1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:01,880
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not wanting to have

2
00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:03,680
Speaker 1: contact with my oh mommy?

3
00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:07,680
Speaker 2: Uh maybe you know, it depends on what kind of

4
00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:10,920
Speaker 2: mommy situation he's going on here. By the way, so

5
00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,720
Speaker 2: this came through our suburn at our slash o kop show.

6
00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,400
Speaker 2: Uh from from the user your mom is Shrek, which

7
00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:21,080
Speaker 2: is a polary that is a that is a goaded

8
00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:23,320
Speaker 2: thank you for Yeah.

9
00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:26,239
Speaker 1: All right, let's let's hear what you got. Your mama

10
00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,120
Speaker 1: is Shrek? Yeah? You know what? Hey? You know now

11
00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:33,440
Speaker 1: you're an all star? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, get your game on. Nice.

12
00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:35,760
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if this is bad because this is my

13
00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,040
Speaker 1: first post. Y'all. Yo, you don't have to apologize for

14
00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:39,000
Speaker 1: it being your first post.

15
00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,479
Speaker 2: We love it because we are in fun of you

16
00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:44,959
Speaker 2: for how Yeah.

17
00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,840
Speaker 1: I'm thirteen and my mother is fifty two. Wow. From

18
00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,800
Speaker 1: a young age, my mom has been an alcoholic. Oh Jesus.

19
00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,200
Speaker 1: She has been in and out of rehab for much

20
00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:55,480
Speaker 1: of it.

21
00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:57,800
Speaker 2: I've had to grow up quickly, which is not the

22
00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,680
Speaker 2: best because it feels like my childhood was dolen from me.

23
00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:03,920
Speaker 2: She found a boyfriend in rehab in twenty twenty, and

24
00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:05,880
Speaker 2: he was a drug addict himself.

25
00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:06,680
Speaker 1: My goodness.

26
00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:10,080
Speaker 2: Lockdown made them all go back home, and her boyfriend

27
00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:13,120
Speaker 2: went with her to her house. That was a very

28
00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,760
Speaker 2: bad idea. Oh my god. He got drugged up and

29
00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,520
Speaker 2: abused my mom a lot. She tried to reach out

30
00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,200
Speaker 2: for help once but was too drunk and drugged out.

31
00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:25,120
Speaker 2: Around eight months ago, the police got involved in her

32
00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,600
Speaker 2: boyfriend was kicked out. My mother's side of the family

33
00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,840
Speaker 2: and me had her sent back to rehab. A week ago,

34
00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,920
Speaker 2: she relapsed after saying that she would end her life

35
00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,960
Speaker 2: if she never relapsed again. I have not set or

36
00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,160
Speaker 2: texted her since, and my family aka my Auntie is

37
00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:44,679
Speaker 2: upset that I am not speaking to her, and my

38
00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,680
Speaker 2: mother is upset. My mother is a bit homophobic toward

39
00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,920
Speaker 2: me because she keeps asking me if I like any boys,

40
00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:54,040
Speaker 2: but I don't after coming out to her. Please tell

41
00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,480
Speaker 2: me if I'm the a hole, because I'm starting to

42
00:01:56,600 --> 00:02:00,360
Speaker 2: think that because of my aunt definitely not the ale. Yeah,

43
00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,560
Speaker 2: you're thirteen, You're dealing with all this shit, like you

44
00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:06,880
Speaker 2: just need space to be a thirteen year old, truly,

45
00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,480
Speaker 2: I think, honestly, like you deserve the space to like

46
00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,000
Speaker 2: just just focus on yourself. Like I would say, like

47
00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:16,000
Speaker 2: whatever puts you in the best position. And if that's

48
00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:18,720
Speaker 2: you know, not talking to your mom and kind of

49
00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:23,080
Speaker 2: being dragged into all of us mess, that's perfectly, perfectly

50
00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:25,200
Speaker 2: perfectly for that as a thirteen year old, like you're

51
00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,400
Speaker 2: not equipped to deal with like at all, like like

52
00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:34,120
Speaker 2: drugs and alcohol and abuse. Like that's like, dude, you

53
00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,680
Speaker 2: you need to be as far away from all of

54
00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:41,800
Speaker 2: that as you physically can. I think, really like like

55
00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,359
Speaker 2: go through your family network and kind of like talk

56
00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,040
Speaker 2: to like everyone about what's going on and see if

57
00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,440
Speaker 2: you can live with someone that has more stability.

