1 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: Wind down Michael and I have heard radio podcast. I 2 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:08,639 Speaker 1: really need this email the sun right now. And it's 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: so frustrating because everything else that we can't do. I 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: can't even send an email. That's all I got. That's 5 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:16,760 Speaker 1: all I got. All I all I have is my 6 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: phone right now. What day were on quarantine? I don't 7 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: even That's a crazy thing. I don't even know what 8 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: day it is today. Yeah, the days of the week 9 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 1: definitely have been blending together. This is why I feel 10 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: like whether day I was like, is this what you 11 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: feel like when you're in jail? Because I couldn't even 12 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: tell you what day it was. I was like, is 13 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: it Tuesday or is it Saturday? Or is it Sunday? 14 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 1: Didn't even matter? Does it even matter? I don't think so. 15 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:42,160 Speaker 1: But no, seriously, this is frustrating me. Anyways, um, really 16 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: cool guests today. We have Tony dublani Um. Actually I 17 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: should say it like the Dancing with the Stars up next, 18 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: Tony dublani Um and his partner. Who did he dance with? Actually? Oh, 19 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: I think Melissa Ryecroft. I think he won with Melissa, 20 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: but I might be not right about that. I'll have 21 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: to look really was he on for you? Yes, he 22 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: was before me. He wasn't my season. Yes, Oh yeah, 23 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: I think I'm pretty sure he won with Melissa Ryecroft, 24 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: but I can't remember if if I'm making that up 25 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: or net Um, if they did a Dancing with the 26 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: Stars all stars, would you do it? One like zillion million, 27 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: trillion percent? Yes? Do you think if they did a 28 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: couples Dancing with the Stars you'd want to do with me? 29 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 1: Why I did win with Melissa Rycroft was right because 30 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: I totally remember watching that, Thank you Easton Um. Why 31 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: because we already want to kill each other enough, so 32 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: I don't think we need to add dancing to it. 33 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:44,399 Speaker 1: I don't think we would make it out of there. 34 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: But also because like as much as I thought was 35 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: like Glob, I couldn't imagine fighting with you about the 36 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: dance moves and not doing it right. It would just 37 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: be disaster like disaster. Like I was able to leave 38 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: Glob at the end the day, I couldn't leave you. 39 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: I'd have to go home to you. So Nope. But Sean, 40 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: it's funny Sean Johnson and I were talking about that 41 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: because she did Dancing with Stars and then she also 42 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 1: did in All Stars and yes she won. She didn't 43 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: win All Stars, but she won I think her season. 44 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: And she was saying how she would do a couple's 45 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: one with Andrew. She's like, although I think it would 46 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: be rough if that happened, you and Sean can just 47 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: like get an apartment together for the time and me 48 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: and Andrew just lived together for the time and our 49 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: kids would be aware. I don't know that, yeah, because 50 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: I mean that was what was so stressful. I'll say 51 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: the one stressful thing obviously with you were gone, but um, 52 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: you know, Jolie was six months old, So I would 53 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: dance ten hours of the day and then I'd go 54 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: home and be a mom. It was exhausted by the 55 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: end of the day. So it was so that's where 56 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: I would say, no, I wouldn't do it because now 57 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: we have two kids. But but knowing like you would 58 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: be with them, then I would do it like one. 59 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: And I would like to go back and have you 60 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: in the audience. I would love to support you through that. 61 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: That would have been great. But yep, I'm not going 62 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: to bring it up. Yeah, that was a tough time, 63 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 1: but anyways, um, but yeah, so we have Tony Davelani 64 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,119 Speaker 1: coming on and then to talk about what he's doing 65 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: with face mask, and then I don't want to talk 66 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: about it anymore because I'm getting sick of talking about it. 67 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: I even yelled at my walking girl group today because 68 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: they were just talking about it in hospitals. I was like, 69 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: I get it. I can't talk about it anymore. It's 70 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: stressing me out. I'm have anxiety deck. Yes, we're aware 71 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 1: and we're doing what we have to do to stay home, 72 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: but I don't want to talk. I can't talk about 73 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: it today. So we need to have something else on. 74 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 1: And you brought up two really cool guests that are 75 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: going to be on today. We're going to talk really 76 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: not about the coronavirus, not at all. We're gonna talk 77 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: about We're gonna talk to Bradley Boseman and his wife, Nikki. 78 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: Bradley is going into a second year in the NFL. 79 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: He's offensive guard for the Baltimore Ravens, and there's a 80 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: story I read on him recently on espn UM that 81 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: I'll touch on. But two amazing guests. They have an 82 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: incredible message UM and what they're doing with their platform 83 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:24,159 Speaker 1: is is amazing and truly humbling, So we'll take a 84 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 1: break and then we'll dive in with them. I'm so excited, Tony. Hey, Tony, 85 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 1: it's Mike and Janet. How are you doing. How you 86 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: guys doing alright? Thank you so much for coming on 87 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 1: the show. We really appreciate it. My pleasure, My pleasure. 88 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: It's not like I'm doing a lot. Yeah, we're just 89 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: trying to fill all that time that we're used to 90 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: being busy with. But Tony, you are doing a lot 91 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: though right now with your Can you tell us about 92 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: the million Mass Movement please and go fund me? Yeah, 93 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: the we we started a billion Mass movement because as 94 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 1: furtis the advanced studios advance as, we have a responsibility 95 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: to always try to make a difference and use our 96 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: platform to try to bring awareness to things that might 97 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 1: be needed in our society. And in this articular moment, masks. 98 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 1: Can you believe this, Masks, an actual mask is needed 99 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: more than ever before. Our medical workers are in desperate 100 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: need of of masks to just protect themselves, let alone 101 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 1: hand out to people to for them to be protected. 102 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 1: I mean, we've all been quarantined, but our hospitals are 103 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:40,600 Speaker 1: overflowing with people that are sick and and they don't 104 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,720 Speaker 1: have protective masks. So we decided to do something about it. 105 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 1: And uh Ebom industry has amazing dressmakers and amazing students 106 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: that got together and decided that this could be something 107 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: that we can make a difference with. And we started 108 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: a goal funding page, which if you go to my 109 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: Instagram and go to my bio to go funding page 110 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:05,799 Speaker 1: tag is there. We were able to already raise closets 111 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,799 Speaker 1: and all of that money is going into making masks, 112 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: and we already had quite a few shipments to different 113 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: hospitals across the country and the response has been overwhelming. 