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Speaker 1: Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: Hi, greetings from down on DR.

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Speaker 3: I'm currently in Australia, so it was very hard to

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Speaker 3: find a good time for us to do an intro

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Speaker 3: for this week's episode.

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Speaker 1: I know, for you it is a very early morning

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Speaker 1: and for me it's late afternoon.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: It's funny though, no matter where I travel, I wake.

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Speaker 3: Up at six am every day, so it's almost like

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Speaker 3: time zones Stone Execs.

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Speaker 5: Although I do go to For the first three days.

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Speaker 3: In New Zealand, I went to bed at six thirty

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Speaker 3: and then luckily I had a show, so I had

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Speaker 3: to fucking stay up because I had to perform.

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Speaker 1: So we had a show and I got you up

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Speaker 1: in Adam.

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Speaker 6: Huh.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. We were in New Zealand for three days.

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Speaker 3: With Auckland, which was gorgeous. I'm with my cousin Molly,

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Speaker 3: who you know, yes, and she and I went to beaches,

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Speaker 2: We did a bunch of touristy stuff.

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Speaker 3: And then we went to Wellington, New Zealand, which was

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Speaker 3: really cute and like kind of an artsy kind of city.

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Speaker 2: I'd never been there, and then that was home to

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Speaker 2: Lord of the Rings.

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Speaker 3: And even though we told my driver, our driver several

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Speaker 3: times that we had absolutely no interest in Lord of

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Speaker 5: He took us to the Lord of the New Rings.

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Speaker 3: Museum and before we knew it, we were holding swords

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Speaker 3: and standing with those giant I don't know what those

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Speaker 3: people are called.

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Speaker 2: Are they, Toby Maire? I don't even know wizards. I

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Speaker 2: don't understand what.

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Speaker 5: You don't love a hobbit, Chelsey, Well, I do.

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Speaker 3: I love, of course, I love the shape of a hobbit,

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Speaker 3: But I don't love the backstory of a hobbit.

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Speaker 2: No, you know, I like things rooted in reality.

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Speaker 3: So we did that, and then we went to Melbourne

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Speaker 3: and the shows have been so much fun.

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Speaker 2: They've been so fun.

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Speaker 3: The audiences have been great, and the openers are fun

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Speaker 3: because it's all new people.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: And then I did a little radio and TV. I

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Speaker 3: assaulted some television personality already. He made a bad joke

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Speaker 3: and I had to ream him without I mean, I

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Speaker 6: He didn't have a chance, actually, but I couldn't.

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Speaker 2: Even he tried to interview me.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, let's just back up to your personality and

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Speaker 3: discuss that for a second.

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Speaker 1: I mean, listen, if there's one way to go viral

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Speaker 3: Well, you know me, I'm always trying to go viral

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Speaker 3: or get a virus.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you can't even catch one of those in

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Speaker 1: New Zealand because they locked it all down.

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Speaker 6: No, you can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't get sick in New Zealand.

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Speaker 3: However, somehow my cousin has an eye infection and she

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Speaker 3: thinks that I'm a yeah, she has caught some sort

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I.

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Speaker 6: Don't have an eye infection, ha ha.

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Speaker 2: She was wearing a mask around me for the first

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Speaker 2: forty eight hours. She wouldn't take her.

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Speaker 1: Mask off, and then she got it right in the eye. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then she got it right in the eye.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, look who's now, Look who's got

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Speaker 2: an affection?

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Yeah, I saw you're a very cute

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Speaker 1: love letter on Instagram to Molly.

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Speaker 6: Oh yes, yes, yes.

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Speaker 3: And then I did I did a video with all

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Speaker 3: my supplements that I take on the road, and I

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Speaker 3: take and people thinking that I have an opioid addiction

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Speaker 3: because I take low dose now trex alone, so apparently

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Speaker 3: I'm addicted to heroin on top of everything.

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Speaker 5: I mean, what am I gonna do next?

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Speaker 3: I always knew you were the type I know, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, Chelsea, we are very excited that you're coming

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Speaker 1: home to us soon. But I hope that you have

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Speaker 1: an awesome time in Australia for the next couple of weeks.

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Speaker 1: But Chelsea, I know you've got some really big shows

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Speaker 2: Yes, I have a huge show.

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Speaker 3: It's the Santa Barbara Bowl which is August seventeenth that

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Speaker 3: I want to promote.

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Speaker 1: And then I have a.

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Speaker 5: Big show at the Brooklyn Theater.

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Speaker 2: The King's Theater, which is awesome. I'm doing that in

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Speaker 2: Where am I doing that?

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Speaker 6: Brooklyn?

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Speaker 3: Oh, November eighth, I'm coming to Brooklyn, and then I

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Speaker 3: want to promote.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm doing all sorts of cities in between.

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Speaker 3: Then I'm coming to Hawaii for July nineteenth and twentieth,

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Speaker 3: and then also my Vegas dates which starts September first

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Speaker 3: in Vegas, and then I have November two and I

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Speaker 3: have November thirtieth and then three more dates so in Vegas.

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Speaker 5: But yes, check Chelsea Hammer dot com.

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Speaker 3: Get your tickets now because I'm going to be shooting

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Speaker 3: my special in December and then.

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Speaker 5: This tour is over.

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Speaker 1: Fabulous. I'm so excited. It's like always nice when people

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Speaker 1: go to Vegas to perform, because you know, it's like

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Speaker 5: Get to I know, the excitement around Vegas is very surprising.

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Speaker 5: I'm very excited. I'm just going to turn every every.

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Speaker 3: Show into a party and a good luck party because

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Speaker 3: I'm in the When I'm in the casino, people win money.

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Speaker 5: This has been proof in time and time again.

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Speaker 1: Whenever I see those ads of you in the top hat,

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Speaker 1: I start like lightly sweating. They're very hot. They're very

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Speaker 1: very hot.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 7: Okay, So our guests today.

