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Speaker 3: My girlfriend says her birthday is ruined because we have

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Speaker 3: to pick up my daughter.

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Speaker 1: You just leave it where she is. She can fin

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Speaker 1: for herself.

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Speaker 3: Hi, thirty six male and my girlfriend thirty female, just

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Speaker 3: got one hundred percent custody of my five female daughter

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Speaker 3: as my ex wife is moving out of state at

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Speaker 3: the end of the week. Oh right, nice winners winning.

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Speaker 3: Prior to this new custody arrangement, we have had primary

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Speaker 3: physical custody of my daughter because my ex works Monday

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Speaker 3: through Friday nine to five and is single.

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Speaker 1: Wait boo her, she's working at a normal job in his

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Speaker 1: single Come on, Oh yeah, that's just normal hours. But

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Speaker 1: also I am kinda are you a stay home dad?

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Speaker 3: Maybe I'm just wondering how primary custody is different to

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Speaker 3: primary physical customers.

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Speaker 1: So it's like I have primary custody, I have seventy

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Speaker 1: eight percent of them. The mom comes every other weekend.

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Speaker 1: Now the mom's not going to be coming every other weekend.

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Speaker 4: It makes sense.

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Speaker 4: Gooofully.

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Speaker 3: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 3: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 3: do in the comments. Mm hm, do Sha and op sense.

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Speaker 3: I work from home, which makes transportation for school easy

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Speaker 3: for me and allows for us myself and ex wife

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Speaker 3: to avoid paying for after school care. My home is

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Speaker 3: my daughter's home of record, and we have cared for

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Speaker 3: her throughout the weekdays and have all weekends kit free

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Speaker 3: until now. My girlfriend was always opposed to this custody

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Speaker 3: agreement because to her it felt as though we are

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Speaker 3: doing your ex wife a favor and she needs to

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Speaker 3: do her part and take her daughter fifty adding that

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Speaker 3: she should pay for her own daycare for the day

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Speaker 3: she would have had her if we split custody evenly,

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Speaker 3: and that I shouldn't help her by taking extra custody

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Speaker 3: days or by splitting the cost of daycare.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, your current wife is strange.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought we liked her.

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Speaker 3: You're not doing your ex wife a favor. You're trying

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Speaker 3: to take care.

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Speaker 4: Of your child.

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Speaker 1: How old's a girl? Fuddy kid?

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Speaker 4: Oh he's thirty six, she's thirty.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so we should know better, Okay, cool? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: was thinking if she was maybe.

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Speaker 3: Twenty four, not even No, she wasn't ready for a kid,

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Speaker 3: or like you know, I don't know, didn't know everything

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Speaker 3: that was going into it.

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Speaker 4: Then she shouldn't have gotten into this relationship.

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Speaker 2: It was like, your ex wife makes you do all

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Speaker 2: those things, and you know she has the ability to

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Speaker 2: do it. That's one thing. But even then, your current

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Speaker 2: partner's not making sense.

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Speaker 4: Current partner's been weird.

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Speaker 1: Maybe they had different expectations. Yeah, everyone, How old do

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Speaker 1: I look old enough? I was near high schoolers at

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Speaker 1: Penna Express today and someone thought it was eyes.

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Speaker 2: Did they actually?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? They were like, you're gonna pay with cash because

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Speaker 1: they usually pay with cash. Was like, no, I'll pay

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Speaker 4: That's all they said.

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Speaker 1: They thought you were off every single high school and

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Speaker 1: then for some reason has cash. I guess they don't

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I personally loved the arrangement. I love

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Speaker 3: my daughter. Having her five days of the week was great.

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Speaker 3: I submitted my point that we get the easy days

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Speaker 3: with my daughter and have all weekends to be free adults.

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Speaker 3: I was met with the idea that she wasn't having

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Speaker 3: an issue with caring for my daughter more than my ex,

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Speaker 3: but that she felt like we were being walked on,

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Speaker 3: or that I was doing favors for my ex wife

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Speaker 3: by taking my daughter during the weekdays instead of forcing

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Speaker 3: her to figure out how to afford daycare for the

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Speaker 3: days she would be in my ex wife's care. I

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Speaker 3: don't understand why your current girlfriend wants to punish your

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Speaker 3: for your daughter.

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Speaker 1: You know, how did your current girlfriend? How was she raised?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Was it it?

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Speaker 2: Sure?

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Speaker 1: Taking care of me? Taken care of.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like, you got offend my yest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like my parents when I was six, made me

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Speaker 2: drive to school.

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Speaker 3: I walked to school on my own uphills both ways.

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Speaker 4: It was snowing even in July and couples counseling.

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Speaker 3: She stated that it would be better if my ex

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Speaker 3: just left and we were to have one hundred percent

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Speaker 3: custody lo and bowl. Two months later, my ex wife

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Speaker 3: drops the news on us that she is leaving for

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Speaker 3: a few years to.

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Speaker 4: Pursue a career.

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Speaker 3: Okay, about two weeks ago, my ex asked if she

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Speaker 3: could fly in and pick up my daughter for a

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Speaker 3: wedding a three day trip in February. The weekend just

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Speaker 3: so happens to be on my girlfriend's birthday weekend. However,

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Speaker 3: we would have to drive my daughter to the airport

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Speaker 3: It's about an hour drive one way and happens to

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Speaker 3: land on my girlfriend's birthday. Still delighted by the possibility

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Speaker 3: of spending my girlfriend's birthday weekend together as free no

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Speaker 3: kid adults, I immediately said yes and began making plans

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Speaker 3: to surprise my girlfriend with as up until today, she

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Speaker 3: didn't know about my daughter leaving for the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, I bet this is the person that I love surprises.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but honestly, this is better than having your daughter

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Speaker 3: the whole weekend. Like either you would have to take

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Speaker 3: care of your daughter the whole birthday weekend or you

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Speaker 3: have to spend an hour picking or up at the end.

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Speaker 1: You would think that seems like good reasoning right there.

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Speaker 3: Over the past two weeks, I have been making arrangements

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Speaker 3: to stay at the Stanley Hotel, the one from the Shining.

