 --> 1:01:17.160 the heat out, right, and if I stay with that person, 1:01:17.560 --> 1:01:20.160 that here's the here's the here's the catch. That heat 1:01:20.200 --> 1:01:23.560 always comes back because it's not the heat around getting 1:01:23.560 --> 1:01:25.600 people to do what I want to do. It's the heat, 1:01:25.600 --> 1:01:29.640 it's the call to grow up as a person being 1:01:29.760 --> 1:01:34.320 connected to another person, not being disconnected, but being connected 1:01:34.360 --> 1:01:35.000 to another person. 1:01:35.280 --> 1:01:36.840 You mentioned something earlier. I want to go back to 1:01:37.680 --> 1:01:39.920 when you. You said when you when you talk to couples, 1:01:39.960 --> 1:01:43.120 and a lot of times that the answer for couples is, well, 1:01:43.160 --> 1:01:45.080 let's have a date night. The date night will fix that, 1:01:45.120 --> 1:01:46.960 and you said, that's not the answer. So that's the 1:01:47.000 --> 1:01:49.520 first thing couples usually say, like, those are the tips. 1:01:49.520 --> 1:01:51.960 We have kids, we work too much spending time with 1:01:52.000 --> 1:01:53.760 each other, Let's do a date night. But just saying 1:01:53.760 --> 1:01:55.520 that might not be the answer. 1:01:55.280 --> 1:01:58.920 So so so so, so think about it like this. 1:02:00.680 --> 1:02:06.720 When we were first dating, we had infinite choices. There 1:02:06.720 --> 1:02:09.320 are things that we could do. At some point, I 1:02:09.360 --> 1:02:11.840 could make a decision I don't want to be I 1:02:11.880 --> 1:02:14.640 don't want to do this normal go date somebody down 1:02:14.680 --> 1:02:17.880 the street. Right, But when you make a commitment like this, 1:02:18.400 --> 1:02:21.080 have y'all noticed this? And we and we've heard this before. 1:02:22.400 --> 1:02:25.640 When we were first dating, everything was cool, and the 1:02:25.720 --> 1:02:29.240 moment we moved in together, the moment we started, the 1:02:29.280 --> 1:02:33.520 moment we said I do stuff change, sex change, the 1:02:35.200 --> 1:02:38.160 perceived respect change, like all of this stuff change. And 1:02:38.200 --> 1:02:41.080 what I tell people is that that is an important 1:02:41.240 --> 1:02:45.560 element in long term relationship. Isn't that It's absolutely normal. 1:02:45.720 --> 1:02:48.600 It is absolutely normal part of relationship. But we've been 1:02:48.680 --> 1:02:51.520 conditioned to believe that when that happens, something's going wrong. 1:02:52.200 --> 1:02:52.400 Right. 1:02:52.880 --> 1:02:55.280 But when you when you say to another person, I 1:02:55.360 --> 1:02:57.800 choose you, you get right up against your own development. 1:02:57.840 --> 1:03:00.440 Because if you do something like it's like like this. 1:03:00.440 --> 1:03:03.040 This is why people can go out to a club 1:03:03.080 --> 1:03:05.439 and tell that tell a person in the club all 1:03:05.480 --> 1:03:08.080 their secrets, but the person that's laying on the pillow 1:03:08.160 --> 1:03:11.400 next to them, they won't say nothing about why because 1:03:11.640 --> 1:03:13.600 if I say that to you, if I say something 1:03:13.600 --> 1:03:16.760 to you something about either sex or something about the 1:03:16.800 --> 1:03:18.440 way I want to have a baby, and I know 1:03:18.520 --> 1:03:20.360 you don't want to have a baby. I want these 1:03:20.400 --> 1:03:22.640 particular things, and I say it to you and you 1:03:22.760 --> 1:03:26.400 tear your face up, right, then if I don't have 1:03:26.480 --> 1:03:30.280 a clear sense of myself in that moment, I'm eventually 1:03:30.280 --> 1:03:32.480 I'm gonna stop saying that to you because what you 1:03:32.520 --> 1:03:34.880 reflect back to me I can't tolerate. 1:03:34.920 --> 1:03:35.680 Correct. 1:03:36.160 --> 1:03:37.160 I wonder you know. 1:03:37.400 --> 1:03:37.920 That makes it? 1:03:38.000 --> 1:03:39.440 That? That makes it? 1:03:40.160 --> 1:03:42.720 I wonder when you talk about that, that that rough patch. 1:03:42.760 --> 1:03:44.440 How do you know the difference sometimes because like some 1:03:44.440 --> 1:03:47.560 people will get divorced and they'll say irreconcilable difference. 1:03:47.600 --> 1:03:51.640 That sounds that's right, so so so the way that 1:03:51.720 --> 1:03:55.439 you sometimes you could you only know the differences as 1:03:55.480 --> 1:03:57.720 you go through it. Right, This is what I say 1:03:57.720 --> 1:04:00.840 that that relationships are people growing machine. Right, I'm not 1:04:00.920 --> 1:04:03.720 the same dude I was when I met my wife. Right, 1:04:03.960 --> 1:04:07.160 Hopefully I'm I'm a little bit more and hopefully I 1:04:07.160 --> 1:04:11.280 can tolerate things a little bit differently. Hopefully because of 1:04:11.320 --> 1:04:13.600 the arguments, because of the fight, because of some of 1:04:13.640 --> 1:04:16.080 the some of the what I call the kind of 1:04:16.080 --> 1:04:20.760 critical mass that comes into the relationship, Hopefully I've been 1:04:20.800 --> 1:04:23.880 able to say that when we go through it, that 1:04:23.920 --> 1:04:26.600 there's a purpose to it, right, And it takes a 1:04:26.680 --> 1:04:29.880 minute to to find, Like when we're going through stuff 1:04:30.120 --> 1:04:33.160 when my wife, when when when something is important to 1:04:33.240 --> 1:04:37.360 my wife or important to my partner and we're grinding 1:04:37.400 --> 1:04:41.400 on each other like like like there are things in 1:04:41.440 --> 1:04:44.479 a relationship that you're not going to get through over 1:04:45.640 --> 1:04:48.800 just because you agree to disagree. You're gonna have to 1:04:48.840 --> 1:04:51.520 get through it because you're grinding on each other, Right, 1:04:51.800 --> 1:04:54.600 You're gonna have to get through it because you're because 1:04:54.640 --> 1:04:57.200 this is not a choice. This is not about making 1:04:57.680 --> 1:05:00.200 you know, quote unquote choices. This is really a while. 1:05:02.560 --> 1:05:05.560 This is about us growing up in a way that says, 1:05:05.840 --> 1:05:08.840 I actually now can handle what it is that you're 1:05:08.880 --> 1:05:12.400 bringing the table. Before when you brought it to the table, 1:05:12.600 --> 1:05:14.440 I would need you to change in order for me 1:05:14.480 --> 1:05:16.360 to be all right, I need for you to agree 1:05:16.400 --> 1:05:18.640 in order for me to be all right. Well, long 1:05:18.720 --> 1:05:21.760 term relationships, you don't get that. You don't get that bargain. 1:05:21.880 --> 1:05:24.880 People actually have to grow up and transform in order 1:05:25.200 --> 1:05:27.040 and be the person that they want to be to 1:05:27.160 --> 1:05:31.360 tolerate the conundrums that are happening right now. Right it's 1:05:31.400 --> 1:05:34.600 not about just behavior change. And that's one of the 1:05:34.640 --> 1:05:37.760 things when I would be working with couples. Couples come 1:05:37.840 --> 1:05:41.520 in thinking that your job is to protect or your 1:05:41.640 --> 1:05:44.960 job is to fix something that's working in a relationships, 1:05:45.000 --> 1:05:47.640 So to give you this frame and your job as 1:05:47.640 --> 1:05:49.560 a therapist. And what I realized over time is that 1:05:49.640 --> 1:05:52.240 my job as a therapist is not to just take 1:05:52.320 --> 1:05:56.200 their frame the as what the problem is that there 1:05:56.320 --> 1:06:00.360 is historical stuff that's happening. There's intergenerational stuff that's happen happening. 1:06:00.560 --> 1:06:03.720 There's persistent instant especially if we're in black skin, brown skin, 1:06:03.840 --> 1:06:08.400 indigenous skin, there's persistent institutional weather ring that happens to 1:06:08.680 --> 1:06:11.400 us and in our bodies. And then there's our own 1:06:11.520 --> 1:06:14.320 personal pieces that all show up at the same time. 1:06:14.640 --> 1:06:17.080 You're not gonna weather, You're not going to deal with 1:06:17.120 --> 1:06:19.840 that by just agreeing to disagree about something. 