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Speaker 3: You know her from reporting and hosting on the Daily

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Speaker 3: Show and as Honeybee on the Great North.

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Speaker 2: And she's got a new book of essays called Hello Friends.

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Speaker 5: Stories of Dating, Destiny and Day Jobs.

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Speaker 7: Please welcome.

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Speaker 5: Don't say Sloan, what's up mama?

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Speaker 4: Hi?

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Speaker 5: Do you know Catherine? This is my co host Catherine.

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Speaker 6: Hi, Hi Catherine, nice to meet you.

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Speaker 3: Likewise, I saw you at the Daily Show when I

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Speaker 3: was hosting guest hosting for a week, and I've been

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Speaker 3: watching you guest host, which you're fucking awesome. Congratulations, thank you.

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Speaker 3: That's a great gig now because you guys all get

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Speaker 3: to host, right, yeah.

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Speaker 6: They let us all guess we all take turns guests hosting,

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Speaker 6: and so I'm like, yeah, okay, I gotta pay my mortgage.

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Speaker 6: So come on, they'll go.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we all have to pay our mortgages. That's a

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Speaker 5: very good point.

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Speaker 3: I'll say, thank you for reminding our listeners pay your

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Speaker 3: mortgages please. Okay, it's very important. How is it having

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Speaker 3: John Stewart back?

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Speaker 6: I can say I'm not there for the everyday, day

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Speaker 6: to day, but I do know that it is interesting because,

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Speaker 6: like I probably shouldn't say this, but who cares, there

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Speaker 6: were some guys in the crew who never wore like

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Speaker 6: every year they would give us new merch. That's say

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Speaker 6: because I started with Trevor in twenty seventeen and there

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Speaker 6: They would only wear John's old merch, to the point

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Speaker 6: where We're just like, there was letters, so it was

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Speaker 3: So copy that, copy that, okay. So that's that's the

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Speaker 3: major difference with John being back and okay, copy that.

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Speaker 6: They can get new jackets with all the letters on it, basically.

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Speaker 6: But I can say that everything feels more settled because

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Speaker 6: when we had the guest hosts, it was like I

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Speaker 6: don't know, we don't know, and you're just like, my

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Speaker 6: check came this week and that's what it was. And

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Speaker 6: then a strike. So with John being there, even him

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Speaker 6: just being there on Mondays, everyone just seems a lot

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Speaker 3: Good good, that's fucking awesome. And congratulations on your new book.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: It's called Hello.

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Speaker 3: Friends, Stories of Dating, Destiny and Day Jobs.

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Speaker 5: You've had a lot of fucked up jobs. I mean,

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Speaker 3: All that shit, you're kind of really well A, you're resilient,

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Speaker 6: Well, here's the thing. If you speak Spanish, they'll let

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Speaker 5: What don't you have? Don't say a husband.

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Speaker 3: Name one thing you don't have besides a husband. Name

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Speaker 6: Oo, a plane. I want a plane.

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Speaker 6: In fact, we're not allowed to say that. I want

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Speaker 6: to play. I am tired to give a delta my coins.

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Speaker 6: I want to be able to hop on my own

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Speaker 6: good place, I said to one of my friends one day.

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Speaker 3: So is that why you know Spanish? Because of Miami?

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Speaker 3: Growing up in Miami.

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Speaker 6: I started when we moved back to Miami when I

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Speaker 6: But I just picked it up so fast I was

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Speaker 3: A studiato para duh d sinco onjos. And I still

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Speaker 6: It depends on where the person's from. Sometimes, like I

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Speaker 5: Since you've been a little kid, they haven't been close.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, tell me about your dating life. What's happening in

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Speaker 6: No, they like me, and that's why I'm trying so

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Speaker 6: I think is very amusing because google me, sir, So.

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Speaker 5: You don't like you don't like them in return, They

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Speaker 6: They love me because they want to eat today and

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Speaker 6: So if you're trying to get dicked down, which I

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Speaker 5: The broke dick dudes got mad.

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Speaker 6: Yes, if you reject a man in any way, he's

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Speaker 7: So there are a lot of.

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Speaker 3: I have dated so many men that do not appreciate

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Speaker 3: get that. Or they're the most recent guy, well that's okay.

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Speaker 3: He was like an ass man and he was all

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Speaker 5: Boot men like I.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a lesbian, but I think boobs are fun

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we as a society, regardless of your preference or orientation.

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Speaker 6: We all looked at it. I've seen a girl. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: And I think everyone, I know you're a fan of

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Speaker 5: Boob Well, of course, why wouldn't you be.

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Speaker 3: They're just like two fun little jugs or big jugs,

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Speaker 6: I just have a joke about like gay man grabbing

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Speaker 6: Why are we going through this song and dance?

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Speaker 3: I like your strength and your confidence. Where is that

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Speaker 5: I mean, I noticed that when I was at the

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Speaker 3: Actually you're very upfront and not afraid of confrontation.

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Speaker 6: Whi's so funny that I hate confrontation, but I'm very

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Speaker 6: because you're a black child. And when you become an

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Speaker 6: it's we don't have time. We have to make a show.

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Speaker 6: I don't have time for your feelings because you didn't

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Speaker 6: no one tiptoed around me to make me feel better

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Speaker 6: and to go well, told say we're not sure, No, bitch,

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Speaker 6: I'm not gonna hold your hand because you didn't hold mine. Also,

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Speaker 6: we're all grown. Why am I holding your hand? You

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Speaker 6: know this is wrong? What's the problem. And that's what

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Speaker 6: I don't like when you're with white people at a job.

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Speaker 6: It's a fake sense of community. It's a fake sense

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Speaker 6: because as long as y'all are getting a check, as

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Speaker 6: y'all can't treat me any kind of way. I'm fucking forty.

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Speaker 6: Who are you talking to? And so that's all it is.

