Speaker 1: Hey fam, Hello Sunshine. Today on the bright Side, we're
Speaker 1: popping off auditioning on the biggest pop culture stories and
Speaker 1: trends of the week. Well, love cost a thing for
Speaker 1: j Lo now that she's filed for divorce. Uh oh,
Speaker 1: is it ever okay to pay your way out of
Speaker 1: attending your kids' school's PTA meetings? And what are the
Speaker 1: rules for hooking up with your friends friends? It's Friday,
Speaker 1: August twenty third. I'm Danielle Robe.
Speaker 2: I'm Simone Boyce, and this is the bright Side from
Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to
Speaker 2: share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day.
Speaker 1: Speaking of stories, Simone, what an array of stories we
Speaker 1: had on the show this week. We had Emmy nominated
Speaker 1: actor and world champion boxer Kaylee Reese. I loved her.
Speaker 1: And then we had the trailblazing restauranteur Ozma Kahn. I'm
Speaker 1: trying not to use the word favorite in life because
Speaker 1: I think there's something more descriptive than favorite or best.
Speaker 1: It was one of my favorite conversations. She was so moving.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like we need to book a bright
Speaker 2: Side trip to London to eat at her all woman
Speaker 2: run restaurant. Our dealing express we have to, we have to,
Speaker 2: And I also can't stop thinking about what gastroentrologist doctor
Speaker 2: Chuckkins said about the effects of antibiotics on our gut health.
Speaker 2: And now I cannot wait to pop off on this
Speaker 2: week's biggest moments in pop culture.
Speaker 1: We're almost there, but before we go there, it's time
Speaker 1: to spotlight our favorite moment of the week, brought to
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Speaker 2: So today we're spotlighting Sister Jean, a nun an NCAA
Speaker 2: superfan who's turning one hundred and five.
Speaker 3: Y'all.
Speaker 2: Sister Jean first took the Internet by storm in twenty
Speaker 2: eighteen during the Classic Basketball Tournament, where at ninety eight
Speaker 2: years young, she showed us that she is the ultimate
Speaker 2: Loyola Ramblers superfan, and since then she's become a bit
Speaker 2: of an icon good luck charm for the Chicago team
Speaker 2: by praying with them before their games.
Speaker 1: Simone I used to interview when I did the morning
Speaker 1: show in Chicago. She is unbelievable. She's such an icon
Speaker 1: in the city and she was born on August twenty first,
Speaker 1: nineteen nineteen. Fast forward one hundred and three years later,
Speaker 1: she released a memoir called wake Up with Purpose What
Speaker 1: I learned in my first one hundred years. And she
Speaker 1: told People Magazine on our hundred and third birthday that
Speaker 1: her secret to a long life is sleeping. Well, I
Speaker 1: know you love that. The woman after my own heart.
Speaker 1: She has dedicated her life not just to sleeping, but
Speaker 1: really to service and community. So Sister Jean, we're wishing
Speaker 1: you a very happy birthday.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's time to bring in today's guest, the amazing
Speaker 2: co host of the Go Touch Grass podcast, comedians and
Speaker 2: writers Millie Tomates and Elise Morales.
Speaker 4: Welcome to the bright Side, y'all.
Speaker 3: So excited to be here.
Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome. You know, we've been using the phrase touch
Speaker 1: grass on our podcast since the very beginning, so much
Speaker 1: so that people say it to us now, and that
Speaker 1: is the name of your pod. So what does it
Speaker 1: mean to you? Why do you guys start using that phrase?
Speaker 5: Well, I think the thought process behind our podcast is
Speaker 5: million and I. We've worked together for a long time
Speaker 5: where old paths just in the comedy scene, and we
Speaker 5: wanted to create a podcast around internet culture because we
Speaker 5: knew that we're two online that we're always talking about
Speaker 5: every little drama and trending topic. So the idea behind
Speaker 5: the podcast is that we will look into all of
Speaker 5: these things for you, We will explain them, and that
Speaker 5: will give you more time to go touch grasses.
Speaker 3: We're facilitating the touching of grass for you.
Speaker 6: Yes, we're doing this selfless, like really important work. Again,
Speaker 6: you know, there are so many conversations that happen online
Speaker 6: that intersect with you know, races and misogyny, all these
Speaker 6: conversations that are happening, all these discourses, Like we say,
Speaker 6: but you know, to start, you have to know who
Speaker 6: this YouTuber is and this and that and whatever. So again,
Speaker 6: we want people to be able to jump in, listen
Speaker 6: to our podcast and not know anything that's going on
Speaker 6: online and walk away being able to be like, I
Speaker 6: know why somebody gave fifty thousand dollars in a shoe box,
Speaker 6: or I know why they say Naris Smith is stealing
Speaker 6: her content. That's the kind of stuff that we do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, before we go in, we have to talk about
Speaker 1: the real history of touch grass. In case anybody doesn't know,
Speaker 1: this is the Mirriam Webster dictionary that I might absolutely
Speaker 1: tell me if you'd like to add anything to it. Okay, relax,
Speaker 1: get offline, reconnect with nature. It's not that serious.
Speaker 6: Yes, exactly if somebody's like too logged in and they're
Speaker 6: too online, especially because social media has been made to
Speaker 6: make us angry at each other, so it's like zoom out, Yeah,
Speaker 6: zoom out, go touch grass, log off.
Speaker 1: I'm glad we're on the same page.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I would say that the overarching definition is it's something
Speaker 5: you say to someone when you think you need to
Speaker 5: step away from the computer, You need to put down
Speaker 5: the phone, and you need to go outside and maybe
Speaker 5: say hi to your neighbor, engage with the real world
Speaker 5: outside of the internet space.
Speaker 1: Okay, I love it. Thank you guys.
Speaker 2: Well, you two are in the business of saving us
Speaker 2: time and brain space, and we appreciate you for that.
