1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to How to Money. I'm Joel, my name is Matt, 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: and today we're talking about the necessity of community. All right, Matt, 3 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: So what's up with that weird intro? Okay, So I 4 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 1: realized that my name obviously starts with M and you 5 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: say I'm Joel and that sounds normal. But then I 6 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: say I'm Matt. Just too many M and I always 7 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: feel like, like, yeah, that sounds so stupid when I 8 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: say that, And I'm like, all right, what else can 9 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: I say when I messed off? So my new thing 10 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: might be my name is Matt. We could say, uh, 11 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: may yea, I'm all Matt. Is that Spanish? Yeah? I 12 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: never took Spanish? Well, so miyama is Matt speaking of Spanish. 13 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: We were at streets Alive today, which is this awesome 14 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 1: bicycling thing through Atlanta. They shut down the street and 15 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: no cars allowed, only people walking and riding bikes, and 16 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: the library had a table set up with books a 17 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: lot about cycling. Got these awesome books. I grab a 18 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: few books. Yeah, so if this awesome one that has 19 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: no words about this girl who wants this bike and 20 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: like works really hard to save up the money for 21 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: the bike and just it's just like super cute. But 22 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: I also got this book The Lower Acts by Dr 23 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: SEUs Polly. My youngest has been really into that lately 24 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,399 Speaker 1: because they're learning about it at her school. But I 25 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:28,760 Speaker 1: got it in Spanish, so I tried to read it 26 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: to the girls tonight because I took a lot of 27 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: Spanish growing up. Oh nice, man, I didn't know that. 28 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 1: I'm still not very good but like seventh grade through 29 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: a few classes in college too, so you think i'd 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: be professhing. I feel like, you know, but not to 31 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 1: hear way more Spanish coming at ease. I know, but no, 32 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: I'm not. Then I've lost most of it now at 33 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: this point. But it was really fun to kind of 34 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: pick up that book and try to read it through. 35 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: And they weren't really having any of it. Dad, We 36 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: don't understand. They're just like staring at you with awkward face. 37 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: Can we move on to pee the cat or something else? 38 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: So we did, But that was really that was really fun. 39 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: Streets Alive was a blast today. Yeah we did that today. 40 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: So that's like, yeah, like you said, a huge It's 41 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: not just a bicycling festival, but it's just sort of 42 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: a way toes show like bicycling, walking, basically any transportation 43 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: other than cars is allowed. And obviously we love biking. 44 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 1: That was our first episode. That's a huge part of 45 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,960 Speaker 1: our life and uh in a big part of our community, 46 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,519 Speaker 1: and we're gonna that's what we're gonna be talking about today. Actually. Yeah. 47 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: So it was fun, like, you know, riding our bikes around. 48 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: We brought our girls, put them on the back and 49 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: we'll post pictures of what that looks like. Our bikes 50 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 1: are are really fun and um got those cargo bikes. Yeah, 51 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: so there are a lot of fun and and we 52 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: you know, ran into just a bunch of people, some 53 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: of some who I see all the time and some 54 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: who I see almost never. And so I saw some 55 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: clients of mine. Just fun biking around, and especially it 56 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: was really neat. I don't know if you felt this 57 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: when I turned onto the street initially on my bike. 58 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 1: That's such a busy intersection usually oh yeah, and I 59 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 1: like for the first minute and a half, it just 60 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: was almost like surreal biking on that road. Were like 61 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 1: no cars, we're here, yeah, no cars And I was like, wait, 62 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: the car's gonna come out of somewhere right, uh, And 63 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: it was really really fun though, And so I don't 64 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: know if your community where you live has something like that, 65 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: but Atlanta has the Atlanta Bike Coalition, and they're awesome 66 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 1: and they support great things like this, and so it's 67 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: really really fun to go out there. Kind of vendors 68 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: set up giving away free things and yeah, I get 69 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: other free bees. Yeah, and then you know, pick up 70 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 1: some library books while I'm at it. So that was 71 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: a good time. Yeah, Cliff bar was out there. Man, 72 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 1: They're like the best. They're always giving out just all 73 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: their different flavors and and trying stuff out. We kind 74 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: of camped out there for a second, got the girls 75 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: all the snacks that chocolate chocolate, peanut butter banana. I'm 76 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: always done with free bees. I'm always done with biking, 77 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: especially when there's no cars in the way. So beautiful. Yeah, 78 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: I can't wait for the next Streets Alive. That was 79 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: a blast. Yeah. Next one will probably be a lot hotter, 80 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: though it's gonna be a little brutal. Yeah, today it 81 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: was a little cool, surprisingly cool, but yeah, next one 82 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: will be hot for sure. They don't call it hot 83 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 1: LANDA for nothing. Yeah, they don't call it hot LANDAU. 84 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 1: By the way, if you're wondering anybody out there that 85 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: doesn't live in Atlanta. It is not called Hotlanta. Yeah, 86 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: don't come don't come down here saying things like that. 87 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: Just don't do it, all right, Matt. So today on 88 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: the show, we're going to talk about how community can 89 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: save you money, our community can help you in a pinch, 90 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: and how it also contributes to a healthy and balanced life. Yeah, 91 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: let's get into that beer first. Today's beer is called 92 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: Hello Beautiful, and that is by Monday Night Brewing, and 93 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: this beer is actually donated to the show. So we 94 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 1: want to thank the guys over there that Monday Night 95 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: for sending us this gorgeous beer. Joel's pouring it now 96 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: and it's like ruby red. It's like a reddish purple. 97 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 1: And it's a barrel fermented wild ale with blueberries, which 98 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: is man one of my favorite styles, like get that 99 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: wild ale, which basically means like that's where it has 100 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: the natural yeasts and bacteria. But then I found that blueberry. 101 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:53,359 Speaker 1: The blueberry wilds are some of my favorite wild ales. 102 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: So I'm super stoked about given this one to try. Yeah, man, 103 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 1: this first time for both of us, which is fun. Yeah, 104 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: having a new beer that neither of us has had before. Yeah, 105 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: extra fun. It smells awesome. That smells wonderful, nice and acidic. Yeah, 106 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: I'm salivating. That's always a good sign. It's not as 107 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: sour as you think it's gonna be when you stick 108 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: your nose in there. I think, like the white wine barrels, 109 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 1: maybe meld this one out a good bit. So it's 110 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: not terribly acidic. And uh, the blueberries really come through nicely. Yeah, 111 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: nice fruit to me. It almost drinks like a lambic. 112 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: It's kind of got that Belgian kind of funkiness going 113 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: on with it. And it's not overly sweet as well. 114 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: It's kind of dry. I think, like you said, like 115 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: the white wine barrels kind of mellow mellowed out a 116 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: little bit. Yeah. I think if you like fruity beers 117 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: but you don't love sours, this is probably a good 118 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 1: one for you to check out because it doesn't have 119 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 1: that that sour bite, like like that kick. Yeah exactly. 120 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: And and when I stop my nose in it, that's 121 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 1: what I was expecting and here and it really didn't 122 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: have that. And so I think if you if you 123 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 1: don't love sowers, but you like you know, fruit fruit 124 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: forward beers, then this is probably gonna be a really 125 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: good beer for you to try. Yeah, this is excellent, 126 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: all right, Matt, onto the topic of the day, the 127 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: necessity of community and the first thing we want to 128 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: talk about. I mean, I think community gets to so 129 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: many things before we get into kind of what we 130 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:07,159 Speaker 1: think about community and the importance of it and kind 131 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: of how it can be helpful. What's your take on 132 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: what community actually means? Yeah, man, I guess before we 133 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: spend an entire podcast talking about what community does that 134 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: help you, we need need to talk about like what 135 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 1: it is. We need to define it. So the way 136 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: we're gonna be talking about community today is essentially the 137 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: shortest definition. I think are your friends, Right, So you're 138 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: talking about the people in your life who you call 139 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: your friends and your neighbors, those that are around you 140 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:37,160 Speaker 1: that you share similar values with. As we talk through 141 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: some of these different ways that community has an impact 142 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: on our lives, it'll kind of quickly become clear that 143 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: this is at least the definition that we're kind of 144 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 1: going to be going with. As far as what a 145 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 1: community is, yeah, I think usually a community means that 146 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: you have some sort of characteristic or something some bond 147 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: in common. Um. And so you can have a religious community, 148 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: you can have like a school community, you can have 149 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: a neighborhood community. There are all these possibilities, and you 150 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: likely as a listener. And and Matt and I were 151 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: in a few different communities, and Matt were in some 152 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: of the same ones, and we're also in different communities 153 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: from each other too. Yeah, And so when I looked 154 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 1: up the episodes that had the term community in them 155 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: um on my podcast app, I was just kind of 156 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: checking to see, you know, what another people said when 157 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: it came to community, what what sorts of episodes were 158 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: being put out on this topic. And essentially all the 159 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 1: podcast episodes I saw about community were religious based. They 160 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: were sermons or something from you know, churches all over 161 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: the country talking about this term. Uh. And I think 162 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: that's great. I think a religious community is a great 163 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: community for you to have, you know, whether you are 164 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: currently in one or want to be in one. That's 165 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: just for a lot of folks, that's a strong sort 166 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 1: of tie that that kind of anchors people to their 167 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: faith and the different things that they value. And based 168 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: on our definition, that would make sense that that would 169 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: be a viable in uh, an important community because you 170 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: have something deep in common, right, something that you hold 171 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: hold deer and it's in common, and so that would 172 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: be hopefully a community of people that are tightly knit 173 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:14,000 Speaker 1: together based around that fact. But so we want to 174 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: talk about community from a different angle. And although I 175 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: do think religious community is really important and for us 176 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: in particular, actually it is that plays a big role 177 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: in our life for sure. Yeah, it's enormously important. I 178 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: would say it's, you know, one of my most important 179 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: communities that I am in. But Matt, the importance that 180 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: you and I place on community, whether it is our 181 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 1: religious community or a neighborhood community, or so the financial community, 182 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: the personal finance community that we're a part of, overall, 183 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 1: the beer community, the beer community. Uh, we put a 184 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: lot of importance on that. And we've put a lot 185 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: of thought into this episode about how we can convey 186 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: the way that we think about community to you listeners 187 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: out there. Yeah. I mean, essentially, that's why we're dedicating 188 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: an entire episode to community. Right, It's not like this 189 00:08:57,480 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: sort of concrete thing where we're talking about credit school 190 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: or or travel tips, which are very easy to wrap 191 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: your head around but we think that this will be 192 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: a great episode for us to talk about the importance 193 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:12,440 Speaker 1: of community and the role plays in our lives. Hopefully 194 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: we don't get bogged down on, you know, the definition 195 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: of a of a community. And I think at any 196 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: point more we're talking through this, we can substitute the 197 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: word community for friends essentially, right, whether it's your beer friends, 198 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:27,439 Speaker 1: or your neighborhood friends, or your work friends. Essentially anybody 199 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: in your life that you can call on or that 200 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:31,559 Speaker 1: can call on you. I mean, essentially, that's what a 201 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: community is, our friends, and that's what we're gonna talk about. Yeah, 202 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 1: and since we're a beer and money podcast, like, we 203 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: have to include the important fact that having a good, 204 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 1: solid community can actually help save you money. So that's 205 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: the first point you want to talk about, Yeah, man, 206 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: nice segue. So one of the first things we want 207 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: to talk about is sharing things, not in like a 208 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: hippie commune sort of way where we're all like have 209 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: the same stuff, but sort of if you know, we're 210 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: like we're kind of going down that path, and we're 211 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: specifically talking about sort of sharing rarely used items instead 212 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,680 Speaker 1: of buying them. Everybody in our neighborhood doesn't need a tiller, 213 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 1: Like that's not something that everybody uses all the time 214 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:12,679 Speaker 1: or that everybody even needs. But if you've got one 215 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 1: and in your neighbors canna use it or vice versa, 216 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: how much better is that than to go to the 217 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 1: store and drop a ton of money on something that 218 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:21,679 Speaker 1: you're hardly ever gonna use. That's just gonna kind of 219 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: sit there in your basement until the next time you 220 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: might need to use it. Yeah, I've lent out my 221 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,280 Speaker 1: paint sprayer more than I've actually used it. I think 222 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: I don't know you have paint sprayer, daughter. Nice. There's 223 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 1: so much I don't know about you, Joel Espaniel paint sprayer. 224 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:41,439 Speaker 1: I know, Matt, we've been convinced by advertising and kind 225 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:43,840 Speaker 1: of by the way our modern world works that we 226 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: need every item that is available, we need one of 227 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 1: our own. And I think there's so many ways in 228 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: which we don't need every item for ourselves in our shed, 229 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: taking a room in our house, and every item that 230 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: you have, I feel like takes up a little bit 231 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:02,319 Speaker 1: of mental space for you. And it goes back to 232 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: our spring cleaning episode, and it's just like it just 233 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: weighs on you. Yeah, and so having fewer items, but 234 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 1: then being able to share those items, and particularly the 235 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: big things. Right, let's say it's just a paint sprayer 236 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: or a lawnmower which you need once every two weeks, 237 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: or I think back to when we helped each other 238 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: put up Christmas lights. Four hands are better than two. Write. 239 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:23,160 Speaker 1: Two people working together and to make something happen makes 240 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: the work easier, and it makes it more fun, and 241 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,680 Speaker 1: it makes everything go along more quickly. And so having community, 242 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: you know, you didn't need to hire someone to study 243 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: the ladder, you didn't need to, you know, hire someone 244 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: to help me string the lights. But we tackled it 245 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: together on on each of our homes and it was 246 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 1: much quicker and easier, and ultimately it saves money. So, 247 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: and there might be some tools that you need to own. 248 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: Maybe you use your lawnmower once a week. For me, 249 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:50,199 Speaker 1: I have my lawn that I need to mow and 250 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 1: then runtal home laws that I need to mow, and 251 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: so I get a lot of use out of my 252 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: lawn more. But yeah, like a tool that you might 253 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: only need to use once a year, it's not something 254 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 1: you need to have around all the time immediately, So 255 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: that you can go ahead and use it. It's something 256 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 1: that you you can kind of plan on or look think about, 257 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: look towards, and with a little bit of thought, it's 258 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 1: easy to just borrow. One another example I was gonna 259 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: give to was we had a birthday party for one 260 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:13,199 Speaker 1: of my daughters and there's a lot of stuff we 261 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: didn't have for it. And we could have gone that 262 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: route right where you buy just get everything that you 263 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 1: possibly need, just order it on Amazon because it's so easy, 264 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 1: but instead we kind of asked around to some of 265 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 1: our neighbors. Literally two blocks this way and three blocks 266 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 1: that way. We've got a lot of our stuff from, 267 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: you know, from our friends and neighbors, including like a 268 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,560 Speaker 1: fire pit and a huge table that that we didn't have, 269 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:36,319 Speaker 1: a big old folding table. And man, that was like 270 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: a perfect example of sort of like our community, our 271 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 1: friends kind of coming together and instead of us being like, oh, 272 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: we just have to do this, this is something that 273 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 1: we have to buy, and this is something we need. 274 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: We don't need it all the time, we just needed 275 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: for the party. And so you just borrow it real quick, 276 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 1: take care of it, use it, return it in better 277 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,719 Speaker 1: condition that it showed up. You know, and you're good 278 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: to go. Yeah, And and mathic cool thing is like 279 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: when we had kids, we had people giving us clothes 280 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: from their kids before and and essentially my daughters came 281 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 1: into this world fully clothed for the next like three 282 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: years because of all the generosity from friends in our community. 283 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: And then we've been able to kind of pass along 284 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,080 Speaker 1: and do the same thing and give to other friends 285 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 1: and paying it forward. Yeah. Yeah, And so it's really 286 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:20,199 Speaker 1: fun to be able to buy less and to be 287 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:22,880 Speaker 1: more thoughtful about our purchases when it comes to clothing 288 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 1: because you know, we've got this free system of distribution 289 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: amongst our community. Yeah. Man, that's another great way to 290 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: save money. There's just certain things that you only need 291 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:36,200 Speaker 1: in a small season of life, like kids clothes, or 292 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 1: I was thinking about Kate maternity closed, like I don't 293 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 1: know how many different There's this one dress actually that 294 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: I'm thinking of that both of our wives and another 295 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:47,080 Speaker 1: friend of ours wife wore, and man, I also sick 296 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: of seeing that dang dress because they all loved it, 297 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: and so they all kept wearing it. Obviously not at 298 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 1: the same time, but they all got kind of pregnant 299 00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: after each other and cascading pregnancy seriously, but that one dress, man, 300 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 1: it made their ounds. It was a hot item, and 301 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: you know, I was joking about it, but in the end, 302 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: I was totally happy that Kate wasn't dropping all this 303 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 1: money on way overpriced maternity clothes to where just for 304 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: a couple of months. Yeah, and really, you know, you 305 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: need those clothes for you know, four or five months essentially. Yeah, 306 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: And so it feels like a big waste if you 307 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: actually have to go stock your wardrobe with new clothes 308 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: that small period of time. And if you can borrow, 309 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 1: you know, a couple of pairs of jeans and if 310 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: you dresses, you can get through that time. And community 311 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: is so good about that because you can even go 312 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: buy used which is great. You're still buying though, but 313 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: you're still buying and used asn't free, so unless it's 314 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 1: from your community. Yeah, yeah, I love I love that 315 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:43,360 