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Speaker 2: Yo yo Charlamagne the god piece to the plane in

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Speaker 2: this Thursday. Yes it's Thursday, and happy four twenty Today

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Speaker 2: is twenty.

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Speaker 1: Ah man dropping the clues bombs of four twenty. Sleute

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Speaker 1: everybody out there who don't care that it's four twenty,

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Speaker 1: because it's four twenty every day.

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Speaker 2: That is true.

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Speaker 1: They wake and bake every day, that is true. But

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Speaker 1: you got something you don't smoke though, No, I don't

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Speaker 1: sm like flower. I like edible.

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Speaker 2: What you got, you know, this is my pre rolls.

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Speaker 1: Give me some flower anyway, I give it to you.

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Speaker 1: Good gifts, a good.

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Speaker 2: Fourth pre rolls, just you know, like we call them

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Speaker 2: dog walkers because they short enough that when you walk

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Speaker 2: the dog, you can smoke and get your little smoke on.

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Speaker 1: It, like dog walking on when you was beating somebody

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Speaker 1: ass a dog walked that home.

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Speaker 2: We call them dog walkers because they they short sized

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Speaker 2: and you can smoke him, and you know, by the

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Speaker 2: time you get back to the crib, you done.

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Speaker 1: Short size, but you can smoke him.

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Speaker 2: There you go.

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Speaker 1: She call them charlamagne. What with charlamagne? Your mouth?

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Speaker 2: What short size? So shout to the staff. I gave

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Speaker 2: all the staff some happy four twenty uh good gifts.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, sir for the staff and everything like you, sir.

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Speaker 1: Turbo blue rolls slurred. I can't smoke, man. You know

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Speaker 1: why I can't smoke because the way my anxiety is

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Speaker 1: set up, that anxiety creeps in too fast when I smoke.

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Speaker 1: I've never had a good experience smoking. But really with edibles, yes,

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Speaker 1: because edibles is a nice body high. Yeah, and you

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Speaker 1: know how much you're taking. You know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: and it creeps up on you over the hour. That's

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Speaker 1: what I like that we hit you too fast when

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Speaker 1: you smoke it. I can't smoke it. I like edibles.

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Speaker 1: But thank you. All right, we'll go for twenty gifts.

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Speaker 2: If you in Detroit, you can hit up Mary Jane.

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Speaker 2: That's how most of the dispensers in Detroit has my

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Speaker 2: my actual strains. So shout to them. And if you're

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Speaker 2: in Vegas, heart Dean, my wife is mad at me

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Speaker 2: right now. Or you know, we've been talking about colonoscopies

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Speaker 2: and I took a colonoscopy earlier this year and they

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Speaker 2: found two pilyps.

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Speaker 1: YEP, I got one in December. I had no pilyps,

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Speaker 1: no redness, no cancer, no nothing.

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Speaker 2: It could have. I didn't have any cancer redness, but

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Speaker 2: one of the polyps could be pre cancerous. So I

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Speaker 2: have to go back and five years just to make sure.

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Speaker 1: Which yours is short? I think your might be three

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Speaker 1: three years.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going back in three five.

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Speaker 1: You go back in three.

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Speaker 2: But long story short, when they found that, I'm making

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Speaker 2: everybody I know go get coldonoskar as you should. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I can't talk if you don't, because I just want

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Speaker 2: to make sure my friends are feeling man around. So

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Speaker 2: I made my wife go. Now, my wife is not

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Speaker 2: the age to go, but I just made her go anyway.

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Speaker 2: So today is her procedure. So you know last night

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Speaker 2: my goodness, ooops, sit it. She wasn't shoop. She wasn't

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Speaker 2: ready for that loose boots. She wasn't ready for that.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't curse me out, you know, she wasn't ready

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Speaker 1: It's funny when you try to explain people the prep

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Speaker 1: we say diarrhea, like they're just thinking about, Okay, I've

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Speaker 1: had diarrhea, but nah, this is different. This is literally

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Speaker 1: every ten to fifteen seconds, every time you sit down,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna get back.

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Speaker 2: She is so mad at me right now. Yes, man,

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Speaker 2: Pills didn't agree with her stomach, so she she kind

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Speaker 2: of she was like almost vomiting and then she pooping.

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Speaker 2: Oh my, she's mad at me right now.

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Speaker 1: But the beauty is boil. When you wake up this morning,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's gonna be on flat.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be on flat flat this morning when you

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Speaker 1: wake up. Yes, any work you've been doing in the

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Speaker 1: You're gonna see it to day after you do prep

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Speaker 1: for a coldon we believe that. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So she's she's a little tight with me this morning.

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Speaker 2: She's very techable.

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Speaker 1: Why they let her go early because y'all got a

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Speaker 1: history of it in your family.

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Speaker 2: No, that's why.

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Speaker 1: That's why I was able to go earlier, because I

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Speaker 1: won't be forty five till this year.

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Speaker 2: I'll be paid for it, just paid for it, because

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Speaker 2: you know, it was one of those things I'm nervous

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Speaker 2: after see in Chad with Bosman and all these brothers

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Speaker 2: are dying from more different things. I'm checking everything when people,

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Speaker 2: I love to check everything because I want them as

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Speaker 1: I'm with you now. Today is for twenty Yes, did

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Speaker 1: they put the song in? Then? I want it? Oh

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Speaker 1: good man, what's on? You want to because today is

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Speaker 1: our good brother Killer Mike's born day man and dropping

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Speaker 1: the clue Mi, I damn sure want to start with

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Speaker 1: Killing Mike because today is Killing Mike's actual B day.

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Speaker 2: I want to start with styles P.

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Speaker 1: I get high.

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Speaker 2: But we can do Killer Mike. We can we can

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Speaker 2: do styles PI.

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Speaker 1: Killer Mike put out a new record for his B

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Speaker 1: day Man called Don't Let the Devil with lp uh.

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Speaker 1: You know the whole run the Jewels movement because Killer

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Speaker 1: Mike has album coming out called Michael, But happy born

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Speaker 1: Day to Killer Mike. We don't celebrate our people enough

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Speaker 1: when they are here Killing Michael, killing treasure to our community.

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Speaker 1: It's a pleasure to call him a friend and brother.

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Speaker 1: And he's one of my top five favorite seeds of

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Speaker 1: all time. And this song is hard.

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Speaker 2: Before you play it, I want to salute to Killer Mike.

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Speaker 2: I just want to tell you all a quick story.

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Speaker 2: We got ten seconds. Uh there was somebody getting people

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Speaker 2: investing people's money and really wasn't doing it. And Killer

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Speaker 2: Mike went down to that individual and got so many

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Speaker 2: Killer Mike he's a good brother, a hero, and he

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Speaker 2: continues to do things like that. So Killer Mike, I

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Speaker 2: love you.

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Speaker 1: Michael Renda is a real life superhero.

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Speaker 2: And let's get this joint on right now now. If

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Speaker 2: you bet right now, you have to google it later.

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Speaker 1: Called Don't let the Devil feature in LP. Let's go

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Speaker 1: hit when the clues bombs for that. It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 2: Good Morning from Patriots is next. All right morning, everybody,

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Speaker 2: It's the dj n V, Charlemagne, the God, we Are

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Speaker 2: the Breakfast.

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Speaker 1: Club, Killer Mike Happy born Day, Killer Mike dropping the

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Speaker 1: clues bombs for killing Mike.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: That's Killer Mike in LP. Don't let the devil man.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Michael Rinder Killer Mike has

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Speaker 1: a new album coming out called Michael. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: put too much sauce on it because you'all gonna say

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Speaker 1: I'm biased because that's my partner in one of my

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Speaker 1: top five favorite them seas of all time. But man

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Speaker 1: crazy when he drops, you'll see.

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Speaker 2: Alright, Mayon, I'm sure killing Michael stopped the man and

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Speaker 2: drops that album.

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Speaker 1: Mayan.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's get in some front page news.

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Speaker 2: Hey Testling, figure out goom Onland, figure out the hood

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Speaker 2: was Farrock.

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Speaker 3: Good morning, Charlemagne, the God, DJ MV, Breakfast Club and

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Speaker 3: the ET.

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Speaker 2: Now, I just want to start off with some quick sports.

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Speaker 2: Last night, the Bucks beat the Heat one thirty eight

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Speaker 2: twenty two, the Nuggets beat the Timberwalls one twenty two,

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Speaker 2: one thirteen, and the Grizzlies beat the Lakers one O

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Speaker 2: three ninety three. Of course, Brooks and Lebron kind of

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Speaker 2: with chirping at each other all game and after the game.

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Speaker 2: This is what Brooks said about Lebron.

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Speaker 4: Changed their people out there that say maybe maybe you

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Speaker 4: shouldn't do that with one of the better players in

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Speaker 5: I guess, what's what were you thinking of?

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Speaker 6: I don't care he's old, you know. I mean that's

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Speaker 6: I was waiting for that. I was respecting him to

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Speaker 6: do that Game four, game five. He wanted to say

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Speaker 6: something when I got my four to five should saying

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Speaker 6: that earlier on I PopEd bears. I don't respect no

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Speaker 6: one until they come and give me forty.

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Speaker 1: Wait, why they gotta call him man? Oh now, Broun,

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Speaker 1: I need you to drop forty next game.

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Speaker 2: But that's the thing.

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Speaker 1: You gotta show up for us old his next game.

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Speaker 2: That's the thing. Now, God damn Now, Dylan Brooks last

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Speaker 2: night scored twelve points one rebound. Now that old man

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Speaker 2: dropped twenty eight on you in twelve rebounds. How you

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Speaker 1: You got to drop forty? I didn't. I never thought

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Speaker 1: I would get to the point where Lebron would be

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Speaker 1: up here with us. OG's all right, but I guess

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Speaker 1: he is at this point. Right, He's considered old in

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Speaker 1: the league. You've been there twenty years, Bron, you got

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Speaker 1: to drop forty? Next game? And how the Lakers lose

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Speaker 1: to the gridlies without I'm rent and did Yanna's play

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Speaker 1: last night?

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Speaker 2: I fell asleep at nolaylast I'm old man.

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Speaker 1: And then in the heat the Bucks beat the Heat.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Lebron, don't let that Canadian told.

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Speaker 1: You like that game? Brun And I ain't no Laker fan,

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Speaker 1: but I want to see you drop forty, Brun.

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Speaker 2: All right, what else you got task?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a really really good game. I just

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Speaker 3: want to say my special happy birthday all say. Also

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Speaker 3: the Killer Mike, I'm glad you guys did that special

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Speaker 3: shout out. So I will be going to Atlanta for

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Speaker 3: the sold out Black Effect podcast festivals.

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Speaker 7: So don't be surprised if I'm reporting live.

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Speaker 1: From the I'm being there with you the Blue.

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Speaker 3: That's right, and his wife, my sister Shay shout out

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Speaker 3: to him.

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Speaker 8: Yep.

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Speaker 3: So Biden issues an executive order to make child and

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Speaker 3: home care cheaper. So I wanted to give some good

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Speaker 3: news with President Biden signing and executive order Tuesday to

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Speaker 3: advance affordable caregiving and support workers Now. The order includes

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Speaker 3: cabinet level agencies taking steps to fix the nation's childcare

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Speaker 3: and long term care system, such as lowering co payments

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Speaker 3: for services, and other provisions that will seek ways for

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Speaker 3: Medicare and Medicaid dollars to go further. Now, take a

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Speaker 3: listen to what President Biden had to say about the

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Speaker 3: Okay, yep, so good thing this was you guys may

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Speaker 1: And hope hopefully that trickled down to the people who needed.

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Speaker 7: That's right, yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well we'll see in a little bit, Testling Figure.

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Speaker 7: Now.

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Speaker 2: We got Testling Figure on the line. Good morning, test

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Speaker 7: Absolutely, good morning, family.

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Speaker 2: Just go through some quick sports to Grizzlies beat the

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Speaker 1: I can't believe that the Heat beat I mean, the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they lost by ten. They were down by like

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Speaker 2: All right, Now, what are we starting with? We start

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Speaker 3: Yes, wow, break yourself for this one. It just even

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Speaker 3: reporting this makes me queasy.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 7: The family of thirty five year old Georgia.

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Speaker 3: Man Lashawn Johnson, who died in a bed bug infested

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Speaker 7: In her words, she freaked out. The correction officer actually

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Speaker 3: According to Fulton County Medical examiners report, Thompson's body was

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Speaker 1: I'm so confused. How do you determine somebody's death undetermined? Right?

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Speaker 1: That's number one? And number two, this man had to

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it was a slow process.

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Speaker 3: You know, it wasn't like all you know, at one time,

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Speaker 3: And so that's what the federal investigation will do. We'll

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Speaker 1: That's how I mean, jails aren't supposed to be the

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Speaker 1: rich Carlton but you know, jails shouldn't be a death stinist.

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Speaker 1: If you're not saying this to death, you know what

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Speaker 2: Bugs and now, but you know most jail, a lot

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Speaker 1: I mean, at least make them livable human condition. Like

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Speaker 1: I said, it ain't supposed to be no five star hotel,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, what else we got? What else? Were

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Speaker 3: Facebook, In case anyone wants to see if they can

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Speaker 3: get the bag from Facebook.

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Speaker 7: Facebook users who had an active.

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Speaker 3: I thought this was an important story, submit that claim

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Speaker 2: All right. And lastly, you got to talk about this

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Speaker 1: I mean what I can see both sides. Yes, I

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Speaker 2: Yes, she's twenty two years she's twenty two weeks pregnant,

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Speaker 2: The popcorn I'm sure fell out. Yes, I get it,

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Speaker 2: I should say to the popcorn, I'm the kid dropped

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Speaker 2: I'm not picking it up now.

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Speaker 3: And I thought that was my point of view, Like

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Speaker 1: So many these flight attendants be nasty for no damn,

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Speaker 1: like two colonels left, I was like, oh, she got it.

443
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Speaker 1: She already that she got it. You know what I'm saying.

444
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Speaker 1: I would account of the current, that's all, would acount

445
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Speaker 1: the current help. I would have looked and be like, oh,

446
00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:07,680
Speaker 1: it's only two lefts, she got it. You know what

447
00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,639
Speaker 1: I mean? To help them, I'm like that sometimes when

448
00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:11,399
Speaker 1: you sit in your seat and I'm gonna tell you

449
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Speaker 1: something else. You know, you be sitting down and you

450
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Speaker 1: be offering to help women with their bags. I got

451
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Speaker 1: to the point where I stopped doing that because women

452
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Speaker 1: don't be wanting help.

453
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Speaker 7: Some women want to, Yes, we do.

454
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Speaker 3: I'm every time somebody don't help me, I'll look and say,

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Speaker 3: I mean, are you gonna help?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, that's how I am. Some of these women

457
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Speaker 1: be like I got it, I got it. I don't.

458
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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, But most of the time they do

459
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Speaker 2: need help, and I have no problem helping them.

460
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Speaker 1: I have no problem helping them either. You know, I've

461
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Speaker 1: just been scoring because some women just be like, I

462
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Speaker 1: don't need your help.

463
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Speaker 2: They probably feel like you and you probably can't reach

464
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Speaker 2: the upper end of the of the placee. So that's

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Speaker 2: why they probably feel that.

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Speaker 1: That's what they can be right about that.

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Speaker 2: See, well, thank you Tas, We appreciate you.

468
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Speaker 7: No problem.

469
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Speaker 1: All right, we'll see it tomorrow and make sure you

470
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471
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472
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Speaker 1: Tas out this Saturday on the Women in Pot casting

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Speaker 2: All right, now, now when we come back, we have

476
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Speaker 2: author and therapists Resma Mennekim joining us and we're gonna

477
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Speaker 2: kick it with him when we come back, So don't move.

478
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Speaker 2: It's the Breakfast Sloan BT call out a name or

479
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Speaker 2: you gossip chatting.

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Speaker 5: This is the rumor report.

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Speaker 9: I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast Club. This

482
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Speaker 9: is where the tea spells.

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Speaker 1: Right on the Breakfast Club.

484
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Speaker 2: Now in more Jonathan Major's news. Now, his attorney filed

485
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Speaker 2: evidence on Wednesday that appears to show Jonathan's accuser uninjured

486
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Speaker 2: and partying in a club after their alleged altercation. Now,

487
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Speaker 2: af you go to a ball Alert, Hollywood Unlocked or

488
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Speaker 2: Shade Room, you can see pictures of this alleged woman

489
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Speaker 2: in a bar or club. After you call it an

490
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Speaker 2: alleged woman, why don't I just want to say allege

491
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Speaker 2: because to make sure I don't want to be like

492
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Speaker 2: that wasn't me and the photo that wasn't.

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Speaker 1: Alleged victim the woman the woman, yes, alleged will mentioned.

494
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Speaker 2: Uh in a bar or club partying after the incident happened,

495
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Speaker 2: so they basically say she really didn't have any injuries. Now, Also,

496
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Speaker 2: they're saying sources close to the case are saying that

497
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Speaker 2: more victims of Mages have come forward following his March

498
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Speaker 2: arrest and a cooperating with Manhattan District Attorney's office. Yikes,

499
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Speaker 2: So I don't know what's happening, but they're saying more

500
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Speaker 2: people are coming up, but I don't know.

501
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Speaker 1: Yeah, all of this is very unfortunate, but the reality

502
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Speaker 1: is you are innocent until proven guilty. Sorry, Internet, I

503
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Speaker 1: know y'all think otherwise, but there's still a thing called

504
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Speaker 1: due process in this country. And that's whow when I

505
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Speaker 1: see Hollywood and all these people separating themselves from Jonathan,

506
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Speaker 1: I'm just reminded that innocent until proven guilty and due

507
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Speaker 1: process is only applied to certain people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, it's it's crazy because when you

509
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Speaker 2: see something like that, it seems like it's a media

510
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Speaker 2: attack on him like this, it seems like a planned

511
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Speaker 2: attack on him, the way that everybody's coordinated.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it's definitely a coordinated media I'm not

513
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Speaker 1: gonna say attack, but it definitely is a coordinated media

514
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Speaker 1: blitz blitz. Yes, yeah, all these press releases coming out

515
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Speaker 1: at the same time, and you know, you see the

516
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Speaker 1: management in the PR team on one accord with one

517
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Speaker 1: press release, like yeah, and they're using one outlet I

518
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Speaker 1: think the outlet they usually users variety. Yeah, so absolutely,

519
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Speaker 1: but once again, innocent until proven guilty. That's supposed to be.

520
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Speaker 1: That's what it's supposed to be in this country. Supposed

521
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Speaker 1: to be doesn't always apply to certain people, and the

522
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Speaker 1: people that usually applies to aren't black. Yeah, I'll tell

523
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Speaker 1: you that much. But we'll see.

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Speaker 2: Now, Javonte Davis and Ryan Garcia are fighting this weekend.

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Speaker 2: If it's wait a second, now, yesterday they were on

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Speaker 2: live ig live. They were on Kai I think his

527
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Speaker 2: name is Kay Sanats Live and they were talking about

528
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Speaker 2: wagering their perse. So if you don't know what wagering

529
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Speaker 2: their purses. They're going to make a certain amount on

530
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Speaker 2: this fight. Now they're talking about betting, not real persons.

