WEBVTT - Soft Girl Era Error

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to talks.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? It's your girl a j Holiday, what's.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, tambn my girlfriend? Hey, y'all were back again? And

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<v Speaker 2>I love y'all so much. You hate that they love

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<v Speaker 2>me too? What are we talking?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? Say y'all? Today's topic? Okay, what I want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about? Y'all know, Ari Lennox got her little

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<v Speaker 1>me and myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that song, girl, I listened to that song

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<v Speaker 2>on repeat in the gym.

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<v Speaker 1>You manifesting the soft lives?

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<v Speaker 2>She said, Yeah, she was like, I try to take

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<v Speaker 2>out this trash. I'm trying to throw.

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<v Speaker 1>Some ass period.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that song.

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<v Speaker 1>But is a soft girl, uh era? Or a soft life?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that it almost feels like it's exclusively like to

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<v Speaker 1>black women, like you really only see black women like craving.

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<v Speaker 2>The stress free, soft delicate. Yes, because so long, like

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<v Speaker 2>most of my life I aspired to be a strong

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<v Speaker 2>black woman, really black. But I heard you know that

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<v Speaker 2>was like the epitome of black womanness, Like she's such

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<v Speaker 2>a strong black woman. And then as I became an adult,

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<v Speaker 2>I realized why you never hear any other race of

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<v Speaker 2>women called strong. You never heard a strong, strong Asian lady.

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<v Speaker 2>You ain't never heard that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Strong and Hispanic women be on the roof with their husband, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and they still don't be saying that.

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<v Speaker 2>She's no strong Hispanic woman, only strong Black woman, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And that should be a adjective attributed to our black men,

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<v Speaker 2>not to us. And I think that's why soft girl

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<v Speaker 2>era became a thing for us, because we want to

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<v Speaker 2>be seen as delicate and something to be honored and

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<v Speaker 2>protected and cared for and treated like a flower, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I want and that's what i'm you know.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's where that soft girl shit came from.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, there's a lot of social media accounts

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<v Speaker 1>I follow, right, some black, some I like the lifestyle

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<v Speaker 1>social media. It's like, I, yeah, I never hate her, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>When I see somebody doing some shit, I know like

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<v Speaker 1>my turn is coming, right, So I just look to

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<v Speaker 1>see how I'm ana decorate my mansion all the things.

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<v Speaker 1>So I follow this one. I think she might, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you send me her Alana Elena wherever her last name

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<v Speaker 1>is I.

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<v Speaker 2>Love to see her contents and breathe.

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<v Speaker 1>I love to see her live. And because her so luxurious,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so soft. Okay, what we see white. Her bedroom

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<v Speaker 1>is white, the kitchen is white. The dog's black, low

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<v Speaker 1>ugly eyes, pug, and she's just like super luxurious. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you have like the black girls now who

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<v Speaker 1>have their like Instagram's booming because they are now married

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<v Speaker 1>to white men. And now those are the women, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Because on one other episode we talked about divesting, I

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<v Speaker 1>would say, those are the women who have divested, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And the only problem I have with women who have

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<v Speaker 1>divested out the black community is why are you still

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<v Speaker 1>talking about it? If you don't fuck with black people?

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<v Speaker 1>Black men, you know, they got the whole dusty thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they talk about how the men are dusties.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a baby for a dusty. Now I got

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<v Speaker 1>a soft life. I followed some of those accounts too,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's entertaining to me, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>So my the question is, is the man, the man,

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<v Speaker 1>the only person that could provide a black woman with

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<v Speaker 1>a soft life.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think we've been trying to provide it to ourselves,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, Like I see a lot of people like

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<v Speaker 2>doing self care, you know, more self care things that

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<v Speaker 2>makes it maa right in a robe and uh painting

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<v Speaker 2>at their home, you know, things like that. So we're

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<v Speaker 2>being softer to ourselves. And I think that's the first step.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's treating ourselves when you know. Like another

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<v Speaker 2>thing that I was, like I in DP, that was

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<v Speaker 2>like they were setting us up. Ever they were setting

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<v Speaker 2>us up the whole time. Independent. We should not be independent.

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<v Speaker 2>We should be cared for and loved and nurtured and

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<v Speaker 2>provided for. I mean not saying that we shouldn't do

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<v Speaker 2>anything but sit around and be pretty, even though I

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<v Speaker 2>aspired to that, but you know, we should be careful

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<v Speaker 2>like a delicate little flower.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a super strong black woman, right, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hate that, you know, but I see what it

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<v Speaker 1>has done to her now in her older age, like

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't she had to work super hard and fight

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<v Speaker 1>everything that she had even while being married. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want that life. So I mean I'm that way too,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I do all the things, y'all. If it's an

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<v Speaker 1>American mad car, I could fix it, Okay, I be underneath.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, see me out there with a newport hanging out

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<v Speaker 2>her mouth might cost you a little bight cost you

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<v Speaker 2>a lot. Operators is gonna cost you not y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>For real, I got one in a five hundred dollar

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<v Speaker 1>Jacks that you could pick your fucking cup and spend

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<v Speaker 1>that bitch around like, I really be fixing cars, and

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<v Speaker 1>I also want a partner who knows how to do

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<v Speaker 1>those things too, like I like. I like men who

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<v Speaker 1>can do things, who could build some shit, who could

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<v Speaker 1>fix some things, like I don't want to always spend

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<v Speaker 1>money to do stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, so I don't mind it either.

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<v Speaker 1>Like a super soft life to where I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to do those things, I probably would still do some

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<v Speaker 1>of them for myself because it just it makes me

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<v Speaker 1>feel good to take some shit apart and put it

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<v Speaker 1>back together.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to work on a car like my nails.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't, but I know if in the event that

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<v Speaker 2>I need to change my own tire, I can do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I thought you was about to say, you gonna

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<v Speaker 1>call me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I can change my tire. Now start smoking. I

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<v Speaker 2>would start, I would call you, bitch, But the tire

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<v Speaker 2>I can do that by myself. I can jacket up.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, you don't jacket up first. You loosen

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<v Speaker 2>the lugs first, then you jacket up. Then you take

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<v Speaker 2>the lugs off, take the tire off, get the replacement tire,

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<v Speaker 2>put it on, tighten the lugs, drop it, tighten it

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<v Speaker 2>the rest of the way. Bam, bitch, I don't need

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<v Speaker 2>you to do that for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I can do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's right, something like that. Yeah, so I just.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really, I don't dream of a life of labor, Okay, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not like working for anybody. I know that

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<v Speaker 1>about myself. Like, no, I don't want to just sit

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<v Speaker 1>at the house, but I would like somebody to somebody

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<v Speaker 1>or me. What I've realized recently is that what I

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<v Speaker 1>want I'm gonna have to give myself because I have

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<v Speaker 1>had this expectation for men, right that they're supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>save me, Like y'all supposed to do everything I need

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<v Speaker 1>you to do, Like where the fuck is my husband

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<v Speaker 1>to do all this shit I don't feel like doing,

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<v Speaker 1>like carrying all these bags, like washing.

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<v Speaker 2>My car, putting the gas. I hate that shit. I

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<v Speaker 2>hate putting on my own gas in my car, and

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<v Speaker 2>I hate washing my own car. It would be nice

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<v Speaker 2>to have a man that was just like keep our cars.

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<v Speaker 1>I really just I really Uh it's those things, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's really like the financial part, like where is like

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<v Speaker 1>everybody can't have a rich man. Okay, y'all, we are

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<v Speaker 1>a real delusion or as women if we think that

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<v Speaker 1>all of us can get a rich man, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna happen. No, that I'm gonna get one. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a good one because I feel like I deserve that, right.

