1 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:08,600 Speaker 1: Hi. I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson. 2 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship and 3 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling raivalry. No, no, sibling. 4 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: You don't do that with your mouth revely. That's good, ollie, 5 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: this is so fun. We were reunited, renaded and so good, 6 00:00:51,560 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 1: realnded and a little nervous about this because you're you know, 7 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: you're like a like a loose, kind of free wheeling 8 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: type of guy, you know. I mean, you've taken this 9 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: thing very seriously. That's just the perception of me. My 10 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,680 Speaker 1: whole family has this perception that I'm sort of like 11 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: in the streets, like running around naked, like spitting on people, 12 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: you know, I mean, are you Yes, But I'm not 13 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:27,320 Speaker 1: like that. Yes'm I'm laid back and I'm a bit 14 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: free wheeling, but I'm not like, you know, shaking hands 15 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: and hugging and sort of going to dinner parties and 16 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: stuff like some people. We know, I don't all what 17 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: we're doing about me. No, no, no, not you, not you. Yeah, yeah, 18 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: you know who you are. You know who you are. 19 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: So no, but seriously, we have finally said now that 20 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: we're I mean our family, I mean we haven't had 21 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: like long, long fun looking at you and talking. I know, crazy, 22 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: but we have had sort of an under standing that 23 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: at some point our family needs to integrate. The kids 24 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: do need to like feel like they can play together. 25 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: We've all been really really good as things start opening up. 26 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: We're still being very careful, but we're kind of opening 27 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: up our family a little bit more, yep, and being 28 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: really transparent about the things that we're doing. But even 29 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: within our connectedness, we're being mindful. Like we're still not 30 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: hugging now, we're still wiping things now. Aaron and I 31 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: haven't had a normal makeout session. No, you know, I 32 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: haven't had mom yet. I have never hugged mom. I know. 33 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 1: Mom almost tried to hug me yesterday and I was like, oh, 34 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: Mommy is so Tactiles has been interesting because you know, 35 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: her instinct is to always touch and hug. So this 36 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 1: has been really hard for all of us, I know. 37 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: But no, we're starting to. Like. We had our first 38 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: family dinner last night. That was really fun. Yeah, it 39 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 1: was so fun. I knowe. It was so loud, though, 40 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: I have to say it was so loud that at 41 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: one point, like I forgot how loud our family is 42 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: and I was like, I can't hear, like I couldn't 43 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: hear anything that was happening. But it was agreed. But 44 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: it was great. It was like oh. It was this 45 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: sort of double edge of like, oh wow, this feels 46 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 1: like normalcy again. But at the same time, it's like, 47 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: can we wanna miss quiet? And quiet? I mean, Paul 48 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: comes in, he's looking at our vs. He's obsessed with 49 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: r vs, so the video, his RV video is playing, 50 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: but it was so loud, so loud, and he's like, 51 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,239 Speaker 1: no one wants to okay, fine, He goes over to 52 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: the couch. Mom's like, honey, I've seen the RVs a 53 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: thousand times. But it was great. It was so great. 54 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: All the kids were together. And that's I think the 55 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: I think, and I think most families that are starting 56 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: to like integrate cousins a little bit more with siblings 57 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: and stuff. That's the hardest part is telling kids that 58 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: they need to keep distance, Like you're always like, uhhh, 59 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: a little close there, a little close. But I you know, look, 60 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: these are the steps we're taking right now and making 61 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: and I feel good about it. I do too. Yeah, 62 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: and feel comfortable, you know, but is it it's crazy though, 63 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,359 Speaker 1: I mean it's crazy. Feel great. I feel great. I 64 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: feel super confident. As she's putting on her visor, Kate 65 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: got this. By the way, this thing is kind of awesome. Really, 66 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: why don't you explain? I haven't had to explain what 67 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:32,479 Speaker 1: it is. I also feel like if I have to 68 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: go to the market. This is a visor. As you 69 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: can hear, there's sort of like an echoing happening. It's 70 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 1: a vis It's like a welder's mask. Really, it's it's 71 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: a face visor. It's really meant for SPF for you 72 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:48,719 Speaker 1: for when you go to the beach. So women's faces 73 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: are completely or men's, but they're completely covers. You don't 74 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: get any sun. I bought one online because if I 75 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: ever have to go to a market or a store, 76 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 1: I thought I'd get myself a face mask, and so 77 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: that for my eyes and for my every pore on 78 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: my face. And I think it's great. It looks cool. 79 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: I kind of want to make some we should make. 80 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: You need one that you can see better out of. 81 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 1: You can see pretty good. I like that you can't 82 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: see me. That's the thing that's really fun about this. Okay, well, 83 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: let's talk about what. Let's talk about. I can't wait 84 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: for this whole Zoom school to be done with. I'm 85 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: so ready for really over. I kind of like it. 86 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want to deal with it anymore. Wilder. 