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He takes us back to the 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:34.080 stories from his childhood, from living his Nigerian royalty, to 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:37.200 losing his father early in life, being stripped financial of 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.840 everything by the Nigerian government, to travel in the unlikely 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.560 play from drug dealer to Navy seal. Please welcome to 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:48.600 Money Making Conversation. The author of Transform, Remy at a 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:52.560 lek Ay, Good morning. Before they take your fatly on 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:55.080 the show, Well, first of all, all right, I got 0:01:55.120 --> 0:02:01.520 your name right, thank my. I'm that's a littlement. Let's 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:04.040 go give me some a little grand All day thinking 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:07.200 about that name sir, doesn't trust I get it all 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:12.639 the time. I've heard it all kinds of ways. Use 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.160 right because I respect because my name is Roshane, people 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:16.520 get it wrong. And I think there's part of the 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:19.520 process of building your brand is people say your name 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:22.320 correctly when you're walking in the room, and sometimes strangers 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:24.040 come up and see your name. Then you know you're 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:27.800 on the right track. That's when you know you're moving 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:30.240 up to the world. Well, my friend, you have an 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.120 interesting world. Like I said before I brought you up, 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:37.280 it's about being a member of the Navy Seal? Uh 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.799 Will you always be a member? When you even leave 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:41.920 the military? Are you still considered a member of the 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:45.440 Navy Seal? And our community wants to seal always a 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.160 seal um, so it kind of never leaves you. It's 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.480 always a part of you, and it's we call it 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:53.280 the brotherhood, so it kind of never ends. Yeah, And 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:56.120 so a couple of there's a serious of question. You've 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:57.919 got two breaks, and I wanted to slow it down 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.359 to talk about it because one of the I want 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:04.520 to start out initially said how Jesus transform your life? 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:06.960 You know, so religious played a major role in you. 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.359 I want to start the interview out with that because 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:12.480 faith is important. Otherwise I wouldn't even bring that part 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:15.320 of the conversation up. So how did how did faith 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:17.640 play such a strong role in your life? And what 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:20.560 part did it become a significant player in your life? 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:24.720 You know, early on from from you know, from adolescence 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.720 to high school to college, not colleges, but you know, 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:32.079 early twenties to bid twenties. I had no faith background. 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:35.400 I would fluctuated between eight years of agnosticism growing up 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:37.520 UH and the Bronx. My mom would take it to 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.720 a Baptist church and I personally, as a young kid, 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:42.600 I saw a lot of hypocrisy and so that's what 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:46.520 really kept me away from it. Fast forward, my brother, 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:49.520 he had became a Christian UH in his early twenties, 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:51.560 and he would he would always tell me, Remy, when 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.480 you hit rock bottom, just remember cryots of Jesus and 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.240 you're trying everything and nothing's worth pryor to Jesus. And 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.520 at twenty six, I kind of, you know, I hit 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:02.200 rock They were there, you know, going to detailing my book, 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:04.280 but you know I was struggling with it. I had 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:06.560 it all on outside. I was a davy seal as 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:09.200 girlfriends all over the place. I had money, I had 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:12.600 a beautiful place in San Diego, California. But on the inside, 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:16.279 I just I was empty. And uh, I was battling 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.760 with depression. I was battling went through a bad break up, 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:21.960 battling with guilt from decisions that I made, and I 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:24.320 just I just cried out. Like my brother told me to, 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.560 I said, let me try this. Jesus out it. And 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.080 I did. And that's what was the X factor for me. 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:32.400 And that's what changed my life to transform me ultimately 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:35.880 into into the man I am today. And what what 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.320 type of man is that? Uh? Well, well, I want 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:42.080 a man of a man of faith, a man who 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:45.000 puts Christ first. And uh, and everything I do and 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:47.479 what I mean by that in my decision making, um, 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:50.479 as it relates to to my businesses and my decision making, 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:53.479 as it relates to me being a husband and and 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.240 honoring my wife, and and being being a father and 0:04:56.320 --> 0:05:00.159 honoring my kids and and leading by example. Uh, you know, 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:04.159 and it's just just in everything that I do. I'm 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:07.680 on the phone with speaking to Remy the Lek. His 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.719 new book, Transformed, is the personal journey that he took 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:15.360 from the streets of the Bronx to become a Navy