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Speaker 1: Alright, So first question, we're gonna actually do a mix up,
Speaker 1: so we answer career questions, business questions, money questions. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna read this money question, but I think mand, do
Speaker 1: you have a career question today?
Speaker 2: I do a very juicy one. I'm very excited.
Speaker 1: Okay, So this is from a queen over on ig Hello, ladies,
Speaker 1: I am desperate for some advice. I have some credit
Speaker 1: card debt that is making me lose sleep. My husband
Speaker 1: and I have not are and I have not are
Speaker 1: not making enough money. I've not been making enough money,
Speaker 1: and sometimes we spend too much. I'm wondering if we
Speaker 1: should save from our third checks. I'm not really what
Speaker 1: she means by that, or pay down the credit card
Speaker 1: debts that now have exorbited interest rates. Okay, she's wondering
Speaker 1: if she should save or pay down debt. Okay. Paying
Speaker 1: the debt now though, would mean we would have to
Speaker 1: use our credit card to pay down on a used
Speaker 1: car next year. We're trying to get a second job. Okay.
Speaker 1: So queen, it's sounding like one, you have a lot
Speaker 1: of credit card debt that is stressing you out.
Speaker 2: Too.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you feel like you might not be
Speaker 1: making enough money, and you have this car lease that's
Speaker 1: up next year, and you're wondering should you save because
Speaker 1: you have to get another car when this car lease
Speaker 1: goes up, or should you put that money toward the
Speaker 1: credit card debt because you feel like, if I put
Speaker 1: down the money on this credit card debt, we don't
Speaker 1: have enough money to save. We're still going to have
Speaker 1: to get in the debt to buy a car. That's
Speaker 1: what it's all sounding like. Okay, so queen, first things first,
Speaker 1: it sounds like, and this is no judgment, that some
Speaker 1: of to your own admission, the credit card debt that
Speaker 1: you find yourself in is not for just day to
Speaker 1: day living, you know, because you share that like you've
Speaker 1: kind of like overspent, you know, and that happens, you
Speaker 1: know sometimes, you know, we don't always exercise the full
Speaker 1: control that we have over our credit cards. So it
Speaker 1: sounds like you might need to just say, you know,
Speaker 1: we need to cut out the usage of these credit
Speaker 1: cards because it's gonna be very difficult to pay off
Speaker 1: credit cards if we are if you're currently using those
Speaker 1: credit cards. So unless you're using credit cards for like
Speaker 1: necessities like groceries or medicine or things you absolutely need,
Speaker 1: and I probably, honestly you will cut my credit cards up.
Speaker 1: I would go as far as to call a credit
Speaker 1: card company to say lost my card or would like
Speaker 1: for you to change the number on my credit card
Speaker 1: so they're not saved on your computer and your phone
Speaker 1: like I'm sure they are currently.
Speaker 2: Oh that's smart.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I need to do, because lord knows,
Speaker 1: we all have to say it's just right there, chat
Speaker 1: don't another numbers log in?
Speaker 2: Well, yes, thank you for real.
Speaker 1: So that's one. I definitely would like, you know, to
Speaker 1: stop credit card usage if it's possible, if you're if
Speaker 1: you're not using it for things that are necessary.
Speaker 2: So that's one.
Speaker 1: Two. Although you know savings, you know is great. Unfortunately
Speaker 1: I'm assuming when you said exorbitant interest rates and you
Speaker 1: have double dishes interest rates. So whenever you're deciding whether
Speaker 1: to save or pay down debt, one of the things
Speaker 1: that should lead that decision is where what does the
Speaker 1: interest look like? So if you put your money and
Speaker 1: you save it into a savings account, the most interest
Speaker 1: you're probably gonna earn right now is like what four percent,
Speaker 1: give or take. But you're I'm sure your interest rates
Speaker 1: for your credit card debt twenty maybe even thirty percent.