87 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: And here's my thing with this, Okay, the essentials. I 88 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 1: agree with the math, the science, even ancient civilizations and history, 89 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 1: but when it comes to music and art and Pe 90 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: Wilder has to sing these songs till September ends, right 91 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: by green day. There's no reason for this right now. Yeah, 92 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 1: but it's good for him to, you know, not really, 93 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 1: We've got other things to sing us ang, sing out lost, 94 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: sing our love, sing it broad. I don't even know 95 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: if that's the but I I've been ignoring it. I've 96 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: been ignoring it. As a parent. I've been like, I'm 97 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: like music, forget it, dude, Pe forget it, dude. I 98 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:25,359 Speaker 1: don't care. Okay, but these are actually I disagree with 99 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: you about these things. And here's why. But see, PE 100 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 1: for you doesn't matter, like Pe like that's what we 101 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: do all day long. It's like Pe all day. It's 102 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: not like they're learning music history. They're not learning about 103 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: you know, musicians, it's record, put headphones on, learn till 104 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: September ends, and sing it and then send it in. 105 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:53,279 Speaker 1: Why for what reason? How is this advancing? Well? Maybe anything? Okay, well, okay, 106 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 1: good question. I'm going to play Devil's advocate. Okay, not 107 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: because I disagree with you, just for fun, for the 108 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: sake of our podcast. If I was a teacher, I 109 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: would say that it would be If I was a 110 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: music teacher, I would say that it would be actively uhh, yeah, 111 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: I mean you're I mean if I if I was 112 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: the music teacher, it would be giving the child an 113 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: opportunity to see if they felt connected to what it 114 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: is to learn and sing music. And so that would 115 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 1: be kind of what that is I know. But in 116 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,679 Speaker 1: this time it doesn't make sense. Everyone's sort of trying 117 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 1: to figure it out, you know, like hearing kids like 118 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: write a song or something that would be more you know, 119 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: maybe if you could find an app and that's a 120 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: great idea, a melody, write a quarantine song, yeah, or 121 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 1: a poem that could be a song, a lyric I'm 122 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: down with that, right, or everybody writes one lyric in 123 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: the class. You write a lyric and then it goes 124 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: around great idea lyric, and then the teacher kind of 125 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: creates the song and then the music to it right, 126 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: and the whole class is written a quarantine song. Beautiful 127 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: great sings their line right right now. After this podcast, 128 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 1: I have to go with Wilder with headphones and be 129 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: like okay, okay, sing it and he's like, wake me up. 130 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: And I'm like, why what is this doing right now? 131 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 1: Why are we doing this? What if he connects to 132 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: green Day and it like inspires his whole life. What 133 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: if this one assignment inspires your son to become the 134 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 1: next It's not incarnation of punk rock. It's not gonna 135 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: that's not a reality. It's just not a reality. I 136 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: really like Billy Joe. He's a cool guy. But you 137 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: know about this till September ends. You know, they're singing 138 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,439 Speaker 1: it for this sort of graduation or putting in sort 139 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: of making a compilation of some kind. You know that 140 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: song is about his father just death, I know. I 141 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: mean I don't know why they're singing yeah. Well, especially 142 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 1: because not to bringing this down, but you know, one 143 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: of Wilder's classmates passed away this year suddenly, which is 144 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 1: just so gnarly. That was a rough time, and the 145 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:14,680 Speaker 1: parents were amazingly strong. When they finally, you know, came 146 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: and talked to everybody, it was just incredible people, really 147 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:22,960 Speaker 1: incredible people. They felt a responsibility to the class, you know, 148 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: because they knew that everyone else was hurting. And it 149 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:27,679 Speaker 1: was strange. It was the first time we saw them, 150 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: and they were the ones who were being strong for 151 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: everyone else, you know, because people were just devastated. I mean, 152 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: parents were devastated, kids were devastated. Yeah, of course, you know, 153 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: it was pretty crazy. You can't help it as a 154 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: parent think about tragedy. I mean, I know, for me, 155 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:48,240 Speaker 1: like I think about that all the time and try 156 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: to like live with gratitude that just day by day 157 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:54,839 Speaker 1: knowing that tragedy happens all over the world every day. 158 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: We're living it right now all the time, you know, 159 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 1: we're hearing about it all the time. It's actually one 160 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: of the things that I was talking about with Oprah. 