WEBVTT - Ep189: Sexplanations Feat Zachary Zane 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:08.119 Welcome guys to yeah, another episode of Horrible Decisions. I'm 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:13.880 your Grandmandy be aka Pantistan aka bitch everybody, it's again 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.720 for my husband. I mean pleasing here. I blink twice. 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:21.640 I blinked three times. Nobody helped. Oh my god. Well, guys, 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:25.000 I'm excited we are bringing you another episode of Horrible Decisions, 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:27.680 and this one I am joined by someone that I 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:30.560 met last year. But also we just ran back into 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:34.120 each other. So let me give you a good, warm welcome. Guys. 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:37.560 Today we have one of maybe are one of five 0:00:37.720 --> 0:00:41.839 white people who have joined us on here so occasions 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:46.960 shout out to our On one hand, I feel like 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:50.199 we were listen my friend the Arthur. The other the 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:52.600 girl who wrote that book that I liked, right, the 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:57.080 which bitch right, the Herpes girl. Damn, that's up. I mean, 0:00:57.160 --> 0:01:03.240 but she she talks about it openly self. She at 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:07.200 Lex but that was Patreon, Alex Demo, Alex Demo, but 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:11.000 that was who Lena Kay, the porn start. That's right. 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:16.479 So you're number six. We're almost getting there. But guys, 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.480 who we are joining with today is Zachary Zane. He 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:24.480 is a sex advice columnist at men's health and also 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:29.199 a relationship advice columnists at Queer Majority UM. And he's 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:33.040 also very active in the space here in New York. 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:37.080 And I say that because we just ran into each 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:41.760 other last week. Do tell us the team a very 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:45.680 fine man. I can't say that, So tell us what 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.760 they were doing. We want to know did you see this? 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:52.360 Was there come swapping? How nasty you can share? I 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:55.360 don't care. Like, what's funny? Is we all ranted to 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.040 each other? So of course is B y O B 0:01:57.160 --> 0:01:59.520 shout out to Daniel sat we were at? Was there 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:02.040 a certain was it a a theme night? No? It 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.440 was kind of just like Daniel hit me up, was like, hey, 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:07.000 so we have a few people coming by tonight if 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:09.519 you want to come by. And me and um my 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.519 boyfriend had did the last day kind of at the 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:14.639 nude beach together. So literally we were at the nude 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:16.519 beach all day that day. Let me go ahead and 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:20.360 tell you before we got uh. So after Labor Day weekend, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.520 it just like there's no lifeguards, people can bring their dogs. 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:25.679 And also just the temperature drops in New York. No 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:26.919 one wants to be at a nude beach with a 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.000 fucking hoodie on, you know what I mean. So I'm 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:32.519 fucking exhausted. We spent like eight hours there. So we 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:34.800 get to the house, we eat, he puts on the game. 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:36.680 I'm like, oh, I know what I'm gonna do because 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.680 I knew he wanted to go to that. I was exhausted, 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.600 so I went and put on my little teddy. When 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:45.359 it took, the shower came out. We're watching the game 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.160 on TV. So I'm like, oh, I got my little 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:51.079 my little outfit on. So I started sucking his dick. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.680 I'm like, oh, perfect. He's like, all right, baby, okay, dress, 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:57.679 We're gonna go to the Sexton. He knew I was 0:02:57.760 --> 0:02:59.480 trying to get him into the room so we could 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.280 just fucking to sleep. He was like, I just know 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.080 we were going to go in the room. You were 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:04.560 just we were gonna go to sleep, and I like 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:06.919 wanted to go out. So we go out um to 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.680 the sex club, and we didn't know what to expect. 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.760 This was our second time there. He actually really enjoys it, um, 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.120 and so he was like, you know, we'll just go 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:18.640 with the flow. So a beautiful girl, because you were 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.440 also at someone very beautiful, So a beautiful girl walks 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.839 up to me and it's like, what's your stage name? 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:25.480 And I'm just like, you know, to me, that's a tripper. 