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<v Speaker 1>But I realized if I can't get a rich nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>I got to be one. I gotta be a rich nigga.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So now you're talking about rich in money because

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<v Speaker 2>there's difference.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm talking about finances right now. Okay, Yes, to

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<v Speaker 1>get the life I want, I've realized as of late

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm I'm gonna have to be the one to

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<v Speaker 1>give it to me. I was waiting, like to try

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<v Speaker 1>to build with another person, because listen, this life is

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<v Speaker 1>based off a double occupancy. Okay, it is just hard

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<v Speaker 1>trying to do some shit by yourself. I see the

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<v Speaker 1>younger generation, like the like my niece, she's twenty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>Those that generation, they're getting married and having kids. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, I'm at a twenty eight

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<v Speaker 1>year old yesterday, he's married a deacon. You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, Like he just the things he was talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>He has his head on right for his age, so

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<v Speaker 1>imagine where he would be at in ten years. We

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<v Speaker 1>learned that window. Okay, so if you didn't meet your

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<v Speaker 1>husband in college, it's over for your ass.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>He could be just like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I never know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like my niece. I'm trying to tell her,

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<v Speaker 1>the one that's in college, you gotta balance it. Do

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<v Speaker 1>not listen to my mama when she say, girl, get

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<v Speaker 1>you go to school. Don't focus on them boys, No,

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<v Speaker 1>focus on the niggas too. You gotta find balance. You

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<v Speaker 1>gotta do both. And because white girls go to college

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<v Speaker 1>and they come out with a goddamn husband. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna need you to do that because it's easier to build.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't just marry somebody so you can have a husband.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta like.

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<v Speaker 1>But you amongst all of these people, there's only five

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<v Speaker 1>characteristics of humans in the world, I believe, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can find those. The whatever characteristic you need, you can

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<v Speaker 1>find that in about one hundred two hundred, three hundred

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<v Speaker 1>thousand about who you.

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<v Speaker 2>Was at twenty twenty one in college or nineteen relationship, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but are you You're not that personal? Nine times out

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<v Speaker 2>of ten, if you married a person that you like

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<v Speaker 2>in college, you're gonna be divorced by the time you're

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<v Speaker 2>thirty five.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fine, but you'll have assets. Do you see what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? At least you're gonna have you might you

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<v Speaker 1>might have to have some Ask the right person. Y'all

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<v Speaker 1>both get y'all degree, Maybe y'all get a degree in

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<v Speaker 1>some real shit like this is life planning, right, this

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<v Speaker 1>is what this is what we're missing in our community,

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<v Speaker 1>like helping the younger people planning life out based on

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<v Speaker 1>what you didn't do. So yes, I am going to

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<v Speaker 1>tell my niece find you a husband while you're in college.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all can do all the life things together. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you do end up being divorced by thirty five, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>have some property. Okay, y'all having something nice? My homegirls

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<v Speaker 1>who got married at twenty one kids in committed relationships

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<v Speaker 1>up until now. Like one of my friends just got

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<v Speaker 1>divorced her and her her and I know her husband.

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<v Speaker 1>I met her husband. I met her through her husband.

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<v Speaker 1>But they had a lot, They had a nice chunk

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<v Speaker 1>of ship, they had an amicable breakup, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, And they had a nice chunk of money

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<v Speaker 1>to split to split, you know what I'm saying. Like

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<v Speaker 1>neither one of them are struggling. But he.

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<v Speaker 2>Just sounds like you was telling what you could just

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<v Speaker 2>find a business partner.

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<v Speaker 1>That is what marriage is. We already talked about how

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<v Speaker 1>love is for poor people. Marriage is is a business.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I'm saying like they could just get a

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<v Speaker 2>business partner.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh bitch, I've been wanting to break out your ass.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too, Shit though, That's.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Same shit. It's a lot different when you contractually obligated

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<v Speaker 1>to fuck up fuck with somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but marriage license is nothing but a contract, That's

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<v Speaker 2>what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>So why not just go ahead and do it, That's.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying. I get what you're saying, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>also saying you could just build a business, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>instead of a relationship, instead of marriage, because what about

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<v Speaker 2>God and the union and not just looking at it

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<v Speaker 2>as a business opportunity and looking at at it as

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<v Speaker 2>you know, last, women are trying to like most women

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<v Speaker 2>out here, I say, now, mad fuck that I.

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<v Speaker 1>Am not married for love anymore. I'm not dating for

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<v Speaker 1>love anymore. Now everybody's dating for stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's the wrong idea. I think if you do

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<v Speaker 2>it just like that, it never turns out right, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you'll have stuff and that's it. And I always say, like,

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<v Speaker 2>if you only have stuff, you're poor.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, absolutely soft.

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<v Speaker 2>I know people heard that it was like being shitting me.

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<v Speaker 2>I got all the money I could ever want. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's people who have all the money and are very

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<v Speaker 2>sad and very miserable and ready to kill yourself. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>your true wealth does not lie in the tangible things.

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<v Speaker 2>Your wealth is like you're healthy, are you happy? Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 2>you're happy. You got your sound mind and body. That's

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<v Speaker 2>your wealth. That is your real wealth.

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<v Speaker 1>Right at garden wouldn't make you happier, absolutely, or make

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<v Speaker 1>me happy? Are about?

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<v Speaker 2>But if I had an Aston Martin and I was

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<v Speaker 2>sad and I was depressed and my mental health wasn't right,

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<v Speaker 2>it wouldn't matter. I could drive it all over the place,

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<v Speaker 2>it wouldn't change the thing. Find somebody, Find somebody right

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<v Speaker 2>now who's sick and asking what an Aston Martin make

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<v Speaker 2>them happier. Hell no, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Think that people who probably were born into money, they

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<v Speaker 1>feel like money doesn't bring happiness. That is some bullshit.

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<v Speaker 1>Money absolutely can buy happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>It can buy momentary happy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what life is. Life ain't nothing but a bunch

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<v Speaker 1>of fucking turmoil and struggle and little spurts of happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>That is living. That's whether age don't have money.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a certain level or peace that comes. Money cannot

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<v Speaker 2>bring you out of some bullshit.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go to a beach, buy you a beach house.

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<v Speaker 1>You wake up to the blue ocean every day, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Ocean that's immersing, sitting on the ocean right now, ready

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<v Speaker 2>to jump in and drown their motherfuckingself.

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<v Speaker 1>They's selfish. That's why that's a different type of person.

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<v Speaker 2>We know.

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<v Speaker 1>Even talk about people with mental health issues, we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about sound.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying like, fine, you know, if you can

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<v Speaker 2>get to a place in your your mental health and

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<v Speaker 2>your frequency that money don't provide the happiness, then when

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<v Speaker 2>you get the money, it's just that much better, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>But don't that's let work.

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<v Speaker 1>Up is now though right before. That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>People who are born into money like they're the brats,

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<v Speaker 1>is what I'm talking about. I'm not a brat, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. If I run into a man

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<v Speaker 1>with money tomorrow, if I run into a bag of

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<v Speaker 1>my own tomorrow, I'm not a brat, you know, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I've already built my up. You can tell a lot

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<v Speaker 1>about a person when they broke and when they got money.

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<v Speaker 1>They say, you meet the real people when they actually

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<v Speaker 1>have the resources to be the asshole they want to be.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not an asshole.

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<v Speaker 2>You ain't got the resources yet. Let's see.

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<v Speaker 1>Not be an asshole with money, bitch a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm giving anytime somebody needs something, you can fucking have it.

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<v Speaker 1>So imagine if I have actual, real, some real bands

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<v Speaker 1>on these bitches like y'all ain't seen nothing yet of

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<v Speaker 1>y'all think I'm a problem now.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I just think, you know, the truest form of

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<v Speaker 2>happiness is not I mean financial. Don't get me wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>It's always good to have the things, but that listen,

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<v Speaker 2>when I just feel like when you had the things,

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<v Speaker 2>think about something you always wanted, you got it, and

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<v Speaker 2>then after a while it was just another thing you had.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved my cat. I've been wanting cat for a

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<v Speaker 1>long time.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's different because you're telling like because if animals

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<v Speaker 2>are like family, they're living, breathing things. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 2>like that that bag you wanted, or that car you wanted,

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<v Speaker 2>or that you know, like it was like the best

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<v Speaker 2>thing in the world to you, Like, oh, I got

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<v Speaker 2>that watch or I got that bag, I got that car.

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<v Speaker 2>And then after a while I was like that you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't even.