Speaker 1: So if the credit cards are costing you twenty percent
Speaker 1: and savings is only going to make you four percent,
Speaker 1: then you're probably gonna want to put more money toward
Speaker 1: paying down that debt because it's costing you. It's that
Speaker 1: that is so expensive that it's costing you whatever savings
Speaker 1: you would have saved. So I would focus most of
Speaker 1: my time and energy, certainly set aside a little something
Speaker 1: for emergencies, but most like if I had one hundred dollars,
Speaker 1: I might do like twenty dollars savings eighty dollars credit
Speaker 1: card debt, that kind of like mix, because your credit
Speaker 1: card debt is just costing you so so, so so
Speaker 1: so much, and getting a second job, you know, might
Speaker 1: not be a bad idea. But before you get a
Speaker 1: second job, I want you to sit down and look
Speaker 1: at your budget to see, like do we actually make
Speaker 1: enough to cover what we need to cover? Because I
Speaker 1: would hate for you to take on additional work when
Speaker 1: really it's a matter of budgeting, you know. So I
Speaker 1: would sit down and look at my budget and ask myself, like, okay,
Speaker 1: like the amount of money that we're making, you know,
Speaker 1: based upon like what we have to spend to maintain
Speaker 1: our lives, there's actually enough money here, it might be,
Speaker 1: and if not, then certainly you can look at you know,
Speaker 1: looking at additional income. And then my last final thing
Speaker 1: is is that, like I shared this on the Wednesday show,
Speaker 1: is that this year I have my annual Live with
Speaker 1: Your Challenge. It starts January fourteenth, but sign up for
Speaker 1: the free challenge ends January. No, it starts January fifteenth, Monday,
Speaker 1: but sign up end January fourteenth. And so I encourage
Speaker 1: you and anybody who has any credit issues, Queen, to
Speaker 1: go to l r C Credit LRC credits dot com
Speaker 1: and sign up for the challenge. We already have three
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Speaker 1: There will be other people struggling with credit. Week one
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Speaker 1: how to grow and your credit score, and week three
Speaker 1: how to maintain credit so you never find yourself in
Speaker 1: this position again. It's totally free. It's a three week
Speaker 1: like email course. It comes with an app that's free
Speaker 1: as well that we just built. And so I think
Speaker 1: that's going to help you as you navigate your credit journey,
Speaker 1: so you find yourself not in this business sit again.
Speaker 1: So LRC credit dot com. The link will be in
Speaker 1: the show notes. But I wish you well clean anything
Speaker 1: I forgot Mandy, get.
Speaker 2: Thee to the library and get Tiffany's book and her work.
Speaker 2: But your work book going to be in the library.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wadeholes in the library too.
Speaker 2: You know. When I'm writing at my library, I just
Speaker 2: I work on the ninth non fiction floor or near
Speaker 2: that section, and I just stroll over to the business
Speaker 2: section sometimes and I say, Hi, Tiv, really you in
Speaker 2: the library.
Speaker 1: I used to live in the library as a kid, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: go back.
Speaker 2: Libraries are are amazing. Yeah. My thing is with the
Speaker 2: car and credit card debt at this at the end
Speaker 2: of the day, even though it makes sense on paper
Speaker 2: to paid on credit card debt and that sounds good
Speaker 2: and save and all that, but you need a good car,
Speaker 2: you know, so especially like you know, most working people,
Speaker 2: the car is the in this country. It's like the
Speaker 2: way to get to the money, to the opportunity to
Speaker 2: make the money. So I would just say, make sure
Speaker 2: you're getting saved transportation. And sometimes safety comes before logic
Speaker 2: and credit card bills, you know. And if you're in
Speaker 2: a situation where you might need to like consolidate debt
Speaker 2: if it's too much, if you're in over your head,
Speaker 2: you know, look for ways to consolidate debt, do a
Speaker 2: balanced transfer to make it a little bit less cumbersome,
Speaker 2: make it less stressful, less expensive, help you kind of
Speaker 2: tackle it. But you gotta. Yeah, Like I agree with Tiff,
Speaker 2: and I think the thing with budgeting that's so scary
Speaker 2: when you have that kind of debt is like emptying
Speaker 2: out the drawer and looking at all the stuff that's
Speaker 2: in it. Ooof I think, yeah, that's that's gonna be
Speaker 2: the hard part. But lock arms with your partner and
Speaker 2: do it together, because you ain't going to get out
Speaker 2: of this you're doing it. You're getting into the hole together,
Speaker 2: but you're not going to get out without being together
Speaker 2: if you're not both on the same page. So I
Speaker 2: wish you so much luck and thank you that question
Speaker 2: real quick.