Speaker 2: We got to talk about a topic that has left
Speaker 2: a lot of people bewildered, confused, and perhaps even a
Speaker 2: little bit annoyed, and that is the word demure. I
Speaker 2: think a lot of people are fed up. They're like,
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear this word anymore. Do we
Speaker 2: think that the demure trend is over?
Speaker 1: I thought it was over before it started. I never
Speaker 1: liked this one. I was not into demure you know, I.
Speaker 6: Think that the reason why you hit Mina least talked
Speaker 6: about in our latest episode, it's because it's a little
Speaker 6: bit of shade, it's a little bit of read, it's
Speaker 6: a little ironic. It's the vessel that it's coming out of.
Speaker 6: So I feel like it's one of those things that
Speaker 6: is probably like in the lexicon, like fleek or bay
Speaker 6: or something where people are just like and people are
Speaker 6: saying it, you know, like see how I don't get
Speaker 6: up in the plane as soon as it lands Vary
Speaker 6: demure like. I don't think it's really people celebrating their
Speaker 6: own modesty. It's just like kind of like a shade
Speaker 6: to I'm not like the other girls, which is funny.
Speaker 6: And I love Jules Lebron. I think that I'm so
Speaker 6: happy for her.
Speaker 2: She's the original creator. Yeah, yeah, yeah, original creators.
Speaker 5: I think that it's probably peaked in its usage because
Speaker 5: we've got into the place where now brands are being
Speaker 5: like Demure Demure, Gift Guide were Demure day Demure cocktails
Speaker 5: like we it's it's peaked and I wait to see
Speaker 5: what's next from Jules Lebron. And I do think that
Speaker 5: like the Jewles, Lebron specific videos about it. I think
Speaker 5: she's very, very funny and charismatic. I just feel like
Speaker 5: probably worrid Use is it's hit its peak, and now
Speaker 5: it will I think it will exist around though, like
Speaker 5: Millie said, I think it's now kind of in the lexicon,
Speaker 5: but it's not going to be the same level of
Speaker 5: like so many posts about demure all the time, all
Speaker 5: the time, all the time.
Speaker 2: Once the brands get a hold of it, it's it's
Speaker 2: a problem. They ruin it. But I think, yeah, being
Speaker 2: the opposite of demure, being like ostentatious, being a little flashy.
Speaker 2: That's part of the fun of being young. Okay, Millennials,
Speaker 2: we were never demure growing up. If you could see
Speaker 2: the platform heals that I wore to the club, like, oh,
Speaker 2: there was nothing demure about that.
Speaker 4: So like let people live.
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, Milly, we were watching your stand up
Speaker 2: comedy before we came on the air. You're cracking us up.
Speaker 2: Body positivity is a theme and a lot of your
Speaker 2: comedy material, and even you even found a way to
Speaker 2: incorporate the Renaissance Fair into that narrative. Please tell us
Speaker 2: more about that, because I am the first one at
Speaker 2: the Renaissance Fair in the springtime.
Speaker 6: You know, every time someone thinks about the Renaissance Fair,
Speaker 6: I just see like titties, like like just like the
Speaker 6: steps in a courset and all that stuff, and it's
Speaker 6: just like, you know, society kind of disregards fat women,
Speaker 6: and it's like it's not like it's like you're lesser
Speaker 6: than you know, the way that people treat women in general,
Speaker 6: and especially if you're a plus sized woman, you know,
Speaker 6: it's like you're not desired, you're not important. You're like
Speaker 6: discussing on to it's time for the Renaissance Fair, and
Speaker 6: then they want you to wear that. They want you
Speaker 6: to stuff your biggest titties in a court set and
Speaker 6: eat a turkey leg and all that, and it's like
Speaker 6: now you guys want to And it's just like I
Speaker 6: exist most you know, three hundred and sixty days a year.
Speaker 1: That stuff.
Speaker 4: That's my standard.
Speaker 5: The other five are the Renaissance Fair, are the Renaissance
Speaker 5: or someone else?
Speaker 4: And then I'm someone else exactly.
Speaker 6: So you know, I like to use comedy as a
Speaker 6: way to examine how we treat people and know and
Speaker 6: things that I don't like and it's like, okay, you're
Speaker 6: treating me like shit. Now, but wait, do I wear
Speaker 6: a corset and then you're gonna talk to me? You
Speaker 6: want me to come and eat a turkey legs? Oh
Speaker 6: my god.
Speaker 2: Well I think that speaks to how attitudes around women's
Speaker 2: bodies have changed throughout history. I mean there was a
Speaker 2: time when fuller figured bodies that was it, like that
Speaker 2: was what you wanted. And and you know, society now
Speaker 2: unfortunately has been a lot more critical of women's bodies
Speaker 2: and a lot more critical of larger bodies.
Speaker 6: Yeah, this was a conversation with me and at last
Speaker 6: we are having on the pot about Bridgerton because Penelope,
Speaker 6: you know, the girl that played Panelica and Nicola Coughlin, Yes,
Speaker 6: she got a lot of like, there's a lot of people.
Speaker 6: There's this one writer who is from the UK that
Speaker 6: was like, this is so unrealistic that the fact girl
Speaker 6: gets to Princid is like, first of all, she's hot,
Speaker 6: she's like not even technically a plus size, she's you know,
Speaker 6: standard size.
Speaker 4: And also that.
Speaker 6: Guy is a mid ap best and also yeah that
Speaker 6: it probably more accurate, like a fuller figured woman with
Speaker 6: nice skin and a nice face, thank you, like Nicety.
Speaker 5: Scrunched up in that little I just heard that in corsets,
Speaker 5: because it's like they have the.
Speaker 3: Little empire waste. You're all scrunched up in that little
Speaker 3: empire waste.
Speaker 6: Listen, Titty sitting high like the empire statement.
Speaker 4: So hot?
Speaker 1: Okay, so hard, guys. I feel like we already started
Speaker 1: popping off, but I feel like it's time to officially
Speaker 1: pop off. Are you ready? Can't wait? Okay, here's our
Speaker 1: first topic.
Speaker 6: We're ready, We're born popping off?