Seal, actor, entrepreneur, writer, 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.320 husband and father. Now when we when we talk about 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:21.560 this journey in your book transformed what was the purpose 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:23.400 of writing that book? You know, because there's a lot 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:26.200 of layers in that book and actually you can like 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.680 stayed on one part and I've just been because the 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.520 Navy Seal was a whole book. You know what I'm 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:33.159 saying that the whole, the whole Getting out of the 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:36.640 Hood is a whole book. You know, the educational factor there, 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:39.960 the relationship with your wife, that's you know, there's so 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:42.599 many different chapters, but you managed to put it all 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:46.920 in this book. Why well, you know, for years, people 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.599 who had heard my story, just just the African part 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.640 of my story going from royalty and riches in Africa 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:55.599 to being stripped of everything and and then moving to 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:58.039 the Bronx and being poor and that's living in that 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.280 street life. People who just heard that one of my 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:02.560 story would tell me, brother, you need to write a book. 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:06.200 The story is inspiring and can inspire people. And for you, 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.320 as I said, no, I'm not gonna do that because 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:11.679 being a naked seal, there's a stigma attached to seals. 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:13.680 You write books and as you know, you kind of 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.080 break the code and I never will. You know, I 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:18.160 had a great reputation and the seal teams that did 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:21.200 seven and a half years UM and the thirteen years 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:24.159 overall in all of the military, and I didn't want 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.520 to want to, you know, hurt my my my reputation, 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:28.320 and so I avoided that until I went on to 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.200 Today's show. Was I was in the poltical Transformers and 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:33.000 I wasn't it enough to be part of the press tour. 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:35.600 And I went on went on a Today's show and 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.839 after one went back stage captive the gift or said 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:39.240 to me, you know you could get the story is 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.520 just to inspiring with me. You need to write a book. 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.400 And I told her no, and she and I told 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:45.719 her why, and she said, that's foolish. I know your heart. 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:47.279 I know your your heart would be to write a 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:50.159 book in a way to inspire positive instorpation and people. 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:52.840 And when she said that to me, that's when a 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:55.560 switch went off in my head. And that's when I said, Okay, 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.200 I need to do this book, cause I know it 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.240 won't be about me beating my chest and say, hey, 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:00.919 look at me. I'm an av shield on this. I 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.599 know it would be for me to inspire people to 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:06.840 reach for their dreams, reach for their goals despite the 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:09.200 odds that they may be basing on the deficiencies that 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:12.040 they may have as it relates to their dreams. Now, 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:14.880 you know you mentioned the movie The Transformers last night. 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.280 That was the movie you played in, and you've you've 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.960 you've started to carve out an acting career. Was that 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:22.720 the goal or that's just one of the many blessings 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:26.520 that by having strong faith and being uh, being purposely driven. 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:29.160 I considered that type of personality I took away from 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:32.120 the book You're focused person. You know you you plan, 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:34.320 your your your You're a man of plan and a 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:39.040 man of action. Absolutely, you know, for me, I wasn't tasting. 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:40.679 It wasn't part of my plan. If I was actually 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:43.320 grad spooking and my master's when I received the phone call. 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:46.240 My plan was to get my education and going to 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:50.160 full time consulting as a business consultant. And I was, 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.000 you know, writing papers in my phone ring or the 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.560 other end of the line was a woman to work 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:55.560 with director Michael Pain and she asked me what I'm 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.520 doing tomorrow and I said, I'm like paper. She said, 0:07:57.520 --> 0:07:58.760 come down to the book. He said, I got a 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.320 boy for you to be in. So that's kind of 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:05.440 how my my film and TV and slow that down. Now, 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:08.240 how did you get into a major movie? Going back 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:12.480 back then up there? You you missed some steps and 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:17.960 Burger Key if I computed that at the universities called 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:22.600 to West Virginia and what happened. You know, there's lady shop. 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.320 Michael Day, he likes he likes to use real Navy 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:28.480 seals and some of his films and uh, you know, 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:31.880 there's not that many African Americans. That's like, there's less 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:36.480 per than one percent of the Special Operations communities African American. 