WEBVTT - My Nest is Empty

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<v Speaker 1>Amy Robach gave birth to her youngest daughter, Analyse, on

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<v Speaker 1>May tenth, two thousand and six. Now this month, August

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<v Speaker 1>of twenty twenty four, Amy Robach is going to drive

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<v Speaker 1>that same baby, now eighteen years old, to the airport,

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<v Speaker 1>put that baby on a plane, and send that baby

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<v Speaker 1>off to college in Europe. And at that point, it's

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<v Speaker 1>likely Robock will experience what millions of parents experience every

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<v Speaker 1>single year, feelings of loneliness, anxiety, depression. It's something called

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<v Speaker 1>empty nest syndrome. Meanwhile, I'll be back at the house,

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<v Speaker 1>turning Analice's bedroom into a home office. And with that,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome everybody to this episode of Amy and Tza. You

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<v Speaker 1>knew I wasn't going to come on. That's not how

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<v Speaker 1>I was supposed to go. No, no, no, no. Now

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<v Speaker 1>this is fun, This is renewal, this is exciting. Everybody's

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<v Speaker 1>getting a new chapter. But tell me this, babe, when

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<v Speaker 1>was the last time you lived alone?

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<v Speaker 2>I only lived alone for ten months and it was

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<v Speaker 2>when I was twenty two years old. That is the

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<v Speaker 2>last time I have lived alone.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, in life, your entire life only lived by yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>At twenty, when I went to my first job at

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<v Speaker 2>WCBD TV two Action News. I moved into my sad

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<v Speaker 2>little apartment on Palmetto Boulevard, and I had ten months

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<v Speaker 2>until Analisa's dad moved in while we were engaged before

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<v Speaker 2>we got married.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, ten months to think. Okay, so let's let's talk

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<v Speaker 1>to everybody about what we're talking about here. That Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>your daughter, who is sitting in studio with us now

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<v Speaker 1>and Alicia, baby eighteen, is about to go to college

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a very texciting time for her, but for

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<v Speaker 1>you and a bunch of other parents, this is a

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<v Speaker 1>very difficult time of transition. And even though empty nest

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<v Speaker 1>syndrome we were saying is not a clinical diagnosed.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not a medical diet, yes, but.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a real thing, a phenomenon.

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<v Speaker 2>We should call it, yes, And I think I have

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<v Speaker 2>been scared about it for the last year. Yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 2>been nervous, like letting go.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you nervous about? I'm asking that genuinely.

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<v Speaker 2>And they do say that women are disproportionately affected than men,

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<v Speaker 2>But I think.

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<v Speaker 1>They say we're not emotionally prepared. We're just we're not

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally mature enough to handle it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, especially with the trajectory of my life. And

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<v Speaker 3>the one thing that's stayed the same, the one thing

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<v Speaker 3>that's never wavered, is my relationship with my children.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I have never.

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<v Speaker 3>All the ins and outs and ups and downs with life,

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<v Speaker 3>that love was the one constant in my life that

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<v Speaker 3>never changed.

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<v Speaker 2>And so it's not going to change. But the location,

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<v Speaker 2>the logistics, that is what's going to change. And that

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<v Speaker 2>is hard to let go of.

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<v Speaker 3>Because your purpose, of course is to live a full

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<v Speaker 3>and exciting life.

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<v Speaker 2>But a big part of that purpose.

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<v Speaker 3>When you're a mom is making sure your kids are

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<v Speaker 3>okay and making sure they have what they need and

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<v Speaker 3>that they you know, when you have to let them just.

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<v Speaker 2>Go off in the world. You have to let go.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's hard.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'll be fine and I'll get there, but I

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<v Speaker 3>have been I have not been looking forward to this.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, if it's any relief, the statistics show you'll get

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<v Speaker 1>over it really soon.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I laugh because I was looking at that too.

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<v Speaker 2>They said sometimes it takes a couple of weeks. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>in some cases it does take a couple months. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom will tell you it took her about two years.

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<v Speaker 2>She really has been honest about that. But hilariously.

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<v Speaker 3>I saw on the flip side, some parents report feeling relief.

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<v Speaker 2>And then guilt because they feel relieved. But there's a

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<v Speaker 2>whole new way of operating when you don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>worry or think about or just be constantly monitoring your children.

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<v Speaker 2>All of a sudden, you have all this time back mentally, physically, logistically,

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<v Speaker 2>and it can be great, but it's a big change.

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<v Speaker 1>You h you talked about all the sad stuff, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you listed all these things that sound like you're

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<v Speaker 1>looking forward to later.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just laughing that I saw some people immediately feel really.

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<v Speaker 1>And others don't. But look, everybody listening here. You've if

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<v Speaker 1>you've listened to at least two of these previous episodes,

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<v Speaker 1>you've heard Analyst's name because we're constantly talking about the girls. Analyst,

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<v Speaker 1>Eva and Sabine there are always here and by our side.

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<v Speaker 1>But Analyse is actually in the studio with us, now,

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<v Speaker 1>only a couple of days away from getting on a

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<v Speaker 1>plane and starting her college journey. Can I ask, before

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<v Speaker 1>we're getting into anything, Analyse, I was watching as your

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<v Speaker 1>mom is sitting here you and I wait, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to say we're unemotional people. But Mom is sitting

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<v Speaker 1>here crying and we're just taking it in there it is,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the way to put it. But what do you

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<v Speaker 1>what are you thinking and feeling hearing your mom? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean we're ten seconds into the podcast and she's already

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<v Speaker 1>crying about leaving.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean there's been a lot of chairs already, eight months,

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<v Speaker 4>in the past few weeks, in the past few days.

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<v Speaker 4>But I mean, I'm sad, definitely, but I'm not I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not crying as much because I think I'll cry when

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<v Speaker 4>I get there. I'm excited. I don't know, but I'm

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<v Speaker 4>sad for you, but I think you'll have a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll see. And I don't want to put the guilt

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<v Speaker 2>of that on you, because I was telling you my

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<v Speaker 2>mom was a wreck when I went to school, and

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<v Speaker 2>I remember being.

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<v Speaker 4>You're still going to be a wreck.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course I am, And I'm not hiding it very

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<v Speaker 2>well at all. I remember being mad at her for

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<v Speaker 2>not hiding it better because I didn't want to feel

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<v Speaker 2>guilty about leaving her, and I thought, I'm never going

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<v Speaker 2>to do that, And here I am doing it, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's not like anyone's doing it to someone. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>it's a sign of love and it's a part of

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<v Speaker 2>the process, you know, And for me, I come by

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<v Speaker 2>it naturally obviously, like this was my mom. My grandmother

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<v Speaker 2>was like this. We we love hard and it's hard

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<v Speaker 2>to like go unless you.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel any guilt. You are any way. You want to

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<v Speaker 1>comfort your mom out of what we've seen in over

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<v Speaker 1>the past couple of weeks. Do you feel that at all?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't feel guilty. Good, But yeah, I don't. I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>But because I'm excited for you. I think this is

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<v Speaker 4>in a chapter and I think it will be fun.

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<v Speaker 4>You have many things to look forward to.

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<v Speaker 2>That's very sweet. What are you most excited about, m.

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<v Speaker 4>I'd definitely say new experiences, new friends. I love all

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<v Speaker 4>my friends, don't get me wrong, but I think just

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<v Speaker 4>like new characters in my life, and especially in Boulder, hiking, skiing,

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<v Speaker 4>all the outdoor activities. Living in New York, you don't

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<v Speaker 4>really do that as much, so that will be exciting.

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<v Speaker 4>Classes picking my own classes is very fun. Never done that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you get some you get some autonomy. We were

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<v Speaker 2>talking we took the train up the w train up here,

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<v Speaker 2>and we were saying, I was saying to you, this

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<v Speaker 2>is going to be the like you've had a few

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<v Speaker 2>tastes of freedom, but you're gonna act actually have this

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<v Speaker 2>moment where you think, oh my god, Yeah, I can

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<v Speaker 2>get up when I want to, I can go to

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<v Speaker 2>bed when I want to, I can stay out as

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<v Speaker 2>late as I want. I can do and eat and

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<v Speaker 2>be whoever whatever I want. And that is a really

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<v Speaker 2>cool that moment when you're like, I am free and

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have a lot of responsibilities, at least financial

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<v Speaker 2>ones right now.

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<v Speaker 4>No, yeah, this is it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, and we can you. I'll let you tell

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<v Speaker 1>everybody you're you're going to be enrolled. You are in

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<v Speaker 1>rolled now at University of Colorado at Boulder, but you

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<v Speaker 1>get to spend your first semester elsewhere. I'll let you

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<v Speaker 1>tell what's about to happen.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm going to Spain for my first semester, which

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<v Speaker 4>will definitely be a culture shock for me. I've spent

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<v Speaker 4>some time in Europe, so hopefully it won't be too scary.

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<v Speaker 4>But that's yeah, that's only for September to December, so

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<v Speaker 4>don't be there for that long. But that will be

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<v Speaker 4>a fun little transition to my first semester in college

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<v Speaker 4>and then I go to Boulder.

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<v Speaker 2>And you say you were feeling a little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>anxiety because although it's super cool to get to go

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<v Speaker 2>to Seville or Sabilla, however you want to say it,

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<v Speaker 2>in Spain, you'll basically be going to Boulder in this

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<v Speaker 2>spring semester, and you were a little concerned that maybe

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<v Speaker 2>you'll be catching up or they'll be clicks already formed.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's some anxiety. Like you're always anticipating, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what's going to happen next. So have you been able

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<v Speaker 2>to just focus on right here, right now today instead

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<v Speaker 2>of thinking, oh, no, what's going to happen next semester?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't we all do that and just psych ourselves out?

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<v Speaker 4>Sometimes I'm trying to focus on the present right now

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<v Speaker 4>and not the future because I will technically be a

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<v Speaker 4>transfer student even though I'm enrolled. But like people will

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<v Speaker 4>look at me as like, oh, she's coming and she

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<v Speaker 4>hated her school first semester, Like until I explain it,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I just feel like, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 4>haven't really been the new kid that many times, but

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<v Speaker 4>I've seen all the movies, you know, all the TV shows,

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<v Speaker 4>and it always looks like the worst thing ever to

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<v Speaker 4>be the new girl. Yes, I'd rather not be that.

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<v Speaker 4>But my best friend is going to Boulder, so she'll

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<v Speaker 4>be there lay out the land for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's me. We talked about even the last podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah to me, why Boulder? Can you explain it?

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<v Speaker 2>It?

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<v Speaker 1>Golda became the hot school when everybody was looking why, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was incredibly random. I wasn't even going to apply.

