1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Hey fam, Hello Sunshine. Today on the bright Side, we're 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: popping off auditioning on the biggest pop culture stories and 3 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 1: trends of the week. Well, love cost a thing for 4 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: j Lo now that she's filed for divorce. Uh oh, 5 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: is it ever okay to pay your way out of 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: attending your kids' school's PTA meetings? And what are the 7 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: rules for hooking up with your friends friends? It's Friday, 8 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: August twenty third. I'm Danielle Robe. 9 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: I'm Simone Boyce, and this is the bright Side from 10 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to 11 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 2: share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day. 12 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: Speaking of stories, Simone, what an array of stories we 13 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 1: had on the show this week. We had Emmy nominated 14 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: actor and world champion boxer Kaylee Reese. I loved her. 15 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: And then we had the trailblazing restauranteur Ozma Kahn. I'm 16 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: trying not to use the word favorite in life because 17 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: I think there's something more descriptive than favorite or best. 18 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: It was one of my favorite conversations. She was so moving. 19 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:05,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like we need to book a bright 20 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 2: Side trip to London to eat at her all woman 21 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 2: run restaurant. Our dealing express we have to, we have to, 22 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 2: And I also can't stop thinking about what gastroentrologist doctor 23 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 2: Chuckkins said about the effects of antibiotics on our gut health. 24 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 2: And now I cannot wait to pop off on this 25 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 2: week's biggest moments in pop culture. 26 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: We're almost there, but before we go there, it's time 27 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: to spotlight our favorite moment of the week, brought to 28 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: you by our friends at BMW. 29 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 2: So today we're spotlighting Sister Jean, a nun an NCAA 30 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 2: superfan who's turning one hundred and five. 31 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 3: Y'all. 32 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 2: Sister Jean first took the Internet by storm in twenty 33 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 2: eighteen during the Classic Basketball Tournament, where at ninety eight 34 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 2: years young, she showed us that she is the ultimate 35 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 2: Loyola Ramblers superfan, and since then she's become a bit 36 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 2: of an icon good luck charm for the Chicago team 37 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 2: by praying with them before their games. 38 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: Simone I used to interview when I did the morning 39 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: show in Chicago. She is unbelievable. She's such an icon 40 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: in the city and she was born on August twenty first, 41 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 1: nineteen nineteen. Fast forward one hundred and three years later, 42 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: she released a memoir called wake Up with Purpose What 43 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 1: I learned in my first one hundred years. And she 44 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: told People Magazine on our hundred and third birthday that 45 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: her secret to a long life is sleeping. Well, I 46 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:29,080 Speaker 1: know you love that. The woman after my own heart. 47 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: She has dedicated her life not just to sleeping, but 48 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: really to service and community. So Sister Jean, we're wishing 49 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: you a very happy birthday. 50 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 2: Okay, it's time to bring in today's guest, the amazing 51 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: co host of the Go Touch Grass podcast, comedians and 52 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 2: writers Millie Tomates and Elise Morales. 53 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:51,119 Speaker 4: Welcome to the bright Side, y'all. 54 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 3: So excited to be here. 55 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome. You know, we've been using the phrase touch 56 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: grass on our podcast since the very beginning, so much 57 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: so that people say it to us now, and that 58 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 1: is the name of your pod. So what does it 59 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: mean to you? Why do you guys start using that phrase? 60 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 5: Well, I think the thought process behind our podcast is 61 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 5: million and I. We've worked together for a long time 62 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 5: where old paths just in the comedy scene, and we 63 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 5: wanted to create a podcast around internet culture because we 64 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 5: knew that we're two online that we're always talking about 65 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 5: every little drama and trending topic. So the idea behind 66 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 5: the podcast is that we will look into all of 67 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 5: these things for you, We will explain them, and that 68 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 5: will give you more time to go touch grasses. 69 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 3: We're facilitating the touching of grass for you. 70 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 6: Yes, we're doing this selfless, like really important work. Again, 71 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 6: you know, there are so many conversations that happen online 72 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 6: that intersect with you know, races and misogyny, all these 73 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,640 Speaker 6: conversations that are happening, all these discourses, Like we say, 74 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 6: but you know, to start, you have to know who 75 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 6: this YouTuber is and this and that and whatever. So again, 76 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 6: we want people to be able to jump in, listen 77 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 6: to our podcast and not know anything that's going on 78 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 6: online and walk away being able to be like, I 79 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 6: know why somebody gave fifty thousand dollars in a shoe box, 80 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 6: or I know why they say Naris Smith is stealing 81 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,040 Speaker 6: her content. That's the kind of stuff that we do. 82 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, before we go in, we have to talk about 83 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: the real history of touch grass. In case anybody doesn't know, 84 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:33,840 Speaker 1: this is the Mirriam Webster dictionary that I might absolutely 85 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: tell me if you'd like to add anything to it. Okay, relax, 86 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: get offline, reconnect with nature. It's not that serious. 87 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 6: Yes, exactly if somebody's like too logged in and they're 88 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 6: too online, especially because social media has been made to 89 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 6: make us angry at each other, so it's like zoom out, Yeah, 90 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,239 Speaker 6: zoom out, go touch grass, log off. 91 00:04:58,400 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: I'm glad we're on the same page. 92 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:00,599 Speaker 4: Yeah. 93 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 5: I would say that the overarching definition is it's something 94 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 5: you say to someone when you think you need to 95 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 5: step away from the computer, You need to put down 96 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 5: the phone, and you need to go outside and maybe 97 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 5: say hi to your neighbor, engage with the real world 98 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 5: outside of the internet space. 