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:34.480 I'm like, I like my name Mandy coming to stay, 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:36.840 you know what I mean? Stage name is a tripper 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:42.120 name Bushing. So she's like she's like, no, it's like 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.640 full court and I was like, oh yeah, yeah yeah. 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.200 And then she's like, see, babe, you didn't have to 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.560 be be oh. So she didn't seem like I was 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:51.240 being so shine, Like is that Mandy? Do you know 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.000 who is? Because I didn't see you with the new hair. 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:56.080 Yeah you know, I told you niggas don't recognize you. 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.200 But no. The last time um I had met you. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:03.600 We actually were a part of a pro sex panel 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:06.480 together last year in a s W and I had 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.160 the long bundles in, so I get it. I'm also 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:12.120 naked at this point, I believe where everyone's naked, so 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:20.640 we're like, hey, this same so so I hate you. 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:24.240 So we're literally drinking at the bar um and we 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:27.279 do shots and everyone goes goes back to their way. 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.320 So I actually wanted to start the episode off this 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.200 way specifically because I wanted to talk about how crazy 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.640 people think I am period that I'm in a sex 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.920 club during a pandemic. Yeah. I this is probably the 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:43.520 first time I've spoken about it, just for the sake 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:45.880 of like not necessarily that I was hiding it. But 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:47.880 I definitely know that some people are like, oh, you 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.520 should absolutely not be doing this. It's being responsible, You're 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.960 making crazy. And the way I mean I just started going, 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.440 it's like I'm going every week, but I just not going. 0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:00.560 I've lived there now, by the way, I'm actually you 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:04.280 didn't know that I woke up monthly. I'm just the 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:05.880 guy in the gim suit who cleans up all the 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:11.120 condoms afterwards. Um. But no, I like I the second 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:14.960 time I went since it's like and it's very different, 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:16.680 I think, than what people are expecting. Right. It's like 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:18.279 when I used to go to s W there would 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:20.760 be a hundred people people fucking all over the players. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:25.720 It's crazy versus now it's like like twelve of us. No, 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:28.440 but we do get our temperature taken at the door. Um, 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:30.560 And there is we love to see someone with a 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:33.200 mask on. There is hand sanitizer, and of course he 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.960 has a bathroom. There's a shower if you if you 0:05:35.040 --> 0:05:37.000 feel like you want to get all the way clean first. 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:43.120 I guess that's usually Daniel. Daniel be like here's a ball. 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:44.559 I'm like, am I gonna do from the like fifty 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:46.880 people in the bathroom? No, dude, Like we're not having 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:50.680 sex right, Like there was this girl I wanted to 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:52.880 that was there, and then like she went to the 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:54.760 bathroom for a second and she came out and she 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:57.160 was like, should baby wife, I'll never forget. Oh, you 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.840 can come go ahead right in. We didn't go to 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:03.360 bath And I'm like, well now, But you know, it's 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:06.000 funny because I've actually said I feel safer at the 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:08.320 sex club than I did Home Goods. Home Goods allows 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.640 a hundred and twenty eight motherfucker's in there at any 0:06:10.680 --> 0:06:12.720 given time. Literally you go there, and yet there was 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:16.200 maybe fifteen maybe fifteen people, and at least I'm going 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:18.080 now with the people that I am seeing or dating 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.200 already looking up, so I'm not going and like fucking 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.400 random people. Okay, I did that the first time, don't know, 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.000 but like I mean, like maybe I've done that, but 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.480 like I'm gonna say no, um, yeah, it's different. I 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:30.560 wouldn't have done this, you know, four months ago three 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:34.160 months ago, like numbers have been super low consistently and 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.039 things started to like raise back up again. I wouldn't 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:38.479 be doing this as if I was in Los Angeles 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:40.400 right now where numbers are super high. It's just like 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:42.280 you gotta look at the numbers. You gotta look at 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:44.440 your odds. I'm doing as safely as possible, and like, 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.040 so let's talk about it. How right now do you 0:06:47.200 --> 0:06:49.920 have safe sex during COVID or at a sex club? 