WEBVTT - What Is The Blueprint To Being Married? 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:03.800 Dj V Charlemagne, the guy we are the breakfast Club. 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:07.520 Our guest host, Ray j is here. I know no nonsense, 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:10.400 Ray to Day, that's right now. We were talking about 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:12.479 the Elliss who joined us earlier, Codein and de Vow, 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:15.440 and we were talking about their relationship and talking about 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:18.520 marriage after wedding, and this is what they said. Yea, 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:21.079 I have a chapter called There's a marriage after this 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:24.080 wedding break there there. So while we were writing the book, 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:27.200 we had discussed what I thought process was about getting 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:30.200 engaged in being married, and Kadein had admitted that she 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:34.440 had never really thought about the marriage. Nope, anytime, anytime 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:37.560 I had conversations with anyone regarding marriage or the wedding, 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:40.040 it was the wedding. It was you know what dress 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:42.479 are you gonna get? And who's the florist? And it 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.600 was the planning of the day. At no point in 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:47.000 time did anyone pull me aside and say, Kadein, like, 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:50.400 once you get married, here are some things to expect. Right. 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:53.040 You watch these Disney movies and it says happily ever after, 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.639 no one sees what happens after they ride off into 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:58.400 the sunset. Correct, But it was particularly difficult because I 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:00.560 just did not think about or plan for what life 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:02.640 was going to look like after the wedding. Yeah, they 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:04.760 have a great chapter in the book called you Know, 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:07.920 the Marriage after the Wedding and basically, you know, it's 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:10.080 the work that has to be done after you say 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:12.760 I do. And I don't know if there is a 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:14.880 blueprint to being married, like what is the work that 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:17.360 needs to be done after one is married. I don't 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:19.280 know if marriage is something you can gain plan for. 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:21.120 I think, you know, with marriage, we got to remember 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.080 the fourth agreement, which is always do your best. Because 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.000 I don't believe you could prepare for everything that marriage is. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.520 Go at you. No, you definitely can't prepare. And like 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:29.920 you said, marriage is something that you consistently work on. 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:32.280 I mean, it's so many different people. People are growing, 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.800 people are involved. You have to understand people's feelings that 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:36.760 it's not just because y'all have been dating, but now 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:39.000 you have to understand somebody when you go to work 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:40.440 and you and you come home and you had a 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.720 bad day, you take that energy out on your partner, 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:44.560 how to deal with it, how to deal with everything 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:49.800 in a relationship. So let's go to you, right, we've 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:52.520 been married for six years. Six years. Congratulations. You had 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:55.000 a lot of ups and downs, public somethings have been public, 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.440 y'all call for the voce sometimes and got back together. 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:00.840 Y'all back together now. Yeah. I love Princess man, and 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:03.760 I think that a lot of times. I mean, because 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:05.960 I can only listen to people who's been married for 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:08.720 twenty years or fifteen, and they they kind of gave 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:10.960 us like the timing of when it gets rough and 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:12.720 then you get over this year hump and then it 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.200 kind of smooths out. How long you've been married twenty 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:18.440 two I've been married twenty fourteen. I'm not good at man, 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:21.280 I got it. But I've been with my wife between 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:25.480 five years. I've been with eight years, nine years. I'm 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.160 doing my wife for twenty five years. I've been so 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.800 around the like sixth seventh year? Was it rough? Or fifth? 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:33.920 Fourth to fifth? Um? I mean, you guys have been 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.359 married for so long and no, no, no, yes, with 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.799 marriage yes, because when I got married, I hadn't let 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:41.840 go of a lot of my childish ways. So I 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.920 was still out here in these streets, you know what 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:45.760 I mean, doing things I ain't had no business doing 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:47.640 you know what I mean, infidelity and all of that. 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.920 So yes, yes, so yeah, So around this time, like 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.640 I just felt like it, you know that I really 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.680 wanted to, um, just be a good husband, but then 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:58.880 I'm only not be a good father and a time 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:03.120 and away from them and kids and not being there 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:06.400 every single day, every hour. You know, did you have 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:08.240 a lot of insecurities? For myself, I had a lot 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:12.280 of insecurities, and being married it kind of exposed that, 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.880 Like what what do you mean, Um, my wife is beautiful, 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.440 she's smart, she's intelligent, and I wouldn't had a book 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:19.680 come out. So yeah, we had a book came out, 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:21.640 so real life, real love. We talk about that. And 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.280 at first I was scared that if she left, she 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:26.880 might see somebody that's smarter than me, that looks better 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:29.320 than me. That it's not hard, though, it's very hard. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:36.960 It's very difficult, actually low, very hard, very difficult. It's 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:46.400 actually very difficult trying to be serious. Serious. I'm saying, 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:48.760 y'all making me lit because y'all like I want to 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:51.640 get litter because y'all making me laugh. I'm trying to 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.160 let's being serious. You want to joke, So what's the 0:03:56.200 --> 0:04:00.680 work that y'all had to do in our marriages. Compromise communication, 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:05.040 compromise communication and also yeah, communication and really it's like 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.480 if you feel a certain way, express yourself about it, 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:10.080 if you let it linger, and then nobody knows, and 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.480 then it's just the attitude that's in the air, and 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.920 you just what's wrong. Were you scared to express yourself? 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.479 Were you scared to ask questions? At times? Yeah, it 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:19.960 depends on the question, because there's questions you want to 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.920 ask it, but can you handle the answer? What do 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.200 you have to compromise a lot of things, Just making 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:29.039 sure that I that I stay in communication all the time, 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:35.000 listening more, going out more, and spending time outside and 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:40.280 inside and really just kind of like making my wife 0:04:40.680 --> 0:04:45.400 my close friend and roll and we roll together and 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:49.160 we do everything like as far as fun together because 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:50.960 a lot of times dudes want to go hang out 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.040 with their friends and have the fun and then come 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.400 back and you got to think your girl or to 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.839 do been in the house for days and you just 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:00.760 want to come back and lay up, you're tired. Then 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:02.600 we all got it. You had a long week, right, 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:04.760 We've been scared of scraping a lot of different ways. 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:08.240 You know rated you know they you actually got in 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.520 divorce papers? Right? Well, yeah, well actually we both fouled. 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.120 Why I fouled, she fouled. They really want that though, 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.839 I think deep down we didn't. You know what I'm saying. 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:20.719 But a lot of times people are stubborn. I'm stubborn 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.839 and and and I think it hurts to think that 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:25.560 a lot of times. If your ego got in the 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.560 way and you actually got divorced and you didn't want to, 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:31.000 but you're how I got, that's scary. What did your friends, 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.160 and you know you're very close to your mom, of course, 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:36.840 what did your family and say during that time? I 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:40.320 really don't go to them for that for relationship advice, 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.760 but because yeah, I think that's that's dangerous, right. I 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:47.800 love princess, she loves me. Can't nobody tell me how 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:49.799 to feel or what to do. They can only guide 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:51.840 you and help you. But when they're done telling you 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:53.960 what you what you either want to or not, you 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:56.080 still got to go back home, right and you still 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.120 got to deal with it from a man's perspective or 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.920 a woman's perspective. So I just think just that one 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:04.400 on one, tight knit nobody can come in between these 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.080 walls and if we got issues, deal with them. If 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:10.440 we don't, then let's enjoy ourselves together. And like, what 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:13.200 do you think about what we did? That's when it 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:16.480 get Besides the TV show, was there, did y'all go 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:19.880 see therapy or a therapist or was it you know, 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:23.120 pastor preacher or somebody to be the middle person in 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.560 between y'all or y'all just worked it out yourselves. We 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:27.960 just worked it out, and I know we went we 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:30.120 had a therapist. Like a lot of stuff we do 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:34.080 on the show, it's still needed. Do you get what 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:35.800 I'm saying in the show? For me? When I watched 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:38.560 each season, I'm like every like the first few seasons 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.359 eleven hip, but I was terrible. I was embarrassed to 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.760 be who I am. You were right, and I looked 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:47.320 at myself. Nobody needed to tell me what I did. 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.320 I could see it right, And so I used the 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:53.680 show every year to either watch myself do bad or 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.800 see myself enhance and upgrade. And so that's why I 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.440 appreciate loving him, which is crazy because a lot of 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.960 people would ever say they have been loving but I 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:03.840 just do because I was able to. I was able 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.600 to watch my plays and then make my changes from 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:09.200 watching myself. I'm glad, y'all beat that curse man reality 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:12.640 TV breaking couples apart. I'm glad I'm the only one. 