99 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: Okay, I love it. Thank you guys. 100 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 2: Well, you two are in the business of saving us 101 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 2: time and brain space, and we appreciate you for that. 102 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,479 Speaker 2: We got to talk about a topic that has left 103 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,600 Speaker 2: a lot of people bewildered, confused, and perhaps even a 104 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 2: little bit annoyed, and that is the word demure. I 105 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 2: think a lot of people are fed up. They're like, 106 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 2: I don't want to hear this word anymore. Do we 107 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 2: think that the demure trend is over? 108 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: I thought it was over before it started. I never 109 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: liked this one. I was not into demure you know, I. 110 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 6: Think that the reason why you hit Mina least talked 111 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 6: about in our latest episode, it's because it's a little 112 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 6: bit of shade, it's a little bit of read, it's 113 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 6: a little ironic. It's the vessel that it's coming out of. 114 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 6: So I feel like it's one of those things that 115 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 6: is probably like in the lexicon, like fleek or bay 116 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 6: or something where people are just like and people are 117 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 6: saying it, you know, like see how I don't get 118 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 6: up in the plane as soon as it lands Vary 119 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 6: demure like. I don't think it's really people celebrating their 120 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 6: own modesty. It's just like kind of like a shade 121 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,799 Speaker 6: to I'm not like the other girls, which is funny. 122 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 6: And I love Jules Lebron. I think that I'm so 123 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 6: happy for her. 124 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 2: She's the original creator. Yeah, yeah, yeah, original creators. 125 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 5: I think that it's probably peaked in its usage because 126 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,720 Speaker 5: we've got into the place where now brands are being 127 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 5: like Demure Demure, Gift Guide were Demure day Demure cocktails 128 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 5: like we it's it's peaked and I wait to see 129 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 5: what's next from Jules Lebron. And I do think that 130 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 5: like the Jewles, Lebron specific videos about it. I think 131 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 5: she's very, very funny and charismatic. I just feel like 132 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 5: probably worrid Use is it's hit its peak, and now 133 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:06,480 Speaker 5: it will I think it will exist around though, like 134 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 5: Millie said, I think it's now kind of in the lexicon, 135 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 5: but it's not going to be the same level of 136 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 5: like so many posts about demure all the time, all 137 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 5: the time, all the time. 138 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 2: Once the brands get a hold of it, it's it's 139 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 2: a problem. They ruin it. But I think, yeah, being 140 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 2: the opposite of demure, being like ostentatious, being a little flashy. 141 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 2: That's part of the fun of being young. Okay, Millennials, 142 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 2: we were never demure growing up. If you could see 143 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 2: the platform heals that I wore to the club, like, oh, 144 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: there was nothing demure about that. 145 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 4: So like let people live. 146 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 2: Yes, all right, Milly, we were watching your stand up 147 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 2: comedy before we came on the air. You're cracking us up. 148 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: Body positivity is a theme and a lot of your 149 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 2: comedy material, and even you even found a way to 150 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 2: incorporate the Renaissance Fair into that narrative. Please tell us 151 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 2: more about that, because I am the first one at 152 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 2: the Renaissance Fair in the springtime. 153 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 6: You know, every time someone thinks about the Renaissance Fair, 154 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 6: I just see like titties, like like just like the 155 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 6: steps in a courset and all that stuff, and it's 156 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 6: just like, you know, society kind of disregards fat women, 157 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 6: and it's like it's not like it's like you're lesser 158 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 6: than you know, the way that people treat women in general, 159 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 6: and especially if you're a plus sized woman, you know, 160 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 6: it's like you're not desired, you're not important. You're like 161 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 6: discussing on to it's time for the Renaissance Fair, and 162 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 6: then they want you to wear that. They want you 163 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 6: to stuff your biggest titties in a court set and 164 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 6: eat a turkey leg and all that, and it's like 165 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 6: now you guys want to And it's just like I 166 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 6: exist most you know, three hundred and sixty days a year. 167 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: That stuff. 168 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 4: That's my standard. 169 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:50,719 Speaker 5: The other five are the Renaissance Fair, are the Renaissance 170 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 5: or someone else? 171 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:53,440 Speaker 4: And then I'm someone else exactly. 172 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 6: So you know, I like to use comedy as a 173 00:08:56,040 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 6: way to examine how we treat people and know and 174 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 6: things that I don't like and it's like, okay, you're 175 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 6: treating me like shit. Now, but wait, do I wear 176 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 6: a corset and then you're gonna talk to me? You 177 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 6: want me to come and eat a turkey legs? Oh 178 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 6: my god. 179 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 2: Well I think that speaks to how attitudes around women's 180 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 2: bodies have changed throughout history. I mean there was a 181 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 2: time when fuller figured bodies that was it, like that 182 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 2: was what you wanted. And and you know, society now 183 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 2: unfortunately has been a lot more critical of women's bodies 184 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 2: and a lot more critical of larger bodies. 185 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 6: Yeah, this was a conversation with me and at last 186 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 6: we are having on the pot about Bridgerton because Penelope, 187 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 6: you know, the girl that played Panelica and Nicola Coughlin, Yes, 188 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 6: she got a lot of like, there's a lot of people. 189 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:45,680 Speaker 6: There's this one writer who is from the UK that 190 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 6: was like, this is so unrealistic that the fact girl 191 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 6: gets to Princid is like, first of all, she's hot, 192 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 6: she's like not even technically a plus size, she's you know, 193 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 6: standard size. 194 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 4: And also that. 195 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:02,319 Speaker 6: Guy is a mid ap best and also yeah that 196 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 6: it probably more accurate, like a fuller figured woman with 197 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 6: nice skin and a nice face, thank you, like Nicety. 198 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 5: Scrunched up in that little I just heard that in corsets, 199 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 5: because it's like they have the. 200 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,840 Speaker 3: Little empire waste. You're all scrunched up in that little 201 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 3: empire waste. 202 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 6: Listen, Titty sitting high like the empire statement. 203 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 4: So hot? 204 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 1: Okay, so hard, guys. I feel like we already started 205 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 1: popping off, but I feel like it's time to officially 206 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,719 Speaker 1: pop off. Are you ready? Can't wait? Okay, here's our 207 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: first topic. 208 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 6: We're ready, We're born popping off? 209 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 4: All right. 210 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 2: First up, it seems that a love story that we 211 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 2: have all been following for over twenty years has finally 212 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 2: come to an end, which means I've been following this 213 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 2: love story for over half my life. This week, after 214 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 2: months of speculation and media scrutiny, Jennifer Lopez filed for 215 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 2: divorce from Ben Affleck. And what is unique about this 216 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 2: is that Jennifer filed for divorce on her own, meaning 217 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 2: she did not file with an attorney. And here's the 218 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 2: biggest and there is no prenup. 