114 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: You know, it's so satisfying to know that it's going 115 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:21,359 Speaker 1: to a good place and people are extremely grateful and 116 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: and just do they feel like we really are making 117 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: a difference. So it's been so satisfying in every which way. So, 118 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: you know, while I'm and while a lot of my 119 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 1: my friends the Fatestate Dance Studios organization have been home, 120 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: we haven't been sitting in our tours for lack of 121 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 1: a better example, We've been actually making a difference and 122 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,480 Speaker 1: we feel really good about it. What did you did 123 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 1: you pair with any of the other dancing with the 124 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:50,360 Speaker 1: stars Um Dancers. No, actually this was directly just with 125 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: the Fates Stador Dance Studios and myself. Uh we I've 126 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:57,479 Speaker 1: basically I've been promoting it on Instagram. Some of them 127 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: have retreeted, like for example, Leah Revenue at the retweeted 128 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 1: my or the re instagrams. I think we post whatever 129 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: it's called one of my things. But it's been it's 130 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:11,239 Speaker 1: been really great so far. The response to me, it's 131 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: it's every every single celebrity wants to feel like they're 132 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: doing that. They want to do something to make a difference. 133 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: I just happened to be very lucky to be a 134 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: part of the Fetist organization where they actually have a 135 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 1: company that is across the country, you know, very active, 136 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: proactive when it comes to the community and making a difference. 137 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: And you know between two on the schools across the 138 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 1: country that we have, it's you know, the students that 139 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: really stepped up and made a difference. That's so awesome. 140 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: You should and at the end of the day, you should, 141 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: you know, be so proud of yourself and just like 142 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: the community and how much they've just really rallied. I mean, 143 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 1: that's that's incredible. When when you are able to give 144 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: back in that in that way. Honestly, as Americans, we 145 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: owe it to each other in a sense. But I mean, 146 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: we live in this incredible country and when things like 147 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: this happened is where our character is made up. You know, 148 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: we we we need to step up and make it, 149 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: you know, do whatever it takes to beat this. You know, 150 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: this is what we're supposed to van together with. Obviously 151 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: with proximity because now that you're not supposed to be 152 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: close to anybody. But we can do it through the 153 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: cyber world. In other words, you know, social media is 154 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: a big tool for all of us, and why not. 155 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: You know, you try to raise money for things that 156 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: are actually absolutely needed, like, for example, ventilators. You know, 157 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: all these big companies are starting to make them to 158 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: ventilator that's awesome. And we as people, can we make 159 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: masks affore? Of course, we we just needed to find 160 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: out how. And you know when these dressmakers were like, listen, 161 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 1: we're not making dresses, let's make mass right now, it 162 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god. And then they are actually 163 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: medically uh, you know, accurate as well, so it's not 164 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:51,440 Speaker 1: just making masks, it's actually medically accurate. So all the 165 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: nurses and the doctors are getting proper masks delivered to 166 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: them so that way they can protect themselves and others 167 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 1: as well. Absolutely, and that's it's amazing toning, I think, 168 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of to your point is you know, 169 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: people might feel lost right now, is like how do 170 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: I help? How do I help? Or can I even help? 171 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: And maybe people default too, well it's beyond my control. 172 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 1: I can't do anything, when really that's not true, where 173 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: it's one dollar affects something, you know, uh, or helping 174 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: out in any kind of way helps, you know, within 175 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:24,439 Speaker 1: the limitations and boundaries and stuff. So I mean, it's 176 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: fantastic that you're doing what you're doing. And if people 177 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: listening to this and people following you and following my 178 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: wife on social media, it's like with all everyone's followers, 179 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 1: it's like if one everyone puts in one dollar to 180 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: the go fund me, you know, can you imagine like 181 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,679 Speaker 1: what that could do. So it's just I wish people 182 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: had more of that mindset to be able to be like, Okay, 183 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: all I can do is five dollars. Great, that's five 184 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: dollars more than you know a lot of other people collect. Well, 185 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: that that's the thing is like, no donation is too small, 186 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 1: no donations to things. And the other thing on top 187 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: of this is what we try to do is like 188 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: when you said we have to make a difference. You know, 189 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: I know a lot of people at home. They don't 190 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:03,719 Speaker 1: have they don't have Jim's at home. They want to 191 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,199 Speaker 1: stay active, they want to do that us, as a 192 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: Fedstate organization, we decided to do online lessons, which are 193 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 1: free lessons. So online lesson dot com. If you go there, 194 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: you have free lessons. You could learn how to dance. 195 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,559 Speaker 1: You could stay active, because I mean, everybody makes this 196 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: goal about working out. Truth is working out is boring, Okay, 197 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: And besides, you get so sorry you can't even move 198 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: the next day. Now, Tony, Tony, Tony. By learning how 199 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: to dance, it's with your spouse, Red, it's with the 200 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: broom brothers, with your kids. You can learn how to dance. 201 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: Why not, Tony. I did Dancing with the Stars, and 202 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 1: let me tell you, I've never been more sore in 203 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 1: my entire life dancing. I tore my inner costal muscles. 204 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: I had bruises all for my body. I don't think 205 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: I ever saw that. Gina sweat until I saw her 206 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 1: dance exactly. So don't you say that dancing does not 207 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:58,839 Speaker 1: make you sore. I will totally smack you through this microphone. Yeah, 208 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: I mean, but does the thing? It's like, dancing works 209 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: on the firing muscles, the muscles we forget about as well. 210 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 1: So but that you know, it's funny because a lot 211 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: of times people think that they have to be good 212 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: dancers in order to take lessons. That's the whole point 213 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: of it is, you don't have to be a good dancer. 214 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: You can learn on the on the platform and you know, 215 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: just move a little bit and dance to the music 216 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: that you like to listen to and so on. It 217 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: keeps you active, that's the thing. It's like. It's because 218 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: I mean, one of my friends yesterday, because I did 219 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:29,120 Speaker 1: a class. Immediately afterwards, they called me. They're like, I 220 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: gotta tell you, I've been all I've been doing lately 221 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: is listening to news and I I didn't realize I 222 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: was thinking into this depression, and now that I took 223 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: your class, I feel like, oh my god, I'm like 224 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: back to being myself. So sometimes dancing does give you 225 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: that escape that we all need, especially in this this 226 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: this during these times that everything that you've turned onto 227 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: is negative. That I love that message right there, because 228 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 1: it's so easy to get sucked into all of this 229 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: stuff because every network, every channel, everything on social media, 230 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: there's so much just negativity around this news. And to 231 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: do something like that to get yourself back into being 232 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:08,199 Speaker 1: you is is an unbelievable message. Along with what you're 233 