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Speaker 3: She's fascinated by it. By neither of us have seen it,

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Speaker 3: and she's always asked me to take her there someday.

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Speaker 2: What the Shining or the hotel?

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Speaker 4: The hotel It's like, Hey.

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Speaker 1: Can you send me to Disneyland. I've never seen Disney

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Speaker 1: I've never seen what, Like, I've never seen anything Disney related.

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Speaker 1: Can you take me to the Disneyland? She gots, She's like,

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Speaker 1: take me to the Shining Hotel.

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Speaker 4: Never, shit, I didn't realize.

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Speaker 3: No, I think that they're saying that they've never seen

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Speaker 3: the hotel. I was saying that they've never seen the movie.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I'm very confused. I'm like, she's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think they're saying that we've never seen the hotel.

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Speaker 4: Wait, you guys have never seen the Shining, That's what

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Speaker 2: The word it is very confusing. I'm like, have they

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Speaker 2: never seen the hotel, That's one thing, but have they

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Speaker 2: never seen the Shining? About the Shining, That's.

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Speaker 1: What I'm like, take me to Disneyland. I've never seen.

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Speaker 2: That's what I was comprehending as like.

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Speaker 3: I was like, what, that's crazy, guys. Plus, it's closer

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Speaker 3: to the airport and we could easily swing by to

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Speaker 3: scoop up my daughter on her way home. That Sunday, Today,

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Speaker 3: my daughter started asking about her trip for the wedding

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Speaker 3: in front of my girlfriend. Although it's still over a

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Speaker 3: month away, I figured I could tell my girlfriend about

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Speaker 3: it now. Besides, she would have to ensure she had

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Speaker 3: the weekend off work to make.

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Speaker 4: My surprise possible.

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Speaker 3: At first, my girlfriend seemed delighted to hear that my

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Speaker 3: excited when she heard it was her birthday weekend. I

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Speaker 3: hadn't even told her what I was planning. Just then

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Speaker 3: her face went sour. Wait when does she come back,

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Speaker 3: she asked?

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Speaker 4: On your birthday? I replied. She then demanded them my

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Speaker 4: ex rent a car and deliver my daughter to us,

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Speaker 4: as it was in fact on her birthday.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, I told her that our airport was a

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Speaker 5: the state she had moved to, and that that was

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Speaker 5: probably not reasonable or financially viable option.

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Speaker 3: She argued that it was her birthday and she wouldn't

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Speaker 3: be burdened with driving an hour each way to pick

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Speaker 4: Oh no, did you not have to come?

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Speaker 1: You're being hit with pariental responsibilities on your birthday.

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Speaker 3: I tried to reason with her that this was probably

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Speaker 3: the last overnight weekend we would have kid free for

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Speaker 3: a long time, and that it's a good deal for us.

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Speaker 3: I offered to drive myself so she wouldn't have to

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Speaker 3: also upset that I had known about the trip for

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Speaker 3: two weeks and haven't mentioned it.

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Speaker 1: I knew she loved surprises.

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Speaker 4: I revealed that I was trying to use it as

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Speaker 4: that still had no effect. She's pissed.

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Speaker 3: She thinks I'm doing my ex a favor on her

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Speaker 3: birthday and declare that she would just rather work that

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Speaker 3: weekend because her birthday obviously doesn't matter. H girl, you're

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Speaker 3: getting child free birthday. The two options here are child

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Speaker 3: free birthday or have child the whole weekend.

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Speaker 4: That's it. That's those are the options.

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Speaker 3: You have to spend literally an hour, probably because you'll

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Speaker 3: be closer picking her.

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Speaker 2: Up, Like, you don't even have to go third option,

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Speaker 2: you a bath? Why did you date someone with a

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Speaker 2: child that you knew you were gonna not enjoy?

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Speaker 4: Literally? Why did you do that to yourself if you

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Speaker 4: weren't up for the task.

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Speaker 1: Okay, can we get a poll break up or not?

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Speaker 4: I'm leaning towards it.

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Speaker 2: I don't even need a pole for that. They're not

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Speaker 2: even buried. How long have they been dating?

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Speaker 1: Not that long, right, I don't think so a year

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Speaker 1: or something.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think that if you a year in and she's

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Speaker 2: been doing this with the kid, like she's complaining about

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Speaker 2: kid that much, not even trying to get like, does she.

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Speaker 1: Even like the kid? How was she around the kid?

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Speaker 1: I think we're about to see more red.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't actually say how long they've been dating unless

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Speaker 3: I'm I've lost it.

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Speaker 1: I hope whoever I'm with is just nice periental.

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Speaker 4: Figure, parental superiental like.

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Speaker 1: Oh like partial rentaling. Guys. I don't know if I

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Speaker 1: should be.

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Speaker 4: Here, Guys, it really has been up for so long Riley.

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Speaker 2: If you guys haven't noticed, Riley went back to high school.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Riley had a breakdown.

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Speaker 2: Riley's morphed back into his high school self. His brain's

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Speaker 2: not fully developed right now.

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Speaker 4: Really, I just don't understand.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we were offered a gift and that

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Speaker 3: I used it perfectly in a way that would make

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Speaker 1: You know, this person likes branded clothing is my vibe.

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Speaker 3: My ex wife moved just a couple of weeks ago,

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Speaker 3: As a parting gift, my ex made a scrap book

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Speaker 3: There were two pictures total that included the three of us.

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Speaker 4: Dude, what media breakup? Media breakup.

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Speaker 2: That's crazy that your daughter is mentally affecting your partner

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Speaker 4: Well, it's because she's jealous of the ax.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I got something. Yeah, I believe she also wants

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Speaker 1: What were you going to say you.

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Speaker 3: Should break up with your girlfriend because she's never gonna

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Speaker 1: How hot is OPI I don't know how hot.

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Speaker 2: Is the ex, how hot is a partner?

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Speaker 4: How hot is everyone? Let us know in the comments, op.

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Speaker 2: Have you not seen that thing? The scale?

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Speaker 4: Okay, the hotness scale?

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Speaker 1: Hot, crazy scale? What do you think about that?

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Speaker 3: She was raised similarly, and I asked her how she

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Speaker 4: Oh are you raising her?

