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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya Brad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast. Wow, we

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Speaker 1: are in San Francisco. That's right. Whatever happened to predictability?

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Speaker 1: That's a full health I'm like, I didn't find myself

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Speaker 1: another song? Yeah? Do you not? I wasn't a big

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Speaker 1: full house person. Okay, well what a mood point to

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Speaker 1: start on. Um, all right, Tanya, tell us tell them

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Speaker 1: where we are. Well, we are at Oracle Park in

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Speaker 1: San Francisco. We are set. We have the cutest set

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Speaker 1: up in the entire world. Um, at the Cloud Club,

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Speaker 1: which is where we're doing the podcast, and it's so

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Speaker 1: freaking cute. Yeah. It's located on the suite level. It's

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Speaker 1: their brand new all inclusive premium lounge in a new

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Speaker 1: way to premium. Yeah, this is so fancy. Yeah. It's

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Speaker 1: like Tanya, you know, is not a big sports girl.

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Speaker 1: We could say, but I feel Tanya in the Cloud

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Speaker 1: Club is um so yeah, we have literally the best

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Speaker 1: view of the whole park up here. We just have

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Speaker 1: our little podcast set up right here. It's me Tanya Easton.

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Speaker 1: Danielle's right here. I don't know if she hasn't Mike,

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Speaker 1: but she's sitting here. Nothing makes me happier than a

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Speaker 1: Danielle on a on a work trip. I'm very honored.

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Speaker 1: I mean, nothing makes me happier. But I also want

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Speaker 1: not bring the card with me and I want to

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Speaker 1: get the names correct. Um, we need to shout out Brittany, Kelsey, Michelle,

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Speaker 1: and Vanessa. They are literally the sweetest humans on the planet.

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Speaker 1: I have never seen a gift bag cuter and more

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Speaker 1: personal and more personalized in my life what was in yours? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So these scrubs, the San Francisco Giant scrub tops, which

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Speaker 1: I was like, are we gonna wear them? And she's like,

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Speaker 1: I know you want to. I said, let's put them

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Speaker 1: So cute and thoughtful. I can't get over it. I

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Speaker 1: and um. On our way over here, when we're at

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Speaker 1: Signor butter We did when you seeing him again tomorrow? Wow,

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Speaker 1: What do we talk about? So Dania decided, you know,

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Speaker 1: think that's a really good move. If I was a

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Speaker 1: that sense of humor totally. Yeah, Okay, that's a good call. Great. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: But I'd be down to like, maybe I could maybe

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Speaker 1: could order some from myself. No, there's like multiples, it's

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Speaker 1: I feel like there was always this like expectation and pressure,

422
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Speaker 1: and I feel like now it's very almost taboo to

423
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 1: like put that pressure on. So so everyone's like I

424
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 1: heard that millennials have so much debt to go to

425
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: college that then in their twenties they're trying to pay

426
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: off their college debt. Then in their thirties they're trying

427
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: to work to make like a nest egg and some money.

428
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: So they're just not having kids, and it's all getting

429
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 1: pushed pushed back. We're not having kids ever? Probably not.

430
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Speaker 1: I think we've discussed yeah, yeah, breaking news. We're never

431
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 1: new new information. I feel like you guys were teeter

432
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 1: tottering for a while. We're yeah, we're to your time

433
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:43,639
Speaker 1: for a while, and then lately it's been hard. No,

434
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,479
Speaker 1: you're like, Disneyland is way more funn's kids. Yeah, it's

435
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:52,159
Speaker 1: it's really to go to Disneyland when you have no children. Hey,

436
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 1: I kind of have money for Disneyland. I mean, the

437
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 1: kid's going to suck up all that money. But no,

438
00:23:55,880 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: we a combination of things. But but you know, fear

439
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:04,160
Speaker 1: of the future of the planet and uh uh as

440
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: we also just haven't neither of us have like that

441
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 1: burning desire to to have children. You know, that's something

442
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: that we've never had. And you know, it's like there's

443
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 1: not a lot of pressure like there was, you know,

444
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: years ago. But but still, like Alison went to like

445
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 1: a baby shower recently and she was like, I have

446
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 1: never felt more like when I told them, like we

447
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,159
Speaker 1: weren't playing having kids, Like I never felt more like

448
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 1: other you know, and like ostracize. Yeah, Like I was like, well,

449
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? Why not? What's wrong? And like

450
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 1: do you hate me because I have kids? Like I

451
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 1: know that is interesting. There is this kind of like

452
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: I had a friend of mine who didn't want to

453
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 1: have kids for a really long time, um, and she

454
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,520
Speaker 1: recently changed her mind, so they probably will have kids.

455
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 1: But she felt the exact same way. She's like, I

456
00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 1: would tell people that we don't want to have kids,

457
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:52,640
Speaker 1: and they She's like the looks and the like judgment

458
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: that you get from saying that out loud is so crazy. Yeah,

459
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: it's It's why. I mean the way I always tell

460
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 1: people is like, I am a child. I can't be

461
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: raising an you know what I mean, Like a lot

462
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: of maturing to do. I also think that like a

463
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 1: lot of people maybe don't want kids, but things happen

464
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 1: and you know, or maybe like someone really wants kids

465
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: and so they do it. But it's kind of like

466
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: getting a This is like getting a dog. I'm thinking

467
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 1: about when I got a dog. I was like after

468
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 1: I got her, I was like, I cannot be doing that,

469
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 1: Like I can't raise a dog, Like I don't even

470
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: know what I'm doing. And I like had this little

471
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Speaker 1: thing that I was supposed to keep alive and take

472
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 1: care of, and I've just adapted to it. And I

473
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 1: think a lot of times that's what happened. It's like

474
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: maybe that wasn't planned, but it's like, obviously, if Alison

475
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 1: was like, I want to have kids, you'd be like,

476
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:45,120
Speaker 1: I can step up. But I think it's totally fine

477
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 1: and okay to say we don't want kids, like why

478
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:53,640
Speaker 1: bring in like why bring them into this world when

479
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 1: you're like, I'm loving my life and love how things

480
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Speaker 1: are going. I don't I know, but they were. Really

481
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: is a stigma. There's so much shame attached to it.

482
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: People look at me like I feel sometimes like sad girl.

483
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 1: Sad girl, Like they look at you like sad girl. Yeah,

484
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: because I don't have kids or a husband. So it's like,

485
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 1: oh well, it's not like they say it out loud,

486
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 1: but I think in their heads or I perceive it

487
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: that they're like like I was with some girlfriends the

488
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,120
Speaker 1: other day and they were talking about how their kids

489
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: give them purpose in life, and I'm like, what the

490
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Speaker 1: f as my purpose? Like yeah, doing podcasts. But then

491
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,719
Speaker 1: on the other hand, you may talk to someone who

492
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 1: has kids and you're like, yeah, I went and like

493
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: have my weekend to myself, and they're like, I would

494
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: give anything for a weekend about myself. You know, everyone's

495
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 1: kind of in that place of a lot of shame

496
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 1: if you don't have kids or like a husband. And

497
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: then I try to remember, like, hey, a lot of

498
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: people are like married and miserable, So why is that better?

499
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 1: So I try not to have shame. Thanks, this is

500
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: just gonna add to my tears that are coming up. No,

501
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: it's like there's everybody feels bad something I've been grasping

502
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 1: always greener, and like, like I said, I have friends

503
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: who have had kids, had kids so young, or like

504
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 1: got married so young, and it's like, oh, I miss

505
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 1: those days of like being single or dating or not

506
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: having responsibility. It's like everyone kind of is in that

507
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 1: place of like at some point wanting what they once

508
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: had or what they don't have anymore. So that's why

509
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: to all the girls who are like single and they're

510
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 1: like discouraged or feeling like they're not doing what society's

511
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: expectations are, like someone out there is wanting to do

512
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 1: what you're doing right now. Yeah, And I think like

513
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 1: sometimes I've been trying to be like really in that, Um,

514
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,680
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515
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516
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521
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522
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523
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524
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Speaker 1: We have great spander Wall. That was very long time.

579
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Speaker 1: I know, I feel very hot on my mic Um,

580
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 1: you were just doing some vocal warmups for us into

581
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 1: the microphone. Those are definitely my vocal warm up. Yes, wait,

582
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: I want to tell you something. So I met you. Yes,

583
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: So I met you years ago. It was like one

584
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: of my very first carpets that I did, and it

585
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: was like at like five o'clock in the morning, and

586
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: I was I was really nervous, and you came up

587
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 1: to me and you were like, oh my gosh, your

588
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:36,959
Speaker 1: makeup matches your shirt. You're so cool and you were

589
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 1: so nice to me, and I'll never forget it. Especially

590
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: my makeup artist was like freaking out because you loved

591
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: my makeup. How long ago was it? Years ago? I

592
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 1: was young? Yeah, but you were so like, you were

593
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: like overly so nice and I'll never forget it. How

594
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: old are you right now? Don't even to me because

595
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: you literally said when I was, I was saying childs

596
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 1: because twenty years since then, for sure? Okay, but you well,

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00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: the first time I ever literally this is probably this

598
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 1: is probably like four or five years ago. Yeah, well

599
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: years ago? When were you on America's Got Talent? Uh

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00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 1: like what years? Yeah? Like how many years ago? Was that?