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<v Speaker 4>I applied to like eight other schools and all of

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<v Speaker 4>them I mainly got into. And I was like, don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to go. And I got into Boulder and this

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<v Speaker 4>like weird program didn't even get any money. Like it was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was very random. Not probably the best school for

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<v Speaker 4>me to go to logistically, but I saw it and

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, I have to go. I felt a

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<v Speaker 4>poll and I couldn't explain it. I couldn't tell you why,

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<v Speaker 4>but I just knew.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was really nobody was a ton of your

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<v Speaker 1>friends and everybody seemed to think that was.

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<v Speaker 4>The Yeah, it never was. It never was at school,

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<v Speaker 4>which is so weird, Like it kind of was a

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<v Speaker 4>kind of a I don't know. It wasn't the most

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<v Speaker 4>popular school, at least in New York. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>it just happened.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know the skiing and the hiking, and and

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<v Speaker 2>your degree also plays a role in that as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Where you wanted to go. And then we were wondering

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<v Speaker 2>if the Dione Sanders effect had some sort of impact

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<v Speaker 2>on people thinking suddenly the Boulder was school because their

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<v Speaker 2>football program has been in the national Yeah, I think so.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I know you're excited about football season when

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<v Speaker 2>you get their next ball.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. I was planning on joining the team.

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<v Speaker 1>Football.

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<v Speaker 2>But you have our word that we will be showing

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<v Speaker 2>up for a football game yes or two. Why did

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<v Speaker 2>you want to go so far away from mom? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I tried so hard to get you to

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<v Speaker 2>stay on the East Coast. I even was trying to

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<v Speaker 2>pitch University of Georgia, where a family is, and you

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<v Speaker 2>wanted nothing to do with it. You you only applied

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<v Speaker 2>to one school on the East Coast.

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<v Speaker 1>And isay.

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<v Speaker 4>She was.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she never left and she probably never will.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, it had nothing to do with you, obviously.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I wanted to change. I felt like

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<v Speaker 4>it was just right for me. There wasn't really that

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<v Speaker 4>much behind it, but I was kind of like why not.

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<v Speaker 4>I know, I want to live in New York when

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<v Speaker 4>I'm older, in my twenties, so it's like, why not

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<v Speaker 4>change it up for four years?

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<v Speaker 1>But specifically you did. I'm not getting away from Mom,

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<v Speaker 1>but you wanted to get kind of away from New

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<v Speaker 1>York and the Northeast. That was a part of distance

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<v Speaker 1>from this place.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, And that's bold because you want to see

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<v Speaker 2>something else, you want to see something new. And for

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<v Speaker 2>those of us who weren't raised in New York, I

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<v Speaker 2>always appreciate people who do have the wherewithal to experience

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<v Speaker 2>other parts of either this country or the world, because

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<v Speaker 2>New York is truly a bubble and when you meet

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<v Speaker 2>folks and we know a lot of them who were

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<v Speaker 2>born and raised here and never left, there is a mindset.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I do think it's cool just because we've

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<v Speaker 2>had the experience of seeing how other people do things,

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<v Speaker 2>and New York is very much different than the rest

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<v Speaker 2>of the country for sure. And it was interesting because

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<v Speaker 2>I looked it up because I just thought, Wow, I

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<v Speaker 2>was upset that you were going so far away. But

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy that you're going to where you want to go.

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<v Speaker 2>But do you know that only fifteen and a half

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<v Speaker 2>percent a freshman at ten schools more than five hundred

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<v Speaker 2>miles away. So wow, lucky me, I got one and

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<v Speaker 2>a fifteen percent. So only fifty percent of freshmen go

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<v Speaker 2>five hundred miles or more away from their home. Fifty

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<v Speaker 2>two percent of students don't go more than one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>miles from home. I think I went about forty miles

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<v Speaker 2>from home, and that's more typical. How about you went

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<v Speaker 2>very far.

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<v Speaker 1>Across the state. I don't know the mileage, but yeah, stay.

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<v Speaker 2>In state state for very much. Do you think you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to be homesick?

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<v Speaker 4>I think a little bit, yes, But I also you

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<v Speaker 4>didn't have phones or FaceTime.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a big difference as to where, like I can

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<v Speaker 4>see your faces, I can see our dog's face.

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<v Speaker 2>Who or what will you miss the most?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I was thinking she was going to say Brody the

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<v Speaker 2>dog or not. Well, I mean, just be honest. You

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<v Speaker 2>can't say and your sister your sister too?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Is there is there something about New York that

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<v Speaker 2>you will miss? Forget the people the most?

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<v Speaker 4>Mmm, I'd say walking on my own. I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not going to be doing a lot of that,

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<v Speaker 4>even in Spain. I think it's going to be like

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<v Speaker 4>walking in groups to classes, just because I think they're

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<v Speaker 4>probably pretty protective of these eighteen year olds just being

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<v Speaker 4>dropped off in Europe. So I think that sense of freedom.

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<v Speaker 2>You're going to miss your alone time. Yes, you like

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<v Speaker 2>alone time.

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<v Speaker 4>I do like alone time.

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<v Speaker 2>I sent TJ picture. He's like, what's analyst doing? And

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<v Speaker 2>I sent him a picture of your door closed? And

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<v Speaker 2>I said, per usual, she's in her room. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>you might say asuka sushi.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, I do love a suka. I'm going to miss

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<v Speaker 4>like Chipotle, Chick fil A, Keynes, all the good ones.

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<v Speaker 1>How about this? What is the thing you think will

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<v Speaker 1>be maybe even the day. I don't know how you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna set up your room and everything when you get

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<v Speaker 1>over there. But what's the thing you think you would

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<v Speaker 1>see in your room often or that will remind you

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<v Speaker 1>of home and make you a little sad.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I'm bringing a bulletin board. I don't really have

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of photos printed out. The I brought really

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<v Speaker 4>strange photos like it's I don't even know if it's

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<v Speaker 4>gonna remind me of good times because I don't have

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<v Speaker 4>any printed.

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<v Speaker 2>We can stop by Dwayne Reid tomorrow and print some

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<v Speaker 2>photos for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, photoed don't They're like really random, very strange.

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<v Speaker 2>I gave you a photo of us to take with you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, I have that, you have the wind, you have that,

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<v Speaker 4>and I have a few like friendom decor that I

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<v Speaker 4>took off my walls to bring.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh so, I wait, are you gonna bring your baby blanket?

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<v Speaker 2>Here's a little fun fact about Anally's. She never goes

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<v Speaker 2>anywhere without her Gigi overnight typically. I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 2>you've done some sleepovers without it recently. I didn't bring it.

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<v Speaker 2>But what kind of shape is it in? And are

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<v Speaker 2>you bringing it?

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<v Speaker 4>It almost looks like a sleeping bag. I wonder if

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<v Speaker 4>people can relate to that. I used to sleep in it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very small too.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very small, incredibly small. So I don't really bring

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<v Speaker 4>up that many places.

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<v Speaker 2>It's in her room, trust me.

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<v Speaker 4>Here's the funny thing.

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<v Speaker 2>She actually had an original, beautiful baby blanket with her

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<v Speaker 2>name embroidered. I think one of my friends gave it

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<v Speaker 2>to you from Pottery Barn Kids or something. And then

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<v Speaker 2>you got carsick and we had to throw the blanket

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<v Speaker 2>out and desperation because you were like gig you just

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<v Speaker 2>that's what you called it. We had to stop by

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<v Speaker 2>a Coles and get a random you know, just pink

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<v Speaker 2>and white with clouds on it, and that is still

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<v Speaker 2>the blanket.

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<v Speaker 1>You have no idea.

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<v Speaker 4>I think Eva made it up.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know brand.

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<v Speaker 2>So many parents are dealing with this, and if they

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<v Speaker 2>haven't already, they will soon enough. This is the day

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<v Speaker 2>that so many of us dread. And then we don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what to do, because yes, we're trying to give

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<v Speaker 2>you your freedom and let you have your independence. But

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<v Speaker 2>I have some questions for you, like genuine questions about

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<v Speaker 2>what you want, what you need from me while you're

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<v Speaker 2>at school. How often should I check in with you?

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<v Speaker 1>Really?

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<v Speaker 2>I think I think parents want to know what the

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<v Speaker 2>right call is.

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<v Speaker 1>But we won't know, will we?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>So she gets this, she might miss mama. We might

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<v Speaker 1>want to give mama some suspence.

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<v Speaker 2>She can always call me. My question is you can

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<v Speaker 2>always text me? You can always call me? You know that?

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<v Speaker 2>How often should I be texting you daily? Weekly?

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<v Speaker 4>Not daily?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? Once twice a week, three times a week, week,

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<v Speaker 2>twice a week, okay, that's fair.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish you would have asked me these questions.

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<v Speaker 2>No, what No. The next one is how should I

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<v Speaker 2>check in FaceTime? Text or call? So a text? Is

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<v Speaker 2>it okay to FaceTime?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? Text me first?

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<v Speaker 2>Text you.

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<v Speaker 4>You never know what I'm going to be doing. There's

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<v Speaker 4>also a time difference.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds a little ominous. You never know where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to be, Like, what the what are your plans?

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<v Speaker 4>Still? I don't know?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, Okay, twice a week and I text you first. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I can handle that, and then you can call me anytime.

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<v Speaker 4>Hmm.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, And that's probably a general letter. I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>a good thing to do, Okay. And I have been

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<v Speaker 2>people been giving you advice, like telling you what you

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<v Speaker 2>can expect or what you should do, like and if so,

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<v Speaker 2>what's the best advice you've received?

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<v Speaker 4>I honestly have not. I haven't really received advice from

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of college students, more like adults. Best advice

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<v Speaker 4>I've received definitely to not overthank it too much. I

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<v Speaker 4>feel like I've I've been thinking about it a lot,

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<v Speaker 4>not in a good way. I think I just kind

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<v Speaker 4>of need to show up, see how it is and

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<v Speaker 4>figure it out. Like that's like our life motto. Ever

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<v Speaker 4>since your kids like, you'll get there, you'll figure it out,

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<v Speaker 4>And I think that's that's how I'm gonna do it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's perfect way to go.

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<v Speaker 1>You rob, you have any learns about her readiness, I'd

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<v Speaker 1>say that, and that a lot of parents might understand

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<v Speaker 1>this that I actually didn't. I didn't fly for the

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<v Speaker 1>first time until I was a senior in college. And

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<v Speaker 1>you have kids who have traveled all over the world

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<v Speaker 1>and buy themselves in a lot of situations. So you

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<v Speaker 1>might not have the readiness issue. But do you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>you so?

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, And I do think that is something to

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<v Speaker 2>point out. I kind of always made it a point

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<v Speaker 2>to I didn't spoil my kids with things. You guys

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have a lot of material things. I wasn't buying

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<v Speaker 2>you lots of clothes or any of those things. But

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<v Speaker 2>what I did do is I went went hard on

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<v Speaker 2>the experience and so and you all did a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of travel on your own. You did service trips, and

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<v Speaker 2>you went and without me and for weeks at a time.