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.240 I'm the only one getting on. But we can we 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:18.240 have it? Can we have a bomb? To drop a ball? 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:23.000 That's which his bomb is on Clu? So Clue has 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.280 his own bomb here? Yeah? I know he always been 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:28.400 dropping bombs. But ye, so you got you guys don't 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:32.480 have one? Now, Clu? What do you have that sound effect? 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.880 I don't know. You don't have enough guys. You gotta 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:40.720 get who does the who he hot? Who does that? Donkey? Oh? 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:42.520 Real one? Really? I got a real one. I bought 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:44.120 a real one in here and recorded it live and 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:47.760 it was crazy, not yet old. So how did you 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:50.040 make the donkey do it? Did you hit him like hawd? 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.480 He go? Here? You know what I did? Really? I 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.280 played one wish and then you put a little pinky 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:55.960 in it. And I'm just about to say you was 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.920 doing too much like that. I was trying to play out. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:02.200 I would have gonna say something, but then you actually 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:04.840 was going there, So I'm like, damn, Okay, see what 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:07.760 happens has add this weekend like we just go all 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.080 over the places. The question is eight hundred and five 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:13.280 A five after the wedding, the marriage, that's when the 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:16.800 marriage starts. For being married. What does the work that 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:19.000 to be done? All right, let's talk about it when 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:20.440 we come back. It's the breakfast Club of the morning 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:22.680 after the wedding. You go have a good time well 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.280 after you know what, it's the breakfast Club one. What 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:36.040 I'm saying, it's time to get it popping legally call 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:44.839 me the breakfast Club top on morning, everybody, DJ and 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:47.360 V Charlomagne the guy. We are the breakfast Club. Our 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.160 guest host Ray J is still here, no nonsense, Ray 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:53.040 to day, raycon Global period and if you just joined us, 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.880 we were talking about the Elisis, Cadine and de Val. 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:59.320 That book We Over Me is out right now we 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:03.280 over we over me like we together over me by 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:07.240 myself that we over me? What about he and she 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:12.840 or they? Ye? I ad I just asked a lot 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.360 of questions. That's it's cool. I'm curious. So we're asking 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:17.760 about the blueprint for marriage, right, and we got to 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:20.200 think he talked to us. So I think that if 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:24.520 you get premarital counseling. Preneto counseling would give you a 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.199 foundation to actually build off of a lot of people 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:29.679 don't want to subscribe to it, but it gets your 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.600 mind off of the wedding and it allows you to 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:37.480 build with one another. And our premarrital counseling included what 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:40.360 didn't we see growing up? What are things that we 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:42.880 would like to carry over? What are things? And that 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:46.880 allowed us to say, Okay, unconsciously, we may do things 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:50.200 that we start growing up. So if I start to 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:52.600 act out a certain way, my husband would be prepared 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.880 mentally to say, Okay, that may not be her consciously 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:58.600 doing that. That may be an unconscious thing that she's 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:02.240 repeating from what she started rolling up. I didn't now 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.679 have a conversation with one another, so he can point 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:07.320 it out to me and said, hey, remember we talked 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:10.320 about this. You know this is you're starting to do X, 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:14.439 Y and Z. Prepare me not to take it personally. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:19.200 So I think there's pre marital counseling, and then that 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.240 a lot allows you to have a person that you 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:23.840 can now go to two or three months later when 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.920 things start to appear and creep up and I think 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:28.680 I think this should be. I think there should be 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.520 somebody before you get married to talk to that break 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.599 things down. Don't don't mind. Charlemagne and Ray laugh, but 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:37.440 they're not laughing at you class. But I agree with you, 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:42.160 VICKI and I agree with you. Right. But Ray looking 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.720 at me like I visited of Vicky and I'm and 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.040 I'm into it and I'm focuseding me look at me 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:49.360 and see me focused and laughing, and I was like, dang, 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.599 I was so focused. And then both of y'all go 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.360 to the principal's office, both principal's office right now, Vicky, 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.679 not wrong though y'all would teaches nightmares. I could tell 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:00.680 like both of y'all would teaches nightmare. And he was, no, 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:04.640 it wasn't. I wasn't laughing. They got funny. You got 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:07.000 funny here, Vicky. You're right, that should be pre marriage 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.720 