219 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: Oh it's so wild. 220 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 5: This is this Ben's sign of prenup. Yeah, that's interesting. 221 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 1: I heard someone say this morning, uh my rich BFF 222 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: Vivian two in a clip she said, uh, either you 223 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: have a prenup or the government makes one for you. 224 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 1: There's a prenup either way, because like either you're dividing 225 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: your assets or they are. And it's like, how do 226 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: you go into a marriage. As to celebrities, she's been 227 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: she's married, she's been married so many times. 228 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 3: She knows how this goes. Yes, yeah, that surprises me. 229 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 4: I don't know. 230 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 6: I feel like Ben is so I don't think Ben's 231 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 6: going to be fighting for her or trying to take 232 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 6: her shit. Like I don't know, Uh, Like I would 233 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 6: like to think, like not that I'm team Ben, your 234 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 6: team Jen. I'm just like, I don't think he's going 235 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:52,200 Speaker 6: to be doing that. I think that he's made it 236 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:53,719 Speaker 6: so clear that he doesn't want to be in a 237 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:55,439 Speaker 6: relationship with her and all this stuff. 238 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 4: I feel like he's so checked out. 239 00:11:57,800 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 6: He's not going to be fighting her for like. 240 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:02,560 Speaker 3: So do you think there you think he checked out? 241 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 6: That's what the narrative is, right, is that he's like, oh, 242 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 6: she pushed me to I couldn't deal with her celebrity 243 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 6: blah blah blah blase blase, cry baby shit. So I'm 244 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 6: thinking that he's not I don't think he's gonna fight her. 245 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: She's the one who filed for doors. I think she 246 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:19,960 Speaker 1: checked out. I don't know. 247 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 6: It's kind of okay, this is my and this is 248 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 6: not confirmed. This is just the theory, okay, right, But 249 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 6: it's like, I think men are obsessed with being the 250 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 6: good guys quote unquote, but it's like maybe in all 251 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:39,480 Speaker 6: but like officially he's like, it's just like they make 252 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 6: it so shitty that it's like so that you break 253 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 6: up with them so that they can still be the 254 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 6: good guys. Like, well, I didn't want this, and it's say, Okay, 255 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 6: you're not really here, You're not really excited to be 256 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 6: with me, You're kind of a downer all the time, 257 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 6: You're blaming me for everything. And then finally when I like, 258 00:12:57,720 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 6: clearly you want to break up with me, but you 259 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 6: don't have the balls to do it, and then I 260 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 6: have to be the one to do it, and then 261 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:04,079 Speaker 6: I'm the bitch. 262 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 1: So I think it's important to note that she filed 263 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:11,320 Speaker 1: for divorce on the two year anniversary of their wedding 264 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 1: in Georgia, on the exact day, and she's the way. 265 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys watched the movie that 266 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 1: she made, but Alice, this is an ode to you. 267 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,079 Speaker 1: There's a lot of astrology in the movie, and there 268 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: is a lot of. 269 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 3: Astrology in the movie. Jennifer is really into. 270 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 1: Meaning and symbols and dates and full circle moments, and 271 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,080 Speaker 1: so I think that her filing for divorce on the 272 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:42,400 Speaker 1: anniversary of their wedding date was significant for her. You 273 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: could have filed any day. You filed that day, just 274 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: the way that he bought a new house on her birthday. 275 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: Here's the thing that I'm waiting for. 276 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:53,560 Speaker 2: I am waiting for everyone to chime in and attack 277 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 2: this woman for getting married and getting divorced so many times. 278 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: That's already happened on TikTok. 279 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure. But we don't do the same thing 280 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:00,959 Speaker 4: to men. 281 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 2: I mean, look at like Robert de Niro, for example, 282 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 2: he has he has several different baby mamas. He's been 283 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 2: married and divorced several times. We do not do the 284 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 2: same thing to men. 285 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: And I. 286 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 2: Think that actually, more than anything else, this is this 287 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 2: is an indication of Jennifer Lopez exercising her freedom as 288 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 2: a woman who has worked very hard in her career, 289 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 2: who has a lot of money. She doesn't have to 290 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 2: stay with someone that she doesn't want to be with. 291 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 5: No, she certainly doesn't have to stay with someone she 292 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 5: doesn't want to be with. 293 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 3: And I don't care. 294 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 5: I think people can get married and divorced as much 295 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 5: as they want. 296 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 3: I do think that she brought a. 297 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 5: Little bit of this people, you know, people who are 298 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 5: making fun. 299 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:45,239 Speaker 1: Of her online. 300 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 5: I think she brought some of that to her doorstep 301 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 5: when she did make the documentary and the kind of 302 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:54,840 Speaker 5: like music video film all about her, like all she's 303 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 5: ever sought in her life is love, and then she 304 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 5: found her ultimate love story with Ben and now they're. 305 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 3: Like not long later. 306 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 5: I do think you bring a little bit of people 307 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 5: side eyeing you when that's part of the entire narrative. 308 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 5: But I don't care that she's getting divorced or married 309 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 5: or this or that. 310 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily a moral failing, but 311 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 6: it's you know, there's this conversation a lot with influencers, 312 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 6: a lot with all kinds of people where it's like, 313 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 6: how dare you not respect my private life? And it's like, babe, 314 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 6: you market it off your private life like you want 315 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 6: us to see it, you want us to consume. And 316 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 6: then this is kind of like why people don't market, 317 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 6: you know, and don't do that and don't. 318 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 4: Make the things. 319 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 6: And and there's a clear moment in the documentary where 320 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 6: she's reading his love letters to her out loud in 321 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 6: front of her staff, and you can tell that he's 322 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 6: uncomfortable not to say that he's perfect, not to say 323 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 6: that she's a monster, whatever. 