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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Happy Out.

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Speaker 2: It's a very special episode. I'm here with my lovely

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Speaker 2: co host and wife, Serena.

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Speaker 1: Hello, and the lovely couple themselves, Charity and Dotton.

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Speaker 2: What's up, guys.

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Speaker 1: How are you welcome to our This is our first

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Speaker 1: live podcast.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm honored. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna be fully transparent with everyone. I am

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Speaker 1: training for the marathon, so I've been I really haven't

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Speaker 1: been drinking like I've probably had about five.

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Speaker 2: Drinks in the past two months. And last night.

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Speaker 1: We went out with our friend Wells and I had

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Speaker 1: about seven old fashions and I am truly struggling today.

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Speaker 1: But the question I want to ask is we have

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Speaker 1: our wedding in two weeks, so should I start drinking

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Speaker 1: a little more to prep for the web.

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Speaker 3: I'm just gonna stop you right there.

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Speaker 4: Joe has in the last sixty seconds not asked you

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Speaker 4: one question about yourselves. Thank you so much for coming

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Speaker 4: on our podcast. Now we're going to ask you what

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Speaker 4: we should do with our lives, and Joe should do

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Speaker 4: about drinking in the marathon.

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Speaker 2: I also thought.

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Speaker 1: About this morning, I'm going to probably start my own

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Speaker 1: podcast and name it Joe and just talk random.

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Speaker 3: That's me.

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Speaker 4: I hear that live every single day, and I'm going

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Speaker 4: to veto that option. But let's pivot back to the

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Speaker 4: couple of the moment, Charity.

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Speaker 3: And is that okay with you?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 6: Yes, yes, I think But to answer your question, I

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Speaker 6: think that you should so that you guys can have

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Speaker 6: a full celebration and you're not.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: I I'm with you.

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Speaker 2: I think you're right.

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Speaker 5: I have to. I have to.

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Speaker 2: I have to build up my uh your tolerance.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So on that note, we should pop some champagne we

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Speaker 4: have right here. Start building up Joe's tolerance right now.

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Speaker 4: And Charity, would you like to be honors of cover professional?

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Speaker 3: Is at this point?

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Speaker 6: I am truly done this many of times.

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Speaker 7: There we go.

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Speaker 4: Your cut, Please, celebrations are in order, dott Would you

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Speaker 4: like to make a toast?

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Speaker 7: Uh? Yeah, I can do that. Just we don't have

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Speaker 7: to act, we don't have to get there. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 7: I'm gonna be here, guys and w y'all and some

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Speaker 7: legends in the franchise and a toasted like love you

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Speaker 7: know in all its forms, and how we get there

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Speaker 7: and just excited for the future and what's to come

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Speaker 7: for everybody, so chairs.

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Speaker 3: To chairs, chairs, We're very happy for you both.

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Speaker 1: I would have been like, Okay, so you guys are

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Speaker 1: finally you're you're out in the open.

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Speaker 5: How does it feel?

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Speaker 6: It is actually, like I keep saying, every moment is

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Speaker 6: a moment and I prayed for but really like this

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Speaker 6: just being like out and like doing normal things.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's so refreshing.

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Speaker 6: But it's just like, I know, it feels so right

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Speaker 6: because I'm like with my person, but finally we're just free.

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Speaker 3: So it feels good. It feels so good.

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Speaker 7: It's the moment that we've been talking about since we

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Speaker 7: left Fiji, really just being like, you know, we're enjoying

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Speaker 7: the in between and excited about it. But the more

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Speaker 7: we got to know each other, the more we just

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Speaker 7: wanted to be free and just wanted to do normal

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Speaker 7: things and be normal.

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Speaker 5: And so we're gonna be.

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Speaker 7: There's like a bit of a grieving that we talked about,

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Speaker 7: like of like this chapter it's been so unique and

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Speaker 7: like hiding and like trying to be secretive. It's a

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Speaker 7: little bit of excitement there, right, you guys know, but

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Speaker 7: more than anything, we're so happy to like move forward.

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Speaker 7: And like embrace all the good things that's gonna come.

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Speaker 7: And the challenge is too, right, that's gonna come with it.