Speaker 4: All right.
Speaker 2: First up, it seems that a love story that we
Speaker 2: have all been following for over twenty years has finally
Speaker 2: come to an end, which means I've been following this
Speaker 2: love story for over half my life. This week, after
Speaker 2: months of speculation and media scrutiny, Jennifer Lopez filed for
Speaker 2: divorce from Ben Affleck. And what is unique about this
Speaker 2: is that Jennifer filed for divorce on her own, meaning
Speaker 2: she did not file with an attorney. And here's the
Speaker 2: biggest and there is no prenup.
Speaker 1: Oh it's so wild.
Speaker 5: This is this Ben's sign of prenup. Yeah, that's interesting.
Speaker 1: I heard someone say this morning, uh my rich BFF
Speaker 1: Vivian two in a clip she said, uh, either you
Speaker 1: have a prenup or the government makes one for you.
Speaker 1: There's a prenup either way, because like either you're dividing
Speaker 1: your assets or they are. And it's like, how do
Speaker 1: you go into a marriage. As to celebrities, she's been
Speaker 1: she's married, she's been married so many times.
Speaker 3: She knows how this goes. Yes, yeah, that surprises me.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 6: I feel like Ben is so I don't think Ben's
Speaker 6: going to be fighting for her or trying to take
Speaker 6: her shit. Like I don't know, Uh, Like I would
Speaker 6: like to think, like not that I'm team Ben, your
Speaker 6: team Jen. I'm just like, I don't think he's going
Speaker 6: to be doing that. I think that he's made it
Speaker 6: so clear that he doesn't want to be in a
Speaker 6: relationship with her and all this stuff.
Speaker 4: I feel like he's so checked out.
Speaker 6: He's not going to be fighting her for like.
Speaker 3: So do you think there you think he checked out?
Speaker 6: That's what the narrative is, right, is that he's like, oh,
Speaker 6: she pushed me to I couldn't deal with her celebrity
Speaker 6: blah blah blah blase blase, cry baby shit. So I'm
Speaker 6: thinking that he's not I don't think he's gonna fight her.
Speaker 1: She's the one who filed for doors. I think she
Speaker 1: checked out. I don't know.
Speaker 6: It's kind of okay, this is my and this is
Speaker 6: not confirmed. This is just the theory, okay, right, But
Speaker 6: it's like, I think men are obsessed with being the
Speaker 6: good guys quote unquote, but it's like maybe in all
Speaker 6: but like officially he's like, it's just like they make
Speaker 6: it so shitty that it's like so that you break
Speaker 6: up with them so that they can still be the
Speaker 6: good guys. Like, well, I didn't want this, and it's say, Okay,
Speaker 6: you're not really here, You're not really excited to be
Speaker 6: with me, You're kind of a downer all the time,
Speaker 6: You're blaming me for everything. And then finally when I like,
Speaker 6: clearly you want to break up with me, but you
Speaker 6: don't have the balls to do it, and then I
Speaker 6: have to be the one to do it, and then
Speaker 6: I'm the bitch.
Speaker 1: So I think it's important to note that she filed
Speaker 1: for divorce on the two year anniversary of their wedding
Speaker 1: in Georgia, on the exact day, and she's the way.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys watched the movie that
Speaker 1: she made, but Alice, this is an ode to you.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of astrology in the movie, and there
Speaker 1: is a lot of.
Speaker 3: Astrology in the movie. Jennifer is really into.
Speaker 1: Meaning and symbols and dates and full circle moments, and
Speaker 1: so I think that her filing for divorce on the
Speaker 1: anniversary of their wedding date was significant for her. You
Speaker 1: could have filed any day. You filed that day, just
Speaker 1: the way that he bought a new house on her birthday.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing that I'm waiting for.
Speaker 2: I am waiting for everyone to chime in and attack
Speaker 2: this woman for getting married and getting divorced so many times.
Speaker 1: That's already happened on TikTok.
Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure. But we don't do the same thing
Speaker 4: to men.
Speaker 2: I mean, look at like Robert de Niro, for example,
Speaker 2: he has he has several different baby mamas. He's been
Speaker 2: married and divorced several times. We do not do the
Speaker 2: same thing to men.
Speaker 1: And I.
Speaker 2: Think that actually, more than anything else, this is this
Speaker 2: is an indication of Jennifer Lopez exercising her freedom as
Speaker 2: a woman who has worked very hard in her career,
Speaker 2: who has a lot of money. She doesn't have to
Speaker 2: stay with someone that she doesn't want to be with.
Speaker 5: No, she certainly doesn't have to stay with someone she
Speaker 5: doesn't want to be with.
Speaker 3: And I don't care.
Speaker 5: I think people can get married and divorced as much
Speaker 5: as they want.
Speaker 3: I do think that she brought a.
Speaker 5: Little bit of this people, you know, people who are
Speaker 5: making fun.
Speaker 1: Of her online.
Speaker 5: I think she brought some of that to her doorstep
Speaker 5: when she did make the documentary and the kind of
Speaker 5: like music video film all about her, like all she's
Speaker 5: ever sought in her life is love, and then she
Speaker 5: found her ultimate love story with Ben and now they're.
Speaker 3: Like not long later.
Speaker 5: I do think you bring a little bit of people
Speaker 5: side eyeing you when that's part of the entire narrative.
Speaker 5: But I don't care that she's getting divorced or married
Speaker 5: or this or that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily a moral failing, but
Speaker 6: it's you know, there's this conversation a lot with influencers,
Speaker 6: a lot with all kinds of people where it's like,
Speaker 6: how dare you not respect my private life? And it's like, babe,
Speaker 6: you market it off your private life like you want
Speaker 6: us to see it, you want us to consume. And
Speaker 6: then this is kind of like why people don't market,
Speaker 6: you know, and don't do that and don't.
Speaker 4: Make the things.
