1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:17,800 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know, 7 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: it could be yours. 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 2: It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. 9 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 2: We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter. 10 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject the lounge closed last year. Dear 11 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been married for 12 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: eleven years and we have our separate spaces in the house. 13 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: This has helped us cope with the day to day 14 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: stress of being married. I have a group of friends 15 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: that I play cards with once a month, but I 16 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: prefer to be at home, watching movies and reading. My 17 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: husband is nothing like me. He's very outgoing and he 18 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: loves to be outside, as he calls it. His need 19 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 1: to be outside has caused a lot of problems, and 20 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: it's the reason he's in trouble. He told me a 21 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: string of bad lies and I called him out because 22 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: he thinks I'm stupid. It was almost two a m. 23 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: When my husband came home Sunday morning. I was knocked out, 24 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: and he woke me up just to tell me some 25 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: bad lies. He looked like he had just gotten off work. 26 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: His clothes were not wrinkled, and he was full of conversation. 27 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 1: He said he started drinking after work with a few 28 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: of his coworkers, and he met up with his doctor 29 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: after that, and he lost track of time after he 30 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: went to a cigar lounge downtown. I know for a 31 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,480 Speaker 1: fact that the lounge that he supposedly went to after 32 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: midnight closed at eleven PM, back when it was open, 33 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:40,680 Speaker 1: but it's been closed since last summer because of water damage. 34 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 2: He couldn't tell me. 35 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: He couldn't tell me any of his coworkers' names that 36 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: he was with, and he stuttered when I asked in 37 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 1: which one of his doctors he was hanging with. His 38 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: clothes didn't smell like cigar smoke at all. He looked 39 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 1: as if he had taken off his clothes, taken his 40 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: clothes off and hung them up at a hotel while 41 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: he was laying up with his mistress. He said, I 42 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: jumped to unreasonable conclusions, but he woke me up. Am 43 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: I wrong to assume that he cheated on me? Well, 44 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: you know, come on, the stuttering, the stud of stutter, 45 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: all of that. That's almost like a dead giveaway right there. 46 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 1: And no, you're not wrong. You're not unreasonable with your conclusions. 47 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 1: You know you're right, you know, the saying there's nothing 48 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: open at that time of morning but legs. But to 49 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: his point, like you said, or to your point, like 50 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: you said, he woke you up with these bad, bad lies. 51 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: He was at a club that's been closed for water 52 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 1: damage since last summer. Come on, he's so busted. He 53 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 1: didn't have any cigar smoke smell. You know a lot 54 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: of people when they smoke and stuff like that, it's 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,959 Speaker 1: in their clothes, it's in their hair. Come on, dude, 56 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: no one's picking up any of these stupid lies you're 57 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: putting down. He may as well tell you the truth 58 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: at this point. That's what I say, tell you the truth. 59 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: You know, at this point this stuff may break up 60 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 1: his marriage, But that's the risk he took when he 61 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: came home at two am with this pack of stupid lies. 62 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: He should have called Steve. That's what he should have done, Steve. 63 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 3: You know what, man, you know, you know, dudes, dudes, dudes, brothers. 64 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 3: Listen to me what I can't help you. If he's stupid, 65 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna be any help you. I can't save 66 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 3: this one. 67 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 2: Dog. Y'all been married for eleven years. Y'all got separate 68 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 2: spaces in the house. 69 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 3: You know, y'all help y'all cope with the day to 70 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 3: day stress of marriage. Day, today's stress of marriage. Damn dog, 71 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 3: I mean this is not good. Marriage has his challenges, admittedly, 72 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 3: but every damn day to the point where y'all got 73 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 3: separate spaces in the house. And man, it might be 74 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 3: time for y'all to just consider getting nobody this here, 75 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 3: because this is every day. 76 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 2: You rather be at the house. 77 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 3: You play cards once a month with some friends, but 78 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 3: you rather be at the house reading books and watching movies. 