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Speaker 1: Dude? This is a fairy tale at starting.

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Speaker 3: Literally, I probably would be upset, but it actually doesn't

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Speaker 2: Duh, she doesn't have a mom. I'm mom, I'm mother now.

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Speaker 1: Okay. If that's genuinely how you feel, there's a way

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Speaker 1: good route. You just be the most unconditional, loving mother

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Speaker 2: Started off with a huge lead. The mom left is

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's literally leaving and you got worse.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: All you had to do was be a cool adult.

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Speaker 3: That's it, and it couldn't handle it. I'm so lost

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Speaker 4: This is her true self.

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Speaker 3: I'm so dumbfounded by it that I'm not certain that

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Speaker 3: I'm seeing this clearly. Am I missing something? Am I

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Speaker 1: You're not the ahle. Why can't we just have a

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Speaker 2: Why is that so hard?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to think of another example of this,

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Speaker 1: Em come on, grow up, we're thirty relevant comments, whip

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Speaker 3: You are one hundred percent not the a hole. Your

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Speaker 3: girlfriend is the a hole for destroying a child's keepsake

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Speaker 4: Of the picture she is. Your daughter clearly didn't want

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Speaker 3: Someone says, imagine if she passed away instead of moved.

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Speaker 4: It's about the same situation.

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Speaker 3: Imagine how effing livid you would be that someone, anyone,

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Speaker 3: Why do you still keep them? And tell me if

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Speaker 3: I'm not thinking about this right, but I don't feel

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Speaker 3: she just went straight to like it let me rip this.

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Speaker 1: App and the thing, the most irreversible thing you did

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Speaker 1: is you ripped it up in front of a child.

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Speaker 3: Old. Yeah, you literally pulled stepmother ripping up Cinderella's dress

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Speaker 3: right before the ball.

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Speaker 4: That's crazy, Oh, he says.

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Speaker 3: I brought up that thought about what if biomm passed

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Speaker 4: That's bonkers.

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Speaker 3: Also, to be completely fair, I didn't even know about

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Speaker 3: My ex dropped off a ton of stuff at my

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Speaker 3: it doesn't point to you being the bad guy at all.

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Speaker 3: I do wonder what abruptly ending the destruction entails, and

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Speaker 3: At this point, I realized she had dumped a bunch

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Speaker 4: What At that point, I got upset and certainly raised

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Speaker 3: I was never demeaning or insulting, but very firm that

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Speaker 3: asked if I would keep any with myself in my axe,

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Speaker 3: and I said absolutely, not for myself, for my daughter,

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Speaker 3: Bro build her Yeah, get out, get out, like move

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Speaker 3: out your gun.

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Speaker 1: This isn't fun.

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Speaker 2: Isn't this Opie's house though?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get her out.

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Speaker 3: Eviction Tortugas Station says, hey, I just read your other

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Speaker 3: anma the a hole and I already commented elsewhere, but

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Speaker 3: I don't know if you'll see it as a former

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Speaker 3: single parent. I know this is hard, but you have

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Speaker 3: to break up with your girlfriend. She seriously sucks and

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Speaker 3: she's gonna f up your daughter if she stays in

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Speaker 3: her life.

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Speaker 4: You got this.

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Speaker 3: There will be someone better. Just don't bring her around

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Speaker 3: your daughter right away. Opie says, I've been reading through

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Speaker 3: every comment. I'm so blown away and lost in this.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's way more obvious after reading

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Speaker 3: everyone's thoughts that it isn't wrong that my daughter has

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Speaker 3: but never given any indication that I miss my ex

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Speaker 3: or want her back or anything, because I won one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent, don't I removed her from my life. But

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Speaker 3: my current girlfriend is repeatedly asked if I miss her

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Speaker 3: or would take her back, et cetera, all questions I've

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Speaker 3: never even thought about, because firm no. And it took

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Speaker 3: this isn't the second offense?

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Speaker 1: What oh because of the birthday thing?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh, birthday weekend.

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Speaker 4: So she just keeps making offenses.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy that there's not even an option for this guy?

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Speaker 1: What breaking up it does? It seem like it's an

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh like yeah that he hasn't said it. No, absolutely,

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Speaker 3: like that should be the first option. It's crazy that

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Speaker 3: we haven't already done it.

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Speaker 1: We're applying to Reddit comments instead of breaking up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, go break up with your girlfriend, get her

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Speaker 3: out of the house. I would be talking to my

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Speaker 3: Is there anything that you didn't feel comfortable talking to

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Speaker 3: me about?

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Speaker 4: Get her out?

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Speaker 3: The most anxious one, not the ale And she sounds

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Speaker 3: like a psychopath. Wow, are you sure you want someone

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Speaker 3: like that influencing your daughter? Your ex might have crapped

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Speaker 3: the bed, but she's still your daughter's mother, and your

448
00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:19,080
Speaker 3: current love interests trying to destroy that is a serious

449
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Speaker 3: sign that she's.

450
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Speaker 4: Not mentally healthy.

451
00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:24,000
Speaker 3: The lead that says not the ale stepparent here. Your

452
00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:28,080
Speaker 3: girlfriend seems to have very strong feelings that indicate that

453
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Speaker 3: she sees herself as the replacement.

454
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Speaker 2: Mother, other mother, other mother.

455
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Speaker 4: She's got a show buttons into your daughter's eyes. WHOA.

456
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Speaker 3: Regardless of the situation with your ex, she is still

457
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Speaker 3: your child's biological mother and your child still loves her.

458
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Speaker 3: Your girlfriend needs to understand that and keep her jealousy

459
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Speaker 3: at bay. Not possible, it's too late. Sure, being a

460
00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:52,320
Speaker 3: stepparent is tough sometimes, but there's no excuse for that

461
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Speaker 3: type of behavior.

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Speaker 4: I don't even think that commoner gets it. And there

463
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Speaker 4: is an update.

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Speaker 3: I think that commoner sounds like, oh, yeah, she needs

465
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Speaker 3: to own up dir action. No, she needs it out.

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Speaker 1: I think that commenter almost was her once.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

468
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Speaker 4: The commenty was like I've been there.