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Speaker 1: I know that we live in this era where you know,

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Speaker 1: you might think that two men are absolutely betting their

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Speaker 1: actual persons right right, you know, But then I do

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Speaker 1: carry versus in twenty twenty three, men.

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Speaker 2: Do carry persons. But they're actually talking about betting whatever

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Speaker 2: they would make on that fight.

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Speaker 1: You want to bet, yeah, let's do it, dude, the

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Speaker 1: whole person. That's a bit.

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Speaker 10: Yes, let's bet you hear.

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Speaker 1: Me on the lot.

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Speaker 10: Let's bet so everything for sure.

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Speaker 1: Let's make a contract, let's sign up both of us.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it.

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Speaker 7: Okay, And if you don't really want it, we can't.

545
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Speaker 1: The young boys thought the goddamn are you sure? I

546
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Speaker 1: don't speak twice for myself.

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Speaker 5: You know, your boy, anything you're gonna you're gonna win.

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Speaker 1: I am a one. Them young boys thought, they goddamn

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Speaker 1: I yeah, they matter of fact, I'm not evenna bring

550
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Speaker 1: God into it. Them young boy thought they devil damn.

551
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Speaker 1: I okay, let me tell you something. You don't train

552
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Speaker 1: all those weeks, okay, you don't train all those months

553
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Speaker 1: that go in there and bet your person. I don't

554
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Speaker 1: care how sure you are, because guess what, if you lose,

555
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,920
Speaker 1: you definitely deserve the money, and if you win, you

556
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Speaker 1: definitely deserve your money. Got it out? Anybody ever really

557
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Speaker 1: done that? Because I hear people say that if you

558
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Speaker 1: beat me, I bet you my whole person. You know,

559
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Speaker 1: I bet you my whole person, I'll beat you. Does

560
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Speaker 1: anybody ever really give up their whole person when that.

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Speaker 2: Happens, I hope not. There's no manager, there is no attorney,

562
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Speaker 2: there's no agent, There's none, none of them that would

563
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Speaker 2: advise you to do that.

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Speaker 1: None, not at all, none, none, none, whatsoever. That's good, listen, man,

565
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Speaker 1: that's that's ass betting all day long. Because I promise you,

566
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Speaker 1: if I lose, I don't care what I said on Live,

567
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Speaker 1: you ain't getting this, this hard earned money that I

568
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Speaker 1: got and I got my ass kicked.

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Speaker 2: For no way, Because we all know any given Sunday,

570
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 2: any lucky punch can swing and I don't matter. You

571
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:34,919
Speaker 2: could be the nicest, you can knock me out and

572
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Speaker 2: you take everything.

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Speaker 6: No.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait to watch the fight though. Yeah, I

575
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 2: can't wait to watch the fight too. Now. Also, Young

576
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Speaker 2: Miami confirms that her and Diddy have split.

577
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Speaker 1: Girl, Tell me more. I'm a fan. Tell me more, girl,

578
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Speaker 1: hold on, you get to get it together. Tell me more, girl,

579
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Speaker 1: get it together. Tell me She.

580
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Speaker 2: Says we are still friends. We are good friends, but

581
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Speaker 2: she says we are single. That is not my man

582
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Speaker 2: when she said that. Uh, this was in the Cut.

583
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Speaker 2: The sources the cut she did a magazine for. She

584
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Speaker 2: did an interview with a magazine called The Cuts.

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Speaker 1: Was they have an official couple?

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Speaker 2: I don't know they were. Remember she said they go together,

587
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Speaker 2: but they single.

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Speaker 1: That's what I said. She said they go together. She

589
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Speaker 1: said we go together real bad. So they don't go

590
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Speaker 1: together real bad.

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Speaker 5: No more.

592
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Speaker 2: Nah, they don't go together real bad anymore.

593
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Speaker 1: You look disappointed about this.

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Speaker 2: One liked them together. I did like them together. Tell

595
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Speaker 2: me more about I did like them together. I just

596
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Speaker 2: thought that they complimented each other. I thought, you know,

597
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Speaker 2: she kept Ditty younger, and you know that's impossible.

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Speaker 1: Don a lie that she did. See that's what you

599
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Speaker 1: think that Beijing can do for y'all too. You think

600
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Speaker 1: he keeps you all younger, But don't just look stupid.

601
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Speaker 2: Did he had a different swag? He had a different bod? Yes,

602
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Speaker 2: he did he did, absolutely did. Yes, he did look

603
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Speaker 2: like the old man. He was still shaking a little bit.

604
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Speaker 2: He was shaking a little better.

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Speaker 7: Yes he did.

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Speaker 1: Yes, he did look more tired to me. If young

607
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Speaker 1: girls wearing them.

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Speaker 2: Out, did he look did he look a little younger?

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Speaker 2: Young Miami, I.

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Speaker 1: Don't believe none of that. Well, we wish them the best.

611
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Speaker 1: Is what y'all is? Now, that's a good question.

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00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 2: I don't know what they is. But they're not together,

613
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Speaker 2: and that is your rumor report. While you got the

614
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Speaker 2: fail like that, and.

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Speaker 1: You were telling that you was feeling that tea about

616
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Speaker 1: the relationships, girl, I had to get into it.

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Speaker 2: I got some more for you too, because there's a

618
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Speaker 2: lot going on today. Give me give me where's my fan?

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Speaker 1: We might not need an old woman in hell if

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Speaker 1: you keep giving me this feminine energy fan.

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Speaker 2: Who's my fan? I need a fan. I'm gonna go

622
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Speaker 2: give me a fling in flame, Morolean. I don't want

623
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Speaker 2: to show your fan. When we come back, we got

624
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Speaker 2: front page news, Sessling figure will be joining us, and

625
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Speaker 2: we're gonna open up the phone lines. It is four

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Speaker 2: twenty so eight hundred and five eight five one oh

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Speaker 2: five one. We want to hear your high stories. We

628
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Speaker 2: want you to finish this sentence. One time I got

629
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Speaker 2: so high that I what will take your calls out

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Speaker 2: the front page news. So don't move. It's to breakfast Club,

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Speaker 2: Good morning on.

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Speaker 1: B E T morning.

633
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Speaker 2: Everybody is cej NV Charlamagne to God. We are the

634
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Speaker 2: Breakfast Club's four twenty, So I be four twenty to everybody.

635
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Speaker 2: I was happening now. Four twenty is a day where

636
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 2: most people celebrate cannabis, marijuana and people get high. It's

637
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Speaker 2: usually a time on people that don't usually smoke get

638
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: a chance to smoke and try it out.

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Speaker 1: But it's a damn shame that marijuana is not decriminalized

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Speaker 1: on a federal level. It's a damn shame that marijuana

641
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 1: is not legalized on a federal level. And I don't

642
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 1: think there's no greater hypocrisy than these states that have

643
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:25,639
Speaker 1: a legalized marijuana for medicinal and recreational youth. But you

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00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:29,880
Speaker 1: still have people in prison for marijuana. That's right insane

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Speaker 1: to me.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, So we are asking today eight hundred five A

647
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Speaker 2: five one five one shout to everybody out there, everybody,

648
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Speaker 2: all the stone is out there, and shout to my

649
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Speaker 2: I got my own strain of marijuana cannabis. It's called slur.

650
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 2: You can get it out in Detroit House Mary Jane

651
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 2: or any of the dispensaries out in Detroit and Detroit,

652
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,479
Speaker 2: Michigan should have slurred. If they don't definitely ask for it.

653
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 2: But we're asking. One time I got so high that

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Speaker 2: I what that is the question? Eight hundred five A five,

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Speaker 2: one oh five to one. I'll tell you the story.

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00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 2: When I was up, I think I was laughing for

657
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Speaker 2: four or five hours. It took me about twelve hours

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Speaker 2: to get home that day. My wife does not smoke

659
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Speaker 2: or take edibles. She had a bad trip one time

660
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: I gave her an edibull and man, she was all

661
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 2: over the place. She was one minute she was crying,

662
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 2: then she was happy, then she was mad at me,

663
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 2: then she was happy. It was the craziest trip. My

664
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 2: kids were there, they didn't know what was going on.

665
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,959
Speaker 2: It was the weirdest thing. So we're asking, what is

666
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 2: the craziest thing. What's go with charlomage?

667
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I don't like to smoke. I like

668
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 1: to do edibles because when I smoke, it hitched me

669
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 1: too fast, And you know, I have really bad anxiety

670
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: and really bad panic attacks. So I like to do

671
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 1: edicles indigo. But the last time I did smoke was

672
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 1: during COVID, you know what I mean. And I smoked

673
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: during COVID because I was bored, you know, and you

674
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: couldn't tell me I wasn't gonna die. You could not

675
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 1: tell me that this was not going to be the end.

676
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 1: I really thought that I was going to overdose on

677
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: marijuana because this new weed. I don't know what's in

678
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 1: this new weed. So it was winter time and I

679
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 1: had on some short pants a hoodie, and I figured,

680
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: you know what, I need to go ground myself. So

681
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:07,360
Speaker 1: I went outside barefoot with just a hoodie and shorts

682
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 1: on and the freezing winter in New Jersey, trying to

683
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: ground myself. And then I went to my favorite tree

684
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: and I put my back up against my favorite tree

685
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 1: and had my head up against my favorite tree, and

686
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 1: I just remember, I don't know how long I was

687
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: out there. I just remember my wife saying, get drink

688
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 1: in this house right now. She's literally came doing she said,

689
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 1: get prenking in this house right now. And so I

690
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 1: went back in the house and I lived. So now

691
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 1: that's the last crazy thing I remember doing.

692
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember one time taking it on a plane

693
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,239
Speaker 2: and I just remember I was sitting first class. I

694
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 2: was by myself, and it was a big I'm sorry

695
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:37,160
Speaker 2: I got to use this word. It was a big

696
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 2: fat family on the planet.

697
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: Family the clumps. I was certain next to the clumps

698
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: on the plane.

699
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 2: It was they were all big, and it just felt

700
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 2: like they would just keep getting bigger and keep getting

701
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 2: getting bigger, and I couldn't breathe it. I was by

702
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: myself and my manager wasn't with me, Junie. I just

703
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 2: remember a like, why are you here? And they just

704
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 2: kept getting bigger, and then they were taking all the

705
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 2: oxygen on the plane.

706
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 1: How could six the half.

707
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: They had like five cs?

708
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: God damn it would be and there's only two of them.

709
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: I just remember that if you thought it was a family,

710
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 1: but it was really one of hers, one of the

711
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: big old beast person on the planet. Ify was so

712
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: high he thought it was a whole family.

713
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 11: Man.

714
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 2: That messed me up so crazy.

715
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 1: Let's go to the phone line that is horrible.

716
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 2: Hello, who's this.

717
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 6: This is Libby.

718
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 2: Good morning, Libby, good morning. We're talking Today's four twenty

719
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,120
Speaker 2: before twenty mama happy.

720
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Speaker 12: Before twenty is the best of the year.

721
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna say all that now now.

722
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 13: Yeah, oh yeah, definitely, I'm not going I can't believe it.

723
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: Now we're asking one time I got so high that

724
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 2: I would.

725
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 8: Man?

726
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 14: Last year for twenty, me and my homegirl, we were faded.

727
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 12: We had eight edibles.

728
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 14: We were smoking going down the highway and I stopped

729
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 14: at a green light.

730
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: Why was you driving high?

731
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 10: Man?

732
00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 14: Was better to drink?

733
00:29:59,160 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 2: Listen?

734
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:02,719
Speaker 12: No, no, no, my bad. It's better to smoke and

735
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 12: fly than drink and drive.

736
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: That's right. No, No, I mean I mean smoking flod

737
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: like if you're in a plane and somebody flying.

738
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 13: Man, when I'm high, I drive better, I know, like.

739
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: Green lights. But you say you drive better exactly.

740
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 14: You stopped too, messed up, putting me on a different level.

741
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: Yes, that's why you shouldn't have been driving, crazy, your

742
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: crazy tail self.

743
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 2: My goodness.

744
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: Hello, who's this? Hey?

745
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 12: This is ahm man sleep.

746
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: And what's up? Brother? We're talking about one time I

747
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 2: got so high that I want man?

748
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 1: One time I got so high man. I was riding

749
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: in the call my wife. She started asking me questions,

750
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: saying that I was sounding different, like answering me question.

751
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean I found different?

752
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 13: She's like, yeah, every time you say how you sound different?

753
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 15: Make a long story short. She got me so high

754
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 15: I was convinced that I was somebody else.

755
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 2: I can even tell who I want the man?

756
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 12: Are you really?

757
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 14: Am I really somebody else?

758
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 13: I'm thinking paranoid, like mug, I'm riding in.

759
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 14: The color like my alco ego just came out.

760
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 1: Damn it. That's the beauty of weed.

761
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 8: Though.

762
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: You should turn into somebody else, start freestyling, start rapping.

763
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:15,479
Speaker 1: That happened to me one time. I did. I think

764
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 1: about it all the Columbia, South Carolina, and I got

765
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: so high. I used to have a grade Silver hundred six,

766
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: and I was high, and I was driving and I

767
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: shouldn't have been, like twenty years ago, and I thought

768
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: I was speeding. And I looked to the passenger seat,

769
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: and I saw myself in the passenger seat, and myself

770
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: looked at me and said slow down. So then I

771
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: started driving slow. And then I realized I'm doing like

772
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: thirty on the highway what I'm saying. And then I

773
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: got paranoid cause I'm like, I'm driving so slow to

774
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 1: police gonna stop me. So then I start speeding up.

775
00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: So I just started playing a game with myself the

776
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: whole time while I'm speeding up, slowing down, speeding up,

777
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 1: slowing down. But I made it home.

778
00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, eight hundred and five abby four twenty. We're

779
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 2: asking one time I got so high that I what

780
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 2: call us up right now? It's the Breakfast Club, Good morning,

781
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,479
Speaker 2: good morning. Everybody's dj n G charlomade gud. We are

782
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 2: to Breakfast Club Avenue four twenty. That was a four

783
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 2: twenty mini mix, by the way, So we're asking eight

784
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 2: hundred five eighty five one five one. One time I

785
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: got so high that I what We're going to the

786
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: phone line today? Hello, who's this? Hey, Tatiana? Good morning,

787
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 2: Good Mary. We're a One time I got so high

788
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 2: that I.

789
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 14: What I had drove to the chicken turn out right?

790
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 14: I was racking head.

791
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 2: Wait, we drove to a chicken joint and then you

792
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: walked home? Yes, but you forgot you drove I did,

793
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, that's high I got head.

794
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: You must not have lived too far from the place.

795
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: Lord have mercy. Well, God bless you. I'm glad. I'm glad.

796
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 1: You made it out alive. That sounds crazy.

797
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 5: Hello, who's this?

798
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 8: This is trying?

799
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 2: Hey, take us off, Carolina.

800
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: Hey eight four three, what's happening? Take us off?

801
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 2: Bluetooth of speaking? You got us on that, Mama.

802
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 12: You can't hear me?

803
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 2: Now we can. We're talking about one time I got

804
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 2: so high that I what.

805
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 12: So one time I got so high that my son

806
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 12: came downstairs and asked for a bowl of leading and

807
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 12: I made it, set it back upstairs, and I made it,

808
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 12: and then I sat down, not realizing that I made

809
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 12: the news for him, and I sat there and ate

810
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 12: the whole thing with my cup of kool Aids. And

811
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 12: then eventually he came.

812
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 13: Downstairs, asking like, well, my what's I newle that? And

813
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 13: I was looking them sounded like, oh, just give me

814
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 13: a minute hour make it for.

815
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 12: What I went.

816
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 13: I made the last pack of noodle, so I just

817
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 13: ended up giving him McDonald's.

818
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 15: Anyway.

819
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 2: So wait a minute, So your son asked you to

820
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,320
Speaker 2: make noodles. You was so high that you made noodles

821
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 2: for him, and then you ate his noodles and then

822
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 2: you had to go get a McDonald's.

823
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 14: I did.

824
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 1: I did, first of all. First of all, First of all,

825
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: I don't see nothing wrong with what you did. Because

826
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 1: when you hide them children snacks be hitting. Okay, when

827
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: you when you hide the things you make for your

828
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: kids be hitting. Then you turned around. It was a

829
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 1: great mom and got him McDonald's. And I know you

830
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: got you a little something for yourself from Mickey D's too.

831
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 2: I did what you got apple pie.

832
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 1: I loved him High Meals, which McDonald.

833
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 13: I did get an apple apple pie best, but I

834
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:43,720
Speaker 13: just got apple pie French fries.

835
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:49,200
Speaker 2: That's all that. That is the high meal. People, apple pie,

836
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 2: some French fried.

837
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 1: And people will go to McDonald's high and order a

838
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 1: quarter pounded with chieze and an apple pie and put

839
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 1: the apple pie on the quarter pounds. That's a sweety

840
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: meal in it.

841
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 2: I think that might be a sweety meal.

842
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 1: Carol, Good morning, Good morning.

843
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 2: How you feeling this morning?

844
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 14: Tired?

845
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 2: But I'm here happy for twenty So tell us to

846
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 2: the one time I got so high that I.

847
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 14: So one time I got so high that I came

848
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 14: home and my dog was with me, and I was

849
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 14: watching a TV show with another dog in the show,

850
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 14: and the dog in the show was barking, and I

851
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 14: felt like the dog was talking about me, and I

852
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 14: thought my dog was sitting on the floor, not defended

853
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 14: me to this dog.

854
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: I love it.

855
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 14: So I locked my dog up and put him in

856
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 14: the cage and I went upstairs with the sleep. And

857
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 14: the next day I felt so bad.

858
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 1: No, I'm with you, so you punished your dog for

859
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: no reason.

860
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 7: The dogs on the TV was talking about me.

861
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 13: He definitely was talking about me.

862
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: First of all, if that dog on the TV was

863
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: balking that your your the dog in your house should

864
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 1: have been balking too.

865
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 7: Just in case, okay, oh my god, in case.

866
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 5: I said, I'm with you dog that the night in

867
00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:58,399
Speaker 5: the cave.

868
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 1: See nothing wrong with what you did. You did a little.

869
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: You just did a little overnight staying a little bit and.

870
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 2: A little bit.

871
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: Hello, who's this?

872
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 2: My name is hey, Jane's good morning? Where you call

873
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 2: them from from?

874
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:12,839
Speaker 1: Oh?

875
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 2: You don't want to say, all right, well, what's the

876
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 2: one time I got so high that I what?

877
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 11: Oh?

878
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 14: Well, what's up?

879
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 15: Me and a friend of mine we took an edible

880
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 15: at work. And I can say this now that I

881
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 15: don't work with a job in AVIAG work a few years,

882
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 15: but I was totally doing interviews for people's and whatnot.

883
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 15: And I was at my desk. Then why don't people

884
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 15: sitting in the front.

885
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: Lobby so them people ain't get their food stands because

886
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 1: your ass was hot, you fell asleep.

887
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 15: Somebody's coming with me up. But I got the job done.

888
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 15: But yeah, I was, I was in the clouds.

889
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,880
Speaker 1: What if I told you that we used to be

890
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 1: high as hell up here at the breakfast club all

891
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: the time, back in the time. I'm sure you believe it.