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<v Speaker 1>Wash the car, so I so, I said, Aston Martin, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but that that's not the type of things I aspire

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<v Speaker 1>to aspire to have. I want experiences, right, want that

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<v Speaker 1>money because I'm not a materialistic type of person, so

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<v Speaker 1>it would never be stuff for real, it's experiences. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>You got people committing to religions that they haven't actually studied.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to gold places and see what's actually like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to I want to actually be able to

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<v Speaker 1>touch things that money buys you, like just freedom, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>exactly to do what you want to do. Like you

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<v Speaker 1>got white boys who do deep diving allday, like that's

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<v Speaker 1>their job because they were afforded a life where they

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<v Speaker 1>can just think, they have time to think, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>they just go do whatever their wildest dreams. That is

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<v Speaker 1>what I would That is the soft life for me,

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<v Speaker 1>me waking up, waking up and being able to do

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it is that I want with my time right so,

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<v Speaker 1>and it could also store make money. But when you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a rat race, you don't have time to think,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have time to.

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<v Speaker 2>You just gotta do. Yeah, especially when you have kids.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, shout out to all the moms and dads

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<v Speaker 2>out there that like sacrificing their own ambitions and goals

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<v Speaker 2>because they want to see their kids be the best

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<v Speaker 2>versions of theirselfs. There's a lot of that, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a lot of that going on where people have

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<v Speaker 2>to put their own dreams to the side so the

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<v Speaker 2>kids can have some. You know, I respect that so

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<v Speaker 2>much because I ain't got no baby to worry about.

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<v Speaker 2>My dreams is my dreams Like right now, I like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm traveling between New York, Charlotte and Columbia, back and

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<v Speaker 2>forth all the fuck I want freely because I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have a child who's depending on me to provide her

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<v Speaker 2>stability him or her stability. So you know, I respect

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<v Speaker 2>that so much.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen this off topic a little bit. I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>this post the other day on Instagram, and the girl

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<v Speaker 1>was like, y'all, ladies, y'all be careful because a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of men just want to sit your eys down. They

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<v Speaker 1>see you got movement. You bunks it from here to displays,

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<v Speaker 1>doing this and that and they and it could be

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<v Speaker 1>a subconscious thing. It may not be. I always talk

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<v Speaker 1>about the subconscious mind. So should you not even realizing

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<v Speaker 1>you thinking about right, you could just want to sit

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<v Speaker 1>your ass down, put a baby in you. He's just

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<v Speaker 1>jealous that you got all his moving. He probably got

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<v Speaker 1>kids of his own already, but he's jealous of you

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<v Speaker 1>being so free.

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<v Speaker 2>Hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I heard that shit, I was like, that

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<v Speaker 1>is what I have been experiencing. I believe in my relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>They're just trying to make you sit still.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, because I you know, I don't have no kids.

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<v Speaker 1>If I got a pet, should I take the pet

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<v Speaker 1>with me or get somebody else to take care of

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<v Speaker 1>them while I go do whatever I want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can do what I want to do when

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do it. I can see how somebody

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<v Speaker 1>can be jealous of that.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a softness in that, though you know, maybe you're

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<v Speaker 2>already living your soft girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I've actually been doing what I want to do for

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<v Speaker 1>long time. So now this this this year, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>straight grind, straight grind mo because I have been just

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<v Speaker 1>waking up when I want to. Just no straight, no discipline.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's another thing that I'm trying to change about

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<v Speaker 1>me too, Like I do aspire to be the six

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<v Speaker 1>a m millionaire. Right, I'm waking up between five and

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<v Speaker 1>six o'clock.

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<v Speaker 2>Your heights in the Sarratoga water. Yes, get the get

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<v Speaker 2>the heart. Because your eyelashes is colored off of the bowl.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't sleep at the lashes on.

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<v Speaker 2>So when I wake up, you put on eyelashes every morning?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, damn near every day unless I do hot yoga. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be having lashes on every day. It only take

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<v Speaker 1>a minute. It only takes a minute. I put my

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<v Speaker 1>eyebrows on every day too, every day. I've been doing

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<v Speaker 1>my eyebrows every day since sixth grade.

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<v Speaker 2>Shame. I could do with my eye closes that I wanted,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I was getting I love eyelash raight. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was getting the eyelashes done.

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<v Speaker 1>But that ship is why isn't so high? See, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have to worry about that if you know you

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<v Speaker 1>do the ones you do strips? Are you doing strips?

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm liking to I know this is off topic, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>but we girls so the ones that they're putting under these,

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<v Speaker 2>But I also don't have that seems like even more

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<v Speaker 2>time in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Are they the same?

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<v Speaker 2>It's like little clusters that go under kneath, and they're

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<v Speaker 2>like long and then they get shorter as they go.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's the same clusters. You can either put

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<v Speaker 1>them on top or at the bottom. It's no different.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think these are specifically for underneath.

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<v Speaker 1>But maybe the thinner or the balls at the top

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<v Speaker 1>thinner or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, don't get me lying. I don't know, but all

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<v Speaker 2>I know is they look good. And it's half the

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<v Speaker 2>price of not talking to listen. I respect you last

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<v Speaker 2>girlies and y'all get y'all money, but I just can't.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, and then if you miss a week, it's

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<v Speaker 2>more you got to be consistent on time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because they if they got to fill in your

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<v Speaker 1>whole eye lish, that's a full set. That's a new set,

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<v Speaker 1>all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Me and this girl fell out. Let me just tell

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<v Speaker 2>this because she was doing my eyelashes and I had

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<v Speaker 2>my feeling books, right, and then on the day of

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<v Speaker 2>my book and her kid got sick. She said she

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<v Speaker 2>can't do it. I get it. You know, you gotta

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<v Speaker 2>take care of your baby. So she was like, I

0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:13.840
<v Speaker 2>can get you in next Wednesday. I was like, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So then when it's time for me to come in,

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<v Speaker 2>she's trying to charge me for a three week feeling

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, no, I was booked for two weeks,

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<v Speaker 2>she said, but it's been three Who fucking fault is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? If I really could have just not come back

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<v Speaker 1>here and got my shit by done by somebody else

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks ago, but here you are trying to charge

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<v Speaker 1>me the full price when you missed my.

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<v Speaker 2>Well when you kids. When I'm pulling it, she said.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all meetings and like, and you in that profession, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, like I do people here, but I am

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<v Speaker 1>really solicit. So if somebody asked me by the wig

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<v Speaker 1>or so and it's something, I might do it here,

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<v Speaker 1>but y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>People might though I'm fair license.

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<v Speaker 1>Temmy always called me and asked me if she tripping

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<v Speaker 1>before she tripped on y'all bitches. I just want y'all

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<v Speaker 1>to know you got a moment she would call and

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<v Speaker 1>tell me what the situation is, I'd be like, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, do you have the bandwidth?

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<v Speaker 1>Why would it? You know? Yeah, so y'all people who

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<v Speaker 1>offer services between y'all y'all clients. I don't, and I

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<v Speaker 1>know I send you post sometimes with people going off

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<v Speaker 1>on a beautician and the nails. Yah, And that's why

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<v Speaker 1>I have to worry about that type of show.

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<v Speaker 2>We like. Listen, God, everybody, buy your heads bless me

0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:27.600
<v Speaker 2>in this show in our YouTube checks so that I

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<v Speaker 2>ain't got to stand behind a chair no more. And

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<v Speaker 2>she's the same. Amen, fy the guy because this shit

0:21:33.600 --> 0:21:36.320
<v Speaker 2>it's stressful, and it's not just because of hair. Because

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<v Speaker 2>I enjoy making women feel beautiful. I love when a

0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:41.240
<v Speaker 2>woman walks out and she's feeling herself. That made me

0:21:41.280 --> 0:21:43.399
<v Speaker 2>feel like a proud mama watching my baby, you know,

0:21:43.800 --> 0:21:46.840
<v Speaker 2>walk down the stage getting their diploma. But what I

0:21:46.960 --> 0:21:50.240
<v Speaker 2>don't like is standing over somebody's head all the time.

0:21:50.280 --> 0:21:53.040
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I'd be like, I could donkey comb this bitch

0:21:53.040 --> 0:21:53.680
<v Speaker 2>at the top of it.

0:21:55.440 --> 0:21:57.639
<v Speaker 1>You know, me, me and my best friend Priscilla have

0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:01.120
<v Speaker 1>literally been doing here since first grade. Her oldest sister

0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:04.080
<v Speaker 1>is a licensed cosmetologist. So she you know, she went

0:22:04.119 --> 0:22:07.160
<v Speaker 1>on she got she's a beautician as well. I never

0:22:07.280 --> 0:22:09.520
<v Speaker 1>wanted to do that because it's not about standing out.