58
00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:52,400
Speaker 1: Is what you need right now? Is stability one hundred percent.

59
00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:54,960
Speaker 2: Talk to your school counselor yeah, out to them and

60
00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:57,640
Speaker 2: see like what what your options are, because I mean,

61
00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,200
Speaker 2: you're thirteen years we're writing this Reddit post like SEMs

62
00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,760
Speaker 2: like you're pretty mature free rates, Yes, it seems like

63
00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:05,160
Speaker 2: you have a pretty good head on your shoulders. Just

64
00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,240
Speaker 2: like really focus on trying to get a stable home

65
00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:11,080
Speaker 2: and then just focus on school and doing well and

66
00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:12,520
Speaker 2: like making sure you have like a good group of

67
00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:15,840
Speaker 2: friends around on yourself, like have have fun, like have

68
00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,520
Speaker 2: fun hanging out with your friends again, Like literally any

69
00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,720
Speaker 2: scenario that sets you up to have.

70
00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,120
Speaker 1: A to be happy and healthy better rest of your

71
00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:26,040
Speaker 1: childhood for sure, for sure, for sure.

72
00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:30,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like like prioritizing school, I think it

73
00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:34,120
Speaker 2: will give you like the structure that you need, like extracurriculars. Yeah,

74
00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,920
Speaker 2: extra curriculars, like music, like clubs, just like get involved,

75
00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,480
Speaker 2: because I think that can give you also like a

76
00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:44,520
Speaker 2: greater like you have your familial for support structure, but

77
00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,120
Speaker 2: sometimes being really involved in a club or something and

78
00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,360
Speaker 2: give you like a wider support network, like you'll make friends.

79
00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,520
Speaker 2: The kids you'll have, like kids' parents probably help you out.

80
00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:56,560
Speaker 2: I think it's a way to have a little bit

81
00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:59,360
Speaker 2: of stability. Yeah, honestly, I was reaching, do you know

82
00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:05,080
Speaker 2: that show Elementary No, really really great show, and it's

83
00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,800
Speaker 2: like it basically takes place in like a Philly school

84
00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:11,080
Speaker 2: and they had like a podcast class really.

85
00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:12,320
Speaker 1: The thing, And I was like, oh, that genius.

86
00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:15,880
Speaker 2: If you I'm guessing that you might like podcasts, consider

87
00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:18,279
Speaker 2: that you are a fan of the show. If there's

88
00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,360
Speaker 2: a podcast club or like start a podcast or I

89
00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:24,080
Speaker 2: don't know, that's yeah, could be you could start a podcast.

90
00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,280
Speaker 2: All right, all right, I'm giving advice to thirteen year

91
00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:31,000
Speaker 2: old Sam. You very well maybe not thirteen year old Sam,

92
00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:33,920
Speaker 2: but just like if I was thirteen, I wish I

93
00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:36,760
Speaker 2: would have started a podcast earlier. Yeah, because like if

94
00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:41,279
Speaker 2: you're young and can email people, you can literally.

95
00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:42,719
Speaker 1: Talk to anyone you want.

96
00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, especially coming you know, someone coming from your situation

97
00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,880
Speaker 2: you're trying to like just understand more about the world.

98
00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:54,480
Speaker 2: If you like emailed Fortune five hundred CEOs celebrities, if

99
00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,240
Speaker 2: you sent out twenty emails to your favorite like company,

100
00:04:58,279 --> 00:04:59,479
Speaker 2: CEOs or whatever.

