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Speaker 1: Welcome guys to yeah, another episode of Horrible Decisions. I'm

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Speaker 1: your Grandmandy be aka Pantistan aka bitch everybody, it's again

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Speaker 1: for my husband. I mean pleasing here. I blink twice.

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Speaker 1: I blinked three times. Nobody helped. Oh my god. Well, guys,

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Speaker 1: I'm excited we are bringing you another episode of Horrible Decisions,

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Speaker 1: and this one I am joined by someone that I

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Speaker 1: met last year. But also we just ran back into

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Speaker 1: each other. So let me give you a good, warm welcome. Guys.

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Speaker 1: Today we have one of maybe are one of five

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Speaker 1: white people who have joined us on here so occasions

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Speaker 1: shout out to our On one hand, I feel like

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Speaker 1: we were listen my friend the Arthur. The other the

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Speaker 1: girl who wrote that book that I liked, right, the

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Speaker 1: which bitch right, the Herpes girl. Damn, that's up. I mean,

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Speaker 1: but she she talks about it openly self. She at

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Speaker 1: Lex but that was Patreon, Alex Demo, Alex Demo, but

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Speaker 1: that was who Lena Kay, the porn start. That's right.

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Speaker 1: So you're number six. We're almost getting there. But guys,

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Speaker 1: who we are joining with today is Zachary Zane. He

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Speaker 1: is a sex advice columnist at men's health and also

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Speaker 1: a relationship advice columnists at Queer Majority UM. And he's

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Speaker 1: also very active in the space here in New York.

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Speaker 1: And I say that because we just ran into each

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Speaker 1: other last week. Do tell us the team a very

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Speaker 1: fine man. I can't say that, So tell us what

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Speaker 1: they were doing. We want to know did you see this?

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Speaker 1: Was there come swapping? How nasty you can share? I

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Speaker 1: don't care. Like, what's funny? Is we all ranted to

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Speaker 1: each other? So of course is B y O B

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Speaker 1: shout out to Daniel sat we were at? Was there

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Speaker 1: a certain was it a a theme night? No? It

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Speaker 1: was kind of just like Daniel hit me up, was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: so we have a few people coming by tonight if

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Speaker 1: nude beach together. So literally we were at the nude

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Speaker 1: beach all day that day. Let me go ahead and

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Speaker 1: tell you before we got uh. So after Labor Day weekend,

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Speaker 1: And also just the temperature drops in New York. No

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Speaker 1: fucking exhausted. We spent like eight hours there. So we

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, perfect. He's like, all right, baby, okay, dress,

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Speaker 1: This was our second time there. He actually really enjoys it, um,

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Speaker 1: up to me and it's like, what's your stage name?

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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, you know, to me, that's a tripper.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you know, I told you niggas don't recognize you.

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Speaker 1: But no. The last time um I had met you.

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Speaker 1: I've lived there now, by the way, I'm actually you

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Speaker 1: It's crazy versus now it's like like twelve of us. No,

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Speaker 1: What does safe sex look like right now? Because we

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Speaker 1: long as you have consenting partners. The only thing that's

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Speaker 1: They eve been the one who've been using masks, getting

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Speaker 1: I decided to add Hope Facts to this episode. I

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Speaker 1: thinking bear skin um a lot of the way. We're

425
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Speaker 1: not sponsored by any of these tims yet, but if

426
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Speaker 1: you want to sponsors, we can. Really, you don't know.

427
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Speaker 1: One of my friends shout out to Gucci and her

428
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 1: name is Anna, but she loves Gucci Mane. She designed

429
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Speaker 1: a uh like a casing for this condom called one,

430
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 1: and she was like it was on condom Like I

431
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Speaker 1: guess she used to teach sex set and she's like,

432
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 1: it's one of the only ones, like has the most durability.

433
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 1: But I don't know if I mean I can gonna

434
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Speaker 1: hold you. I got bored one day on Live and

435
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: I have a variety. Now. I started like literally putting

436
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 1: either my hand or my foot in these condoms because

437
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 1: a lot of guys will sit here and be like,

438
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 1: oh it's too small. Oh I can't fit it, making

439
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: it seem like they did. And I'm like, my foot

440
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 1: fitt in this one, so I don't believe you. It's

441
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:44,640
Speaker 1: not that tight. I did my own experiment on Instagram Live.

442
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:50,479
Speaker 1: I didn't imagine if someone like screen grabbed out of Mandy. Now,

443
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:54,959
Speaker 1: I'd be so scared of what I got me, Uh,

444
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 1: making lettuce and making a salad, and I was holding

445
00:22:58,359 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 1: the cucumber and I was like, do y'all think that

446
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,199
Speaker 1: is expired because it's when it gets squishy and all

447
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:08,159
Speaker 1: you see is a cucumber should never be squishy. Well

448
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,199
Speaker 1: that's my point, is expired. And it was right by

449
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 1: my mouth and he screenshot at it and I was like, Wow,

450
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 1: people are just gonna think I'm giving dick sucking lessons

451
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 1: on the internet. Well, there was a there was a

452
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 1: nice rain for the cucumber and en and go hold

453
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:28,119
Speaker 1: you on a nice little rain. R E I g N.

454
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,479
Speaker 1: I did not hear that at first. It said rain,

455
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 1: What did you hear. I was like what it was

456
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 1: when the raining, I thought it was raining cucumbers. Alright, bitch. Anyways,

457
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Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and get into our hord derve. Now.

458
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: Our our hord derve is our sex tip segment and

459
00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 1: when we basically speak franch hord derve. Okay, anyway, we're

460
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 1: actually gonna give this on to Zach for this episode.