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.520 What does safe sex look like right now? Because we 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:54.800 really said, ain't nobody wear a mask? While we now 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.200 it's actually did that yesterday for the first time. But 0:06:57.240 --> 0:07:00.480 I'll tell you that's a different story's story. But actually 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.800 literally just wrote an article about this, Like I really 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:06.600 was called what constitutes save sex? Because you ask certain people, 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.480 answer is nothing Like it is whatever you want it 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:12.600 to be and whatever your partners agree upon. Um, but 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:14.720 you have people I interviewed someone who would suck like 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:16.720 thirty different people are like I still think I'm having 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:18.720 say sex. These are partners I know, these are people 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:21.080 that are getting COVID tested regularly. These are people part 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.960 of the polyamorous sex positive community. That's what she said. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:26.880 That's not what I would say, and you have certain 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.000 people are like, but that's what she feels as safe. 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:32.200 It's it's that's what she feels as safe. And as 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.160 long as you have consenting partners. The only thing that's 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:38.000 different about this, right because like when people often compared 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.160 to HIV, it's like HIV, you of a consenting partner, 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.200 it's between you and them. The idea with this is like, 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:44.120 if you have it, you could potentially spread it to 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.120 someone at the grocery store or something. So that's the 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:49.400 fear that you can give it to other people. But 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.080 I think we're kind of realizing and I know there's 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:54.200 like new data and information at all the time, but 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.320 it's like if you wear a mask and someone else 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.400 wears a mask and you're six ft apart, or you're 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:00.080 at the grocery store and you're not in anyone like 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.560 face her business, and you're both wearing masks, like you're 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:04.720 not going to spread it, Like if you're being smart 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:06.800 and good about it and doing the precautions, you're not. 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:09.720 So I see it more as being between you and 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:11.320 your partners and what they can send to and what 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.160 they're knowledgeable about. As long as you're doing ship right correctly, 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:15.760 if you're walking out without a mask, you're going to 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.000 the grocery store and coughing on ship Like no, if 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:22.840 you're like be smart, be safe, But otherwise it's between 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.840 whatever you and your partners feel comfortable with. So Liz Goldwyn, 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:27.200 I don't know if you know who she is. She 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:32.599 was one of our other white people that's right, is 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:36.400 not bitch. So she came during COVID and was basically like, 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:37.800 I'm not seeing a lot of people, but we had 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:40.280 both just got a PCR test and she was like, 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.440 I feel safe. I want to see you. And Liz 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:44.360 was telling me that she feels like we have so 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.120 much to learn from the kink and b d s 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:49.040 M community about safety with sex. She's like, I think 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.520 that people need to be consulting with them and how 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:54.040 they use precautions. Because she was like, nobody else has 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.599 safer sex than people that are into and it was 0:08:57.640 --> 0:08:59.800 a great point and she's like, and everyone's leaving them out. 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:01.959 They eve been the one who've been using masks, getting 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:04.480 tested regularly, asking for space. Are they allowed to touch 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:07.120 each other? Who else was doing that? Ship? Nobody in 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:09.440 the same with the poly community to like they really 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:11.680 have this down in terms of they've always been thinking 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:16.400 about how this affects my boyfriend's wife's girlfriend's husband. So 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:18.920 you've always been taking into account multiple people, and like 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.280 even me, like I never let my married niggas sucked 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:22.959 me wrong, you know what I mean? I was like, 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:26.600 we got to use condom the irony. What I don't 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.280 know if you're saying that you don't know what you have, No, 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:30.719 it's not that I don't know what I have, but 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:35.000 protect their wine. Yeah, I mean that's what I was. 