WEBVTT - Two Things Can Be True At The Same Time: Part 5 [The Mini-Series] (Normalizing the In-Betweens and Healing From Extremism) (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out be outwait everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning love who I am again. I'm stan I

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<v Speaker 2>feel free, I know every pardon me, it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we'll always out way if you feel it,

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<v Speaker 1>but you are, She'll some love to the vio Why

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<v Speaker 1>get there?

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<v Speaker 3>Take you one day?

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<v Speaker 2>Anta?

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<v Speaker 4>Did you?

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<v Speaker 3>And die out Way?

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<v Speaker 4>Happy Saturday? Outweigh Amy here and Leanne Ellington. Hello, Hello,

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<v Speaker 4>we are back together. Leanne has been doing some other episodes,

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<v Speaker 4>but we're continuing our two things can be True at

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<v Speaker 4>the same Time mini series. So we did four parts

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<v Speaker 4>of this a few weeks ago and now we're going

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<v Speaker 4>to do four more. So definitely encourage you to go

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<v Speaker 4>back and listen to those if you missed them, because

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<v Speaker 4>I think that there's a lot of in between. There's like, wait,

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<v Speaker 4>this is how I'm feeling or that's how I'm feeling,

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<v Speaker 4>and Leanne is the best one to help you understand

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<v Speaker 4>and me understand, quite honestly, how well all.

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<v Speaker 3>Of this stuff can exist at the same time and

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<v Speaker 3>it's okay.

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<v Speaker 4>And today we're touching on how you can be self

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<v Speaker 4>endorsed and you can be super confident all the things,

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<v Speaker 4>and you can also still care what other people think

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<v Speaker 4>about you or fear judgment.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that it's important to remember that.

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<v Speaker 2>One thousand percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So the topic of self endorsement first kind of

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<v Speaker 1>presented itself to me when I had this moment of

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<v Speaker 1>awareness where I was like, Okay, if somebody's not telling

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<v Speaker 1>me that I'm amazing, or telling me that I'm smart,

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<v Speaker 1>or telling me that I'm pretty or anything like that,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know who I was. I felt like a

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<v Speaker 1>shell of a version of myself without relying on somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else to give it to me externally. And that was

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<v Speaker 1>such a big awareness for me, because I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>my brain was being hijacked and it was at the

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<v Speaker 1>discretion of what other people thought, and not just what

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<v Speaker 1>other people thought, what I thought other people thought, so

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<v Speaker 1>my perceptions of their perceptions. And so this concept of

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<v Speaker 1>self endorsement, like what would it look like if I,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, really started paying attention to what I think

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<v Speaker 1>and what I feel and what I say and who

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<v Speaker 1>I'm being in my own eyes. And as I started

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<v Speaker 1>further studying the brain, specifically the female brain, specifically the

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<v Speaker 1>female self image, that anterior singular cortex, that ACC that

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<v Speaker 1>I talk about all the time. It just kept coming

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<v Speaker 1>up and it made me realize, you know, because you've

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<v Speaker 1>met people, you hear people being like, well, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really care what they think. And I do agree that

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<v Speaker 1>the older you get, the more you really care what

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<v Speaker 1>or I should say, the older you get, the less

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<v Speaker 1>you do care. But it's not practical or possible to

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<v Speaker 1>never care because we have an entire part of our

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<v Speaker 1>brain that is looking for the acceptance from other people.

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<v Speaker 2>Do they like me? What do they think? Are they

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<v Speaker 2>judging me?

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<v Speaker 1>And we've talked about this too, that specific part of

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<v Speaker 1>the brain, it's bigger and more active in females than

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<v Speaker 1>it is in male, so especially at.

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<v Speaker 3>The younger years, like teenage brains exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially that ACC really starts developing around puberty, so even

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<v Speaker 1>as early as like ten to eleven for some girls,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So it's that awareness, and it's why the

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<v Speaker 1>opinions of their friends matter so much more than the

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<v Speaker 1>opinions of their parents, or their authority or their teacher,

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<v Speaker 1>right or it. Again, it just depends where that person

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<v Speaker 1>lays on their version of the social hierarchy, whether they

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<v Speaker 1>deem them more important socially, that's whose opinions will care more, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And so self endorsement especially, I believe is important at

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<v Speaker 1>as we as we are young to till forever. But

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<v Speaker 1>that being said, it's not practical to not care what

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<v Speaker 1>other people think, right, But again, we become a victim

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<v Speaker 1>to other people's opinions all the time if that's all

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<v Speaker 1>we're relying on.

