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Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from

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Speaker 2: Hi, Cheekys, love it your podcast. Love how positive you are.

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Speaker 2: I need advice with this situation. So I met this

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Speaker 2: I guess for my partner. He smokes weed, he's been

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Speaker 2: he's been an alcoholic. He says that he's a different personnel,

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Speaker 2: that's all in his past. But it's quite concerning to me,

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Speaker 1: Is he doing drugs or he did drugs? Because you

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Speaker 1: I do believe people can change. I do believe it.

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Speaker 1: I have seen it. I have changed. I'm a different person.

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Speaker 1: your Cheeky's do the speakpipe dot com, slash Chickius and

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Speaker 4: Let's see, Hi, Cheeky's.

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Speaker 5: I love you since forever you and your family of

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Speaker 5: course your mother. I've always followed you guys, since the

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Speaker 5: reality TV and your mom's music and now yours love

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Speaker 5: you guys, So my question for you is what happens

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Speaker 5: Do you send them like a little gift email, what

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Speaker 1: It's a great question. It depends with like cork I,

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Speaker 1: I didn't send him a gift, but that's a good idea.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I should start doing that. I definitely do follow

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Speaker 6: Hi Cheeky's Tula Moosa love you girl. So I will

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Speaker 6: remain anonymous for my question. I just wanted to get

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Speaker 1: Well, miss anonymous listener, Well, you gotta hate girl, And

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Speaker 1: when someone's hating on you, so because you're doing something right,

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Speaker 1: Don't even say hello, kill people with kindness, hi, by

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Speaker 4: like just let him go? What advice can you give

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Speaker 1: I love it, okay, yahdi dah. This is tough because

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Speaker 3: So that when he picks up the baby, you look good, girl,

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Speaker 1: Not because we want him back, you know, especially if

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that felt really fast. Okay, So guys,

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Speaker 3: so much.

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