1:06:19.880 --> 1:06:21.240 But let me ask you a question. You know, you 1:06:21.760 --> 1:06:24.760 being a therapist and talking to couples and married couples, 1:06:25.600 --> 1:06:30.400 do you feel like couples give up too fast because 1:06:30.440 --> 1:06:32.160 of the things that you just said that you know, 1:06:32.240 --> 1:06:35.080 people don't want to grind. Yeah, let's agree to disagree. 1:06:36.160 --> 1:06:38.080 They need to try and find ways around at least the. 1:06:38.120 --> 1:06:39.120 Fire somewhere around. 1:06:39.120 --> 1:06:42.479 So do you feel that Here's what I would say, 1:06:42.840 --> 1:06:45.440 I would I So there are times when I've been 1:06:45.480 --> 1:06:48.520 in a in a session with a couple and I go, 1:06:51.440 --> 1:06:54.320 they may need to get away from each other right 1:06:54.360 --> 1:06:59.320 then that I don't recommend it. I don't say that. 1:06:59.360 --> 1:07:00.080 I don't think you're. 1:07:03.440 --> 1:07:06.600 You need to go over there. No, no, no, I 1:07:06.600 --> 1:07:09.200 don't recommend it. But but but but as a therapist, 1:07:09.280 --> 1:07:12.960 I'm working with the energy that's in the room, right, 1:07:13.040 --> 1:07:15.320 I'm working with what's showing up in the room. I'm 1:07:15.320 --> 1:07:18.080 not I don't have these like this kind of table 1:07:18.080 --> 1:07:20.080 that's okay, this this, this isn't happen. You don't need 1:07:20.120 --> 1:07:22.600 to be together, you don't need together. What happens is 1:07:22.600 --> 1:07:26.720 is that people end up making that decision because they 1:07:26.840 --> 1:07:30.600 end up coming up against things that say, if I 1:07:30.680 --> 1:07:33.720 stay with this person and I allow them to keep 1:07:33.760 --> 1:07:35.800 eating my heart the way that they're eating my heart, 1:07:36.200 --> 1:07:38.400 I'm probably not going to be the person I want 1:07:38.480 --> 1:07:41.040 to be on the other side of this. Wow and 1:07:41.080 --> 1:07:44.840 so and so in those situations people stop being together 1:07:44.920 --> 1:07:47.280 and so so. To answer the question around whether or 1:07:47.320 --> 1:07:50.560 not they give up too soon, I'm not. I don't 1:07:50.600 --> 1:07:53.960 think that this is not about resma saying y'all need 1:07:54.000 --> 1:07:57.320 to stay together no matter what. This is about being 1:07:57.600 --> 1:08:01.920 being able to key into things that say, when we 1:08:02.080 --> 1:08:06.520 get to this place, am I willing or not willing 1:08:06.600 --> 1:08:10.520 to give up the most precious parts of me? And 1:08:10.520 --> 1:08:13.480 and and there. You know, there comes a time in 1:08:13.520 --> 1:08:16.120 a relationship when you're in there, when I'm in there 1:08:16.120 --> 1:08:20.280 with a couple, and I end up seeing a pattern 1:08:20.360 --> 1:08:25.519 play out, and the one person in the in the couple, 1:08:25.800 --> 1:08:29.120 because they're so busy fighting, does don't see that the 1:08:29.200 --> 1:08:31.599 other person just grew up in that second. 1:08:32.040 --> 1:08:33.920 You can grow up in a second. Oh yeah, okay, 1:08:33.920 --> 1:08:34.320 oh yeah. 1:08:34.479 --> 1:08:37.639 There are there are things. There are things that happen 1:08:37.720 --> 1:08:40.040 in a in a in a in an office where 1:08:40.439 --> 1:08:45.000 the I'll give you an example about about two years ago, 1:08:45.000 --> 1:08:48.040 I was working with this with this couple and they 1:08:48.120 --> 1:08:51.360 kept arguing about and the thing kept coming up around 1:08:51.760 --> 1:08:55.439 wanting to have a child, right. He wanted to have 1:08:55.479 --> 1:08:58.920 a child. She didn't, right, And she kept saying soon 1:08:58.920 --> 1:09:01.320 as my career we can have as soon as we 1:09:01.360 --> 1:09:03.720 get a house, we can soon as it. And he 1:09:04.040 --> 1:09:07.920 was like, okay, this is going this is five years now, 1:09:08.040 --> 1:09:10.840 and every time I bring it up, you keep acting 1:09:10.880 --> 1:09:12.920 like you don't and you're saying you want to have it, 1:09:12.960 --> 1:09:14.760 but you keep acting like you don't want to have it, 1:09:15.000 --> 1:09:17.240 and I keep coming to you trying to get you 1:09:17.360 --> 1:09:20.800 right now. In the typical, in a typical situation, the 1:09:20.800 --> 1:09:23.759 therapist would be saying, well, you know what do you want, 1:09:23.800 --> 1:09:26.679 and let's just try and figure this out, and let's 1:09:26.680 --> 1:09:29.360 write down or let's use ice statements and write they'll 1:09:29.360 --> 1:09:31.400 do that stuff. I didn't do that because I knew 1:09:31.400 --> 1:09:34.280 that the heat was important. This was this, This was 1:09:34.320 --> 1:09:37.320 an issue that they can't agree to disagree about. This 1:09:37.400 --> 1:09:39.599 was an issue that was you're gonna have to grow 1:09:39.680 --> 1:09:40.160 up through this. 1:09:40.160 --> 1:09:41.080 This is gonna be a deal breaker. 1:09:41.120 --> 1:09:42.760 This was gonna be a deal but but not a 1:09:42.800 --> 1:09:45.240 deal breaker in that a deal breaker, will you get 1:09:45.280 --> 1:09:47.720 away from each other? A deal breaker was in that 1:09:47.840 --> 1:09:50.760 this is important, correct do you understand what I mean? 1:09:51.080 --> 1:09:52.840 And so what ended up happening was there was a 1:09:52.880 --> 1:09:57.639 moment in time where she said, he said. He said, 1:09:57.800 --> 1:10:00.719 She said, well, you can't make me have a baby, 1:10:01.680 --> 1:10:04.200 and he did this thing and it was very subtle. 1:10:04.360 --> 1:10:07.720 He did this thing. She said, you can't make me 1:10:07.760 --> 1:10:17.680 have a baby. He said, you know you're right, And 1:10:17.720 --> 1:10:20.120 I'm going to stop making trying to make you have 1:10:20.200 --> 1:10:23.800 a baby. I'm going to stop trying to make you 1:10:23.880 --> 1:10:26.599 have a baby with me and stop trying to make 1:10:26.680 --> 1:10:28.760 you be with me. Here's what I'm going to do. 1:10:29.120 --> 1:10:31.200 I'm going to start doing the thing. I'm going to 1:10:31.280 --> 1:10:35.000 start acting in accordance with what I say I want. 1:10:35.360 --> 1:10:38.040 I'm the one that's responsible for the birth control in 1:10:38.080 --> 1:10:40.680 this relationship. I'm the one that always has to put 1:10:40.680 --> 1:10:42.479 the condoms on. I'm the one that always has to 1:10:42.520 --> 1:10:45.880 do these particular paces. I'm no longer responsible for that. 1:10:46.320 --> 1:10:47.840 So if we're going to start to have a child, 1:10:47.880 --> 1:10:49.880 I'm going to act in accordance. I want to have 1:10:49.920 --> 1:10:52.080 a child, I'm going to start acting like it. You 1:10:52.120 --> 1:10:54.479 don't want to have a child, you've been acting like 1:10:54.520 --> 1:10:57.919 you haven't wanted to have a child. You haven't. You haven't. 1:10:58.800 --> 1:11:00.880 You haven't come to me about having a child. You 1:11:00.960 --> 1:11:03.680 haven't worked it. You know, we haven't talked about how 1:11:03.720 --> 1:11:06.080 we get the fertile and all that. We haven't talked. 