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Speaker 6: It's just if you hit a certain point as a

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Speaker 6: Because in these times I'm appearing to be confident, it's

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Speaker 6: But it's always gonna see, Well, Dulte was being mean

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Speaker 3: This reminds me of America Ferrara's speech in Barbie.

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Speaker 4: Oh.

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Speaker 6: I didn't see that movie because I knew it was

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Speaker 6: I thought I was excited about it, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: Well, and that note, We'll take a break and we'll

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Speaker 1: This week, we'd love for you to write in about

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Speaker 1: family secrets. If there's advice you need about something you're

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Speaker 1: information that you know, write into Dear Chelsea podcast at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: And we're back with Dulce dul say, Hey, hi, Hi,

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Speaker 3: thank you for being on the podcast.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna take some callers.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we're gonna give advice to people. Okay, are you

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Speaker 3: good at that, dulcey? Sometimes when are the times that

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Speaker 6: Advice when people want to listen to it? Well?

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Speaker 5: Perfect, These people need help, So here we go.

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Speaker 1: Okay, they need to listen to it. Well, since we've

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Speaker 1: This is just a write end. She's not joining us,

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Speaker 1: but b says Dear Chelsea. I know you love your

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Speaker 1: boobs and you have amazing ones, so you might not

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Speaker 1: of view. I've always hated my ariolas because they are

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't hate on them, but I'm really considering ariola

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Speaker 5: Do you have thoughts on this? And I'll say what

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Speaker 6: Here is my question. Why are you taking any cues

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Speaker 6: don't look like those women, so you can't use that

442
00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:34,360
Speaker 6: as what do you? Honestly, what do your friends ariolas

443
00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:37,679
Speaker 6: look like? That's what you should be gauging them from.

444
00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:40,480
Speaker 3: Well, not necessarily, because I once had a vaginal it's

445
00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:42,600
Speaker 3: situation and I asked my sisters, I'm like, show me

446
00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:45,359
Speaker 3: you're Pikachu's because I have something that is wrong I

447
00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:48,240
Speaker 3: think with mine. And then they showed me theirs, and

448
00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,880
Speaker 3: they didn't have what I had. I was like, fucks exactly,

449
00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:55,000
Speaker 3: you know, but even if somebody does have nice areolas,

450
00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:59,359
Speaker 3: like when you hyper focus also a everything, don't They said, yes,

451
00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:03,440
Speaker 3: it's not fucking real, that's not real. You're to But additionally,

452
00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:05,720
Speaker 3: when you focus on a body part of yours that

453
00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,280
Speaker 3: you don't like, it exasperates the issue and it becomes

454
00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:11,240
Speaker 3: bigger and bigger and bigger. Find another bardy part to

455
00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,960
Speaker 3: fucking focus on and take your attention off your tips.

456
00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:14,920
Speaker 5: There's nothing wrong with them.

457
00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,680
Speaker 3: Your husband loves them, Like, how many opportunities are you

458
00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:19,480
Speaker 3: going to get to be topless other than the bedroom?

459
00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,159
Speaker 3: And in the bedroom you're with somebody that already loves them, Like,

460
00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:24,440
Speaker 3: I really don't think areola.

461
00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:26,959
Speaker 6: Reduction ariala reduction asshole brightening?

462
00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,800
Speaker 3: All of that is just like it's non that's not

463
00:19:29,960 --> 00:19:32,080
Speaker 3: the problem. I think you just have to try to

464
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:32,679
Speaker 3: get over it.

465
00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:36,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, what's the real problem, right, what's the real problem?

466
00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,240
Speaker 6: Are you not comfortable being topless? Are you not comfortable

467
00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:43,200
Speaker 6: with your body around your husband? I go to Crean Saanas,

468
00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:47,760
Speaker 6: and I can tell you the women that I see

469
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:51,119
Speaker 6: because like, when you're in the wet area, it's women only,

470
00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:54,879
Speaker 6: and you have to be maked. You can't have on

471
00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:58,280
Speaker 6: a bathing suit or anything because your clothes can infect

472
00:19:58,280 --> 00:19:59,680
Speaker 6: the pools or what because they don't if you're closing

473
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:01,600
Speaker 6: with your baby suits clean or whatever. And so you

474
00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:03,479
Speaker 6: have to take a shower before you get into these pools.

475
00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,040
Speaker 6: And the women that I see that are the most

476
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:09,679
Speaker 6: self conscious about their bodies are the women that are

477
00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:13,600
Speaker 6: quote unquote good shape, the women who are quote unquote thin,

478
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 6: and if they're boobs done. It's also the women that

479
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,560
Speaker 6: are built like me or bigger than. First of all,

480
00:20:18,600 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 6: the towels are so small, you can't cover up anybody, right,

481
00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,399
Speaker 6: But the women that I see that are hiding the

482
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,520
Speaker 6: most and being the most self conscious and paying attention

483
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 6: to who looks at them are the women who are

484
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:32,879
Speaker 6: quote unquote in shape. And so I know, for me,

485
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:36,600
Speaker 6: I think what she needs to do is to go

486
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,439
Speaker 6: to a Korean sauna or place like that where you

487
00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 6: can see real women's bodies, because sometimes you think that

488
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 6: you're the only one that looks like you. And going

489
00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 6: to the Korean sauna and seeing other women built like

490
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:53,080
Speaker 6: me that have you know, the roles where I have

491
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 6: rolls and all this other I was just like, it's

492
00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:56,680
Speaker 6: not just me.

493
00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:57,639
Speaker 5: It's not just you.

494
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Speaker 3: And also lean into your shortcomings, Like it's good to

495
00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 3: lean into the stuff that you don't like about yourself.

496
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Speaker 5: I have cellulate on my legs.

497
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 3: I've decided to not give a fuck about that about

498
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 3: ten years ago, like I used to cover my legs

499
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 3: up or be worried that somebody would see this little

500
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,920
Speaker 3: who gives a shit, Like at a certain point, it's

501
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 3: about self love and it's about you actually giving a

502
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,159
Speaker 3: shit about yourself. And I'm not saying that you don't.

