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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, what's up, Michelby Toe, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Jordan Corlos? Oh my god, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: We gotta do it again.

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Speaker 2: Hey everyone, this is adulting. By the way, Thank you

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Speaker 2: so much for checking it. Listen, I was talking about

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Speaker 2: you the other day, only good things, of course, because

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Speaker 2: you know me, I'm gonna say it to your face.

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Speaker 2: And my friend goes, why do you always say Jordan's

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Speaker 2: last name when you talk about him? I was like,

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Speaker 2: Jordan Carlos.

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Speaker 1: Because it's a fun name. You have a fun name too,

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Speaker 1: you know, Michellete, I think it's.

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Speaker 2: Really fun to say last names. I think nicknames are

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Speaker 2: really fun. And I'm just like, but there's other Jordan's.

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Speaker 2: And she's like, ohh, I'm like sparked, like I couldn't

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Speaker 2: even like there's other Jordans. And it's such a great

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Speaker 2: name where it's like you could be any gender identity

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Speaker 2: and still have this cool fucking name and that's dope,

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Speaker 2: thank you. You know, like the one time I went

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Speaker 2: to Aspen, it was just a bunch of little, rich

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Speaker 2: white kids named Taylor.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Taylor, Bryce, Tate Musket.

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Speaker 3: You know what, Listen, I know I know my worth,

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Speaker 3: I know my name my name is fun because it's

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Speaker 3: like it's like a Wan Pablo, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: It's just like, yes, Jordan Carlos, you know, yes, the

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Speaker 3: emphasis can be on the second name. You know what

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Speaker 3: I'm saying, Carlos.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But like if you had a middle name that

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Speaker 2: you use all the time, I think it would ruin

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Speaker 2: it because it would just be giving ninety sitcom actor,

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Speaker 2: Like it'd be too many things for us to like

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Speaker 2: really try to separate you from the path.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. Jonathan Taylor Thomas, is that

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Speaker 1: what you're saying?

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Speaker 2: So many like all of them?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like do the work.

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Speaker 3: I think if I had my brothers, which I do,

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Speaker 3: I could actually take my mother's last name and do

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Speaker 3: that nineties actor thing because that's Jordan Carlos Nelson.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Jordan Carlos.

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Speaker 2: Come on, Yeah, that's giving like a day player on

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Speaker 2: Stave by the Bell and giving Erkele's best friend for

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Speaker 2: a three episode arc, like it's giving. I worked a lot,

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Speaker 2: but no one ever knows who I am. But I'm

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Speaker 2: still getting those checks even though I still work at

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Speaker 2: Trader Joe's. I one hundred motherfucker percent am on board

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Speaker 2: with adding your mom's last name when need be to

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Speaker 2: tell people how long.

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Speaker 1: You've been in the business.

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Speaker 3: Due Jordan Carlos Salson's been in the business a long time.

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Speaker 3: Was on a Moosia reboot which went nowhere on HBO Max,

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Speaker 3: And I'm glad to say I did it.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm so glad you're celebrating it because I

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Speaker 2: did fall asleep a little bit while you're telling me that.

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Speaker 2: But I also need more naps. I do love my name.

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Speaker 2: It is very hard for people because the last three

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Speaker 2: letters are My last name is Eau, which is water

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Speaker 2: in French, and people are still just like, what the

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Speaker 2: fuck is this? And I'm like, legit named after my dad.

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Speaker 2: His name is Michel Buteau, and so like I am

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Speaker 2: a junior. I tak it's a beautiful name. But I

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Speaker 2: do think he named me after him because he is

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Speaker 2: bad with names. And what I try to do was

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Speaker 2: like put my name into shit so people know how

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Speaker 2: to say it. And so my first comedy special is

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Speaker 2: called Welcome to Butopia. Yeah, but it only fucks people

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Speaker 2: like people like fuck my last name up even more

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Speaker 2: because it's like literally Buteau and then pa at the

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Speaker 2: end and he put it. Oh on it. This is

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Speaker 2: so boring. I'm actually like judging and falling asleep. Like

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Speaker 2: if this conversation, if this chat was on Dancing with

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Speaker 2: the Stars, it'd be like a two point two go back, Michelle.

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Speaker 3: You're fun to talk to. This isn't like an episode

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Speaker 3: of The Swans. All right, you can You're not boring me.

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Speaker 3: We're not talking to Gloria Vanderbilt here.

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Speaker 1: I love your name.

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Speaker 2: H the Vanderbilt.

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Speaker 3: You had this one Chateau Buteau, right, that was that

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Speaker 3: was your first talk show.

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Speaker 1: Let's go back.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, that was a pilot that never went through. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: actually it was. I think it was like twelve years

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Speaker 2: ago and I'm still waiting to hear for gets picked up.

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Speaker 1: You work on that. We were kids speech one. It

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. I'm not a malcop, but I do

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Speaker 2: have a segway. Oh god, there is no better segue

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Speaker 2: to our guest for this episode. When you talk about

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Speaker 2: what's in a name, when you talk about the feeling

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Speaker 2: you get when you hear someone's name. You know, Vanessa Williams,

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Speaker 2: who is a guess, is a fucking Black History Americana

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Speaker 2: royal tay.

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Speaker 1: She's so cool.

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Speaker 2: She came to slummit with us in Barrooklyn, you know,

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Speaker 2: just to see what the peoples are doing on the

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Speaker 2: other side. And not only does she come, she brought

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Speaker 2: her daughter, Lion Babe. I say lion Babe aka Julian.

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Speaker 2: Her name is Julian Herbie, but like you know, I

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Speaker 2: know her as Lion Babe, and I'm just like, this

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Speaker 2: is such a beautiful relationship and thing to witness where

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Speaker 2: you live your dream and you pass that seat on

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Speaker 2: of determination and creativity to your offspring, and it's.

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Speaker 1: Just like, oh fuck, it's amazing.

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Speaker 2: This is what not only America should be, but life

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Speaker 2: should be. And so y'all are gonna enjoy this episode, honey,

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Speaker 2: this episode should be called black Girl megic.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get into it.

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Speaker 3: Please give it a for Vanessa Williams and Jillian her Day.

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Speaker 1: Good lord, Oh.

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Speaker 2: Come on, I like that. I like that like Zoomba

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Speaker 2: warm up. Can I get it one more time?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, there we go, There we.

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Speaker 3: Go, and one and answered it is happening.

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Speaker 5: Then five more, everybody?

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Speaker 1: Why do they always want five more? Fuck them?

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Speaker 2: I don't like when trainers lie to me. They're looking

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Speaker 2: at my face. Two more, two more, I'm like, stop it.

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Speaker 1: They lose count, they lose count.

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Speaker 2: Can I tell you the last male trainer I had,

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Speaker 2: he was like, you're good? Isn't good enough? And this

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Speaker 2: was the warm up and so just like tears came

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Speaker 2: to my eyes as if I farted, like by accident,

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Speaker 2: you know. It was just like I couldn't even control it,

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Speaker 2: and I just go, I have to go, And I

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Speaker 2: ran away and never looked back. And I have a

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Speaker 2: female trainer and it feels good.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I've seen. But if it was such a.