Speaker 1: So the National Foundation of Credit Counseling n FCC dot org.
Speaker 1: They're a great nonprofit that help walk people through, like
Speaker 1: if you really the extra extra handholding, consider them as well.
Speaker 1: They have nonprofit partners around the country, So you would
Speaker 1: go to NFCC dot org and you would find one
Speaker 1: in the closest area to you. So if you kind
Speaker 1: of need to sit with a credit counselor that you'll
Speaker 1: be you know you'll be able to work with a
Speaker 1: credit counselor there too. So good luck to you, queen.
Speaker 2: Thank you, queen. Should we take a quick break and
Speaker 2: be right back with my You're gonna love this question,
Speaker 2: see you one of it. Okayba fan, we are back
Speaker 2: and I am so excited to give you guys an update.
Speaker 2: If you've been listening to the show the last I
Speaker 2: don't know a few months, you might have heard back
Speaker 2: in the fall when we took a question from someone
Speaker 2: who wanted to be anonymous that we called her Crossroads.
Speaker 2: At the time, Crossroad was looking for a job for
Speaker 2: over a year and said that she left her full
Speaker 2: time job due to racial incidents, you know, proliferate by
Speaker 2: her supervisor. Is that the right word? Proliferiding man done?
Speaker 2: Her supervisor was racist, and colleagues left her feeling unsafe.
Speaker 2: She had over a decade of full time work experience
Speaker 2: and currently yeah, and currently she's a full time PhD
Speaker 2: student and she's been working as a graduate assistant to
Speaker 2: make ends meet. Now she's getting back into the job
Speaker 2: market and feeling like not only is she having trouble
Speaker 2: getting an offer, but because she's you know, a PhD
Speaker 2: graduate assistant. She's finding the pay is not matching her
Speaker 2: level of experience, and she was really trying to find
Speaker 2: a position. So her ultimate question is that should she
Speaker 2: find roles in her current field, the field that she
Speaker 2: had left because of the toxicity, or make a career
Speaker 2: switch and rebuild. Now we're in the future now and
Speaker 2: Crossroads sent me an update. First, she said thank you
Speaker 2: to our advice. I guess we responded to two of
Speaker 2: her questions, and she says, I took your advice and
Speaker 2: I leaned into my network as I hadn't for quite
Speaker 2: some time in my search. To my surprise, well, a
Speaker 2: lot of folks didn't know I was looking for a
Speaker 2: job since I'm still in school. They were very helpful
Speaker 2: and I yielded several leads. I landed an interim role
Speaker 2: in a different field that lasted for two months through
Speaker 2: the end of this year twenty twenty three. It was
Speaker 2: a great opportunity. I learned a lot in a short
Speaker 2: period of time, and it even sparked an entrepreneurial flame
Speaker 2: that I planned to invest in within the coming year.
Speaker 2: Twenty twenty four. Now has come with a bang, I receive.
Speaker 2: I have received two job offers within the first days,
Speaker 2: first few days of the new year. Both are what
Speaker 2: I specifically prayed for, and I'm immensely grateful. My experience
Speaker 2: on the long term job search has taught me so
Speaker 2: much about myself and given me clarity on my career
Speaker 2: path moving forward. Thank you so much for both your
Speaker 2: answers and support for AFAR. You made me feel seen
Speaker 2: and understood during a time when I felt just the opposite.
Speaker 2: May God continue to bless you both. Your work on
Speaker 2: Brown Ambition is a ministry. This is the best part.