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<v Speaker 4>So and I love that you mentioned a minute ago

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<v Speaker 4>perceived perceptions. Yeah, because we're filtering something through our brain,

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<v Speaker 4>or we make up stories and then it loops in

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<v Speaker 4>our head and we feel like that's absolutely the truth.

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<v Speaker 3>And it may be, yeah, sort of the truth, but

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<v Speaker 3>we make it far worse.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a truth with a lowercase TA, which is

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<v Speaker 1>really like a belief or a story or a meaning

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<v Speaker 1>that we're giving it versus the truth with a capital T,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what is the end all, be all truth?

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<v Speaker 2>And sometimes we'll never know, right.

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<v Speaker 1>But some things we do know, and we can also

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<v Speaker 1>choose a new, more empowering truth to live by and

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<v Speaker 1>new beliefs to step into. And that's where self endorsement

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<v Speaker 1>comes into play. But coming back to the whole, two

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<v Speaker 1>things can be true at the same time, like you

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<v Speaker 1>can be self endorse you.

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<v Speaker 2>Can love who you are, know who you are, be

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<v Speaker 2>really assured in who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>And so there's again multiple distinctions within here, and still

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<v Speaker 1>care what other people think about you, right, And you

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<v Speaker 1>can also care more about what you think about you

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<v Speaker 1>than what other people think about you.

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<v Speaker 2>And so that's that's the bottom line.

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<v Speaker 1>If I were to say what self endorsement is, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like caring just a teeny tiny bit more about what

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<v Speaker 1>you think and what you say and how you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about you and your value system and your integrity. Then

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<v Speaker 1>you care about what other people think about you. But

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<v Speaker 1>notice I didn't say not care what other people think

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<v Speaker 1>about you. And then of course that goes into not

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<v Speaker 1>relying on other people to fill you up internally for

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<v Speaker 1>you to feel filled up yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>What if words of affirmation or your love language?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, And I'm a big believer in meeting yourself where

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<v Speaker 2>you are.

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<v Speaker 1>So for the record, I'm telling all of this words

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<v Speaker 1>of affirmation absolutely my number one love language.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, big time.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, I think it's it's about again having both,

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<v Speaker 1>not either or so for me, it's knowing that I

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<v Speaker 1>also really like to have words of affirmation but I

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<v Speaker 1>don't need it. So it's the difference between desire it

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<v Speaker 1>versus require it. And then every once in a while

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<v Speaker 1>you might require it in order to feel what you

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<v Speaker 1>need to fill yourself while you're filling up your own cups. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, if there's something that you haven't yet stepped into,

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<v Speaker 1>and an example of this would be I might call

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<v Speaker 1>you and be like, hey, Amy, I am stepping out

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<v Speaker 1>on this new ledge right now. I've never done this,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never tried this, I've never witnessed myself being successful

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<v Speaker 1>at it. I have faith and I know I'm still

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<v Speaker 1>into it, but I'm a little bit wobbly right now.

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<v Speaker 1>And until I've figured out how to really believe myself,

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<v Speaker 1>can you just remind me about what you see in

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<v Speaker 1>me and what you say about me?

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<v Speaker 2>And there's nothing wrong with that, there's nothing wrong with

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<v Speaker 2>getting endorsed by other people.

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<v Speaker 1>And so again desiring it but not requiring it to

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<v Speaker 1>always need it, kind of like a drip feed of

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<v Speaker 1>a drug to be able to manifest it within you

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>So like if someone's having the body image thoughts, food

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<v Speaker 4>thoughts and they're thinking negatively of themselves, a form of

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<v Speaker 4>moving in the right direction to get past that would

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<v Speaker 4>be who's someone you can call that could say, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>can you tell me what you see in me?

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<v Speaker 3>So I have a question too.