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Speaker 2: Weird reaction I had because I was like, oh, this

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Speaker 2: is like you're the penut allergy. I was like, I

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Speaker 2: cannot listen to a man yell at me and tell

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Speaker 2: me what's good enough.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I only do. I only do female trainers

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Speaker 1: like online.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's creepy.

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Speaker 1: Why why is it okay?

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Speaker 6: What?

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Speaker 3: No, they're much better. They're just like they're like, you listen,

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Speaker 3: you can. Male trainers are like you're more exactly what

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Speaker 3: you're saying. They're like, come on, fucking sweat, let's go,

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Speaker 3: let's get intense. And I'm like if not, I'm look

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Speaker 3: maybe not, you know what I'm saying like maybe it's

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Speaker 3: just a medium intensity would be would be nice for.

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Speaker 2: Me, Like a medium intent, let me push myself, let

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I need like a deeply personal trainer. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Oh, like if I'm gonna have yeah, I want no, just.

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Speaker 1: Like a personal trainer is like you're stronger than your dad.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like.

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Speaker 3: Deeply personal. No one looks at your scars, you know

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Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Like it's like like they'll be like, oh, oh my god.

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Speaker 7: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you've got you guys have like

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Speaker 2: seen Jordan on Instagram, but he is out here doing

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Speaker 2: this is a kick, like a fucking.

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Speaker 1: I have to.

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Speaker 3: I have to beat the algorithm and like be like,

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Speaker 3: you know, these are things I can do.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Wife is not complaining, So

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Speaker 1: that's good, that's okay.

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Speaker 2: I can't complain.

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Speaker 1: You can complain. I'm sorry sorry.

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Speaker 2: That you guys know, I appreciate that you stretch like

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Speaker 2: you stretch and you take care of your body. There

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Speaker 2: is this video where you like looked at the cameras

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Speaker 2: to be like it's almost like Shanaya twins like what

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Speaker 2: you ready, girl, Let's go, and I'm like they start,

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Speaker 2: this is my final form. This is who I am now,

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Speaker 2: this is this is it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I like who likes to work out? Does anybody like

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Speaker 3: to work out? In this audience? Fucking too? I love it?

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Speaker 3: Does anybody have a gym crush at all? Anybody got

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Speaker 3: a gym crush?

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Speaker 2: Well, there's people that like to work out, and I

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Speaker 2: don't feel like I know people are going to Jim's

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Speaker 2: a nasty That's like I'd rather be on a fucking school.

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Speaker 1: I do it all in my basement. I can't. I

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Speaker 2: Female trainers, only in your basement.

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Speaker 5: It gets better, it gets better.

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Speaker 1: They're good.

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Speaker 3: They're the only ones that do like kettlebell training and not.

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Speaker 3: Who would you rather have like a kettible trainer that's

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Speaker 3: just like telling you how to do the motions and

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Speaker 3: it's fine, or a guy that looks like you don't

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Speaker 3: know his whereabouts on January sixth? You know what I'm saying, Like, yes,

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Speaker 3: teaching you how to do it. I would I have

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Speaker 3: the former than the latter, Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: I agree.

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Speaker 2: So people just got to look and they're good at

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Speaker 2: different things, So I feel you on that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't always post exercise, though I do it once

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Speaker 2: in a while just to let people know. Hey, big

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Speaker 2: people move their bodies and so can you. Yes, but

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Speaker 2: it's never like you never looked at you. You've read

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Speaker 2: as the camera, no listen.

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Speaker 3: I was always inspired by Shania Twins Feel like a

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Speaker 3: Woman video, and I'm just trying to emulate that, you

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, So bring that energy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that.

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Speaker 2: I can tell you this, do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Because it's a safe space. It's just us and friends.

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Speaker 2: All my friends feel like the cousin that have like

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Speaker 2: a fucking job right now, which is very nice, right right.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad we can hang out and do this.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, And.

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Speaker 3: I'm glad what's happening right now. I'm glad we can

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Speaker 3: do this too, you know, I'm glad we.

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Speaker 1: I think my edible just kicked in, all right, and

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Speaker 1: I'm happy.

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Speaker 3: You know that moment when your edible kicks in and

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Speaker 3: you're like everything's okay, You're like no, no, you took

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Speaker 3: an edible half an hour ago. You're fine, Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: you took an editle like I just saw you for

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Speaker 3: a minute, I know.

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Speaker 3: Have you lived in twenty twenty four before? I fucking

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Speaker 5: Just don't you like ever do too much?

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Speaker 3: And it was like, hey, buddy, Thg's right here, and like,

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Speaker 1: You know how to do? Why is therebody? It doesn't

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 1: I know how to tight tray and just make sure

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Speaker 3: Who's been in therapy? My fuckers trade who's on their meds?

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Speaker 3: All right, like like, I know titration, what's up?

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Speaker 1: What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Make some noise.

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Speaker 1: If y'all have edibles, do you have them on you

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Speaker 2: Make some noise. If you take an edible every day,

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Speaker 1: We're learning so much about this.

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Speaker 8: We are.

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Speaker 3: Some of you are total squares. You're like I read,

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Speaker 3: I got that, Christie and then go to bed. But

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Speaker 3: of you just go down okay holes. Let's go okay. Well,

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Speaker 3: speaking of fun, Yeah, speaking of fun, we have a

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Speaker 3: lot of fun in store for you. Our next two guests. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 3: are a mother and daughter combo all right, Black.

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Speaker 2: History royalty, y'all, Black collegood royalty, everybody, Yes, Broadway, Oh, films, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: CV music, all that iconique, iconique. You do it. You

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Speaker 2: do it. You're nice and high.

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Speaker 1: You do it. No, I can't. I'm high.

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Speaker 3: I shouldn't be doing I want you to do it.

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Speaker 3: I trust you, all right, please give it up for

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Speaker 3: two o two gems, got it? You got legends two

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Speaker 3: gyms already, yep. I mean'm on, y'all, please give it

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Speaker 3: up for the one and only Vanessa Williams and you.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, oh my god, get that drink, Get

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Speaker 3: that drink?

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Speaker 1: Black History Month? Am I seeing double? Right now? Am

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Speaker 1: I seeing double? What is going on?

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Speaker 9: This is?

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Speaker 6: This is my middle daughter, This is your middle number

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Speaker 6: two out of four four four.

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Speaker 2: Oh my good.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna be a little different because I'm with my

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Speaker 1: But your mom is so cool. No, she's really cool.

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Speaker 4: But she makes me nervous also, so I only should

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 3: I was in the green room and then she walked

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Speaker 2: You know, this is what I love about your mom, right,

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Speaker 2: and it's like you can do better?

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Speaker 8: Do it?

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 6: Like be your best no judgment, no judgement, no judgment,

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Speaker 6: but it's just wisdom.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, And that's.

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Speaker 2: What I love and I love that you guys are

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Speaker 6: Like you love what you do. Yeah, that's the work

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Speaker 6: ethic that's been passed down. Both my parents are music teachers.

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Speaker 6: They met in college. Uh, and they just did it,

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm sixty years old and people I always

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, But you know, every I get the question like

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Speaker 6: is showing up on time, knowing your shit, being.

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Speaker 2: Great at what you are hired to do, and then.

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Speaker 1: Why are you.

