1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: Dj V Charlemagne, the guy we are the breakfast Club. 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:07,520 Speaker 1: Our guest host, Ray j is here. I know no nonsense, 3 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:10,400 Speaker 1: Ray to Day, that's right now. We were talking about 4 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:12,479 Speaker 1: the Elliss who joined us earlier, Codein and de Vow, 5 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: and we were talking about their relationship and talking about 6 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: marriage after wedding, and this is what they said. Yea, 7 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 1: I have a chapter called There's a marriage after this 8 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:24,080 Speaker 1: wedding break there there. So while we were writing the book, 9 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: we had discussed what I thought process was about getting 10 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: engaged in being married, and Kadein had admitted that she 11 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: had never really thought about the marriage. Nope, anytime, anytime 12 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: I had conversations with anyone regarding marriage or the wedding, 13 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: it was the wedding. It was you know what dress 14 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: are you gonna get? And who's the florist? And it 15 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 1: was the planning of the day. At no point in 16 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: time did anyone pull me aside and say, Kadein, like, 17 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: once you get married, here are some things to expect. Right. 18 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: You watch these Disney movies and it says happily ever after, 19 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,639 Speaker 1: no one sees what happens after they ride off into 20 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: the sunset. Correct, But it was particularly difficult because I 21 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: just did not think about or plan for what life 22 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: was going to look like after the wedding. Yeah, they 23 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: have a great chapter in the book called you Know, 24 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: the Marriage after the Wedding and basically, you know, it's 25 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: the work that has to be done after you say 26 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: I do. And I don't know if there is a 27 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: blueprint to being married, like what is the work that 28 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: needs to be done after one is married. I don't 29 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: know if marriage is something you can gain plan for. 30 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: I think, you know, with marriage, we got to remember 31 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: the fourth agreement, which is always do your best. Because 32 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: I don't believe you could prepare for everything that marriage is. 33 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: Go at you. No, you definitely can't prepare. And like 34 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: you said, marriage is something that you consistently work on. 35 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: I mean, it's so many different people. People are growing, 36 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: people are involved. You have to understand people's feelings that 37 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: it's not just because y'all have been dating, but now 38 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: you have to understand somebody when you go to work 39 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: and you and you come home and you had a 40 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: bad day, you take that energy out on your partner, 41 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: how to deal with it, how to deal with everything 42 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 1: in a relationship. So let's go to you, right, we've 43 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 1: been married for six years. Six years. Congratulations. You had 44 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: a lot of ups and downs, public somethings have been public, 45 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: y'all call for the voce sometimes and got back together. 46 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: Y'all back together now. Yeah. I love Princess man, and 47 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: I think that a lot of times. I mean, because 48 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: I can only listen to people who's been married for 49 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: twenty years or fifteen, and they they kind of gave 50 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: us like the timing of when it gets rough and 51 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 1: then you get over this year hump and then it 52 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: kind of smooths out. How long you've been married twenty 53 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: two I've been married twenty fourteen. I'm not good at man, 54 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: I got it. But I've been with my wife between 55 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: five years. I've been with eight years, nine years. I'm 56 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: doing my wife for twenty five years. I've been so 57 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: around the like sixth seventh year? Was it rough? Or fifth? 58 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: Fourth to fifth? Um? I mean, you guys have been 59 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 1: married for so long and no, no, no, yes, with 60 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 1: marriage yes, because when I got married, I hadn't let 61 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: go of a lot of my childish ways. So I 62 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 1: was still out here in these streets, you know what 63 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: I mean, doing things I ain't had no business doing 64 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, infidelity and all of that. 65 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 1: So yes, yes, so yeah, So around this time, like 66 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 1: I just felt like it, you know that I really 67 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 1: wanted to, um, just be a good husband, but then 68 00:02:56,560 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: I'm only not be a good father and a time 69 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: and away from them and kids and not being there 70 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: every single day, every hour. You know, did you have 71 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: a lot of insecurities? For myself, I had a lot 72 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: of insecurities, and being married it kind of exposed that, 73 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: Like what what do you mean, Um, my wife is beautiful, 74 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: she's smart, she's intelligent, and I wouldn't had a book 75 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: come out. So yeah, we had a book came out, 76 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 1: so real life, real love. We talk