161 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 1: All amazing people to mention, but I was saying, you know, 162 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 1: I've never been so inundated in death, whether it be 163 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: the tickers on your phone, whether it be the news. 164 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: We're constantly being shown all of this death the constant 165 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,840 Speaker 1: reminder of our mortality, which of course is going to 166 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: bring up high levels of anxiety and fear, and you 167 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: realize that before we had technology. Even though technology has 168 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: its amazing there's amazing opportunities that come with technology, but 169 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: the negative of constantly being reminded of these horrible things 170 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: that are happening is that it's so it's so globally recognized, 171 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: meaning that even though these things have been happening all 172 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 1: the time all over the world everywhere, we weren't being 173 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: inundated with them, it wouldn't be thing that we would 174 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:05,079 Speaker 1: see every single day of our turn off the news. 175 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 1: I can't I can't see. I can't look at it. 176 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: You look at like a time like now when we 177 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 1: are there's so much fear. I just talked to someone 178 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: on the phone today handling like very depressed, doesn't doesn't 179 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 1: know how to find light in this situation at all. 180 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: It's all darkness, And you realize like, oh, okay, like 181 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: how do we how do we hold that person in 182 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 1: a place so that they feel how secure and feel 183 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: feel better about you know, it's hard. It's hard to 184 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: change someone's mind. Really, I mean yeah, I mean I 185 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 1: just I just want to get away. Sometimes I'm tired 186 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:52,719 Speaker 1: of the monotony. I want to go into the mountains 187 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 1: and just like sort of like forage. I don't know 188 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,680 Speaker 1: what i'd be eating because I don't know forge. I 189 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: don't know what, but berries or poison or not. So 190 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: it might last days, but at least it's a good 191 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:09,679 Speaker 1: three to five days. It's so funny when people say, like, 192 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: who would you go? It's like if I if I 193 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: know I'm going to die in the woods, I'm going 194 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: with you, right, not okay? If I know I could 195 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: have a chance of survival, like I'm taking Wyatt, I 196 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:27,719 Speaker 1: don't know. I think I might make it over. Why 197 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: I'm better at providing food. Why it will like make 198 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:39,480 Speaker 1: a guitar if you want to music. I can do food, yeah, 199 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: but I need to do fishing. Yeah, but I we 200 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:45,680 Speaker 1: can fish. No, you can't get Wyatt. Not. First of all, 201 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: our poles would be beautiful. We make beautiful fishing. But 202 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:52,319 Speaker 1: it would take seven seven weeks. And would know it 203 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: wouldn't take seven weeks. It would take like a week 204 00:12:54,440 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: and we'd be like very zend out No, no, like you, 205 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: I'd be like Oliver, It's okay, I can just see 206 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: it where like it's raining, it's like torrential rain and 207 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:12,079 Speaker 1: you're just having a full pan And I'm sitting out 208 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:15,520 Speaker 1: there and I'm holding you, going, Oliver, We're gonna make it. 209 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:20,560 Speaker 1: I think, no, were not. My survival instinct might kick in. 210 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: I feel like if I'm in a city situation where 211 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: I have to survive, that's when I'd lose my mind. 212 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 1: You know, Oh if I was, you know, like I 213 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:34,199 Speaker 1: had to. I'm a flight guy. This is what I'm saying. 214 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 1: I'm not a fight guy. I think I'm a flight guy. 215 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna run. Okay, I'm just gonna run. 216 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of what's attachment method? That what attachment? 217 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 1: I mean, it's avoidant, right, I don't want to go 218 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: through the danger. I'm gonna run from it. You know. 219 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: It's like, why am I gonna go and get so funny? 220 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: I'm the opposite. I'm gonna go. I'm just gonna run. 221 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 1: We get my kids, right. Do you know how I 222 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,400 Speaker 1: know that I'm the opposite. One time I was in 223 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: a house alone and I heard something and I got 224 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:10,280 Speaker 1: so scared, and I was so scared that I was 225 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 1: so mad that I went nuts and I went and 226 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:17,080 Speaker 1: I took a bat and I started screaming at the house. 227 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: I do that too, and I was like, basically like, 228 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: come fucking show your SIGs, you know, show your fucking face. 229 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: And I was like whoa. And then I realized there 230 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: was nobody in the house. Of course I do that too, 231 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 1: and I was like, wow. My instinct was to fight. Yes, 232 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: but if I had an exit, I do that. But 233 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: if I had an exit, see in my bedroom, I 234 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: have no choice but to go there and scream. Oh 235 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: fuck girl. Yeah, because I don't have a choice because 236 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: I can't get out anywhere. That's not true. I know 237 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: how to get out of every possible exit in your 238 00:14:57,520 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: house everywhere I go. So when I walk into a place, 239 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:11,600 