601
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: Twenty fifty sixteen? Three or four years ago? Yeah? Oh

602
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: then maybe it wasn't five years. No, Actually, I secretly

603
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: was I was one of those kids who auditioned for

604
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: many talent shows, you know those kids. I was like,

605
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 1: there's no way, because you're your audition. We just wiped

606
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 1: it all from the internet. Yeah, right, Megan. You can't

607
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 1: find you anywhere before America's got talent, but you're Golden

608
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: Buzzer videos like one of the most viral videos. I

609
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: feel like crazy ever in the history of the show,

610
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:05,720
Speaker 1: Like the peanut Butter Baby. You're the baby, but you've

611
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: grown up. And the peanut Butter Baby. What you don't know?

612
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: Peanut Butter baby? Oh my god, how do you not

613
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Speaker 1: peanut butter are you making? Are you kidding? I don't

614
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 1: swear to God and people can't tell if I'm kidding,

615
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 1: I'm being dead. Is this like a thing? Oh, this

616
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: is like a thing on the end? Yes, this mother

617
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 1: walks in. Yes. Ah does it feel good? Oh? The

618
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Speaker 1: peanut Butter Baby. So that was you. That's not you

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Speaker 1: in the video. That isn't me. I that was actually

620
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 1: your first viral video. But that I mean I still

621
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: like I sometimes will just go on YouTube and what

622
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: if I want a good cry, I'll watch the Golden

623
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: Buzzer videos. And it all started. I felt like it

624
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 1: started with you, and I remember watching him being like,

625
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: this girl seems so like way beyond her years, because

626
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: how old were you at that point? I was twelve,

627
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: just turned twelve, and you got on this massive stage

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Speaker 1: in front of all these people, in these judges, and

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Speaker 1: you just like did your thing, and I felt like

630
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Speaker 1: they even said you were like could be the next

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it, they said they gave you

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Speaker 1: a good compliment, a great compliment. I love it. You

633
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,800
Speaker 1: just hear that all the time and you want to

634
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 1: be your own person. No, No, I think honestly, and

635
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: this is something that I definitely face because people on

636
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 1: talent shows, it's like once you get signed and everything,

637
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: it's like I feel like the first thing contestants think

638
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 1: are like, well, how do we move on? How do

639
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 1: I break away from the voice person or the American

640
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: idle person? But like, honestly, in my opinion, I feel

641
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 1: like the best way to move on, and like the

642
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 1: most graceful way to move on is to just not

643
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 1: try to move on, not hold onto your past. But

644
00:34:57,239 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: like that's why I'm totally let's talk know. If if

645
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: you want to talk about it, we'll talk about it.

646
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 1: If you don't, that's great too. Well they said left,

647
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 1: and it was like that, I mean, I'm trying to

648
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: think at that time, she I mean she's she's still

649
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: a huge deal, but like back then, but like you know,

650
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: hearing that at twelve was probably like whoa. Not only

651
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 1: that's amazing, but well it's a lot of pressure because

652
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: like she's a big deal and you've you're like doing

653
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 1: your thing and holding your own outside of this like

654
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:33,320
Speaker 1: show that you won. Thank you. That's a really good compliment.

655
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 1: Thank you. You're here at scrubbing your own scrubbing and

656
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 1: you've made it. Yeah, you've made it. Yes. Um, yeah,

657
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: I am chill. You know, I never really felt that

658
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: pressure or anything even back then, especially back then. Actually

659
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 1: you feel it more now if anything. Yeah, if anything,

660
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 1: I mean I wouldn't even say that I feel any pressure,

661
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 1: but if anything, I definitely would feel it more now

662
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: than back then. Well, when you're when you're singing, like

663
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: your song You're so beautiful, it's like on all my

664
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:13,279
Speaker 1: playlists right now, it's one of my favorite songs. Um.

665
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: And I would just like to say a lot of

666
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,480
Speaker 1: our listeners actually listen to our opinions on music, so

667
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 1: if you haven't listened to it yet, it's it's a

668
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 1: good one. And I feel like a lot of your

669
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 1: songs are very mature, like there are things that I

670
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 1: can relate to. And I hate to say it, but

671
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: I am significantly older than you. It's just the facts

672
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 1: of life and is I'm not she's maturity? Why but

673
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 1: I sing your songs knowing that you're much younger, but

674
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 1: the words don't. It's like you've been through things. Thank you,

675
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: it's really cool. Thank you. Do you write from experiences?

676
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:55,240
Speaker 1: Do you write thinking? Yeah, I always write from experiences,

677
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: or sometimes I write about the future. It's really really

678
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 1: strange and it happens all the time, and like I think,

679
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:04,880
Speaker 1: I'm like psychic for it. I don't understand. But sometimes

680
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 1: I'll be writing a song I'm like, I don't know

681
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 1: why I'm writing this, but I just am. And then

682
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,360
Speaker 1: like months later, I'll be like, oh my god, that

683
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 1: song is about what's happening to me. Do you write

684
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: while you're on tour or do you like have specific

685
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: times where you're like, Okay, today, I'm going to write,

686
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 1: like I have a session in the studio. I hate

687
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: going to the studio on tour. It's my least favorite thing.

688
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: Like I will be dead the whole time because I

689
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 1: feel like on tour my body like adjusts to like

690
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 1: doing absolutely nothing till around seven pm. So like even

691
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 1: now I'm like low key kind of dead because I'm

692
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:44,320
Speaker 1: like my body is like why am I doing things

693
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 1: in the daylight? Um? But I usually don't write on

694
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 1: tour at all, but last night I wrote at like

695
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 1: to thirty am. I still haven't revisited that. It might

696
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: sound crazy, but I think that was like one of

697
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: the only times that I've written on this tour. I

698
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: want to talk to you about being on tour because

699
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: I just find it wildly fascinating. Like, truly, your days

700
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,280
Speaker 1: are so the same. You literally like go to sleep,

701
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,479
Speaker 1: you finish this show, you go to sleep on the bus,

702
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 1: you wake up in a different city, and you literally

703
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:19,919
Speaker 1: do the same day over and over and over again.

704
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 1: For like not really though, oh tell me every day

705
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: is so different how but because of the crowd everything,

706
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 1: because of the crowd, and because of the crowd, there

707
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: a news stories for me and my band to talk about.

708
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: Like I feel like the main thing and like how

709
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: does quote unquote survive on tour is just about band

710
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 1: and crew. If you don't have a good band and crew,

711
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 1: you're gonna feel so lonely and feel like you're just

712
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 1: repeating the same day, and you're gonna feel trapped. Like

713
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 1: I've been in that situation before, and it's like the worst.

714
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: You give a show, you go back to your bunk,

715
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: you fall asleep, you wake up, you do nothing, you

716
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 1: sound check, you eat, you do a show, you go

717
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 1: back to your bunk. It's the worst. But like, I

718
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 1: feel like I have such a good band and crew

719
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 1: around me, and we're all a big family, so every

720
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 1: day is different. We do a show, we go back

721
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 1: to the band bus, We talk about did you see

722
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: that crazy crowd? Like what were they doing? And like

723
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: do you shower in the venue before you get back

724
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: on your bus? How do you know? I know that too. Yeah,

725
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:27,399
Speaker 1: I've been on tour life. You know it. You know it? Yeah,

726
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 1: And then I was like, I actually you have to

727
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 1: like pull your luggage out from underneath the bus before

728
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: you do anything. I was like, this is actually the crazy.

729
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 1: It's crazy. Uh yeah, if there are showers at the venue,

730
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 1: that's dope. I'll take a shower real quick. Um yeah,

731
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 1: it's yeah, it's pretty it's pretty crazy, but I love it. Actually,

732
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: I don't mind being on the road at all at all.

733
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: Do you have friends or family that travel with you

734
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: or come visit you or um, my parents switch out,

735
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: so someone's with you most of the time. All I

736
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:07,760
Speaker 1: think they have to. Yeah, I think so we Actually,

737
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: I think that's true. I don't think that's true. I

738
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 1: think that I can just have a guardian. But what

739
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: they were My parents are always with me, um, but

740
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:20,879
Speaker 1: neither of them are super crazy about toy life. Yeah,

741
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: so they switch out a lot. Yeah. I think it's

742
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: important though, to have people come in and like kind

743
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 1: of change, you know, just to kind of come in

744
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: and be like a breath of fresh and I visit

745
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: for I have friends um around a lot um like

746
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 1: different parts of America. That sounds so weird. I was like,

747
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 1: how can I word that? But I don't know how

748
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: else to where we are different parts of America. It's

749
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: just the facts, um and yeah, so they'll come to

750
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: a show or something, especially in New York. I'm looking

751
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 1: forward to New York because I live in New York,

752
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,320
Speaker 1: so I'll be able to see all my friends. And

753
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,439
Speaker 1: sometimes friends will travel with me. But I'm it's super

754
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,760
Speaker 1: crazy about that because I'm like a very alone type

755
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: of person. Um, yeah, you would hate me on tour

756
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:14,240
Speaker 1: with you? No, I love it for like two days,

757
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 1: but like spending weekends with friends or something like like

758
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: like I have to really it's like a milestone in

759
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,919
Speaker 1: a relationship with someone if like I don't if I'm

760
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:30,279
Speaker 1: not like, let me like to recharge five people who

761
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:35,240
Speaker 1: can for multiple days. I think there's probably two people

762
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: that I can handle for more than like two days straight.