1:11:06.280 --> 1:11:08.960 So you're acting in accordance with what you want. I, 1:11:09.040 --> 1:11:11.240 on the other hand, have not been acting in accordance 1:11:11.240 --> 1:11:13.479 with this. This happened in a second. This is what 1:11:13.520 --> 1:11:15.840 you did. I haven't been acting in the chords. I'm 1:11:15.880 --> 1:11:17.840 acting in the course. She goes, what would would You're 1:11:17.840 --> 1:11:19.880 gonna make me have a baby. He goes, no, I'm 1:11:19.920 --> 1:11:22.800 gonna make me have a baby. You get to make 1:11:22.840 --> 1:11:26.680 whatever choice you need to make. I'm no longer responsible 1:11:26.680 --> 1:11:30.240 for the birth control. Now, that's one thing that sounds 1:11:30.280 --> 1:11:33.160 like an ultimatum. That is not an ultimatum. That's the ault. 1:11:33.320 --> 1:11:37.000 If it is a ultimatum, it's an ultimatum to him. Right. So, 1:11:37.000 --> 1:11:40.760 so long story short, they start going through it, right, 1:11:42.240 --> 1:11:45.639 they get it engaged in, you know, sex and all 1:11:45.640 --> 1:11:48.320 that different type of stuff, and he says, and she 1:11:48.400 --> 1:11:50.519 looks at him. She goes, you got the condom. He goes, 1:11:50.560 --> 1:11:53.400 I'm not putting a condom on, right, and she goes, 1:11:53.439 --> 1:11:55.000 get up, We're not we're not going to have sex. 1:11:55.000 --> 1:11:57.320 We're not gonna do these pieces right. And he says, okay, 1:11:57.320 --> 1:11:59.920 but I'm not gonna do this forever, right, and they 1:12:00.160 --> 1:12:04.000 keep nothing's going wrong When that's happening, you're. 1:12:03.920 --> 1:12:06.759 Making sure you're giving people a chance to make choice. 1:12:06.800 --> 1:12:09.559 That's right, that's right, and your and in the part 1:12:09.680 --> 1:12:13.280 and the process, she gets to say I really don't 1:12:13.320 --> 1:12:15.240 want to have a baby or I don't want to 1:12:15.280 --> 1:12:18.400 have a baby with you, and those hard arguments start 1:12:18.479 --> 1:12:23.519 to have start to write nothing's going wrong in that moment. 1:12:23.960 --> 1:12:29.400 People are growing up as adults in real time, and 1:12:29.720 --> 1:12:32.400 that that particular couple, what ended up happening is is 1:12:32.439 --> 1:12:35.479 that they've ground on that for like a year, going 1:12:35.560 --> 1:12:38.479 back and forth like that, looking for ways out, looking 1:12:38.479 --> 1:12:40.120 for you know, I don't bl blah blah, you can't 1:12:40.120 --> 1:12:42.640 make And then at one point he got to a 1:12:42.680 --> 1:12:45.880 place to where he said, look, I love you more 1:12:45.920 --> 1:12:48.640 than anything on this planet, and I want to have 1:12:48.680 --> 1:12:52.920 a baby. I understand you're you're saying you don't want 1:12:52.920 --> 1:12:54.559 to have a baby, and I can't make you have 1:12:54.600 --> 1:12:56.640 a baby. I want to have a baby. And I'm 1:12:56.680 --> 1:12:58.280 going to act like I want to have a baby, 1:12:58.360 --> 1:13:00.639 and I'm telling you that. And they got and they 1:13:00.640 --> 1:13:03.000 got through it. They ended up having a child, right, 1:13:03.720 --> 1:13:06.280 but through the grind, not because they found a way 1:13:06.320 --> 1:13:09.880 around the grind. Or you can't agree to disagree about 1:13:09.920 --> 1:13:12.960 the things that are central. Can't agree to disagree about children, 1:13:13.240 --> 1:13:16.240 can't agree to disagree about money. You can disagree to 1:13:16.280 --> 1:13:19.360 disagree about in laws. Right, you can't agree to disagree 1:13:19.400 --> 1:13:21.800 about those things. You're going to have to go through 1:13:21.880 --> 1:13:22.920 those things and grow up. 1:13:22.960 --> 1:13:24.920 We look, I ask a question, you know, and a 1:13:24.960 --> 1:13:27.280 lot of time in relationships, you know, you always hear 1:13:27.840 --> 1:13:29.919 a lot of older people right called them the ogs 1:13:29.960 --> 1:13:33.639 to say, sometimes losing an argument is winning a battle. 1:13:33.760 --> 1:13:36.880 Sometimes apologizing when you're when you're not wrong is winning 1:13:36.920 --> 1:13:41.960 the battle. Sometimes just pretty much saying that person is right, 1:13:42.000 --> 1:13:44.600 women or men is not necessarily losing the battle is 1:13:44.960 --> 1:13:47.719 not it's not losing the wars, just winning that battle whatever. 1:13:47.760 --> 1:13:49.719 Maybe what are your thoughts to that When people don't 1:13:49.720 --> 1:13:53.120 necessarily be certain one hundred percent honest, but they say 1:13:53.160 --> 1:13:55.360 certain things just to stop the argument or so that 1:13:55.400 --> 1:13:56.080 person win it all. 1:13:56.200 --> 1:13:58.000 This is the vibe piece can let me ask you, 1:13:58.120 --> 1:14:03.200 Let me ask you a question, Yes, sir, can you 1:14:03.360 --> 1:14:09.080 tell when you and your wife are dealing with something 1:14:09.080 --> 1:14:16.080 that's important and vibratorily, she just placates you. She just 1:14:16.080 --> 1:14:19.720 blow it. She's like she gives in. But the sweetness 1:14:19.800 --> 1:14:22.120 that you really want it has been taken away, of. 1:14:22.040 --> 1:14:22.600 Course, you know. 1:14:22.920 --> 1:14:25.800 So sometimes we say we want something from our partner, right, 1:14:26.160 --> 1:14:29.479 and they give in, and we say that felt nasty. 1:14:30.000 --> 1:14:32.080 They felt like you just did something to me, right, 1:14:32.320 --> 1:14:34.200 that's the sweetness that's been with hell. 1:14:34.439 --> 1:14:34.599 Right. 1:14:35.040 --> 1:14:37.479 So those types of like tips like just give in 1:14:37.520 --> 1:14:39.639 and stuff like that your partner, if you're with your 1:14:39.640 --> 1:14:43.080 partner over three years, you're not just languaging with them 1:14:43.120 --> 1:14:44.759 in terms of what you say out of your mouth. 1:14:44.960 --> 1:14:47.960 You're picking up on vibes and vibrations. You're picking up 1:14:48.000 --> 1:14:51.000 on sensation and the body. You're picking up or you're 1:14:51.040 --> 1:14:54.320 picking up on a whole different embodied language. You're not 1:14:54.360 --> 1:14:56.759 just picking up on what they're saying. So when people 1:14:56.840 --> 1:14:59.560 give in, right just to get so one of the 1:14:59.600 --> 1:15:01.760 things that you to say in my in my relations 1:15:01.760 --> 1:15:04.200 this is in my uh when I work with couples, 1:15:04.320 --> 1:15:07.200 was this kind of dynamic. There would be a time 1:15:07.280 --> 1:15:10.000 where the person a person would give in. If you're 1:15:10.000 --> 1:15:12.160 talking about sex or something like that, the person would 1:15:12.200 --> 1:15:14.400 just give in, right he say, okay, you want sex 1:15:14.400 --> 1:15:16.200 all as much, Okay, I'm gonna give you sex, right 1:15:16.520 --> 1:15:18.760 and one. And what I call that dynamic is and 1:15:18.800 --> 1:15:20.320 I would say to the partner, I say, oh, I 1:15:20.360 --> 1:15:22.720 get what you're doing. You're getting on your back to 1:15:22.800 --> 1:15:26.920 keep your partner off your back. Your partner always knows that, 1:15:28.320 --> 1:15:30.840 whether they can articulate it, they always knows when you 1:15:31.000 --> 1:15:34.400 withheld those pieces from them, because what you really want 1:15:34.479 --> 1:15:37.679 is the sweetness from them, not just them giving in. 1:15:38.120 --> 1:15:42.080 But you can't articulate that so so so so so 1:15:42.160 --> 1:15:44.559 when it happens, you don't know what else to say. 1:15:44.920 --> 1:15:48.240 You just take it. And every time you take leftover 1:15:48.320 --> 1:15:51.599 sex or leftover things from a partner, you break your 1:15:51.640 --> 1:15:55.439 heart and your partner's heart. You know it when when? 1:15:55.479 --> 1:15:55.719 When? 1:15:55.920 --> 1:15:56.960 When? When? When? 1:15:57.120 --> 1:15:57.360 When? 1:15:57.680 --> 1:15:58.120 When? You? 1:15:58.160 --> 1:16:01.680 When you when you take something from your partner that 1:16:01.840 --> 1:16:05.599 you know they're not really giving themselves or giving themselves 1:16:05.640 --> 1:16:08.439 to the relationships, or giving them you know, the sweet 1:16:08.439 --> 1:16:13.759 parts of themselves, and you take it. Your partner goes. 1:16:14.360 --> 1:16:17.280 You don't even deserve the good stuff that I got 1:16:17.920 --> 1:16:22.599 because you're taking the crumbs right. There's nothing going wrong 1:16:22.640 --> 1:16:25.360 when that happens. So but but we think little tips 1:16:25.439 --> 1:16:28.240 like that, let's do this, let's do that, and everything 1:16:28.240 --> 1:16:31.880 will be right. But eventually the critical mass will build 1:16:31.920 --> 1:16:34.519 back up and you'll be deal. Have you noticed you 1:16:34.600 --> 1:16:36.960 have some of the same arguments some sameness to you too. 1:16:37.000 --> 1:16:38.879 Have you noticed you have some of the same arguments 1:16:38.920 --> 1:16:41.240 now with your partner that you did when you first started. 