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<v Speaker 2>So I do feel like you're good at that independence.

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<v Speaker 2>You know how to navigate an airport. You even know

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<v Speaker 2>how to navigate an international airport, which is cool. What

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<v Speaker 2>I worry about is because you've had that experience that

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<v Speaker 2>you think you know more than you do. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>always my worry, that there's this elevated sense of I

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<v Speaker 2>got this, I know this. Also, being a New Yorker,

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<v Speaker 2>you you're street savvy to an extent. However, you're in

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<v Speaker 2>a foreign country, you don't fully speak the language. You

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<v Speaker 2>are fairly proficient in Spanish. But it's this idea of

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<v Speaker 2>not knowing what you don't know, and that's what always

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<v Speaker 2>worries me.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so you're saying I can be cocky.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's just no, it's no. And that may sound

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<v Speaker 2>like that to you. That's not what I meant.

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<v Speaker 4>I meant that, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, there's there's a there's a sense and it's not

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<v Speaker 2>it's not anything that that you are doing wrong. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just that you can't know what's out there. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>know what could be out there. So my big I'm

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<v Speaker 2>always about I don't want you to be alone. I

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<v Speaker 2>always want you to have a buddy. Those are things,

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<v Speaker 2>those are the things I worry about your safety more

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<v Speaker 2>than that.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course, well I will have a buddy. That's why

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<v Speaker 4>I said I was going to miss being alone. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't. I don't want to put myself in a

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<v Speaker 4>situation where I wouldn't want to be doesn't sound like fun.

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<v Speaker 4>So I mean, I'm going to try my best. I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>I will say, your point goes both ways, so like,

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<v Speaker 4>I do know what's out there, but I also could

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<v Speaker 4>be too smart about that, So yes, I will. I

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<v Speaker 4>will keep an extry out be aware.

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<v Speaker 1>I never got that since in all the time that

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<v Speaker 1>she was ever had the feeling of Oh I got

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<v Speaker 1>the are you just worried about it or you see something.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I'm just worried about it. I don't You're

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<v Speaker 2>You're not like that. Yeah, but she is the one

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<v Speaker 2>that people, even her older sister would lean on for

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<v Speaker 2>navigation logistics, Who has the tickets? What gator are we at?

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<v Speaker 2>You have always been that person who has all of

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<v Speaker 2>that together, and that is I do know that you're

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<v Speaker 2>You're very good with that. So I do appreciate that,

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<v Speaker 2>and that'll take you a long way when yeah, people

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<v Speaker 2>probably will be leaning on you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. And except for the time I lost I forgot

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<v Speaker 4>my passport at home and we had to drive all

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<v Speaker 4>the way back and I just switched our flights. Remember that, Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>How could I forget? Yes? And yep, and you ended

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<v Speaker 2>up right next to the bathrooms at the back of

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<v Speaker 2>the plane.

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<v Speaker 4>That was great. Yeah, the next day.

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<v Speaker 1>My tip was I don't know if y'all did it

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<v Speaker 1>that morning, but my tip to folks who are flying internationally.

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<v Speaker 1>I have literally done this the night before. I will

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<v Speaker 1>take my physical passport and sit it at the front

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<v Speaker 1>door to where you care. It's impossible to forget it.

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<v Speaker 1>You can do anything as long as you have your passport.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true, you need your passport and you need some

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<v Speaker 2>form of financial support. But I know that this has

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<v Speaker 2>been a really tough two years and you have come

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<v Speaker 2>a long way, and I've been so proud of you

0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:57.600
<v Speaker 2>and impressed by you and how you've handled all. You

0:21:57.600 --> 0:21:59.800
<v Speaker 2>have been by my side through the whole thing. Was

0:21:59.880 --> 0:22:02.720
<v Speaker 2>you see with me the last two years going through

0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:04.359
<v Speaker 2>a lot of this together. Ava was with us too,

0:22:04.440 --> 0:22:06.280
<v Speaker 2>but she was in her own place in MoU so

0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:07.919
<v Speaker 2>it was a little bit of a distance from some

0:22:08.040 --> 0:22:11.720
<v Speaker 2>of what we went through. Are there any lessons that

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<v Speaker 2>you learned that you will take with you to college

0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:18.200
<v Speaker 2>what you've experienced these past two years, because it's probably

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<v Speaker 2>much different than most people your age.

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<v Speaker 4>I would definitely say not to dwell on the past.

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<v Speaker 4>That would be my big thing. Things happened for a

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<v Speaker 4>reason and might not be for a good reason, but

0:22:31.960 --> 0:22:34.760
<v Speaker 4>eventually it all works out. And I think that also

0:22:34.800 --> 0:22:37.199
<v Speaker 4>really applies to college. There's so many things that's going

0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:40.040
<v Speaker 4>to happen to me and I just kind of have

0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:40.680
<v Speaker 4>to keep going.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you have to let go of control because you

0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:47.760
<v Speaker 2>never really had it anyway. Yeah, and then when you

0:22:47.840 --> 0:22:49.879
<v Speaker 2>learn that, you're like, Okay, now what do I do

0:22:50.000 --> 0:22:54.120
<v Speaker 2>with this? I have to I have to kind of surrender.

0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:55.560
<v Speaker 4>Right myself and keep going.

0:22:55.760 --> 0:23:01.120
<v Speaker 2>That's know who you are, and tomorrow's a new day,

0:23:01.359 --> 0:23:02.120
<v Speaker 2>exactly right.

0:23:02.520 --> 0:23:03.280
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:06.520
<v Speaker 2>I love the that's called resilience and that's and that's

0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:09.040
<v Speaker 2>I mean, those are hard lessons to learn, but they're

0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:12.639
<v Speaker 2>ones you'll never forget. Yeah, tell me about your classes. Well,

0:23:12.840 --> 0:23:14.200
<v Speaker 2>you said you got to pick your own classes. I

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:15.960
<v Speaker 2>think I know what they are, but why don't you

0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:17.000
<v Speaker 2>tell us what the classes are?

0:23:17.560 --> 0:23:20.240
<v Speaker 4>I have an intro to psych, which I've never done.

0:23:20.960 --> 0:23:23.399
<v Speaker 4>That's not my intended major either, but I think that

0:23:23.440 --> 0:23:27.439
<v Speaker 4>would be interesting. I have a business and Entrepreneurship class,

0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:30.440
<v Speaker 4>which I want a major in marketing, so that should help.

0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:35.680
<v Speaker 4>I have a writing seminar, an intermediate Spanish one, which

0:23:35.720 --> 0:23:38.360
<v Speaker 4>is like the second best Spanish class, which I'm quite

0:23:38.400 --> 0:23:43.040
<v Speaker 4>worried about. I hope that goes well. And I have

0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:45.719
<v Speaker 4>I don't know what my last one is.

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<v Speaker 1>I clearly forgot the spanh you're proficient? Is it fair

0:23:48.720 --> 0:23:50.280
<v Speaker 1>to say you're proficient in Spanish?

0:23:50.359 --> 0:23:53.159
<v Speaker 4>I understand better than I can speak it?

0:23:53.200 --> 0:23:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Is there any will you have the option? I don't

0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:57.840
<v Speaker 1>think I've asked you this. Do you have the option

0:23:57.960 --> 0:23:59.439
<v Speaker 1>to extend your studies in Spain?

0:24:00.240 --> 0:24:05.320
<v Speaker 4>I could, yeah, but I don't want to ask.

0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:08.320
<v Speaker 1>What happens over there?

0:24:08.920 --> 0:24:11.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? What happens? It really stays over there.

0:24:11.040 --> 0:24:17.879
<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness. And so we had we actually this

0:24:18.040 --> 0:24:20.760
<v Speaker 2>I think helped a lot. I was impressed because when

0:24:21.480 --> 0:24:24.320
<v Speaker 2>we went to college, unless you had a roommate or

0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:25.800
<v Speaker 2>someone who you were bringing with you, or you could

0:24:25.800 --> 0:24:27.920
<v Speaker 2>connect with from your high school going to college, which

0:24:27.960 --> 0:24:30.080
<v Speaker 2>is what I did, you kind of it was the

0:24:30.160 --> 0:24:32.040
<v Speaker 2>luck of the draw. Whatever roommate you got, you got.

0:24:32.080 --> 0:24:34.359
<v Speaker 2>But social media, as much as we liked bash it,

0:24:34.400 --> 0:24:36.760
<v Speaker 2>this has been really remarkable to see this process where

0:24:36.760 --> 0:24:39.000
<v Speaker 2>you get to meet all the kids and actually kind

0:24:39.000 --> 0:24:42.040
<v Speaker 2>of get to know each other online before you ever

0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:44.479
<v Speaker 2>decide who you're going to Spain with right or who

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:45.159
<v Speaker 2>you're rooming with.

0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:48.000
<v Speaker 4>It's it's very interesting. Almost every single person I know

0:24:48.160 --> 0:24:50.479
<v Speaker 4>who are going to all different schools have this like

0:24:50.520 --> 0:24:54.000
<v Speaker 4>group chat. Somehow everyone just finds each other. I got

0:24:54.000 --> 0:24:56.400
<v Speaker 4>added to it randomly. I don't know how it was made.

0:24:56.720 --> 0:24:58.880
<v Speaker 4>I don't know how you found each other or got

0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:02.239
<v Speaker 4>their snapchats. But there's a huge group chat. And then

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:04.760
<v Speaker 4>you go out to dinner and like everyone meets each

0:25:04.800 --> 0:25:08.760
<v Speaker 4>other and there's really random just like thirty girls in

0:25:08.840 --> 0:25:12.160
<v Speaker 4>this group. It's it's so weird. I think it's really strange.

0:25:12.359 --> 0:25:14.720
<v Speaker 4>But I will say it has been my process easier.

0:25:15.000 --> 0:25:16.560
<v Speaker 4>I have a roommate, I have a few people I

0:25:16.640 --> 0:25:19.240
<v Speaker 4>know going in. I mean I haven't I've met her twice,

0:25:19.280 --> 0:25:21.960
<v Speaker 4>but I haven't met the other people yet. So but

0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:25.320
<v Speaker 4>I will say social media is it's it's great.

0:25:25.400 --> 0:25:27.360
<v Speaker 2>That takes a lot of the stress away when you've ordered,

0:25:27.400 --> 0:25:27.880
<v Speaker 2>Like and we.

0:25:27.800 --> 0:25:30.359
<v Speaker 4>Would have stayed closer if I hadn't had that, because

0:25:30.359 --> 0:25:34.919
<v Speaker 4>I would have been nervous, worried. Really yeah, well, I.