763
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: Are you? Um, so you would consider yourself an introvert?

764
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 1: I would say no, No, I mean I don't really know,

765
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:52,839
Speaker 1: but I'm not shy. But but you recharge on alone time?

766
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: Is that what introvert means? I thought introvert was shyt

767
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 1: means you recharge alone the biggest in the entire world.

768
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: I can be alone sometimes when I'm home, I'll go

769
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 1: through this cycle. I'll be alone for like four days straight,

770
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 1: like only go downstairs, like eat food, and I'll just

771
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 1: hide and then like I'll go out like every single

772
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 1: day for like two weeks to be like yeah, people,

773
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,280
Speaker 1: let's do it, and then just go on the cycle.

774
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: It's probably unhealthy, but I don't think you're alone in that.

775
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 1: I don't think I like, there's got to be more

776
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: people like that. They're just the best. I just love it.

777
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: I just love me. That's just the best. No one

778
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 1: knows better than me. Like, I know what I want

779
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 1: to watch, I know what I want to snack on.

780
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:44,919
Speaker 1: I'm the best. Um, have you gone to a show

781
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 1: that you're like so obsessed with and you're like, this

782
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: is what I see for myself in the future, Like

783
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,280
Speaker 1: how do you creatively kind of get in that space?

784
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 1: Like are there artists that you admire musically, like visually, Um, musically,

785
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: I really like Jesse Rays. That's honestly the direction that

786
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 1: I'm trying to go in my master plan. I love

787
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 1: the music that I'm making now, of course, but I

788
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 1: don't I really want to do it right, really really badly,

789
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: and I've thought about it a lot, And that's honestly

790
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 1: the music that I do want to make. And I

791
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: kind of want to like start making the music that

792
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:29,280
Speaker 1: I'm making now and solely ease into like more experimental

793
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 1: stuff like that. And also by the time that I

794
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: can do that, I'll probably be older and old enough

795
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 1: to really completely express myself. The way I want to,

796
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: which will be really cool. But why do you have

797
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: to be old enough to express yourself the way that

798
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: you want to? Oh, I'm not serious, Like, I don't know,

799
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 1: you sound like my Oh my god, you sound like ado.

800
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. I e Son says this to me

801
00:43:56,719 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: all the time when we're writing. Um, he is this

802
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 1: writer that I work with. Uh, but he sounds smart.

803
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 1: It's just the way it is, I mean, and it's

804
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 1: it's genuinely my decision because I don't want to bring

805
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 1: it back to Mary's got talent, but that was my

806
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:19,280
Speaker 1: start and I do still have a lot of fans

807
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 1: from that viewing, which is awesome, and I hope they'll

808
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:29,800
Speaker 1: grow with me and stick with me and all of that.

809
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 1: But I feel like I those those people, compared to

810
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: the people who have picked up on me now, are

811
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 1: a little more cautious with me on what I do

812
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: and a little more easily just being like WHOA, I

813
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 1: don't yeah, I think a little bit. So I think

814
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: the main reason why I feel like I have to

815
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: wait till I can truly completely express myself and I

816
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:59,359
Speaker 1: do express myself be you know what I mean? UM,

817
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,760
Speaker 1: Because I really just feel like I have to just like, really, baby,

818
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 1: I would just dip everyone's toes in otherwise, because if

819
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 1: I did, I could really do it right now. But

820
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know. I just really feel

821
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 1: like I could do it so right, and I could

822
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: also do it so wrong, and if I do it

823
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:21,400
Speaker 1: right now, it's just going to be wrong. It's not

824
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: the right timing. I don't have the right fan base

825
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: right now. It's just I don't know what you said.

826
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:33,320
Speaker 1: No one knows you better know so, and I respect

827
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 1: it too. I would just curious because I feel like

828
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: right now, it's like it's a really interesting time in

829
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: the music industry where people are kind of really just

830
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: honing in on like just their truth, you know what

831
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: I mean. Like they're just expressing themselves in a really

832
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 1: unique way, and it's such an interesting time in the

833
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: music industry that I feel like it's just a cool

834
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: space right now. It's a really cool space, and I

835
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: will be one with that cool space in the blink

836
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: of an eye. I'm sure that's awesome. I love that.

837
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: I feel like you you're so self aware, you know

838
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 1: yourself and what you want. I do know exactly what

839
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: I want. You're just waiting for the timing to be right.

840
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:14,800
Speaker 1: I'm just waiting for the timing. It's it's I'm actually

841
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:18,800
Speaker 1: the timing is right, Like I'm doing it right now. Everything,

842
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: my little, my little five year plan in my mind

843
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: is like already in set with your so beautiful when

844
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,320
Speaker 1: we waste my time in this whole new campaign and

845
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: this already is so much more me. It feels so relieving,

846
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: if that's is that a word, I don't know, relieving

847
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:43,800
Speaker 1: to finally kind of step more into what I really

848
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:48,359
Speaker 1: love and kind of step away from I don't want

849
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:51,840
Speaker 1: to see the wrong thing. But you guys know, yeah,

850
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 1: and like you said, the people who have followed you

851
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 1: since um the show are growing with you, and as

852
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 1: soon as it feels like the right time, it'll be

853
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 1: the right exactly. And I guess what I'm actually trying

854
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: to say with this whole like quote unquote process thing

855
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:11,800
Speaker 1: is more about less about easing people into it. I

856
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 1: don't know if that was the right thing to say,

857
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: but more about those people. They don't know what's in

858
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 1: my mind. You know, they don't know what I'm planning,

859
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 1: So the I'm not surprised when I make something because

860
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 1: it's what I've been planning for so long, but they

861
00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:31,400
Speaker 1: don't know my plans, they don't know my dreams, you know,

862
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 1: so they'll be surprised. So I kind of want to

863
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 1: take them on on this journey so that they're kind

864
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: of in my mind a little bit, so that they're

865
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: not as surprise or surprise in a good way like oh,

866
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: kill him, she did it, you know what I mean,

867
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: and less like what did she do? Ye? People are

868
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: going to be like so excited because I think real

869
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: fans are just like they're like, want the best for you,

870
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 1: and they're like, you know, like the real fans who

871
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,359
Speaker 1: you want around supporting you are the ones support yeah,

872
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 1: and they're going to be stoked about anything you put

873
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 1: out stokes true, Well, thank you so much for taking time.

874
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: I know that you're tired and you're on tour. I

875
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: want to make sure everybody gets You're so beautiful. Waste

876
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: my time available right now? And then you still have,

877
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 1: um about three weeks left on tour. So where can

878
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: people go for tic get tickets? I don't know your Instagram,

879
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 1: the links all over social media. Um, you can just

880
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: google Grace fan of all tour tickets and Google's catch

881
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:41,720
Speaker 1: can do it? Thank you, so k you. She's so cute,

882
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:47,560
Speaker 1: so cute, she's so wise, but also made me feel

883
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 1: very old. She's really cool. Yeah, she's like so much

884
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: cooler than I was when I was Hell, she like personal,

885
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: like just the way like her her energy, like everything

886
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:08,280
Speaker 1: about her is not fifteen. She's lived like a trillion lifetimes.

887
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,840
Speaker 1: I probably better when she was twelve. Wow, do you

888
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 1: know what I just realized? You guys, did you realize

889
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,960
Speaker 1: Grey's Natomie's coming back this month? Oh my god. Yeah,

890
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 1: it's the end of the month, right, like the last

891
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:21,720
Speaker 1: Thursday or something. I am not sure on the specific

892
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: day somewhere that is. So it feels like it's been

893
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:30,399
Speaker 1: off forever, Like I need to watch the finale because

894
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 1: there's something with Meredith and to Luca September six, Oh

895
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 1: that doesn't a few short weeks away freaking out. Um,

896
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: we have some we have an email about that, but

897
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: we'll probably get to that later. Huh, I think so,

898
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,840
Speaker 1: I I really quick. I want to shout out Vanessa

899
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: from the Giants again. There she deems me all the time,

900
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: so freaking cool, and they've just been so great to

901
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: us here. We've so much cool stuff and and and

902
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 1: they're great. She always sends me a nice message on

903
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 1: Instagram and they're literally the sweetest ever. This was really

904
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 1: we feel like real celebrities today. I mean I never like,

905
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,240
Speaker 1: you go to baseball games, you look up in these boxes,

906
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: I know who are the beautiful. I was like, I

907
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:23,760
Speaker 1: could do baseball like this. Yeah, Tanya's expectations have been written.