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Speaker 9: Showing the fuck up when you're going to after multiple

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Speaker 9: emails shortened thank you?

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Speaker 6: And then and then also being creative like in every

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Speaker 6: First Wives Club, so now you know, like, yes, it's amazing,

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Speaker 2: How about you know you can speak because you know

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Speaker 6: You have to be afraid of your power because it's

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Speaker 2: And no one ever tells you to take your space,

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Speaker 2: take up your space. It's always like, no, your shit

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Speaker 2: and be polite. But sometimes you can just say something

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Speaker 2: you know, the minute I stopped apologizing, even just before

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Speaker 2: I said something frivolous, I'm sorry, guys, like I'm walking

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Speaker 2: like a different woman. You know, taking up your space

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Speaker 2: is so important now as a mothers though we had

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Speaker 2: to earn that. I mean, you could not speak. Yeah

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Speaker 2: you know again. Yeah, I won Miss American in eighty three.

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Speaker 2: I've been working. I remember how sorry.

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Speaker 6: Hit.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't in Atlantic City, but I was there.

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Speaker 3: I remember, yeah, yeah, I yeah.

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Speaker 6: But you know, in the eighties nineties, you weren't allowed

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Speaker 1: You were told what you did.

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Speaker 6: And yeah, I hear, yeah, and you had to play

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Speaker 6: because it was you get fired or you know, you know, I.

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Speaker 6: One of my first jobs was in a sitcom and

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Speaker 6: He had a series, and I was playing a waitress

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Speaker 6: this is this is obviously something that was allowed to happen.

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Speaker 1: Yes, you know, he's yeah, I want to suck the

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Speaker 6: This is after Sandford, This was his own.

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Speaker 1: This is probably eighty five eighty six. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: He also said like, you got hair in your chin

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Speaker 10: Sorry, it's really disturbing.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, and I and I said I

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Speaker 6: I got off after one episode, even though it was

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Speaker 6: I didn't like there was no lawsuit. I wasn't going

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Speaker 6: you know, obviously thirty five years later or more than that.

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Speaker 6: But you swallowed it.

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Speaker 8: You know.

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Speaker 6: So the right that you have now to take your

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Speaker 6: Diane Carrol helped you and you can't help do.

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Speaker 2: I don't take it for granted. You know, Horn helped you.

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Speaker 2: Just you know, I don't take it for granted. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I was loved and very secure, but my mother was

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Speaker 6: where's your sweater, where's your you know, make sure you

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Speaker 2: But she was always like, met are dogs? Met are dogs?

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Speaker 6: And she told me like, never take nude pictures. Of

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Speaker 6: course that I listened to her, no, but but but

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Speaker 6: I was just, you know, I bowed the lawn. I

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Speaker 6: had to do chores, I baby said. I was working,

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Speaker 6: you know, from ten years old on in the neighborhood,

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Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, and buy my ten Steed bike by myself.

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Speaker 2: And is that what your.

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Speaker 1: Mom does for you?

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Speaker 10: I did not mow the lawn now.

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Speaker 2: It's too much bigger lawn.

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Speaker 1: By the way, you need.

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Speaker 5: We got a couple of eggs.

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Speaker 1: Oh do you need the list?

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we can't get it out truly, Like you.

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Speaker 10: Grew up in the business, I did, I mean I didn't.

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Speaker 10: I didn't.

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Speaker 4: I think growing up in Westchester, New York. Shout out

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Speaker 10: It's not upstate.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 3: We call it that but anyway, well we're called Yonkers upstate.

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Speaker 1: New York updates.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, there was was you know, it was a different experience.

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Speaker 4: But it also I had such great examples of people

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Speaker 4: it's been so easy for me to fall into what

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Speaker 4: I do, because I've had hard working artists in my

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Speaker 4: gaga before. Yes, But like you know, in eighth grade,

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Speaker 4: I remember my mom. We had intercom at the time

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Speaker 4: her room and she had articles printed out, staples and

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Speaker 4: everything about blowjobs, gonorrhea, all of.

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Speaker 10: It, and sat me down and scared.

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Speaker 2: The living crap out of me. Ta literally like imagine

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Speaker 2: this was.

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Speaker 4: Pre will Wilhelmina Slater, but this was Wilhelmina Slater waiting

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Speaker 4: for me to talk to me about blowjobs.

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Speaker 5: And wells e.

444
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 8: Death.

445
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, blow jobs and death sounds like a real

446
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 1: best seller, but.

447
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 5: But you had.

448
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,120
Speaker 2: I will never forget that day.

449
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 4: It was a real scary tactic, but you know, I

450
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 4: think it was it was necessary because I was so

451
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,040
Speaker 4: in love with my boyfriend at.

452
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:28,159
Speaker 10: The time and all this stuff, you know. But no,

453
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 10: I think I had a.

454
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Speaker 4: Great combination of kind of like the hard ass, be

455
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 4: a little scared of her, but then she also was like,

456
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 4: be free, trust herself, and I go.

457
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 3: With your gut.

458
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 6: And she took me hard work talking about worth work

459
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 6: ethic because they were backstage when I did Kiss of

460
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:49,680
Speaker 6: the Spy Woman on Broadway. The recording they've been the

461
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,119
Speaker 6: recording studio. They so they've been on set, so they

462
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Speaker 6: know the hours, they know the preparation. So when she

463
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Speaker 6: got into the business and started recording, she knew that

464
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 6: it took.

465
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 2: You know, a lot of time.

466
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Speaker 3: What's your what's your first memory of that? What's your

467
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 3: first memory of like, okay, being in the in the

468
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:07,640
Speaker 3: realm of entertainment.

469
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 4: I don't know if I have a specific memory, but

470
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 4: I do remember like sets, and I remember recording studios,

471
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 4: like cold recording studios with a lot of leather and

472
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 4: just sitting there like what am I doing? Always making

473
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 4: friends with like the engineers or the pas or you know, whoever,

474
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 4: the people are just running around. But yeah, I mean

475
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 4: also sitting in the trailer whatever trailer we were in

476
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 4: for a long time until Charles Luther Vandros, which was awesome.

477
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 9: God.

478
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 4: Yes, And at the time it was a whole family affair,

479
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 4: like my my uncle was doing the opening comedy stand

480
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 4: up bid and my mom's best friend.

481
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 10: Was doing Chris Williams.

482
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Speaker 2: Check him out, He's amazing.

483
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 3: I've been in a commercial with Chris Williams. I've been

484
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 3: a commercial, yes, with your brother. Yeah, And I've been

485
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Speaker 3: waiting to.

486
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Speaker 1: Tell you we're so.

487
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 2: I was here is crazy Eyes killer and uh and

488
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 2: oh my god, let me find out. So the story

489
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 2: you just told has is really taken me back because

490
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: as a working mother, as a multi hyphen it, as

491
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 2: you know, as a life's good at tax payer and

492
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 2: I have five year old twins, I'm realizing that there

493
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 2: is no balance, you know, the I just do what

494
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: I can when I can.

495
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 8: And so.