Speaker 1: sort of aspect of being pregnant and sort of going 316 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 1: through that process together and even with the kids not too. Man, 317 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: I can't even think of all the different kids clothes 318 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: and the different toys that we sort of passed on 319 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: and even diapers to are you know, cloth diapers not 320 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: like obviously disposals. Here's a used poopy diaper for you, 321 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 1: because we tried out the whole cloth diaper thing and 322 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 1: that can be expensive. But some friends of ours actually 323 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: they hooked us up with a huge bag of cloth 324 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 1: diapers for us to try out, and there's a bunch 325 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: of different styles and we got to see what worked 326 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: for us, and man, you know what, we were so 327 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 1: glad because not all of them worked for us, and 328 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: we were able to find the one that worked best 329 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:15,280 Speaker 1: for us, and that was awesome. And to think of 330 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 1: how much money we would have spent, even buying from 331 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 1: a consignment store would have cost us a ton. Yeah, 332 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 1: you would have dropped a big chunk of change on that. 333 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 1: And so what a great thing to be able to 334 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: try something else before you buy. And you know it's 335 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: totally cool is that we just passed that huge bag 336 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 1: onto some other friends of ours because they cloth diaper 337 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: and man, I was so stoked to be able to 338 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: pass this awesome resource of cloth diapers along. Hopefully all 339 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: of this doesn't completely revolve around children, but because kids 340 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: grow so quickly and that's just something that's so temporary, 341 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 1: I think there's a huge opportunity there for saving money. Yeah. Well, 342 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: and so I'll give an example here, the one that 343 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,320 Speaker 1: doesn't revolve around kids. My co worker Kim and I 344 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: have carpooled to work together at times, and it's because 345 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: we're not just co workers, we're friends and we're part 346 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:02,120 Speaker 1: of the same community. We live close to each other 347 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:06,040 Speaker 1: in a neighborhood community or part of the same work community. Uh. 348 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 1: And that car pooling has been really great at times. 349 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: You know, most of the time, I'm biking now, so 350 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: we don't car pool nearly as much together, but it's 351 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 1: really fun when we do, and it saves on gas 352 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: and it makes the ride just a little bit more 353 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:20,200 Speaker 1: fun through awful traffic. And you guys just I mean, 354 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: I assume you guys alternate, right, Like, you don't make 355 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 1: her do all the driving, No, I make her do 356 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 1: all ri No. Yeah, we all, yeah, we alternate. So 357 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: I'll drive on, she'll drive another driving home in in 358 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: crazy downtown traffic is pretty rough, and so it gives us, 359 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: you know, we listen to a podcast together, we talk 360 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: about it. Whatever. It gives us a chance to not 361 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 1: be white knuckle gripped to the steering wheel on the 362 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: ride home. And so yeah, it's a lot of fun. 363 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 1: And another example as date night, so you and I 364 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: with our wives, we swap date nights. So one week 365 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 1: you'll put your girls down and I'll come over and 366 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:53,040 Speaker 1: you know, essentially babysit, which means either like reading or 367 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 1: getting some work done something like that while your girls 368 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: are asleep while you guys are out on a date. 369 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: And then the next week you come over to our 370 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 1: house while we do exact same thing. The girls are down, 371 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 1: you're able to come over. Honestly, that's one of the 372 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:05,520 Speaker 1: best things that we've got and and got going, and 373 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 1: it's a great system. Most people pay for a babysitter 374 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:10,920 Speaker 1: or they don't, right, and so because don't go out, yeah, 375 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: and because that they their their relationship kind of suffers 376 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:16,400 Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, babysitters are so expensive, and they 377 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: just kind of don't want to go through the hassle 378 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:19,879 Speaker 1: of setting it up. But the way we have is 379 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,199 Speaker 1: set up is that it's a recurring weekly thing. So 380 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: we you know, we flipped back and forth every week 381 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 1: and it a keeps our relationship with our wives in 382 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 1: great shape. You know that we have that sort of 383 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 1: automatic time built into res schedules. But b Man, we 384 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 1: save tons of money and it's not like we're doing 385 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:37,920 Speaker 1: any work with the children. We're kind of getting stuff done, 386 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:39,119 Speaker 1: but we get to do our own thing and just 387 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: kind of hang out at the other person's house. Man, 388 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:43,080 Speaker 1: that's like one of our ye like you said, a 389 00:17:43,119 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: great system that we've got going, and we totally recommend 390 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,600 Speaker 1: other folks to do that as well. Yeah, in similar fashion, Matt, 391 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 1: we switch off on taking our girls to school, and 392 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:54,280 Speaker 1: so I take the girls in the morning. You pick 393 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: up the girls in the afternoon. And that's been awesome 394 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: because if we had to do both every day, that's 395 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:02,919 Speaker 1: so much more draining. Uh. And the fact that we 396 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: can essentially split those tasks up saves us a lot 397 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: of time allows us to you know, I think the 398 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 1: girls have fun. It's enjoyable for me to take them 399 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 1: in the morning. I know they have a bunch of 400 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,160 Speaker 1: fun with you in the afternoon, and so there's something 401 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: really cool about that and just better. It's better that way. 402 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 1: It saves us time and money and effort. And that's 403 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:23,400 Speaker 1: another one of the best things that has come from 404 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:26,680 Speaker 1: our friendship and from the community. Because let's say you're 405 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 1: not available or something like that, We have other friends 406 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 1: too that are part of our community that could pick 407 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:35,160 Speaker 1: up Selma and who also go to the same school. Yeah, yeah, 408 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 1: I was gonna say that, actually, because you don't deal 409 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:38,800 Speaker 1: with this as much, because you do mornings. I do 410 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: the afternoon since I have a little more flexible schedule, 411 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: and you have to be there by a certain time 412 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,160 Speaker 1: to pick up the kids, like almost to the minute, 413 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 1: and if you're not, they're supposed to start getting charged, 414 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:50,040 Speaker 1: Like you're supposed to start getting charged for every minute 415 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 1: that you're past the pickup window time. Even though you 416 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 1: and I account on each other for the general carpool, 417 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: there's still other friends that we have at the school. 418 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:00,879 Speaker 1: And often times me and if you the other moms 419 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 1: who do the pick up in the afternoons, we text 420 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 1: each other if someone's running late and we'll sign the 421 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: other kids out. That way they don't get docked the feet. 422 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:12,119 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. And so sometimes someone might be running late 423 00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 1: and it's just like, hey, I'll be there in a 424 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 1: few minutes, and you just kind of hang out there 425 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:16,960 Speaker 1: with the kids for a little bit and it saves 426 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: them money and you know, and they'll gladly return the 427 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,919 Speaker 1: favor when I'm late which is oftentimes the case, hopefully 428 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 1: not too often, but it does happen. So that's like 429 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: another tangible way that that saves money. Yeah, so those 430 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: are the financial benefits of community. I think there are lots. Yeah, 431 00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:34,960 Speaker 1: there's a lot of other examples, certainly that we haven't discussed, 432 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 1: but those are very clear in our lives at least, 433 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 1: and those are very tangible ways to right like, and 434 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:41,720 Speaker 1: that's what's so easy about that is is it's easy 435 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:43,679 Speaker 1: to say that, like, oh, this costs this much money 436 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 1: if I can borrow this or allow a friend to 437 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: borrow this, and we kind of get a system going. 438 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: We get to say that much money. There's other ways though, 439 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:54,680 Speaker 1: that community helps that are less tangible, that are harder 440 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:57,320 Speaker 1: to quantify and real quick before we get into that, Matt, 441 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 1: After talking about you know, the way you can save 442 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 1: you money, it makes me, well, what if act would 443 00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: you give to someone who feels like they're lacking in 444 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 1: community now and trying to build a community they feel like, 445 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,199 Speaker 1: you know what, that sounds awesome? I want some of that. 446 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,320 Speaker 1: I want to be able to share the burden and 447 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:14,159 Speaker 1: share costs and have a close relationship with people like 448 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:15,919 Speaker 1: that in my life. That I can depend on and 449 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: that can depend on me. But how do you develop that? Yeah? Man, 450 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:21,680 Speaker 1: that's an awesome question. I just take I just take take, 451 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 1: take take. Oh, I know, here's some coupons. Taker, Literally, 452 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:29,639 Speaker 1: you just threw some coupons onto the table. What did 453 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: you pull this out of like your pocket? Yep? No, 454 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 1: I mean you have to be a valuable part of 455 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:37,919 Speaker 1: that community. If you want to be a part of it, 456 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,439 Speaker 1: you need to contribute, right And so if first of all, 457 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: if it doesn't exist yet, you're going to be the 458 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: one that creates it. And if you want it to exist, 459 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:47,199 Speaker 1: it's up to you. Yeah, And that doesn't mean that 460 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 1: you have to have the paint sprayer in your closet 461 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 1: to give. You can build community through time, through intentionality, 462 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: through relationship and so you know, so many the best 463 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,880 Speaker 1: members of my community I haven't even borrowed anything from. 464 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: They haven't saved me any money, they haven't lent me 465 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 1: something in a pinch or giving me clothes for my kids. 466 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:11,680 Speaker 1: But they've been there with time, with an ear, with 467 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 1: some concern for what's going on in my life, whatever 468 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,879 Speaker 1: it may be. I think valuable members of the community 469 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:20,800 Speaker 1: are people that have time for one another. And so 470 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:25,159 Speaker 1: if you truly desire to have community like this, to 471 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 1: have well, we think is this major contributing factor to 472 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 1: living a rich life. You first have to make sure 473 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,360 Speaker 1: that you're the change in the world that you want 474 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: to see. You know, you have to be that member 475 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:37,440 Speaker 1: of the community that you want to have you're talking 476 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,680 Speaker 1: about Michael Jackson. If you build it, they will come. 477 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:43,639 Speaker 1: I don't know, man in the mirror. Fair though it 478 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 1: sounds cheesy to say, but literally that's I mean. You 479 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 1: need to be able to have time for each other. 