Speaker 2: Signed no longer at a crossroad.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, make me cry. That is the best.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's the best. And I just love stories like
Speaker 2: this because the long road does have an end, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean. She was looking for a job
Speaker 2: for so long. A lot of people are, especially when
Speaker 2: you're especially when you're at a certain level in your
Speaker 2: career where what you're looking for is rarer. And that's
Speaker 2: what I have to tell people, like, just expectations. It's
Speaker 2: going to take a while, but that's just thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you. Yeah, so proud of you.
Speaker 1: So is that normal? Because I had a friend who
Speaker 1: got his masters, super smart you know, had great jobs
Speaker 1: and then it took six months. They were like, wait,
Speaker 1: what's going on? So is that like that's not even
Speaker 1: that bad really because I was going to say that,
Speaker 1: you know before you know, prior to this, you know,
Speaker 1: three four months maybe, but like, so is that typical
Speaker 1: that kind of like the higher you get in your career,
Speaker 1: the more education you get, that like replacing that job
Speaker 1: that you're seeing people take six months or longer to
Speaker 1: find replacement.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I don't want to paint with a
Speaker 2: broad brush, but I would say if you are someone
Speaker 2: who's yes, you have a particular skill set, and you know,
Speaker 2: depending on changes by industry, some industries, if you hit
Speaker 2: at the right moment, they're really hiring and jobs are plentiful.
Speaker 2: We kind of all went through that in twenty twenty one,
Speaker 2: and now we're leveling out. The job market is really
Speaker 2: strong right now, but people don't really feel that way
Speaker 2: because it's taking a little bit harder, a little bit
Speaker 2: longer to find job, not a little bit a lot
Speaker 2: of bit longer to find jobs. It feels like there's
Speaker 2: a fewer of them out there, even though job numbers
Speaker 2: are still exceeding expectations and The reason is why this
Speaker 2: is kind of what a normal job market feels like.
Speaker 2: I looked at this data for my book because I'm
Speaker 2: still doing that writing a book, and I think the
Speaker 2: average there's a stat the average. Let me just look
Speaker 2: it up real quick. Okay, so this is a stat
Speaker 2: I just cited in my book coming to a library
Speaker 2: in bookstore near you at some point in the future.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I got to write it first. How
Speaker 2: long it actually takes to find a job is about
Speaker 2: five months? Really, yes, that's on average. Okay, So I
Speaker 2: think it's not to deter people from you know, being
Speaker 2: on the lookout, but this is I do know the trick,
Speaker 2: as Crossroads has found, of speeding up that timeline, working
Speaker 2: your network at all times. And I find that people
Speaker 2: who shelter in school or not shelter in school, but
Speaker 2: they're going back to school, they're getting an MBA, they're
Speaker 2: getting a PhD, they're doing a certificate program. It feels
Speaker 2: like you're doing a thing for your career when you're
Speaker 2: in school and you are, you are elevating your skills,
Speaker 2: you're making yourself more attractive as a job candidate. But
Speaker 2: the worst thing you can do is also not engage
Speaker 2: with your network and keep them engaged. The minute that
Speaker 2: crossroads we just heard from her opened her mouth and
Speaker 2: said to her network, I am looking for work. She
Speaker 2: had a decade of a decade of experience. It's coming
Speaker 2: back to me, not what I said for at the time. Like,
Speaker 2: with a decade of experience, you met so many people
Speaker 2: across that timeline. They need to know that they can
Speaker 2: help you, that you're looking for help. And yeah, so
Speaker 2: I would just say to anyone who's facing or you know,
Speaker 2: thinking about quitting or pivoting into a new field, or
Speaker 2: you know you've been let go unfortunately, Yeah, three to
Speaker 2: six months, I feel like is a safe That's why
Speaker 2: they say three to six months of your income save it.
Speaker 2: But if you want the cheat code, the only cheek
Speaker 2: code I can think of when it comes, it ain't
Speaker 2: your resume. It sometimes isn't even the skills that you
Speaker 2: can attain. It is making great relationships over the course
Speaker 2: of your career, investing in them like seeds, seeds that
Speaker 2: you don't plan to sew until you absolutely need it,
Speaker 2: and there's no.
Speaker 1: And that's why he got his job. One of his
Speaker 1: literally like elementary school friends, like was like wait a minute,
Speaker 1: I didn't know, okay, and then put in a good word.