0:25:34.920 --> 0:25:37.040
<v Speaker 2>Don't know, or you would have been sure that you

0:25:37.119 --> 0:25:39.800
<v Speaker 2>went somewhere where you knew was going, where your friend

0:25:39.880 --> 0:25:42.119
<v Speaker 2>was going. I mean, that's that's so much of it,

0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:44.040
<v Speaker 2>because it's all so new and different. So not to

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:47.160
<v Speaker 2>have anyone you know, something that's very scary. So yeah,

0:25:47.160 --> 0:25:49.840
<v Speaker 2>we get to meet your roommate Jenna and her mom,

0:25:49.920 --> 0:25:52.920
<v Speaker 2>and that that every time you've met her twice now,

0:25:53.440 --> 0:25:56.000
<v Speaker 2>and that makes you feel a lot calmer and better. Like,

0:25:56.160 --> 0:25:57.720
<v Speaker 2>you know who I'm going with. You're actually going on

0:25:57.760 --> 0:26:00.720
<v Speaker 2>the same plane together, like plan that, and I'm not

0:26:00.800 --> 0:26:04.040
<v Speaker 2>going with you. I offered to what happened, But.

0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:06.800
<v Speaker 4>No other moms are going. I don't think anyone's family

0:26:06.880 --> 0:26:09.560
<v Speaker 4>is going. It's because it's it's such a quick semester.

0:26:09.640 --> 0:26:12.600
<v Speaker 4>It's it's only three and a half months. It's very quick.

0:26:12.640 --> 0:26:16.359
<v Speaker 4>If it was a full year, yes, but for Boulder.

0:26:17.440 --> 0:26:19.240
<v Speaker 2>For Boulder, I'll help move you in so and so

0:26:19.359 --> 0:26:22.560
<v Speaker 2>I'll go through the process again, all over.

0:26:22.560 --> 0:26:24.679
<v Speaker 4>Over again, and then next year you can do the

0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 4>same thing.

0:26:26.000 --> 0:26:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Well I'll be good by then I will have gotten

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:29.920
<v Speaker 2>used to it. But yeah, I think it'll be interesting

0:26:30.280 --> 0:26:32.840
<v Speaker 2>to kind of just say bye. And and that's a

0:26:32.840 --> 0:26:35.880
<v Speaker 2>weird thing seeing other people's parents pack up the door.

0:26:35.920 --> 0:26:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Even with Ava going to n y U, I still

0:26:37.960 --> 0:26:39.800
<v Speaker 2>drove a car over and helped her up in her

0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:42.120
<v Speaker 2>norm So to not help you set up your room

0:26:42.200 --> 0:26:44.000
<v Speaker 2>feels very very strange to me.

0:26:52.760 --> 0:26:55.360
<v Speaker 1>We gotta do this twice. Yeah, but by the time

0:26:55.400 --> 0:26:58.959
<v Speaker 1>you get over the empty nest syndrome, once she's settled

0:26:59.000 --> 0:27:02.200
<v Speaker 1>in Spain and you're good and you find your joy

0:27:02.280 --> 0:27:07.440
<v Speaker 1>and your freedom, she's gonna come back Christmas baby really tight,

0:27:08.280 --> 0:27:12.000
<v Speaker 1>and then you gotta take her back out to yeah,

0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:13.800
<v Speaker 1>and then do the whole thing again.

0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:14.280
<v Speaker 4>I do.

0:27:14.480 --> 0:27:15.959
<v Speaker 1>I all know of that.

0:27:15.960 --> 0:27:18.040
<v Speaker 2>That's tough and yeah, and I was also thinking, like

0:27:18.040 --> 0:27:19.440
<v Speaker 2>we've had to get all this stuff that you're gonna

0:27:19.440 --> 0:27:20.919
<v Speaker 2>be getting in Spain, Like what do you do? Just

0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:21.600
<v Speaker 2>like toss it.

0:27:21.600 --> 0:27:22.440
<v Speaker 4>It's a whole new thing.

0:27:22.720 --> 0:27:25.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know to drive it back Like great

0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 2>for the next persons not have to buy all new

0:27:27.720 --> 0:27:30.480
<v Speaker 2>things to go to Boulder. But it's fine. It's a

0:27:30.520 --> 0:27:31.040
<v Speaker 2>five below.

0:27:31.240 --> 0:27:31.960
<v Speaker 4>That's a thing there.

0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:37.119
<v Speaker 3>Five below that was your favorite favorite favorite store growing up.

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:39.760
<v Speaker 2>And I loved it too, because everything is five dollars.

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:44.200
<v Speaker 4>I take my sisters now for their birthday Christmas. I'm like, guys,

0:27:44.240 --> 0:27:46.680
<v Speaker 4>five below trip, let's go, and they're so excited.

0:27:47.119 --> 0:27:49.200
<v Speaker 1>Who else do you have? Isn't it more than don't

0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 1>you have several people you know going to Bolder?

0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:52.840
<v Speaker 4>Yeah they're not, I mean, not as close as I

0:27:52.880 --> 0:27:55.760
<v Speaker 4>am with Neve, But yeah, I do know quite a

0:27:55.760 --> 0:27:58.480
<v Speaker 4>few people. I'd say like ten, just from all parts

0:27:58.520 --> 0:28:01.639
<v Speaker 4>of life. Like those service trips. Were talking about three

0:28:01.640 --> 0:28:03.560
<v Speaker 4>of those people who I am that on one trip

0:28:03.640 --> 0:28:08.600
<v Speaker 4>in twenty twenty two are all going to Boulder. So random,

0:28:08.640 --> 0:28:11.000
<v Speaker 4>so weird, and I haven't talked to them in like

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:12.880
<v Speaker 4>two years and they're going there.

0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:16.119
<v Speaker 2>So wow. And again the power of social media that

0:28:16.160 --> 0:28:18.639
<v Speaker 2>you could stay connected and know that you all are

0:28:18.680 --> 0:28:21.320
<v Speaker 2>going to go there. Yeah, what are you most looking

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:25.920
<v Speaker 2>forward to? Like when you get to Boulder? Hm?

0:28:27.359 --> 0:28:28.240
<v Speaker 4>I really want to hike?

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:30.280
<v Speaker 2>That is so funny.

0:28:30.359 --> 0:28:36.520
<v Speaker 4>Well yeah, and oh no, no, no, no skiing over hiking.

0:28:37.240 --> 0:28:40.400
<v Speaker 4>Hiking's more accessible for me. Skiing means like I have

0:28:40.440 --> 0:28:42.080
<v Speaker 4>to go and rent skis into the whole thing.

0:28:42.240 --> 0:28:44.360
<v Speaker 2>But it is funny. I mean, I will say this,

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:47.040
<v Speaker 2>I'll brag on you a little bit because you were

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:50.760
<v Speaker 2>just twelve years old when you summitted Killemanjarro and it

0:28:50.920 --> 0:28:54.080
<v Speaker 2>was remarkable because you were throwing up. I probably could

0:28:54.080 --> 0:28:56.000
<v Speaker 2>have gotten me. I don't know know. I was wondering

0:28:56.000 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 2>if I was the worst parent in the world or

0:28:58.840 --> 0:29:02.520
<v Speaker 2>this was a good motivating experience for you. But you

0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:05.240
<v Speaker 2>struggled and you did it anyway. And there were a

0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:06.840
<v Speaker 2>couple of times where you're like, and you've you've you

0:29:06.960 --> 0:29:09.640
<v Speaker 2>climbed Mount Baker, which is a glacier, You went up

0:29:09.680 --> 0:29:11.840
<v Speaker 2>the Roman Wall. You said you couldn't do it. The

0:29:11.880 --> 0:29:15.440
<v Speaker 2>guy who actually had summited ever said you're going up.

0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:19.280
<v Speaker 4>Oh, he dragged me basically, but but you walked.

0:29:19.360 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 2>It was your feet that got you up. And I

0:29:21.360 --> 0:29:24.600
<v Speaker 2>and I've seen you've done the You've done the Andes Mountains.

0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:26.560
<v Speaker 2>You got up to like fifteen thousand feet there. So

0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:29.880
<v Speaker 2>you and you hated it every step of the way,

0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:32.480
<v Speaker 2>and and you complained every step of the way, which

0:29:32.480 --> 0:29:34.880
<v Speaker 2>I understand. You were a kid. So it's so funny

0:29:34.920 --> 0:29:38.200
<v Speaker 2>the kid who I I did force you, I did

0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:41.480
<v Speaker 2>push you now says you like hiking. What what was

0:29:41.560 --> 0:29:42.280
<v Speaker 2>the change?

0:29:42.320 --> 0:29:42.400
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:29:42.480 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 2>How did you go from hating it and not honestly

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:48.200
<v Speaker 2>like hating me for it and saying, now I hate

0:29:48.240 --> 0:29:50.640
<v Speaker 2>hiking because you made me do it. What was the

0:29:50.720 --> 0:29:53.040
<v Speaker 2>change where suddenly you're like, I like this, Well, I

0:29:53.120 --> 0:29:53.520
<v Speaker 2>love it.

0:29:53.640 --> 0:29:56.320
<v Speaker 4>I think I securely liked it all along. It's just

0:29:56.360 --> 0:29:58.680
<v Speaker 4>you want to hate things that your mom makes you do.

0:29:59.720 --> 0:30:04.000
<v Speaker 4>That's that's just a guarantee. I don't know. I I

0:30:04.560 --> 0:30:06.920
<v Speaker 4>being at the top is just that's an unmatched failing.

0:30:07.160 --> 0:30:10.160
<v Speaker 4>So I kind of just relished in that. We also

0:30:10.200 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 4>haven't hiked in a while, and so I do kind

0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:13.840
<v Speaker 4>of miss it because it really did take up a

0:30:13.920 --> 0:30:16.400
<v Speaker 4>lot of our time. Like we would go upstate and

0:30:16.440 --> 0:30:18.479
<v Speaker 4>we'd hike up, or we'd go up and down our

0:30:18.560 --> 0:30:19.720
<v Speaker 4>driveway what like.

0:30:19.760 --> 0:30:24.600
<v Speaker 2>The entire day with fortys yes, and ever.

0:30:27.040 --> 0:30:29.840
<v Speaker 4>We did that every single weekend.

0:30:29.520 --> 0:30:31.479
<v Speaker 2>Because you had to train. There's no way you can

0:30:31.800 --> 0:30:32.160
<v Speaker 2>walk up.

0:30:32.240 --> 0:30:34.560
<v Speaker 4>It's weird to not have that because it was so

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:36.719
<v Speaker 4>it was a part of your life. It really was.

0:30:37.280 --> 0:30:41.040
<v Speaker 4>So I'm excited and also Colorado, like, you can't not

0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:43.640
<v Speaker 4>like hiking in those mountains. It's so pretty.

0:30:43.920 --> 0:30:45.920
<v Speaker 1>What age were you carrying them the packs?