Speaker 1: I know all my exits. Cicara, So Cicara. I finally 240 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 1: got my Oh you got it. And I've been eating 241 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 1: my cikara and it's super simple and yummy and you 242 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 1: just feel clean for the first time. I'm feeling clean, 243 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:26,040 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like my body feels like 244 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 1: I've just taken a power washer, put it up my 245 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: anus and just washed out everything. Well that's good. Yeah, 246 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 1: I love that. Their whole their whole thing is that 247 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: you don't restrict what you eat. You eat good foods 248 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: so that everything is super clean. It's a plant plant 249 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: based First of all, they're ready to eat meals, right, 250 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 1: you can you heat them up. Either's some that you 251 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: heat up and some that you don't. The breakfasts are 252 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 1: super yummy, by the way, that's a lot. 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The death 272 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:16,359 Speaker 1: is clearly because we're living amongst I mean, the cover 273 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: of the New York Times one hundred thousand people. It's 274 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: just that there's so much that we are aware of 275 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:26,440 Speaker 1: and that you know, with something like COVID, clearly that 276 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: we should be continuously aware of and understand. I'm more saying, 277 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: like layered on top of all of this, just there's 278 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 1: so it can be overwhelming, So it can lead to 279 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety, It can lead to a lot 280 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 1: of fear and people feeling out of body. And the 281 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 1: question is is how do we sort of feel a 282 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: sense some sense of calm. How do we get ourselves 283 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: to feel a little bit of ease so that we 284 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: can so honestly just be healthy, so that our mental 285 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:00,399 Speaker 1: health is strong. You touched upon it the too. It's 286 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 1: like changing the narrative as well. Yeah, we're in this situation, right, 287 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:05,440 Speaker 1: you know, we've been in it for a minute now, 288 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 1: but it is time to maybe sort of open your 289 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: mind up and change sort of how you're thinking and feeling. 290 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 1: And maybe now we're able to go take a walk 291 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 1: outside and look up, you know what I mean, look 292 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:18,359 Speaker 1: at the birds, like the tree tops. Just change your perspective. 293 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 1: You know, Mom's doing this with the sort of the 294 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 1: laugh challenge right too, you know, which is a fun 295 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 1: I love that. I love it too, and so great 296 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 1: people do really respond to understanding that these things aren't 297 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 1: about taking things lightly. It's actually about how we wire 298 00:18:35,840 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: our brain. So just because you're laughing doesn't mean that 299 00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 1: this is light or that you're not you know, don't 300 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:45,439 Speaker 1: you know that you're sort of ignoring the seriousness of 301 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: these things. Actually creating laughter is a healing mechanism. It 302 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:54,399 Speaker 1: speaks to our brain. It brings the good stuff to 303 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:58,439 Speaker 1: our brain to allow our immune systems to build. So 304 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 1: it's nice to be able to inform people that you know, 305 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:06,199 Speaker 1: you can laugh and it will heal. And it doesn't 306 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: mean that there aren't going to be sad days. There 307 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:10,800 Speaker 1: aren't going to be difficult days. It isn't you know, 308 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: it's not it's not minimizing the seriousness. Sure, of course 309 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 1: not well, I mean you say that, I mean, but 310 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: but I think that a lot of people, especially those 311 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 1: that are suffering, will feel that way and understandably. So 312 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: you know, we're we're we are you know, what is 313 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: it fifteen percent unemployment rate, we're heading towards and is 314 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 1: now probably I haven't looked today, but but but we're 315 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 1: heading towards a true economic crisis. People are truly suffering, 316 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: and I think that there's a way that a lot 317 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: of times when some people, especially celebrities or people you 318 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 1: know that you know that that people can look at 319 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 1: that and kind of think that it's ignorant or think 320 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: that it's minimizing. But when you really understand the things 321 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: that we the small thing we can do and share 322 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: with people, that these aren't it's not about not recognizing 323 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 1: those things, that these things can be helpful to your 324 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:13,480 Speaker 1: mental health. Maybe we'll bring a different focus on it. 325 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 1: You know, there's a lot which I again I think 326 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:20,360 Speaker 1: there's a responsibility to understanding this where there's a lot 327 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 1: of people that go, yeah, well, what would you know? 328 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 1: You know sure, because you live a life of luck 329 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:31,879 Speaker 1: and of privilege, and that is correct, right, But that 330 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:35,159 Speaker 1: is not to say that there aren't things that you 331 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:38,640 Speaker 1: can utilize your platform for to share that would hopefully 332 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,439 Speaker 1: bring people some levity in a time like this, or 333 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 1: some knowledge and that that can maybe collectively help someone's 334 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 1: mental state. Yeah, well it's true, and yes, luck and privilege, 335 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 1: but and that that takes care of sort of the 336 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: tangibles of your life life, but that doesn't account for 337 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: sort of emotional stability. It doesn't matter how much money 338 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: or how much privilege you have, you can be emotion 339 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: Your emotions are going to take you in different places. 