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:38.360 I was around the fifty of Navy seal in the 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.319 history of the seal teams and his Steal Teams was 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:44.120 creative nineties sixty two. Um, so Michael Day was looking 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.360 for some diversity in the film. He wanted a former 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:49.439 Navy seal who was African Americans to be a partner 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.920 of the film. And I just happened to be that 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:55.600 and and and and you know that's when when when 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.719 of the casting, uh, women reached out to me, and 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:00.839 that's how I got into it. Okay, but you but 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:04.520 you were talking though, what do you mean in the movie? Right? 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:09.800 Oh yeah, yea, yeah, that's what I'm saying. See, they 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.840 call you on the phone, they call you on the phone. Right, 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.719 This ain't no extra now I'm just leaving thereby. That's 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:19.840 not an extra. Now he's talking about an extra. To 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:21.480 be honest, I started out of extra because it was 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:24.480 just for me one day and then um, after two 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:26.800 weeks later, they called me back and they said, fight 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:28.560 they likes your look and he likes you that you 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:31.680 could take direction. So they kept me on for three weeks. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:33.880 And then then that's at the end of the third week, 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:36.120 that's when I started get in line. And that's when 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.200 production approached me and said, hey, they wants to bump 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:41.120 you to a principal role until you stay on the film. 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:43.280 And I stayed on the film until we wrapped in December, 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:45.439 so that so I was supposed to start out of action. 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:49.000 But then I've gotten I got up. Let's talk about this. 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:50.840 Let's talk about this because see this is what I 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:54.960 talked about. People fear, they fear opportunity. They questioned themselves, 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:58.439 you know, because opportunity that comes a person's way on 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:00.880 a regular basis. But a lot of people see there, 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:03.000 they're they'll say they that keep over there, or that's 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:05.560 not my time, or it's not I don't feel I'm 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.080 educated enough, that's not my my game plan. You you 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:11.040 give me a little cracking it though. I mean because 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:14.160 because I'm always preparing myself every day for an opportunity. 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:17.920 So so you got this phone call, you went down there, 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:22.199 You're next? What were you doing that was like making 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:25.120 you stand out? You know, were you friendly on set? 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:28.200 Will you cooperative? It's just let people know how did 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:33.120 you get bumped up? Because it applies to everyday jobs too. Yeah, yeah, 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:35.040 you know, that's a great question. I think, you know, 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:37.040 going back, I think the seal teams prepared me for 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:39.200 that opportunity big time because in the Seal team, you've 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:41.840 gotta be able to take orders and not question those orders, 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.959 and you gotta trust that direction. When I wanted that, 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.320 you know, one, I just want to kept my mouth shut. 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:49.559 I wasn't that guy walking around set like hey, I'm 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:51.439 gonna see them. There's some that trying to be bunty 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:54.719 funny with anybody that just in my corner, and when 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.640 I was told to go on set and when I 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.840 was sold to do when Michael Bay told me to 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.440 move in certain ways, I just did it. And after 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.560 I did it, I didn't try and make friends. I 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:05.920 walked back to my corner and I get my mom, 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.000 and I think, that's what did it? You know? And 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:11.280 I saw other people who would be on set and 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.760 and they're trying to have conversations with the DP and 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.640 the director and this and then and you know, trying 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:20.320 to hand out business cards, and you know, I think, 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:22.640 you know, for me, it was either because I didn't 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:24.480 want to be an actor, you know what I mean. 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.960 So I wasn't out there trying to impress anybody. I 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.320 was just there because I was asked to be there. 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:32.959 So because I didn't have that I need to do, 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:36.240 this is my big brink I needed because that seal 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.760 or that that that anxiety wasn't there. I just did 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:40.160 what I was supposed to do. And I think that 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.520 that's I think that that was recognized and I think 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.880 that that's what led to the to the opportunity after that, 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:48.800 the bigger opportunity. That's awesome, that's an awesome story because 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:50.320 I already I wanted to pull that out of you 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:54.320 because because so many people can apply that to everyday life, 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.000 everyday job, because I've applied that same principle, you know, 0:11:57.400 --> 0:11:59.760 and the thing about it. But you looked apart though. 