0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:12.520
<v Speaker 1>It's about the customer service aspect of having to deal

0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:15.040
<v Speaker 1>with black women. And they fucking hear like, you can

0:22:15.080 --> 0:22:17.760
<v Speaker 1>do somebody's hair on Friday. I like, when I worked

0:22:17.760 --> 0:22:20.840
<v Speaker 1>in the office, I would be doing people's hair on there,

0:22:20.840 --> 0:22:23.000
<v Speaker 1>like I could do a bitch here on Friday, and

0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:25.360
<v Speaker 1>you come back on Monday looking at them. I'm like, bitch,

0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:27.160
<v Speaker 1>don't tell nobody I did your hair because you don't

0:22:27.200 --> 0:22:29.240
<v Speaker 1>let some nigger pull on that shit all weekend. Now

0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:32.680
<v Speaker 1>you looking at me like I'm supposed to refresh book.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not how you looked when you let I'm not

0:22:34.800 --> 0:22:37.120
<v Speaker 1>a licensed professional. You see what I'm saying. I'm not licensed,

0:22:37.119 --> 0:22:39.280
<v Speaker 1>so those same rules don't apply to me. I'm not

0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:42.280
<v Speaker 1>redoing your hair after you don't let somebody pull on

0:22:42.320 --> 0:22:44.359
<v Speaker 1>your shit all weekend? Are you acting like a saw it?

0:22:44.359 --> 0:22:47.080
<v Speaker 2>Ain't let him pull it. I'll redo it, book it.

0:22:47.560 --> 0:22:50.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but they didn't. They don't. When I say customer

0:22:50.760 --> 0:22:54.560
<v Speaker 1>service aspect, it's people wanting to finesse you out of

0:22:54.600 --> 0:22:58.000
<v Speaker 1>a service and acting like, oh, what us lifting over

0:22:58.080 --> 0:23:00.560
<v Speaker 1>here and all this, Like you have to be able

0:23:00.560 --> 0:23:03.359
<v Speaker 1>to do a little bit of your own maintenance. Yeah,

0:23:03.520 --> 0:23:05.159
<v Speaker 1>I agree, you know what I'm saying. You can't expect

0:23:05.160 --> 0:23:07.760
<v Speaker 1>your hair to look fresh every day for two to

0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:08.320
<v Speaker 1>three weeks.

0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:10.600
<v Speaker 2>See, that was all right. I know we're off the topic,

0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:13.960
<v Speaker 2>but super off. We used to. It used to when

0:23:14.000 --> 0:23:15.640
<v Speaker 2>everything was pumped up, you.

0:23:15.600 --> 0:23:18.960
<v Speaker 1>Know, like your hair would last two to three weeks. Yeah,

0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:21.200
<v Speaker 1>but if you're not getting a scrunch baby, you want

0:23:21.200 --> 0:23:23.960
<v Speaker 1>to fucking bust down with a lace front that only

0:23:24.040 --> 0:23:26.080
<v Speaker 1>lasts a week. Especially if you're a gym girly, it's

0:23:26.080 --> 0:23:30.119
<v Speaker 1>gonna be lifting in no time. You're not gonna get that.

0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:30.440
<v Speaker 2>Like.

0:23:31.359 --> 0:23:34.760
<v Speaker 1>That's like you at the fucking Live show that my.

0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:36.679
<v Speaker 2>Legs was fucked up because I was doing my seventy

0:23:36.720 --> 0:23:41.560
<v Speaker 2>five hard flig. But yeah, my lece was up the

0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:43.600
<v Speaker 2>next day and I spent one thousand dollars.

0:23:43.600 --> 0:23:45.840
<v Speaker 1>You're a fault of the beautician. It's mine.

0:23:46.240 --> 0:23:48.320
<v Speaker 2>You know, I understood. I didn't call her because I

0:23:48.359 --> 0:23:49.200
<v Speaker 2>know I sweat.

0:23:49.320 --> 0:23:52.080
<v Speaker 1>Somebody else would call her. That's the customer service. Shit.

0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I would not be one to.

0:23:53.240 --> 0:24:00.800
<v Speaker 2>Deal with soft girl. It's soft life, skiing off men

0:24:00.880 --> 0:24:02.159
<v Speaker 2>are attracting the right ones.

0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.520
<v Speaker 1>Here's how I feel if you are out here dating,

0:24:06.760 --> 0:24:09.360
<v Speaker 1>I put all your expectations on the table day one.

0:24:09.520 --> 0:24:11.439
<v Speaker 1>If the person who's in front of you isn't for

0:24:11.520 --> 0:24:15.199
<v Speaker 1>that shit, good riddance. Okay, somebody is going to be

0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:19.640
<v Speaker 1>okay with your demands, your expectations, your boundaries.

0:24:20.320 --> 0:24:23.520
<v Speaker 2>No, sometimes you also know it's.

0:24:23.400 --> 0:24:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Your opinion versus month.

0:24:24.760 --> 0:24:30.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's never know though, all right, so it's not. No,

0:24:30.720 --> 0:24:38.160
<v Speaker 2>It's my thought is you also have to have realistic expectations.

0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:41.520
<v Speaker 2>Like I saw this video or this woman she was

0:24:41.560 --> 0:24:45.840
<v Speaker 2>on the podcast and her husband got fired and he

0:24:45.880 --> 0:24:48.439
<v Speaker 2>had been taking good care of her, she said, And

0:24:49.400 --> 0:24:52.720
<v Speaker 2>he got fired and he was unemployed for a month

0:24:53.680 --> 0:24:56.840
<v Speaker 2>and she was ready to divorce him, and she was like,

0:24:56.960 --> 0:24:59.720
<v Speaker 2>my money is my money, and you're supposed to like

0:24:59.760 --> 0:25:02.320
<v Speaker 2>you knew, you knew when you married me that I

0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:05.200
<v Speaker 2>want to be taken care of. And no, I don't

0:25:05.200 --> 0:25:09.119
<v Speaker 2>want that. I want a soft life. And I was like,

0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:11.480
<v Speaker 2>that's not I don't think that's what soft life means.

0:25:11.600 --> 0:25:14.399
<v Speaker 1>No, it absolutely not, because soft life doesn't mean like

0:25:14.480 --> 0:25:17.760
<v Speaker 1>just a lazy life. Now there are boom I know

0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:20.680
<v Speaker 1>some women right who and I know their husband's struggle

0:25:20.720 --> 0:25:22.959
<v Speaker 1>and they just won't go get a job like you

0:25:23.000 --> 0:25:25.760
<v Speaker 1>are not with somebody Like are you content with how

0:25:25.840 --> 0:25:28.560
<v Speaker 1>y'all living like okay, y'all to house a car to

0:25:28.760 --> 0:25:32.480
<v Speaker 1>a house, two cars and one job? Right? So is

0:25:32.520 --> 0:25:36.399
<v Speaker 1>that do you feel like you've arrived? Like the income

0:25:36.480 --> 0:25:38.359
<v Speaker 1>your man is bringing in and make cover the bills?

0:25:38.359 --> 0:25:41.159
<v Speaker 1>But how like y'all probably struggling with everything else. I

0:25:41.160 --> 0:25:44.440
<v Speaker 1>would never watch my mate struggle right, first of all,

0:25:45.320 --> 0:25:48.000
<v Speaker 1>But I'm also in the place in my life right

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:51.560
<v Speaker 1>now where I don't even want. I don't want, I

0:25:51.560 --> 0:25:52.720
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like building no one.

0:25:53.320 --> 0:25:55.440
<v Speaker 2>But I'm not going to abandon ship if we begin

0:25:55.560 --> 0:25:58.320
<v Speaker 2>to struggle, you know, like let's say you have someone

0:25:58.320 --> 0:26:00.560
<v Speaker 2>who is a provider and something with a sick you

0:26:00.600 --> 0:26:02.000
<v Speaker 2>know you're just gonna believe no.

0:26:02.000 --> 0:26:05.240
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely not. You know, this week has been kind of weird.

0:26:05.480 --> 0:26:07.960
<v Speaker 1>I know, I sent y'all an AI video. I feel

0:26:07.960 --> 0:26:09.720
<v Speaker 1>like a lot of the ship we've been seeing online

0:26:09.960 --> 0:26:13.560
<v Speaker 1>has already been AI. We don't know who the fuck

0:26:13.600 --> 0:26:15.880
<v Speaker 1>these people be talking, dude? Are these even real people

0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:18.960
<v Speaker 1>will be having these conversations? And who's behind the AI?