496
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 2: Did you ever feel that guilt? Did you ever say,

497
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 2: like I can't make your play, I can't you know,

498
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 2: take you to whatever? And you have a kid now too,

499
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:47,640
Speaker 2: Like how did you navigate like getting another job that's

500
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 2: really gonna just you have to put your heart and

501
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 2: soul into it, right. Yeah, And how do you give

502
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 2: your heart and soul to your kid like you have

503
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 2: to make a living too?

504
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:55,200
Speaker 8: Yeah.

505
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think the biggest, the biggest feet I did

506
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 6: was your confirmation.

507
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,240
Speaker 2: When I had a gig in Japan.

508
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:07,159
Speaker 6: I was at the Blue Note and I had I

509
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 6: was in Osaka and I had six shows in Osaka,

510
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 6: flew to Tokyo, flew to New York, arrived the morning

511
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 6: that Saturday morning of your your confirmation at church through

512
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 6: a party, got back on a plane on Sunday, went

513
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 6: to direct to Tokyo and then had did ten shows

514
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 6: in Tokyo.

515
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 2: That was like the most epic journey I've ever done for.

516
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 1: Any of my kids.

517
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

518
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:36,400
Speaker 1: But take that Taylor swipe. Yeah and it was commercial. Yeah,

519
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 1: just love.

520
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 2: No shade to Taylor.

521
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: But we love you, Taylor, We love you.

522
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 3: Please.

523
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 6: We can't talk about politics here, well we all know them.

524
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 6: But I think we we as mothers, we always feel guilt.

525
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 6: It doesn't even if we're in the in town and

526
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:06,440
Speaker 6: five minutes late, we will always feel guilt. So you

527
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 6: gotta let that go and know that you did the

528
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 6: best that you can or you're doing the best that

529
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 6: you can. And they they they're, oh my gosh, what

530
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 6: is happening today?

531
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 2: Being the mom is hard?

532
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: Bitch. I'm on fifteen miligrams. I am gone.

533
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 2: That guilt? Will you the fuck alive?

534
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 1: Shit?

535
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 2: That might be a boalding introver by the time. Fucking

536
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 2: this is your end?

537
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 1: Shit, Jillian?

538
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 8: Can I know?

539
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 3: Can I learn about your processed songwriting process? I want

540
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 3: to know what you know, what blows your hair back?

541
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 1: What makes you He's from Texas? You're like, sorry, do

542
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:42,359
Speaker 1: you like to?

543
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 2: This is what he calls biting around the cookie. It's

544
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:48,360
Speaker 2: a lie.

545
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. That's one dog that won't hunt.

546
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 2: Now, all right, come on, what is my okay?

547
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 1: So?

548
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 4: I started out as a dancer. I was dancing. I

549
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 4: wanted to be a dancer. I loved Alvin Allie like

550
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 4: I wanted to just be like a legendary black body

551
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 4: giving life and experiencing life through dance. And I still

552
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 4: do that, but singing became kind of like an afterthought

553
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,120
Speaker 4: after I just got my confidence on stage and performing.

554
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 4: So ever since then, I've always tried to write music

555
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 4: about this kind of higher self and this feminine power

556
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 4: and just empowering women and feeling like own it, do it.

557
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 4: So sometimes the messages are things that I need to

558
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 4: hear myself. Sometimes there's things that I've experienced and I

559
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 4: want to share. And at this point, I am a mom.

560
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 4: I have a two year old, so thank you.

561
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 2: And I feel like.

562
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 4: Because time has just taken a whole like curveball crash

563
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 4: into a wall, and I have no time to do

564
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 4: anything that when I go in it's really like I

565
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 4: have to I have to focus, I have to get

566
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 4: the critic out of my head. I have to not

567
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 4: dwell in like the whole process and just go in

568
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 4: and have fun. So with that, weirdly we are in

569
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,200
Speaker 4: house music right now. We're just like it's you know,

570
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 4: like I think when you're home and you're watching like

571
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,719
Speaker 4: Almo on repeat, or you're trying to like calm yourself

572
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 4: down and light candles and drink tea.

573
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 10: When you do go to record, you just want to

574
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 10: turn up.

575
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 2: So I think of like the whole other.

576
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 4: Paradox of my life that happened that I don't experience

577
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 4: as much, So I'm trying to find that through dance.

578
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 4: So it's it's really like just fine, like don't care

579
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:29,919
Speaker 4: too much it's like make a song and keep them

580
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:30,439
Speaker 4: a bit right.

581
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 2: That's why I am. I love when it gets sloppy sometimes,

582
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:36,679
Speaker 2: I mean sloppy in like a constructive way. Has there

583
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 2: ever been a show, a live show where you're just like, Okay,

584
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 2: that went wrong, that went wrong.

585
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 5: Still going wrong, still a show still here?

586
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 2: Like what is the craziest live show moment? If you

587
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 2: probably Broadway?

588
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 6: When I was doing Kiss the Spider Woman and uh,

589
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 6: top of act two and I played this Russian woman

590
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 6: and it's very dramatic, gonna have good times and I'm

591
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 6: doing this whole piece and I'm supposed to get shot

592
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 6: and it didn't go off, and the phone rang and

593
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 6: it was kind of like suspended it air and like

594
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 6: what do I do? And it was just like everything.

595
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 6: When someone coughed some one time, it was so loud

596
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 6: that we broke because it was like.

597
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 1: We looked to how do like you know?

598
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: So those one time? And Kiss the Spiderman again.

599
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 6: It was it was a hot show and the two

600
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 6: a couple in the back in the standing room were

601
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 6: actually doing it and what kicked it?

602
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 8: Yeah?

603
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, the ushers were ushers told us like literally guy

604
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 6: was behind she looked out of her skirt.

605
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 2: They were like, it was crazy. This is ninety four

606
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 2: ninety five. It was you know, I said I was sorry,

607
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 2: So some wild.

608
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 5: Stuff happened in amazing.

609
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: That's amazing, Peter.

610
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 10: Our kids are notoriously naughty, right, like is it?

611
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: Yes?

612
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:05,239
Speaker 2: I'm not a theater kid.

613
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 6: I don't know.

614
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 2: I not a dancing in the bathroom mirrorm.

615
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: On babes and what's it called babes and arms. I

616
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: may have worked the lights, you know, so to speak. No,

617
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 1: so I know that life. I was a techie. I

618
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: were all black, and I made out with the young

619
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 1: lady once.

620
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 4: Uh and.

621
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 1: During during dress rehearsal. During dress rehearsal, it was a pretty.

622
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: Pretty naughty.

623
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Speaker 1: What about you, Jillian? What about you? Have you ever

624
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 1: had a crazy moment moment on stage?

625
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 4: I think it was my first south By Southwest I

626
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 4: at the time this was pre working with him, but

627
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 4: Childish Gambino at the time was like, come open for us,

628
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 4: like I'm into you.

629
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 2: Oh, And I was so new. We hadn't done many.

630
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 4: Performances at all, but we're gonna say yes like this too.

631
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 4: It We were just signed, so I didn't even have

632
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 4: in ears like I didn't know what to do when

633
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 4: you're on stage any of this.

634
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 2: So I go on and perform, but.

635
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 4: I realized that the sound basically they could hear me,

636
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 4: but like they couldn't.

637
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 10: Hear the whole sound.

638
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 4: So I was like doing all my moves and like

639
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 4: being really weird, and they just were like, oh, some

640
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 4: girl like who did a bunch of like weird yoga open.