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Speaker 7: But I feel like we're really equipped and we're so

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Speaker 7: happy just to like be in this position and be

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Speaker 7: like we made it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, one thing you can finally embrace is having charity

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Speaker 4: as your screen saver shamelessly.

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Speaker 7: Yes, yes, yes, listen, I'm not even going front I

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Speaker 7: have She's on my screens. They like of time. Maybe

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Speaker 7: I'm on the subway. I might change it real quicker

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Speaker 7: or dim the screen.

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Speaker 5: That's all I've been doing.

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Speaker 7: But now I can turn that brightening s up and

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Speaker 7: just let the world know.

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Speaker 4: So Don can barely see his phone because his brightness

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Speaker 4: is so loud, so no one sees those charity literally.

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Speaker 1: So what was your first I love asking couples of

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Speaker 1: this because I loved our first conversation, But what was

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Speaker 1: your first conversation off camera after you got engaged?

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Speaker 5: What was that? What was that about? That's a great question.

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Speaker 6: Do you remember so I'm thinking like post proposal, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: we were just in our feelings, like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were having a moment.

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Speaker 6: I don't like it was just like it was so

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Speaker 6: I think we were just it was hitting us like

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Speaker 6: it's like this actually just happened, and like he's just

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Speaker 6: seriously such a sweetheart because the way he would just

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Speaker 6: like I would just catch him just like in the

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Speaker 6: corner and like sorry, I'm putting you on blast, but

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Speaker 6: you would be like off in the corner, but like

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Speaker 6: every now and then, like he would like look up

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Speaker 6: and it was just like this like pure look of

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Speaker 6: love and I was like, what's going on. I always

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Speaker 6: like check in. It's like what are you like thinking about?

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Speaker 6: And like we would just like recap like every single

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Speaker 6: moment and like what we were feeling. It was just

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Speaker 6: so like high intensified emotions obviously, so we were just

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Speaker 6: honestly just we kept recapping like everything that led us

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Speaker 6: to the end of proposal.

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Speaker 7: So I don't think there was a single like conversation

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Speaker 7: that we can remember, but it was more just a feeling.

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Speaker 7: They were like there was actually a lot of quiet

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Speaker 7: and it's just because we were just like embracing it

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Speaker 7: and being like this is so crazy, like we're here,

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Speaker 7: we made it, and what a crazy love story. And

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Speaker 7: so there was an energy that was definitely like just

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Speaker 5: Like you said and intense, and so we were just

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Speaker 7: So I don't think we had a conversation that was

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Speaker 7: like like yo, this.

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Speaker 5: No, we didn't like do nothing like that.

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Speaker 7: But we were just really just embracing like this this journey,

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Speaker 7: that part of the journey ending in the next one beginning,

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Speaker 7: and I think a lot of great, great feelings for

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Speaker 7: We're in the air that night.

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Speaker 1: You're a fairy tale. You kept you kept saying the

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Speaker 1: whole season, your fairy tale. It almost got to the

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Speaker 3: But loves loves.

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Speaker 5: I actually love that. I actually loved it. That's why

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Speaker 5: I like you, because if I watched it back to it,

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Speaker 5: and I did, that's what it sounds like.

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Speaker 7: But like obviously they took it out like during recording,

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Speaker 7: but like every single time I was gonna say, I

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Speaker 7: would say, listen, I'm well aware that this sounds insane

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Speaker 7: and I don't even believe in fairy tales, but like,

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Speaker 7: that's what this is becoming, that's what this feeling like.

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Speaker 5: Like that's what my heart was saying.

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Speaker 7: And so you know, they pretty much every single time

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Speaker 7: four times, right, but every single time they caught it

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Speaker 7: because obviously that's what they you know, but that's what

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Speaker 7: it was. And I was completely aware that that was

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Speaker 7: like again, like it sounds woo woo, and I'm very logic,

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Speaker 7: and I know she is too, and so for both

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Speaker 7: not it's a weird thing to say and like to

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Speaker 7: trying to pretend like this is what it is. But

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Speaker 7: we're both the way like that's crazy, but that's just

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Speaker 7: what it was. There's nothing wrong with it, and a

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Speaker 7: relationship was literally flawless from you know, beginning to start

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Speaker 7: to the end and even now. So truly that's so

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Speaker 7: to set the record straight, I'm with you there if

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Speaker 7: I hear that. When I hear it too, I'm like, but.