0:26:19.720 --> 0:26:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Acting like niggas because it's real niggerish. Okay. They are

0:26:24.600 --> 0:26:26.960
<v Speaker 1>putting all the stereotypes out there. So was that a

0:26:27.000 --> 0:26:30.520
<v Speaker 1>real person who said this. I know a lot of women.

0:26:30.600 --> 0:26:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Most women they be going hard and their relationships, they

0:26:33.720 --> 0:26:35.520
<v Speaker 1>be going hard for their men.

0:26:35.680 --> 0:26:38.240
<v Speaker 2>They look pretty real. But that Ai shit look real now,

0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:40.639
<v Speaker 2>you can never tell. That's why if I ever like,

0:26:40.720 --> 0:26:43.359
<v Speaker 2>if I was a cheater and it was a video,

0:26:43.760 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 2>it's just Ai. I don't know that's Ai who made

0:26:49.040 --> 0:26:50.159
<v Speaker 2>that video. That's Ai.

0:26:51.200 --> 0:26:53.359
<v Speaker 1>It was an episode of Cheaters the Girl Show. The

0:26:53.440 --> 0:26:56.960
<v Speaker 1>dude he was like, dang, meet us my toys. I'd

0:26:56.960 --> 0:26:58.440
<v Speaker 1>be like, damn, that's my surrogate.

0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:04.040
<v Speaker 2>That's Ai, bitch. I would never cheat. I'm joking.

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:08.119
<v Speaker 1>Cheat Everything is Ai now. So yeah, that person might

0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:11.920
<v Speaker 1>not even have been real. Okay, Yeah, putting out there black.

0:27:11.960 --> 0:27:14.439
<v Speaker 2>They don't want women to listen to us and assume that,

0:27:14.640 --> 0:27:18.359
<v Speaker 2>especially young women, to assume that we're saying like, be

0:27:18.440 --> 0:27:20.439
<v Speaker 2>a lazy bitch and wait for somebody to come just

0:27:21.600 --> 0:27:24.080
<v Speaker 2>do all the things, and you do absolutely nothing but

0:27:24.160 --> 0:27:24.800
<v Speaker 2>just be pretty.

0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:28.880
<v Speaker 1>I mean, but there is some okay, there are some men, right.

0:27:28.960 --> 0:27:30.879
<v Speaker 1>That's all they want you to do is look pretty

0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:32.639
<v Speaker 1>for them. They want you to they want you to

0:27:32.680 --> 0:27:36.760
<v Speaker 1>shut up right, and they want you to look very

0:27:36.800 --> 0:27:39.560
<v Speaker 1>pretty going to different events with them. That's what I'm saying.

0:27:39.560 --> 0:27:41.199
<v Speaker 1>A lot of people want these lifestyles that they not

0:27:41.280 --> 0:27:44.919
<v Speaker 1>even really set up for. Like those are usually the

0:27:45.280 --> 0:27:47.560
<v Speaker 1>what is it? The thing the young girls do? What

0:27:50.040 --> 0:27:50.439
<v Speaker 1>the uh?

0:27:53.680 --> 0:27:55.560
<v Speaker 2>That me? Sorry to get.

0:27:57.040 --> 0:27:59.680
<v Speaker 1>Like a deputant? Tight girls though, you know what I'm saying,

0:27:59.720 --> 0:28:04.080
<v Speaker 1>they were raised to be these girls. Around A couple

0:28:04.080 --> 0:28:06.320
<v Speaker 1>of weeks ago, I was telling you how a guy

0:28:06.320 --> 0:28:09.800
<v Speaker 1>friend of mine basically told me that I'm not I

0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:12.720
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't get anybody just just to completely take care of

0:28:12.760 --> 0:28:15.480
<v Speaker 1>me because I know what I want. So I'm like,

0:28:15.640 --> 0:28:18.399
<v Speaker 1>what do you mean? So basically you have to be

0:28:18.480 --> 0:28:21.840
<v Speaker 1>like a dumb bitch. Also that I think that's what

0:28:21.880 --> 0:28:24.520
<v Speaker 1>men think, right Men. If you if a man is

0:28:24.560 --> 0:28:29.480
<v Speaker 1>giving you this this super soft life, they expect you

0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:32.439
<v Speaker 1>just to just sit there, just don't do much. I

0:28:32.520 --> 0:28:34.280
<v Speaker 1>just need you to do what I asked.

0:28:34.400 --> 0:28:36.800
<v Speaker 2>I think they would want you to be more peaceful

0:28:37.760 --> 0:28:39.120
<v Speaker 2>if they're providing everything.

0:28:39.280 --> 0:28:41.800
<v Speaker 1>You know, I would be more peaceful if a man

0:28:41.880 --> 0:28:44.560
<v Speaker 1>if I got to work and do all the things too.

0:28:45.000 --> 0:28:49.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to be peaceful, not as not as peaceful, No,

0:28:50.240 --> 0:28:53.160
<v Speaker 1>because we I'm doing exactly what you're doing. What are

0:28:53.160 --> 0:28:55.880
<v Speaker 1>you doing? And you're not peaceful? You know what I'm saying?

0:28:55.920 --> 0:28:57.640
<v Speaker 1>You frustrated with life and all this shit. And I

0:28:57.680 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 1>got to feel a bun of that, like what are

0:28:59.840 --> 0:29:11.000
<v Speaker 1>you doing that I'm not? You know, I I I'm

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:12.160
<v Speaker 1>want a hybrid life.

0:29:13.560 --> 0:29:14.440
<v Speaker 2>What is that?

0:29:14.480 --> 0:29:17.920
<v Speaker 1>I just want somebody to cover my fucking life expenses

0:29:18.320 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 1>so that I can create, so that I can have

0:29:21.760 --> 0:29:26.520
<v Speaker 1>What are you gonna provide for them? My feminine energy?

0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:29.720
<v Speaker 1>That's that's that's what these women say they're providing these men,

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:31.520
<v Speaker 1>they're feminine energy.

0:29:31.880 --> 0:29:32.800
<v Speaker 2>What does that entail?

0:29:33.760 --> 0:29:34.720
<v Speaker 1>Being soft?

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:40.520
<v Speaker 2>Because I feel like you got strong alpha energy though.

0:29:40.520 --> 0:29:44.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I am working on being softer, and I

0:29:44.040 --> 0:29:46.560
<v Speaker 1>don't know if I don't I don't know if being

0:29:46.640 --> 0:29:49.160
<v Speaker 1>soft is just talking soft because to me, that's manipulation.

0:29:49.800 --> 0:29:53.320
<v Speaker 1>So I am actually working on the artist seduction then, right,

0:29:53.360 --> 0:29:56.040
<v Speaker 1>because those women, the women who have mastered the art

0:29:56.080 --> 0:29:59.720
<v Speaker 1>of seduction, which is the soft life women, right, it's

0:29:59.800 --> 0:30:03.640
<v Speaker 1>real manipulation. Submissive to being a submissive person. To me,

0:30:03.680 --> 0:30:06.760
<v Speaker 1>it is also manipulation. It is the ability to make

0:30:06.840 --> 0:30:11.040
<v Speaker 1>somebody do something while simultaneously making them think that it's

0:30:11.160 --> 0:30:16.160
<v Speaker 1>their idea. Okay, so that is a skill set that

0:30:16.280 --> 0:30:18.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm working on because I don't know. I'm not a finesser,

0:30:19.160 --> 0:30:20.280
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. I don't know how to

0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:23.880
<v Speaker 1>finesse people. I know how, but it's not my normal

0:30:24.000 --> 0:30:27.040
<v Speaker 1>setting to be right, So I would have to really

0:30:27.080 --> 0:30:31.200
<v Speaker 1>like consciously work on finessing somebody, and I don't. I

0:30:31.320 --> 0:30:33.800
<v Speaker 1>just I don't like doing that. That's why. That's why

0:30:33.840 --> 0:30:36.560
<v Speaker 1>I can't date people that don't find like esthetically pleasing

0:30:36.600 --> 0:30:39.160
<v Speaker 1>to me, right, because I don't know how to pretend

0:30:39.200 --> 0:30:41.080
<v Speaker 1>like I like you for money and shit like that,

0:30:41.400 --> 0:30:42.720
<v Speaker 1>Like I gotta actually like you.