Speaker 1: And you know, because we don't think that, we think that,
Speaker 1: like you know, I apply.
Speaker 2: I think we're all out here working hard. I'm pulling
Speaker 2: ourselves up bootstraps.
Speaker 1: Let's bys yes, people, putting a good word in for
Speaker 1: you is so critical. So yeah, that's I'm so happy crossroads. Honestly,
Speaker 1: and honestly I want to I would love the appam
Speaker 1: if you did that more that if we answer the
Speaker 1: question for you, or even if we didn't answer a
Speaker 1: question directly, let's just say you listened and you heard
Speaker 1: some advice and it applied to your situation. We love
Speaker 1: an update if we answered your questions, or we would
Speaker 1: just love Hey, that thing you told that other person.
Speaker 1: It worked for me too. And here's how, because I
Speaker 1: think it's great for people to hear that you know
Speaker 1: they're not alone, and then you know there is light
Speaker 1: at the end of the tunnel, so every tunnel.
Speaker 2: Okay. I do want to get to this new question
Speaker 2: because I can't wait. I can't wait for your update
Speaker 2: email because this one just made me chuckle. So the
Speaker 2: first thing you got to know is this comes from
Speaker 2: someone who wants us to call him budget Bro. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's right, Tiffany Bro. Budget Bro says, and this, hello ladies.
Speaker 2: He says, I need to get with Kevin and work
Speaker 2: out the details. Lol. If y'all are you know, I
Speaker 2: don't even know if you have to be an OGBA listener,
Speaker 2: but Kevin is our favorite. Kevin was a mail listener,
Speaker 2: I mean, is still a mail listener who We had
Speaker 2: him on the show because he used to write in
Speaker 2: the most incredible questions starting with his wife and his
Speaker 2: advice for her about her career, which we had to
Speaker 2: set him straight on. But I just love that budget
Speaker 2: Bro has listened and wants to be besties with Kevin
Speaker 2: because based on his question, I think they would get
Speaker 2: along just fine. All right, budget Bro says, I'm thirty one.
Speaker 2: I work in the chemical refining industry as an analyst
Speaker 2: at an amazing company in Louisiana. I make about one
Speaker 2: thirty five a year, but I can add twenty k
Speaker 2: to that and make one fifty five, one hundred and
Speaker 2: fifty five thousand dollars a year with overtime. Right now.
Speaker 2: I'm married, we have two toddlers. Oh God, bless I
Speaker 2: don't have any debt aside from student loans. We own
Speaker 2: a home. I'm leaning in, he said. I am leaning
Speaker 2: into my middle aged, suburban dad era and I am excited. Yes,
Speaker 2: I love you, Budge bro.
Speaker 1: He says.
Speaker 2: My site has a specialist role that I applied for.
Speaker 2: It combines my skills as an analyst with more of
Speaker 2: the operations day to day tasks. I'm excited because I
Speaker 2: feel like it's a segue into raising through the rinks
Speaker 2: with the company, and the role that I am in
Speaker 2: now is often seen as a really cushy retirement role,
Speaker 2: so people just don't quit it. This new role is
Speaker 2: in the same department, but it's more than project management side. However,
Speaker 2: this would mean a pay cut to about one hundred
Speaker 2: and twenty thousand dollars and I wouldn't be eligible to
Speaker 2: for overtime. So just to get back with the numbers,
Speaker 2: he's making one thirty five k base. He can get
Speaker 2: up to one fifty five K if he does overtime.
Speaker 2: This would be going down to one hundred and twenty
Speaker 2: k base. But here's the thing about the new role.