461
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 1: I actually wanted you to drop too. So you've already

462
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,120
Speaker 1: mentioned that you're bisexual. You have sex with both men

463
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 1: and women, So I wanted you to provide a tip

464
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: from the male perspective on a sex hip for sex

465
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 1: men with men and then men with women. I okay,

466
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 1: so I think we'll start with men with man. I

467
00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 1: think we are so used to grinder and casual hookups

468
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 1: that we do not do nearly enough for play, Like

469
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: we just like fucking are so used to getting straight

470
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: to business immediately and um, and that kind of carries

471
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 1: over even when you like someone. I feel like when

472
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,959
Speaker 1: I have sex with a woman, usually that sexual experience

473
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 1: lasts like double as long as when I have sex

474
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Speaker 1: with a man, like every single time, and just because

475
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 1: like maybe you'll suck each other's dicks for like a

476
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: minute if that like all to do with it being

477
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 1: harder to come as a woman, and I think it

478
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,959
Speaker 1: takes more without like perpetuating gender norms. I do think

479
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: it takes more to potentially turn a woman on versus

480
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:52,880
Speaker 1: a man's just like oh that's a dick and I'm

481
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,160
Speaker 1: hard now. And with me, I don't even be seeing

482
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 1: a soft dick's very often it's like it's it's just

483
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: rock solid. Yeah, it's ready. I think it takes it

484
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,159
Speaker 1: just takes a lot more yeah, effort and where I

485
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: mean like because also with guys, like you know, even

486
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 1: when you have a bad sexual experience, I feel like

487
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 1: most of the time if you come like okay, Like

488
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: I'll go over to Grinder's a guy's house on Grinder

489
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: and he would did not look like his pictures like funk,

490
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: I'm here whatever, I'm going to turn him around. I'll

491
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,920
Speaker 1: sex for three minutes, I'll come, I'll be out within

492
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 1: eight minutes, you know what I mean. Like limiting, but

493
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 1: so yeah, my bike surmads like slow it the fuck down.

494
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,479
Speaker 1: We're so used to like being these casual, quick encounters.

495
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: And maybe I'm just speaking to like the slutty Grinder

496
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 1: community but that is I know, like pretty much everyone

497
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 1: I know, So I feel like that is a big

498
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: demographic of gay men. Uh for men with women. I

499
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: think one of the big things is sex is not

500
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 1: over just because you come. I think that's huge and

501
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 1: I think there's a way afterwards because what I used

502
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,159
Speaker 1: to do and I think it was wrong. So I

503
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: would like finish and then afterwards I'd like stop, I'd pause,

504
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: I'd catch my breath, and he'd be like, hey, like

505
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: do you want me? Do you want me to go? Like, hey,

506
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:00,600
Speaker 1: how are you? Are you it? It's kind of what

507
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 1: I would ask, and they would always say yes, even

508
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 1: if they weren't. I feel because a lot of them

509
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: were baby just like, Okay, he just finished, he's tired,

510
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 1: he's done. I don't want to be a pain in

511
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: the ass and asked for more. So I think to

512
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: kind of avoid that, especially if you afterwards you finish,

513
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, are you good, and then they have

514
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 1: to be like, no, I'm not good. You need to

515
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 1: finish me off right now, actually, and you should say that,

516
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 1: and you should say that, but also maybe take the

517
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,239
Speaker 1: pressure off or afterwards it's like you just go back

518
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,400
Speaker 1: to eating them out or fingering them, like, don't necessarily

519
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: like assume that they've come because you've come, Yeah, and

520
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: don't necessarily make it that awkward thing of being like,

521
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 1: well do you want more? Because I can like if

522
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: you want more, and that's how it comes a ch Yeah,

523
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:46,399
Speaker 1: just like we don't feel like just get just do

524
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: it without asking. And I mean, obviously you have consent

525
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 1: in the situation to keep going, but like instead of

526
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 1: just pausing and then make it seem like it's a

527
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: big deal or you don't really want to, just like

528
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,959
Speaker 1: you're still excited, you're still there, you're present, and then

529
00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 1: just keep going quickly inconvenience. Yeah, right right. I don't

530
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 1: like that. Well, I love those tips. I hope that

531
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 1: you guys enjoy those tips. We are going to get

532
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: into our horrible decision and it's kind of called sexplanation.

533
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 1: How is it kind of called? I mean, because I don't.

534
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: I'm kind of gonna start a kind of I like

535
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 1: kind of because it ain't kind it's the name of

536
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: my sex column at me, So I didn't, I didn't

537
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 1: added added to it or whatever. Okay, So what we're

538
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: gonna do is basically sex plain commen dating issues and sex.

539
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,879
Speaker 1: So I actually I went ahead and picked through not

540
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: only seeing what you had written, but I went through

541
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:38,959
Speaker 1: and picked um certain issues that I think a lot

542
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: of our listeners go through, as well as maybe some

543
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: that are just constantly coming up. So the first one is,

544
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: and I got this one from your page, I'm constantly

545
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: being cheated on? Is it me? What do I do

546
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 1: pretty much to get to where I am not being

547
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 1: cheated on? So you give a lot of advice and

548
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 1: all of the columns that you work on. So for

549
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: someone who's listening and feels like every time I'm in

550
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: a relationship, I've been cheated on, what advice would you

551
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 1: give them, um to maybe not be cheated on in

552
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: the future or eliminate feeling like it's their faults. Yeah.

553
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: I think initially when I read this, a part of

554
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: me was just like, oh, this like ship happens. But

555
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 1: I think at some point because I was looking at

556
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,879
Speaker 1: the numbers of like how often do people cheat? So

557
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:25,360
Speaker 1: if you're getting cheated on five six partners in a row,

558
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: I do slightly want a victim blame you a little bit.

559
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: I think there might be something that you are doing

560
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 1: because you know, once or twice this ship happens. But

561
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: if this is happening repeatedly, I think this is a

562
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: pattern or behavior. So I think you're either picking or

563
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: wrong people. You're somehow enabling this type of behavior. Uh.

564
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: Specifically for that column, I like the guy asked more

565
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: and he just seemed to be someone with absolutely no

566
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 1: backbone kind of whatsoever. Like people people know when like

567
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 1: they can walk all over you. I say it all

568
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: the time. People will only do what you allow them

569
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 1: to do. So to me, it is more so like

570
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 1: if they felt like they could get away with it,

571
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: or they felt like you wouldn't leave them for it,

572
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 1: and then they're going to continue doing It's also I

573
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: think just people don't like that type of they like,

574
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 1: people want to be challenged in a good way. People

575
00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: want to like or want to have someone with their

576
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: own opinion. So I think this guy, the way I

577
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: read it was like, I think the women with them

578
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: were just kind of like fucking board. If this is

579
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 1: yes man who's going to say yes to absolutely everything,

580
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: let me decide everything. I'm going to start seeking things

581
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: out elsewhereks I want to be with a partner or

582
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: not someone who's always just saying yes whatever you want honey.

583
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 1: So there you go. So you need a backbone, if

584
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: you could pay you being cheated on, that's the advice.

585
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: You know, it's harsh, it's tough love. It's tough love.

586
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: But I mean this is again, sometimes it just happens

587
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: one to three times, but when it's when you're at six, seven,

588
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 1: eight times, like every relationship, you're getting cheated on coming.

589
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: So the next one is, um, we often talk about threesomes. Um,

590
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: my partner keeps asking for it reason, but I am

591
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: in no way interested in myself, which is also common.

592
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: What advice do you have for someone in this situation?