908
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: Yeah truly. Yeah, you're going to go to baseball games

909
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 1: and be like, um, where's my sweet and my free

910
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 1: food and my red where's my red starbers? So the

911
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:37,359
Speaker 1: best thing about the Cloud Club, which is where we're

912
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 1: at right now, is everything's free, like food, drinks, everything,

913
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 1: So like, literally this is unbelievable. I'm gonna eat like

914
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: seven hot dogs today. I am. I don't even know

915
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:48,400
Speaker 1: what I'm going to eat, but I just need to

916
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: eat so many things I haven't eaten since What time

917
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 1: is it, I'm not sure goes I I ate lunch

918
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: at ten thirty. I was like, that's just a second breakfast.

919
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: It's not when your breakfast is at four. I'm just

920
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 1: saying it's a second breakfast. It's a snack. Yeah, we

921
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:05,280
Speaker 1: had early start today. Yeah, so you guys are looking

922
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: over and I see that the two guys from How

923
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 1: Men Think? Oh so producer Tor and Mark. But they

924
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: posted to the scrubbing In Facebook page and they asked, like,

925
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 1: what questions you know you're you know, our listeners want answered,

926
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: And so we pulled some of the best ones and um,

927
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 1: we're going to have our man panel answer them. Okay,

928
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: we're going to take a quick break and we'll be

929
00:51:34,719 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: right back. All right, you guys are our mantel has

930
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 1: just stepped up to the mics. I was gonna say,

931
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 1: stepped up to the batter's box. I couldn't think of

932
00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:51,320
Speaker 1: anything quick enough, sat down in the chair, just batting

933
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 1: the mantle. Yeah, now batting um on scrubbing In. We

934
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: have two of the co host of How Men Think

935
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 1: and I Heart radio podcast. We have Dmitri is it Pappas?

936
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: And we have Rick Crumman's Cruman Cruman. No, I couldn't

937
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: get too in a row like that's okay, Um, he

938
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,360
Speaker 1: doesn't even pronounce it correctly. So the first one is

939
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: really long. Let me tell you, when do you consider

940
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: yourselves um experts as men men experts? Experts? No, I

941
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 1: don't think there is there such thing as a man expert.

942
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 1: That was a trick question. I think being a man

943
00:52:29,080 --> 00:52:32,280
Speaker 1: makes you an expert at being a man. Yeah, okay,

944
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 1: well I listen. I can't be wrong because my thought

945
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,520
Speaker 1: as as a man is of a man, So yeah,

946
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 1: in that respect. By the way, quick thing on the

947
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 1: way over. Funniest thing happened. Rick and I were in

948
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: an uber on the way to the baseball park and

949
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 1: we found a strapless bra. I'm really upset. I'm like,

950
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 1: how do you lose a strapless bra? I think we

951
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 1: know left it somewhere exactly. What was interesting about that, though,

952
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 1: is I actually put it on because being a man expert,

953
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: I have man boobs. I had to try it on

954
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 1: and see if it was the right size. It's it

955
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:12,920
Speaker 1: was a little big sizes, so it's fine. Yeah, a

956
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 1: perfect fit in premium field. That's right, premium field, that's

957
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:20,239
Speaker 1: third left. There'd left dot com flash Becca. Um So,

958
00:53:20,600 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 1: Tanya and I give a lot of advice. Um. Sometimes

959
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 1: we are not the best to give the advice that

960
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:30,400
Speaker 1: we give, but we just do what we have to

961
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:34,200
Speaker 1: do because you know, we're needed. We're needed by the people.

962
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,800
Speaker 1: But a lot of times the questions are geared towards

963
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 1: how a man thinks, and as women, Tanya and I

964
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:44,960
Speaker 1: are not able to answer that fully because they want

965
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 1: to know a guy's perspective, right, So that's how we

966
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 1: brought that's how we brought you, and that's why we

967
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 1: have a podcast How Men Think, because people want to

968
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 1: know and frankly, I mean, if we have something to share,

969
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,359
Speaker 1: we might as well, because it's not it's not it's

970
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:00,320
Speaker 1: it's not a good idea for you not to know

971
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 1: about men because it puts women in general, because it

972
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 1: puts us in a bad position for you to be

973
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 1: guessing all the time. That's the thing. And I feel

974
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 1: like women are so anxious to communicate, and I feel

975
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: like guys have a lot of thoughts and are probably

976
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 1: more emotional than we give them credit for. But because

977
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 1: there maybe not as natural of communicators are want that

978
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 1: emotional communication, then they're just kind of assumed that like

979
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:26,879
Speaker 1: they're not as emotional as me, they don't care as much.

980
00:54:26,960 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 1: But I don't think that's the case. I think guys

981
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 1: sometimes even care more, they just don't communicate it as

982
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 1: much as we do. We we're not of that. It's

983
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:37,800
Speaker 1: not in our nature to just cough everything up and

984
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 1: start talking and gab. We don't gab like guy to guy,

985
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 1: and we do because this is what we're doing now,

986
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 1: we're a little more open to it. But guys don't

987
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: just cough up information. Yeah, that's so weird to me.

988
00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:50,319
Speaker 1: But girls always the women always think, oh, that's because

989
00:54:50,320 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 1: they don't want to talk, or they're being private, or

990
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 1: they being shady. Really, it's just not in our nature

991
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:56,680
Speaker 1: to just if you ask, will answer. But it's not

992
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 1: a it's not in our nature to come up and

993
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: just start spilling everything right well. And I feel like

994
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 1: there's a little bit of this, like if you start

995
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 1: telling about telling about your feelings or what you're gonna wear,

996
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:07,719
Speaker 1: or asking questions about that, Like there's a little bit

997
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 1: of embarrassment that carries along without its being a man.

998
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 1: And I mean, obviously we're over that now. Because Dmitri

999
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 1: asked why I was wearing over here as I was

1000
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 1: putting on the strapless probe. No, I was just gonna say,

1001
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 1: if I don't tell him that he looks good, he

1002
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 1: gets all bent out of shape. It's got to be prepared,

1003
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 1: so we're all the same. I just find it so

1004
00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: funny because I'm like, girls will tell girls like every

1005
00:55:32,040 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 1: detail about every single day that they go on, and

1006
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: then like guys will like spend an entire day with

1007
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 1: their guy friend after the day after a date and

1008
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 1: they'll like share nothing. I'm like, that's so weird. And

1009
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:42,719
Speaker 1: he said, no, it was cool. She she was cool,

1010
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 1: he was good. I had a good tennes here again. Yeah, probably, Yeah,

1011
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: that's it why because we're It's just we internalize a lot,

1012
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 1: so we we've played this out in our head. But

1013
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 1: if Rick would say, hey, hawd the day go, he

1014
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 1: would ask me specifically what he wants to know, So

1015
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 1: it's not like he expect me to spill everything. If

1016
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 1: he's like, was she really cute? I'd be like, yeah,

1017
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 1: was it really? Was it fun? Yeah? What do you

1018
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:06,719
Speaker 1: guys do? Great? But I'm not gonna just be like,

1019
00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:08,480
Speaker 1: oh my god, Rick, I gotta tell you about this date.

1020
00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 1: It was fantastic. We had so much fun. It's just

1021
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 1: not in our desire to just like gush about someone

1022
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 1: you like. I mean, Rick, go ahead, Should I go

1023
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 1: off about dmit you right now? I mean I love Dmitri,

1024
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: Like Dmitri is incredible, Like girl, No, there there is

1025
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 1: an excitement there, but I think it's not. Historically it

1026
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 1: was never the way a guy should be. Like, a

1027
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: guy shouldn't just be like, oh my god, I'm so

1028
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 1: excited about this girl one because the other guy is

1029
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 1: gonna tease him too because a little bit. And I

1030
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 1: think maybe you women do this as well. You don't

1031
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: want to like, you don't want to drink like, oh

1032
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 1: my god, I like this girl so much, and then

1033
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: it's like she's not into you, and you're like, oh no,

1034
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:51,399
Speaker 1: look like an idiot. I do that all the time. Well,

1035
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 1: and I think that the more poignant answered questions, that's

1036
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: what God, that's how guys relate to it. It's like,

1037
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:58,240
Speaker 1: how was she she was cute? What color hair? Blonde?

1038
00:56:58,520 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: You know, it's not like we're gonna sit down and

1039
00:56:59,880 --> 00:57:04,960
Speaker 1: be like you actually had the cutest dress on. You're

1040
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 1: just gonna be like she was cool unless you're like

1041
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: directed specific questions. Correct, You need to be led. The

1042
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,680
Speaker 1: horse needs to be led to the long all day

1043
00:57:15,760 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: long as good to know. Well, I mean, we get

1044
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:24,400
Speaker 1: a lot of questions on our on our Facebook group,

1045
00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 1: but I had a question because this really doesn't relate

1046
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 1: to me at all. But I have had friends in

1047
00:57:29,120 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 1: this position. Do guys get scared. Um, like if you're

1048
00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:38,160
Speaker 1: in the beginning phases of a relationship, and a lot

1049
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:40,760
Speaker 1: of times the girls there this is this whole conversation

1050
00:57:40,800 --> 00:57:43,240
Speaker 1: of like are we official yet? Is he only going

1051
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 1: on dates with me? Like where do we stand? And

1052
00:57:46,080 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 1: I've always thought like I my thought giving advice is

1053
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,479
Speaker 1: always like it might scare him off if it's too soon.