counseling that that help couples and break things down that 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:12.520 that especially newly just don't know because there's so many 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.880 things that I didn't know about him. Sure, Charlomade, and 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.280 definitely we had no no, Vicky for real, No, you right, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.920 Vicky hung up, But you know, think about premn think 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.520 about premarital counseling. Even though I do agree with Vicky, 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.679 you don't know what you're talking to the premarital counselor 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.320 about because you haven't even encountered another of the issues 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:30.600 that you're having your marriage, right, But the Premountain marital 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:33.560 counselor's life, how was her relationship? You know what I'm saying, 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:38.959 counsel But like you're talking about a counselor without the 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.199 facts of science, right, Like it's again, I don't know 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.959 how their relationship is. You don't know how the doctor doctor, 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:45.839 if he's a hard doctor, he's gonna make sure your 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:49.800 heart works. And a marriage counselor is like, I can't 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:51.640 and shout out to all the marriage counsel I don't 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.319 want to mess up nobody's business. But there's no scientific 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:57.200 fact that's true, saying is right right, that's relationship, a 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:01.480 marriage counselor, every everybody else, everybody saying it's all opinionated. 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:03.120 It's like saying I hate this song, but then it 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.319 turns into being a hid Sometimes the marriage counselor is 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.480 just dare to be a conducted though, right, like because 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.520 you're already having a problem communicate referee exactly if the 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.160 marriage counselors on the guy side, the girl gonna trip 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.040 on the marriage councilor no, but the marriage counselor should 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.040 be a referee in the middle. That's letting both sides 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:19.280 speak and both sides thoughts be hurt. But if one 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.640 side and the marriage counselor knows that one side is 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.440 right and the other one needs to work more on 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:26.080 the right side, because then the wrong side gonna trip 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:27.800 and say, let's get a new one that's on my side. 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:31.040 I'm with you. If I had one wish, yeah, no doubt, 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:34.640 no wish, take another call. But we can't. Oh, we 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.600 need to drop this up. And and it's not raining today, 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.679 so let's one wish is not gonna not pop off 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.719 with that real rain a little X at the fake rain. 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:46.720 But I still gave a little edge like two fifty 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:48.960 to do the video work. Let's work it and you 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:52.000 made it all back that the big working gold. Yeah, yeah, 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:54.000 no doubt. I mean the whole album Win Gold Ray 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.120 is still spending one which money don't get it twisted. 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.080 The whole album Win Gold. I'm at you know twe 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.959 ninety nine, Oh man, Well what's gonna let that story? 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:03.400 I have to ask some more of the story is 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:06.400 like you know, the independent. No, it's not to be 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.280 independent when you're on the record. No marriage, you can't 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:13.560 be independent. Get in trouble, right the trouble. You asked me, 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:17.400 what did the record do? I said that, what's the 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:19.280 moral of the story. Are they going to go be independent? 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:24.000 I took overall this working y'all talking about marriage on 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:26.440 the radio, and you said the moral stories to be independent? No, 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:29.079 be independent for the music because we was like we're 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.120 all over the place where like the topics, it's got 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.240 going into in and out of stuff, and you know, 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.480 I got ray d D. The moral of the story 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.440 is that you know, there is work to be done 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.920 after somebody is married, and don't be afraid to do 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.000 that work. That's that goes without saying like we gotta 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.760 go to like your kid gotta go to school, we 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:46.400 gotta go to work. Of course, it's work to be 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:48.920 done after the marriage. Yeah, the worst one y'all the couple. 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.640 But first off, the work gotta be done after the 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:52.200 ma I gotta get it in for a little while. 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:55.720 We married, all right, when we come back, we got 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.800 your room. Put it in. We just got married, so 0:13:57.920 --> 0:13:59.640 legally now we can have a good time. So let's 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.360 spirit get that in for a little while and then 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:04.480 if it's problems that pull up would deal with them. 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.720 But right now, life is good. Let's live. Let's enjoy 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.680 the wedding. After the wedding, let me, let me be 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:11.040 in it and marinating it for at least a couple 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:17.719 of weeks. Okay, at least when we come back and 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.160 got rumors were talking Wendy Williams, I don't move. It's 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:22.600 the Breakfast Cloak morning, said Wendy Williams, coming in here. No, no, 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:32.840 it's the Breakfast Morning, the Breakfast Club.