593
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: Don't Yeah, it's boundaries. I mean, it's especially if what

594
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: you agreed upon in the relationship is you guys being monogamous.

595
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 1: Like if someone wants to have a threesome and you

596
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 1: don't want to just make it clear, Hey, this is

597
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: something I'm not interested in. Please don't keep asking me.

598
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 1: Keep please don't keep talking about it. And if it's

599
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: something that you know they really want to do and

600
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: this is a deal breaker, okay, then you guys need

601
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:32,480
Speaker 1: to potentially talk about opening up your relationship. I just

602
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: think that people get especially women, have way too much

603
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: pressure on them from men by having about having threesomes,

604
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 1: because it's this ultimate fantasy thing, and we've got to

605
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: stop the idea of thinking like I'm going to have

606
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 1: this threesome to keep them, you know what I mean.

607
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: I really don't believe that there's one specific sexual thing

608
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: that you've got to do that will make someone love

609
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: you forever. Like I think that's bullshit. Good sex will

610
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: keep you a little bit longer, but sex, ultimately isn't it.

611
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: Love is not enough either. There's a lot of components

612
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 1: to lationship, and about threesome is the thing that someone's

613
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 1: asking for and you feel pressured enough to do with

614
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 1: that person obviously doesn't give a because I wouldn't want

615
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 1: someone to do something they weren't comfortable with either, agreed.

616
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: And speaking of that, that comes to my next question,

617
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 1: because of course, bringing someone in as a third or

618
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: even maybe a couple is a lot for a lot

619
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 1: of people. Because now we're bringing someone else into our union,

620
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: our relationship. The other thing is and I'm using slapping

621
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: as the example, my partner is completely turned on by

622
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 1: slapping me, but it completely ruins the mood for me.

623
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: How do I tell my partner what he or she

624
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 1: enjoys is actually a complete turn off for me. It's

625
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: the same thing. It's the same answer, you know what

626
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 1: I mean. If you you don't have to do anything

627
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: that you don't want to do, period, full stop. That's it.

628
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: And especially when it's something like sometimes there could be

629
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: things that are like relatively more harmless for you to

630
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 1: potentially try and see if you like. But slapping is

631
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 1: not one of those things. Slapping things that's very clearly like, yeah,

632
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: I know I will not like this because I don't

633
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: like being hit. I feel very uncomfortable by this. And yeah,

634
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: you say, hey, I know something that really turns you on,

635
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 1: this is not for me. And then also potentially giving

636
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: different options of things that are like alternatives that you

637
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: like that potentially they like to heying sapping, maybe she

638
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: would be more the other speaking, like as opposed to

639
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 1: For some reason, I interpreted that his face lapping, And

640
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: I mean that's been a thing that I've had partners

641
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: that enjoy that I've done it myself where on the

642
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 1: tips too, that is oh my god, Like I rarely

643
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: ask for it, but it feels so good to me.

644
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: I think I always forget to ask for it. But

645
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: like yeah, I think it happened on accident. It was

646
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: meant to be a face nesative. I was like, we

647
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: keep going, but I like intense nip nipple sensitivity, but

648
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: I can't handle like a clamp. But his lap is enough,

649
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: it's perfect A quick yeah, did you see that? We

650
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: were like, this was the first time actually at the

651
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: sex clip, did you see when I was flogging? I did,

652
00:32:55,720 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 1: so this is where at the sexy on his ass though,

653
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: there's like this whole little like contraption at the sex

654
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,239
Speaker 1: club and so honestly too, there's all these sex uh,

655
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 1: these sex toys, but he has the cleaner, so I

656
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: put the little phone on it or whatever, clean off

657
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: the toy and normally he's slapping me. So we've had

658
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: constant talks right now because I have felt completely powerless

659
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 1: with him, and you see him. He's huge, He's very dominant.

660
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: He demands like all the attention when we walk in

661
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: the room, he takes it all away from me. Like

662
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 1: I feel completely powerless from him. Like people will literally

663
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: be like, hey, you're cool, you're maybe even god damn

664
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 1: what he bad? You know? And I think hard, But

665
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: the person I'm dating is just the same way. They're

666
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: constantly bringing energy from other people and I'm not used

667
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:55,959
Speaker 1: to it. But even but like that's our bring the attention.

668
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: This nigga has been named fucking I think even he

669
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: ain't to the pool party with me and my friend

670
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: was referring to him as Goliath. I'm like, Goliath tomorrow

671
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: more bors coulda like you get all of this attract

672
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,839
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I'm right here. So aside from

673
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: even him demanding attention, like he has that or about

674
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 1: him in the bedroom, he's very dominant. So when he

675
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: allowed me to spank him, it was like super and

676
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: I was trying to make it hard. I was like

677
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: and he was like all right, all right now, But

678
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 1: I enjoyed that. So even even I think it's nice

679
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: to take a step back and like you guys said,

680
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,320
Speaker 1: if you don't enjoy being slapped on the face, or

681
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: if you don't enjoy being spitting them out, like maybe

682
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: find somewhere else on your body to where they can

683
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 1: still get their pleasure out of it. Um, but maybe

684
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 1: it's not going to ruin the mood for you. What

685
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 1: an that maybe somebody wouldn't be into like personally, yes,

686
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 1: and like am I sharing that but I can maybe

687
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: if you could just give us one that was a

688
00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 1: situation with someone where you to bring it up and

689
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 1: they were into it, and how you combat that and

690
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 1: they weren't into it? This so I have I can

691
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 1: say I have a puke fetish, Like I fucking love

692
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: like puking on people puking on my dick, I puke

693
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: on their dick, like I love. Like I don't think

694
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: it's already we already did call him like emin ophelia.

695
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:24,400
Speaker 1: There's like a term for the kids, but it's specifically

696
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: I like, how many followers here I know, But it's like,

697
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: you know, it's one of those things where it's just

698
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 1: kind of like it's almost an extreme version of sloppy

699
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 1: head and like deep throating, you know what I mean,

700
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: and just um, but yeah, I mean usually like i'll

701
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 1: like asked like well, I mean usually get a sense,

702
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 1: but like yeah, all asks just being like hey, I

703
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: really want to suck your dick soaper hard, like yeah,

704
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: I don't really want to deep throat, and I'm like, yeah,

705
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: I really, And then you kind of from there, I'm like, okay,

706
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: so he's into deep throat, he's into rough head. Yeah

707
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 1: I really want to puke on your dick, and I'll

708
00:35:56,400 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: just say that boot playing. Will you take my tongue,

709
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:03,919
Speaker 1: You're gonna take my tongue, You're gonna take this finger,

710
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: you gonna take this thing, You're gonna take my strap.