892
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 2: Was a bad time.

893
00:36:58,000 --> 00:36:59,919
Speaker 1: We used to be on them edibles and head trip

894
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:07,880
Speaker 1: and you hear me, definitely. I mean tripping, tripping, tripping,

895
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: saying anything to make each other laugh and dying laughing

896
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: like it was the funniest thing in the world for

897
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,800
Speaker 1: no reason. It was all funny games till I passed

898
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 1: out in this goddamn studio one day, Not this studio,

899
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 1: the old studio, till I passed out in this studio

900
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 1: one day and had to be rushed at the hospital

901
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 1: for dehydration. I bet y'all ain't know that. I thought

902
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 1: y'all didn't know that. Maybe I told you I don't

903
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 1: remember that.

904
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, you took like two days off I had to,

905
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 2: and then you ain't want to play no more.

906
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: I don' won't play no more. Was ling. We was

907
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 1: in and out of the clubs late at night, getting high,

908
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 1: doing edibles, right before we came on air, bringing the

909
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: club with us in hit drinking, having a ball. But

910
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 1: that's all AI. Any of that old stuff y'all heard

911
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 1: from back then, that's AI.

912
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 2: It ain't even that was a That wasn't really us.

913
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: That was the other mean even though all right, Well,

914
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,359
Speaker 1: I also would like to say, please keep in mind

915
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,360
Speaker 1: that it is ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous that there's so many people,

916
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,359
Speaker 1: so many states in this country that has legalized weed

917
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: in some way, shape or form, whether it's from addictional

918
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: or recreational, and there's still people locked up for marijuana

919
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: in America. That is absolutely positively ridiculous. And I know

920
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: Joe Biden did a mass pardon of everybody who's in

921
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:21,759
Speaker 1: jail for simple marijuana possession, but the reality is there

922
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 1: is nobody in jail on a federal level for simple

923
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 1: marijuana possession. So if Joe Biden wanted to, he could

924
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: literally pardon every single person that is federally jailed for

925
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:36,280
Speaker 1: a non violent weed offense. He could pardon every single

926
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: body if he wanted to, you know, and that's what

927
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 1: he should do, because, like I said, it's ridiculous for

928
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: people to still be in jail for marijuana in a

929
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: country that is legalized marijuana recreationally and additionally in so

930
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 1: many different states. All Right, they're so silly. Look at

931
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,280
Speaker 1: me right now. I'm sitting here with a pre road

932
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: joint in my hand from Envy's pre road line. But

933
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,840
Speaker 1: there's people in this state locked up for marijuana.

934
00:38:58,880 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 2: That's right.

935
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: That don't make no damren no.

936
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 2: Sense at though. All right, Well, happy for twenty Now,

937
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 2: when we come back, we got your room of report.

938
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 2: We got to tell you why they keep taking down

939
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 2: Ice Spices of pictures and videos. It's kind of crazy.

940
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 2: We'll tell you why when we come back. It's the

941
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:13,240
Speaker 2: breakfast club on morning.

942
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: Or you've gossip beating. This is the rumor report.

943
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:21,919
Speaker 9: I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club.

944
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 2: This is where the tea.

945
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 5: Spells right on the breakfast Club.

946
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 2: Now Ice Spices post the last couple of days have

947
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 2: been getting removed Charlamagne. You know why. Nope, because she

948
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 2: put a caption that said ao isis So I guess

949
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 2: Instagram take took it down because they thought that she

950
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 2: was talking about I guess iis what is she talking

951
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: about herself? That's her name, that's her real name. Her

952
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 2: full name is isis Nija Gaston. But I guess they thought

953
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:52,240
Speaker 2: ices was referring to the group that are terrorists.

954
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: I think they did that to me before when I

955
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: when I be calling no, I call those white domestic

956
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,359
Speaker 1: terrorists that likes storm the capitol and stuff, I call

957
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: them vanilla. I I feel like they took one of

958
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:03,760
Speaker 1: my polls to get down. I don't know. I feel

959
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:05,400
Speaker 1: like they have taken a poll down. I guess it

960
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 1: was for the same reasons.

961
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, they said it violates Instagram's community guidelines on violence

962
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 2: or dangerous organizations. But that's her name.

963
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,359
Speaker 1: It is her name. But better safe than sorry because

964
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: ao icis sound crazy. Eo isis like sound like you're

965
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:18,320
Speaker 1: calling the troops.

966
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 2: But yeah, but that's her name.

967
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: I get it. Yeah, but they don't know that.

968
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:25,280
Speaker 2: Now Serena Williams is shopping her memoir and they're saying

969
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 2: that they could catch up to ten million dollars money.

970
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 2: Now this is just months after retiring from professional tennis.

971
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 2: The twenty three times Grand Slam singles champion. Serena Williams

972
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,959
Speaker 2: is shopping it around, so she's expected to get ten

973
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:39,759
Speaker 2: million or.

974
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 1: More easy money, and she deserves it all. You have

975
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: a book in print. I don't have no ten million dollars.

976
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: I don't have no ten million dollar budget from no

977
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,760
Speaker 1: both you get it back though. I got good budgets,

978
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 1: but not no ten million.

979
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 2: No, no, not ten million.

980
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 1: I mean, but it's not too many people can fetch

981
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 1: ten million dollars anyway. Now, Serena Williams is you know,

982
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: once in a generational talent, right, you know what I mean.

983
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: It's one of the greatest athletes of all time period.

984
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,839
Speaker 1: You know, some say top five greatest athlete of all time.

985
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: I don't see why you wouldn't put her in that category. So, yes,

986
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 1: that sounds about rights of all time. Yeah, ten million

987
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 1: dollars for a book that's not about right.

988
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 2: Just side note, if you had to put three athletes

989
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,279
Speaker 2: greatest of all times, what three would you put up there?

990
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:22,280
Speaker 1: Greatest athletes of all time? Ooh, Michael Jordan, definitely Jordan.

991
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 1: I would do Serena. I would Michael Jordan. I'm not

992
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: mad at Serena. I have to think about that. I

993
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: don't know who would be who I consider great, because

994
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: you know, you'd have to put like track and field

995
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,479
Speaker 1: people in there. I would have to put bicyclists because

996
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 1: you know, athletics to me mean you know, stamina and conditioning, like.

997
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 2: I would do Floyd Box.

998
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if I put Floyd up there, I'll.

999
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 2: Do Floyd, I would do Michael Jordan, and I would

1000
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 2: do Serena Williams.

1001
00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,360
Speaker 1: The three greatest athletes of all time, and I disagree with

1002
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 1: that list.

1003
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 2: I put Tom Brady in there.

1004
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 1: I definitely would put parody in there. But some people

1005
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 1: even talk about that they feel like Brady's not the

1006
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 1: most athletic person, which I think is ridiculous. But I

1007
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: don't know. I have to think about that one. That's

1008
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: a lot of sports because you have to put football

1009
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 1: players in their football soccer, that's football whatever. You know,

1010
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 1: what the hell I was trying to say, The athlete

1011
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 1: means something different, like it's not about who was the

1012
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: best in their field. It's like, I don't know what

1013
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 1: the hell athlete mean. I just know that I wouldn't

1014
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: put Floyd in that great athlete though I don't know

1015
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 1: if he's top three all the time. But great athlete.

1016
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:24,919
Speaker 2: All right, now, George Santos. You know who George Santos is, right,

1017
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 2: the elected official, Yeah, the elected official. He is trying

1018
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:32,840
Speaker 2: to do a bill called the Nicki Minaj Act or

1019
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 2: Minaj Act. Now, the Minaj Act comes after a Nicki

1020
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 2: Minaj was talking about the vaccine during the pandemic. Now

1021
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 2: she posted this. She said, my cousin in Trinidad won't

1022
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 2: get the vaccine because his friend got it and became impotent.

1023
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 2: His testicles became swollen. His friend was weeks away from

1024
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 2: getting married. Now the girl called up the wedding. So

1025
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 2: just pray on it and make sure you're comfortable with

1026
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 2: your decision, not bullied.

1027
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: They ever find that swollen that man.

1028
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 2: I don't know, so, Santos said, the purpose of the

1029
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 2: Minaj Act is to us ablish a developmental period of

1030
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 2: new vaccines in order to generate public confidence.

1031
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell you're talking about.

1032
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:08,880
Speaker 2: I just told you he was creating an act called

1033
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 2: the Menajac, And he tells you what the Menajack is

1034
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:13,760
Speaker 2: supposed to do. But it's based off of Nicki Minajs posts.

1035
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 1: Let's go back to the Greatest Athletes's conversations greatest athletes

1036
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: of all times, Michael Jordan, Dion Sanders, Dion definitely, Sanders

1037
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,839
Speaker 1: was all world in football and basketball. I gotta put

1038
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 1: Bo Jackson in there too, you know what I'm saying.

1039
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: Deon Sanders, Bo Jackson, Michael Jordan, Muhammad Ali.

1040
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 2: Some people will go Muhammad Ali. Some people will say

1041
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 2: author Ash for tennis. Some people would say Babe Ru

1042
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:43,919
Speaker 2: from baseball. Some people say Tiger Woods golf. I don't

1043
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 2: consider golfers athletes, golfice athletes. Don't do that.

1044
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: Christianna Ronaldo.

1045
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 2: Some people say Christiano Ronaldo. What's the other one that

1046
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 2: must up MESSI messy? Some people say, I mean for

1047
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: me definitely.

1048
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: When I think about it, Mike, I don't know why

1049
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: Deon Sanders and Bo Jackson of the two that stick

1050
00:43:57,719 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 1: got the most of me, just because they played two

1051
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 1: sports at high, high levels. Deon Sanders might be the

1052
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: greatest athlete of all time. Deon Sanders might be the

1053
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: greatest athlete of all time because I know a lot

1054
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 1: of times, yes, a lot of times, when we have

1055
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: these conversations, Michael Jordan is a great athlete, of course,

1056
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: but we think about the championships and everything else, even

1057
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 1: though Deon won championships two in football. But just we're

1058
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: talking athletic athletic ability. Deon Sanders might be the greatest

1059
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: athlete of all time. He played football in baseball at

1060
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:29,600
Speaker 1: a supremely high level, sometimes at the same time. Yeah, Jack,

1061
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: I couldn't be making this up, But I feel like

1062
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 1: Deon used to play a football game in the day

1063
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: in a baseball game at night. Sometimes I feel like

1064
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 1: I remember this. Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of

1065
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:38,879
Speaker 1: all time.

1066
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 8: Y'all.

1067
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 1: Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of all time. Oh,

1068
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 1: I can't even say all time. I've only been a

1069
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:49,280
Speaker 1: live forty four years, so this is a in my lifetime.

1070
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete I've ever seen. Yes,

1071
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 1: I was born in nineteen hundred and seventy eight. Michael

1072
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,320
Speaker 1: played basketball in baseball. He didn't play my basketball and

1073
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: baseball at the same time, and he didn't play professional baseball.

1074
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 2: He played for the White Sox.

1075
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: Man shut up play for the Barons.

1076
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 2: White Birmingham Baron. He played for the Chicago White Sox.

1077
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: Google it. I got the jersey. Google it, Google it

1078
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 2: and take that should look stupid.

1079
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 1: With that in your mouth like that, you sounds stupid.

1080
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 1: I'm not arguing with you about this. Michael Jordan did

1081
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 1: not played for the Chicago White Sox. He played for

1082
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 1: the Birmingham Barons. Okay, I knew this before I saw

1083
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:26,479
Speaker 1: the last dance. The Barons jerseys looked like Chicago White

1084
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: Sox Jersey Cargo White. Bet you, but bet you? But

1085
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:35,800
Speaker 1: bet you? But no, bet you butt cheeks.

1086
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 2: No, Michael Jordan. Jordan's decision. This is ed. Jordan did

1087
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 2: his time on the ground in a stint with the

1088
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 2: White Sox as a light hitting rookie in Double A ball,

1089
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 2: so he played for the White Sox just white.

1090
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:50,720
Speaker 1: He played for the Birmingham Barons.

1091
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 2: He played Double A White Sox. He played for the

1092
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 2: White Sox. Oh you should have bet you, but it

1093
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 2: was the Double A Birmingham Barons.

1094
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 1: Man. Shut up, many, I'm not talking to y'all no more.

1095
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:05,320
Speaker 2: He played one season with the Double A Bird. He

1096
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 2: played one hundred and twenty seven games. He just hit

1097
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 2: two O two You right, I'm I'm glad I ain't

1098
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: bet my butt, all right? And that is your rumor

1099
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 2: report now, Charlamann, who are giving that down?

1100
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 1: Talk you. You know, that's why therapy works so well,

1101
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: because i't even gotta argue. I knew I was right.

1102
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You almost have my blood

1103
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 1: pressure off for two seconds, but it ain't work. It's

1104
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:28,479
Speaker 1: over here, minded my goddamn business. Okay, For after the hour,

1105
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: you know who Donkey of to Day is going to.

1106
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,320
Speaker 1: The Donkey of the Day is going to an unidentified

1107
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 1: man who really pissed me off when I read this

1108
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: story because he was on the Southwest flight dough Orlando

1109
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: and he was bothering people that he don't need to

1110
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 1: be bothering. Okay, and we'll talk about it for after

1111
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: the hour.

1112
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 2: And Jordan did sign a contract with the White Sox.

1113
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 2: It was just the Double A team.

1114
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 1: I don't remember anything about that. I just remember the

1115
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 1: Mermanham Barons. You should have bet, you should have bet

1116
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 1: some butt. Then I'm good, Okay.

1117
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 2: I'm right, all right, Rumor report donk of to Day

1118
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:56,160
Speaker 2: when we come back.

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00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:57,320
Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast clubgal.

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00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 5: Boying, wake that ass up in the morning.

1121
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:04,240
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, the breakfast club. Bitch.

1122
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 5: You don't here to day with Charlam Hayne a guy.

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00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 16: I don't know why y'all keep it, letting him get

1124
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:08,279
Speaker 16: y'all like.

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00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: This don't here today for Thursday, April twenty or four

1126
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 1: twenty goes to an unnamed Orlando man. Okay, but if

1127
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: y'all know his name, please let me know because I

1128
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 1: can update this story later. Because this story pissed me off.

1129
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 1: Why because I got four daughters, okay, ages fourteen, seven, four,

1130
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 1: and about eighteen months. So even my children. Okay, so

1131
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 1: even though my children are pretty good on flights, all right,

1132
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:33,800
Speaker 1: there's times well, of course they have cried on planes.

1133
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:35,399
Speaker 1: I'm sure your kids have cried on a plane before

1134
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: and were absolutely Why because that's what babies do. They

1135
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: can't communicate, they don't know how to use their words

1136
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 1: because they don't know how to talk yet, so they cry.

1137
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 1: They'll let you know they want something. Was its food? Sleep? Hell,

1138
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 1: maybe on a plane their little ears are popping and

1139
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: they don't know what else to do because they don't

1140
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 1: know what they are experiencing. Okay, but I was reading

1141
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: the New York Post today and I saw the headline

1142
00:47:56,040 --> 00:48:00,760
Speaker 1: man on Orlando flight throws a fit over iron baby

1143
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:03,759
Speaker 1: f that that's literally the headline. It's got the f

1144
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: that in there and everything. See, this man was on

1145
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: a Southwest Airlines flight, aka his first mistake. Oh that's

1146
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: where it was, right there. Southwest Airlines ain't nothing but

1147
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 1: a Greyhound bus in the sky. Matter of fact, I'm

1148
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:15,760
Speaker 1: not even gonna do Greyhound like that. Okay. Southwest Airlines

1149
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,800
Speaker 1: ain't nothing but a Peter Pan Bus Matar bus in

1150
00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 1: the sky. Okay. And ghetto is as ghetto does. And

1151
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 1: if you ain't never been to the ghetto, don't ever

1152
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: come to the ghettocause you wouldn't understand the ghetto. So

1153
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:26,840
Speaker 1: stay the f out of the ghetto. Now replace ghetto

1154
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 1: with Southwest and it's the same damn thing. Okay. And

1155
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,800
Speaker 1: this video that went viral is proof of that, because

1156
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:35,360
Speaker 1: this unidentified man on this Southwest flight the Orlando is

1157
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: upset that a baby is crying on the plane. Listen

1158
00:48:38,320 --> 00:49:00,400
Speaker 1: to this fool.

1159
00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 2: Wasn't on this.

1160
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 5: Stop That's what.

1161
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 10: Can you show work that listens not no, no, no,

1162
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:15,279
Speaker 10: let's be you want to be no, no, no, no,

1163
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 10: no no, I'm telling you we are. We are in

1164
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:25,800
Speaker 10: a tim king with a baby and a goddamn echo chamber,

1165
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,280
Speaker 10: and you want to talk to me about being.

1166
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 16: Kidd Okay, because you're yelling.

1167
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 7: So the baby did that?

1168
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: Mother? First of all, First of all, yelling baby, let's

1169
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:42,759
Speaker 1: not even get to that part here. First of all,

1170
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: I know you ain't complaining about not being served nothing

1171
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:49,320
Speaker 1: on the Southwest flight. I know you're not complaining about

1172
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 1: not being served nothing on the Southwest flight. Second of all,

1173
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 1: you can't be upset that the baby is throwing a

1174
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:56,720
Speaker 1: fit and then throw a fit like a baby. Okay,

1175
00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 1: the actual baby is just doing what actual babies. That

1176
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:02,759
Speaker 1: baby had a reason to be crying and throwing a fit.

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00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 1: The reason is because it's a baby. But what's your problem, sir?

1178
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 1: The flight attendant told you you are a man, and

1179
00:50:09,120 --> 00:50:11,280
Speaker 1: you are indeed a man, unless, of course, you identify

1180
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Speaker 1: as a baby, which could possibly be the case because

1181
00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 1: it is twenty twenty three. But for you to be

1182
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:17,480
Speaker 1: upset that a baby is crying on a plane, I'm

1183
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:20,399
Speaker 1: really starting to wonder what's up with your empathy. Okay, yes,

1184
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,959
Speaker 1: a baby is crying on a plane. That's normal. Okay,

1185
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 1: but mind your business. A baby just can't stop crying

1186
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: on demand, and a parent can't make a baby stop

1187
00:50:28,280 --> 00:50:30,319
Speaker 1: crying on demand. Okay, you got to figure out what's

1188
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 1: wrong with the baby, and then you handle it. That's

1189
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,240
Speaker 1: the way it works. And then you got the nerve

1190
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Speaker 1: to say that that baby pay extra to cry, probably

1191
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 1: because it's Southwest, all right. But that is also why

1192
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: you really one hundred percent grade a sucker in my book,

1193
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: because you would not try any other baby like that, Okay,

1194
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 1: not little baby, not side a baby, especially not dub baby.

1195
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: The baby would smack fire out you and birdman baby,

1196
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: the number one's donner. You would put all respect on

1197
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 1: his names, So stop playing. Main reason I don't like

1198
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,800
Speaker 1: this story, the main reason you get in the biggest

1199
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: he hall, is because it feels like it's a man

1200
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: picking on a woman flying by herself, because if that

1201
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 1: woman was with her husband, or it was a husband

1202
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 1: traveling along with one of his babies, which I've done,

1203
00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: you wouldn't play with that man like that. And you

1204
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 1: damn show wouldn't play with that woman if she was

1205
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 1: with her man. This is how a convo would have

1206
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 1: went on Southwest, if she was with her baby father.