Speaker 6: And and there's a clear moment in the documentary where
Speaker 6: she's reading his love letters to her out loud in
Speaker 6: front of her staff, and you can tell that he's
Speaker 6: uncomfortable not to say that he's perfect, not to say
Speaker 6: that she's a monster, whatever.
Speaker 4: But it's just like.
Speaker 6: There was I could totally see that the vibe that
Speaker 6: she wants to be public and not and open, and
Speaker 6: that's her right as an artist. And also like, yeah,
Speaker 6: you should kind of know if you're gonna get with
Speaker 6: the musician or a poet or anything, they're gonna mind
Speaker 6: their life for art. But then I could see that
Speaker 6: there was a clear kind of disconnect with like him
Speaker 6: wanting more privacy and him not mining his life for art.
Speaker 2: There's one more thing that I have to add to
Speaker 2: this conversation, and I'm honestly giggling, like it's gonna be
Speaker 2: hard for me to get this out. Alex Rodriguez, Jennifer
Speaker 2: Lopez's ex, wrote a very cryptic demure message on his
Speaker 2: Instagram story. I'm gonna see if anybody else here can
Speaker 2: understand what this means, because I certainly don't. He said,
Speaker 2: you either go one way or the other, you might
Speaker 2: as well be the one deciding the direction, and then
Speaker 2: he signed it Alex Rodriguez. Okay, I feel like that's
Speaker 2: just like so vague, like what are we doing here,
Speaker 2: eh Ron?
Speaker 5: It's giving aim away message lee to me where it's
Speaker 5: like the person who needs to know who these lyrics
Speaker 5: are for will know, yes.
Speaker 3: Why I'm away right.
Speaker 6: So this is as a Dominican woman, a rod is
Speaker 6: a Dominican man and nothing. And let me tell you
Speaker 6: this cryptic thing. Nothing hurts a Dominican man more than
Speaker 6: a woman who leaves after he's been being a terrible
Speaker 6: partner and she finally leaves and he's like, oh, how
Speaker 6: could you? So he has his posting he is someone
Speaker 6: he definitely needs to go touch grass, hopefully baseball grass.
Speaker 6: But he has someone who has never gone over gotten
Speaker 6: over that she left him.
Speaker 4: The jet ski.
Speaker 6: Thing, how he circled him and his friends circled her
Speaker 6: yacht with jet skis. He's posted like pictures after she
Speaker 6: dumped him, pictures of them like Tibachata music, like he's
Speaker 6: just down bad.
Speaker 4: If you haven't seen down bad, you know.
Speaker 6: I'll tell you guys off Mike some some tea that
Speaker 6: I know about him, like he has nobody has hurt
Speaker 6: more than him, and it's like, listen, he's he's probably
Speaker 6: like thinking he'll get a chance again because.
Speaker 1: J Lo's down buddy.
Speaker 6: No, he's down bad, and he's he doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 2: Can't say I've ever had an ex circle mayat on
Speaker 2: jet Skis, have you, Danielle?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. That hasn't happened to me. We're
Speaker 1: hitting pause on Popping Off with Elise Morales and Millie Tomawes,
Speaker 1: but we'll be right back. Stick with us and we're
Speaker 1: back to Popping Off with Elise Morales and Millie Tomates. Okay,
Speaker 1: so this one we're talking about in your honor Millie
Speaker 1: and Elise, because this is some TikTok drums.
Speaker 3: Are you ready ready, so ready?
Speaker 1: Okay? New York TikTokers Hallie Kate and Sophia La Court Yes,
Speaker 1: are in a love triangle with this man read Williams.
Speaker 1: So Hallie Kate has one point three million followers on TikTok.
Speaker 1: She like specifically blew up in the last few months
Speaker 1: because this is horrible, but she got punched in the
Speaker 1: face in New York walking down the street.
Speaker 3: She was one of those oh yes that was going
Speaker 3: on for a while.
Speaker 1: And she like recorded the whole experience.
Speaker 4: Oh god, poor girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually find her very entertaining. Uh, the Internet's
Speaker 1: not loving all of them right now. Because so Hallie
Speaker 1: dated Read for nine months and then shortly after they
Speaker 1: broke up, she found out that her friend, who is
Speaker 1: another TikToker, Sophia, started dating him, and so she posted
Speaker 1: a video about this situation and it started this much
Speaker 1: larger conversation online about homie hopping, which, if you don't
Speaker 1: know what homie hopping is, it's basically hopping from homie
Speaker 1: to homie aka dating multiple friends in a friend group.
Speaker 1: What do you guys think, MILLI least I'm giving it
Speaker 1: to the internet officionados.
Speaker 5: Okay, I have a couple immediate thoughts homie hopping. I
Speaker 5: don't see you here. It's so funny to even use
Speaker 5: that phrase. My thoughts on homie hopping are as follows.
Speaker 5: I think that if your friend group can actually handle it,
Speaker 5: then yeah, I guess you're allowed to date people who
Speaker 5: have dated your friend as long as there was a
Speaker 5: mutual breakup. That what didn't involve any like super bad
Speaker 5: behavior on either side. I just don't think that I've
Speaker 5: actually seen it play.
Speaker 1: Out very well in real life.
Speaker 5: If it's more of an extended group of young people
Speaker 5: MILLI and I come up from the improv comedy scene,
Speaker 5: is that's obviously like, that's a larger community of young
Speaker 5: people who are all friends and stuff like.
Speaker 4: I think.
Speaker 5: I think it depends on how big of the group,
Speaker 5: Like would it count as homie hopping that it's just
Speaker 5: all a bunch of people who are in the New
Speaker 5: York comedy scene and are dating and hooking up with
Speaker 5: each other, but they all are acquaintances and know each other.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's kind of a different deal.
Speaker 5: I think that if you are actually in a very
Speaker 5: semi small friend group and everyone's dating each other, I
Speaker 5: think it's hard to pull off.
Speaker 1: You're being so nice about this. I would die if
Speaker 1: my girlfriend dated my ex boyfriend. I would be deceased.
