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Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: You never know. Buggle up and hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Subject he tells his mama everything. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: a twenty eight year old woman that just eloped with

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Speaker 1: the love of my life. We dated for seven years

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Speaker 1: and we did not want to waste money on a

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Speaker 1: I also wanted to elope so my husband's mom wouldn't

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Speaker 1: be all in the mix trying to tell us what

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Speaker 1: to do. She's the reason that I waited so long

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Speaker 1: to get married. She's a meddler and a gossiper, and

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Speaker 1: it's not really her fault because my husband tells her

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Speaker 1: everything I do. It's been going on since we started

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Speaker 1: dating seven years ago, and we fight about his mother

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Speaker 1: all the time. Back when we first had sex. He

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Speaker 1: was hurt. My husband and I broke up twice before

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Speaker 1: we got married because his mom said I was two

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Speaker 1: into sex after he told her that my sex drive

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Speaker 1: is very high. The second time we broke up, he

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Speaker 1: told his mother that I was considering dying my hair blonde,

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Speaker 1: and his mother called me and said, that's not a

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Speaker 1: classy color for a black girl. I started making up

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Speaker 1: stuff just to see how much of a mama's boy

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Speaker 1: he was being, and he fell right into the trap.

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Speaker 1: I told him I was behind in my student loan payments,

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Speaker 1: and he told his mama. She called me and asked

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Speaker 1: if I was having money problems and suggested that I

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Speaker 1: get a second job so I could pay my bills.

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Speaker 1: I'd had enough, and I decided to fight fire with fire.

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Speaker 1: I told his mom that he's experiencing ed so we

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Speaker 1: have not had sex in over three weeks. His mama

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Speaker 1: called him and he was fuming mad at me and

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Speaker 1: said I shouldn't have told his mama his business. Oh really,

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Speaker 1: he has avoided me the past few days, but we

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Speaker 1: need to have a discussion about his mama and her

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Speaker 1: never ending mess. How do I get him to stop

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Speaker 1: telling his mama everything? Please help? I think you asked

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Speaker 1: a little late for all of this. You're married now,

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Speaker 1: His mama is his mama, and she's been allowed to

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Speaker 1: be all up in the mix for seven years. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she's not going to change that. This is a monster

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Speaker 1: your mama's boy husband created and there are no boundaries

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Speaker 1: with him or her. I mean, you saw that seven

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Speaker 1: her mouth. But she's still doing it. So what was

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Speaker 1: a seven year wait for? She has not changed. You

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Speaker 1: same thing, the same, very same thing as you got now.

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Speaker 1: The only time you break up. Now, think about this.

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Speaker 1: You said that a letter you broke up twice. The

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Speaker 1: getting into his business. I'm still trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: why you thought it would be different now because he

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Speaker 1: put a ring on it. No, this situation is stupid.

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Speaker 1: I just think he is and always will be a

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Speaker 1: mama's boy who hasn't learned to put his wife first.

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Speaker 1: And that's the problem. And mom is just doing mom,

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Speaker 1: She's just doing her. This marriage is not gonna last

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Speaker 1: unless you and your husband presents some sort of united

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Speaker 1: to butt out of your marriage, plain and simple, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Oh everything, surely say it is true. It's not a

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Speaker 1: But you know I like I like see, I like

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Speaker 1: little bity stuff. The fact that you eloped says it

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Speaker 1: all right there. And the reason you, Elope, is because

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Speaker 1: Now you obviously love this dude because y'all have been

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Speaker 1: little ceremony. Now she's a meddler, gossipel But it's not

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Speaker 1: her fault because my husband tells her everything. See, this

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Speaker 1: whole letter really has nothing to do with her. This

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Speaker 1: letter is about you the writer and your husband, the

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Speaker 1: mama's boy, because that's all he is. He's a mama's boy. Now,

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Speaker 1: I get him to stop telling his mama every it's

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Speaker 1: at least you say you're twenty eight. Let's just say

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Speaker 1: together seven years. He's been a mama's boy for about

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Speaker 1: twenty eight damn years, the whole damn time. Yea. So

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Speaker 1: it's hard to disengage or get a person to resend

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Speaker 1: all these thoughts he's been having for twenty eight years.

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Speaker 1: He's a mama's boy. Let me just go through a

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Speaker 1: mother that when y'all finally had sex, who do that?

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Speaker 1: Me and my mama have never fu discussed six ever.

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Speaker 1: We didn't have the birds and the bees conversation. But

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Speaker 1: Daddy came and gave that to me. It was short,

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Speaker 1: it was to the point, and it was not clinical.