1207
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 10: In a ten king a baby and a goddamn echo chamber.

1208
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 10: And you want to talk to me about being y'all

1209
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 10: gonna die in the hood you lived your whole life broke.

1210
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:45,959
Speaker 1: You ain't suck y'all.

1211
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 2: They gonna never make it out the hood.

1212
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 5: That's right.

1213
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 2: He's gonna die broke.

1214
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 1: That's right. That's right, Big soldier boy s M D energy,

1215
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: suck my d from the.

1216
00:51:54,160 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 5: Back like a path of fire.

1217
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 1: Who the baby?

1218
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 3: Now?

1219
00:51:57,120 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: Okay, I have you crying uncontrollably. You'll be bad. Give

1220
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,320
Speaker 1: me to burp you all right, do a whole rector

1221
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 1: temple your check on you tomorrow of the story is

1222
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: leave mothers and their babies alone. Okay, trust me. The

1223
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: only thing you should be doing when you see mothers

1224
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:14,240
Speaker 1: attempting to mother in public is mind your business. Please

1225
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 1: give this unidentified man that was on this Southwest Airlines

1226
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 1: flight door Orlando really being a baby the biggest he

1227
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:29,440
Speaker 1: hull that director temperature check got you excited?

1228
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 2: I mean, don't excite somebody with a good time you. No, No,

1229
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 2: he might like it, but anyway, he won't play game.

1230
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: No, I don't want to play.

1231
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 2: He won't play. Why you don't play games?

1232
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 1: Because the credits is rolling on BT right now, The

1233
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:40,799
Speaker 1: credits rolling on BT, the credits rolling right now.

1234
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:41,480
Speaker 2: You don't play game.

1235
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: I don' won't play a game.

1236
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 2: What do you think is?

1237
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: What do I think he is?

1238
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 11: Well?

1239
00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 1: I saw the video, so I know what. He is.

1240
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 1: A nigga baby, you know what?

1241
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:53,760
Speaker 5: Wake that ass up in the morning.

1242
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club Morning.

1243
00:52:56,640 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 2: Everybody is Steve j Envy Charlamagne the guy. We are

1244
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 2: Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building.

1245
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:04,959
Speaker 2: That's right and all thought. He has a new book

1246
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:08,320
Speaker 2: out right now, Monsters in Love Resma Mennequin welcome.

1247
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: Brother.

1248
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 16: Hey man, it's good anytime I get a chance to

1249
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 16: spend some time, which all is always good for me.

1250
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 2: Man, No, thank you. I missed you last time I

1251
00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:16,919
Speaker 2: was traveling. But you're hear now. How are you doing?

1252
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 2: How are you feeling?

1253
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 1: Brother?

1254
00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:19,920
Speaker 16: I'm doing good, Brother, I'm doing really well. You know.

1255
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 16: The book's doing well. All of my books are doing

1256
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 16: really well. I am. My family's good, My wife's good,

1257
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,120
Speaker 16: my kids are good. You know, I can't complain.

1258
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,000
Speaker 1: Man, Redmond is not just an author to me. He's

1259
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 1: a teacher and a healer. Absolutely, you know, tell me

1260
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 1: talk to people about what Manster's in Love is about.

1261
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 16: So Monster's in Love, Man, Monsters So a lot of

1262
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 16: people don't know. But I started a lot of my

1263
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 16: work started as a therapist. So I've been doing therapy

1264
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 16: for thirty two years and primarily a lot of my

1265
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:53,080
Speaker 16: work was in couples, working with couples, and a lot

1266
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 16: of the stuff that I saw out there brother that

1267
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:58,240
Speaker 16: was that was especially as it relates to black people

1268
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:03,800
Speaker 16: and bodies of culture. It was just basically giving people tips,

1269
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 16: you know, and a lot of times, man, when you

1270
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 16: in long term relationships, have been in a long term

1271
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,440
Speaker 16: relationship is different than being in a dating relationship, right,

1272
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 16: And a lot of the tips are about how you

1273
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,399
Speaker 16: rekindle things as opposed to how do you grow up?

1274
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 16: And so I wrote a book a number of years

1275
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 16: ago called Rock the Boat. Rock the Boat was really about,

1276
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:31,279
Speaker 16: you know, some of the same stuff that Monsters is.

1277
00:54:31,360 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 16: But what happened was is that once Rocked the Boat

1278
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 16: came out and it didn't really sell that well. But

1279
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 16: what ended up happening was is that over the course

1280
00:54:41,719 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 16: of the last ten twelve years, I've grown as a person.

1281
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 16: I've grown as a therapist, I see things differently. I've

1282
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 16: grown as a husband, I've grown as a father, and

1283
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:52,040
Speaker 16: I've grown as a black man who's trying to do

1284
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 16: liberatory work. And so when I got the rights back

1285
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 16: to my book. I was like, let me put the

1286
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:59,879
Speaker 16: stuff in that I've learned over the last five years.

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00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:01,400
Speaker 16: And that's what monstersm are.

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00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 1: Oh wow, you say in the book, you say, no

1289
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 1: matter what you do or who your lover is, eventually

1290
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:08,640
Speaker 1: your partnership begins to hurt.

1291
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 16: Yes, right, why is that?

1292
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 1: And how do we deal with that?

1293
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:15,239
Speaker 16: So so you know, we've been conditioned to believe that

1294
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 16: all we gotta do is try and rekindle or try

1295
00:55:20,120 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 16: and you know, let's start having date night and let's

1296
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 16: start doing all that different type of stuff. And what

1297
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 16: you find is that those that that that purpose of

1298
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 16: relationships at the beginning is to draw you two together.

1299
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:34,800
Speaker 16: That's the purpose. That's the only purpose. And you start

1300
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,279
Speaker 16: and the way that you draw each other together is

1301
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 16: that you start you usually only tell each other about

1302
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:44,719
Speaker 16: the similarities or you like underwrought or basket weaving, or

1303
00:55:44,760 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 16: you like this and you I like that too, right,

1304
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 16: But what happens after about a year or two years,

1305
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 16: what you start to find is that you start to

1306
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:54,399
Speaker 16: show the differences. And that's when we start to think

1307
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 16: something's going wrong. Nothing's going wrong, it's just the machinery

1308
00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 16: of relationships doing what it is, and it's designed to

1309
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 16: squeeze you, so you get pasture on adult developmental immature issues. Right.

1310
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:09,920
Speaker 16: But it don't feel good, and it takes a long

1311
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 16: time before people are willing to actually say, you know,

1312
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 16: there's pieces there. How do I be the person that

1313
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 16: I want to be at the same time that I'm

1314
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 16: connected to somebody that I love more than anything else.

1315
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 16: It's easy to do it by yourself, right. It's a

1316
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:29,799
Speaker 16: whole lot harder when you're in with somebody and over

1317
00:56:29,840 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 16: the course of time you start to notice, Hey, I

1318
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:36,399
Speaker 16: love this person, but I also hate them. There's some

1319
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:37,359
Speaker 16: hate between us.

1320
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 6: You know.

1321
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, really it's healthy.

1322
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 1: Brother.

1323
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 16: Let me say this. Y'all been married a while, right,

1324
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 16: two years, twenty two years. I've been married, been with my.

1325
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 1: Wife for twenty five, but we've been married four year.

1326
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 16: Yep, I've been I've been with my wife for thirty years. Right.

1327
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 16: One of the things that I learned through the course

1328
00:56:57,680 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 16: of that is that over time, so relationships end up

1329
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 16: at the beginning, or relationships at the beginning end up

1330
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:12,279
Speaker 16: being this thing where you think that the design is

1331
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 16: for the person to make you happy, right, But the

1332
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 16: design of It is designed to make you grow up.

1333
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 16: So when you say to a person, I choose you,

1334
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 16: it's just me and you. There's nobody else. At that moment,

1335
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 16: the relationship becomes more finite. More of what I do

1336
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 16: impacts you, more of what you do to me impacts me.

1337
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 16: When you get to finite relationships, when a when a

1338
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 16: person doesn't want to do what you think they should do,

1339
00:57:43,240 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 16: you are tested. Right, that's where the hatred comes in

1340
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 16: at because what ends up happening is you want to

1341
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:52,200
Speaker 16: find a way around it. Your partner wants to find

1342
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 16: a way around that pressure, that critical mass. And what

1343
00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:58,680
Speaker 16: happens is is that over time you either learn how

1344
00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 16: to grow up through that or you blow it through

1345
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 16: your partner. Right. That makes you start to make choices

1346
00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 16: about how you want to be and who you want

1347
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 16: to be with. That only happens in the long term relationship.

1348
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 16: That doesn't happen in the infant relationship when you just

1349
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 16: dat know, you out here screwing around and you're doing

1350
00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 16: what The reason why people screw around is that they

1351
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:19,240
Speaker 16: what they do is that they bring in the third

1352
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 16: person to handle the heat that two people should be handled.

1353
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 1: Explain that brick that down.

1354
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 16: That's not like, yeah, no, but that's what that's what

1355
00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 16: he's saying, but that is that's exactly what I'm saying.

1356
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 16: So if something is happening between it, and that's why

1357
00:58:31,680 --> 00:58:34,240
Speaker 16: I wrote the book, I wrote the book. I wrote

1358
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 16: this book to address not just heterosexual relationships. But what

1359
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,080
Speaker 16: I did was was look at all of the people

1360
00:58:41,120 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 16: that came into my office, both both trans relationships, gay relationships,

1361
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:48,280
Speaker 16: heterosexual relationship and I said, you know what, there's this

1362
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 16: patterning regardless, right. If it's not where things go, is

1363
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:56,440
Speaker 16: it is that when when you get into a relationship

1364
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:59,480
Speaker 16: with another person and you say I choose you, that

1365
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:03,360
Speaker 16: pressure increases, right because because it matters what they think

1366
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:05,560
Speaker 16: about you, it matters what you think about them, right,

1367
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 16: So what ends up happening is is that when we

1368
00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 16: start to look for ways around it to take the

1369
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:14,919
Speaker 16: heat out, what you're really doing is taking the heat

1370
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 16: that can actually transform the relationship. So if I can't

1371
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:20,480
Speaker 16: handle stuff that's happening between me and you, I bring

1372
00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 16: a third person in. Now that heat is being carried

1373
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 16: by three people, but it should only be carried by two, right, right,

1374
00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 16: And what we try and do is find a way

1375
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:31,200
Speaker 16: around stuff as opposed to going through it.

1376
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 5: And you know that.

1377
00:59:33,320 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 16: I mean y'all been in relationships long enough, you know

1378
00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 16: there are times where you were the easy way out.

1379
00:59:38,800 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 16: We're trying to get around. It looks good, but you

1380
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 16: find that when you do it that it undercuts your development. Right,

1381
00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 16: it undercuts like like the pressure, the pressure. I'm not

1382
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 16: saying you always should have pressure, but I'm saying the

1383
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 16: pressure actually creates opportunities for you to say who do

1384
00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 16: I want to be? And not only who do I

1385
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:03,040
Speaker 16: want to be, but who do I want to be

1386
01:00:03,080 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 16: with you? Right?

1387
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:07,040
Speaker 2: So when Layman's turns, you're basically saying, you know, in

1388
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:11,680
Speaker 2: some relationships, let's say they're having problems sexually inship, and

1389
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 2: instead of keeping the heat in the relationship, a woman

1390
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:17,600
Speaker 2: might step out with somebody else that solves that problem

1391
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 2: instead of dealing with it at home.

1392
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 16: I solves the problem, so takes the heat out of it, right,

1393
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:28,360
Speaker 16: Because if I if so, so, a lot of times

1394
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:32,880
Speaker 16: people steal each other's choices, right. So it's one thing

1395
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 16: if we're in a relationship and I come to you

1396
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 16: and I say, look, I want to deal with somebody else, Right,

1397
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:46,200
Speaker 16: I'm giving you the choice to you you wanted to

1398
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 16: have a monogamous relationship, I'm giving you the choice to

1399
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 16: decide whether or not you want to continue to be

1400
01:00:52,400 --> 01:00:54,560
Speaker 16: in a monogamous relationship. I've made a decision. I no

1401
01:00:54,600 --> 01:00:57,560
Speaker 16: longer want to be in a monogamous relationship, right, So

1402
01:00:58,360 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 16: what I do what we do. A lot of times

1403
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,240
Speaker 16: we don't give our partners that choice. We steal it

1404
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 16: from them. We say, you don't get a choice to

1405
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 16: be in a monogamous relationship anymore. You have to be

1406
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 16: in a choice. You have to be in in a

1407
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 16: poly relationship.

1408
01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:10,280
Speaker 2: Right.

1409
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:13,040
Speaker 16: And so the moment that I do that, I take

1410
01:01:13,080 --> 01:01:17,160
Speaker 16: the heat out, right, and if I stay with that person,

1411
01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 16: that here's the here's the here's the catch. That heat

1412
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:23,560
Speaker 16: always comes back because it's not the heat around getting

1413
01:01:23,560 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 16: people to do what I want to do. It's the heat,

1414
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:29,640
Speaker 16: it's the call to grow up as a person being

1415
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 16: connected to another person, not being disconnected, but being connected

1416
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:35,000
Speaker 16: to another person.

1417
01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 2: You mentioned something earlier. I want to go back to

1418
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:39,920
Speaker 2: when you. You said when you when you talk to couples,

1419
01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 2: and a lot of times that the answer for couples is, well,

1420
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:45,080
Speaker 2: let's have a date night. The date night will fix that,

1421
01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:46,960
Speaker 2: and you said, that's not the answer. So that's the

1422
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 2: first thing couples usually say, like, those are the tips.

1423
01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:51,960
Speaker 2: We have kids, we work too much spending time with

1424
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:53,760
Speaker 2: each other, Let's do a date night. But just saying

1425
01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 2: that might not be the answer.

1426
01:01:55,280 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 16: So so so so, so think about it like this.

1427
01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 16: When we were first dating, we had infinite choices. There

1428
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:09,320
Speaker 16: are things that we could do. At some point, I

1429
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 16: could make a decision I don't want to be I

1430
01:02:11,880 --> 01:02:14,640
Speaker 16: don't want to do this normal go date somebody down

1431
01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 16: the street. Right, But when you make a commitment like this,

1432
01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 16: have y'all noticed this? And we and we've heard this before.

1433
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:25,640
Speaker 16: When we were first dating, everything was cool, and the

1434
01:02:25,720 --> 01:02:29,240
Speaker 16: moment we moved in together, the moment we started, the

1435
01:02:29,280 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 16: moment we said I do stuff change, sex change, the

1436
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 16: perceived respect change, like all of this stuff change. And

1437
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:41,080
Speaker 16: what I tell people is that that is an important

1438
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:45,560
Speaker 16: element in long term relationship. Isn't that It's absolutely normal.

1439
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 16: It is absolutely normal part of relationship. But we've been

1440
01:02:48,680 --> 01:02:51,520
Speaker 16: conditioned to believe that when that happens, something's going wrong.

1441
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:52,400
Speaker 1: Right.

1442
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:55,280
Speaker 16: But when you when you say to another person, I

1443
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:57,800
Speaker 16: choose you, you get right up against your own development.

1444
01:02:57,840 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 16: Because if you do something like it's like like this.

1445
01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 16: This is why people can go out to a club

1446
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:05,439
Speaker 16: and tell that tell a person in the club all

1447
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 16: their secrets, but the person that's laying on the pillow

1448
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 16: next to them, they won't say nothing about why because

1449
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:13,600
Speaker 16: if I say that to you, if I say something

1450
01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:16,760
Speaker 16: to you something about either sex or something about the

1451
01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:18,440
Speaker 16: way I want to have a baby, and I know

1452
01:03:18,520 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 16: you don't want to have a baby. I want these

1453
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 16: particular things, and I say it to you and you

1454
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 16: tear your face up, right, then if I don't have

1455
01:03:26,480 --> 01:03:30,280
Speaker 16: a clear sense of myself in that moment, I'm eventually

1456
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 16: I'm gonna stop saying that to you because what you

1457
01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:34,880
Speaker 16: reflect back to me I can't tolerate.

1458
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 2: Correct.

1459
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: I wonder you know.

1460
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:37,920
Speaker 16: That makes it?

1461
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 2: That? That makes it?

1462
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 1: I wonder when you talk about that, that that rough patch.

1463
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 1: How do you know the difference sometimes because like some

1464
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:47,560
Speaker 1: people will get divorced and they'll say irreconcilable difference.

1465
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 16: That sounds that's right, so so so the way that

1466
01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:55,439
Speaker 16: you sometimes you could you only know the differences as

1467
01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 16: you go through it. Right, This is what I say

1468
01:03:57,720 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 16: that that relationships are people growing machine. Right, I'm not

1469
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:03,720
Speaker 16: the same dude I was when I met my wife. Right,

1470
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:07,160
Speaker 16: Hopefully I'm I'm a little bit more and hopefully I

1471
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:11,280
Speaker 16: can tolerate things a little bit differently. Hopefully because of

1472
01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 16: the arguments, because of the fight, because of some of

1473
01:04:13,640 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 16: the some of the what I call the kind of

1474
01:04:16,080 --> 01:04:20,760
Speaker 16: critical mass that comes into the relationship, Hopefully I've been

1475
01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 16: able to say that when we go through it, that

1476
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 16: there's a purpose to it, right, And it takes a

1477
01:04:26,680 --> 01:04:29,880
Speaker 16: minute to to find, Like when we're going through stuff

1478
01:04:30,120 --> 01:04:33,160
Speaker 16: when my wife, when when when something is important to

1479
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 16: my wife or important to my partner and we're grinding

1480
01:04:37,400 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 16: on each other like like like there are things in

1481
01:04:41,440 --> 01:04:44,479
Speaker 16: a relationship that you're not going to get through over

1482
01:04:45,640 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 16: just because you agree to disagree. You're gonna have to

1483
01:04:48,840 --> 01:04:51,520
Speaker 16: get through it because you're grinding on each other, Right,

1484
01:04:51,800 --> 01:04:54,600
Speaker 16: You're gonna have to get through it because you're because

1485
01:04:54,640 --> 01:04:57,200
Speaker 16: this is not a choice. This is not about making

1486
01:04:57,680 --> 01:05:00,200
Speaker 16: you know, quote unquote choices. This is really a while.

1487
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 16: This is about us growing up in a way that says,

1488
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 16: I actually now can handle what it is that you're

1489
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:12,400
Speaker 16: bringing the table. Before when you brought it to the table,

1490
01:05:12,600 --> 01:05:14,440
Speaker 16: I would need you to change in order for me

1491
01:05:14,480 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 16: to be all right, I need for you to agree

1492
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:18,640
Speaker 16: in order for me to be all right. Well, long

1493
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:21,760
Speaker 16: term relationships, you don't get that. You don't get that bargain.