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<v Speaker 4>About that, because, like, you don't want to comment on

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<v Speaker 4>someone's body, but I guess hearing a friend or a

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<v Speaker 4>loved one comment on all the things they love about

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<v Speaker 4>you that have nothing to do with appearance, right, right,

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<v Speaker 4>be a step in the right direction. And asking for

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<v Speaker 4>that from those that are close to you is okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, such a great question, and you brought up some

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<v Speaker 1>great distance. So first of all, yes, it's okay. What

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<v Speaker 1>I would say is making sure that that's not all

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing to fill up that self endorsement cup. And

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<v Speaker 1>so another way of looking at endorsement. Self endorsement is

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<v Speaker 1>one of the kind of distinctions I teach my clients is,

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<v Speaker 1>or I should say, when they come to me, the

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<v Speaker 1>majority of their thought process is spent looking for what

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<v Speaker 1>they're not doing, who they're not being, what's not working,

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<v Speaker 1>what they don't like, what they don't have, what they're

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<v Speaker 1>not proud of.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So it's going in the opposite direction of endorsement.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really moving in the direction of shame, blame, guilt, comparisonitis, perfectionism,

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<v Speaker 1>all those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So, if that's what your brain space is used.

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<v Speaker 1>To looking for, it will continue looking for that until

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<v Speaker 1>you need teach it a new pathway, and then you're

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<v Speaker 1>kind of left to Okay, if I want to feel

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<v Speaker 1>filled up, I need somebody else to kind of again

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<v Speaker 1>drip feed me that dose of filling up my own

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<v Speaker 1>self esteem or self worth cup. So one of the

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<v Speaker 1>things I invite my clients into is this concept, so

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<v Speaker 1>specifically with the body image. And again I'm never saying like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>just take what I say as gospel. I'm always like,

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<v Speaker 1>try it on, see how it fits, see what resonates.

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<v Speaker 1>But to certain clients, I might say to them, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>what if your appearance and your weight and what you

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<v Speaker 1>look like was actually the least interesting thing about you.

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<v Speaker 2>What if there is so much more.

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<v Speaker 1>That is interesting about you that you just haven't explored

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<v Speaker 1>and looked for because you've been kind of thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>your weight. And so one of the things I invite

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<v Speaker 1>them to do is start like a very specific self

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<v Speaker 1>endorsement process, which is and it goes beyond the scope

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<v Speaker 1>of what I'll share right now, but the meat of

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<v Speaker 1>it is just start looking for what you are doing,

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<v Speaker 1>who you are being, what is working, what you do have,

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<v Speaker 1>what you are proud of. Right, it's like the proud

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<v Speaker 1>of side of it, because it feels so great if

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<v Speaker 1>you told me, like Leanne, I'm so proud of you.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me to manufacture feeling proud of myself, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a stretch because there's cobwebs on that part of that brain.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's never been used, maybe it hasn't been used in.

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<v Speaker 1>A very long time, and it needs the cobwebs need

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<v Speaker 1>to be cleared, and that new pathway needs to be built.

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<v Speaker 1>This is for the record, one of the most challenging

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<v Speaker 1>things my clients is to start acknowledging, bragging on like

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<v Speaker 1>a humble brag, so to speak, acknowledging themselves, celebrating themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>being proud of themselves. But the reason I invite them

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<v Speaker 1>into that part of the conversation is because it's literally

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<v Speaker 1>the recipe for self endorsement. And it's not just about

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<v Speaker 1>the doing. It's not just about Okay, I checked off

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<v Speaker 1>that box I wrote in my journal about three things

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<v Speaker 1>I'm proud of today. It's about little by little, teaching

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<v Speaker 1>your brain every day to go down that path to

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<v Speaker 1>look for what you are doing, who you are being,

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<v Speaker 1>what is working.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>A metaphor for this is if you are metaphorically getting

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<v Speaker 1>in your car every single day and driving south, right

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<v Speaker 1>and south, meaning shame, blame, comparison itis, the opposite of

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<v Speaker 1>self endorsement, what you're not doing every day. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't even have to think about it. You could

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<v Speaker 1>just get in your car and all of a sudden

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be heading south in that car. But once you

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<v Speaker 1>switch into this mindset of what I'm what I'm sharing,

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<v Speaker 1>it's you're not going to magically get in the car

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<v Speaker 1>and it's all of a sudden going to turn around

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<v Speaker 1>and go north.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>At first, you're gonna have to, you know, get in

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<v Speaker 1>the car, assume that it's going to automatically start going south,

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<v Speaker 1>because that program in your brain just you know, start

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<v Speaker 1>driving the direction that you always would.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's gonna take a lot of momentum.

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<v Speaker 1>And energy at first to literally like hit the brakes

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<v Speaker 1>on the car, turn the car around, and then start

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<v Speaker 1>driving north in this new direction that you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>a map for right, So at first it's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of energy to go from south to north right north

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<v Speaker 1>in this metaphor being who you are, being what you

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<v Speaker 1>are doing, what you do, have, what you've created, what

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<v Speaker 1>you're proud of, what you love, what you like.