324 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 4: But it's just like. 325 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 6: There was I could totally see that the vibe that 326 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 6: she wants to be public and not and open, and 327 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:05,960 Speaker 6: that's her right as an artist. And also like, yeah, 328 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 6: you should kind of know if you're gonna get with 329 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 6: the musician or a poet or anything, they're gonna mind 330 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 6: their life for art. But then I could see that 331 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 6: there was a clear kind of disconnect with like him 332 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 6: wanting more privacy and him not mining his life for art. 333 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 2: There's one more thing that I have to add to 334 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 2: this conversation, and I'm honestly giggling, like it's gonna be 335 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 2: hard for me to get this out. Alex Rodriguez, Jennifer 336 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 2: Lopez's ex, wrote a very cryptic demure message on his 337 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 2: Instagram story. I'm gonna see if anybody else here can 338 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 2: understand what this means, because I certainly don't. He said, 339 00:16:43,560 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 2: you either go one way or the other, you might 340 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 2: as well be the one deciding the direction, and then 341 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 2: he signed it Alex Rodriguez. Okay, I feel like that's 342 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 2: just like so vague, like what are we doing here, 343 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 2: eh Ron? 344 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 5: It's giving aim away message lee to me where it's 345 00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 5: like the person who needs to know who these lyrics 346 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 5: are for will know, yes. 347 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 3: Why I'm away right. 348 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 6: So this is as a Dominican woman, a rod is 349 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:18,560 Speaker 6: a Dominican man and nothing. And let me tell you 350 00:17:18,600 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 6: this cryptic thing. Nothing hurts a Dominican man more than 351 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 6: a woman who leaves after he's been being a terrible 352 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 6: partner and she finally leaves and he's like, oh, how 353 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 6: could you? So he has his posting he is someone 354 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:39,919 Speaker 6: he definitely needs to go touch grass, hopefully baseball grass. 355 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:43,479 Speaker 6: But he has someone who has never gone over gotten 356 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 6: over that she left him. 357 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:46,480 Speaker 4: The jet ski. 358 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 6: Thing, how he circled him and his friends circled her 359 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 6: yacht with jet skis. He's posted like pictures after she 360 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 6: dumped him, pictures of them like Tibachata music, like he's 361 00:17:58,600 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 6: just down bad. 362 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 4: If you haven't seen down bad, you know. 363 00:18:02,520 --> 00:18:06,439 Speaker 6: I'll tell you guys off Mike some some tea that 364 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 6: I know about him, like he has nobody has hurt 365 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:14,440 Speaker 6: more than him, and it's like, listen, he's he's probably 366 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 6: like thinking he'll get a chance again because. 367 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: J Lo's down buddy. 368 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 6: No, he's down bad, and he's he doesn't make any sense. 369 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 2: Can't say I've ever had an ex circle mayat on 370 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 2: jet Skis, have you, Danielle? 371 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. That hasn't happened to me. We're 372 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 1: hitting pause on Popping Off with Elise Morales and Millie Tomawes, 373 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:48,040 Speaker 1: but we'll be right back. Stick with us and we're 374 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:52,560 Speaker 1: back to Popping Off with Elise Morales and Millie Tomates. Okay, 375 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 1: so this one we're talking about in your honor Millie 376 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,320 Speaker 1: and Elise, because this is some TikTok drums. 377 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 3: Are you ready ready, so ready? 378 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: Okay? New York TikTokers Hallie Kate and Sophia La Court Yes, 379 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 1: are in a love triangle with this man read Williams. 380 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: So Hallie Kate has one point three million followers on TikTok. 381 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 1: She like specifically blew up in the last few months 382 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 1: because this is horrible, but she got punched in the 383 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: face in New York walking down the street. 384 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 3: She was one of those oh yes that was going 385 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 3: on for a while. 386 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: And she like recorded the whole experience. 387 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 4: Oh god, poor girl. 388 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually find her very entertaining. Uh, the Internet's 389 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 1: not loving all of them right now. Because so Hallie 390 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:38,679 Speaker 1: dated Read for nine months and then shortly after they 391 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,680 Speaker 1: broke up, she found out that her friend, who is 392 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:44,959 Speaker 1: another TikToker, Sophia, started dating him, and so she posted 393 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,640 Speaker 1: a video about this situation and it started this much 394 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 1: larger conversation online about homie hopping, which, if you don't 395 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:54,520 Speaker 1: know what homie hopping is, it's basically hopping from homie 396 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: to homie aka dating multiple friends in a friend group. 397 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: What do you guys think, MILLI least I'm giving it 398 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:03,200 Speaker 1: to the internet officionados. 399 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 5: Okay, I have a couple immediate thoughts homie hopping. I 400 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:11,719 Speaker 5: don't see you here. It's so funny to even use 401 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 5: that phrase. My thoughts on homie hopping are as follows. 402 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 5: I think that if your friend group can actually handle it, 403 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:22,640 Speaker 5: then yeah, I guess you're allowed to date people who 404 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:26,399 Speaker 5: have dated your friend as long as there was a 405 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:30,720 Speaker 5: mutual breakup. That what didn't involve any like super bad 406 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 5: behavior on either side. I just don't think that I've 407 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 5: actually seen it play. 408 00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: Out very well in real life. 409 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 5: If it's more of an extended group of young people 410 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 5: MILLI and I come up from the improv comedy scene, 411 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,960 Speaker 5: is that's obviously like, that's a larger community of young 412 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 5: people who are all friends and stuff like. 413 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 4: I think. 414 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,160 Speaker 5: I think it depends on how big of the group, 415 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 5: Like would it count as homie hopping that it's just 416 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 5: all a bunch of people who are in the New 417 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:03,919 Speaker 5: York comedy scene and are dating and hooking up with 418 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 5: each other, but they all are acquaintances and know each other. 419 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 1: I don't know. 420 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 3: That's kind of a different deal. 421 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 5: I think that if you are actually in a very 422 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 5: semi small friend group and everyone's dating each other, I 423 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 5: think it's hard to pull off. 424 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 1: You're being so nice about this. I would die if 425 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 1: my girlfriend dated my ex boyfriend. I would be deceased. 426 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 6: Yes, this is what I'm gonna say. Now, I'm gonna 427 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 6: pop off. At least have the politically correct answer. 