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Speaker 1: I would love to have heard that. I can't repeat

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Speaker 1: nothing he told me. I believe it. That was my

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Speaker 1: sex education. Talk with my daddy. Rule threw me into something.

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Speaker 1: How old were you about twelve thirteen? All right? You

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Speaker 1: know back then that was that was plenty of times. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I hold that thought, Steve. We'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up in twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: hour today's Strawberry letter. He tells his mama everything. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter subject. He

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Speaker 1: tells his mama everything. What's your problem? You didn't married

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Speaker 1: a mama's boy, then you waited seven years to man

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Speaker 1: because his mama's always met this, So y'all eloped so

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Speaker 1: she wouldn't be up in your business. She had a

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Speaker 1: Back when y'all first had sex, he told his mother.

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Speaker 1: His mama got on the phone, call your mama. Your

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Speaker 1: mother was hurt. Y'all broke up twice before y'all got

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Speaker 1: mad because his mama said I was two into sex

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Speaker 1: after he told her my sex drive is hot. What

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Speaker 1: girlfriend sex driving right, I don't know anyone, so right there, lady,

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Speaker 1: what are we talking about? The second time we broke up,

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Speaker 1: he told his mother that I was considering dying my

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Speaker 1: and it's always how it's always whipped. That's one thing

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Speaker 1: about the ladies on this show, Carlin, Shirley Monica. They

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Speaker 1: are gonna be right, yeah, always. But she didn't want

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Speaker 1: making up stuff to see how much of her Mama's boy.

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Speaker 1: He fell into the trap. He'd told everything. I was behind,

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Speaker 1: I was my student, lone payments, he told his mama.

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Speaker 1: She called me and asked, well, I was having money

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Speaker 1: problems and suggestion I get a second job because the

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Speaker 1: show can't count on my baby, because he my baby.

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Speaker 1: Not gonna have this boy working on two jobs and

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Speaker 1: fire with fire. You told his mother that he's experiencing

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Speaker 1: me and said, I shouldn't have told his mama's his business. Well,

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Speaker 1: ain't that stupid? Yeah, you tell all of hers a mom.

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Speaker 1: He avoided me the past few days. But we need

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Speaker 1: to have a discussion about his mama and this never

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Speaker 1: ending mess. How do I get him stop telling? You can't.

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Speaker 1: He's a mama's boy and he'd been there for twenty years,

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Speaker 1: and I want you to understand it's not hers him.

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Speaker 1: You're married to a mama's boy. Period. I don't know

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Speaker 1: bad cases of that. What's the worst. Well, I had

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Speaker 1: You know, we understood that because his father had died.

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Speaker 1: You know, we grew up together. But he just everything

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Speaker 1: my mama said, I'm gonna tell my mama because you're

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Speaker 1: you whipping too. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, And I feelage

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Speaker 1: all savages. I'd have got beat by all my friend's mother. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but just a lot about here. It's just a real case,

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Speaker 1: Shirley said, it best. This is a mama's boy. He's

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Speaker 1: not going to check. I can't help you. You married

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Speaker 1: relationship problems with me? What does she wait for seven

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Speaker 1: out this man. Why don't you check his driver's license

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Speaker 1: he might be fourteen. He's feeling, boy, he's feel Then

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Speaker 1: you can get out your madge. Why would he tell

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Speaker 1: your mama dad about you? What mama sing? There? Bringing it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Ain't you got to go to work? Why is she

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Speaker 1: screwing all? Eve? I'm gonna call huh listen, Lacresia. This

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Speaker 1: is Earles, mama. How much time we got? We got

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Speaker 1: time for reenactment? A minute? Ten seconds? Shirley? Oh, yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna call you. I'm gonna call you you the wife, okay, hello, Sirley, Yes, missus. Earles, Mama,

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Speaker 1: win got a lot of time. Okay? How you and Earl?

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Speaker 1: Earl says you got a high sex drive? He did?

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Speaker 1: Don't act like he was talking about you. Well, wait

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Speaker 1: a minute, now, missus Dorothy, that's our business. Why did

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Speaker 1: he tell you that? Did you ask it? What? Couse?

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Speaker 1: Earl be tired and he got to go to work,

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Speaker 1: with you too. Well he could f five times a week. Well,

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Speaker 1: miss Dorothy, I understand you told my mother. Now my

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Speaker 1: mother is upset, Miss Dorothy, I told your mamma because

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Speaker 1: we got to stop him. Am I doing that? So? Well,

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Speaker 1: Miss Dorothy, that's just perfectly natural. I'm human? Who in

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Speaker 1: this boy all these days of the week. He's a man,

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Speaker 1: Miss Dorothy. You keep saying he's a boy. He's gonna

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Speaker 1: think we get it. Thank you, Steve. Post your comments

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