641
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 2: No, like in my ears, they sound great.

642
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 5: I didn't know.

643
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 4: It's never went into the house. So I was like,

644
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 4: you know, they figured it out by like the last song,

645
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 4: but yeah, it was. There was one of those moments.

646
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 10: That I was like, what, like, yeah, so I don't

647
00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 10: know it and it didn't hurt me in the end,

648
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 10: but it was. It was definitely memorable.

649
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: Now when I was I'm doing New York Comedy Festival

650
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 2: in town Hall. It's so funny, this lady's here. I

651
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 2: danced to Janet Jackson's for the Nation at one point

652
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: because I don't know who I am. I'm the only child.

653
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 2: I just love hugging people. You're all my family, and

654
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 2: I guess there was something about the lights or something.

655
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 2: I thought this person was having a seizure and so

656
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 2: I just stopped, the show, cut the house lights on.

657
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 2: I was like, can someone please come get this person

658
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 2: make sure they're okay. I don't want to touch them,

659
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 2: soone should touch them and give her a book and yeah,

660
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 2: And this lady in the front was like that was

661
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 2: my friend. And I'm like, oh shit, she okay. This

662
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 2: was like two or three years ago. And she was like, yeah,

663
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 2: she was too high. And I'm like, okay, figure out

664
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 2: the dosage. If you're sitting in the front, that is

665
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 2: the moral of the story. That is the moral of

666
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 2: the story. We have to get to questions, but the

667
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 2: amount of life lived and memories made and knowledge and

668
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 2: also path set. The question really is like how do

669
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 2: you feel about the state of the world right now?

670
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: But mainly like why do you like why? I was

671
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 2: trying to tell people that the arts are so important,

672
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 2: but why do you guys believe the arts are important?

673
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 2: Especially with I don't know who's going to win this election.

674
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 2: I don't know what people are doing in the South

675
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 2: and other areas.

676
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 5: The fuck did I do?

677
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 2: I'm one of the good ones, I know, because you're

678
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 2: pay New York taxes, But like, yeah, like just why

679
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 2: do you think it's so important?

680
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: To do what you guys do.

681
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 2: Well not I'll let you talk about the arts.

682
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 6: But you know, going back in our family history, I

683
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 6: did a show called who Do You Think You Are?

684
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 6: And they got a chance to uncover two of my

685
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 6: great great grandfathers and one was born in Cole Spring

686
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 6: Harbor near Oyster Bay in eighteen forty two. Married a

687
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 6: white woman in eighteen sixty five. This is one hundred

688
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 6: years before the Civil rights movement in the nineteen sixties.

689
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 6: Of course her parents she was from Wales. Her parents

690
00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 6: disowned her because she married a free man of color.

691
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 6: They ended up having a bunch of kids. He went

692
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 6: and fought for Troop twenty six here in Queens and

693
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 6: with down to Buford, South Carolina, which is close to Trust.

694
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, and good grit. But he was there as

695
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 1: a Union soldier to make sure that you know, our

696
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:18,320
Speaker 1: freedom was you know.

697
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 2: So it was there for a while.

698
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 6: And then one hundred years later, my parents have me

699
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 6: at nineteen sixty three when Kennedy is shot and MLK

700
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 6: is shot. Years later, you know, a few years later,

701
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 6: those hundred years of my family, you look back and think,

702
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 6: oh my god, the racism, how do we get through it?

703
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 2: Everybody got through it. Everybody got through their.

704
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 6: Time, through what they chose to do and had the

705
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:44,839
Speaker 6: braver encourage to get through it and made life work.

706
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 6: So I think we'll be able to get through whatever happens.

707
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,560
Speaker 6: And I'm not guarantee, you have no idea what's going

708
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 6: to happen, but we'll get through it and we have

709
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 6: we have to.

710
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 1: I believe you because staring into your eyes is like

711
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: looking into the sea, and.

712
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 2: And I really believe it.

713
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 5: I buy it.

714
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna rest easy tonight. Vanessa Williams who has.

715
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 3: The Mediterranean in her eyes, and it's like, you're gonna

716
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 3: make a kid like fine, I'm fine.

717
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to.

718
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:18,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have right.

719
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 1: You have to have faith, good encourage to get through it,

720
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 1: to speak up and to move on.

721
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 3: Well, I think I think you know you're right. Some

722
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:28,800
Speaker 3: rights are you're born with and some you fight for.

723
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 3: And it's like, and we cannot, we can. We have

724
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 3: to keep fighting for what we what we deserve, what

725
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 3: we want, what we're owed, you know what I mean.

726
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 3: And that's those human rights. Obama, I know that was

727
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 3: I was quoting doctor King there. I was like, I

728
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 3: was like, I'm gonna just I'm gonna just pretend like

729
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 3: I made that up. But yeah, he would say that

730
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:55,320
Speaker 3: some rights, uh are inherent, they're inalienable.

731
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: Rights that that you are.

732
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 7: I tell my daughters all the time, sociable, Some rights

733
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 7: you're born with and some you fight for. Fired up,

734
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 7: Ready to go?

735
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: All right?

736
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have questions from the audience. Would you guys

737
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:19,359
Speaker 2: like to help us answer them?

738
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 9: Sure?

739
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 2: All right, this is from Elsa. Thank you so much

740
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:28,240
Speaker 2: for your name. Elsay's right here. What's the best advice

741
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 2: for dating in your twenties and prioritizing yourself?

742
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:31,919
Speaker 1: Wow?

743
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 6: I heard don't do it right here to Well, I

744
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 6: got married at twenty three, so but again I know

745
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 6: that was in nineteen eighty seven. I had my first

746
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 6: kid in nineteen eighty seven eighty nine, so I was

747
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 6: twenty four, twenty six, thirty and thirty seven when I

748
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 6: had all my kids.

749
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 3: Wow.

750
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 2: But yeah, but I did it because I could control that.

751
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 6: I couldn't control my career, I couldn't control what people

752
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 6: would or would not give me opportunities, but I could

753
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 6: control my life in terms.

754
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 2: Of my family. So I said, I'm going to make

755
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:07,360
Speaker 2: my family.

756
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 6: And my husband at the time was thirteen years older

757
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 6: than me, so he had already established himself. He was

758
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 6: actually the one who was my publicist to helped me

759
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 6: through all of my resignation and all that stuff when

760
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,919
Speaker 6: I was twenty one years old. Of course, my parents

761
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 6: didn't want me to get married or date anybody who

762
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 6: was thirteen years older when I was twenty one. But

763
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 6: whatever my mom said do, I said, I will not

764
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 6: or you know, so you know I was. I was

765
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 6: that check that was very rebellious and got married to

766
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:37,479
Speaker 6: twenty three. But I don't regret a single day. Yeah,

767
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 6: that's my twenty year old stories. I didn't date and

768
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 6: I didn't date you what's yours?

769
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 5: That was not my.

770
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 2: Mom, No, mine is like so much more boring.

771
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 4: Like I am, I meet someone and I'm like they're amazing,

772
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 4: and I just stay with them forever until it falls apart,

773
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 4: and then I find the next person. I'm like, oh,

774
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 4: we're just I'm not looking for that, and then it's that.

