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Speaker 1: It's time for today's Strawberry Letter, and man, oh man.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, if you need advice

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Speaker 1: on dating, work, sex, parenting, anything and more, submit your

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and click

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Speaker 1: submit Strawberry click needs that k on that uh right, Steve? Right,

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Speaker 1: you want them to click submit Strawberry letter right now.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like what you said, Click the straw

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Speaker 1: hit that button, hit that thing right there. All right,

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Speaker 1: let's go, all right, buckle up, hold old tight he

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Speaker 1: she is sure the strawberry with a straw very let

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Speaker 1: thank you, junior. Subject I left in the middle of

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Speaker 1: the night. There's Stephen Shirley. I need your honest advice

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Speaker 1: here because I don't know how to handle this situation.

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Speaker 1: I'm in my late forties and in a good relationship

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Speaker 1: with a man my age. We are well above the

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Speaker 1: age of foolishness, but recently we had a big disagreement.

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Speaker 1: I was staying at his house the other night and

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Speaker 1: I got a call from my ex husband, who I

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Speaker 1: still consider a friend. My ex husband is still single

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Speaker 1: and he lives alone, so when he called me at

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Speaker 1: about him. So I got up and was leaving to

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Speaker 1: go help my ex husband. My boyfriend got very upset

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Speaker 1: with me, and we got into a huge argument about it.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand what the big deal is. I would

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Speaker 1: help anybody. I may have shared too many details about

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Speaker 1: my friendship with my ex husband, and I probably shouldn't

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Speaker 1: have told him that my ex still has me listed

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Speaker 1: as a beneficiary on his life insurance policy. Surely my

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Speaker 1: man doesn't think I still want my ex husband or

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Speaker 1: vice versa. My man said he was only angry because

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Speaker 1: it was a safety issue for me to leave at

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Speaker 1: two thirty. But I know it's deeper than that. So

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Speaker 1: now I'm second guessing everything. Maybe I should have even

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Speaker 1: maybe I shouldn't have even answered the late night phone call.

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Speaker 1: Was I not supposed to go help my ex? What

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Speaker 1: do you think? Please help? Okay? After he called at

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Speaker 1: two thirty am and you ran off to as you say,

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Speaker 1: go see about him. Yes, your man definitely thinks you

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Speaker 1: guys have something going on, okay, and that you guys

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Speaker 1: still want each other. I mean, who does this? I

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Speaker 1: don't get it. Who does that? Did your ex say

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Speaker 1: something was wrong or seriously going on? Like you say

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Speaker 1: in the letter. I'll ask it this way. What man

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Speaker 1: is going to sit back and be okay with his

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Speaker 1: woman running to another man at two thirty in the morning.

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Speaker 1: How does this make sense to you? This is a

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Speaker 1: man who happens to be your ex husband. I mean,

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Speaker 1: does this really sound reasonable to you? He may have

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Speaker 1: said that it was a safety issue with you, but

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Speaker 1: it was way more than that, and probably that too.

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Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, if it was a safety issue,

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Speaker 1: if he thought he should have gone along with you,

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Speaker 1: I can guarantee you he's not upset about you and

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Speaker 1: the life insurance thing. That's not anything for him to

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Speaker 1: be worried about, because that's a good thing. It's about

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Speaker 1: you getting up out of that bed and going over

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Speaker 1: to your ex's house. That's it. That's all. Let me

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Speaker 1: ask you this, what if you were what were you

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Speaker 1: going to do for your ex? Did he say he

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Speaker 1: never you never said what it was? You just never

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Speaker 1: said you never said what it was? Help him do?

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Speaker 1: What I mean? Couldn't it wait until later in the morning?

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Speaker 1: Otherwise it just sounds like a booty call. That's it.

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Speaker 1: I don't see how you don't see that. You're right.

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Speaker 1: You shouldn't have answered the phone when you saw it

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Speaker 1: was your ex husband. You shouldn't have gone over there.