79 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 3: He ain't nothing like you, so he want to go 80 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,239 Speaker 3: outside and that's what Then guy is ass in trouble. 81 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:25,799 Speaker 2: So now what you say what got him in trouble? 82 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 2: Is even told you a string of bad lies and 83 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: he thank you stupid. 84 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 3: So it's two am. Your husband came home Sunday morning. 85 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 3: I was knocked out and he woke me up. To 86 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 3: tell me some bad lies. Why did you wake her up? Dog? 87 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 3: If you coming in for some dirt at two a m. 88 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 3: Get in the house, be quiet, shut your mouth, go 89 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 3: to bed. What's the matter with you? Why did you 90 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 3: wake her up? And then when you woke her up, 91 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:08,239 Speaker 3: you had. 92 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 2: A you dumb. 93 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 3: Look, I got you gonna lie, But damn though, you 94 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 3: gotta organize the lie. The lie has to make some cipher. 95 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,679 Speaker 3: You have to organize your organize. Yeah, you can't. 96 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 2: Random lies are easy to tell apart. 97 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 3: You must categorically organize with a timeline and some facts 98 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 3: to the lie. Every lie works that has facts in it. 99 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:45,799 Speaker 3: The only lie that works is the lie that has 100 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,320 Speaker 3: truth in the lie. 101 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 2: One more time, one more time, a lie. 102 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 3: Works, and all lies that are good lies have truth 103 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:00,039 Speaker 3: in it. 104 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 2: Everything. It can't be alive. 105 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 3: Your dumb ass. You set up in the hill. You 106 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 3: said you woked your girl up. You look like you 107 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 3: just got off work. Your clothes were not wrinkled. He 108 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 3: was full of conversation. He said he was drinking after 109 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 3: work with a few of his co workers. He met 110 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 3: up with his doctor. Now right here, you're gonna need 111 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 3: to know who. 112 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 2: The coworkers were. Yeah, I had to know your doctor, 113 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:27,720 Speaker 2: if you're gonna do that. 114 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 3: And then he lost track of time and he went 115 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 3: to a cigar lounge downtown. You already got you got 116 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 3: to have at least passed by the cigar. 117 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: Loune that was closed. 118 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 2: All right, boy is born right here? 119 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response 120 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after subjects is the 121 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: lounge closed last year? We'll get back into it right 122 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening morning show, all right, Come on, Steve, 123 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is the lounge 124 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: closed last year? 125 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 3: Now let me tell you something. I'm not gonna be 126 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 3: able to help this man right here, and I'm gonna 127 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 3: tell you something else. I don't even want to because 128 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 3: if you gonna come in here and you just stupid 129 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 3: and you lie done, I. 130 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 2: Can't help you. Now. This man has stayed out all night. 131 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 3: They already got married of issues because she would rather 132 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 3: watch movies and play cards once a month and read 133 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 3: at home. He liked to be out, and that's how 134 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 3: he got in trouble. And now he done told his 135 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 3: wife a string of bad lies, and she ain't buying 136 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 3: none of it, because the woman said, he thinks I'm stupid. 137 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 3: So Sunday morning, two am, she was knocked out. He 138 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 3: came in the house. He woke her up. Rule number one. 139 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 3: If you come in late and she sleep, why would 140 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 3: you wake her up? 141 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: Why? 142 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 2: Why? Cause you done? 143 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 3: And then he started and then he came in and 144 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 3: told you a of bad lies. 145 00:08:02,360 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 2: Now. 146 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 3: He looked like he had just gotten off work. Dog, 147 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 3: when you come in late at night, get them clothes off, 148 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 3: Go take a shower, right, don't even just let her 149 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 3: hear the water run into anything, but don't wake up. 150 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 3: His clothes weren't wrinkle, she said. He's sitting on the 151 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 3: edge of the bed talking to a problem. Clothes ain't 152 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 3: wrinkle close enough to get smelled. 153 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 2: He said. 154 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 3: He started drinking after work with a few of his coworkers. 