101
00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:01,200
Speaker 1: The biggest people you look up. Maybe maybe not every

102
00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:06,880
Speaker 1: thirteen years. It's like I've been CEOs. I'm sure.

103
00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:10,880
Speaker 2: I'm sure we're thinking in twenty five year old Sam

104
00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,960
Speaker 2: and John brain, but I'm sure there's people that Op

105
00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,360
Speaker 2: he looks up to. Yeah, reach out to them and

106
00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,080
Speaker 2: tell them your story. Be like, you know, I'm thirteen,

107
00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,640
Speaker 2: I'm going to these events in my life. So I'm

108
00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,760
Speaker 2: like using his podcast as it means like you know,

109
00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:25,839
Speaker 2: explore and build and all those good things. And yeah,

110
00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,440
Speaker 2: lots lots of people. Well we're because like people just

111
00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:33,080
Speaker 2: want to help young people one hundred percent. Well, OPI

112
00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,240
Speaker 2: thank you for sharing your story.

113
00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:34,960
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

114
00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,320
Speaker 2: If anyone else wants advice on anything, John and I

115
00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,200
Speaker 2: are down, just sit and chat, of course, and so

116
00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:43,040
Speaker 2: go to our sash Okop show and some of your

117
00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:44,719
Speaker 2: stories and we'll, yes, we'll get some advice.

118
00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:49,120
Speaker 1: Thank you, okay, op am I the a hole.

119
00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:53,080
Speaker 3: My dead wife cheated with my brother and I told

120
00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,360
Speaker 3: their son, who I thought was my son.

121
00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:59,040
Speaker 1: Now I've heard of messages before, but uh, this is

122
00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:03,000
Speaker 1: this is a whole, like is the whole new level?

123
00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,200
Speaker 1: My friend? This is just a dumpster fire. It's a

124
00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:06,120
Speaker 1: landfill fire.

125
00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,680
Speaker 3: This is a family conflict that came up recently. I

126
00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:12,479
Speaker 3: mail forty six. Used to work in the military, so

127
00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:14,799
Speaker 3: I was away from home most of the time. When

128
00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:18,440
Speaker 3: my then only son was three years old, I discovered

129
00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:21,640
Speaker 3: by accident that he wasn't mine. So how do you

130
00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:25,440
Speaker 3: discover that by accident? That's my question right there. That's

131
00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:29,000
Speaker 3: an odd accident. Suddenly discolled that this kid's not mine.

132
00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:30,600
Speaker 3: That I thought for three years was.

133
00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:32,239
Speaker 1: You know, losing your keys as an accident?

134
00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:34,800
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, this seems a lot all different. I discovered

135
00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:36,640
Speaker 3: by accident that he wasn't mine.

136
00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:37,560
Speaker 1: He was my.

137
00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:41,560
Speaker 2: Older brothers and also the older brother like, I feel

138
00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:43,240
Speaker 2: like it's worse than your younger brother because like.

139
00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:43,880
Speaker 1: Your younger brother.

140
00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,800
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, yeah, yeah, he was giving your brothers

141
00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,960
Speaker 2: you know better, he was giving you noggies all childhood.

142
00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,919
Speaker 2: He's like, you gooda, I'm gonna get your girl, and

143
00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:52,880
Speaker 2: then he actually did.

144
00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:56,279
Speaker 3: It was the most devastating time in my life, aside

145
00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,120
Speaker 3: from what I was dealing with my ex wife and

146
00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,279
Speaker 3: I ended up divorcing and I contact with my brother

147
00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,560
Speaker 3: four years. I was done with him even after my

148
00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:09,359
Speaker 3: ex wife, who he married the same year of the divorce. Suddenly,

149
00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,640
Speaker 3: there's so much into unpackaging what I'm gonna say, actually

150
00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,720
Speaker 3: got married. I was done with him even after my

151
00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,240
Speaker 3: ex wife, who he married the same year of the divorce,

152
00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:23,200
Speaker 3: died suddenly. So this guy got divorced, his brother married

153
00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,559
Speaker 3: his ex wife, and then his ex wife died.