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:12,319 Speaker 1: doing with a Million Masks movement, go to the go 234 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: fund me and give back and put a little salsa 235 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: in your step, right Tony, Oh gosh, I'm getting trauma 236 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 1: just thinking of dancing with the stars. So Tony, you're 237 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: the best. Thank you so much, and thank you guys 238 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: so much for having me than we appreciate it. Alright, 239 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: So we have these two guests on that I read 240 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 1: a story about that. Don't say yeah, get them on 241 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 1: the phone first, because I want them to hear this. Okay, So, 242 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: as my wife just corrected me, no, no, no, no, 243 00:12:58,160 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: because I think it's like it's cool for them to 244 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:03,480 Speaker 1: know to how I randomly instagram them. Okay, let's start over. No, No, 245 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 1: that's that's good. Okay, that's good stuff, she says. This 246 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: is all gold right now, you guys all right, let's 247 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:16,480 Speaker 1: welcome Nikki and Bradley Bozeman to our show. Nikki Bradley, Hey, 248 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: how are you guys? Hey guys, how are you doing good? 249 00:13:20,840 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: Thanks for coming on our show with us. We appreciate it. Yeah, 250 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: for sure, thanks for having us. So um, Mike was 251 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:30,719 Speaker 1: just about to tell the listeners how um about how 252 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: this came about, because this was three days ago. I 253 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: think you came in to the room and said, yeah, 254 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: I was telling Jana, you know, I was checking on 255 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 1: the ESPN app and you know, they've just done a 256 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: story about you guys about you know, living in an 257 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:49,440 Speaker 1: RV and and then traveling not just that, but the 258 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: fact that you guys were traveling across the country and 259 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 1: then going to different schools, you know, talking about anti 260 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 1: bowling and doing like an anti bullying campaign. And I 261 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 1: came to Jane, I was like, this story's amazing, not 262 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: just you know RV thing is novel is novel too, 263 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: and people get you know, really attached to that. But 264 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: I'm like the fact that you guys are taking time 265 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: and you're busy offseason to go do this and talk 266 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:13,679 Speaker 1: to young kids about this anti bowling, which is such 267 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:16,679 Speaker 1: a sensitive subject. These days. You know, it really stood 268 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: out to me and I you know, just commend you 269 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: guys for for doing that, committing to that. Thank yeah, 270 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: thank you. It's been it's been such a good journey. 271 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:27,120 Speaker 1: And I mean, unfortunately guys gotta get cut a little short. 272 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 1: But just you know the time that we did have 273 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: was such amazing. Just the feedback we got was I 274 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 1: mean unbelievable. I'm sure and what and sorrur listeners know 275 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: to you know, Bradley, you're in your second year with 276 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:43,120 Speaker 1: the Ravens. Correct, Yes, just finished my second and then 277 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 1: going into my third. Okay, so Bradley's offensive lineman with 278 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: the Baltimore Ravens going into his third year Alabama alumni 279 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: and his wife Nikki. How long you'all been married? Uh, 280 00:14:54,600 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 1: it'll be one year on Monday, guys. That same Yeah, 281 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:05,320 Speaker 1: we've been together with over six years. Six years both 282 00:15:05,360 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 1: married one year. Good for you guys. Did you can 283 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: both go to Alabama? We did? Yep? Okay, I love 284 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 1: at college, sweethearts. So back to your whole like traveling 285 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: your your anti bowling campaign. What inspired you guys to 286 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: kind of start that adventure? Yeah, so we kind of 287 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: both realized we had a commonality growing up obviously by UM, 288 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: because we were both very tall. I played center in 289 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: college in basketball and he was the center on the 290 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: football team, and that's kind of how we met. And 291 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: then UM, but we realized that we both kind of 292 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 1: obviously looked different because we're bigger, taller, UM and all that. 293 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: So when we were growing up, you know, we were 294 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: picked on for that. So UM just kind of sharing 295 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: our stories with each other. And then there was a 296 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: girl that reached out when we were in college. She 297 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:59,200 Speaker 1: was getting heavily picked on UM because of her race, 298 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: and so they asked us if we would like send 299 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: her a message, just you know, to say hey, UM, 300 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 1: and just you know, give some positivity to her. And 301 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: we're like, oh, why don't we come to the school 302 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 1: and why don't we talk with her? And they were like, actually, 303 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:16,320 Speaker 1: why you're here when you talk to the whole school? 304 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:20,520 Speaker 1: And we were like, UM, sure, Like I have no 305 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: idea what we're gonna say. Um, I don't know what 306 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:25,560 Speaker 1: you want us to talk about there, Like we don't 307 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 1: really know, just you know, go for it. So we 308 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 1: end up going up there with no speech, nothing prepared, 309 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 1: nervouses all get out, and UM but it ended up 310 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 1: you know, UM, we're just super blessed God put words 311 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: in our mouth and it worked out great. And then 312 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: what we got in the car afterwards and we're like, 313 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: all right, this is what we were meant to do. 314 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 1: So it kind of started there and it's kind of 315 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: climbed ever since. Have you had kids reach out to 316 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: you and and that way, you guys can also feel 317 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 1: the impact and too, you know, because I know when 318 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: we go out on the road and people are like, 319 00:16:58,240 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, you'd helped me so much. It helped 320 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 1: us fuel to keep going out to do you know 321 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 1: what we do on the podcast. So have you guys 322 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:10,200 Speaker 1: also is that helped you to continue this tour? Uh? Yeah. 323 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:13,600 Speaker 1: So we've had this is our third year UM having 324 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 1: this foundation, and just on this tour alone, we had 325 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 1: hundreds of kids reach out to us. UM. We had 326 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: custom trading cards built UM that have obviously broadly on 327 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:27,000 Speaker 1: the front of them, but it has everything about our 328 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,640 Speaker 1: foundation on the back, and it has UM a website 329 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: where there's a dedicated email where kids can you know, 330 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: email us with questions or anything like that, and those 331 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: emails go directly to Bradley and I and we answer. 332 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: We've probably answered a few hundred just in the four 333 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 1: weeks of the tour, but we've probably answered, um, it's 334 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 1: hundreds in the matter of three years. So it's been 335 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 1: amazing just hearing um kids just feel comfortable and sharing 336 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 1: their stories and stuff like that. So that's, uh, that's 337 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:58,920 Speaker 1: kind of made it all worthwhile. Is there something as 338 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:01,560 Speaker 1: parents that we can do? For example, like our daughter, 339 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:05,640 Speaker 1: she's already off the charts on her height, and I've 340 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 1: you know, as a parent, I also know that the 341 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: like you said, the taller kids, taller girls especially have 342 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 1: you know, would get picked on a lot um, and 343 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 1: so I've been always worried about that. Um And Mike, 344 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: can you can attest that too, Like, I've just been 345 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:21,640 Speaker 1: kind of worried, you know, for Jolie because I want 346 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 1: her to embrace her height and but you know, I 347 00:18:24,840 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 1: get scared of the kids that do bullis. So is 348 00:18:26,640 --> 00:18:28,679 Speaker 1: there anything that we can do to be proactive to 349 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:34,399 Speaker 1: help her if she continues on the chart growth? Um? Yeah, 350 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 1: you know it's hard. I mean because it's hard because 351 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: I know boys are like self conscious about everything anyway, 352 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 1: but then when a girl's taller than them, it's just 353 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 1: like you know there, you know, I don't know, it 354 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 1: was just for me. It was just all the guys 355 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: that were super short and I was. I tell kids, 356 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 1: I was probably UM five nine and like the sixth 357 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:56,280 Speaker 1: seventh grade, so I was really tall. UM really really early. 