428 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:31,120 Speaker 4: I say. 429 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,160 Speaker 6: I kind of thought, like, oh, a girl dating multiple 430 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,159 Speaker 6: guy friends, that's fine. 431 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,040 Speaker 4: Men aren't even good. 432 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 6: Friends to each other and you don't know how to 433 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 6: have real relationships. But homie hopping with women. No, no, no, no, nope, 434 00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:48,080 Speaker 6: that's not okay. And to me, I say, look, you 435 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:50,119 Speaker 6: can do and this is what I feel like a 436 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 6: lot of people on the internet, especially gen Z, don't 437 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,720 Speaker 6: get You can do whatever you want. You could date 438 00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 6: whoever you want, but there'll be consequences. 439 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 4: Dat my ex. 440 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 6: Go ahead, You're not gonna go to jail. This is America, okay. 441 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 1: But I'm a friend. 442 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:08,320 Speaker 6: You lose me as a friend. I'm not gonna fuck 443 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 6: with you. I'm not gonna tell people that you're cool. 444 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:12,640 Speaker 6: I'm gonna tell my friends to keep their men's away 445 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 6: from you. If if you heard me talk about oh 446 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,320 Speaker 6: my god, my ex this and that, and then you 447 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,639 Speaker 6: talk to him, Okay, if it's if there's more than 448 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,639 Speaker 6: a two year gap, girl, you're gonna have to let 449 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 6: it go. You're gonna have to let it go hashtag 450 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 6: a Rod. 451 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:26,920 Speaker 4: But if it. 452 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,680 Speaker 6: Is if Jane d a Rod's friend, a Rod can't 453 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 6: do anything. Yes, women can, Holmi hop men can't. Sorry, 454 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 6: I don't make the rules. 455 00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go ahead and say something that I think 456 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 2: at least one other person listening will relate to tell 457 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 2: us I feel really old right now, you guys, because 458 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 2: I don't know who any of these people are. 459 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 4: Hallie kay, so feeling I. 460 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: Don't, I feel I feel so old. 461 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 2: And also this makes me think of that scandal that 462 00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 2: happened with the Mormon Wives a while ago. 463 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 6: Yes, yes, the Mormon Singers. 464 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 4: That's gonna be a. 465 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:04,639 Speaker 1: Free form show. 466 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 2: Yes, they're getting a TV show, the Secret Lives of 467 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,640 Speaker 2: Mormon Wives, and I will be watching. 468 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,720 Speaker 6: Yeah no, that Trainla looks good. Sorry, Real Housewoves of 469 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 6: Salt Lake City. 470 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 3: I will be seated for that. Absolutely. 471 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 5: And this is a common problem to speak to what 472 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 5: you were just saying, Like, that's a common problem that 473 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,879 Speaker 5: Millie and I have to have as we're creating Go 474 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,479 Speaker 5: Touch grass is where like who's fighting with who and 475 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 5: they're on the What channel and they're doing like it 476 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 5: is a lot of deep dives into the most random 477 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,080 Speaker 5: people in the world, because fame is like such a 478 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:39,400 Speaker 5: scattered thing. Now that someone can have three million TikTok followers, yes, 479 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,919 Speaker 5: who avidly follow everything that they do, and I'm like, 480 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 5: she's who and she dated this one and they're best 481 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 5: friends with hoopst. 482 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,359 Speaker 2: Okay, there's another term that's sparky in debate online. This 483 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 2: one's not necessarily about relationships but about parenting. So, my 484 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,239 Speaker 2: oldest son just started elementary school last week, and one 485 00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 2: of the most startling realizations of this whole process is 486 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 2: the peace. Like we grew up watching movies where the 487 00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:07,040 Speaker 2: PTA moms are? You know, these fixtures and films or 488 00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:09,800 Speaker 2: TV shows. It's something I heard about my whole life, 489 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 2: but it was really confronting to walk into my son's 490 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 2: school orientation and be like, oh, yeah, the PTA is 491 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,680 Speaker 2: a thing that I might have to get involved with now. 492 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:21,440 Speaker 2: And it's kind of overwhelming because you know, school participation, 493 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,440 Speaker 2: parents participating in your kids school. It's going to help 494 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 2: your students succeed, it's going to help the school succeed. 495 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,840 Speaker 2: But it takes a lot of time. There's PTA meetings, 496 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 2: there's fundraisers, community events. It's a lot. And there's a 497 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,880 Speaker 2: mom online from Tennessee who is putting her foot down 498 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 2: on all of the requirements, everything that's asked of parents 499 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 2: and offering a new perspective on school participation. So she 500 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:45,400 Speaker 2: calls herself a Venmo mom, and she took to TikTok 501 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 2: to say that she'd rather venmo money to support her kids' 502 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 2: schools and activities instead of volunteering her time in the classroom. 503 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,640 Speaker 2: And she says that she's obviously going to make sure 504 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,680 Speaker 2: that her kids do their homework and get to school 505 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 2: on time, you know, the basic stuff. But she just 506 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,080 Speaker 2: gets it's a little stress whenever she's asked to volunteer 507 00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:06,119 Speaker 2: and instead she wants to show her support financially. What 508 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:08,399 Speaker 2: do you guys think about this? Is this a valid 509 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 2: way to support your kid's school, to support your kid's education. 510 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 6: I feel like I think that you know, they say 511 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,719 Speaker 6: money can buy happiness, but money can solve problems. And 512 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 6: I say, throw money at any problem, anything, anything that 513 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 6: you're anxious about, anything that you don't like, you can 514 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 6: throw money. 515 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 4: At it and it will help. 516 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 6: If you don't like your brows, you don't like this, 517 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 6: throw money at it. And if you don't want to participate, listen, 518 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 6: of course, know who your kids teachers are, whatever, this 519 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:42,640 Speaker 6: and that, but don't volunteer and do something begrudgingly and whatever. 520 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 6: If you don't want to do it, send them fifty 521 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 6: dollars and keep it moving. I was also saying, you know, 522 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,680 Speaker 6: this is in lou again. Again, it's not in lieu 523 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,479 Speaker 6: of like, oh, I don't even I'm not completely checked out. 524 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:56,359 Speaker 6: I don't care. I don't even a fuck about it. No, 525 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,040 Speaker 6: it's in lieu of like, hey, can you bake cookies 526 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,439 Speaker 6: for the bake sale? And it's like, no, here's fifty 527 00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 6: dollars right right exactly, which I think is fine. 528 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,640 Speaker 4: And also I would say that as someone. 529 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 6: Who bakes for attention, like people people who like baking 530 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:13,680 Speaker 6: love baking. 531 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 4: And want people, you know, they. 532 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: Do it for the money for attention. I've never heard that. 533 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:20,760 Speaker 1: Well what do you think it, Kelly? 