0:30:46.040 --> 0:30:50.160
<v Speaker 2>Oh eleven, yeah, forty pound packs because to go up

0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:51.920
<v Speaker 2>Mount Baker, to go up a glacier like that, and

0:30:51.960 --> 0:30:55.680
<v Speaker 2>we were we actually camped on the glacier. Oh yeah, yes,

0:30:55.800 --> 0:30:57.880
<v Speaker 2>and we had crampons and anyway you have to carry.

0:30:58.680 --> 0:31:01.600
<v Speaker 2>Basically you have to carry possible you have to have

0:31:01.600 --> 0:31:03.440
<v Speaker 2>a pick axe. You have your crampons, but you also

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:06.880
<v Speaker 2>have to have clothing for any possible weather. When you're

0:31:06.920 --> 0:31:09.360
<v Speaker 2>up that high on a mountain, when you're doing serious hiking,

0:31:09.600 --> 0:31:11.880
<v Speaker 2>you have to have rain, your warmth, you have to

0:31:11.920 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 2>be able to have layers. There's just a lot of

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:15.600
<v Speaker 2>things you have to carry, and you're own water. We

0:31:15.640 --> 0:31:18.160
<v Speaker 2>actually drank the water from the glacier. But you know,

0:31:18.200 --> 0:31:22.360
<v Speaker 2>we had to carry MREs ready to eat meals. What

0:31:22.400 --> 0:31:23.640
<v Speaker 2>did I said? I don't know if I said that

0:31:24.080 --> 0:31:25.880
<v Speaker 2>meals ready to eat? Is that what it is? Yeah,

0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 2>but yeah, there's a lot of things you have to carry. Now,

0:31:28.080 --> 0:31:29.800
<v Speaker 2>we did take some things out of your pack and

0:31:29.800 --> 0:31:32.520
<v Speaker 2>put it in ours to lighten your load, which I get.

0:31:32.560 --> 0:31:34.640
<v Speaker 2>And then the nice thing is the final stretch up

0:31:34.640 --> 0:31:37.360
<v Speaker 2>that Roman wall. Our guide let you leave the pack,

0:31:37.360 --> 0:31:42.120
<v Speaker 2>which is almost never allowed. But I don't yeah, at

0:31:42.160 --> 0:31:43.640
<v Speaker 2>the very end.

0:31:43.960 --> 0:31:45.920
<v Speaker 4>Because it was really rough. It was rough.

0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.480
<v Speaker 2>It was tough, but like you said, if you when

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:50.120
<v Speaker 2>you get to the top, it's an unmatched feeling and

0:31:50.120 --> 0:31:52.320
<v Speaker 2>the only reason why it's an unmatched feeling is because

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:54.840
<v Speaker 2>it was so hard. If it was easy. I remember

0:31:54.840 --> 0:31:56.720
<v Speaker 2>I told you guys this. I don't know if you

0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:59.280
<v Speaker 2>appreciated it, but I wanted you to feel what it

0:31:59.320 --> 0:32:01.000
<v Speaker 2>was like to get to the other side of pain.

0:32:01.120 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 2>To get on the other side of pain. That was

0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:07.239
<v Speaker 2>your favorite because it's a Umanism for life. If you

0:32:07.280 --> 0:32:09.400
<v Speaker 2>get through this really tough time, you don't think you

0:32:09.440 --> 0:32:12.160
<v Speaker 2>can do it. You actually want to quit a million times.

0:32:12.360 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 2>But when you keep pushing yourself and you get to

0:32:14.080 --> 0:32:15.640
<v Speaker 2>the other side of it, you're like it was You

0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:17.560
<v Speaker 2>always end up saying it was worth it.

0:32:18.440 --> 0:32:19.840
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it was.

0:32:21.320 --> 0:32:24.080
<v Speaker 2>And now you're going to be hiking it. I'm so

0:32:24.120 --> 0:32:26.600
<v Speaker 2>excited to hear that that that is going to be

0:32:26.640 --> 0:32:29.320
<v Speaker 2>an awesome thing to see you hiking and skiing. And

0:32:29.600 --> 0:32:32.640
<v Speaker 2>I would say, my biggest advice to you is to

0:32:32.720 --> 0:32:37.320
<v Speaker 2>go to class. Don't skip class. Go to class. That's

0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:41.360
<v Speaker 2>the plan. It would be more than a plan, it's

0:32:41.440 --> 0:32:41.880
<v Speaker 2>my life.

0:32:42.040 --> 0:32:43.840
<v Speaker 4>No I will, I promise.

0:32:44.720 --> 0:32:47.960
<v Speaker 2>That's good. And what you say, you're getting a marketing degree,

0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:49.880
<v Speaker 2>But what is it that you are hoping that you

0:32:49.920 --> 0:32:51.640
<v Speaker 2>can do with your college degree?

0:32:51.720 --> 0:32:57.120
<v Speaker 4>No idea? I got nothing honest answer that decision will

0:32:57.120 --> 0:32:58.160
<v Speaker 4>be made throughout time.

0:32:59.160 --> 0:32:59.920
<v Speaker 2>That's very fair.

0:33:00.080 --> 0:33:01.960
<v Speaker 4>I kind of want to be like Emily in Paris

0:33:02.720 --> 0:33:03.720
<v Speaker 4>if anyone's seen that.

0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:07.400
<v Speaker 2>Show one of your favorites. And how you mean you

0:33:07.400 --> 0:33:10.040
<v Speaker 2>want to live abroad and be in a marketing firm.

0:33:10.440 --> 0:33:12.640
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it doesn't have to be abroad. Maybe there's like

0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:17.800
<v Speaker 4>offices abroad and I can travel, but yeah, something like that.

0:33:17.840 --> 0:33:18.440
<v Speaker 4>I have no idea.

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:22.920
<v Speaker 1>You get the reference to Emilion parents reference. I'm not

0:33:22.960 --> 0:33:23.680
<v Speaker 1>alone in the room?

0:33:23.760 --> 0:33:25.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay, season four just drop? Did you finish?

0:33:26.840 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 4>It's only one part? One part?

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:28.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay?

0:33:29.880 --> 0:33:33.840
<v Speaker 2>We were actually all at TJ's. Was that at TJ's birthday? Yeah,

0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 2>the first night when Emily and Paris dropped.

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:37.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh, and then.

0:33:37.320 --> 0:33:39.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't think we're gonna watch that

0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:42.040
<v Speaker 2>because half the room doesn't watch it, meaning TJ has

0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:43.640
<v Speaker 2>no idea what the show even is.

0:33:43.760 --> 0:33:47.320
<v Speaker 1>I said, do your thing, say you could go ahead.

0:33:46.760 --> 0:33:49.240
<v Speaker 1>I just some four seasons behind.

0:33:50.040 --> 0:33:53.560
<v Speaker 2>Apparently if you watched the first episode you'd be like, nah,

0:33:53.600 --> 0:33:54.640
<v Speaker 2>you would not like it.

0:33:54.880 --> 0:33:55.880
<v Speaker 4>Really now.

0:33:57.840 --> 0:34:02.480
<v Speaker 1>Italy thing something? And then what was the Rome and

0:34:02.720 --> 0:34:03.960
<v Speaker 1>the Under?

0:34:04.000 --> 0:34:05.080
<v Speaker 4>The Under?

0:34:06.400 --> 0:34:08.440
<v Speaker 2>When we were in Rome, we found a really cheesy

0:34:08.520 --> 0:34:15.200
<v Speaker 2>movie called Gelato that you know what. You know what

0:34:15.719 --> 0:34:19.000
<v Speaker 2>if you watched that and enjoyed it for whatever reason

0:34:19.040 --> 0:34:21.400
<v Speaker 2>you enjoyed it, then you would enjoy Emily and Pass.

0:34:23.200 --> 0:34:25.800
<v Speaker 4>I love a good cheesy movie our TV show.

0:34:27.280 --> 0:34:30.640
<v Speaker 2>Can you explain why you like rom comms to tj M?

0:34:32.280 --> 0:34:35.160
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I just I love the false perception

0:34:35.239 --> 0:34:39.360
<v Speaker 4>of love. I think it's very unrealistic, but it's also

0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:40.480
<v Speaker 4>so fun to watch.

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:45.239
<v Speaker 2>Do you think it gives and I'll just say, specifically

0:34:45.320 --> 0:34:50.920
<v Speaker 2>young women a false expectation. Isn't that damaging?

0:34:51.040 --> 0:34:53.480
<v Speaker 4>It's so damaging. I mean, we grew up watching them,

0:34:53.520 --> 0:34:57.000
<v Speaker 4>you love them. We were even like the Barbie movies

0:34:57.200 --> 0:35:00.399
<v Speaker 4>and and their love interests. I'm like, what's happening? It's

0:35:00.440 --> 0:35:03.680
<v Speaker 4>not real, but that's my way to escape.

0:35:04.680 --> 0:35:06.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm not convinced. I've been saying this to her a

0:35:06.800 --> 0:35:10.600
<v Speaker 1>lot recently. I'm not convinced you are her kid, because

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 1>you all are so different. Just y'all both watch rom coms,

0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:17.319
<v Speaker 1>but for different reasons. You you answered like dead pant,

0:35:17.400 --> 0:35:20.759
<v Speaker 1>Yeah it's it's it's a total load of crape, but

0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:22.480
<v Speaker 1>still it gives a false import.

0:35:22.560 --> 0:35:27.400
<v Speaker 5>You're you all are so different, I swear, And what

0:35:27.440 --> 0:35:29.040
<v Speaker 5>did I tell you when you question whether or not

0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:34.120
<v Speaker 5>Analyst was actually mine from a DNA standpoint.

0:35:34.120 --> 0:35:34.839
<v Speaker 1>Wait, I don't know.

0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:37.759
<v Speaker 2>I told you that twenty three and meters has proved that,

0:35:38.040 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 2>in fact, is my child.

0:35:39.440 --> 0:35:42.040
<v Speaker 1>Even the fact that you have to turn to a d.

0:35:44.200 --> 0:35:46.040
<v Speaker 2>Well, I just be like that was irrefutable. I mean,

0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:48.800
<v Speaker 2>if you really had questions, I can promise you. I

0:35:48.840 --> 0:35:50.680
<v Speaker 2>can assure you she is my child.

0:35:50.719 --> 0:35:53.880
<v Speaker 1>I think you and Ava are pas. They say, exactly

0:35:53.920 --> 0:35:54.480
<v Speaker 1>the same person.

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:55.560
<v Speaker 4>They grew up on the sandpod.