1494
01:05:21,880 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 16: People actually have to grow up and transform in order

1495
01:05:25,200 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 16: and be the person that they want to be to

1496
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:31,360
Speaker 16: tolerate the conundrums that are happening right now. Right it's

1497
01:05:31,400 --> 01:05:34,600
Speaker 16: not about just behavior change. And that's one of the

1498
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 16: things when I would be working with couples. Couples come

1499
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:41,520
Speaker 16: in thinking that your job is to protect or your

1500
01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:44,960
Speaker 16: job is to fix something that's working in a relationships,

1501
01:05:45,000 --> 01:05:47,640
Speaker 16: So to give you this frame and your job as

1502
01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 16: a therapist. And what I realized over time is that

1503
01:05:49,640 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 16: my job as a therapist is not to just take

1504
01:05:52,320 --> 01:05:56,200
Speaker 16: their frame the as what the problem is that there

1505
01:05:56,320 --> 01:06:00,360
Speaker 16: is historical stuff that's happening. There's intergenerational stuff that's happen happening.

1506
01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:03,720
Speaker 16: There's persistent instant especially if we're in black skin, brown skin,

1507
01:06:03,840 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 16: indigenous skin, there's persistent institutional weather ring that happens to

1508
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:11,400
Speaker 16: us and in our bodies. And then there's our own

1509
01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 16: personal pieces that all show up at the same time.

1510
01:06:14,640 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 16: You're not gonna weather, You're not going to deal with

1511
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:19,840
Speaker 16: that by just agreeing to disagree about something.

1512
01:06:19,880 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 2: But let me ask you a question. You know, you

1513
01:06:21,760 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 2: being a therapist and talking to couples and married couples,

1514
01:06:25,600 --> 01:06:30,400
Speaker 2: do you feel like couples give up too fast because

1515
01:06:30,440 --> 01:06:32,160
Speaker 2: of the things that you just said that you know,

1516
01:06:32,240 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 2: people don't want to grind. Yeah, let's agree to disagree.

1517
01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 16: They need to try and find ways around at least the.

1518
01:06:38,120 --> 01:06:39,120
Speaker 2: Fire somewhere around.

1519
01:06:39,120 --> 01:06:42,479
Speaker 16: So do you feel that Here's what I would say,

1520
01:06:42,840 --> 01:06:45,440
Speaker 16: I would I So there are times when I've been

1521
01:06:45,480 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 16: in a in a session with a couple and I go,

1522
01:06:51,440 --> 01:06:54,320
Speaker 16: they may need to get away from each other right

1523
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:59,320
Speaker 16: then that I don't recommend it. I don't say that.

1524
01:06:59,360 --> 01:07:00,080
Speaker 1: I don't think you're.

1525
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:06,600
Speaker 16: You need to go over there. No, no, no, I

1526
01:07:06,600 --> 01:07:09,200
Speaker 16: don't recommend it. But but but but as a therapist,

1527
01:07:09,280 --> 01:07:12,960
Speaker 16: I'm working with the energy that's in the room, right,

1528
01:07:13,040 --> 01:07:15,320
Speaker 16: I'm working with what's showing up in the room. I'm

1529
01:07:15,320 --> 01:07:18,080
Speaker 16: not I don't have these like this kind of table

1530
01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:20,080
Speaker 16: that's okay, this this, this isn't happen. You don't need

1531
01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:22,600
Speaker 16: to be together, you don't need together. What happens is

1532
01:07:22,600 --> 01:07:26,720
Speaker 16: is that people end up making that decision because they

1533
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 16: end up coming up against things that say, if I

1534
01:07:30,680 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 16: stay with this person and I allow them to keep

1535
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:35,800
Speaker 16: eating my heart the way that they're eating my heart,

1536
01:07:36,200 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 16: I'm probably not going to be the person I want

1537
01:07:38,480 --> 01:07:41,040
Speaker 16: to be on the other side of this. Wow and

1538
01:07:41,080 --> 01:07:44,840
Speaker 16: so and so in those situations people stop being together

1539
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:47,280
Speaker 16: and so so. To answer the question around whether or

1540
01:07:47,320 --> 01:07:50,560
Speaker 16: not they give up too soon, I'm not. I don't

1541
01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:53,960
Speaker 16: think that this is not about resma saying y'all need

1542
01:07:54,000 --> 01:07:57,320
Speaker 16: to stay together no matter what. This is about being

1543
01:07:57,600 --> 01:08:01,920
Speaker 16: being able to key into things that say, when we

1544
01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:06,520
Speaker 16: get to this place, am I willing or not willing

1545
01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:10,520
Speaker 16: to give up the most precious parts of me? And

1546
01:08:10,520 --> 01:08:13,480
Speaker 16: and and there. You know, there comes a time in

1547
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:16,120
Speaker 16: a relationship when you're in there, when I'm in there

1548
01:08:16,120 --> 01:08:20,280
Speaker 16: with a couple, and I end up seeing a pattern

1549
01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:25,519
Speaker 16: play out, and the one person in the in the couple,

1550
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:29,120
Speaker 16: because they're so busy fighting, does don't see that the

1551
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:31,599
Speaker 16: other person just grew up in that second.

1552
01:08:32,040 --> 01:08:33,920
Speaker 1: You can grow up in a second. Oh yeah, okay,

1553
01:08:33,920 --> 01:08:34,320
Speaker 1: oh yeah.

1554
01:08:34,479 --> 01:08:37,639
Speaker 16: There are there are things. There are things that happen

1555
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 16: in a in a in a in an office where

1556
01:08:40,439 --> 01:08:45,000
Speaker 16: the I'll give you an example about about two years ago,

1557
01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:48,040
Speaker 16: I was working with this with this couple and they

1558
01:08:48,120 --> 01:08:51,360
Speaker 16: kept arguing about and the thing kept coming up around

1559
01:08:51,760 --> 01:08:55,439
Speaker 16: wanting to have a child, right. He wanted to have

1560
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:58,920
Speaker 16: a child. She didn't, right, And she kept saying soon

1561
01:08:58,920 --> 01:09:01,320
Speaker 16: as my career we can have as soon as we

1562
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:03,720
Speaker 16: get a house, we can soon as it. And he

1563
01:09:04,040 --> 01:09:07,920
Speaker 16: was like, okay, this is going this is five years now,

1564
01:09:08,040 --> 01:09:10,840
Speaker 16: and every time I bring it up, you keep acting

1565
01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 16: like you don't and you're saying you want to have it,

1566
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:14,760
Speaker 16: but you keep acting like you don't want to have it,

1567
01:09:15,000 --> 01:09:17,240
Speaker 16: and I keep coming to you trying to get you

1568
01:09:17,360 --> 01:09:20,800
Speaker 16: right now. In the typical, in a typical situation, the

1569
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:23,759
Speaker 16: therapist would be saying, well, you know what do you want,

1570
01:09:23,800 --> 01:09:26,679
Speaker 16: and let's just try and figure this out, and let's

1571
01:09:26,680 --> 01:09:29,360
Speaker 16: write down or let's use ice statements and write they'll

1572
01:09:29,360 --> 01:09:31,400
Speaker 16: do that stuff. I didn't do that because I knew

1573
01:09:31,400 --> 01:09:34,280
Speaker 16: that the heat was important. This was this, This was

1574
01:09:34,320 --> 01:09:37,320
Speaker 16: an issue that they can't agree to disagree about. This

1575
01:09:37,400 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 16: was an issue that was you're gonna have to grow

1576
01:09:39,680 --> 01:09:40,160
Speaker 16: up through this.

1577
01:09:40,160 --> 01:09:41,080
Speaker 2: This is gonna be a deal breaker.

1578
01:09:41,120 --> 01:09:42,760
Speaker 16: This was gonna be a deal but but not a

1579
01:09:42,800 --> 01:09:45,240
Speaker 16: deal breaker in that a deal breaker, will you get

1580
01:09:45,280 --> 01:09:47,720
Speaker 16: away from each other? A deal breaker was in that

1581
01:09:47,840 --> 01:09:50,760
Speaker 16: this is important, correct do you understand what I mean?

1582
01:09:51,080 --> 01:09:52,840
Speaker 16: And so what ended up happening was there was a

1583
01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:57,639
Speaker 16: moment in time where she said, he said. He said,

1584
01:09:57,800 --> 01:10:00,719
Speaker 16: She said, well, you can't make me have a baby,

1585
01:10:01,680 --> 01:10:04,200
Speaker 16: and he did this thing and it was very subtle.

1586
01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:07,720
Speaker 16: He did this thing. She said, you can't make me

1587
01:10:07,760 --> 01:10:17,680
Speaker 16: have a baby. He said, you know you're right, And

1588
01:10:17,720 --> 01:10:20,120
Speaker 16: I'm going to stop making trying to make you have

1589
01:10:20,200 --> 01:10:23,800
Speaker 16: a baby. I'm going to stop trying to make you

1590
01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:26,599
Speaker 16: have a baby with me and stop trying to make

1591
01:10:26,680 --> 01:10:28,760
Speaker 16: you be with me. Here's what I'm going to do.

1592
01:10:29,120 --> 01:10:31,200
Speaker 16: I'm going to start doing the thing. I'm going to

1593
01:10:31,280 --> 01:10:35,000
Speaker 16: start acting in accordance with what I say I want.

1594
01:10:35,360 --> 01:10:38,040
Speaker 16: I'm the one that's responsible for the birth control in

1595
01:10:38,080 --> 01:10:40,680
Speaker 16: this relationship. I'm the one that always has to put

1596
01:10:40,680 --> 01:10:42,479
Speaker 16: the condoms on. I'm the one that always has to

1597
01:10:42,520 --> 01:10:45,880
Speaker 16: do these particular paces. I'm no longer responsible for that.

1598
01:10:46,320 --> 01:10:47,840
Speaker 16: So if we're going to start to have a child,

1599
01:10:47,880 --> 01:10:49,880
Speaker 16: I'm going to act in accordance. I want to have

1600
01:10:49,920 --> 01:10:52,080
Speaker 16: a child, I'm going to start acting like it. You

1601
01:10:52,120 --> 01:10:54,479
Speaker 16: don't want to have a child, you've been acting like

1602
01:10:54,520 --> 01:10:57,919
Speaker 16: you haven't wanted to have a child. You haven't. You haven't.

1603
01:10:58,800 --> 01:11:00,880
Speaker 16: You haven't come to me about having a child. You

1604
01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:03,680
Speaker 16: haven't worked it. You know, we haven't talked about how

1605
01:11:03,720 --> 01:11:06,080
Speaker 16: we get the fertile and all that. We haven't talked.

1606
01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,960
Speaker 16: So you're acting in accordance with what you want. I,

1607
01:11:09,040 --> 01:11:11,240
Speaker 16: on the other hand, have not been acting in accordance

1608
01:11:11,240 --> 01:11:13,479
Speaker 16: with this. This happened in a second. This is what

1609
01:11:13,520 --> 01:11:15,840
Speaker 16: you did. I haven't been acting in the chords. I'm

1610
01:11:15,880 --> 01:11:17,840
Speaker 16: acting in the course. She goes, what would would You're

1611
01:11:17,840 --> 01:11:19,880
Speaker 16: gonna make me have a baby. He goes, no, I'm

1612
01:11:19,920 --> 01:11:22,800
Speaker 16: gonna make me have a baby. You get to make

1613
01:11:22,840 --> 01:11:26,680
Speaker 16: whatever choice you need to make. I'm no longer responsible

1614
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:30,240
Speaker 16: for the birth control. Now, that's one thing that sounds

1615
01:11:30,280 --> 01:11:33,160
Speaker 16: like an ultimatum. That is not an ultimatum. That's the ault.

1616
01:11:33,320 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 16: If it is a ultimatum, it's an ultimatum to him. Right. So,

1617
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:40,760
Speaker 16: so long story short, they start going through it, right,

1618
01:11:42,240 --> 01:11:45,639
Speaker 16: they get it engaged in, you know, sex and all

1619
01:11:45,640 --> 01:11:48,320
Speaker 16: that different type of stuff, and he says, and she

1620
01:11:48,400 --> 01:11:50,519
Speaker 16: looks at him. She goes, you got the condom. He goes,

1621
01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:53,400
Speaker 16: I'm not putting a condom on, right, and she goes,

1622
01:11:53,439 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 16: get up, We're not we're not going to have sex.

1623
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:57,320
Speaker 16: We're not gonna do these pieces right. And he says, okay,

1624
01:11:57,320 --> 01:11:59,920
Speaker 16: but I'm not gonna do this forever, right, and they

1625
01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:04,000
Speaker 16: keep nothing's going wrong When that's happening, you're.

1626
01:12:03,920 --> 01:12:06,759
Speaker 1: Making sure you're giving people a chance to make choice.

1627
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:09,559
Speaker 16: That's right, that's right, and your and in the part

1628
01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:13,280
Speaker 16: and the process, she gets to say I really don't

1629
01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:15,240
Speaker 16: want to have a baby or I don't want to

1630
01:12:15,280 --> 01:12:18,400
Speaker 16: have a baby with you, and those hard arguments start

1631
01:12:18,479 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 16: to have start to write nothing's going wrong in that moment.

1632
01:12:23,960 --> 01:12:29,400
Speaker 16: People are growing up as adults in real time, and

1633
01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:32,400
Speaker 16: that that particular couple, what ended up happening is is

1634
01:12:32,439 --> 01:12:35,479
Speaker 16: that they've ground on that for like a year, going

1635
01:12:35,560 --> 01:12:38,479
Speaker 16: back and forth like that, looking for ways out, looking

1636
01:12:38,479 --> 01:12:40,120
Speaker 16: for you know, I don't bl blah blah, you can't

1637
01:12:40,120 --> 01:12:42,640
Speaker 16: make And then at one point he got to a

1638
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:45,880
Speaker 16: place to where he said, look, I love you more

1639
01:12:45,920 --> 01:12:48,640
Speaker 16: than anything on this planet, and I want to have

1640
01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:52,920
Speaker 16: a baby. I understand you're you're saying you don't want

1641
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:54,559
Speaker 16: to have a baby, and I can't make you have

1642
01:12:54,600 --> 01:12:56,640
Speaker 16: a baby. I want to have a baby. And I'm

1643
01:12:56,680 --> 01:12:58,280
Speaker 16: going to act like I want to have a baby,

1644
01:12:58,360 --> 01:13:00,639
Speaker 16: and I'm telling you that. And they got and they

1645
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:03,000
Speaker 16: got through it. They ended up having a child, right,

1646
01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:06,280
Speaker 16: but through the grind, not because they found a way

1647
01:13:06,320 --> 01:13:09,880
Speaker 16: around the grind. Or you can't agree to disagree about

1648
01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:12,960
Speaker 16: the things that are central. Can't agree to disagree about children,

1649
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:16,240
Speaker 16: can't agree to disagree about money. You can disagree to

1650
01:13:16,280 --> 01:13:19,360
Speaker 16: disagree about in laws. Right, you can't agree to disagree

1651
01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:21,800
Speaker 16: about those things. You're going to have to go through

1652
01:13:21,880 --> 01:13:22,920
Speaker 16: those things and grow up.

1653
01:13:22,960 --> 01:13:24,920
Speaker 2: We look, I ask a question, you know, and a

1654
01:13:24,960 --> 01:13:27,280
Speaker 2: lot of time in relationships, you know, you always hear

1655
01:13:27,840 --> 01:13:29,919
Speaker 2: a lot of older people right called them the ogs

1656
01:13:29,960 --> 01:13:33,639
Speaker 2: to say, sometimes losing an argument is winning a battle.

1657
01:13:33,760 --> 01:13:36,880
Speaker 2: Sometimes apologizing when you're when you're not wrong is winning

1658
01:13:36,920 --> 01:13:41,960
Speaker 2: the battle. Sometimes just pretty much saying that person is right,

1659
01:13:42,000 --> 01:13:44,600
Speaker 2: women or men is not necessarily losing the battle is

1660
01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:47,719
Speaker 2: not it's not losing the wars, just winning that battle whatever.

1661
01:13:47,760 --> 01:13:49,719
Speaker 2: Maybe what are your thoughts to that When people don't

1662
01:13:49,720 --> 01:13:53,120
Speaker 2: necessarily be certain one hundred percent honest, but they say

1663
01:13:53,160 --> 01:13:55,360
Speaker 2: certain things just to stop the argument or so that

1664
01:13:55,400 --> 01:13:56,080
Speaker 2: person win it all.

1665
01:13:56,200 --> 01:13:58,000
Speaker 16: This is the vibe piece can let me ask you,

1666
01:13:58,120 --> 01:14:03,200
Speaker 16: Let me ask you a question, Yes, sir, can you

1667
01:14:03,360 --> 01:14:09,080
Speaker 16: tell when you and your wife are dealing with something

1668
01:14:09,080 --> 01:14:16,080
Speaker 16: that's important and vibratorily, she just placates you. She just

1669
01:14:16,080 --> 01:14:19,720
Speaker 16: blow it. She's like she gives in. But the sweetness

1670
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:22,120
Speaker 16: that you really want it has been taken away, of.

1671
01:14:22,040 --> 01:14:22,600
Speaker 2: Course, you know.

1672
01:14:22,920 --> 01:14:25,800
Speaker 16: So sometimes we say we want something from our partner, right,

1673
01:14:26,160 --> 01:14:29,479
Speaker 16: and they give in, and we say that felt nasty.

1674
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 16: They felt like you just did something to me, right,

1675
01:14:32,320 --> 01:14:34,200
Speaker 16: that's the sweetness that's been with hell.

1676
01:14:34,439 --> 01:14:34,599
Speaker 2: Right.

1677
01:14:35,040 --> 01:14:37,479
Speaker 16: So those types of like tips like just give in

1678
01:14:37,520 --> 01:14:39,639
Speaker 16: and stuff like that your partner, if you're with your

1679
01:14:39,640 --> 01:14:43,080
Speaker 16: partner over three years, you're not just languaging with them

1680
01:14:43,120 --> 01:14:44,759
Speaker 16: in terms of what you say out of your mouth.

1681
01:14:44,960 --> 01:14:47,960
Speaker 16: You're picking up on vibes and vibrations. You're picking up

1682
01:14:48,000 --> 01:14:51,000
Speaker 16: on sensation and the body. You're picking up or you're

1683
01:14:51,040 --> 01:14:54,320
Speaker 16: picking up on a whole different embodied language. You're not

1684
01:14:54,360 --> 01:14:56,759
Speaker 16: just picking up on what they're saying. So when people

1685
01:14:56,840 --> 01:14:59,560
Speaker 16: give in, right just to get so one of the

1686
01:14:59,600 --> 01:15:01,760
Speaker 16: things that you to say in my in my relations

1687
01:15:01,760 --> 01:15:04,200
Speaker 16: this is in my uh when I work with couples,

1688
01:15:04,320 --> 01:15:07,200
Speaker 16: was this kind of dynamic. There would be a time

1689
01:15:07,280 --> 01:15:10,000
Speaker 16: where the person a person would give in. If you're

1690
01:15:10,000 --> 01:15:12,160
Speaker 16: talking about sex or something like that, the person would

1691
01:15:12,200 --> 01:15:14,400
Speaker 16: just give in, right he say, okay, you want sex

1692
01:15:14,400 --> 01:15:16,200
Speaker 16: all as much, Okay, I'm gonna give you sex, right

1693
01:15:16,520 --> 01:15:18,760
Speaker 16: and one. And what I call that dynamic is and

1694
01:15:18,800 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 16: I would say to the partner, I say, oh, I

1695
01:15:20,360 --> 01:15:22,720
Speaker 16: get what you're doing. You're getting on your back to

1696
01:15:22,800 --> 01:15:26,920
Speaker 16: keep your partner off your back. Your partner always knows that,

1697
01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:30,840
Speaker 16: whether they can articulate it, they always knows when you

1698
01:15:31,000 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 16: withheld those pieces from them, because what you really want

1699
01:15:34,479 --> 01:15:37,679
Speaker 16: is the sweetness from them, not just them giving in.

