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Speaker 1: When I was in the fifth grade, my mom got

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Speaker 1: so we're putting an effort towards this relationship, and it

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Speaker 1: seems like this aunt is pretty pretty clutch. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I've had a lot of the not really family but

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're still family. They're still family.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, the ones that have a I wiped you when

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Speaker 1: That's forward to twenty twenty one. My aunt passed away

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Speaker 2: I'm so confused as to how this is going to

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Speaker 2: just I can't deal unacceptable to deal with how thoughtful

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Speaker 1: My husband's sister twelve females birthday is also on the

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Speaker 1: same day. I love a sister and always spent the

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Speaker 1: just like, at the end of the night, you she's

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Speaker 2: Is it?

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Speaker 4: Jealousy?

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Speaker 1: Is he like?

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Speaker 4: Why don't you Why don't you care?

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Speaker 2: Your aunt's your fake aunt who's not really Your aunt's

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Speaker 1: He sent me a tech saying I'm not coming home tonight,

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Speaker 1: and I respond responded, I love you, you say. I wake

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Speaker 4: There's gotta be another layer to this right now.

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Speaker 2: What there's something that the I feel like there's gotta

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Speaker 1: I immediately started crying as my husband knew how much

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Speaker 1: He also knew I would celebrate before marrying me. I'm

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Speaker 3: What that Let's let's talk about it.

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Speaker 1: I know in this update, we're about to find some

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Speaker 1: more red flags Dakota.

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Speaker 2: Like you said, I don't know. I feel like if

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Speaker 2: no here, I'm done with that.

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Speaker 1: This is the craziest excuse I've ever seen. I honestly

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Speaker 2: Like and all this she wakes up and all this

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Speaker 1: A birthday, Dude, over a birthday. If it was there

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Speaker 1: a baked cake, it's like milk and like, let's say, okay,

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Speaker 2: That sounds like a compromise. That sounds like a good

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Speaker 2: compromise right there. If you take that deal, I take

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Speaker 1: Comments alarm Links seventy one forty eight. Yeah, that's not

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Speaker 1: a partner. You want anyone who acts like this towards you,

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Speaker 3: There has to be some like a side piece, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Three days later, Hi, everyone. First off, I want to

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Speaker 1: to me. I'm going through an extremely emotional time. I

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Speaker 1: This is not true. I work extremely early in the

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Speaker 1: Ray Raydon, I've never seen that name before, I decided

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Speaker 1: This clearly made him crap his pants, as not even

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Speaker 1: five minutes later he came back home. He started saying

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Speaker 4: Dude, this guy, I'm not gonna say.

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Speaker 2: I'm sychry rookie, Rookie of the Year, Rookie MVP R

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Speaker 1: That's him right there. That's crazy.

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Speaker 4: It sucks though.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know this is mean anything should be. Lee

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Speaker 1: I let her in and gave her a cup of coffee.

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Speaker 1: He also told her that he threatened to divorce me

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Speaker 1: This will be my final post and I will I

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Speaker 1: Thank you comments. Just a husband. Keep the mother in

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Speaker 1: law for the wind, keep in touch with her and

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Speaker 1: divorce is toxic. But he's trying to isolate you, but

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Speaker 1: Wow w mom w mom in the shots right now,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's you know, And I guess.

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Speaker 2: That's just such a crazy blow up for just being like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I was drunk. Also, how do you get that drunk

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Speaker 2: at your twelve year old sister's birthday? Yeah, that's kind

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Speaker 2: of also think about that black like that is crazy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so drunk that.

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Speaker 1: You move out. Imagine being jealous of a cake. Thanks?

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Speaker 3: Can we talk about how he was lying to his mom?

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Speaker 1: Dude, he was just trying to get out.

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Speaker 3: You try to get out of it, but like trying

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Speaker 3: has screenshot, Opie has receipts. Yeah, check it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's what we're talking about.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's see.

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Speaker 2: It just feels like the scramble after you're like, oh

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Speaker 4: How do I get back to normal?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: She wanted the divorce.

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Speaker 1: It's like text messages exist.

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Speaker 3: You're burying your own grade. I don't know. That is crazy.

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Speaker 5: I demanded a new ring from my fiance because he

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Speaker 5: bought it on Tiamu.

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Speaker 3: Dakota knows a lot about Timu.

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Speaker 1: Dude, I went crazy Dakota first drop.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they banned me. Yeah, they banned They banned me

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Speaker 4: because I was.

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Speaker 3: Well, actually, well that's another story.

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Speaker 4: I have the right to remain silent.

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Speaker 5: My twenty seven female fiance twenty nine male proposed to

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Speaker 5: But we've been together for three years and things have

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from znx NCB on the

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Speaker 2: So.

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Speaker 5: I really liked the ring when I first saw it,

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Speaker 5: and my friends and family all think it's donning. It's

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Speaker 5: I don't know if I would tell my fiance that

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Speaker 5: think anything of it until yesterday. We were in bed

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Speaker 4: I think it might be what moss nights night.

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Speaker 5: Moist to night, mainly out of curiosity. I don't have

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Speaker 5: I asked him if he got it from there, and

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Speaker 5: with something like does it matter? Does it matter? I

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Speaker 5: one that looks identical. I found that exact ring and

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Speaker 5: it's listed at thirty eight dollars.

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Speaker 4: That's actually, for the record, really expensive.

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Speaker 5: I was gonna say, aren't they usually like fives?

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Speaker 4: He actually paid a.

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Speaker 2: Spot in terms of like TMU price's Dakota would know about.

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Speaker 1: Again, I have the right to remain silent.

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Speaker 5: No new for the comment. I am mad. He makes

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Speaker 5: good money two hundred k year.

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Speaker 2: He's officially lost, he's done any break god like break up.

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Speaker 5: I can't even spend like a couple hundred on you,

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Speaker 5: and I feel like he could have shelled out some

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Speaker 5: money for a ring better than one on Timu. Am

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Speaker 5: I the a hole for telling him I don't want it?

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Speaker 5: There's one comment or a couple comments from op and

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Speaker 5: an update. Opie's thought, Okay, I'm not mad that the

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Speaker 5: diamonds are not real, but I worry about the equality

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Speaker 5: of the ring because I imagine my engagement ring to

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Speaker 5: at least be sturdy. It's fine for now. It just

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Speaker 5: breaks apart. It's one of those It's one of those

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Speaker 5: rings that they sold as like mood ring, you know,

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Speaker 5: and if they break apart, you have too much bad

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Speaker 2: Oh I you know he try in one of those. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but it was the apparently it was blessed by a guru.

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Speaker 2: And when it breaks, get good luck.

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Speaker 5: Everything's in the marketing. Everything's marketing, guys, a commenter, not

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Speaker 5: the a hole because that thing make turn your finger green.

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Speaker 5: He's lucky you don't have sensitivity sensitivity to fake metals

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Speaker 5: like some do. He makes good money but bought a

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Speaker 5: thirty eight dollars ring. Is he cheap with other things?

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Speaker 5: Where this discount shopping isn't a new thing for him

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Speaker 5: and he's just an all around penny pincher. My first

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Speaker 5: doesn't want slash expect this to last?

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Speaker 1: Ooh yikes.

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Speaker 5: Ohp responds, Yeah, let me provide some more context. Really,

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Speaker 5: he's never been overly frugal. I'm probably more frugal than

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Speaker 5: he is. Neither of us are huge spenders, but we

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Speaker 5: each make enough to not have to strictly budget on anything.

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Speaker 5: We have our own accounts and split rent equally. I

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Speaker 5: know he has at least one hundred k across his

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Speaker 5: savings slash investments accounts. We got for drinks a few

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Speaker 5: year and stay in basic accommodations. Eugh like our door

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Speaker 5: dash the other night was forty dollars. My ring costs

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Speaker 5: less than the door dashing dinner comments, as, you are

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Speaker 5: not the a hole, But what we all really want

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Speaker 5: to know is whether or not you would still marry

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Speaker 5: him if he replaces the ring. I don't think you should.

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Speaker 5: I don't think OPI says. The responses to this have

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Speaker 5: made me even more confused. People saying it could be

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Speaker 5: a loyalty test, that he doesn't want me to be

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Speaker 5: able to sell it if we divorce, or that he

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Speaker 5: doesn't plan to be with me for long. I have

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Speaker 5: a pit in my stomach. I haven't considered breaking things off,

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Speaker 5: but that was before I wrote this year. I was

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Speaker 5: thinking maybe he was just not thinking or rushed getting

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Speaker 5: the ring, or maybe he genuinely thought he was getting

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Speaker 5: a great deal on a high quality rink.

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Speaker 2: That's if he actually thought that, that's the reasonable because

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Speaker 5: Either he's thoughtless divorce, he's stupid divorce, or he doesn't

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Speaker 5: care about you divorce b IV. Then on the ring itself,

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Speaker 5: the response to this is just absolutely insane. Sorry, I'm

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Speaker 5: having a hard time keeping up. A few of you

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Speaker 5: want to see the ring, so here it is if

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Speaker 5: you want to look it up. I'm still waiting for

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Speaker 5: him to get home. No free sponsors update though, Uh

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Speaker 5: there is an update, but we can pause and talk

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Speaker 3: Yeah, divorce or not, because we know what's gonna happen.

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Speaker 5: I know exactly what the answer is.

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Speaker 2: I think that's that's the biggest thing right there is

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Speaker 2: like it needs to be you, Like the conversation has

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Speaker 2: to be had about, like, all right, do we want

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Speaker 2: to actually pay money?

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Speaker 4: What do you want out of your engagement ring?

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Speaker 2: Like do you want something that can he go like

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Speaker 2: DM or like do you want a thirty eight dollars

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Speaker 2: dem ring.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the question, because it seems like she liked

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Speaker 5: you okay with this ring? We could spend more on

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Speaker 5: like the wedding or is this something that is really

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Speaker 5: important to you than like it is from us people

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Speaker 5: get it married.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It feels like maybe it was just really really poorly executed,

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Speaker 2: like although it does this guy. Was that that comment

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Speaker 2: we read was that just an assumption that he's like

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Speaker 5: Asked if he was and op said, I'm more frugal

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Speaker 5: than him. He's not usually very frugal. Wow, So I'm like,

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Speaker 5: why are you? It just doesn't seem like he he

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Speaker 3: Or he would at least like communicate it like I'm

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Speaker 3: getting you the the temu ring, but baby, the real ring.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, once I get that real ring.