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:02.320 Come on, when you put on that uniform, when you 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:06.240 put on that uniform, you know, it looked like you 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:10.880 could do something. I was perfectly you know. You know, 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.720 after I got out the military, I didn't just I 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:15.400 was still hitting the gym like I was still in. 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.400 I was still trying to keep it together. There you go. 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:21.719 So so now let's telling people. My wife sometimes I 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:24.199 always tell her that, you know, certain things, what I 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.120 gotta lose weight, or change clothes or change a look. 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.439 I said, something's about to happen in my life. I'm 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:32.600 just preparing for that. I can't tell you what's gonna happen. 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.280 I know because I will, first of all, always keep 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:36.800 a positive look. And when you've read this book Transform, 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.160 you'll see despite all the obstacles in his life, he 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:43.440 keeps an uplifting approach, even though when he knows he's 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:45.880 made a mistake. He's a quick thinker, you know, like 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:47.640 when he got when when you got busted, going down 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:49.600 to San Diego and didn't think they're gonna page him 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:57.800 and went down there and half drive later. Yeah, but 0:12:57.840 --> 0:12:59.840 we're gonna be back and talking more about this book. 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:01.480 I got another break because I really want to break 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.599 down that Navy Seal experience of how you got that 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:08.320 because you overcame a lot of flaws, physical flaws like 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:10.720 swimming that he couldn't do that he was able to 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:12.640 come through it and guess what he had to go 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:17.200 through Hell week twice. So so we'll be back with 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.920 more of my man. Uh, this book is transformed. His 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:24.040 name is Remy Out of late K money making conversations. 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:26.520 You hear all. That's what we do here, give you information. 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.800 We tried to share advice that will label you to 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:31.880 win in your personal and your professional life. And when 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.400 you do that, guess what you got it from me? 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:40.880 Roshan McDonald. You know, after ending a successful naval career 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:43.480 in twenty sixteen, he was led to pursue a career 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:47.679 in acting, writing, speaking, and including appearance in the twenty 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:51.640 seventeen Blockbuster when he went from Sideline Extra to a 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.880 speaking role transform The Last Night, and So to lead 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.640 technical advice on Netflix of Coming Motion Pictures six Underground 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.320 and every turn Remy found a way to overcome the 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.240 odds even when it didn't make sense. His story is 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.360 inspiring and uh, if you're a fan, club members have 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.720 over two thirty thousand fans. I am actually sending out 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:16.240 his book as part of my newsletter today. It's going 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:19.040 out this this morning. That trying to drive traffic to 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.400 Amazon dot com. That boy, this book. It's an amazing 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:25.200 books entitled Transform the Navy Seals Unlikely Journey from the 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:28.320 throne of Africa to the streets of the Bronx to 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:31.560 define all odds. When you say the word define our odds, 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:34.880 what does that mean, Remy? It means, you know, getting 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:39.880 over those obstacles that you're not expected to get over. Um, 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:41.720 when you look at my story, you want to you know, 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:44.600 there were so many obstacles who on Goop transitioning from 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:49.080 Africa being rich to the Bronx just making it to 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:51.480 be where I'm at today. You know, that was a 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.400 huge odds to define and there were people, know who 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.200 my mom would say, you know, there are people never 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:57.880 thought we would make it. Once we came back to 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.720 this stace. Um, you know what we did. You know, 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.800 defining the odds from the education statistics in the Bronx 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:06.720 at the time, I think it was only of uh 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:10.560 people from the Bronx went to college and graduated. Uh, no, 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:13.320 I have a master's now, you know. Um, you know, uh, 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.160 the sixties to seventy percent at the time dropped out 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.360 of high school. I graduated high school. I deified those odds. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.400 And we can go on and on being trying to 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.560 get it become a Navy seal, not able to swim, 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:28.240 not having the academic scores and skinny, but defining those odds. So, um, 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.200 that's that's what I mean by that. Let's talk about 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.240 that not being able to swim and becoming a Navy 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:36.800 seal because when reading book, now you trained, you know, 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.680 because you meet with my man every day every weekly. 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.360 He was training you how to get through the process. 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:45.080 Now I thought you were ready. But when you got 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:51.480 to the actual US budgets first, right, but b uds right, yes, 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.200 or basically the water demotion seal training. Okay, cool and 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:56.000 uh and so you go to buds, it did it 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:59.480 all kind of like fell apart? What what happened? You know? 