503
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,200
Speaker 3: This woman that wrote in what's her name again, I

504
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 3: was gonna say Aritzia, and that I'm like cucy, okay, Ritzia.

505
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,359
Speaker 3: Lean into your shortcomings. This is a good lesson for

506
00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:29,919
Speaker 3: any woman listening. You know, none of us are perfect,

507
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,399
Speaker 3: and you shouldn't be trying to be perfect. Everything that

508
00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 3: we're both saying is like it's about I love myself,

509
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:39,360
Speaker 3: I'm into myself, I respect myself, and I'm self assured.

510
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,439
Speaker 3: So whatever work it takes you to get to that

511
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:43,880
Speaker 3: place is the work that you should be focusing on,

512
00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 3: you know, not surgically reducing your nipples.

513
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 6: It's like, because i work every day to be nice

514
00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 6: than myself, and I'm in therapy to be nice and

515
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 6: talk nicer than myself. And so I'm not saying that

516
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,119
Speaker 6: I'm so to a point where I'm just like, I'm

517
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 6: completely evolved. But also here's the other thing that people

518
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 6: don't think about. Well, you could try to get the

519
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 6: ariola reduction surgery and they fuck around and now all

520
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 6: of a sudden, your ariola is a cockotte, your nipples.

521
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:12,400
Speaker 3: Are Be careful what you fuck with exactly exactly, you're

522
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 3: gonna end up with a nipple on your asshole exactly.

523
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: Go to the Korean Spa and then watch them botched.

524
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,400
Speaker 6: And then that's hullair right there.

525
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 5: You go, watch botch. Problem solved.

526
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Speaker 3: Thank you for calling in Oran, Thank you, Ritzia, Thank

527
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:26,680
Speaker 3: you Ritzia.

528
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:31,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, grassies, Well, our next caller is Cheyenne aka Cinnamon.

529
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 1: She is thirty two in Wisconsin. She says she says

530
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Speaker 1: dear Chelsea. First of all, I just like to say

531
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,399
Speaker 1: thank you for all you've contributed to womankind. My question

532
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 1: is a bit obscure, but absolutely something you might be

533
00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:47,240
Speaker 1: able to help me with. I have a friend, let's

534
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,199
Speaker 1: call her Sue, who have been friends with for a

535
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,479
Speaker 1: year or so. When we met, I was waitress at

536
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Speaker 1: a strip club. Well, this friend turn into more than

537
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,159
Speaker 1: a friend for my husband and I. It was my

538
00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 1: first experience in that situation, and I ended up more

539
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: irritated and I'm comfortable than I expected, so I wanted

540
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,480
Speaker 1: to cut it off after an extended talkthrough.

541
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 3: Well so wait, wait, wait, I just want to make

542
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 3: sure I'm following her. She's she's the one working at

543
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,679
Speaker 3: the strip club or they met there. She was, and

544
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,120
Speaker 3: they met another girl that they brought into the bedroom.

545
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, So flash forward to recently when my husband

546
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:18,159
Speaker 1: and I had some serious issues to the point of

547
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,199
Speaker 1: marriage counseling or possibly being done, and she decides to

548
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,159
Speaker 1: play both sides of us, saying one thing to me

549
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: and the opposite to him. I plan on just dropping

550
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 1: the bitch as a friend. But here's the catch. Our

551
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 1: daughters are best friends and I don't want to ruin

552
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,640
Speaker 1: that for them. What should I do? Cheyenne aka Cinnamon?

553
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:37,360
Speaker 3: Oh wow, what a sticky situation you found yourself in, Juicy.

554
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:42,880
Speaker 6: Let's up with the nickname. Maybe it's not applicable at all.

555
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 6: She just just told us my name was Cinnamon. I

556
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:46,159
Speaker 6: don't know why I'm stuck on that.

557
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 3: She's here joining us, Hi, Hi, Hi Cinnamon. Okay, So

558
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 3: you worked in a strip club and you met this

559
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:54,200
Speaker 3: This woman is just a friend of yours.

560
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,920
Speaker 5: She wasn't in the strip club, right, Yeah, she was.

561
00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:00,040
Speaker 7: Just a friend. I was a cocktail waitress.

562
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 3: And she came into your place of work, and that's

563
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:02,719
Speaker 3: how you guys started hooking up.

564
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,919
Speaker 8: Well that's how we started kind of like hanging out

565
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,200
Speaker 8: and being like, oh, you got kids too, let's hang out,

566
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 8: and then it just kind of blossomed from there.

567
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 5: Look at Dulce's face.

568
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 6: I'm listening.

569
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:19,160
Speaker 8: There were some red flags considering she just was very

570
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,400
Speaker 8: attached from the start.

571
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 5: To both of you, or just to you to me,

572
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 5: and like, I.

573
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Speaker 8: Resonate with you very much because I fucking hate people

574
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 8: a lot.

575
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 6: Interesting, So cocktail.

576
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 8: That was like, ufta, I'm going to not hang out

577
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 8: with you every single day because I can't do that.

578
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 3: Okay, So you guys, so you had you had a

579
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 3: bunch of dalliances, sorry to use that word, with her

580
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: and with your husband, and now you've broken up and

581
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 3: your husband.

582
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 5: What's the status with you and your husband?

583
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 7: Me and my husband are great, We have no issues.

584
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 8: I introduced her into our relationship to spicything up.

585
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 6: If she was already clany, why would you?

586
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 8: She wasn't clingy a in a weird way, I guess,

587
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 8: And because I had never experienced being with another woman,

588
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 8: she felt someone I was comfortable enough to try that with.

589
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 6: So when the red flags came, were they before or

590
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 6: after you brought her into the marriage?