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<v Speaker 2>But little by little, that car you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, it's not going to just automatically go north, but

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<v Speaker 1>little by little it's not gonna take so much resistance

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<v Speaker 1>to turn it around. And all of a sudden it's

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<v Speaker 1>going southwest, and then northwest, and then all of a

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<v Speaker 1>sudden it is going north. But it's about teaching your

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<v Speaker 1>brand this new path as opposed to just okay, check

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<v Speaker 1>that off. Wrote my gratitude journal, wrote my proud of journal.

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<v Speaker 4>Right if you did give me that homework assignment once,

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<v Speaker 4>and I do think it's a good one to, like

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<v Speaker 4>you said, have people do, but it's not the end

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<v Speaker 4>all be all. But you were like Amy ought you

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<v Speaker 4>to get in your journal, and I want you to

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<v Speaker 4>brag on yourself to yourself and celebrate.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what I did.

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<v Speaker 4>I wrote, I celebrate that I did this, and I

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<v Speaker 4>celebrate that I am this way, and I celebrate these

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<v Speaker 4>parts of me. And so my encouragement being someone that

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<v Speaker 4>has done that exercise and has had similar thoughts to

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<v Speaker 4>where I want to rewire.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to dust off.

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<v Speaker 4>Those cobwebs, would be absolutely do that, and then also

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<v Speaker 4>just be patient with yourself, knowing that if the cobwebs

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<v Speaker 4>are there, like something's blocked and you don't even know

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<v Speaker 4>your fullest potential. You don't even know those parts of

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<v Speaker 4>you yet that Leanne mentioned that are really awesome that

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<v Speaker 4>have nothing to do with your looks.

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<v Speaker 3>You might be like, well, I don't, I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>that I have anything.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you do, but Leanne and I can certainly relate

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<v Speaker 4>to the fact that you just haven't discovered that part

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<v Speaker 4>of yourself yet or it was there maybe when you

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<v Speaker 4>were a kid or before the food and the body

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<v Speaker 4>image stuff started, and then that got suppressed and had

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<v Speaker 4>to quiet itself because everything else was louder. And so

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<v Speaker 4>we need to and I say we because I'm in

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<v Speaker 4>the process of doing too. It's you're waking it back up.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely yeah. And you know we you could past present future.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a great way to reconcile stuff from the past

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<v Speaker 1>and then see what you're creating in reality. But the

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<v Speaker 1>other thing, too, is like giving yourself grace that this

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the most common I'm going to use

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<v Speaker 1>the word fights that a lot of people slash women

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<v Speaker 1>have is like knowing our worthiness, knowing why we're awesome,

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<v Speaker 1>remembering it because I mean, when you think about yesterday,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the first thing that comes to mind? All the

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<v Speaker 1>things you didn't do or all the things that you accomplished.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, you know my yesterday.

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<v Speaker 2>I do know your yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yesterday I was like, I don't know what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>But like, between might need external endorsement. I guess a baby.

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<v Speaker 4>Bird and a huge crack in my windshield and like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>we're taking care of our neighbor's cat. Couldn't find the cat.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a black cat, by the way, And I thought,

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<v Speaker 4>what in the world?

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<v Speaker 3>Like everything? And I don't like to get power to that.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't like to say everything's going wrong today, because

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<v Speaker 4>then everything will continue to go wrong today. So I

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<v Speaker 4>didn't do that yesterday, although I was very aware that

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<v Speaker 4>lots of things were going wrong, but I tried to

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<v Speaker 4>stay lighthearted about it and be like it is all

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<v Speaker 4>going to work out all as well. And then today

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<v Speaker 4>I'm trying to, you know, laugh about it more so

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<v Speaker 4>that way I just can channel getting in the flow

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<v Speaker 4>for good things.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, I have stuff like that is just

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<v Speaker 3>gonna happen, but it's part of life.

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<v Speaker 4>The main takeaway from this for me, speaking from someone

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<v Speaker 4>that's done the celebration journaling, would be start to celebrate yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>And maybe you're not a journaler, well then I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>When you're driving in your car, be like I am

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<v Speaker 4>awesome because DA, or when you're at work, maybe you

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<v Speaker 4>have to do it silently in your head and you

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<v Speaker 4>know you just did an awesome presentation or turned in

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<v Speaker 4>an awesome report, say wow, I am awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>I did that and it is good for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>And if that even feels like a far stretch for anyone,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, for some people that might be that

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<v Speaker 1>might feel far away or braggadocious or whatever. Borrow the

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<v Speaker 1>eyes of unconditional love. Borrow the eyes if you have

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<v Speaker 1>somebody in your life that you're like, man, they always

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<v Speaker 1>see the real me.