358 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:59,159 Speaker 1: So I would say um as a parent wise, and 359 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:01,199 Speaker 1: it kind of goes for what we talked about in 360 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: our speeches to UM. We talked about like finding your 361 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:07,159 Speaker 1: outlet or your passion or what you love to do. 362 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 1: And we explain to the kids like if we woke 363 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: you up at every morning at three am, what would 364 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: you be so excited to do, Like doesn't matter every day, 365 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:19,120 Speaker 1: every other day, whatever, And that's kind of your passion 366 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 1: your outlet. And mine turned into basketball. I didn't really 367 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: know that at the time, but I just looking back 368 00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: that every time I was happy or sad or going 369 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:31,000 Speaker 1: through something, I always found myself in the gym um. 370 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: And then Bradley was was football. So we said, you know, 371 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 1: it can be a musical instrument, it could be podcast, 372 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 1: it could be UM YouTube videos on heritatorial, it could 373 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 1: literally be anything. But it's just something that they love 374 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 1: to do and starting that early. So like right now, 375 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 1: you know, we tell the kids, like, take time for 376 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: yourself now, because you don't want to get to the 377 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:55,959 Speaker 1: point where, um we call it the mound of craps, 378 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: but everything that's going on and the stressors of life 379 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:01,160 Speaker 1: and everything that's going on around you, when you get 380 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:03,359 Speaker 1: to the top of that mountain, you know, that's where 381 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:06,600 Speaker 1: the we go to talk to these kids because UM 382 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: suicide is one of the leading killers and teams over 383 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:13,119 Speaker 1: the past ten years, and it's like that's something that 384 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 1: we're hoping can be preventable by things that we're going 385 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:19,399 Speaker 1: and talking about and preaching. So our message is to 386 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 1: kind of start early, and you don't want to get 387 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:23,359 Speaker 1: to a place where you feel so bad that and 388 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, I need something to do. You know, 389 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:27,679 Speaker 1: you want to start it early and figure out what 390 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 1: you love to do. UM. I love baking when I 391 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:33,359 Speaker 1: was younger, So I know, like just being able to 392 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 1: do something every day that's constructive, UM, and just get 393 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: that in a rhythm and in a habit, because then 394 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:43,199 Speaker 1: you'll find yourself Like if something is going wrong or 395 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 1: as a child, like as I was getting picked on, 396 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,359 Speaker 1: I would always inherently go back to the gym. So 397 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 1: that kind of started early with playing sports, but that's 398 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 1: where I always found myself. So I would say, maybe 399 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: like practice something and see what they love to do, 400 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,719 Speaker 1: like and it can be anything. It just kind of 401 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: get that like mental um training, I guess in early, 402 00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:06,959 Speaker 1: so that like when they are sad, that is what 403 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 1: they fall back on and it's constructive. Yeah, it's unbelievable. 404 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 1: And have you guys, you know Bradley, have you guys 405 00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 1: both started to reach out to maybe teammates or former 406 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 1: teammates too, you know, help be advocates for for some 407 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,639 Speaker 1: of this because I know, you know, just being in 408 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 1: that kind of situation when you're a professional athlete or 409 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:33,280 Speaker 1: collegiate athlete kids is naturally kind of hold onto what 410 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,640 Speaker 1: you say or what you've experienced a little bit more. 411 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: That's just the way society has kind of been. So 412 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 1: you have this platform, which you guys are using incredibly, 413 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 1: So have you considered like reaching out to other teammates 414 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: that maybe I've gone through this when they were younger, 415 00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 1: to for them to come out and share their story. Yeah, 416 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: for sure, we've done that in the past two and 417 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: the Cyrus Jones came out with us to one school 418 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: and talked and um, you know, told told his side 419 00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: of his story and it's been it's been really good. 420 00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:01,880 Speaker 1: Then we're gonna, you know, obviously in the future, we're 421 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:04,600 Speaker 1: going to continue to do that just whenever people because 422 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 1: we don't like to feel people make people feel like 423 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 1: they're inclined like they need to come out, they have 424 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,919 Speaker 1: to come out, but we want them to come up 425 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 1: because they want to and they see the good that uh, 426 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:16,280 Speaker 1: we're trying to do. And it's just you know, it's 427 00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,919 Speaker 1: been it's been such an amazing journey for us and 428 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,280 Speaker 1: just so um, you know, just I can't say anything 429 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 1: other than amazing. Uh, and just so glad we've we've 430 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 1: gone down this path and taking this journey has just 431 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: been been such a great journey so far, no question. 432 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 1: And do you guys have do you have a endgame 433 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 1: with this, a dream of this, like where you want 434 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,320 Speaker 1: to end up being. Is it something that you just 435 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:41,800 Speaker 1: can continue to tour in every offseason? It's something you 436 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 1: want to have, you know, almost like your own Boys 437 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:45,919 Speaker 1: and Girls cloud for people to come to, Like what 438 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,720 Speaker 1: is it for y'all? Yeah, So we have a few 439 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,199 Speaker 1: different things that we love going into the school. So 440 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 1: we love like the hands on side of it, um, 441 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:56,600 Speaker 1: just to get to talk to the kids and like 442 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,120 Speaker 1: put a face of the name, and we just love 443 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 1: that side of it. UM. We also, I feel like, um, 444 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,679 Speaker 1: we have a really really strong cyber bullying and anti 445 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 1: bullying law in Maryland. It's called Gracie's Laws two point 446 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,600 Speaker 1: oh and it's like one of the strongest in the country. 