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Speaker 1: Just to just you.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I can go divorce on this

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Speaker 2: just because it's like you're staying in it. I think

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Speaker 2: all right, why he makes like two hundred grand?

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Speaker 4: Like it was? Did was this funny? Like was this

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Speaker 4: silks you having? Like yeah?

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Speaker 2: Because I feel like there's just something And he's not

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Speaker 2: a penny pincher. He's not the guy who's like always

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, come on, how do you?

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Speaker 4: How do you?

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Speaker 5: I think you should always talk first, regardless of whether

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Speaker 5: the ale subburn it. I was freaking out a bit.

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Speaker 5: He came home while I was facetiming a friend about this.

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Speaker 5: I hung up with her and then talked to him

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Speaker 5: for an hour or so. He apologize for sleeping on

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Speaker 5: doesn't see i'd I with me on my concerns about

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Speaker 5: the ring, and says he did research and that it

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Speaker 5: was highly rated. They have five stars on TIMO. Everyone

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Speaker 5: said I got this ring. I'm a real life person

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Speaker 5: and I loved it.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything that's not highly rated on t MoU.

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Speaker 2: It's like, I'm assuming.

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Speaker 4: It's you go on blame Prime no free uh no

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Speaker 2: Every single show and movie on that it is four

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Speaker 4: You can't find a single bad rated. It's crazy. If

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Speaker 5: You can't. Yeah, don't even look at it.

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Speaker 4: So is Timu the same way.

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Speaker 5: He says if the ring breaks, he will replace it,

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Speaker 5: but didn't say it'd be higher quality. He's like nonna, babe.

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Speaker 5: I spent like a couple hundred dollars on the thirty

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Speaker 5: eight multiple thirty eight dollars.

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Speaker 2: Rings he bought, he bought, he bought, he bought a

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Speaker 5: I have people messaging me that the ring could be

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Speaker 5: don't want to wear it. He left and went to

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Speaker 5: his brother's house. Usually I'd go with him, but things

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Speaker 5: are just tense. Am I the a hole for telling

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Speaker 5: Commoner says, kind of tough because had you not found

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Speaker 5: but that's I mean he lied. If you hadn't found

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Speaker 3: Is it a lie?

442
00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,919
Speaker 2: Or is it like I think it was purpose? Like

443
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: what's what's yeah? Maybe mission a live admission like omission?

444
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,480
Speaker 2: Miss yeah, omitted exactly?

445
00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:16,720
Speaker 5: Opie responds, TBH, if I hadn't found out it was

446
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 5: from Timu, I probably wouldn't be upset. But when it

447
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,680
Speaker 5: inevitably breaks or tarnishes, the truth would come out. Now

448
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,120
Speaker 5: that I know, it has completely changed how I feel

449
00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:29,080
Speaker 5: about the ring, even if esthetically it doesn't look too bad.

450
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:33,159
Speaker 5: Opie addresses several commenters asking if he thinks she is

451
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 5: a gold digger. This was her most comprehensive response. I

452
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,919
Speaker 5: want to clear up these gold digger rumors because this

453
00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 5: isn't only about the cost of the ring. I only

454
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 5: mention these things for context, not because I feel he

455
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 5: owes me something in return. When I met him, I

456
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,399
Speaker 5: was making just over one hundred K, and he was

457
00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:55,040
Speaker 5: working part time and doing an internship, bringing in significantly

458
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 5: less than me. He totaled his car early on in

459
00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,679
Speaker 5: our relationship, and I happily I owe him to his

460
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 5: work every morning on the way to my work when

461
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 5: he didn't have a car. When his mom got sick

462
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 5: and went to hospice, I immediately canceled all of my

463
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 5: travel plans and holiday plans with my family and sat

464
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 5: with him, visiting her every day for months. I helped

465
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 5: with funeral arrangements. I helped plan his brother's wedding. I

466
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 5: even loaned him money for a new car once he

467
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 5: started his new job. He did pay me back by

468
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 5: the way. He moved in with me recently, and most

469
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 5: everything the home is mine that I paid for prior

470
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 5: to the relationship. I have paid for so many plane

471
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 5: tickets for our travels, concert tickets, et cetera that I've

472
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 5: never asked him to pay back and never will. That's

473
00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 5: what a relationship is. I genuinely care about him. He

474
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 5: has done similar gestures for me and is more than

475
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 5: willing to spend money on dates. Believe it or not,

476
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 5: I'm not this greedy woman here sitting here excited to

477
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:55,199
Speaker 5: get his money. I have my own and final comment.

478
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:58,719
Speaker 5: Have they ever been ring shopping? Opie says we never

479
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 5: went ring shopping. The pose was a surprise to me.

480
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 5: We'd casually discuss getting married in the future for the

481
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 5: past year or so, but he never asked my taste

482
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,080
Speaker 5: in rings, so I was kind of thinking that happened

483
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 5: before the engagement. I actually like the style of the ring,

484
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 5: but then now that I know it's from Timu, I

485
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 5: can't look at it the same. There there are two

486
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 5: more updates to finish this story off. But yeah, it

487
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 5: doesn't seem like he's apologetic. He just kind of left.

488
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 4: This is a weird situation.

489
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's like Game seven and Michael Jordan he

490
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 2: had it. He went from the internship making two hundred k. Yeah,

491
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 2: would have got the nice ring boom marriage and it's like,

492
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 2: you're done.

493
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 4: Emu got involved.

494
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:45,639
Speaker 1: What happened?

495
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 4: He saw that Super Bowl ad and he's just like.

496
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, that Super Bowl A really really works. But there

497
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,640
Speaker 5: is a little bit mini update. I like how these

498
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 5: are all hours apart. I'm literally just sitting here refreshing

499
00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:01,119
Speaker 5: your comments, trying to figure out what to do next.

500
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 5: He texted to let me know he plans at staying

501
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 5: at his brother's for the weekend and he's taking Friday off.

502
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 5: It's not crazy abnormal since he's been watching football over there.

503
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 5: Super Bowl, he's watching the super Bowl, but I feel

504
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 5: like he's avoiding me. Now I'm trying not to be

505
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,640
Speaker 5: pushy about the situation and I'll give him some space.

506
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 5: But ugh, now I'm just in my head about all

507
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 5: of it and regretting my initial reaction. It's just a

508
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 5: dumb ring and maybe I've read into it too much.

509
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 5: The only other time we've had an argument like this,

510
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 5: it was resolved within a couple of hours, so I'm

511
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,959
Speaker 5: not used to this behavior from him. And update two

512
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 5: next day. He came home this morning while I was

513
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 5: in a work from home meeting. These comments made my

514
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 5: head spin all night. I got like three hours of sleep.

515
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 5: So I admit I may be in the wrong for

516
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 5: bringing up his finances, but I did. I asked him

517
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 5: what was going on, if there was anything he needed

518
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 5: to tell me, if he was testing me by doing this,

519
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 5: Well that really set him off. What kind of person

520
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 5: do you think I am? You think I'm a cheapskate,

521
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 5: a liar. You obviously think really poorly of me. But

522
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 5: still he never gave me a reason, So I asked

523
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 5: why he was deflecting every question to victimize himself and

524
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:18,239
Speaker 5: to avoid my questions. He tried to leave again, so

525
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 5: I tried de escalating and told him I see where

526
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 5: he's coming from, but I need to know if he

527
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:27,120
Speaker 5: still loves me. He was immediately apologetic and still wants

528
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 5: to get married. He said, I can just pick my

529
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,199
Speaker 5: own ring out and buy it with my own money.

530
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 4: WHOA, you were right there?

531
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 1: You do you make your own ring? Up?

532
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 5: It?

533
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,120
Speaker 1: You fumbled it?

534
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 2: Bro?

535
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Does that?

536
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 5: Does this guy watch football?

537
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 2: Conspiracy theory? Is this guy's job not real? Did he

538
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: lie about getting this job?

539
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 5: I think he's a liar?

540
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 4: Is he not?

541
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 2: He's he's just going and watching the super Bowl, that's

542
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 2: all he does. Buddies every day, every day. Yeah, and

543
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: he's like, yeah, I make it, K, don't worry.

544
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 5: My fantasy football league is doing really well this year.

545
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:06,600
Speaker 4: He said.

546
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:09,719
Speaker 5: He's sick of taking talking about this, and it's like

547
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 5: and it's water under the bridge. Now he's acting like

548
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 5: his normal self again since this conbo I hear him

549
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 5: out there skipping around and humming to himself all happily,

550
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 5: and it's actually pissing me off. Maybe I'm being dramatic,

551
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 5: but I don't think I can handle a marriage with

552
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 5: someone like That's that.

553
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 3: That's it. There were so many updates and then nothing

554
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 3: like hours and then this.

555
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, well it seems like he's considering rerevorce, not going

556
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 5: through with the marriage. This is yeah, if this is

557
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 5: his reaction.

558
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 4: I mean a part of me kind of gets.

559
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 2: Like, are you getting very much like a water under

560
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: the bridge type of person in this kind of scenario.

561
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: It's like this is just getting continually weirder and weirder.

562
00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 2: There are like more layers like let's just like like

563
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 2: forget this happened. But see, but then I would say,

564
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: and we'll go ring shopping together and now get you

565
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 2: your ring.

566
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 5: Let's go fix this, like, let's it doesn't seem like

567
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 5: you know, I made a mistake. Let's go fix this.

568
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 5: Water into the bridge. That's you can only do water

569
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 5: under the bridge if you've apologized.

570
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

571
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 3: The man was ready to like, all right, you got this,

572
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 3: You're good, and then he doubled down.

573
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, he was like, let's get you a new ring,

574
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 5: but you're not to be yours so bad.