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:36.839 I've been thinking with the wife in mine, I don't 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.920 want to ruin your marriage. I don't need you bringing 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:41.480 nothing back. And I do have And at the time, 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.679 I was having casual sex not only with married men, 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:47.640 but seven and my other lovers. So to me, like, yes, 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.319 as someone who was having multiple partners, That's why I 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.840 was such a condom stickler. Now reminding me of people 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.680 who are like, I can't do that with you because 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.079 you know you live at home with your mom. You 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:00.320 know what I mean, she could get COVID. Man, I'm 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:05.880 worried about you. Same thing. I mean, you know I 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:08.960 get that too. I tend to be much more careful 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:12.040 and like use condoms with women as opposed to men. 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:13.719 I think a lot of it just comes down to 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.320 the fact, like when you're having unprotected sex with men 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.880 on grinder all the fucking time, like they're used to 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:22.360 getting gnera in clamydia, you text like like I don't 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.880 want to perpetuate this, like stereotypes like gay men are 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:26.559 like slutty and doing the ship. But in New York, 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:28.800 every game man I know gets gonoree and clamydia once 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.760 a year. If you're like sexually active, it is just 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:34.520 a very common No, I mean, because I kind of 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:36.679 just thought this was in the community that I know. 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:39.920 Oh no, it's just it's fine. Maybe it's that they 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:41.679 go to P Town. If you guys don't know what 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:46.280 P Town is, Providence Town is in Rhode Island, Massachusetts. That, yeah, 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:51.920 I'm thinking of probably Providence, Rhode Island. Province Town is 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.199 on the Cave of Massachusetts. The town is like a 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:56.080 place where the gays, much like a fire island if 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:57.920 you've ever heard of it, just come together to fund 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:00.760 each other. Actually, Vinnie was telling me Benny's a friend 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:02.640 of the show in our assistant. He was telling me 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:08.959 how oh my god, there's this doc Dick. It's on Google. 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:15.600 Bit is what is about? But are we to put 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.160 this out there? You know a lot of people listen 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:24.840 to It's that one to one commercial commercial provin It's 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.600 been there for like decades. It is a known cruising 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:31.400 hot ST's underneath the boat slip. I'll let you go. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:36.640 Five star reviews and one one star reviews on Google. 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:42.360 My name okay, Daniel says, I only visit here when 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:44.800 showing to a curious p town guest, although I did 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.000 find a twenty dollar billed in the stand. Please the 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:51.200 sign open to all lawful purposes right, And they've got 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:54.600 a picture of Daniel on there that he took. 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I was like let me see that fine, 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:24.040 And I couldn't believe the dick doc was on Google. 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:28.640 I saw a guy I like, I've definitely gone, not 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.560 during COVID, but I've definitely gone and like fucked people there. 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.040 And I remember seeing this guy called this like older daddy, 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:36.920 maybe in the sixties. Like I don't know how long 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.240 he was there, but I see him like finish, get up, 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:41.280 go to like the ocean, and I just see him 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:46.840 like ship out like so much semen like literally like bads. 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:48.400 And I was there like, yeah, it's time for me 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:51.480 to go. Yeah, I think I think I should leave now. 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:53.480 But I remember just saying what you saw the semen 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:57.080 like when you like shoot out, see like you I mean, 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:04.719 maybe not, it's like this like farting, queeping. You just 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.079 feel like your bootle is loose. I was like, what 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.400 how many loads did you just take? Not that I 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:12.920 am sex shaming at all, We've all taken our fair amount, flad. 