591
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 8: The red flags and the sense of the friendship was like,

592
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 8: she immediately attached to me, and that was like a

593
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 8: little overwhelming at first, but then it was chilled out.

594
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 6: And then when I.

595
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 8: Brought her into the marriage, it was okay for like

596
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 8: two times, and then it became weird. She was getting

597
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 8: mad at my husband for not giving her enough attention.

598
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, no, that's not going to work out for a threesome.

599
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 5: So what's this now? She just your friend? Your daughters

600
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 5: are friends. How old are your daughters.

601
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 8: So it's my oldest daughter. She's six and her she

602
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 8: has twin girls who are sevenix.

603
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 6: They don't remember three days ago, no.

604
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 7: I mean, but they do.

605
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 8: She breaks my heart because she talks about these girls

606
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 8: all she goes, remember when I was friends with so

607
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 8: and so, and you know, and it really.

608
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 5: But who cares? That doesn't matter, I know, but it's

609
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 5: she's six.

610
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 3: I mean, I had a million best friends before she's

611
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 3: gonna she might for this moment she misses them. But

612
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 3: this just sounds like a bad situation for you to

613
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 3: be immersed in. Like I would try to divorce yourself

614
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 3: from the whole situation. It's just too sticky. It's like

615
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 3: too many things are happening and you need to clean

616
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 3: up your side of the street a little bit more.

617
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:51,640
Speaker 5: And your six year old could take the hit.

618
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 7: She can't.

619
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 6: My family, there was a falling out in my family

620
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 6: and I didn't see cousins for years, like over ten,

621
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 6: maybe fifteen years, and I had to get over it

622
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,160
Speaker 6: because what I don't know what happened, And I still

623
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 6: don't know because I was a child and it's none

624
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 6: of my business. So like, did my little cousin know

625
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 6: that we weren't actually related. No, but that wasn't her problem.

626
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 6: That wasn't she was nine, So if I said sixteen,

627
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 6: I'd been like, Okay, that is because now they have autonomy,

628
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 6: now they know what's happening. She's so little. I don't

629
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 6: think you. I know you're worried about like hurting the

630
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 6: baby and like taking a friend away from her, But

631
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 6: you and your husband are good. You have to continue

632
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 6: to be in a place where your family, your unit

633
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 6: is good. She's little because think about it, she could

634
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 6: have a friend of school. Think of a friend of

635
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 6: school that she was talking about in kindergarten. Is she

636
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 6: still friends with that kid today?

637
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 7: Yeah?

638
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 8: So the only issue I'm concerned is I do live

639
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 8: in a small town. Okay, they see each other, we

640
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 8: see each other in public.

641
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 3: That's fine, that's fine. Just take the high road and

642
00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 3: just be normal. It doesn't have to be like a confrontation.

643
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 3: Just be friendly and that's it. Don't be anything more

644
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 3: than that, right.

645
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 7: And that's how I've been.

646
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 8: She's been the one who's had an attitude about.

647
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,400
Speaker 5: It, but who cares about her no matter.

648
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 3: You're just living your life, doing your thing. It doesn't

649
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 3: matter what attitude she has because she's not your friend anymore,

650
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 3: so you don't care about that.

651
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 6: I have the coldest shouldered in anybody. When I'm not

652
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 6: speaking to someone is very loud.

653
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 3: So right, sometimes when you are speaking to them, you're

654
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 3: giving them the cold shoulder too.

655
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 6: Don't say oh no, no, no, no no. You could never speak

656
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 6: to someoney give the cold shoulder at the same time

657
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 6: as handler.

658
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 5: I disagree, I disagree.

659
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 6: It can be very much like a hello, and that's it,

660
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 6: because if miss thing wants to give attitude, we could

661
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 6: give attitude. It don't have to be ignoring you, but

662
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 6: you need to know we're not speaking so as that

663
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 6: my child is, I say say, how did have a daughter?

664
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 7: Thank you?

665
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 6: That we leave it. It can be we see each

666
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 6: other in public, good day, ma'am, Good day, ma'am, and

667
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 6: then you go on a bunch of good business if

668
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 6: she wants to call them, because that's what's going to happen.

669
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 6: People always see the person that is acting a donkey.

670
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 6: So you can't bring yourself to her level or bring

671
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 6: yourself down on her level. But if you want to

672
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 6: have an attitude, let her have all the attitude she want.

673
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 6: But at the end of the day, you have to

674
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 6: walk into your house and know that your family is good.

675
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 6: And if this is a person who's going to bring

676
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 6: chaos into your house, her feelings are not. It doesn't

677
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 6: matter what her feelings are. It doesn't because what she

678
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 6: did is she came in and she caused the problem.

679
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 6: If she wanted to act right, then everybody could be

680
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 6: getting fucked on a Friday. But this bitch wanted to

681
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 6: cause a problem. This is her own fault.

682
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, Now she's not gonna get fucked on from no or.

683
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 6: To day or whatever that a week it is.

684
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 7: It wasn't even he the one who ended it.

685
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter.

686
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 5: Listen, we're telling you what to do it.

687
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter.

688
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 3: These problems are irrelevant. You just have to keep it

689
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 3: very distant with her, but friendly, and that's it. No

690
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 3: more getting in, no more inroads.

691
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 6: If you're going to see her, if the issue is

692
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 6: seeing her in public, because I feel like that's your

693
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 6: main issue with seeing her in public.

694
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 7: We own a bar and a restaurant in our town.

695
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 6: Does she come in? She used to, but she don't know.

696
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 7: She has now put a review, a bad review, and.

697
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 1: That's just gonna happen.

698
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 5: You just yell can fix that.

699
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 6: Yell can fix that.

700
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't say as a hook up at yea anyway,

701
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 3: sit up in Cheyenne.

702
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 5: Both of you.

703
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 3: Good luck and just you started this problem, now finish it.

704
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 5: Okay.