340 00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:13,240 Speaker 1: Just because someone might have a house and it's it's 341 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: and they're they're okay with their job and they've got 342 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: money in the bank, something like this, an epidemic like 343 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 1: this could mess with their minds, with their mental health. Yeah, 344 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:24,320 Speaker 1: mental health doesn't discriminate, it does not in any way. 345 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,399 Speaker 1: But but but but but there is a point which 346 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: is you wouldn't know what it's like to live below 347 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: the poverty line and to experience then when you're getting 348 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: paid minimum wage, when your children are not out of school, 349 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 1: and now you cannot make your rent because you have 350 00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 1: been fired from your job. That is a that is 351 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 1: a level of hopelessness that you cannot relate to, that 352 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 1: I cannot relate to, that is happening all across our country. 353 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: So there is a responsibility. I feel this to be 354 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: sensit's and understand why a lot of times there's a 355 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 1: lot of anger towards ideas of levity or let's just 356 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: let's just try to see the good in this or 357 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 1: the silver lining in this. I can understand how so 358 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:17,159 Speaker 1: many millions of people are like, fuck your silver lining. 359 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:21,360 Speaker 1: I'm trying to put food on my table right whatever 360 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: I can do to educate to hopefully either you know, 361 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:31,240 Speaker 1: one thing I'm really interested in is feeding. So like 362 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: we're being the ambassador for the World Food Program, Like 363 00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 1: we're about to go into a a famine of biblical proportions. 364 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,680 Speaker 1: People don't even understand this. A quarter of a billion 365 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:46,199 Speaker 1: people will die of hunger because of COVID that now 366 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: we were looking at globally, globally, so all of these things, 367 00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 1: like everything we can do to kind of recognize the 368 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 1: severity of it at the same time support it and 369 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,399 Speaker 1: then also support people mental health. Know that there's ways 370 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:04,479 Speaker 1: that we can kind of hold each other and all 371 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 1: feel connected in this in some way, but be sensitive 372 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:11,120 Speaker 1: to how we're doing it. You know, we all have 373 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 1: this ability to use a platform to share with people, 374 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: like your platform. For instance, let's talk about what you do. 375 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 1: No but but seriously, but here there's a thing like 376 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: you make people so happy because you're nuts and you're funny, 377 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: and you're just like out there and you say ridiculous 378 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 1: things and you just seemingly don't care even though I 379 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: know you do deep down care about all kinds of things. 380 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 1: But sure you you you know what you don't do. 381 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,439 Speaker 1: It's interesting you don't really get out in front of 382 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 1: the things that you care about so much. I mean, 383 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 1: you have a deep passion for children and the children's hospital. 384 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,360 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you have so many things. Right. We come 385 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,919 Speaker 1: from a family that's like we don't I mean, the 386 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 1: self serving aspect of charity work is something we try 387 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 1: very hard not to publicize, Like we want to do 388 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 1: good and aren't very interested in like publicizing that we're 389 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,959 Speaker 1: passionate about these things. Right, almost sometimes to a fault, 390 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 1: because you could be utilized in your platform to share 391 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:21,439 Speaker 1: more about that goofy crazy guy, like what you do 392 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 1: to give children that feeling of like I sprinkle it in. 393 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 1: I'm just saying no, but I know what you mean. 394 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:38,920 Speaker 1: I know what you mean. But yeah, yeah, you sleep 395 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 1: on this. I do sleep on this, my helix, mattress, 396 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:49,639 Speaker 1: my LUs midnight, your lux midnight that you took a quiz. 397 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: I took a quiz because you did this quiz. Yes, yes, 398 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: oh cool. 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I laugh every time on the intro 439 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: when Kate says, ew, don't make that face, which I 440 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: do too, by the way, makes me laugh every single time. 441 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,359 Speaker 1: I have loved learning more about your real personalities, like 442 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 1: how Kate seems so down to earth and strict with 443 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 1: her kids, and every once in a while I hear 444 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: your mom's laugh when she laughs. I watched laughing when 445 00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:28,520 Speaker 1: I was little, because those were the days you watched 446 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,639 Speaker 1: whatever your parents watched. And Oliver, you were so honest 447 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 1: about your opinions when you talked about Kobe Bryant and 448 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,880 Speaker 1: just shared your honest feelings like what T like, WTF? 449 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 1: This makes no sense. I also laugh