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Speaker 1: into our show from one of our listeners named Bobby.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's how he pronounces it, but
Speaker 1: that's how I want to putbody. You can say it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Bobby emailed us and told us he went on on
Speaker 1: a date that had two very distinctive sides to it. Okay,
Speaker 1: and I'm reading out of his email. He says, quote
Speaker 1: one side was very uncomfortable and odd, and the other
Speaker 1: was fun and enjoyable. That pretty much describes every Craigslist
Speaker 1: meetup I've ever had. Bobby, your email really got my attention.
Speaker 1: But before we hear about your date, tell us about
Speaker 1: the girl you went out with. What's her name, Caroline?
Speaker 1: We can't do anything with that. Okay, it's gonna get
Speaker 1: it's gonna get old real quick. Where'd you meet her?
Speaker 1: Where'd you meet Caroline? We met online okay, And what
Speaker 1: stood out about her, Well, to be completely honest with you,
Speaker 1: she was the hottest match I've had in an entire
Speaker 1: year of being online. I like that your voice goes
Speaker 1: so deep when you say that. That's how you know
Speaker 1: it's a man thing. She was super hot. And bonus,
Speaker 1: she's a college graduate. She's possibly smart. It doesn't always
Speaker 1: mean that you're smart. Sexy and semi educated. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what love. So Bobby tell us a little bit about
Speaker 1: the date. Did the uncomfortable and odd part happen first?
Speaker 1: Or did you start off with fun and enjoyable? It
Speaker 1: started out odd and uncomfortable. Really, usually people don't even
Speaker 1: give it time to get through odd and uncomfortable to
Speaker 1: get to fun and enjoyable. What was so weird? Well,
Speaker 1: we met at a restaurant and I was the first
Speaker 1: one to arrive. I got there just a few minutes early,
Speaker 1: and when she came walking in, I recognized her immediately,
Speaker 1: and I go on just to give her a hug,
Speaker 1: and she stopped me and stepped back and said no,
Speaker 1: thank you, like in an aggressive way or in a
Speaker 1: I'm scared of germs type of way. It was firm
Speaker 1: but kind. I would say okay, you know, so I stopped.
Speaker 1: It was like, I'm sorry, is there like a problem
Speaker 1: and she says it depends. And then she pulled out
Speaker 1: this little stack of papers out of her purse and
Speaker 1: put them on the table what the interview. They were
Speaker 1: like court documents that she had printed offline. Six cases.
Speaker 1: There were my court cases. Oh wait, you got a record,
Speaker 1: a slight record. You can do a stack of papers.
Speaker 1: What were you feeling when she did that to you?
Speaker 1: I felt like I was in school, like in trouble
Speaker 1: to teach her or something. It was weird, you know
Speaker 1: though at least she showed up like most girls would
Speaker 1: google search too probably and just never wow that show
Speaker 1: like totally But the records didn't actually say what I
Speaker 1: had done or what had happened, because that's not available.
Speaker 1: So she asked me to explain each one. Who Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, it sounds like a hot start to the day.
Speaker 1: Were you totally honest with her? Yeah, we talked through
Speaker 1: the issues, and you just like, you know, traffic stops
Speaker 1: and this kind of thing, and she's very skeptical as
Speaker 1: we are. I am right now, yeah, and I'm feeling
Speaker 1: like I'm on trial again again. Yeah, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: put myself in your shoes like you just must have
Speaker 1: been so nervous. I was very nervous because I wanted
Speaker 1: things to work out like I had mastered with her,
Speaker 1: and she was foking hot. I know, you want to
Speaker 1: come off looking good to the sexy chicks. So was
Speaker 1: she impressed with what you said or not impressed? But
Speaker 1: was she okay with the things that you crimed up?
Speaker 1: How do you say it? I think never be your
Speaker 1: own lawyer, Jeffrey, So what do you think of your crimes?
Speaker 1: He did start to warm up, and I basically just
Speaker 1: told her I've been unlucky with the cops for pretty
Speaker 1: much my entire life. No, I'm serious. Like one of
Speaker 1: the examples is I was arrested for driving with a
Speaker 1: deployed airbag. I had back into something and it went off,
Speaker 1: and I still had to get to work. I had
Speaker 1: to get to where I was going, so I just
Speaker 1: kept going like that. How did you even see out
Speaker 1: the witch? But that's funny because now he's a criminal
Speaker 1: record because of that. He was cool with that one,
Speaker 1: but this other one she was not so cool with,
Speaker 1: which involved piece of hut rob them. But I didn't
Speaker 1: rob them for money. I got arrested while I was
Speaker 1: drunk in in college. I broke into a pizza hut
Speaker 1: and I stole chicken wings. Okay, yeah, you didn't blame
Speaker 1: a guy for that. I mean, was there a turning
Speaker 1: point in the night. I mean, because it's pretty impressive
Speaker 1: if you were able to actually get her on your side.