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.319 I've just never seen that happen. And I was just like, 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:18.560 was it was? It was just an image that's forever 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:21.600 burned in my head. I'm drinking something like that has 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:24.679 a consistency of it's oh wait, let me read you 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:27.160 at Mandy. We could get into renewed ship, but I 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.080 just want to know stuffing to post the real quick 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.960 on the Dick Doc, Come one, Come all, the most 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:38.760 notorious game like they should today, we embark on an 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:41.439 adventure to one of the most notorious gay cruising spots 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:44.280 in the world. It's an open secret for years. Gay 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:46.720 bye and curious men come here to uncover their quote 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.640 unquote darkness. Much like a bath house. It's often anonymous 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.880 glances and body fluids or exchange more than names and formalities. 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.640 And yet the sex can be passionate, wild, ecstatic, even 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.719 oddly intimate. Under the Dick Doc. There's a magic that 0:13:59.800 --> 0:14:03.360 happ happens involved in our history. I sat down with 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:06.600 Brad Tantra Code from North Carolina to talk about how 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.280 the Dick Doc can really help men get into the 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:11.720 magic of sex and when they engaged, and it goes 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.400 into so many stories of people at the Dick Doc 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.080 wasn't magical for you, Za, This is such like honestly 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.640 an exploitative, like funked up peace to write that, like 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:21.440 like like why are we writing about Like, oh, there's 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:24.000 a subset of cruising culture and let's just expose this 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:28.200 to the rest of the world. We're telling you yeah, 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:30.680 and I go lie, we damn near probably been bigger 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:37.080 than an article written nobody read the damn I do. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:43.760 Have you Have you seen women at the Dick Doc? No, okay, no, no, 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:45.320 I don't know. There was like a hag was like 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.160 I want to come. You know what I'm saying. Oh no, 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:50.120 it's not. It's like the guy also described as man, 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.440 it's like a dark, seedy cruising area and like the 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.120 eighties and nineties you also see like syringes and ships, 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:57.360 you know what I mean. They have to go underneath. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:14:59.480 The guys at the Boat Slip would have to go 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:01.560 every morning and clean up like the drugs and the 0:15:01.560 --> 0:15:05.360 ship in the past paid at the Dick Doctor. Some 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:08.120 people like like, you know, no, So all it is 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.960 is like the boat Slip, which is above it is 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.720 like this like barpool open space. And then just the 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.960 way it's set up is there is this underneath area 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:20.240 that is not It's not like an official place that 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.040 you signed into that you walk into. Just underneath it 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.880 is a dark, sandy area and motherfucker's just no they 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:30.360 could go there and get they handled exactly or poked 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:34.400 or sucks or whatever it is. All it is there. Well, 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:36.520 I want to go ahead and get into our vanilla ship. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:40.040 Our vanilla ship does come from Daily Star. Um. And 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.600 because we have a man with us today, I did 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:46.400 want to ask you as well, UM in guessing because 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:49.840 men reveal the three words that they love to hear 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:54.040 during sex. Now it's big. Now we've had, we've had, 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:59.120 we've had a conversation regarding um dirty talk in the bedroom. 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:04.080 But these are actually, um three terms that or three 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:07.680 words that men really enjoy hearing during sex. So before 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.440 I read the top three, I would like for you 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:15.520 to guess maybe two three word phrases that you enjoy 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.720 hearing during sex. Wait, so they're like they're literally three words. Uh, 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:25.400 fuck me, daddy, harder me, daddy, daddy, fuck me harder, 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:29.440 give me one more. It's your pussy. Oh okay, I 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:32.640 still think I still think it's so big? Is it? Oh? 