1:16:42.160 --> 1:16:45.800 Not the same exact ones, but the patterning it's the same, the. 1:16:45.800 --> 1:16:50.120 Things because you're not only are you learning each other, 1:16:50.200 --> 1:16:54.840 but it's because it's because those things are important, and 1:16:54.960 --> 1:16:57.680 the things that you could normally go oh, that's not 1:16:57.920 --> 1:17:00.800 you know, that's not that's not that important, or or baby, this, 1:17:00.840 --> 1:17:01.360 that and the other. 1:17:01.479 --> 1:17:04.840 Right, that's already done. The only thing that's left is 1:17:04.840 --> 1:17:07.880 the hard stuff now, the stuff that you can't play case. 1:17:08.000 --> 1:17:10.000 So that's why you keep going over and over and 1:17:10.040 --> 1:17:10.559 over again. 1:17:11.240 --> 1:17:13.960 I love I love everything you're saying, man. And you 1:17:13.960 --> 1:17:17.800 have a section called how therapy really works? Yes, And 1:17:18.160 --> 1:17:21.760 in the chapters of When Therapists cop out how how 1:17:21.800 --> 1:17:23.839 do therapists often fail? Couples? 1:17:24.000 --> 1:17:24.400 Tips? 1:17:24.880 --> 1:17:29.120 Yeah, yeah, yeah, what you're giving sounds like real tangible 1:17:29.200 --> 1:17:30.040 things that can apply. 1:17:30.760 --> 1:17:35.519 Chris, this stuff marriage. Marriage forces you to develop a 1:17:35.520 --> 1:17:40.000 thick skin, a fortified mindset, and a malleable heart. 1:17:41.240 --> 1:17:42.280 Do you understand what I mean? 1:17:42.720 --> 1:17:45.320 That malleable heart is the key piece. Some of us 1:17:45.360 --> 1:17:48.240 develop a thick skin in relationship. Some of us develop 1:17:48.600 --> 1:17:54.400 a fortified mindset and a hardened heart. Right, it's much 1:17:54.439 --> 1:17:57.120 harder to be in a relationship. Most of us that 1:17:57.160 --> 1:17:59.760 are in long term relationships are in long term relationships 1:17:59.800 --> 1:18:02.480 with at some point that hurt us. 1:18:03.080 --> 1:18:04.840 Absolutely right. 1:18:04.920 --> 1:18:07.400 This isn't a relationship with somebody you just meet. This 1:18:07.479 --> 1:18:10.000 is a relationship with somebody that you had the opportunity 1:18:10.080 --> 1:18:12.120 to hurt them and you and they have hurt you 1:18:12.200 --> 1:18:15.080 in some way or another, right, and you still in 1:18:15.120 --> 1:18:18.360 the relationship. That's a whole different process of working through 1:18:19.160 --> 1:18:19.839 than dating. 1:18:20.240 --> 1:18:20.439 Right. 1:18:20.960 --> 1:18:24.000 The way that therapists cop out is that here's the 1:18:24.040 --> 1:18:29.439 dirty little secret. Most therapists are not as conditioned to 1:18:29.560 --> 1:18:34.080 deal with the heat and the trauma in relationships. They've 1:18:34.080 --> 1:18:37.240 been trained and got their PhD, they've been trained and 1:18:37.280 --> 1:18:39.759 got the lcs W. They've been trained in those pieces, 1:18:40.160 --> 1:18:44.320 but not trained in conditioning around conditioning their body to 1:18:44.360 --> 1:18:46.439 be able to deal when all that heat shows up 1:18:46.479 --> 1:18:49.719 in the room. Think about it like this. If you've 1:18:49.720 --> 1:18:54.840 ever been if DJ, if me and you were boys, right, 1:18:54.880 --> 1:18:56.760 and I came to you one day and I said, hey, man, 1:18:56.800 --> 1:19:00.200 I'm thinking about running the marathon. And you'd be supportive, right, 1:19:00.240 --> 1:19:02.800 you both will be supported, And you say, hey, go man, 1:19:02.880 --> 1:19:04.720 bu But I know this dude, and you know I 1:19:04.800 --> 1:19:06.559 ran a marathon, right, you give me all the support. 1:19:06.600 --> 1:19:08.599 And then I looked at you in all seriousness, and 1:19:08.640 --> 1:19:10.880 you looked at me and you said, hey, man, when 1:19:10.880 --> 1:19:12.920 you're thinking about running a marathon? And I looked at 1:19:12.960 --> 1:19:16.519 you in all seriousness, and I said, tomorrow, I'm going 1:19:16.600 --> 1:19:18.240 to run this tomorrow. The first question you're going to 1:19:18.280 --> 1:19:20.400 say is, well, have you been running before? And I 1:19:20.439 --> 1:19:23.000 looked at you and I said, no, I haven't run it, 1:19:23.000 --> 1:19:26.120 but I did to hear podcast on it, I read 1:19:26.120 --> 1:19:26.800 a book on it. 1:19:27.439 --> 1:19:27.639 Right. 1:19:28.160 --> 1:19:30.840 You know I'm grea ready to be in some trouble. Right, 1:19:31.160 --> 1:19:34.559 I'm I'm my whole mind. You know that I'm not 1:19:34.720 --> 1:19:38.439 conditioned to deal with what I'm getting ready to put 1:19:38.439 --> 1:19:42.799 myself through. Marriage and race and sex is no different. 1:19:43.560 --> 1:19:47.040 Most of us are not conditioned to deal with long 1:19:47.280 --> 1:19:53.200 term relationships and sex right, and so that includes therapists. 1:19:53.280 --> 1:19:55.960 So when that stuff all comes into the room, when 1:19:56.000 --> 1:19:58.839 all that he comes into the room, we've been trained 1:19:58.840 --> 1:20:04.000 to teach people I stay, I was I say, rather 1:20:04.080 --> 1:20:06.920 than me saying you know you do when you do this, 1:20:06.920 --> 1:20:09.559 this is a can you use an ice stament? Say 1:20:09.600 --> 1:20:10.240 how you feel? 1:20:10.360 --> 1:20:13.320 Say I feel got you? You got you, got you. 1:20:14.160 --> 1:20:17.360 The moment you do that, couples know, oh, you can't 1:20:17.400 --> 1:20:20.680 handle the heat that we're bringing into the relationship, so 1:20:20.720 --> 1:20:22.200 they start taking care of you. 1:20:25.120 --> 1:20:25.360 Right. 1:20:26.320 --> 1:20:30.200 That's how And most therapists are trained in that way. 1:20:30.479 --> 1:20:34.439 They have not been conditioned to actually work with the 1:20:34.640 --> 1:20:37.439 heavy heat that shows up most of the time when 1:20:37.479 --> 1:20:40.120 people come into the come into our office, or come 1:20:40.160 --> 1:20:42.680 into the office. Y'all think about this most of the 1:20:42.720 --> 1:20:45.040 time when you go see a therapist, that stuff has 1:20:45.080 --> 1:20:47.200 been going on for four, five, six, seven, eight, nineteen 1:20:47.280 --> 1:20:50.320 years before that's all that heat coming into the room. 1:20:50.439 --> 1:20:52.680 Most therapists are not conditioned to deal with a lot of. 1:20:52.680 --> 1:20:54.960 People go to therapy, a lot of couples because they 1:20:55.000 --> 1:20:57.080 want to learn how to communicate better. But you say, 1:20:57.120 --> 1:20:58.200 you don't you against that. 1:20:58.360 --> 1:21:01.040 They want, They don't want to know how to communicate better. 1:21:01.200 --> 1:21:04.200 They figure they done tried to do this for ten years. 1:21:04.280 --> 1:21:06.320 They figure they'll pay you two hundred dollars an hour 1:21:06.400 --> 1:21:07.920 for you to figure out a way around. 1:21:07.600 --> 1:21:10.040 It too, figure out a way instead of going to 1:21:10.040 --> 1:21:12.960 through going through it to find a way around it. 1:21:13.040 --> 1:21:13.240 Right. 1:21:13.720 --> 1:21:16.519 So and so what ends up happening is is that 1:21:17.439 --> 1:21:20.320 And then most therapists are I think that their job 1:21:20.560 --> 1:21:23.280 is to figure is to help them or to fix 1:21:23.360 --> 1:21:26.760 them right, rather than helping them create a containers. So 1:21:26.920 --> 1:21:30.240 the stuff that happens, literally every everything that happens in 1:21:30.240 --> 1:21:36.000 a relationship has a function. Everything. There's not one thing 1:21:36.040 --> 1:21:39.200 that happens in a relationship that does not have a function. 