0:30:43.560 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I can't do that either. So women like I

0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:48.320
<v Speaker 2>gotta actually.

0:30:48.040 --> 0:30:50.080
<v Speaker 1>Like people are like Rick Ross, think you're dying, but

0:30:50.960 --> 0:30:52.400
<v Speaker 1>instead of somebody be pretending.

0:30:52.480 --> 0:30:56.400
<v Speaker 2>But I have dated men who aren't like you know,

0:30:56.560 --> 0:31:00.360
<v Speaker 2>typically hints and I'm like mm hmm, but I they

0:31:00.360 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 2>grew softer on my eyes because of how they treated me,

0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:05.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, Like, So you don't have to be the

0:31:05.600 --> 0:31:08.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't even really lie to fine ass

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:11.040
<v Speaker 2>needed I don't want you thinking you finer than me,

0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:13.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, like I'm the fine one.

0:31:13.640 --> 0:31:16.000
<v Speaker 1>So so do you feel like Black women are just

0:31:16.040 --> 0:31:19.600
<v Speaker 1>burnt out? Like collectively, so we're all just looking for

0:31:19.640 --> 0:31:21.360
<v Speaker 1>somebody to leave us.

0:31:21.760 --> 0:31:24.600
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, I think that's why this soft girl era even

0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:27.200
<v Speaker 2>came about. We're just tired.

0:31:27.400 --> 0:31:29.520
<v Speaker 1>And I think I think men think it has something

0:31:29.520 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 1>to do with them, like it does. Like I would

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:34.280
<v Speaker 1>like to have somebody like do it for me, but

0:31:35.040 --> 0:31:37.000
<v Speaker 1>I could do do it for myself and also like

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:38.280
<v Speaker 1>live this soft life.

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:42.200
<v Speaker 2>And a lot of us that's gonna have to be

0:31:42.280 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 2>the situation. You know, we're going to have to because

0:31:45.600 --> 0:31:50.040
<v Speaker 2>of one, if you're not interested in polygamous lifestyle, we

0:31:50.080 --> 0:31:53.080
<v Speaker 2>outnumber these men, you know, so somebody gonna have to

0:31:53.080 --> 0:31:57.440
<v Speaker 2>come on shore. We outnumber the men. And then if

0:31:57.480 --> 0:32:02.280
<v Speaker 2>you you know, factor in homosexuals, you factor in incarceration,

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:07.760
<v Speaker 2>you factoring already taken. You know, you're going to have

0:32:07.880 --> 0:32:12.320
<v Speaker 2>all the people niggas left, yes, full niggas letter, And

0:32:12.360 --> 0:32:16.120
<v Speaker 2>if you're not willing to share, then you might have

0:32:16.280 --> 0:32:19.520
<v Speaker 2>to be soft to yourself, you know.

0:32:19.880 --> 0:32:22.840
<v Speaker 1>Well that's where I'm at right. So I am aspiring

0:32:22.920 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 1>to have a softer life. I even want to talk

0:32:24.840 --> 0:32:27.200
<v Speaker 1>softer sometime I listen to this podcast, like why the

0:32:27.200 --> 0:32:29.880
<v Speaker 1>fuck you so crumped because I'm at the house like chilling,

0:32:30.240 --> 0:32:32.080
<v Speaker 1>but that listens to the episode I just.

0:32:32.000 --> 0:32:35.080
<v Speaker 2>Talked crump, like when we was doing the juneteenth episode,

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:37.360
<v Speaker 2>like you were yelling over me the whole time I

0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:40.360
<v Speaker 2>was listening to the episode, like really, damn, she comes

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:44.600
<v Speaker 2>with your seventeen thousand times yess what we're talking though,

0:32:45.040 --> 0:32:47.080
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. You was looking at me, bitch,

0:32:47.120 --> 0:32:52.360
<v Speaker 2>we be all camera with each other. Fuck you talk

0:32:52.440 --> 0:32:53.440
<v Speaker 2>about you.

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:56.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna have to go listen now, yeah, yeah, because

0:32:57.000 --> 0:32:59.920
<v Speaker 1>I might get get super filled with convictions.

0:33:00.040 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 2>So okay, let's hear your soft voice.

0:33:03.080 --> 0:33:05.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't really have a soft voice, like and I'm

0:33:05.880 --> 0:33:09.080
<v Speaker 1>not about to one of my homegirls, like she puts

0:33:09.120 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 1>on this little girl voice when she talks to men,

0:33:12.200 --> 0:33:15.120
<v Speaker 1>and you despise a hard bitch just like me. Like

0:33:15.520 --> 0:33:19.360
<v Speaker 1>not a hard bitch. She's like firm, Okay, she's strict,

0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:22.320
<v Speaker 1>just like talks when she talks to men like she

0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:26.360
<v Speaker 1>it's an act though, because she when she talked you

0:33:26.360 --> 0:33:27.400
<v Speaker 1>probably could beat them up.

0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:29.760
<v Speaker 2>She sound like DMX. And then when she talked to me,

0:33:29.760 --> 0:33:30.800
<v Speaker 2>and it's cute.

0:33:30.840 --> 0:33:33.320
<v Speaker 1>See yeah, it's like a whole nother like who is hello?

0:33:34.000 --> 0:33:37.120
<v Speaker 2>But you know what, I think, so men do that

0:33:37.240 --> 0:33:40.200
<v Speaker 2>the way they interact with their homeboys is different than

0:33:40.240 --> 0:33:42.920
<v Speaker 2>how they interact with their women. I think we should

0:33:42.920 --> 0:33:45.680
<v Speaker 2>inspire to that, honestly, Like, we don't have to be

0:33:45.720 --> 0:33:47.840
<v Speaker 2>talking the same way with our men that we talk

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:48.840
<v Speaker 2>with everybody else.

0:33:49.720 --> 0:33:53.320
<v Speaker 1>I just I'm just myself, right, So it's just easier

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:55.840
<v Speaker 1>for me to be that. It's just easier for me

0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 1>to be myself and then find somebody who's okay with me,

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:03.320
<v Speaker 1>me and myself, because that's what I'm gonna be.

0:34:03.520 --> 0:34:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Like.

0:34:04.400 --> 0:34:06.960
<v Speaker 1>You know, I might not have to do that for

0:34:07.000 --> 0:34:09.719
<v Speaker 1>somebody else. I might not have to do that for

0:34:10.120 --> 0:34:11.000
<v Speaker 1>a person.

0:34:10.960 --> 0:34:12.399
<v Speaker 2>But you might have to do it for the type

0:34:12.440 --> 0:34:13.480
<v Speaker 2>of person you're looking for.

0:34:13.719 --> 0:34:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I might not, and I might not because is that authentic?

0:34:17.760 --> 0:34:20.279
<v Speaker 1>That's not authentic. If I got to be talking like

0:34:20.320 --> 0:34:25.080
<v Speaker 1>Mary Poppins, Hey, baby, would you like a uh maya?

0:34:26.200 --> 0:34:29.319
<v Speaker 2>I would like one from that voice, say it in

0:34:29.320 --> 0:34:30.240
<v Speaker 2>your regular voice.

0:34:30.440 --> 0:34:36.839
<v Speaker 1>You want some to drink? Not not really, you put

0:34:36.880 --> 0:34:40.880
<v Speaker 1>some to drink though, So I don't know that I

0:34:40.880 --> 0:34:44.000
<v Speaker 1>could put an act on. And that's another thing like, so,

0:34:44.120 --> 0:34:47.080
<v Speaker 1>these these women who have these soft flies on social media,

0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 1>they're making money, right, a light off lifestyle. Is that

0:34:53.200 --> 0:34:56.720
<v Speaker 1>the real image? Or are they actually stressed in real life?

0:34:56.760 --> 0:35:00.360
<v Speaker 2>Well, everybody's got stressed there. I don't find find me

0:35:00.400 --> 0:35:02.719
<v Speaker 2>somebody who doesn't have any stress, and I'll show you

0:35:02.760 --> 0:35:06.719
<v Speaker 2>somebody who's probably not alive there. Ai. You know, everybody's

0:35:06.760 --> 0:35:09.560
<v Speaker 2>life has stress in it, you know, even the soft life.