480 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: You need to contribute. And so I was thinking more 481 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 1: of like being able to be there for folks from 482 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: a lending standpoint, but like you know, I think what 483 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 1: you said is even more important, like being able to 484 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: be there from a time standpoint and be there for 485 00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 1: each other. And you have to know it takes time 486 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,919 Speaker 1: to build, like it took us a while to develop 487 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: the date night swap, right, because when you met me 488 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,719 Speaker 1: day one, you didn't know. I totally want to let 489 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 1: that dude watch my kids. I don't trust him, right, 490 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 1: So it takes time to get to know someone. Community 491 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,720 Speaker 1: is very time oriented. It's hard to build Apart from 492 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 1: that and so if you're spending all your time working, 493 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,160 Speaker 1: you're probably gonna miss out on some of these free things, 494 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 1: these free benefits, and these really important benefits the community 495 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: has to offer you. And I think wealth takes on 496 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 1: many forms, and most of us think about it as 497 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 1: purely financial, but a wealth of community is so much 498 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 1: more than just a financial benefit it can bring you. 499 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: And that's why we want to kind of get into 500 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,680 Speaker 1: those other aspects. Now, yeah, Juel, that's but yeah, that's awesome, 501 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 1: man Like. So, like the first thing, so the first 502 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 1: main point we talked about was how it saves you money, 503 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,399 Speaker 1: like again, which was a very tangible and kind of 504 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: measurable thing. These other two things that we're gonna be 505 00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:52,919 Speaker 1: talking about, it's not as tangible. It's it's kind of 506 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 1: harder to wrap your head around, but that doesn't make 507 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 1: it any less important, and in fact, it probably makes 508 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,679 Speaker 1: it more important because those things are way more important 509 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,400 Speaker 1: than just saving a buck. Yeah, So the second sort 510 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 1: of main point that we're going to discuss is how 511 00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:06,679 Speaker 1: I mean community can kind of help you out in 512 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:09,920 Speaker 1: the pinch. And so there's just things that community can 513 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:13,680 Speaker 1: provide to you that you can't necessarily buy with money. Yeah, 514 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,240 Speaker 1: And so for instance, I'll be completely honest about something 515 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 1: that's been happening in our family's life lately. And we've 516 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,399 Speaker 1: had some health issues going on with my wife and 517 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,479 Speaker 1: we kind of weren't sure what was happening. It's been 518 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 1: kind of scary. I mean, you're still not totally sure, 519 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: but yeah, so we're still not totally sure, but we 520 00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 1: we think we've kind of gotten a closer idea of 521 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 1: what it is and about to get real guys. And uh, 522 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:39,560 Speaker 1: it's actually been really hard physically for her during this time, 523 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,239 Speaker 1: and so there were days that were really hard and 524 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 1: still are hard. And there were specific times where you know, 525 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 1: we really needed someone to take our kids because we 526 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 1: had to go to a doctor's appointment, and the community 527 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,320 Speaker 1: that we had built up over over these past years 528 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 1: in this neighborhood, in this place rose up to help 529 00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,960 Speaker 1: us in all these ways that some of which we 530 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,280 Speaker 1: asked for and some of which we didn't. You know, 531 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: sometimes it was specifically watching our kids because we asked. 532 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 1: Sometimes it was what can I do for you because 533 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,119 Speaker 1: I know you need help even though you're not going 534 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 1: to ask for it, And sometimes it was that time, 535 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,159 Speaker 1: and other times it was flowers left on the porch 536 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 1: or someone coming over to talk and to care, and 537 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:23,040 Speaker 1: all of those things meant like so much more than 538 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,199 Speaker 1: just being able to like save a buck. Yeah, like 539 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,240 Speaker 1: that bart of community means so much more than the 540 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,560 Speaker 1: fact that I can borrow a lot more from a friend, right, 541 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:32,960 Speaker 1: And that's awesome. I like, I love that. That's the thing. 542 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 1: But those intangible aspects of community, that closeness that you 543 00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:39,760 Speaker 1: can have with people over time, and I think community 544 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: usually does take, like I said, a lot of time 545 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:45,840 Speaker 1: to develop. We have been in this place building relationships 546 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,199 Speaker 1: with the people that we care about for you know, 547 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:51,280 Speaker 1: almost a decade, and so we knew how valuable it was, 548 00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: I think in our minds, but we felt it tangibly 549 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,960 Speaker 1: in this time where we really needed something and we 550 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,080 Speaker 1: needed the people around us to to help us, and 551 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 1: they did. They were there for us, and it was beautiful. Yeah, 552 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,719 Speaker 1: that is beautiful, man, that's awesome. Some of the unintangibles too, 553 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 1: are just being able to take the stress out of 554 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: daily living. So like we were talking about like that 555 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: pre k where I pick up their girls in the afternoon, 556 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: like just knowing that someone's kind of there and then 557 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,399 Speaker 1: they had your back, like there's someone we can kind 558 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,960 Speaker 1: of count on. Even though that's on a scale of 559 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,199 Speaker 1: magnitude of seriousness compared to you know, with the example 560 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: that you gave, but it's still one of those little 561 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: things that you kind of worry about and and it 562 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,399 Speaker 1: does add stress to your daily life thinking what if 563 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,199 Speaker 1: I don't get there in time? And then obviously it's 564 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: gonna cost money as well. But it's kind of an 565 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 1: issue with the teachers as well because you're not there 566 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 1: when you're supposed to, and just knowing that someone's there 567 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 1: and they've got your back, it's kind of priceless. You 568 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,679 Speaker 1: can't sort of buy that piece. You can't buy that 569 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,600 Speaker 1: peace of mind. Yeah, And so Matt, sometimes that community 570 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,160 Speaker 1: the right it means like where you're at, like other 571 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 1: parents at school, and sometimes it's geographic specific. Sometimes it 572 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 1: needs to be a neighbor and knowing your neighbors is 573 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:54,160 Speaker 1: really important. And so for instance, like if a package 574 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,000 Speaker 1: gets left under doorstep and it's really important and you 575 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,360 Speaker 1: need to make sure that it doesn't get get snagged 576 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,560 Speaker 1: by the kid walk down the street or whatever. Yeah, yeah, 577 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 1: so it sees the Amazon package sitting there, Yeah, which 578 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 1: has happened so much in our neighborhood. Yeah, have I 579 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,399 Speaker 1: told you the story about the about the our neighbors 580 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,239 Speaker 1: across the street. So yeah, it was actually not too 581 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 1: long after we moved into our house. Kate had ordered 582 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,080 Speaker 1: something as like a gift for a friend and it 583 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 1: had gotten delivered and evidently, right after like the ups 584 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 1: guy drove off or whatever, some dude that was just 585 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 1: walking down the streets, some kid walked up onto the 586 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,679 Speaker 1: porch and snagged it. Well, here's the thing. Our neighbor 587 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 1: across the street was hanging out there, kind of hanging 588 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 1: out on their porch, and he saw it go down, 589 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 1: and so the dude took off after him, like literally 590 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,359 Speaker 1: chased him down. And the guy was really fast, so 591 00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,919 Speaker 1: he ran back and got in his car and just 592 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 1: and tore after him. Unfortunately, they never got the thing back, 593 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:47,680 Speaker 1: but still, like that's something that a is totally badass 594 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,880 Speaker 1: and awesome and now they're like our favorite neighbors ever. 595 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: But how cool is that? Right? You can pay for 596 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: a security system and cameras and sort of all the 597 00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 1: other sort of stuff that goes into trying to make 598 00:26:58,040 --> 00:26:59,800 Speaker 1: your house secure, and you can even pay for a 599 00:26:59,840 --> 00:27:02,639 Speaker 1: lot security service that drives around and looks at your 600 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 1: house or something. You can't pay a neighbor to be 601 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 1: there for you and like looking out for you and 602 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 1: they've got your back and to know that we've got that, 603 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 1: like I've got this bond now with that neighbor and like, man, 604 00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,719 Speaker 1: I've got their back now too, Like it's just natural 605 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:16,920 Speaker 1: and now I want to be there for them. But yeah, 606 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: I feel like that's a perfect example of something that 607 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 1: kind of happens a lot of times that people are 608 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,200 Speaker 1: dealing with these days, especially with all the online ordering 609 00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: that we're doing and the way we purchase things. And 610 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,960 Speaker 1: then awesome, it's crazy, man, Yeah, that's crazy. I love 611 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,359 Speaker 1: that your neighbor did that. Literally he took off running 612 00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 1: after him and I was like, wait, dude, you did what, 613 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 1: Like that's awesome. I don't sure if I would have 614 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 1: done that initially, but I am now because you did it, 615 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 1: So I'm like empowered because of him. Sure. Yeah, there's 616 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 1: something really cool about that that that sense of community 617 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,280 