about that. And 77 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: at first I was scared that if she left, she 78 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: might see somebody that's smarter than me, that looks better 79 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: than me. That it's not hard, though, it's very hard. 80 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: It's very difficult, actually low, very hard, very difficult. It's 81 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: actually very difficult trying to be serious. Serious. I'm saying, 82 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: y'all making me lit because y'all like I want to 83 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: get litter because y'all making me laugh. I'm trying to 84 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 1: let's being serious. You want to joke, So what's the 85 00:03:56,200 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: work that y'all had to do in our marriages. Compromise communication, 86 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: compromise communication and also yeah, communication and really it's like 87 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: if you feel a certain way, express yourself about it, 88 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: if you let it linger, and then nobody knows, and 89 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: then it's just the attitude that's in the air, and 90 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: you just what's wrong. Were you scared to express yourself? 91 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: Were you scared to ask questions? At times? Yeah, it 92 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: depends on the question, because there's questions you want to 93 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: ask it, but can you handle the answer? What do 94 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: you have to compromise a lot of things, Just making 95 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:29,039 Speaker 1: sure that I that I stay in communication all the time, 96 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: listening more, going out more, and spending time outside and 97 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: inside and really just kind of like making my wife 98 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: my close friend and roll and we roll together and 99 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: we do everything like as far as fun together because 100 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: a lot of times dudes want to go hang out 101 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: with their friends and have the fun and then come 102 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: back and you got to think your girl or to 103 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,839 Speaker 1: do been in the house for days and you just 104 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: want to come back and lay up, you're tired. Then 105 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 1: we all got it. You had a long week, right, 106 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: We've been scared of scraping a lot of different ways. 107 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: You know rated you know they you actually got in 108 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: divorce papers? Right? Well, yeah, well actually we both fouled. 109 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: Why I fouled, she fouled. They really want that though, 110 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: I think deep down we didn't. You know what I'm saying. 111 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 1: But a lot of times people are stubborn. I'm stubborn 112 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,839 Speaker 1: and and and I think it hurts to think that 113 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: a lot of times. If your ego got in the 114 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: way and you actually got divorced and you didn't want to, 115 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: but you're how I got, that's scary. What did your friends, 116 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 1: and you know you're very close to your mom, of course, 117 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 1: what did your family and say during that time? I 118 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: really don't go to them for that for relationship advice, 119 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: but because yeah, I think that's that's dangerous, right. I 120 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: love princess, she loves me. Can't nobody tell me how 121 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:49,799 Speaker 1: to feel or what to do. They can only guide 122 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:51,840 Speaker 1: you and help you. But when they're done telling you 123 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: what you what you either want to or not, you 124 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 1: still got to go back home, right and you still 125 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 1: got to deal with it from a man's perspective or 126 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: a woman's perspective. So I just think just that one 127 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: on one, tight knit nobody can come in between these 128 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: walls and if we got issues, deal with them. If 129 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: we don't, then let's enjoy ourselves together. And like, what 130 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: do you think about what we did? That's when it 131 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: get Besides the TV show, was there, did y'all go 132 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: see therapy or a therapist or was it you know, 133 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: pastor preacher or somebody to be the middle person in 134 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: between y'all or y'all just worked it out yourselves. We 135 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: just worked it out, and I know we went we 136 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 1: had a therapist. Like a lot of stuff we do 137 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: on the show, it's still needed. Do you get what 138 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: I'm saying in the show? For me? When I watched 139 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: each season, I'm like every like the first few seasons 140 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:41,359 Speaker 1: eleven hip, but I was terrible. I was embarrassed to 141 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: be who I am. You were right, and I looked 142 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: at myself. Nobody needed to tell me what I did. 143 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: I could see it right, And so I used the 144 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: show every year to either watch myself do bad or 145 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: see myself enhance and upgrade. And so that's why I 146 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: appreciate loving him, which is crazy because a lot of 147 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: people would ever say they have been loving but I 148 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: just do because I was able to. I was able 149 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: to watch my plays and then make my changes from 150 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: watching myself. I'm glad, y'all beat that curse man reality 151 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: TV breaking couples apart. I'm glad I'm the only one. 152 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: I'm the only one getting on. But we can we 153 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 1: have it? Can we have a bomb? To drop a ball? 154 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: That's which his bomb is on Clu? So Clue has 155 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: his own bomb here? Yeah? I know he always been 156 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: dropping bombs. But ye, so you got you guys don't 157 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: have one? Now, Clu? What do you have that sound effect? 