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Speaker 5: That's what it is.

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Speaker 4: I understood what you meant by it, because it's such

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Speaker 4: a crazy experience that there's not really like a word

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Speaker 4: to describe how you're feeling when you're falling in love

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Speaker 4: in that environment. Like I struggled with it too at

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Speaker 4: into words of like how magical it feels so like

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Speaker 4: as much as fairy tale was like a cheesy word

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Speaker 3: Ever, it just feels like for lestly, it feels.

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Speaker 4: Like beyond real, Like it feels like a fairy tale.

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Speaker 5: Right, I was just jokeing you guys really took this

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Speaker 7: It was a joke that, right, But that's what it

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Speaker 7: was because I was trying to find a word for

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Speaker 7: so spot on with that analysis.

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Speaker 2: Did you dot did you have any.

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Speaker 5: Just like.

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Speaker 2: Did you think like should I get should I get.

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Speaker 5: Down on one knee?

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Speaker 2: Or were you one hundred per right?

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Speaker 1: Because it is it's of course I think at the

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Speaker 1: end of the show, I think it's normal to be

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Speaker 1: like I want to be with this person, but an

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Speaker 1: engagement is actually a really big thing.

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Speaker 2: Am I really really ready for this?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: There's so many layers to that question, And you know

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Speaker 7: the first one, am I ready? I knew I was ready,

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Speaker 7: right like I wouldn't don't think I would have been

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Speaker 7: barked in the journey if I wasn't ready. And looking

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Speaker 7: a hard thing to do to find that person. But

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Speaker 7: then again, once I started to meet this special lady here,

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Speaker 7: it all started to make sense. And by like week

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Speaker 7: really took off, and I was like I really could

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Speaker 7: see this her being my person, and it was stuff

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Speaker 7: that I was seeing on camera but off camera too,

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Speaker 7: write the little things, and I was like, that's that's

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Speaker 7: course there's always doubt, like not a psychopath, So of

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Speaker 7: course you're like this is fucking weird, like this is not.

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Speaker 5: Ever how I imagined it.

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Speaker 7: And also you are probably understanding, like it's hard to

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Speaker 7: be successful leaving this, you know, and and so then

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Speaker 7: you think about that too. You can go like, man,

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Speaker 7: like is this really worth like everything that's going to

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Speaker 3: So I felt so like reassured in that sense.

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Speaker 3: And so yeah, I guess that essentially, I.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

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Speaker 4: Let's take it back to the episode. So starting from

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Speaker 6: No, we talked about that actually so much because obviously,

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Speaker 3: So I think it was.

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Speaker 6: It wasn't until after proposal actually where we like I

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Speaker 3: And he was like please talk like you like, hey,

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Speaker 6: Like it was so calm because I think at that

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Speaker 4: And you do be kind of little when crazy things

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Speaker 3: Yes? But he was chill.

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Speaker 4: And Don's just looking straight ahead like hey man, what's up.

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Speaker 5: No.

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Speaker 7: I mean so this this started a while ago, I

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Speaker 5: That whole debacle and that mess.

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Speaker 7: I was just like okay, like anything's possible, Like I

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Speaker 5: They could have done anything. I'se just been like whatever.

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Speaker 7: I think Joey did like a double take and then

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Speaker 7: then when I saw you, I was like cares.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I was thinking about how I would

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Speaker 6: If I was in their shoot, I would have definitely

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Speaker 4: Probably is anyone going to talk about the bad.

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Speaker 7: I was like, it'll come out at some point, I'll

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Speaker 3: His rosen Yeah. And then minutes later it was like.

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Speaker 6: I'll be honest, I like to think that maybe something

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Speaker 6: First, perhaps, But I think it was like I gave

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Speaker 6: So like that was the one thing I don't want

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Speaker 3: Lot of catching up to do at this point.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, obviously seeing my my family for the first time,

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Speaker 9: Now.

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Speaker 4: Do you, looking back, wish that your mom had answered

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Speaker 5: I think what she did that was the right one.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely.