1700
01:15:38,120 --> 01:15:42,080
Speaker 16: But you can't articulate that so so so so so

1701
01:15:42,160 --> 01:15:44,559
Speaker 16: when it happens, you don't know what else to say.

1702
01:15:44,920 --> 01:15:48,240
Speaker 16: You just take it. And every time you take leftover

1703
01:15:48,320 --> 01:15:51,599
Speaker 16: sex or leftover things from a partner, you break your

1704
01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:55,439
Speaker 16: heart and your partner's heart. You know it when when?

1705
01:15:55,479 --> 01:15:55,719
Speaker 1: When?

1706
01:15:55,920 --> 01:15:56,960
Speaker 16: When? When? When?

1707
01:15:57,120 --> 01:15:57,360
Speaker 1: When?

1708
01:15:57,680 --> 01:15:58,120
Speaker 2: When? You?

1709
01:15:58,160 --> 01:16:01,680
Speaker 16: When you when you take something from your partner that

1710
01:16:01,840 --> 01:16:05,599
Speaker 16: you know they're not really giving themselves or giving themselves

1711
01:16:05,640 --> 01:16:08,439
Speaker 16: to the relationships, or giving them you know, the sweet

1712
01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:13,759
Speaker 16: parts of themselves, and you take it. Your partner goes.

1713
01:16:14,360 --> 01:16:17,280
Speaker 16: You don't even deserve the good stuff that I got

1714
01:16:17,920 --> 01:16:22,599
Speaker 16: because you're taking the crumbs right. There's nothing going wrong

1715
01:16:22,640 --> 01:16:25,360
Speaker 16: when that happens. So but but we think little tips

1716
01:16:25,439 --> 01:16:28,240
Speaker 16: like that, let's do this, let's do that, and everything

1717
01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:31,880
Speaker 16: will be right. But eventually the critical mass will build

1718
01:16:31,920 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 16: back up and you'll be deal. Have you noticed you

1719
01:16:34,600 --> 01:16:36,960
Speaker 16: have some of the same arguments some sameness to you too.

1720
01:16:37,000 --> 01:16:38,879
Speaker 16: Have you noticed you have some of the same arguments

1721
01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:41,240
Speaker 16: now with your partner that you did when you first started.

1722
01:16:42,160 --> 01:16:45,800
Speaker 16: Not the same exact ones, but the patterning it's the same, the.

1723
01:16:45,800 --> 01:16:50,120
Speaker 11: Things because you're not only are you learning each other,

1724
01:16:50,200 --> 01:16:54,840
Speaker 11: but it's because it's because those things are important, and

1725
01:16:54,960 --> 01:16:57,680
Speaker 11: the things that you could normally go oh, that's not

1726
01:16:57,920 --> 01:17:00,800
Speaker 11: you know, that's not that's not that important, or or baby, this,

1727
01:17:00,840 --> 01:17:01,360
Speaker 11: that and the other.

1728
01:17:01,479 --> 01:17:04,840
Speaker 16: Right, that's already done. The only thing that's left is

1729
01:17:04,840 --> 01:17:07,880
Speaker 16: the hard stuff now, the stuff that you can't play case.

1730
01:17:08,000 --> 01:17:10,000
Speaker 16: So that's why you keep going over and over and

1731
01:17:10,040 --> 01:17:10,559
Speaker 16: over again.

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01:17:11,240 --> 01:17:13,960
Speaker 1: I love I love everything you're saying, man. And you

1733
01:17:13,960 --> 01:17:17,800
Speaker 1: have a section called how therapy really works? Yes, And

1734
01:17:18,160 --> 01:17:21,760
Speaker 1: in the chapters of When Therapists cop out how how

1735
01:17:21,800 --> 01:17:23,839
Speaker 1: do therapists often fail? Couples?

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01:17:24,000 --> 01:17:24,400
Speaker 16: Tips?

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01:17:24,880 --> 01:17:29,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, what you're giving sounds like real tangible

1738
01:17:29,200 --> 01:17:30,040
Speaker 1: things that can apply.

1739
01:17:30,760 --> 01:17:35,519
Speaker 16: Chris, this stuff marriage. Marriage forces you to develop a

1740
01:17:35,520 --> 01:17:40,000
Speaker 16: thick skin, a fortified mindset, and a malleable heart.

1741
01:17:41,240 --> 01:17:42,280
Speaker 1: Do you understand what I mean?

1742
01:17:42,720 --> 01:17:45,320
Speaker 16: That malleable heart is the key piece. Some of us

1743
01:17:45,360 --> 01:17:48,240
Speaker 16: develop a thick skin in relationship. Some of us develop

1744
01:17:48,600 --> 01:17:54,400
Speaker 16: a fortified mindset and a hardened heart. Right, it's much

1745
01:17:54,439 --> 01:17:57,120
Speaker 16: harder to be in a relationship. Most of us that

1746
01:17:57,160 --> 01:17:59,760
Speaker 16: are in long term relationships are in long term relationships

1747
01:17:59,800 --> 01:18:02,480
Speaker 16: with at some point that hurt us.

1748
01:18:03,080 --> 01:18:04,840
Speaker 1: Absolutely right.

1749
01:18:04,920 --> 01:18:07,400
Speaker 16: This isn't a relationship with somebody you just meet. This

1750
01:18:07,479 --> 01:18:10,000
Speaker 16: is a relationship with somebody that you had the opportunity

1751
01:18:10,080 --> 01:18:12,120
Speaker 16: to hurt them and you and they have hurt you

1752
01:18:12,200 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 16: in some way or another, right, and you still in

1753
01:18:15,120 --> 01:18:18,360
Speaker 16: the relationship. That's a whole different process of working through

1754
01:18:19,160 --> 01:18:19,839
Speaker 16: than dating.

1755
01:18:20,240 --> 01:18:20,439
Speaker 1: Right.

1756
01:18:20,960 --> 01:18:24,000
Speaker 16: The way that therapists cop out is that here's the

1757
01:18:24,040 --> 01:18:29,439
Speaker 16: dirty little secret. Most therapists are not as conditioned to

1758
01:18:29,560 --> 01:18:34,080
Speaker 16: deal with the heat and the trauma in relationships. They've

1759
01:18:34,080 --> 01:18:37,240
Speaker 16: been trained and got their PhD, they've been trained and

1760
01:18:37,280 --> 01:18:39,759
Speaker 16: got the lcs W. They've been trained in those pieces,

1761
01:18:40,160 --> 01:18:44,320
Speaker 16: but not trained in conditioning around conditioning their body to

1762
01:18:44,360 --> 01:18:46,439
Speaker 16: be able to deal when all that heat shows up

1763
01:18:46,479 --> 01:18:49,719
Speaker 16: in the room. Think about it like this. If you've

1764
01:18:49,720 --> 01:18:54,840
Speaker 16: ever been if DJ, if me and you were boys, right,

1765
01:18:54,880 --> 01:18:56,760
Speaker 16: and I came to you one day and I said, hey, man,

1766
01:18:56,800 --> 01:19:00,200
Speaker 16: I'm thinking about running the marathon. And you'd be supportive, right,

1767
01:19:00,240 --> 01:19:02,800
Speaker 16: you both will be supported, And you say, hey, go man,

1768
01:19:02,880 --> 01:19:04,720
Speaker 16: bu But I know this dude, and you know I

1769
01:19:04,800 --> 01:19:06,559
Speaker 16: ran a marathon, right, you give me all the support.

1770
01:19:06,600 --> 01:19:08,599
Speaker 16: And then I looked at you in all seriousness, and

1771
01:19:08,640 --> 01:19:10,880
Speaker 16: you looked at me and you said, hey, man, when

1772
01:19:10,880 --> 01:19:12,920
Speaker 16: you're thinking about running a marathon? And I looked at

1773
01:19:12,960 --> 01:19:16,519
Speaker 16: you in all seriousness, and I said, tomorrow, I'm going

1774
01:19:16,600 --> 01:19:18,240
Speaker 16: to run this tomorrow. The first question you're going to

1775
01:19:18,280 --> 01:19:20,400
Speaker 16: say is, well, have you been running before? And I

1776
01:19:20,439 --> 01:19:23,000
Speaker 16: looked at you and I said, no, I haven't run it,

1777
01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:26,120
Speaker 16: but I did to hear podcast on it, I read

1778
01:19:26,120 --> 01:19:26,800
Speaker 16: a book on it.

1779
01:19:27,439 --> 01:19:27,639
Speaker 1: Right.

1780
01:19:28,160 --> 01:19:30,840
Speaker 16: You know I'm grea ready to be in some trouble. Right,

1781
01:19:31,160 --> 01:19:34,559
Speaker 16: I'm I'm my whole mind. You know that I'm not

1782
01:19:34,720 --> 01:19:38,439
Speaker 16: conditioned to deal with what I'm getting ready to put

1783
01:19:38,439 --> 01:19:42,799
Speaker 16: myself through. Marriage and race and sex is no different.

1784
01:19:43,560 --> 01:19:47,040
Speaker 16: Most of us are not conditioned to deal with long

1785
01:19:47,280 --> 01:19:53,200
Speaker 16: term relationships and sex right, and so that includes therapists.

1786
01:19:53,280 --> 01:19:55,960
Speaker 16: So when that stuff all comes into the room, when

1787
01:19:56,000 --> 01:19:58,839
Speaker 16: all that he comes into the room, we've been trained

1788
01:19:58,840 --> 01:20:04,000
Speaker 16: to teach people I stay, I was I say, rather

1789
01:20:04,080 --> 01:20:06,920
Speaker 16: than me saying you know you do when you do this,

1790
01:20:06,920 --> 01:20:09,559
Speaker 16: this is a can you use an ice stament? Say

1791
01:20:09,600 --> 01:20:10,240
Speaker 16: how you feel?

1792
01:20:10,360 --> 01:20:13,320
Speaker 1: Say I feel got you? You got you, got you.

1793
01:20:14,160 --> 01:20:17,360
Speaker 16: The moment you do that, couples know, oh, you can't

1794
01:20:17,400 --> 01:20:20,680
Speaker 16: handle the heat that we're bringing into the relationship, so

1795
01:20:20,720 --> 01:20:22,200
Speaker 16: they start taking care of you.

1796
01:20:25,120 --> 01:20:25,360
Speaker 2: Right.

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01:20:26,320 --> 01:20:30,200
Speaker 16: That's how And most therapists are trained in that way.

1798
01:20:30,479 --> 01:20:34,439
Speaker 16: They have not been conditioned to actually work with the

1799
01:20:34,640 --> 01:20:37,439
Speaker 16: heavy heat that shows up most of the time when

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01:20:37,479 --> 01:20:40,120
Speaker 16: people come into the come into our office, or come

1801
01:20:40,160 --> 01:20:42,680
Speaker 16: into the office. Y'all think about this most of the

1802
01:20:42,720 --> 01:20:45,040
Speaker 16: time when you go see a therapist, that stuff has

1803
01:20:45,080 --> 01:20:47,200
Speaker 16: been going on for four, five, six, seven, eight, nineteen

1804
01:20:47,280 --> 01:20:50,320
Speaker 16: years before that's all that heat coming into the room.

1805
01:20:50,439 --> 01:20:52,680
Speaker 16: Most therapists are not conditioned to deal with a lot of.

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01:20:52,680 --> 01:20:54,960
Speaker 1: People go to therapy, a lot of couples because they

1807
01:20:55,000 --> 01:20:57,080
Speaker 1: want to learn how to communicate better. But you say,

1808
01:20:57,120 --> 01:20:58,200
Speaker 1: you don't you against that.

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01:20:58,360 --> 01:21:01,040
Speaker 16: They want, They don't want to know how to communicate better.

1810
01:21:01,200 --> 01:21:04,200
Speaker 16: They figure they done tried to do this for ten years.

1811
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:06,320
Speaker 16: They figure they'll pay you two hundred dollars an hour

1812
01:21:06,400 --> 01:21:07,920
Speaker 16: for you to figure out a way around.

1813
01:21:07,600 --> 01:21:10,040
Speaker 1: It too, figure out a way instead of going to

1814
01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:12,960
Speaker 1: through going through it to find a way around it.

1815
01:21:13,040 --> 01:21:13,240
Speaker 5: Right.

1816
01:21:13,720 --> 01:21:16,519
Speaker 16: So and so what ends up happening is is that

1817
01:21:17,439 --> 01:21:20,320
Speaker 16: And then most therapists are I think that their job

1818
01:21:20,560 --> 01:21:23,280
Speaker 16: is to figure is to help them or to fix

1819
01:21:23,360 --> 01:21:26,760
Speaker 16: them right, rather than helping them create a containers. So

1820
01:21:26,920 --> 01:21:30,240
Speaker 16: the stuff that happens, literally every everything that happens in

1821
01:21:30,240 --> 01:21:36,000
Speaker 16: a relationship has a function. Everything. There's not one thing

1822
01:21:36,040 --> 01:21:39,200
Speaker 16: that happens in a relationship that does not have a function.

1823
01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:42,200
Speaker 16: And most of the time therapists have not been conditioned

1824
01:21:42,200 --> 01:21:45,479
Speaker 16: to look at what's the function of this particular thing,

1825
01:21:45,760 --> 01:21:50,040
Speaker 16: whether it's whether it's good, bad, whatever, How does it function?

1826
01:21:50,720 --> 01:21:53,200
Speaker 16: And once I know how it functions, then I can

1827
01:21:53,320 --> 01:21:56,360
Speaker 16: work with it and see if the function can be changed,

1828
01:21:56,360 --> 01:21:57,840
Speaker 16: if it can be worked with, if it can be

1829
01:21:57,920 --> 01:22:00,519
Speaker 16: grown up some that's not where it's arts though.

1830
01:22:01,240 --> 01:22:04,680
Speaker 2: MM. We don't want to give them too much. I did.

1831
01:22:04,880 --> 01:22:08,200
Speaker 2: I did have one last question for myself, I wanted

1832
01:22:08,240 --> 01:22:10,760
Speaker 2: to know. You know, of course we're on BT, so

1833
01:22:10,840 --> 01:22:13,120
Speaker 2: a lot of couples watch on BT and listening on

1834
01:22:13,160 --> 01:22:15,760
Speaker 2: the radio a lot of things that when people call,

1835
01:22:15,800 --> 01:22:17,960
Speaker 2: they always say they have a problem in relationship for

1836
01:22:18,000 --> 01:22:20,880
Speaker 2: one or two reasons. One is financially, they feel like

1837
01:22:20,920 --> 01:22:25,040
Speaker 2: their their spouse is not working at potential and they

1838
01:22:25,040 --> 01:22:26,879
Speaker 2: feel like they have to be too much of a

1839
01:22:26,960 --> 01:22:31,120
Speaker 2: of a support system. And the other one I realized

1840
01:22:31,160 --> 01:22:34,320
Speaker 2: a lot of people feel like their spouse doesn't understand them. Right.

1841
01:22:34,400 --> 01:22:36,439
Speaker 2: You know, Let's say you're a woman and you're taking

1842
01:22:36,439 --> 01:22:39,040
Speaker 2: care of two kids and you're working, and then you

1843
01:22:39,080 --> 01:22:41,559
Speaker 2: come home when you're tired and your husband doesn't understand that.

1844
01:22:41,760 --> 01:22:44,000
Speaker 2: Or your husband and you're working and you're working two

1845
01:22:44,040 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 2: three jobs and when you get home, you're tied and

1846
01:22:46,120 --> 01:22:48,680
Speaker 2: you want that break and your wife doesn't understand that.

1847
01:22:48,840 --> 01:22:50,400
Speaker 2: How do you help people in that situation?

1848
01:22:50,560 --> 01:22:56,760
Speaker 16: So so so you know, that same pattern also happens

1849
01:22:57,080 --> 01:23:01,240
Speaker 16: in the gay relationships and U and the trans relationships

1850
01:23:01,240 --> 01:23:03,559
Speaker 16: that I've worked with in my office. So it's not

1851
01:23:03,960 --> 01:23:09,160
Speaker 16: just you know, male female right. This idea of communication

1852
01:23:09,600 --> 01:23:12,720
Speaker 16: is one of the things that I think really Jaxaside. Right,

1853
01:23:13,320 --> 01:23:18,480
Speaker 16: we think that communication is verbal like communication is, if

1854
01:23:18,520 --> 01:23:23,360
Speaker 16: I tell you what I need, that's good communication. In actuality,

1855
01:23:23,400 --> 01:23:26,920
Speaker 16: if I already know what my wife thinks about me, right,

1856
01:23:27,000 --> 01:23:31,040
Speaker 16: she's communicated, whether it's verbally, nonverbally, whether it's through vibes

1857
01:23:31,080 --> 01:23:34,040
Speaker 16: or whatever, she has communicated, I know exactly that I

1858
01:23:34,160 --> 01:23:38,920
Speaker 16: know my wife does not like a particular thing or

1859
01:23:38,960 --> 01:23:43,599
Speaker 16: does not like me. Right, change it, right, I could

1860
01:23:43,680 --> 01:23:47,040
Speaker 16: change it. If I could change it, I probably would

1861
01:23:47,080 --> 01:23:49,000
Speaker 16: have changed it. Right the easier things I would have

1862
01:23:49,080 --> 01:23:53,160
Speaker 16: changed my wife because I know that from my wife.

1863
01:23:53,439 --> 01:23:57,120
Speaker 16: That's good communication. She has communicated to me that she

1864
01:23:57,240 --> 01:23:59,600
Speaker 16: doesn't like me. The problem is I can't tolerate what

1865
01:23:59,640 --> 01:24:00,560
Speaker 16: she's communicating.

1866
01:24:01,080 --> 01:24:01,280
Speaker 1: Right.