when you ask 450 00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: siblings if they have a resentment to their siblings success, 451 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:48,359 Speaker 1: and Kate always says, no, Allie, it's just you. I 452 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,119 Speaker 1: think you're hilarious. And you don't give yourself enough credit 453 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:56,080 Speaker 1: for your own successes. Oh everyone says that, yeah, because 454 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,919 Speaker 1: but I know, but there's a self deprecating part of me, 455 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 1: like there is as it's part stick as well, Like 456 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:08,120 Speaker 1: I definitely am grateful for my successes. I know I've 457 00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: been extremely successful. I know I'm one of the more 458 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 1: talented people in the world. I get, I know it all, 459 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 1: but it's part of my stick. But I do, I 460 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:26,240 Speaker 1: do again. Okay, she's all insecurity, all right, Hell, okay, 461 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 1: let me finish anyway. I have decided to email because 462 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:31,879 Speaker 1: I haven't had time to listen to these past few weeks. 463 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 1: I'm a nurse at an on cologny I am a 464 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: nurse at an oncology clinic. I'm still going to work. 465 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:42,160 Speaker 1: We are seeing more patients become COVID positive, which means 466 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:45,160 Speaker 1: they have to delay their chemotherapy because they cannot come 467 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,560 Speaker 1: to the clinic and they're too sick and it's too risky. 468 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,040 Speaker 1: I have two teenagers at home that are doing online 469 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: schooling while schools are closed. My youngest girl, my youngest 470 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:57,200 Speaker 1: has high functioning autism. You would never know if you 471 00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,640 Speaker 1: saw her, but she has social anxiety and she's loving 472 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: them learning. My older daughter is a senior in high school. 473 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 1: I feel so bad for her. So far the prom, graduation, 474 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 1: and the senior activities are postponed. And if senior is 475 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 1: supposed to be so much fun and she's stuck at home, 476 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,600 Speaker 1: unable to be with her friends, she is pretty miserable 477 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: and her beautiful banana yellow prom dress is just hanging up. 478 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 1: My mother is seventy eight and lives alone. Last week, 479 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,320 Speaker 1: we drove by and had her stand out on her 480 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,680 Speaker 1: balcony so we could wave and say hi from the car. 481 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:29,960 Speaker 1: So as COVID lingers on, real life is still happening, 482 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 1: I keep looking at the positives because of COVID. My 483 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,200 Speaker 1: mom learned how to FaceTime on an iPad she never 484 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 1: used before. My teens are forced to spend time with us, 485 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 1: which has been nice. My siblings and cousins all meet 486 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:45,000 Speaker 1: up via zoom and it was quite comical. Traffic has 487 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 1: been next to nothing. The community is coming together to 488 00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: support for one another, and I feel like our governor 489 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: is doing an amazing job. I'm temporarily going to take 490 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 1: a job, a second job, to triage people with COVID 491 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 1: symptoms to help them get the care they need. I 492 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,080 Speaker 1: want to help them more wherever I can. I am 493 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 1: thankful for your podcast because it gives me a laugh 494 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 1: when I need it, and also appreciate Kate and all 495 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,880 Speaker 1: of her sharing their true feelings and opinions. Stay safe 496 00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:16,320 Speaker 1: and keep being real with gratitude. Erin great name, oh 497 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:20,240 Speaker 1: my wife's name. That email makes me emotional because, well, 498 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:25,719 Speaker 1: for a number of reasons. One clearly, you you know, 499 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 1: healthcare workers love what they do. They feel this just 500 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,840 Speaker 1: need and desire to have to help. And I just 501 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: find people like that to be really admirable. So I 502 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 1: really admire that, Aaron. And then to be a mother 503 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:47,680 Speaker 1: and to be managing all of these things feels I understand, 504 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 1: you know, we all understand that, you know, But then 505 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: to add on top of that what you're doing is 506 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: just it's a great, well rounded email. It's because it's funny, 507 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,680 Speaker 1: and she's also again we talked about silver linings, but 508 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 1: you know she's talking about how the families coming together, 509 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,240 Speaker 1: how there are these more the more of these zoom calls. 510 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 1: You know, there's a connectivity that's happening that we I 511 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:12,680 Speaker 1: got very emotional with the yellow prompt because you think 512 00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 1: about kids, especially at that age, you know, your teenage years, 513 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:21,240 Speaker 1: everything feels so immediate and like it's it's just the 514 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,680 Speaker 1: end of the world, you know, and it's a very 515 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: hard time to be a teenager. So I feel that 516 00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: sort of that they're not being given their celebratory moments. 