1:21:39.560 --> 1:21:42.200 And most of the time therapists have not been conditioned 1:21:42.200 --> 1:21:45.479 to look at what's the function of this particular thing, 1:21:45.760 --> 1:21:50.040 whether it's whether it's good, bad, whatever, How does it function? 1:21:50.720 --> 1:21:53.200 And once I know how it functions, then I can 1:21:53.320 --> 1:21:56.360 work with it and see if the function can be changed, 1:21:56.360 --> 1:21:57.840 if it can be worked with, if it can be 1:21:57.920 --> 1:22:00.519 grown up some that's not where it's arts though. 1:22:01.240 --> 1:22:04.680 MM. We don't want to give them too much. I did. 1:22:04.880 --> 1:22:08.200 I did have one last question for myself, I wanted 1:22:08.240 --> 1:22:10.760 to know. You know, of course we're on BT, so 1:22:10.840 --> 1:22:13.120 a lot of couples watch on BT and listening on 1:22:13.160 --> 1:22:15.760 the radio a lot of things that when people call, 1:22:15.800 --> 1:22:17.960 they always say they have a problem in relationship for 1:22:18.000 --> 1:22:20.880 one or two reasons. One is financially, they feel like 1:22:20.920 --> 1:22:25.040 their their spouse is not working at potential and they 1:22:25.040 --> 1:22:26.879 feel like they have to be too much of a 1:22:26.960 --> 1:22:31.120 of a support system. And the other one I realized 1:22:31.160 --> 1:22:34.320 a lot of people feel like their spouse doesn't understand them. Right. 1:22:34.400 --> 1:22:36.439 You know, Let's say you're a woman and you're taking 1:22:36.439 --> 1:22:39.040 care of two kids and you're working, and then you 1:22:39.080 --> 1:22:41.559 come home when you're tired and your husband doesn't understand that. 1:22:41.760 --> 1:22:44.000 Or your husband and you're working and you're working two 1:22:44.040 --> 1:22:46.080 three jobs and when you get home, you're tied and 1:22:46.120 --> 1:22:48.680 you want that break and your wife doesn't understand that. 1:22:48.840 --> 1:22:50.400 How do you help people in that situation? 1:22:50.560 --> 1:22:56.760 So so so you know, that same pattern also happens 1:22:57.080 --> 1:23:01.240 in the gay relationships and U and the trans relationships 1:23:01.240 --> 1:23:03.559 that I've worked with in my office. So it's not 1:23:03.960 --> 1:23:09.160 just you know, male female right. This idea of communication 1:23:09.600 --> 1:23:12.720 is one of the things that I think really Jaxaside. Right, 1:23:13.320 --> 1:23:18.480 we think that communication is verbal like communication is, if 1:23:18.520 --> 1:23:23.360 I tell you what I need, that's good communication. In actuality, 1:23:23.400 --> 1:23:26.920 if I already know what my wife thinks about me, right, 1:23:27.000 --> 1:23:31.040 she's communicated, whether it's verbally, nonverbally, whether it's through vibes 1:23:31.080 --> 1:23:34.040 or whatever, she has communicated, I know exactly that I 1:23:34.160 --> 1:23:38.920 know my wife does not like a particular thing or 1:23:38.960 --> 1:23:43.599 does not like me. Right, change it, right, I could 1:23:43.680 --> 1:23:47.040 change it. If I could change it, I probably would 1:23:47.080 --> 1:23:49.000 have changed it. Right the easier things I would have 1:23:49.080 --> 1:23:53.160 changed my wife because I know that from my wife. 1:23:53.439 --> 1:23:57.120 That's good communication. She has communicated to me that she 1:23:57.240 --> 1:23:59.600 doesn't like me. The problem is I can't tolerate what 1:23:59.640 --> 1:24:00.560 she's communicating. 1:24:01.080 --> 1:24:01.280 Right. 1:24:01.720 --> 1:24:04.880 That same thing is I say in relationships happens in 1:24:05.000 --> 1:24:09.600 the two scenarios that you well. We think that if 1:24:09.680 --> 1:24:15.759 I say to my partner I'm tired, then they should 1:24:15.760 --> 1:24:19.240 in some way respond by making me not tired, or 1:24:19.400 --> 1:24:23.280 at least helping me. When I say, I'm communicating that 1:24:23.360 --> 1:24:25.880 I'm tired, And what I tell people is is this 1:24:26.000 --> 1:24:29.720 what I say? The thing about about conditioning, most of 1:24:29.800 --> 1:24:33.200 us are not conditioned to pick up on when our 1:24:33.280 --> 1:24:37.400 partner is really getting to a place to where this 1:24:37.600 --> 1:24:40.960 is a to use your term, this is a deal breaker, right, 1:24:41.120 --> 1:24:42.800 like not deal breaker and that I'm going to leave, 1:24:42.840 --> 1:24:45.040 but a deal breaker in that I don't know what 1:24:45.080 --> 1:24:46.720 I'm going to do, but I know I ain't doing 1:24:46.720 --> 1:24:50.439 this no more right. That's not anything going wrong. That's 1:24:50.479 --> 1:24:54.160 an important element because what it does is helps people 1:24:54.200 --> 1:24:57.320 be very clear this right here, I've been doing this 1:24:57.360 --> 1:25:00.280 for ten years. I'm no longer doing this no more 1:25:00.320 --> 1:25:04.519 with you. I'm not leaving, but I ain't doing this right. 1:25:05.000 --> 1:25:07.519 And what happens is is that a lot of times 1:25:07.560 --> 1:25:10.320 when this stuff is showing up, people want to find 1:25:10.360 --> 1:25:12.519 ways around it. They want little tips, they want little 1:25:12.560 --> 1:25:14.439 things to try and figure it. The way around it. 1:25:14.600 --> 1:25:17.120 There is no way around that piece. You got to 1:25:17.160 --> 1:25:20.719 grow through that. You have to get to those places. 1:25:20.920 --> 1:25:24.000 That build up has to happen, and people have to 1:25:24.040 --> 1:25:25.960 be able to get to a place to where they go. 1:25:26.040 --> 1:25:26.639 You know what. 1:25:28.439 --> 1:25:28.760 This is. 1:25:28.880 --> 1:25:32.000 You're important to me. I'm important to me too, though, 1:25:32.880 --> 1:25:36.599 and that is a lifelong thing. Right that happens. So 1:25:36.640 --> 1:25:39.479 the four things that get people into conundrums and in 1:25:39.560 --> 1:25:43.439 difficult situations for things, money, sex, kids, and in laws 1:25:43.880 --> 1:25:45.559 You can't agree to disagree about. 1:25:45.400 --> 1:25:49.320 Those things, money, sex, kids, laws, can't. 1:25:49.120 --> 1:25:53.120 Agree to disagree somebody. I don't like your mama, But 1:25:53.240 --> 1:25:55.960 for the last ten years she been coming and staying 1:25:55.960 --> 1:25:58.000 with me and giving her opinion about stuff, and I've 1:25:58.040 --> 1:26:00.519 been getting around and I've been scooting around, been scooting 1:26:00.560 --> 1:26:03.000 around it, and I've been trying to say something about it. 1:26:04.120 --> 1:26:06.640 Now I'm at a place now were ten years in. 1:26:06.680 --> 1:26:09.479 I'm at a place now where I have enough in 1:26:09.520 --> 1:26:12.320 me to where you're important to me. I'm important to 1:26:12.320 --> 1:26:15.200 me too. I can now say to you, I don't 1:26:15.320 --> 1:26:19.400 like your mama. I don't want her coming staying with 1:26:19.479 --> 1:26:23.600 us for five weeks, I don't like I don't like 1:26:23.640 --> 1:26:26.519 the way she deals with me right, and I'm willing 1:26:26.560 --> 1:26:29.240 to fight with you about that. Do you understand what 1:26:29.280 --> 1:26:32.080 to me, it's important that we fight about this. 1:26:32.200 --> 1:26:34.360 Glad you keep using the word fight. 1:26:33.640 --> 1:26:37.720 That's gonna be absolutely But it's an important fight. It's 1:26:37.720 --> 1:26:40.559 not a fight that about something's going wrong. It's a 1:26:40.600 --> 1:26:44.240 fight about You're important to me. This is important to me, 1:26:44.439 --> 1:26:45.680 and I'm important to me. 1:26:45.800 --> 1:26:48.320 At the same time, I got a few more questions 1:26:48.320 --> 1:26:49.800 because I know people will hit this and they'll be like, 1:26:49.920 --> 1:26:53.040 is Monsters in Love just for couples in conflict? 