Speaker 2: The new role is a four day work week, no nights,
Speaker 2: no weekends. Right now, he's doing shift work, which is
Speaker 2: a mix of days and nights, twelve hour shifts and
Speaker 2: about total about fifteen days a month. So he's going
Speaker 2: to be going from that to a four day work
Speaker 2: week if he takes this pay cut. He got two
Speaker 2: babies at home and two toddlers at home, Okay, he says,
Speaker 2: the money isn't really the issue, as we are living
Speaker 2: below our means as it is. I have also been
Speaker 2: able to get a lot of schoolwork done during my
Speaker 2: ten to fourteen days off a month, as well as
Speaker 2: when I work nights. I would like to start an
Speaker 2: MBA program in the spring, and the new role would
Speaker 2: cut into that the time that he has okay, ooh,
Speaker 2: I missed this part right now, he's working like fifteen
Speaker 2: days a month, but they are twelve hour shifts, a
Speaker 2: mix of day and nights. Okay, So he's going from
Speaker 2: like an unusual hardcore schedule that's like fewer days a month.
Speaker 2: This would be more of like to you know, all
Speaker 2: day normal work day, but for four days a week.
Speaker 2: He says, what should I do? Should I take this
Speaker 2: new role that would allow me to be home nightly
Speaker 2: with my wife and kids, or wait until I'm done
Speaker 2: with my MBA and apply for another role. Then I'm torn,
Speaker 2: Thank you, budget.
Speaker 1: Bro sweel on the career side, you know, that's not
Speaker 1: my specialty, but I am a specialist on living life
Speaker 1: because I'm living. No. So here's what I always ask
Speaker 1: myself when like met with like a decision that has
Speaker 1: kind of like sometimes competing outcomes, I ask myself, pushing
Speaker 1: all that aside, what is it that I desire with
Speaker 1: my for my life? What is my desired outcome? Who
Speaker 1: do I see myself as? What is it what do
Speaker 1: I want? And so it might be you might say
Speaker 1: something like I want to be a present father. I
Speaker 1: want to be you know, I don't know. Like for example,
Speaker 1: when we were kids, my dad got his master's his
Speaker 1: NBA economics or in finance, and then his bachelor's and
Speaker 1: economics or finance. Right, so he really wanted professionally to
Speaker 1: be on the stock market, like you know, But then
Speaker 1: my mom had one girl, two girls, three girls, five girls,
Speaker 1: and he had to make a decision based upon who
Speaker 1: did he actually want to be. Certainly he wanted to
Speaker 1: be a stockbroker and make a ton of money, but
Speaker 1: he really also because he didn't have a present father,
Speaker 1: he wanted to be a present father, and so instead
Speaker 1: he took finance jobs that were nine to five. Ended
Speaker 1: up being like the CFO for a small nonprofit and
Speaker 1: then the CEO of that small nonprofit, and it didn't
Speaker 1: pay nearly as much because as nonprofits are opt not
Speaker 1: to do. But my dad used to take us to
Speaker 1: school in the morning, used to pick us up from
Speaker 1: school because he got out at a reasonable time. He
Speaker 1: was super hands on, almost two hands on. I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: daddy can agree, right. But he that decision because he said,
Speaker 1: with all these girls, he wanted to make sure they
Speaker 1: had a strong male figure in his life. And he
Speaker 1: decided that that this desired outcome outweighed the desired outcome
Speaker 1: for more money. So certainly we were because of that.
Speaker 1: You know, it was sometimes life was a little rough
Speaker 1: because it was expensive raising five kids. So for you, Kevin,
Speaker 1: it's not Kevin, who's this?
Speaker 2: What's this? Doesn't budget bro?
Speaker 1: For you, budget bro, it's not really the job thing.
Speaker 1: You have to decide what is my ultimate desired outcome
Speaker 1: for my life and then you align work to it.
Speaker 1: You don't decide what work is and then align your
Speaker 1: life to it. And if you do that. You know,
Speaker 1: my dad doesn't regret picking us, you know, the kids,
Speaker 1: you know, because as a result, you know, you know,
Speaker 1: we're all like well loved, looked after, you know, we
Speaker 1: we were able to have a very present father. And
Speaker 1: the truth is I am the budgetiesta as a result
Speaker 1: of the education my father gave me about personal finance,
Speaker 1: there wouldn't be no budget. Needs to imagine had he
Speaker 1: chosen the stock market and more money, you know, certainly
Speaker 1: I would be a girl with a lot more money,
Speaker 1: but not the knowledge that he imparted on me because
Speaker 1: he was physically here. So that's what I just say,
Speaker 1: is that choose from that place and then align your
Speaker 1: job decisions and back to school with the life and
Speaker 1: how you want to show up as a man. You know.