705
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 7: Oh I appreciate it. Thank you guys.

706
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 5: Okay, good luck to you.

707
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 6: Thanks.

708
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 5: Was she drinking a cocktail right then? Probably she seemed

709
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 5: very listen.

710
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 6: She is a fan. She's probably nervous. She had little juice.

711
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 6: I don't know if it was a cocktail. I'm not trying.

712
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 6: I don't. I can't speculate. There's no situations where you

713
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 6: say to somebody, this is what to do, but no,

714
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 6: this is what to do town. You are you already

715
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 6: you did the hardest part already was getting her out

716
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:56,520
Speaker 6: of your bedroom, right and so if the problem is

717
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 6: seeing this bitch in public, just look at her up

718
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 6: and down and go about your good life like that

719
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 6: can't be. There's something she was I.

720
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: Think she wanted to tell us a lot more.

721
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, yeah, okay, well, wolb on to tie.

722
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 5: Is it my ex boyfriend?

723
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 3: Oh?

724
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: Very hot? Tye is thirty one and says, dear Chelsea,

725
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 1: I'm a gay male and I have been seeing a

726
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 1: handsome guy. Since July. We hit it off really fast

727
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: and have been inseparable ever since. He has, however, been

728
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: unemployed for five years. Since I'm not no, I don't know.

729
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: He's been working as an uber driver, but his mom

730
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: has mainly been supporting him. He came from a great

731
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: medical job that gave him him an abundance of money.

732
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: I now find myself having to having him living with

733
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: me while I front all the bills. He only pays

734
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 1: for food and weed. How do I tell this man

735
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 1: to get up and fight for a real job.

736
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 5: Get rid of him?

737
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 1: What are you doing? He's applied for numerous jobs, but

738
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: still unable to contribute to the homestead. Tie and Tie

739
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: is joining up?

740
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 5: N Sorry, I have to take my medication.

741
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 3: After that, the last Colin reminded me that I needed

742
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 3: to take my medication. Hi, Ty, say hi to Dulce Sloan.

743
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 3: She's our special guest today.

744
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 4: Hello.

745
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 6: How are you? I'm good friend? How are you? I

746
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 6: hear you have a miscreant in your home?

747
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 4: I got something like that, Yeah you do?

748
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 6: This is this is before we give you any advice. Okay,

749
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 6: what do you think you need to do?

750
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 5: A great question?

751
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 4: That is a great question. That's why I'm calling in

752
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 4: to you.

753
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 6: No, no, no, no, what you're You're not looking for information,

754
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 6: You're looking for confirmation. That's what you want. You have

755
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 6: something you want to do, but you don't want to

756
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 6: do what you have to do. So you asking Chelsea

757
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 6: Marie Handler to tell you to do what you know

758
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 6: you need to do and what all your friends have

759
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 6: told you that you need to do. So tat what

760
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 6: do you know you need to do? And you're just

761
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 6: waiting for us to give you the green flag to

762
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 6: do it?

763
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 4: What I don't want to do is the issue at hand.

764
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 4: I really like this guy and feel like I need

765
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 4: to help him do No no.

766
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 3: No, no, no no, he hasn't worked in five years.

767
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 6: Wait what he say? What do you not want to do? Tie?

768
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 4: You can break it off.

769
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 6: Her in that's you said it out loud. You set

770
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:20,959
Speaker 6: it out loud. Now you ain't gotta get yelled at

771
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 6: by me and Chelsea Handler for the next three and

772
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 6: a half minutes. You already know what you need to do,

773
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 6: absolutely so look, you already know what needs to be done.

774
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 6: It already had had hers is you know exactly what

775
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 6: you need to do is get this raggedy man out

776
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 6: your house. Now you have the confirmation from three strong

777
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 6: women to do what you did not want to do,

778
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 6: because everybody, including his mama, probably told you to put

779
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 6: him out and break up with him. Am I right?

780
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 3: Maybe a sister, what do you can I just ask

781
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 3: you something? What do you like about him?

782
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 4: Dick?

783
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 6: Everybody knows who can keep a broke man in your

784
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 6: house with some dick. We already know the answer is Chelsea,

785
00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 6: And we can go ahead, Tie say it.

786
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 4: I mean you're not wrong, say.

787
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 3: Okay, well, I mean you have to have higher standards

788
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 3: than just getting dick, like.

789
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 4: You have to know.

790
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,760
Speaker 5: Okay, fine, the artist girl.

791
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 6: I can't ask someone whose ministry is no more broke dick.

792
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 6: I already know what the campaign is. You want to

793
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 6: be supportive of this person because they're not doing well.

794
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 6: But if their mother is supportive and their boyfriend and supportive,

795
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 6: this human being has no initiative to get out out

796
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 6: of his own and do anything. I know you love

797
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 6: this person, but you can love. You can't love somebody

798
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:31,720
Speaker 6: to your detriment. And you know this is what happened,

799
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 6: and that's why you know if somebody's sister's going please

800
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 6: break up with this man. He ain't shit. You know

801
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 6: he's not shit because he could be a perfectly good

802
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 6: human being. And that's probably the hardest part, because if

803
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 6: he was a bad person, it would be easy to go, sir,

804
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 6: pack up your throngs and get out of my home.

805
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,879
Speaker 6: But that's not what it is. You love them, they're

806
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 6: a good person, that's great, But what he is is

807
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 6: using you and his mama so that he can stay indoors.

808
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 6: And good dick knows that they can stay indoors if

809
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 6: they say, dicking somebody with a good job down. Look

810
00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 6: at this art you have in your home you're doing?

811
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 6: Will did you city out this man's mouth and send

812
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 6: him packing? We already, Chelsea, and I have no other words.

813
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 5: How long has he been living with you?

814
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 4: Kind of started off just like how lesbian couple does.

815
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 4: He just moved in, Like the first month, he just

816
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 4: came in.

817
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 5: Are you a lesbian?