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:02.400 When I ain't that trained without fins because I didn't 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:04.080 know that when you went to fluds you had to 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:05.920 swim wh strips. I thought that, you know, I thought 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:07.880 you just had to pass the five hundred yard screening 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:10.280 tests to get into buzzs five of the York swimming 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:12.000 spin tests to get into buzz and then after that 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:14.720 you just ran around and they push up and pull 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:16.880 up and got yelled at and all that kind of stuff. 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:18.960 I didn't know that you had to swim in the 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:22.280 ocean with fins for two miles, then three miles, then 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:24.840 five miles. How didn't know that? So when they put 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:26.600 those fins on me and threw me in the water, 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:34.240 I was like confused, confused, and uh, it was a struggle. 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:36.320 It was a huge struggle for me that you know. 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:38.280 There were times when the ocean swim they gave us 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:40.960 eighty five minute time limits and I was out there 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.880 for two hours and the freezing cold water, and they 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:45.760 would keep me in the water because they figured, old, 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.320 let's just wait for him to either he'll quit or 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.280 he'll fill this one and come back next week and 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:52.040 getting that cold water and quit again. But I just 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:54.200 kept showing her. It was It was horrible. It was horrible. 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:57.400 When he said cold water. His body tempered to drop 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:00.080 to eighty degrees yep, and so they had to rush 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:04.320 the hospital and woman back up real quick. Now at 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:06.880 that point in the book, were you ready to get out? 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:10.080 Were you ready to like, hey, this is not for me. Nope? 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:15.600 Never never? Why not? Um? For two reasons run. You know, 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:18.679 my mom always preached this concept of excellence to my 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.600 brother and I when we're your little kids in the Bronx. 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.119 She would always tell me and my brother, you have 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.840 to be excellent. Whatever you do, don't half way it. 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:26.600 You know, she can do a word. But I wanted 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:30.160 to don't half way, you know, to give a draw, 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:33.000 and I wanted to give it my all. I wanted 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.040 to be part of the best, you know. I didn't 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:36.800 want to sail at that And which brings me to 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:39.359 my second answer. I have failed so much at life 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.200 up to that point. I didn't want to sail with 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:46.840 something else. Now, so they were that concept of quitting never, 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.520 And that's that's amazing because of the fact that fear 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:53.680 had to play a part. Overcoming fear had to play 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:56.919 a party and decision making because there's a history of 0:17:57.119 --> 0:18:03.640 you know, people not survived physically survived this these training sessions. Correct, Yeah, yeah, 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:06.240 I got that in my class. I mean it happens 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.800 right hap to other classes, right and right. And then 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:12.399 your second run through the lead or the lead he 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:15.080 quit and you had to take charge because of your 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:18.359 right yep, yep, and that that that happened. That happened 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:20.320 a lot too lovely to happen multiple times. And now 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:22.840 I found myself in the leadership position. How to having 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:26.560 deleted motivated other other guys, and they also motivated myself 0:18:26.560 --> 0:18:28.720 to keep pushing. Now that's that's that's what I thought 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:30.199 was really that that to me in the book was 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:33.639 a key moment for me. Here was a person, you know, 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:37.720 knowing your background, you've been dis disenfranchised from Nigeria because 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:40.600 of your because of your royalty. You know, you're in 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.679 the streets just hustling. You know, you can say drug deal, 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:46.040 Lets just hustle. You know, you know, you don't have 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:48.680 mentor mentors out there to guide you in the right direction. 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:51.960 You're gonna do what everybody else is associated with your 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:54.840 posset or your road, your crew or whatever tells you 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:57.959 to do. Okay, that's what's hop do that My my 0:18:58.000 --> 0:19:02.320 seller Southern Drugs I played basketball because crew just play basketball. Okay. Yeah, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:05.119 So so then then you you're coming along and you 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:08.440 and you and you pursue an opportunity where you cannot swim. 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:11.440 He says this in the book. I can not swim, 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:16.120 but I want to be an ab seal. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:18.280 I just wanted it. You know, I just wanted it. 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:21.080 There was no offensive but and you know I wasn't 0:19:21.080 --> 0:19:22.840 gonna And then that's the question I try to teach 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:25.680 people to this day. When you have a deficiency as 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:28.560