Speaker 1: can foster that you know what, You're not gonna do 618 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,920 Speaker 1: that to my neighbor for my friend. You know that's 619 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 1: not gonna happen mask my buddy. Yeah, and along the 620 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,879 Speaker 1: lines of sort of like neighbors sort of looking out 621 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 1: for each other too. Is that's another thing you can 622 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,840 Speaker 1: do with like your community, and and that's kind of 623 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 1: neighborhood specific. Is that when you get to other and 624 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:01,919 Speaker 1: sort of put your mind behind something as like a 625 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 1: group of people specifically geographic, you can do so much. 626 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,280 Speaker 1: And recently our neighborhoods started putting on like this festival 627 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 1: and it's freaking awesome. This past year was the second 628 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 1: year now that they've done it, and it's totally cool. 629 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:16,120 Speaker 1: It's a ton of fun, and it's like a legitimate, 630 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 1: huge event and they're you know, a lot of people 631 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,080 Speaker 1: come in from all over the city to check it out. 632 00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: And that's not something you can just pay for. Like 633 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 1: you can't just pay for a neighborhood festival. You can't 634 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:25,919 Speaker 1: just say, oh, I want us to have like this 635 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: cool festival, let's just pay for it. Bringing all the 636 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,359 Speaker 1: finest artism you know. Yeah, Like you can't just literally 637 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:33,879 Speaker 1: neighborhood people that make stuff that is awesome. It's not 638 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,920 Speaker 1: the Renaissance and you're not a king, Like you can't 639 00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 1: just will this to happen like it. It involves work, 640 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:42,480 Speaker 1: in time and a lot of community and neighbor involvement, 641 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:46,280 Speaker 1: and that's just something that's totally cool that we're really 642 00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 1: seeing the results of and being able to support that. 643 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,440 Speaker 1: It's hard to explain, but like, I just want to 644 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 1: support that because that's just part of who I am 645 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: and I'm part of this community. Yeah. Well, you know 646 00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 1: what makes me think about kind of the central part 647 00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:59,200 Speaker 1: of where we live. There's this church and this parking 648 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,800 Speaker 1: lot and it's also a school and so our girls, 649 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 1: Matt have gone to school at this little neighborhood school 650 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,680 Speaker 1: right there and like a parents morning out thing. Yeah, 651 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: and that specific spot is like the dead center of 652 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,960 Speaker 1: our neighborhood. And this church that have been there for 653 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 1: a long time was kind of struggling, just not many 654 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:20,000 Speaker 1: people going there and it was pretty much set to disband, 655 00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 1: and so we had a neighborhood meeting about you know, 656 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 1: what are we gonna do with this space? And it 657 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,000 Speaker 1: was so interesting. All of our neighbors turned up. I 658 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,520 Speaker 1: was there, you were there. It was so like uplifting 659 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: to hear what all of our neighbors thought about this neighborhood. 660 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:36,600 Speaker 1: And it's something that I had felt, but to hear 661 00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 1: everyone say it out loud too, was really neat just 662 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: the way our neighbors feel about each other and the 663 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: way that they feel about this place. And essentially what 664 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,440 Speaker 1: a lot of people said was that where we live 665 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,640 Speaker 1: feels a little bit like Mayberry. It has this small 666 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,760 Speaker 1: town feel in this big city where everyone does look 667 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,840 Speaker 1: out for one another, where everyone cares about what happens 668 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,800 Speaker 1: in their neighbors lives and they care about what happens neighborhood. 669 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,280 Speaker 1: And I think that there's something kind of rare in 670 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: in our culture about that right now, that it's kind 671 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 1: of every man for himself, and this idea of neighbors 672 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 1: and neighborhood and belonging to each other in this way 673 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 1: is really cool. And it's also just not something that 674 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 1: exists in very many places, and it's something to be 675 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:24,200 Speaker 1: strived for certainly, and I'm just thankful that we have 676 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:26,640 Speaker 1: it here. Yeah, man, it's just rare. Like you said, 677 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:30,240 Speaker 1: it's not something that we always see. And initially when 678 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: we first went to the neighborhood, we didn't know its 679 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: ton about living in a neighborhood, living in an in 680 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:40,080 Speaker 1: town group, or geographic location. But over time, like we've learned, Yeah, 681 00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 1: I feel like literally I've been taught community by the 682 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 1: people around me, by like the people that have gone 683 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,840 Speaker 1: before and have been here for decades even. Yeah, and 684 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,360 Speaker 1: so they kind of taught me how to care and 685 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: how to be a part of this place because the 686 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 1: sense of community was so deep when we came here. 687 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 1: We didn't know what we were getting into to a 688 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,640 Speaker 1: certain extent, and I had other communities. But to realize, 689 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:01,240 Speaker 1: you know, this has become such an essential part of 690 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,800 Speaker 1: who I am and what matters to me. To get 691 00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:05,800 Speaker 1: to be a part of that, and to see the 692 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,640 Speaker 1: way it's mattered to people that have lived here longer 693 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,720 Speaker 1: than I have, then the way it transfers down to me, Okay, cool, 694 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: Now I need to take ownership of this. I need 695 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 1: to be a part of this in a positive way 696 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 1: because I don't want to let my community down, Like 697 00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: I want to be a part of this for good. Yeah. 698 00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:21,920 Speaker 1: What's cool about that is it's a community that we 699 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,200 Speaker 1: have been trained up in because it already existed, like 700 00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:28,600 Speaker 1: it's something that we've sort of joined. And that's not 701 00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: always the case though, for for a lot of people, 702 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,080 Speaker 1: Like on the last point you talked about like ways 703 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,160 Speaker 1: to sort of foster that and I feel like that's 704 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,200 Speaker 1: applicable to this as well. It's something to consider that. 705 00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 1: You know, we're lucky enough that we live in a 706 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:42,200 Speaker 1: great community, but that's something that most people can have 707 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,640 Speaker 1: with time and energy and effort. If that's not something 708 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,200 Speaker 1: you see, that's something that you can do and sort 709 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 1: of be the leader on. Yeah. I mean, I think 710 00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 1: if you sit down and brainstorm, what what are we missing? 711 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 1: How come we're not connected as a neighborhood, as neighbors. 712 00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 1: Why is it that we don't get together for social gatherings. 713 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 1: Why is it that you know, something that we really 714 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,480 Speaker 1: need doesn't exist. If you can put pin into paper, 715 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 1: you can think it through. You can start the ball rolling, 716 00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,960 Speaker 1: start organizing a community where you live, be about the 717 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 1: process of actually creating relationships with the people around you. 718 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 1: I think it's really easy to like grab the mail 719 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,200 Speaker 1: out of the mailbox or pick up the paper. I 720 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 1: don't think anyone gets papers anymore. Whatever it is, and 721 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 1: you see your neighbor in your wave. But what we're 722 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:29,320 Speaker 1: missing is connectivity, relationship, and you can really be about 723 00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,840 Speaker 1: starting that on your block, you know, on your street 724 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,600 Speaker 1: where you live. And uh so, if it doesn't exist 725 00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:38,240 Speaker 1: in the way that you wanted to. You're really the 726 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:40,680 Speaker 1: best person to start that. And the reason that we 727 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 1: are even striving towards this is that like somehow, like 728 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 1: deep down, we know that that's valuable, but there's something else, 729 00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 1: way bigger to be said, to know that your community 730 00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,520 Speaker 1: sort of has your back and the sort of richness 731 00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:54,560 Speaker 1: that that provides, right, and even sort of moving deeper 732 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,720 Speaker 1: than that, is that we know, like I said, sort 733 00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,800 Speaker 1: of deep down, like we know that kind of living 734 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:03,120 Speaker 1: in that community leads to like a healthier life. Yeah, 735 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I think of it as a core human 736 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 1: need and I think we've placed so much importance on 737 00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:13,560 Speaker 1: a career or status that we've neglected the importance of community. 738 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:17,400 Speaker 1: And actually, when you give of yourself in a relational way, 739 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,280 Speaker 1: you get back more than you've you been given. Maybe 740 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: not in a sort of financial way, but in again, 741 00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 1: this is like the super intangible thing, and like you 742 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: can't really quantify it, right because like a pure economist 743 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,160 Speaker 1: would say, well, no, when you give of yourself, that 744 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 1: takes time, and time is money. So there's an opportunity 745 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,720 Speaker 1: cost there, right by being neighborly and being involved in 746 00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 1: your community, and going to a civic association meeting or 747 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 1: something like that. That's money that you could be working 748 00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 1: and further in your career. So it literally costs you money. 749 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 1: And so from a financial standpoint, you're losing out. Yeah, 750 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,360 Speaker 1: it doesn't affect the bottom line in a positive way exactly. 