Speaker 2: So I love that advice. I agree, I think you know.
Speaker 2: When I got your question, budget bro, I thought I
Speaker 2: went back and reread it because I wanted to see,
Speaker 2: is this something that you have already applied for? Do
Speaker 2: you have an offer? And you just say that you
Speaker 2: have applied? What I like about you know, what I
Speaker 2: would typically say is like wait until you've got an
Speaker 2: option before you consider considerate, Like don't hem in haw,
Speaker 2: like you don't have to figure out what you would do.
Speaker 2: I'm glad that you went ahead and applied for because
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people will just wait and think,
Speaker 2: well should I what if? What if? And I'm like,
Speaker 2: just apply so you have something to like, something real
Speaker 2: to compare to, like an actual, real life, concrete option
Speaker 2: that you can choose between rather than just the idea.
Speaker 2: So you're getting your MBA. You're going to put in
Speaker 2: your you know, you're going to put your hat in
Speaker 2: the ring for this position if you get it. Here's
Speaker 2: what I will say to you. There's no wrong answer here.
Speaker 2: You can take the position. And I feel like in
Speaker 2: your field you have highly specialized skills. You're going to
Speaker 2: get an MBA. You you said that you're you know this,
Speaker 2: this job that you're doing now is more like you know,
Speaker 2: shift work, and it's it sounds to me almost like
Speaker 2: you're a day laborer in the job. I know that
Speaker 2: you're not a day laborer, but just as like a
Speaker 2: you know, as an analogy, like sort of like a
Speaker 2: day laborer, you're paid for your time and for the
Speaker 2: specific skill that you have. And this like more management
Speaker 2: type operations, project management type role that could lead down,
Speaker 2: you know, a career path with more avenues and more
Speaker 2: branches on that tree. That makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 2: And if you want to pursue that, I feel like
Speaker 2: you should. You're only thirty one. Go try it out,
Speaker 2: and then here's the thing that you have to think about, Like, Okay,
Speaker 2: so what if I don't like it? What if four
Speaker 2: day work weeks? You know, I think I get more
Speaker 2: time with my kids, but actually I preferred only working
Speaker 2: half a month, even though they were really rigorous shifts.
Speaker 2: You get to try it out and then you can compare,
Speaker 2: and I feel like, because of your unique skill set,
Speaker 2: you can always go back to doing that fifteen hour, sorry,
Speaker 2: fifteen day like more the overtime, the hourly work that
Speaker 2: you were doing before. I don't think you need to.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that if you choose this path it
Speaker 2: has to be the forever path. But I do feel
Speaker 2: like you'd be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't
Speaker 2: take on a new opportunity and try something different and
Speaker 2: get that experience. And like you said, I like that
Speaker 2: you're thinking about your career with the company that you're at.
Speaker 2: You love where you work. I mean, you got this
Speaker 2: great foundation for your life. I think you can afford
Speaker 2: to try something a little bit different, and I would
Speaker 2: say if you and again this goes back to what
Speaker 2: I was saying about crossroads and other career pivoters. When
Speaker 2: you're getting an MBA, I don't want you to wait
Speaker 2: until you get that degree to then start looking for
Speaker 2: other opportunities. This could be a great way for you
Speaker 2: to get some project management experience while pursuing your MBA
Speaker 2: and then when you graduate, you don't have to go
Speaker 2: find a job if you want to do project management
Speaker 2: work and start from scratch, like they can say, well,
Speaker 2: you've got this great MBA, but do you have any
Speaker 2: project managements experience, because that is what very narrow minded
Speaker 2: recruiters and hiring managers will do when they get resumes.