154
00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:31,000
Speaker 2: Can you imagine what a tragedy the same year they

155
00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:34,080
Speaker 2: divorced they made I have always wondered though, like, do

156
00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:39,480
Speaker 2: do you know spouses like their significant other siblings because

157
00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,280
Speaker 2: they look alike? And I mean, I think this story

158
00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:47,160
Speaker 2: I answers it all. Why have the younger brother.

159
00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,000
Speaker 1: When you could have the older, bore experience brother.

160
00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,200
Speaker 3: My parents thought my ex's death was supposed to make

161
00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:54,080
Speaker 3: everything okay.

162
00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:59,440
Speaker 1: What Wow, Wow, how freak would that make everything okay?

163
00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,200
Speaker 3: As they claimed she was the one who drove a

164
00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:05,800
Speaker 3: wedge between me and my brother, But but bro, your

165
00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:08,640
Speaker 3: brother the one who hooked up with your dead wife?

166
00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:09,440
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me?

167
00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:13,040
Speaker 2: And also just like like okay, as she cheated, but

168
00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:15,440
Speaker 2: then also she's dead, so it's like hoorray she's dead.

169
00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,040
Speaker 1: It's like that's kind of no, that's not what solves this.

170
00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:22,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, or maybe the parents did think that's what would

171
00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:23,840
Speaker 3: solve it and they killed her.

172
00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:30,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, maybe from a reddit podcast a true crime podcast.

173
00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:34,520
Speaker 3: But anyway, Op kept his distance, that is until my

174
00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:39,360
Speaker 3: nephew had some questions that changed everything. My nephew started

175
00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:41,520
Speaker 3: reaching out to me and we began seeing each other

176
00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,720
Speaker 3: more often when he was around fifteen. He was always

177
00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:47,520
Speaker 3: told that the fight between me and my brother was

178
00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:52,920
Speaker 3: about business, risky business, risky business, the business of banging.

179
00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:56,800
Speaker 3: My parents threatened to disown me if I told my

180
00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,640
Speaker 3: nephew that his mother was my ex and that I

181
00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,720
Speaker 3: should leave it alone, which I did, since they said

182
00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:05,200
Speaker 3: that if they had to choose, they would choose their

183
00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:09,640
Speaker 3: nephew slash grandson. I mean, well, I understand like trying

184
00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,280
Speaker 3: to think of what's best for the kid, you know,

185
00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:13,800
Speaker 3: like the kid didn't do anything.

186
00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,760
Speaker 1: I don't like him. I don't like them.

187
00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,520
Speaker 3: My nephew tried to get me to meet my brother

188
00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:21,480
Speaker 3: so we could talk, since my brother welcomed the idea,

189
00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,600
Speaker 3: but I refuse, which is just so like heart warry,

190
00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:27,080
Speaker 3: Like the nephew just wants them all together long, Yeah,

191
00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:30,120
Speaker 3: no idea, what's rumbling underneath the surface. I made it

192
00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,840
Speaker 3: clear to him that he needed to stop forcing a reunion,

193
00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:38,480
Speaker 3: and he respected my wishes. That would all change when

194
00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:41,240
Speaker 3: he turned twenty one. So he's now twenty one and

195
00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:44,440
Speaker 3: is getting married in November. He sent an invitation, which

196
00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,360
Speaker 3: I declined and returned right away. He called to ask why,

197
00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:51,440
Speaker 3: and I said, I'm no contact with his dad, so

198
00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:54,000
Speaker 3: I won't come since he'll be there, which like, bro,

199
00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:56,640
Speaker 3: it's a year. It's your nephew, Like, yeah, dropped the

200
00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:59,040
Speaker 3: beef with your brother, it's your nephew. I don't know

201
00:09:59,080 --> 00:09:59,679
Speaker 3: what would you do.