158 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. You don't have enough guys. You gotta 159 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: get who does the who he hot? Who does that? Donkey? Oh? 160 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: Real one? Really? I got a real one. I bought 161 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: a real one in here and recorded it live and 162 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: it was crazy, not yet old. So how did you 163 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: make the donkey do it? Did you hit him like hawd? 164 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: He go? Here? You know what I did? Really? I 165 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: played one wish and then you put a little pinky 166 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: in it. And I'm just about to say you was 167 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: doing too much like that. I was trying to play out. 168 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: I would have gonna say something, but then you actually 169 00:08:02,360 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: was going there, So I'm like, damn, Okay, see what 170 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: happens has add this weekend like we just go all 171 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: over the places. The question is eight hundred and five 172 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: A five after the wedding, the marriage, that's when the 173 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: marriage starts. For being married. What does the work that 174 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: to be done? All right, let's talk about it when 175 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: we come back. It's the breakfast Club of the morning 176 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 1: after the wedding. You go have a good time well 177 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: after you know what, it's the breakfast Club one. What 178 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 1: I'm saying, it's time to get it popping legally call 179 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:44,839 Speaker 1: me the breakfast Club top on morning, everybody, DJ and 180 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: V Charlomagne the guy. We are the breakfast Club. Our 181 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: guest host Ray J is still here, no nonsense, Ray 182 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: to day, raycon Global period and if you just joined us, 183 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: we were talking about the Elisis, Cadine and de Val. 184 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,320 Speaker 1: That book We Over Me is out right now we 185 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: over we over me like we together over me by 186 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: myself that we over me? What about he and she 187 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: or they? Ye? I ad I just asked a lot 188 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: of questions. That's it's cool. I'm curious. So we're asking 189 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: about the blueprint for marriage, right, and we got to 190 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 1: think he talked to us. So I think that if 191 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: you get premarital counseling. Preneto counseling would give you a 192 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:27,199 Speaker 1: foundation to actually build off of a lot of people 193 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 1: don't want to subscribe to it, but it gets your 194 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: mind off of the wedding and it allows you to 195 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: build with one another. And our premarrital counseling included what 196 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: didn't we see growing up? What are things that we 197 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: would like to carry over? What are things? And that 198 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: allowed us to say, Okay, unconsciously, we may do things 199 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: that we start growing up. So if I start to 200 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: act out a certain way, my husband would be prepared 201 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: mentally to say, Okay, that may not be her consciously 202 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: doing that. That may be an unconscious thing that she's 203 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: repeating from what she started rolling up. I didn't now 204 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:05,679 Speaker 1: have a conversation with one another, so he can point 205 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:07,320 Speaker 1: it out to me and said, hey, remember we talked 206 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 1: about this. You know this is you're starting to do X, 207 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 1: Y and Z. Prepare me not to take it personally. 208 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: So I think there's pre marital counseling, and then that 209 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 1: a lot allows you to have a person that you 210 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: can now go to two or three months later when 211 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: things start to appear and creep up and I think 212 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: I think this should be. I think there should be 213 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 1: somebody before you get married to talk to that break 214 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:33,599 Speaker 1: things down. Don't don't mind. Charlemagne and Ray laugh, but 215 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 1: they're not laughing at you class. But I agree with you, 216 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: VICKI and I agree with you. Right. But Ray looking 217 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 1: at me like I visited of Vicky and I'm and 218 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: I'm into it and I'm focuseding me look at me 219 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: and see me focused and laughing, and I was like, dang, 220 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:52,599 Speaker 1: I was so focused. And then both of y'all go 221 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: to the principal's office, both principal's office right now, Vicky, 222 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: not wrong though y'all would teaches nightmares. I could tell 223 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: like both of y'all would teaches nightmare. And he was, no, 224 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: it wasn't. I wasn't laughing. They got funny. You got 225 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:07,000 Speaker 1: funny here, Vicky. You're right, that should be pre marriage 226 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 1: counseling that that help couples and break things down that 227 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: that especially newly just don't know because there's so many 