517 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 1: I know, we can always say, well, you know what, 518 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 1: there's a lot of worse things going on in the world, 519 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: and you can skip your prom and graduation, but it 520 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 1: means a lot of these kids, you know what I mean, right, Yes, 521 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 1: I know that these things are horrible, but it's not 522 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 1: selfish to sort of say and thank god, I can't 523 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 1: believe I'm not going to have my prominence bummer. Right, Yeah, 524 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: that's of course. I know. They're not so fun. I know, 525 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 1: oh my god, I know. You know in The Bachelor, 526 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 1: you know, in The Bachelor, there's moments where like girls 527 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 1: will be like, I never had a prom, and I'm like, yeah, 528 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: I forget what Bachelor it was. But then they like 529 00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:12,480 Speaker 1: gave her a prom or something. He gave her a prom. Yeah, 530 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,200 Speaker 1: maybe it wasn't the Badger anyway, but you see that 531 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,320 Speaker 1: a lot like girls or guys you didn't get to 532 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,520 Speaker 1: go to prom. I know, and that'll be this generation 533 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,760 Speaker 1: of seniors. By the way, for some people, it's gonna 534 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 1: be like, oh fuck, thank god, there's no prom I mean, 535 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: for real, there's gonna be a whole group of kids 536 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,400 Speaker 1: who are like, holy shit, thank god I didn't have 537 00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 1: a date anyway, I was too scared to ask her. 538 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: Now I'm off the hook. I loved that email. Thank you, Aaron. 539 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:46,560 Speaker 1: Here we go Number two. Every sibling rivalry begins the 540 00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 1: exact moment you lose your position on the throne as 541 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 1: being an only child. Most siblings grow out of it. 542 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,320 Speaker 1: Then there's our story. My brother and I are four 543 00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 1: years apart, almost to the day, missing it by mere hours. 544 00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,880 Speaker 1: So needless to say, my long standing adoration was easily 545 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: rocked by his presence the day before my birthday, and that, 546 00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 1: my friends, is when the torch was lit, igniting our rivalry. 547 00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 1: I tried to be the proud big sister and probably 548 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:18,160 Speaker 1: had the T shirt that said so, But in all actuality, 549 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:23,560 Speaker 1: I just really wanted a kitten for my birthday. So 550 00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:26,600 Speaker 1: since my parental units didn't get me one, I figured 551 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,320 Speaker 1: I would take it about myself to get my own, 552 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 1: which meant at the ripe old age of four and 553 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 1: a half, I decided to sell my parents offspring to 554 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 1: the next door neighbor for a quarter and a pack 555 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:40,600 Speaker 1: of juicy fruit. When the neighbor girl came to collect 556 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 1: the little tormentor, it was obvious that the mother figure 557 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 1: wasn't about to let it go, so at that point, 558 00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:49,480 Speaker 1: the only thing left to do was to shove the 559 00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 1: entire pack of juicy fruit in my mouth and hand 560 00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:55,160 Speaker 1: back over the quarter. After figuring out that I couldn't 561 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,840 Speaker 1: sell him on the black market, I tried a different approach. 562 00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 1: Let's try, I don't know, maybe getting along. What could 563 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,160 Speaker 1: go wrong? We decided to join forces and act like 564 00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,480 Speaker 1: normal siblings, but that was cut short when our mom 565 00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:10,000 Speaker 1: came home early from work found out that we were 566 00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 1: running a neighborhood gambling ring out of our garage at 567 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:17,000 Speaker 1: the ripe ages of eleven and seven. That little camaraderie 568 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 1: cost us two weeks of house arrest during the summer. 569 00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:22,319 Speaker 1: We decided it would be in our best interest to 570 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,919 Speaker 1: go back to our normal behavior with each other now 571 00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 1: flashing forward because the statue of limitations is not up 572 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,479 Speaker 1: when it comes to our mom, and there's a lot 573 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,439 Speaker 1: for us to be still grounded for during our high 574 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,439 Speaker 1: school and college years, but not to disappoint our most 575 00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:40,640 Speaker 1: famous sibling rivalry competition to date. As a prelude, our 576 00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:43,520 Speaker 1: mom sent us to private Catholic schools our entire life, 577 00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,080 Speaker 1: even down to an all boys and all girls Catholic 578 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:49,160 Speaker 1: high school. For the past twenty plus years, we have 579 00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:52,720 Speaker 1: been entertaining friends and family with our yearly Christmas religious 580 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,120 Speaker 1: gag gifts, and so far it has been very heated race, 581 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 1: a very heated race with Pope on a rope, the 582 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:03,080 Speaker 1: Jesus Christ singing Hallelujah, wallet, none bowling set with its 583 00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:06,760 Speaker 1: own hell ball of fire, how to Dance like Jesus' book, 584 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: and of course my favorite, the one I had specially 585 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,880 Speaker 1: made just to document or monumental occasion of being siblings. 586 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,120 Speaker 1: With all that being said, I truly enjoy your podcast, 587 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,040 Speaker 1: knowing that I'm not alone and secretly wanting to get 588 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 1: back on that throne. Keep up the amazing work, Stay 589 00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:25,640 Speaker 1: safe and healthy From Amy aka my Mom's favorite child, 590 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:31,600 Speaker 1: no matter what she says. Did you feel that Amy's 591 00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:37,839 Speaker 1: submission was really relatable to you? Oh? Yeah, I mean extremely. 592 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:44,640 Speaker 1: I don't ever, I don't really ever remember feeling anger, 593 00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:49,319 Speaker 1: you know, towards you. What, No, not really like feeling it. 594 00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:52,719 Speaker 1: You know, you just got in my way. Oh Jesus, 595 00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:55,439 Speaker 1: you just got in my way, you know. But all 596 00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 1: these pictures that I'm finding of us, I'm hugging you, 597 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:04,600 Speaker 1: And so maybe I was better than I thought. Maybe 598 00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:08,560 Speaker 1: you're just remembering all the bad things, you know, but 599 00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,640 Speaker 1: the good things. There are more good things than bad things. 