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Speaker 1: I'm a step parent.

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Speaker 4: I it was hard.

471
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Speaker 1: Almost was the replacement mother. Yeah, dude, you know what

472
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Speaker 1: to do.

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Speaker 4: You know what to do.

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Speaker 1: You have the power and stage. You better have a

475
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Speaker 1: breakup or your daughter's life threw it away.

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Speaker 4: Mm hmm. You don't even care about your daughter.

477
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Speaker 1: You just made it into a modern day Cinderella.

478
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Speaker 4: Yeah, don't turn your daughter into Cinderella, dude. But there

479
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Speaker 4: is an update.

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Speaker 3: It's been a bit over a week since my post

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Speaker 3: here made front page, and it's taken about that much

482
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Speaker 3: time to finish reading through the responses.

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Speaker 5: Page of what read It is not a newspaper, get

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Speaker 5: like most popular.

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Speaker 3: Okay, your answers were overwhelmingly positive, save for a few,

486
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Speaker 3: and today I finally solidified my position and pulled the trigger.

487
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Speaker 4: First the good.

488
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Speaker 3: When I returned home, I searched the box that I

489
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Speaker 3: had hit the pictures and scrapbooks, to.

490
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Speaker 4: Find that they were gone.

491
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Speaker 3: Upon inquiring of their whereabouts, I was directed under a

492
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Speaker 3: bathroom sink. There, I've found the remains of the scrap book,

493
00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 3: mostly put back together. However, I realized that at least

494
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Speaker 3: two pages were missing. I also noticed that a few

495
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Speaker 3: pictures in question weren't present. Upon questioning, I was directed

496
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Speaker 3: to a trash can, where I found a couple of

497
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Speaker 3: torn pictures. Still, to my dismay, I found that the

498
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Speaker 3: contents of the ravage scrap book were still incomplete. Further

499
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:25,879
Speaker 3: investigation revealed another stash of torn pictures. Finally, I have

500
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:29,160
Speaker 3: attained all of the pictures. Shout out to the private messages,

501
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Speaker 3: offering to reconstruct them. A massive thanks to you. Two

502
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,800
Speaker 3: more days passed and I demanded that she apologized to

503
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Speaker 3: my daughter for destroying the scrap book, which now resides

504
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Speaker 3: in my daughter's room. Apology accepted, now comes the hard parts.

505
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Speaker 1: Oh man, what they lived together? She's probably working. He's

506
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Speaker 1: a stay at home dad.

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Speaker 4: Well, no, he works from them.

508
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Speaker 1: I just think if you're at home, your dad, your dad,

509
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Speaker 1: your stay at home dad stands.

510
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Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

511
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Speaker 3: It really doesn't seem like he's breaking up with her.

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Speaker 1: She almost had me with the scrapbook. Yeah, this close.

513
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Speaker 1: I hope you were in the room when she apologized too.

514
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Speaker 3: It feels like you have scolded a child and told

515
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Speaker 3: her to go apologize, and she doesn't actually want to.

516
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Speaker 4: Like, none of that feels genuine.

517
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Speaker 2: To me, Like she doesn't feel like she's wrong.

518
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, it feels like she ripped them up. I mean,

520
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,760
Speaker 3: like nothing that she said so far has shown that

521
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 3: she shows any guilt for her actions. She ripped up

522
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:29,239
Speaker 3: way more than we previously thought, and now you had

523
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Speaker 3: to go tell her to apologize to your daughter.

524
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Speaker 1: I think this might be best for both of you.

525
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Speaker 4: Yeah, to break up.

526
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 3: I won't bother lying, for I fear you would see

527
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,919
Speaker 3: through me. I consider trying to work through it. I

528
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,360
Speaker 3: thought perhaps her efforts to repair the scrap book are

529
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Speaker 3: worthy of forgiveness. Nay, yay, yay, he said, Nay, that means.

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Speaker 4: They're breaking up. Okay, our relationship has ended Wright.

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Speaker 3: We did it, and I am now focused solely on

532
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Speaker 3: raising my beautiful baby girl and my career. Good nice yes,

533
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,159
Speaker 3: and taught relevant comments. I'm glad to hear it. I

534
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,359
Speaker 3: kept checking back to see if there'd be an update

535
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 3: because your story really got to me. How is your

536
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 3: daughter doing? Is your ex gone? Like all moved out

537
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,199
Speaker 3: and everything? Opie says, daughter is doing well. She was

538
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,240
Speaker 3: super excited that s SO is moving out. She has

539
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 3: to move back to Texas, so logistics are in the works,

540
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Speaker 3: but so far it's been very tame and amicable. I

541
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Speaker 3: think it was mutual and expected. Missus E Cummings says,

542
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 3: good for you. The fact that this very insecure, childish

543
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,679
Speaker 3: woman can handle that you have a past and your

544
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 3: daughter is a mother is a huge red flag. It's

545
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 3: not like you have family photos up all around her house.

546
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: Your child is a scrapbook of memories of her beloved

547
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 3: mother that I'm sure she keeps to herself. The fact

548
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Speaker 3: that she is that insecure, jealous, immature, and destructive towards

549
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,400
Speaker 3: anything your daughter owns from her mother is scary. Actually,

550
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,639
Speaker 3: what's to say that in one of her tantrums she

551
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,920
Speaker 3: doesn't decide to destroy gifts from a birthday or Christmas

552
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 3: that would do some serious damage to your I know

553
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 3: from experience you have made the right move. Find someone

554
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 3: who will act like a grown woman and not be

555
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,360
Speaker 3: jealous of the fact that you have a passed.

556
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Speaker 4: Just like they do. And OP says, good point.

557
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 3: And actually we had a recent argument as SOO wanted

558
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Speaker 3: to sell a few Christmas gifts that were dropped off

559
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Speaker 3: with the scrap book roller skates, clothes.

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Speaker 1: Oh dude, she does not want to be a mom.

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Speaker 3: No, she that's crazy. She wanted to sell gifts that

562
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Speaker 3: your ex had given to your daughter.

563
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 1: Know how out she didn't say donate.

564
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Speaker 4: Even now she's like, let's sell them.