228 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: things that I didn't know about him. Sure, Charlomade, and 229 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 1: definitely we had no no, Vicky for real, No, you right, 230 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: Vicky hung up, But you know, think about premn think 231 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: about premarital counseling. Even though I do agree with Vicky, 232 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:25,679 Speaker 1: you don't know what you're talking to the premarital counselor 233 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: about because you haven't even encountered another of the issues 234 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: that you're having your marriage, right, But the Premountain marital 235 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: counselor's life, how was her relationship? You know what I'm saying, 236 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:38,959 Speaker 1: counsel But like you're talking about a counselor without the 237 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,199 Speaker 1: facts of science, right, Like it's again, I don't know 238 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 1: how their relationship is. You don't know how the doctor doctor, 239 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:45,839 Speaker 1: if he's a hard doctor, he's gonna make sure your 240 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 1: heart works. And a marriage counselor is like, I can't 241 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: and shout out to all the marriage counsel I don't 242 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,319 Speaker 1: want to mess up nobody's business. But there's no scientific 243 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: fact that's true, saying is right right, that's relationship, a 244 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: marriage counselor, every everybody else, everybody saying it's all opinionated. 245 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 1: It's like saying I hate this song, but then it 246 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:05,319 Speaker 1: turns into being a hid Sometimes the marriage counselor is 247 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: just dare to be a conducted though, right, like because 248 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: you're already having a problem communicate referee exactly if the 249 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: marriage counselors on the guy side, the girl gonna trip 250 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 1: on the marriage councilor no, but the marriage counselor should 251 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: be a referee in the middle. That's letting both sides 252 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: speak and both sides thoughts be hurt. But if one 253 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: side and the marriage counselor knows that one side is 254 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 1: right and the other one needs to work more on 255 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: the right side, because then the wrong side gonna trip 256 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: and say, let's get a new one that's on my side. 257 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 1: I'm with you. If I had one wish, yeah, no doubt, 258 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: no wish, take another call. But we can't. Oh, we 259 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 1: need to drop this up. And and it's not raining today, 260 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: so let's one wish is not gonna not pop off 261 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:43,719 Speaker 1: with that real rain a little X at the fake rain. 262 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: But I still gave a little edge like two fifty 263 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 1: to do the video work. Let's work it and you 264 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: made it all back that the big working gold. Yeah, yeah, 265 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 1: no doubt. I mean the whole album Win Gold Ray 266 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: is still spending one which money don't get it twisted. 267 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 1: The whole album Win Gold. I'm at you know twe 268 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:01,959 Speaker 1: ninety nine, Oh man, Well what's gonna let that story? 269 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: I have to ask some more of the story is 270 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: like you know, the independent. No, it's not to be 271 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 1: independent when you're on the record. No marriage, you can't 272 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 1: be independent. Get in trouble, right the trouble. You asked me, 273 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: what did the record do? I said that, what's the 274 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 1: moral of the story. Are they going to go be independent? 275 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: I took overall this working y'all talking about marriage on 276 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: the radio, and you said the moral stories to be independent? No, 277 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:29,079 Speaker 1: be independent for the music because we was like we're 278 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: all over the place where like the topics, it's got 279 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: going into in and out of stuff, and you know, 280 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: I got ray d D. The moral of the story 281 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 1: is that you know, there is work to be done 282 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:40,920 Speaker 1: after somebody is married, and don't be afraid to do 283 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 1: that work. That's that goes without saying like we gotta 284 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 1: go to like your kid gotta go to school, we 285 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 1: gotta go to work. Of course, it's work to be 286 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: done after the marriage. Yeah, the worst one y'all the couple. 287 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: But first off, the work gotta be done after the 288 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 1: ma I gotta get it in for a little while. 289 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: We married, all right, when we come back, we got 290 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: your room. Put it in. We just got married, so 291 00:13:57,920 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 1: legally now we can have a good time. So let's 292 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 1: spirit get that in for a little while and then 293 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: if it's problems that pull up would deal with them. 294 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 1: But right now, life is good. Let's live. Let's enjoy 295 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:08,680 Speaker 1: the wedding. After the wedding, let me, let me be 296 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 1: in it and marinating it for at least a couple 297 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:17,719 Speaker 1: of weeks. Okay, at least when we come back and 298 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: got rumors were talking Wendy Williams, I don't move. It's 299 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 1: the Breakfast Cloak morning, said Wendy Williams, coming in here. No, no, 300 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: it's the Breakfast Morning, the Breakfast Club.