1054
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:56,040
Speaker 1: But sometimes I wonder if guys like want the girl

1055
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 1: to bring it up so that they don't feel too

1056
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 1: vulnerable or like put on blast or something. If you're

1057
00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 1: into the girl, then you want her to ask, because

1058
00:58:06,400 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 1: that automatically means that she wants that as well. So

1059
00:58:09,960 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: if I was seeing somebody, I've been married for fourteen years,

1060
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 1: but if I was seeing someone it was new and

1061
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: they were like and all of a sudden they said, listen,

1062
00:58:16,280 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 1: are we what are we doing? Are we exclusive? I'd

1063
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: be like, well, that's pretty cool because she wants to know.

1064
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:22,360
Speaker 1: That means she wants to be exclusive. There is the

1065
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: risk of if it's super early, like it's date one

1066
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: or two, slow down. How many dates is like reasonable

1067
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: to not be scary. I think it depends on the

1068
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,440
Speaker 1: quality of the dates, Like is it a really good date.

1069
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 1: Did we hit it off to? If you have to

1070
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: like surface level dates? And then someone's like, are we exclusive,

1071
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:45,120
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I don't think so, because I don't

1072
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:48,000
Speaker 1: even know you. Like, what's your last name? Yeah, exactly,

1073
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:52,240
Speaker 1: but if you went five? I almost answered, by the way,

1074
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:56,440
Speaker 1: I was like, we already said path show my dating games.

1075
00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: Even married for fourteen years, that's so awesome. Uh, and

1076
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:03,960
Speaker 1: your wife is like the freaking coolest person on the planet.

1077
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:07,640
Speaker 1: You like, really lucked out that kind of a yeah,

1078
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:11,520
Speaker 1: that's kind of a slap. You know, she's settled, but

1079
00:59:11,600 --> 00:59:13,600
Speaker 1: you really like that, Like you guys are a really

1080
00:59:13,720 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: good couple because I just feel like she's just she's

1081
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 1: a badass woman, and you like, let her be a

1082
00:59:22,080 --> 00:59:26,200
Speaker 1: badass and it's cool she is a badass absolutely. Yeah. Yeah.

1083
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:28,560
Speaker 1: And by the way, from earlier, my oldest I have

1084
00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:30,640
Speaker 1: four kids. My oldest is ten and she is not

1085
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 1: making out, so ten year olds are not think I'm

1086
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 1: sorry I brought that up. Let's go back to where

1087
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:42,440
Speaker 1: were we? Last name is pappis thinking where we were?

1088
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 1: But I think what you were saying was, you know,

1089
00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 1: is the fifth date? Is that the time? And I

1090
00:59:47,680 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 1: think by the fifth date, you're probably already you already

1091
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:53,360
Speaker 1: know internally. Maybe you haven't voiced it with that person,

1092
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 1: but you already internally know whether it's going to be

1093
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:57,520
Speaker 1: right or wrong, or it's going to be a longer

1094
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 1: term thing, or hey, you know what time to kind

1095
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:04,720
Speaker 1: it off? Okay, that's that's how I feel about it.

1096
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 1: But do you think it's harder for Do you find

1097
01:00:07,440 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 1: it harder to be the one to bring it up

1098
01:00:09,400 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 1: in that situation? Yeah? Yeah, I mean, listen, I don't

1099
01:00:14,240 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 1: think it's comfortable for anybody to bring up because you're

1100
01:00:16,200 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: afraid of the answer. I will say in college, I

1101
01:00:18,520 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: started dating this girl and she came to me and

1102
01:00:21,120 --> 01:00:25,200
Speaker 1: she said, hey, so and so in the dorm next

1103
01:00:25,240 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 1: to me, we were talking last night whatever, and he

1104
01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: kissed me and I said oh, and she said, I said, well,

1105
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 1: did you kiss it back? She goes, well, I didn't

1106
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:36,080
Speaker 1: necessarily beat him off with a stick. But I don't

1107
01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 1: know that sounds she said. I didn't fire them off,

1108
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 1: she said, but I kissed him, but I don't know,

1109
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,760
Speaker 1: Like that's because I didn't know where we stood. And

1110
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, well, it would be my preference

1111
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: if you didn't kiss other people, and she said, Okay,

1112
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 1: I don't want to either. That's a good answer. There's

1113
01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 1: one time I was dating a young lady and we

1114
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 1: went on five dates and we went out to barbecue

1115
01:00:56,880 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: and she said, are you into guys? And I said no,

1116
01:01:01,560 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: why do you ask? And she said, you haven't tried

1117
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 1: to have sex with me yet? And I said, and

1118
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:12,480
Speaker 1: I'll do it right now, not on the barbecue. Yeah,

1119
01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:14,360
Speaker 1: you had you tried to have sex with guys at

1120
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 1: the barbecue. I tried to have sex with the barbecue. Yeah,

1121
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 1: it's really good brisket, you know. But but and I

1122
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 1: know that's like a totally different thing. But like I

1123
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:24,640
Speaker 1: thought that was a really And then I was like,

1124
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: well do you want Like is this like a thing?

1125
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: I really like? Exclusive? Now? Is that? And that's I'm

1126
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:34,520
Speaker 1: not taking away from your story. Please, that sounds very awkward,

1127
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 1: Like I don't think that's the best way to get

1128
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 1: into it, Like, hey, are you into girls? Because you

1129
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 1: haven't tried to have sex with me? I thought she

1130
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: was like joking around. It was a serious question. She

1131
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 1: thought that I was like not interested in her, like

1132
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:49,800
Speaker 1: sexually because you have sex with her? Yeah, like like permission, Yeah,

1133
01:01:49,840 --> 01:01:52,560
Speaker 1: because I was trying to. I thought I was being

1134
01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 1: um respectful. Yeah, and I know, like having the exclusive

1135
01:01:56,120 --> 01:01:57,600
Speaker 1: talk and like when to have sex is always like

1136
01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: a totally different thing. But like I I need these

1137
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: signals to be like abundantly clear that it's okay for

1138
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 1: me to make a move, you know, uh so clear

1139
01:02:06,200 --> 01:02:08,480
Speaker 1: that like it's like, hey, I don't I don't know

1140
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 1: if you have any sexual interest in me at all.

1141
01:02:10,520 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 1: Like I to be honest, I had I used to be.

1142
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 1: I mean I still am I but back in the

1143
01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: day when I was dating, I was very polite, similar

1144
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:20,040
Speaker 1: and and someone was just like at one point it

1145
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:22,040
Speaker 1: was like it was it became like a standoff. It

1146
01:02:22,120 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 1: was like high noon because she wasn't making a move

1147
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 1: because she was expecting me to, and I was just like, well,

1148
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 1: I need a signal or something. I'm not going to

1149
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:30,520
Speaker 1: be the guy that's just gonna come swoop in one

1150
01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 1: because it's disrespectful too, because I do not want to

1151
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:36,720
Speaker 1: hear no thanks. But aren't there are there triggers along

1152
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 1: that way, whether it's through dating or you're going to

1153
01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 1: movie or whatever, that that trigger this the sense like Okay, yeah,

1154
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 1: she wants to she wants to kiss or maybe she

1155
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 1: wants to have sex or what you know, and like,

1156
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 1: I feel like that's how when I was growing up

1157
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:50,760
Speaker 1: and doing it. That was basically it was those triggers.

1158
01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:53,160
Speaker 1: That sounds so old, you know, when I was helping

1159
01:02:53,240 --> 01:02:55,400
Speaker 1: the sex. That's the way I was back in the day.

1160
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 1: For me, it was before cell phones, so shut up

1161
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 1: to be treating no, um no, I lost my train

1162
01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:05,160
Speaker 1: of thought. But basically, there were triggers. There were triggers

1163
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: that that gave you that moment to go in to

1164
01:03:07,680 --> 01:03:10,160
Speaker 1: do whatever you want to do. Yeah, I was gonna say.

