WEBVTT - Second Cup: Substance first, balance after that

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that as you are considering a new job

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<v Speaker 1>or any sort of career move, consider the substance of

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<v Speaker 1>the work first. Then you can address questions like work

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<v Speaker 1>life balance. Balance is not a good in its own right,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you seek out work for the schedule first,

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<v Speaker 1>you can wind up board or unhappy, which won't help

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<v Speaker 1>with your work life balance at all. Because I write

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<v Speaker 1>about issues of work and family, I sometimes hear from

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<v Speaker 1>people who are trying to find jobs that allow for

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<v Speaker 1>what we often call work life balance. People want to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to spend time in the evenings with their families,

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<v Speaker 1>or to be able to drop kids off at school,

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<v Speaker 1>or deal with the occasional during the work day personal

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<v Speaker 1>event without it being a crisis. I totally understand this.

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<v Speaker 1>Flexibility is a definite upside for me of running my

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<v Speaker 1>own business, but I didn't set out to have a

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<v Speaker 1>flexible business. I wanted to write about what I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to write about, and I know there have never been

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of traditional, well paying jobs that would allow

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<v Speaker 1>me to do that. The most profitable way to build

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<v Speaker 1>my career was to go out on my own. Flexibility

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<v Speaker 1>turns out to be a perk of my version of

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<v Speaker 1>self employment, but it is not the reason for my

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<v Speaker 1>job choice. Unfortunately, I hear from people who have gotten

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<v Speaker 1>burned out in stressful jobs and they start hunting for

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<v Speaker 1>anything that will provide more balance. And for a while,

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<v Speaker 1>this can feel great. If you used to travel every

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<v Speaker 1>week and have people call you at nine pm every

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<v Speaker 1>night with stuff that has to be done before eight

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<v Speaker 1>am in the morning, it is exhilarating to leave the

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<v Speaker 1>office at four point thirty knowing that no one is

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<v Speaker 1>going to bother you. You will glow with gratitude going to

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<v Speaker 1>a school play at eleven am knowing that no one

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<v Speaker 1>is going to give you grief about it, but and

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<v Speaker 1>you knew there was a butt coming here. Often, that

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<v Speaker 1>glow fades in time. You can't live on balance alone.

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<v Speaker 1>Many of the people who started out in those more

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<v Speaker 1>stressful jobs did so because they are ambitious people who

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<v Speaker 1>like to be challenged. They also like to be paid

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. Jobs taken primarily because they offer balance don't

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<v Speaker 1>always meet those needs. People wind up unhappy because they

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<v Speaker 1>are bored. They start feeling underpaid, then perhaps it's off

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<v Speaker 1>to find a new job. But again, if it needs

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<v Speaker 1>to have a strict definition of balance, this can cut

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<v Speaker 1>off a lot of options. If you declare that you

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<v Speaker 1>will never travel for work, that is going to limit

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<v Speaker 1>you more than if you are open to traveling two

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<v Speaker 1>to three days a month. If you declare that you

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<v Speaker 1>will never take work home, that is going to limit

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<v Speaker 1>you more then if you find a fascinating organization, or

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<v Speaker 1>you can build a team that gets good work done

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<v Speaker 1>unreasonable timeframes. So here is my take. I think it

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<v Speaker 1>is best to focus on substance first and balance after that.

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<v Speaker 1>Figure out what kind of work you'd like to do,

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<v Speaker 1>or look for a job where the core of your

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<v Speaker 1>work is something that excites you. Find colleagues who you

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<v Speaker 1>find interesting and fun to work with, then negotiate the

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<v Speaker 1>balance you want, or simply bold and seize it. I

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<v Speaker 1>have seen this be possible for all sorts of jobs

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<v Speaker 1>as people gain seniority, and they might work in fields

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<v Speaker 1>like law or medicine or consulting or tech that aren't

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<v Speaker 1>exactly known for work life balance. But these jobs do

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<v Speaker 1>tend to be interesting and highly paid, So folks who

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<v Speaker 1>want to have a personal life figure out ways to

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<v Speaker 1>keep working and advancing while doing what they need to

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<v Speaker 1>or want to outside of work. You take an hour

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<v Speaker 1>off in the middle of the day to go to

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<v Speaker 1>a kid's class, but do a phone call at nine

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<v Speaker 1>pm after your kid is in bed, and you just

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<v Speaker 1>don't make a big deal about it. As you get

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<v Speaker 1>more senior, you can do more and more of what

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<v Speaker 1>you want, leaving in the middle of the day to

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<v Speaker 1>meet a kid's bus and continuing to work remotely after that.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, if you are the top person on a team,

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<v Speaker 1>people do often figure out where to accommodate you beyond

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<v Speaker 1>that reality. I think the phrase work life balance is

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<v Speaker 1>problematic for all sorts of reasons. First, people tend to

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<v Speaker 1>use it to mean working less, but very few people

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<v Speaker 1>spend most of their hours working. There are one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and sixty eight hours in a week. If you sleep

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<v Speaker 1>eight hours a night, so that's fifty six hours per

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<v Speaker 1>week and work forty hours per week, that leaves seventy

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<v Speaker 1>two hours for other things, that's almost twice as much

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<v Speaker 1>time as you are working. It's hard to see what's

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<v Speaker 1>particularly balanced about working thirty hours and having eighty two

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<v Speaker 1>hours for other things, or working twenty hours and having

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<v Speaker 1>ninety two hours for other things. Those may be perfectly

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<v Speaker 1>fine setups for life, but they aren't exactly balanced. The

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<v Speaker 1>phrase work life balance also implies that work and life

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<v Speaker 1>are at odds, with the two on opposite side sides

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<v Speaker 1>of the scale. I am not sure that is the case.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that when I am working on something really

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<v Speaker 1>exciting and I feel like I'm winning at work, I

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<v Speaker 1>have more energy for everything. There's also nothing particularly balanced

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<v Speaker 1>about tolerating your work and even counting the hours until

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<v Speaker 1>you get to life, even if there aren't as many

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<v Speaker 1>hours to count. I suspect that a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>would be happier working forty to forty five hours a

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<v Speaker 1>week in work they love than thirty five hours a

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<v Speaker 1>week in work where they'd feel bored and underpaid. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, if the forty hour work week was also

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<v Speaker 1>boring and underpaid, that would be even worse. But when

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<v Speaker 1>you like the substance of your job, that is probably

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<v Speaker 1>not going to be the case. Substance first, balance, after that,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the recipe for a happier life and career than

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<v Speaker 1>seeking out balance above everything else. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura, Thanks for listening and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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