Speaker 6: Yes, this is what I'm gonna say. Now, I'm gonna
Speaker 6: pop off. At least have the politically correct answer.
Speaker 4: I say.
Speaker 6: I kind of thought, like, oh, a girl dating multiple
Speaker 6: guy friends, that's fine.
Speaker 4: Men aren't even good.
Speaker 6: Friends to each other and you don't know how to
Speaker 6: have real relationships. But homie hopping with women. No, no, no, no, nope,
Speaker 6: that's not okay. And to me, I say, look, you
Speaker 6: can do and this is what I feel like a
Speaker 6: lot of people on the internet, especially gen Z, don't
Speaker 6: get You can do whatever you want. You could date
Speaker 6: whoever you want, but there'll be consequences.
Speaker 4: Dat my ex.
Speaker 6: Go ahead, You're not gonna go to jail. This is America, okay.
Speaker 1: But I'm a friend.
Speaker 6: You lose me as a friend. I'm not gonna fuck
Speaker 6: with you. I'm not gonna tell people that you're cool.
Speaker 6: I'm gonna tell my friends to keep their men's away
Speaker 6: from you. If if you heard me talk about oh
Speaker 6: my god, my ex this and that, and then you
Speaker 6: talk to him, Okay, if it's if there's more than
Speaker 6: a two year gap, girl, you're gonna have to let
Speaker 6: it go. You're gonna have to let it go hashtag
Speaker 6: a Rod.
Speaker 4: But if it.
Speaker 6: Is if Jane d a Rod's friend, a Rod can't
Speaker 6: do anything. Yes, women can, Holmi hop men can't. Sorry,
Speaker 6: I don't make the rules.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go ahead and say something that I think
Speaker 2: at least one other person listening will relate to tell
Speaker 2: us I feel really old right now, you guys, because
Speaker 2: I don't know who any of these people are.
Speaker 4: Hallie kay, so feeling I.
Speaker 1: Don't, I feel I feel so old.
Speaker 2: And also this makes me think of that scandal that
Speaker 2: happened with the Mormon Wives a while ago.
Speaker 6: Yes, yes, the Mormon Singers.
Speaker 4: That's gonna be a.
Speaker 1: Free form show.
Speaker 2: Yes, they're getting a TV show, the Secret Lives of
Speaker 2: Mormon Wives, and I will be watching.
Speaker 6: Yeah no, that Trainla looks good. Sorry, Real Housewoves of
Speaker 6: Salt Lake City.
Speaker 3: I will be seated for that. Absolutely.
Speaker 5: And this is a common problem to speak to what
Speaker 5: you were just saying, Like, that's a common problem that
Speaker 5: Millie and I have to have as we're creating Go
Speaker 5: Touch grass is where like who's fighting with who and
Speaker 5: they're on the What channel and they're doing like it
Speaker 5: is a lot of deep dives into the most random
Speaker 5: people in the world, because fame is like such a
Speaker 5: scattered thing. Now that someone can have three million TikTok followers, yes,
Speaker 5: who avidly follow everything that they do, and I'm like,
Speaker 5: she's who and she dated this one and they're best
Speaker 5: friends with hoopst.
Speaker 2: Okay, there's another term that's sparky in debate online. This
Speaker 2: one's not necessarily about relationships but about parenting. So, my
Speaker 2: oldest son just started elementary school last week, and one
Speaker 2: of the most startling realizations of this whole process is
Speaker 2: the peace. Like we grew up watching movies where the
Speaker 2: PTA moms are? You know, these fixtures and films or
Speaker 2: TV shows. It's something I heard about my whole life,
Speaker 2: but it was really confronting to walk into my son's
Speaker 2: school orientation and be like, oh, yeah, the PTA is
Speaker 2: a thing that I might have to get involved with now.
Speaker 2: And it's kind of overwhelming because you know, school participation,
Speaker 2: parents participating in your kids school. It's going to help
Speaker 2: your students succeed, it's going to help the school succeed.
Speaker 2: But it takes a lot of time. There's PTA meetings,
Speaker 2: there's fundraisers, community events. It's a lot. And there's a
Speaker 2: mom online from Tennessee who is putting her foot down
Speaker 2: on all of the requirements, everything that's asked of parents
Speaker 2: and offering a new perspective on school participation. So she
Speaker 2: calls herself a Venmo mom, and she took to TikTok
Speaker 2: to say that she'd rather venmo money to support her kids'
Speaker 2: schools and activities instead of volunteering her time in the classroom.
Speaker 2: And she says that she's obviously going to make sure
Speaker 2: that her kids do their homework and get to school
Speaker 2: on time, you know, the basic stuff. But she just
Speaker 2: gets it's a little stress whenever she's asked to volunteer
Speaker 2: and instead she wants to show her support financially. What
Speaker 2: do you guys think about this? Is this a valid
Speaker 2: way to support your kid's school, to support your kid's education.
Speaker 6: I feel like I think that you know, they say
Speaker 6: money can buy happiness, but money can solve problems. And
Speaker 6: I say, throw money at any problem, anything, anything that
Speaker 6: you're anxious about, anything that you don't like, you can
Speaker 6: throw money.
Speaker 4: At it and it will help.
Speaker 6: If you don't like your brows, you don't like this,
Speaker 6: throw money at it. And if you don't want to participate, listen,
Speaker 6: of course, know who your kids teachers are, whatever, this
Speaker 6: and that, but don't volunteer and do something begrudgingly and whatever.
Speaker 6: If you don't want to do it, send them fifty
Speaker 6: dollars and keep it moving. I was also saying, you know,
Speaker 6: this is in lou again. Again, it's not in lieu
Speaker 6: of like, oh, I don't even I'm not completely checked out.
Speaker 6: I don't care. I don't even a fuck about it. No,
Speaker 6: it's in lieu of like, hey, can you bake cookies
Speaker 6: for the bake sale? And it's like, no, here's fifty
Speaker 6: dollars right right exactly, which I think is fine.
Speaker 4: And also I would say that as someone.