565
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Speaker 3: I want to make money off your ex. Before six

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Speaker 3: I d X two S seven nine FJ nine says so.

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Speaker 3: I'm just wondering about this part from the old post.

568
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 3: This was the first time I had seen or heard

569
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Speaker 3: of the scrap book and was unaware of its contents

570
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 3: until I witnessed my girlfriend removing all the pictures that

571
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 3: displayed my ex wife.

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Speaker 4: Compared to this.

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Speaker 3: Part from the update, however, I realized that at least

574
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Speaker 3: two pages were missing. If you didn't know of the

575
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 3: existence of the book until it was being destroyed, how

576
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 3: do you know what was and wasn't missing, Opie says.

577
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,880
Speaker 3: When I stopped her from destroying it, I took all

578
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: the pages and pictures that had been removed and put

579
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Speaker 3: them in a box to keep safe. In doing so,

580
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 3: I made a basic mental inventory of what was there.

581
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 3: They were all pictures I had seen before from my

582
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 3: previous marriage, so it was easy to realize what was missing.

583
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 3: So she not only ripped up the scrap book, but

584
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Speaker 3: OPI took it, and then she ripped it up after

585
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Speaker 3: the fact too.

586
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Speaker 1: I thought she put it back together and then only

587
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:33,439
Speaker 1: had two pages missing.

588
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 4: She put it back together, but like had taken out

589
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:37,479
Speaker 4: a bunch of stuff.

590
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Speaker 1: Oh but she had two pages yet. You know how

591
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 1: hard it is to make a scrapbook?

592
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 4: Yeah? I do know, me too, because I watched you

593
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Speaker 4: do it. I was there to witness.

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Speaker 2: You know. Excuse to me in that story is that

595
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 2: the daughter said, I'm happy that she's not with us anymore. Yeah,

596
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: why is your daughter saying that?

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00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 1: Wait? I did not catch that cat.

598
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Speaker 2: She was like, oh, we no longer seeing her anymore.

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Speaker 2: And the daughter was like, oh, yeah, that's good mistake.

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Speaker 2: That did you.

601
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Speaker 4: Make that up?

602
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:02,679
Speaker 1: I think you're making that up.

603
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 4: She was super excited that so it was moving up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh okay, am I crazy?

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Speaker 4: You're not crazy?

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Speaker 2: Am I crazy? You're right baby, I'm listening to you story.

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Speaker 2: No one believes me.

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Speaker 4: Well, we've got another story.

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Speaker 1: Keon, would never do that, would you?

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Speaker 4: Things in the beginning started off amazing. You chased me, sure.

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Speaker 3: I refused a few times, only because I was single

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he followed me home, but that's love.

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Speaker 1: He slashed my tires and waited outside of my work

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Speaker 3: and he said, you will, and he was right.

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Speaker 1: I started liking him fifteen years in.

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Speaker 4: I was only fifteen years years old and he was

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Speaker 1: I wasted so much time. I should have married him

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Speaker 3: I was happy alone, but he persisted, and I finally said,

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Speaker 4: Guys, Yeah, that's Keon.

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Speaker 2: Hey, guys me op.

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Speaker 3: He says he was a gentleman, sweet kind, consistent with

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Speaker 3: good morning and good night texts, phone calls, and the

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Speaker 4: And fun that it was plautiful, plentiful.

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Speaker 2: It was plentiful for spicy sleep.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's so sad.

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Speaker 3: For my birthday, he got a hotel and we spent

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Speaker 3: the night together in the mountains and had drinks, food

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Speaker 3: and fun.

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Speaker 1: This sounds like something ke On would do.

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Speaker 3: Seriously, his man was amazing, just like Keon everything I've

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Speaker 3: ever wanted. I'm an extremely anxious person, just from trauma

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Speaker 3: and bad experiences in my life. A part of me

656
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Speaker 3: was thinking he's love bombing me, but I've never experienced

657
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Speaker 3: what felt like genuine care before, so I just rolled

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Speaker 3: with it. Something kept telling me this was gonna take.

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Speaker 1: A one eighty mmm get that gut feeling.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're like, I don't know what love feels like. Bird,

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure if this is it?

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Speaker 1: Do you see that? Keon?

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Speaker 3: One day lang lazy in my bed, I said, let

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Speaker 3: me see your chemera role, just to see what kind

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Speaker 3: of PIXI has. He's an outdoorsy person and I wasn't

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Speaker 3: expecting anything at all, But one after the other were

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Speaker 3: pics of spicy women, unclothed women, his friends sending him things,

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Speaker 3: him sending them things with crude comments.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, he just let you see. He just show

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Speaker 4: that to you willingly.

671
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Speaker 1: Kean. Do you do this with your friends?

672
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 2: No?

673
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy. Yeah, it would be really bad.

674
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 2: And you do this with your friends.

675
00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: I don't really talk to my friends like that. I

676
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: don't text my friends though.

677
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 4: I just don't talk to my friend.

678
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: Actually I do text my friend's memes. That's only a

679
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: few of them.

680
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: Respond I was absolutely appalled at how much was in

681
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 3: his phone, considering I saw him as nothing but a

682
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 3: true gentleman.

683
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 1: Ooh the facade, yeah, crappling.

684
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 3: I was turned off and disgusted. We got into an

685
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 3: argument and he said he delete all of them and

686
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 3: tell his friends to stop sending him stuff for the

687
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 3: sake of saving our relationships.

688
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 4: No, no, dude. The fact that he's like, fine, I

689
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 4: guess I'll delete them.

690
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: Here we go, Here we go off saving them. I

691
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: figured it out. You ready. Yeah, he's giving an action

692
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 1: rather than what's something like, that's a why, like a reason.

693
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 4: He's not like explaining why he has them on his

694
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 4: phone or why he save them.

695
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: Hear me out. It's gonna take a second to get here,

696
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 1: but you'll understand where it is. Apple. The way they

697
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: make their products is not like, oh, here's an iPhone.

698
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: What they do is like this is magic, and how

699
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 1: do they put magic? They Yeah, the way they bran

700
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: it is like comes from the why and then into

701
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: the how. Yeah. It feels like this guy is his

702
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: actions are coming from how, like, Okay, I'll just do

703
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: this like an action rather than a let me understand it. Okay,

704
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: let me change my perspective on it.