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Speaker 6: held resentment had I like not actually worked all the

448
00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,479
Speaker 6: way through that one my own, rather than just like

449
00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,840
Speaker 6: becoming super dependent on like my family's like choice or

450
00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:08,440
Speaker 6: answer for whatever reasons.

451
00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:10,760
Speaker 4: No matter who you picked, you might have always wondered

452
00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:12,480
Speaker 4: like did I make.

453
00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 3: This decision on my own or was it influencing your way? Correct?

454
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Speaker 6: So I'm I mean love my parents, love my sister

455
00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:21,320
Speaker 6: who they were all there and they all gave their opinions.

456
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Speaker 6: But I am so glad that I did actually just

457
00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:25,359
Speaker 6: like and I respect my mom so much for that

458
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:27,600
Speaker 6: because she didn't have to. She could have been like, yeah,

459
00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 6: pick this one or pick you know, pick that, but

460
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,720
Speaker 6: she did. She was like, no, you know, yes, as.

461
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Speaker 4: Someone who actually as someone who's very I'm quite indecisive

462
00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:36,439
Speaker 4: and I struggle with it.

463
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Speaker 3: And I'm very close with my mom.

464
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Speaker 4: I have had that exact conversation and many times in

465
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:43,080
Speaker 4: my life with my mom were.

466
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Speaker 8: Like, please just tell me what to do.

467
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Speaker 4: I'm so tired of not knowing what to do. And

468
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,120
Speaker 4: she's like, you're gonna feel better once you make a decision.

469
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Speaker 4: You know what decision you have to make, and just

470
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Speaker 4: because it's hard to do it for you exactly. So

471
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Speaker 4: I yeah, I was like this, I'm having day.

472
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Speaker 3: This whole situation.

473
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Speaker 4: Feels so familiar to me as an indecisive girl with

474
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Speaker 4: a mom who would respond exactly.

475
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Speaker 5: Where.

476
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Speaker 2: I think our listeners probably want to know this.

477
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Speaker 5: Where was your brother?

478
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 2: I was waiting for him to be.

479
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 3: So obviously we know he has two daytime jobs.

480
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 6: I guess so he's a pediatric insist but does theater

481
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:31,120
Speaker 6: on the side. So this man decided to just take

482
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Speaker 6: on a show in the middle of, like me, filming,

483
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:35,399
Speaker 6: and I was like, I don't know if this is

484
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Speaker 6: going to be smart, because you might have a show

485
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 6: time towards the end. He was like, no, no, no, I'll

486
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 6: be fine. I'll be fine lo the hood. It was

487
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Speaker 6: the actual last show and I was like, can like

488
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Speaker 6: the understudy to step in.

489
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Speaker 3: From the last like finale? I don't know, so you.

490
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 6: Could be in Fiji and he just couldn't make it.

491
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,880
Speaker 6: So he had a show during that time, so that's

492
00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 6: why he wasn't there.

493
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Speaker 4: But did you have any interactions dotten with me a

494
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 4: Maya when he was under ever night one?

495
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Speaker 5: I think I was one of the people who had

496
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Speaker 5: the most interaction.

497
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,679
Speaker 7: No, people kid tell me they kept a drink outside

498
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 7: for whatever reason, and obviously I didn't know, but I

499
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:15,320
Speaker 7: talked to him a lot, right, But obviously I didn't

500
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Speaker 7: know anything. I just thought it was like it was

501
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 7: clear there was a disguise. Some of the guys were like,

502
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 7: didn't even know it was a fake mustache. I was like,

503
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 7: y'all need help. But it was clear was the disguise,

504
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 7: but he just.

505
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Speaker 6: Didn't pick up on the fact that it was for me.

506
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:33,639
Speaker 5: I'm just kidding. Let your voice.

507
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 7: But no, he was also like just had great energy

508
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,640
Speaker 7: and there was something familiar about him. But let rich

509
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 7: was now revealed, like because I'd seen him on the show,

510
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 7: but there was yeah before that, I was just totally

511
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 7: totally like, like, this.

512
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Speaker 3: Is the chattiest part.

513
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Speaker 5: But it's l A.