Speaker 6: Who bakes for attention, like people people who like baking
Speaker 6: love baking.
Speaker 4: And want people, you know, they.
Speaker 1: Do it for the money for attention. I've never heard that.
Speaker 1: Well what do you think it, Kelly?
Speaker 5: Oh I, Milli bro It was actually two flons. Milly
Speaker 5: brought a fa a flon to gorgeous flonds to my birthday.
Speaker 3: They were so good.
Speaker 5: She did get attention and I was happy to give
Speaker 5: it to her.
Speaker 1: Wow, Millie, you're invited to my birthday next year.
Speaker 3: Listen, I'll make a flw Yeah, no, I want to.
Speaker 3: It was amazing.
Speaker 5: And that's the other thing is that, like Millie's flawn
Speaker 5: was on point because Millie wanted to make that flawn.
Speaker 3: I don't want to.
Speaker 5: Eat cookies that were baked under duress. I don't want
Speaker 5: to eat sad cupcakes that you didn't want to make
Speaker 5: and that you're throwing together. Like, some people are motivated
Speaker 5: to do that stuff and they derive a lot of
Speaker 5: joy out of doing it, and God bless them. But
Speaker 5: if you're not one of them, as long as you're
Speaker 5: like providing something and that thing maybe a venmo, I
Speaker 5: think you're participating normally. I think what you described like
Speaker 5: that this person is still engaged with what's happening in
Speaker 5: their kids classroom. They're making sure their homework is getting done,
Speaker 5: but not everybody is into volunteering in the classroom or
Speaker 5: has the time and energy to do that. Like I
Speaker 5: remember when I was a kid because my mom just
Speaker 5: my mom always worked, so there was like one time
Speaker 5: I think she was able to come on the field trip,
Speaker 5: whereas there were other parents who like they were there
Speaker 5: every single time, and no one was doing parenting wrong
Speaker 5: or right in that scenario.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Well, I think that like
Speaker 1: it seems from and someone tell me what you think,
Speaker 1: but it seems from all my girlfriends that have kids
Speaker 1: in school that schools are not really set up for
Speaker 1: working parents, and so it's really it seems really tough.
Speaker 1: I get where she's coming from. I will say, I
Speaker 1: remember being so excited when my mom or dad was
Speaker 1: coming to school, like it was such a big deal.
Speaker 1: And I thought, my mom is coming and like yeah,
Speaker 1: just like looking at her and she would read to
Speaker 1: the class and I would be like, isn't she so beautiful?
Speaker 1: Like I was just so excited. So I don't know,
Speaker 1: I mean, if you have the time, I feel like
Speaker 1: your kids really appreciate it.
Speaker 2: I remember my mom coming and doing what we called
Speaker 2: was like lunch bunch, where I guess you would swap
Speaker 2: lunches or something and then you would get a story
Speaker 2: read to you. And my mom was super involved and
Speaker 2: she would come and volunteer. She was actually an educator,
Speaker 2: so it was a real natural fit for her. And
Speaker 2: I really appreciated it too.
Speaker 4: I do think at.
Speaker 2: Least you brought up a great point, like volunteering is
Speaker 2: a privilege for a lot of folks. You know, if
Speaker 2: you have a full time job and you're let's say,
Speaker 2: you know, a single parent, you don't really have the
Speaker 2: option of, you know, expending all this extra energy to volunteer.
Speaker 2: And I actually read a comment on this woman's video
Speaker 2: from a PTA president in another state and she was like, listen,
Speaker 2: we embrace support in all forms. If you want to
Speaker 2: volunteer your time, we will take it. If you want
Speaker 2: to volunteer your money, we will take it. So let's
Speaker 2: not be you know, snobby or particular about how parents
Speaker 2: are showing up for their kids.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I feel like, to go to Danielle's point,
Speaker 6: is so happy that your mom showed up. And it's
Speaker 6: like because she wasn't there every day because it was
Speaker 6: one a year, maybe that your mom came through. And
Speaker 6: that's what I'm saying, you don't have to feel ashamed
Speaker 6: for not I don't know.
Speaker 4: I'm just like if I have kids, like, I'm still gonna.
Speaker 1: Have a life?
Speaker 4: Am I life?
Speaker 6: You be my kids? You know someone you look like
Speaker 6: your life is popping popping off?
Speaker 5: I mean, I do feel like sometimes and maybe this
Speaker 5: is a tale as old as time, but I do
Speaker 5: see it in my friends who are becoming parents, and
Speaker 5: just like parenthood related content I'm consuming online that sometimes.
Speaker 3: There's this attitude of like, if you are not.
Speaker 5: Donating every single ounce of your free time to being
Speaker 5: in the classroom and doing all this stuff, that you
Speaker 5: are not prioritizing.
Speaker 3: Your child properly.
Speaker 5: But I feel like I think that I benefited from
Speaker 5: seeing my parents having a social life and my parents
Speaker 5: having work and my parents I knew that I was
Speaker 5: the center of my parents world, that they loved me
Speaker 5: so much that I could always go to them. But
Speaker 5: I also knew that they had other things going on
Speaker 5: in their life, that they had friends, that they had
Speaker 5: things that they were pursuing. And I think it's valuable
Speaker 5: for kids to see that too, like for them to
Speaker 5: see their parents as a whole person. Like I knew
Speaker 5: who my parents' best buddies were from high school and
Speaker 5: then also later on in life, and like sometimes they
Speaker 5: would go on a vacation and we would stay with family,
Speaker 5: Like you know, I feel like sometimes the narrative online
Speaker 5: is like, especially for mothers, is that you have to
Speaker 5: put aside all your social life, your hobbies, everything has
Speaker 5: to go aside so that you can be one hundred
Speaker 5: percent present for every single event thing, this, that, and
Speaker 5: the other. And I don't even think that that's necessarily
Speaker 5: helpful for a kid.
Speaker 2: No, And I don't think it's healthy for the parents either.
Speaker 2: There is a loss of identity that happens too.