705
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 4: He doesn't understand why it's bad.

706
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: Oh we're going too hard.

707
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 3: But as someone who's been cheated on in pretty much

708
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 3: every relationship, I've ever been in with trust issues as

709
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 3: it is, it altered my trust for him. I started

710
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 3: watching him closer when we went out and he had

711
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 3: wandering eyes. I'd call him out on it and he

712
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 3: would deny it or say he was looking at something else,

713
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 3: but in the direction now he's lying to me. Then

714
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 3: it started to cross my mind that he is a

715
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 3: lustful man.

716
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 2: Huge dude.

717
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 1: This happened to one of my friends that they were

718
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: a lustful man. She was seeing a guy. He was

719
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: commenting on these other girls instagrams being like dang, like

720
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: dang girl, you so fine, or like some like weird

721
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 1: stuff like that. And then I showed it to my

722
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend and then she called her and he was like, Hey,

723
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 1: these dms he's sending these girls or like these comments

724
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: he's putting on these Instagram things, blah blah blah. Like

725
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 1: why he's putting if if you're talking to a girl,

726
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 1: why would you put I don't know, comments on popular.

727
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, on a public you know, or where people can

728
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 4: see it. Yeah, it's really weird.

729
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 2: Sometimes people need a plan BCD.

730
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 3: I guess, so make a account. Yeah, at least to

731
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 3: it in the dms, doing right in the face.

732
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

733
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 3: I was getting a bunch of This is only tangentially related,

734
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 3: but I was getting a bunch of in my comments,

735
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 3: like random men who follow me being like oh hot,

736
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,479
Speaker 3: that like stuff like that. I was showing a comment

737
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 3: run related to that to my boyfriend and he was

738
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 3: like he saw it, and he was like block, like

739
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 3: block report, He's like a report, like do you get that?

740
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? I even get that.

741
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, you're not a woman. We had each

742
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 4: other added on Facebook, and after all this, I thought

743
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 4: about his friend's list.

744
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 3: I scrolled and it looked like he went to an

745
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 3: all girls' school. I clicked on a few of their

746
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 3: pages and most didn't have his name under any of

747
00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 3: their picks. So I said, at least he isn't liking

748
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 3: all their photos when he has a girlfriend. Well, he's

749
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 3: following all of them, which is true for women. That's

750
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 3: seeing your man's name under all these photos is embarrassing

751
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 3: for us. Anyway, I stopped the stocking one day, just

752
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 3: scrolling my own the people you may know section showed

753
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 3: up and a girl popped up and it said he

754
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 3: was a mutual friend. I clicked on her profile, and

755
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 3: one after the other, he liked all her photos recent

756
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 3: old ones, except if she was posed with another kind.

757
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 3: He wouldn't like those.

758
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 4: Oh, I wondered why.

759
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 3: So I brought it up to him and asked about her, calmly,

760
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 3: of course, not accusing, just asking who she was, etc.

761
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 3: He immediately got defensive and angry with me, which was

762
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 3: the first I'd seen this sight of him.

763
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: Uh oh, he got caught.

764
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:43,240
Speaker 4: Uh oh, it's crazy that like this is what makes

765
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: him man.

766
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: You know, I'd like to see everyone's explore page after this.

767
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 4: He mind's a lot of food.

768
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: I feel like if you look at someone's explore page

769
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: on Instagram, you'll see who they are as a person.

770
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 4: Mine has been deeply affected, though by my boyfriends.

771
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 2: You don't want you mine.

772
00:32:58,120 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 1: We're going to look at everyone's.

773
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 3: He used to like her back in the day when

774
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 3: they were growing up, but she told him there would

775
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 3: never be anything between them. I said, I'm not okay

776
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 3: with you still being friends with someone you used to want,

777
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: and you're still actively liking all their photos. I felt

778
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 3: there were still some old feelings there. I asked him

779
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 3: to delete her, and he got mad and shut down.

780
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:20,320
Speaker 3: He did eventually, and we moved on from it. A

781
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 3: few weeks went by and we got into an argument

782
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 3: about who knows what. We stopped talking for the day,

783
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:26,719
Speaker 3: and a few hours later I went to look at

784
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 3: his Facebook and his number went up by one. I

785
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 3: looked through his friendsless and she was back on there.

786
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 3: I confronted him about it and said, we get in

787
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 3: a fight and you go at her back. He admitted

788
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 3: he did it to make me mad and out of spite.

789
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 3: Breakup done.

790
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 4: That's it.

791
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 1: We're playing games here, not worth it.

792
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 3: We talked things through, though, and I asked him to

793
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 3: lead her yet again, and he got mad yet again,

794
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 3: but he did remove her.

795
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: Okay, this is terrible. Are we playing this?

796
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, leg just do it please? Okay, you're mad about it?

797
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 3: Okay, now my trust was just being chipped away like

798
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 3: a meteor falling on a building, damaging the whole foundation.

799
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 3: Months went by and we got into arguments here and

800
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 3: there again. Long story short, Each time we got in

801
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 3: a fight, he'd add her back.

802
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,359
Speaker 4: Why are we letting this happen? Break up?

803
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: So we string in her along? What I'm hearing like,

804
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 1: op and this girl?

805
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's added her back five times over the last

806
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 3: three to four months. Our fight's got more severe each time,

807
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 3: and he said he only adds her back because we're fighting.

808
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 3: I kept telling him, we only fight because you're adding

809
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 3: these women from your past, and I'm not okay with it, Like,

810
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 3: can we conclude this is a problem, so stop doing it.

811
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 3: Then he told me the only girl I should be

812
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 3: threatened by is another girl. Let's say her name is Samantha.

813
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,479
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm sorry.

814
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 3: Now he's telling on himself. You shouldn't even be threatened

815
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 3: by her. You should be threatened by Samantha.

816
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 4: She's like, who is Samantha?

817
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: He says he wanted to marry her. She's everything he's

818
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:59,280
Speaker 3: ever wanted. She loves to fish, hunt, outdoorsy stuff, everything

819
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 3: he loves. But she rejected him back in the day

820
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 3: as well. I wonder why this guy's such an upstanding guy.