1867
01:24:01,720 --> 01:24:04,880
Speaker 16: That same thing is I say in relationships happens in

1868
01:24:05,000 --> 01:24:09,600
Speaker 16: the two scenarios that you well. We think that if

1869
01:24:09,680 --> 01:24:15,759
Speaker 16: I say to my partner I'm tired, then they should

1870
01:24:15,760 --> 01:24:19,240
Speaker 16: in some way respond by making me not tired, or

1871
01:24:19,400 --> 01:24:23,280
Speaker 16: at least helping me. When I say, I'm communicating that

1872
01:24:23,360 --> 01:24:25,880
Speaker 16: I'm tired, And what I tell people is is this

1873
01:24:26,000 --> 01:24:29,720
Speaker 16: what I say? The thing about about conditioning, most of

1874
01:24:29,800 --> 01:24:33,200
Speaker 16: us are not conditioned to pick up on when our

1875
01:24:33,280 --> 01:24:37,400
Speaker 16: partner is really getting to a place to where this

1876
01:24:37,600 --> 01:24:40,960
Speaker 16: is a to use your term, this is a deal breaker, right,

1877
01:24:41,120 --> 01:24:42,800
Speaker 16: like not deal breaker and that I'm going to leave,

1878
01:24:42,840 --> 01:24:45,040
Speaker 16: but a deal breaker in that I don't know what

1879
01:24:45,080 --> 01:24:46,720
Speaker 16: I'm going to do, but I know I ain't doing

1880
01:24:46,720 --> 01:24:50,439
Speaker 16: this no more right. That's not anything going wrong. That's

1881
01:24:50,479 --> 01:24:54,160
Speaker 16: an important element because what it does is helps people

1882
01:24:54,200 --> 01:24:57,320
Speaker 16: be very clear this right here, I've been doing this

1883
01:24:57,360 --> 01:25:00,280
Speaker 16: for ten years. I'm no longer doing this no more

1884
01:25:00,320 --> 01:25:04,519
Speaker 16: with you. I'm not leaving, but I ain't doing this right.

1885
01:25:05,000 --> 01:25:07,519
Speaker 16: And what happens is is that a lot of times

1886
01:25:07,560 --> 01:25:10,320
Speaker 16: when this stuff is showing up, people want to find

1887
01:25:10,360 --> 01:25:12,519
Speaker 16: ways around it. They want little tips, they want little

1888
01:25:12,560 --> 01:25:14,439
Speaker 16: things to try and figure it. The way around it.

1889
01:25:14,600 --> 01:25:17,120
Speaker 16: There is no way around that piece. You got to

1890
01:25:17,160 --> 01:25:20,719
Speaker 16: grow through that. You have to get to those places.

1891
01:25:20,920 --> 01:25:24,000
Speaker 16: That build up has to happen, and people have to

1892
01:25:24,040 --> 01:25:25,960
Speaker 16: be able to get to a place to where they go.

1893
01:25:26,040 --> 01:25:26,639
Speaker 16: You know what.

1894
01:25:28,439 --> 01:25:28,760
Speaker 2: This is.

1895
01:25:28,880 --> 01:25:32,000
Speaker 16: You're important to me. I'm important to me too, though,

1896
01:25:32,880 --> 01:25:36,599
Speaker 16: and that is a lifelong thing. Right that happens. So

1897
01:25:36,640 --> 01:25:39,479
Speaker 16: the four things that get people into conundrums and in

1898
01:25:39,560 --> 01:25:43,439
Speaker 16: difficult situations for things, money, sex, kids, and in laws

1899
01:25:43,880 --> 01:25:45,559
Speaker 16: You can't agree to disagree about.

1900
01:25:45,400 --> 01:25:49,320
Speaker 2: Those things, money, sex, kids, laws, can't.

1901
01:25:49,120 --> 01:25:53,120
Speaker 16: Agree to disagree somebody. I don't like your mama, But

1902
01:25:53,240 --> 01:25:55,960
Speaker 16: for the last ten years she been coming and staying

1903
01:25:55,960 --> 01:25:58,000
Speaker 16: with me and giving her opinion about stuff, and I've

1904
01:25:58,040 --> 01:26:00,519
Speaker 16: been getting around and I've been scooting around, been scooting

1905
01:26:00,560 --> 01:26:03,000
Speaker 16: around it, and I've been trying to say something about it.

1906
01:26:04,120 --> 01:26:06,640
Speaker 16: Now I'm at a place now were ten years in.

1907
01:26:06,680 --> 01:26:09,479
Speaker 16: I'm at a place now where I have enough in

1908
01:26:09,520 --> 01:26:12,320
Speaker 16: me to where you're important to me. I'm important to

1909
01:26:12,320 --> 01:26:15,200
Speaker 16: me too. I can now say to you, I don't

1910
01:26:15,320 --> 01:26:19,400
Speaker 16: like your mama. I don't want her coming staying with

1911
01:26:19,479 --> 01:26:23,600
Speaker 16: us for five weeks, I don't like I don't like

1912
01:26:23,640 --> 01:26:26,519
Speaker 16: the way she deals with me right, and I'm willing

1913
01:26:26,560 --> 01:26:29,240
Speaker 16: to fight with you about that. Do you understand what

1914
01:26:29,280 --> 01:26:32,080
Speaker 16: to me, it's important that we fight about this.

1915
01:26:32,200 --> 01:26:34,360
Speaker 1: Glad you keep using the word fight.

1916
01:26:33,640 --> 01:26:37,720
Speaker 16: That's gonna be absolutely But it's an important fight. It's

1917
01:26:37,720 --> 01:26:40,559
Speaker 16: not a fight that about something's going wrong. It's a

1918
01:26:40,600 --> 01:26:44,240
Speaker 16: fight about You're important to me. This is important to me,

1919
01:26:44,439 --> 01:26:45,680
Speaker 16: and I'm important to me.

1920
01:26:45,800 --> 01:26:48,320
Speaker 1: At the same time, I got a few more questions

1921
01:26:48,320 --> 01:26:49,800
Speaker 1: because I know people will hit this and they'll be like,

1922
01:26:49,920 --> 01:26:53,040
Speaker 1: is Monsters in Love just for couples in conflict?

1923
01:26:53,200 --> 01:26:56,880
Speaker 16: No, okay, Monsters in Love. Monsters in Love is really

1924
01:26:56,920 --> 01:27:01,120
Speaker 16: about how how you develop and understaning of the architecture

1925
01:27:01,160 --> 01:27:04,720
Speaker 16: of how relationships actually function. That's that's that's the primary thing.

1926
01:27:05,040 --> 01:27:08,120
Speaker 16: Monsters in Love. All of my books are about you read.

1927
01:27:08,200 --> 01:27:10,479
Speaker 16: You read pieces. You know this, show man, you read

1928
01:27:10,479 --> 01:27:13,040
Speaker 16: parts of my book. You have to put it down, right,

1929
01:27:13,120 --> 01:27:17,280
Speaker 16: because the most important part of my book are the activities,

1930
01:27:17,320 --> 01:27:20,680
Speaker 16: the practices. It's not just it's not just reading. There

1931
01:27:20,680 --> 01:27:22,479
Speaker 16: are parts of my book. You you pick it up,

1932
01:27:22,560 --> 01:27:24,080
Speaker 16: you look at it. You got to put it down

1933
01:27:24,160 --> 01:27:27,760
Speaker 16: because it works on you. It's about, oh man, I there,

1934
01:27:27,960 --> 01:27:30,400
Speaker 16: here are the ways I've moved around this, right, And

1935
01:27:30,479 --> 01:27:34,160
Speaker 16: so that so Monsters in Love was really my take.

1936
01:27:34,320 --> 01:27:40,920
Speaker 16: So so Quaking. So my Grandmother's Hands was really about self.

1937
01:27:41,560 --> 01:27:45,120
Speaker 16: Quaking was about kind of like community. This one is

1938
01:27:45,120 --> 01:27:49,000
Speaker 16: about couples, the more intimate relationship, right, and but they

1939
01:27:49,520 --> 01:27:51,439
Speaker 16: work with some of the same skills, some of the

1940
01:27:51,479 --> 01:27:54,519
Speaker 16: same practices, some of the same pieces. And so this

1941
01:27:54,760 --> 01:27:58,720
Speaker 16: was just my take on it. And uh uh, yeah,

1942
01:27:58,800 --> 01:28:01,400
Speaker 16: it's not about just being a conflict. It's about understanding

1943
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Speaker 16: how conflict actually functions as opposed to all of the

1944
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Speaker 16: things that we've been kind of conditioned to believe.

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Speaker 2: It is.

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Speaker 1: Can you tell the people what are are five anchors?

1947
01:28:08,600 --> 01:28:08,960
Speaker 1: Real quick?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 16: So yeah, so so so one of them? So I

1950
01:28:13,840 --> 01:28:17,439
Speaker 16: said it earlier. Maintain a clear sense of yourself while

1951
01:28:17,520 --> 01:28:22,960
Speaker 16: connected to an important other. Right, tolerating pain for growth.

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01:28:23,640 --> 01:28:25,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the one people I feel like people will

1953
01:28:25,320 --> 01:28:27,240
Speaker 1: disagree with. That's why we got to go through pain

1954
01:28:27,320 --> 01:28:29,160
Speaker 1: to grow right, right?

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Speaker 16: Right? So envy you you built a a uh real

1956
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Speaker 16: estate empire. You're you're working on it, right, Yes, sir?

1957
01:28:45,000 --> 01:28:47,120
Speaker 16: Every day you got to do a little bit of something.

1958
01:28:47,800 --> 01:28:49,920
Speaker 16: You can't do everything. You can't build a road. You

1959
01:28:49,960 --> 01:28:51,800
Speaker 16: can't say I'm building road. Now, I got it, right,

1960
01:28:52,160 --> 01:28:54,920
Speaker 16: You you learn from the mistakes from the Oh I

1961
01:28:54,920 --> 01:28:56,559
Speaker 16: could have done it, I could have done right. There

1962
01:28:56,640 --> 01:28:59,679
Speaker 16: is there is, there is something to be gleaned from

1963
01:29:00,560 --> 01:29:06,479
Speaker 16: even the difficult pieces. Right. That's a painful process because

1964
01:29:06,479 --> 01:29:09,280
Speaker 16: it is the pain of growing up as a human being.

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Speaker 16: Not the pain, not the not the pain that not

1966
01:29:13,920 --> 01:29:18,599
Speaker 16: just pain without a purpose? Right, And so relationships are

1967
01:29:18,680 --> 01:29:22,320
Speaker 16: really about how do I begin to have the I'm

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Speaker 16: going to. So it's the choice between what I call

1969
01:29:24,400 --> 01:29:28,439
Speaker 16: clean pain and dirty pain. Dirty pain is the pain

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Speaker 16: that you get by going around something right, having a

1971
01:29:32,240 --> 01:29:36,880
Speaker 16: fair out of relationships, stealing your partner's choices, spending money

1972
01:29:36,880 --> 01:29:39,280
Speaker 16: that you know you ain't got, and not telling your

1973
01:29:39,320 --> 01:29:44,320
Speaker 16: partner all these different pieces. Stealing your partner's choices. That's dirty.

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Speaker 16: And we all know the dirty piece clean pain. And

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Speaker 16: as adults, we don't get a choice between pain and

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01:29:49,680 --> 01:29:51,800
Speaker 16: no pain. When you're trying to grow up, you get

1977
01:29:51,800 --> 01:29:55,760
Speaker 16: a choice between clean and dirty. I know that when

1978
01:29:55,800 --> 01:29:57,960
Speaker 16: I'm doing this, it's going to be painful, but it's

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01:29:58,000 --> 01:30:00,840
Speaker 16: the pain that can build capacity, not the pain that

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01:30:01,240 --> 01:30:04,439
Speaker 16: takes me around it. Those are two different pains. And

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01:30:04,520 --> 01:30:07,000
Speaker 16: so for those of us, so for those of the

1982
01:30:07,080 --> 01:30:09,800
Speaker 16: listeners saying, well, with paint, love shouldn't be pain, of

1983
01:30:09,840 --> 01:30:13,479
Speaker 16: course it is. There is, but it's a capacity building pain,

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01:30:13,880 --> 01:30:19,120
Speaker 16: not a not not one that that that keeps you immature, right.

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Speaker 16: And so those that say pains, you know in a

1986
01:30:22,560 --> 01:30:25,040
Speaker 16: marriage you shouldn't have pain or there should be no pain,

1987
01:30:25,160 --> 01:30:29,280
Speaker 16: are people that that that I want to stay immature, right?

1988
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Speaker 16: And so so those are the two, those two anchors

1989
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Speaker 16: I think are the most important ancers, like those like

1990
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Speaker 16: having a clear understanding that this piece is about growing up.

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01:30:41,520 --> 01:30:43,360
Speaker 16: Like one of the things that I've realized and I

1992
01:30:43,520 --> 01:30:46,080
Speaker 16: just like over the last ten years of realized was

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01:30:46,120 --> 01:30:50,800
Speaker 16: my wife, is that I realize that in a good

1994
01:30:51,000 --> 01:30:54,360
Speaker 16: long term relationship, the outcome of a good long term

1995
01:30:54,360 --> 01:30:56,360
Speaker 16: relationship is that one of us is going to bear

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01:30:56,479 --> 01:31:01,519
Speaker 16: the other one. That's the outcome of a good long

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01:31:01,600 --> 01:31:02,640
Speaker 16: term relationship.

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Speaker 8: That that that that that that our our our our

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Speaker 8: work with each other is we're growing ourselves up, growing

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Speaker 8: each other up.

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Speaker 16: And and the payoff at the end of that is

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01:31:17,120 --> 01:31:19,080
Speaker 16: that one of us is going to bury each other,

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01:31:19,400 --> 01:31:22,000
Speaker 16: and that hopefully at the end of that our hearts

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01:31:22,040 --> 01:31:24,479
Speaker 16: are light enough to we say good job.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Wow.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you didn't give other three because because I

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01:31:27,400 --> 01:31:30,519
Speaker 1: want them to go by. One more question. What's the

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01:31:30,560 --> 01:31:33,760
Speaker 1: one biggest piece of advice you have for couples who

2009
01:31:33,800 --> 01:31:36,000
Speaker 1: are going through conflict, difficult time.

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01:31:36,400 --> 01:31:41,920
Speaker 16: Slow down, slow down, just breathe. White body supremacy. And

2011
01:31:41,920 --> 01:31:43,760
Speaker 16: I haven't talked about this, but and this is the

2012
01:31:43,840 --> 01:31:47,479
Speaker 16: more larger pieces. White body supremacy one of the one

2013
01:31:47,479 --> 01:31:52,480
Speaker 16: of the primary things of white. Body supremacy is urgency.

2014
01:31:52,800 --> 01:31:56,640
Speaker 16: Urgency is what is how this whole thing, especially with

2015
01:31:56,760 --> 01:31:59,559
Speaker 16: our bodies, right, That's how this whole thing was was founded.

2016
01:31:59,680 --> 01:32:02,600
Speaker 16: Right the plantation. What I tell people is that the

2017
01:32:02,640 --> 01:32:09,519
Speaker 16: plantation was actually is actually was actually a sanctioned rape factory, right.

2018
01:32:10,280 --> 01:32:13,599
Speaker 16: And we a lot of us come from bodies, come

2019
01:32:13,600 --> 01:32:16,920
Speaker 16: from bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies who were for two

2020
01:32:17,040 --> 01:32:21,599
Speaker 16: hundred years raped and used as product. What makes us

2021
01:32:21,640 --> 01:32:26,519
Speaker 16: think that those bodies weren't conditioned around that trauma? And

2022
01:32:26,600 --> 01:32:28,599
Speaker 16: what makes us think that that stuff is not going

2023
01:32:28,680 --> 01:32:30,320
Speaker 16: to show up in our relationships?

2024
01:32:30,400 --> 01:32:30,840
Speaker 1: Right now?

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01:32:31,120 --> 01:32:35,240
Speaker 16: Those conundrums, those pieces, those pieces around body sovereignty. Do

2026
01:32:35,320 --> 01:32:38,200
Speaker 16: I have body? Do I have sovereignty over my own body?

2027
01:32:38,560 --> 01:32:41,040
Speaker 16: Or do you have sovereignty over my body? That's the

2028
01:32:41,080 --> 01:32:43,719
Speaker 16: whole thing right now. And so what I tell people

2029
01:32:43,800 --> 01:32:45,120
Speaker 16: is one of the first things that I do when

2030
01:32:45,160 --> 01:32:52,080
Speaker 16: I'm working people is slow down, quiet, it's all right. Yes,

2031
01:32:52,160 --> 01:32:54,439
Speaker 16: it feels like you're gonna your body is gonna be

2032
01:32:54,479 --> 01:32:58,160
Speaker 16: ripped apart. Yes, yes, you think that you're not going

2033
01:32:58,240 --> 01:33:02,120
Speaker 16: to survive this. Slow down, learn the things that you

2034
01:33:02,240 --> 01:33:04,799
Speaker 16: need to learn, and you have time.

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Speaker 2: Wow, appreciate you.

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01:33:11,439 --> 01:33:13,479
Speaker 1: I don't want to overload y'all, but go get Monsters

2037
01:33:13,479 --> 01:33:16,360
Speaker 1: in Love, Go get the Quaking of America, Go get

2038
01:33:16,400 --> 01:33:19,000
Speaker 1: my Grandmother's Hands. And this I didn't. I haven't seen

2039
01:33:19,040 --> 01:33:19,479
Speaker 1: these albums.

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Speaker 16: Yeah, so so so that so the dismembered that and unarmed.

2041
01:33:24,640 --> 01:33:27,920
Speaker 16: So I don album with each book. Either I get

2042
01:33:27,920 --> 01:33:30,720
Speaker 16: with other other musicians and I train them on the

2043
01:33:30,800 --> 01:33:32,920
Speaker 16: practices in the book, and then they go and create

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01:33:33,000 --> 01:33:35,720
Speaker 16: songs about those things. So that's dismembered in the arm.

2045
01:33:35,760 --> 01:33:38,880
Speaker 16: And then Pharaoh Dreams is actually a I kind of

2046
01:33:38,920 --> 01:33:42,240
Speaker 16: looked at it as remember Balancing the Bullet by Malcolm X.

2047
01:33:42,760 --> 01:33:45,280
Speaker 16: Just all of his speeches. That's what That's what Pharalh

2048
01:33:45,320 --> 01:33:48,360
Speaker 16: Dreams is about all of my speeches. And so you

2049
01:33:48,400 --> 01:33:50,040
Speaker 16: can doubt so if you buy the album, you can

2050
01:33:50,080 --> 01:33:53,759
Speaker 16: download it on your phone or it's it's also at album.

2051
01:33:53,800 --> 01:33:55,519
Speaker 1: So for people that love your culture quote, I'm sure

2052
01:33:55,560 --> 01:33:57,799
Speaker 1: that's on it. That culture quote is everywhere.

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01:33:57,800 --> 01:34:01,160
Speaker 16: Thank you many, thank you, it is. It is. That's

2054
01:34:01,240 --> 01:34:04,000
Speaker 16: every place man. And and and it's one of those

2055
01:34:04,080 --> 01:34:06,400
Speaker 16: pieces man where I actually have a thing on my

2056
01:34:06,439 --> 01:34:09,200
Speaker 16: website where people can sign up for all of my

2057
01:34:09,280 --> 01:34:11,439
Speaker 16: quotes three hundred and sixty five days a year for free.

2058
01:34:11,479 --> 01:34:13,519
Speaker 16: You just you just get a quote on your phone.