Speaker 1: At one point she did open up and that was
Speaker 1: the fun and enjoyable part. Okay, Okay, so you guys connected. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then she did allow us to have two cocktails,
Speaker 1: but not dinner. Okay, whoa. Okay, this girl sounds pretty uptight.
Speaker 1: But I have an idea about why she didn't want
Speaker 1: to have dinner with me, and it's because I didn't
Speaker 1: want to tell her about my last court case. There
Speaker 1: was one left and it was it's just super embarrassing,
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to talk about it. So you
Speaker 1: spilled on the other ones, but that last one, and
Speaker 1: you said, Nope, not going to happen. Yeah. She said
Speaker 1: that she was going to get up and leave unless
Speaker 1: I told her, and I wouldn't do it. Leave. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she left, Bobby, what'd you do? Yeah? Just tell us,
Speaker 1: just between you and me, no one else was listening.
Speaker 1: I ordered some chicken wings. Yeah, what didn't you tell her?
Speaker 1: I don't see I would. I would like to get
Speaker 1: through this without having to talk about it. I was
Speaker 1: hoping you guys work your madness. Hey, can I just
Speaker 1: ask you? Would you date you if you knew what
Speaker 1: you did? Good question? Yes, there was a hesitation there.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all right, Well, so have you thought about
Speaker 1: telling her the truth? Bobby? Yeah, of course I've thought
Speaker 1: about it, but there risks this too great. Well, and
Speaker 1: I will say, I will say, I feel like you
Speaker 1: were really honest, and there's just some things that you
Speaker 1: don't have to share with everybody. It's it's not going
Speaker 1: to change who you are right now exactly. I shared
Speaker 1: with her five out of six of my court case.
Speaker 1: That should be good enough for dinner. All right, I
Speaker 1: guess that's what we're working on. All right, Well, Bobby,
Speaker 1: you may have to tell car Line what you actually did,
Speaker 1: but we're gonna play a song first, come back and
Speaker 1: get your second date update right after this. Okay, all right,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. All right, hold on second date.
Speaker 1: We're right in the middle of a second date update,
Speaker 1: but before we go any further, all the women listening
Speaker 1: right now better watch out, because we have a certified
Speaker 1: bad boy on the phone. His name is Bobby. Bobby
Speaker 1: loves driving around town with a deployed air bag and
Speaker 1: eating chicken wings that he didn't pay for and committing
Speaker 1: minor traffic violations with zero cares. He's bad Bobby. It's
Speaker 1: on the Pope for a second date update, and he
Speaker 1: recently went up with a girl named Caroline. And Caroline
Speaker 1: decided to start off their date by bringing a six
Speaker 1: page print out of Bobby's rap sheet and made him
Speaker 1: explain every court date he's ever had. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: So he told her about five out of the six charges,
Speaker 1: but was too embarrassed to share his sixth offense, and
Speaker 1: that's when Caroline decided to cut the date short. Now
Speaker 1: he's helping for a second chance. Bobby, you bad boy?
Speaker 1: You what do you say? You? Guys? I really don't
Speaker 1: want to have to tell her about this last case.
Speaker 1: I just can you please just try so that I
Speaker 1: can go on another date with her without having to
Speaker 1: divulge this. You know, I'm usually all for honesty in
Speaker 1: a date, but I also think that there's some things
Speaker 1: you should be allowed to keep private. But can I
Speaker 1: ask before we do this, you promise that that last
Speaker 1: one isn't something that like, I don't know where she'd
Speaker 1: be putting her life in danger if she would out
Speaker 1: with you. Again, I promise she would not be in
Speaker 1: any danger with me. It's just one of those things
Speaker 1: I haven't told many people. Only a few of my
Speaker 1: closest friends know about it. She'd be in danger of
Speaker 1: being too turned on because he's bad. All right, Bobby,
Speaker 1: I believe in you. Okay, Well somebody does here. There
Speaker 1: we go, lawyer. Well, we're gonna give Caroline a call
Speaker 1: for you. Okay, I'm gonna dial the number right now.
Speaker 1: You're ready, I'm ready, Okay, let's do this. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Caroline? Please speaking this? Hi Caroline.