447 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,879 Speaker 1: Um or it is the strongest in the country, and UM, 448 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:19,959 Speaker 1: I encourage people to kind of look that up and 449 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 1: it's it's just an amazing law. Um. It was a 450 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,919 Speaker 1: terrible situation that happened, but it's an amazing law that 451 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,439 Speaker 1: came out of it. UM. So our next goal is 452 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: to hopefully take that um to states across the country, 453 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: because you know, it's kind of like we feel like, 454 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: you know, when you're preaching to someone and it's just 455 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,360 Speaker 1: kind of like a slap on the wrist. It doesn't 456 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 1: really resonnate as much as when you say, okay, look 457 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: like you could have to go before a judge like 458 00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:49,640 Speaker 1: this is serious, and we take this very seriously. UM. 459 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 1: So we feel like that's another way to leave lasting change, 460 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,880 Speaker 1: is to be able to give these kids that are 461 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:59,360 Speaker 1: going through such awful times a way out, a way 462 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: to say, you know, this is not okay and this 463 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: person needs to be held accountable. Um, and so that's 464 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 1: another goal. So we're, um, when all this craziness gets 465 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: done with the coronavirus and stuff, we're gonna try to 466 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 1: sit down with some legislation here in Maryland to see 467 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 1: if we can broaden that to other states for sure. 468 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:22,480 Speaker 1: Speaking of the cyber bullying again, like for parents, it's 469 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 1: you know, it's I feel like when it comes to 470 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 1: cell phones and being on social media, if you don't 471 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: have the social media, then you're bullied because you don't 472 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: have it. But if you do have it, then you're 473 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: torn down because you're not wearing the cute outfit or 474 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:36,560 Speaker 1: you're you weren't told you're pretty and you don't have 475 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,199 Speaker 1: enough a likes or so it's as a parents, like 476 00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: you kind of damned if you damned if your own 477 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: or is it is it just the monitoring or I 478 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 1: mean what do you what do you do? I guess Yeah, 479 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: it's hard and there's no right answer, like it's always Um, 480 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 1: we have so many kids that have like young kids 481 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: right now. Um, and so it's kind of one of 482 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 1: those things where like when or a mom. You know 483 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:02,439 Speaker 1: you're gonna have all the other moms that tell you 484 00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 1: how you should be a mom, but you know it's 485 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 1: you're the mom, you know what I mean, Like you're 486 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,680 Speaker 1: the parents. So it's hard, and I think every situation 487 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,879 Speaker 1: is so different. Um, but I do think it is, 488 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,439 Speaker 1: you know, having that open communication with your kids. I 489 00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,880 Speaker 1: mean we sat down my my family and I sat 490 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: down at least three times a week at a dinner 491 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 1: table and eat dinner together and talked about our days. 492 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,560 Speaker 1: And you know, as a parent, you can see when 493 00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 1: something's going on. You know they won't they might not say, hey, 494 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,120 Speaker 1: this this and this happened, but you can see when 495 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,240 Speaker 1: you know they're not looking at you the same way 496 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,479 Speaker 1: or something like that, and you know it's your kids 497 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 1: and you'll be able to feel that. Um. But I 498 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 1: just encouraged to take that time and you're like, you'll 499 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: know your your instincts will come out. Um. But you 500 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,439 Speaker 1: know you just have to be you just have to 501 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 1: be alert. And we tell people, you know, you're gonna 502 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:49,840 Speaker 1: talk to your kids about alcohol, You're gonna talk to 503 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,800 Speaker 1: your kids about sex, You're gonna talk to your kids 504 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,040 Speaker 1: about drugs. You're gonna have to start talking to your 505 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 1: kids about the Internet, And it's just one of those 506 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:01,320 Speaker 1: necessary evils that now we're living in, and so you 507 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 1: have to be brief enough to talk to your kids 508 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,920 Speaker 1: about it and you know everything that's going on. So 509 00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,480 Speaker 1: making that part of an open conversation instead of trying 510 00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: to kick it under the rug, UM has been one 511 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: of another one of our points is like throw it 512 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,239 Speaker 1: out there, put it in the open. Everything you know 513 00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,000 Speaker 1: you talked about, you know, girls wise, what you should 514 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: and shouldn't be doing, and how people should shouldn't be 515 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: treating you. That same thing goes for online. So just 516 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,840 Speaker 1: stuff like that, UM is kind of the best advice 517 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,120 Speaker 1: we have. Obviously we don't have kids yet, but our 518 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:35,440 Speaker 1: friends that have gone through it, and hundreds and hundreds 519 00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,160 Speaker 1: of these kids we've mentored. It's funny because all their 520 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:42,360 Speaker 1: stories might not be exactly the same, but all the um, 521 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,320 Speaker 1: all the topics are similar. You know, we get like 522 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:49,119 Speaker 1: that self harm and that cyber bullying and all these 523 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 1: topics that are similar, but that it's just every instance 524 00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,880 Speaker 1: is just a little bit different, for sure. And I'm 525 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 1: sure there's the feelings that they're feeling are pretty universal. 526 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 1: Across the board as well, with shame and the guilt 527 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: and the sadness and the hurt whatever it is. And 528 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 1: how how did you guys, you know, being recipients of 529 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 1: bullying when you were younger, you know, did you both 530 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,320 Speaker 1: were you? Did you guys feel comfortable leaning leaning on 531 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,199 Speaker 1: your parents or was there somebody in your life that 532 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:22,320 Speaker 1: you kind of talked to about this? So that's, um, 533 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,080 Speaker 1: we're opposite. So Bradley kind of really leaned on his 534 00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 1: family and was really able to open up to them 535 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:32,119 Speaker 1: and they were able to mentor him. And I could 536 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,480 Speaker 1: heavily know my family. I just didn't. And I was 537 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:38,239 Speaker 1: that like kind of that headstrong, just you know, I 538 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,560 Speaker 1: got it, I can figure it out myself type of person, 539 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,560 Speaker 1: and I just didn't. Obviously, when we started doing all this, 540 00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,439 Speaker 1: my mom was not too happy with the person. She's like, 541 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: why didn't you tell me this is going on? And 542 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, I just didn't. I didn't want to, Like, 543 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,480 Speaker 1: that wasn't my thing. I wish I would have maybe 544 00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:56,640 Speaker 1: back then, because it probably would have sat pretty quickly 545 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,639 Speaker 1: because my mom would have marched over there, you know. 546 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:02,480 Speaker 1: But but I just wasn't that type of person. So 547 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: I think we differ in that way where I really 548 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:09,240 Speaker 1: leaned on you know, my what I didn't on the 549 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,199 Speaker 1: basketball court as like what I love to do and 550 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,360 Speaker 1: how I practice and how hard I practice and how 551 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,879 Speaker 1: often I practice, And that was just kind of my 552 00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 1: thing that was valid. That's what made me feel better 553 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: and I it kind of got me through it, you know. UM. 554 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: But it just depends Bradley's messages more. You know, he 555 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,520 Speaker 1: leaned on his family and that was uh a that 556 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 1: was able to help him. So it just kind of 557 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,199 Speaker 1: depends on the person. I do wish looking back, you 558 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 1: know that I would have um opened up with maybe 559 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,800 Speaker 1: some people around me. But it's hard. I mean, it's 560 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 1: hard when you're a kid and you feel like, you know, 561 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 1: you're the only one going through this. And that's something 562 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 1: else that we get, you know, just kids in general, 563 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 1: Like I didn't even know, you know, at the end 564 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,520 Speaker 1: of our speech, we leave about thirty minutes and kids 565 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 1: open up and talk about, you know, their concerns or 566 00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 1: things that have happened with their friends or stuff like that, 567 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 1: and that's in the most life changing It'll be the 568 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,320 Speaker 1: most life changing thirty minutes, UM you'll ever have, because 569 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,239 Speaker 1: you have complete strangers. You know, we've had kids. You know, 570 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: I tell us they've tried to commit suicide multiple times, 571 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 1: and there's you know, everything on the whole gamut of it, 572 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: um in that thirty minutes. So it's just kind of 573 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 1: there's so many, um just there's so much going on, 574 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 1: you know, And but for those kids to feel like 575 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,400 Speaker 1: they can share with us, that's really why we're trying 576 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 1: to be their advocates, um and someone they can reach 577 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 1: out to. So whether that's in that thirty minutes or 578 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: it's online through emails, UM, We've just try and tried 579 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 1: to be that person when it's hard to open up 580 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:44,360 Speaker 1: to an adult. Yeah, and you know that's that's so amazing. 