Speaker 5: I will say, shout out my parents had a rag
Speaker 5: er of a year two thousand New Year's party at
Speaker 5: my house when I was a kid that I remember
Speaker 5: very fondly, but don't think that I fully understood the
Speaker 5: level of rager that was taking place at the house
Speaker 5: to pop off.
Speaker 1: You got it.
Speaker 6: I believe in you.
Speaker 2: I'm here.
Speaker 5: I mean today, my little sister was there, all the
Speaker 5: kids were there, the kids went to sleep. We had
Speaker 5: like kind of a little My dad had an office
Speaker 5: in like our backyard, so they were like, all the
Speaker 5: kids can go sleep in the backyard. We are having
Speaker 5: a giant millennium party because maybe all the computers are
Speaker 5: going to shut down. I forget what Y two k was,
Speaker 5: but they partied at my house on the year two thousand,
Speaker 5: and it's a fond memory of mine.
Speaker 4: Sounds like a time I believe in you.
Speaker 6: Simon Venmo, Mom, Venmo, and plan that party.
Speaker 2: Listen, Venmo, me and I'll plan the party. Okay, what
Speaker 2: about party planning?
Speaker 4: Mom?
Speaker 2: That's instead of president. Can I be like the flon mom? Mom, Mom,
Speaker 2: listen the flanty. You could be the fl.
Speaker 5: I love flante Wow flnty, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Okay, we're ending on that. Alise Morales and Flante Millie.
Speaker 1: They are the hosts of the podcast Go Touch Grass.
Speaker 1: Thanks for popping off with us, guys.
Speaker 3: Oh I loved popping off with you guys. Thanks for
Speaker 3: having us.
Speaker 6: I loved it. You guys are awesome.
Speaker 1: Alise Morales and Millie Tomares are the hosts of the
Speaker 1: podcast Go Touch Grass. You can find them at Milly
Speaker 1: Underscore tomorrows and at Pandalise on social.
Speaker 2: We need to take a quick break, but when we
Speaker 2: come back, we're reminiscing on our college days and talking
Speaker 2: about how we do things differently if we were in
Speaker 2: college today and we're back, Danielle, I hate to admit it,
Speaker 2: but it's late August. I am so sad about this.
Speaker 2: We are officially approaching the end of summer.
Speaker 1: And I know you're a summer girl, but I have
Speaker 1: to tell you, as a Midwesterner, I love fall. I'm
Speaker 1: excited about it. It's my favorite season. Okay, tell me more. Okay,
Speaker 1: not in LA but everywhere else. The leaves change colors,
Speaker 1: the air gets brisker, you pull out your fall wardrobe,
Speaker 1: and even though summer's ending, it's the season for heading
Speaker 1: off to college for new beginnings. And I remember being
Speaker 1: in college and being so excited to see all of
Speaker 1: your besties again and picking out fun stuff for your
Speaker 1: college dorm room, and while you were going to wear
Speaker 1: it a class.
Speaker 2: You know what, You're so right, there's a bright side
Speaker 2: in every season. I'm trying to think back to my
Speaker 2: first day of college and what I wore.
Speaker 4: I can't remember, do you?
Speaker 1: Oh? I remember exactly. I have photos with my best
Speaker 1: friend from high school. We both ended up going to
Speaker 1: the Universe City of Wisconsin, Madison, and I walked up
Speaker 1: this huge bascom hill with her. I was so nervous.
Speaker 1: I was wearing denim jeans, a tight white tank top
Speaker 1: with like a western brown belt, and a green shrug.
Speaker 1: Do you remember? Shrugs refresh my memory? Like they cover
Speaker 1: your arms, like they're like this.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, I remember the shrug era. There were sequin shrugs.
Speaker 2: There were all different kinds of shrugs.
Speaker 1: Okay, So, in the spirit of first today, we're gonna
Speaker 1: have a little fun in partnership with Walmart. We're going
Speaker 1: to talk about what we would wear and bring with
Speaker 1: us if we were going to college now in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four. Don't we want to redo? Oh well, I'm
Speaker 1: in college in my mind still, So I love this.
Speaker 1: That's true. Okay, do it. So if you were a
Speaker 1: college student, now, what would you wear on your first day?
Speaker 1: What would your style be?
Speaker 2: I think instead of trying to impress anyone, I would
Speaker 2: be comfy and cute in gorpcore all the way. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love you know. I love the outdoorsy camping aesthetic.
Speaker 2: So if you're not familiar with this brand, it's all
Speaker 2: about fleece vests, hiking boots, hofers, cargo pants.
Speaker 4: It's style and function.
Speaker 2: Basically, I would want to be able to go on
Speaker 2: a hike as soon as class ends.
Speaker 4: Okay, how about you?
Speaker 1: This one is hard. I actually think that it would
Speaker 1: be a mix of activewear and streetwear, which is my
Speaker 1: style now. I like comfy, but like a little bit
Speaker 1: of edge. And I have to tell you, denim on
Speaker 1: Denim is my go to when I don't know what
Speaker 1: to wear, because I feel like you can't go wrong.
Speaker 1: It's chic, it's casual, it looks like you tried, but
Speaker 1: you didn't try hard. So I'm going with the chic, classic,
Speaker 1: cool Canadian tuxedo. Can't go wrong.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so we've talked about what we would wear
Speaker 2: on the streets.
Speaker 1: What about inside?
Speaker 2: If we're indoors in our dorm room, how would you
Speaker 2: decorate your dorm room today.
Speaker 1: So you're more the interiors girl, This one's hard for me.
Speaker 1: I think I would just go with something in line
Speaker 1: with my personal style, which is like lo fi, muted tones, flexible,
Speaker 1: gender neutral designs. I'd keep the vibes fluid and free
Speaker 1: and definitely a little nostalgic. I love a photo wall
Speaker 1: of memories. I made a poster for my college dorm
Speaker 1: room with like all my high school photos of friends
Speaker 1: and family, so cute.