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<v Speaker 3>Borrow those eyes. You know, for me, I've borrow eyes

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<v Speaker 3>like eyeballs.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh sorry, good distinction eyes I thought you're about to

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<v Speaker 1>give us.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I you know, borrow the letter eye on the

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<v Speaker 4>alphabet acronym, you know, like let's go over all the eyes, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I borrow somebody's pupils in metaphorical integrity.

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<v Speaker 3>What intelligence there you go, so eyeballs, yes, eyeballs.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for that clarification.

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<v Speaker 1>Go team, But yeah, borrow somebody's eyeballs ocular system and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just see yourself through them.

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<v Speaker 2>For me sometimes on in my journal.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is also me not coming from some high

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<v Speaker 1>mountain of like, oh, I'm so self endorsed. I never

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's I'm constantly up against my own internal beliefs,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm always on the self imaging journey.

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<v Speaker 3>Because two things can be true to this in one

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<v Speaker 3>thousand percent.

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<v Speaker 1>And I care what people think about me because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>wired to care, right, But I also care what I

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<v Speaker 1>think about me, and I've placed precedents on that. But

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<v Speaker 1>for me, sometimes I'll show up in my journal, but God,

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<v Speaker 1>please just remind me who I am, show me who

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<v Speaker 1>you see me as, because sometimes I don't have the

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<v Speaker 1>strength or the resilience or the energy to pull from

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<v Speaker 1>it myself, or sometimes I'm in the midst of something,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, So even just borrowing those unconditional eyes of love, acceptance, grace,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't feel like you can engineer it yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a great starting point, as well, but the bottom

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<v Speaker 1>line is knowing, Like if you've ever said, man, I

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<v Speaker 1>just wish I didn't care what people think about me,

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<v Speaker 1>know that you're not wrong, broken, weird, weak for caring

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<v Speaker 1>what people think about you. You are wired to care.

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<v Speaker 1>But what we're inviting you into is just start looking

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<v Speaker 1>for and paying attention to and starting to care about

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<v Speaker 1>what you think and what you see and what you

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<v Speaker 1>say in your opinion and view.

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<v Speaker 2>Of yourself just a little bit more.

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<v Speaker 3>It makes me think of the people that say that.

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<v Speaker 4>Do say, well, I don't really care what people think

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<v Speaker 4>about me, and you might think, oh, I wish I

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<v Speaker 4>was that way, But I would guess that they're saying

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<v Speaker 4>that as a defense mechanism, because you're telling us that's

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<v Speaker 4>sort of impossible.

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<v Speaker 1>We're wired to care, unless we're obviously going on the

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<v Speaker 1>bridge of some sort of like disorder or sociopathy.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's a whole nother podcast. So LeAnn, where can

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<v Speaker 4>people find you?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 1>You can head on over to Stressless Eating dot com

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<v Speaker 1>or I Am making my way on Instagram. Now welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to twenty twenty three. So I'm Leanne Ellington over on

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<v Speaker 1>her Instagram.

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<v Speaker 4>Her debut Leanne Ellington but I'm sure it's stresslessading dot

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<v Speaker 4>com is there at Instagram icon they can click on?

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<v Speaker 3>If not, we should but walls okay, noted to do list.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you hear that, Siri? Because you can you know

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<v Speaker 3>you can put Facebook right?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>And maybe that she just double dog dareby people you

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<v Speaker 1>heard it first. Yes, so we'll see see what happens.

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<v Speaker 4>I am at radio Amy and radio me dot com

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<v Speaker 4>and actually I now want to go check radio me

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<v Speaker 4>dot com and see if I have little icons because

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know that I do, but I.

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<v Speaker 3>Appreciate websites that do.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So hope y'all are having the day that you need

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<v Speaker 3>to have.

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<v Speaker 4>And Tuesday I'll be doing a fifth thing with Kat

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<v Speaker 4>Thursday four Things. LeAnn has an podcast launching soon called

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<v Speaker 4>What's God Got to Do with It? We're very excited,

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<v Speaker 4>so more about that later and then of course we'll

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<v Speaker 4>be back together to continue this mini series next Saturday.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, bye bye