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:57.759
<v Speaker 2>But who do I get along with better on a

0:35:57.800 --> 0:36:01.360
<v Speaker 2>day to day basis you? Because when you're too much alike,

0:36:01.400 --> 0:36:04.120
<v Speaker 2>you butt heads and we compliment each other. So I

0:36:04.200 --> 0:36:07.120
<v Speaker 2>think it's it's extra sad because you've just been like

0:36:07.160 --> 0:36:09.759
<v Speaker 2>such an awesome I don't want to call you a

0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:11.880
<v Speaker 2>roommate because you're my daughter, but to live with just

0:36:12.080 --> 0:36:15.399
<v Speaker 2>just like what a unique experience. You can look at

0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:18.560
<v Speaker 2>the bad and the negative with divorce and upheople and

0:36:18.600 --> 0:36:20.960
<v Speaker 2>all of that. That's not anything I would ever suggest

0:36:21.040 --> 0:36:23.960
<v Speaker 2>or want for anyone or any family. However, we have

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.120
<v Speaker 2>had the unique experience of being able to just be

0:36:26.200 --> 0:36:28.719
<v Speaker 2>the two of us, and we always had so many

0:36:28.760 --> 0:36:30.839
<v Speaker 2>people in our apartment and so many people different living

0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:34.080
<v Speaker 2>with different people living with us at different times. And

0:36:34.160 --> 0:36:37.480
<v Speaker 2>we've always had a lot of people. Even during the pandemic,

0:36:37.840 --> 0:36:40.480
<v Speaker 2>we had a commune. Basically we had friends living with us.

0:36:40.480 --> 0:36:42.600
<v Speaker 4>It was like fifteen people up there.

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:44.920
<v Speaker 2>We did, and it was a bubble, but it was

0:36:45.080 --> 0:36:47.920
<v Speaker 2>like fifteen people and so we're used to having just

0:36:48.760 --> 0:36:50.719
<v Speaker 2>a loud crowd around.

0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:51.920
<v Speaker 4>Us, and so it was. Yeah, it was a big

0:36:52.000 --> 0:36:55.279
<v Speaker 4>change though for just us too, it was. But I

0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.680
<v Speaker 4>think we did got into a groove. We did.

0:36:59.120 --> 0:37:01.799
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and we've I think we've only had like one

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:06.520
<v Speaker 2>or two flare ups ever, like in eighteen years. And

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:10.319
<v Speaker 2>that I'm just appreciative of your You have a very

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:14.560
<v Speaker 2>calm and cool like you're the cool girl. Everybody wants

0:37:14.680 --> 0:37:16.920
<v Speaker 2>you to be their friend. It's like TJ's the cool guy,

0:37:16.960 --> 0:37:21.080
<v Speaker 2>everybody wants him to like them. You have that same quality. Me.

0:37:21.239 --> 0:37:24.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, please like me, please like me, which is annoying.

0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:24.719
<v Speaker 2>And I get that.

0:37:24.960 --> 0:37:27.520
<v Speaker 1>So we get along, but we don't get it because

0:37:27.520 --> 0:37:29.920
<v Speaker 1>we're just sitting back mind in our own business in

0:37:29.960 --> 0:37:31.480
<v Speaker 1>the corner. Yeah, why are you all trying to pull

0:37:31.560 --> 0:37:35.520
<v Speaker 1>us into this? We are absolutely and I that's the

0:37:35.560 --> 0:37:37.360
<v Speaker 1>thing about Anily. There have been times we have a

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:40.239
<v Speaker 1>room full of people and I don't understand anything they're

0:37:40.280 --> 0:37:43.160
<v Speaker 1>talking about, and I think it's ridiculous and silly, and

0:37:43.280 --> 0:37:45.440
<v Speaker 1>everybody's into it. And then I finally cut my ales

0:37:45.480 --> 0:37:47.440
<v Speaker 1>off an Anily. She's got the same look on her

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 1>phrase as I do. I say, Okay, I found my tribe.

0:37:51.600 --> 0:37:55.440
<v Speaker 4>That shouldn't be my whole life. It's like Ava and

0:37:55.560 --> 0:37:59.240
<v Speaker 4>Mom talking and I'm like, just there, absolutely silent.

0:38:00.160 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 2>It's hard to get a word in. Edge Wise, I

0:38:02.320 --> 0:38:05.360
<v Speaker 2>will say yeah, and then add my mom, no, needn't miss.

0:38:05.200 --> 0:38:08.480
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, I'm we'll never speak again.

0:38:09.000 --> 0:38:10.920
<v Speaker 2>You and Pop my dad will just be like, I'll

0:38:10.960 --> 0:38:13.640
<v Speaker 2>take it in, observe, listen, and probably be the wiser

0:38:13.719 --> 0:38:16.000
<v Speaker 2>for it, because the less you talk, the more you learn.

0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:28.440
<v Speaker 1>How often did you Analyst feel like it was funny

0:38:28.440 --> 0:38:31.560
<v Speaker 1>at times but that you all were roommates, certainly more

0:38:31.600 --> 0:38:34.759
<v Speaker 1>so in recent months as you got more freedom, and yeah, graduate, yeah,

0:38:34.840 --> 0:38:37.000
<v Speaker 1>but it was It's funny that I absolutely see you

0:38:37.000 --> 0:38:39.360
<v Speaker 1>all texting or talk and say, hey, what are you

0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:42.319
<v Speaker 1>doing tonight? What are you doing? Can I have the apartment? Well,

0:38:42.360 --> 0:38:44.960
<v Speaker 1>we want the apartment? Like you do talk like we do.

0:38:45.840 --> 0:38:48.520
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's only been in recent months. Yes, I definitely

0:38:48.560 --> 0:38:52.200
<v Speaker 4>think in the beginning it was what was I like sixteen, Yeah,

0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:55.920
<v Speaker 4>I obviously had the trick curfew. It wasn't as much

0:38:55.960 --> 0:38:57.879
<v Speaker 4>as like, yes, I raised you like I'm going wherever

0:38:57.960 --> 0:38:58.200
<v Speaker 4>I want.

0:38:58.320 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 2>I raised you very strictly, yes, New York extity.

0:39:00.920 --> 0:39:03.440
<v Speaker 4>And that now it's I mean, what's the point I'm

0:39:03.480 --> 0:39:06.000
<v Speaker 4>living anyway, So it's kind of just I'm.

0:39:05.800 --> 0:39:08.919
<v Speaker 2>A big believer. This past year it's I've I made

0:39:08.920 --> 0:39:14.200
<v Speaker 2>a conscious effort to loosen the rope and to let

0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:18.160
<v Speaker 2>you have more freedom, just because when it happens drastically

0:39:18.239 --> 0:39:20.600
<v Speaker 2>and everyone has their own way of parenting, but when

0:39:20.640 --> 0:39:24.120
<v Speaker 2>you go from being strict and curfuse and you know,

0:39:24.440 --> 0:39:25.800
<v Speaker 2>do this, don't do this, and if you do this,

0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:28.040
<v Speaker 2>you're gonna be punished and there's gonna be consequences. I

0:39:28.920 --> 0:39:32.560
<v Speaker 2>absolutely raised you like that up until this last.

0:39:32.400 --> 0:39:34.520
<v Speaker 4>Year, and then I thought, which I think is totally fair.

0:39:34.760 --> 0:39:38.200
<v Speaker 2>I just wanted it to be a little bit more

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:43.160
<v Speaker 2>of a transition and less of a jarring, completely opposite experience, right,

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:47.040
<v Speaker 2>And it's been fun because A I trust you, You've

0:39:47.520 --> 0:39:49.799
<v Speaker 2>I don't I don't think you've you're not somebody who

0:39:49.920 --> 0:39:54.279
<v Speaker 2>was sneaking around or yeah, so I've just I felt

0:39:54.480 --> 0:39:55.440
<v Speaker 2>more comfortable doing that.

0:39:56.480 --> 0:40:00.520
<v Speaker 1>You come back some nights, Oh.

0:40:02.120 --> 0:40:03.160
<v Speaker 4>That was this year.

0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:07.040
<v Speaker 2>Well, the first time you had no curfew was your

0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:08.040
<v Speaker 2>prom I said.

0:40:08.200 --> 0:40:09.920
<v Speaker 4>Oh, yes, I didn't even stay at that late that night,

0:40:09.960 --> 0:40:10.399
<v Speaker 4>and you didn't.

0:40:10.480 --> 0:40:12.560
<v Speaker 2>But I told you you didn't have a curfew. You

0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:14.719
<v Speaker 2>were like home at a fairly decent hour. I was like,

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:16.200
<v Speaker 2>that's funny. It's not how it always works.

0:40:16.280 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 4>It's hilarious.

0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:21.400
<v Speaker 2>It's more fun when you can sneeze, right. But no,

0:40:21.560 --> 0:40:24.160
<v Speaker 2>it's been it's been a really it's been a really

0:40:24.200 --> 0:40:28.040
<v Speaker 2>good year. And I've been, like I said, so impressed

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:32.000
<v Speaker 2>with how you've handled everything. I mean, paparazzi. You you

0:40:32.120 --> 0:40:34.200
<v Speaker 2>actually even handled all that so while that that upset

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:36.319
<v Speaker 2>me more than anything that you know, he was at

0:40:36.360 --> 0:40:39.080
<v Speaker 2>the time, you were under eighteen and your picture was

0:40:39.120 --> 0:40:41.920
<v Speaker 2>being taken without you wanting it to and and you

0:40:42.040 --> 0:40:45.040
<v Speaker 2>handled that with grace, because yeah, what.

0:40:45.120 --> 0:40:45.520
<v Speaker 4>Did you say?

0:40:45.560 --> 0:40:46.960
<v Speaker 2>One time You're like, ooh, they got me good.

0:40:47.360 --> 0:40:49.000
<v Speaker 4>Well, we were in a fight. Do you remember that?

0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:52.400
<v Speaker 4>We were bickering home from the gym. I was, I

0:40:52.640 --> 0:40:54.440
<v Speaker 4>was so mad and you were so mad at me,

0:40:55.000 --> 0:40:57.440
<v Speaker 4>and there there's a picture. I'm like, I have this

0:40:57.680 --> 0:41:00.279
<v Speaker 4>disgusted look on my face and you look like there's

0:41:00.320 --> 0:41:03.160
<v Speaker 4>steam coming out of you. And they got us right,

0:41:03.239 --> 0:41:03.880
<v Speaker 4>we were doing that.

0:41:04.080 --> 0:41:07.000
<v Speaker 2>It was just either you said something or did something

0:41:07.080 --> 0:41:09.600
<v Speaker 2>else like that is inappropriate analyst. So I was giving

0:41:09.640 --> 0:41:10.880
<v Speaker 2>you a stern talking to.

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:13.520
<v Speaker 1>The headline to try to make.

0:41:13.400 --> 0:41:15.839
<v Speaker 4>Fun of the fact that, No, I don't think they

0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:19.279
<v Speaker 4>caught on that we were fighting, but we knew we were.

0:41:20.480 --> 0:41:22.640
<v Speaker 2>And yes, and you're like, they got me good.