514
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Speaker 7: So I'm thinking you just want to be actor like

515
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Speaker 7: that's yeah, that's what I thought was to make it

516
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,679
Speaker 7: the best. He was actually a cool dude and like

517
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 7: he was like really smiley, and I was I just

518
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 7: wanted to hang out. I know the guys very well,

519
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 7: but Bartender's always you can always confide in them.

520
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 5: So I talked to him a lot that night, and

521
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 5: you'll see us like, no, nothing, I mean.

522
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Speaker 8: There is a right answer and no, no.

523
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, obviously probably about you to some extent, But then

524
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 7: I hadn't talk.

525
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 3: To you that I asked you anything. I'm sorry, I'm

526
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 3: like taking me actually, I mean we talked about it

527
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Speaker 3: a little bit, but I.

528
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Speaker 6: Don't think yeah, not a lot did he ask you

529
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 6: anything that kind of threw you off.

530
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 3: Like that where you felt like he was like, you know, prying.

531
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Speaker 6: To see that he was like a good guy.

532
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Speaker 7: You did a good job of like keeping it feel

533
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Speaker 7: natural and like like I said, just like an l

534
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Speaker 7: A guy just trying to make it and just like

535
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,200
Speaker 7: having conversations, happy to be there.

536
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 5: That's why that's what I felt.

537
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,719
Speaker 1: So and you also you you don't know what's going on,

538
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 1: like you're in this house for the first day experience

539
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 1: all this and you're just.

540
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Speaker 8: Like, what, Yeah, you're not going to be like this

541
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 8: guy's obviously a plan.

542
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 3: I never even crossed my mind.

543
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,159
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think I just watched some episodes like in

544
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 7: the hotel right before right and before we started filming,

545
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,399
Speaker 7: and so that was it. That's all I had to

546
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 7: go off of. And so I had no idea what

547
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 7: to expect. So I just thought it was a normal bartender.

548
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:22,239
Speaker 7: But the conversations were we're great, and we're we're kind

549
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 7: of around her, and I was just like, Addison, I

550
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,919
Speaker 7: haven't talked to her, but she seems great, and you know,

551
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 7: I hope you know, so I told him kind of

552
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 7: like the events that led me there.

553
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 5: I think that's where I think they'd talk about.

554
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 7: Was like, somehow life led me here, and I'm hoping

555
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,719
Speaker 7: that she's great, and so it's a you know, think

556
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 7: about that conversation.

557
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 5: It's like full circle in the sense, you know.

558
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 4: So you got to meet your future brother in law

559
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 4: before meeting Charity. You're chatting with Charity like.

560
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 5: I knew him way more Charity probably for like a

561
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 5: good two three weeks.

562
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 3: He's like, Charity is great, Like, where's.

563
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 4: I didn't walk us through how it was meaning the

564
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 4: rest of Charity's family then.

565
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 7: Couldn't have been a better family, Like reminded me so

566
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 7: much of my own family.

567
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 2: Were you nervous going into that, going into that.

568
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 7: Or were you yeah, like they always of course there's

569
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 7: a bit of nerve, like out of respect for meeting

570
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 7: someone's family, right that you should probably have. I'd be

571
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 7: concerned if I didn't, But I also felt so strong

572
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 7: about her that I wasn't.

573
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 5: I was like, y'all just going to see him.

574
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 7: Feel how I feel about her, like regardless, and so

575
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 7: like they didn't go anywhere, like there's no game plan,

576
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 7: It's just go there. I'm just going to confess like

577
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 7: what she means to me, an, express to her, to them,

578
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 7: what I've expressed to her throughout that experience. So a

579
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 7: little bit of nerves in terms of like meaning parents

580
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 7: and you hope that, but I was like, I'm just

581
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 7: gonna put my heart out and I know I care

582
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 7: about their daughter and sister.

583
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 5: So hopefully they see it.

584
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 10: Yeah.

585
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 4: No, you guys both have incredible family. Is how has

586
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 4: it been like now, have you guys like hung out

587
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 4: with the family.

588
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:56,840
Speaker 6: It's like obviously like no, like we've like facetimed and

589
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 6: like has like there and we're all like obviously on

590
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 6: different coast of the United States, but we FaceTime, but obviously,

591
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 6: like we were just anticipating like that moment of where

592
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 6: like we're just all together and just think.