711
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: And at some point like, yeah, I'm ended that. No,

712
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 1: I'm not into that. That's too much. I said, okay,

713
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: and then they take a step back. What about you?

714
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: Is there anything that you feel like you've had with

715
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: a partner where they like to do something and you realize, oh,

716
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: after doing it, I was you were not interested at all. No,

717
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: But normally I feel like I'm the one, oh that

718
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 1: gets them to an uncomfortable space. Yeah. I feel like

719
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 1: I've like brought up three stoms with every single partner

720
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 1: and they're not always into it, including you're the one

721
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: bullying people. And that dude like hospital Dick is one

722
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: person that when I was dating him, he was not

723
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: into the idea of me being with other women with him.

724
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: He was like, I don't need that, like I need

725
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 1: to be with you, that's what I want, Like I

726
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 1: don't need us to fund somebody else, Like I don't

727
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: see the purpose of it. And I was like, okay, Well,

728
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: I like both, and he was like, well, I like you,

729
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: like he's very door ball, but like, yeah, don't you

730
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 1: want It's like, it's crazy because I'll be honest with

731
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: you with this, With this show, my mind goes to

732
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: like way out and beyond. And it's crazy because the

733
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 1: fact that my my nigga feels like we ain't done everything.

734
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, I got super drunk after a

735
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 1: pool party um that we were with high I really

736
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: shouldn't have ate the edible. So we go home, we

737
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,240
Speaker 1: start fucking and he had never seen me this drunk.

738
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 1: So he goes to bring me to the bathroom, puts

739
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,360
Speaker 1: a little pillow down from my knees and goes to

740
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: lift up the toilet and me with this fucking podcast

741
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: and how kinky he is, I'm like, I don't want

742
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 1: to drink the toilet water. And I literally thought he

743
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: was trying to make me drink toilet water. He's like, babe,

744
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:45,919
Speaker 1: I thought you needed to throw up, And the whole

745
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: time I'm like, no, babe, you wanted me to drink

746
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 1: toilet water. You're so nasty. That's how fucking crazy this

747
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: fucking podcast has made my mind go. He's literally trying

748
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 1: to take care of my drunk ass, and I'm like, Pep,

749
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 1: you're nasty. I don't want to drink toilet water, and

750
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 1: he's like, your life. But I didn't throw up and

751
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, I'm not gonna throw up, but

752
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: he like that. I mean, it was cute. But then

753
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 1: it's you know, I think I'm starting to date, like, um,

754
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: the woman he met there. So we've been dating and

755
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 1: she's so cute. She's the best, and it's nice dating

756
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: someone who is like equally, if not fucking sluttier, just

757
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: like I don't think to like were I call her

758
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: my slutty angel. That's like my endearing turn right um,

759
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 1: And she loves that. But it's just like it's I

760
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: feel like so often it's tough when you're not quite

761
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: on the same page with someone when you're just like, hey,

762
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 1: I really like you, I really like you, and we're

763
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 1: also going to funk everyone, but you know what, are

764
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 1: used to that? Like, I've just gotten to the point

765
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:44,600
Speaker 1: and I love it. Oh my god. When he goes

766
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: out of town and I'm like, so, it's almost like

767
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 1: he knows I'm gonna be disappointed. He's like, there's some

768
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: bitches or whatever. I want to sleep, Blade Tennis went

769
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 1: to sleep. I'm like, why go fuck them? Plussy? Oh

770
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: my god, I think like Miami is the place he

771
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: goes where I'm like, I know you're gonna get some

772
00:38:58,560 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 1: and he'll call me in the morning and then the

773
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 1: have and be like yeah, I mean like me telling

774
00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: me that happen. It's so much fun and I love it,

775
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 1: and like, I've learned so much about compersion through that.

776
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: I learned that mainly from Aisha, who I think was

777
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 1: on the sex Panel that's where you met her. We

778
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: had her on our show. I should that. Damn no, no, no,

779
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: I should she she was there that night. I don't know,

780
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: but we made it. Aisha is a girl who runs

781
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:30,720
Speaker 1: the Violet b k wait you name. Her name is Aisha,

782
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: but she spelled like y e asa. I think we are.

783
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. He taught me a

784
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 1: lot about compulsion, Like I first met her on Tender

785
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 1: some years ago, and like she was like yeah, like

786
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 1: I genuinely get joy from watching my partners with other

787
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 1: people in intimate ways, like I've learned. By the way,

788
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: do we have to believe her name out? No? She

789
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: bought our show. She talked about it with us, like

790
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: we talked about the sex we had on the show. Um,

791
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: but anyway, she said in front of me and was like, yeah,

792
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 1: we made out. I was like, did we? That was

793
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: after I drink toilet water. Concursion is really the opposite

794
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 1: of jealousy, and like when you get to that point

795
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: where you're like congratulating your partner for being slutty, like

796
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 1: you're fucking there. And I think what's so important to

797
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 1: know is compersion. People often think of like, oh, you're

798
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 1: innately experienced this, And I used to be someone who

799
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,879
Speaker 1: was super jealous and seeing my partner talk to someone else,

800
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 1: and it was a matter of being insecure, not feeling

801
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 1: confident in myself, not trusting my partner. Also, when I

802
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:40,399
Speaker 1: was monogamous, I think I was more worried of theun

803
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: lying to me than actually cheating on me. Take up

804
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 1: over a lie dude, more than I would achieved you

805
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 1: fu somebody else. I'm cool, But if you lie to

806
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 1: me and tell me you didn't, I'm done. And exactly,

807
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: but I think so with compersion because especially the party, like,

808
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:57,880
Speaker 1: oh I could never do that. I just want to

809
00:40:57,880 --> 00:40:59,919
Speaker 1: be like I was one of those people who thought

810
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: that and used to say that, and then I kind

811
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 1: of like worked hard on being like, I really trust myself,

812
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 1: I really trust my partner. I really love my partner.