2059
01:34:14,120 --> 01:34:16,559
Speaker 16: And it's designed to help particularly black and brown and

2060
01:34:16,600 --> 01:34:20,559
Speaker 16: Indigenous people understand that we're not defective, right, that we

2061
01:34:20,640 --> 01:34:23,120
Speaker 16: live in the culture where we've been taught and have

2062
01:34:23,240 --> 01:34:27,160
Speaker 16: been uh connected to bodies that have been taught that

2063
01:34:27,240 --> 01:34:29,840
Speaker 16: we're defective. And one of the things I want to

2064
01:34:29,840 --> 01:34:32,120
Speaker 16: do with my books and with my music, with the

2065
01:34:32,200 --> 01:34:34,800
Speaker 16: music and everything is to say we're not defective. We

2066
01:34:34,840 --> 01:34:37,479
Speaker 16: don't need to start from that place. That's not that's

2067
01:34:37,520 --> 01:34:39,840
Speaker 16: not what's happening. So all right, that's right.

2068
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Speaker 2: Resma Minicum, we appreciate you for joining us.

2069
01:34:42,640 --> 01:34:44,640
Speaker 1: Make sure you follow on what's what's the instagram.

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01:34:44,760 --> 01:34:46,760
Speaker 16: Resme dot com if you go to resume dot com,

2071
01:34:46,880 --> 01:34:50,640
Speaker 16: r E s m a a dot com or resmomenicaem

2072
01:34:50,680 --> 01:34:51,440
Speaker 16: on Instagram.

2073
01:34:51,479 --> 01:34:53,360
Speaker 2: All right, it's the breakfast Club. Good morning on b

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01:34:53,439 --> 01:35:00,120
Speaker 2: ett of names or you gossip been on you chatty?

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01:35:00,000 --> 01:35:02,360
Speaker 1: Oh god, this is the rumor report.

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01:35:02,439 --> 01:35:03,800
Speaker 9: I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club. This

2077
01:35:03,840 --> 01:35:05,439
Speaker 9: were the tea spills right on.

2078
01:35:05,439 --> 01:35:06,479
Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club.

2079
01:35:07,880 --> 01:35:10,840
Speaker 2: And shout to DJ nih Le someone who's in the building.

2080
01:35:10,840 --> 01:35:12,599
Speaker 2: With us for a little bit, came through to stay

2081
01:35:12,640 --> 01:35:16,600
Speaker 2: with see it now, Kylie Jenna. She addresses the misconception

2082
01:35:16,720 --> 01:35:21,120
Speaker 2: that she's had so much surgery on her face. Now

2083
01:35:21,160 --> 01:35:26,360
Speaker 2: the twenty five year old shut up I know to

2084
01:35:26,360 --> 01:35:30,519
Speaker 2: talk about, she says. Listen, listen, shut up. She says,

2085
01:35:30,640 --> 01:35:33,280
Speaker 2: I think it's a big misconception about me is that

2086
01:35:33,320 --> 01:35:36,000
Speaker 2: I've had so much surgery on my face and that

2087
01:35:36,080 --> 01:35:40,000
Speaker 2: I was some insecure person and I really wasn't. Yes,

2088
01:35:40,280 --> 01:35:42,679
Speaker 2: I love full lips and wanted full lips, but growing

2089
01:35:42,760 --> 01:35:46,000
Speaker 2: up I always uh what she said. I was always

2090
01:35:46,000 --> 01:35:48,720
Speaker 2: the most confident person in the room. I was the

2091
01:35:48,760 --> 01:35:52,559
Speaker 2: girl performing for everyone. I had my one lip insecurity thing.

2092
01:35:52,640 --> 01:35:54,680
Speaker 2: So I got a lip filler, one lip, and it

2093
01:35:54,800 --> 01:35:57,880
Speaker 2: was the best thing I've ever want done. She says.

2094
01:35:57,960 --> 01:36:00,280
Speaker 2: I had my one lip insecurity thing.

2095
01:36:00,600 --> 01:36:01,599
Speaker 1: She got one lip, so.

2096
01:36:01,520 --> 01:36:03,840
Speaker 2: I got lip filler, and it was the best thing

2097
01:36:03,840 --> 01:36:05,880
Speaker 2: I've ever done. I don't regret it. But I always

2098
01:36:05,880 --> 01:36:06,800
Speaker 2: thought I was cute.

2099
01:36:06,800 --> 01:36:08,400
Speaker 1: There's people out here with one lip. I know white

2100
01:36:08,400 --> 01:36:10,200
Speaker 1: people got real thin lips, but one.

2101
01:36:10,040 --> 01:36:13,200
Speaker 2: Lip so that so she's that's all she's got was

2102
01:36:13,720 --> 01:36:14,280
Speaker 2: lip filler.

2103
01:36:15,360 --> 01:36:19,800
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't care, but Collie Jenner's business is people

2104
01:36:19,800 --> 01:36:21,519
Speaker 1: being in our business. So you know she's sharing her

2105
01:36:21,520 --> 01:36:22,640
Speaker 1: business for people to be in it.

2106
01:36:22,760 --> 01:36:24,880
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, but I thought she had it, Like, like,

2107
01:36:24,960 --> 01:36:26,760
Speaker 2: her whole face changed, didn't it.

2108
01:36:26,560 --> 01:36:27,720
Speaker 7: And it's a misconception.

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01:36:27,840 --> 01:36:32,760
Speaker 1: We watched it, watch your whole family. Also a kid.

2110
01:36:32,840 --> 01:36:34,200
Speaker 1: We've seen her since she was a kid. That's what

2111
01:36:34,200 --> 01:36:35,559
Speaker 1: happens when you grow up kids faces.

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Speaker 2: Are you gonna say with it?

2113
01:36:36,840 --> 01:36:39,000
Speaker 1: No, I'm sure she probably got something, but kids' faces

2114
01:36:39,040 --> 01:36:40,599
Speaker 1: do change. You haven't been watching her since she's been

2115
01:36:40,600 --> 01:36:43,040
Speaker 1: a child, too. Now you do realize that, right, that's

2116
01:36:43,040 --> 01:36:43,400
Speaker 1: just stuff.

2117
01:36:43,520 --> 01:36:44,599
Speaker 17: Nobody's denying that.

2118
01:36:44,920 --> 01:36:47,679
Speaker 2: But her whole face changed, brocul we saw a different person.

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01:36:47,800 --> 01:36:50,240
Speaker 2: You saw us, and she was like kid, right, Okay.

2120
01:36:50,400 --> 01:36:52,759
Speaker 2: Like I'm saying though, like people do go through puberty

2121
01:36:52,800 --> 01:36:54,640
Speaker 2: and things change. Like you literally saw hers since she

2122
01:36:54,720 --> 01:36:57,000
Speaker 2: was a child. And I'm not saying she didn't get

2123
01:36:57,040 --> 01:36:59,040
Speaker 2: no surgery. I'm just saying you did see her since

2124
01:36:59,040 --> 01:37:01,160
Speaker 2: she was a kid. He has probably lip filler coming

2125
01:37:01,160 --> 01:37:01,719
Speaker 2: out on compete.

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Speaker 17: Even got nothing to say to that, but maybe she

2127
01:37:05,000 --> 01:37:07,920
Speaker 17: I don't think necessarily the low self esteem has anything

2128
01:37:07,920 --> 01:37:11,040
Speaker 17: to do with the changes you wanted the changes because

2129
01:37:11,080 --> 01:37:14,320
Speaker 17: you like you're different. You know you wanted something more exaggerated.

2130
01:37:14,479 --> 01:37:16,240
Speaker 17: That don't got nothing to do with your low self esteem.

2131
01:37:16,280 --> 01:37:18,040
Speaker 1: Oh y'all do care about this story? I didn't know.

2132
01:37:18,800 --> 01:37:23,560
Speaker 2: No, just reporting first of all, you being if you

2133
01:37:23,560 --> 01:37:24,320
Speaker 2: had one lip too.

2134
01:37:26,000 --> 01:37:28,559
Speaker 1: No, I don't like how you so judgmental with that

2135
01:37:28,600 --> 01:37:31,400
Speaker 1: young lady. Just now, she got one lip, okay. If

2136
01:37:31,400 --> 01:37:33,120
Speaker 1: you got one lip, you want more than one lip.

2137
01:37:33,200 --> 01:37:36,280
Speaker 2: Okay. Now Glorrilla is being sued by a New Orleans

2138
01:37:36,320 --> 01:37:39,680
Speaker 2: rap group over the song Tomorrow. Now. They're saying she

2139
01:37:39,840 --> 01:37:42,479
Speaker 2: sampled the song Tomorrow and they didn't get clearance.

2140
01:37:42,520 --> 01:37:46,360
Speaker 1: So let's play Tomorrow first classic card and.

2141
01:37:48,400 --> 01:37:50,240
Speaker 2: You would think with school for character?

2142
01:37:50,800 --> 01:37:55,559
Speaker 1: All right, good as hell? Did they just sent my

2143
01:37:55,640 --> 01:37:57,160
Speaker 1: nigga five at taps? Now?

2144
01:37:57,200 --> 01:38:00,599
Speaker 2: This is this song. It's called Street of the west Bank,

2145
01:38:00,600 --> 01:38:04,680
Speaker 2: and it's saying that it was sampled without permission. I

2146
01:38:04,720 --> 01:38:09,040
Speaker 2: heard it the West Bank to something like days away back.

2147
01:38:09,160 --> 01:38:12,679
Speaker 1: What year was just recorded? Nineteen hundred and four. That's

2148
01:38:12,680 --> 01:38:16,719
Speaker 1: what I'm saying you to say, piano, hey man, somebody

2149
01:38:16,720 --> 01:38:18,479
Speaker 1: got some explaining the dude just the fair, you know,

2150
01:38:18,640 --> 01:38:19,719
Speaker 1: give him, give him their credit.

2151
01:38:19,720 --> 01:38:22,320
Speaker 2: That's all all right now. We reported this story earlier,

2152
01:38:22,320 --> 01:38:24,280
Speaker 2: and I want to say it in depth. So we

2153
01:38:24,520 --> 01:38:27,679
Speaker 2: reported earlier that Young Miami confirms that she split from Diddy.

2154
01:38:27,680 --> 01:38:28,559
Speaker 2: Giving my fan.

2155
01:38:30,000 --> 01:38:32,680
Speaker 1: Oh lord, you're telling this story again. You really got

2156
01:38:32,720 --> 01:38:35,000
Speaker 1: to get the fan together. The other side of the way,

2157
01:38:35,000 --> 01:38:37,640
Speaker 1: other way, by the way, unexcepted, by the way, o

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Speaker 1: the way, give me the goddamn give me a fan.

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01:38:41,160 --> 01:38:42,880
Speaker 1: Come on, man, act like you know, act like you're

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01:38:42,880 --> 01:38:46,320
Speaker 1: a damn lady for once. Okay, there you go.

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01:38:46,960 --> 01:38:50,880
Speaker 2: There, all right, all right, so Young Miami, let me

2162
01:38:50,960 --> 01:38:53,160
Speaker 2: do it right, Young Miami girl, she talks about her

2163
01:38:53,200 --> 01:38:56,519
Speaker 2: split from Diddy. She says, that's not my man. She

2164
01:38:56,600 --> 01:38:58,719
Speaker 2: put this comment out well, she was doing her enemy.

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01:38:58,800 --> 01:39:01,920
Speaker 2: She says, I want everything. I want to be an actor,

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01:39:02,640 --> 01:39:05,320
Speaker 2: I want to be an artist and an entrepreneur.

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01:39:05,360 --> 01:39:06,120
Speaker 1: I love it.

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01:39:06,120 --> 01:39:08,839
Speaker 2: It's just my work ethic that's going to determine my success.

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01:39:08,920 --> 01:39:10,280
Speaker 1: Get what you deserve, Young Miami.

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01:39:10,360 --> 01:39:12,800
Speaker 2: I never expected to be an artist. I will say

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01:39:12,840 --> 01:39:16,160
Speaker 2: that I'm an infested being famous. I always thought maybe

2172
01:39:16,200 --> 01:39:18,840
Speaker 2: i'd be somebody's baby mama or wife, girlfriend or something

2173
01:39:18,880 --> 01:39:22,280
Speaker 2: like that, or justin in foals. A lot of people

2174
01:39:22,280 --> 01:39:25,679
Speaker 2: don't understand it. And they say it takes me being

2175
01:39:25,760 --> 01:39:28,479
Speaker 2: like illiterate or not being able to talk properly. I

2176
01:39:28,880 --> 01:39:31,960
Speaker 2: always think about it. I'll be like, I'm gonna do it,

2177
01:39:32,160 --> 01:39:35,080
Speaker 2: but I never followed through. I can't disguise my voice

2178
01:39:35,080 --> 01:39:35,920
Speaker 2: even if I wanted to.

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01:39:36,040 --> 01:39:38,719
Speaker 1: You don't need to boo be you. You are an original.

2180
01:39:38,760 --> 01:39:40,640
Speaker 1: God made you who he made you to be or

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01:39:40,640 --> 01:39:42,760
Speaker 1: who she made you to be. Okay, you are one

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01:39:42,800 --> 01:39:45,240
Speaker 1: on one Young Miami, and being Young Miami has got

2183
01:39:45,280 --> 01:39:48,000
Speaker 1: you this far. Okay, you deserve it all because every

2184
01:39:48,080 --> 01:39:49,800
Speaker 1: day the sun don't shine. But that's just why we

2185
01:39:49,840 --> 01:39:51,120
Speaker 1: love the mark. That's right.

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01:39:51,200 --> 01:39:54,320
Speaker 2: And we're talking about Diddy. We still friends, were still

2187
01:39:54,360 --> 01:39:58,160
Speaker 2: good friends or we're single, and that's not my man.

2188
01:39:58,720 --> 01:40:00,519
Speaker 2: We had our own situation way shown.

2189
01:40:00,600 --> 01:40:01,040
Speaker 1: That's right.

2190
01:40:01,760 --> 01:40:03,479
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna put a title on it.

2191
01:40:03,600 --> 01:40:04,599
Speaker 1: He touched on my butt.

2192
01:40:04,920 --> 01:40:09,160
Speaker 2: We were effing with each other hard, hard, We were

2193
01:40:09,240 --> 01:40:11,760
Speaker 2: together every day. At one point, talk to him. He

2194
01:40:11,840 --> 01:40:12,439
Speaker 2: supported me.

2195
01:40:12,760 --> 01:40:15,439
Speaker 1: I supported him. There you go, I supported him. I

2196
01:40:15,479 --> 01:40:16,519
Speaker 1: love it. I love it.

2197
01:40:16,840 --> 01:40:19,240
Speaker 2: Let the Internet call it whatever they want to call.

2198
01:40:19,360 --> 01:40:19,800
Speaker 2: That's right.

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01:40:20,080 --> 01:40:22,920
Speaker 1: You one young Miami, you one, you won, you won

2200
01:40:23,000 --> 01:40:26,759
Speaker 1: dropping on the kuzban for young Miami. You go ahead, Kresha,

2201
01:40:27,720 --> 01:40:28,519
Speaker 1: you do you boo.

2202
01:40:28,960 --> 01:40:36,000
Speaker 2: And lastly, I got to talk about this girl the

2203
01:40:36,120 --> 01:40:42,280
Speaker 2: Daily Show. I heard about it the week of May fifteenth.

2204
01:40:42,400 --> 01:40:44,360
Speaker 2: I heard about this. Guess who hosted I heard about

2205
01:40:44,360 --> 01:40:46,760
Speaker 2: this Guess who hosted red? Can you guess who hosts it?

2206
01:40:47,280 --> 01:40:47,479
Speaker 1: Now?

2207
01:40:47,479 --> 01:40:48,040
Speaker 2: You can't guess?

2208
01:40:48,120 --> 01:40:48,240
Speaker 1: Nah?

2209
01:40:48,280 --> 01:40:49,360
Speaker 2: Look can you guess who hosts it?

2210
01:40:49,400 --> 01:40:49,920
Speaker 7: No idea?

2211
01:40:51,479 --> 01:40:53,080
Speaker 2: I'm talking about the girl with the big hips.

2212
01:40:53,640 --> 01:40:59,040
Speaker 1: Come on now, gig hips in here noticing things? Noticing it?

2213
01:40:59,400 --> 01:41:01,240
Speaker 2: What but the slim waist?

2214
01:41:01,640 --> 01:41:07,080
Speaker 1: Oh me more envy. Flattery will get you everywhere. Tell

2215
01:41:07,120 --> 01:41:09,120
Speaker 1: me Charlomagaye, drop a bomb for him.

2216
01:41:11,640 --> 01:41:12,440
Speaker 8: The girl.

2217
01:41:14,680 --> 01:41:17,000
Speaker 2: Charlamagne is gonna be hosting the show?

2218
01:41:17,360 --> 01:41:20,280
Speaker 1: Why you laughing? You don't know what I identify as

2219
01:41:20,400 --> 01:41:22,599
Speaker 1: you see. That's your problem. That's right. I don't respect people.

2220
01:41:22,680 --> 01:41:25,000
Speaker 1: That's twenty three. You don't know what I identify?

2221
01:41:25,040 --> 01:41:26,040
Speaker 7: Ask what do identify?

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01:41:26,120 --> 01:41:28,559
Speaker 1: You? You say it?

2223
01:41:29,360 --> 01:41:32,120
Speaker 2: Whatever I want, whatever he wants, I said, the girl

2224
01:41:32,160 --> 01:41:34,679
Speaker 2: with the big hips and slip, the big thick slip.

2225
01:41:34,720 --> 01:41:35,200
Speaker 1: What have you heard?

2226
01:41:35,240 --> 01:41:35,719
Speaker 16: What I said?

2227
01:41:36,000 --> 01:41:38,600
Speaker 2: The week of May fifteenth, Charlemagne to God, drop a

2228
01:41:38,640 --> 01:41:39,320
Speaker 2: bomb for him?

2229
01:41:39,400 --> 01:41:41,800
Speaker 1: Yess I am looking forward to see who I piss

2230
01:41:41,840 --> 01:41:44,479
Speaker 1: off that week when I host the Daily Show, I

2231
01:41:44,520 --> 01:41:46,880
Speaker 1: need all listeners of the Breakfast Club and brilliant idiots

2232
01:41:46,920 --> 01:41:48,840
Speaker 1: are in the NYC area to pull up and get

2233
01:41:48,880 --> 01:41:51,040
Speaker 1: tickets to the Daily Show for that week. If you

2234
01:41:51,120 --> 01:41:52,880
Speaker 1: plan on watching me to tell me I suck. I

2235
01:41:52,920 --> 01:41:53,800
Speaker 1: appreciate that too.

2236
01:41:54,040 --> 01:41:56,639
Speaker 2: That's right, So you can tune in again the week

2237
01:41:56,680 --> 01:41:59,719
Speaker 2: of May fifteenth and a week airs eleven pm Eastern

2238
01:41:59,760 --> 01:42:02,400
Speaker 2: Time on Comedy Central. So again, drop a bomb for

2239
01:42:02,479 --> 01:42:06,439
Speaker 2: Charlamagne the God and all one lit people are welcome

2240
01:42:06,560 --> 01:42:09,960
Speaker 2: to shut up, shut up? All right, Well that is

2241
01:42:10,040 --> 01:42:12,200
Speaker 2: your rumor report. Now when we come back, we got

2242
01:42:12,240 --> 01:42:13,120
Speaker 2: the people's choice mixing.

2243
01:42:13,200 --> 01:42:16,160
Speaker 5: Let's go wake that ass up Earth in the morning.

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01:42:16,479 --> 01:42:17,320
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club