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Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB, Hey Cheeks, I.

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Speaker 2: Have a question, make ard e step children. I'm in

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Speaker 2: the same sex relationship I fail one by partner for

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Speaker 2: proximately seven years, and she has a of your old

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Speaker 2: He was about four years old when I came into

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Speaker 2: I would say five years, so about two years into

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Speaker 2: He will walk right past me, not even say hello.

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Speaker 2: comments to us like, well, you're not really my mom

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Speaker 3: So at this point, I mean, it's just.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Aura, I get it. I understand it's

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Speaker 1: I think, respectfully, your partner is not doing her job

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