821
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 3: He talked proudly of her. She was in cheer and overachiever,

822
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 3: went to college, et cetera. And he was the nerd

823
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 3: with the big eighties glasses who never did anything with

824
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 3: his life.

825
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

826
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 3: I looked for this girl on his Facebook to see

827
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 3: if they were friends, and they were not. Okay, no worries,

828
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 3: we all have old flayings.

829
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 4: No oh pee.

830
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 3: He literally said, she is everything that I want and

831
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:32,320
Speaker 3: the only reason I'm not with her is because she rejected.

832
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: Me, and I guzz I'm with you.

833
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess you'll do.

834
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 2: What I mean. He's been caught many times already, like

835
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 2: with lies, and like, why are we entertaining this?

836
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 4: I don't know.

837
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: Do you like a project? I guess, so manage something

838
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: to her project. You know you can do projects getting

839
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: paid for it.

840
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're not even getting paid for this. This is

841
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:55,919
Speaker 4: charity work.

842
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 3: A few weeks past and we were both at my

843
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 3: house sitting on the couch and I just a random thought.

844
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 3: My anxiety and overthinking took over. I asked to see

845
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 3: his Facebook and he opened it. I clicked on the

846
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 3: search button and she was in his search, including a

847
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 3: few other girls, including his ex. I said, why are

848
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 3: you searching for them? Are you keeping dibbs or what's

849
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 3: going on? He said no, and that he accidentally clicked

850
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 3: on their names while reading other friends' comments sections that

851
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 3: they're mutual with liar.

852
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,240
Speaker 5: Hey, John og host, we don't get back to the stories,

853
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 5: but a quick free minute break of ads from our sponsors.

854
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: Saw how that works.

855
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 4: You're literally a liar. I did not believe him at all.

856
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 3: I asked him to blockers so he wouldn't keep clicking

857
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 3: on them. He did, Why do we have to keep

858
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 3: going through the same thing?

859
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 2: How many lives has been now?

860
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: Like he high also, I doubt it.

861
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 3: More weeks past and he went up hunting by himself

862
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 3: every weekend to camp. We stayed in touch, text call,

863
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 3: He let me know when he was going to bed,

864
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 3: and we talked the next day.

865
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 2: What was he hunting for?

866
00:36:58,760 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 4: Women?

867
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 3: Women's numbers, consistent relationship stuff. This was about four weeks

868
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 3: ago to this day. Just the other night, we were

869
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 3: on the phone together and I had him on speaker

870
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:11,720
Speaker 3: while scrolling Facebook. In the background, the friend's thing popped

871
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 3: up again and I saw Samantha's profile. It said one

872
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 3: mutual friend. My stomach literally dropped. I clicked on it,

873
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 3: and sure enough it was him. I let out a disappointed.

874
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 4: Sigh and just thought not again. He asked what I said,

875
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 4: when did you add her? Immediately started yelling and cussing

876
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 4: at me. Just too much going on for asking a question,

877
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:36,719
Speaker 4: why are we still here?

878
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 3: The thing is like, you were single for so long,

879
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 3: and yet I don't think that actually helped you learn

880
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 3: how to respect yourself. I think hopefully you can go

881
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 3: to therapy, because there's still work to be done. If

882
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 3: this is like treatment that you're accepting, I asked again

883
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 3: when he added her, and he said, when he was

884
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 3: up camping a few weeks ago, he was laying in

885
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 3: bed night bored, thought of her and went and added her.

886
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 3: I said that as apps absolutely not okay that you

887
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,320
Speaker 3: readded someone who you told me is a threat to me,

888
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 3: and that you wanted to marry because she was perfect

889
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,920
Speaker 3: to you. What message does that send to me at

890
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 3: this point, I'm feeling like crap, like I'm not good enough.

891
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 3: I asked, calmly for him to remove her, because it

892
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 3: hurts me and really makes me uncomfortable.

893
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 4: He let out a.

894
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 3: Solid but stern net whoa. I took a deep breath

895
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 3: and calmly asked again again.

896
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 4: No, I said, so.

897
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 3: You're fine making your girlfriend who you're allegedly in love

898
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 3: with uncomfortable for your own sake. He told me I

899
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 3: needed to figure my own crap out so I wouldn't

900
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 3: be making myself feel this way, and that I'm hurting

901
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 3: my own feelings.

902
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:40,760
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah blah blah.

903
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 1: Obi You're I think you're the You're the problem now too.

904
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: You're both are toxic for one another.

905
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're just stuck here.

906
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 2: I think Opie likes the arguments. You think so I

907
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,439
Speaker 2: don't like being a sleuth and like, oh my god,

908
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 2: I'm like she's like hyper fixated on like who's you

909
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 2: friends with?

910
00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 1: Who?

911
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 2: What's he doing? This? Is sea doing it? The fact

912
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 2: that he's done it so many times and you keep

913
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 2: repeating the process.

914
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like you said, these boundaries that mean absolutely nothing,

915
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 3: Like the boundaries are made of jello.

916
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 2: It's not healthy in any way. It's very toxic. But

917
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 2: they love to do arguments. Yeah, they like to argue.

918
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 2: They love to do stuff like this, I.

919
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: Was with a girl like that.

920
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 4: I would like to argue.

921
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, we like to argue back and forth, just.

922
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: Tiny little things. And like this is not healthy on

923
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 2: any part on his part, but like you should have

924
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 2: broken up with him. The first two lies or first

925
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 2: lie of like what are we doing?

926
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 3: What hurt the most was him continuing to add these

927
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 3: girls that he used to have a fling with, knowing

928
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 3: I don't like it and that it hurts me. I

929
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 3: can forgive the first time, but the other girls five times,

930
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 3: and this one wants I can't forgive six times.

931
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 2: See what we're talking about, Yeah, six times.

932
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 4: But you've forgiven five times already.