818
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 4: No?

819
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: Since July?

820
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, pretty much like the same month. He just started

821
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 4: staying here one night and has left.

822
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 3: Okay, And the fact that he doesn't have a job

823
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:29,919
Speaker 3: is about is irksome to you?

824
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 5: Correct?

825
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean he does uber and that and support.

826
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 5: No, no, listen, listen.

827
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 3: I know, but listen, obviously, we just we told you

828
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 3: what needs to happen. This isn't respectful to yourself, never

829
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 3: mind to him. You're enabling him, and he's spending his

830
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 3: money on weed, which leads me to believe, like, when

831
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 3: you don't have a job, how do you get to

832
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 3: smoke weed?

833
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 6: That's what the uber's for.

834
00:35:58,120 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 1: I haven't started selling weed from the uber.

835
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 5: You better get your shit together, buddy.

836
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 6: Okay, my mother said more than one weed is a

837
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 6: motivation killer.

838
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 5: Yes, you don't see.

839
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 6: You don't see a lot of very successful people who

840
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 6: do drugs anyway, because it's either gonna kill you or

841
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 6: take your motivation or take your money. So this person

842
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 6: has already showed you what their priorities are.

843
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 3: Well wait, wait, wait, no, no, no, no, I say, okay,

844
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 3: and that's.

845
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 6: What I'm saying. But that's what I'm saying. I just said,

846
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 6: it doesn't happen for everybody. Because you are a self starter.

847
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 6: This person has already showed you were motivated enough. You

848
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,280
Speaker 6: use the weed to relax. You see what I'm saying.

849
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 6: You use the weed to help you.

850
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is I have a lot to

851
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 3: show for my weed. This guy has nothing to show

852
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 3: because he's being productive, I know, but I'm saying it

853
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 3: in a different ways. I'll say, so he's not This

854
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 3: isn't a great Like it would be great if he

855
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 3: was super productive and he was high all the time.

856
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 1: Great, that's fun.

857
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 3: But he's homeless, jobless and smoking weed on your sofa.

858
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 3: Like you have to look at that view from not

859
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 3: being in the situation and realize how absurd it is.

860
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:02,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

861
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I'm just holding out and hoping that

862
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 4: he gets back into the field that he used to

863
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 4: be in.

864
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 3: Well, let him go, get back into the field, and

865
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 3: then he can come and you guys can revisit and

866
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 3: he can fuck you.

867
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 6: Then what's the field?

868
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 4: Medical device sales?

869
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 1: So like money?

870
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm good, like very good money.

871
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 8: Yes.

872
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 6: Did he have like a nervous breakdown or something.

873
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 4: Something like that.

874
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, Oh that's what it is because medical device sales

875
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 6: is very commission driven. It's very difficult to do and

876
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 6: make a living at it. Oh, so you caught a

877
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 6: man in a bad place. That what's happened?

878
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 5: So does that change your advice?

879
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 6: Don't say no, he still a buma has to get

880
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 6: out of his house. But now we just don't understand

881
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 6: why he's a bum and.

882
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 1: Why you feel bad and you want to like take

883
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Speaker 1: care of him and nurture him.

884
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Speaker 6: Where is the nursery coming from? Because a bum ass

885
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 6: do is a bum ass do. But if you're seeing someone, Okay,

886
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Speaker 6: that makes sense.

887
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Speaker 5: Listen.

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Speaker 3: I'm all about giving people like room for them to

889
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Speaker 3: grow and correct bad behavior.

890
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 5: But this has been too long.

891
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 3: Five years is too long for him not to be

892
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 3: able to get himself back together, and you're not helping him.

893
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Speaker 6: Is he in therapy?

894
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 3: You could use that money that he's using on weed

895
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 3: for a therapist and he would get a lot more results.

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Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. Yeah, it's coming up on a ear.

897
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Speaker 1: I mean, since this coming up on a ear, I

898
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 1: think that's where you have to say, like, either you're

899
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: contributing to half the bills or bye.

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Speaker 6: And you have to go to therapy.

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00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: That's a perfectly appropriate boundary to set.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but you don't seem like you're ready to have

903
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Speaker 5: that conversation.

904
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Speaker 4: That it's coming to that time.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well you heard it here from us and we

906
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 3: couldn't be louder about it. So let us know report

907
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 3: back when you've done something about your situation, and you

908
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 3: should think of this as not a matter of it's

909
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 3: a matter of respecting him as much as it is

910
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 3: a matter of respecting yourself.

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00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, that is true. All right, awesome, Well I appreciate

912
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Speaker 4: all your guys advice.

913
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Speaker 3: Go get that dick suck now, Okay, thanks, I he

914
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 3: ows you. Yeah, before he leaves, have him suck your dick.

915
00:38:57,920 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 4: Well that's daly.

916
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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, obviously that man's earning his keep it. Wow,

917
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 3: don't say really is very insightful. Don't you really know

918
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 3: how to nail it out right away? You're like, I

919
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: know exactly what's going on. I feel like I'm looking

920
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 3: for more complexity and nuanced and said, no, he's getting

921
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 3: his dicks.

922
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 4: No, I got it right now. Yeah, she nailed it.

923
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Speaker 3: Everybody listen, Dear Dulce coming out in July, Dear dulcey listen.

924
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Speaker 6: If I know anything, it is the tactics and tricks

925
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,759
Speaker 6: and shenanigans of a poor man, of a broke man

926
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 6: trying to stay indoors. He knows what he needs to do.

927
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 6: He's gonna suck a dick, and he's gonna eat all

928
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 6: your meats and cheeses while you overhe had do good job.

929
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 6: Now we know what the campaign is. Get that man

930
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 6: some therapy and send them to his mammy house. That's

931
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 6: where he needed to go.

932
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Speaker 3: Or just get some peanut butter and a dog Chelsea. Sorry, sorry, guys,

933
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 3: that's thanks TI. Okay, is there already a dog?