775
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 4: So it's been three people, Like it's it's very minimal.

776
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:10,720
Speaker 4: It's very boring.

777
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 10: Don't do what I did.

778
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 4: Live your life, because then there'll be a moment where

779
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 4: you're like, wait, I need to do that thing. So

780
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 4: but I have to say, no matter what, the men

781
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 4: in my life have been really supportive of me, and

782
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 4: I think that's what you always want to strive for

783
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 4: as someone that's not trying to diminish your light or

784
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 4: change you. They want to really just be part of

785
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 4: the growth. But they also need to grow themselves and

786
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 4: they need to know that that has nothing to do

787
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 4: with you.

788
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: So that okay, okay, this is what this one is

789
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: addressed Legendary Vanessa.

790
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 10: Full name.

791
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:58,360
Speaker 3: What is your favorite memory of hanging with Trixy Mattel Tricksey. Separately,

792
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 3: is there a song? And this is very this is

793
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 3: a penetrating question. Separately, is there a song in your

794
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:05,879
Speaker 3: career that got away?

795
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: Xo XO seth Okay, I guess so.

796
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 6: Tricksie and I did a show called Queen of the Universe.

797
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 6: It was a drag queen singing competition on Paramount Plus

798
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 6: for two seasons. We did not get renewed like you did,

799
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 6: but we had a lovely time and I've got new

800
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,439
Speaker 6: music coming out and she's featured on my song called

801
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,439
Speaker 6: Bob you know, because kids need a big old bop,

802
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 6: so it's coming. And the song that got Away, there

803
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 6: was no song that, well, I think you're probably to

804
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 6: prince moment. Okay, prince moment. So there was a prince moment. Okay,

805
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 6: thank you for reminding me.

806
00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 1: Okay.

807
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 6: So the first song that got away was one called

808
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 6: girlfriend that Pebbles did.

809
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 1: Oh shit, Oh yeah, yeah, girl, you want to hear

810
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 1: this ad?

811
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:08,240
Speaker 9: Wow.

812
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 6: So I was working with Babyface in La Read when

813
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 6: they were sharing a two bedroom apartment on Highland Boulevard

814
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 6: you know where that is, back in nineteen eighty seven.

815
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 6: I was pregnant with Mellie at the time. But me

816
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 6: and Babyface are working on the electric piano on the

817
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 6: song and coming up with the demo and Pebbles walks in,

818
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 6: I guess, invited by someone I don't know, and we're

819
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 6: singing the song Pebbles and she's like, oh, that's a jam.

820
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 6: I go, yeah, yeah, that's a jam.

821
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 2: I was like yeah.

822
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 6: The next day I went to continue working on the

823
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 6: song and they had given it to Pebbles, goddamn it.

824
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 2: So that was seth. That was number one that got away.

825
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 6: Number two is that the first time I actually recorded

826
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:00,840
Speaker 6: and heard myself on the radio was with George Clinton

827
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 6: from Parliament Buffet, Yes, and I ended up doing George's

828
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 6: album because I was doing an off Broadway show here

829
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 6: called One Man Band.

830
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 1: Back in nineteen eighty five.

831
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 2: Deborah barshe was a musical director.

832
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 6: We both moved to LA at the same time, and

833
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 6: Deborah called and said, I'm working with this guy named

834
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 6: George Clinton on his album.

835
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 2: I go what, And She's like, what, you want to

836
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:23,800
Speaker 2: sing with me?

837
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 6: He said absolutely, She had no idea, And of course

838
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 6: we grow flashlight what really light?

839
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we knew, Yeah, I like fat lie.

840
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: Stopped.

841
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 6: So I sang on these two songs, go do fries,

842
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 6: go with that shake and hey, good lugging.

843
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 4: Wow.

844
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 6: So it was wonderful working with him and in the studio,

845
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:53,920
Speaker 6: and he said, you know what, I want to produce

846
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 6: an album on you. And he said, let's Princess coming

847
00:41:57,239 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 6: into town at the Universal Amphitheater. That's what it was

848
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 6: called back in the day. So George Clinton and I

849
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 6: went to see Prince. And I was dating my husband

850
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 6: at the time, or he was my He wasn't my

851
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 6: soon to be husband.

852
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 5: Yeah no, but we weren't.

853
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 2: Nobody was there yet, uh and be yeah, soon to be.

854
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 6: And so after we saw Prince's show, he came out

855
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:23,760
Speaker 6: and he gave me a cassette which I cannot find.

856
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 2: Two demos kills me.

857
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:32,720
Speaker 1: Uh and like Williams, I want you to have this castelle.

858
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 2: And and he he met George. He said I had

859
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: a George.

860
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 6: He said hi to me, and then they said, and

861
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 6: this is Ramona said, oh, I forgot. So it's like

862
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 6: I guess he was trying to make a move and

863
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 6: realized that I was dating my Yeah, I don't.

864
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 2: Bring sand to the beach, so he used to say.

865
00:42:58,680 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: It didn't work out.

866
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 6: But just on a side note, the song that got

867
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 6: away from two other people, which was a song that

868
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 6: I did call say the best for last, but it.

869
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 2: Was passed on.

870
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 6: But Barbara streisand passed on it or her people pass it,

871
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 6: and Bette Midler's people passed on it.

872
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:21,720
Speaker 1: So I got sloppy third what he calls what's third last? Exactly?

873
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:25,720
Speaker 2: I'll take it and take it over and over again.

874
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 2: Oh my, there you go, Seth said, thank you for

875
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 2: the two part of Wow. The it all okay?

876
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: I got the next question. This is an interesting question.

877
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: Do what you will with it?

878
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 2: Should I give up and date a white man?

879
00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 8: Oh my god, you'll find the exits here and here

880
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 8: legitimately came in this show on the train and wrote.

881
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: That down in a car. Are we the court of

882
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 1: last resort?

883
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 3: Like?

884
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 1: What are we that the oracle of Delphi? Like, what's

885
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:22,919
Speaker 1: the I've come to ask? I'm on my last black

886
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: nerve and don't like.

887
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 2: Look, I don't.

888
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't think you'd be giving up.

889
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 2: I think you'd be opening your options to love, to

890
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 2: be honest, because in this day and age, it's like

891
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 2: you need to just hunk.

892
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: Her down with a good person. There's a white guy

893
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 1: that's not a It's like, you're.

894
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 2: Goddamn right, he's not my husband, and he's not. That's

895
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 2: another white dude. That's another one.

896
00:44:58,000 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 5: Can I tell you?

897
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 2: I'm married, so, ma'am. But he could cook, and he's

898
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 2: got a booty, and yeah, he's got good taste of music.

899
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 2: And when I'm home late from a show, he lays

900
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 2: my bonnet on a pillow.

901
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: Again another bestseller title, he lays my bonnet on my pillow.

902
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 1: You're not giving up, You're just looking within. That's right, agreed.

903
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: I can't advise you there. I don't know, ladies, love

904
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 1: is love his love.

905
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 4: I mean, I think that's what I've learned from you.

906
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 4: But you can't really look at a person. You need

907
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 4: to be attracted to them in some way. But I

908
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 4: think more of their spirit. That has to be the

909
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 4: thing that carries through you know, and that and yes,

910
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 4: you'll deal with things. But I do think if someone

911
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 4: loves you the right way, it doesn't really matter what

912
00:45:58,840 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 4: their background is.