575
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 4: I guess you can fut it out yourself.

576
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 1: Since I'm not good enough with my tevy rings, I.

577
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 5: Don't have any money.

578
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 2: I'm cheap scale little miss. I am thirty eight dollars

579
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 2: not good enough for me.

580
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 5: Oh, I didn't know I was talking to the.

581
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 2: Queen here, will sure you got the crown jewels?

582
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 4: What are you gonna do? Go shopping at the at

583
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 4: the palace.

584
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: A terrible combination because both of you are gonna be

585
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 3: doing so many voices.

586
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 5: Like this is perfect. I walked the dog while my

587
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 5: wife was getting ready for dinner.

588
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: My wife's glory sat me.

589
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 4: Oh okay, and let's continue with that one.

590
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 5: It feels ridiculous to ask about this, but I'm starting

591
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 5: to think I'm missing some key bit of information here.

592
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 5: I guess i'm asking that if I am, why because

593
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 5: it wasn't my attention, and I certainly would like to

594
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:21,120
Speaker 5: prevent it from happening again. By the way, this comes

595
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 5: from trying to understand sixty seven. I'm the best editor.

596
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 4: Up a nice accountant.

597
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 5: Obviously, she's mad at me for walking it all, and

598
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 5: I don't know why. This Friday, my wife and I

599
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,399
Speaker 5: had reservations at her favorite restaurant because her birthday is

600
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 5: right around the corner. We have a party planned, but

601
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 5: this was supposed to be our night together alone. The

602
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 5: way the reservation was set up, I would come home

603
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 5: from work change and immediately drive there as it's around

604
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:50,479
Speaker 5: an hour and a half by car. Wo Yes we

605
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 5: live in hit country. Yes I am a hicic, and

606
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 5: no we aren't moving that I've been made aware of.

607
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 1: But don't don't now.

608
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 5: The day had gone great so far, and from what

609
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 5: I knew, everything was going according to plan. I got

610
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 5: home and she's behind schedule getting ready. This is not

611
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 5: something that happens for her ever, and I was surprised,

612
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 5: but the reason wasn't her fault and it was barely

613
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,239
Speaker 5: a twenty minute deviation. However, I was just waiting by

614
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 5: the door during that time and the dog needed to

615
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 5: decided he needed out, so I took him for a

616
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 5: walk around our yard. It took maybe five minutes, and

617
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 5: I cleaned everything up and had him put up before

618
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 5: my wife was ready. We made it to the dinner

619
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 5: reservation by the skin of our teeth, and that was that.

620
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 5: We had a great date and I would never known

621
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 5: she was upset with me until the next morning when

622
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 5: she said that she had never known me to be

623
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 5: so impatient.

624
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 4: Projection.

625
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 2: I think she just feels guilty for making them way

626
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 2: because he said that this never happens. She's never late. Yeah,

627
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 2: So now she's like, well, taking the dog out because

628
00:29:55,640 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 2: I'm late. Yeah, I'm just almost ready, dude, relaxed. The

629
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: dog's fine, That's.

630
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,880
Speaker 5: Exactly which confused me, and she rolled her eyes and

631
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 5: said she noticed that I took the dog for a

632
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 5: walk before we left to make her hurry, and that

633
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 5: she didn't want to let my bad mood ruin the night.

634
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 5: I had been in a great mood and told her so,

635
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 5: but she refused to believe it and got pretty angry,

636
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 5: which I hadn't been able to calm her down from

637
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 5: to even talk about all this again. I really don't

638
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 5: understand what I've done wrong here, and I don't know

639
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 5: what to do. Am I the a hole? No?

640
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 4: No, no, no, dude.

641
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 5: What did you You took your dog?

642
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 4: Is it her dog or your dog? It's the dog

643
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 4: you're married.

644
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 2: It's like, so she's like, I can see you were

645
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: trying to manipulate me by taking the dog out for

646
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 2: a walk. It was already two steps ahead of you,

647
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 2: because I'm not letting your bad mood ruined I night.

648
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, She's like, I'm gonna move past the water under

649
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 5: the bridge. Yeah, but I am going to bring it

650
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 5: up tomorrow. Commoner says, not the a hole. It sounds

651
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 5: like she may be really annoyed about something else. I

652
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 5: think she might it might be production, and she might

653
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 5: be stressed about something else that was making her late.

654
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 5: You know why she was like in the first place.

655
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 5: Try talking again to see if you can get under

656
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 5: the real issue. Did something happen at work or did

657
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 5: she have another expectation that was not met? Opie says

658
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 5: not that she talked about. The day went pretty well

659
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 5: from what I know, but I'll definitely try to talk

660
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 5: to her about her job. She hasn't had any trouble

661
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 5: from this lot yet that I know of, but it

662
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 5: is a newer job and there may be things I

663
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 5: don't know. Thank you, I probably wouldn't have ever connected

664
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 5: that it could be related to work. Commenter, not the ahole.

665
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 5: Can you lay it out clearly for your wife that

666
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 5: you don't understand what went wrong? Hell, maybe just show

667
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 5: her this post. I'm assuming the anger is out of

668
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 5: character for her, so a conversation is a good idea.

669
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 5: Commenter says, Yeah, that's very odd. Then there might be

670
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 5: some other stuff brewing under the surface, or she was

671
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 5: just really tired that day. Opie says, someone mentioned work stuff,

672
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 5: and I'm gonna ask about that. She did start a

673
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 5: new job, he look long ago, and even though she

674
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 5: hasn't said anything to me yet, it's new enough that

675
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 5: I won't I wouldn't know yet. And then another commenter says,

676
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 5: I am not seeing anything that you did wrong here.

677
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 5: Did you know why she was twenty minutes late getting dressed?

678
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 5: Maybe the reason she was like getting ready is tied

679
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 5: to made her get upset. Taking the dog out was

680
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 5: not wrong. It isn't like you walked around the block.

681
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 5: You stayed in your own yard. Op says, Yeah, she

682
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 5: had gotten ready at her our neighbor's and her friend's

683
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 5: house up a small hill and walked back over, but

684
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 5: took a tumble on the way. She wasn't hurt at all,

685
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 5: but she had to change her dress and fix her hair.

686
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 5: Not the first time she's fallen like that, and I

687
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 5: worry about it, but she says it isn't a big deal.

688
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 5: I think this probably like definitely doesn't excuse her lashing

689
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 5: out at him, But it sounds like she was just

690
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 5: stressed out about being late.

691
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, she was late. She had a fall.

692
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 5: She had a fall. That's like not fine, yeah, come,

693
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 5: even if you don't get hurt, it's still like scary

694
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 5: to fall.

695
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's and it's like great, now he's taking

696
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 2: the dog out Soday, He's going to get back with

697
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 2: a dog and then any worse. This dude, it just

698
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: won't quit with the pressure, the top down, pressure.

699
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 5: All down there and it doesn't even care.

700
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 3: He doesn't even care.

701
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 4: I could if I base of the earth. What would

702
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 4: happen then you?

703
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 5: Or commenter says, my dad used to do this action

704
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 5: every time we went out. This is his silent way

705
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 5: of telling us, hurry up, don't make me wait. Yeah,

706
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 5: ub He gets in the car.

707
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, classic death meeting in the car and starting

708
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 4: the engine. Oh wow.

709
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 2: By the way, there is still other things that need

710
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 2: to be done before we leave that he could be

711
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 2: doing abody.

712
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 1: Now, I'm just gonna go start the cars like you

713
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: guys are making me late.

714
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 5: H Yeah.

715
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 1: She never said.

716
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 5: Anything about that, but I could.

717
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 2: See this guy, this is your first relationship and you

718
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 2: got married to a minute.

719
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 4: If you like, you just found out what a woman is.

720
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 5: She's never that anything about that, but I can see

721
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 5: how that would have ticked her off in the case

722
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 5: thank you so much for the advice, and I should

723
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 5: edit that thanks into the post. Less than twenty comments,

724
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 5: and almost every one of them brought up something.

725
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 1: I didn't think of.

726
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 5: Wow, how much, just says, not the a hole. Maybe

727
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 5: she has an undiagnosed UTI down. Okay, I don't like that.

728
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: Okay, period, she's a little you know, month, time of

729
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 2: the month, she needs to get checked out.

730
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 4: She's a woman.

731
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: Moment, she needs to go to the OBG. We all

732
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: know that.

733
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 5: Or she's unaware that she's pregnant and hormonal if this

734
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 5: is not normal, or.

735
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 1: She just had a bad day.

736
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 4: Dude like, yeah, but that's there's a lot of speculator speculation.

737
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 5: Oh p says ut high. Those are pretty dangerous.

738
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 4: I mean, you know what he's not.

739
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 2: The fact that he knows that is crazy, that that

740
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: could actually become like a it can go STrenD to

741
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 2: your other organize.

742
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 5: She's like, wait a minute, I've heard about those crowds

743
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 5: who are pretty dangerous.

744
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: We're going to the hospital today.

745
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 5: I think that's what put my mom in the hospital

746
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,439
Speaker 5: last time. Do you think that's really a possibility. Okay,

747
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 5: he's worried for his wife. There's an update there's an update,

748
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 5: oh Pie's, and not the ale update. Hello. I feel

749
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 5: weird updating, but I have good news and want to

750
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 5: share somewhere, and here seems as good a place as

751
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 5: any right now. And actually I want to thank everyone

752
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 5: for commenting and the people who reached out privately with advice.

753
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 5: You really helped me calm down and figure out how

754
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,720
Speaker 5: to approach talking about this while seeing where my wife

755
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 5: could have been coming from. One person even called exactly

756
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 5: what was going on, something I dismissed right away, stupidly.

757
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 5: So I came home the next day and brought homemade

758
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 5: home pizza from her favorite spot in town, which we

759
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 5: never get because of the crowds, because I figured even

760
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 5: if I wasn't out right wrong, there was no not

761
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 5: to make the conversation nice. So after dinner I asked

762
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 5: about the dog again, and after a lot of back

763
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 5: and forth and crying that I'll skip explaining, she explained

764
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 5: that for the past week or so she had been

765
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 5: feeling weirdly emotional and she couldn't explain.