534 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 5: Oh I, Milli bro It was actually two flons. Milly 535 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 5: brought a fa a flon to gorgeous flonds to my birthday. 536 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 3: They were so good. 537 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 5: She did get attention and I was happy to give 538 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:37,800 Speaker 5: it to her. 539 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,280 Speaker 1: Wow, Millie, you're invited to my birthday next year. 540 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,119 Speaker 3: Listen, I'll make a flw Yeah, no, I want to. 541 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 3: It was amazing. 542 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,600 Speaker 5: And that's the other thing is that, like Millie's flawn 543 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:53,520 Speaker 5: was on point because Millie wanted to make that flawn. 544 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 3: I don't want to. 545 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:58,160 Speaker 5: Eat cookies that were baked under duress. I don't want 546 00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 5: to eat sad cupcakes that you didn't want to make 547 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 5: and that you're throwing together. Like, some people are motivated 548 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 5: to do that stuff and they derive a lot of 549 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 5: joy out of doing it, and God bless them. But 550 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,680 Speaker 5: if you're not one of them, as long as you're 551 00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:16,760 Speaker 5: like providing something and that thing maybe a venmo, I 552 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:20,720 Speaker 5: think you're participating normally. I think what you described like 553 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 5: that this person is still engaged with what's happening in 554 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 5: their kids classroom. They're making sure their homework is getting done, 555 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 5: but not everybody is into volunteering in the classroom or 556 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:35,159 Speaker 5: has the time and energy to do that. Like I 557 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 5: remember when I was a kid because my mom just 558 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 5: my mom always worked, so there was like one time 559 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 5: I think she was able to come on the field trip, 560 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 5: whereas there were other parents who like they were there 561 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,120 Speaker 5: every single time, and no one was doing parenting wrong 562 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 5: or right in that scenario. 563 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,159 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Well, I think that like 564 00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 1: it seems from and someone tell me what you think, 565 00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 1: but it seems from all my girlfriends that have kids 566 00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 1: in school that schools are not really set up for 567 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:06,119 Speaker 1: working parents, and so it's really it seems really tough. 568 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,360 Speaker 1: I get where she's coming from. I will say, I 569 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 1: remember being so excited when my mom or dad was 570 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: coming to school, like it was such a big deal. 571 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 1: And I thought, my mom is coming and like yeah, 572 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,320 Speaker 1: just like looking at her and she would read to 573 00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,119 Speaker 1: the class and I would be like, isn't she so beautiful? 574 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,879 Speaker 1: Like I was just so excited. So I don't know, 575 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,919 Speaker 1: I mean, if you have the time, I feel like 576 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:29,199 Speaker 1: your kids really appreciate it. 577 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 2: I remember my mom coming and doing what we called 578 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,840 Speaker 2: was like lunch bunch, where I guess you would swap 579 00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,919 Speaker 2: lunches or something and then you would get a story 580 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,560 Speaker 2: read to you. And my mom was super involved and 581 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 2: she would come and volunteer. She was actually an educator, 582 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,120 Speaker 2: so it was a real natural fit for her. And 583 00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 2: I really appreciated it too. 584 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 4: I do think at. 585 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:48,840 Speaker 2: Least you brought up a great point, like volunteering is 586 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,000 Speaker 2: a privilege for a lot of folks. You know, if 587 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 2: you have a full time job and you're let's say, 588 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 2: you know, a single parent, you don't really have the 589 00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 2: option of, you know, expending all this extra energy to volunteer. 590 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 2: And I actually read a comment on this woman's video 591 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,479 Speaker 2: from a PTA president in another state and she was like, listen, 592 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 2: we embrace support in all forms. If you want to 593 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 2: volunteer your time, we will take it. If you want 594 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 2: to volunteer your money, we will take it. So let's 595 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 2: not be you know, snobby or particular about how parents 596 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:18,880 Speaker 2: are showing up for their kids. 597 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 6: Yeah, and I feel like, to go to Danielle's point, 598 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:26,240 Speaker 6: is so happy that your mom showed up. And it's 599 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,080 Speaker 6: like because she wasn't there every day because it was 600 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 6: one a year, maybe that your mom came through. And 601 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 6: that's what I'm saying, you don't have to feel ashamed 602 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:36,080 Speaker 6: for not I don't know. 603 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 4: I'm just like if I have kids, like, I'm still gonna. 604 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: Have a life? 605 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 4: Am I life? 606 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 6: You be my kids? You know someone you look like 607 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 6: your life is popping popping off? 608 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,719 Speaker 5: I mean, I do feel like sometimes and maybe this 609 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 5: is a tale as old as time, but I do 610 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 5: see it in my friends who are becoming parents, and 611 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 5: just like parenthood related content I'm consuming online that sometimes. 612 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,720 Speaker 3: There's this attitude of like, if you are not. 613 00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:09,120 Speaker 5: Donating every single ounce of your free time to being 614 00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:11,719 Speaker 5: in the classroom and doing all this stuff, that you 615 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,640 Speaker 5: are not prioritizing. 616 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 3: Your child properly. 617 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:20,000 Speaker 5: But I feel like I think that I benefited from 618 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 5: seeing my parents having a social life and my parents 619 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,080 Speaker 5: having work and my parents I knew that I was 620 00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 5: the center of my parents world, that they loved me 621 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 5: so much that I could always go to them. But 622 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:29,720 Speaker 5: I also knew that they had other things going on 623 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 5: in their life, that they had friends, that they had 624 00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 5: things that they were pursuing. And I think it's valuable 625 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 5: for kids to see that too, like for them to 626 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 5: see their parents as a whole person. Like I knew 627 00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,880 Speaker 5: who my parents' best buddies were from high school and 628 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,280 Speaker 5: then also later on in life, and like sometimes they 629 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 5: would go on a vacation and we would stay with family, 630 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 5: Like you know, I feel like sometimes the narrative online 631 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,200 Speaker 5: is like, especially for mothers, is that you have to 632 00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 5: put aside all your social life, your hobbies, everything has 633 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 5: to go aside so that you can be one hundred 634 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 5: percent present for every single event thing, this, that, and 635 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,720 Speaker 5: the other. And I don't even think that that's necessarily 636 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 5: helpful for a kid. 637 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:11,800 Speaker 2: No, And I don't think it's healthy for the parents either. 