Speaker 1: My name's Young Jeffrey from the radio show Brook and
Speaker 1: Jubil in the Morning. I'm sorry, who is this? It's
Speaker 1: Young Jeffrey. I'm a radio host. Hi Caroline. You're not
Speaker 1: familiar with Young Jeffrey. That's actually not that shocking, Caroline.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. How many people are on the phone right now.
Speaker 1: There's three of us in the studio right now. Hi, Caroline,
Speaker 1: I'm Brooke. We're a radio show. You said that part already. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're a repetitive radio show. Yes, and did you know
Speaker 1: that we broadcast our show on the radio. Why are
Speaker 1: you guys coming me? That's a yeah, let's get right
Speaker 1: to it. We're doing something called the second Date Update. Basically,
Speaker 1: that's where if one of our listeners has gone out
Speaker 1: on a date recently but isn't getting a call back,
Speaker 1: we can call that person for them and figure out
Speaker 1: the reason why. So you recently went out with a
Speaker 1: guy named Bobby, Bobby wanted you guys to call me, right.
Speaker 1: Bobby had a great time on his night out with you,
Speaker 1: and he's just wanting to know the reason why you're
Speaker 1: not getting back in touch with him. You know, I
Speaker 1: think I made it pretty clear to him when I
Speaker 1: saw him last week, and if he doesn't want to
Speaker 1: follow my rules, then I don't want to go back
Speaker 1: out with him. Well, Caroline held, he told us about
Speaker 1: the rules like you're talking about. You showed up with
Speaker 1: the rap sheet and all of his criminal convictions, and
Speaker 1: he wouldn't tell you the last one. So you guys
Speaker 1: know all about the date, well, I mean some of it.
Speaker 1: From his perspective, we don't know it from your perspective,
Speaker 1: and kudos to you for being very thorough on background
Speaker 1: checking him. I think that's a good call on your part.
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, I just want to feel safe, and
Speaker 1: I feel like every woman should do, you know, a
Speaker 1: little bit of day and make sure they know who
Speaker 1: they're going out with totally. But they all seemed like
Speaker 1: pretty silly offenses. Nothing crazy. He told us about the
Speaker 1: pizza Hut one where he stole the chicken wings when
Speaker 1: he was drunk driving with a deployed airbag. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: he didn't tell me the last one. And I'm worried
Speaker 1: that she's so ashamed or if it's so horrible, then
Speaker 1: that's simply not going to make me feel safe or
Speaker 1: comfortable enough to see him again. Well, I can understand
Speaker 1: that emotion. But he assured us that it was nothing bad,
Speaker 1: nothing terrible. He's a good guy and he just he
Speaker 1: was caught in a bad situation. So he told you guys.
Speaker 1: He didn't tell us specifically what it was, but well,
Speaker 1: how you know it's not bad? I guess. Okay, here's
Speaker 1: the thing. There's a certain level of trust at some
Speaker 1: point in any dating right that you have to be
Speaker 1: able to give, and because the other five were pretty harmless,
Speaker 1: and because this guy seems pretty cool, Like, why not
Speaker 1: give him another chance? You don't have to know everything
Speaker 1: about someone before you go out with them. You're right,
Speaker 1: I don't have to know everything, but I should know
Speaker 1: if he has six offenses, what the heck the last
Speaker 1: one is? But he's not locked up, so it can't
Speaker 1: be too bad. I mean, is that a bad standard
Speaker 1: for me to have? I don't know, you served your time,
Speaker 1: you did the crib. You know, there's gotta be some
Speaker 1: point where society forgives you. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: know if we're gonna agree with Brooke on that sentiment.
Speaker 1: But maybe there's a chance that Bobby will tell you
Speaker 1: what he did. If he told you right now, would
Speaker 1: you be willing to hear him out? Well, yeah, he
Speaker 1: absolutely has to tell me, otherwise I'll never go out
Speaker 1: with him again. All right, Bobby, tell us what you did? Hi, Hi, Caroline.
Speaker 1: He's on the phone. Yeah, he's been on the other
Speaker 1: line listening the whole time. Carolyne. You just need to
Speaker 1: trust me. It's just a super embarrassing thing. If you
Speaker 1: come to dinner with me, I'll tell you there. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to dinner with you. You already have
Speaker 1: that chance. You could have told me last dinner. See.
Speaker 1: I feel like Bobby really screwed up on this one
Speaker 1: because it sounds like if you want a date, not
Speaker 1: only are you're gonna have to tell Caroline, but you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to tell everybody. But he says it's not
Speaker 1: that bad, So maybe it's not that bad. I didn't
Speaker 1: say was it bad? You asked if it was life threatening?