202
00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:03,920
Speaker 1: So that's that's a hard that's a hairline either way,

203
00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:05,040
Speaker 1: could be you know.

204
00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,120
Speaker 3: Like I understand how much it would hurt you know,

205
00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:10,840
Speaker 3: and your brother did this to you, But this isn't

206
00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:11,439
Speaker 3: for your brother.

207
00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be like, listen, I'm not trying to like

208
00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:17,720
Speaker 2: engage with your father, but I will go here for you.

209
00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:20,680
Speaker 2: But I wanted you to know, like I'm not trying

210
00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:23,600
Speaker 2: to Yeah, like the stipulation, I'm not trying to repair

211
00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,120
Speaker 2: things with my brother right here, I'm here for you

212
00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,120
Speaker 2: and you will love. My nephew refused to accept that

213
00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,240
Speaker 2: and came over and started criticizing me, saying I'm being

214
00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:37,040
Speaker 2: unnecessarily better and resentful towards his apologetic dad over some

215
00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:40,800
Speaker 2: business and said he cannot believe how much hate I

216
00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,800
Speaker 2: keep inside me against his dad. He said, I either

217
00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:46,000
Speaker 2: try to work things out with his dad or he

218
00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:48,720
Speaker 2: will not be seeing me again. And like that all

219
00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,560
Speaker 2: him is so heartbreaking because, like with the kid, is

220
00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:53,760
Speaker 2: just trying to repair relationship. Yah, he doesn't know his

221
00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:57,040
Speaker 2: dad and his brother. I felt hesitant at first, but

222
00:10:57,240 --> 00:11:00,280
Speaker 2: then told him his dad and I don't have a

223
00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:03,600
Speaker 2: usual beef. I told him that his mother was my

224
00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:06,360
Speaker 2: ex wife, who is dad messed around with while I

225
00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:09,200
Speaker 2: was in the military serving a goddamn country.

226
00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,520
Speaker 3: Oh no, My nephew denied it, saying his dad and

227
00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:15,000
Speaker 3: his grandparents never told him that. He thought I was

228
00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,040
Speaker 3: lying till I showed him enough proof to get him

229
00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,079
Speaker 3: to change his tone.

230
00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:21,200
Speaker 2: This show is sponsored by Better Help, you know saying

231
00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,680
Speaker 2: it seems like this podcast has just become the Internet

232
00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:25,720
Speaker 2: asking us to fix their problems.

233
00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:25,800
Speaker 1: In their life.

234
00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:27,719
Speaker 2: Right all righteah? I mean like, hey, we're happy to

235
00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:30,480
Speaker 2: do that. We're happy to share some advice. But John,

236
00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:33,199
Speaker 2: I think we should face the music. We're not professionals.

237
00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:34,560
Speaker 2: I mean, we're pretty dang good.

238
00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:35,640
Speaker 1: We are. We are.

239
00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:37,840
Speaker 2: But if you want to share your thoughts and feelings

240
00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:40,280
Speaker 2: with a professional, someone who can actually sit down and

241
00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:42,040
Speaker 2: like solve the problems in your life, there is a

242
00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,760
Speaker 2: place you can go. Yes, the perfect place to go

243
00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:47,720
Speaker 2: is better Help. It's online therapy. You could do it

244
00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,200
Speaker 2: in your jamis. You fill in a questionnaire and they

245
00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,440
Speaker 2: match you with an incredible licensed professional who isn't Sam

246
00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:55,360
Speaker 2: and John. And if you don't like the persson your

247
00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:57,720
Speaker 2: match with same, you can switch any time with no

248
00:11:57,800 --> 00:11:58,400
Speaker 2: extra cost.

249
00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:00,880
Speaker 1: Hey, that sounds like a deal within the deal.

250
00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,120
Speaker 3: So if you want to live a more empowered life,

251
00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:05,760
Speaker 3: therapy can help you get there. So visit betterhelp dot

252
00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:09,400
Speaker 3: com slash okop today and get ten percent off your

253
00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:09,880
Speaker 3: first month.