581 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,200 Speaker 1: And we can relate just in the sense of when 582 00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: we do our live shows and when we have this 583 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: random couple in the room of hundreds of strangers and 584 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,680 Speaker 1: they're willing to be emotional and vulnerable about their relationship. 585 00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 1: When Jane and I do that, we're like, this is 586 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:01,600 Speaker 1: the exact reason why we do that. So I can't 587 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 1: even imagine that coming from children from a kid, it's 588 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,640 Speaker 1: from a kid, Like, how much more impactful that is? 589 00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 1: So you literally like so much respect and hats off 590 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 1: to you guys for doing what you're doing and using 591 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 1: you all this platform the way that you are in 592 00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: your stories, because you guys are changing kids lives, which 593 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 1: is incredible. Where's the website? What's the website that? Um, 594 00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,120 Speaker 1: you know that the moms and the kids that are 595 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,240 Speaker 1: listening to hold that kids listen to this, but the 596 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,760 Speaker 1: moms that have kids that they can maybe like email 597 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,520 Speaker 1: in Um it's it's the name of its Brad b 598 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,360 Speaker 1: R A D Nikki and I k K I Bozeman 599 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:41,800 Speaker 1: b o z E m A N dot com and 600 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,000 Speaker 1: then tour dates and all that, so you've got when 601 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,920 Speaker 1: obviously when the COVID nineteen stuff is over, um, you'll 602 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 1: go back out in the road before season or we 603 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,680 Speaker 1: have to do it after season. Now, um, we'll probably 604 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,600 Speaker 1: have to do it after season just because I know, Um, 605 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,239 Speaker 1: they just got emails today or this week that all 606 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 1: their training camps and stuff are getting pushed back. So um, 607 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 1: we they're gonna be like, yeah, which is craziness, which 608 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 1: who I don't even know said or not, but it's okay, um, 609 00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 1: but they're all getting pushed back, you know, for help 610 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 1: for the COVID nineteen stuff, So I know once they start, 611 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:19,720 Speaker 1: it's going to be heavy hit until almost the season starts. 612 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 1: I don't know what that summer is gonna look like. 613 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,080 Speaker 1: I really don't think anyone knows. That's what the future 614 00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 1: looks like at this point. But um so yeah, so 615 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 1: longest or long um we are going to probably go 616 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,680 Speaker 1: out next year. Um, and we have friends that are 617 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:35,520 Speaker 1: in those states. We're gonna try to go back and 618 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:37,240 Speaker 1: you know, spend more time with them and go to 619 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,800 Speaker 1: the schools and really try to get back on that 620 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 1: end route where we had to miss well, I mean 621 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 1: on behalf of us and you know everyone else, parents 622 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:47,520 Speaker 1: and kids like, thank you for what you do because 623 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,719 Speaker 1: that's it's just that's just amazing that you guys are 624 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 1: are doing what you guys do. And hopefully I see 625 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 1: books in the future, I see all of it. So um, 626 00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:58,720 Speaker 1: yeah's entrepreneurial mind is going crazy right now what you guys. 627 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 1: Of course, you guys are doing. And if you guys 628 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,760 Speaker 1: come through National at all, please let us know because 629 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,400 Speaker 1: we'd love to help out in any way that we 630 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 1: can and help promote this and continue to you know, 631 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 1: make it grow because this is amazing. Yeah, that would 632 00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:14,840 Speaker 1: be awesome. Thank you guys so much for having us 633 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,040 Speaker 1: on here and you know, taking the time to kind 634 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,640 Speaker 1: of share our message with um y'alls followers in really 635 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,200 Speaker 1: the world. Absolutely, you guys are awesome. Thanks again so much, 636 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,280 Speaker 1: you guys. Yeah, thanks NICKI and Brad appreciate it, guys, 637 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 1: thanks for having I love them so much. Like I 638 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: want to help. I want to I'm like, I want 639 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 1: to go to the schools with them and help and 640 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,760 Speaker 1: help these kids like kids. It's and that's the thing, 641 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 1: just like I said, the comparison of you know what, 642 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 1: we are able to experience a witness through the people 643 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:54,080 Speaker 1: that we help, but kids, well this thing too, because 644 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,440 Speaker 1: it's like you remember when you're third. I remember when 645 00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 1: my high school boyfriend broke up with me, and you know, 646 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,720 Speaker 1: it was also my birthday, and so I was upstairs 647 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,400 Speaker 1: in my room bawling my eyes at I mean bawling 648 00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,280 Speaker 1: my eyes. My world is over. Matthew broke up with me. 649 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,880 Speaker 1: It's awful. But I go downstairs. My entire family is 650 00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:13,800 Speaker 1: down there, and I go down there. I put on 651 00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:17,920 Speaker 1: a smile like I did not tell one person that 652 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: I was upset. And that's what excues me about being 653 00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,480 Speaker 1: kids because they don't feel like they can share it, 654 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 1: and I think back, I'm like, well, why didn't I 655 00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:27,480 Speaker 1: want to share? I think I was embarrassed and that 656 00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 1: scares me because I'm like, I want Jolie to come 657 00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:32,040 Speaker 1: down from that call that she gets when her boyfriend 658 00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 1: breaks up with her and be like, mom, like my 659 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 1: heart's broken, you know, or this person was you know, 660 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,280 Speaker 1: really nasty to me on social media or this like 661 00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,040 Speaker 1: like or I feel depressed or I feel sad or 662 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,040 Speaker 1: this this hurts, you know, but I fear that they're 663 00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 1: not going to And I had a great relationship with 664 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,360 Speaker 1: my parents, so it's like, why didn't I say something? 