1:26:53.200 --> 1:26:56.880 No, okay, Monsters in Love. Monsters in Love is really 1:26:56.920 --> 1:27:01.120 about how how you develop and understaning of the architecture 1:27:01.160 --> 1:27:04.720 of how relationships actually function. That's that's that's the primary thing. 1:27:05.040 --> 1:27:08.120 Monsters in Love. All of my books are about you read. 1:27:08.200 --> 1:27:10.479 You read pieces. You know this, show man, you read 1:27:10.479 --> 1:27:13.040 parts of my book. You have to put it down, right, 1:27:13.120 --> 1:27:17.280 because the most important part of my book are the activities, 1:27:17.320 --> 1:27:20.680 the practices. It's not just it's not just reading. There 1:27:20.680 --> 1:27:22.479 are parts of my book. You you pick it up, 1:27:22.560 --> 1:27:24.080 you look at it. You got to put it down 1:27:24.160 --> 1:27:27.760 because it works on you. It's about, oh man, I there, 1:27:27.960 --> 1:27:30.400 here are the ways I've moved around this, right, And 1:27:30.479 --> 1:27:34.160 so that so Monsters in Love was really my take. 1:27:34.320 --> 1:27:40.920 So so Quaking. So my Grandmother's Hands was really about self. 1:27:41.560 --> 1:27:45.120 Quaking was about kind of like community. This one is 1:27:45.120 --> 1:27:49.000 about couples, the more intimate relationship, right, and but they 1:27:49.520 --> 1:27:51.439 work with some of the same skills, some of the 1:27:51.479 --> 1:27:54.519 same practices, some of the same pieces. And so this 1:27:54.760 --> 1:27:58.720 was just my take on it. And uh uh, yeah, 1:27:58.800 --> 1:28:01.400 it's not about just being a conflict. It's about understanding 1:28:01.400 --> 1:28:04.559 how conflict actually functions as opposed to all of the 1:28:04.560 --> 1:28:06.360 things that we've been kind of conditioned to believe. 1:28:06.400 --> 1:28:06.640 It is. 1:28:06.960 --> 1:28:08.559 Can you tell the people what are are five anchors? 1:28:08.600 --> 1:28:08.960 Real quick? 1:28:09.040 --> 1:28:09.240 Yeah? 1:28:09.680 --> 1:28:13.800 So yeah, so so so one of them? So I 1:28:13.840 --> 1:28:17.439 said it earlier. Maintain a clear sense of yourself while 1:28:17.520 --> 1:28:22.960 connected to an important other. Right, tolerating pain for growth. 1:28:23.640 --> 1:28:25.320 Yeah, that's the one people I feel like people will 1:28:25.320 --> 1:28:27.240 disagree with. That's why we got to go through pain 1:28:27.320 --> 1:28:29.160 to grow right, right? 1:28:29.240 --> 1:28:41.000 Right? So envy you you built a a uh real 1:28:41.080 --> 1:28:43.720 estate empire. You're you're working on it, right, Yes, sir? 1:28:45.000 --> 1:28:47.120 Every day you got to do a little bit of something. 1:28:47.800 --> 1:28:49.920 You can't do everything. You can't build a road. You 1:28:49.960 --> 1:28:51.800 can't say I'm building road. Now, I got it, right, 1:28:52.160 --> 1:28:54.920 You you learn from the mistakes from the Oh I 1:28:54.920 --> 1:28:56.559 could have done it, I could have done right. There 1:28:56.640 --> 1:28:59.679 is there is, there is something to be gleaned from 1:29:00.560 --> 1:29:06.479 even the difficult pieces. Right. That's a painful process because 1:29:06.479 --> 1:29:09.280 it is the pain of growing up as a human being. 1:29:09.920 --> 1:29:13.800 Not the pain, not the not the pain that not 1:29:13.920 --> 1:29:18.599 just pain without a purpose? Right, And so relationships are 1:29:18.680 --> 1:29:22.320 really about how do I begin to have the I'm 1:29:22.320 --> 1:29:24.320 going to. So it's the choice between what I call 1:29:24.400 --> 1:29:28.439 clean pain and dirty pain. Dirty pain is the pain 1:29:28.520 --> 1:29:32.200 that you get by going around something right, having a 1:29:32.240 --> 1:29:36.880 fair out of relationships, stealing your partner's choices, spending money 1:29:36.880 --> 1:29:39.280 that you know you ain't got, and not telling your 1:29:39.320 --> 1:29:44.320 partner all these different pieces. Stealing your partner's choices. That's dirty. 1:29:44.600 --> 1:29:47.400 And we all know the dirty piece clean pain. And 1:29:47.439 --> 1:29:49.680 as adults, we don't get a choice between pain and 1:29:49.680 --> 1:29:51.800 no pain. When you're trying to grow up, you get 1:29:51.800 --> 1:29:55.760 a choice between clean and dirty. I know that when 1:29:55.800 --> 1:29:57.960 I'm doing this, it's going to be painful, but it's 1:29:58.000 --> 1:30:00.840 the pain that can build capacity, not the pain that 1:30:01.240 --> 1:30:04.439 takes me around it. Those are two different pains. And 1:30:04.520 --> 1:30:07.000 so for those of us, so for those of the 1:30:07.080 --> 1:30:09.800 listeners saying, well, with paint, love shouldn't be pain, of 1:30:09.840 --> 1:30:13.479 course it is. There is, but it's a capacity building pain, 1:30:13.880 --> 1:30:19.120 not a not not one that that that keeps you immature, right. 1:30:19.560 --> 1:30:22.439 And so those that say pains, you know in a 1:30:22.560 --> 1:30:25.040 marriage you shouldn't have pain or there should be no pain, 1:30:25.160 --> 1:30:29.280 are people that that that I want to stay immature, right? 1:30:31.400 --> 1:30:34.080 And so so those are the two, those two anchors 1:30:34.080 --> 1:30:36.800 I think are the most important ancers, like those like 1:30:37.040 --> 1:30:41.320 having a clear understanding that this piece is about growing up. 1:30:41.520 --> 1:30:43.360 Like one of the things that I've realized and I 1:30:43.520 --> 1:30:46.080 just like over the last ten years of realized was 1:30:46.120 --> 1:30:50.800 my wife, is that I realize that in a good 1:30:51.000 --> 1:30:54.360 long term relationship, the outcome of a good long term 1:30:54.360 --> 1:30:56.360 relationship is that one of us is going to bear 1:30:56.479 --> 1:31:01.519 the other one. That's the outcome of a good long 1:31:01.600 --> 1:31:02.640 term relationship. 1:31:03.680 --> 1:31:08.960 That that that that that that our our our our 1:31:09.200 --> 1:31:13.679 work with each other is we're growing ourselves up, growing 1:31:13.720 --> 1:31:14.400 each other up. 1:31:14.680 --> 1:31:17.120 And and the payoff at the end of that is 1:31:17.120 --> 1:31:19.080 that one of us is going to bury each other, 1:31:19.400 --> 1:31:22.000 and that hopefully at the end of that our hearts 1:31:22.040 --> 1:31:24.479 are light enough to we say good job. 1:31:24.720 --> 1:31:25.240 Wow, Wow. 1:31:25.680 --> 1:31:27.400 I'm glad you didn't give other three because because I 1:31:27.400 --> 1:31:30.519 want them to go by. One more question. What's the 1:31:30.560 --> 1:31:33.760 one biggest piece of advice you have for couples who 1:31:33.800 --> 1:31:36.000 are going through conflict, difficult time. 1:31:36.400 --> 1:31:41.920 Slow down, slow down, just breathe. White body supremacy. And 1:31:41.920 --> 1:31:43.760 I haven't talked about this, but and this is the 1:31:43.840 --> 1:31:47.479 more larger pieces. White body supremacy one of the one 1:31:47.479 --> 1:31:52.480 of the primary things of white. Body supremacy is urgency. 1:31:52.800 --> 1:31:56.640 Urgency is what is how this whole thing, especially with 1:31:56.760 --> 1:31:59.559 our bodies, right, That's how this whole thing was was founded. 1:31:59.680 --> 1:32:02.600 Right the plantation. What I tell people is that the 1:32:02.640 --> 1:32:09.519 plantation was actually is actually was actually a sanctioned rape factory, right. 1:32:10.280 --> 1:32:13.599 And we a lot of us come from bodies, come 1:32:13.600 --> 1:32:16.920 from bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies who were for two 1:32:17.040 --> 1:32:21.599 hundred years raped and used as product. What makes us 1:32:21.640 --> 1:32:26.519 think that those bodies weren't conditioned around that trauma? And 1:32:26.600 --> 1:32:28.599 what makes us think that that stuff is not going 1:32:28.680 --> 1:32:30.320 to show up in our relationships? 