766
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 4: No no, no, no, no, no no no. Are we going

767
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,439
Speaker 4: to pizza from pizza to pregnancy right now?

768
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 2: Oh?

769
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 5: I thought it was gonna be on your superience.

770
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,800
Speaker 4: Is that?

771
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:24,320
Speaker 2: Wait?

772
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 4: I didn't even know that women had those still.

773
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 5: Some people had mentioned some things here about different health

774
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 5: stuff that could cause those sorts of symptoms, and I

775
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 5: got pretty nervous and got her in at a doctor's

776
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 5: office with a couple of days. Well, imagine our embarrassment

777
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 5: walking out with five minutes after getting in and doing

778
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 5: a test we could have done at home for like

779
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 5: twenty bucks without including insurance companies. She's going to talk

780
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 5: to her therapist about meeting every week for a while

781
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 5: while she had just slashed deals with hormonal changes. We've

782
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 5: been laughing about it now because it ever frost our minds.

783
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:05,319
Speaker 5: She could have been pregnant, and there we have it.

784
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 5: She was hormonal. It was the baby.

785
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 4: Sometimes things just work out, don't they.

786
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 5: This is so this is so very sitcom.

787
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: Congratulations, Congratulations. He went from being like does my wife

788
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,320
Speaker 2: did straight out babe for no reason?

789
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 5: And and now she knows that you're gonna be like

790
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 5: a responsible father because you're responsible dog dad.

791
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: I'm just so happy that you took the jock out.

792
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: You're such a good d.

793
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 5: I can't talk about Someone commented it, but I still

794
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 5: never believed it because I'm dumb. Yeah, never mind that

795
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,439
Speaker 5: we're both in our twenties, or that she switched birth

796
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 5: control like two months ago. We may or may not

797
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 5: have unprotected spicy sleep during the switch week. Anyway, as

798
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 5: stupid as we may be, we are still excited, but

799
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 5: waiting on the twelve week mark to tell our families. However,

800
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 5: I ben it she just tell someone and can't wait

801
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 5: until any longer. So here's an update, wife approved because

802
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 5: it's anonymous. Thanks again for the help. I appreciate it

803
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 5: a lot, even if I didn't take the advice of

804
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 5: the person who was right. And one commoner says, congrats,

805
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 5: and maybe still have that talk with your neighbor about

806
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 5: the path to make sure she stayed safe because she

807
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 5: felt yeah, and she was right. Noant that's concerning, Oh,

808
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 5: he says, already working on it. The neighbor isn't against

809
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 5: the idea, just against paying for it, aha, which is

810
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 5: no problem for me since I'm the only one complaining.

811
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 5: And that is the end of that story.

812
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 4: Hey, congratulations, haven't you know?

813
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: I mean?

814
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 2: Also, I got to say the way that he dropped itching,

815
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 2: I've been itching to tell you. I know exactly what

816
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 2: part of the country you're from, buddy, and that's why

817
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 2: he's I feel like this has really been innocent.

818
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 4: This is an innocent guy.

819
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 1: You said he was a hic. I just don't know

820
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 1: what I did wrong.

821
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 2: I just I just plane, don't shoot. I just plane.

822
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: Don't know what I've done wrong.

823
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 5: I went out to the dog for a walk and

824
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 5: she came screaming at me.

825
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 4: Came out screaming like some sort of band.

826
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 5: She came out screaming louder.

827
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:08,839
Speaker 4: She was head on her.

828
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 2: Oh dude, she was hey, she was. She was hollering

829
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 2: louder than a hog on fat Tuesday. Don't call her, man,

830
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 2: don't call her. She's praying.

831
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's right, that's right, that's right, Oh buddy.

832
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 5: But that is the end of that story.

833
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 4: They're gonna raise a little Theovon baby.

834
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: And I mean that in the best way possible, like

835
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 2: your your kid's gonna be just it's gonna be all right,

836
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: just a nice innocent ball.

837
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,919
Speaker 4: Of light, just the cutest little That's what I'm there.

838
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 4: I'm putting that out.

839
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:44,760
Speaker 2: My family shamed me for being childless, so I blocked

840
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 2: them out when I got pregnant.

841
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 1: Boom. Now you don't have a child.

842
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, who's a shamed Now.

843
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 2: To provide some background, I thirty one female and married

844
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 2: to my three hundred and one I am.

845
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,840
Speaker 4: Sure that's probably supposed to be thirty.

846
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 1: One as well. Internet never lie three hundred one years Okay.

847
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,320
Speaker 2: Over the past four years, we've focused on traveling, working,

848
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 2: and building our dream careers instead of having children. One

849
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 2: of the main reasons we decided to wait is that

850
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 2: I witnessed the impact of having kids at a young

851
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 2: age on my sister, who is now thirty. By the way,

852
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: this comes from user DD twenty three forty five to

853
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 2: two on the r slash Okay storytime Subreddy So. I

854
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 2: come from a very conservative family that believes a woman's

855
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 2: primary purpose in life is to become a mother. Growing up,

856
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,800
Speaker 2: I never fully embraced these values. When I first got engaged,

857
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 2: my family was thrilled, thinking I was finally aligning with

858
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 2: their beliefs. However, my husband and I were clear that

859
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 2: while we wanted children someday, we preferred to enjoy our

860
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 2: lives as a married couple first, traveling and pursuing our passions.

861
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 1: Okay, I like this.

862
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 2: When my parents asked about our plans, for kids. We

863
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 2: consistently told them we wanted to cherish our child free life. Initially,

864
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 2: they brushed it off as a phase, convinced we'd be

865
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 2: pregnant within a year.

866
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 4: Marriage.

867
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 2: Two years later, still no children, and they began calling

868
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 2: me selfish. They frequently compared me to my sister, claiming

869
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 2: she must be happier and that I was living a

870
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: sad life because I hadn't experienced motherhood yet.

871
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's experiencing adulthood.

872
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:13,279
Speaker 2: They framed these conversations as helpful, but it felt patronizing.

873
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 2: After three years of marriage, their comments turned rude and

874
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 2: boundary pushing. They accused me of failing it life and

875
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 2: being selfish for focusing on myself. This led me to

876
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 2: distance myself from my family. I still visited during the

877
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: holidays and occasionally saw my nephew, but I couldn't handle

878
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:33,280
Speaker 2: the constant judgment. Fast forward to five years after our wedding.

879
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 2: We bought a house and worked hard to pay it off.

880
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:37,720
Speaker 2: At the beginning of this year, we both built careers

881
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 2: we're proud of, and we've traveled extensively, experiences I know

882
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:44,280
Speaker 2: would have been limited if we had children earlier. Recently,

883
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 2: my husband and I had an important conversation and decided

884
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 2: we were ready to start a family, believing we could

885
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 2: provide a life for our children that we didn't have ourselves.

886
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 4: Just two months ago, I discovered I'm pregnant.

887
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 2: Oh wow, congrats, congraduation less so, we were overjoyed in

888
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: immediate shared the news with my husband's supportive family. However,

889
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 2: since we're no longer close with my family, we decided

890
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:09,320
Speaker 2: to announce it online instead of telling them in person.

891
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 2: When they found out, my family was upset that I

892
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 2: hadn't told them directly. My mother, who has an unusual

893
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:19,240
Speaker 2: obsession with being deeply involved in her grandchildren's lives, often

894
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: wanting to dictate how they should be raised, began calling

895
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:25,320
Speaker 2: and texting me constantly. This was surprising, as I typically

896
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 2: only saw her during holidays. Eventually, she showed up at

897
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 2: our house and I mustered the courage to express that

898
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 2: I didn't want her involvement. I also pointed out that

899
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 2: I seemed to matter to her only now that I

900
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 2: was pregnant. My husband then asked her to leave and

901
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 2: told her she wasn't welcome back. She didn't take it

902
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 2: well and began showing up at our house every other day,

903
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 2: which led us to seek a restraining order against her.

904
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:51,720
Speaker 2: I feel conflicted because I know she's excited about the baby,

905
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 2: but her behavior underscores how little she actually cared about

906
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 2: me until I became what she considers a real woman.

907
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:01,919
Speaker 2: Now I have family members contacting me saying that I'm

908
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,399
Speaker 2: being selfish and that my mom only wants to meet

909
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 2: and be involved in her grandchild's life. At first, I

910
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 2: was feeling extremely guilty, but my husband reassured me that

911
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 2: I was doing the right thing. But I don't know.

912
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 2: Am I being in a hole right now? And we

913
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 2: do have an update.

914
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,959
Speaker 1: No, you're just sticking up for yourself and not giving

915
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 1: in to your mother's wishes.

916
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: I think given the context. No, without the context, it

917
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: could be easily construed.

918
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 4: That you're being in a hole.

919
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 2: However, this person literally did not have any respect for

920
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 2: the way you chose to live your life, even when

921
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 2: you said like, it's not like you were like, I'm

922
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 2: never gonna have kids. It's just Hi, I'm not just

923
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 2: a machine that makes babies.

924
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm a human being with a life. I'm not a

925
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 1: manufacturing operation factory. I'm not a manufacturing plant.

926
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 2: You're a fully autonomous human being, and they just wanted

927
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 2: you to fit in that nice little box that they

928
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 2: had made for you, give me children, and now yeah,

929
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 2: and now that you fit in it, they want to

930
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 2: talk to you, and it's like hey.

931
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 4: To me alone.

932
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:59,359
Speaker 1: I hate reading stories where their parents are crawling back

933
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 1: to their children whenever they have children, come on.

934
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:03,800
Speaker 2: Not just crawling, they're banging on the front door saying

935
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 2: let me in. I saw a comment telling me that

936
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 2: she's probably going around lying about what's actually going on.