Speaker 2: I actually tend to be more lo fi now, But
Speaker 2: I think if I were doing it over again, I
Speaker 2: might go in the other direction.
Speaker 4: I might be eclectic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I see that for you.
Speaker 2: Embrace the bold prince, the happy hues, the viby neons
Speaker 2: that set the stage for some main character energy.
Speaker 1: The neons always come back into style. I love that idea.
Speaker 2: You know, I remember that feeling of picking out my
Speaker 2: dorm room decor. Yeah, it's such a big moment because
Speaker 2: it's this first taste of real independence and agency and
Speaker 2: you're out on your own, and it's this important part
Speaker 2: of your self expression and development and at that age,
Speaker 2: you want to try on all these different identities without
Speaker 2: breaking the bank, of course, and it's like.
Speaker 1: The first time that you're showing people who you are
Speaker 1: without saying anything. You know, because people come visit your
Speaker 1: dorm room, so you're you're expressing yourself, you're telling them something.
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about the tech because it's
Speaker 1: an important part of the college dorm room experience, and
Speaker 1: it's also one of the most expensive pieces of gear
Speaker 1: that you need when you go off to college. So
Speaker 1: what did you actually bring to college? And did you
Speaker 1: own a laptop or a smartphone?
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to be dating myself here. I had
Speaker 2: a flip phone. What Yeah, smartphones were not around when
Speaker 2: I went to college.
Speaker 4: You had a.
Speaker 1: Flip phone, not either like a sidekick or anything.
Speaker 4: No, maybe I was a ludd eyed at the time.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe I wasn't up on all the technology, but I
Speaker 2: I had my flip phone, and then I also had
Speaker 2: a laptop of course. But here's the thing about laptops
Speaker 2: back then. Do you remember how enormous and heavy they were?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean those laptops back then they must have
Speaker 2: weighed what fifteen pounds?
Speaker 4: Or something.
Speaker 2: It's amazing how much more affordable and lightweight, high quality.
Speaker 4: Tech is today.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've come a long way. Like hold on, I
Speaker 1: have an example.
Speaker 2: Okay, so if I were going back to college today,
Speaker 2: I would bring a sleek, lightweight laptop with me like this.
Speaker 2: It's the HP fifteen point six inch laptop. Ooh and
Speaker 2: feel it. You gotta feel. It's like light as a
Speaker 2: blether thin.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very light, and I like the sheen. It's
Speaker 1: like a nice silver purple.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Very cool. Okay, how about for you? What is the
Speaker 1: must have tech if you were going to college? Okay,
Speaker 1: so I'm bringing the fun because for me, it's all
Speaker 1: about the Bow's quiet comfort noise canceling earphones. They're actually
Speaker 1: my favorite brand of headphone because not only do they
Speaker 1: look cool, you need something that looks cool when you
Speaker 1: walk through the airport, but most importantly, Bo's is known
Speaker 1: for their audio quality. The noise cancelation makes it so
Speaker 1: much easier to focus and study. I swear if I
Speaker 1: had a pair of these in college, my GPA would
Speaker 1: have been at least like a half a point higher.
Speaker 2: Okay, what about a digital camera? Did you have one
Speaker 2: of those in college.
Speaker 1: Of course, I had a flip camera for videos. Do
Speaker 1: you remember those?
Speaker 4: A flip camera?
Speaker 1: It was like a tiny Oh the flip cameras. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: digital camera was a must have in college.
Speaker 4: It was such a thing.
Speaker 2: Remember we'd make the photo albums with all of our
Speaker 2: That was the original photo dump, was the digital camera
Speaker 2: photo dump.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: I also love polaroids in addition to cameras, because the polaroids,
Speaker 2: they just give you that nostalgic feeling that you can't replicate.
Speaker 1: One thousand percent. It makes everything look cool like this. Oh,
Speaker 1: you brought the in Stax one Fujifilm Instax camera. Hell yeah,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: I'm a polaroid girl all the way. I love the
Speaker 2: nostalgic vibes. This is the Fujifilm in Stax camera. Ugh,
Speaker 2: my trusty friend never let me down. Can we take one?
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 4: Wait to hear this sound, it's epic.
Speaker 1: Okay, well we wait for that to load. Walmart has
Speaker 1: all of this and so much more so check out
Speaker 1: their full selection of college gear and top tech online
Speaker 1: or in store.
Speaker 2: Thanks to our partners at Walmart. Whatever your aesthetic is,
Speaker 2: Walmart's got it. That's it for today's show. On Monday,
Speaker 2: we're catching Flights not Feelings with Alexis Bowen. She's the
Speaker 2: co founder of the travel company Elsewhere.
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Speaker 1: Side is a production of Hello Sunshine and iHeart Podcasts
Speaker 1: and is executive produced by Reese.
Speaker 2: Witherspoon, production by Arcana Audio. Our producers are Jessica Wenk
Speaker 2: and Christa Ripple. Our senior producers are Janis Yamoka, It'si
Speaker 2: Kintania and Amy Padula. Our engineer is PJ. Shahamutt.
Speaker 1: Arcana's executive producers are Francis Harlowe and Abby Ruska. Arcana's
Speaker 1: head of production is Matt Schultz.
Speaker 2: Natalie Tulluck and Maureen Polo are the executive producers for
Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine.
Speaker 1: Julia Weaver is the supervising producer, and Ali Perry is
Speaker 1: the executive producer for iHeart Podcasts. Tim Palazzola is our showrunner.
Speaker 2: This week's episodes were recorded by Josh Hook and Joel Morales.
Speaker 2: Our theme song is by Anna Stump and Hamilton Lighthouser.
Speaker 1: Special thanks to Connell Byrne and Will Pearson.
Speaker 2: I'm Simone Boyce. You can find me at Simone Boyce
Speaker 2: on Instagram and TikTok.
Speaker 1: And I'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok. That's R
Speaker 1: O B A Y.
Speaker 4: We'll see you Monday, y'all. Keep looking on the bright side.