254
00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:17,280
Speaker 2: That's Better help. H e lp dot com slash okop John,

255
00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,199
Speaker 2: you got a mouth, right, he yeah, I do yeah,

256
00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,520
Speaker 2: and you got some sweet lips oooh, and everybody listening

257
00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:25,320
Speaker 2: has a beautiful mouth that we have to fill with

258
00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:28,240
Speaker 2: food to survive. And John, the best and freshest way

259
00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:29,319
Speaker 2: to do that is Hello Fresh.

260
00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:31,800
Speaker 1: Heck you. It is like throw your grocery cards right

261
00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:32,160
Speaker 1: off a.

262
00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,960
Speaker 3: Cliff, because HelloFresh will send your meals right to your door.

263
00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,360
Speaker 2: Oh and you know their meals only take fifteen minutes,

264
00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:40,760
Speaker 2: say fifteen and listen to what they got. I'm talking

265
00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:45,320
Speaker 2: creamy garlic spinach for codd ofraviolie. I'm talking barbecue ribs

266
00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:47,080
Speaker 2: with buffalo mac and cheese.

267
00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm talking cranberry time roasted chicken. This stuff is crazy.

268
00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,400
Speaker 1: We also got the greatest deal on planet Earth. We

269
00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,120
Speaker 1: do we do? You get twenty one free meals plus

270
00:12:57,200 --> 00:12:59,880
Speaker 1: pretty shipping. Wait, Sam, are you sure? Twenty nine?

271
00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:03,640
Speaker 2: Team? We know twenty one? What twenty one and our

272
00:13:03,679 --> 00:13:07,199
Speaker 2: audience deserves it. So go to HelloFresh dot com slash.

273
00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:10,800
Speaker 3: Okop twenty one and use code okop twenty one for

274
00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,800
Speaker 3: twenty one free meals plus free shipping.

275
00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:17,679
Speaker 2: Again, that's HelloFresh dot Com slash Okop twenty one use

276
00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:21,320
Speaker 2: code twenty one for twenty one free meals.

277
00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:25,079
Speaker 1: Because HelloFresh is America's number one meal kit hop dogs

278
00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:26,840
Speaker 1: Boom boo boo.

279
00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:34,280
Speaker 3: What he did next no one could have predicted. He

280
00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:37,320
Speaker 3: left in a hurry and was enraged. I later found

281
00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:40,480
Speaker 3: out via my parents that my nephew canceled all my

282
00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:43,040
Speaker 3: family's wedding invitations, all of them.

283
00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:44,240
Speaker 1: He cancel the wedding.

284
00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:47,680
Speaker 3: He put the wedding on hold and disappeared after he

285
00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:50,559
Speaker 3: had a huge argument with them, and then he disowned

286
00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,040
Speaker 3: his father. Dude, the nephew went zero to one hundred

287
00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:58,400
Speaker 3: real quest woy roah tow the wedding, disowning your dad,

288
00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,560
Speaker 3: like falling out with the whole family. And I understand

289
00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,520
Speaker 3: it because like he was lied to his whole life

290
00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,079
Speaker 3: the person like And it's also because it's like the

291
00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:09,720
Speaker 3: villain switch right, Like yeah, probably the villain was always

292
00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,040
Speaker 3: ope right because it's like this guy has so much

293
00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:16,360
Speaker 3: uh like hurt and anger in his heart, Like how

294
00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:19,560
Speaker 3: could he just be so rude over something so silly

295
00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:20,480
Speaker 3: like a business thing?

296
00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,400
Speaker 1: Baltimore was Dumbledore the whole time.