1165
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like most of us as women

1166
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:16,240
Speaker 1: want to be pursued and feel like that a guy

1167
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,840
Speaker 1: wants us. So I think that that standoff is hard

1168
01:03:19,920 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: because it's like, well, I'm not gonna like I want

1169
01:03:22,240 --> 01:03:25,040
Speaker 1: you to come after me. Definitely being too polite. Yeah,

1170
01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 1: I think there's a I think there's a line where

1171
01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:28,520
Speaker 1: you can be polite, you can be respectful, but you

1172
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:30,560
Speaker 1: don't want to not show interest because that's not Then

1173
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 1: another guy comes by shows interest and you're like, I

1174
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:36,479
Speaker 1: can't believe she made it with that other guy. Okay,

1175
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:38,240
Speaker 1: I want to go into some of the ones that

1176
01:03:38,560 --> 01:03:40,800
Speaker 1: um came up on our Facebook group. This is from Julia,

1177
01:03:40,880 --> 01:03:43,520
Speaker 1: and I find this to be wildly interesting because I

1178
01:03:43,560 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 1: don't really have a lot of guy friends. But I

1179
01:03:45,240 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 1: feel like this is a very common question. So she said,

1180
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:52,600
Speaker 1: I'm an engineer, data scientist, data data data. Did she

1181
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 1: ask that because she should know? No? I never know. Um,

1182
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,360
Speaker 1: so a lot of my friends are guys. I want

1183
01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:00,400
Speaker 1: to know if that's a turn off to other guys

1184
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:03,560
Speaker 1: having so many male friends, and what level of friendship

1185
01:04:03,640 --> 01:04:06,960
Speaker 1: is okay to maintain once you're in a relationship. I mean,

1186
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:10,040
Speaker 1: I would I would say it's it's not ideal to

1187
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:13,640
Speaker 1: have a ton of guy friends one because guys have

1188
01:04:13,800 --> 01:04:15,640
Speaker 1: guy friends like they're not looking to hang out with

1189
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 1: more guys. So it's a little awkward. It's nice to

1190
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 1: know that she gets along with guys. But I think

1191
01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 1: one of the one of our How Men Think podcasts,

1192
01:04:22,680 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 1: I think it was maybe Gavin or no As Brooks said, Listen,

1193
01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 1: you know we don't we don't want you to be

1194
01:04:30,360 --> 01:04:33,640
Speaker 1: a guy's guy. We want you We're looking for a

1195
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 1: girl to be a girl. You don't have to match

1196
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 1: my buddy's level. So if you have a ton of

1197
01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 1: guy friends, then the chances are you're more at that

1198
01:04:41,520 --> 01:04:43,600
Speaker 1: like guy buddy buddy level, and I think things get

1199
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 1: the lines get crossed at that point. I really don't

1200
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:49,040
Speaker 1: like your answer at all. I'm just gonna tell you, Okay, Well,

1201
01:04:49,200 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 1: thanks for having me. Because I think that a girl

1202
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:59,440
Speaker 1: can be friends with girls and guys, and sometimes it's platonic,

1203
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 1: sometimes it's an X whatever it is. If she's now

1204
01:05:03,120 --> 01:05:05,960
Speaker 1: with you and committed to you, then have trust in

1205
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 1: that and don't be bothered that she has guy friends.

1206
01:05:09,080 --> 01:05:12,000
Speaker 1: I have a lot of guy friends, and that would

1207
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 1: bother me if someone was bothered by that, almost to

1208
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 1: the point of a deal breaker. See, I didn't mean she.

1209
01:05:17,840 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 1: I didn't mean she didn't she couldn't have friends like

1210
01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 1: guy friends, I think too many, because then you want

1211
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:26,560
Speaker 1: her to have girlfriends too, because you also don't want this.

1212
01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:31,880
Speaker 1: This listener sounds like she Julia, sounds like she has um.

1213
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:33,280
Speaker 1: She works with a lot of guys, and most of

1214
01:05:33,320 --> 01:05:36,480
Speaker 1: her friends or guys I think from a guy's perspective perspective,

1215
01:05:37,000 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 1: you don't want her going and talking to a guy

1216
01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:42,480
Speaker 1: about your relationship because one a guy, A guy could

1217
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:44,640
Speaker 1: because I don't know from a guy's point of view.

1218
01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:45,960
Speaker 1: You don't know what those other guys are thinking. What

1219
01:05:45,960 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 1: if one of those guys likes her and he's just

1220
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:50,600
Speaker 1: gonna sabotage you just for the sake of sabotage. I

1221
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:53,480
Speaker 1: just disagree. I mean, I think if if a woman

1222
01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 1: has very close guy friends, I probably have eight very

1223
01:05:56,680 --> 01:05:58,880
Speaker 1: close guy friends that I talked to all the time,

1224
01:05:58,920 --> 01:06:02,960
Speaker 1: and they helped me through a ton of stuff. It

1225
01:06:03,040 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that I'm not when I'm with someone like

1226
01:06:05,800 --> 01:06:09,600
Speaker 1: a boyfriend, I'm a hundred percent in, a hundred million

1227
01:06:09,720 --> 01:06:12,640
Speaker 1: percent in, And the guy friends don't take away from

1228
01:06:12,680 --> 01:06:14,960
Speaker 1: that in any way. It doesn't. It's like saying you

1229
01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:17,320
Speaker 1: love one of your kids more than another. It's like, no,

1230
01:06:17,600 --> 01:06:19,680
Speaker 1: that's not true. So you can have guy friends and

1231
01:06:19,840 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 1: be completely devoted to someone else. But I do think,

1232
01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 1: like there's a reason why there's this podcast specifically called

1233
01:06:26,560 --> 01:06:28,840
Speaker 1: how Men Thing, because I think women and men do

1234
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:31,960
Speaker 1: think differently, and I think they see relationships differently. And

1235
01:06:32,080 --> 01:06:34,800
Speaker 1: so if I were going to advice, if I were

1236
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:36,760
Speaker 1: if I were dating a guy and I was going

1237
01:06:36,840 --> 01:06:41,080
Speaker 1: to another guy for advice, I would get something very

1238
01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 1: different than if I asked one of my girlfriends, who's

1239
01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: maybe in the same position. And I think it also matters,

1240
01:06:46,840 --> 01:06:49,560
Speaker 1: like what your partner their comfort level is, because if

1241
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 1: they're uncomfortable with you spending time with a bunch of guys,

1242
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 1: then you have to respect that as a partner, Like

1243
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 1: there is compromise. So but you're saying like it would

1244
01:06:57,920 --> 01:07:00,200
Speaker 1: be a little bit of like a you'd be a

1245
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:03,400
Speaker 1: little turned off by her only having male friends because

1246
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 1: it's like that energy feels more friendly. I think that

1247
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:08,680
Speaker 1: would be difficult. My wife has male friends. I hang

1248
01:07:08,720 --> 01:07:10,120
Speaker 1: out with them, I like them. I have no problem

1249
01:07:10,160 --> 01:07:12,640
Speaker 1: with that. I'm very secure in our relationship. But if

1250
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:14,640
Speaker 1: I had met someone and we started dating and all

1251
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 1: she had was guy friends, it wouldn't be my ideal situation.

1252
01:07:18,120 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 1: I agree, I completely agree. I just feel like that

1253
01:07:21,080 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 1: the advice or the relationship that she's having with that

1254
01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:26,439
Speaker 1: guy is what you actually strive for as a male,

1255
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,720
Speaker 1: total being with her, Like that's the relationship that you want.

1256
01:07:29,800 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 1: So whether it's like why are you dating any of

1257
01:07:31,320 --> 01:07:33,800
Speaker 1: those guys if you're so exactly and you're getting advice

1258
01:07:33,880 --> 01:07:35,959
Speaker 1: from them, that that's the advice. Those are the questions

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01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:37,680
Speaker 1: that I want to hear from you totally. So you

1260
01:07:37,800 --> 01:07:40,520
Speaker 1: think the level of friendship. The question is what level

1261
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:43,000
Speaker 1: of friendship is okay to maintain once you're in a relationship.

1262
01:07:43,080 --> 01:07:45,680
Speaker 1: And basically you're saying, if that's your work life, then

1263
01:07:45,840 --> 01:07:48,880
Speaker 1: that should be where not No, not even work life.

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01:07:48,880 --> 01:07:50,919
Speaker 1: I think you can have like I said, my wife

1265
01:07:50,960 --> 01:07:53,720
Speaker 1: has male friends from business school, from work from what

1266
01:07:54,120 --> 01:07:56,800
Speaker 1: That's totally cool because then you're you're in a in

1267
01:07:56,880 --> 01:07:59,200
Speaker 1: a relationship and you should be secure in that relationship

1268
01:07:59,240 --> 01:08:01,960
Speaker 1: and you can't be playing that guessing game. You know,

1269
01:08:02,200 --> 01:08:04,480
Speaker 1: the strong relationship is when you're not playing guessing games

1270
01:08:04,520 --> 01:08:06,320
Speaker 1: like does she like somebody else? Is she with them?

1271
01:08:06,400 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 1: For this? Furiating to me? It's like I would love

1272
01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:11,200
Speaker 1: for people to email us, because that's like saying I've

1273
01:08:11,200 --> 01:08:14,040
Speaker 1: been best friends with Chris Harrison for twenty years. So

1274
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:16,320
Speaker 1: you're saying that I'm going to start dating somebody and

1275
01:08:16,439 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: I can't be friends with him. An, that's no. I

1276
01:08:18,840 --> 01:08:20,560
Speaker 1: said they should be friends. I think it's just a

1277
01:08:20,720 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 1: certain level of friendship that you need to like, I

1278
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:25,519
Speaker 1: don't know. I think it's also no, I'm sorry, I

1279
01:08:25,520 --> 01:08:27,840
Speaker 1: didn't say that. Didn't I say my wife has friends,

1280
01:08:28,320 --> 01:08:31,800
Speaker 1: But you're saying you're still saying no, I'm saying I'm

1281
01:08:31,880 --> 01:08:35,439
Speaker 1: totally fine with that. But we're saying from a certain

1282
01:08:35,640 --> 01:08:38,720
Speaker 1: number of guy friends. But we're saying from the male perspective,

1283
01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:42,200
Speaker 1: if your girlfriend or wife had only hung out with

1284
01:08:42,320 --> 01:08:45,760
Speaker 1: ten guys, that would make me feel a little bit uncomfortable.