813
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:12,239
Speaker 1: Word that conversion. Trust is the biggest thing, because here's

814
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 1: what it is. I believe. I don't even believe it

815
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: necessarily has to do with insecurity in yourself more than

816
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 1: it does the relationship. Let's say you could be a

817
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:21,439
Speaker 1: confident person, but you're not feeling good about this person

818
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 1: with someone else, if you're not in a place with

819
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: that person to where they feel like yours and you

820
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: feel like you could lose them to someone else, or

821
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: as though your sex isn't enough or you're not enough,

822
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: but that's why they're looking at someone else. They've got

823
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 1: to make you feel that. It's on both ends. It's yourself,

824
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: but it's also that person. If someone's not making you

825
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 1: feel comfortable and secure, you're not going to get to

826
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: a place where you won't be jealous. That's why the threesome,

827
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: because they want it is a very fucked up thing

828
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: to do. You have to make sure that that person

829
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: that you're going to have the threesome with feels like

830
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: this is about us, us enjoying our time together and

831
00:41:56,960 --> 00:42:01,359
Speaker 1: experiencing something new opposed to I need. But not only

832
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: that for the men listening, um, it's it's also something

833
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 1: with affirming the relationships, like even with the titles kind

834
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:12,800
Speaker 1: of mad and not even with the titles though, like

835
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: with me and my partner. It's crazy because I felt

836
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: like I almost cheated on him. The other night I

837
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 1: was with my homegirl. We ended up making out, cuddling,

838
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: it got crazy, but she was on a period so

839
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 1: we didn't suck. But I told him the next day

840
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: and I was like, I think we may be able to,

841
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: you know, I'll have a threesome together. And so I

842
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: sent him her picture and he was like, yeah, babe,

843
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:31,800
Speaker 1: like she looks great, but I want you to know

844
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: you don't have to be worried or anything. And he

845
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 1: literally just affirmed like, if she comes in, you don't

846
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 1: have to worry about me wanting to take her out

847
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,280
Speaker 1: or me wanting anything, like she's cool, let's have fun together,

848
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: but just no, you don't have to worry. And he

849
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 1: literally like, real sure that I thought you looked great naked,

850
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 1: and he was like, well, baby, you want to go

851
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 1: join them? Literally that this is the guy you were

852
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: talking about. She was like, there was a white man there.

853
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: He was tall. Yeah, you look like a whole little attack.

854
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,479
Speaker 1: Even though you're hot, you are not in my mind

855
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 1: many's white. But he's spore. He looked like a basketball

856
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 1: player he was. He was like, he's, well, my man

857
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:21,320
Speaker 1: is a little taller than you because he like, you

858
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:24,320
Speaker 1: need the wigger type. Though, no, I don't want to wigger.

859
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 1: And I said, I don't want to wigger like and

860
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: I want no Paul wall Bro. He reminds me of

861
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: like Keaven Love with his hair grown out so like basketball. No,

862
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: I mean he's on the basketball team, but he's talk anyways.

863
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 1: And his girl had this little cute little linger right

864
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 1: she has. Like, so I'm telling my man like, you know,

865
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:48,959
Speaker 1: I've never had pink dick before, but they look really good.

866
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 1: And he was like, you should go telling this you're

867
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 1: We just had an episode where we discussed the sex

868
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 1: club and it was like actually there wasn't like it

869
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: was literally and that was like damn, I actually like

870
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: as itterad and my man was like, well you should go.

871
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 1: And it's weird because he thinks I have this this

872
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 1: guard up to where I have not played the other

873
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 1: black guy that's at that Seth club often. I don't

874
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: know if you know who he is there. He has

875
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 1: blonde here and UM like literally, my guys, like, you know,

876
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: I've given him permission, but you have to be comfortable.

877
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 1: But I'm it's crazy because I want an MMF but

878
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, not with him, don't. I don't know

879
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: where my mind is right now. Honestly, I think it's

880
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 1: gonna take time. Like I think that you probably can't

881
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: wrap around it yet because one, you're just falling for

882
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 1: this person. It's a new relationship and you're having this

883
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 1: new experience and I think the rules of monogamy like you,

884
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: but you're being a monogamous because you're feeling in love.

885
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 1: And I think that's the other thing. When you're feeling

886
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: like that. At least for myself, it's very hard to

887
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 1: be like, well, I'm so into you, I don't want

888
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: someone else, And I think this is no shade. I

889
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: think when our puppy loves smoking, mirrors goes. And that's

890
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,280
Speaker 1: why communication is great in establishing your boundaries. When that goes,

891
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: and then you're like kind of out of that, you're secure,

892
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: you know what you have with this person. You're like, no,

893
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 1: you're getting too bad of an idea, and I think

894
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:14,279
Speaker 1: you can't get there yet because you're still in it.

895
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 1: I always say this to people, like people aways asking me,

896
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:22,919
Speaker 1: would you be open to being like monogamous again, I said,

897
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 1: I'd be monogamous in the beginning of a relationship, knowing

898
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 1: that it will open so you can like build that

899
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:29,720
Speaker 1: trust and do that. And I say that to partners

900
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 1: to where they're like, hey, we like he kind of

901
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: wants to be open. He's coming from this place. I'm like,

902
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: start with monogamy. Start with three months. It's not the

903
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:38,759
Speaker 1: end of the world. You guys will live or you'll

904
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 1: cheat and realize this is not for me And I

905
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 1: really hate this. You like that why you build that

906
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 1: foundational trust you know you love them, you've had this

907
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,839
Speaker 1: time together, and then you can branch out from there.

908
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 1: I would started start with start with what you want,

909
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: and then just reassess. You know what I and I think.

910
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 1: So maybe every three months, you know, I mean, reveal

911
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 1: on this guy damn relationship. I want to power point

912
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 1: out you were fine. Now that we're branching into flights

913
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: opening up. You know, Nick's got a little masks on

914
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 1: and off. No one's coming down. I feel like, seriously,

915
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 1: before we get out of guys, we are gonna get

916
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:25,319
Speaker 1: into our homemail real quick, because our wholemail comes from

917
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:29,760
Speaker 1: a freak home in need. All right, He'll said, Hi, ladies,

918
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 1: I just want to start my email off letting you

919
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 1: guys know how much I love y'all. In this podcast.

920
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: My friends put me on at the beginning of the pandemic,

921
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 1: and I'm working my way through until I finished each episode.

922
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 1: Only about thirty five left. Or you got a lot

923
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 1: to go, let's go. This podcast has opened me up

924
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,359
Speaker 1: and made me realize I liked so much more than

925
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:48,359
Speaker 1: I ever knew, and I was already into some hole ship.

926
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 1: Little backstory. In January, I made a tender I matched

927
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 1: with this finance freak Terrell and my current boyfriend de Marcus.

928
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,399
Speaker 1: I hope these ain't real names, because I'm I'm reading

929
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: through it. So I slept with Currell literally two days

930
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: after we exchanged numbers on a Monday. Alright, bit you

931
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 1: you real detail bomb ass sex bomb ass head, and

932
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: he ate my ass like no other. I had my

933
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 1: first date with DeMarcus that Thursday, and he's been bay

934
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 1: ever since. My issue is this Terrell fulfills all of

935
00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:20,720
Speaker 1: my sexual desires I have and DeMarcus doesn't. With Terrell,

936
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:23,760
Speaker 1: I've gotten to fulfill my fantasy of eating ass, pegging,

937
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: shout out to you, Mandy, and even getting Pete on.

