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Speaker 2: So let's get into the letter this week. It says,

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Speaker 2: Dear Mandy and Weezy, my man and I met on

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Speaker 1: I met his family and he has met mine. My

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Speaker 2: Him, even my dad who told me to be nice

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Speaker 2: to him because he's a good one, which is true.

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Speaker 2: The people in my family that know how we met

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Speaker 2: told me that if they ask how we met, I

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Speaker 2: He claims that he is scared that they will judge

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Speaker 2: Now we are quickly approaching two years. We have discussed marriage, kids,

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Speaker 1: But his family is messy and they're gonna do it anyways.

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Speaker 2: How do I get him to give less bucks about

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Speaker 2: Appreciate this show for all of its valuable discourse. Idio

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Speaker 2: advice would be awesome. Thanks sid aka Miss cloud Yo.

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Speaker 1: His family's never asked me how he meant.

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Speaker 1: Our first date was at Soho House Meat Package.

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Speaker 2: Like we never had a conversation like, don't you dare

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Speaker 2: But I wonder if let's just say this dude's family

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Speaker 1: To me, online dating is.

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Speaker 2: Not taboo anymore, Like it's literally the way people date now.

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Speaker 2: What's also funny is like I loved the origin stories

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Speaker 2: I have a question for the listener, why the fuck

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Speaker 1: Of your speech at the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he already lied. Maybe he told his family like yo,

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Speaker 2: you about a girl who cares?

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Speaker 1: Like who hears?

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Speaker 2: The fuck?

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Speaker 1: Is there someone that you've met that you are embarrassed by?

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Speaker 1: How y'all met? Like, let me tell you what happened.

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Speaker 2: So you.

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Speaker 3: I wish I had a difference.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, the first time we actually met in person

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Speaker 2: effort to your New York Times bestseller? Wow, we were

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Speaker 2: They've been fucking with each other for ten years, but

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but maybe she could have just said Aline, all

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Speaker 2: I know is seeking arrangement got brought up.

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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, oh, bitch, you don't know he's talking.

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Speaker 3: So not a partner, but one of my homegirls shout

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Speaker 2: That introduced her and I because he said, my homegirl

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Speaker 2: Brittany and you are just like y'all are gonna love

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Speaker 2: This nigga I used to fuck with told me, yo,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, no, why. He's like, nah, you just kind

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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, someone else told me I would

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Speaker 1: She was like, girl, tell me he was fucking that

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Speaker 3: It's like, oh my god. She's like, wheezy, what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: She's like And then we're sitting there trying to go

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Speaker 2: Fast forward, I go on a date with a dude

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Speaker 3: He was a virgin.

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Speaker 2: So at this time, I'm just getting on the scene

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Speaker 1: I was like, he was so fine though, but he's

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Speaker 1: I'm like that how he felt the same nigga and

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Speaker 3: Felt another nigga bro. She was like, girl, he is

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Speaker 2: I was really sitting there. I think they went to

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Speaker 2: waiting to get is it how y'all met? Like how

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Speaker 1: The way we met is because we were introduced. Oh

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Speaker 1: you're talking about Brittany. I was trying to hear how

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no to me, I'm saying it's not

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you that shit is so crazy.

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Speaker 2: And when I was just crazy because she introduced me

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Speaker 2: and she was like, oh, you gotta meet my friend Whezy,

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Speaker 2: She's funny, blah blah blah. But what I was thinking

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Speaker 2: when we'd be like, so this introduction would be we

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Speaker 2: we should be friends. Yes, Wow, that's funny. Now, any

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Speaker 2: I don't I don't think I have any like, I

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Speaker 3: Maybe they were just dating.

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Speaker 2: Can't say anyone don't even know if my friends had

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's so weird because how important is

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Speaker 2: Is that?

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Speaker 1: Is that an important part of real It's only important?

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Speaker 2: And if he used to fuck your homeboy, I mean

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Speaker 3: That's when you gotta lie that, right. I don't think

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Speaker 1: Oh, bitch, I feel like my man got one in

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no no. I think it was a

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Speaker 2: share the origin stories, Like there's certain niggas that.

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Speaker 1: I met, like I remember, and maybe y'all will read it.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know how much I put in the book,

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Speaker 1: I'll never forget it.

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Speaker 2: He brought me out and we had already been fucking

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Speaker 2: because I said.

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Speaker 2: Well then if I'm just a friend, niggad slid straight

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Speaker 2: And let me tell you, one of them ended up

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Speaker 2: So I like to say it worked out well for me.

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Speaker 2: You know, I read that story again yesterday because I

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Speaker 3: were you talking about.

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he picked me up in a Porsche girl, I

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Speaker 3: The book in full now as well.

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Speaker 3: I'm opening this shit I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: Nate was perfect.

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Speaker 3: He had a big dick at a job he said

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Speaker 3: I was, so.

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Speaker 1: I was like, listen.

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Speaker 2: I was like, when you get tired of me, just

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Speaker 2: And then I was like, go read about Mandy pegging first,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that I think that that would be that

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Speaker 2: Tender hinge everything but seeking arrangement or Ashley Madison, I

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Speaker 2: it's because you met like this, So maybe that has

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Speaker 2: I would play along for me if I just don't care,

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Speaker 2: I ain't gonna know what my family or my friends.

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Speaker 2: But if you're if you're that bent out of shape

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Speaker 1: What you told her he was there? Why did you

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Speaker 1: tell her were at the sex club? Whatever? Yeah, that's me.

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Speaker 2: I'm an overshare though, but I would say for you

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Speaker 1: That would be my thing.

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Speaker 2: And if that's something that he doesn't want to share

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Speaker 2: harp on that that sound like to me, you just

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Speaker 2: want to find something to complain about, right, That's it,

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Speaker 2: That's what I feel.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, hope we out by sharing all of.

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Speaker 2: Our stories because we didn't really give you advice this week,

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Speaker 2: but dude, nobody cares.

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Speaker 1: I would say, just don't care.

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Speaker 2: and we'll see you there and we'll see you next Bye,

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Speaker 2: everybody bangs h