1285
01:08:46,320 --> 01:08:48,599
Speaker 1: That would make I would want her to bounce those

1286
01:08:48,720 --> 01:08:51,960
Speaker 1: questions off of me instead of those guys. Don't Whether

1287
01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 1: it's a work situation, I think that's a little bit

1288
01:08:54,280 --> 01:08:56,559
Speaker 1: different because you're you're in work and not know that's

1289
01:08:56,560 --> 01:08:58,559
Speaker 1: what you're doing. You know, whether you take that work

1290
01:08:58,640 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 1: side out of it. Amy's super frustrated right now, which

1291
01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:03,560
Speaker 1: is great. I mean, I didn't like the guy that

1292
01:09:03,600 --> 01:09:05,880
Speaker 1: I'm dating to have like tons of girlfriends, I'd be like,

1293
01:09:06,000 --> 01:09:09,439
Speaker 1: I know, yeah. I mean it's like, hey, honey, I'm

1294
01:09:09,439 --> 01:09:11,240
Speaker 1: gonna go out with you know, my three girlfriends were

1295
01:09:11,280 --> 01:09:13,639
Speaker 1: gonna go to the ballpark tonight. You have a good,

1296
01:09:13,680 --> 01:09:17,680
Speaker 1: great time from work. That's not cool. I think this

1297
01:09:17,840 --> 01:09:20,479
Speaker 1: is also the thing. I think it depends, and we

1298
01:09:20,560 --> 01:09:22,720
Speaker 1: have all you've kind of touched. It depends what kind

1299
01:09:22,720 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 1: of the level you're at. So if you're asking, you're

1300
01:09:25,520 --> 01:09:28,880
Speaker 1: a guy friend, you know, advice for a situation or

1301
01:09:29,520 --> 01:09:31,960
Speaker 1: um you confide in them with things that you don't

1302
01:09:31,960 --> 01:09:35,280
Speaker 1: confide in your significant other in that becomes a problem. Yeah.

1303
01:09:36,320 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 1: And by the way, on your Amy's point of view,

1304
01:09:38,200 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 1: depends how old you are, because I'm forty five, so

1305
01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:43,360
Speaker 1: I've had these friends for twenty years. It's way different

1306
01:09:43,439 --> 01:09:46,040
Speaker 1: if you're in your twenties or thirties, Like someone now

1307
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:48,519
Speaker 1: is not going to be able to come in and

1308
01:09:48,720 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 1: change my situation. And Rick f y, I I'm calling

1309
01:09:52,600 --> 01:09:55,120
Speaker 1: Chris Harrison about you. Do you know what I mean?

1310
01:09:55,200 --> 01:09:58,519
Speaker 1: Like if oh, if I was dating you, I'm saying,

1311
01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:02,400
Speaker 1: oftentimes your first your best guy friend about the guy

1312
01:10:02,560 --> 01:10:05,679
Speaker 1: you're dating. Chris Harrison's in paradise with thirty five women

1313
01:10:05,920 --> 01:10:08,240
Speaker 1: I'll do in the Bachelorette or the Bachelor. So but

1314
01:10:08,360 --> 01:10:10,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, like, sometimes you're calling your

1315
01:10:10,439 --> 01:10:13,720
Speaker 1: best guy friend to get advice about the relationship. But

1316
01:10:13,800 --> 01:10:15,200
Speaker 1: I feel like that's where the problem is because you

1317
01:10:15,200 --> 01:10:16,960
Speaker 1: should be talking to the person you're in a relationship with.

1318
01:10:17,600 --> 01:10:21,920
Speaker 1: This is also right, that's the healthiest option. But I

1319
01:10:22,080 --> 01:10:24,479
Speaker 1: do agree with Amy and said, well, a, you're right,

1320
01:10:24,560 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 1: Like the older you get, it's kind of like it

1321
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:27,880
Speaker 1: is what it is, right. So, but if you're twenty

1322
01:10:27,960 --> 01:10:29,960
Speaker 1: three and you're dating and you're you know, then maybe

1323
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:32,000
Speaker 1: it's we go back to what we're talking about. But

1324
01:10:32,720 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 1: I do think that you don't want to get you

1325
01:10:35,560 --> 01:10:37,760
Speaker 1: want to have that over relationship with the with the

1326
01:10:37,800 --> 01:10:41,240
Speaker 1: man and ask those questions. It is hard though, there

1327
01:10:41,280 --> 01:10:43,519
Speaker 1: are hard topics that come up or don't. You can't

1328
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:45,160
Speaker 1: bring up that you're like, God, I need to call

1329
01:10:45,320 --> 01:10:48,200
Speaker 1: Danielle because I don't know what to ask, you know,

1330
01:10:48,400 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 1: or how should I approach it? You know, like I

1331
01:10:50,120 --> 01:10:51,720
Speaker 1: think that's the good advice you would get from a

1332
01:10:51,800 --> 01:10:55,000
Speaker 1: male or a female friend. I was going to say,

1333
01:10:55,040 --> 01:10:58,960
Speaker 1: there's certain people both genders that I would ask different things,

1334
01:10:59,000 --> 01:11:00,639
Speaker 1: Like if I was like, oh I need a guy's advice,

1335
01:11:00,720 --> 01:11:02,640
Speaker 1: that there's a certain guy i'd call. Or if I

1336
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 1: if I need a girl's advice, who's in this situation

1337
01:11:05,560 --> 01:11:07,360
Speaker 1: or like she's married or she's dating, I'm going to

1338
01:11:07,439 --> 01:11:09,680
Speaker 1: ask her. Like there's just different people kind of not

1339
01:11:09,800 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 1: even specifically gender, but there's just different people who have

1340
01:11:12,520 --> 01:11:16,479
Speaker 1: different friendships in my life that are for different things

1341
01:11:16,560 --> 01:11:19,640
Speaker 1: and topics. I don't know if the answered, but I

1342
01:11:19,800 --> 01:11:30,320
Speaker 1: know Julia, good look sorry, ask your guy friends what

1343
01:11:30,400 --> 01:11:35,439
Speaker 1: they thought. Okay, So this one is from Francis and

1344
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 1: it says, once you're married, should you expect your husband

1345
01:11:38,479 --> 01:11:41,679
Speaker 1: to put you first before his mom. I've had hard

1346
01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:45,160
Speaker 1: conversations with my husband about feeling like he still prioritizes

1347
01:11:45,240 --> 01:11:47,720
Speaker 1: being a son rather than a husband. Is it right

1348
01:11:47,800 --> 01:11:49,479
Speaker 1: for me to think that he should put me first?

1349
01:11:50,479 --> 01:11:53,240
Speaker 1: I will be totally honest. He needs to put her first. Yes.

1350
01:11:54,840 --> 01:11:58,639
Speaker 1: I think as you get older or you do start

1351
01:11:58,720 --> 01:12:01,920
Speaker 1: to have that relationship with your wife or your significant other, um,

1352
01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:04,840
Speaker 1: the relationship with your mom does change. And from my

1353
01:12:05,040 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 1: perspective it it was more of like wow, like she

1354
01:12:08,200 --> 01:12:10,640
Speaker 1: becomes somebody else, you know, like you're now kind of

1355
01:12:10,720 --> 01:12:13,040
Speaker 1: gone from underneath her wing or whatever you want to

1356
01:12:13,120 --> 01:12:15,559
Speaker 1: call it. And for me, it was like, oh, well,

1357
01:12:15,760 --> 01:12:17,400
Speaker 1: now I have another relationship with my mom. I have

1358
01:12:17,479 --> 01:12:19,000
Speaker 1: a relationship with this woman, and now I have a

1359
01:12:19,000 --> 01:12:21,679
Speaker 1: relationship with my mom and it's I think going back

1360
01:12:21,800 --> 01:12:26,480
Speaker 1: to start that over or have that different, different perspective

1361
01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:30,639
Speaker 1: with her is great. But your wife is priority number one. Yeah.

1362
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:32,920
Speaker 1: I think I think you're You're absolutely right. I think

1363
01:12:32,920 --> 01:12:35,200
Speaker 1: your wife and your mom have to be on different mantles,

1364
01:12:35,240 --> 01:12:37,479
Speaker 1: by the way, on different plateaus, there shouldn't be a

1365
01:12:37,520 --> 01:12:39,280
Speaker 1: first and a second. Your mom is your mom, and

1366
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:42,000
Speaker 1: she's always going to be your mom. But when you

1367
01:12:42,600 --> 01:12:44,560
Speaker 1: get in a relationship or get married or whatever it

1368
01:12:44,640 --> 01:12:47,960
Speaker 1: may be, Yeah, they go first because that is where

1369
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:50,200
Speaker 1: your and your mom should understand that. If there's a

1370
01:12:50,240 --> 01:12:51,920
Speaker 1: mom that's still trying to be number one in her

1371
01:12:51,960 --> 01:12:55,960
Speaker 1: son's life above his wife, that's that's that's not fair.