938
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 1: All right, there's there's nothing romantic between us, just incredible

939
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: sexual chemistry. He is so open sexually, and I love

940
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 1: it because I am too. De Marcus, on the other hand,

941
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:40,880
Speaker 1: while a great lover doesn't do the nasty things I like.

942
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: His dick and head are a one and he makes

943
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 1: me come hard as fun, but our sex is still

944
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 1: very vanilla. I've mentioned to him that I like different

945
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: things like gay porn and piss porn to be met

946
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,879
Speaker 1: with ILL, and I know the oh to be met

947
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:56,840
Speaker 1: with ILL. I guess that's what he says, and I

948
00:47:57,040 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 1: know the relationship would be over if I ever attempted

949
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: to go near his ass outside of sex. Our relationship

950
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 1: is incredible. I feel like he's the one, but I

951
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 1: feel guilty because this is the only issue I have

952
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 1: with this relationship. I'm in a dilemma because I genuinely

953
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:15,800
Speaker 1: am happy with this relationship, but I ultimately am sexually unsatisfied.

954
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: DeMarcus and I have had conversations about different things sexually

955
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: because of this podcast, in fact, and it all ends

956
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: the same. It just ain't happening. I haven't slept with

957
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 1: Harrell since being in an official relationship, which has now

958
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 1: been a few months. And it's been and I've been

959
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 1: able to hold out so far, but it's getting difficult. Um,

960
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: I'm really needing those freak needs met. A bitch can

961
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 1: only masturbate that tension away, but for so long. Please

962
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 1: help sign a freak co in need. And this is

963
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: crazy because this is kind of what we discussed, even

964
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: in our horrible decision, where she's hung up with not

965
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 1: enjoying her sex but this man. Ever, she enjoys the

966
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:55,440
Speaker 1: sex with this nigga Terrell, but he doesn't fulfill her emotionally.

967
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:58,359
Speaker 1: But this other guy who's giving her everything she needs

968
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: as far as a relationship, she loves being with him.

969
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 1: The sex is cool, but it's not freaky enough for her.

970
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: So now she's in the space where I haven't sucked

971
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: the nigga who sucks me amazing and freaky in months,

972
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,840
Speaker 1: but she she feels like she's about to break. What

973
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: would you suggest because we also don't meant it was

974
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: so far. He feels like she's about break and I

975
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 1: feel for her. She feels I see the whole way

976
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: feeling because I feel for her in the sense to

977
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,840
Speaker 1: where we have never suggested cheating bro so I'm not

978
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 1: gonna tell her to cheat on this man otherwise is great.

979
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 1: I feel for her, bro ship. I felt like we

980
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 1: were talking about like I can't even get my words.

981
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 1: If anyone's watching on YouTube, Mandy put her hand over

982
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 1: her heart and she's looking at the columnists. We have

983
00:49:54,000 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 1: like hell, so aside from cheating, because we often say

984
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 1: that communication is key and cheating is betraying, you start

985
00:50:05,680 --> 00:50:08,759
Speaker 1: getting your sex needs met from cheating, you get obsessed

986
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: with that sex and you don't stop, and you get

987
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: caught up. What would be your advice? And then we're

988
00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,360
Speaker 1: gonna ask you as well as that, what would your

989
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: advice be? I gotta be honest, be honest. I do

990
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: believe that even though there's not a lot of fish

991
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: in to See, there's also a lot of trash in

992
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: the See. And and you know, like the nigga that

993
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 1: you have to say you when you have a kinks

994
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: and you know he's meeting your emotional needs, but I

995
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: don't believe those things go away. So if he's not

996
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 1: allowing you to do with someone else, which much like

997
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: we were saying, if you need to do these things,

998
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 1: do it with someone else. If he won't allow you

999
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 1: to do it with someone else, and like you're getting

1000
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 1: to the point where you feel like you're about to

1001
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: break bitch, I mean that's the same with like, you

1002
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: know my partner now, pegging is completely I ain't gonna lie,

1003
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 1: like I don't even thing, You're not going. It's the

1004
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:07,400
Speaker 1: tightest I've ever felt ever. So I'm just like nothing.

1005
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:09,439
Speaker 1: I don't even enjoy trying to fit a finger because

1006
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:13,399
Speaker 1: my nail don't. I've never, I've never he's not into

1007
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: pegging to the point where you, like my nigga has said,

1008
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: like listen, if that's really what gets you off and

1009
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 1: you need to peg someone, I'm gonna allow you to

1010
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 1: go do that because you're not gonna do that with me.

1011
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 1: But I'm also not going to be the one to

1012
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: tell you you can't do something. And so that's the

1013
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: thing too, Like at this point, like yeah, he's meeting

1014
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:34,320
Speaker 1: your emotional needs, but now you have to think Okay,

1015
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: So is this man controlling? He's telling me I can't

1016
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 1: do something with him, but is he also eliminating your

1017
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: option to do it at all? I don't think it's

1018
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: controlling to have bound Like I'm gonna be honest with you,

1019
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: Like if someone needed me to constantly be on them,

1020
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 1: I'd be like, dude, I can't like maybe want of tries,

1021
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 1: I'll on you, but I don't want to get paid

1022
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 1: on So like what am I gonna do? Like I

1023
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 1: don't feel like I'm being Uh, what was I gonna say,

1024
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:58,560
Speaker 1: like controlling? Because I'm saying you can't do this with me.

1025
00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: You're he's allowed to have his bound. It's just that

1026
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 1: the way that she's writing that to act as they're

1027
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: like she can't handle like it's yeah, I mean it's

1028
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: it seems like an open relationship is off the table.

1029
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 1: That's why it's saying that. It seem like and like

1030
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 1: it's been it's only been holding them, been dating this

1031
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:18,720
Speaker 1: like two months, a couple of months, and she's already

1032
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 1: gonna break at this point, like like she can she

1033
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: imagine just like what about your six months from now?

1034
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 1: What about you from what if you got married? Like

1035
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 1: the grocery store. That happens. What do you I feel

1036
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 1: like when people can't like, act on the things that

1037
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 1: they want to, they turn into a fucking animal. You'll

1038
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 1: look at someone, you'll run into a bathroom like that scene,

1039
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: and I may destroy the next thing. You know, you're

1040
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: getting Pete on the public, not Pete on in public.