600 00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:16,360 Speaker 1: But you're just remembering all the bad things. Okay, this 601 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:21,560 Speaker 1: is from Kathleen. I just wanted to say I love 602 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,440 Speaker 1: your podcast, and I'm so grateful for you too, for 603 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,000 Speaker 1: doing what you're doing. I work in healthcare. I am 604 00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,440 Speaker 1: an addictions therapist at a hospital in West Virginia, and 605 00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:34,480 Speaker 1: while I didn't stockpile toilet paper, I did hoard your episodes. 606 00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:36,400 Speaker 1: So I've been listening to them on my drive to 607 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:39,560 Speaker 1: and from work. If I could give some acknowledgment to 608 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:44,920 Speaker 1: my patients. Addiction is such an isolating disease, and people 609 00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:48,000 Speaker 1: in recovery truly benefit from the social connection of others, 610 00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:50,440 Speaker 1: and they don't get to have that right now. So 611 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,760 Speaker 1: I've been recommending my people's listen to your podcast because 612 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,520 Speaker 1: for me, when I'm listening to it, it feels like 613 00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,840 Speaker 1: I'm a part of this intimate dialogue with family, and 614 00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,920 Speaker 1: I feel connected to you. So again, I'm so grateful 615 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 1: to you for who you are and what you do 616 00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 1: for others. Oh, I just want to cry every time. 617 00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:14,960 Speaker 1: I literally like, that's amazing. We should do something on addiction. 618 00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,480 Speaker 1: We should do it. Yeah, yeah, especially because it's so 619 00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,040 Speaker 1: I mean, it's I mean when you when you work 620 00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,239 Speaker 1: in the arts, you're around it so much, you know, 621 00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:27,520 Speaker 1: And and I've lost a lot of friends to addiction, 622 00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,279 Speaker 1: and I have had a lot of friends that have 623 00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:37,560 Speaker 1: recovered and suffered and recovered and wow, thank you, thank you. 624 00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,439 Speaker 1: But I also it's why we're so pulled to this. 625 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,080 Speaker 1: Initially it was really about all over and I wanting 626 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,919 Speaker 1: to just do something fun and spend time together. It's 627 00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:48,879 Speaker 1: taken on a different life, which has been so fun. 628 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,440 Speaker 1: And if you can, if we can sort of touch people, 629 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: you know, even whether it be addiction or isolation or 630 00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:58,439 Speaker 1: anyone even bringing up Hoffman. You know, people have been 631 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 1: to Hoffman now and I've gotten twelve to fifteen letters 632 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,480 Speaker 1: from people at Hoffman. You know, because at the end 633 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,720 Speaker 1: you write, you know, you have an opportunity to write 634 00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,600 Speaker 1: a letter to whoever you want to and I've gotten 635 00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: I think fifteen of them. They've heard about it on 636 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:20,440 Speaker 1: the show. From my experience, they went to Hoffman and 637 00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:22,839 Speaker 1: you know, they're like, this has changed my life, and 638 00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:25,839 Speaker 1: so it's how amazing is amazing for me? I've been 639 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 1: I cry at each one I read. I'm like, this 640 00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:32,080 Speaker 1: is so cool. I feel like so cool us telling stories. 641 00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:35,120 Speaker 1: Playing characters is a blast, right, and you can reach 642 00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,000 Speaker 1: people through characters every once in a while there's a 643 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,120 Speaker 1: character that people really relate to, right, But when you 644 00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:44,719 Speaker 1: can actually sort of talk to people about like the 645 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:48,160 Speaker 1: things that could make them feel good in their life 646 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 1: and it actually has some kind of impact, there's nothing 647 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:56,080 Speaker 1: more rewarding to me than like hearing her say that. 648 00:38:56,400 --> 00:39:00,239 Speaker 1: You know, it just makes me so happy that that's it. 649 00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:04,120 Speaker 1: I mean, if it just touched Kathleen, then I'm totally 650 00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:07,840 Speaker 1: I'm totally happy, grateful. We want to keep doing these 651 00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:09,640 Speaker 1: kinds of things, and I know we talked about it 652 00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,239 Speaker 1: many many podcasts ago I was making there's a New 653 00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,520 Speaker 1: Year's Eve thing, but it's about just being more charitable 654 00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,360 Speaker 1: with my time, not necessarily my my pocketbook. You know, 655 00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,800 Speaker 1: it feels good and it may be selfless. I don't know, 656 00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 1: it's it's both. It can they think it can work 657 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,960 Speaker 1: both ways. But when you get responses like this, or 658 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 1: when I read those letters from Hoffmann, it makes me 659 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:32,839 Speaker 1: just want to keep doing more of that. I know, well, 660 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,279 Speaker 1: this was this was way to wrap it up. This 661 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:39,040 Speaker 1: is so fun. Oh my god, this is a great 662 00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:46,040 Speaker 1: like Reunited, I believe. Are you serious right now? Yeah, 663 00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,040 Speaker 1: we got to wrap it up just like that. We 664 00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:51,719 Speaker 1: did it great. I love it. I love you, I 665 00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:58,320 Speaker 1: love you too. Sibling Revelry is executive groups by Kate Hudson, 666 00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:02,760 Speaker 1: Olira Hudson and Simsarna. Supervising producer is Alison Presnank. Editor 667 00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:07,799 Speaker 1: is Josh Wendish. Music by Mark Hudson aka Uncle Mark.