913
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 6: Ever give up, I mean giving give up what I mean,

914
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 6: you're giving up humanity?

915
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,439
Speaker 1: I mean you know, yeah, and no one's no one's

916
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: keeping score like you should? You should go and try.

917
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 1: They probably single that I have time to keep score?

918
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 2: You have someone to have dinner with. Bitch, what's the

919
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 2: next quart?

920
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 1: We got time for more? Question?

921
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 3: The older I get, the more I hate people, parentheses, annoyed?

922
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 3: How do I continue.

923
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 1: Wait? Wait, wait, it's just growing?

924
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 3: How do I continue growing into my genuine self without

925
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 3: becoming a missing thrope?

926
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: I love that word impossible?

927
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 2: Didn't Moliere write then miss throat?

928
00:46:57,120 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 1: And yeah? I think so? Indeed, it's hard leve that's

929
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: the hard thing to answer. I don't know, what do you?

930
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: What do you all think? What do you?

931
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 9: How?

932
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 3: How does one do that? How do you grow and

933
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:11,840
Speaker 3: get into yourself more? Without like shutting out the world.

934
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 6: I understand and patience. You know, the older you get,

935
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,800
Speaker 6: the more you like, I'll just do it. And and

936
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:19,280
Speaker 6: that's just kind of you know how to do stuff.

937
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 6: Your your patients, I think definitely dwindles windles unless you're

938
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 6: with your grandchild, which I let him do anything.

939
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:26,760
Speaker 1: And I have patients.

940
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 6: I can understand being annoyed and and not having not

941
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 6: wanting to deal with people just because of age. And

942
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 6: you know, but again, you just gotta if you cut

943
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 6: yourself off, you're losing days. And you know what I mean,

944
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 6: And oh man, there's a finite amount.

945
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 3: Of days like why, yeah, why don't you do that?

946
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 3: I mean, I mean, okay, New York is always inviting

947
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 3: you to hate other people.

948
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 1: True, that's what it. That's what we do here. You

949
00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: know what you're saying is our love.

950
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 2: Maybe there's someone from Texas not all the time. What

951
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 2: I do love about New York is this. Yes we're aggressive,

952
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 2: Yes we get to the point. Yes we always have

953
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 2: somewhere to go, even though we have nowhere to go.

954
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 2: But New Yorkers like we're still a community. We pride

955
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: ourselves on knowing the direction. When you don't, we'll help

956
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 2: you know, it might not be met with like a

957
00:48:24,440 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 2: smile and like a ism, but you got to where

958
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 2: you need to go. Also, if someone like something happens

959
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 2: to somebody, we all step in, like I don't know someone.

960
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 2: That's just like not stepping in when someone's hurt in public.

961
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:39,799
Speaker 2: Sometimes I step over.

962
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: Now, let me say.

963
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 3: In my head, all right, there are two things that

964
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 3: New Yorkers will still do to this day, and I

965
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 3: appreciated one.

966
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:54,319
Speaker 1: They will tell you when your bag is open, won't they?

967
00:48:54,480 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: They'd be like, yes, South, all right, jesus.

968
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 5: Two, your shoes untied, you shoot, you gonna fall?

969
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:17,880
Speaker 1: You welcome. New Yorkers have substitute teacher energy.

970
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 2: And I'm here for it, okay, And I'm here for it.

971
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: Okay. Last question from the question, and I like this question.

972
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 2: What is your earliest memory?

973
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Yeah, I was born in California, so

974
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 4: somewhere in California.

975
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 5: Backyard.

976
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 10: But yeah, like grass, sun, happiness, I don't know what

977
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 10: that is.

978
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 1: That's beautiful.

979
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:46,399
Speaker 2: That's a beautiful life.

980
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 5: That's what that is.

981
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: Peaceful? Yeah, and your mom gave you that, that's fucking amazing.

982
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 6: I spent my first year in the Bronx. Each two

983
00:49:56,960 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 6: twenty third Street, b X and Grandma Bacon was my

984
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:07,800
Speaker 6: caretaker while my parents were working as music teachers in Westchester.

985
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 6: So I remember vaguely the apartment, brick apartment, and I

986
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 6: remember like visiting there after we moved out to Westchester

987
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:20,919
Speaker 6: when I was you know, one or so, but yeah,

988
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:26,720
Speaker 6: just warmth and loving hugs and stuff, I guess, and dogs.

989
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 6: I always had dogs. I love that I have dogs

990
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 6: and I have kids. I feel like that's how I'm

991
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 6: going to teach him about death.

992
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:35,960
Speaker 1: That was my first trauma.

993
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, my dog Mouse died and was hit by I

994
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 6: went to way to girl Scout camp and it was

995
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:41,760
Speaker 6: raining the whole weekend.

996
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 1: It came back and they said Mouse is gone. I go,

997
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 1: what do you mean? Mouse has gone?

998
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:47,800
Speaker 6: We can't find him and he had wandered out and

999
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 6: I guess somebody found him on the road down the street.

1000
00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 6: And I just remember like it was yeah, rack, So

1001
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 6: I had to be like nine or so, eight nine.

1002
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,359
Speaker 2: It was awful, but the other memory was good.

1003
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:00,439
Speaker 8: I got.

1004
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: What about you? What's your friend? I want to hear

1005
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: don't like okay, but I love you. No, we got

1006
00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:11,720
Speaker 1: to ask them the question that we Yeah, we gotta ask.

1007
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 2: Hours one having sex. What is We asked all our

1008
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 2: guests what is the most adult thing you would like

1009
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 2: to do for yourself this year that you haven't done?

1010
00:51:24,080 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 1: It?

1011
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 2: Truly? Could be anything big or small. Some people say,

1012
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: organize your garage. Boy would was like, I want to

1013
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 2: go to Japan and go to a baseball game and

1014
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 2: take Srisota and small the air.

1015
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: Remember what? Oh my goshaul A.

1016
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 2: Shakeoul Ai said, I want to go to Capri in

1017
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 2: capri pants and drink a Capri Sidney Washington said, I

1018
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:47,280
Speaker 2: want to cut.

1019
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 1: More people off, like in traffic.

1020
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:54,919
Speaker 2: Yes, what is the most adult thing that you guys

1021
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:59,879
Speaker 2: For me? It was making salad dressing from scrash? Yes,

1022
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 2: who does that?

1023
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1024
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:01,879
Speaker 2: But a good one?

1025
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:03,200
Speaker 6: You do that?

1026
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 1: What do you make? You make salad dressing?

1027
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 8: Now?

1028
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: Look at me?

1029
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:13,800
Speaker 3: What about second season renewal? Doesn't say I make my

1030
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:14,640
Speaker 3: own style dressing?

1031
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 4: Okay, it's really cringey because I just I'm so embarrassed

1032
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 4: as a person to admit this, But I have to

1033
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 4: get my fucking driver's license again.

1034
00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 5: Yes, airhorn, what happened?

1035
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 2: Yes, she let it lapse.

1036
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 4: No, it's so easy, you can do it loud in

1037
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 4: my pre pandemic ways, just living life in New York.