1041
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 1: I took it too far, but you know what I'm saying,

1042
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 1: it's like pet in public. I just feel like, So,

1043
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:53,360
Speaker 1: here's the thing too like, And we talked about this before.

1044
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:55,960
Speaker 1: It when sex becomes a lot for you. So what

1045
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 1: it sounds like is she met both of these guys

1046
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: within the same week. One the living ships out of

1047
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:03,320
Speaker 1: her and let her live out her kink fantasies. The

1048
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: other one she saw is more relationship type. But now

1049
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 1: that she's kind of in more of a relationship with

1050
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,479
Speaker 1: this guy, she doesn't want to cheat on this Niga

1051
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: to go get her king needs met, but this guy

1052
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: isn't doing it. I believe that you have to be

1053
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Speaker 1: able to look at something and not feel like this

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00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 1: is my limitator on Earth. Yeah, I feel like you're

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00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 1: limiting yourself. You think that this guy is perfect, but

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00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:28,320
Speaker 1: in actuality, this might not actually be the person for you. Okay,

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00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:34,840
Speaker 1: with that not a match. And yeah, DeMarcus in Terrell

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00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:37,399
Speaker 1: ain't listening bit because I don't know. If I don't

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00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 1: know anyone listening to name DeMarcus, you might want to

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00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:42,240
Speaker 1: ask you a bit about it. Tom Thilds are definitely

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00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 1: fake black names. You think that, you think? So? She

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00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: was like, okay, his name is really Marcus, but d Marcus.

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00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 1: His name is Darryl. But we'll go with any fake

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00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:59,360
Speaker 1: name I've ever given is so bad. Like I remember

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00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:01,319
Speaker 1: someone asked me, like, who the dude I was sing

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00:54:01,560 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 1: were these were these favorite black name growing up? And

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00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: we was talking about it was to Quantus. I never

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00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:10,320
Speaker 1: to this day met to Quantis. Bro. I don't know

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Speaker 1: where it came from me because I never heard, but

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00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: nothing like me. I was so bad at lying about

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00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 1: this name. The guy was like, who are you fucking?

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00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: And he's like, hurry, ever tell me before you can lie.

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Speaker 1: I was like, Dike, bike Mike. So bad. To Quantus

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Speaker 1: is not a word. The Quantis Kroger at Mississippi State University. Okay,

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00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 1: is a competitive driver and uh is he he's a

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00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 1: bus operator? Okay, all right, to Quantis Rashad White, however,

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00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,439
Speaker 1: did pop up for Orange County public records. Let's see

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Speaker 1: what he did. Why, So this is probably who you

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00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 1: don't one time you don't even remember. That's that's possible.

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Speaker 1: That's not that, it's possible, possession of cocaine and cannabis.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I didn't did because I'm like bitch to quantis,

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Speaker 1: I never heard about. But as far as in thing

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00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:02,040
Speaker 1: as always like, we're not going to tell you to cheat,

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00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 1: but I think that as women we need to kind

1085
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 1: of be ready to wear that's what man, you ain't cheating?

1086
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: Well no, she said, they together the relationship anyway, though, Zack,

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00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:15,279
Speaker 1: thank you for finding Like I said, you gotta come

1088
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 1: to horrible decisions last year when we did the panel

1089
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: and here we are, your lady sucking next to each other,

1090
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:22,239
Speaker 1: to be like like literally like it took us the

1091
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 1: fun in the same room. Bring you on the you

1092
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean, you know what's crazy, like the proximity.

1093
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:30,399
Speaker 1: The last guest we had, I actually fucked. She sucked

1094
00:55:30,680 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 1: my man kind of next to me. So look yes

1095
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:35,800
Speaker 1: at us bringing on like you know, bring everyone together,

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00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 1: you know, um so Za go ahead and let our

1097
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 1: audience know where they can find you if they can

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00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: or cannot slide in them d M s um and

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Speaker 1: what you got coming up or going on? If you're cute,

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Speaker 1: you can slide. That's subjective. No, Yeah, Twitter and Instagram

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Speaker 1: is anso the best way. Zachary Zane underscore the underscores

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Speaker 1: after it, so z A, c h A, R Wise,

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Speaker 1: z A and E underscore. Okay, And that's on Twitter,

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Speaker 1: Twitter and Instagram and Instagram all right, and um, where

1105
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 1: else can they catch your columns again? Like, honestly, that's

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Speaker 1: the way to do it. And it's called sex planets.

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Speaker 1: That's the best place to find I love it. And

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00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: you're giving really good advice on there too, because I've

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00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:17,799
Speaker 1: already liked went Do and Red like super dope. That's

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Speaker 1: why I wanted you for the advice that. Thank you, M.

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Speaker 1: I do also want to let you guys know y'all

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Speaker 1: can listen to us everywhere. I know that we announced

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Speaker 1: our I heart um partnership with the Black Effect Podcast

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Speaker 1: Network and Charlemagne, and a lot of people still think,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, can I only listen to you guys

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Speaker 1: on right now? We're not going anywhere wherever you listen

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Speaker 1: to us. We're gonna stay there. We had to work

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Speaker 1: hard nose and one of them was, you can't have

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Speaker 1: this I pussy, I p And we want to be

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Speaker 1: everywhere because we are for the people. Hoos. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: we need to hear about join us on Patreon. If

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Speaker 1: you don't, you're getting it for free. Yeah. But guys,

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Speaker 1: if y'all do um want to listen to more bonus

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Speaker 1: girl who wrote us, and she says she only got

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Speaker 1: thirty five episodes left, but no deaths a lot because

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00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 1: we got over eighty episodes on the Patreon. So if

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Speaker 1: you want to go ahead and support us and what

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Speaker 1: we have going on and and and bonus content and

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00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:14,920
Speaker 1: us getting some more photo shoots and other ship that

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00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 1: costs a whole lot of money. Once you you know

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Speaker 1: got ship to do, go ahead and become a patron.

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Speaker 1: That's patreon dot com backslash horrible decisions. We are going

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Speaker 1: done listening with this episode and you're like funk now

1138
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 1: what am I gonna listen to? Um Periods That is

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00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 1: my other podcast and UM it's Tales of Womanhood. So

1140
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 1: I'm joined by women every week to share their stories,

1141
00:57:42,240 --> 00:57:44,760
Speaker 1: their journeys on different things that we go through as women.

1142
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 1: And if you don't hate men, you can listen for

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Speaker 1: Facts Sake podcast with a half white half half white. Okay,

1144
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 1: and he tells us happy he's got a little Latino

1145
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 1: in there. We talked about fund ship, different facts every week. Zach,

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Speaker 1: You've got to get a podcast like this is great.