665 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:52,960 Speaker 1: And that's when Nikki was talking about like how she 666 00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 1: was dealing with all of this. I related a lot 667 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,479 Speaker 1: to that because my parents, like especially my mom, was 668 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,960 Speaker 1: always inviting me to share things and wanting me to 669 00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,160 Speaker 1: share things. But again, sometimes you just don't. But like 670 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,719 Speaker 1: why though, That's what I don't get, Like both of 671 00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 1: our parent moms were so great with that, right, And 672 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,520 Speaker 1: I think that's where it doesn't have anything to do 673 00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:18,880 Speaker 1: with our parents necessarily. I think there's definitely things parents 674 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,719 Speaker 1: can do to harm that relationship where you don't want 675 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:26,759 Speaker 1: to come to them. But I really don't think there 676 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,120 Speaker 1: is much of that, especially with my mom, of what 677 00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,040 Speaker 1: harm me to want to come to her. I just 678 00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,280 Speaker 1: think it is the embarrassment. I think it is still 679 00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,399 Speaker 1: you know, that that people pleasing mentality you have as 680 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,560 Speaker 1: a kid. You want because you know how your parents 681 00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,480 Speaker 1: are when you do something wrong, and you know how 682 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,279 Speaker 1: they are when you do something right. So when you 683 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,799 Speaker 1: have that embarrassment, you have to bring something to them. 684 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,160 Speaker 1: It's hard because you don't want to see any disappointment 685 00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 1: maybe on your parents face, or any concern, and so 686 00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,520 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think it's something that individuals, 687 00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,920 Speaker 1: you know, process in different ways and just depends on 688 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: who you are and then how you are. Yeah, and 689 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,320 Speaker 1: probably just or like not even knowing how to express 690 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,080 Speaker 1: the emotions that you know, I'm not really sure my 691 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:13,000 Speaker 1: thirteen fourteen year old self, you know, even before you know, 692 00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 1: pre high school boyfriend stuff, i'd even know how to 693 00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,600 Speaker 1: express like when I started my period, or you know, 694 00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:22,280 Speaker 1: when when Bobby made fun of my boobs being small, 695 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 1: you know, and I got bullied for that, like damn you, 696 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:28,200 Speaker 1: Bobby for doing that. But I mean, it's just that thing. 697 00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 1: That's like, did I go home and tell my mom 698 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,279 Speaker 1: that I got made fun of because my boobs are small? 699 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 1: Or that I steps on a condom and Evan McComb 700 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:37,360 Speaker 1: laughed at me, Like no, but I was. I was 701 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 1: so embarrassed. Why one in seventh grade stepping on a condom? 702 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:46,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god, he stepped at a dirty condom? And 703 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:55,000 Speaker 1: the worst, the worst. You just cut out those two 704 00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:57,960 Speaker 1: years of But like, I just love what Nicki and 705 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:01,160 Speaker 1: Bradley are doing because they're making middle school like they're 706 00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:05,280 Speaker 1: letting kids have emotions and feelings and that is awesome. 707 00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:06,880 Speaker 1: Like that when they just said they had like the 708 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:08,759 Speaker 1: thirty minutes afterwards where they get to share, like I 709 00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,680 Speaker 1: got goose bumps. Oh my gosh. I just want to 710 00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,440 Speaker 1: be in the room for that. And I hope they 711 00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,239 Speaker 1: come to Tennessee next offseason because I want to witness that. Yeah, 712 00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,200 Speaker 1: I would love to too. Okay, well let's take a 713 00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:31,600 Speaker 1: break and then let's do some emails. Hey Easton, Yes, 714 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:36,839 Speaker 1: do we have any emails? Yes? We do. Uh, let 715 00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 1: me let me pull them up here and get my 716 00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:44,200 Speaker 1: reading voice ready. I assume you want me to read them. Um, 717 00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,080 Speaker 1: here we go, all right? How about this one. This 718 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:50,440 Speaker 1: is from Mary Lou. Uh. This is Mary Lou speaking, 719 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,640 Speaker 1: not me. I'm turning forty two next week and I've 720 00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,160 Speaker 1: been divorced for ten years. I'm still single and I've 721 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,440 Speaker 1: only had one relationship since the lasted ten months. Am 722 00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:00,920 Speaker 1: I going to be single forever? I've tried dating apps, 723 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,640 Speaker 1: meeting people when I'm out, and even flirted with my exterminator. 724 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:05,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what my issue is. I have a 725 00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 1: great career, I went to homes, I take fun vacations. 726 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,440 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm a great catch. But each birthday 727 00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:12,319 Speaker 1: that passes and I don't have someone to share it with, 728 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,759 Speaker 1: I'm starting to lose hope. What advice can you give 729 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,880 Speaker 1: me to find that special someone? So when I was 730 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 1: going through the emails um and they run down last night, 731 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,000 Speaker 1: I read this and I automatically thought of my mom 732 00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,239 Speaker 1: and I was just like, I can't wait to answer 733 00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:31,000 Speaker 1: this email because I know at the time it seems 734 00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,959 Speaker 1: hopeless and it seems like you're never going to find 735 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,719 Speaker 1: the right person. My mom was single for she was 736 00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:43,160 Speaker 1: married for twenty years and then single for for more 737 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:45,360 Speaker 1: than that, and I remember her just like crying and 738 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,239 Speaker 1: being so upset and she dated her tree man, and 739 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,400 Speaker 1: you know, she just was so desperate to kind of 740 00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,480 Speaker 1: find that love. And I think when she really was 741 00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:57,080 Speaker 1: comfortable in her own skin and I wasn't looking for 742 00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,160 Speaker 1: it and just did her own thing, that's when she, 743 00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,680 Speaker 1: you know, was fine. She finally was like, I think 744 00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:05,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be okay whether I'm single forever. And I 745 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,080 Speaker 1: didn't really believe her, but that's what she said, but 746 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:11,680 Speaker 1: I truly think she was. And then she finally met 747 00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,520 Speaker 1: her person. So I feel like, just take you know, 748 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:18,000 Speaker 1: just keep doing you and don't try to be something 749 00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,600 Speaker 1: that you're not, and keep doing all those fun adventures, 750 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:22,480 Speaker 1: and you're going to meet someone along the way. I promise. 751 00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,600 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, Will said, I didn't you know when 752 00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:29,440 Speaker 1: Youson just read it, I didn't think think about your 753 00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:32,040 Speaker 1: mom in the moment. But that's a great point. That's 754 00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:35,520 Speaker 1: a great comparison. So Janna has definitely seen this firsthand, 755 00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:37,799 Speaker 1: and I've seen seen her data few people in the 756 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:42,480 Speaker 1: time we've been together. But from my perspective, um kind 757 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,359 Speaker 1: of to go off of what Jana saying is just 758 00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:48,040 Speaker 1: enjoy this time that you have for yourself. Enjoy those vacations, 759 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:52,880 Speaker 1: enjoy what you're doing and find solace in it that 760 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:56,560 Speaker 1: you're providing for yourself and successful and you know, a 761 00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,239 Speaker 1: strong independent woman. And then, like Janna said, you'll find 762 00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 1: the right person. Brocom, don't rush it. That's good advice. Guys. 763 00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:04,680 Speaker 1: Let's let that person come to you. I always think 764 00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 1: when when you open your heart to love, that love 765 00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,759 Speaker 1: will usually walk in. Um wait ethan, can I jump 766 00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,239 Speaker 1: in here? Because there was this guy that reached out 767 00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:16,600 Speaker 1: to me on Instagram and I I saved it because 768 00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to read it on the podcast. Please do 769 00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,719 Speaker 1: you mind if I read this one? Please do? Um? So. 770 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,000 Speaker 1: His name is Ben, he goes Hey, Janna, my name 771 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,200 Speaker 1: is Ben. I hope you and your family are doing well. 772 00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 1: Your podcast have been a godsend. Maybe you address this 773 00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:33,040 Speaker 1: question in one. But my life has been in disarray 774 00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,200 Speaker 1: ever since me and my girlfriend broke up for me 775 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,319 Speaker 1: cheating on her and not wanting to be honest with 776 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,560 Speaker 1: her about it. But what made you stay? Why did 777 00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,160 Speaker 1: you want to try and make it work? When I 778 00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:44,440 Speaker 1: finally came clean, she wasn't having any of it and 779 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,600 Speaker 1: kicked me out. I want to try and work it out, 780 00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,759 Speaker 1: but she was done. I have been getting help and 781 00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:52,080 Speaker 1: I only have, um a fool's hope that we can 782 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:53,879 Speaker 1: work it out. Thank you for all you do. Keep 783 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:55,680 Speaker 1: up the good work. And when I went to his page, 784 00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,239 Speaker 1: I mean it is like a dedication page for her. 785 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:04,399 Speaker 1: It's just like forgive me, like what I learned today. UM, 786 00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,960 Speaker 1: I mean just like I'm and I'm sorry video like 787 00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:09,440 Speaker 1: like the studio here in case you don't know, I'm 788 00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:15,360 Speaker 1: sorry for everything. UM, And you know I'll kind of 789 00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:21,960 Speaker 1: answer like why I stayed was because you know, I 790 00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,280 Speaker 1: I wanted to believe it might could be a better person, 791 00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: um and be the man that he said he was 792 00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,120 Speaker 1: going to be. Now, obviously it takes a lot of time, 793 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:36,320 Speaker 1: and looking back, I'm like, it's been quite a journey. 