751 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,400 Speaker 1: But there's something way bigger to be said, and there's 752 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 1: a there's just like this robustness and this richness that 753 00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,440 Speaker 1: comes from living in a community where neighbors and where 754 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: friends value each other and what each other is able 755 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: to provide. Uh, in a way that it's hard to quantify, 756 00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,319 Speaker 1: but deep down, I think we all know that that's 757 00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,960 Speaker 1: necessary and that that's going to lead to just a richer, 758 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,839 Speaker 1: fuller life. Yeah. And when you know, my friends or 759 00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 1: neighbors or something like that are having a cocktail party 760 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,600 Speaker 1: at five pm on a work day, you know what 761 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 1: I want to do leave work early and goes that 762 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,440 Speaker 1: and so there's something about that's what I want to do. Yeah, 763 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,440 Speaker 1: there's something about that though that it's kind of anti 764 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,680 Speaker 1: the fifty hour work week. It's kind of anti the 765 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,920 Speaker 1: you know, build up your career, because that's the most 766 00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:34,920 Speaker 1: important thing. And I want to say too that I 767 00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,719 Speaker 1: think one of the beautiful things in community too is 768 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,520 Speaker 1: that it can help you embrace like a tapestry of people, 769 00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,200 Speaker 1: not just people that are your age with the same 770 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 1: mindset and the same goals, but people of different races 771 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,200 Speaker 1: and different histories and different ages. And I think that's 772 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: something really cool about community too, and especially about a 773 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:57,440 Speaker 1: physical location community. Yeah, that's a huge thing with a 774 00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:00,200 Speaker 1: specific geography or or you know, like a neighborhood, which 775 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,640 Speaker 1: is what we're kind of discussing, because you don't choose 776 00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,799 Speaker 1: usually who your neighbors are, you know, and so they 777 00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:08,319 Speaker 1: just exist when you move into your house, and you 778 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,600 Speaker 1: have to find a way to be neighborly, and there's 779 00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: something really cool about that. Sometimes they have a lot 780 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 1: to offer you in different ways, and sometimes they have 781 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,520 Speaker 1: nothing to offer you, but whatever it may be, they 782 00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: are part of your community, and there's something really cool 783 00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,120 Speaker 1: about knowing them and caring for them in that way. 784 00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,320 Speaker 1: And I'll specifically say, like, we have an elderly neighbor 785 00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:29,560 Speaker 1: behind us, and he has meant so much to me, 786 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: just the conversations over the fence with this awesome guy 787 00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:37,399 Speaker 1: who's experienced a lot of life. He hasn't ever given 788 00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,880 Speaker 1: me anything monetarily. He's never you know, lent me his 789 00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,920 Speaker 1: lawn mower, but just our conversations and the way he's 790 00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,120 Speaker 1: cared for my children, talk to them and help them 791 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,279 Speaker 1: and wanted to know more about their lives, and just 792 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,000 Speaker 1: that relationship I've built with him. He's sort of like 793 00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:53,680 Speaker 1: a neighborly grandfather figure for you guys, no doubt, no 794 00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:57,560 Speaker 1: doubt he's He's wonderful and I wouldn't trade you know, 795 00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:59,520 Speaker 1: somebody that can offer me a lot more. And when 796 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:01,960 Speaker 1: it comes to you know, trade, trading or bartering or 797 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,160 Speaker 1: whatever it is, you know time and you know, help 798 00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,040 Speaker 1: lifting heavy things whatever. Maybe like I wouldn't trade that 799 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,640 Speaker 1: for you know, the relationship that I have with him 800 00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,920 Speaker 1: and what he adds to our community. Certainly, what if 801 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,040 Speaker 1: he was a grandpa that brewed beer, well then I'd 802 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:20,280 Speaker 1: like him even I completely agree man, having that diverse, 803 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,400 Speaker 1: Like you said, tapestry is a good way of saying 804 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,520 Speaker 1: it of of neighbors. And I think that's one of 805 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,320 Speaker 1: the things we love too about our community and neighbors 806 00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: is the fact this is specific to the to our girls, 807 00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,719 Speaker 1: to our kids, but also to us. It's just what 808 00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:35,480 Speaker 1: we're able to learn from other people skills that are 809 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 1: neighbors and friends have that they're able to sort of 810 00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,440 Speaker 1: share with us and specifically to sort of teach our kids. 811 00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:43,960 Speaker 1: Like I love that our girls are able to learn 812 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:46,800 Speaker 1: things that we know nothing about that Kate and I 813 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,520 Speaker 1: my wife and I know nothing about, but they're able 814 00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,399 Speaker 1: to learn about from from other parents and just from 815 00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,600 Speaker 1: other neighbors. Not not necessarily parents, but so specifically. I'm 816 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:59,560 Speaker 1: thinking of when Heavy, our daughter started taking ballet. Kate 817 00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: and I know nothing about dance. It's just not something 818 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:07,520 Speaker 1: that we do. But Emily, your wife is totally into dancing. 819 00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:09,719 Speaker 1: That's just like one of her things. She grew up 820 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:11,879 Speaker 1: doing ballet, so she she goes a little bit about 821 00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,920 Speaker 1: it exactly. And so for Evy to be able to 822 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 1: talk to her about that specifically and to kind of 823 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,960 Speaker 1: get her fired up and to kind of, you know, 824 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,400 Speaker 1: ask her to do some certain news or something like that. 825 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:23,120 Speaker 1: When when you guys would come over and hang out 826 00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:26,279 Speaker 1: that sort of thing, How awesome was that? Like, Man, 827 00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 1: that just makes my heart glad to see that, you know, 828 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: and just to know that we're able to kind of 829 00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:35,880 Speaker 1: contribute to our lives and these seemingly super casual ways, 830 00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: but there's just something about it that's beautiful and that 831 00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,680 Speaker 1: that goes really deep and and just enriches everyone's life 832 00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:44,680 Speaker 1: to be able to to to have that. Yeah, and 833 00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:48,359 Speaker 1: our friend David, who knows a lot about soccer, and 834 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,960 Speaker 1: we're he bought a couple of goals. Yeah, We've been 835 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,160 Speaker 1: talking with some of our friends and neighbors about which 836 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,520 Speaker 1: different soccer programs are part of, you know, like the 837 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:57,759 Speaker 1: different clubs that you join and pay and stuff like that. 838 00:37:57,760 --> 00:37:59,239 Speaker 1: But what we realize is our kids are kind of 839 00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:02,120 Speaker 1: too young to be paying all this money to join 840 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,000 Speaker 1: this league that has set times and just know it's 841 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,680 Speaker 1: a bit structured hundred fifty bucks to you know, hang 842 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 1: out on a Saturday and watch your kid put their 843 00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:13,279 Speaker 1: thumb in their mouth while they're playing soccer. While I 844 00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: say that, when when David, like he has a wealth 845 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:19,120 Speaker 1: of knowledge about soccer, he loves soccer, and he's told like, 846 00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:20,520 Speaker 1: you know what, like I can do that, and so 847 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 1: that's something that a skill that he has a passion 848 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,000 Speaker 1: that he has. And we're gonna just kind of get 849 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,239 Speaker 1: all the kids together and let them sort of kick 850 00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,239 Speaker 1: the ball around on their own, like that, yeah, and 851 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,799 Speaker 1: maybe teach them a few things. But certainly that's really 852 00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,360 Speaker 1: cool because I love that idea because standing around on 853 00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,680 Speaker 1: a Saturday with you know, a bunch of other parents 854 00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 1: who have their Starbucks coffee in their hands or whatever 855 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,360 Speaker 1: while they're watching their kids, you know, staying around and 856 00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:43,400 Speaker 1: a coach they've pulled up in their H two hummer 857 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:45,200 Speaker 1: or whatever. I don't even know if they make those anymore, 858 00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,600 Speaker 1: but yeah, that sounds terrible. But hanging out with buddies 859 00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:52,040 Speaker 1: in part of our community, friends and our kids getting 860 00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:55,200 Speaker 1: together to play a game that we enjoy and essentially 861 00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,160 Speaker 1: teaching our kids together at the same time, Like, that 862 00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:00,480 Speaker 1: sounds really fun. That sounds like something completely different than 863 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,560 Speaker 1: an organized league, and that sounds like the kind of 864 00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:06,600 Speaker 1: thing community is perfect to accomplish, all right, man, So 865 00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 1: what about when it comes to digital communities. There are 866 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,000 Speaker 1: lots of them. There are lots of places where you 867 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:14,960 Speaker 1: can find people of like mind online, different forums and 868 00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,759 Speaker 1: even just Facebook and just all the different groups out there. Yeah, 869 00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:19,839 Speaker 1: So what's your take on digital communities and how they 870 00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:22,200 Speaker 1: fit into kind of the way that we view community 871 00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,880 Speaker 1: as a whole. Yeah, man, that's just something I'm like 872 00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:29,279 Speaker 1: super concerned about that these digital communities are replacing sort 873 00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,720 Speaker 1: of the real life communities that we have in person. 874 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,239 Speaker 1: And I don't want to knock online forums and just 875 00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:35,839 Speaker 1: different groups that were part of because like, I mean, 876 00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,040 Speaker 1: I'm part of tons of different groups online, specifically I 877 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,719 Speaker 1: like on Facebook, and there's amazing information that comes from 878 00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,799 Speaker 1: those and even support, you know, Like there's a lot 879 00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:45,680 Speaker 1: of different groups that that help each other out and 880 00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:49,719 Speaker 1: provide encouragement with whatever it is that people are going through. 881 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:51,840 Speaker 1: Like let's say, you know, we started a podcast and 882 00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:54,759 Speaker 1: we're a part of a podcast group on Facebook, and 883 00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:58,000 Speaker 1: if I have a technical question or we have questions 884 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,880 Speaker 1: about you know, all right, we're fifteen episodes in. What 885 00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 1: what do we do next? You know, whatever it is. 886 00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,719 Speaker 1: Let's say I had a question about gear or the 887 00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:07,880 Speaker 1: direction that we should take our show. There's this awesome 888 00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:11,120 Speaker 1: community that I know I'll get a response from because 889 00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,759 Speaker 1: we have this thing in common. Even that just existing 890 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,840 Speaker 1: is really cool. I I love that it's there in 891 00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,400 Speaker 1: case I need it. Yeah, man, it's incredibly helpful, right, Like, 892 00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,640 Speaker 1: there's a lot of information there and you're in it 893 00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,200 Speaker 1: with people. There's a lot of people that are going 894 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,719 Speaker 1: through something very similar a lot of times that you are, 895 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:28,320 Speaker 1: and so it's very helpful you have like peers. Everybody's 896 00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,000 Speaker 1: kind of like lifting each other up. Incredibly valuable. I 897 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,440 Speaker 1: do not want to discount that at all. What I'm 898 00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,719 Speaker 1: afraid of happening, though, is when that becomes sort of 899 00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:39,880 Speaker 1: like our primary sort of interaction and we lose this realness. 