1:32:30.400 --> 1:32:30.840 Right now? 1:32:31.120 --> 1:32:35.240 Those conundrums, those pieces, those pieces around body sovereignty. Do 1:32:35.320 --> 1:32:38.200 I have body? Do I have sovereignty over my own body? 1:32:38.560 --> 1:32:41.040 Or do you have sovereignty over my body? That's the 1:32:41.080 --> 1:32:43.719 whole thing right now. And so what I tell people 1:32:43.800 --> 1:32:45.120 is one of the first things that I do when 1:32:45.160 --> 1:32:52.080 I'm working people is slow down, quiet, it's all right. Yes, 1:32:52.160 --> 1:32:54.439 it feels like you're gonna your body is gonna be 1:32:54.479 --> 1:32:58.160 ripped apart. Yes, yes, you think that you're not going 1:32:58.240 --> 1:33:02.120 to survive this. Slow down, learn the things that you 1:33:02.240 --> 1:33:04.799 need to learn, and you have time. 1:33:06.479 --> 1:33:11.120 Wow, appreciate you. 1:33:11.439 --> 1:33:13.479 I don't want to overload y'all, but go get Monsters 1:33:13.479 --> 1:33:16.360 in Love, Go get the Quaking of America, Go get 1:33:16.400 --> 1:33:19.000 my Grandmother's Hands. And this I didn't. I haven't seen 1:33:19.040 --> 1:33:19.479 these albums. 1:33:19.720 --> 1:33:24.600 Yeah, so so so that so the dismembered that and unarmed. 1:33:24.640 --> 1:33:27.920 So I don album with each book. Either I get 1:33:27.920 --> 1:33:30.720 with other other musicians and I train them on the 1:33:30.800 --> 1:33:32.920 practices in the book, and then they go and create 1:33:33.000 --> 1:33:35.720 songs about those things. So that's dismembered in the arm. 1:33:35.760 --> 1:33:38.880 And then Pharaoh Dreams is actually a I kind of 1:33:38.920 --> 1:33:42.240 looked at it as remember Balancing the Bullet by Malcolm X. 1:33:42.760 --> 1:33:45.280 Just all of his speeches. That's what That's what Pharalh 1:33:45.320 --> 1:33:48.360 Dreams is about all of my speeches. And so you 1:33:48.400 --> 1:33:50.040 can doubt so if you buy the album, you can 1:33:50.080 --> 1:33:53.759 download it on your phone or it's it's also at album. 1:33:53.800 --> 1:33:55.519 So for people that love your culture quote, I'm sure 1:33:55.560 --> 1:33:57.799 that's on it. That culture quote is everywhere. 1:33:57.800 --> 1:34:01.160 Thank you many, thank you, it is. It is. That's 1:34:01.240 --> 1:34:04.000 every place man. And and and it's one of those 1:34:04.080 --> 1:34:06.400 pieces man where I actually have a thing on my 1:34:06.439 --> 1:34:09.200 website where people can sign up for all of my 1:34:09.280 --> 1:34:11.439 quotes three hundred and sixty five days a year for free. 1:34:11.479 --> 1:34:13.519 You just you just get a quote on your phone. 1:34:14.120 --> 1:34:16.559 And it's designed to help particularly black and brown and 1:34:16.600 --> 1:34:20.559 Indigenous people understand that we're not defective, right, that we 1:34:20.640 --> 1:34:23.120 live in the culture where we've been taught and have 1:34:23.240 --> 1:34:27.160 been uh connected to bodies that have been taught that 1:34:27.240 --> 1:34:29.840 we're defective. And one of the things I want to 1:34:29.840 --> 1:34:32.120 do with my books and with my music, with the 1:34:32.200 --> 1:34:34.800 music and everything is to say we're not defective. We 1:34:34.840 --> 1:34:37.479 don't need to start from that place. That's not that's 1:34:37.520 --> 1:34:39.840 not what's happening. So all right, that's right. 1:34:40.080 --> 1:34:42.040 Resma Minicum, we appreciate you for joining us. 1:34:42.640 --> 1:34:44.640 Make sure you follow on what's what's the instagram. 1:34:44.760 --> 1:34:46.760 Resme dot com if you go to resume dot com, 1:34:46.880 --> 1:34:50.640 r E s m a a dot com or resmomenicaem 1:34:50.680 --> 1:34:51.440 on Instagram. 1:34:51.479 --> 1:34:53.360 All right, it's the breakfast Club. Good morning on b 1:34:53.439 --> 1:35:00.120 ett of names or you gossip been on you chatty? 1:35:00.000 --> 1:35:02.360 Oh god, this is the rumor report. 1:35:02.439 --> 1:35:03.800 I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club. This 1:35:03.840 --> 1:35:05.439 were the tea spills right on. 1:35:05.439 --> 1:35:06.479 The Breakfast Club. 1:35:07.880 --> 1:35:10.840 And shout to DJ nih Le someone who's in the building. 1:35:10.840 --> 1:35:12.599 With us for a little bit, came through to stay 1:35:12.640 --> 1:35:16.600 with see it now, Kylie Jenna. She addresses the misconception 1:35:16.720 --> 1:35:21.120 that she's had so much surgery on her face. Now 1:35:21.160 --> 1:35:26.360 the twenty five year old shut up I know to 1:35:26.360 --> 1:35:30.519 talk about, she says. Listen, listen, shut up. She says, 1:35:30.640 --> 1:35:33.280 I think it's a big misconception about me is that 1:35:33.320 --> 1:35:36.000 I've had so much surgery on my face and that 1:35:36.080 --> 1:35:40.000 I was some insecure person and I really wasn't. Yes, 1:35:40.280 --> 1:35:42.679 I love full lips and wanted full lips, but growing 1:35:42.760 --> 1:35:46.000 up I always uh what she said. I was always 1:35:46.000 --> 1:35:48.720 the most confident person in the room. I was the 1:35:48.760 --> 1:35:52.559 girl performing for everyone. I had my one lip insecurity thing. 1:35:52.640 --> 1:35:54.680 So I got a lip filler, one lip, and it 1:35:54.800 --> 1:35:57.880 was the best thing I've ever want done. She says. 1:35:57.960 --> 1:36:00.280 I had my one lip insecurity thing. 1:36:00.600 --> 1:36:01.599 She got one lip, so. 1:36:01.520 --> 1:36:03.840 I got lip filler, and it was the best thing 1:36:03.840 --> 1:36:05.880 I've ever done. I don't regret it. But I always 1:36:05.880 --> 1:36:06.800 thought I was cute. 1:36:06.800 --> 1:36:08.400 There's people out here with one lip. I know white 1:36:08.400 --> 1:36:10.200 people got real thin lips, but one. 1:36:10.040 --> 1:36:13.200 Lip so that so she's that's all she's got was 1:36:13.720 --> 1:36:14.280 lip filler. 1:36:15.360 --> 1:36:19.800 Okay, I don't care, but Collie Jenner's business is people 1:36:19.800 --> 1:36:21.519 being in our business. So you know she's sharing her 1:36:21.520 --> 1:36:22.640 business for people to be in it. 1:36:22.760 --> 1:36:24.880 Yes, yes, but I thought she had it, Like, like, 1:36:24.960 --> 1:36:26.760 her whole face changed, didn't it. 1:36:26.560 --> 1:36:27.720 And it's a misconception. 1:36:27.840 --> 1:36:32.760 We watched it, watch your whole family. Also a kid. 1:36:32.840 --> 1:36:34.200 We've seen her since she was a kid. That's what 1:36:34.200 --> 1:36:35.559 happens when you grow up kids faces. 1:36:36.120 --> 1:36:36.840 Are you gonna say with it? 1:36:36.840 --> 1:36:39.000 No, I'm sure she probably got something, but kids' faces 1:36:39.040 --> 1:36:40.599 do change. You haven't been watching her since she's been 1:36:40.600 --> 1:36:43.040 a child, too. Now you do realize that, right, that's 1:36:43.040 --> 1:36:43.400 just stuff. 1:36:43.520 --> 1:36:44.599 Nobody's denying that. 1:36:44.920 --> 1:36:47.679 But her whole face changed, brocul we saw a different person. 1:36:47.800 --> 1:36:50.240 You saw us, and she was like kid, right, Okay. 1:36:50.400 --> 1:36:52.759 Like I'm saying though, like people do go through puberty 1:36:52.800 --> 1:36:54.640 and things change. Like you literally saw hers since she 1:36:54.720 --> 1:36:57.000 was a child. And I'm not saying she didn't get 1:36:57.040 --> 1:36:59.040 no surgery. I'm just saying you did see her since 1:36:59.040 --> 1:37:01.160 she was a kid. He has probably lip filler coming 1:37:01.160 --> 1:37:01.719 out on compete. 1:37:02.120 --> 1:37:04.439 Even got nothing to say to that, but maybe she 1:37:05.000 --> 1:37:07.920 I don't think necessarily the low self esteem has anything 1:37:07.920 --> 1:37:11.040 to do with the changes you wanted the changes because 1:37:11.080 --> 1:37:14.320 you like you're different. You know you wanted something more exaggerated. 1:37:14.479 --> 1:37:16.240 That don't got nothing to do with your low self esteem. 