638 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,960 Speaker 2: There is a loss of identity that happens too. 639 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 5: I will say, shout out my parents had a rag 640 00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:22,680 Speaker 5: er of a year two thousand New Year's party at 641 00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:25,760 Speaker 5: my house when I was a kid that I remember 642 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,720 Speaker 5: very fondly, but don't think that I fully understood the 643 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 5: level of rager that was taking place at the house 644 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 5: to pop off. 645 00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 1: You got it. 646 00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 6: I believe in you. 647 00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 2: I'm here. 648 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 5: I mean today, my little sister was there, all the 649 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 5: kids were there, the kids went to sleep. We had 650 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 5: like kind of a little My dad had an office 651 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 5: in like our backyard, so they were like, all the 652 00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 5: kids can go sleep in the backyard. We are having 653 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 5: a giant millennium party because maybe all the computers are 654 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,200 Speaker 5: going to shut down. I forget what Y two k was, 655 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 5: but they partied at my house on the year two thousand, 656 00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,200 Speaker 5: and it's a fond memory of mine. 657 00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 4: Sounds like a time I believe in you. 658 00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,840 Speaker 6: Simon Venmo, Mom, Venmo, and plan that party. 659 00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,640 Speaker 2: Listen, Venmo, me and I'll plan the party. Okay, what 660 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 2: about party planning? 661 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:09,680 Speaker 4: Mom? 662 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 2: That's instead of president. Can I be like the flon mom? Mom, Mom, 663 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:19,480 Speaker 2: listen the flanty. You could be the fl. 664 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 5: I love flante Wow flnty, Oh my god. 665 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:26,280 Speaker 1: Okay, we're ending on that. Alise Morales and Flante Millie. 666 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,040 Speaker 1: They are the hosts of the podcast Go Touch Grass. 667 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: Thanks for popping off with us, guys. 668 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 3: Oh I loved popping off with you guys. Thanks for 669 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 3: having us. 670 00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 6: I loved it. You guys are awesome. 671 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: Alise Morales and Millie Tomares are the hosts of the 672 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,280 Speaker 1: podcast Go Touch Grass. You can find them at Milly 673 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,800 Speaker 1: Underscore tomorrows and at Pandalise on social. 674 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 2: We need to take a quick break, but when we 675 00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 2: come back, we're reminiscing on our college days and talking 676 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,520 Speaker 2: about how we do things differently if we were in 677 00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 2: college today and we're back, Danielle, I hate to admit it, 678 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:13,200 Speaker 2: but it's late August. I am so sad about this. 679 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,200 Speaker 2: We are officially approaching the end of summer. 680 00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:18,280 Speaker 1: And I know you're a summer girl, but I have 681 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 1: to tell you, as a Midwesterner, I love fall. I'm 682 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 1: excited about it. It's my favorite season. Okay, tell me more. Okay, 683 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:27,800 Speaker 1: not in LA but everywhere else. The leaves change colors, 684 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: the air gets brisker, you pull out your fall wardrobe, 685 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 1: and even though summer's ending, it's the season for heading 686 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 1: off to college for new beginnings. And I remember being 687 00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:40,920 Speaker 1: in college and being so excited to see all of 688 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: your besties again and picking out fun stuff for your 689 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,120 Speaker 1: college dorm room, and while you were going to wear 690 00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 1: it a class. 691 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:47,960 Speaker 2: You know what, You're so right, there's a bright side 692 00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:51,560 Speaker 2: in every season. I'm trying to think back to my 693 00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 2: first day of college and what I wore. 694 00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 4: I can't remember, do you? 695 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,720 Speaker 1: Oh? I remember exactly. I have photos with my best 696 00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 1: friend from high school. We both ended up going to 697 00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 1: the Universe City of Wisconsin, Madison, and I walked up 698 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,360 Speaker 1: this huge bascom hill with her. I was so nervous. 699 00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:07,680 Speaker 1: I was wearing denim jeans, a tight white tank top 700 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,920 Speaker 1: with like a western brown belt, and a green shrug. 701 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 1: Do you remember? Shrugs refresh my memory? Like they cover 702 00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:16,400 Speaker 1: your arms, like they're like this. 703 00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:20,520 Speaker 2: Oh yes, I remember the shrug era. There were sequin shrugs. 704 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 2: There were all different kinds of shrugs. 705 00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:25,520 Speaker 1: Okay, So, in the spirit of first today, we're gonna 706 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,000 Speaker 1: have a little fun in partnership with Walmart. We're going 707 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 1: to talk about what we would wear and bring with 708 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 1: us if we were going to college now in twenty 709 00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 1: twenty four. Don't we want to redo? Oh well, I'm 710 00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 1: in college in my mind still, So I love this. 711 00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:39,880 Speaker 1: That's true. Okay, do it. So if you were a 712 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,839 Speaker 1: college student, now, what would you wear on your first day? 713 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: What would your style be? 714 00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:48,280 Speaker 2: I think instead of trying to impress anyone, I would 715 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:52,400 Speaker 2: be comfy and cute in gorpcore all the way. Yeah, 716 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,520 Speaker 2: I love you know. I love the outdoorsy camping aesthetic. 717 00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:57,840 Speaker 2: So if you're not familiar with this brand, it's all 718 00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:01,600 Speaker 2: about fleece vests, hiking boots, hofers, cargo pants. 719 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 4: It's style and function. 720 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:04,960 Speaker 2: Basically, I would want to be able to go on 721 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:06,279 Speaker 2: a hike as soon as class ends. 722 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:07,759 Speaker 4: Okay, how about you? 723 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,680 Speaker 1: This one is hard. I actually think that it would 724 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,160 Speaker 1: be a mix of activewear and streetwear, which is my 725 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,400 Speaker 1: style now. I like comfy, but like a little bit 726 00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:20,319 Speaker 1: of edge. And I have to tell you, denim on 727 00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:22,160 Speaker 1: Denim is my go to when I don't know what 728 00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 1: to wear, because I feel like you can't go wrong. 729 00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: It's chic, it's casual, it looks like you tried, but 730 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:29,760 Speaker 1: you didn't try hard. So I'm going with the chic, classic, 731 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,839 Speaker 1: cool Canadian tuxedo. Can't go wrong. 732 00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so we've talked about what we would wear 733 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:35,160 Speaker 2: on the streets. 734 00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:36,560 Speaker 1: What about inside? 735 00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:40,000 Speaker 2: If we're indoors in our dorm room, how would you 736 00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,480 Speaker 2: decorate your dorm room today. 