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00:58:05,840 --> 00:58:08,600
Speaker 1: It's not that problematic if you told a black person

1148
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 1: you're really speaking well. I didn't guess what got cut

1149
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,400
Speaker 1: out at the live show like bitch. I go to

1150
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:16,000
Speaker 1: an HB said, I don't know what she said, but

1151
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 1: she cuts me out in Atlanta. But I say, you

1152
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 1: speak well because you don't speak like this. And when

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00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 1: we listen to us, thank you guys. It's been yet

1154
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: another episode of Harvard Decisions. If we're not going to

1155
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 1: open the conversation, you just leave room for people to

1156
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 1: talk ship. And that's what makes its o unhealthy to me.

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00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And I understand they want

1158
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 1: to protect him and everything, but and by them. I mean,

1159
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 1: you know, his wife, I will say though TLC again

1160
00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 1: is a messy bitch that lives for trauma. And they

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Speaker 1: had a show about the mixed weight couples. Do y'all

1162
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: remember that? And people got bad? Did you care about this?

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00:58:56,800 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 1: Remember that they I don't know who is is working

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00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 1: there that and how much they pay extra to come

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00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:06,800
Speaker 1: up with the wildest ship they can. But they had

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Speaker 1: a show about mixed weight couples. The fact that they

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00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 1: call it mixed weight couples really killed me. And it

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00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: was only four episodes. It's called Hot and Heavy, and

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00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 1: it was skinny guys with BBWs, but I don't mean

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Speaker 1: to regular BBWs, I mean beating them and stuff like that. Yes,

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00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:27,200
Speaker 1: one of the girls was like, oh uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: I want to get a trainer and get healthier so

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Speaker 1: I can have a baby and get pregnant. Her man

1174
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 1: was like, oh hey, I'll no like. And the ship

1175
00:59:34,040 --> 00:59:36,920
Speaker 1: was really blowing my mind because it was only women

1176
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:38,800
Speaker 1: that were big. They weren't really showing big dudes. And

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00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:41,479
Speaker 1: I wanted to see the opposite because like, I feel

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00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 1: like in time that bitches just fucking fattening because it's wintertime,

1179
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 1: like we need to know, like yes, like cold Brianna.

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Speaker 1: By the way, where are you from, because you've got

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Speaker 1: a little bit of Angela and you no, don't do

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00:59:55,440 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 1: that to me. I'm from Georgia though, so hezel Hurst like, yeah,

1183
01:00:01,400 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 1: I'm close to tellahassee, so I want to get into

1184
01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 1: in cinema, we talked about sex scenes that we would

1185
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: like to or like you know that got us turned

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01:00:16,600 --> 01:00:20,080
Speaker 1: on or whatever. But this article came out about fiance

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Speaker 1: stars who have an only fans account ranked by price.

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01:00:25,560 --> 01:00:29,959
Speaker 1: So Stephanie Matto was recent on ninety Day Fiance. Before

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01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 1: the ninety she was a lesbian chick no excuse me, bisexual. Yes,

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Speaker 1: she was a hot not the colorful hair, she's the

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Speaker 1: other one. She visited Australia to meet this girl. But

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Speaker 1: let me tell you what I found the most interesting

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Speaker 1: about this cast member. So she lived in the Yonkers

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Speaker 1: and she had an autoimmune disease and she was wearing

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Speaker 1: masks on planes and sanitizing everything. Honey, all I could

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01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:00,360
Speaker 1: think about was her during the coronavirus. I was like, bro,

1197
01:01:00,680 --> 01:01:03,600
Speaker 1: they filmed this ship like a year ago. You gotta

1198
01:01:03,640 --> 01:01:08,000
Speaker 1: wear masking gloves. She was literally on the show talking

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Speaker 1: about how she couldn't like. She was like, I need

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Speaker 1: to be careful what I touched and how much I

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01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,120
Speaker 1: washed my hands because I could get sick and die.

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Speaker 1: And the girlfriend was like, bitch, you ain't tell me

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Speaker 1: this before you gave me the funk right before she

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01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 1: came there. She tell her she wasn't gay before she

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01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 1: came there. Listen, I felt so bad watching these two girls.

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Speaker 1: She was hot, but when are you gonna fuck me? Lot?

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Speaker 1: Did you don't? You don't want to have sex to me?

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Speaker 1: It was so fucking sad, but you know, it was

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Speaker 1: a big yeah because they were their first lesbian couple

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Speaker 1: that they had. So Stephanie's on only fans for five bucks.

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Speaker 1: I'm opposed to Linxy. You can go through and see

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Speaker 1: their faces on Fista now. She was my favorite and

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Speaker 1: I think almost hottest ninety Yes, she was the fat one.

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Speaker 1: What was his name? He? Who is skinny? Now? Bitch,

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01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:03,840
Speaker 1: so let me to boy hey and on FISA they

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Speaker 1: were on ninety Day Fiance season four and they were

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Speaker 1: one of my favorites. So he's a Latino dude or

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Speaker 1: George Shorge. I'm saying for it. So they were Fance

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Speaker 1: season four. She was a Russian girl because she brought

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Speaker 1: her over to the States and she was pretty, lips

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Speaker 1: done titties, like very like fakey Instagram model, but she

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Speaker 1: was She wasn't as hot as she thought she was,

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01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:25,600
Speaker 1: but she was way hot than him. So there is

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite seats where they're out to eat.

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01:02:28,800 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: He looks at her and he goes, if it wasn't

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Speaker 1: for my money, would you be with me? And she

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Speaker 1: was like, no, no, I wouldn't know. I would not

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Speaker 1: do it. Why why would I know? And then she,

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Speaker 1: which I appreciate homegirl, said if I didn't look good,

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Speaker 1: would you bean with me? Bitch? Okay, thank you. Everybody

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01:02:48,280 --> 01:02:50,479
Speaker 1: knows I got a trash personality. They watched me every

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Speaker 1: motherfucking Monday. So anyway, he ends up going to jail

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01:02:56,280 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 1: for transporting hundreds of pounds of marijuana, and I guess

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01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 1: she went through financial troubles, made that only fans, started

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01:03:03,320 --> 01:03:07,040
Speaker 1: a bodybuilding Instagram account. Bitch looks fire now as crazy

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01:03:07,720 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 1: she is twelve dollars a month. Then we're gonna move

1237
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 1: on to a man named Corey. What a little bitch

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01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:19,520
Speaker 1: Corey was. Corey was one fiance with a girl named Evelyn.

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Speaker 1: From Colombia and Corey looks like he just ground with

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Speaker 1: his tail between