1:37:16.280 --> 1:37:18.040 Oh y'all do care about this story? I didn't know. 1:37:18.800 --> 1:37:23.560 No, just reporting first of all, you being if you 1:37:23.560 --> 1:37:24.320 had one lip too. 1:37:26.000 --> 1:37:28.559 No, I don't like how you so judgmental with that 1:37:28.600 --> 1:37:31.400 young lady. Just now, she got one lip, okay. If 1:37:31.400 --> 1:37:33.120 you got one lip, you want more than one lip. 1:37:33.200 --> 1:37:36.280 Okay. Now Glorrilla is being sued by a New Orleans 1:37:36.320 --> 1:37:39.680 rap group over the song Tomorrow. Now. They're saying she 1:37:39.840 --> 1:37:42.479 sampled the song Tomorrow and they didn't get clearance. 1:37:42.520 --> 1:37:46.360 So let's play Tomorrow first classic card and. 1:37:48.400 --> 1:37:50.240 You would think with school for character? 1:37:50.800 --> 1:37:55.559 All right, good as hell? Did they just sent my 1:37:55.640 --> 1:37:57.160 nigga five at taps? Now? 1:37:57.200 --> 1:38:00.599 This is this song. It's called Street of the west Bank, 1:38:00.600 --> 1:38:04.680 and it's saying that it was sampled without permission. I 1:38:04.720 --> 1:38:09.040 heard it the West Bank to something like days away back. 1:38:09.160 --> 1:38:12.679 What year was just recorded? Nineteen hundred and four. That's 1:38:12.680 --> 1:38:16.719 what I'm saying you to say, piano, hey man, somebody 1:38:16.720 --> 1:38:18.479 got some explaining the dude just the fair, you know, 1:38:18.640 --> 1:38:19.719 give him, give him their credit. 1:38:19.720 --> 1:38:22.320 That's all all right now. We reported this story earlier, 1:38:22.320 --> 1:38:24.280 and I want to say it in depth. So we 1:38:24.520 --> 1:38:27.679 reported earlier that Young Miami confirms that she split from Diddy. 1:38:27.680 --> 1:38:28.559 Giving my fan. 1:38:30.000 --> 1:38:32.680 Oh lord, you're telling this story again. You really got 1:38:32.720 --> 1:38:35.000 to get the fan together. The other side of the way, 1:38:35.000 --> 1:38:37.640 other way, by the way, unexcepted, by the way, o 1:38:37.680 --> 1:38:40.760 the way, give me the goddamn give me a fan. 1:38:41.160 --> 1:38:42.880 Come on, man, act like you know, act like you're 1:38:42.880 --> 1:38:46.320 a damn lady for once. Okay, there you go. 1:38:46.960 --> 1:38:50.880 There, all right, all right, so Young Miami, let me 1:38:50.960 --> 1:38:53.160 do it right, Young Miami girl, she talks about her 1:38:53.200 --> 1:38:56.519 split from Diddy. She says, that's not my man. She 1:38:56.600 --> 1:38:58.719 put this comment out well, she was doing her enemy. 1:38:58.800 --> 1:39:01.920 She says, I want everything. I want to be an actor, 1:39:02.640 --> 1:39:05.320 I want to be an artist and an entrepreneur. 1:39:05.360 --> 1:39:06.120 I love it. 1:39:06.120 --> 1:39:08.839 It's just my work ethic that's going to determine my success. 1:39:08.920 --> 1:39:10.280 Get what you deserve, Young Miami. 1:39:10.360 --> 1:39:12.800 I never expected to be an artist. I will say 1:39:12.840 --> 1:39:16.160 that I'm an infested being famous. I always thought maybe 1:39:16.200 --> 1:39:18.840 i'd be somebody's baby mama or wife, girlfriend or something 1:39:18.880 --> 1:39:22.280 like that, or justin in foals. A lot of people 1:39:22.280 --> 1:39:25.679 don't understand it. And they say it takes me being 1:39:25.760 --> 1:39:28.479 like illiterate or not being able to talk properly. I 1:39:28.880 --> 1:39:31.960 always think about it. I'll be like, I'm gonna do it, 1:39:32.160 --> 1:39:35.080 but I never followed through. I can't disguise my voice 1:39:35.080 --> 1:39:35.920 even if I wanted to. 1:39:36.040 --> 1:39:38.719 You don't need to boo be you. You are an original. 1:39:38.760 --> 1:39:40.640 God made you who he made you to be or 1:39:40.640 --> 1:39:42.760 who she made you to be. Okay, you are one 1:39:42.800 --> 1:39:45.240 on one Young Miami, and being Young Miami has got 1:39:45.280 --> 1:39:48.000 you this far. Okay, you deserve it all because every 1:39:48.080 --> 1:39:49.800 day the sun don't shine. But that's just why we 1:39:49.840 --> 1:39:51.120 love the mark. That's right. 1:39:51.200 --> 1:39:54.320 And we're talking about Diddy. We still friends, were still 1:39:54.360 --> 1:39:58.160 good friends or we're single, and that's not my man. 1:39:58.720 --> 1:40:00.519 We had our own situation way shown. 1:40:00.600 --> 1:40:01.040 That's right. 1:40:01.760 --> 1:40:03.479 I'm not gonna put a title on it. 1:40:03.600 --> 1:40:04.599 He touched on my butt. 1:40:04.920 --> 1:40:09.160 We were effing with each other hard, hard, We were 1:40:09.240 --> 1:40:11.760 together every day. At one point, talk to him. He 1:40:11.840 --> 1:40:12.439 supported me. 1:40:12.760 --> 1:40:15.439 I supported him. There you go, I supported him. I 1:40:15.479 --> 1:40:16.519 love it. I love it. 1:40:16.840 --> 1:40:19.240 Let the Internet call it whatever they want to call. 1:40:19.360 --> 1:40:19.800 That's right. 1:40:20.080 --> 1:40:22.920 You one young Miami, you one, you won, you won 1:40:23.000 --> 1:40:26.759 dropping on the kuzban for young Miami. You go ahead, Kresha, 1:40:27.720 --> 1:40:28.519 you do you boo. 1:40:28.960 --> 1:40:36.000 And lastly, I got to talk about this girl the 1:40:36.120 --> 1:40:42.280 Daily Show. I heard about it the week of May fifteenth. 1:40:42.400 --> 1:40:44.360 I heard about this. Guess who hosted I heard about 1:40:44.360 --> 1:40:46.760 this Guess who hosted red? Can you guess who hosts it? 1:40:47.280 --> 1:40:47.479 Now? 1:40:47.479 --> 1:40:48.040 You can't guess? 1:40:48.120 --> 1:40:48.240 Nah? 1:40:48.280 --> 1:40:49.360 Look can you guess who hosts it? 1:40:49.400 --> 1:40:49.920 No idea? 1:40:51.479 --> 1:40:53.080 I'm talking about the girl with the big hips. 1:40:53.640 --> 1:40:59.040 Come on now, gig hips in here noticing things? Noticing it? 1:40:59.400 --> 1:41:01.240 What but the slim waist? 1:41:01.640 --> 1:41:07.080 Oh me more envy. Flattery will get you everywhere. Tell 1:41:07.120 --> 1:41:09.120 me Charlomagaye, drop a bomb for him. 1:41:11.640 --> 1:41:12.440 The girl. 1:41:14.680 --> 1:41:17.000 Charlamagne is gonna be hosting the show? 1:41:17.360 --> 1:41:20.280 Why you laughing? You don't know what I identify as 1:41:20.400 --> 1:41:22.599 you see. That's your problem. That's right. I don't respect people. 1:41:22.680 --> 1:41:25.000 That's twenty three. You don't know what I identify? 1:41:25.040 --> 1:41:26.040 Ask what do identify? 1:41:26.120 --> 1:41:28.559 You? You say it? 1:41:29.360 --> 1:41:32.120 Whatever I want, whatever he wants, I said, the girl 1:41:32.160 --> 1:41:34.679 with the big hips and slip, the big thick slip. 1:41:34.720 --> 1:41:35.200 What have you heard? 1:41:35.240 --> 1:41:35.719 What I said? 1:41:36.000 --> 1:41:38.600 The week of May fifteenth, Charlemagne to God, drop a 1:41:38.640 --> 1:41:39.320 bomb for him? 1:41:39.400 --> 1:41:41.800 Yess I am looking forward to see who I piss 1:41:41.840 --> 1:41:44.479 off that week when I host the Daily Show, I 1:41:44.520 --> 1:41:46.880 need all listeners of the Breakfast Club and brilliant idiots 1:41:46.920 --> 1:41:48.840 are in the NYC area to pull up and get 1:41:48.880 --> 1:41:51.040 tickets to the Daily Show for that week. If you 1:41:51.120 --> 1:41:52.880 plan on watching me to tell me I suck. I 1:41:52.920 --> 1:41:53.800 appreciate that too. 1:41:54.040 --> 1:41:56.639 That's right, So you can tune in again the week 1:41:56.680 --> 1:41:59.719 of May fifteenth and a week airs eleven pm Eastern 1:41:59.760 --> 1:42:02.400 Time on Comedy Central. So again, drop a bomb for 1:42:02.479 --> 1:42:06.439 Charlamagne the God and all one lit people are welcome 1:42:06.560 --> 1:42:09.960 to shut up, shut up? All right, Well that is 1:42:10.040 --> 1:42:12.200 your rumor report. Now when we come back, we got 1:42:12.240 --> 1:42:13.120 the people's choice mixing. 1:42:13.200 --> 1:42:16.160 Let's go wake that ass up Earth in the morning. 1:42:16.479 --> 1:42:17.320 Breakfast Club