0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:12.880
<v Speaker 2>It's stressful creating the content to put it on social media,

0:35:12.960 --> 0:35:15.960
<v Speaker 2>you know. So I don't really try to use social

0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 2>media as a you know, a baseline for how I'm

0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:23.440
<v Speaker 2>live my life because everybody, everybody's showing their highlight reel anyway.

0:35:23.560 --> 0:35:27.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I know some women who husbands can afford

0:35:27.080 --> 0:35:29.960
<v Speaker 1>for them to do whatever they want to do, and

0:35:30.680 --> 0:35:33.280
<v Speaker 1>like you said, they have children that should look different,

0:35:33.320 --> 0:35:36.840
<v Speaker 1>even with the nanny. It's hard to work being a

0:35:36.840 --> 0:35:40.839
<v Speaker 1>a stay at home mom to four or five kids

0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:43.680
<v Speaker 1>and shit like that, to two kids, to one kid,

0:35:44.680 --> 0:35:49.680
<v Speaker 1>it's a whole problem. So, I mean, it's not it's

0:35:49.719 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 1>not it's not soft.

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:55.799
<v Speaker 2>Can life even be soft? Real? I don't know that

0:35:55.840 --> 0:35:58.080
<v Speaker 2>I want to meet someone who feels like they're living

0:35:58.239 --> 0:36:01.640
<v Speaker 2>a soft life. Do you know anybody who's really doing that.

0:36:01.400 --> 0:36:03.440
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. I know people like to me

0:36:03.640 --> 0:36:05.799
<v Speaker 1>they might be living a soft life because they don't

0:36:05.800 --> 0:36:09.800
<v Speaker 1>have to worry about anything financially, right, But I also

0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:13.040
<v Speaker 1>see that the struggles that they you know, it's still stressful,

0:36:13.120 --> 0:36:16.480
<v Speaker 1>they're still stressed. They still probably can use an extra

0:36:16.840 --> 0:36:20.600
<v Speaker 1>hour sleep, you know what I'm saying. But the financial rules,

0:36:20.640 --> 0:36:24.239
<v Speaker 1>they don't have that, right, But regular all other regular shit.

0:36:24.440 --> 0:36:27.560
<v Speaker 1>But these women I'm specifically talking about the software eric

0:36:27.600 --> 0:36:30.520
<v Speaker 1>because it is a social media thing. So is it

0:36:30.560 --> 0:36:36.520
<v Speaker 1>is it real life or is it TV? Are there

0:36:36.600 --> 0:36:41.120
<v Speaker 1>actual women out here living like super alone whatever her

0:36:41.200 --> 0:36:44.000
<v Speaker 1>name is she's living. I watch her build that fucking

0:36:44.040 --> 0:36:45.719
<v Speaker 1>house she in and people's talking.

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:49.799
<v Speaker 2>Shit, that's just stuff. You never know what's going on.

0:36:50.000 --> 0:36:52.800
<v Speaker 2>After she dropped that camera and put that stuff down,

0:36:54.040 --> 0:36:58.080
<v Speaker 2>that's just stuff. The soft life is not just stuff.

0:36:58.120 --> 0:37:00.440
<v Speaker 1>It's just less stress or maybe met I don't want

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:03.520
<v Speaker 1>to ever manage stress, right, I just I want to

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:06.719
<v Speaker 1>have less stress to where when something does happen, it

0:37:06.760 --> 0:37:09.719
<v Speaker 1>doesn't really feel like stress. It's like I can take

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:12.400
<v Speaker 1>care of this, you know what I'm saying. So it's

0:37:13.360 --> 0:37:17.560
<v Speaker 1>Ain't that what you're already doing? No, you know, it's

0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 1>little things that stress me out, not big things. I

0:37:19.640 --> 0:37:23.359
<v Speaker 1>handle big things easily because it's like you gotta deal

0:37:23.400 --> 0:37:26.120
<v Speaker 1>with it. But anything I got a choice about, I'm

0:37:26.120 --> 0:37:28.680
<v Speaker 1>fucking pissed, like I'm about to be. I'm gonna choose

0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:30.400
<v Speaker 1>to be mad because I don't feel like doing this

0:37:30.440 --> 0:37:32.480
<v Speaker 1>and why do I have to do it? Like it's pakito.

0:37:33.080 --> 0:37:35.160
<v Speaker 1>It's little as shit, And those are the things that

0:37:35.239 --> 0:37:37.440
<v Speaker 1>stressed me out, small things.

0:37:38.040 --> 0:37:41.439
<v Speaker 2>It's never don't let the small things stress either. Yeah,

0:37:41.600 --> 0:37:43.560
<v Speaker 2>there's so much big shit to be stressed about you

0:37:43.640 --> 0:37:45.799
<v Speaker 2>letting the small things get you in the get your

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:48.880
<v Speaker 2>panties in a bunch, all right? What's your last last.

0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:49.319
<v Speaker 3>No, ain't out?

0:37:49.360 --> 0:37:51.720
<v Speaker 1>No last last year? God damn? How long we recording?

0:37:53.440 --> 0:37:54.719
<v Speaker 2>So like seven hours?

0:37:55.120 --> 0:37:58.160
<v Speaker 1>It hasn't been seven hours. Hold on a second. We

0:37:58.200 --> 0:38:04.759
<v Speaker 1>talked about man, Okay, okay, don't just go into with

0:38:04.920 --> 0:38:07.719
<v Speaker 1>your lab. Let's have a little piece of conversation like, okay.

0:38:07.480 --> 0:38:08.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm in a minute sweeping record.

0:38:09.800 --> 0:38:12.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, it's more minutes.

0:38:12.520 --> 0:38:17.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah that's long enough. Okay, do you have a do

0:38:17.760 --> 0:38:18.959
<v Speaker 2>you have something else to add?

0:38:19.040 --> 0:38:25.759
<v Speaker 1>Agent abruptly stop and we already did that on one episode.

0:38:29.960 --> 0:38:32.239
<v Speaker 1>I do think women, we are gonna have to if

0:38:32.239 --> 0:38:34.279
<v Speaker 1>we want a soft life, most of us again will

0:38:34.320 --> 0:38:36.839
<v Speaker 1>have to provide it for ourselves. It's not a bad

0:38:36.920 --> 0:38:40.040
<v Speaker 1>thing to look for a partner that can provide that

0:38:40.160 --> 0:38:45.160
<v Speaker 1>soft life. Now, if you're looking, they may not be black.

0:38:46.680 --> 0:38:47.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh this is what you're getting.

0:38:48.239 --> 0:38:52.120
<v Speaker 1>Yes, And that's why I said earlier it's dumb man, right,

0:38:52.160 --> 0:38:54.560
<v Speaker 1>the white man, because this is what you see on

0:38:54.600 --> 0:38:56.560
<v Speaker 1>social media is the women married to the white men

0:38:56.600 --> 0:39:02.480
<v Speaker 1>that's affording these lives. And then you call in black mendusties. Right.

0:39:02.640 --> 0:39:05.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't like that me either, not at all. So

0:39:05.520 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 1>can can Can you be a hustler and also have

0:39:10.520 --> 0:39:13.520
<v Speaker 1>a soft life.

0:39:12.400 --> 0:39:14.640
<v Speaker 2>If you hustling, ain't nothing soft about the hustle.

0:39:15.920 --> 0:39:18.319
<v Speaker 1>Can you be working nine to five and so have

0:39:18.360 --> 0:39:19.040
<v Speaker 1>a soft life.

0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:25.080
<v Speaker 2>I think you can do soft things for yourself. I

0:39:25.160 --> 0:39:28.759
<v Speaker 2>think you could add soft things to your life. There's

0:39:28.800 --> 0:39:32.240
<v Speaker 2>nothing soft about doing it all by yourself. There's nothing

0:39:32.320 --> 0:39:36.000
<v Speaker 2>soft about being a mom. There's nothing soft about hustling,

0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:36.440
<v Speaker 2>you know.

0:39:36.760 --> 0:39:40.479
<v Speaker 1>I think it's just choosing like peace over performance basically, right.

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:45.120
<v Speaker 1>So it's just I don't know, find some I don't

0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:47.440
<v Speaker 1>think it's about talking. I don't think it's an aesthetic.