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Speaker 1: It could have waited whatever was. Your man is right

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Speaker 1: to be mad. If he was at your house and

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Speaker 1: a woman called him at two thirty in the morning,

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Speaker 1: he got up to go see her, how would you

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Speaker 1: feel you would be mad just like he is. So um,

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Speaker 1: I know you'd be highly upset and have a major attitude. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So you were wrong. You should have stayed there and

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Speaker 1: deal with this because your man, hopefully he'll forgive you.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know, Steve, I can't believe this is

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Speaker 1: written by a woman who's grown I left in the

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Speaker 1: middle of the night. The name of this letter should

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Speaker 1: be how stupid this sound to you? Right, that's the

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Speaker 1: title of this letter. Let's change this letter. How stupid

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Speaker 1: this sound to you? Shirley. I need your honest advice,

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Speaker 1: and Steve, yeah, I'm glad you. I'm glad you said

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Speaker 1: honest advice because I want to hell you fit to

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Speaker 1: get him. Come on, bring it, because I don't know

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Speaker 1: how to handle this situation. I remember late parties. Get

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Speaker 1: a good relationship with a man my age. We above

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Speaker 1: the age of elishness. No, no, no, stop right there,

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Speaker 1: he is above the foolish Thank you all up in foolishness.

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Speaker 1: But recently we had a big disagreement. I was staring

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Speaker 1: at this house the other night I got a call

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Speaker 1: from an ex husband, who I still consider a Fred.

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Speaker 1: Problem number one. My ex husband is still single. Problem

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Speaker 1: number two with a little noise that's putting on the brake,

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Speaker 1: and he lives alone. That's problem number three. So he

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Speaker 1: called me at two thirty am. I figured there had

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Speaker 1: leaving to help my ex husband. The hell is wrong

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Speaker 1: with you? Crazy? Let's go back to the title that

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Speaker 1: I want to call this letter. How stupid this sound

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Speaker 1: to you? We're laying in bed, phone rang, it's two thirty.

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Speaker 1: You figure something seriously got to be wrong. So you

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Speaker 1: sits up, You gets dressed, and you're going to see

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Speaker 1: about your ex husband too. Fanny phone calls. It's Prime

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Speaker 1: Booty time. Yeah, one more time, Prime booty Time. Matter

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Speaker 1: of fact, you're on the back end of a booty

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Speaker 1: call two thirty late. The booty is in the process

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Speaker 1: of having already answered the call. Wow, we're showing about

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Speaker 1: now this ristal usually the big rist. All we'll be

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Speaker 1: back with the rest of his hell you talking about?

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming going right

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Speaker 1: at twenty three after the hour left in the middle

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Speaker 1: of the night. Or how stupid does this sound to you?

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Speaker 1: You're listening to show? All right, come on, Steve, part

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Speaker 1: two of yours. This woman got a booty call at

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Speaker 1: two thirty in the morning, her laying next to her

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Speaker 1: new boyfriend. It's her ex husband who is single and

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Speaker 1: lives alone, and you figured something had to be seriously

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Speaker 1: wrong at two thirty in the morning, So you gets

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Speaker 1: up to leading now yo, her boyfriend, man, what are

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Speaker 1: you supposed to be you're getting up to answer? Or

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Speaker 1: what is we all know is a booty call? Shelon

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Speaker 1: know that? So why are we sitting up here trying

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Speaker 1: to act like this ain't what it is? My boyfriend

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Speaker 1: got very upset with me. We got it to a

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Speaker 1: huge argument about it. I don't understand what the big

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Speaker 1: deal is. I would help anybody. Oh so now you're tricking.

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Speaker 1: You would help anybody. So anybody that calls at two

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Speaker 1: thirty you willing to get up and help them. Let

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Speaker 1: me explain something to you, lady. Let me just dig

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Speaker 1: off in my past a little bit here. I didn't

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Speaker 1: call a lot of women at two thirty in the

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Speaker 1: morning and said, it ain't ever been nothing wrong. You

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Speaker 1: haven't been sick, or it's not an emergency. Not a tooth.