297
00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:26,600
Speaker 3: Baltimore was doubled door. They did the old sitchu and freakin'

298
00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,440
Speaker 3: Harry is caught in the middle. Harry, you're a wizard, Harry,

299
00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:33,280
Speaker 3: You're a wizard. My father has gotten very sick after

300
00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:36,960
Speaker 3: this incident, and my entire family kept harassing me, saying

301
00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:40,880
Speaker 3: I ruined everyone's life with what I did because of

302
00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:44,040
Speaker 3: my hate and resentment towards my brother. They said, they

303
00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:47,080
Speaker 3: warned me not to talk and that now I should

304
00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:51,120
Speaker 3: deal with the consequences of alienating their grandsons slash nephew

305
00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:51,520
Speaker 3: from them.

306
00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:53,520
Speaker 1: What are they gonna whack him? So? I don't know.

307
00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:56,320
Speaker 2: It sounds like this is like a mob boss family, right,

308
00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,800
Speaker 2: But dude, I feel so bad for the nephew, Like

309
00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:02,760
Speaker 2: like this is he's the only one who didn't do

310
00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:05,720
Speaker 2: anything wrong here. He didn't at all. And I don't

311
00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:08,680
Speaker 2: blame his reaction either. That's such a that's such a

312
00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:10,440
Speaker 2: shock to the system.

313
00:15:10,320 --> 00:15:12,320
Speaker 1: You know. So what do you think is op the

314
00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:12,760
Speaker 1: a hole?

315
00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:13,200
Speaker 2: No?

316
00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:18,160
Speaker 1: That's what I think. I actually am gonna say yes, really, okay,

317
00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:19,840
Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead? Can say yes?

318
00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:22,600
Speaker 3: Not not because he's like, like I feel, it's totally

319
00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:24,920
Speaker 3: fine to not want to repair things with his brother, right,

320
00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:28,640
Speaker 3: that's totally fine, But to not go to your nephew's wedding, yeah,

321
00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:30,880
Speaker 3: because of beef with your brother, no matter how deep,

322
00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:35,040
Speaker 3: Like that's hurting your nephew, which you thought was your son. Right,

323
00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:38,960
Speaker 3: So it's like, you know, you have a you definitely

324
00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:43,440
Speaker 3: have some sort of connection with this person, and uh, yeah,

325
00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:47,120
Speaker 3: I just I think it's a heartbreaking situation, but just

326
00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:48,040
Speaker 3: do it for your nephew.

327
00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:48,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that.

328
00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:51,040
Speaker 2: Uh, I think he needs to go to therapy and

329
00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:55,240
Speaker 2: like really work through these emotions because because.

330
00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:56,680
Speaker 1: There's a lot there is a lot of anger and

331
00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:57,720
Speaker 1: resentment there is.

332
00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:02,120
Speaker 2: And there's there's like, look, he's been wronged a great amount.

333
00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:06,960
Speaker 2: But also to let those emotions out for twenty years, yeah,

334
00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:09,920
Speaker 2: I mean that's that's that's a long time. That's that's

335
00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:11,440
Speaker 2: that's a little bit too long. So I don't know

336
00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,000
Speaker 2: if I'll go so far as to say he's the

337
00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:16,520
Speaker 2: a hole, but I think he's negli he's honestly neglecting

338
00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:21,160
Speaker 2: working on his own, you know, personal emotions, and in

339
00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:24,520
Speaker 2: the process of neglecting that hurting an innocent person.

340
00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:27,840
Speaker 1: Yeah he's yeah, yeah, I like that.

341
00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:30,960
Speaker 2: There we go, all right, guys, you know what time

342
00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:32,800
Speaker 2: it is it's the middle of the video, which means

343
00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,680
Speaker 2: you need to subscret.

344
00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,880
Speaker 1: Wow. Nice nice notes there. Yeah, I feeling my inner

345
00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:43,080
Speaker 1: rock godcha. I like it. Uh.

346
00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,760
Speaker 2: And as you guys know, we should we shut you

347
00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,760
Speaker 2: out if you subscribe, if you comment, we hit those

348
00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,840
Speaker 2: shouts on the YouTube. I actually got a very very

349
00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:54,720
Speaker 2: special shout out to a special someone. I told her

350
00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:57,640
Speaker 2: to give to talk but she neglected to and doesn't

351
00:16:57,640 --> 00:16:59,680
Speaker 2: want me to read her real name. But here is

352
00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:04,320
Speaker 2: kW kW says uh from TikTok.