155 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 3: You got you gotta get them lined up. And he 156 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 3: met with his doctor. You need to get that lined up. 157 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 3: He lost track of time and he went to a 158 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 3: cigar lounge. You gotta get that lined up. All this 159 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 3: right now is not a bad lie unless it's not 160 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 3: categorically lined up and you have no facts or truths 161 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 3: in it. You can't tell a lie. 162 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 2: All right. 163 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 3: I know for a fact here we go that the 164 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 3: lounge he supposedly went to after midnight closes at eleven pm. 165 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 3: That you gotta get a new cigar lounge if you close. 166 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 3: That's a but then and that closed at eleven eight 167 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 3: pm back when it was open. But it's been closed 168 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 3: since last summer because of water damage. 169 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 2: I beat. 170 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 3: He couldn't tell me any of the names of his coworkers. 171 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 2: Dog. 172 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 3: If you gonna say you was with some coworkers, organize it. 173 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 3: Have some coworkers' names before you wake her up. 174 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 2: Had the names. 175 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 3: Have gone by the cigar lounge, Smoke a cigar in 176 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 3: your car, get some odor on your clothes, puffing up 177 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 3: in the car, keep them windows up. You ain't got 178 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 3: to do nothing else. Drive by the club, called somebody 179 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 3: to make sure the club would go, buy, take a picture, anything. 180 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 3: You ain't do none of this. He couldn't tell me 181 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:14,840 Speaker 3: because and then he studied when you asked him which 182 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 3: one of his doctors he was hanging with. Now we 183 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 3: got another problem. Cole got a man that got some 184 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 3: damn medical issues. How many damn doctors you got? 185 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: But he was stuttering though he couldn't. 186 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 2: Name any one. 187 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 3: Of his doctors. How many doctors? So now you don't 188 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 3: have a doctor's name. You ain't got the coworker's name. 189 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 3: You'd have mentioned the club that's closed, and you ain't. 190 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 3: Having no sense to smoke a cigar in your car 191 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 3: on the way home, his clothes didn't smell like cigar smoked. 192 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 3: He looked as if he had taken off his clothes 193 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 3: and hung them up at the hotel while he was 194 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 3: laying up with his mistress. Lady foul assumption, He said, 195 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 3: I jumped to unreasonable conclusions. Well you know why she 196 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 3: did that cause you stupid, because you didn't organize your 197 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 3: damn lie. You told a lie that the ain't had 198 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 3: no truth in it. Coworkers you don't know their names. 199 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 3: Doctor you don't know his name. You went to a 200 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 3: cigar liue that ain't even open. You smoked a cigar, 201 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:27,600 Speaker 3: but you don't smell like it. 202 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 2: Boy dumb, You just dumb, like a damn dough knob. 203 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 3: And on top of all that, you woke her up 204 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:46,199 Speaker 3: to tell her this unfinished lie, this underproduced lie, this lie. 205 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 3: It ain't gonna get bought on Netflix. You ain't gonna 206 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 3: get on Hulu with this mess. You have got to 207 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,679 Speaker 3: produce your lies better. You need to hire a lie producer. 208 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 3: That's what you need to do. If you're not a 209 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 3: line producer, No, a line producer track of all the 210 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 3: costs of a production. 211 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,440 Speaker 2: You need a lie producer. 212 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:12,319 Speaker 3: You need somebody who can produce lies for you because 213 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 3: you're the best. 214 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 2: Am I wrong to assume he cheated on me? Lady? 215 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 3: You are free to take this non non regulated, organized 216 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:25,439 Speaker 3: lie in any. 217 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 2: Direction you choose. You can say he was out committing 218 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 2: to murder if you want to. 219 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,679 Speaker 3: You can say he was out digging ditches. You can 220 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 3: say he was out applying for a job in Nairobi. 221 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 3: You can tell it. You could do it because his 222 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 3: lie is unsubstantiated with zero facts. Fellas, every lie must 223 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 3: contain truth. 224 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: Listen to your. 225 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 2: Okay, all right? 226 00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:59,600 Speaker 1: Post your comments on today's tri or at Steve Barbi 227 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: fl I'm on Instagram and Facebook andcast I'm tired for 228 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: you on the free iHeartRadio app. Free Never Sounded so good. 229 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 1: You can download it today now. 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