593
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 7: Is really like my family, Like they just may be

594
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 7: cutting up and like joking and roasting and it's it's

595
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 7: but there's a lot of love there and like it's

596
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 7: it's beautiful. So like we've both just been waiting, like

597
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 7: I love her brother. She's like, give me away, give

598
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 7: me away. It's a perfect dynamic and where I think

599
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 7: everything's gonna balance out pretty well.

600
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 4: I was dying charity because, like I said, your mom

601
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 4: reminds me of my mom in a way, but your

602
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,200
Speaker 4: dad also reminded me so much of my dad when

603
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 4: he was like, you know, as long as you can

604
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 4: talk about sports, like we can definitely get along.

605
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 6: And I was like, I really hope gotten the sports

606
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 6: guys saying, because I'm like when I asked my dad,

607
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 6: I'm my dad, He's just like be serious and he's like, no,

608
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 6: I am, I'm sports And I'm like that is not

609
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 6: like like can we get a deeper, like determine whether

610
00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 6: or not, like this is gonna work sports.

611
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 3: Like that's my top per charity. I know, I warned him.

612
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,880
Speaker 9: I literally wanted, like Mermaid exactly what my dad did,

613
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 9: Like they are just so predictable and I love them,

614
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 9: but I was like, my dad's probably gonna talk about

615
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 9: sports or just ask you like they'm an athlete or something.

616
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:17,959
Speaker 3: And it's just a typical dad thing. But it's very

617
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 3: bad of him. Are you a sports guyton, honestly?

618
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 5: You know, like I played sports red Flag for the dad. No,

619
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 5: I don't.

620
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 7: Honestly, I don't really watch sports like I love to

621
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 7: play them. I'll go out on the field and be

622
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 7: a part of it. Watching it I used to. I

623
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 7: just died down to busneys these days. But I'll watch

624
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 7: it like, you know, if there's any bank going on,

625
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 7: that kind of thing.

626
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 5: Her dad did not disappoint though. I love that guy.

627
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 4: So we loved watching you meet Charity's family, Dotton, But

628
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 4: we also loved watching Charity meet your family and your

629
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 4: grandmother specifically stole the show.

630
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 3: So we have to ask, how is she doing? How's

631
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:01,920
Speaker 3: the fan?

632
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 5: All the famous went to her head and she's become

633
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 5: a monster.

634
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 7: Grandma, Grandma tam T is doing great. She's she's happy.

635
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 7: She's just happy about this more than anything. And so yeah,

636
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 7: she's doing great. You know, she's just excited and like

637
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 7: she was already a Bachelor fan.

638
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 5: I didn't know.

639
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 6: Please tell her about what she thought when she used

640
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 6: to get like bachelorette notifications on her phone.

641
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 3: Please tell your sister was telling me that. Okay, so

642
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 3: she's like a super fan.

643
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, she would get like notifica, but she would think

644
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 6: that it was like me texting her what do you mean?

645
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 3: Like it was so.

646
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 6: Cy and I was about to follow her when she said,

647
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 6: I was like, there's no way. But like she would

648
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 6: get I guess it was either message on Facebook. I

649
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 6: have no idea what it was. But like when she

650
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 6: would get like, I guess she has it set for

651
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 6: like just anything that's Bachelorette related. She would like interpret

652
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 6: the vacation as like a message from Yeah, it was like.

653
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 10: Oh my gosh, so grandma thinks your best friend, Yes,

654
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 10: that is so cute, and then any more.

655
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 4: Gifts from mom come in your way.

656
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 3: She has some sort I'm sure.

657
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 7: I'm sure too, like always comes to gifts and they're

658
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 7: always a mix of amazing and embarrassing.

659
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 5: I love it. It's entertainment. I look forward to whatever.

660
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 8: I can't wait to hear what the engagement gift is.

661
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 5: That was that was great, that's great.

662
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 1: Uh yes, okay, we're gonna get we want to get

663
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 1: more into your engagement and just how's life now. But

664
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: we're going to end this part of the episode right here,

665
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 1: so hopefully you guys come back and tune in because

666
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 1: we will release second part on Thursday. Thank you for listening,

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Speaker 1: and bye bye

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Speaker 7: M