0:41:23.239 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 4>They've gotten this. They've gotten me good a few times.

0:41:25.560 --> 0:41:27.360
<v Speaker 2>And then you've taken pictures and made fun of me,

0:41:27.520 --> 0:41:30.640
<v Speaker 2>like the one on the city bike. We ended up

0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:31.920
<v Speaker 2>trying to treat a lot of this to.

0:41:31.920 --> 0:41:35.120
<v Speaker 4>Make light of the situation. It's very strange, and we've tried.

0:41:34.960 --> 0:41:37.080
<v Speaker 2>To treat a lot of this with humor and humility.

0:41:37.160 --> 0:41:39.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think you know, as hard as it's been, like,

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:41.839
<v Speaker 2>those are lessons you will take with you when things

0:41:41.880 --> 0:41:44.560
<v Speaker 2>get tough. Sometimes humor is the only thing that gets

0:41:44.600 --> 0:41:44.879
<v Speaker 2>you through.

0:41:45.040 --> 0:41:45.879
<v Speaker 4>We love dark humor.

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:47.440
<v Speaker 2>You're great at dark himmer.

0:41:47.600 --> 0:41:48.560
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's my forte.

0:41:50.280 --> 0:41:52.640
<v Speaker 2>So does this one over here? Another thing you have

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:56.680
<v Speaker 2>in common that that dark humor, that what did I say, devilish,

0:41:57.760 --> 0:42:02.880
<v Speaker 2>devilish la something like, ye, do you have the same thing.

0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:05.600
<v Speaker 4>It's my favorite thing to do. It always makes people laugh,

0:42:05.840 --> 0:42:08.640
<v Speaker 4>and I love making people laugh. That's the goal.

0:42:08.880 --> 0:42:10.920
<v Speaker 2>From the time you were a little like you were

0:42:10.920 --> 0:42:13.880
<v Speaker 2>a one year old little bobblehead, could barely walk. You

0:42:14.000 --> 0:42:17.120
<v Speaker 2>were making us laugh that but that's you have always

0:42:17.200 --> 0:42:19.239
<v Speaker 2>been the comedic relief in the family, which has been

0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:20.200
<v Speaker 2>which has been fine.

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:22.720
<v Speaker 4>I actually just got a fortune cookie and my fortune

0:42:22.880 --> 0:42:26.080
<v Speaker 4>was like you make the room like happy with your

0:42:26.560 --> 0:42:27.480
<v Speaker 4>comedy or something.

0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:31.560
<v Speaker 2>And that has absolutely been the truth. Ava likes to

0:42:31.640 --> 0:42:34.239
<v Speaker 2>tell you all the time that you were an accident, yes,

0:42:34.840 --> 0:42:35.440
<v Speaker 2>or a mistake.

0:42:35.560 --> 0:42:38.520
<v Speaker 4>She goes, a mistake is her favorite thing.

0:42:38.719 --> 0:42:41.360
<v Speaker 2>I think it's a mistake. You weren't planned, is the point.

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:44.719
<v Speaker 2>But it's I and I said, yeah, but she knows this,

0:42:45.160 --> 0:42:49.560
<v Speaker 2>this this is fully discussed. But I was one and done.

0:42:50.640 --> 0:42:52.920
<v Speaker 2>But you know what I said, you were like the

0:42:53.120 --> 0:42:59.200
<v Speaker 2>greatest joy that I ever ever got. That I wasn't

0:42:59.320 --> 0:43:01.200
<v Speaker 2>choosing or that I I didn't think I wanted, Like

0:43:01.320 --> 0:43:03.120
<v Speaker 2>you were something that came into my life that was

0:43:03.280 --> 0:43:06.040
<v Speaker 2>just turned into the most beautiful thing. Have you ever

0:43:06.120 --> 0:43:08.600
<v Speaker 2>had something where you didn't intend to have it or

0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:10.600
<v Speaker 2>you didn't want it necessarily and then you got it

0:43:10.640 --> 0:43:14.560
<v Speaker 2>and you're like, this is the best thing that ever happened. Yes, okay,

0:43:17.640 --> 0:43:22.320
<v Speaker 2>that's how Annie was this sweet little thing and I

0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:24.640
<v Speaker 2>called her my beanbag you and I think this is

0:43:24.719 --> 0:43:28.759
<v Speaker 2>what makes me cry, because you never wanted to leave

0:43:28.800 --> 0:43:31.840
<v Speaker 2>my side when you were little, and Aba was the opposite. Hilariously,

0:43:32.000 --> 0:43:34.719
<v Speaker 2>she was always running away and saying see you later, bye.

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:38.000
<v Speaker 2>And and now you kind of have done a reversal,

0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:44.840
<v Speaker 2>weave my side and you're like, see I you. You

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:47.680
<v Speaker 2>declared early on, maybe even middle school, I am not

0:43:47.840 --> 0:43:48.839
<v Speaker 2>going to college in New York.

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<v Speaker 4>You knew. I knew. Yeah that was not because I've

0:43:53.400 --> 0:43:55.719
<v Speaker 4>lived here. I don't know. I just I couldn't. I

0:43:55.760 --> 0:43:56.560
<v Speaker 4>couldn't keep doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

0:43:57.080 --> 0:43:59.640
<v Speaker 2>I love that you're sprouting your wings, and I will

0:43:59.680 --> 0:44:03.239
<v Speaker 2>be okay. I will be okay, And I never want

0:44:03.280 --> 0:44:06.160
<v Speaker 2>you to worry about that or make a decision based

0:44:06.200 --> 0:44:09.160
<v Speaker 2>on that, because I love seeing you do your thing,

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:11.480
<v Speaker 2>and I love that you're different than me, and I

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:13.400
<v Speaker 2>love that you're different than your sister. I love that

0:44:13.480 --> 0:44:17.040
<v Speaker 2>you have your own way of operating and going through life.

0:44:17.760 --> 0:44:20.080
<v Speaker 2>It's fun to watch you and I can't wait to

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:20.960
<v Speaker 2>see what you do next.

0:44:21.600 --> 0:44:21.840
<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

0:44:22.160 --> 0:44:23.960
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything rooms you're looking forward to?

0:44:24.760 --> 0:44:24.800
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:44:24.960 --> 0:44:26.920
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything? Not as a joke here, but a

0:44:27.000 --> 0:44:29.920
<v Speaker 1>lot of parents who do their kids. There was even

0:44:29.960 --> 0:44:32.640
<v Speaker 1>this thing? Was it emptiness? Divorce? Right? Once you have

0:44:32.800 --> 0:44:35.399
<v Speaker 1>time to now focus on each other, you realize, oh,

0:44:35.640 --> 0:44:37.960
<v Speaker 1>we don't like each other. Yep, there's a thing, But

0:44:38.160 --> 0:44:42.239
<v Speaker 1>a lot of folks start to re discover themselves and

0:44:42.239 --> 0:44:45.160
<v Speaker 1>start doing. But is there anything you are looking forward

0:44:45.200 --> 0:44:45.680
<v Speaker 1>to possible?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? There? The thing is, there's been so much change,

0:44:48.280 --> 0:44:51.160
<v Speaker 2>and my focus and your focus has been on making

0:44:51.200 --> 0:44:54.000
<v Speaker 2>sure our kids are okay. Now that I've got the

0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:58.200
<v Speaker 2>two girls like out in the world living their lives,

0:44:58.800 --> 0:45:01.200
<v Speaker 2>and I don't know how much much you know, I've

0:45:01.760 --> 0:45:05.600
<v Speaker 2>focused on me or on me and on us. Of

0:45:05.680 --> 0:45:07.560
<v Speaker 2>course there's been an element to that, but it's always

0:45:07.600 --> 0:45:13.040
<v Speaker 2>been in the background of them. And so they say

0:45:13.160 --> 0:45:15.080
<v Speaker 2>to your point that either a lot of times what

0:45:15.160 --> 0:45:17.879
<v Speaker 2>happens in a marriage or any relationship is either when

0:45:17.920 --> 0:45:20.520
<v Speaker 2>you have that now quality time where you're not distracted

0:45:20.880 --> 0:45:24.640
<v Speaker 2>with kids, you either find this new bond and you

0:45:24.719 --> 0:45:26.680
<v Speaker 2>grow closer and you have this like I think that

0:45:26.760 --> 0:45:30.600
<v Speaker 2>happened for my parents big time, like significantly, which was

0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:34.759
<v Speaker 2>cool to see. But or you realize that you don't

0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:36.920
<v Speaker 2>need to be together and you need to find something

0:45:36.960 --> 0:45:39.759
<v Speaker 2>else or someone else, So it's a time to really

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:40.920
<v Speaker 2>re evaluate everything.

0:45:41.040 --> 0:45:44.880
<v Speaker 1>So, wow, this is gonna be the no.

0:45:45.280 --> 0:45:46.960
<v Speaker 2>But you know, you know what's interesting too, is like

0:45:47.120 --> 0:45:49.840
<v Speaker 2>getting in a relationship later in life when you already

0:45:49.880 --> 0:45:52.560
<v Speaker 2>have kids. You never got that honeymoon period where you

0:45:52.800 --> 0:45:54.160
<v Speaker 2>just got to be the two of you, right, And

0:45:54.239 --> 0:45:58.040
<v Speaker 2>I know we have Sabine, but the thing is you

0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:01.919
<v Speaker 2>are always focused the kids. You're always a major part

0:46:02.040 --> 0:46:04.920
<v Speaker 2>of any relationship you have. So this will be kind

0:46:04.960 --> 0:46:08.800
<v Speaker 2>of the first time where I can focus lucky you

0:46:10.280 --> 0:46:13.360
<v Speaker 2>on you and us in a way that how's that

0:46:13.360 --> 0:46:13.640
<v Speaker 2>going to go?

0:46:14.120 --> 0:46:15.879
<v Speaker 4>I haven't been able to do before, Scared.

0:46:17.920 --> 0:46:18.600
<v Speaker 2>It'll be too much.

0:46:18.680 --> 0:46:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's true. Every single morning, I think you know this,

0:46:20.800 --> 0:46:24.400
<v Speaker 1>at least we our day is structured. We can't do

0:46:24.520 --> 0:46:27.440
<v Speaker 1>anything until we hear from you and Toby about what

0:46:27.600 --> 0:46:30.239
<v Speaker 1>the day and then we fill it in around you guys.

0:46:30.320 --> 0:46:33.919
<v Speaker 1>So to think now we only have the being schedule, yeah,

0:46:34.360 --> 0:46:37.120
<v Speaker 1>right to consider and we usually can't fill out our

0:46:37.160 --> 0:46:39.759
<v Speaker 1>schedule at least until later because.

0:46:40.040 --> 0:46:42.319
<v Speaker 4>I never wake up my mind, and you don't wake

0:46:42.400 --> 0:46:43.120
<v Speaker 4>up till eleven.

