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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at adjocuslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Jade is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Ty.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to help her out see if we

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Speaker 2: can get him on the phone and find out why

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting and maybe get her another date. But first

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Speaker 2: let's find out about the date.

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Speaker 3: Jade. Hello, Hey, Jade, how long has it been since

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Speaker 3: you heard from Ty?

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Speaker 1: It's been four days, which might not sound like a

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Speaker 1: lot to some people, but that's a lot for me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, because you've just never gone four days without hearing

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Speaker 4: from somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like people would just physically get back

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Speaker 1: to me pretty quickly, so I'm feeling really insecure about it.

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Speaker 4: How many times have you tried to reach out to

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Speaker 4: him in the four days? Did you try it all?

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Speaker 1: Well? No, because when we left off, he said he

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Speaker 1: would call me, so I felt like it might feel

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Speaker 1: desperate to text again.

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Speaker 3: All right, So tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 5: Then.

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Speaker 1: The date was really awesome. We actually met wild back

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Speaker 1: like almost probably almost ten years ago through mutual friends,

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Speaker 1: and I thought he was really cute. But like nothing

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Speaker 1: really went down at the time, but we recently matched

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Speaker 1: on hinge and we did like a cute little walk

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Speaker 1: date and we had some coffee and it just felt

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Speaker 1: really natural walk.

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Speaker 3: It's so nice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really sweet and cozy, and I just

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Speaker 1: felt like I'd known him for a long time, which

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Speaker 1: I guess I do, but like I felt a deeper connection,

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Speaker 1: you know, and we even like extended the date spontaneously,

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Speaker 1: which I feel like is always a good mutual sign.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: We went out to like a sports bar. We got

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Speaker 1: some snacks and stuff. She did actually have to like

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Speaker 1: dash because he has a daughter and she had texted

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Speaker 1: or maybe the Babylon had texted about like the daughter

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Speaker 1: being sick, so he did have to dash, which I

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Speaker 1: didn't mind. Totally get the responsibility of being a parent.

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Speaker 1: But after that, you know, I wanted him to know

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Speaker 1: that I'd really had a really awesome time and felt

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Speaker 1: so comfortable with him, and I was interested in it

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Speaker 1: going somewhere. He texted me, you know, thanking me for

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Speaker 1: my understanding, and I was like, yeah, no problem. I

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Speaker 1: hope your daughter feels better soon. I want to do

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Speaker 1: this again. And he was like.

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Speaker 5: Cool, I'll call you.

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Speaker 1: And that's kind of where it's been for the last

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Speaker 1: four days.

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Speaker 4: So he studied call and he didn't and maybe things

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Speaker 4: got wrapped up with this kid.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, maybe. I just feel like call is really specific,

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Speaker 1: like intention to follow up, And so I'm definitely freaking

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Speaker 1: out a little bit.

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Speaker 4: Did anything happen on the date, like, other than that call?

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Speaker 4: Was there any awkward moments? Was anything said that could

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Speaker 4: have made things a little bit weirder?

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Speaker 6: Like, you know, was there any flags?

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Speaker 1: I don't think there were any flags. I mean again,

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Speaker 1: like he did be really abruptly and I ended up

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Speaker 1: paying the check, but again I totally didn't mind. It

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Speaker 1: seemed like a genuine emergency.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So that's not like he goes out and he's like, Okay, whoops,

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Speaker 4: my kid's sick, thanks for dinner.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I would be the worst scam of all time.

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Speaker 3: But what if it is also scam by?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Do we know for sure?

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Speaker 1: He's the worst thing I've had happen on a date.

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Speaker 6: So, but do we know for sure that he's a dad?

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure, just because like we have mutual friends

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Speaker 1: and whatnot, and so I've heard about the child.

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Speaker 3: Before the date. So, okay, I'm pretty sure it's a real.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is there any I mean, anything else that you

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Speaker 2: can think of that might be a reason that he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean maybe if he just like changed his mind

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Speaker 1: and you or maybe I'm just like totally crazy and

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Speaker 1: really thought it went well and he was like, oh

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Speaker 1: my God, get me out of here, and he's trying

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Speaker 1: to be like polite about it. I feel like sometimes

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Speaker 1: people think it's nicer to ghost, which I do.

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Speaker 3: Not agree with.

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Speaker 2: But okay, well, we'll try to figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Play a song come back, and then call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why is ghosting you, and

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Speaker 2: maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 3: If you still want one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, we'll play a song, come back,

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Speaker 2: and get your first Day follow up next if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us for today's First Day follow up. Jade

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a

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Speaker 2: dude named Ty. We're about to call him see if

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Speaker 2: he'll tell us why he's ghosting and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: another date. Before we do that, though, Jade, why don't

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Speaker 2: you refresh everybody's memory about your date with Ty?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Tyanashually met a while ago, never really got together. We

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Speaker 1: matched on pinge, went on a cute walk and even

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Speaker 1: like chose to extend the date for lunch. He had

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Speaker 1: to run because his.

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Speaker 5: Daughter was fick, which was no big deal for.

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Speaker 1: Me, but we lost off with him planning to call me,

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Speaker 1: and now it's been four days, so I'm just wondering

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Speaker 1: if maybe something changed his mind or Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Well and you did end up paying for the dates,

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Speaker 4: so we need to make sure it's not a scam just.

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Speaker 3: To get a free date. You ready for us to

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Speaker 3: call him? Okay? Here we go. Hello, Hi, Man, speak

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Speaker 3: to Tie Please, this is speaking Ty. What's up?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 3: How are you? This is Jewbel from a radio show

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Speaker 3: called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and the whole show is here. My name is Nina,

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Speaker 6: Hi and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: How are you say?