0:39:48.040 --> 0:39:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a mindset. A soft life is a mindset, right.

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:56.279
<v Speaker 2>I agree. That's why I said, like the type of

0:39:56.280 --> 0:39:59.600
<v Speaker 2>piece that comes without money. That's really what's gonna bring

0:39:59.640 --> 0:40:01.879
<v Speaker 2>your soft girl air to you. Is a mental thing.

0:40:01.960 --> 0:40:06.040
<v Speaker 2>It's not how much money you got, because let's be honest,

0:40:06.040 --> 0:40:08.480
<v Speaker 2>everybody ain't gonna be rich in it's life, not in money,

0:40:08.719 --> 0:40:11.719
<v Speaker 2>you know. But they can be rich in peace, they

0:40:11.760 --> 0:40:14.640
<v Speaker 2>can be rich in health, they can be rich in love.

0:40:14.719 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 2>If you've got a community of people who support and

0:40:17.400 --> 0:40:20.279
<v Speaker 2>love you every day, you are rich, you know.

0:40:20.800 --> 0:40:22.200
<v Speaker 1>And get a rest.

0:40:22.680 --> 0:40:27.479
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, when you get real solid rest, that's soft girl era,

0:40:27.640 --> 0:40:28.600
<v Speaker 2>that's wealth.

0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:32.279
<v Speaker 3>So that y'all get y'all a class pass and go

0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:37.440
<v Speaker 3>to hot yoga, you feel soft with the white girls

0:40:37.480 --> 0:40:39.839
<v Speaker 3>going girl, I'm so pissed the white girls and yoga, Like,

0:40:40.200 --> 0:40:41.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna stop it.

0:40:41.480 --> 0:40:43.439
<v Speaker 1>That's how I started spending while you pissed that down

0:40:43.440 --> 0:40:46.120
<v Speaker 1>because they know how to do it. So I'm like mad.

0:40:46.800 --> 0:40:49.439
<v Speaker 2>It's like, listen, I have a good friend she teaches yoga.

0:40:50.480 --> 0:40:53.919
<v Speaker 1>I have a couple of friends too, do yoga. Ampilates instructors,

0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:57.120
<v Speaker 1>but it's that shit is fucking hard and maybe in

0:40:57.160 --> 0:40:59.560
<v Speaker 1>there just I'm gonna keep going though, because that was

0:40:59.600 --> 0:41:01.239
<v Speaker 1>the same they would spin. I go to went to

0:41:01.280 --> 0:41:03.160
<v Speaker 1>spin class. It was a whole bunch of white girls,

0:41:03.440 --> 0:41:05.279
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I'm not letting the ash on me up.

0:41:05.600 --> 0:41:07.520
<v Speaker 1>This is fat girls spinning. Got right back up in

0:41:07.560 --> 0:41:09.680
<v Speaker 1>there and I can out spind a lot of motherfuckersmen.

0:41:10.000 --> 0:41:14.120
<v Speaker 1>But the yoga shit, bitch, I need to stretch, Bitch,

0:41:14.239 --> 0:41:17.320
<v Speaker 1>I am stiff. I could throw these legs back a

0:41:17.360 --> 0:41:20.200
<v Speaker 1>little bit now, but girl.

0:41:20.360 --> 0:41:22.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't like my legs back. I can my lungs

0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:25.080
<v Speaker 2>and my stomach mass together. I don't know what the fuck.

0:41:26.200 --> 0:41:27.800
<v Speaker 2>Put my legs down.

0:41:28.280 --> 0:41:32.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna die and I'm enjoying it the whole time.

0:41:32.239 --> 0:41:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Just like you to concentrate, You really gotta concentrate in

0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:42.279
<v Speaker 1>that position to breathe. Bitch, what's the all right?

0:41:42.760 --> 0:41:44.759
<v Speaker 2>I know we gotta go, But what's the machine in

0:41:44.800 --> 0:41:47.640
<v Speaker 2>the gym where you're laid on your back and your

0:41:47.640 --> 0:41:50.359
<v Speaker 2>feet are up and you're pressing the weight like this?

0:41:50.560 --> 0:41:52.959
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know.

0:41:52.880 --> 0:41:56.319
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what it's called, but that's do that

0:41:56.360 --> 0:41:58.719
<v Speaker 2>ship the gym. That ship take me out every time

0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:01.920
<v Speaker 2>we die. I don't never forget, and not because it's

0:42:01.960 --> 0:42:05.000
<v Speaker 2>hurt my legs. It's because I cannot breathe.

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:08.440
<v Speaker 1>Really, you know, I can do that shit a lot

0:42:08.480 --> 0:42:10.080
<v Speaker 1>with a lot of weight. Like my life. I can

0:42:10.239 --> 0:42:12.160
<v Speaker 1>do a lot of weight, but you like when your

0:42:12.160 --> 0:42:14.560
<v Speaker 1>thighs come back to your stomach and having to push back.

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:20.759
<v Speaker 2>Baby, whereas the oxygen you might gotta work.

0:42:20.800 --> 0:42:22.880
<v Speaker 1>You might need to do something like breathing. I use

0:42:22.960 --> 0:42:25.040
<v Speaker 1>this app call Open. I know I mentioned it before.

0:42:25.160 --> 0:42:28.399
<v Speaker 1>I can I give me some ads. I'm paying twenty

0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:31.319
<v Speaker 1>dollars a month for that shit, but it's really it's real.

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:32.479
<v Speaker 2>It's really good.

0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:35.680
<v Speaker 1>But because it puts me asleep every night, right, but

0:42:35.719 --> 0:42:38.080
<v Speaker 1>it starts with the breathing every year.

0:42:38.560 --> 0:42:40.840
<v Speaker 2>Well maybe I need to do that because yeah, baby,

0:42:40.920 --> 0:42:43.920
<v Speaker 2>that machine, that's my worst enemy in the gym, and

0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:47.279
<v Speaker 2>I like to do my worst enemy workouts first. But

0:42:47.400 --> 0:42:49.040
<v Speaker 2>what's your last last? Can I ask? Now?

0:42:49.200 --> 0:42:52.600
<v Speaker 1>That's it? Man, Listen, you y'all gonna have to probably

0:42:52.960 --> 0:42:55.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, create your own soft life young Gilly's dating

0:42:55.920 --> 0:42:57.520
<v Speaker 1>apps and meet you a weardo white man if you

0:42:57.520 --> 0:43:02.560
<v Speaker 1>want to. But orn one possibly man the ones that

0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:04.800
<v Speaker 1>these girls got online. I feel like those are the

0:43:04.840 --> 0:43:08.759
<v Speaker 1>last ones, Like the super fine, gray haired old white man.

0:43:08.880 --> 0:43:09.640
<v Speaker 2>They're still exist.

0:43:09.719 --> 0:43:10.960
<v Speaker 1>One of them gotting no kids.

0:43:11.000 --> 0:43:12.799
<v Speaker 2>They're getting older every day there.

0:43:12.840 --> 0:43:16.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they're ving. And I heard Monico. They say Monico

0:43:16.400 --> 0:43:18.920
<v Speaker 1>has like how many one hundred and thirty thousand millionaires

0:43:18.960 --> 0:43:22.200
<v Speaker 1>or some stupid shit, some crazy twenty thousand, thirty thousand

0:43:22.239 --> 0:43:25.000
<v Speaker 1>millionaires in the small ass island. Like maybe need to

0:43:25.000 --> 0:43:26.160
<v Speaker 1>go on vacation to Monico.

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:29.680
<v Speaker 2>Are you looking that's what you're looking for? Yeah? Yeah,

0:43:29.880 --> 0:43:30.279
<v Speaker 2>tell me.

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:32.239
<v Speaker 1>What, Like she ain't looking for niggas with money like this.

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:36.479
<v Speaker 1>See she's I'm not able to like act like I'm

0:43:36.520 --> 0:43:37.960
<v Speaker 1>not doing the thing that I'm doing.

0:43:38.120 --> 0:43:39.200
<v Speaker 2>What are you talking about?

0:43:39.800 --> 0:43:40.320
<v Speaker 1>See?

0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:42.000
<v Speaker 2>What are you talking about?

0:43:42.040 --> 0:43:48.120
<v Speaker 1>And that's all right, y'all And that's your last last

0:43:49.960 --> 0:43:52.120
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