0:46:43.480 --> 0:46:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes, you don't wake up until eleven o'clock.

0:46:47.280 --> 0:46:49.320
<v Speaker 4>No, I wake up that like ted, That is a

0:46:49.480 --> 0:46:51.560
<v Speaker 4>normal time to wake up. But you guys are just crazy.

0:46:51.680 --> 0:46:53.840
<v Speaker 1>But you don't come out and say hello until eleven.

0:46:54.120 --> 0:46:57.040
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I have to I have to process be waking up.

0:46:57.560 --> 0:46:59.960
<v Speaker 2>That is where different significant.

0:47:01.120 --> 0:47:03.880
<v Speaker 4>Maybe when I'm older, I could see myself being an earlier.

0:47:04.040 --> 0:47:06.640
<v Speaker 2>But you know, but how how much have I annoyed

0:47:06.680 --> 0:47:09.200
<v Speaker 2>you in the last and a half every day asking

0:47:09.239 --> 0:47:10.080
<v Speaker 2>you what are you doing?

0:47:11.880 --> 0:47:14.200
<v Speaker 4>And you're like, You've never acted like this. You've never

0:47:14.360 --> 0:47:16.719
<v Speaker 4>like said that before, because there's always like, oh, you

0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:18.520
<v Speaker 4>went to work, I went to school. We kind of

0:47:18.600 --> 0:47:19.719
<v Speaker 4>like met at home, you know.

0:47:19.920 --> 0:47:22.160
<v Speaker 2>But now I have a lot more time, and I'm

0:47:22.280 --> 0:47:24.160
<v Speaker 2>trying to incorporate you, and I know you're leaving soon,

0:47:24.239 --> 0:47:26.080
<v Speaker 2>so I was trying to incorporate you in as much

0:47:26.120 --> 0:47:28.640
<v Speaker 2>as possible and you were like, now you're suffocating.

0:47:28.719 --> 0:47:30.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm like, mom, I've never had someone care this

0:47:31.120 --> 0:47:32.280
<v Speaker 4>much about my schedule.

0:47:33.800 --> 0:47:36.080
<v Speaker 2>Can you please go back to what you used to

0:47:36.120 --> 0:47:37.719
<v Speaker 2>do in the morning and I didn't have to see you.

0:47:37.920 --> 0:47:40.400
<v Speaker 1>I could go to work many times that I say, heye,

0:47:40.560 --> 0:47:43.320
<v Speaker 1>just give her a beat. Don't worry about it because

0:47:43.360 --> 0:47:46.239
<v Speaker 1>she's stressing you out about your schedule, because she's trying

0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:47.920
<v Speaker 1>to make some plan. Think I don't know.

0:47:48.200 --> 0:47:50.200
<v Speaker 4>I let it go. Thank you.

0:47:50.680 --> 0:47:52.960
<v Speaker 1>What are we going to do now? There's no wow.

0:47:54.840 --> 0:48:00.239
<v Speaker 4>I there will be a.

0:48:00.239 --> 0:48:05.560
<v Speaker 2>Transition, and I think we will all find some freedom

0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:09.360
<v Speaker 2>that we didn't have before, and we can still have

0:48:09.680 --> 0:48:12.239
<v Speaker 2>a beautiful, loving relationship. But it's just gonna it's gonna

0:48:12.520 --> 0:48:15.200
<v Speaker 2>change a little bit, and it's been changing this past year. Yeah,

0:48:15.480 --> 0:48:17.600
<v Speaker 2>you shift. I'll always be your mom, but I get

0:48:17.640 --> 0:48:19.080
<v Speaker 2>to be a little bit more of your friend now,

0:48:19.760 --> 0:48:22.239
<v Speaker 2>and that's kind of fun. I can I can take

0:48:22.320 --> 0:48:25.520
<v Speaker 2>my hands off the wheel a little bit, and I

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:28.000
<v Speaker 2>you know, little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems.

0:48:28.000 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 2>I always wanted to do the hard work early, not

0:48:30.840 --> 0:48:32.440
<v Speaker 2>that you weren't going to make mistakes. I hope you

0:48:32.520 --> 0:48:34.440
<v Speaker 2>make plenty of them. I just hope you make them safely,

0:48:35.000 --> 0:48:37.759
<v Speaker 2>but that's how you learn. But I do feel like

0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:41.680
<v Speaker 2>it's nice to know that I put in the work early,

0:48:42.160 --> 0:48:44.640
<v Speaker 2>and now you get to lead the way and make

0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:46.320
<v Speaker 2>your own path. And I feel good about it.

0:48:46.760 --> 0:48:48.640
<v Speaker 4>I feel good about it, definitely.

0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:51.839
<v Speaker 2>Well, I can't wait. I can't wait to watch you fly.

0:48:52.040 --> 0:48:52.319
<v Speaker 4>Oh wait.

0:48:52.360 --> 0:48:54.120
<v Speaker 2>I had these cute little quotes I wanted to leave

0:48:54.160 --> 0:48:57.760
<v Speaker 2>anyone who's going through this. Sometimes I like quotes, tej.

0:48:57.680 --> 0:49:00.800
<v Speaker 1>You like quotes. I was bracing for it.

0:49:01.239 --> 0:49:01.680
<v Speaker 4>I oh no.

0:49:01.800 --> 0:49:03.520
<v Speaker 2>So these were the two quotes I really liked, and

0:49:03.560 --> 0:49:05.600
<v Speaker 2>I wanted to share these with any other parent out

0:49:05.640 --> 0:49:09.440
<v Speaker 2>there who's going through this. These these made me. The

0:49:09.480 --> 0:49:13.120
<v Speaker 2>first one's from the Dali Lama give the ones you love,

0:49:13.520 --> 0:49:17.439
<v Speaker 2>wings to fly, roots to come back, and reasons to stay.

0:49:18.280 --> 0:49:19.560
<v Speaker 2>I thought that was very sweet.

0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:20.320
<v Speaker 4>Preach.

0:49:20.960 --> 0:49:22.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm gonna get that tattooed on me.

0:49:24.120 --> 0:49:26.080
<v Speaker 2>I love that I had that impact on you or

0:49:26.120 --> 0:49:32.799
<v Speaker 2>the doll. I would you say in your handwriting, Oh wow,

0:49:32.960 --> 0:49:36.360
<v Speaker 2>that's not cheesy. This one, however, has some humor to it,

0:49:36.480 --> 0:49:38.400
<v Speaker 2>and this made me laugh. And I think sometimes, as

0:49:38.440 --> 0:49:40.240
<v Speaker 2>we talked about, that's what we need in these moments

0:49:40.239 --> 0:49:43.440
<v Speaker 2>when we're a little sad. However painful, the process of

0:49:43.600 --> 0:49:46.680
<v Speaker 2>leaving home for parents and for children, the really frightening

0:49:46.719 --> 0:49:48.880
<v Speaker 2>thing for both would be the prospect of the child

0:49:49.280 --> 0:49:50.080
<v Speaker 2>never leaving home.

0:49:52.000 --> 0:49:52.719
<v Speaker 4>It was kind of fun.

0:49:53.840 --> 0:49:57.840
<v Speaker 2>This is what is supposed to happen for all parties involved.

0:49:58.360 --> 0:50:00.480
<v Speaker 2>And I remember when I first held you. You, I

0:50:00.600 --> 0:50:03.560
<v Speaker 2>told myself, my job is to make sure this little

0:50:03.600 --> 0:50:07.279
<v Speaker 2>girl can live on her own and be happy with

0:50:07.400 --> 0:50:11.719
<v Speaker 2>herself and move on from you know, from being under

0:50:11.840 --> 0:50:14.400
<v Speaker 2>my under my wing. That my job is to make

0:50:14.400 --> 0:50:18.040
<v Speaker 2>her independent of me and to be successfully independent and happy.

0:50:18.080 --> 0:50:21.600
<v Speaker 2>And so I remember reminding myself of that along the way,

0:50:21.719 --> 0:50:24.120
<v Speaker 2>that that was my number one job to guide you

0:50:24.520 --> 0:50:26.080
<v Speaker 2>to be your own person.

0:50:26.719 --> 0:50:28.800
<v Speaker 4>Think about how annoyed you would be if I stayed

0:50:28.800 --> 0:50:31.239
<v Speaker 4>at home entire life.

0:50:34.680 --> 0:50:36.839
<v Speaker 1>You know, if you stayed for the next couple of years.

0:50:36.880 --> 0:50:38.759
<v Speaker 1>I don't think she'd be upset. I think she'd be

0:50:38.840 --> 0:50:40.520
<v Speaker 1>excited about that. I think you would.

0:50:40.640 --> 0:50:44.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, I still have a winter break and summer break.

0:50:44.520 --> 0:50:47.480
<v Speaker 2>Although wat she'll start becoming like an instructor and staying

0:50:47.560 --> 0:50:49.640
<v Speaker 2>there and everything. I could see you doing all sorts

0:50:49.640 --> 0:50:52.719
<v Speaker 2>of stuff, But it's your life to live, and I'll

0:50:52.760 --> 0:50:57.280
<v Speaker 2>be okay, and I can't. I'll be your cheerleader, cheerleader

0:50:57.360 --> 0:51:00.360
<v Speaker 2>back home no matter what. I love you, I love you.

0:51:02.480 --> 0:51:08.440
<v Speaker 1>I love you guys too. All folks. We appreciate you

0:51:08.480 --> 0:51:10.920
<v Speaker 1>all listening as always. Folks, if you're out there, if

0:51:10.920 --> 0:51:12.320
<v Speaker 1>you're about to send your kid off, you're going to

0:51:12.360 --> 0:51:17.759
<v Speaker 1>be okay. The three steps they say of this, what

0:51:17.960 --> 0:51:22.000
<v Speaker 1>is it the empty nest syndrome. It's grief, relief, and

0:51:22.080 --> 0:51:25.400
<v Speaker 1>then joy. It's coming. Everybody's going to be fine. It's

0:51:25.440 --> 0:51:28.040
<v Speaker 1>tougher on some than others, but a lot of folks

0:51:28.120 --> 0:51:29.439
<v Speaker 1>go through and they make it through, are just fine,

0:51:29.480 --> 0:51:31.359
<v Speaker 1>and some come out really well on the other side.

0:51:31.400 --> 0:51:34.680
<v Speaker 1>So es, you're going to be okay. I'll be here

0:51:34.800 --> 0:51:36.600
<v Speaker 1>with you through this one and then the next time

0:51:36.680 --> 0:51:40.120
<v Speaker 1>we have to do it with their in December, right oday,

0:51:41.239 --> 0:51:43.600
<v Speaker 1>I'll be here with you. Now, let's go get that

0:51:43.760 --> 0:51:45.560
<v Speaker 1>contractor and start working on her room.