937
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 2: So I think I'm gonna try to pick a time

938
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 2: to meet with my sister and see what she's actually saying,

939
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 2: because I wouldn't put it past her to make up

940
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 2: some crazy story to get sympathy from other people. Another

941
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 2: update immediately after, I agree with most of you that

942
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 2: I should not meet with my sister because that could

943
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 2: be a setup for a trap. Also, you guys are

944
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 2: bringing a lot of good points, and I'm starting to

945
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,799
Speaker 2: get really concerned that she could try to also use

946
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 2: the law against me and possibly call CPS to try

947
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 2: to get a hold of my kid. So if any

948
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: of you guys have any suggestions on how to prevent this,

949
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 2: that would be amazing.

950
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a thing called grandparent laws too. You never

951
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 1: know what's everywhere.

952
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:47,320
Speaker 4: Not everywhere, but in certain places.

953
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:50,279
Speaker 1: He knows. Man, your luck being, it's definitely gonna be

954
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:50,839
Speaker 1: where she is.

955
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 2: Well. I think it definitely helps that you have a

956
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 2: documented restraining order against her, So I doubt that the

957
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 2: mom is going to be able to get very far

958
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 2: in any sort of process. And investig is done and

959
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 2: it's found that she was, you know, aggressively trying to

960
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:03,879
Speaker 2: barge into the.

961
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 4: House all the time.

962
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

963
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:05,239
Speaker 4: Yeah.

964
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 6: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

965
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Speaker 6: not on this page, search Okay storytime clips on Facebook

966
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Speaker 6: for more.

967
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 3: Okay, back to the story.

968
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:14,399
Speaker 2: Finally, a lot of you guys are pointing out why

969
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 2: on earth would I ever consider letting her.

970
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: Around my kids.

971
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 2: The big thing is we are from an extremely conservative

972
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 2: town where everybody talks and community is extremely important. But

973
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:27,839
Speaker 2: the only people who are important in this community are

974
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:30,760
Speaker 2: the ultra conservative church going people. To give you an example,

975
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 2: these are the same people who organize trips to plan parenthood,

976
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 2: to stand outside and shame women. The main reason I'm

977
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 2: scared is because my husband owns a construction company in

978
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 2: this town, and if my mother decides to spread certain

979
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 2: rumors about us. It could destroy us financially. People would

980
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 2: literally start boycotting his business. We would consider moving elsewhere.

981
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 2: But it scares me to move because that means he

982
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 2: would have to start his business from the ground up

983
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:54,920
Speaker 2: and find a bunch of new clients, and with a

984
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:57,279
Speaker 2: new baby on the way. I don't think that's a

985
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 2: really good idea, unless you guys really think that we

986
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 2: should just count our.

987
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 4: Losses and move.

988
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 2: I've been getting a lot of questions about why I

989
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 2: don't want my mom involved and why I'm so uptight

990
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 2: about not wanting to raise my kids the same way

991
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 2: she did. To give a little backstory on the way

992
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 2: I was raised, I suggest you look up what IBLP

993
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: and ATI. They believe that every aspect should be centered

994
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 2: around God. And we had this homeschooling program that never

995
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: really taught us anything. I had no idea how behind

996
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:27,800
Speaker 2: I was in school until after I got some formal education.

997
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 1: Do you know what that is?

998
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 2: No?

999
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 4: I don't know what that is.

1000
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: Remember meet the Douglas family or seventeen kids in counting Okay,

1001
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:37,359
Speaker 1: they dropped the documentary where that family was following this.

1002
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm a Christian, I go to church, but they were

1003
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: going to a church, but like they turned into a

1004
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: cult and basically like made people think this certain way.

1005
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: It's a fabulous documentary on Netflix, but it goes in

1006
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 1: deep about how like this community has like brainwashed a

1007
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:54,760
Speaker 1: lot of people.

1008
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 4: Yikes.

1009
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:58,319
Speaker 2: Okay, so yeah, so you might have a sort of

1010
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 2: a hive mind going.

1011
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 4: Against you here.

1012
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 1: Yeah because of the mom.

1013
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:05,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, what a monster you'd have to be the sick

1014
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,760
Speaker 2: an entire town of people against your own daughter.

1015
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: It makes those sense because they're trying to line themselves

1016
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: up with ideals that aren't even true based on what

1017
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 1: they say. It's based on It's based on people, not

1018
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:18,799
Speaker 1: based on the Bible. So I'm gonna go a little ran.

1019
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 1: It bothers me so much when people decide that what

1020
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 1: I say is more important than what the Bible says,

1021
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: when they say we follow the Bible makes me really men.

1022
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 2: I don't want my future kids to be as behind

1023
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 2: education wise as I was. Also, now that I have

1024
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 2: a little bit more independence and that I see how

1025
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 2: my husband's family functions, I realize how messed up some

1026
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 2: of the things were that we were taught was normal

1027
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 2: as kids. For starters, because I was a daughter in

1028
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 2: the family. I was expected to take care of all

1029
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:46,800
Speaker 2: of my other siblings, and I was never really prepared

1030
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 2: for the real world, and that every bad thing that

1031
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 2: ever happened to me was somehow my fault and I

1032
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: must have stepped away from God. I have no problem

1033
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 2: if that's how you want to raise your kids. I

1034
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:58,839
Speaker 2: just don't want to do that to my kids. I'm

1035
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 2: the second oldest in my family and I have five

1036
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: younger siblings that I basically had to parent. There were

1037
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 2: also a huge double standard in my family. All of

1038
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 2: my brothers were taught how to start businesses and become

1039
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 2: heads of households, et cetera, et cetera, while my sisters

1040
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: and I were taught that our job was to be

1041
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 2: a homemaker. And I have no problem if that is

1042
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 2: what somebody wants to do. I just don't think that

1043
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 2: I should be forced to do that and raise my

1044
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 2: kids the way that I don't want.

1045
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 1: Them to be.

1046
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 2: Go above the hive mind, please, yes, go rise above

1047
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 2: the hive mind.

1048
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 4: And you know what, you join our hive mind.

1049
00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 2: Every week they had three pm PST when we go

1050
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:40,240
Speaker 2: live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

1051
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 4: All you gotta do is tap our profile.

1052
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: One thing that I would say is that I think

1053
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 2: you should look into if you have any sort of

1054
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:51,880
Speaker 2: if they do like defame you and it impacts the

1055
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:55,439
Speaker 2: business to the point where it becomes like financially unviable, Yeah,

1056
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 2: you may have grounds for a lawsuit considering that whatever

1057
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 2: they would be spread out about you is a lie.

1058
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so hard to accuse people of being to

1059
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 1: fame too in civil court.

1060
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:08,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, if my future kids want to re enter that community,

1061
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 2: they're more than welcome to. Really quick, I want to

1062
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,359
Speaker 2: say that, I think it's very impressive that OP has

1063
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 2: open mind enough to be like, I completely disagree with

1064
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:18,240
Speaker 2: all of this. Right, I would never live this way. However,

1065
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:19,759
Speaker 2: if you choose.

1066
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 4: To live this way, by all means, go ahead.

1067
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: Yep.

1068
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 4: I don't want to, though, so don't make me.

1069
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 2: If my future kids want to re enter that community,

1070
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:28,800
Speaker 2: they are more than welcome to. But I also don't

1071
00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 2: want them to think it's the only option, because growing

1072
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 2: up I was always told that if you lived a

1073
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:34,959
Speaker 2: different lifestyle, you were.

1074
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 4: Going to go to the bad place.

1075
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,240
Speaker 2: There are a lot more details I could go into,

1076
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 2: but I have a hard time talking about them because

1077
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 2: again I'm still trying to go to therapy about some

1078
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 2: of the things that I went through as a kid. Again,

1079
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:48,919
Speaker 2: sorry about all the random edits to the post. I'm

1080
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 2: really new to this and that is the end of

1081
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 2: that story. Wow, no need to apologize, doues Op, that

1082
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:54,479
Speaker 2: was a great story.

1083
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 1: That was a great story. Thank you for sharing, and

1084
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:57,800
Speaker 1: good luck with you your.

1085
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 4: Family the best. All right, that is the end of

1086
00:49:59,440 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 4: that story.

1087
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: Though, if my family kept causing drama about my wedding

1088
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 1: so I started planning my retribution.

1089
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:07,799
Speaker 4: That sounds like it's holy vengeance.

1090
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: I have been debating whether or not to share this

1091
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 1: story because even though the people involved will likely not

1092
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 1: see this, I know if they do, they will recognize

1093
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 1: it's them, and I don't want to stir up some

1094
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 1: drama back up. However, I think it's worth sharing to strangers,

1095
00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 1: even if it did happen a year ago. By the way,

1096
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:25,920
Speaker 1: this comes from Who's jan Greasey twenty seventeen on the

1097
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 1: Art sizeh Okay Storytime Subredden. I fully recovered from it,

1098
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: so here it is my major wedding dramas. It does

1099
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: include an occasion of wearing why and a petty revenge element.

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Speaker 1: The three main characters that cause drama for my wedding

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Speaker 1: are my dad, my mom, my older sister. This happened

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three, when I was twenty three and

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Speaker 1: my older sister was twenty seven. I'll share the story

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Speaker 1: about my dad, then my mom, then my sister. First

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Speaker 1: my dad. My dad has always had a terrible sense

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Speaker 1: of time, mostly due to selfishness. He is so commonly

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00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 1: late to thanks it's a character trait for him. For instance,

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Speaker 1: from my cousin's small backyard wedding, he was one of

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Speaker 1: the people who they stalled for. The groom had already

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00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 1: walked down the aisle. My mom and brother were with

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00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: him shopping before the ceremony, and my mom told him

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Speaker 1: that they were going to be late. He ignored her

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Speaker 1: as usual and made the three of them late. So naturally,

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Speaker 1: when it came to my wedding, he would be the

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Speaker 1: one walking me down the aisle. I was a little nervous.

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Speaker 1: A little bit more backstory, my dad takes a trip

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Speaker 1: to Canada with his friends every year, one of them

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Speaker 1: being my uncle slash godfather, who is diagnosed with Parkinson's.