Speaker 1: Why did he wait? Let's play a little like, Caroline, Well,
Speaker 1: how about the twenty questions like did you serve any
Speaker 1: time for it? Bobby? I was gonna take forever? Yeah, Bobby,
Speaker 1: don't you just tell us what you did? I know
Speaker 1: the minutes on our station's phone plan doesn't have that
Speaker 1: much in it, so just get right to it. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. But I can't believe I'm saying this.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm Caroline. You're agreeing to go out with
Speaker 1: Bobby if he tells us no, I'm agreeing to listen
Speaker 1: and to see if i'd go out with him again.
Speaker 1: We're peer pressuring this guy. Okay, what'd you do? Bobby? Okay?
Speaker 1: A few years ago, I was in a wedding and
Speaker 1: I rented a tux and when I returned it, the
Speaker 1: owner of the tux rental place said that I had
Speaker 1: ruined it, like I had spilled some stuff on it,
Speaker 1: which I didn't, and then he charged me four hundred
Speaker 1: dollars on my card for no reason, and it made
Speaker 1: me angry because it was not true at all. I
Speaker 1: didn't go anything on it. So a little while later,
Speaker 1: one night, I get drunk with those same guys from
Speaker 1: the pizza Hut thing, and we hopped an uber and
Speaker 1: we took the uber to this tux place and I
Speaker 1: defecated in front of the front door, and I didn't
Speaker 1: realize that there were cameras out front, like security cameras,
Speaker 1: and I got arrested two days later. Oh all right,
Speaker 1: so you took a dump in front of a tuxedo store, Caroline. Yeah,
Speaker 1: will you go to dinner with Caroline? See, your life's
Speaker 1: not in jeopardy, maybe your ball gowns are. But that's
Speaker 1: pretty crazy, Bobby, It's silly. I mean, what are you
Speaker 1: feeling right now, Caroline? I don't know. This is so weird,
Speaker 1: and it's just more weird every time I talk to him, Caroline,
Speaker 1: I told you all six of my court cases. Like,
Speaker 1: the least you could do is just have dinner with me.
Speaker 1: I'm not asking for anything more. Yeah, Caroline, he's really
Speaker 1: gone out on a limb, like revealing his entire criminal
Speaker 1: history on the radio. Now, I mean, can you give
Speaker 1: him another chance? I mean, we'll pay to send you
Speaker 1: guys out on a date. Well, I mean, Bobby, I
Speaker 1: don't think you're a bad guy, but I'm gonna say no, no,
Speaker 1: I told you everything. Yeah, and it's not horrible, but
Speaker 1: it just sounds really just dumb. No, Caroline, listen to me.
Speaker 1: This guy is fun. Okay, Yeah, sometimes it gets out
Speaker 1: of control, but that's what fun does. When you're with
Speaker 1: the fun verson you will have so much better of
Speaker 1: a time with him. And honestly, you sound kind of
Speaker 1: like a little adle, like you showed up to the
Speaker 1: date with his rap sheets. Like you need more fun
Speaker 1: in your life, right, yeah, Caroline, think of all the
Speaker 1: businesses that you and Bobby can defecate in front of together. Well,
Speaker 1: I'd be serious, Caroline, this would be good for you.
Speaker 1: Go out with him. You can hold hands and kiss
Speaker 1: while you're doing It's it's a memory waiting to happen.
Speaker 1: You guys aren't helping me. I disagree. I think this
Speaker 1: is working, Caroline. Come on, Caroline, you need a good
Speaker 1: story in your life. Go out with Bobby. I just
Speaker 1: can't see myself with someone who makes these kind of
Speaker 1: really stupid decisions. Oh come on, that's the only people
Speaker 1: I could ever see myself with, Caroline. Listen. I'll think
Speaker 1: about it, guys, I will, but I just want to
Speaker 1: be honest. Probably it's probably going to be a no, Bobby.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man, it sounds like you're not going to
Speaker 1: get a second date out of this. We all tried. Dude,
Speaker 1: what this sucks because I had to tell everybody listening
Speaker 1: when I did too. Yeah, Caroline, be careful. He sounds
Speaker 1: angry even I want to get some cameras for that
Speaker 1: doorstep look out, Caroline. Oh, Bobby, don't come to my house.
Speaker 1: We'll bring some chicken wings. It'll be fun. Moving ninety
Speaker 1: two point five