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.960 I tell everybody it's there pussy. Okay, So are you 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.960 all ready? Are you all ready to find out? So 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:41.320 for the ladies listening, these are the top three phrases 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:45.160 that men loved to hear while they are fucking the 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.720 dog shit out of you or damn we just talked 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.760 about I just came, you know what I mean. So 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:57.160 we'll start the start on the phrase that is at 0:16:57.200 --> 0:17:02.200 the very bottom. Okay, I love you? Oh wait, I 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:06.960 thought I'm thirteen percent of men want to hear I 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:12.760 love you while they're fucking you never. I mean, we've 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:15.880 been married for fifteen years. Then you can say, maybe 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:18.200 you could say that. So we'll go to number three 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:22.440 at seventeen percent, as Wheezy's guests, You're so big. That 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:27.120 was seventeen percent. At six percent, it was that feels 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:30.399 good sense? And then are you all ready for the 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:33.800 one that had percent of the vote. I'm thinking to Daddy, 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:39.919 please don't stop, so please don't please don't stop. Um. 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.320 I think that that makes sense because it lets your 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:44.920 partner know that whatever he is doing is right and 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:48.920 making in these rooms like Cosmopolitan normally does these things 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.680 do they get men at a round table and they're like, 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.040 here we are. I do want to know how these 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:59.680 surveys aren't suck me, Daddy? Is it be I'm so 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:07.040 try my ass? Or is it d it's so big? Well, 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:09.520 because one thing that I've been saying is it doesn't 0:18:09.600 --> 0:18:12.879 fit and that's one thing that I know. He actually 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:15.639 said he likes to here because he hates that I 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:19.240 can take the dildoes so like I take certain dialdos 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:21.600 better than others. But when he gets to King Noir, 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.200 like he tried to put King Noir's dick in my 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.240 ass and I was like, no, it ain't been. He's like, 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:28.440 I want to hear you say that about money, and 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:30.159 I was like, well, all right, well maybe you need 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:32.240 to give a break. Let me tell you break. I 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:34.480 said some ship one time. But I was so high 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:35.880 when I said this ship, and I'll just be saying 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.680 dumb ship. I let's hear yo high ship, you say 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:40.520 dar and say. I was like he was trying to 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:43.480 suck me in. It was like I can't remember what 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:45.800 was going on, but like it's not that it wasn't fitting. 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:48.919 Maybe I wasn't ready for dick. I was like, oh 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:51.040 my god, it doesn't fit, but I'm gonna make room. 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:54.480 That's cute, but we know, we know we like saying 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:57.920 paragraphs though in the middle of like she literally has 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:02.600 a whole like go ahead and do she does her Wow, 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:05.200 look at that glorious cock you're putting in my pussy today, 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:08.399 thank you so much for stopping by the Lower east Side. 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:13.760 So we're gonna go ahead now and get into UM. 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:16.600 I decided to add Hope Facts to this episode. I 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:20.000 love it. This one is actually very interesting and I 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:22.639 felt it recently, so I was like, oh, maybe this 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:25.520 is why I'm coming so much. So Hope Facts for 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:28.040 those of you who are maybe listening for the first time, UM, 0:19:28.119 --> 0:19:30.280 and shout out to maybe the white people you're bringing over. 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:34.080 Our Hope Fact segment is just facts about sex that 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:37.000 maybe you didn't know. This actually says that a strong 0:19:37.160 --> 0:19:45.400 sense of smell makes you more orgasmic. Did we did you? So? Actually, 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:48.400 it's saying that it's not even about like smelling lavender 0:19:48.560 --> 0:19:51.960 or candles. It's actually the smell of vaginal fluids and 0:19:52.440 --> 0:19:56.720 and sweat that can make your sexual experience more enhanced. 0:19:57.080 --> 0:19:59.480 It says that there is a positive correlation between a 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:03.080 heightened sense of smell and having more pleasurable sex, as 0:20:03.119 --> 0:20:05.320 well as more frequent organ How the guy used to 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.840 that did not like me to shower before sex, And 0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:10.680 I think there's a difference between like your natural musk 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:12.600 and odor and b oh, and I think what they're 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:17.960 going to say it's like that's your natural smell versus 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:20.040 just like I think if you just like but then 0:20:20.080 --> 0:20:22.200 some people obviously just like sweaty and if you smell 0:20:22.240 --> 0:20:24.800 like that in a live show, like something like what 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:28.359 does body smell of my pussy? When I can smell 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:30.000 my pussy, like I think it's not I'm not not 0:20:30.119 --> 0:20:32.400 talking about like when I'm even equal. I'm talking about 0:20:32.400 --> 0:20:34.359