1372
01:12:57,360 --> 01:13:00,600
Speaker 1: They definitely do exist, but she's not being she's not

1373
01:13:00,800 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 1: being fair to to her son. She's not doing what's

1374
01:13:03,160 --> 01:13:06,639
Speaker 1: best for her son. Do moms always do what's best

1375
01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 1: for their son? Okay? A lot of this is on

1376
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:12,800
Speaker 1: the mom too, you know, like I because yeah, yeah, Well,

1377
01:13:13,360 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 1: lestly one more you guys? Uh? From Emily? Why can

1378
01:13:18,080 --> 01:13:20,439
Speaker 1: a man never respond to two things at the same

1379
01:13:20,520 --> 01:13:25,040
Speaker 1: time via text? Oh No, I'm sorry. I do. I respond.

1380
01:13:25,120 --> 01:13:27,519
Speaker 1: I sometimes I'll even number it. I will if you

1381
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:29,080
Speaker 1: give me a text with three things in it, I

1382
01:13:29,080 --> 01:13:32,439
Speaker 1: will address all three things. I'm very good at that, Rick,

1383
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:34,920
Speaker 1: I answered the last question first, and then I go

1384
01:13:35,040 --> 01:13:37,160
Speaker 1: back in that order. Do you do that intentionally? Like?

1385
01:13:37,240 --> 01:13:40,280
Speaker 1: Are you ignoring? I sometimes do that too. If I

1386
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:42,120
Speaker 1: get a lot, I'll just like respond to the last

1387
01:13:42,120 --> 01:13:44,200
Speaker 1: thing and then they're like, well what about tomorrow. I'm like, oh,

1388
01:13:44,520 --> 01:13:47,479
Speaker 1: I forgot. Then it's like yeah, and then that's my

1389
01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:49,400
Speaker 1: Other thing is like, if you're going to get three questions, Jack,

1390
01:13:49,400 --> 01:13:50,880
Speaker 1: you might as will pick up the phone and call

1391
01:13:50,960 --> 01:13:54,200
Speaker 1: the person. I'd prefer him in separate box, like, don't

1392
01:13:54,200 --> 01:13:56,519
Speaker 1: give me a paragraph, Like if you have questions sometimes

1393
01:13:56,560 --> 01:13:59,639
Speaker 1: I leave space, Like if I answer something, then space

1394
01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:01,839
Speaker 1: and I just could jive with that. I'd like Dmitri

1395
01:14:01,960 --> 01:14:04,320
Speaker 1: on this one. If I get multiple questions, I'll go

1396
01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:08,519
Speaker 1: one blah blah blah. Yeah, if you could number it

1397
01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:10,719
Speaker 1: out for me, I will get it. It's in a paragraph.

1398
01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:12,280
Speaker 1: You're going to get answer to the bottom one. I

1399
01:14:12,280 --> 01:14:13,720
Speaker 1: don't think this is a man thing. I think this

1400
01:14:13,920 --> 01:14:16,160
Speaker 1: is just like a human thing. I think it's a

1401
01:14:16,200 --> 01:14:19,479
Speaker 1: social texting. Yeah. Yeah, now I at least know when

1402
01:14:19,520 --> 01:14:21,760
Speaker 1: I text Rick to just send him one thing. Yeah,

1403
01:14:21,760 --> 01:14:23,080
Speaker 1: I wonder if I don't hear back from you want

1404
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,280
Speaker 1: a bunch of these things, like what you were going

1405
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:29,920
Speaker 1: to wear today? I had a strap less brawn. He

1406
01:14:30,080 --> 01:14:33,600
Speaker 1: was from his strap less bra um. Well, thank you

1407
01:14:33,640 --> 01:14:35,479
Speaker 1: all so much for coming in. I feel like we

1408
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:40,720
Speaker 1: gave some just great advice. Uh, specifically to Julia. She's

1409
01:14:40,760 --> 01:14:43,800
Speaker 1: scratching her head right now, has no idea what to do.

1410
01:14:45,120 --> 01:14:47,840
Speaker 1: But it is always interesting, like having a different perspective

1411
01:14:47,960 --> 01:14:51,719
Speaker 1: from you know, like just what we think as women.

1412
01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:55,640
Speaker 1: So um, thank you too, Thank you for having us.

1413
01:14:55,720 --> 01:14:58,479
Speaker 1: Thank you, Julie. If you have if you meet a

1414
01:14:58,560 --> 01:15:00,479
Speaker 1: guy that's fine with you know, if you're gonna I

1415
01:15:00,479 --> 01:15:02,360
Speaker 1: you're gonna stay friends with all those guys, find a

1416
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:04,080
Speaker 1: guy that's okay with it and that's your guy. That's

1417
01:15:04,080 --> 01:15:06,080
Speaker 1: what I also thank Julia. When you meet the guy

1418
01:15:06,160 --> 01:15:07,519
Speaker 1: that you want to spend the rest of your life with,

1419
01:15:07,600 --> 01:15:11,040
Speaker 1: you're not gonna want these bozo guys around. Sorry, totally true.

1420
01:15:11,560 --> 01:15:15,080
Speaker 1: Totally guys, I'm uncomfortable. Do you have any sweatpants I

1421
01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:22,280
Speaker 1: can put on their podcast? How men think? It's an

1422
01:15:22,320 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 1: iHeart Radio podcast? What days do you? What days of

1423
01:15:24,400 --> 01:15:26,720
Speaker 1: the week does that come out? Sunday nights at nine pm?

1424
01:15:26,880 --> 01:15:31,479
Speaker 1: Sunday nights at IPM anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Um, Well,

1425
01:15:31,640 --> 01:15:34,519
Speaker 1: you know we all love a good subscription box, right,

1426
01:15:34,720 --> 01:15:38,519
Speaker 1: what about a subscription box for your kids? That's fun?

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Speaker 1: steam is, it's science, technology, engineering, art, and math, all

1431
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Speaker 1: of my favorite subjects. I think that's all. I think

1432
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Speaker 1: that's all of them, right, Yeah, that's all subjects. Um.

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Speaker 1: There are seven lines to choose from for kids all

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Speaker 1: there's the Tadpole, the Koala, the Kiwi, the Atlas Doodle, Tinker,

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Speaker 1: I guess the sixteen plus right, what can we go box?

1438
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Speaker 1: Would you like music? Probably? Yeah, she would. She liked

1439
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Speaker 1: the art one. Yeah. My nephews love They loved it.

1440
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Speaker 1: My second nephew, Knocks, is like the one who's really

1441
01:16:30,120 --> 01:16:33,040
Speaker 1: into like he loves They all love building and like

1442
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Speaker 1: doing things where they're putting things together. So any type

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Speaker 1: of craft that keeps them focused on something that they're

1444
01:16:39,360 --> 01:16:42,240
Speaker 1: getting to create is I think really interesting to them.

1445
01:16:42,439 --> 01:16:45,920
Speaker 1: I actually find them quite interesting myself. My sister was

1446
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Speaker 1: a big fan because she's like, literally, they just always

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Speaker 1: want to be doing something. So just to give them

1448
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Speaker 1: one more thing to do that actually took them a

1449
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Speaker 1: little bit of time was really nice. I also think

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01:16:55,360 --> 01:16:58,479
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1451
01:16:58,560 --> 01:17:01,000
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1452
01:17:01,560 --> 01:17:03,719
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1453
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:06,400
Speaker 1: I think is like really important. So it was really

1454
01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:10,439
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1455
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Speaker 1: We are spending our night at the Oracle Park in

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Speaker 1: San Francisco for the Giants versus Padres game. Go Giants, Giants,

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Speaker 1: Go Giants. We're so excited to watch Dean and Lucille

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Speaker 1: go out and hand. I don't know what he's doing,

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Speaker 1: but he's doing something big with the game ball. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna go and support him. We're gonna be on the JumboTron.

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Speaker 1: Huge thank you to Hotel Vie for hosting us. Literally,

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Speaker 1: my room could not be more spectacular. Already laid on

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Speaker 1: that chair like it's so cute, perfect view of the stadium. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: we're right across the street. Um, I'm gonna be having

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Speaker 1: some garlic fry, some caramel corn. There's ice cream Sundays.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm going to be in a food common

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Speaker 1: by the end of the night. But we are so

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Speaker 1: happy to be here. I mean, we scrubbed in in

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Speaker 1: the Cloud Club, scrubbed in the Cloud Club in the

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Speaker 1: Bay Area b A E Area and we have San

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Speaker 1: Francisco scrub giant scrub tops on B A E stands for, um,

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Speaker 1: what is it stands for? Before anyone else? Before any Wow? Well,

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Speaker 1: you know you know I'm not well when I don't

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Speaker 1: know what be a bay stands for. I didn't even

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Speaker 1: know that. Yeah ever, alright, well anyways, thank you for listening. Um,

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Speaker 1: we are gonna go eat and watch the giants dominate tonight.

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Speaker 1: That's right, all right? Oh time of death? Oh no,

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Speaker 1: you took it off before. No, so that would be

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Speaker 1: sixteen sixteen o'clock