737 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 1: So you're more the interiors girl, This one's hard for me. 738 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,959 Speaker 1: I think I would just go with something in line 739 00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: with my personal style, which is like lo fi, muted tones, flexible, 740 00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:56,240 Speaker 1: gender neutral designs. I'd keep the vibes fluid and free 741 00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 1: and definitely a little nostalgic. I love a photo wall 742 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,560 Speaker 1: of memories. I made a poster for my college dorm 743 00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,640 Speaker 1: room with like all my high school photos of friends 744 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,320 Speaker 1: and family, so cute. 745 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,880 Speaker 2: I actually tend to be more lo fi now, But 746 00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,040 Speaker 2: I think if I were doing it over again, I 747 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:12,160 Speaker 2: might go in the other direction. 748 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:13,040 Speaker 4: I might be eclectic. 749 00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:14,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, I see that for you. 750 00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,800 Speaker 2: Embrace the bold prince, the happy hues, the viby neons 751 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,120 Speaker 2: that set the stage for some main character energy. 752 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: The neons always come back into style. I love that idea. 753 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:27,200 Speaker 2: You know, I remember that feeling of picking out my 754 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:29,919 Speaker 2: dorm room decor. Yeah, it's such a big moment because 755 00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:33,239 Speaker 2: it's this first taste of real independence and agency and 756 00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,600 Speaker 2: you're out on your own, and it's this important part 757 00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,760 Speaker 2: of your self expression and development and at that age, 758 00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,360 Speaker 2: you want to try on all these different identities without 759 00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,239 Speaker 2: breaking the bank, of course, and it's like. 760 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,560 Speaker 1: The first time that you're showing people who you are 761 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,200 Speaker 1: without saying anything. You know, because people come visit your 762 00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,440 Speaker 1: dorm room, so you're you're expressing yourself, you're telling them something. 763 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,680 Speaker 1: So I want to talk about the tech because it's 764 00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:56,759 Speaker 1: an important part of the college dorm room experience, and 765 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,600 Speaker 1: it's also one of the most expensive pieces of gear 766 00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:01,600 Speaker 1: that you need when you go off to college. So 767 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:04,400 Speaker 1: what did you actually bring to college? And did you 768 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:05,920 Speaker 1: own a laptop or a smartphone? 769 00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,440 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to be dating myself here. I had 770 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:13,160 Speaker 2: a flip phone. What Yeah, smartphones were not around when 771 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:13,880 Speaker 2: I went to college. 772 00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:14,879 Speaker 4: You had a. 773 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,920 Speaker 1: Flip phone, not either like a sidekick or anything. 774 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,759 Speaker 4: No, maybe I was a ludd eyed at the time. 775 00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:21,160 Speaker 4: I don't know. 776 00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 2: Maybe I wasn't up on all the technology, but I 777 00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:26,359 Speaker 2: I had my flip phone, and then I also had 778 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,160 Speaker 2: a laptop of course. But here's the thing about laptops 779 00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,279 Speaker 2: back then. Do you remember how enormous and heavy they were? 780 00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:31,880 Speaker 5: Oh? 781 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean those laptops back then they must have 782 00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,280 Speaker 2: weighed what fifteen pounds? 783 00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:36,640 Speaker 4: Or something. 784 00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:40,359 Speaker 2: It's amazing how much more affordable and lightweight, high quality. 785 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:40,640 Speaker 4: Tech is today. 786 00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:42,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, we've come a long way. Like hold on, I 787 00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 1: have an example. 788 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,760 Speaker 2: Okay, so if I were going back to college today, 789 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:49,480 Speaker 2: I would bring a sleek, lightweight laptop with me like this. 790 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:53,239 Speaker 2: It's the HP fifteen point six inch laptop. Ooh and 791 00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:55,360 Speaker 2: feel it. You gotta feel. It's like light as a 792 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:55,879 Speaker 2: blether thin. 793 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very light, and I like the sheen. It's 794 00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:00,360 Speaker 1: like a nice silver purple. 795 00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 4: Thank you. 796 00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,520 Speaker 1: Very cool. Okay, how about for you? What is the 797 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,520 Speaker 1: must have tech if you were going to college? Okay, 798 00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,120 Speaker 1: so I'm bringing the fun because for me, it's all 799 00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:13,960 Speaker 1: about the Bow's quiet comfort noise canceling earphones. They're actually 800 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:17,239 Speaker 1: my favorite brand of headphone because not only do they 801 00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,560 Speaker 1: look cool, you need something that looks cool when you 802 00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:23,399 Speaker 1: walk through the airport, but most importantly, Bo's is known 803 00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:26,319 Speaker 1: for their audio quality. The noise cancelation makes it so 804 00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:29,120 Speaker 1: much easier to focus and study. I swear if I 805 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,200 Speaker 1: had a pair of these in college, my GPA would 806 00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:32,720 Speaker 1: have been at least like a half a point higher. 807 00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:35,960 Speaker 2: Okay, what about a digital camera? Did you have one 808 00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:36,640 Speaker 2: of those in college. 809 00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:39,759 Speaker 1: Of course, I had a flip camera for videos. Do 810 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:40,479 Speaker 1: you remember those? 811 00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:41,720 Speaker 4: A flip camera? 812 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 1: It was like a tiny Oh the flip cameras. Yes, yes, 813 00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,640 Speaker 1: digital camera was a must have in college. 814 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:49,319 Speaker 4: It was such a thing. 815 00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,120 Speaker 2: Remember we'd make the photo albums with all of our 816 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,080 Speaker 2: That was the original photo dump, was the digital camera 817 00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:55,800 Speaker 2: photo dump. 818 00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:56,240 Speaker 1: Yes. 819 00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:01,480 Speaker 2: I also love polaroids in addition to cameras, because the polaroids, 820 00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:05,239 Speaker 2: they just give you that nostalgic feeling that you can't replicate. 821 00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:10,240 Speaker 1: One thousand percent. It makes everything look cool like this. Oh, 822 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:15,520 Speaker 1: you brought the in Stax one Fujifilm Instax camera. Hell yeah, 823 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:15,759 Speaker 1: you know. 824 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:17,759 Speaker 2: I'm a polaroid girl all the way. I love the 825 00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:21,920 Speaker 2: nostalgic vibes. This is the Fujifilm in Stax camera. Ugh, 826 00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,399 Speaker 2: my trusty friend never let me down. Can we take one? 827 00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:26,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it. 828 00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:30,120 Speaker 1: I love that. 829 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,120 Speaker 4: Wait to hear this sound, it's epic. 830 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,600 Speaker 1: Okay, well we wait for that to load. Walmart has 831 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,839 Speaker 1: all of this and so much more so check out 832 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:42,320 Speaker 1: their full selection of college gear and top tech online 833 00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:43,360 Speaker 1: or in store. 834 00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:46,239 Speaker 2: Thanks to our partners at Walmart. Whatever your aesthetic is, 835 00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:53,040 Speaker 2: Walmart's got it. That's it for today's show. On Monday, 836 00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,560 Speaker 2: we're catching Flights not Feelings with Alexis Bowen. She's the 837 00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,640 Speaker 2: co founder of the travel company Elsewhere. 838 00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,800 Speaker 1: Listen and follow The bright Side on the iHeartRadio app, 839 00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:08,080 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. 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