1038
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 4: You never need to drive ever in New York ever,

1039
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:46,719
Speaker 4: So I, you know, whatever, twenty nineteen hits and it's

1040
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 4: like you got to renew, like go get an eye test,

1041
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:49,880
Speaker 4: and I'm like, whatever, I'll do this one.

1042
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 10: Ever, twenty twenty hits, I like, forget about it.

1043
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 4: You forget about it because the world is falling apart,

1044
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 4: so you're not focused on that. And then by the

1045
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 4: time I came to and realized I have to get

1046
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 4: this thing, it was expired late.

1047
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:05,320
Speaker 2: That's okay, Sorry, I didn't. I couldn't find my license

1048
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 2: for like a year. And then I was like, whatever,

1049
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 2: it's active. Couldn't find it for like a year, just

1050
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 2: traveling with the passport for no reason. You have a

1051
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 2: passport on me.

1052
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:16,720
Speaker 5: And then I just like put on a jean.

1053
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,320
Speaker 2: Jacket I haven't seen in a while. I was like,

1054
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:22,520
Speaker 2: you never know, that's a very adult thing. Yes, I

1055
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:28,280
Speaker 2: want to do some yachting. That's very adults.

1056
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:29,360
Speaker 1: She speaks.

1057
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 6: You want to do and I don't want to pay

1058
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 6: for it, but I want to be a guest on

1059
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 6: a fabulous Yeah. I watched the deck all the time,

1060
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:43,800
Speaker 6: do you Yeah, it's the best I've I've watched every season,

1061
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:44,759
Speaker 6: every bed.

1062
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:50,320
Speaker 2: I want to getty white girl in shorts or scored

1063
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 2: to like he's giving me champagne.

1064
00:53:52,200 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 1: And a small hot Yes, do you want to? Do

1065
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:56,080
Speaker 1: you want to bounce out of cannab Ran or something

1066
00:53:56,120 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 1: like that? Do you want? I mean, I love that.

1067
00:53:59,360 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 1: Do you want to?

1068
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 6: Normally they're like at least one hundred one fifty. There

1069
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:06,680
Speaker 6: are some big mega yachts with a whole crew, and

1070
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:10,400
Speaker 6: they do like themed dinners, like there's the White Parties.

1071
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I want to do all that.

1072
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 1: It's it's it seems hilarious and fun. I want that

1073
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 1: for you.

1074
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 2: Let's we've gotta find somebody to pay for it, but

1075
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 2: then I will be again.

1076
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:34,360
Speaker 1: Gotcha give us for Vanessa? Thank you so much, Michelle.

1077
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 3: Talking to people of this ilk Lis quality is just

1078
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 3: like so amazing and fun because when you come to

1079
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 3: think about it's actually three generations of very musically talented people.

1080
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 3: It's Vanessa Wlliams's parents who taught music in Westchester and

1081
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 3: then influenced her.

1082
00:54:50,960 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 1: She influenced her daughter and now here.

1083
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 2: We are, and they have both influenced different generations.

1084
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: Yes, do you know what I mean.

1085
00:54:57,719 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 2: And so that's why I always tell people, don't tell

1086
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:02,400
Speaker 2: your self know before someone else does, you know, and

1087
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 2: even then figure out what to do with that rejection

1088
00:55:05,160 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 2: and live in it and only let that shit fuel you.

1089
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 2: Because if you're gonna sit here and be like, but

1090
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 2: everyone's doing it and it's too hard, then why are

1091
00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 2: you even living?

1092
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:15,000
Speaker 8: You know?

1093
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 2: And and I put this in my show too, Season

1094
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:20,160
Speaker 2: one and Survival of the Thickest all episodes available on

1095
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 2: Netflix right now, nominated for seven and DOLEACP Image Awards.

1096
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 5: Hey Hey.

1097
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 2: In the last episode, dream big because it makes life

1098
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: worth living, and that could mean anything. It doesn't necessarily

1099
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,719
Speaker 2: have to be your name in lights. It could be

1100
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 2: real estate, it could be writing something like no matter

1101
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 2: how big or small. And so that's why I love

1102
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 2: the question that we always ask our guests at the

1103
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 2: end of each episode, what's the most adult thing you

1104
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 2: want to do for yourself? Because it really, like is

1105
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 2: very telling on what we think adulting is. But you know,

1106
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:56,759
Speaker 2: the more we do this show, the more I'm just like, Oh,

1107
00:55:56,920 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 2: it is trusting your gut and taking your shoes off

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Speaker 2: when you go to someone's house, your nasty little bitch.

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Speaker 2: So sorry. Hey you guys, if you like the show,

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Speaker 2: tell your friends to listen to it. Okay, yes, if

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Speaker 2: you want to rate and rate and rescribe, awesome.

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Speaker 3: Please try to get command see all right, guys, if

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Speaker 3: you like the show, please subscribe, RTE and review.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we can take it. We can take whatever sism Okay, no.

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Speaker 2: Jordan could take it and then filter it down to

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Speaker 2: me because I can't. I can't. It's too much. You

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Speaker 2: know how hard it is to find a black double

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Speaker 2: X tank top that has like one of those straps

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Speaker 2: that you can like make tighter. That's enough for me,

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Speaker 2: and I don't need to read what people think about me,

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Speaker 2: because you know, I've been trying to find my belly.

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Speaker 2: But when I sit down since like nineteen eighty six.

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Speaker 1: Well, while you're adoring us online.

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Speaker 3: You can also check out some of our merchency just

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Speaker 3: exactly right store dot com.

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Speaker 2: That was such like my husband, my husband does that move?

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Speaker 2: He's like, Okay, she's done. I'll move on. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Jordan Carlos, what was the last name?

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Speaker 1: Carlos? Is my last day?

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Speaker 2: What's mama?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Jordan Carlos Nelson, Jordan Carlos Nelson.

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Speaker 2: That's thank you so much. Jordan Carlos Nelson.

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Speaker 1: M Okay, listen, I love this episode. This is amazing.

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Speaker 1: Please subscribe right and review. Oh my god, this has

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Speaker 1: been adulton.

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Speaker 2: Guys. Jordan Carlos Nelson has been replaced by Ai And

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Speaker 2: who wanted to do all the things. He has been

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Speaker 2: shopping at her merch. He's drinking out of all the

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Speaker 2: wine glasses too much, and he don't know how to behave.

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Speaker 2: All right, y'all, take care of yourself and don't forget.

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Speaker 2: Don't flush those wipes down the toilet now unless they're biodegradable.

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Speaker 1: All right, bye bye, And and don't forget to go

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Speaker 1: to exactly right store.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Okay, now now I'm going.

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Speaker 1: This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 2: Our senior producer is g Holley.

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Speaker 1: Our associate producer is Christina Chamberlain.

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Speaker 2: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

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Speaker 1: Our guest booker is Patrick Cotner.

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Speaker 2: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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Speaker 1: Theme song and live show DJing is by DJ Don Will.

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Speaker 2: Our live producer is Makala Konazovich.

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Speaker 1: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel.

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Speaker 2: Photography by Reis vander Most.

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Speaker 3: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hartstar and Daniel Kramer.

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Speaker 2: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 1: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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