933
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 3: That's intentional at this point. It's been intentional since the

934
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 3: first time. What hurts the most is the thought of

935
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 3: him laying alone when his mind should be on me,

936
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 3: thinking about other women he wants, wanted, and seemingly still

937
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 3: does no, seemingly just still does. I said I feel

938
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,439
Speaker 3: like I'm sharing you at this point, and he said

939
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:07,800
Speaker 3: I'm not.

940
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,240
Speaker 4: They're just friends. They're not your friends.

941
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 3: I can guarantee that if he asked any of those

942
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 3: women or refriends, they'd say no. I said, they're not

943
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 3: your friends in my eyes. If you wanted a future

944
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 3: with both of them, and your name keeps popping up

945
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,799
Speaker 3: under their photos, Samantha's.

946
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 4: Too, I'm here, I'm ready.

947
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 3: I love you, and you can't get your mind off

948
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 3: these women that rejected you two decades ago.

949
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 1: Ooh, okay, you know what help for context in this scenario?

950
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 4: How old they are?

951
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 1: How old they are, what college does they go to,

952
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 1: and what kind of clubs are in I.

953
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 3: Don't think he went to college, because he said one

954
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 3: of the reasons that he liked his old fling was

955
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 3: because she went to college, and he was like, oh,

956
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 3: and I'm just the guy I went nowhere.

957
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:49,240
Speaker 4: So I don't think he went to college.

958
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 1: Because this is reminding me of one of my friend's roommates.

959
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: He was in the army and then he started at

960
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 1: this girl that goes to college. This girl is in

961
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,399
Speaker 1: college right now. It broke up for one night because

962
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 1: Georgia was in town and she wanted to go to

963
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 1: the frat parties while the Georgia people were in town,

964
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:08,879
Speaker 1: and then they got back together next day. And I'm

965
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: just thinking of them because this is sort of the

966
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: back and forth that they go through, and it's just like, oh,

967
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 1: I don't know.

968
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: That found some relevant information of how long this couple

969
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 2: has been together. He found some, at least for Ope

970
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend. Did you guys want to guess six months?

971
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 4: I really want this to be no longer than six months?

972
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 2: It's six months?

973
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 4: Oh wow, on the Monday. You're not a roll. This

974
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 4: guy continues to say.

975
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,799
Speaker 3: He said, we'll talk about this later, and I said

976
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,799
Speaker 3: okay and hung up immediately after I thought, this man

977
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 3: does not care about my feelings or respect me. How

978
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 3: can you say you love me while continuously doing the

979
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 3: things I've mentioned hurt me. Why can't I have someone

980
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 3: to myself for once in my life? I decided after

981
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:54,840
Speaker 3: I hung up, I can't keep doing this. He's a

982
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 3: grown man. I have communicated calmly, like an adult, dim

983
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 3: what hurts me, and all I get back is yelling,

984
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:02,879
Speaker 3: shouting and disrespect.

985
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 4: He knows what he did. I'm done.

986
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 3: I don't need to keep telling a grown man how

987
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 3: he's ending our relationship. He's been blowing up my phone

988
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 3: this week, calling, texting, saying he loves me, misses me,

989
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 3: and wants to talk to me and find out what's wrong. Like, seriously,

990
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 3: I can't make you see what I've been telling.

991
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 4: You for months.

992
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: I can't take it anymore.

993
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 4: I get to it, the build up, the build up

994
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 4: of just break up.

995
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: He's like, he's a grown well man, you're a grown woman.

996
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 4: Break up.

997
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: Everyone has jobs, everyone knows what to do.

998
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:36,879
Speaker 3: What was that? This past week, I've also been looking

999
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,359
Speaker 3: into the psychology of all this, and it's the fact

1000
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 3: that felt good enough for these two women and that

1001
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 3: they rejected him. Why are we spending time on the psychology.

1002
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: There's something wrong with me and I need to fix it,

1003
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 1: that's what she's thinking.

1004
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:52,640
Speaker 4: He can't get over it, and by adding them back,

1005
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 4: it's up. Hopefully they'll see me no kind of thing.

1006
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 4: Who cares.

1007
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 3: I can't compete with ghosts from his past or the

1008
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: fact he has low self esteem and is chasing something

1009
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 3: he never accomplished.

1010
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 4: I deserve better.

1011
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 3: I may have anxiety, trust issues and overthink at times,

1012
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:10,399
Speaker 3: understandably that I'm a good woman. I cook, I clean,

1013
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 3: I satisfy my man. I'm loyal, honest, don't cheat, and

1014
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 3: don't yell. Asking to be your one and only and

1015
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 3: asking for reassurance isn't asking a lot?

1016
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 4: In my eyes, it's the bare minimum. Am I the

1017
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:24,760
Speaker 4: ahle for ghosting my boyfriend of six months?

1018
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: Yes, yes you are.

1019
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 3: After all that time, complaints, complaint, complaint, you couldn't even

1020
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 3: just say, like we're breaking up. It really feels like

1021
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 3: Opie couldn't even break up with him. She just said,

1022
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 3: I give up, bye, bye.

1023
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna block my boyfriend.

1024
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 4: That is so.

1025
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 3: Childhood ghosting when you're above twenty one, when you're of

1026
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 3: the legal drinking age. I mean, it's stupid before then,

1027
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:52,800
Speaker 3: but once you're after twenty one, it's like really like

1028
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 3: what I.

1029
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: Feel like back in the days, Like why will you

1030
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 1: not return my calls?

1031
00:43:57,280 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1032
00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 3: I know.

1033
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:01,240
Speaker 1: I think ghosting's okay with in the first few dates.

1034
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe nah.

1035
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 4: I think once you met a person, you should I

1036
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 4: don't think you should ghost Britain.

1037
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: You have a ghosted anyone.

1038
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 4: I'm not saying that I haven't.

1039
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 3: But I did it, but pre twenty one because I

1040
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 3: didn't know how to be an adult and I was

1041
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 3: scared of rejecting people and so I just never texted them.

1042
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 4: I never did it after a date.

1043
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,239
Speaker 1: Though, dum, Yeah I have, I have.

1044
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 2: All right, Well that's the end of that story. Let's

1045
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 2: go at the end of that episode.

1046
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:27,439
Speaker 1: Yay.

1047
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,880
Speaker 4: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe We

1048
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 4: love you and see you a