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Speaker 1: About four years ago, one day, my dad called me

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Speaker 1: up and asked if it was okay if he went

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00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 1: on the Canada trip and he was back on the

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00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:36,320
Speaker 1: Friday before the wedding, the day before I was supposed

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Speaker 1: to be wet. I lived in the Midwest, so it

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00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 1: was a long drive and just too far of a

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Speaker 1: distance to make a mistake happening before one of the

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Speaker 1: biggest days of my life. When he called me, it

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00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:47,319
Speaker 1: was clear that my mom had already disapproved, and he

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Speaker 1: was trying to ask for permission to go. He tried

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00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 1: to guilt trip me by saying my uncle wasn't doing

1130
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,399
Speaker 1: too well and this could be his last trip. This,

1131
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: unfortunately made me so angry. On the phone call, I

1132
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,879
Speaker 1: said some mild things I deeply regret because they were

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00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 1: out of character for me. I was so disappointed in

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Speaker 1: my dad, as we already had such a rocky relationship

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00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 1: and I didn't need to hear that he could possibly

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Speaker 1: miss my wedding. He ended up not going to Canada,

1137
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:12,200
Speaker 1: and luckily that was the end of that. Currently, our

1138
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 1: relationship is okay, but that is a story for another time. Now.

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Speaker 1: My mom, if you ever seen the movie Turning Red,

1140
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:20,799
Speaker 1: you have a good idea of what our relationship was like. Unfortunately,

1141
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 1: we didn't have the same happy ending. I'm still in

1142
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:25,760
Speaker 1: low contact. Granted this is completely out of my realm

1143
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 1: to say, but I would not be surprised if my

1144
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 1: mom was diagnosed with autism. I say this because one could,

1145
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 1: and sure she does justify her actions as missing social

1146
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 1: cues because I am so smart. Now, I know that

1147
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,479
Speaker 1: sounds like a slap in the face, but I think

1148
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 1: if you spent enough time around her, you'd see maybe

1149
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 1: there is some truth to that statement. So for my

1150
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: bridle shower, I had a really spicy looking dress picked

1151
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: out that was laced white but had a nude underlay,

1152
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:54,160
Speaker 1: so you did see some brown show through. I was

1153
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,400
Speaker 1: at my parents' house to get ready. When I walked

1154
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 1: into my mom's room, she was wearing the dress she

1155
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: picked out for the shower. Yes it was white, and Dakota,

1156
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:03,919
Speaker 1: what have we said always on this show.

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00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 2: Easiest way to make sure a bride doesn't get mad

1158
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 2: at you at any sort of wedding related event.

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00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 4: Don't wear white.

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00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:13,840
Speaker 1: And even if the bride says, hey wear white, what

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00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:14,279
Speaker 1: do you do?

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00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:18,080
Speaker 2: You don't wear white no matter what, because they'll just

1163
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 2: get mad about it later.

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00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: Now I know it's a bridle shower and not the

1165
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 1: actual wedding, so it's not quite as deep, but it

1166
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 1: still felt like a punch of the guy. She asked me,

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00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,919
Speaker 1: what do you think, referring to her dress. Stunned, I said,

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00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: it's why. She responded, no, it's ivory. She did not

1169
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:35,479
Speaker 1: do that. There's no way fun fact to me shade

1170
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 1: of white. I said, well, I'm supposed to wear white.

1171
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:40,400
Speaker 1: She gestures to my dress says, well, your dress is brown.

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00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 1: She walked out of the room, and I held back tears,

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00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 1: trying not to ruin my makeup. I told myself I

1174
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:47,200
Speaker 1: had to keep my emotions in check, just for a

1175
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:49,799
Speaker 1: few hours so I can enjoy my bridle shower. Later

1176
00:53:49,840 --> 00:53:51,799
Speaker 1: that night, I tried to do the adult thing and

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00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 1: talk to her about it, clearly explaining how it hurt

1178
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,560
Speaker 1: me that she wore a white dress, and that's when

1179
00:53:57,600 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: she responded with I really didn't know. I think it's

1180
00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:02,240
Speaker 1: just my genius that it makes me miss social cues.

1181
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 1: I've never gotten an apology for her ever before, so

1182
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting one, but I did want to keep

1183
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 1: things smooth since it was so close to the wedding day.

1184
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,719
Speaker 1: Same with my dad and I guess our relationship is okay,

1185
00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 1: but unfortunately a ten foot pole style of situation. Now

1186
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 1: onto my sister. This is the petty revenge story. I

1187
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,160
Speaker 1: will start with the small things she did that made

1188
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:24,919
Speaker 1: me cry on my wedding day, and then and then

1189
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 1: with my revenge story. For some contexts, I got engaged

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Speaker 1: February of twenty twenty two, married July twenty twenty three.

1191
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 1: My sister got engaged March twenty twenty three and married

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Speaker 1: December twenty twenty three. I know it's just one day

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00:54:36,600 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 1: and I don't get the whole year. However, it still

1194
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:42,279
Speaker 1: felt a bit underhanded. We were both each other's made

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00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 1: of honors, and if we had a closer relationship it

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00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 1: might have been magical. However that wasn't the case. We

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00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,719
Speaker 1: used to be actually pretty decently close. But since I

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00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: got engaged, her jealousy came out of the woodwork. I

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Speaker 1: would have been fine if her wedding didn't start to

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00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,040
Speaker 1: step on my toes and try to steal things from me.

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00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: On my wedding day, she tried scheduling her makeup appointment

1202
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: with the artist the Spy, being on a tight schedule.

1203
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 1: She also told her stepdaughter to hand deliver her wedding

1204
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:09,000
Speaker 1: invitations while we were getting ready, Go.

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Speaker 4: Ahead and hand deliver how many invitations like.

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00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,440
Speaker 1: You know, just this, A few hundreds, just like you're

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00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 1: the entire wedding.

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Speaker 4: I go ahead and just hand deliver those.

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Speaker 6: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 6: not on this page, search Okay story.

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Speaker 1: Time clips on Facebook for more.

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Speaker 3: Okay, back to the story.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't there, but I was told that my younger

1214
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: sister told her, if you can afford fifty cents for

1215
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,000
Speaker 1: a stamp, and maybe you don't deserve to be married.

1216
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: There are another handful of incidents like this. It just

1217
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:35,480
Speaker 1: felt like she was trying to mooch off me. But

1218
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:38,360
Speaker 1: I'll just get to the big one, the petty revenge.

1219
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 1: I tried my best to be a good matron of honor.

1220
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:42,239
Speaker 1: I went dress shopping with her and try to keep

1221
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 1: it lighthearted and make it fun, knowing from my experience. Anyways,

1222
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,839
Speaker 1: at one point she found a dress that could be it.

1223
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:49,960
Speaker 1: I asked her if she wanted to see it with

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00:55:50,040 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 1: the velin. She said yes, and I asked her what length.

1225
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 1: I then asked her if she knew how much she

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00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 1: wanted to spend on a voul and she just casually said, oh,

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00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 1: I'll just borrow yours, didn't even ask permission, Like, hey,

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00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:05,320
Speaker 1: actually I was wondering if I could borrow yours for

1229
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,800
Speaker 1: my something borrowed, which maybe could have been a sweet moment,

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00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:10,799
Speaker 1: but no, felt like she was just trying to cut

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00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 1: corners and save money and again moves off my special day. Quick. Okay, storytime.

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Speaker 1: I have twin cousins that got married to twin brothers

1233
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: and one twin tried to double up their wedding. That

1234
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 1: would have just saved money, way too confusing. Are you serious?

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00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 1: She tried to, but the one, I think, the one twin,

1236
00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:26,560
Speaker 1: was like, no, we're not gonna do that.

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00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:27,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank god.

1238
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I was. I was like, please do it.

1239
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:31,840
Speaker 1: It would have been hilarious because one was like planning it,

1240
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 1: making it happen. Another one was like, oh, they would

1241
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 1: have spent so much money, could it? Do it with you?

1242
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:36,360
Speaker 1: Because they do everything together.

1243
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 2: It's like that's like the duality of the twins. It's

1244
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 2: like one is one way and one is the opposite. Yeah, yeah,

1245
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 2: that's great.

1246
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:46,319
Speaker 1: My mom drove it home by saying, well, you're not

1247
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 1: doing anything with it. After I stayed silent and moved

1248
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 1: to the shadows. I feel like I should also mention

1249
00:56:52,719 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 1: my lovely veil costs two hundred bucks, not a price

1250
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:58,240
Speaker 1: for everyone, but it's what I wanted and could afford.

1251
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 1: So for my getting ready outfit, I had reached out

1252
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:04,960
Speaker 1: to local seamstress to have them in border with everyone's names.

1253
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:07,600
Speaker 1: After this vel incident. You guessed it. I got my

1254
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 1: veil embordered out of spite because it was embordered in

1255
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 1: the first place, all right. I didn't do anything crazy,

1256
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,479
Speaker 1: just my monogram with my new initials and the wedding

1257
00:57:16,560 --> 00:57:19,440
Speaker 1: day as well as blue flowers for my something Blue.

1258
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 1: I told the seamstress what it was for and she

1259
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 1: loved it. They still bring up the story today because

1260
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:28,120
Speaker 1: they've never had anyone need them to emborder something out

1261
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: of spite. So while the process was exciting and a

1262
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 1: little empowering, the REvil was not as dramatic. Like I said,

1263
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:37,600
Speaker 1: I have a complicated relationship with my family, which means

1264
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 1: even though we have such terrible moments, we also have

1265
00:57:40,320 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: meaningful ones, and every day we have meaningful ones. At

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00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:46,840
Speaker 1: three PMPSD, when we go live on YouTube, Twitch, Facebook,

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00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:49,960
Speaker 1: and YouTube, just join us and check if we're right now,

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00:57:50,040 --> 00:57:51,960
Speaker 1: we might be live coda. What do you feel about this?

1269
00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 1: How are you feeling? Is this the right move?

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00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 4: How am I feeling?

1271
00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:56,959
Speaker 2: I feel like you know, they were going to cause

1272
00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 2: problems regardless, Yes, they are, like I want this, and

1273
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 2: you were like, well that's just what if I don't

1274
00:58:02,480 --> 00:58:05,320
Speaker 2: want you to? Yeah, didn't It didn't matter because you're

1275
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 2: not being respected. So hey, now you if you want it,

1276
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:10,480
Speaker 2: you get to wear my monogram on it too.