900 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,359 Speaker 1: We lose this real actually hanging out together, where you're 901 00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,080 Speaker 1: where you're with other people, you're experiencing the nuances that 902 00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:50,560 Speaker 1: come with awkward social situations sometimes, or understanding jokes or 903 00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,640 Speaker 1: you know, like, there's just so much that's lost when 904 00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:55,840 Speaker 1: it comes to digital communication. And even though there's all 905 00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:58,560 Speaker 1: this technology to sort of break down those barriers of 906 00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:02,719 Speaker 1: communication that allow us to maybe communicate more realistically when 907 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:06,160 Speaker 1: we're in these digital communities, it's still not the same. Uh. 908 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,200 Speaker 1: There's something to be said with being able to hang 909 00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:13,000 Speaker 1: out with people, real life people together, hopefully sharing a beer. 910 00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,840 Speaker 1: There's something that that comes with that that again is 911 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,960 Speaker 1: it's just hard to describe, you can't quantify it, but 912 00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,640 Speaker 1: it just adds a robustness, it adds a richness, it 913 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:26,320 Speaker 1: adds a fullness to life that you can't replicate online, 914 00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:28,920 Speaker 1: and I think there's something to be said to that 915 00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:33,080 Speaker 1: any of these sort of online communities and forums, like 916 00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:36,080 Speaker 1: their main purpose is to imitate real life, and so 917 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,080 Speaker 1: like at the core of the technology that like, the 918 00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,480 Speaker 1: technology knows that what they're trying to do is basically 919 00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:42,880 Speaker 1: imitate what we're doing right now, which is like hanging 920 00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:46,239 Speaker 1: out and talking, right, And so when the imitation kind 921 00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:49,319 Speaker 1: of becomes the focus versus than the real thing, I 922 00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:51,640 Speaker 1: think that's when it starts getting kind of dangerous. And 923 00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:53,520 Speaker 1: it's not dangerous, I guess, but it's just like a 924 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,520 Speaker 1: slippery slope and I feel like we can miss out 925 00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,799 Speaker 1: on on something better. Yeah. No, I think that's a 926 00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,120 Speaker 1: great point. I think specifically our Facebook group, it's been 927 00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:04,000 Speaker 1: really fun. Yeah, it's awesome. It's been great getting to 928 00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:05,840 Speaker 1: know some of the people in there and you know, 929 00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,480 Speaker 1: hearing questions or what they want to hear in an episode, 930 00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,439 Speaker 1: whatever it is, what beer they're drinking, yeah, or seeing 931 00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:12,360 Speaker 1: people help each other out, like answered other questions to 932 00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,640 Speaker 1: each other and and providing helpful tips and feedback. I 933 00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:17,680 Speaker 1: love that. Man, that's just amazing to see that. And 934 00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:19,799 Speaker 1: hopefully there's just more and more of that to come. 935 00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,960 Speaker 1: I love that that is a medium that exists. But 936 00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,239 Speaker 1: I think that's a great secondary community. I think you 937 00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:31,800 Speaker 1: need your primary communities should be real and tangible and physical. 938 00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:35,680 Speaker 1: And if your primary community is an online community, that's 939 00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:39,000 Speaker 1: probably just not healthy. And so look at your physical 940 00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:42,399 Speaker 1: location where you live, you know, your neighbor's neighborhood. That's 941 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,759 Speaker 1: a great place to find community. Look at your religious 942 00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,839 Speaker 1: congregation if you're a member somewhere, that's a great place 943 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,360 Speaker 1: for a community. Look at if you have kids. You know, 944 00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,040 Speaker 1: who are the other adults around you that have children 945 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:57,719 Speaker 1: similar age. That's a great place for a community. And 946 00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,839 Speaker 1: I would say, I think to an exception, maybe it's 947 00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:03,200 Speaker 1: to that is if those online communities, like these different groups, 948 00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:07,759 Speaker 1: if they reinforce like your real life communities, right, and 949 00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:09,919 Speaker 1: so like I'm thinking about our neighborhood, like we have 950 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:13,480 Speaker 1: obviously like our specific actual neighborhood. We hang out together 951 00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,400 Speaker 1: and have like the festival and hang out you know, 952 00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,000 Speaker 1: up on the corner while kids ride bikes in the 953 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,760 Speaker 1: parking lot, that sort of thing. But the online version 954 00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,600 Speaker 1: of that supports that. And so in the same thing, 955 00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,680 Speaker 1: if the online version of that kind of becomes the focus, 956 00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,200 Speaker 1: well it starts to suck, because that's when people troll 957 00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:31,160 Speaker 1: and are mean to each other and are lane. That's 958 00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:34,960 Speaker 1: why comment sections on the internet although work exactly. But 959 00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:37,000 Speaker 1: then if you're able to sort of compliment your real 960 00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:40,719 Speaker 1: life interactions with the online version, well then it's just 961 00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:45,200 Speaker 1: this awesome platform for sharing information, for coordination, for sharing events. 962 00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:50,040 Speaker 1: It's awesome for like details and specific advice that you 963 00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:52,000 Speaker 1: might not be able to get from a friend because 964 00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:55,200 Speaker 1: you have this aggregate knowledge online that you don't necessarily 965 00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:58,000 Speaker 1: have in a smaller personal community, which is what's so 966 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:01,279 Speaker 1: cool about it, right, Hive Mine, Yeah, yeah, I love that. 967 00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,839 Speaker 1: But ultimately, you want your you know, most of your 968 00:44:03,880 --> 00:44:07,719 Speaker 1: interactions to be in a real and tangible community that 969 00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:10,520 Speaker 1: exists where you are. Yeah, man, I think that's true. 970 00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:12,440 Speaker 1: Now let's just talk about if you're in a cult, 971 00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,680 Speaker 1: that's a bad community, stay away, get out right now. 972 00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:19,360 Speaker 1: I also think, Matt, that your family can be a 973 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,600 Speaker 1: great place of community too. And you know, I've got 974 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:24,960 Speaker 1: an awesome family that I love, and we get to 975 00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:26,480 Speaker 1: get together at least once a month and we hang 976 00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,480 Speaker 1: out and uh and I see you know, other members 977 00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,840 Speaker 1: of my family even more often. I think family is 978 00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,799 Speaker 1: a great place for community. Yeah, it's it's sort of 979 00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,960 Speaker 1: like the default, right, Like you know, I mean, hopefully 980 00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,640 Speaker 1: folks have enough time that they have friends and wherever 981 00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:39,000 Speaker 1: it is that they live. But I think a lot 982 00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,399 Speaker 1: of times folks know that, like, well, at the very least, 983 00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:43,799 Speaker 1: so I've got my family. Yeah, but you know what, 984 00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:46,560 Speaker 1: some people don't feel that way about their families. They 985 00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:50,120 Speaker 1: didn't have the kind of childhood that I had. They 986 00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,680 Speaker 1: don't have the close relationship with their parents or their 987 00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,920 Speaker 1: siblings or even the close geographic proximity that I have 988 00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:59,600 Speaker 1: to them. And I think that's where you need your 989 00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:03,160 Speaker 1: local community all the more. If you don't feel like 990 00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:06,200 Speaker 1: you have your family as one of your primary communities, 991 00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:09,799 Speaker 1: all the more reason for you to find close communities 992 00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:13,600 Speaker 1: where you are that are important to you and meaningful. Yeah, 993 00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:15,960 Speaker 1: and I think that is happening more often man. Well, specifically, 994 00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:18,239 Speaker 1: what I'm thinking of is friends giving. Like often do 995 00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:21,720 Speaker 1: we see sort of friends posting pictures from their friends giving. 996 00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,600 Speaker 1: You know, it may not be something that they do 997 00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:26,359 Speaker 1: with their family as much, or maybe they're like you said, 998 00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,160 Speaker 1: like their family is really far away, like out of 999 00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:30,319 Speaker 1: town and kind of stuff like that. But to see 1000 00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:33,000 Speaker 1: folks getting together and still sort of having that meaningful 1001 00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:37,080 Speaker 1: relationship together is perfect. I mean that's like the perfect 1002 00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,359 Speaker 1: example of of what you're saying. Uh, And I love 1003 00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:41,959 Speaker 1: seeing that. Yeah, alright, Matt. So back to the beer 1004 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:46,000 Speaker 1: Monday night. Hello, beautiful, beautiful? Uh you know what this way? 1005 00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:48,759 Speaker 1: Are you talking to me? There? The beer? You know, 1006 00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:50,399 Speaker 1: as this beer warmed up, I feel like I could 1007 00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:52,680 Speaker 1: taste more of that oak, like more of that would 1008 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:55,279 Speaker 1: like that the white wine barrels that this was aged in, 1009 00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:57,960 Speaker 1: and it gave it like a nice sort of mellow, 1010 00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:02,440 Speaker 1: delicious tone. I agree. By the way, one note that 1011 00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:05,319 Speaker 1: I wanted to tell our listeners proper glassware. I think 1012 00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:07,799 Speaker 1: it's something that needs to be addressed about that we've 1013 00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,600 Speaker 1: never talked about that on the show. And if you 1014 00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:13,520 Speaker 1: look at our logo, the U in the four four 1015 00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:16,879 Speaker 1: p O U is a tulip glass. And I think 1016 00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,720 Speaker 1: tulip glasses are probably the best glass word to drink 1017 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,239 Speaker 1: almost any beer out of. If you're drinking an I 1018 00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:23,960 Speaker 1: p A or something like that, feel free to drink 1019 00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:26,719 Speaker 1: it out of a pint glass, But most of these 1020 00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:30,000 Speaker 1: more sophisticated beers, a tulip glass is perfect for that, 1021 00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:32,760 Speaker 1: and part of the reason is because you can almost 1022 00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,719 Speaker 1: pretty much stick your whole nose in the glass. They 1023 00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,480 Speaker 1: I mean they funnel, they taper to like to the top, 1024 00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:39,680 Speaker 1: and you can get your nose in there and it 1025 00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:41,840 Speaker 1: kind of funnels all the smells and all the flavors 1026 00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,200 Speaker 1: right there to your nose and it just allows you 1027 00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,680 Speaker 1: to taste what you're drinking a little better. So there 1028 00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:48,880 Speaker 1: are even more advanced type of glass water that you 1029 00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,360 Speaker 1: can pick up that apparently does an even better job. 1030 00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:55,360 Speaker 1: But basically, get too tulip glasses in your home and 1031 00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:57,759 Speaker 1: you can probably find one for four bucks and those 1032 00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:00,839 Speaker 1: are gonna be just really nice for the drink experience. 1033 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,200 Speaker 1: Not to mention they look cool. Yeah, they make you 1034 00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,759 Speaker 1: look like you know what you're talking about. That's what 1035 00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:09,440 Speaker 1: we did. So thanks again to Monday Night. Hello, beautiful, 1036 00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:14,200 Speaker 1: really fun beer barrel fermented wild ale with blueberries. Delicious. 