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Speaker 1: If I call you a tooth, it's going down. The

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Speaker 1: only thing wrong with me, I'm lonely to come through.

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Speaker 1: I just need to be I need some coming. I

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Speaker 1: need somebody to put me to sleep. I'm suffering from

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Speaker 1: in something new. I can't go to sleep. And you

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Speaker 1: could be the bigg ass peel come rock a bye

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Speaker 1: baby in the tree talking, come on, come and put

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Speaker 1: me to sleep. But it took that in the moaning

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Speaker 1: what a man called a woman. Something's going on. Someone's

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Speaker 1: on the phone three o'clock in the moaning talking about

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Speaker 1: how he can make it right. Did you hear me

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Speaker 1: Al Green saying about this fit? Now hear you answering it,

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out what the hell he mad right?

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Speaker 1: Because All Green is at your house. I would help anybody.

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Speaker 1: I may have shared too many details about my friendship

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Speaker 1: with my ex husband. So now you're running your mouth too, Okay,

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Speaker 1: And I probably shouldn't have told him my ex still

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Speaker 1: has me listened as a beneficiary on his life insurance policy.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, maybe that was it. Maybe you was going

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Speaker 1: over there and make sure you still her. Well. But see,

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Speaker 1: but in order to make sure you the beneficiary, you

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Speaker 1: got to provide benefit. See you get the beneficiary, you

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Speaker 1: got to be benefited. You understand, see that one I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about. Surely, surely my man doesn't think I still

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Speaker 1: want my ex husband or vice versa. Why would you? Now,

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Speaker 1: he don't put you on the policy. This to hei

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Speaker 1: the impiti me a sugar daddy. I'm your sugar daddy

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Speaker 1: now and when I'm gonna hello hello. This is a

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Speaker 1: matter of fact, your ex husband falls into the category

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Speaker 1: a super sugar daddy. Deep. And see so now if

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Speaker 1: that can provide sugar, living and gold, you got to

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Speaker 1: get over there and provide benefit so you can be

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Speaker 1: remained the beneficial arey that's what you need to do? Now,

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Speaker 1: my man said, he was only angry because it was

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Speaker 1: a safety issue for me to leave in two thirty,

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Speaker 1: Your damn writer was a safety issue for you to

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Speaker 1: leave in two thirty. The damn safety issue was he

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Speaker 1: might lose you to the man with all he damn

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Speaker 1: This man got a shore his policy. But I know

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Speaker 1: it's deeper than that. Let me see what you say. Now.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I shouldn't even have answered the late night phone call.

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Speaker 1: Well maybe you shouldn't you Was I not supposed to

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Speaker 1: go help my ex? What do you think? Let's talk

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Speaker 1: about the help you probably provide it. Break it down,

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Speaker 1: Break it down. He's locked out of his house. Oh

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Speaker 1: and why do you have a key? He's sick and

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Speaker 1: only you can make him better. It's two thirty in

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Speaker 1: the morning. He didn't got some bad news, and now

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Speaker 1: here you come to hold him, console him, shape and

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Speaker 1: mold him. You better make a song out of this. Nah,

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Speaker 1: two thirty, come on in the morning. Somebody just can't

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Speaker 1: and I went out to do that's a skippy happy

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Speaker 1: a mind about to go out the door I got.

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Speaker 1: I bought both fires. I'm about to give him some

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Speaker 1: more because I'm beneficialing. I'm about to used to be Maverick,

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Speaker 1: used to be mavering. Now I gotta go and take

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Speaker 1: care my beneficial status won't and I won't heal. Uh huh,

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Speaker 1: he's leaving money when it ain't no more. Heal. He

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Speaker 1: got me now, and I get it then, So I

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Speaker 1: thoughts on today. Strubberry letter at Steve Harvey FM. Coming

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