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Speaker 1: There?

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Speaker 5: I'm doing pretty good? Did I win something?

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Speaker 3: Not sure yet? Do you ever listen to the show?

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Speaker 5: I have a couple of times.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever heard of first date follow up?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: I haven't caught it.

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Speaker 2: A first day follow up is a segment with you

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Speaker 2: on the show where if you go out with someone

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Speaker 2: and then you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So you are currently ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 2: Do you know who that is?

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Speaker 5: My ghosting anyone?

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Speaker 3: No, I haven't.

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Speaker 5: I can't think I'm ghosting anybody right now.

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Speaker 6: Have you gone in any dates recently?

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Speaker 5: I went on a date just like a couple of

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Speaker 5: days ago with a girl that I actually kind of

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Speaker 5: really enjoyed. But I think it would be way too

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Speaker 5: soon for her to even think.

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Speaker 3: I guess here have you messaged back to her?

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Speaker 5: I'm actually a dad and I got a kid that's

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Speaker 5: been sick. She knows that my kid was sick because

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Speaker 5: I had to leave the day and we spoke the

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Speaker 5: following day. I thought, I'm going to call her back.

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Speaker 5: But my kids not in the best condition. My baby

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Speaker 5: mama is also sick. I'm taking care of my kid

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Speaker 5: and working from home, and you know, just treading water.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, super dad, we're talking about Jade. Is that

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Speaker 3: who you're talking about?

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Speaker 5: Wait? Is it Jade? Because I would not want to

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Speaker 5: have left her feeling like that, because I did have

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Speaker 5: a great time with her, and I definitely do want

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Speaker 5: to see her. I've just haven't been able to come

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Speaker 6: Wow, Shade probably would like to know that.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Jade's on the phone and has been listening.

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Speaker 5: Hi A wow, Hey Jad, Hi, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Not the greatest, but okay?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 5: Oh, you know, taking care of a sick kid, trying

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Speaker 5: to pe people, work, just getting buy right now?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't know what happened, so I kind of

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Speaker 1: just thought maybe you weren't that into me and didn't

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Speaker 5: Oh no, Hun, I'm just kind of in a unique

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Speaker 5: place where, you know, I really had an amazing time

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Speaker 5: and I actually would love to see you again. It's

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Speaker 5: just I got a kid and I got to make

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Speaker 5: sure she's okay, and the mom's also sick, so she's

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Speaker 5: been with me since that date, and that's the reason

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Speaker 5: that you haven't heard.

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Speaker 3: Back from with you.

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Speaker 5: No, my daughter's taking care of the kid. We're just

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Speaker 5: good copared, so we're friends, So I don't mind getting

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Speaker 5: some extra time with my daughter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess when you said i'll call you, I

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Speaker 1: just kind of thought you would call me sooner. And

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Speaker 1: since I didn't know what was going on, I definitely

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Speaker 1: was wondering if maybe, like yeah, you change your mind

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Speaker 1: or like things aren't wrapped up with your daughter's mother,

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Speaker 1: and it.

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Speaker 3: Was totally fine.

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Speaker 1: I just would rather know the truth than like being

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Speaker 5: I'm so sorry that you felt that way, babe. That

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Speaker 5: was not my intension at all. It's just I've just

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Speaker 5: been really just busy with my daughter and ganging air well,

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Speaker 5: and the plan wants to give you a fall because

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Speaker 5: you know, I think it's probably just a cold, and yeah,

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Speaker 5: it's probably just gonna be a couple of days and

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Speaker 5: then you can have my full attention. That's kind of

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Speaker 5: where I wanted to be, was more available. I didn't

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Speaker 5: want to schedule another day than then have to bail

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Speaker 5: last minute, because I want to be rep your time.

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Speaker 6: Oh that's sweet, boring, Okay, Oh, I think it's sweet.

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Speaker 6: You know why I think this is sweet.

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Speaker 4: I think it's no. I think that Jade's feelings are

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Speaker 4: super valid. I know four days doesn't seem like a

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Speaker 4: long time, but if something goes really good, you can't

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Speaker 4: help but question things about yourself. So, and especially if

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Speaker 4: you're dealing with somebody with kids, like, can I ask

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Speaker 4: you if it's about me? Or is this about you

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Speaker 4: because I kind of understand, but I can't help but

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Speaker 4: feeling a little bit insecure, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 6: So this communication is actually really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I totally get that, and I'm now

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Speaker 1: like a little embarrassed that I'm doing in picture.

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Speaker 6: I think it's normal.

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Speaker 3: Ty, would you like to go on another day with Jade?

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Speaker 3: Will pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I would love to see you day great.

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Speaker 6: Okay, all right, doctor ono. So then you can say

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Speaker 6: I'm just kidding, that's not right. You have to go

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Speaker 6: to your kid always.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love to see you again. I guess

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Speaker 1: I just want to make like one hundred one thousand,

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Speaker 1: one million percent shirt. Things with you and your daughter's

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Speaker 1: mother are like totally over, no chance you're moving on.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you can rest a shirt on that fact.

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Speaker 5: We're pretty much just, you know, platonic friends. We're good

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Speaker 5: co parents, but there's definitely not a spark like the

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Speaker 5: one that I feel like you. She's super hot, but

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Speaker 5: we're honestly just.

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Speaker 2: From Okay, all right, Well, congratulations Jade, you got another date.

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Speaker 6: Honesty is really happening.

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Speaker 3: Jubile's first date follow up