1037 00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:18,080 Speaker 1: All right, Matt recap time first community can save you 1038 00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:22,040 Speaker 1: literal money, like actual money. Specifically, you can pass along 1039 00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,919 Speaker 1: and share sort of season of life items like either 1040 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:28,959 Speaker 1: kids toys or clothes and even maternity clothes. It's less 1041 00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:32,359 Speaker 1: the case for dudes, uh, but it's definitely something to 1042 00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:35,400 Speaker 1: to consider. And also too, I don't know, I like 1043 00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:39,120 Speaker 1: those stretchy jeans, Matt. They would have to be stretchy 1044 00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:43,120 Speaker 1: because I've got like short, half Korean Asian legs, which 1045 00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,279 Speaker 1: means you've got like another foot on me. Maybe maybe 1046 00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,160 Speaker 1: leave the clothes, uh. Swapping to our wives that the ladies. 1047 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:52,040 Speaker 1: And yeah, another thing too is sharing sort of time 1048 00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:54,200 Speaker 1: and like resources. Right, and so we got like this 1049 00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,040 Speaker 1: the date night setup that we have going on, and 1050 00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,719 Speaker 1: that's just an awesome way for us to a make 1051 00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:00,640 Speaker 1: sure that, like we said earlier, go on date nights, 1052 00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:02,000 Speaker 1: but be it just saves us so much money to 1053 00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,080 Speaker 1: not have to pay a babysitter. And that's something that 1054 00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:05,799 Speaker 1: we know that we can kind of depend on every 1055 00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:08,279 Speaker 1: other week. Yeah, and I know that you're there with 1056 00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,600 Speaker 1: my kids. You're my friend, You're part of my community. 1057 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:12,800 Speaker 1: Or if I have to ask you know, another friend 1058 00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:15,319 Speaker 1: to pick up my girls or something like that, that's 1059 00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:17,879 Speaker 1: better than hiring a service to do it because it's 1060 00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:21,040 Speaker 1: someone that I know and trust. Also, community helps you 1061 00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,960 Speaker 1: in a pinch. And so, like I mentioned earlier, you 1062 00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:26,840 Speaker 1: know what's been going on in our lives with you know, 1063 00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:29,600 Speaker 1: my wife's sickness, and trying to figure that out and 1064 00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,560 Speaker 1: just kind of last minute doctor's appointments and just needing 1065 00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,359 Speaker 1: some support and encouragement. You know, our community has come 1066 00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:37,799 Speaker 1: through in the clutch and been there for us. It's 1067 00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:39,839 Speaker 1: been vital for some of the details to come up 1068 00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:42,800 Speaker 1: in our lives, but it's been vital for our hearts 1069 00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,279 Speaker 1: and minds to be supported in that way. And it's 1070 00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:47,319 Speaker 1: just been beautiful to watch our community kind of come 1071 00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,880 Speaker 1: around us and support us. And that sort of support 1072 00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,279 Speaker 1: is kind of intangible. I can't put it on a 1073 00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:55,239 Speaker 1: line item of a budget. Uh, this, my community made 1074 00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,919 Speaker 1: me this much money this month, but it means way 1075 00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,640 Speaker 1: more than anything money could even buy me. Yeah, because 1076 00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:05,600 Speaker 1: it's not just about yeah, because it's not just about money, right, 1077 00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,200 Speaker 1: Like there's all these apps out there I'm thinking of, 1078 00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,600 Speaker 1: like the food delivery like door dash or something like that, 1079 00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,759 Speaker 1: and like, sure, you could just order take out and 1080 00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:13,680 Speaker 1: and have it delivered to you and effectively you have 1081 00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:15,680 Speaker 1: a meal, just like you would if like a neighbor 1082 00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,120 Speaker 1: or somebody brought you some food. But how much more 1083 00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:20,960 Speaker 1: doesn't mean to know that you've got neighbors and friends 1084 00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:22,640 Speaker 1: that are who are willing to do that for you 1085 00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:24,879 Speaker 1: and sort of like the heart I guess behind that 1086 00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:27,880 Speaker 1: versus than just ordering cheap take out. Well, and we 1087 00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:30,120 Speaker 1: even had a friend who was busy and she said, 1088 00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,319 Speaker 1: I can cook you a meal tomorrow night, or I 1089 00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:35,080 Speaker 1: can order you something on tor Dash tonight. And the 1090 00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,319 Speaker 1: fact that she was just willing to do that, uh, 1091 00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,880 Speaker 1: just that she said that, Hey, I'm really busy and 1092 00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:41,239 Speaker 1: I would love to cook you a meal some mon, 1093 00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:43,239 Speaker 1: but I will do this, I will order it for you. 1094 00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:46,080 Speaker 1: Now that meant so much. Yes, it's not that it's 1095 00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:49,160 Speaker 1: not that DoorDash sucks, it's it's like the meaning behind it. Yeah, 1096 00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:51,440 Speaker 1: it's a thought. It's like, Oh, someone cares enough for 1097 00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:54,439 Speaker 1: me too, and they're invested with me in this. They're 1098 00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:56,640 Speaker 1: essentially walking through life with me. And that's what a 1099 00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:59,840 Speaker 1: community does. They're walking through life with you. Yes, and 1100 00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,880 Speaker 1: old lastly, community helps us to maintain a healthy and 1101 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,600 Speaker 1: balanced life. Again, this is something that you can't really 1102 00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,000 Speaker 1: put your finger on, but deep down we all know 1103 00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:12,080 Speaker 1: that when you are known and when you have somebody 1104 00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:16,000 Speaker 1: who knows you and and understands you, that's just a 1105 00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:18,479 Speaker 1: better life to live. Right, And we're not just talking 1106 00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:20,919 Speaker 1: about like a significant other or a spouse. We're talking 1107 00:50:20,920 --> 00:50:23,520 Speaker 1: about friends as well, and to have people surrounding you 1108 00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:27,920 Speaker 1: who do that, that's just better. Yeah. An example I 1109 00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:30,440 Speaker 1: came up with for that, Matt was how awesome is 1110 00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:32,360 Speaker 1: it when someone gives you a gift that you didn't 1111 00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,759 Speaker 1: even ask for that's perfect for you? Or when you 1112 00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,520 Speaker 1: find a gift for someone, for your friend, for someone 1113 00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:39,960 Speaker 1: that you know and care for that's perfect for them 1114 00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,120 Speaker 1: that they didn't ask for. I love that, And that's 1115 00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,120 Speaker 1: like the example of community. Like that gift giving scenario 1116 00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:49,839 Speaker 1: only happens when two people know each other. Well, Like 1117 00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:52,239 Speaker 1: you can buy that thing for yourself whenever you want, 1118 00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:54,239 Speaker 1: but that's not that's not the same thing. And also, 1119 00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:57,840 Speaker 1: digital communities are awesome. I think they can provide something 1120 00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:01,719 Speaker 1: that in person communities can't. There's this hive mind that 1121 00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:04,520 Speaker 1: you can tap into with resources that might not be 1122 00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:08,360 Speaker 1: available right where you live. But it shouldn't replace physical 1123 00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:13,080 Speaker 1: and neighborhood specific community in your life. We want you, guys, 1124 00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:17,080 Speaker 1: to obviously have community and to have friends, and to 1125 00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:21,239 Speaker 1: have people who know you, not just friends on Facebook 1126 00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:25,080 Speaker 1: in this group, who know your financial situation or or 1127 00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,920 Speaker 1: how you happen to get a deal on your last 1128 00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:30,120 Speaker 1: cable bill. Like those things are great, and we want 1129 00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:32,400 Speaker 1: that group to continue to be a resource for people 1130 00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:34,520 Speaker 1: who have questions and sort of some of the day 1131 00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:36,400 Speaker 1: to day practical kind of stuff. And that's what it's 1132 00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:38,200 Speaker 1: there for. It's it's there to for us to support 1133 00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:40,680 Speaker 1: each other, to encourage each other. Yea, so to tap 1134 00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:44,359 Speaker 1: into resources online like our Facebook group that I think 1135 00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:45,600 Speaker 1: it's a lot of fun to be a part of. 1136 00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,440 Speaker 1: Just remember that the communities that you have online, that 1137 00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:51,960 Speaker 1: you're involved in online should be complementary to what your 1138 00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:55,040 Speaker 1: community in real life with the people around you looks like. Yeah, 1139 00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:56,399 Speaker 1: you know what actually makes me think of to man, 1140 00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:58,640 Speaker 1: is when you meet somebody who you've met online, like 1141 00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:00,880 Speaker 1: through a group, in real life. How cool is that? 1142 00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:04,440 Speaker 1: Because like you have this sort of knowledge base of 1143 00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,799 Speaker 1: each other and sort of what you value and your 1144 00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:08,760 Speaker 1: beliefs and different whatever it is that you're talking about 1145 00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:10,279 Speaker 1: right in the group. But then when you get to 1146 00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:12,279 Speaker 1: meet in person, how cool is it? It's just so 1147 00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:15,319 Speaker 1: much better. It's it's so much richer, and you get 1148 00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:18,040 Speaker 1: excited because you think, man, we know all these other 1149 00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,320 Speaker 1: details about each other. Now we get to like connect 1150 00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:23,600 Speaker 1: for real and hang out and have a beer or 1151 00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:26,520 Speaker 1: go ride bikes or do something real life that we're 1152 00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:28,520 Speaker 1: just sort of talking about. When it comes to, you know, 1153 00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,759 Speaker 1: doing that online, I think that there's something to be 1154 00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,480 Speaker 1: said for when we do actually meet, you know, different 1155 00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:35,279 Speaker 1: people like that in real life. There's a reason why 1156 00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,040 Speaker 1: you get excited because it's kind of like, oh cool, 1157 00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:38,719 Speaker 1: finally we get to do this in real life now, 1158 00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:41,359 Speaker 1: this thing that we've been doing digitally. It's like, deep 1159 00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:44,440 Speaker 1: down we know that it's sort of imitation. It's digital 1160 00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,160 Speaker 1: when when when you do that online, but being able 1161 00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,879 Speaker 1: to do that in person is just awesome, especially when 1162 00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:52,040 Speaker 1: you've connected about something that's deep and meaningful to your life. 1163 00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,480 Speaker 1: So like, for instance, in our group, you know that 1164 00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:56,759 Speaker 1: the other people in there like craft beer and like 1165 00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,160 Speaker 1: talking about you know, money issues that matter to you, 1166 00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:01,719 Speaker 1: and so for you and I and for the people 1167 00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:04,359 Speaker 1: in the group like that. Those are really two huge 1168 00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,880 Speaker 1: parts of what make up who you are. And the 1169 00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,000 Speaker 1: fact that you're connecting with other people that that's the 1170 00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:11,200 Speaker 1: case as well. If and when you do get to 1171 00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:14,520 Speaker 1: meet in the flesh, it's really really cool because you 1172 00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:16,719 Speaker 1: already have two amazing things in common and you're part 1173 00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:20,720 Speaker 1: of the same, the same group essentially that was formed digitally. So, folks, 1174 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,000 Speaker 1: thanks so much for listening. We really appreciate you listening 1175 00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:25,120 Speaker 1: all the way to the end. Our home on the 1176 00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:27,319 Speaker 1: web is how to money dot com. 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