Speaker 2: But you can have that experience, you know, on your resume,
Speaker 2: and that can be not only, you know, a way
Speaker 2: to make you a more attractive candidate, but it can
Speaker 2: also give you an opportunity to make connections with people,
Speaker 2: build relationships through your program, you know, with hiring managers
Speaker 2: recruiters that can serve you down this you know, long
Speaker 2: fruitful career that you're you know, building for yourself. So
Speaker 2: I just want to give you permission to try it
Speaker 2: out and see what happens. Hopefully your partner, your wife
Speaker 2: agrees with me because she's in this too. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: whatever you do, even though you're you know it would
Speaker 2: be a pay cut. I know you acknowledge that. But
Speaker 2: time is something you just can't get back. And having
Speaker 2: just white knuckled my way through seven months without consistent childcare,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't recommend it, but I kept doing it. I
Speaker 2: don't know why. It's it's hard, but you have to
Speaker 2: like what I think about the time is I'm not
Speaker 2: going to get an opportunity like this again to be
Speaker 2: around my newborn, my baby, my infant, and my and
Speaker 2: be there for drop off and pick up with my son.
Speaker 2: And although homeboy I just told dad today his dad
Speaker 2: I was like my husband, I was like, We're gonna
Speaker 2: add an hour to Rio's pickup time because I'm really
Speaker 2: enjoying this be at home. He got mommy at four pm,
Speaker 2: but let's try five. But anyway, that time is really great,
Speaker 2: and your kids will change, Your kids will grow, they're
Speaker 2: going to need you less and then maybe you can
Speaker 2: change your schedule according to that. But yeah, I love
Speaker 2: what Tiff you said about like building the career around
Speaker 2: the life that you have now and just know that
Speaker 2: it can change. You're in charge of it, so you
Speaker 2: can change, you know, you change your mind down the
Speaker 2: line and make a different choice depending on what your
Speaker 2: family needs and what you need moving forward.
Speaker 1: But life goes by in such a flash, you know,
Speaker 1: like literally, did you see the Kevi on stage? He
Speaker 1: was like, because I guess his son is going to college.
Speaker 1: He was like the baby, you know, lifts their head,
Speaker 1: holds their bottle, burps, crawls, and then they're in college.
Speaker 1: You're like, what the hell don't say that.
Speaker 2: I'm in an ongoing argument with Mario with my oldest
Speaker 2: who's four, is you're not going to grow up. I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm not letting you eat vegetables, have some candy. I'm
Speaker 2: not letting you grow up. Here's the candy. You want,
Speaker 2: junk food, Here you go, French fries. You're not going
Speaker 2: to get any bigger with these. It works. You're like, no, mommy,
Speaker 2: I have you know, I have to grow up.
Speaker 1: You know I have to get bigger.
Speaker 2: Oh man, I'm like, so.
Speaker 1: You really want to lean in and enjoy, you know,
Speaker 1: and then yeah, because one day, you know, your kid
Speaker 1: is a teenager and then older and growing, and so no,
Speaker 1: I just think that, yeah, I mean, and that's just
Speaker 1: advice for everyone. And this is the advice I'm trying
Speaker 1: my heart is to lean into myself, is to determine
Speaker 1: the life that I want and to make everything else
Speaker 1: fit professionally, to make it fit, you know sometimes, you know,
Speaker 1: obviously you have to make some concessions, and that's normal,
Speaker 1: you know, but I don't want to be led by
Speaker 1: the business and the career and the you know, like
Speaker 1: that that's the only place I make decisions from. I've
Speaker 1: done that, and although it's led to certainly a significant
Speaker 1: amount of success, but also a significant amount of stress.
Speaker 1: You know, I always think to myself, like, you know,
Speaker 1: you want success, but how will it meet you healthy,
Speaker 1: happy whole or stressed, like not even able to enjoy it,
Speaker 1: not being able to even physically enjoy it because you're
Speaker 1: in such a bad state. And so, yeah, so we
Speaker 1: wish you well, Budget Bro. You know, Bro, any other
Speaker 1: bros you can write it.
Speaker 2: Don't asked her a little club.
Speaker 1: You and Kevin listen, you.
Speaker 2: Know, when my bat Budget Bro found out about us
Speaker 2: the same way Kevin did, probably just like being in
Speaker 2: the car while his wife was listening to Brown Ambition Smart.
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