353
00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:06,639
Speaker 1: Is this better? I went over here. Please don't use

354
00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:07,280
Speaker 1: my real name.

355
00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:10,680
Speaker 2: Love the show, but please use don't wear it a

356
00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:12,359
Speaker 2: voice to shout me out.

357
00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:16,000
Speaker 1: kW. We love you. John is a master with the voice.

358
00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:18,840
Speaker 2: Next time, kW, though, you gotta follow up to my comment,

359
00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:19,800
Speaker 2: like come on.

360
00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, keep the conversation. Guys.

361
00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:26,360
Speaker 2: We got a few others we have TJ twelve. Imagine

362
00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:28,840
Speaker 2: this was on Spotify like a podcast that will be fun.

363
00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:29,399
Speaker 1: TJ.

364
00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:35,239
Speaker 3: We have a Spotif bro go just look look up

365
00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:37,240
Speaker 3: O Kop Show on Spotify.

366
00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:40,800
Speaker 1: Straight up four letters OKOP. It will pop up like

367
00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:46,280
Speaker 1: or the top podcast named OKOP on Spotify, or or.

368
00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:50,000
Speaker 2: Like two inches above where you commented. You can scroll

369
00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:53,160
Speaker 2: up in the description and just click the link. No, no,

370
00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,920
Speaker 2: no need to type anything like you're good. Uh.

371
00:17:56,240 --> 00:18:01,440
Speaker 1: Some subscribers, we got Riley Rainbow, Oh, taste the rainbow.

372
00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:03,159
Speaker 1: We got Sarah rug A.

373
00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:07,520
Speaker 2: I'm pulling the rug right from out the fund. You

374
00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,520
Speaker 2: another one, Daniel would Oh, I got some wood for

375
00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:13,280
Speaker 2: you that you can take a peek at.

376
00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:15,040
Speaker 1: All right, let's see if you can handle this one.

377
00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:19,440
Speaker 2: Jacob Finklesteck Finkle, you're stinker of you know what I'm

378
00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:20,280
Speaker 2: talking about?

379
00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:23,040
Speaker 1: All right? You know what, guys, come on, clap it up.

380
00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:25,640
Speaker 1: That was four for four. Give me another one, John?

381
00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:26,120
Speaker 1: All right?

382
00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:32,040
Speaker 2: We also got uh bingus bogus bungus, bingus, bogus bungus.

383
00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:36,560
Speaker 2: I'm gonna fingus your fungus and get you some like

384
00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:38,640
Speaker 2: a plumbus. Okay, I'm falling apart here.

385
00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:42,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, we almost say, all right, well, Sebastian, del.

386
00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:48,040
Speaker 2: Morale, del morale, del morale, dell, what is del the of?

387
00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:51,520
Speaker 2: I think it's of of morals, A man of morals.

388
00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:54,520
Speaker 2: Sebastian is a man of morality and morals. That's why

389
00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:55,280
Speaker 2: you're subscribed to this.

390
00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:55,720
Speaker 1: And if you.

391
00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:58,000
Speaker 2: Guys want us to shout out your names and your

392
00:18:58,000 --> 00:18:59,000
Speaker 2: comments and read where.

393
00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:01,600
Speaker 1: Read it in weird voices, you know what to do.

394
00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:02,720
Speaker 1: Subscribe in common.

395
00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:07,240
Speaker 2: If you say you'll never join the Navy, never find

396
00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:10,560
Speaker 2: out Fuji on a court visit, or break this down here.

397
00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,760
Speaker 2: Joining the Navy sounds crazy, saying never actually is.

398
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:18,680
Speaker 1: Learn why at navy dot com. America's Navy forged by

399
00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:19,240
Speaker 1: the Sea.