794 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:39,120 Speaker 1: But um, it's kind of scary that she's already like 795 00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,080 Speaker 1: kicked him out. And because I feel like there's two 796 00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,400 Speaker 1: different there's two kinds of women. There's the woman that's 797 00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,759 Speaker 1: all right, that's it, get your crap and get out 798 00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,399 Speaker 1: of here, and that's zero, zero tolerance, and hey, that's 799 00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 1: what I always said I was gonna be. Um, and 800 00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:56,680 Speaker 1: then what happens to you sometimes that changes. And then 801 00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,120 Speaker 1: there's a person that stays because they want to try 802 00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:00,800 Speaker 1: and work it out. So it does worry me a 803 00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,319 Speaker 1: little bit then that she had that mentality, because usually 804 00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,160 Speaker 1: when you have that first thought mentality, it's pretty much 805 00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:09,959 Speaker 1: like Denzo and the person is like, no, But if 806 00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:13,439 Speaker 1: she's giving you any signs of hope, like if she's 807 00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:18,359 Speaker 1: still communicating with you, if she's still um you know, 808 00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,360 Speaker 1: if she's still giving you something, then I would continue 809 00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:24,480 Speaker 1: to try to keep asking for forgiveness and say that 810 00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,319 Speaker 1: you're sorry, but at the same time start just being doing, 811 00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:29,440 Speaker 1: like being you and doing you and doing it for 812 00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:33,239 Speaker 1: yourself not for anybody else, because I think that's when 813 00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,799 Speaker 1: I've noticed the change is when like Mike wasn't doing 814 00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:37,839 Speaker 1: it for me, he was doing it for himself, and 815 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:41,120 Speaker 1: that's the change that he finally made, you know, a 816 00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,879 Speaker 1: couple of months ago. If you do it for for 817 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,919 Speaker 1: you and you're not doing it for me, and then 818 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 1: over time you see the growth and the change in 819 00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:51,640 Speaker 1: that person. Yeah, and Jane has been able to acknowledge 820 00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,320 Speaker 1: and honestly be able to lean more, be more attracted 821 00:41:55,360 --> 00:42:00,319 Speaker 1: to me when I'm not so codependent and just rying 822 00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:03,000 Speaker 1: to feed off her emotion or see how she's feeling 823 00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:06,560 Speaker 1: engaged that on how I should feel. And so if you, 824 00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:10,840 Speaker 1: just like Jane said, just be you and be the 825 00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:14,400 Speaker 1: person that she fell in love with originally, be the 826 00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:18,759 Speaker 1: person that she fell in love with originally, then I 827 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:23,120 Speaker 1: think that's your best opportunity. And if she ends up, 828 00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:26,240 Speaker 1: you know, if she's not giving you any sign of hope, 829 00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:28,800 Speaker 1: then be the man that you want to be for 830 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,839 Speaker 1: the next relationship, because that one just wasn't worth it, 831 00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,200 Speaker 1: and there is clearly there might have been a reason 832 00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:41,279 Speaker 1: because you cheated on her. So I don't know who knows. 833 00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:47,839 Speaker 1: Everyone's reasons can be different. Um, I mean, yeah, it's 834 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:49,879 Speaker 1: it's just tough because then people will be like, oh, well, 835 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,040 Speaker 1: if I wasn't the one for you, then you shouldn't 836 00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:55,040 Speaker 1: cheat it on me. So maybe I don't know that answer, 837 00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:59,360 Speaker 1: but you know, she might just be done and you 838 00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:02,759 Speaker 1: might just have to to say okay and be better 839 00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:08,640 Speaker 1: for the next person, because nobody deserves to be cheated on. So, Eastern, 840 00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:11,160 Speaker 1: do you have another one for us? You know? I do. 841 00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,520 Speaker 1: I saw this one coming down the line, and I 842 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,879 Speaker 1: I'm really interested in your answer, so I'm picking this one. 843 00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,960 Speaker 1: This is from Janet uh one of my favorite sayings 844 00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:22,680 Speaker 1: and I still use it to this day. Is I 845 00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,359 Speaker 1: could totally eat the butt off a skunk right now? 846 00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:30,480 Speaker 1: From the scene in went Trio and you were hired, 847 00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:32,680 Speaker 1: hired to be the model for clothes over Bros. And 848 00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,960 Speaker 1: you got into the limo and you were so hungry. 849 00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:36,960 Speaker 1: As an actress, do you get to make up some 850 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,719 Speaker 1: of your own lines? Is that your ad libe Jane? 851 00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,480 Speaker 1: That was not my ad lib. I even asked if 852 00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:43,960 Speaker 1: I could change that. I was like a butt of 853 00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:45,520 Speaker 1: a skunk, Like, who would want to eat a butt 854 00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:47,200 Speaker 1: of a skunk? And the directors like, well, that means 855 00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:49,080 Speaker 1: we're really hungry that you would want to eat the 856 00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:52,520 Speaker 1: butt of a skunk. And I was just like and 857 00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:56,560 Speaker 1: they fought to keep that line in. They shirted Eastern Wow, 858 00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,480 Speaker 1: there's a living proof on YouTube. I mean, you can 859 00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:03,919 Speaker 1: sometimes make things up. Unfortunately, especially when you're working in TV. 860 00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:08,359 Speaker 1: It's very hard because certain things have to pass um 861 00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,520 Speaker 1: through network and you can't say certain things, so you 862 00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:12,400 Speaker 1: have to be really careful. Um. You can kind of 863 00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:16,960 Speaker 1: move things around a little bit um with if you're 864 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,200 Speaker 1: saying the same thing, you can maybe work it to 865 00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:23,600 Speaker 1: make it sound uh like you have roll off your 866 00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:27,319 Speaker 1: tongue a little bit easier. Um, but pretty much you 867 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,360 Speaker 1: have to stay somewhat on book for certain things. Other things. 868 00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:33,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I know some people that improv. There was 869 00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:34,520 Speaker 1: just one movie there, like the improv most of the 870 00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:36,600 Speaker 1: whole movie. I can't remember what movie that was we 871 00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,160 Speaker 1: were watching, but that was one of the trivia things 872 00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:41,839 Speaker 1: is that they improved almost the entire movie. I feel 873 00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:44,759 Speaker 1: like if I was an actor, that's that's how I 874 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,359 Speaker 1: would be. Just like, these are lines and I just 875 00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,720 Speaker 1: kind of start going off on my own little tangent, 876 00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,160 Speaker 1: so I'll be I'll be tough to reel in. What 877 00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:56,120 Speaker 1: about you, Easton? I mean, I like, I'm not an actor. 878 00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:57,799 Speaker 1: I don't if you guys know that, but I like 879 00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:01,640 Speaker 1: a little calling me a little calling bu uh uh. 880 00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:03,719 Speaker 1: It just whenever I see those movies like The Curb 881 00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,120 Speaker 1: Your Enthusiasms and stuff like that, where like the entire 882 00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:10,000 Speaker 1: thing is improved, I just think it's so so impressive. Um. 883 00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,200 Speaker 1: But but you know, taking words that are written for 884 00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:15,880 Speaker 1: you and making them sound natural takes an incredible amount 885 00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:21,680 Speaker 1: of skill. So yeah, alright, guys, Well this was a 886 00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:26,919 Speaker 1: fun episode, and um let's just go have a great week. 887 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,640 Speaker 1: And keep that distance, y'all