934
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Speaker 5: Yeah?

935
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're going to be peanut butter though.

936
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Speaker 6: Okay, well no we're not good household.

937
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 5: All right, welcome bye, take care and keep us post dead.

938
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Speaker 4: Thanks, thank you to take care.

939
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Speaker 3: Okay, we're going to take a break and we're going

940
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Speaker 3: to be right back to wrap up, which I'll say, sloan,

941
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Speaker 3: and we're back from our break. Don't say I was

942
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Speaker 3: very impressed. I mean you're really good at this.

943
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Speaker 6: Thank you. Listen, As I've always said, I don't know

944
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Speaker 6: how to pick a good man, but I know it

945
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 6: ain't shit man from fifty paces.

946
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Speaker 3: Well, you're also very you're very good at listening to people.

947
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Speaker 3: That is a very good quality.

948
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Speaker 6: Thank you. Thank you. As someone who's been a plus

949
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 6: sized black woman my entire life, people love to tell

950
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 6: me their problems because America loves a black woman coming

951
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 6: to help them with their problems. But also I think

952
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Speaker 6: it's I would want someone to listen. If I'm writing

953
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,200
Speaker 6: into somebody or listen. It's I'm always someone that people

954
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 6: come to when they have problems, and I'm not always

955
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 6: the person that gets to go to people. So if

956
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Speaker 6: someone is taking the time to really share what's going

957
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 6: on with them with me, I at least owe them

958
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Speaker 6: enough to listen. But then you have to realize that

959
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 6: sometimes people want to abuse that. You're like, ah, because

960
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 6: I had a homegirl tell me one time, you've been

961
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 6: winding to me about this man for five years. You

962
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 6: ain't going nowhere. I'm not listening no more. And that's

963
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 6: what made me go my best friend won't listen to

964
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 6: me complain about this man again because I talk about

965
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,280
Speaker 6: the mechanic in the book. That's who I was complaining

966
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:26,800
Speaker 6: about all the time. Because you know, the first person

967
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 6: you love, you don't always know how to get unentangled with.

968
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,399
Speaker 6: But it's all right now. He's married to a lady

969
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 6: who's built like a can of soup, so.

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00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 5: So she sounds beautiful, gorgeous.

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Speaker 3: Don't Say's new book of essays, it's called Hello Friends,

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Speaker 3: Stories of Dating, Destiny and Day Jobs, is available now

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Speaker 3: so order on Amazon and what Else don'll say what

974
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Speaker 3: else do you want to promote anything else?

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Speaker 6: I have a lip gloss line with comedian Lace Layer,

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Speaker 6: be called giggle Gloss.

977
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Speaker 5: Giggle Gloss, Yes, giggle gloss.

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Speaker 6: We pack all the orders at my house. I am

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Speaker 6: the distribution center. Me and Lace came up with giggle

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Speaker 6: Gloss as a way to have merch to sell on

981
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Speaker 6: the road. It was my mom's idea. And so we

982
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Speaker 6: have six signature colors no more Broke Dick, my ministry,

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Speaker 6: Future Wife, my manifestation, and amos ladies with the men

984
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Speaker 6: you say hollering at me. And Lace's colors are Purse Vodka,

985
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Speaker 6: Lafia Majora and I'll show you crazy. And so we're

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Speaker 6: partnering with other comics. We partner with Katin Blandford for

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Speaker 6: her color horse Girl because stella merch on the road

988
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Speaker 6: is hard and keep it up with T shirts and

989
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Speaker 6: all the other stuff was a lot, and so me

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Speaker 6: and Lace wanted to find a way to have merch

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Speaker 6: for us to sell and merch for other comics to sell.

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Speaker 6: And so yeah, giggle Gloss dot com.

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Speaker 5: You can play smart all right, Delse, Thanks for your time.

994
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Speaker 6: Thank you for having me, and I hope I can

995
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Speaker 6: get that raggingan man out of his half.

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Speaker 5: Still say's invested. Goodbye, thank you bye. Okay.

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Speaker 3: So upcoming shows that I have you guys, Auckland, New Zealand, Wellington,

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Speaker 3: New Zealand, Melbourne, Australia, Brisbane in Australia, Sydney, Stralia. We've

999
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Speaker 3: added second shows to places that have sold out the

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Speaker 3: first and then I'm going to be in Hawaii on Maui, Kahulue,

1001
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Speaker 3: and Honolulu.

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Speaker 5: I will be there in July.

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Speaker 3: Also in July, I'm coming to Niagara Falls on July

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Speaker 3: twenty seventh. I'm coming to Hollywood, Florida for my only

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Speaker 3: show in Florida on July twenty eighth. I'll be in Auburn,

1006
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Speaker 3: Washington on August first, and then Santa Rosa, California for

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Speaker 3: my second show August second. August seventeenth is the Santa

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Speaker 3: Barbara Bowl. You do not want to miss that. And

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Speaker 3: then I will be all over Maine, Charlotte, North Carolina, Charleston,

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Speaker 3: South Carolina. I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to Saint

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Speaker 3: Louis and Kansas City, and then I will be in

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Speaker 3: Las Vegas performing at the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel.

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Speaker 3: My first three dates in Vegas our September first, Labor

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Speaker 3: Day weekend, and then November second and November thirtieth.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to.

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Speaker 3: Brooklyn, New York, at the King's Theater on November eighth,

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Speaker 3: and i have tickets on sale throughout the end of

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Speaker 3: the year in December, so if you're in a city

1019
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Speaker 3: like Philadelphia or Bethlehem, or San Diego or New Orleans

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Speaker 3: or Omaha, check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 1: Okay, if you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an

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Speaker 1: email at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and

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Speaker 1: be sure to include your phone number. Dear Chelsea is

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Speaker 1: edited and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law

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Speaker 1: and be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler

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Speaker 1: dot com.