1277
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 4: Is that alright?

1278
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: I like that a lot. I like that a lot.

1279
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's your something blue right.

1280
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and sorry about your other family members too, like

1281
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 1: the dad glad you didn't go on the Canada trip,

1282
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, and the mom yeah hopefully you know,

1283
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: with time that stuff will work out. But oh yeah,

1284
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: I mean when she's okay. And she's also asking this

1285
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:29,960
Speaker 1: of her twenty three year old sister. So the older

1286
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 1: sister's twenty seven. This is her twenty three year old sister. Oh,

1287
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 1: just pot of yours.

1288
00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 4: Yeah. I feel like you would want your own, wouldn't you.

1289
00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, wouldn't you wouldn't?

1290
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:37,959
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1291
00:58:38,000 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1292
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:41,080
Speaker 2: It just seems like you would want your own, right,

1293
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 2: Why do weddings have to be such a source of

1294
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 2: familial drama and that heck, no, I guess you know,

1295
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 2: with time it'll blow over.

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Speaker 1: Ope. My sister was there with me at my last

1297
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Speaker 1: dress fitting so the seamstress could show her how to

1298
00:58:54,920 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 1: bustle it. It was that moment I showed her the

1299
00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 1: veil and said something like, I know you said you

1300
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 1: wanted to borrow it, but I already had wanted to

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Speaker 1: get it imboarded for my something Blue tow. It's a lie,

1302
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 1: but again, with the wedding day being so close, I

1303
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: wanted to mitigate drama. She just responded, that's okay, it's

1304
00:59:10,080 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 1: your day, as if nothing happened. So there it is

1305
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:14,920
Speaker 1: bulk of my wedding drama. There were a lot of

1306
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: other things that happened, but these were the most interesting.

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Speaker 1: I did cry on my wedding day, unfortunately, but it

1308
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: was a car ride to the hotel and I was

1309
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Speaker 1: able to put it past me. It's all water under

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Speaker 1: the bridge for me. But I hope someone enjoys listening

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Speaker 1: to this toe.

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Speaker 4: I love that.

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Speaker 1: I love that song water under the Bridge. I had

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00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 1: to sing it for a course in high school. Can

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Speaker 1: you give us a little I totally forgot all the

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00:59:33,840 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 1: words no water under a little bit. I don't know

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Speaker 1: I forgot the words. I didn't like that course, teacher,

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Speaker 1: I kind of gave up on it.

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Speaker 4: How don't you just sing the Nirvana song instead?

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Speaker 1: Ooh, I did not know Nirvana. Day the bridge, Opie,

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00:59:45,920 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: seems like everything was good. I'm sorry. I feel like

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00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 1: the car ride was something with her and her mom

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00:59:49,960 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 1: because she got ready with her parents. I think on

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Speaker 1: the way there she probably had a word with her mom.

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Speaker 1: But I'm glad you had it all right day on

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Speaker 1: your wedding day. I don't really know who you got married.

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00:59:57,840 --> 01:00:00,840
Speaker 2: First wedding day drama we've ever heard like it can

1328
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 2: be really annoying when your family just doesn't seem to

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Speaker 2: like respect.

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Speaker 4: You on your day.

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01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:10,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like they're just trying to make it.

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Speaker 2: Just let people have their day on their wedding day,

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01:00:12,520 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 2: for God's say, isn't it? And don't wear white and

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Speaker 2: don't wear white and that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: We got one more for.

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Speaker 1: You, beautiful people coming right up and Couter's gonna read it.

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01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:26,760
Speaker 2: My parents neglected me and my kids, and I don't

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01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 2: think things will ever be the same what happened. So

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01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 2: let's start off by saying, I, twenty nine male, now

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Speaker 2: have three kids with my wife, twenty three female. Biologically

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01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 2: the third one is mine, but I treat the other

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Speaker 2: two as my own, since I'm the only dad they've

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Speaker 2: ever known.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so he's got two bonus children.

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Speaker 1: I like that.

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01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,800
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user jar Runyon on

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01:00:47,960 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 2: the r slash Okay storytime subredit. I met my now

1348
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 2: wife when she was pregnant with our second kid. The

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01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 2: oldest is three female, middle child is two male and

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01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,560
Speaker 2: two month old female. The biofather has been out of

1351
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 2: the picture since our oldest was one, so she doesn't

1352
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,960
Speaker 2: remember him. So we date, then get married. I welcome

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01:01:05,040 --> 01:01:08,240
Speaker 2: them into my life just as they welcome me into theirs.

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01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:09,920
Speaker 2: Oh it's those sweet things.

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Speaker 1: Go well.

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01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:12,960
Speaker 2: My family is nice up front, but I do get

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01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 2: a small pushback from her side, but that's because me

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01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:18,800
Speaker 2: not being the bio dad. They have reservations about me

1359
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:21,720
Speaker 2: having a say in our parenting. I have grandparents right

1360
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:24,840
Speaker 2: that has since changed, and they accept it when I

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01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 2: parent them my way since my wife had told them

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01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 2: off about it. Now with my family, I have a

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Speaker 2: niece and a nephew, which is cold since I thought

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01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:35,480
Speaker 2: they were going to hang out more since they are

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01:01:35,520 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 2: about the same age. But my parents so favor my

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01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:42,120
Speaker 2: niece above all of the kids, golden children the golden

1367
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 2: child syndrome. They always take her for the night or

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01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 2: spend time with her. So when my daughter asks to stay,

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01:01:48,080 --> 01:01:50,880
Speaker 2: I get the next time answer, or we can plan

1370
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 2: a play date with you and niece. Of course, this

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01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 2: never happens. They continue to only take the niece. So

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Speaker 2: I voiced my concerns before to my sister and she

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01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 2: defended my mom, saying she doesn't take Niee that often. Regardless,

1374
01:02:05,360 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 2: it bothered me that she didn't keep her promises to

1375
01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:10,160
Speaker 2: her even when we visit and my daughter asked to

1376
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:13,640
Speaker 2: stay still the same next time this time answer. So

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01:02:13,680 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 2: I text both my parents in a group chat asking

1378
01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 2: about why they don't ever take her like they promised,

1379
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:21,560
Speaker 2: since she's a loving girl and wants to be with them.

1380
01:02:21,680 --> 01:02:24,120
Speaker 2: Remember they are the only grandparents they know. On the

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01:02:24,200 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 2: dad's side, I never got an answer for two weeks,

1382
01:02:27,040 --> 01:02:31,120
Speaker 2: nothing zip zilch. So later in the family group chat,

1383
01:02:31,200 --> 01:02:33,960
Speaker 2: my sister asked a question and got an answer immediately,

1384
01:02:34,160 --> 01:02:36,560
Speaker 2: So I let my frustration get the best of me

1385
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 2: and speak out, asking if I can get an answer

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01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:39,800
Speaker 2: to my question.

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01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 4: They respond with what question? So I start my rant

1388
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 4: bro boy.

1389
01:02:44,440 --> 01:02:46,600
Speaker 2: My mom drops out of the group chat and messages

1390
01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:48,880
Speaker 2: me about how rude and inappropriate it was to have

1391
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 2: said that in front of everyone to see, and how

1392
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 2: I should have asked them separately. When I said I did,

1393
01:02:54,080 --> 01:02:57,080
Speaker 2: they shifted blame to not seeing it due to getting

1394
01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:58,480
Speaker 2: new phones last week.

1395
01:02:58,600 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 1: Don't you transfer the number?

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01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 4: Oh?

1397
01:03:00,280 --> 01:03:02,960
Speaker 1: Okay, anyway, just a lame excuse. I had to transfer

1398
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,920
Speaker 1: three service providers for me, my brother, and my grandma

1399
01:03:06,120 --> 01:03:07,280
Speaker 1: and it was pretty easy.

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01:03:07,400 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 2: Well, to be fair, now that you know that, I

1401
01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 2: say that my grandparents cannot send a text message for

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01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 2: their life, some of them can. I have a lot

1403
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 2: of grandma, I have a handful of grandparents. Are some

1404
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:18,680
Speaker 2: that are completely incapable of text message?

1405
01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 1: Oh?

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01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 3: No?

1407
01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 2: I asked if they were sure, and she doubled down

1408
01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 2: on it. So I responded with I sent that message

1409
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,960
Speaker 2: two weeks ago. No good answer was given for that. Instead,

1410
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 2: it was a bunch of deflection about how I embarrassed

1411
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:31,960
Speaker 2: her and I'm an a hole and that's why no

1412
01:03:32,040 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 2: one wants to talk to me or have anything to

1413
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 2: do with me. I try to stay on track, saying

1414
01:03:36,520 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 2: it's about my kids being treated like a real family

1415
01:03:39,120 --> 01:03:39,640
Speaker 2: and it's.

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01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:43,320
Speaker 4: Not about me. But she half heartedly apologized and said

1417
01:03:43,400 --> 01:03:44,720
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, even.

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01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:46,840
Speaker 2: Though I'm not the only one who should be. So

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01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:49,440
Speaker 2: I cut them off and said, fine, man, my family

1420
01:03:49,480 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 2: isn't your family, and I haven't seen them since. My

1421
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 2: dad even came at me saying I don't even recognize

1422
01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:55,400
Speaker 2: you anymore.

1423
01:03:55,640 --> 01:03:56,959
Speaker 4: So I snapped back with.

1424
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,360
Speaker 2: Some good reasoning he should know better how I feel

1425
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:02,800
Speaker 2: more than anyone. My dad is my stepdad, who stepped

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01:04:02,880 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 2: up and took care of us, and we had a

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01:04:04,880 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 2: really good relationship. I never referred to him as my

1428
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:10,400
Speaker 2: stepdad when meeting people, just as my dad, so the

1429
01:04:10,400 --> 01:04:13,439
Speaker 2: fact my kids got treated differently really bugged me when

1430
01:04:13,440 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 2: he didn't back it up.

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01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 1: Parents are not taking ownership of any of the wrongdoings. Yeah, no,

1432
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:21,160
Speaker 1: peace stuck all these feelings and emotions. Yeah.

1433
01:04:21,200 --> 01:04:23,560
Speaker 2: Oh, he's very overwhelmed by the situation, which is it's

1434
01:04:23,640 --> 01:04:26,560
Speaker 2: fair because there's a lot of emotions and emotions run

1435
01:04:26,640 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 2: high sometimes.

1436
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1437
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:30,880
Speaker 2: After reading a couple of responses, I want to clarify

1438
01:04:30,920 --> 01:04:33,360
Speaker 2: something that I didn't drop in the original posting. So

1439
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 2: my third newborn is mine biological and had received more

1440
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 2: attention than my two older kids.

1441
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:42,400
Speaker 1: Okay, I see you, I see you.

1442
01:04:42,680 --> 01:04:45,760
Speaker 2: Now it's starting to click together as to all of

1443
01:04:45,760 --> 01:04:47,760
Speaker 2: the pieces of the puzzle are fitting together.

1444
01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:48,040
Speaker 5: Here.

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01:04:48,320 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 6: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 6: not on this page, search Okay storytime clips on Facebook

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01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:54,880
Speaker 3: Okay, back to the store.

1449
01:04:54,960 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 2: Also, one of the statements from the parents was we

1450
01:04:57,400 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 2: aren't comfortable having them over alone because we don't know

1451
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:00,959
Speaker 2: them as well.

1452
01:05:01,080 --> 01:05:04,040
Speaker 1: And she's talking about the first two kids that aren't

1453
01:05:04,040 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 1: Op's and his wives. They're talking about those two kids,

1454
01:05:07,360 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 1: the bonus kids.

1455
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 4: Bonus children are the bonus kids. Come on?

1456
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:13,959
Speaker 2: So my argument to that is that they are three

1457
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 2: and two in age. Yeah, what, why are you beefing

1458
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:19,520
Speaker 2: with a two or three year old? I don't really

1459
01:05:19,600 --> 01:05:21,240
Speaker 2: know that, bro, I don't know if you can bring

1460
01:05:21,280 --> 01:05:23,480
Speaker 2: those people over, Dude, I don't really know them like that.

1461
01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:25,400
Speaker 1: You know, friends are like, we don't really know you.

1462
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:26,840
Speaker 1: That's what they are with the kid, like, we don't

1463
01:05:26,880 --> 01:05:29,320
Speaker 1: really know the No, I don't know this three year old.

1464
01:05:29,400 --> 01:05:31,880
Speaker 1: What am I supposed to talk to about baby food. Yeah, dude,

1465
01:05:31,880 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: come on, yeah, I'm all about stocks and like, what's

1466
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:35,480
Speaker 1: happening in the world.

1467
01:05:35,680 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 4: How's he going to talk about the Pan Pacific market

1468
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:38,080
Speaker 4: with me?

1469
01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:41,280
Speaker 1: Bro, He's he's too worried about like his next meal.

1470
01:05:41,680 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 4: I don't even know.

1471
01:05:42,680 --> 01:05:46,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good, God, got get get out on my

1472
01:05:46,040 --> 01:05:47,840
Speaker 2: face with all that, But I can't remember the name

1473
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 2: of the schedule.

1474
01:05:48,560 --> 01:05:50,280
Speaker 4: You remember, it was like the guy who's like.

1475
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:51,439
Speaker 1: Why are you looking at me? Dog?

1476
01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:52,920
Speaker 4: And it's just like a baby and he goes like,

1477
01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:53,920
Speaker 4: Joe Sander, get.

1478
01:05:53,800 --> 01:05:56,040
Speaker 1: Your boy, dude, I did know what you're talking about.

1479
01:05:56,200 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 1: That that's what is good.

1480
01:05:57,200 --> 01:05:59,280
Speaker 2: That's what's going on right here. They want to bond

1481
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 2: and spend their time with grandparents. It's not their fault

1482
01:06:02,080 --> 01:06:04,680
Speaker 2: that they were born outside of me, but they don't

1483
01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:06,560
Speaker 2: know that since I've been there since the beginning.

1484
01:06:06,600 --> 01:06:06,960
Speaker 1: Anyway.

1485
01:06:07,120 --> 01:06:09,800
Speaker 2: Side note, I didn't drop originally. When I had my

1486
01:06:09,880 --> 01:06:12,000
Speaker 2: third kid, I got the comment of how does it

1487
01:06:12,040 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 2: feel to finally be a dad?

1488
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 1: Get out of my face, go away. It's a good thing.

1489
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:19,920
Speaker 2: Op had the blueprint of his stepdad, who he referred

1490
01:06:19,920 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 2: to as his real dad, to like be able to

1491
01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:25,120
Speaker 2: be there as a father for these kids happy throwing hands.

1492
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:29,280
Speaker 4: My response was, I already am a dad. Update number two.

1493
01:06:29,400 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 2: I'm surprised to see a few people bring up inheritance

1494
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:32,840
Speaker 2: and such.

1495
01:06:33,000 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 1: Oh, I could.

1496
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:35,440
Speaker 4: Care less about material things.

1497
01:06:35,520 --> 01:06:37,240
Speaker 2: I just want my kids to be loved the same

1498
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 2: or at least shown similar affection. Some people seem to

1499
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 2: miss that I have a newborn with the same woman

1500
01:06:43,120 --> 01:06:46,360
Speaker 2: and is my biokid, And they treated my biokid better

1501
01:06:46,400 --> 01:06:48,440
Speaker 2: than my three and two year old, and on the

1502
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:51,000
Speaker 2: few occasions they even referred to the kids as my

1503
01:06:51,120 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 2: wife's kids or the biofather's kids, which I corrected on

1504
01:06:55,120 --> 01:06:55,600
Speaker 2: the spot.

1505
01:06:55,840 --> 01:06:58,760
Speaker 1: That is so messed up on so many levels.

1506
01:06:58,440 --> 01:07:00,640
Speaker 2: Really is, and it's like there's only as soon as

1507
01:07:00,680 --> 01:07:02,920
Speaker 2: you address that the first time and have it fixed.

1508
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:05,280
Speaker 2: I don't think there's any reason for that to happen

1509
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:08,440
Speaker 2: more than once. Absolutely, it's a choice at that point,

1510
01:07:08,480 --> 01:07:10,840
Speaker 2: which is similar to like a choice that you can make,

1511
01:07:10,880 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 2: which is joining us every week day at three PMPST

1512
01:07:13,840 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 2: when we go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

1513
01:07:17,560 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 2: All you gotta do is tap our profile and you're

1514
01:07:19,840 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 2: in and we might be live right now. Yes, but

1515
01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:24,160
Speaker 2: before you check on that let's.

1516
01:07:23,880 --> 01:07:24,840
Speaker 1: Finish this story.

1517
01:07:24,960 --> 01:07:27,560
Speaker 2: I really hope that the step dad doesn't get completely

1518
01:07:27,560 --> 01:07:28,560
Speaker 2: blocked out because of this.

1519
01:07:28,680 --> 01:07:31,240
Speaker 1: You know, I think he's mature enough, and I think

1520
01:07:31,240 --> 01:07:33,560
Speaker 1: he's already come to the conclusion, like forget these people.

1521
01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:36,240
Speaker 1: If he does get excluded from his family, he's like

1522
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 1: they're not even worth having as family anyways. That's how

1523
01:07:39,280 --> 01:07:41,320
Speaker 1: I feel it is mot space because these people, they're

1524
01:07:41,360 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 1: being really weird about all this.

1525
01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:44,440
Speaker 2: I feel like the issue with the dad, like everybody

1526
01:07:44,480 --> 01:07:46,720
Speaker 2: else for sure, like everyone else is like what, But

1527
01:07:46,760 --> 01:07:49,080
Speaker 2: I feel like the dad is like hasn't been actively

1528
01:07:49,080 --> 01:07:51,040
Speaker 2: doing it right. It's more like he's a past he's

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Speaker 2: a bystander, and he's wondering why he's not standing up

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Speaker 2: and saying something.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I just hope he completely Like going low no contact

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01:07:58,640 --> 01:08:00,640
Speaker 2: totally makes sense if they're going to continue to like

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Speaker 2: make your kids feel like they're others.

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Speaker 4: But I don't know, it just hurts a little bit.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure it hurts for op too, to like lose

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01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:09,680
Speaker 2: that kind of bond that they had with their dad,

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Speaker 2: you know, true being the step dad and everything.

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Speaker 3: Update number three.

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Speaker 2: I've seen several comments speaking to they need an organic

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01:08:16,600 --> 01:08:19,559
Speaker 2: relationship they have had over two years to build that.

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01:08:19,640 --> 01:08:21,920
Speaker 2: If we didn't ask to come over and to visit them,

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Speaker 2: they were never seen. We each have our own lives, sure,

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01:08:25,640 --> 01:08:29,200
Speaker 2: but you can't bond if you don't try. You can't

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Speaker 2: have a relationship if you don't make effort both ways.

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Speaker 4: So I made the choice easier get to know all

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Speaker 4: or none.

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Speaker 1: Of my kids.

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Speaker 2: Also, it's very clear to me that many of you

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Speaker 2: were never in a situation of being a step child

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Speaker 2: or step parent, and.

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Speaker 1: It shoves I like that.

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Speaker 2: The final note to address my haters to all the

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Speaker 2: people who asked me what I would do if I didn't.

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Speaker 4: Win, I guess we'll never know.

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Speaker 1: And Opie's spend all business on every single ground, with

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Speaker 1: the parents, with the haters, with the online people, everyone.

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Speaker 4: I love setting a firm boundary, being like it's all

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01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 4: or nothing.

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Speaker 2: You don't get to just pick one and then make

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Speaker 2: my other kids who want my kids?

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Speaker 4: If you like crap.

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Speaker 1: That's the end of that story and the end of

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Speaker 1: that episode.

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Speaker 2: podcasts Okay story Time on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever

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